Very good video brother may allah bless you, we need more of these long videos where you go into detail and break down the topic into smaller pieces. InShaAllah you start making a series about different topics that affects the ummah today since no one else seems to acknowledge these problems or just pretend that they do not exist. We need more open discussion amongst our community so people don't go to look for answers outside the parameters of islam and the sunnah, and no one is better at facilitating these discussions than you brother Gabriel, so once again may allah reward you for your hard work.
What's the danger of a person developing interest in getting Thai massage? This art may have originated from ancient Buddhist leaders. It was done to improve a person's Buddhist religiosity. Therefore, the person who studied this art must have studied from a person who had this religious motivation and the person getting the massage gets the effects of this motivation. Body can be greatly harmed from weird things.
Another good way to see if someone is practicing the Deen is seeing if they actively seek knowledge upon the understanding of the Salaf, and also if they implement the things they learn.
I believe part of the issue of men and women not being able to marry, is that we don’t put enough trust in Allah. I hear a lot of men saying women don’t want average earning men only 6 figure, they don’t want to marry him unless he got things that show he has good money, and while that may be true, you should focus on yourself and earn to the best of your ability and have tawakkul that you’ll find a woman who does not value the sum of money over deen. If you say there’s not a single pious woman out there who can complement your mindset, then there’s obviously something inwards you have to work on. And the way women have been brainwashed in today’s society is too crazy to mention, but for the ones that truly wanna put Allah first, they should humble themselves and try to become in tune with their femininity as much as possible, it’s the only thing that’ll feel 100% right, being your true innate self. Never forget to put Allah before the dunya. Have tawakkul that you will find what you attract. The person you are, the level of deen you have, the mindset you have, the values you hold, etc.
The ratio of women who are feminine, that know how to cook and clean, that value the husband's work and provision, is so much greater in Muslim countries than in the west. They are essentially offering significantly more, for much less. This is a simple case of supply and demand; women in Muslim countries are in abundance and so they don't typically have the inflated ego of a Muslim woman in the west. Any brothers out there that have family back home should without question entertain that route first
Stop lying to yourself. Go and check divorce statistics in Muslim countries. Just because they wear hijab doesn't mean they are that religious and follow Islamic rules on marriage
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 I'd have to second him. Feel free to post divorce rates, but even in the more rural less materialistic parts of the US, women, perhaps people in general, are just ... nicer. That's got to go extra for Muslim villages.
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 Actually, I have checked the stats for Algeria, Morocco, Iran, Pakistan and Tunisia. All these countries have a common theme. The divorce rates are quite high (relatively) in urban areas whereas they are very low in rural (villages, towns, mountainous) areas. The people esp women in these urban areas are very liberal relatively compared to their rural counterparts. The bottomline is whereever liberalism goes, sky high divorce rates follow.
What's the danger of a person developing interest in getting Thai massage? This art may have originated from ancient Buddhist leaders. It was done to improve a person's Buddhist religiosity. Therefore, the person who studied this art must have studied from a person who had this religious motivation and the person getting the massage gets the effects of this motivation. Body can be greatly harmed from weird things.
Salaam Aleykum brother , we are based in the US and we see men in reverse side for some how so what do we do because most men are just not taking their Islamic responsibility seriously .
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: None of you [truly] believes until he loves for his brother that which he loves for himself. [Al-Bukhari] [Muslim] ❤❤❤❤❤
Unfortunately I rushed in the vetting process and ended up in a miserable marriage. I did what Br Gabriel described and took the first one that came along and basically didn't vet hardly at all. Now I'm not sure if I should keep trying to salvage it or divorce. Not sure if divorce is the solution or if it will only make everything worse. Tough situation to be in, especially when you have children. Be careful out there. 15:00 I stopped going to my local masjid because the promote the shirk of Democracy. But to be fair, I also wasn't going to daily Fajr/Isha jama'ah either. 29:00 when we first got married and had arguments she used to threaten divorce ALL the time. I refused because I was committed to making the marriage work. Should've recognized the red flag.
Just because a masjid is engaging in democracy does not mean you cannot pray there. This is an extremist view. Where is your hikmah? So what if they do democracy, it is not going to change any time soon. Make dua and call the people to the truth. I know people who do not go to the masjid because they had arguments with the board. But these things should be put to the side. Make jamaat, come together, and start following the sunnah and the jamat. We need to stay together as muslims.
Brother that's obvious shirk that isn't called a masjid anymore but democracy and the sort... come on that's sheitan tricking you. Some scholars including Ibn Uthaymeen said it's allowed in some kafir countries to vote in cases where refraining from voting will bring a greater harm to the Muslim community. I personally don't vote, but going in and out of the masjid after having prayed jama3a that's all you need to do. For men, praying at the masjid is a no brainer. It is by praying at the mosque that you start your journey towards becoming a waliy of Allah.
@@mon0theist_tv ask the people of knowledge and don't get fooled by sheitan. Go to another masjid and if none is closed, then you still have to go to the mosque.
Minute 54: 'Umar bin al-Khattāb disliked the practice of marrying women from the people of the Scripture Tafsīr Ibn Kathīr, Sūrat al-Baqarah, verse 221: Abu Jafar bin Jarir (At-Tabari) said, after mentioning that there is Ijma that marrying women from the People of the Scripture is allowed, "Umar disliked this practice so that the Muslims do not refrain from marrying Muslim women, or for similar reasons.'' An authentic chain of narrators stated that Shaqiq said: Once Hudhayfah married a Jewish woman and Umar wrote to him, "Divorce her.'' He wrote back, "Do you claim that she is not allowed for me so that I divorce her'' He said, "No. But, I fear that you might marry the whores from among them.
And as for brothers who want to marry from back home be careful they picked up the femininity much faster than us in the west ,one of my brothers have married 4times fir the last 5 years and yet he divorced them all and I’m talking about all .
@@abdulnoorhussam1226 my entire family of uncles and aunties are all mostly long distance and work very well. But thyere older. Maybe in this day and age, it won't work
Islam gives men authority which the women in west aren't willing to accept but women back home have been prepared to. But the sad thing is most of the times this authority is why you only see marriages working only one way, sacrifices only made by one person (wife), brother with problems will not work on himself but the sister has to adjust to his problems as he is not willing to change. No efforts from the men, if the woman puts efforts, marriage will work, if she doesn't put efforts, men will divorce. Unfortunately the reality of many submissive housewives. - this is the only fear I have of proper islamic marriage. Because I've seen my grandmother spend her entire life serving my grandfather, unappreciated and never had a life of her own, she loved traveling, joking, playing but she spent all her life serving and whenever there were any arguments, whether it was her fault or not she had to apologize because if she wouldn't, the problem wouldn't be solved. Though I look up to her as a housewife and take her as inspiration but it would really be appreciated if my grandfather sometimes let her enjoy, or worked even half as much as she worked on their marriage problems to solve and make each other happy. But unfortunately, with authority, many men dont owe an apology, or any efforts in the marriage as long as they're bringing food to the table, they are not accountable for solving the maritial problems
May Allah s.w.t reward your grandmother with the highest Jannah and may Allah s.w.t forgive your grandfather's misdeeds and grant him Jannah also. This is why marriage is also jihad. Some marriages have mawaddah and rahmah, while some others only have rahmah or just mawaddah. Allah s.w.t knows best.
@@user-dc9xs6jm5u Ameen!! Summa Ameen!! My grandfather till this day misses her, but it teaches the valuable life lesson of appreciating people while they're around.
@@roneddy no, I dont think its true at all! Atleast mot today Alhamdulillah! But maybe in earlier times (like I mentioned my grandfather) the culture and norms were different. Obedient, respectful and submissive wife were common (as it should be) so it was expected of women to be that way and were not appreciated for it because thats their duty! Duh! But obviously women also have emotional needs, they need appreciation but unfortunately we tend to take things for granted when we have it. Today when dominant, masculine, disobedient and disrespectful women are common, we have a new found level of respect for the submissive, obedient women.
@@muslimah3006 i agree it's not true for every Muslim man but it still happens with some of them. Both men and women in the Ummah have things to work on. May Allah guide us all to the straight path, ameen.
I am a muslim man from the west and came here with the hope to learn something but unfortunately this video should have been titled "Advice for women to get their act together". This video is very sexist and the entire video he talks bad about women in the west and degrades them. Throughout the video he did not say one bad thing to men but put them on a pedestal. This video will break more relationships than start new ones. Please do not follow this person's advice. There are lots of great muslim women in the west; more than men. I am a man and far more men sleep around, drink alcohol, smoke etc. than women. Shame on you!
Whole laugh 😂 omaigodd I wouldn't marry someone from back home coz what they will do is come to the UK then they become legal to this country then they leave you lol 😂 not all are same but most time yeah sisters from back home are good not all. Normally this days ppl don't want to marry anyone from back home.
For the brothers, I give you a simple solution to finding a good wife. Go and look for a sister from regions such as indonesia / Philippines / Thailand. More submissive, agreeable and non argumentative compared to the western feminist types you will find nowadays in the UK. The End.
i find it funny as a muslim who lived most of his life and was born in the "back home" i also went to study in the UK, western practicing women are in no way worse than muslim women in the "back home" in many ways they are even better, because for a sister to wear the niqab and hijab in the west, they are doing it in large part for Allah as they are going through a lot of diffiulty just to be able to wear it. on the other hand, not only is feministic and yes even LGBTQ+ ideology is being concentrated onto women from the "back home" and billion if not trillions is spent on brainwashing them. but even if they apear toobserve the hijab or niqab, many of them especially those of the marriable age do it in large reason so they get married and apear more "pure" than what they really are. i'm not exposing anybody in particular may allah guide us all and hide our sins, but i know people who "talk" with multiple women at the same time, sometime even drink and do zina and most of these women they are talking to are wearing hijab. so often does it happen that a girl gets married while she had a relationship that she didn't disclose of that in the "back home" it became a meme of when you are on your way to the car with the bride you see a man in the corner crying aka that was her bf. on the opposite end there are women who may not wear a headscarf yet she would not even entertain being friends with a guy and if a proposal comes to her, she would tell him to talk to her dad and give her dad's number rather than her number. many of those girls end up really stepping up their hijab game after a few years of marriage may Allah guide them and make it easy on them. actually i will take it a step futher. i don't know if this is sharia compliant or not but as i will be doing (if i ask around and find that it's sharia compliant otherwise i won't) which is check for tattoos on her arms and forarms and also the eyebrows being tattooed. normally that type of "hijabi" women i mentioned above from back home have been going through a tattoo empidimeic becuase a certain type of guys are getting tattoos and many get it together and as i may have indirectly stated before but many of these women are with a guy that is in a relationship with multiple women at the same time so he makes these women get a tattoo with him or puts it into their brain that it's cool to have. again doesn't mean she hasn't repented and again that's specific to the girls from "back home" due to the enviroment, i'm not talking about muslim girls in the west. btw i can tell you about muslim girls in the west and what i think of them in comprison to girls from the east but i already have written so much plus my understand is relativly still limited becuase it's mostly from what i observed as i don't like to interact/ freemix more than i needed to in university
I don't think western Muslim women are any better or worse than the ones in the East. The thing that's is a fact is that there are MORE Muslim women back home than in the west. Through sheer numbers, you are more likely to find a practicing feminine women back home vs in the west
@@roneddy that is true if you take that metric alone. but what you don't see behind the scenes is that things are deeply related to family back home and there will be all kinds of people trying to show you what you want to marry their daughter and she will act according to what you set until she can fully stay in the west and her kids get the nationality and then she will show her true face. forget western guys coming back home, even guys from the "back home" once they take the women to the west and they totally unleash the thaughts they had inside that are missed up but they can now do it because western societies empower women to ruin thier family and even get rewarded for it. for example and this is a personal example but this is just one that i experinced that is why i'm talking about it, there are many similar cases. i have a relative who married his wife for a long long while, the wife had her problems that she has shown over time but nothing major and they literally have multiple kids that are about to be grown adults so they have been married for a long while. he worked and moved about to provide for his family and did his best, and eventually as he has a brother and a few family memebers in america, they told him to come over and they will support him staying there and so on. they did what they said, his family weren't the problem, the problem is that as he was establishing himself in america with his family and finally stabalised himself, his wife was getting more and more audacious, the almost grown kids (not all of them one is the others are younger) were getting more and more spoiled in very bad ways by the mom, she would make trouble and disrespect her husband. she would do very disrepsectful stuff in general to her husband publically and one day she suddenly pressed charges says he beats her up and she is being abused and that she abused the kids. the kids also turned on their father, the loser older son who was about to go to college who's dad had to pay extra because he is a spoiled failiure flipped on his dad because he failed college, didn't like how his dad wouldn't let him be spoiled and his mom promissed him money. the little kids were brainwashed by the mom while the dad was at work. NGOs/ women shelters specifically for muslim women comming from abroad took her in, gave her a lot of money, a big place to stay and took charge of the laywers. the man isn't without any faults he is a bit stingy in the wrong ways (he got finned for "hunting" a bird that turned out to be protected in the area type of stingy lol) but people including new neighbours attest to his good character, i know his son, he's from my generation, he's a spoiled scumbag. point is that even we who live back home gt dooped much less somone who comes from the west who doesn't know much about anybody and is seen as a fat sheep. she doesn't need to get citizinship, she just needs to live long enough to say you abuse her becuase they want muslim women to come to the west and get corrupted.
Sometimes the village girls can be as corrupted as the ones in the west. It’s not like they don’t have access to the internet and social media over there. Times have changed
@@tekkman4485 There is always a risk, but the odds will be greatly in your favour if you marry a village girl. Unlike in the West where most women are using Tinder for a casual hook up; with a new man every week.
Also, they are more traditional and accept gender roles. Whereas, most Western Muslimahs try to move away from such traditionalism. Men have careers to get a wife, women have careers to avoid a husband.
Assalamualaikum ustaz Gabriel Ustaz.. some wives need to go out to work and want to work to earn money. the purpose of going out to work may be different. for example a wife who wants to work to help her parents support the family and also help support other siblings who are still in school. although it is not mandatory but the wife wants to help her family. In opinion ustaz, should a husband ask his wife to quit work? The wife stops working which means that there is no more income that can be given to the family. what say you ustaz? thak you.
What with the non stop trashing of muslim western women, even when your a practicing sister your still not good enough! The way you talk is too masculine, your taste in men is problematic, the slang you use is unacceptable .. seems like everything about us is threatening to y’all and how miserable must it be to marry someone who analysis and interprets everything you do in relation to how much of a man they feel at any given moment.
Yes. It’s not just about practicing islam, you gotta have proper adab as well. Same goes for men, I doubt you’d wanna marry a man who doesn’t know how to take leadership or doesnt speak to others with respect despite praying five times a day
western women are the bottom of the barrel compared to worldwide, western sisters follows trends and cuktures from the west as they are raised in rhe west, so yes they are not as feminine and hold more liberal values that are contradictory to islam and behave in ways that make sisters from other countries where they are traditional far more appealing this is just the facts of the matter, you cant change Mens preferences, you can change yourself and thats about it, which is better than complaining online
Dont be offended. If you are a western muslim woman, you know what the situation is there. Its hard to marry a man or a woman who doesn't care about the responsibilities given by Islam but emphasises on the rights they hve in Islam. In western countries, the influence of media is too much as compared to other muslim practicing countries. Dont worry, you can keep working on yourself, if you are a true pious practicing woman, Trust Allah! You will be married to good pious practicing man In Sha Allah!! Good women are for good men!!
The smallest handcuffs is a wedding ring. The husband is the prison inmate while his sharmuut wife is the prison guard. "I don't cook I don't clean but let me tell you how I got this ring." Cardi B culture.
I don't know if I'm wrong or right, I assume that people end up dwelling with the heart of one another after a certain period of time.If their hearts are not devoted to the same thing and they come to know this after marriage, no matter how beautiful she is or how handsome he is, their congugal life will end up becoming a battle field.Allah(swt) knows the best.
@jshsywhsksoaj I mean it’s neck and neck for me. I’ve had an abundance of proposals from men with very good deen but I’m not physically attracted to them so there’s no point really
@@taym2720 I personally do not see anything wrong with a man prioritizing physical attraction when it comes to marriage. It definitely should not be the sole determining factor though.
@@vost2916 For, [true] servants of the Most Gracious are [only] they who walk gently on earth, and who, whenever the foolish address them, reply with [words of] peace;
Just because you grew up in the west doesn’t mean you have no Islamic mindset. My wife is from the west and she is so much better than all the women from my home country. Kufr ideologies exist everywhere and can effect anyone. Also I couldn’t relate to any of the women back home intellectually and culturally, I wanted a woman who was just like me.
Group chat with her waali is not a good idea. Then she won’t open up with you as much as she should in a halal way. Sometimes people don’t like to be judged by their own family members. You might get a big surprise after marrying her. Be careful brothers.
being truthful and open will help a ton from her end and we gotta be the first ones to clear it out that all we want is the truth no judgements no nothing just the clear cut facts and notice when the wali is trying to intervene to stop her from saying certain things and all that, altho idk this is coming from a guy who doesn't really give a crap what people say, others may have differing understanding and experiences, but the group chat is indeed needed, if not from her end then from your end at least let there be someone who she trusts and is easier for her to open up in front of, find a male who fits the category for her to do so.
Very good video brother may allah bless you, we need more of these long videos where you go into detail and break down the topic into smaller pieces. InShaAllah you start making a series about different topics that affects the ummah today since no one else seems to acknowledge these problems or just pretend that they do not exist. We need more open discussion amongst our community so people don't go to look for answers outside the parameters of islam and the sunnah, and no one is better at facilitating these discussions than you brother Gabriel, so once again may allah reward you for your hard work.
What's the danger of a person developing interest in getting Thai massage?
This art may have originated from ancient Buddhist leaders. It was done to improve a person's Buddhist religiosity. Therefore, the person who studied this art must have studied from a person who had this religious motivation and the person getting the massage gets the effects of this motivation. Body can be greatly harmed from weird things.
Great video Gabriel. BarakAllahu Feek
Thank you so much Gabriel and sorry for the troll comments. Always love these Q&A sessions!!
Another good way to see if someone is practicing the Deen is seeing if they actively seek knowledge upon the understanding of the Salaf, and also if they implement the things they learn.
I believe part of the issue of men and women not being able to marry, is that we don’t put enough trust in Allah. I hear a lot of men saying women don’t want average earning men only 6 figure, they don’t want to marry him unless he got things that show he has good money, and while that may be true, you should focus on yourself and earn to the best of your ability and have tawakkul that you’ll find a woman who does not value the sum of money over deen. If you say there’s not a single pious woman out there who can complement your mindset, then there’s obviously something inwards you have to work on.
And the way women have been brainwashed in today’s society is too crazy to mention, but for the ones that truly wanna put Allah first, they should humble themselves and try to become in tune with their femininity as much as possible, it’s the only thing that’ll feel 100% right, being your true innate self. Never forget to put Allah before the dunya.
Have tawakkul that you will find what you attract. The person you are, the level of deen you have, the mindset you have, the values you hold, etc.
Maashaa2Allah amazing work brother Gabriel❤
The ratio of women who are feminine, that know how to cook and clean, that value the husband's work and provision, is so much greater in Muslim countries than in the west. They are essentially offering significantly more, for much less. This is a simple case of supply and demand; women in Muslim countries are in abundance and so they don't typically have the inflated ego of a Muslim woman in the west. Any brothers out there that have family back home should without question entertain that route first
Stop lying to yourself. Go and check divorce statistics in Muslim countries. Just because they wear hijab doesn't mean they are that religious and follow Islamic rules on marriage
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 I'd have to second him. Feel free to post divorce rates, but even in the more rural less materialistic parts of the US, women, perhaps people in general, are just ... nicer. That's got to go extra for Muslim villages.
@@OG_Jin_Bling just check online for a country like Morocco
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 Actually, I have checked the stats for Algeria, Morocco, Iran, Pakistan and Tunisia. All these countries have a common theme. The divorce rates are quite high (relatively) in urban areas whereas they are very low in rural (villages, towns, mountainous) areas. The people esp women in these urban areas are very liberal relatively compared to their rural counterparts. The bottomline is whereever liberalism goes, sky high divorce rates follow.
What's the danger of a person developing interest in getting Thai massage?
This art may have originated from ancient Buddhist leaders. It was done to improve a person's Buddhist religiosity. Therefore, the person who studied this art must have studied from a person who had this religious motivation and the person getting the massage gets the effects of this motivation. Body can be greatly harmed from weird things.
Another great video
Jazakallahu khairan brother. Such a beneficial video.
salam, shaykh when is this course available for vetting?
Salam, does anybody have the links to the sisters femininity groups that brother Romaani mentioned?
JazakumAllahukhairan
18:00 Should I marry from back home or the West?
You decide lol ahhaa
You speak gold brother you speak gold
Salaam Aleykum brother , we are based in the US and we see men in reverse side for some how so what do we do because most men are just not taking their Islamic responsibility seriously .
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: None of you [truly] believes until he loves for his brother that which he loves for himself. [Al-Bukhari] [Muslim]
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Unfortunately I rushed in the vetting process and ended up in a miserable marriage. I did what Br Gabriel described and took the first one that came along and basically didn't vet hardly at all. Now I'm not sure if I should keep trying to salvage it or divorce. Not sure if divorce is the solution or if it will only make everything worse. Tough situation to be in, especially when you have children. Be careful out there.
15:00 I stopped going to my local masjid because the promote the shirk of Democracy. But to be fair, I also wasn't going to daily Fajr/Isha jama'ah either.
29:00 when we first got married and had arguments she used to threaten divorce ALL the time. I refused because I was committed to making the marriage work. Should've recognized the red flag.
Just because a masjid is engaging in democracy does not mean you cannot pray there. This is an extremist view. Where is your hikmah? So what if they do democracy, it is not going to change any time soon. Make dua and call the people to the truth. I know people who do not go to the masjid because they had arguments with the board. But these things should be put to the side. Make jamaat, come together, and start following the sunnah and the jamat. We need to stay together as muslims.
@@nabeelimam if they started worshipping the cross or someone/something other than Allah at a "masjid", would you still go there?
Brother that's obvious shirk that isn't called a masjid anymore but democracy and the sort... come on that's sheitan tricking you. Some scholars including Ibn Uthaymeen said it's allowed in some kafir countries to vote in cases where refraining from voting will bring a greater harm to the Muslim community. I personally don't vote, but going in and out of the masjid after having prayed jama3a that's all you need to do. For men, praying at the masjid is a no brainer. It is by praying at the mosque that you start your journey towards becoming a waliy of Allah.
@@hmzzrg5045 Shirk is shirk
@@mon0theist_tv ask the people of knowledge and don't get fooled by sheitan. Go to another masjid and if none is closed, then you still have to go to the mosque.
My father lacks integrity. I have no brothers. It's difficult.
Really miss you
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Minute 54:
'Umar bin al-Khattāb disliked the practice of marrying women from the people of the Scripture
Tafsīr Ibn Kathīr, Sūrat al-Baqarah, verse 221:
Abu Jafar bin Jarir (At-Tabari) said, after mentioning that there is Ijma that marrying women from the People of the Scripture is allowed, "Umar disliked this practice so that the Muslims do not refrain from marrying Muslim women, or for similar reasons.'' An authentic chain of narrators stated that Shaqiq said: Once Hudhayfah married a Jewish woman and Umar wrote to him, "Divorce her.'' He wrote back, "Do you claim that she is not allowed for me so that I divorce her'' He said, "No. But, I fear that you might marry the whores from among them.
Kindly also let me know that is my husband comiting zina and will he be punished.
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Lol
That’s crazy OMG
And as for brothers who want to marry from back home be careful they picked up the femininity much faster than us in the west ,one of my brothers have married 4times fir the last 5 years and yet he divorced them all and I’m talking about all .
How can a woman vet a long-distance brother?
@ maryam a you don’t, long distance relationships don’t work, put an end to it
@@abdulnoorhussam1226 that’s not true. everybody in my family married someone from another state/country and they’re fine…
@@abdulnoorhussam1226 my entire family of uncles and aunties are all mostly long distance and work very well. But thyere older. Maybe in this day and age, it won't work
Don't think east has no feminism. Oh we do. We do we do we do. I talk to feminists everyday in my uni
Helloooo
Islam gives men authority which the women in west aren't willing to accept but women back home have been prepared to.
But the sad thing is most of the times this authority is why you only see marriages working only one way, sacrifices only made by one person (wife), brother with problems will not work on himself but the sister has to adjust to his problems as he is not willing to change.
No efforts from the men, if the woman puts efforts, marriage will work, if she doesn't put efforts, men will divorce. Unfortunately the reality of many submissive housewives. - this is the only fear I have of proper islamic marriage.
Because I've seen my grandmother spend her entire life serving my grandfather, unappreciated and never had a life of her own, she loved traveling, joking, playing but she spent all her life serving and whenever there were any arguments, whether it was her fault or not she had to apologize because if she wouldn't, the problem wouldn't be solved. Though I look up to her as a housewife and take her as inspiration but it would really be appreciated if my grandfather sometimes let her enjoy, or worked even half as much as she worked on their marriage problems to solve and make each other happy. But unfortunately, with authority, many men dont owe an apology, or any efforts in the marriage as long as they're bringing food to the table, they are not accountable for solving the maritial problems
May Allah s.w.t reward your grandmother with the highest Jannah and may Allah s.w.t forgive your grandfather's misdeeds and grant him Jannah also.
This is why marriage is also jihad. Some marriages have mawaddah and rahmah, while some others only have rahmah or just mawaddah. Allah s.w.t knows best.
@@user-dc9xs6jm5u Ameen!! Summa Ameen!! My grandfather till this day misses her, but it teaches the valuable life lesson of appreciating people while they're around.
It is true, many muslim men do not appreciate their wives who are obedient and respectful to him.
@@roneddy no, I dont think its true at all! Atleast mot today Alhamdulillah! But maybe in earlier times (like I mentioned my grandfather) the culture and norms were different. Obedient, respectful and submissive wife were common (as it should be) so it was expected of women to be that way and were not appreciated for it because thats their duty! Duh! But obviously women also have emotional needs, they need appreciation but unfortunately we tend to take things for granted when we have it.
Today when dominant, masculine, disobedient and disrespectful women are common, we have a new found level of respect for the submissive, obedient women.
@@muslimah3006 i agree it's not true for every Muslim man but it still happens with some of them.
Both men and women in the Ummah have things to work on. May Allah guide us all to the straight path, ameen.
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I am a muslim man from the west and came here with the hope to learn something but unfortunately this video should have been titled "Advice for women to get their act together". This video is very sexist and the entire video he talks bad about women in the west and degrades them. Throughout the video he did not say one bad thing to men but put them on a pedestal.
This video will break more relationships than start new ones.
Please do not follow this person's advice. There are lots of great muslim women in the west; more than men. I am a man and far more men sleep around, drink alcohol, smoke etc. than women.
Shame on you!
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Whole laugh 😂 omaigodd
I wouldn't marry someone from back home coz what they will do is come to the UK then they become legal to this country then they leave you lol 😂 not all are same but most time yeah sisters from back home are good not all. Normally this days ppl don't want to marry anyone from back home.
For the brothers, I give you a simple solution to finding a good wife.
Go and look for a sister from regions such as indonesia / Philippines / Thailand. More submissive, agreeable and non argumentative compared to the western feminist types you will find nowadays in the UK.
The End.
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Muslim Alpha = Alif Male.
i find it funny as a muslim who lived most of his life and was born in the "back home" i also went to study in the UK, western practicing women are in no way worse than muslim women in the "back home"
in many ways they are even better, because for a sister to wear the niqab and hijab in the west, they are doing it in large part for Allah as they are going through a lot of diffiulty just to be able to wear it.
on the other hand, not only is feministic and yes even LGBTQ+ ideology is being concentrated onto women from the "back home" and billion if not trillions is spent on brainwashing them.
but even if they apear toobserve the hijab or niqab, many of them especially those of the marriable age do it in large reason so they get married and apear more "pure" than what they really are.
i'm not exposing anybody in particular may allah guide us all and hide our sins, but i know people who "talk" with multiple women at the same time, sometime even drink and do zina and most of these women they are talking to are wearing hijab.
so often does it happen that a girl gets married while she had a relationship that she didn't disclose of that in the "back home" it became a meme of when you are on your way to the car with the bride you see a man in the corner crying aka that was her bf.
on the opposite end there are women who may not wear a headscarf yet she would not even entertain being friends with a guy and if a proposal comes to her, she would tell him to talk to her dad and give her dad's number rather than her number.
many of those girls end up really stepping up their hijab game after a few years of marriage may Allah guide them and make it easy on them.
actually i will take it a step futher. i don't know if this is sharia compliant or not but as i will be doing (if i ask around and find that it's sharia compliant otherwise i won't) which is check for tattoos on her arms and forarms and also the eyebrows being tattooed. normally that type of "hijabi" women i mentioned above from back home have been going through a tattoo empidimeic becuase a certain type of guys are getting tattoos and many get it together and as i may have indirectly stated before but many of these women are with a guy that is in a relationship with multiple women at the same time so he makes these women get a tattoo with him or puts it into their brain that it's cool to have.
again doesn't mean she hasn't repented and again that's specific to the girls from "back home" due to the enviroment, i'm not talking about muslim girls in the west.
btw i can tell you about muslim girls in the west and what i think of them in comprison to girls from the east but i already have written so much plus my understand is relativly still limited becuase it's mostly from what i observed as i don't like to interact/ freemix more than i needed to in university
I don't think western Muslim women are any better or worse than the ones in the East.
The thing that's is a fact is that there are MORE Muslim women back home than in the west. Through sheer numbers, you are more likely to find a practicing feminine women back home vs in the west
@@roneddy that is true if you take that metric alone. but what you don't see behind the scenes is that things are deeply related to family back home and there will be all kinds of people trying to show you what you want to marry their daughter and she will act according to what you set until she can fully stay in the west and her kids get the nationality and then she will show her true face.
forget western guys coming back home, even guys from the "back home" once they take the women to the west and they totally unleash the thaughts they had inside that are missed up but they can now do it because western societies empower women to ruin thier family and even get rewarded for it.
for example and this is a personal example but this is just one that i experinced that is why i'm talking about it, there are many similar cases.
i have a relative who married his wife for a long long while, the wife had her problems that she has shown over time but nothing major and they literally have multiple kids that are about to be grown adults so they have been married for a long while.
he worked and moved about to provide for his family and did his best, and eventually as he has a brother and a few family memebers in america, they told him to come over and they will support him staying there and so on.
they did what they said, his family weren't the problem, the problem is that as he was establishing himself in america with his family and finally stabalised himself, his wife was getting more and more audacious, the almost grown kids (not all of them one is the others are younger) were getting more and more spoiled in very bad ways by the mom, she would make trouble and disrespect her husband.
she would do very disrepsectful stuff in general to her husband publically and one day she suddenly pressed charges says he beats her up and she is being abused and that she abused the kids.
the kids also turned on their father, the loser older son who was about to go to college who's dad had to pay extra because he is a spoiled failiure flipped on his dad because he failed college, didn't like how his dad wouldn't let him be spoiled and his mom promissed him money.
the little kids were brainwashed by the mom while the dad was at work.
NGOs/ women shelters specifically for muslim women comming from abroad took her in, gave her a lot of money, a big place to stay and took charge of the laywers.
the man isn't without any faults he is a bit stingy in the wrong ways (he got finned for "hunting" a bird that turned out to be protected in the area type of stingy lol) but people including new neighbours attest to his good character, i know his son, he's from my generation, he's a spoiled scumbag.
point is that even we who live back home gt dooped much less somone who comes from the west who doesn't know much about anybody and is seen as a fat sheep.
she doesn't need to get citizinship, she just needs to live long enough to say you abuse her becuase they want muslim women to come to the west and get corrupted.
Satan is a great psychology genius, we should be smart.
Feel so bad he had to remove ppl 🤤😆😆
Sincere advice for the brothers. Marry someone back home from a village. Don't marry a Western Muslimah.
Sometimes the village girls can be as corrupted as the ones in the west. It’s not like they don’t have access to the internet and social media over there. Times have changed
@@tekkman4485 There is always a risk, but the odds will be greatly in your favour if you marry a village girl.
Unlike in the West where most women are using Tinder for a casual hook up; with a new man every week.
Also, they are more traditional and accept gender roles. Whereas, most Western Muslimahs try to move away from such traditionalism.
Men have careers to get a wife, women have careers to avoid a husband.
Women too should marry back home and live there, why only men?
@@vost2916 women study not to avoid men, but to provide for themselves in case they don't find someone to get married to.
Assalamualaikum ustaz Gabriel
Ustaz.. some wives need to go out to work and want to work to earn money.
the purpose of going out to work may be different.
for example a wife who wants to work to help her parents support the family and also help support other siblings who are still in school. although it is not mandatory but the wife wants to help her family.
In opinion ustaz, should a husband ask his wife to quit work?
The wife stops working which means that there is no more income that can be given to the family.
what say you ustaz?
thak you.
@jshsywhsksoaj thanks for your opinion
@jshsywhsksoaj Can you cite Qu’ran and Hadith to support your opinion? It’s not haram for women to work.
What with the non stop trashing of muslim western women, even when your a practicing sister your still not good enough! The way you talk is too masculine, your taste in men is problematic, the slang you use is unacceptable .. seems like everything about us is threatening to y’all and how miserable must it be to marry someone who analysis and interprets everything you do in relation to how much of a man they feel at any given moment.
Yes. It’s not just about practicing islam, you gotta have proper adab as well. Same goes for men, I doubt you’d wanna marry a man who doesn’t know how to take leadership or doesnt speak to others with respect despite praying five times a day
If it doesn't apply, let it fly.
western women are the bottom of the barrel compared to worldwide, western sisters follows trends and cuktures from the west as they are raised in rhe west, so yes they are not as feminine and hold more liberal values that are contradictory to islam and behave in ways that make sisters from other countries where they are traditional far more appealing this is just the facts of the matter, you cant change Mens preferences, you can change yourself and thats about it, which is better than complaining online
Nobody wants to marry a manly woman just how women would not marry a weak woman-ish man
Dont be offended. If you are a western muslim woman, you know what the situation is there. Its hard to marry a man or a woman who doesn't care about the responsibilities given by Islam but emphasises on the rights they hve in Islam.
In western countries, the influence of media is too much as compared to other muslim practicing countries.
Dont worry, you can keep working on yourself, if you are a true pious practicing woman, Trust Allah! You will be married to good pious practicing man In Sha Allah!! Good women are for good men!!
The smallest handcuffs is a wedding ring. The husband is the prison inmate while his sharmuut wife is the prison guard.
"I don't cook I don't clean but let me tell you how I got this ring." Cardi B culture.
Def not a salafi. A salafi wouldnt write or use language like that to dishonor the sahaba.🤢🤮 #beta
Disgusting language akhi itaqilah
You are alpha like software is in alpha version. Full of bugs and not fit for the public.
@@randomness8819 Your purpose in this short lived Dunyaa is to worship your lord- Allaah swt! The rest is Fitnah- including children
@@margaretappleton3437 Women And Devil Both Have 5 letters and God and Men both Have 3 Letters
The first thing that comes to my mind is physical attraction before anything to be completely honest. Religion is a very close second obviously
I don't know if I'm wrong or right, I assume that people end up dwelling with the heart of one another after a certain period of time.If their hearts are not devoted to the same thing and they come to know this after marriage, no matter how beautiful she is or how handsome he is, their congugal life will end up becoming a battle field.Allah(swt) knows the best.
@jshsywhsksoaj I mean it’s neck and neck for me. I’ve had an abundance of proposals from men with very good deen but I’m not physically attracted to them so there’s no point really
That is completely fine, but the problem arises when men say the same thing, then all women lose their minds...
@@taym2720 I personally do not see anything wrong with a man prioritizing physical attraction when it comes to marriage. It definitely should not be the sole determining factor though.
This guy remind me of harun yahyah
Two men living under same roof.😂
Making women in the west feel a little bit sad today. Can’t help where you’re from 😢
Don't care. All the more reason to fix up. Huge supply of beautiful village girls, I am a happy man.
@@vost2916 For, [true] servants of the Most Gracious are [only] they who walk gently on earth, and who, whenever the foolish address them, reply with [words of] peace;
Just because you grew up in the west doesn’t mean you have no Islamic mindset. My wife is from the west and she is so much better than all the women from my home country. Kufr ideologies exist everywhere and can effect anyone. Also I couldn’t relate to any of the women back home intellectually and culturally, I wanted a woman who was just like me.
Sisters in the west are very combative. Have high expectations, reject men for worldly matters. There's a reason brothers avoid them,sometimes.
@@blueflame3531 again, it’s the generalization of a thing and stigmatization of a group of people that is not fair in my opinion
Group chat with her waali is not a good idea. Then she won’t open up with you as much as she should in a halal way. Sometimes people don’t like to be judged by their own family members. You might get a big surprise after marrying her. Be careful brothers.
being truthful and open will help a ton from her end and we gotta be the first ones to clear it out that all we want is the truth no judgements no nothing just the clear cut facts and notice when the wali is trying to intervene to stop her from saying certain things and all that, altho idk this is coming from a guy who doesn't really give a crap what people say, others may have differing understanding and experiences, but the group chat is indeed needed, if not from her end then from your end at least let there be someone who she trusts and is easier for her to open up in front of, find a male who fits the category for her to do so.