All these people saying "Why would you adopt a black baby" Why not?? Would you rather that baby sit in foster care until a black family is found to adopt.
I totally agree with you Penny because at the end of the day it's a BABY 🍼 it doesn't matter about the SKIN COLOR..BOY,GIRL & or ECT. I'm STARTING to REALIZE that more and more now because I myself have a BIRACIAL son who is my RAINBOW 🌈 BABY ♂️ BUT THE SAD PART IS it's so MANY EVIL people in this WORLD!!& The ONLY THING THEY SEE IS(COLOR)!! In my opinion there is no such thing as BLACK 🖤 OR WHITE ‼️ 🤍 BECAUSE at the end of the day we all are HUMAN BEING and we all BLEED the same COLOR WHICH IS 🤝 🩸 (R.E.D) as long as that BABY is HAPPY & HEALTHY & 😍 LOVED that's all that MATTERS!
I absolutely Love Ashley and Steven. I’ve been following them on TikTok and Instagram for so long. They have beautiful souls. I loved that they adopted baby boy allowed his birth mother to be apart of his life ❤
I've always found it strange that people get angry when a child has MORE love than what is deemed socially acceptable? Abe is such a sweet and extremely emotionally intelligent little boy and I believe his parents, his bio mother and sisters have taught him a great deal about the limitless power of Love.
Happens a lot. People adopt - the maternal ways come out strongly - & cuddling your baby releases oxytocin & that causes other hormones to become present in minute ways + dopamine & obvs she has a husband - & boom there's a baby. People hv done studies 🙏🏻💜🇬🇧💜
They are doing this the BEST WAY!!! That boy is going up knowing his birth mom and his adopted parents. What would be confusing is him growing up and recognizing he is different because of his skin color and then wondering why. Him knowing from birth that momma Kayla is his birth mom will be much more healing. Especially him knowing that they all have a relationship. That baby won the lottery!
100% agree. I love that he has Mama Makayla in his life. I think this is the healthiest way to be adopted. He will know he was given up out of love and be able to have a relationship with multiple adults who love him.
When the dad 8:26 said we wanted him to know he was given up out of love not because he wasn’t wanted I almost cried ! So many children believe they are given up because they aren’t wanted when their parents just want the best lift for them ! I’m happy for them and the bio mom !
Absolutely because the ignorance on that fact is enormous most people always assume negative the moment they hear anyone has given a child up for adoption. When there are numerous reasons and it doesn't really matter to me especially when the child will at least get a chance at life with someone who does want children.
Ashley and Steven are the most realistic couple I've seen, they are selfless and able to look at the bigger picture and so is Makhaila, this is pure love
I've been around several children in foster care ,,,they don't care what color the families are ,,they just want love. I heard it with my own ears. Stop the racial barriers and think about the feelings of rejected children...
I think this entire situation was divinely orchestrated. There’s no doubt how much love exists between Steven, Ashley, and MaKayla and they are meant to be in each other’s lives exactly as they are. No more and no less. Ashley got to learn that she doesn’t have to carry a baby to be a mother, and now that she’s pregnant, she gets to experience both sides of motherhood…that’s beautiful, and really special. MaKayla gets to be TT and watch Abriel become a big brother without the additional emotional/physical aspect of giving birth… i think this has all worked out for the betterment of everyone involved.
Oh and I had another comment. The father son bond that Stephen and abriel has is so beautiful to watch. This man is so in love with his son and his son is so in love with his dad. They couldn't be any closer than if he was their biological son. Their relationship is so beautiful to watch. I just love it❤❤❤❤
I love how understanding and nurturing this couple is towards the birth mother considering she gave up legal rights, she’s a grown adult with 3 children already so they really help her out
I think that what they're doing is right. My older brother was adopted. My parents never told him because they did not want him to feel different than the other kids. He found out through the grapevine, & spiralled out of control. He's now deceased. The rejection was just to great, and the fact that my family lied to keep it hidden, trying to "Protect" him, just made him all the more angry. In the end always tell the truth....It's easier to remember. Telling lies leads to turmoil.
So sry hun 😢 I do feel being open straight out the gate is more healthy but if u watch their channel the bio mom is over ALOT helps parent him etc be honest sure but their prob just need to be healthy boundaries set in place just for confusion it may cause as he grows etc and stuff he will hear from school or nowadays social media... I do agree I've known friends that we're adopted one parents was involved one where they weren't but as he gets older he's gonna wanna know why me bio mom has 3 other siblings he's def gonna ask tuff questions as he grows it's normal with adoption
This makes me sooo infuriated!! They are doing an amazing job and keeping the birth mother as part of his life . My children are not adopted but they look very much Filipino but they are also Swedish. People have said things to me even.. where did you buy your baby!! Who does that? God bless them✝️
Wowwww. Im so sorry that is horrible no one should be treated that way . Society needs to realize Words hurt !! I think ANY LOVING HOME IS BETTER THEN NONE ! I also think two loving homes are better then ONE BAD ONE ! Everyone deserves love and a loving home. I think even two same sex couples raising &adopting a child is ok ❤️as long as the child is loved, happy & secure why does it matter!? Every family is different now a-days 🤷🏽♀️ . I’m sending good vibes only to you my dear . Keep loving and raising YOUR CHILDREN!! YOUR FAMILY !!! God knows your heart ❤️never feel like you have to explain ANYTHING TO ANYONE !!! Love your life , continue to love & raise YOUR CHILDREN!!! 🥰Love , Light & Healing ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
I think sometimes the adults are the ones that complicate things. This little boy was adopted by a set of parents who loves him, and I bloody well wish that every little girl or boy out in the world caught up in a bad, and unsafe environment would have a better chance of life with parents like these. God bless them, they’re trying to do the right thing all round.
I love that they were honest with him from the jump. It hurts more later when you feel you were lied to your whole life. When he's an adult he can choose what to call her but children deserve the truth also.
So many adopted children are kept in the dark about their adoption and the effects are astronomical. My grandmothers best friend was given one of the dna test kits like 23 and me a few years back and at 74 years old she found out through that test that her mom and dad were not her biological parents. Her parents bio and adopted are all dead. All her siblings were later confirmed to be the biological children of the adopted parents. I mean the impact it had was huge. One day she’s the oldest of 9 siblings and within a month she learns she has no biological family. It’s heart wrenching. So the fact that McKayla is so involved is beautiful and I love the special friendship that they’ve created. McKayla is such an amazing woman and mother. I mean she’s so beautiful and selfless.
I adopted my daughter from birth. I did an open adoption. I believe that every child should know where they came from. I got her as a newborn. She will be 22 next month. I taught her to call them big mama and big daddy.. out of respect. So I completely understand all of them !!!!
We stand firmly behind Abriel's parents. They have done an outstanding job on raising a wonderful young boy to date. I'm so grateful to God for adding a new arrival to their troop ❤
I really appreciate this man’s way of questioning. Appropriate but he gets right to the root of the issue instead of dancing around anything. He’s direct, but in a way to make sure he’s still being careful with the scenario.
I feel like like this is a new style blended family. It's beautiful that they all were able to process this in a way that's strictly for them and not for the world.
Watching this after Ashley's pregnancy announcement brings me so much joy. God is so good! Abriel is such a lucky little boy. He gets love from everyone and now he's going to be the best big brother. Great advice on this episode!
I just want to say that my girls called my mom "mom" because that's what I called her. It was never an issue or confusing. That relationship between mother (Ashley) and child is something so special as well as what his has with his birth mom. It's just different. I love how Ashley isn't threatened by that. It's because her love for her child is pure and selfless. I support this family and the decisions they are making for him. I can't wait to see how easily this 2nd baby comes into this family. It's a beautiful story ❤
I've been following Ashley and Steven and their baby Ab and mama Kayla for a while now, absolutely love them. Beautiful family. Sometimes you have to keep your family out of your business.
I agree. As a black woman I had wondered why they adopted a black child not with hate but curiosity. Then I want he'd their channel and grew so fond of the and baby Abriel. I don't think anyone would love that child more than his adoptive parents. They have made me consider adoption.
I totally understand and can relate. I wasn't raised with my parents but they were still in my life. They're trying to make it easier for their son. I commend them.
I follow this beautiful family on RUclips, and see nothing but pure LOVE!!! This little boy is well-adjusted, healthy, and HAPPY!!! I absolutely adore them!!
Ash and steve are the best parents to Abe ....and its crazy and super cute how Abe resembles his mom Ash and now their baby gal is a replica of the dad❤❤❤❤❤
This is the first time I'm not on the same page with Karamo. When you're growing up in that situation, you don't find it confusing until you're much older and by that time you can understand better. The important thing is that the children are surrounded by love. The same situation without care and love would be catastrophic but that's not the case in this instance.
Honesty in adoption is never confusing. Dishonesty and omission is confusing. My mom has my son and he is 8 now and just found out I'm his birth mom and not his sister. That's confusing. Knowing from the beginning makes it just what it is and confusion is rarely an issue. My husband is also adopted and is very thankful his parents never told him anything other than the truth.
Makayla is in huge regrets, but she doesn’t want to say it. Also, Abe saying mama Kayla is fine, so when he has questions, they’re all there to answer.
I think only because of judgements on one interview she talked about how she was dark compared to her siblings that they didn't look alike they look more white like her mom and that her kids too since they were biracial they were a lot lighter I just didn't know why I was an important for her to bring that up maybe she does have an issue can somebody biracial kids grow up like that because other people teasing from being darker and maybe she didn't want him going through that
As a black mother, I get why people would wonder and may "raise an eyebrow" when a white couple adopts a black child ( I've seen many individuals foster/adopt children for HORRIBLE reasons; therefore, white guilt isn't so far-fetched). ***HOWEVER*** the care and thought this child's adopted parents made to ensure this child is connected to his culture is nothing but wonderful and shows their true love for their baby. It is such a blessing this child has such a family filled with so much love and selflessness.
Did you see a white couple adopt about 6 melanated children, and after a while, they ran their car off a cliff with those melanated children in the car with them?
Things have been quiet on the home front in regards to Mama Kayla since Ashley's miraculous pregnancy! Hmmmm? Because they have been amazing parents to their adoptive son and so generous in regards to this open adoption with his birth mother.I believe that is why God really blessed them abundantly with another child which Ashley gave birth too.
I think it still hurts her. You can tell she regrets her decision. She is happy he has a great family but her saying she wishes it was different is her saying she wishes she didn’t give him up
I know that she may have been very nervous and misspoke but I think with her saying she writes him letters every year about what he's missing out on maybe very hurtful to him in the future because although she has a reason for giving him up he will always wonder why she kept her older kids. I understand life and things happen but this is very much a delicate situation. I can tell she is still hurting with her decision and I pray she finds peace. The adoptive parents are a blessing and doing what they think is best. I can tell they want to keep the lines of communication open with the birth mom and thats wonderful but there has to be some boundaries (I dont think the birth mom is doing it intentionally she is just still torn). However one thing for sure is that the young man has a village of love around him and thats what needs to be the focus. 💕
My daughter was adopted & it’s closed. But I still get photos, I talk to her & she calls me Mama ‘my name’. If I could go back I would want to change it but mostly for selfish reasons! She is being raised by the Greatest Mom & Dad. The Best Family. And the most loving home than I can offer! That’s all I can ask for! ❤❤❤ THANK YOU TO ALL FOSTER & ADOPTION PARENTS! 🙏💖✨🙏💖✨🙏💖✨ Edit: My (6yr old) daughter & I only speak about twice a year… I don’t think it’s confusing for her to call me Mama ‘my name’ bcuz of that fact. She’ll kno she’s adopted. She “knows” now.
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE WAY ASHLEY AND STEVE DOES THINGS WITH BEING HONEST WITH THEIR BABY AND SHARING HIM WITH HIS BIOLOGICAL MOTHER AND I BELIEVE ASHLEY IS A SECURE WOMAN AND THATS WHY SHE IS UNBOTHERED. BECAUSE SHE KNOWS AS LONG AS SHE LOVES AB HE WILL LOVE SHARE THAT LOVE BACK
The way they are raising that little boy,he is well mannered. I don't see him resenting them in the future. I watched a video where the mom instructed him not to eat the candies and he did even when the other kid beside him was.
I have to say that I think that love from all the parties is great!! Ashley will get pregnant, sooner than she thinks, these people are all beautiful!! What they are doing is wonderful, If you live long enough you will learn.
The fact she's concerned about her son thinking she loves the baby she carries more is all you need to hear. It shows her pure mothering heart & the love she has for her son!!❤❤❤ Many mothers that don't have trouble conceiving and carrying children worry about how their 1st child will feel when they have their second child or how they'll feel about the second. They aren't denying him the truth and most of all they're giving him unconditional love that's all that matters.❤❤❤ They shouldn't receive any hate for loving a child or wanting a baby of their own.
Adopting out of your own race is the purest form of love and acceptance to me. I love to see families accept little ones into their family who come from different circumstances. It's beautiful ❤
Sara we only have one race and is the human race weather you’re pink black blue or yellow we’re one race and it’s beautiful for these people to take these babies and love them
@sarahkay4422 'own race'? Please, educate me on that. There's only one race and that is the Human Race. The only qualification for being a part of it, is to be a HUMAN BEING.
Karamo is wrong on this one. I have friends who are adopted and was angry when they found out the person they were calling auntie or uncle were really their parent. 6 different friends.
I agree with you, some of his points low key irritated me bc it seems like even tho their situation is different it’ll workout in the long run & whether they want to adopt again or possibly try to have a baby it’s up to them. As long as the child is in a loving house hold everything will go fine
My thoughts too. I believe the son will respect his birth mother because technically she is in his life. The audience was spot on about the son calling them both momma.
This is such a complex and nuanced situation. I feel for the birth mother very much and i admire the adoptive parents. At some point lines are going to have to be set or they could create a lot of confusion for the child in effort of trying to be overly thoughtful. This is so tough because i know everyones heart is in great placem
I wish Karamo discussed their fear of Abe feeling inferior to a biological child. I think that's Ashley's bigger fear aside from not being able to carry. If Makayla is healed enough to be their surrogate, I think that's a wonderful compromise.
I really don’t think mamma Kayla is healed enough to carry another child she then has to give away (yes, not biologically her child, but as Ashley’s mom pointed out, she will still carry and deliver this baby). I feel like they are all trying to compromise waaaay to much to make this work. I feel like Ashley is afraid to carry herself because she doesn’t want Abriel to feel different or less loved and Kayla offered to be their surrogate so they don’t have to look for another carrier, increasing the confusion in this baby boy’s life. 🤷🏻♀️
Well Ashley will be due soon with her biological child so hopefully they will continue to be a happy loving family. They seem to be involving Abe in the entire process this far 🤗
Lol knowing them from TT and being a fan , I love them I don’t think anything they do is out of an ugly eye ! However letting Ashley talk is SUCH a Steven thing 😂😂💜 LOVE YOU GIYS
I am African, from Zimbabwe. In our culture, your mother's sisters are your mums too. We literally call them mum. You might think this is confusing but trust me children know. Children understand more than you think they do. I appreciate they let her be involved it will be beneficial to him when he is older and easier for him to make sense of things.
I love that what Ashley’s intentions are regarding allowing the birth mom to be a part of their child’s life and their lives, but I feel like a part of her is doing it because she feels like she has to.
Ashley seems like she's a people pleaser like she feel terrible or it will eat at her if she actually said no or disagreed and maybe that will change at some point idk having bio mom in the picture is awesome def good move but there has to be some healthy boundaries put in place so that it's not even more confusing lol
I think everyone needs to let them do what is best for their family. It works for them and that is all that matters. I think it is great because their son will never question his background. He will grow up aware and won't have the major breakdown that most adopted kids have once they find out that they are adopted.
I adopted two of my nephews and I have never lied to them about who I am or kept them away from birth parents. When they grow up knowing the truth it’s not confusing for them….it will be their life any the only thing they know and because nobody has lied to them there will be no surprises and questions about who they are or who they came from.
I think it’s a great idea for both children to be born by the same mother even when the sperm and eggs are different. God bless Steve, Ashley and Makayla
They are my favorite family on RUclips as they are so genuine. The love that they pour into their beautiful bay son Abriel is incredible. This baby is so blessed and happy. Now Ashley is pregnant and I am so happy for them. Abriel loves his parents Ashley and Steven so much! They are the most amazing couple.
I truly love this family, watching the special bond between his mom & Steven is so heart melting. As for Kayla, she did the most unselfish thing a parent could do. I can't imagine the emotions, as a mom of 3 girls your body knows you just gave birth. Your body is telling you time to wake up feed & change the baby, you miss the movements & the little hiccups ect. And for her willing to do this all over again for them shows just how much she loves the family she made for her son.. anyone with eyes and ears and can see the love they have for that beautiful boy is real.. I am glad she waited and they were able to conceive and have their own biological baby, because if anyone was ment to be parents it's them. I have 3 biracial daughters, 2 have their own kids now. My oldest is married to a black man, so their kids are more black with a sprinkle of white and my youngest had a 2 yr old and his daddy is white, so he's more white than black. But we don't see color in our family. I don't care what color a child is or who chooses to adopt them, as long as they are loved 100000% blood or not. Their are alot of kids in foster homes & group homes in the system who don't get kisses and stories and cuddles when they are sick or happy. That little man will never know that feeling.. from his bio mom & siblings to his adopted family as well.
Great advice! Im happy to see, they are preparing for their biological child. Also, Mama Makelia is very attached and I agree her feelings are still very raw.. She definitely shouldn't be carrying another child for the family. I love them on social media and I wish them the best of luck and love with their soon to be new baby and extended family❤🙏
I remember in Social Work school we learned about adoption, foster, etc. A lot of people choose international adoption because for whatever reason, they don't want to deal with a birth family. I think it takes a lot of humility to put tbe child first
Anyone else come across this video when Ashley and her hubby naturally got pregnant and just birthed their sweet baby girl? So so happy for them.
Have u noticed tho kayla doesn't seem to be in their content anymore? Makes u wonder if she's got funny they didn't use her as a surrogate...
@tashaax1993xanimalloverx she isn't in their videos but she's still very much involved in their lives and they have mentioned this before
This couple had a child of there own after so many years of trying they now have a new baby girl. They are great parents!! With so much love.
That's the most loved boy. I watch the family constantly.
Yeah they are blessed❤
All these people saying "Why would you adopt a black baby" Why not?? Would you rather that baby sit in foster care until a black family is found to adopt.
I totally agree with you Penny because at the end of the day it's a BABY 🍼 it doesn't matter about the SKIN COLOR..BOY,GIRL & or ECT. I'm STARTING to REALIZE that more and more now because I myself have a BIRACIAL son who is my RAINBOW 🌈 BABY ♂️ BUT THE SAD PART IS it's so MANY EVIL people in this WORLD!!& The ONLY THING THEY SEE IS(COLOR)!! In my opinion there is no such thing as BLACK 🖤 OR WHITE ‼️ 🤍 BECAUSE at the end of the day we all are HUMAN BEING and we all BLEED the same COLOR WHICH IS 🤝 🩸 (R.E.D) as long as that BABY is HAPPY & HEALTHY & 😍 LOVED that's all that MATTERS!
Right
And if that happens
I think they should use his semen this time. But that’s an entirely diff ball of wax
@@chroniclyjae2054 oko
I’m happy she is pregnant now!! Congratulations girl!!! 🎉
She is?
That is GREAT!!!!
May GOD;bless this baby on the way. And give her even more.
I was about to say the same thing ❤ I cried when they announced it because I am so happy for them.
That’s the awesome congrats to her.🙏🏽❤
@@codiemorgan9648Yes!!!!!!
I know I am so happy for her it's amazing how things happen when you let go and let God
It’s crazy how much he actually looks like his adoptive mommy❤️
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅 how can u lie like this?
Yes he ABSOLUTELY DOES look like her. Even their smiles are alike!!!!!❤
It’s crazy how much he does look like Ashley lol
I thought that myself he looks like the adoptive mom
That's true i feel he looks more like Ashley than even her bio mum
Watching this after she had her baby. They are a very sweet family and I love their story.
Me too 😂😂😂
Me too I am just seeing this...didn't know they were all on a talk show😮
I absolutely Love Ashley and Steven. I’ve been following them on TikTok and Instagram for so long. They have beautiful souls. I loved that they adopted baby boy allowed his birth mother to be apart of his life ❤
Abe calling his birth mom, Mama Kayla isn't a confusing thing. No different than having a step-parent from birth or very young.
I've always found it strange that people get angry when a child has MORE love than what is deemed socially acceptable?
Abe is such a sweet and extremely emotionally intelligent little boy and I believe his parents, his bio mother and sisters have taught him a great deal about the limitless power of Love.
Or even lookin at her as a GodMother..✨ because he did come thru her...☺️
I agree 💯
Exactly
@@Ellie5621Seeing to how Many people have have step parents, no it’s actually not a confusing concept to wrap your head around
Ashley "im not ready to get pregnant any time soon"
God "ok NOW its time to get pregnant" 😂
Happens a lot. People adopt - the maternal ways come out strongly - & cuddling your baby releases oxytocin & that causes other hormones to become present in minute ways + dopamine & obvs she has a husband - & boom there's a baby. People hv done studies 🙏🏻💜🇬🇧💜
@@CuteCuteCute-02wow, it's always a wonder how nature works.
Right😂
I love those two.
I’m happy she finally got her pregnancy.
Abe is well taken care of. He’s one lucky little boy. Best of both parents.
Ashley you're making great open decisions. No lies. No apologies
You will survive.
They are doing this the BEST WAY!!! That boy is going up knowing his birth mom and his adopted parents. What would be confusing is him growing up and recognizing he is different because of his skin color and then wondering why. Him knowing from birth that momma Kayla is his birth mom will be much more healing. Especially him knowing that they all have a relationship. That baby won the lottery!
He did WIN THE LOTTERY.
He has all these people loving him.
Abe is going to be a very important man one day.
Well said
100% agree. I love that he has Mama Makayla in his life. I think this is the healthiest way to be adopted. He will know he was given up out of love and be able to have a relationship with multiple adults who love him.
Totally agree! Abe has the best of both worlds. Be honest now so he can grow into the truth.
She just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Abriel is going to be an awesome big brother! 💙💞
When the dad 8:26 said we wanted him to know he was given up out of love not because he wasn’t wanted I almost cried ! So many children believe they are given up because they aren’t wanted when their parents just want the best lift for them ! I’m happy for them and the bio mom !
Absolutely because the ignorance on that fact is enormous most people always assume negative the moment they hear anyone has given a child up for adoption. When there are numerous reasons and it doesn't really matter to me especially when the child will at least get a chance at life with someone who does want children.
Ashley and Steven are the most realistic couple I've seen, they are selfless and able to look at the bigger picture and so is Makhaila, this is pure love
I've been around several children in foster care ,,,they don't care what color the families are ,,they just want love. I heard it with my own ears. Stop the racial barriers and think about the feelings of rejected children...
People don’t give children enough credit for comprehension. He can understand the birth mom, adopted mom concept even at that early age.
I totally agree
Love doesn't see colors.❤❤❤
All a child need is love!! Love has no color! 😢
Amen! 🙌🏻
Exactly!
You are so right 😊
Oh yes say it again❤❤😊 👏🏾
Love has a color . N every color is supposed to love its own . Esau shouldnt be raising Jacob . Foh
The name isn’t confusing. It’s nice that he calls her Mama Kayla. This is one of the best public open adoptions that I’ve seen.
I think this entire situation was divinely orchestrated. There’s no doubt how much love exists between Steven, Ashley, and MaKayla and they are meant to be in each other’s lives exactly as they are. No more and no less.
Ashley got to learn that she doesn’t have to carry a baby to be a mother, and now that she’s pregnant, she gets to experience both sides of motherhood…that’s beautiful, and really special.
MaKayla gets to be TT and watch Abriel become a big brother without the additional emotional/physical aspect of giving birth… i think this has all worked out for the betterment of everyone involved.
When he said given up out of Love not because he wasn’t wanted I got choked up 🥺🥹
Oh and I had another comment. The father son bond that Stephen and abriel has is so beautiful to watch. This man is so in love with his son and his son is so in love with his dad. They couldn't be any closer than if he was their biological son. Their relationship is so beautiful to watch. I just love it❤❤❤❤
I honestly think their relationship is beautiful and I think the way they are handling this causes less confusion
Agree 💯
I love how understanding and nurturing this couple is towards the birth mother considering she gave up legal rights, she’s a grown adult with 3 children already so they really help her out
I think that what they're doing is right. My older brother was adopted. My parents never told him because they did not want him to feel different than the other kids. He found out through the grapevine, & spiralled out of control. He's now deceased. The rejection was just to great, and the fact that my family lied to keep it hidden, trying to "Protect" him, just made him all the more angry. In the end always tell the truth....It's easier to remember. Telling lies leads to turmoil.
Wow. I m so sorry this happened in your family
So sry hun 😢 I do feel being open straight out the gate is more healthy but if u watch their channel the bio mom is over ALOT helps parent him etc be honest sure but their prob just need to be healthy boundaries set in place just for confusion it may cause as he grows etc and stuff he will hear from school or nowadays social media... I do agree I've known friends that we're adopted one parents was involved one where they weren't but as he gets older he's gonna wanna know why me bio mom has 3 other siblings he's def gonna ask tuff questions as he grows it's normal with adoption
I understand but I think other people meddling made things worse they probably knew when the right time would've been.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sorry for your loss
Oh no so sorry my condolences
This makes me sooo infuriated!! They are doing an amazing job and keeping the birth mother as part of his life . My children are not adopted but they look very much Filipino but they are also Swedish. People have said things to me even.. where did you buy your baby!! Who does that? God bless them✝️
Ppl are terrible the world has so much hate in it❤
Wowwww. Im so sorry that is horrible no one should be treated that way . Society needs to realize Words hurt !! I think ANY LOVING HOME IS BETTER THEN NONE ! I also think two loving homes are better then ONE BAD ONE ! Everyone deserves love and a loving home. I think even two same sex couples raising &adopting a child is ok ❤️as long as the child is loved, happy & secure why does it matter!? Every family is different now a-days 🤷🏽♀️ . I’m sending good vibes only to you my dear . Keep loving and raising YOUR CHILDREN!! YOUR FAMILY !!! God knows your heart ❤️never feel like you have to explain ANYTHING TO ANYONE !!! Love your life , continue to love & raise YOUR CHILDREN!!! 🥰Love , Light & Healing ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
People are just mean.
I think sometimes the adults are the ones that complicate things. This little boy was adopted by a set of parents who loves him, and I bloody well wish that every little girl or boy out in the world caught up in a bad, and unsafe environment would have a better chance of life with parents like these. God bless them, they’re trying to do the right thing all round.
I love that they were honest with him from the jump. It hurts more later when you feel you were lied to your whole life. When he's an adult he can choose what to call her but children deserve the truth also.
As a adult adoptee I agree .
These parents are the best. Love them
They're the perfect couple to adopt. I love this dynamic ❤
So many adopted children are kept in the dark about their adoption and the effects are astronomical. My grandmothers best friend was given one of the dna test kits like 23 and me a few years back and at 74 years old she found out through that test that her mom and dad were not her biological parents. Her parents bio and adopted are all dead. All her siblings were later confirmed to be the biological children of the adopted parents. I mean the impact it had was huge. One day she’s the oldest of 9 siblings and within a month she learns she has no biological family. It’s heart wrenching. So the fact that McKayla is so involved is beautiful and I love the special friendship that they’ve created. McKayla is such an amazing woman and mother. I mean she’s so beautiful and selfless.
I adopted my daughter from birth. I did an open adoption. I believe that every child should know where they came from. I got her as a newborn. She will be 22 next month. I taught her to call them big mama and big daddy.. out of respect. So I completely understand all of them !!!!
And now she just had her baby girl so exciting ❤
So glad Ashley is pregnant.congrats to her and her husband. May God bless them and their baby.
God is good ❤
We stand firmly behind Abriel's parents. They have done an outstanding job on raising a wonderful young boy to date. I'm so grateful to God for adding a new arrival to their troop ❤
I don't feel like Abe was "given up" i think he was "given to or given love".❤🥰🤗🙏
I really appreciate this man’s way of questioning. Appropriate but he gets right to the root of the issue instead of dancing around anything. He’s direct, but in a way to make sure he’s still being careful with the scenario.
I feel like like this is a new style blended family. It's beautiful that they all were able to process this in a way that's strictly for them and not for the world.
Watching this after Ashley's pregnancy announcement brings me so much joy. God is so good! Abriel is such a lucky little boy. He gets love from everyone and now he's going to be the best big brother. Great advice on this episode!
I just want to say that my girls called my mom "mom" because that's what I called her. It was never an issue or confusing. That relationship between mother (Ashley) and child is something so special as well as what his has with his birth mom. It's just different. I love how Ashley isn't threatened by that. It's because her love for her child is pure and selfless. I support this family and the decisions they are making for him. I can't wait to see how easily this 2nd baby comes into this family. It's a beautiful story ❤
I've been following Ashley and Steven and their baby Ab and mama Kayla for a while now, absolutely love them. Beautiful family. Sometimes you have to keep your family out of your business.
I had two moms and two fathers and I feel truly blessed, grateful and loved by them all ❤!
The adopted mom resembles that child as if she gave birth
Karamo is making it more difficult than it really has to be. There are "step" families that have similar dynamics.
I watch their channel, they treat him like gold! Abe is so smart
I agree. As a black woman I had wondered why they adopted a black child not with hate but curiosity. Then I want he'd their channel and grew so fond of the and baby Abriel. I don't think anyone would love that child more than his adoptive parents. They have made me consider adoption.
Ashley has such a good heart. God bless you and your family.
Everybody on that stage is wonderful except for that black mom who give a person that’s the weird one
I totally understand and can relate. I wasn't raised with my parents but they were still in my life. They're trying to make it easier for their son. I commend them.
I follow them on RUclips, they love that little boy and thats all that matters! They're great parents!
I follow this beautiful family on RUclips, and see nothing but pure LOVE!!! This little boy is well-adjusted, healthy, and HAPPY!!! I absolutely adore them!!
I Completely Agree With The Baby Calling The Bio Mother Momma Kayla It's The Healthy Connection They ALL Need
Ash and steve are the best parents to Abe ....and its crazy and super cute how Abe resembles his mom Ash and now their baby gal is a replica of the dad❤❤❤❤❤
I’m glad they had some of the audience share they’re thoughts, I think it actually helped
This is the first time I'm not on the same page with Karamo. When you're growing up in that situation, you don't find it confusing until you're much older and by that time you can understand better. The important thing is that the children are surrounded by love. The same situation without care and love would be catastrophic but that's not the case in this instance.
I so agree with the Mama Makayla
As a young man he won't be confused that he has two moms who get along 😊
Honesty in adoption is never confusing. Dishonesty and omission is confusing. My mom has my son and he is 8 now and just found out I'm his birth mom and not his sister. That's confusing. Knowing from the beginning makes it just what it is and confusion is rarely an issue. My husband is also adopted and is very thankful his parents never told him anything other than the truth.
I remember i even commented how He looks like his Adopted Mom, when they both smile❤❤❤❤
Makayla is in huge regrets, but she doesn’t want to say it. Also, Abe saying mama Kayla is fine, so when he has questions, they’re all there to answer.
I think only because of judgements on one interview she talked about how she was dark compared to her siblings that they didn't look alike they look more white like her mom and that her kids too since they were biracial they were a lot lighter I just didn't know why I was an important for her to bring that up maybe she does have an issue can somebody biracial kids grow up like that because other people teasing from being darker and maybe she didn't want him going through that
As a black mother, I get why people would wonder and may "raise an eyebrow" when a white couple adopts a black child ( I've seen many individuals foster/adopt children for HORRIBLE reasons; therefore, white guilt isn't so far-fetched). ***HOWEVER*** the care and thought this child's adopted parents made to ensure this child is connected to his culture is nothing but wonderful and shows their true love for their baby. It is such a blessing this child has such a family filled with so much love and selflessness.
You are a Racist
Did you see a white couple adopt about 6 melanated children, and after a while, they ran their car off a cliff with those melanated children in the car with them?
Ashley is middle eastern not white,
@@01sutrathey’re from the US and here they fall under the white umbrella
Yeah, I get the impression that they did this out of love and not the desire for attention or for the wrong reasons.
Things have been quiet on the home front in regards to Mama Kayla since Ashley's miraculous pregnancy! Hmmmm? Because they have been amazing parents to their adoptive son and so generous in regards to this open adoption with his birth mother.I believe that is why God really blessed them abundantly with another child which Ashley gave birth too.
I think it still hurts her. You can tell she regrets her decision. She is happy he has a great family but her saying she wishes it was different is her saying she wishes she didn’t give him up
There are so open minded and have good intentions. Main concern is the mental well bing of the child.
Some people “get off” on misery for/towards others. This couple and many others are only doing what some are scared to do-love out loud❤
I love them all and their story. May this family contiune to grow and flourish together. THE VILLAGE IS BEAUTIFUL
One of the most amazingly kind families I've ever come across. That child is very lucky
Update shes pregnant now ❤ Congratulations to them thru deserve it ❤
I know that she may have been very nervous and misspoke but I think with her saying she writes him letters every year about what he's missing out on maybe very hurtful to him in the future because although she has a reason for giving him up he will always wonder why she kept her older kids. I understand life and things happen but this is very much a delicate situation. I can tell she is still hurting with her decision and I pray she finds peace. The adoptive parents are a blessing and doing what they think is best. I can tell they want to keep the lines of communication open with the birth mom and thats wonderful but there has to be some boundaries (I dont think the birth mom is doing it intentionally she is just still torn). However one thing for sure is that the young man has a village of love around him and thats what needs to be the focus. 💕
All I see and hear is love bonded together for the sake of a child awesome
My daughter was adopted & it’s closed. But I still get photos, I talk to her & she calls me Mama ‘my name’. If I could go back I would want to change it but mostly for selfish reasons! She is being raised by the Greatest Mom & Dad. The Best Family. And the most loving home than I can offer! That’s all I can ask for! ❤❤❤ THANK YOU TO ALL FOSTER & ADOPTION PARENTS! 🙏💖✨🙏💖✨🙏💖✨
Edit: My (6yr old) daughter & I only speak about twice a year… I don’t think it’s confusing for her to call me Mama ‘my name’ bcuz of that fact. She’ll kno she’s adopted. She “knows” now.
How is it closed if you talk to her ?
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE WAY ASHLEY AND STEVE DOES THINGS WITH BEING HONEST WITH THEIR BABY AND SHARING HIM WITH HIS BIOLOGICAL MOTHER AND I BELIEVE ASHLEY IS A SECURE WOMAN AND THATS WHY SHE IS UNBOTHERED. BECAUSE SHE KNOWS AS LONG AS SHE LOVES AB HE WILL LOVE SHARE THAT LOVE BACK
I have followed this family on other sites. I love the bond they have. Love is love..ppl stop hating
Same!!!!!
She is pregnant whit a baby girl now. So happy for them
The way they are raising that little boy,he is well mannered. I don't see him resenting them in the future. I watched a video where the mom instructed him not to eat the candies and he did even when the other kid beside him was.
I've followed this family a long time and they're amazing parents with tons of love❤❤
I have to say that I think that love from all the parties is great!! Ashley will get pregnant, sooner than she thinks, these people are all beautiful!! What they are doing is wonderful, If you live long enough you will learn.
It happened she’s pregnant 😊
She got pregnant 🎉
God is good congratulations Ashley and Steven
Im so happy for them they’re preggers congrats!! Hes gonna be a big brother now 🥰
Had their baby girl ❤❤❤❤
@@jackiedelvalle yesss awww I just saw it how precious for them!
The fact she's concerned about her son thinking she loves the baby she carries more is all you need to hear. It shows her pure mothering heart & the love she has for her son!!❤❤❤
Many mothers that don't have trouble conceiving and carrying children worry about how their 1st child will feel when they have their second child or how they'll feel about the second.
They aren't denying him the truth and most of all they're giving him unconditional love that's all that matters.❤❤❤ They shouldn't receive any hate for loving a child or wanting a baby of their own.
Adopting out of your own race is the purest form of love and acceptance to me. I love to see families accept little ones into their family who come from different circumstances. It's beautiful ❤
Sara we only have one race and is the human race weather you’re pink black blue or yellow we’re one race and it’s beautiful for these people to take these babies and love them
@@cynthiadixon1591Exactly my dear. We have just one race and that is the human race.
@sarahkay4422 'own race'? Please, educate me on that. There's only one race and that is the Human Race. The only qualification for being a part of it, is to be a HUMAN BEING.
Sure oOoOO GOD bless you
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All I see here is pure love. God bless you all, and thanks for considering the little guy in all of these, and documenting it all.
I love all of them. Ashley and Steven are great parents, and Makayla is a beautiful person. I love their family dynamic.
Karamo is wrong on this one. I have friends who are adopted and was angry when they found out the person they were calling auntie or uncle were really their parent. 6 different friends.
This!
I agree with you, some of his points low key irritated me bc it seems like even tho their situation is different it’ll workout in the long run & whether they want to adopt again or possibly try to have a baby it’s up to them. As long as the child is in a loving house hold everything will go fine
My thoughts too. I believe the son will respect his birth mother because technically she is in his life. The audience was spot on about the son calling them both momma.
I agree with you.
He was way out of line and disrespectful saying that
I'm so happy they've been able to have a girl and make Abriel the happiest little boy ever
This is a very uplifting story. God bless them all! ❤😊
Im so happy that his birth mom is in his life ... she loves him so much still ❤
This is such a complex and nuanced situation. I feel for the birth mother very much and i admire the adoptive parents. At some point lines are going to have to be set or they could create a lot of confusion for the child in effort of trying to be overly thoughtful. This is so tough because i know everyones heart is in great placem
The way I love these Guys with their Boy.
So adorable
I wish Karamo discussed their fear of Abe feeling inferior to a biological child. I think that's Ashley's bigger fear aside from not being able to carry. If Makayla is healed enough to be their surrogate, I think that's a wonderful compromise.
She’s not healed enough though .. but I agree I wish he would have talked about that topic too
I really don’t think mamma Kayla is healed enough to carry another child she then has to give away (yes, not biologically her child, but as Ashley’s mom pointed out, she will still carry and deliver this baby). I feel like they are all trying to compromise waaaay to much to make this work. I feel like Ashley is afraid to carry herself because she doesn’t want Abriel to feel different or less loved and Kayla offered to be their surrogate so they don’t have to look for another carrier, increasing the confusion in this baby boy’s life. 🤷🏻♀️
@@corina6895Ashley is pregnant now
Well Ashley will be due soon with her biological child so hopefully they will continue to be a happy loving family. They seem to be involving Abe in the entire process this far 🤗
Lol knowing them from TT and being a fan , I love them I don’t think anything they do is out of an ugly eye ! However letting Ashley talk is SUCH a Steven thing 😂😂💜 LOVE YOU GIYS
I am African, from Zimbabwe. In our culture, your mother's sisters are your mums too. We literally call them mum. You might think this is confusing but trust me children know. Children understand more than you think they do. I appreciate they let her be involved it will be beneficial to him when he is older and easier for him to make sense of things.
I love that what Ashley’s intentions are regarding allowing the birth mom to be a part of their child’s life and their lives, but I feel like a part of her is doing it because she feels like she has to.
Ashley seems like she's a people pleaser like she feel terrible or it will eat at her if she actually said no or disagreed and maybe that will change at some point idk having bio mom in the picture is awesome def good move but there has to be some healthy boundaries put in place so that it's not even more confusing lol
She does have to. How else would tranracial adoption work in the USA
@@sherei9530she doesn't have to. Lots of trans racial adoptions happen without bio parent involvement
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I think everyone needs to let them do what is best for their family. It works for them and that is all that matters. I think it is great because their son will never question his background. He will grow up aware and won't have the major breakdown that most adopted kids have once they find out that they are adopted.
I adopted two of my nephews and I have never lied to them about who I am or kept them away from birth parents. When they grow up knowing the truth it’s not confusing for them….it will be their life any the only thing they know and because nobody has lied to them there will be no surprises and questions about who they are or who they came from.
I think it’s a great idea for both children to be born by the same mother even when the sperm and eggs are different. God bless Steve, Ashley and Makayla
I ❤ that family. So sweet and open.
They are my favorite family on RUclips as they are so genuine. The love that they pour into their beautiful bay son Abriel is incredible. This baby is so blessed and happy. Now Ashley is pregnant and I am so happy for them. Abriel loves his parents Ashley and Steven so much! They are the most amazing couple.
I truly love this family, watching the special bond between his mom & Steven is so heart melting. As for Kayla, she did the most unselfish thing a parent could do. I can't imagine the emotions, as a mom of 3 girls your body knows you just gave birth. Your body is telling you time to wake up feed & change the baby, you miss the movements & the little hiccups ect. And for her willing to do this all over again for them shows just how much she loves the family she made for her son.. anyone with eyes and ears and can see the love they have for that beautiful boy is real.. I am glad she waited and they were able to conceive and have their own biological baby, because if anyone was ment to be parents it's them. I have 3 biracial daughters, 2 have their own kids now. My oldest is married to a black man, so their kids are more black with a sprinkle of white and my youngest had a 2 yr old and his daddy is white, so he's more white than black. But we don't see color in our family. I don't care what color a child is or who chooses to adopt them, as long as they are loved 100000% blood or not. Their are alot of kids in foster homes & group homes in the system who don't get kisses and stories and cuddles when they are sick or happy. That little man will never know that feeling.. from his bio mom & siblings to his adopted family as well.
This guy has a pretty strong opinion for somebody who has never been through this…
I follow them, they are great parents and she is finally pregnant herself ❤❤ I glad she gets to experience her own pregnancy
Great advice! Im happy to see, they are preparing for their biological child. Also, Mama Makelia is very attached and I agree her feelings are still very raw.. She definitely shouldn't be carrying another child for the family. I love them on social media and I wish them the best of luck and love with their soon to be new baby and extended family❤🙏
I remember in Social Work school we learned about adoption, foster, etc. A lot of people choose international adoption because for whatever reason, they don't want to deal with a birth family. I think it takes a lot of humility to put tbe child first
I Love this Family and May God protect, Preserve and Continously cover you guys !! More Grace !! Keep going