How To Be A Good Ally At LGBTQ+ Pride
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- Опубликовано: 21 июн 2018
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...why did I watch this? I'm gay.
Send it to me I’m straight
YeEt Me ToO
same lol
Same
Same-
25% does sound high until you start to consider that we all have families who may want to come support us ❤ I like to think that is it. It does make sense esp. With close family members like partners, parents and kids. I wish my parents would go.
I'd love to have a cis person introduce themselves with their pronouns. It's only really happened in gsa, so I'm looking forward to my first pride. Don't know when it'll be, just hope it's soon. So, cis folk, that could be a nice thing to do at pride.
It's actually something that I do a lot when I meet someone for the first time. First thing I do? Ask what to call them. Second? Which pronouns would you like me to use when referring to you. The order is reversed when I'm speaking in my other native tongue, which is completely gendered and thus pronouns are an even bigger deal.
Thanks good to know this will help me support my friends 😊
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I marched in Boston Pride this year as an ally and I absolutely had a concern about taking up space. We were there with the VA, shouting that we "serve all who serve", making sure that LGBTQ+ veterans know they have a safe space for their healthcare. I appreciated the idea that there was a purpose for us being there and that it wasn't about us.
At first I never thought of going because I thought I just had nothing to do there since I’m straight, but then a lesbian friend of mine invited me and insisted that I come, explaining that it totally did make sense for me to join in as a supporter of LGBTQA+ rights. I find it a bit awkward sometimes to take up space like that, so I make sure I’m side-kicking someone.
Go away.
Is wearing anything with the "straight ally" symbol okay? Like a shirt?
I don't see anything wrong with that. I'm a lesbian and I love seeing straight allies. One year at pride there was a woman holding a sign saying she is a straight mom and wants to give us all a hug. So people were lining up to hug this supportive mom. It was sweet.
I'm friends with a straight cisgender mom whose daughter is transgender, and the mom is so supportive of my decision to marry a woman that I plan to invite her to my wedding. When she informed me of her daughter's pronoun change, I felt proud of her for supporting her daughter's identity. If that isn't true allyship, I'm not sure what is.
That’s what I’d like to know.
@@VanNessy97 Thought my mother was a straight ally, because she’s so supportive of me being pan and told be that its okay to tell her anything regarding the LGBTQ+ community, turns out she’s bi and has dates women before :)
@@echothefreak9396 I thought I was a straight ally until I learned how bisexuality worked
Thank you so much, my best friend since I was 5 recently came out as bi and I didn't even know what the term meant. This video was really helpful in showing me what I still have to learn 🏳️🌈😊
Incredibly helpful, thank you so much.
I don't know anybody (yet) that is part of the lgbtq+ community (yet) but I just want to support people ;v;
yes me too😔🌈❤️
Me three! And there nothing wrong with that, @Kxalbra!
You probably do but they just don’t know it yet either.
My family go to the pride festival annually. It helped me work out who I was and that I could be comfortable with myself. I have fond memories of wearing rainbow outfits and parading the rainbow round the town.
I find it sad that you have to state some of the things in the beginning of this video. I want to be a good ally (and i have tons to learn, obviously) but I was hoping that some of this basic respect would be obvious. 😔
Well, I don’t personally know anyone in the LGBTQ+ community, but I still want to support all of them... I’m still too young to go on parades like this I think but I still want to do something...
I'm a ally and I really want to go to pride with my friend to support her and
this video really helped me :))
Thank you so much for this. The issue of Taking Up Space is an interesting one, because of Pride being about protest and visibility aswell as celebration. As an ally I want to show support to the LGBTQ+ community, be a visible supporter for other cis-het people to see, but not push my way into someone else's party.
Now I'm a Mum it's even more important I'm there representing supportive parents. Can't wait to go, but nervous too. I want to get it right!
Answer: Provincetown, MA. You can't take up someone else's space in the Proudest Town in America if you're directly supporting the businesses.
I’m an ally and I want to go with my cousin but he’s parents and mine wouldn’t let us since it involves lgbtq people which I don’t understand what’s wrong with that. I just want to support my cousin in all the possible ways that I can
Your videos are always so great 🏳️🌈❤️
Thanks Vicky xxx
A few years ago I was at pride and a guy started taking pictures of me, which I thought was very rude because at the time I was really young. It felt like I was being objectified and I don't think the guy was even aware that it was an issue.
Me and my ex gf made fun of all the protesters. I even drank water in front of the ones that were in suits and ties in the 90°F Minneapolis wether xD
mindless Magyar omg I was there🤣🤣
Wow your so brave!!!🙄🤣🤣
I'm a cishet guy and I went to the Savannah Pride parade last year. And I walked in it. I loved it. Best night of my life. If this pandemic is able to end by the time of the second one, I'll definitely be back again. And you can be damn sure the group I went with (I went with my mom, sister, and some friends to remember a gay friend of all of us who died earlier that year) will crank it up. I personally wanna play some Beatles and spread the message of peace and love (which is my mantra).
I don't care who you are, who you love, or how you identify, I love you all just the same.
@@ElAteoMexicano then you're Questioning. They're included.
👏🏼👏🏼 thank you for this. sending this to all my straight cis friends who are going with me this year !!!
This is SO perfect! Thank you Rowan :D
I think I'm an ally?? I'm gonna great a lgbtq+ book so i can learn everything. I'm suppose to go to pride parade this year for my friend and others ~ I'm pretty excited
bts.bighitofficial tae cool thanks for supporting us ❤️
definitely an appreciated video - thank you!
This video was honestly so helpful thank you!! I watched a different one from another RUclipsr and it just felt so passive aggressive. But this video didn't feel like that at all it was really helpful thank you :))
I have a question. Like legitimately. And I mean this with all the respect posible, because I am somewhat new to all of this. Like I have always been pro rights, but I had not been like exposed (i guess, i don’t really know how to say this) so closely to me as I am now. So a large number of my friends are LGBTQ+ and I love all of them with everything i got, and i really want to be there for them and support them and all of that. But I don’t know up to what point it is like too much. Because I know I am technically not part of the community and sometimes I feel like I am not welcomed because I am straight and like I know like pride is basically celebrating queerness and it’s kind of their place to celebrate themselves and I don’t know if celebrating being queer when you are not is disrespectful (cause that is my mayor issue, I don’t want to disrespect the community). So, when is it like too much? Or like how do I go about talking about pride stuff? Again I don’t mean to offend anyone right intrude I am just truly trying to do things right.
LGBTQIA+ pride is something that everyone can exhibit. It's why the ally flag exists. The only problem comes when you start thinking that you know the queer community better than they know themselves. That's when it gets toxic. That's why I ask for advice from my trans friends when I'm writing a character who's trans. I'm cis, I don't know what it's like to be trans, so I will never be able to fully understand what it's like.
If you educate yourself enough by listening to your friends and listening to all types of queer people online then trust me you’ll feel more comfortable
I'm straight but i never felt it was an accomplishment i could be proud of; I was born that way.
There is nothing to be proud of with being straight because that sexual orientation faces no persecution - it is the status quo. You can’t invert the argument.
I like saying my sexuality is straight ally because I only date boys (I'm a girl) who supports equal civil rights, gender equality, and LGBT social movements, challenging homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia
I have never wanted to go because it’s not for me like Rowan said and I’m introverted af.
PLEASE can you make a video about whether ace/aro/demi people are lgbt or not? it's a REALLY big talking point on twitter and is bringing out a lot of aphobia in people. or maybe you could tweet about it? I'd love for sensible discussion to occur, since it's got pretty derogatory on twitter. love you rowan 😘😘😘
It appears that a troll has wandered in.
Yes, i am a mentally ill plant/robot devoid of emotions who will die alone and unloved, totally not a happy, healthy human who has a lot of close friends and familiy members i love
Omg I love your pfp
How isn't it? They are gender/romantic/sexual minorities.
Also, I think asexualiphobia makes way more sense because aphobia means to be unafraid.
Thank you for posting this video. You’ve given me a lot to think about.
Thank so much for this video, I wasn’t sure how to support the people I love ❤️
Just have respect and spread love ,..
I'm nervous to go to a pride event because I'm scared I'll do it wrong. When I'm older, I want to go to one because I'll be able to drive then, and I also don't want me being there to offend people, I know it's not just some fun game and I don't plan to disrespect any identities or pronouns.❤ I also watch videos like these to listen and try to understand others in hopes I do it right. I love the LGBTQ+ community but am still confused on what not to say and what to say. ( I've done research but a few things went over my head)-Jemma .
Im straight Ally and i love when Girls,Girls and Boys,Boys eatch other love ❤️🌈i Like all Lbgtq+
Another great video Rowan
To make a very long story short, I discovered that I am a part of the LGBTQIA+ community (and proudly so) between 2020 and last year, and this video still proved helpful to me, even after all the research I did. Thanks, Rowan! 😁
P.S I'm nonbinary and aroace-spec, btw, and my pronouns are they/he. For those of you who don't know, nonbinary people don't identify as neither man nor woman, but we don't deny that we were born with specific genitals nor that those genitals tend to affect our biologies in specific ways, especially after puberty.
I'm not ashamed of my body at all, nor of my "past life" as a man (that's why I use they/he instead of they/them). Not every nonbinary person feels that way, though.
The words "gender" and "[biological] sex" mean different things in the LGBTQIA+ community. Nonbinary is a kind of gender, not a sex nor a sexuality. I know that all of those terms are confusing, but I'm sure that eventually you'll get used to them. Just keep researching and everything will be fine 🤗
And here I was thinking the majority of people at pride were straight.
Bottom line, be a decent person.
I’m proud to be a supporter of the lgbtq community
Have you thought about doing rainbow colored hair? I saw some photos online recently and they were really cool.
Ignorant ( _very ignorant!_ ) cishet man here
This is exactly the video I needed, but was too afraid to ask for.
Thank you so much, Rowan Ellis
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH I’m pan but idk much about lgbt stuff cause I’m not super in the community and I’ve only dated guys. I’m friends with a bunch of other lgbt people and they always ask me if I want to go. I’ve never been cause crowds make me uncomfortable but idk after this I feel unprepared if I ever wanted to go.
If you are pan, you're a part of this community no matter who you've dated. You are lgbt+ and you'll always be welcome at pride and in our spaces ♥️🏳️🌈
ToastMistWin that was a year ago idk if I’m pan anymore, but I’m definitely not straight. I’m in a weird spot where idk if I’m pan or bi, but thanks a lot for you support.
@@datroy3647 either way, you're a part of this community :)
Hey Rowan Ellis I love ❤️ your videos have you written or are you planning on writing a book?? I would love to read a book by you
If I were going to go to pride as a straight person, I would just say I was bi if someone was really persistent/being an asshole in pressuring me as to why I was there. The acronym has expanded it LGBTQAI+. I think that pretty much covers everyone. I'm the "+"
Actually, I have been wondering this for a little while - is there a generally accepted way to ask for pronoun confirmation and, if so, what is it?
First Last
I prefer 'it'
I’m going with my bi female friend.... I’m want to bring an ally flag to the parade to show my support.... is that a good idea?
Still not sure whether it's OK to wear a lapel badge at these dos!
Is it ok to go to pride for general support even if you aren’t lgbtq or accompanying anyone lgbtq?
I'd say it is, straight allies are always good to have around. please just be respectful to people and don't take any pictures of anyone without asking, you may accidently out someone if you do that and that can be dangerous in religious households
..I’m bi..
Okay
Yup =v=
very cool, also same
I love your necklace!
I like a pearl necklace.
little 13 year old me would’ve loved to watch this video... thinking that i was an ally. ahh funny times
(i’m lgbt btw lol... not homophobic)
me, a neurotical lesbian : i should watch this :))))
Surprise, im bi
All the comments of non-LGBT people being mad for not feeling included in the LGBT fight...lmao that wouldn't make any sense if you think twice about it
I down voted a negative comment but the number of "likes" it had did not decrease. Why?
Because the downvoting system doesnt work. It Hasn't worked for many years now, and RUclips don't care to fix it..
Would not Strait non CIS be apart of the +?
That's the T in LGBT
I was Homophobe ones, no a "hater" or a "Religious" Kind, just a "Is it normal that ?" Kind, I was a 15-16, but my sister present me a gay friend and talk, he was not the "YoU hOmOpHoBe PoS" Kind but a calm and friendly kind who response of all my questions, and I change my mind by science. I'm Autistic, I have difficulty to understand the world it was my boat anchor for reality and it help me a lot about homosexuality, we find it in nature and they are important to ta care of orphans and abandoned babies for some species, or accident in bugs words who have difficulty to identified male or female. But I have difficulty with "these is more than 2 gender" because I'm with science because...except the blob who have 221 different genders (yes it's amazing), and the Trans...I thing it's not about gender be a male or a female but just personality, act like a girl don't make you a girl but what IS "acting like a girl" it's not the dress, in the past dress have no gender, look the manliest president Theodor Roosevelt wen baby, he dress girly robe but it's not for girls at all, there is robe for boys and pants for girl, genders dress is only the the noble like 2-3% of the population, gender dress is just cultural and don't make scenes, his personality ? it can be a Metro-sexual, not a girl but like make-up, I have some make up but I'm a boy. The brain ? yes male and female have different brain but in child side everyone have girl body it's puberty who change our body to male with the Hormones of our genitals, so an Adult have the brain of the gender of his genital buy it's hormones.
Maybe i'm 100% wrong but it's like that I work, like I said I'm autistic my only boat anchor for reality it's science for understand and communicate in this world, but I can change my mind to talk more about that.
But I still respect the codes of gender respect for trans or other but it's totally dishonest from me and I feel a little dirty to not be honest, and I scare to make conflict to talk honestly about my doubts.
Ight, so here's what I know.
According to the DSM-5, gender dysphoria is a psychological condition in which one's self-image is a different gender than that of one's birth. The only cure for this is a social and/or physical transition.
Some people have dysphoria from either gender, and thus choose to identify as and change their features to match a different gender. Depending on who you ask, it's like double dysphoria or halfway dysphoria, or just regular dysphoria.
Identity is immutable and static; perception is not. So people can sometimes have the body they want but find that their gender identity does not match them as they are, and thus change their identity expression to a new term.
The latter case of the second paragraph, and the people in the third, are grouped as non-binary and agender people.
@@leftforsunday I don't know, I think I'm asexuel or not social at all...I prefer my comfort from loneliness. I use science like a anchor to understand this word, it help me to see Gays like pretty normal a casual people to me, and don't understand homophobe logic (or suppose to be some kind of logic). But I have some difficulty with Trans-poeple, not Drag Queens they are fine like a hobby they like equal to a cosplay or an comic-actor, but I don't find the science for trans who convince they are man or women, for me is only do to our reproductive organs. For me I don't care, if they like it or help it, it's fine but I feel like I be dishonest for force accept it for no reasons...
is this not a bit of a mean way to look at this. pride is suposed to be people coming together and i supose getting everyone around to support them. so why is it that though this video you made it seem like you have no intrest in people going to pride and that even thought they can to show there suport they must do all there things. i feel like these are more un-writen rules and general rules not tips. i think that anyone willing to hold a flag and show there apreciation for the pride should be enough. its just rude to point out on such a regular amount of the time in this video that "ohhhhh its not about you so dont do this or this or this because if i havn't mentiond its not about you, btw its not about you." i mean come on man
@Don K I can hardly make sense of my poorly punctuated comment from a year ago to be honest however I completely agree with your standpoint. I think that having to over complicate how to support a community is just stupid. I personally know many gay guys that actively couldn’t care less about the lgbtq+ community because they don’t understand half of what there on about.
I came out as a bake beans yesterday so where is pride month located?
if you want to fight for tolerance then start with yourself, start tolerating other people who don't think like you and that's for a reason. In fact all people experience intolerance. It won't change anything if you keep looking for roots of evil . I understand you noe it's time to understand us.
Im not judging anybody btw. fight racism for ALL!
What does lgbtq have anything to do with racism?
@@dwightchaos9449 the point is that the LGBT Community wants to be tolerated and accepted which is totally understandable, but many of them don't tolerate people who don't agree with them (f.e. in practicing homosexuality) (notice that practicing homosexuality differs from just being homosexual) and it is totally normal that people disagree and don't want to agree on everything (maybe because of religious reasons). Instead you get called homophobic and racists. If someone wants to be tolerated ,he shouldn't forget to tolerate others. You can't defeat hate with hate. I agree that there is lots of hate against LGBT community but there is also hate in the LGBT community towards non supporters and the hate is growing.
I will say that back when Jesus was around there was gay people and even before that.why do those kinds of people need all the stuff they do now a days
Because they're sick of being arrested and ostracized for no reason.
Devil children must go
I’m getting this exclusionary vibe. “Not about you”. Kind of unwelcoming...
but pride isn't about straight people
It really isnt about you.
pride really isn't about straight people, we welcome them to our protests but we ask that they respect us when they are there
I support the LGBTQ+ completely but I think that pride is stupid
Anti Feminist wat
Also your username is blatant provocation
Why? I'd like to know your reasoning.
@EXO MAMAMOO You can clearly see that this person doesn't suppor human beings in any way.
Why? It's a fun parade where you get to meet like-minded people. And also advocate for your rights.
@@RedHair651 yea I'm not a feminist at all because I in no way support the toxicity of third wave feminism which you're gracefully showing to me so thanks. That however does not mean I don't support equal rights. Also how is my username "blatant provocation" where is the logic behind that?
"It's not for you", how inclusive...
And true.
@@iammonkeygirl4632sad
I mean, yeah, her choice of words was harsh, but I feel like she has a point. Pride is not about straight people. And *some* sraight "allies" *can* give off a condescending vibe at pride events.
I myself as a member of the community had trouble in the past staying calm with straight girls who obviusly bathed in the attetion they got, talking for ages about what a great ally they are.
*Girl*, if you're there to support a cause - be there for the *cause*, not your ego.
Srsly, Pride is for LGBT*+ people. Pls don't make it about yourself. Like Rowan said, remember Pride is not for you...
It's kinda like a gamer going to a book convention who ends up only talking about video games all day, not even once talking to a writer or book enthusiast what it's like to be *soo* into books. Who keeps telling people "Oh, I'm here to support books and to help them get attention in society" but never once tries to learn what it means to... only be into books ;)
Cringy metaphor, I know. Sue me :D
@@thinkingofyou67 Agree but at the same a don't you can be a straight ally and be prideful of your sexuality and support while not being toxic bigot.
I respect gays, I agree trans r what gender they claim, but f your pronouns, who r u to tell me not to take up space, should I stop breathing that I don't steal gays' oxygen. Basically, yes to respect & acceptance, no to Political Correctness.