The TRUTH about HAVING A SECOND BABY | What it is really like to have 2 kids
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- Опубликовано: 27 май 2024
- Are you pregnant with your second baby? Or maybe you're still considering whether to have a second child or not.
In this video, I'm sharing the truth about what it's really like having a second baby and the tips I think every mom need to hear.
Adding baby number 2 could be super easy or you might find it challenging. Regardless, this video will give you some idea of what it is like being a parent to two kids.
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"You will sleep again..."
Exactly what I needed to hear 🤣 I didn't have enough sleep for several months with my first baby and that was kinda traumatic. When I found out abt my 2nd pregnancy, I was so anxious that I will never be able to sleep again.
Thank you so much!
You are such a great momma!!
Lmao omg team no sleep
Are u sleeping?
I feel you. I have a 10 month baby and pregnant right now with the second one
I have been sleeping since my first was 8 months. Ironically, that was when we found out I was pregnant again. The first 8 months of my son's life were rough as ever, he rarely napped. It was HARD. But i'll be honest, him sleeping was a huge reason I saw it as very possible to take on a second wholeheartedly, without dread.
I’m a dad, we have two. I definitely felt the transition from 0 to 1 was bigger than 1 to 2, but the second was easier. I think the different personalities of the two (with second being more chill) helped. A couple things I would add, the two after 7-8 months start entertaining each other so time needed IMO almost became a wash and broke out even. The other thing is since they are at different stages, your connection to them might also be different. My older one was talking, walking, playing etc. and it’s different connection than an infant, at least for me as a dad.
So great to hear it from a dad’s point of view. Thanks for sharing! ☺️
Totally understandable!
Thank you so much for this - it’s hard to find encouraging things about having baby #2!
I have a 2.5 yr old and I’ve been struggling with the idea of trying for baby #2 especially because I had such bad postpartum depression with my first. This was so helpful. Thank you!
You're welcome and I'm so glad it helped. :)
I loved this video, it made my cry because, im expecting my second child and even though I'm only 12 weeks this has been a completely different pregnancy for me and I'm so emotional and over thinking of how am I going to do this am I going to have the mental stability to do this and this was so positive, uplifting that I have more faith in myself and that God blessed with second and last child to be a beautiful addition to my family.
Thanks for this video!!! 🥰
I currently am 9 weeks with my 2nd, and have a 13 month old right now. He is the absolute light of my life and I've stuggled with the thought of "neglecting" him or not having "enough love" for my 2nd. I was glad you touched on both of these topics with great advice! It is very encouraging and I look forward to watching my heart expand & grow for this new little gift in my life✨❤️
So glad it was encouraging. Congratulations on your pregnancy. :)
1 child (11 months) and trying to figure out the best time for number 2!
I’m currently pregnant with second child, I’m super apprehensive but so excited! I needed this video thank you! X
You're so welcome!
Thank you for this video! I am newly a mom of two, a 5 yr old and 4 week old. And, it's tough emotionally, mentally, and physically. It's hard to give my 5 yr old the attention she deserves. I try, like when we do lots of homework together or fold laundry, (not really all that fun for her) but I'm still consumed with frustration that I can't give more or be more to both my children. I didn't see this coming and feel run ragged most days. Taking care of myself is nearly out of reach, whereas running for miles used to be my daily go-to. Breastfeeding just takes up the whole day!!! But, your video gives me hope that each day will get better. I NEED to hear this message more from other moms.
Oh my, you are so new into the 2-kid gig. Give yourself LOADS of grace, mama! You're doing such a wonderful job, I promise.
Thank you for your support and encouragement!! So appreciated 💫!!
at least your honest...
I am 8 months pregnant right now and my boy is 13 months old. My pregnancy is really hard on me and I already feel so much guilt that even through my boys first year of life I could not be the mom for him I wanted to be. So many times I was too tired or to nauseaus that I just wished he would go for a nap or sleep longer during the day instead of cherishing and enjoying the time with him. So many times I could not carry him, because I was just to weak. Letting him learn walking mostly on his own because it was so painful for me to bend down constantly to help him. So many times I did not play with him because I just wanted to sit down a bit longer. I feel awful, I could not life up to my own standards. First moths of his life before pregnancy I was that active mom that was outside all the time, enjoying the weather and nature, crawling with him on the floor, I just wasn't able to keep it up. I look forward to the day I'm giving birth to just end that miserable state of being pregnant, but even then I just missed out so much on my son and I will never have the same amount of time again for him.
I'm so sorry. I've been there and it is rough. However, I want to encourage you that you're doing a good job regardless of how you feel.
How are you now?
@@buktagabriella nice that you ask. My older son is almost 3 years old and my little one will be 2 in December. As you can image the first year with a toddler and a baby wasn't always easy. But i could handle it much better than being pregnant wirh a baby/ toddler. Every day my youngest got older it became easier. Now they are playing together and it's the most beautiful thing to watch. I love it. But I'm still haunted by my pregnant days and my guilt towards my older son. But now i also feel guilty that my youngest never experienced alone time with me, the guilt just never ends, i guess...
That's why experts say not to get pregnant 5 months after giving birth, but recommend waiting at least a year to 18 months before getting pregnant again. Your child will be walking without support so you don't have to bend down, they'll be on a good nap and sleep schedule, allowing you rest in your first trimester, and saving your back in the third.
My daughter just turned 2 and I find it so hard I just found out I'm pregnant and I'm so scared this video has eased my anxiety I love your honesty it's hard getting no outside help
So glad it was helpful. :)
Thank you so much for the video! I'm pregnant right now with my second and this pregnancy was unplanned and happend with birth control (IUD). I cried so much early in the pregnancy because I was afraid, I would neglect my daughter or that can't love my second like my first.
I'm happy that I found your video because it gave me a lot of hope and encouragement.
Thank you very much! Wish your family all the best too! Hope everyone stays healthy in this difficult time.
Hello how is your life going ? How is your life now with 2 kids? 💕
It was really nice to listen to you. I’m expecting my 2nd.
Congratulations!
The house plant moment got me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
This video made me subscribe to you. I’m 41 in a week from now and I have a 3 year old. I want to give him a sibling because I am an only child and we have a small family. I don’t want my son to grow up alone like I did. I do struggle with physical and mental illness issues like depression and anxiety as well. This video hit all my concerns. When you said you will have enough love for both children because it grows and will not diminish, I subbed! Much love to you and your family. This was so encouraging.
I'm so glad you found it encouraging!
About to have my second baby - I almost didn't watch this video because I thought it might be intimidating but these were exactly the words I needed to hear.
Beautifully said. I'm even more excited about baby #2! Thanks for the positive and honest video
You're covering every single one of my fears/stresses...😭💖💖 So comforting to listen to everything you had to say! Thank you!💖😊
I think I need to watch this video everyday for the next nine months🤣 currently 6 weeks with my second and this video eased my mind so much, thank you!!❤️
The amount of negative stories about having a second child (and motherhood in general) is staggering. Thank you so much for your positive outlook and advice! Can't tell you how refreshing your perspective is. I've always felt super positive about motherhood and wholeheartedly reject the "mommy martyr" identity, but since finding out I'm pregnant with my second, I've worried that I will lose that positive outlook. Your video was just the perfect boost to keep my mindset in check. Thank you!
I'm so glad to read this!
Rt! Lately i have noticed that a lot! So much ugly negative actitud! Dont know whats going on.. i love motherhood its a beautiful blessing.
@@lanis57 bcuz people are honest about their take isnt attitude...its their take..each person feels different...2 or 3 it's a lot for some people...you dnt have a life after 1 child...2 people instead of 1...means no more free time ...not for the next 3yrs each...and you do neglect kids...and quality of care is not focused...her take is her experience...kids while siblings dont get along and dont play together...nice thought but it's not true...maybe some do but not all...this is my opinion...and I have seen it 1st hand...
@@hunterd.p2718 i know,but these people act victimized by their own kids.they are not a martyr. You CAN complain, but those are 2 different things! I was on this mommy vlog and this woman was complaining about everything, how she was resentful that she is the preg one, not her husband and the worst part of pregnancy is the baby😑 and all of them where like, this is so true. Life is so unfair to women🙄 we have to take care of a baby.
Do you have kids?
Hi from Australia. 1 kid here and flipping back and forth about whether to have #2. Loved this video xx
This is the best advice I have heard. Simple, true, no no -sense. Thank you!
You're welcome!
I have just the one kid, but thinking about having a second one. It's so nice to see you 'doing good/okay' and having 3 kids. Because some videos are a bit negative about having a second child.
It is NOT as bad as everyone makes out. Seriously. They tend to focus on all the challenges and leave out the pure joy and blessings that also come with having another baby.
@@ThisHomeschoolHouse Thank you for your response! Talked about it with my husband, for now we're going to wait for a bit, but just thinking about it made us excited!
@@ThisHomeschoolHouse update: just found out I'm pregnant with baby number two!
Love this! Pregnant with my second and I’ve been met with a lot of negativity and doubt. Needed some positivity!
Thank you so much for this video. We have 1 kid and planning on baby #2, but i was feeling so insecure and scared.. this video is comforting and assuring.. thanks
Thank you for the encouraging words! Baby #2 is coming any day now and I am so anxious. We have a 2.5 year old and I just want to be the best mom to both these babies as they are truly gifts. So I really appreciate the advice and kind words.
Congratulations! :)
I remember those days...awesome video and thanks for sharing a lot of helpful information.
I love how you said...you dont split your love when you have a second child, it only multiplies 🥰
It's very true!
Thank you SO MUCH for this very energetically realistic video. I definitely cried the last remark about having enough love- and it doesn't matter how many times i've heard this. It hits like a ton of bricks every time and even has me thinking about how it began with my partner and I as individuals... our children are the result of our love, despite the extremely difficult adjustment this has been. I'm expecting 1-2 to be easier than 0-1 and mine are back to back. Immediately when I found out I was like, I got this. My confidence is high and it cannot be shaken by anyone else's experience. Becoming a mother was a shock in every way and since our brains are more acclimated each subsequent pregnancy, I do believe this has to do with the adjustment being the most abrupt physically, on top of the many lifestyle changes.
This is one of the most positive videos about being a mother and enjoying Motherhood I have ever seen
I'm glad it was encouraging. :)
I love this! I currently have a 7 month old and we want to grow our family as much as we can, god willing. I’m so busy now with one that I sometimes can’t fathom the sleepless nights again or juggling two. It’s amazing to know that you just adapt 💕
This is the best video I have seen on having a second baby! I'm pregnant unexpectedly with my second and have been freaking out, you have addressed all of my concerns. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
This video has really helped me. I’ve been really worried about trying for baby number two as I have such a bond with my first that I’m worried it will change and that scares me. You’ve put my mind at ease. Thank you x
You're so welcome.
This was extremely helpful and timely for me! I have a 2.5 yo girl and expecting another one in 8 week. You brought up some great things I’ve been wondering about, and some things I didn’t even think of. Thanks so much! 🙏🏽
That makes me very happy to know. :)
I’m glad to find a positive video in regards to this. All the ones I’ve seen are so negative and scary
Lol just coming from a really bad one too thinking the same.
This video is so authentic and such a blessing. Thank you so much.
Keepin' it real is really important to me so I'm glad it was a blessing to you! :)
Thank you for all of this advice! I have a 2 year old who was a hard baby and I struggled with PPD for a long time with her. I have had so much fear in even considering adding another child into the mix though I want another child. All of this advice gave me some peace and let me know it’s okay to struggle as long as you keep on trying.
Thank you! I haven't told anyone outside of my immediate family and best friends about the second baby yet. I am absoloutely terrified. Im still watching the video at the moment. I really appreciated this. My first child was a dream, happy healthy, slept well just a great baby. He was so easy and made being a mum a dream. Im fully aware the second baby wont be the same as my first (the pregnancy is so much harder too), I guess thats what scares me. I know I'll adjust, I know we will be fine but I cant comprehend how I will make it all work. How I will take care of everybody, how will I have enough love, how will i have enough time, how will I have enough attention, how will i sleep? I have alot of support and I know everything will be okay but I have no bloody idea how :'). This video helped ease some worry thank you
Congrats! I'm glad you found some encouragement. :)
I have one toddler and in a limbo of deciding to have another one or not. I basically worried about almost all the points you addressed in your video. This has definitely lifted some of the worries I had about having a 2nd, so thanks a lot for this video!
You can do it!
Hi from South Africa! I am a mom of one amazing little girl and my husband and I are talking about having a second baby. I am soo scared and apprehensive because motherhood has been a really big challenge for me. I struggled with PPD for 8 months before I sought help and I am just so scared of feeling that tired and depressed and overwhelmed again. This video helped soo much!
I'm so glad it was encouraging to you.
Wow, I could have written this! Currently due with #2 any day now. I feel more optimistic now that I've bonded with my firstborn (it took 18 months for us to bond.) I have learned a lot and I'm going into this with more accurate expectations. God is so good to me, and He was there even when I couldn't feel it. We will get through this part, it's not forever!
This video was everything I needed. Thank you💚
I loved this! Thank you! I have one baby. I appreciated the positive perspective and that you include your faith too.
You are so welcome!
I have a 1 yr old & am 5 weeks along! I appreciate you sharing your story.
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much for your lovely encouraging video. This makes me feel so much more confident. I have 4 year old daughter and we are going to start TTC #2.❤
You are so welcome!
Thanks for positive and encouraging video, I'm expecting another child and as much as I'm happy I sometimes feel anxious and guilty towards my first child. I'm glad to know that my love will grow with 2 children and I'll sleep again😊💕.
Thank you so much for this.These very thoughts have been running through my head. I have a little girl but I want more children. They are such wonderful blessings I didn’t want to have a another fearing I might neglect her. I also had this thought of how my husband and I will be able to handle more children. I pray God continues to bless you and your family. I really needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏🏽
You're so welcome!
These was so lovely to hear. You helped ease so much worry for me. Thank you
I'm so glad!
Thank you! I’m expecting my second. This is exactly the encouragement that I need- Encouraging, but also realistic. You are very well spoken. What a beautiful video!
This was exactly what I needed to hear ❤️ I'm 34 weeks with baby #2 and my son turned 1 in May. Now that it's getting to the end I've just had all of these thoughts and this video helped so much
I am SO happy that it was helpful! Congratulations!
How are things now? and how old are your babies
Thank you for this encouriging video!❤🤗 You're such a genuine, experienced yet young mom. I'm 26 now and my daughter is turning 4 so I started thinking maybe I can do this and have one more baby soon even though I used to reject the idea of having more kids because my delivery was horrible. But family is the greatest blessing ever and my daughter would love to have a sibling. Keep doing what you are doing and much love to your family 🤗
Thank you! :)
Same here. I’m also 26 & my daughter will turn four this month
This video is so encouraging! Thank you!
You are so welcome!
I laughed and cried at this video! Thank you for this! #2 is due in August!
This was lovely!
If you wrote a book about all this, id buy it in a heart beat. This really helped me, thank you. Finally some positivity and love 🙂
You're so welcome!
That last point was what I came for, thank you for wise words and God bless you and your family!
You're welcome. :)
You are SO lovely, you addressed all my fears and truly felt like you were encouraging me haha thank you!
I'm so glad!
I'm planning my second child now (hopefully for another year and a half for so) I appreciate this sooo much!
I'm so glad it was helpful. :)
Have u done with sec pregnancy? I m so much confused
Something I have never thought about second kid 🤔😂😂😂😂...one is enough 🤗
They definitely keep you busy. :)
My husband and I had 3 kids in 3 years. There's about 16 months age gap between the kids. 1st child is definitely the biggest adjustment, especially if you go from fulltime job talking to people all day to staying home alone with your baby. 2nd was much easier. 3rd it's as if nothing changed😊only now the 3 and almost 2 year old are quite the busybodies.
Such a great speaker thank you!
Such a wonderful video, it was beautifully put, everything! Made this hormonal mama tear up several times, not gonna lie 🥰💛
So glad!
Im 12 weeks pregnant baby #2 😊Thank you so much, very helpful video .
I was going through a difficult time wanting to hear other pregnant mama’s stories but ultimately it was causing me more depression and when I found your video I realized it was exactly what I wanted to hear, I am pregnant with my second child and they will be 17 months apart. Thank you for your time I would love to hear more videos from you.
Congratulations and I'm so thankful it was helpful to you. :)
How are you doing now? How did it go?
All I have to say is, thank you for this! You made a difference in my life today. :)
I'm so glad to hear that. :)
Thank you for this video I've got my second on the way 🫂 very happy 😊
I appreciate this so much. ❤️
Thank you, I really needed to hear this ❤You are very encouraging.
You're welcome. :)
What an amazing video ♥️!! Thank you so much for sharing🙏🏼😍
Glad you enjoyed it!
My first born is exciting to meet her sibling soon. But I kept wondering how I'll do it because its hard as a solo parent. Yh your right we'll get there
Yours is the first video I’ve found that is so positive and relatable! I’m 32 weeks pregnant with my 2nd kiddo and I really needed to hear these words today. Thank you 🥰
I'm so glad!
My husband and I have just started trying for number 2 and my baby is 9 months now. I'm so nervous but I know we will adjust. Thanks for this great video
You're welcome!
Thank you for this video! So helpful 💙💙💙
You're so welcome!
This answered most of my questions which I had now that I am going to be a mother for second time. I was really nervous. I still am but this video is reassuring. Thanks and lots of love ❤️
I'm so glad!
I really needed this. 🥰
Thank you so much for this video. My oldest is 2 years old and my youngest is 4 months
It was such a relief watching this video ❤️
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much. You helped me this morning. More than you could ever imagine.
You're very welcome.
Thank you for this
I'm so glad!
The video i needed 😢❤ thank u
You're so welcome.
Thank you, that's reassuring! I have a 21 month old son and we're hoping to have 2. baby soon
You've got this!
Wow Thankyou soo much for this video ❤
My pleasure 😊
Am feeling better watching this 😍. MY daughter will be 2 on February 28 & the new baby is due in march 3rd or 10th of 2022.
You got this!
Thank you so much for making this video❤
You are so welcome!
You made my day! THANK YOU 💚
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much for this. I’m expecting my second child in a few weeks, and most of my pregnancy was filled with fear and anxiety. Your words are really encouraging and so needed. Thank you.
I'm SO glad to know this!
I put the baby down and I am going to take a shower! I have 2 children, a newborn and a 3 year old. At least twice now I have been missing my older one as we don't spend that much time together now. Thank you for this video, it is good to hear that from another mum. :-)
Thank you very encouraging video! I am also newly pregnant 3 weeks with a my 9 months old daughter 🤍
Congratulations!
As a dad i looked this up and making sure my wife and I can do this!
This video is perfect! :) Thankyou
You're so welcome. :)
Very nice video. Im waiting a second boy. Was so much hoping for girl thar we are even considering to try the third time😊
You're basically a house plant😂😂 I loved this video. It was realistic and honest and also reassuring! New subscriber here. Looking forward to watching more of your videos ♥️
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear this. 🙏❤️ I have a 2 yo and My other son is due in sept/oct my son will be 3 October 2 so they will be three years apart. I’m also going to be moving possibly around the same time. I’m going to start IV iron infusions soon, I’ve been struggling so far with my energy being so low sometimes I can’t even stand up. My house is a mess, my son is very Hugh energy lol and very defiant and it’s just very strenuous and I’m so stressed. I have been so worried about what’s going to happen and how I’m physically going to handle it. I’m starting to try and accept it all and roll with it, but it’s very difficult to maintain a positive attitude and hope.
You can do it mama! Day by day you'll get there. Congratulations on your newest babe.
I believe this video just changed my wife's opinion and perspective on having a second child!!!!! Thank you.
Thank you soo much for this!!!
You're welcome!
Thank you for this video
Thanks a million for this video. Just what I needed as I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant with my second. My toddler is 20months and lately she’s been super clingy and needy which isn’t like her. I think she senses it probably 😅
You are so welcome!
My son is 3 and I've been struggling with the decision of having a second kid. I work as a middle school teacher, and I feel like I have so much on my plate. However, I'm already 35, so I'll have to make a decision quite soon. Your video made me cry, I think I want another one, but I'm so scared!
Praying you can find some peace about it all. :)
Great video, I only hear horror stories about having a second child. I have a toddler of a two years and half and now 28 weeks pregnant.
Looking forward to ride the journey with a positive mind.
How’s the journey so far? I’m expecting my second any day now and have a 2.5yo. I found this video because it really hit me today that I will have another baby any day and I’m panicking a little and wondering if this was a bad idea. 😅
@@savanah831 hello from the future, it’s not harder than having one baby, the new born stage is the same as with our first the only thing is that during the day you have less time to rest. But of your toddler already goes to daycare or school u have plenty of time to rest. Just try to keep the routine of the toddler so that you don’t get overwhelmed. Sometimes they both cry at the same time and I take it five mints at a time.. You are stronger than u think ❤️
Giving me some more confidence that I can do this. I'm very worried about having another child. Going from 1 to 2 is definitely going to be a challange but I feel a bit better about it now.
You can do it! :)
@@ThisHomeschoolHouse Thanks! :)
Thank you for this ❤️❤️❤️❤️
My pleasure. :)