I'm about to be twenty, too, and I've never been in love or even had a boyfriend. I often regret not having a teenage love but at the same time, I'm GLAD I haven't. I have actually loved being single this entire time, and have worked so hard on my academic career and my mental health. I feel like I'm so behind though when it comes to dating experience! Everyone I know is suddenly dating and getting into relationships and I'm just here, not getting into anything. I wanted a boyfriend soo badly about a year ago and dated a bit, but I hated it. I realised that you cannot search for it, you have to be content in yourself, and it'll happen when it's meant to. Honestly, enjoy being single, girl! There are so many perks to it! Our world gears us up for monogamous relationships (not to mention hetero ones, too) when really, there are friendships to be made and other relationships that are just as fulfilling and important
hey! i’m 21 and just got into my first relationship. don’t rush it!! i truly believe you find your person when it’s meant to be and when you’re ready. i also think it’s a huge help to be single through your teens, you learn a LOT and you truly become so self aware & learn self love. be confident, work on yourself, stay positive and they’ll come when you least expect it. i know it sounds cliche but truly it’s what happens. don’t search for it!! you’ll only wind up with the wrong people
Love exactly same position over here about to be 22, never been in a relationship or kissed anyone and you know what I agree I'm glad I didn't have that young teen romance cause that just means that the first one will be extremely special because I will be mature, know what I want and capable and have a healthy mind and hopefully a healthy relationship with myself
I was the same way! Then I met my boyfriend junior year of college and now we’ve been together for 3 years going strong 😊 don’t feel pressure to rush it, you know what’s right for you.
same but it’s so hard to learn self-confidence when all your friends talk about their boyfriends and you’re a single pringle always third-wheeling and stuff
Being 19 and turning 20 and looking around seeing everyone else living life differently is so relatable. I turn 20 in 6 days and I’m complexity out of touch with reality. Some of my friends are married, or pregnant, engaged, off away at college, graduating college, getting into relationships, creating their own businesses. Then there’s me, just starting college (I took a long gap year), working a lot, pretty lonely, single, and have no goals or hobbies. I have no idea what to do with my life. It is so hard sometimes to not beat myself up or let myself get into a depressive episode and completely shut down. Doing life is so strange!
I'm in the same boat! I just turned 20 and just started college this fall, it can feel rly lonely and difficult to keep your head up, I totally relate. You're not alone!!
We really are living the same life 😭✋🏻my jaw dropped when I read bc of how similar my life is to yours. Your absolutely right it’s the hardest thing just to keep on going and not shit down. But I feel some sense of comfort knowing I’m not the only one going through these things
Just gotta do what makes YOU happy and focus on YOU. Took me so long to realize I need to stop focusing on other people and comparing myself constantly. Everyone’s path is different
I am also 20 and in a very similar situation. I’m currently (but slowly lol) learning to stop comparing myself to others- everyone has their own path and ultimately I just gotta do what makes me happy!
it’s interesting watching you go through this breakup at your age because I’m 25 now, and when I was 20-21 I went through something very similar. You’re killing it & your future is so bright!
I am 19 and I totally agree that entering your 20s is such a strange time because you look around and everyone is going about it differently. I really enjoyed the video and related to a lot of the sentiment. Have a great day!
I’ve been WAITING for this video girly I could just tell something was up but I wanna say thank you so much Bc it’s been a month since my breakup and I loved the way you talked about how you wouldn’t trade your experiences with your ex or how you are grateful you had him there for those times and I felt the same. I love all of your videos so much
@@anadusao No, but she removed her photos of her boyfriend, I think they’re back up and she wrote a caption which is now removed about having a life break down. People pieced it together.
This is so crazy I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16 and I am now 20 and we broke up last week! We also have broken up once before the same time you guys did beginning of quarantine. Although this is really hard I can tell it’s very necessary for me to be single at this time in my life. If you feel comfortable I think documenting your journey could help a lot of people! Love you!!❤️
Same exact history hahah, with the same exact age as well hahah it’s crazy how many people there are going through this …. It’s so painful, but we will get better ❤️🩹
I met my boyfriend at 14 and now om 18 still loving him and couldnt imagine being single or with Anyone else. This is my worst nightmare and hope i dont have to experience it😭 at this point he is family to me so imagining that feels impossible
@@tuvi0032 I met my bf at 15 and we’ve been dating since we were both freshly 16! we’re 20 now and we haven’t broken up once! he just moved into my place a few months ago(-,: you’re going to be okay and everything is going to work out the way it’s supposed to!
@@leonore9188 Thank you! Its just so depressing Reading about so many people being with eachother for a long time, meeting at a Young age. Wishing you the best! We are moving in together next year as we move to the us together and figured its better to save money until we leave! 😊
Im 18 and I’ve realized the love I went through wasn’t real love. It was relationships built on lust and built on the idea of what could be. Im finally actually okay being single. The right person will be in my life at the right time. Im working on myself and I want the right person to be able to have the best version of me. Do I get sad that I’m single , yes ofc. But it just makes me more excited for the person I’m supposed to love for the rest of my life :)
I had the exact same experience at 18. I had just started uni and broken up with my boyfriend of one and a half years who I had always thought about as a great first love. Only now, over two years later I realised I never truly loved him. I just loved the idea of being in love with this person and I‘m pretty sure deep down he has the same feelings (although he would never say that). I‘m in a great relationship now and have learned what love really is supposed to be like. I hope you’ll find your person too once you’re ready
I didn’t date in my teens and never fell in love until I was 21. It was still extremely special. I don’t think age matters that much. No matter when you fall in love it will be special.
I’m 19 and I went through a breakup in august. It feels like everyone around me is starting to get into relationships, so it’s so nice to hear someone else going through their single era. Its making it easier being single.
this made me feel 100x better about my breakup… i’ve been grieving the loss horribly. at times it feels like you’re going through it alone. ive been watching since you and your first boyfriend were together. this makes me so happy to know that you’re going through the same thing i am! none of us are alone! ily avery🤍
i’m happy to see your outlook on this, it’s so healthy and it seems like you have a good grip on everything. You’ll find your happiness and this is so important ♡
Avrey is so right. You learn so much from break ups, especially those first ones. The biggest lesson so understanding how you want to be treated and what a healthy relationship should look like. Being single is also such a blessing, especially during this age, you really learn and understand yourself, and love yourself. It's BS to think you need to be in a relationship to be happy. You're just at the start of your life.
That’s insane because I’ve been going through a breakup and feeling so torn between wanting my own person and to start living for myself and being happy being alone which I’m not used to anymore. Thanks for sharing this, Avrey, and making us realize we’re not alone ❤️
Everyone of course has their own circumstance. But following someone whos one year older than me, it's almost like we’re all growing together (mentally and physically) which is awesome. It's like you can imagine what to expect/would happen in the future and how to deal with similar situations. so grateful for your vids
Avrey I’ve been watching you for maybe 6 years and it’s so refreshing to watch you grow. I was also in back to back relationships from age 15-19 and the single era afterwards was a time where I grew exponentially and I know I wouldn’t be the person I am today without that time of my life. Now I’m in a super happy relationship after being single for 2 years and I am so glad I took that time to understand myself and my life and how I want someone else to fit into that over me fitting into their life. I’m so excited to watch you grow and I wish you all the happiness in the world!!
It was funny to hear you say it, but in a way you CAN say something as been in the air lately! We've been dealing with a venus retrograde, which often tests relationships of all kind, and forces people to consider those relationships and themselves in it. We'll be leaving the retrograde soon and things will calm down a bit, so we'll get a chance to come to our senses a bit 🧡
and suddenly you got bills to pay… so well spoken in this video. i just turned 20 and being in a relationship has proven itself very complicated. but we are all growing up and figuring it out. love you ❤️❤️
You’re definitely not alone! I‘m 20 and went through a tough breakup in September and honestly am still dealing with it. But although it felt like I basically lost a part of myself now I feel like I can finally break free and grow every day! Best wishes for you, stay strong🥰🕊🕊
I had a break up at about age 18 it was hard. He was also my first love. I'm really thankful for that relationship and helped me grow to find my forever love.
I'm 19, and my ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago now; definitely, a hard time to be going through a breakup because Christmas is made out to be such a couple thing, but I'm so glad I have been talking better to myself and really starting to overcome my depression (anxiety do be a work in progress). hope everyone else that is going through a similar point in life is talking nice to yourself :)
I want to personally thank you for this video, I've been in a relationship for the past two years and going through the breakup rn. The way you reflect and think about it is exactly how I am trying to be, so thank you so much.
this was so comforting to watch being that i am going through the SAME exact thing. down to the boyfriend right before it and all. and it’s comforting to know i’m not alone so thank you for sharing this
My years from 20 to 25 were so tumultuous, wild in many senses and so weird and fucked up, filled with heart break and funs and just sadness. Now as a 26-year-old in love with an amazing man, this is my first boyfriend btw, I am so proud of what I have come thorugh. I hope all of you will also be just taking the moments and experiences in - you'll have a great time looking back.
i swear im going through the same thing too! crazy how this venus retrograde is affecting all of us in different countries, but your video is what i needed to watch right now thank you 🥺🤍
ah i feel like i needed this video. there’s definitely something in the air, im 19 and just ended a long term relationship. it’s so refreshing to hear some one going thru something so similar
i super feel this! i went through a breakup a little while ago after being in relationships for like 4 years straight but i’m living the single life now, and we happen to be the same age lol
this video made me think... even though I'm glad I didn't date just for the sake of dating in high school etc, it's kinda sad that I'll probably never be in love as a teenager :')
*and then suddenly, you have bills to pay* yeah , adult relationships hit different And although my first love as a teen was so DRAMATIC and quite toxic honestly, I learned so much and there was a carefree aspect to it ✨
i love this video, Avrey. i’m 24 and was in a relationship from 18-23; we broke up this past january. it’s a huge transformation, and one of the hardest things we have to process and go thru, but i love what you said about it being a small part of our timelines. there is so much for us to learn from every experience, and focusing on that is so healing. thank you for being you and sharing your thoughts with us. ❤️
i love you so much avrey🥺i have been here since the first bf and it’s been so amazing watching you grow with me, i’m turning 20 next month! i also went through a breakup this year and it’s still hitting me pretty hard. watching this has helped me look at things differently, thank you so much for that. we’re both gonna be single bad bitches in our 20s and i can’t wait🥳
this was honestly the video i needed. my ex boyfriend and i broke up just over a month ago, we were together for 2.5 years… as a 19 yo i’m happy to have the opportunity for new experiences now
I’m 20 and broke up with my bf yesterday and this video helped me sm to not feel alone. It’s been lonely and so hard losing them when they’re also your best friend who you placed trust and security in. Who you would tell everything, and now that’s empty and ripped away. A deep sadness when all I wanted was to love and to be loved. Forever will be grateful for the memories and the good things that came from it all. I’m glad I’m not alone in my single era
i just went through my first breakup and feel the exact same way thank you for talking about this!!!!!! it really helps. it's so amazing to be grateful for the experience of having a good first relationship as a teen, but it's still really hard and bittersweet because there are a lot of growing pains as you feel yourself and the other person changing because you're getting older. idk thank you!!!!
i promise you that there is much better out there than falling in love as a teenager, and that is falling in love as an adult. i cherish my past/first relationships but the relationships i've had in my early twenties are insanely better. i've become more 'me', meeting people who have become more themselves. people learn through their first relationships to be the best possible partner later on in life (imo), what they like/dislike in a relationship. communication improves so damn much. at some point you don't compare anything to the firsts, not because they were too good but because what you have now (or can have!) is soooooo much better. i'm in my fourth relationship now and everytime, i'm surprised by how much better/stronger the love is, how much more fitted for me the new person is, etc. and that is a constant that remains after the breakups too. i may have negative thoughts on the ex-person/relationship, but i always see them as.. just better. great things will come to you !!
hey, thank you for this comment. im only 16 and im heartbroken over this guy i didn’t even date, but i felt like i rly loved him and i just keep thinking that i can never love someone like that ever again or have the same experiences i did with him with someone else ever again. This comment rly gave me hope for the future :)
i broke up w my high school boyfriend when I was your age and you have the right attitude about it. Like yeah it’s sad but you’re gonna grow into yourself so much and it’s going to be amazing
I feel this hard honestly I am 23 now and only just moved out last year. Still looking for a new job rn and it’s fucking hard not having a stable income and daiting people it’s exhausting meeting new people all the time. Iv done the relationship thing and I feel like a completely different person and love being single
the real og’s do remember your first boyfriend haha. this was such a good video! I’m 25 and you remind me of myself in a lot of ways! You’re the definition of “wise beyond your years”
i got broken up with back in may. we had broken up many times before but that time it was permanent. he cheated on me many times with his girl best friend and it was overall just very toxic but i didn’t see that for so long because i was in love. it was so hard to get over because i truly thought he was my soulmate but now 6 months later i am over him and working on myself and feeling better than i have in forever. the whole relationship was emotionally abusive from the start and im so much better off now. you got this girl💖💖
I literally just sat down to film a video talking about my separation from my partner. We met when I was 19 and I’m now 27 with a 5 year old (and one on the way). It’s in the air and I’m honestly here for it.
this is my all time favorite video of yours. I’ve been watching since the very first bf. as a viewer I feel like I have such a positive healthy relationship with your content. I can see you at your high point right now, you’re so strong. ps plsssss do an updates makeup routine 🥸
Talk about timing haha! I just got broken up with last night for the first time in life. I’m also 19 and I’ve been following you for years! And ultimately so happy for both of us cause the future is bright and unknown and going to be so so fun!!
@@lea8546 there's a natural healing process you have to go thru. don't try to fight it, just get through one day at a time. before you know it, you'll wake up one day and be ready to leave the past behind
@@lea8546 hi hon! First of all I made sure that I asked every question I possibly could. So I knew that the breakup wasn’t happening because of me. Making sure I had no regrets and was just honest and clear with my own feelings. I made all my feelings known and that I was willing to commit to him, but he simply wouldn’t commit to me. And I know there’s nothing I can do to make him. I do still like him and care about him a lot. So I let him know, I was glad I had met him. And wished him the best with everything he does and said goodbye. Obviously I’m still sad and a little heartbroken. I do miss him. But I know I have no regrets. And as a result I know I can move on in my life and be happy.
@@sannajoph3334 thank you … i really hope that i will be able to do the same but i‘m still so in love with him … I think the worst part for me is that i don‘t know what he‘s doing and that i feel so alone rn
avrey , thank you so much for this video! i guess i can say that this is very much needed for most of us. it feels kinda nice to know that i’m not going through this alone
my boyfriend of two years and i broke up about two months ago and it’s been really really hard but it helps knowing i’m not the only one going through it! thanks avrey
Girlll, i just turned 23 last month and I'm still with my highschool sweetheart since i was 16 and gosh i love the guy so much but i never got to find myself and I'm still working on it, i'm bisexual and never came out but i feel the need to come out which my mans fully accepts! Life is tough and i'm ready for the next step in life and move away, he is not yet and I'm torn on doing what i want or thinking about my mans and our future
Girl same? I started dating my high school bf when I was freshly 17 and I'm now 22 and we're still together. I'm also bisexual and not really out to a lot of people and I feel like It can't fully find myself in my relationship? Like there's nothing wrong in my relationship, he's amazing and I love him to bits, but I'm just afraid we're starting to see maybe our life goals aren't the same, and I really feel the need to explore my sexuality and my single-ness because I really don't know Who I am outside of the relationship. So you and me both sis!
I know making friends is hard enough on its own but finding friends who are also part of the community might help you feel like you are being true to yourself without sacrificing your relationship, and could also be a good way to feel like yourself without fully coming out if that feels like too much right away. im so glad to hear your boyfriend is accepting and you def can be bisexual without dating women! best of luck to u :))
I’ve been with my boyfriend for coming up on 3 years (Dec 27th) we met when I was 14. We were forced to take a break in may we were separated till about July. I’ll be honest it was both very beneficial and somewhat negative. I see him in a totally new light and feel like I know myself our relationship and him in a new way. I know I’m a lot younger than you and my story is different but before the break I was so nervous and had so many questions about my future and if we were supposed to be together forever and while it was a short break I realized he was my everything and so loved the person I was with him more than when I was alone and when I came back he was waiting open arms and now we understand and respect each other more than we ever did before . I’m not saying blow up your relationship but if you feel like you’re missing something because of it than I think you should pick what makes you feel like you’re the most happy and truly seeing and experiencing everything. I’m not saying it won’t be difficult nothing is ever easy but you have time and if he’s the one you’re truly supposed to be with y’all will come back to each other. Best of luck. - A stranger on the internet
i also was making a lot of soups that tasted like nothing and I found the best way to give it more flavor is to really cook the vegetables down with a lot of seasoning, some butter and heaps of garlic before adding the water and bouillon (i finally made a good pumpkin soup last week for the first time lmfao) try adding fresh juice from orange and a bit of ginger and if you have an inversion blender you can add a bit of milk or coconut cream to make it creamier, but also don’t listen to me bc i’m a shit cook xx
I'm going through pretty much the SAME thing as you, being 19 but soon 20 in May as well has opened so many other weird but amazing doors to actually just be my own person apart from a relationship
I like how open you are to your viewers. I realized you’re no longer na baby avrey and now a grownup lady experiencing heartbreaks and life problems. Thank you for sharing it to us. Always know that we are so proud you and we’ll support you 🥰
i am now 23 and turning 24 soon, i first met my ex when i was 17 and stayed together with him until i as 20. i think breaking up with him was the best decision i ever made in order for me to grow up. he was meant to stay in my teenage years. i soon met "the one" when i was 22, when i've matured up.
me and my boyfriend, who i was with since i was 16 (i’m 18 now) broke up about 2 months ago and i’m trying to heal and it feels good to have a support system and have them be understanding about what i’m going through. i know things happen for a reason and even though it hurts this will make me grow as a person
I‘m 18 and I have been single my entire life. And tbh i dont feel the need to be in a relationship. I feel like everyone around me expects me to be in a relationship oh at least be interested in someone, but im just not and sometimes that makes me feel really out of place.
It broke my heart when your voice cracked! I literally love you so much and I don’t even know you personally. Lots of love from a Berlin broken heart 22 year old girl
I’m 22 and my ex boyfriend & I broke up after 6 years together, 2.5 months ago. It gets easier but at the same time, the wounds still feel so fresh. Heartbreak is so hard. wouldn’t take our time back for the world, but it’s also hard to know what to do with myself sometimes now because we got together so young (16 in high school.) and like you said, being in your 20’s is such a confusing time & everyone is on their own path. 2022 will be about self discovery ❤️🩹🤍
as a 19 turning 20 y/o who dropped out, fell in love, broke up, single at a new school, I will be back. I resonate so much with eeeverything. used to watch you way back w your old bf but stopped watching youtube for a while. ur cool i like u
"it's a super busy time for everyone" is 100% accurate. A quarter of my class is already engaged/married and/or have a kid/kids, another quarter are still with the parents and/or working, and the other half is at college. It's nuts how different things go for everyone after graduation
i became single right before i turned 20, and it was at the start of covid and a new stage in my life (university) and i think it has been such a big opportunity to let me grow on my own. recently, i feel like everyone around me has been getting into relationships, which has been interesting because i don't think i am at that stage yet. i am so happy on my own and it's been comforting to find solace in that. being single at this stage in my life has been so good and very eye opening - i feel like i've absolutely grown into myself.
I was pretty popular with boys in high school, but I was so terrified of not passing my subjects, I had to just focus on my studies. I was really scared I would have to repeat a year, and never graduate...Then, I got so used to just focusing on studies, I kind of neglected my dating life until my thirties, and by that time, there were very few single men...I'm in my forties now, and I can see now that it was obviously my destiny to always be single...Some things, you just can't plan for, especially if it involves another person. I'm happy just focusing on my hobbies like online fashion, beauty and gardening. :) I think that's the key to being happy in life, focusing on the little things that give you joy, and not worrying too much about everything else.
the way i gasped
No same.
lmao me too
lol sis i just gasped and the i saw your comments and my gasp is wider
No the way I started to to nearly tear up
same.
I'm about to be twenty, too, and I've never been in love or even had a boyfriend. I often regret not having a teenage love but at the same time, I'm GLAD I haven't. I have actually loved being single this entire time, and have worked so hard on my academic career and my mental health. I feel like I'm so behind though when it comes to dating experience! Everyone I know is suddenly dating and getting into relationships and I'm just here, not getting into anything. I wanted a boyfriend soo badly about a year ago and dated a bit, but I hated it. I realised that you cannot search for it, you have to be content in yourself, and it'll happen when it's meant to. Honestly, enjoy being single, girl! There are so many perks to it! Our world gears us up for monogamous relationships (not to mention hetero ones, too) when really, there are friendships to be made and other relationships that are just as fulfilling and important
hey! i’m 21 and just got into my first relationship. don’t rush it!! i truly believe you find your person when it’s meant to be and when you’re ready. i also think it’s a huge help to be single through your teens, you learn a LOT and you truly become so self aware & learn self love. be confident, work on yourself, stay positive and they’ll come when you least expect it. i know it sounds cliche but truly it’s what happens. don’t search for it!! you’ll only wind up with the wrong people
Love exactly same position over here about to be 22, never been in a relationship or kissed anyone and you know what I agree I'm glad I didn't have that young teen romance cause that just means that the first one will be extremely special because I will be mature, know what I want and capable and have a healthy mind and hopefully a healthy relationship with myself
Youre so independent right now and you won’t realize until after a break up
I was the same way! Then I met my boyfriend junior year of college and now we’ve been together for 3 years going strong 😊 don’t feel pressure to rush it, you know what’s right for you.
same but it’s so hard to learn self-confidence when all your friends talk about their boyfriends and you’re a single pringle always third-wheeling and stuff
Being 19 and turning 20 and looking around seeing everyone else living life differently is so relatable. I turn 20 in 6 days and I’m complexity out of touch with reality. Some of my friends are married, or pregnant, engaged, off away at college, graduating college, getting into relationships, creating their own businesses. Then there’s me, just starting college (I took a long gap year), working a lot, pretty lonely, single, and have no goals or hobbies. I have no idea what to do with my life. It is so hard sometimes to not beat myself up or let myself get into a depressive episode and completely shut down. Doing life is so strange!
I'm in the same boat! I just turned 20 and just started college this fall, it can feel rly lonely and difficult to keep your head up, I totally relate. You're not alone!!
I feel you
We really are living the same life 😭✋🏻my jaw dropped when I read bc of how similar my life is to yours. Your absolutely right it’s the hardest thing just to keep on going and not shit down. But I feel some sense of comfort knowing I’m not the only one going through these things
Just gotta do what makes YOU happy and focus on YOU. Took me so long to realize I need to stop focusing on other people and comparing myself constantly. Everyone’s path is different
I am also 20 and in a very similar situation. I’m currently (but slowly lol) learning to stop comparing myself to others- everyone has their own path and ultimately I just gotta do what makes me happy!
THE TRANSITION AT 1:17 WAS GOD TIER OMG !
Was looking for this comment!! So good 🤩
it’s interesting watching you go through this breakup at your age because I’m 25 now, and when I was 20-21 I went through something very similar. You’re killing it & your future is so bright!
She’s back and thriving ladies and gentlemen
Babies will wait 15 years at least.
Life is for dream & coom after all.
So boring tho
I am 19 and I totally agree that entering your 20s is such a strange time because you look around and everyone is going about it differently. I really enjoyed the video and related to a lot of the sentiment. Have a great day!
Yes my queen
Ily
can't wait for the Kennedy + Ave content
I’ve been WAITING for this video girly I could just tell something was up but I wanna say thank you so much Bc it’s been a month since my breakup and I loved the way you talked about how you wouldn’t trade your experiences with your ex or how you are grateful you had him there for those times and I felt the same. I love all of your videos so much
did she announce she has broken up before on social media? i think I missed that info
@@anadusao No, but she removed her photos of her boyfriend, I think they’re back up and she wrote a caption which is now removed about having a life break down. People pieced it together.
@@maxfr142 no she did post a video talking about it but deleted it soon after when they got back together
This is so crazy I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16 and I am now 20 and we broke up last week! We also have broken up once before the same time you guys did beginning of quarantine. Although this is really hard I can tell it’s very necessary for me to be single at this time in my life. If you feel comfortable I think documenting your journey could help a lot of people! Love you!!❤️
Same exact history hahah, with the same exact age as well hahah it’s crazy how many people there are going through this …. It’s so painful, but we will get better ❤️🩹
I met my boyfriend at 14 and now om 18 still loving him and couldnt imagine being single or with Anyone else. This is my worst nightmare and hope i dont have to experience it😭 at this point he is family to me so imagining that feels impossible
@@tuvi0032 I met my bf at 15 and we’ve been dating since we were both freshly 16! we’re 20 now and we haven’t broken up once! he just moved into my place a few months ago(-,: you’re going to be okay and everything is going to work out the way it’s supposed to!
@@leonore9188 Thank you! Its just so depressing Reading about so many people being with eachother for a long time, meeting at a Young age. Wishing you the best! We are moving in together next year as we move to the us together and figured its better to save money until we leave! 😊
Hang in there, we all experience this and we need to be better for ourselves.
Im 18 and I’ve realized the love I went through wasn’t real love. It was relationships built on lust and built on the idea of what could be. Im finally actually okay being single. The right person will be in my life at the right time. Im working on myself and I want the right person to be able to have the best version of me. Do I get sad that I’m single , yes ofc. But it just makes me more excited for the person I’m supposed to love for the rest of my life :)
I had the exact same experience at 18. I had just started uni and broken up with my boyfriend of one and a half years who I had always thought about as a great first love. Only now, over two years later I realised I never truly loved him. I just loved the idea of being in love with this person and I‘m pretty sure deep down he has the same feelings (although he would never say that). I‘m in a great relationship now and have learned what love really is supposed to be like. I hope you’ll find your person too once you’re ready
I didn’t date in my teens and never fell in love until I was 21. It was still extremely special. I don’t think age matters that much. No matter when you fall in love it will be special.
I’m 19 and I went through a breakup in august. It feels like everyone around me is starting to get into relationships, so it’s so nice to hear someone else going through their single era. Its making it easier being single.
Avrey's sister got engaged at that age! and same, being single is actually pretty cool
this made me feel 100x better about my breakup… i’ve been grieving the loss horribly. at times it feels like you’re going through it alone. ive been watching since you and your first boyfriend were together. this makes me so happy to know that you’re going through the same thing i am! none of us are alone!
ily avery🤍
Yes, enjoy. Being single is amazing, it's a self discovery journey, don't rush anything. Just live it
i’m happy to see your outlook on this, it’s so healthy and it seems like you have a good grip on everything. You’ll find your happiness and this is so important ♡
love how this is edited ♥️♥️
we love & appreciate your online presence so much
Avrey is so right. You learn so much from break ups, especially those first ones. The biggest lesson so understanding how you want to be treated and what a healthy relationship should look like. Being single is also such a blessing, especially during this age, you really learn and understand yourself, and love yourself. It's BS to think you need to be in a relationship to be happy. You're just at the start of your life.
it's crazy how you always look so astonishingly perfect before you even get ready you just glow
That’s insane because I’ve been going through a breakup and feeling so torn between wanting my own person and to start living for myself and being happy being alone which I’m not used to anymore. Thanks for sharing this, Avrey, and making us realize we’re not alone ❤️
our stories are so similar. you're speaking straight facts girlie. wishing all the best for u, you're wise, u can do it!!
Everyone of course has their own circumstance. But following someone whos one year older than me, it's almost like we’re all growing together (mentally and physically) which is awesome. It's like you can imagine what to expect/would happen in the future and how to deal with similar situations. so grateful for your vids
Avrey I’ve been watching you for maybe 6 years and it’s so refreshing to watch you grow. I was also in back to back relationships from age 15-19 and the single era afterwards was a time where I grew exponentially and I know I wouldn’t be the person I am today without that time of my life. Now I’m in a super happy relationship after being single for 2 years and I am so glad I took that time to understand myself and my life and how I want someone else to fit into that over me fitting into their life. I’m so excited to watch you grow and I wish you all the happiness in the world!!
It was funny to hear you say it, but in a way you CAN say something as been in the air lately! We've been dealing with a venus retrograde, which often tests relationships of all kind, and forces people to consider those relationships and themselves in it. We'll be leaving the retrograde soon and things will calm down a bit, so we'll get a chance to come to our senses a bit 🧡
This vlog just felt like the month of January. Like happiness, new beginnings, new starts. It was so optimistic, wish the best for you!
and suddenly you got bills to pay… so well spoken in this video. i just turned 20 and being in a relationship has proven itself very complicated. but we are all growing up and figuring it out. love you ❤️❤️
You’re definitely not alone! I‘m 20 and went through a tough breakup in September and honestly am still dealing with it. But although it felt like I basically lost a part of myself now I feel like I can finally break free and grow every day! Best wishes for you, stay strong🥰🕊🕊
thank u for being positive but realistic in the midst of a break up
I had a break up at about age 18 it was hard. He was also my first love. I'm really thankful for that relationship and helped me grow to find my forever love.
I'm 19, and my ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago now; definitely, a hard time to be going through a breakup because Christmas is made out to be such a couple thing, but I'm so glad I have been talking better to myself and really starting to overcome my depression (anxiety do be a work in progress). hope everyone else that is going through a similar point in life is talking nice to yourself :)
I want to personally thank you for this video, I've been in a relationship for the past two years and going through the breakup rn. The way you reflect and think about it is exactly how I am trying to be, so thank you so much.
this was so comforting to watch being that i am going through the SAME exact thing. down to the boyfriend right before it and all. and it’s comforting to know i’m not alone so thank you for sharing this
My years from 20 to 25 were so tumultuous, wild in many senses and so weird and fucked up, filled with heart break and funs and just sadness. Now as a 26-year-old in love with an amazing man, this is my first boyfriend btw, I am so proud of what I have come thorugh. I hope all of you will also be just taking the moments and experiences in - you'll have a great time looking back.
i swear im going through the same thing too! crazy how this venus retrograde is affecting all of us in different countries, but your video is what i needed to watch right now thank you 🥺🤍
just ended a 3.5 year relationship! haven’t been single since i was 16, tysm for sharing
ah i feel like i needed this video. there’s definitely something in the air, im 19 and just ended a long term relationship. it’s so refreshing to hear some one going thru something so similar
being single is just more efficient… you realize how much time you have to make the best version out of yourself
you deserve the world angel
i super feel this! i went through a breakup a little while ago after being in relationships for like 4 years straight but i’m living the single life now, and we happen to be the same age lol
Is it scary?? I’ve been dating mine for 4 years and I’m leaving to go abroad so we are splitting up.
this video made me think... even though I'm glad I didn't date just for the sake of dating in high school etc, it's kinda sad that I'll probably never be in love as a teenager :')
same
It doesn't get any less exciting the older you get, so no worries
@@medallo143 I do believe that, I was just talking about teen love... even though it doesn't even sound that appealing to me 😂
aw wait this made me feel a tinge of regret too i just turned 18 🥲
i literally can’t wait for this new york vlog- avery and kennedys friendship is so pure🥺❤️
*and then suddenly, you have bills to pay* yeah , adult relationships hit different
And although my first love as a teen was so DRAMATIC and quite toxic honestly, I learned so much and there was a carefree aspect to it ✨
i love this video, Avrey. i’m 24 and was in a relationship from 18-23; we broke up this past january. it’s a huge transformation, and one of the hardest things we have to process and go thru, but i love what you said about it being a small part of our timelines. there is so much for us to learn from every experience, and focusing on that is so healing. thank you for being you and sharing your thoughts with us. ❤️
i love you so much avrey🥺i have been here since the first bf and it’s been so amazing watching you grow with me, i’m turning 20 next month! i also went through a breakup this year and it’s still hitting me pretty hard. watching this has helped me look at things differently, thank you so much for that. we’re both gonna be single bad bitches in our 20s and i can’t wait🥳
OMG YESSS SHE POSTED ...single era what..im wait huh
this was honestly the video i needed. my ex boyfriend and i broke up just over a month ago, we were together for 2.5 years… as a 19 yo i’m happy to have the opportunity for new experiences now
I’m 20 and broke up with my bf yesterday and this video helped me sm to not feel alone. It’s been lonely and so hard losing them when they’re also your best friend who you placed trust and security in. Who you would tell everything, and now that’s empty and ripped away. A deep sadness when all I wanted was to love and to be loved. Forever will be grateful for the memories and the good things that came from it all. I’m glad I’m not alone in my single era
I just broke up with my boyfriend two days ago. there for sure is a breakup experience in the air!!
ME TOO I feel seen tbh
@@sophiab4731 what a time right!! so hard and just feeling the withdrawal emotions
I broke up with mine a month ago, and two of my friends broke up with theirs too😭
it’s the venus retrograde pre-shadow!!
MINE WAS TWO DAYS AGO TOO
i just went through my first breakup and feel the exact same way thank you for talking about this!!!!!! it really helps. it's so amazing to be grateful for the experience of having a good first relationship as a teen, but it's still really hard and bittersweet because there are a lot of growing pains as you feel yourself and the other person changing because you're getting older. idk thank you!!!!
i promise you that there is much better out there than falling in love as a teenager, and that is falling in love as an adult. i cherish my past/first relationships but the relationships i've had in my early twenties are insanely better. i've become more 'me', meeting people who have become more themselves. people learn through their first relationships to be the best possible partner later on in life (imo), what they like/dislike in a relationship. communication improves so damn much. at some point you don't compare anything to the firsts, not because they were too good but because what you have now (or can have!) is soooooo much better. i'm in my fourth relationship now and everytime, i'm surprised by how much better/stronger the love is, how much more fitted for me the new person is, etc. and that is a constant that remains after the breakups too. i may have negative thoughts on the ex-person/relationship, but i always see them as.. just better. great things will come to you !!
hey, thank you for this comment. im only 16 and im heartbroken over this guy i didn’t even date, but i felt like i rly loved him and i just keep thinking that i can never love someone like that ever again or have the same experiences i did with him with someone else ever again. This comment rly gave me hope for the future :)
Falling in love as an adult is by far way better than as a teen
i broke up w my high school boyfriend when I was your age and you have the right attitude about it. Like yeah it’s sad but you’re gonna grow into yourself so much and it’s going to be amazing
I was in a 3 year relationsgip, we were so strong and recently broke up. There’s definitely something in the air. Everyone’s breaking up.. I feel you!
I feel this hard honestly I am 23 now and only just moved out last year. Still looking for a new job rn and it’s fucking hard not having a stable income and daiting people it’s exhausting meeting new people all the time. Iv done the relationship thing and I feel like a completely different person and love being single
the real og’s do remember your first boyfriend haha. this was such a good video! I’m 25 and you remind me of myself in a lot of ways! You’re the definition of “wise beyond your years”
i got broken up with back in may. we had broken up many times before but that time it was permanent. he cheated on me many times with his girl best friend and it was overall just very toxic but i didn’t see that for so long because i was in love. it was so hard to get over because i truly thought he was my soulmate but now 6 months later i am over him and working on myself and feeling better than i have in forever. the whole relationship was emotionally abusive from the start and im so much better off now. you got this girl💖💖
I literally just sat down to film a video talking about my separation from my partner. We met when I was 19 and I’m now 27 with a 5 year old (and one on the way). It’s in the air and I’m honestly here for it.
I really appreciate your honesty Avrey :) Going through a breakup as well and really needed these words of encouragement
This video spoke for me. Thanks for the comfort. So much love to you.
Welcome, babe! Haven't been through a break up, but can confirm that being single includes a lot of unique opportunities for growth.
Girl, you are really a wonderful person, your home diary is so beautiful
this is my all time favorite video of yours. I’ve been watching since the very first bf. as a viewer I feel like I have such a positive healthy relationship with your content. I can see you at your high point right now, you’re so strong. ps plsssss do an updates makeup routine 🥸
this video means so much to me. i literally grew up wt u and kennedy :')
omg :(((( I didn’t expect this! this video feels like a new beginning especially with the music and lil montages!
Ngl I love when you were with him but if it didn’t work out then do what makes you happy, you deserve it. So much love 💕
Talk about timing haha! I just got broken up with last night for the first time in life.
I’m also 19 and I’ve been following you for years! And ultimately so happy for both of us cause the future is bright and unknown and going to be so so fun!!
Same Happend to me Last night and i can ´t stop crying … what did you do to be happy again?😢
@@lea8546 there's a natural healing process you have to go thru. don't try to fight it, just get through one day at a time. before you know it, you'll wake up one day and be ready to leave the past behind
@@lea8546 hi hon! First of all I made sure that I asked every question I possibly could. So I knew that the breakup wasn’t happening because of me. Making sure I had no regrets and was just honest and clear with my own feelings.
I made all my feelings known and that I was willing to commit to him, but he simply wouldn’t commit to me. And I know there’s nothing I can do to make him.
I do still like him and care about him a lot. So I let him know, I was glad I had met him. And wished him the best with everything he does and said goodbye.
Obviously I’m still sad and a little heartbroken. I do miss him. But I know I have no regrets. And as a result I know I can move on in my life and be happy.
@@gizanglyer5299 thank you❤️
@@sannajoph3334 thank you … i really hope that i will be able to do the same but i‘m still so in love with him …
I think the worst part for me is that i don‘t know what he‘s doing and that i feel so alone rn
I just love her and Kennedy SO MUCH AHHHHHH
avrey , thank you so much for this video! i guess i can say that this is very much needed for most of us. it feels kinda nice to know that i’m not going through this alone
my boyfriend of two years and i broke up about two months ago and it’s been really really hard but it helps knowing i’m not the only one going through it! thanks avrey
we love those videos so much, just putting makeup on and talking about stuff, keep going avrey
Girlll, i just turned 23 last month and I'm still with my highschool sweetheart since i was 16 and gosh i love the guy so much but i never got to find myself and I'm still working on it, i'm bisexual and never came out but i feel the need to come out which my mans fully accepts! Life is tough and i'm ready for the next step in life and move away, he is not yet and I'm torn on doing what i want or thinking about my mans and our future
Also he is the first relationship I've been in, i can't imagine life without him
Girl same? I started dating my high school bf when I was freshly 17 and I'm now 22 and we're still together. I'm also bisexual and not really out to a lot of people and I feel like It can't fully find myself in my relationship? Like there's nothing wrong in my relationship, he's amazing and I love him to bits, but I'm just afraid we're starting to see maybe our life goals aren't the same, and I really feel the need to explore my sexuality and my single-ness because I really don't know Who I am outside of the relationship. So you and me both sis!
I know making friends is hard enough on its own but finding friends who are also part of the community might help you feel like you are being true to yourself without sacrificing your relationship, and could also be a good way to feel like yourself without fully coming out if that feels like too much right away. im so glad to hear your boyfriend is accepting and you def can be bisexual without dating women! best of luck to u :))
I’ve been with my boyfriend for coming up on 3 years (Dec 27th) we met when I was 14. We were forced to take a break in may we were separated till about July. I’ll be honest it was both very beneficial and somewhat negative. I see him in a totally new light and feel like I know myself our relationship and him in a new way. I know I’m a lot younger than you and my story is different but before the break I was so nervous and had so many questions about my future and if we were supposed to be together forever and while it was a short break I realized he was my everything and so loved the person I was with him more than when I was alone and when I came back he was waiting open arms and now we understand and respect each other more than we ever did before . I’m not saying blow up your relationship but if you feel like you’re missing something because of it than I think you should pick what makes you feel like you’re the most happy and truly seeing and experiencing everything. I’m not saying it won’t be difficult nothing is ever easy but you have time and if he’s the one you’re truly supposed to be with y’all will come back to each other. Best of luck. - A stranger on the internet
THIS THIS THIS i've been w my bf for 5 years and i love him but i also feel like i have no clue who i am ???? it's a bummer
"There's more in life than love" I loved that!
in case anyone's wondering, the song she was singing is "baby came home 2/valentine - the neighbourhood" :)
I’m 19 and just broke up with my boyfriend of four years. This video made me feel so much better. Thanks Avrey ❤️
Sending love as you go through this💕
i’m gonna cry. nothing is like your first love. it’s the most magical feeling in the world
i also was making a lot of soups that tasted like nothing and I found the best way to give it more flavor is to really cook the vegetables down with a lot of seasoning, some butter and heaps of garlic before adding the water and bouillon (i finally made a good pumpkin soup last week for the first time lmfao) try adding fresh juice from orange and a bit of ginger and if you have an inversion blender you can add a bit of milk or coconut cream to make it creamier, but also don’t listen to me bc i’m a shit cook xx
1:20 best transition i have ever seen, cause like i did not expect it
i feel soooo called out about the teens to 20s transition!! haha omg. hugs to avery and to everyone!!!!!
i am heartbroken but I totally get it
I'm going through pretty much the SAME thing as you, being 19 but soon 20 in May as well has opened so many other weird but amazing doors to actually just be my own person apart from a relationship
I’ll be 18 in may and never been in a relationship, feeling pretty depressed at how i might not experience “teen love”
Imagine being this pretty. Wow
I like how open you are to your viewers. I realized you’re no longer na baby avrey and now a grownup lady experiencing heartbreaks and life problems. Thank you for sharing it to us. Always know that we are so proud you and we’ll support you 🥰
i am now 23 and turning 24 soon, i first met my ex when i was 17 and stayed together with him until i as 20. i think breaking up with him was the best decision i ever made in order for me to grow up.
he was meant to stay in my teenage years. i soon met "the one" when i was 22, when i've matured up.
me and my boyfriend, who i was with since i was 16 (i’m 18 now) broke up about 2 months ago and i’m trying to heal and it feels good to have a support system and have them be understanding about what i’m going through. i know things happen for a reason and even though it hurts this will make me grow as a person
i love watching u grow aahhhh im so proud of how far you’ve come
I‘m 18 and I have been single my entire life. And tbh i dont feel the need to be in a relationship. I feel like everyone around me expects me to be in a relationship oh at least be interested in someone, but im just not and sometimes that makes me feel really out of place.
It broke my heart when your voice cracked! I literally love you so much and I don’t even know you personally. Lots of love from a Berlin broken heart 22 year old girl
i really needed this rn. helps to not feel so alone :))
Love is an amazing thing to experience at any age
I’m 22 and my ex boyfriend & I broke up after 6 years together, 2.5 months ago. It gets easier but at the same time, the wounds still feel so fresh. Heartbreak is so hard. wouldn’t take our time back for the world, but it’s also hard to know what to do with myself sometimes now because we got together so young (16 in high school.) and like you said, being in your 20’s is such a confusing time & everyone is on their own path. 2022 will be about self discovery ❤️🩹🤍
You’ve got this, you gorgeous gorgeous human!!
@@evari7196 so sweet thank you love❤️
as a 19 turning 20 y/o who dropped out, fell in love, broke up, single at a new school, I will be back. I resonate so much with eeeverything. used to watch you way back w your old bf but stopped watching youtube for a while. ur cool i like u
"it's a super busy time for everyone" is 100% accurate. A quarter of my class is already engaged/married and/or have a kid/kids, another quarter are still with the parents and/or working, and the other half is at college. It's nuts how different things go for everyone after graduation
i became single right before i turned 20, and it was at the start of covid and a new stage in my life (university) and i think it has been such a big opportunity to let me grow on my own. recently, i feel like everyone around me has been getting into relationships, which has been interesting because i don't think i am at that stage yet. i am so happy on my own and it's been comforting to find solace in that. being single at this stage in my life has been so good and very eye opening - i feel like i've absolutely grown into myself.
I was pretty popular with boys in high school, but I was so terrified of not passing my subjects, I had to just focus on my studies. I was really scared I would have to repeat a year, and never graduate...Then, I got so used to just focusing on studies, I kind of neglected my dating life until my thirties, and by that time, there were very few single men...I'm in my forties now, and I can see now that it was obviously my destiny to always be single...Some things, you just can't plan for, especially if it involves another person. I'm happy just focusing on my hobbies like online fashion, beauty and gardening. :) I think that's the key to being happy in life, focusing on the little things that give you joy, and not worrying too much about everything else.
I’m 19 and am currently going through a breakup, it’s so refreshing to see that I’m not alone right now.
Avrey content hits different. This was such a good video AS ALWAYS 🤍
i can relate to you so MUCH
Girl 🥺 & i love the neighbourhood they are the best 🤍🤍🤍 sending you love