Laptop story: dad is psychotic. This kind of gaslighting is the sign of a raging narcissist. He sat there and listened to op turn the house over looking for something he stole. Spineless mom is no better. She needs to stand up or OP will go no-contact as soon as she hits 18z
Do you have listening comprehension? It really feels like you don't because OP said he _didn't get home from working until after OP's school was over_ "Edit: he was not home between 8 and 12:30" The office the dad left it in is _a room in the household_ not his workplace. "She called my dad out from his office" Chances are OP wasn't looking for it for that long non stop. So the relative time of him "listening to OP turn the house over" was likely _not_ very long if at all. "We spent an hour looking for it but gave up." And then it was only when OP's mom came home that it came up again because OP missed all their classes. Other than that you're correct.
@@impishrebel5969 Your comment added nothing to this discussion. Your comment doesn’t change the fact that the father has serious mental health problems and is a manipulative jerk. What was your point in demeaning @mattwho81? The difference is negligible and doesn’t change the horrible behavior of the father in the story. What was your goal here? Why are you so angry at @mattwho81? You come off pretty unhinged.
OP tell the school principle, admins what your dad did. They can charge him/make him pay for what he did. He stole the laptop and has to face the consequences
Last story: OP is definitely NTA. There will always be situations where someone will forget to call. I agree with the commenter who said OP is probably that young man’s hero. He may even have saved his life. Also, as another said, there was absolutely nothing stop his GF from calling him. Kudos to OP.
And it will only get worse! What if the sister 'realizes' that OP might be with her 'if only the baby wasn't there' or just as bad "what is something happened to her sister" ..OP would be with her, right? /s
So let me get this straight a dude who is not your father hides your stuff something that is expensive and could be broken easily and made you miss a lot of classes where you can get seriously in trouble for just because he wants you to call him dad and he's like oh my God you're so stupid why didn't you ask me you did this all on purpose it's all your fault yeah I wonder why she doesn't like him
1. OP's sister is trying to take over her life. She has some serious psychological issues. And that is why she was fired and the boyfriend kicked her out. 2. So, dad thought it was a good idea to play games with his kids schooling by hiding the laptop? In the name of bonding? Why not just sit down and talk to your kid instead?
Sister of the GF is delulu and the parents are making it terrible. This is exactly why people were concerned about another story where they had an older friend of the parents who played BF to their young daughter
hidden laptop story: Daddy Dearest sounds like a Cluster of 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 (ONLY refers to abusive instances of Cluster B). Therapy might help but many narcissistic-inclined individuals (not all) will refuse therapy on the grounds that they think there isn't anything wrong with them, and I bet OP's dad is no different.
My uncle was very abusive (luckily my Aunty left him but unfortunately for his new family he abused them physically, emotionally and sexually) when they were married and she had a young child he would turn off the water. She called her dad who fixed it and he got really angry at her for not letting him come home and play the hero. (While being angry at her for disturbing him during work) You can't win with abusers.
@@miriam9419 yeah, abusers are always moving the goalposts. Because to them, it's all about an excuse to abuse. As an old fable about a wolf and a lamb said, "Any excuse will serve a tyrant".
I find out my boyfriend rescued someone from a creep then I’m the proudest person in the world and about to insufferably tell everyone how wonderful he is. I understand her being worried but that explanation and it’s all forgotten. She has some control issues and OP can do better.
The bartender story is a good time to mention Angel Shots. Using the terms "angel" or "angel shot" to a bartender or other worker is a way to tell them this person is in trouble with another patron. Bouncers are called, or the staff gets them out the back door to a safe location.
Last Story: Prioritized a stranger over her? Yes, because the stranger was in real danger while girlfriend was safe at home. And mad that he didn't call? Why didn't she call him of she was worried? Because she wasn't worried, she was just upset his attention was away from her for 20 minutes
Holy “Hand That Rocks The Cradle “. Op you better evict this person. Also make sure she is not sleeping with your husband. Op I am sorry but you let this go on for too long. You should have put your foot down a long time ago. You are the idiot for not nipping this in the bud. But the family is bat crazy. If I were you I would not let her near the baby.
Bella hasn’t been your friend for years….she couldn’t be happy or helpful now suddenly she wants this from you all? You should have long ago ended the friendship. I’d tell her no goodluck and goodbye.
Story 2:OP is NTA. Father watched too many sitcoms to think that his plan would have no negative consequences He needs to live in the real world and the edit just proves he's a coward or a narcissist or both
Bella: I say OP is the idiot, for staying friends with someone who put demands on their friendship, and only now deciding that it wasn't right. Bella stopped being a friend a long time ago and should have been cut off then. If OP does it now, she'll be made out as the bad guy, when Bella was the bad guy all along but everyone was too nice to say it. Look, I get infertility is rough and you may not want to be around kids much or at all. But if people can't even talk about them near you and you can't be bothered to at least acknowledge someone's big life event, simply because they HAVE kids and kids aren't even the focus? You aren't a friend. Bella wasn't a friend and that should have been acted on years ago.
Except Bella wasn't there and wasn't demanding anything of them but neither was she showing up for anyone, so your comment makes zero sense. OP specifically said Bella barely knows her, _because they haven't been interacting_
It's not uncommon for friendships to wither and die from neglect. It's not something that most people sit down and communicate about because most people are self aware enough that they recognize when they have not been supporting the relationship. Referring to Bella as a friend is just convenient labelling. There was no falling out so they aren't enemies and calling Bella a former friend also seems harsh. They just reached a point of being acquaintances, except Bella is so self-absorbed that she doesn't think avoiding people for years is a problem.
Laptop: What do you think the odds are that in the earlier incident where OP's laptop ended up in her mother's bag, her father put it there? That this wasn't his first bite at the apple and OP's mom knew it but was too scared to tell OP over the phone?
"B" friend, NTA. People who let the need to have a child consume their lives reap what they sow. Her excuses for not supporting you or your friends just because there were kids around is weak. Like you said, you don't even really know her anymore. It's time to let this half-dead friendship die out.
My husband ran into a store that was on fire and pulled the owner out. He saved the guy, I was very upset that he put himself in danger and also very proud of him for his actions. It took a few days to express all of this because pregnancy emotions had me all effed up.
Okay so this is what you you should have told everyone that this is creepy and weird and they need to knock it off secondly she's a grown ass woman now literally tell her stop being this weird clingy girlfriend when you are nothing to her literally that you are a grown ass man and she's been acting like a child even when she became an adult and it's weird and creepy she needs to back the fuck off tell everyone in your family and her family that they don't do this fire restraining order so she legally can't come near you and the people saying you're acting extreme she's literally crying at a different person is getting married because she had a childhood Crush yes I think you should have stopped that this is on you as well
Why didn't The Group have/create a 2nd chat-group that included only A, C, D, and E? That way, they can talk about whatever they want without being stifled by B?
Hey XO, you've put out these stories before. Please don't be like AG Girl. She constantly puts out recycled stories. It's so bad that she will put out the same stories 1 week apart.
1: It sounds like your sister needs to see a therapist. You and your husband should sit down with your sister and tell her that you found her “mommy blog”. Get her to take down the blog and get her to move out🙁 2: I’m sorry but your father has a problem. What he did was looney. If he wants you to bond with him, then he could have found a better way to do so😟 3: Let me guess, Bella does nothing for her friends, but expects her friends to do everything for her when she needs it🙄 4: Sammy is getting older and her so called crush on you is no longer cute. Go NC with the family until they probably deal with Sammy😒 5: You helped out a person who was in a possible dangerous situation. Yes, I understand that she was worried about you, but her actions towards you were childish🙁
I haven't even smoked yet and i feel high trying to understand the dad logic for taking the laptop Edit: I've smoked and Come to the conclusion that Dad is an asshole, literally did this out of boredom to mess with his kid, so he feels needed every second then makes his own kid feel like shit for not asking.
Well it is ridiculous you wouldn't ask him because if you really want it you ask everyone. Yeah, he wasnt home but neither was your mother. However, his actions were bat sht crazy.
Story 2: The father, the adult pulls a stunt like this and then calls the child stupid? OP sounds much more mature than the father.
Mom needs to divorce this psycho!
_"You didn't call me! You didn't call me! You didn't call me! You didn't call me!"_
"K, so why didn't you just call me?"
_"..."_
Plus, OP could point out that he was preventing someone else from getting jumped and possibly killed like GF's friend.
Op needs to google the narcissist's prayer. That will probably explain a lot.
@@SpaceGeek2161 Yes, that's my take on it too.
GF should be proud that OP took her lesson to heart, and prevented it happening to someone else.
How much you wanna bet that the sister in the first story is just jealous of OP’s life so she’s trying to take over?
hand that rocks the cradle comes to mind..
Laptop story: dad is psychotic. This kind of gaslighting is the sign of a raging narcissist. He sat there and listened to op turn the house over looking for something he stole. Spineless mom is no better. She needs to stand up or OP will go no-contact as soon as she hits 18z
I wouldn't be at all surprised if the dad nicked off with said laptop to watch porn on a device where his wife wouldn't think to catch him out on it.
Do you have listening comprehension? It really feels like you don't because OP said he _didn't get home from working until after OP's school was over_ "Edit: he was not home between 8 and 12:30"
The office the dad left it in is _a room in the household_ not his workplace. "She called my dad out from his office"
Chances are OP wasn't looking for it for that long non stop. So the relative time of him "listening to OP turn the house over" was likely _not_ very long if at all. "We spent an hour looking for it but gave up."
And then it was only when OP's mom came home that it came up again because OP missed all their classes.
Other than that you're correct.
@@impishrebel5969 Your comment added nothing to this discussion. Your comment doesn’t change the fact that the father has serious mental health problems and is a manipulative jerk. What was your point in demeaning @mattwho81? The difference is negligible and doesn’t change the horrible behavior of the father in the story. What was your goal here? Why are you so angry at @mattwho81? You come off pretty unhinged.
OP tell the school principle, admins what your dad did. They can charge him/make him pay for what he did. He stole the laptop and has to face the consequences
traumatised friend died after being mugged, angry at boyfriend for saving another guy from being possibly killed
And apparently unable to use her own phone to dial out. Too traumatized from the bad memory?
Last story: OP is definitely NTA. There will always be situations where someone will forget to call. I agree with the commenter who said OP is probably that young man’s hero. He may even have saved his life.
Also, as another said, there was absolutely nothing stop his GF from calling him.
Kudos to OP.
Story 3: NTA. She's treating her supposed friends like crap. She's completely unreasonable. No one deserves to be bowed down to like this.
Sammi crush on OP story: Tell me that Sammi is the golden child, without using any of those words.
Sister "crush": innocent? She freaked out when she found out they were pregnant. It's not innocent. The parents are morons
And it will only get worse!
What if the sister 'realizes' that OP might be with her 'if only the baby wasn't there' or just as bad "what is something happened to her sister" ..OP would be with her, right? /s
So let me get this straight a dude who is not your father hides your stuff something that is expensive and could be broken easily and made you miss a lot of classes where you can get seriously in trouble for just because he wants you to call him dad and he's like oh my God you're so stupid why didn't you ask me you did this all on purpose it's all your fault yeah I wonder why she doesn't like him
Sammi Story: OP, stay away from there before you get falsely accused of something. Sammi is unstable and the family cannot be relied on
1. OP's sister is trying to take over her life. She has some serious psychological issues. And that is why she was fired and the boyfriend kicked her out.
2. So, dad thought it was a good idea to play games with his kids schooling by hiding the laptop? In the name of bonding? Why not just sit down and talk to your kid instead?
Also posting pics of a minor w/o the parents permission, copy the blog images and posts, report her to the blog' s platform
Sister of the GF is delulu and the parents are making it terrible. This is exactly why people were concerned about another story where they had an older friend of the parents who played BF to their young daughter
hidden laptop story: Daddy Dearest sounds like a Cluster of 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 (ONLY refers to abusive instances of Cluster B). Therapy might help but many narcissistic-inclined individuals (not all) will refuse therapy on the grounds that they think there isn't anything wrong with them, and I bet OP's dad is no different.
My uncle was very abusive (luckily my Aunty left him but unfortunately for his new family he abused them physically, emotionally and sexually) when they were married and she had a young child he would turn off the water. She called her dad who fixed it and he got really angry at her for not letting him come home and play the hero. (While being angry at her for disturbing him during work)
You can't win with abusers.
@@miriam9419 yeah, abusers are always moving the goalposts. Because to them, it's all about an excuse to abuse. As an old fable about a wolf and a lamb said, "Any excuse will serve a tyrant".
I find out my boyfriend rescued someone from a creep then I’m the proudest person in the world and about to insufferably tell everyone how wonderful he is. I understand her being worried but that explanation and it’s all forgotten. She has some control issues and OP can do better.
The bartender story is a good time to mention Angel Shots. Using the terms "angel" or "angel shot" to a bartender or other worker is a way to tell them this person is in trouble with another patron. Bouncers are called, or the staff gets them out the back door to a safe location.
THE FIRST ONE is a whole saga i'd actually love to hear you read
Omg, 20mins late because you helped someone and she gave you the silent treatment. Why didn't she call you?
Because she was testing OP! According to the gf, OP is the one who needs to do the work in the relationship
Last Story: Prioritized a stranger over her? Yes, because the stranger was in real danger while girlfriend was safe at home. And mad that he didn't call? Why didn't she call him of she was worried? Because she wasn't worried, she was just upset his attention was away from her for 20 minutes
Holy “Hand That Rocks The Cradle “. Op you better evict this person. Also make sure she is not sleeping with your husband.
Op I am sorry but you let this go on for too long. You should have put your foot down a long time ago. You are the idiot for not nipping this in the bud. But the family is bat crazy. If I were you I would not let her near the baby.
OP literally just found out what the sister was doing! She didn't let her pretend to be OP!
Story 5: VERY weird story. GF needs to bite it. OP was in a very odd and strenuous situation and GF is a selfish B.
Bella hasn’t been your friend for years….she couldn’t be happy or helpful now suddenly she wants this from you all? You should have long ago ended the friendship. I’d tell her no goodluck and goodbye.
Story 2:OP is NTA. Father watched too many sitcoms to think that his plan would have no negative consequences
He needs to live in the real world and the edit just proves he's a coward or a narcissist or both
Bella: I say OP is the idiot, for staying friends with someone who put demands on their friendship, and only now deciding that it wasn't right. Bella stopped being a friend a long time ago and should have been cut off then. If OP does it now, she'll be made out as the bad guy, when Bella was the bad guy all along but everyone was too nice to say it. Look, I get infertility is rough and you may not want to be around kids much or at all. But if people can't even talk about them near you and you can't be bothered to at least acknowledge someone's big life event, simply because they HAVE kids and kids aren't even the focus? You aren't a friend. Bella wasn't a friend and that should have been acted on years ago.
Except Bella wasn't there and wasn't demanding anything of them but neither was she showing up for anyone, so your comment makes zero sense. OP specifically said Bella barely knows her, _because they haven't been interacting_
It's not uncommon for friendships to wither and die from neglect. It's not something that most people sit down and communicate about because most people are self aware enough that they recognize when they have not been supporting the relationship. Referring to Bella as a friend is just convenient labelling. There was no falling out so they aren't enemies and calling Bella a former friend also seems harsh. They just reached a point of being acquaintances, except Bella is so self-absorbed that she doesn't think avoiding people for years is a problem.
Laptop: What do you think the odds are that in the earlier incident where OP's laptop ended up in her mother's bag, her father put it there? That this wasn't his first bite at the apple and OP's mom knew it but was too scared to tell OP over the phone?
The word you’re looking for to describe the dad in Story 2 is “Narcissist”
"B" friend, NTA. People who let the need to have a child consume their lives reap what they sow. Her excuses for not supporting you or your friends just because there were kids around is weak. Like you said, you don't even really know her anymore. It's time to let this half-dead friendship die out.
Three of them since had kids. This should have been discussed at least when 2nd member of friend group got pregnant that this was ridiculous.
My husband ran into a store that was on fire and pulled the owner out. He saved the guy, I was very upset that he put himself in danger and also very proud of him for his actions. It took a few days to express all of this because pregnancy emotions had me all effed up.
Okay so this is what you you should have told everyone that this is creepy and weird and they need to knock it off secondly she's a grown ass woman now literally tell her stop being this weird clingy girlfriend when you are nothing to her literally that you are a grown ass man and she's been acting like a child even when she became an adult and it's weird and creepy she needs to back the fuck off tell everyone in your family and her family that they don't do this fire restraining order so she legally can't come near you and the people saying you're acting extreme she's literally crying at a different person is getting married because she had a childhood Crush yes I think you should have stopped that this is on you as well
Why didn't The Group have/create a 2nd chat-group that included only A, C, D, and E? That way, they can talk about whatever they want without being stifled by B?
yall are recycling stories and have been all week
I have been thinking the same thing
Bite my shiny metal 'tocks
Time to find smth new to do 😭😭😭
I'm glad I'm not the only one that noticed😂😂
There was an update to this story. I remember it.
Story 1; That's scary!
First story sounds like the hand that docks the cradle
Am i the only one who has heard these stories before, ON THIS VERY CHANNEL
No you're not, i don't know if this is the Mandela effect or what. Lol
I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed😂😂
I thing it was on the first one was on the original XO channel
Yall must be on drugs
The weirdest thing is story 1 even came with an update in the original, which in this version he leaves out
Hey XO, you've put out these stories before. Please don't be like AG Girl. She constantly puts out recycled stories. It's so bad that she will put out the same stories 1 week apart.
Story 2: OP should go check out the Raised by Narcissists subreddit. Her description of her dad is pretty telling.
I'd literally ask when did we become close friends again that i would plan something for you? You have been absent for _ years.
Story 1; NTA and op isn’t in the wrong .
Story 1 has had a LOT of updates since the last post used in this video.
1: It sounds like your sister needs to see a therapist. You and your husband should sit down with your sister and tell her that you found her “mommy blog”. Get her to take down the blog and get her to move out🙁
2: I’m sorry but your father has a problem. What he did was looney. If he wants you to bond with him, then he could have found a better way to do so😟
3: Let me guess, Bella does nothing for her friends, but expects her friends to do everything for her when she needs it🙄
4: Sammy is getting older and her so called crush on you is no longer cute. Go NC with the family until they probably deal with Sammy😒
5: You helped out a person who was in a possible dangerous situation. Yes, I understand that she was worried about you, but her actions towards you were childish🙁
I haven't even smoked yet and i feel high trying to understand the dad logic for taking the laptop
Edit: I've smoked and Come to the conclusion that Dad is an asshole, literally did this out of boredom to mess with his kid, so he feels needed every second then makes his own kid feel like shit for not asking.
Last story, maybe she cheated, and OP's tell her if he come home late would allow her AP to come over 😅
Is there a reason you’re posting old stuff?
Stolen laptop- I'd invest in a door lock or some caltrops.
Story one reminds me the movie the hand that rocks the cradle
S2: What in the insecure gf shit test is the father playing at?.
Stop gasp breathing in to the mic!!!
Well it is ridiculous you wouldn't ask him because if you really want it you ask everyone. Yeah, he wasnt home but neither was your mother. However, his actions were bat sht crazy.
But his laptop wound up in her bag one time. That's why he called her (did the dad put it there that time?)
@nancyomalley6286 Who cares? It doesn't change his actions being bonkers this time and OP not asking everyone.
@@miss_mish OP was going by past experience as the only clues she had as to where the laptop might be. Her dad never factored in as being a 'suspect'
XO Stories is on vacation?? has shut down his old channel "XO" for good and is recycling the old videos for "XO Stories"... dude getting lazy 😀
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Good job 👏🏼
Nta. She is using your baby and lying. June is unhinged.