This enraged response is severe enough to make me daydream about destroying the noise source. I mean smashing it to bits and then some. A ticking clock on a classroom wall could disturb my rational thought to the point that I could not concentrate on the lecture or a test . I had truly thought I would go mad and have to be restrained. So far, I have managed to not be arrested. Had misophonia since childhood and am now 80.
Until you said this, I'd forgotten my dad hated the sound of clocks ticking too! Once digital clocks came out, that was all that was allowed around him. I find the rhythmic ticking of clocks relaxing, almost hypnotic, but I do find whistling enraging at times to the point of wanting to destroy the source, so I understand. I don't know if I have misophonia or not. I am autistic, and I think my sound issues derive from that. My dad visited me in April of this year before passing away in May, and we had to move mom's ticking wall clock out of the room he was sleeping in for his stay here because he hated the sound so much; he was 78. I wish I could've told him there's a name for it! Please do your best to stay out of jail, and I will do the same. I'm only 53 and probably have many years left to go, and I don't want to be stuck in prison listening to guards whistling as they walk by any more than you want to be sitting there listening to the clock on their wall.
Me too you ain't alone Nothing gets me more ready to commit a felony than consistent fucking noise 🤦♂️ I lived in a "ghetto" neighborhood for decades man and working thirds My anxiety with noise makes me double hate the summer time because everyone is outside making fucking noise
My neighbors slam their front door in my apartment building and it drives me insane! Their dog used to bark at all hours, but I had to go to my landlords boss to get them to stop. They also stomp/walk really hard on the floor (I live on the lower floor). I’m hoping they move, I can’t keep complaining about them. I have to wear headphones when they’re home. At least the dog stopped barking.
Thank you for normalizing this! Misophonia is absolutely no joke, I live near a busy street and when loud vehicles and especially motorcycles go by I want to yell the most horrible violent things out my window, it makes me want to throw things, punch the wall, etc. It's horrible. Those aren't the only noises either so it really is very frustrating to deal with. I carry Loop earplugs with me everywhere so if I'm having a particularly bad day so I can pop them in and deaden any noise.
Thank you! I try to cope with this. If it helps anyone ... I eat when others eat. I also use noise cancelling headphones when it's needed. I thoroughly explained this to my husband and try to remind him of what's bothering me if he forgets (because if your not bothered by it, it's not on your mind). I make game plans to step outside at times or do something else in another room. I also try to stick it out and challenge myself to bear with it at times to try to build a resistance. I pray that a cure is discovered. I'm doing research and will come back to keep updating you all on new discoveries that I find. This condition needs to be taken seriously in the medical community. Anxiety is also something I deal with. So I didn't know I should treat this first. Thanks again for the video! I too feel validated❤!
Eating when others eat is so real!! In my school we usually have breakfast together on mondays, and then I'm always fine with others eating, since i hear my own chewing over other's, but if they eat something in class while its quiet I HATE it. But I don't want to eat cause I'm usually not hungry nor do I want to tell them cause they should be able to eat if they want to:( and sometimes I dont have my headphones with me...
I feel so validated by this video- especially the end when you discuss how the reaction is a small percentage of what the person is feeling on the inside. I have a very visceral reaction to certain sounds and I hold in so much because I don’t want to seem unreasonable (and it feels unreasonable as you discussed) but it makes me so angry and it almost hurts! Thank you for this video.
@dr.scotteilerspsydlp529 I don't ever want to 😅kill anybody, but there are certain noises especially chewing with your mouth op, n tapping fingers tapping feet and the pen thing, that absolutely drive me over the moon. If this helps you at all -when my daughter was in VPK ( which is like 3to4 yr olds preschool-), they had pictures up on the wall with a child's photo w/ what they were allergic to in Big Red Letters .if they had an allergy of course.mine did not. Being an Icu RN,I lived this idea! One day I went in for a Halloween party, & I saw my daughter's picture up there. -Emmerson.loud noises- Now she was never afraid of thunder and lightning or anything like that but we both get very annoyed with a lot of repetitive noise... 8:01 . My two cents about the baby crying is a woman's first intuition is all poor baby. After about a minute we are like why doesn't the mother take the baby outside. I feel like it bothers those of us good parents, that realize it's disturbing and for example, in a restaurant, when we had a newborn we would simply walk outside. Or the parents that let their kids scream for half an hour anywhere they are are the real triggers😂
Chewing gum like a cow😮 . Muffled music( bass) .. nothing bothers me more than sitting in a restaurant or whatever and having to listen someone else's phone- are there kid playing a video game that drives me nuts
10:28 nope.ID NEVER eat out of the bag, I put them in a bowl to avoid that one noise, and everyone knows not to chew with their mouth open. LOL. And I'd also be the one asking if you could turn the TV down
If I hear a baby crying it sends me into an internal rage. I can’t tolerate it for long before I have to move away or block my ears. Neighbours making noise, chatting in their gardens or playing music is another one that sends me into a murderous state. I have to wear headphones at home. I recently moved home because of this and bought a detached house in the countryside and it’s so peaceful now.
My father had the same reaction to a crying baby. It drove him around the bend. It enraged him. I cried a lot as a baby. G*d knows what my mother put up with. I also have misophonia; however, my triggers are vastly different.
Hey, just wanted to comment here. I have a similar thing. I don’t have misophonia tho I don’t think, but I do have ADHD. Aversion to multiple sounds or certain sounds can be linked to ADHD or Autism so worth looking into that too
@@redeye1016 Thank you for that insight, mate. I do have ADHD and suspect I may have autistic traits. I wear headphones wherever I go and can’t bear to be around crowds of people. Even in a coffee shop or restaurant.
I feel this a lot and it gets much worse depending on my mental health. The worst offenders are traffic noise, my upstairs neighbor, leaf blowers, high pitched noises or noises behind me. It makes me want to fight the whole world more than I already do. I try to harden up since I cant do much about avoiding it. I wear bass cans all the time bc tinnitus and drowning out city noise. Oddly, sirens are one of the few noises im immune to.
Chewing and crunching of food, crinkling of plastic bags, loud breathing and snoring, screaming babies and other peoples music literally enrages me and causes significant distress.
I don't know if this counts but I hate loud conversations with obnoxious laughter. Sensory overload perhaps. I am truly grateful for headphones and ear plugs.
Thank you very much for making this video. I cried at the Starbucks watching it because as you said, you are the spokesperson, let me realized that what I suffered for a long time, got a name! I felt like it was a thing, until recently, learn a bit more about it. I will share this video with my family and have more conversation to reach more mutual understanding. Thanks again!
i hate when i hear my neighbours on the other side of the wall when im in the bed (i live in apartment). not only when im trying to sleep, although thats of course extra annoying, but my bed is supposed to be the place where im safe so intrusive sounds there feel almost like an actual assault. ive also noticed this is an age thing for me, i cant remember me being so sensitive about this when i was younger but now im really bothered by noises. i often have fantasies of living somewhere nice and quiet where i only hear the noises of birds and the wind in the trees (although actually bird noises can be really annoying too sometimes haha).
I experience the same thing and now wear noise cancelling headphones with brown noise playing. I have been diagnosed with GAD and depression. 20 years ago, I don't think I would get as enraged. This noise aversion has extended to other noises besides my neighbors. Absolute rage ensues.
I wear ear plugs whenever the people upstairs are home. the stomping and dragging chairs, now they have an electric mop that vibrates my lights! Every morning at 5 am I wake up to stomping whilebwearing ear plugs. Its like an electric shock through my body when they drag chairs its bizarre.
@@Unkn0wn1133 Impact noise is the worst and very hard to cancel. I think prolonged exposure to it causes PTSD. I wish I were kidding. The hybrid active noise cancelling headphones with 432 hz brown noise( I am sure other frequencies and colored noises work,too) is the only think that worked for me. I've been using the combo for over 2 years. As for the chairs, I bought my neighbors felt chair leg covers and left a note for them. lol
My parents used to send me away from the table because I would put my hands over my ears and freak out every time someone smacked their lips or chewed loudly. I've spent my adult life wearing earbuds with my favorite music blasting loudly, so I could not hear people around me -- like children screaming, people, talking loudly, sneezing or coughing. Someone told me I had misophonia and that downing out life's sounds with music was my self-therapy.
One question for doctor-- why does the sound of my cat eating sound so cute to me? Hearing them lapping up water or crunching treats brings me joy. Yet a person making eating Or drinking sounds makes me want to punch holes in walls. Why??
@@lisabelle7553 I do love the sound of kitties nibbling on their food or lapping up water, but I am not bothered by people eating, so I don't know why. Maybe because tiny things are cute (like little nibbling sounds) but big things are annoying (like people chowing down)? I think most people are pre-programmed to protect tiny things (like babies) but not big things (like adults), and kitties are tiny things. My best guess. :) I do really hate whistling, so I get the sound irritation thing. I have it too.
I completely relate to this. Although my misophonia doesn't seem quite as bad as yours. I only remember having to leave a dinner table once, around 10 years ago, at a family Thanksgiving while 3 or 4 people at the table were slurping their soup at the same time. Most family members do not eat like animals, making those terrible eating sounds, etc, maybe because they know it bothers me, although I'm not sure if that's why. If it was constant and they always did it, I probably would also have earbuds with music playing loudly, noise canceling headphones or both!
I’ve sent a few letters to neighbors who were the cause of my distress at some point. Hammering, idling car, vibrating refrigerator, honking cars, traffic sounds, repeating or chanting words, talking girls during breaks, tapping, slurping, squealing pigs, barking dogs, etc. I thought I was just overacting. This is why I stay up till early mornings just to experience peace. But sleeping in the morning and hearing street sounds kill me every day.
I have also taken to staying up until early morning - The decrease in anxiety I feel at 3am and everything is so peaceful feels like a huge weight off my shoulders. I recently retired and I worry keeping this sleeping schedule is a bad idea
My trauma is babies crying(among others). 5yrs old taking care of 4kids on my own with absent drug parents. Now when i hear them i instantly start sweating and my stomach hurts. Im now 37yrs old. If it doesnt stop i become a monster. Someone i dont recognize. Its not good. DBT has helped me over the years. But it will never go away. I will have to retire in a child free community to be completely comfortable. Which is ok with me.
I’m 40, child free, & babies crying is by far the biggest of my misophonia triggers. When you find a child free community in which to retire, let me know because I want to come too😩
Oh my gosh, you *totally* get it! Thank you so much for making this video! I have autism and CPTSD. I have had misophonia my entire 58 years on this earth. I remember when I was a kid and young adult, all I would get from everyone is, "It's not bothering anyone else. Quit being such a whiner." These days I get comments more along the lines of, "What do you mean, there's a noise? I don't hear anything." My rage has always been directed inward, and I have to use a lot of control to keep from taking my frustration out on myself when I hear one of my trigger noises. Using that much energy on that control takes energy away from doing other things, and I end up exhausted.
I’ve suffered for decades with misophonia and had no idea it even had a name, I thought it was just me. Until I had my DNA done by 23&me to check for other things completely unrelated. My DNA results predicted that I would have misophonia. Since I’d never heard of it, I did my research and was blown away. Finally!! An explanation for what I had been suffering with my whole life. You say your not sure what causes it or where it comes from etc., but 23&me nailed it in my DNA. It fascinating to discover this and was completely unexpected. I don’t work for 23&me or have any affiliation. If people think they have misophonia I recommend getting the DNA test done. That way if you have a skeptical physician you could show actual data that it’s in your genes.
I remember becoming extremely stressed out by certain kinds of music going back to junior high school. Hearing unwanted music and sounds is its own type of pain and distress that I wouldn't wish on anyone, and I have been suffering from it almost my entire life.
I love this!! Having a misophonia is literally the most tragic thing in my life Everyday I'm finding new triggers and I'm literally trying my hardest to cut off the thought as soon as possible. But sometimes it just wouldn't work. Most of the time I feel like I'm just being too sensitive since the person who's making the noise probably don't even see it as a big problem. Or even themselves are also suffering. For example:Coughing sound I feel like knowing there is someone who understands this feeling is really helpful. SO THANK U!
coughing and the "ahem" sound people make to get rid of the mucous/phlegm in their throat is the WORST for me. it happens constantly at work, it happens going to and from work on public transport (my only option), happens going literally anywhere in public. It drives me insane, but describing it like that doesn't come close to actually describing how it feels. it is indescribable. I completely understand what you're feeling, because i suffer with the same thing every day. I hope one day there is a solution, for now, we just have to keep on going. I wish misophonia never existed, and i would not wish it upon my worst enemy
@@Camerz Hi there! After three months of my comment I'm feeling much better with my misophonia now. The way that I dealt with it is forcing myself to not escape from it everytime I hear the sounds that I hate. The kind of escape I'm saying here includes both mentally and physically. After a few months of trying to handle my misophonia I kinda found a comfortable relationship between me and my misophonia. I hope you will find it easier to live with as well. I fully understand and support you!
@@DrScottEilersIs there any visual version of misophonia? I mean same extreme reaction for certain visual details? I think misophonia or just selective oversensivity spreads around all senses. For example - imagine or try grinding teeth with a woolen sweater between jaws. So there should be nothing special about sounds here, it goes same way all across all senses. Mostly in oversensitive nervous systems which can't filter stimuli' noise peaks efficiently.
Traffic noise, overly loud car engines, leaf blowers, dogs barking, any repetitive noise, horrible pop music, sirens. All enrage me and make me wish people into the corn field! I thought it was just my defective personality.
Backup beepers. BACKUP BEEPERS! They've multiplied exponentially over just the past few years, it seems, and they are becoming inescapable no matter how far out in the boonies one goes. I just got back from a mental health solo retreat at an AirBnB in the middle of nowhere in northeast Iowa, at the end of a dead-end gravel road, where a long trek through the timber on the property led to a hard-to-find waterfall. I finally found the waterfall, which was an absolutely transcendent experience...for all of about 30 seconds, and then on the other side of the ridge, a backup beeper started blaring. My blessed bit of relief was quickly ruined, no matter how hard I tried to keep my focus on the visual beauty. 😔😭 (Fortunately, the trip overall was successful and healing.) Anyway, that accursed beeping is everywhere I go, and I can even hear it inside my house due to the endless construction and road work in my little town. I love nature and the outdoors, and that has been such good therapy for me, but it's getting to where I don't even want to do anything but stay inside with my white noise machine running pretty much 24/7. Misophonia in general makes my life miserable (snoring, tapping, screaming kids), but the backup beepers are turning it into Hell on earth. I hope and pray I can change something on my end, because the "progress" (?) of the world means more and more and more beeping will be happening in the future. With nowhere for me to run or to hide.
I was just trying to explain this feeling I get to my daughter last night! Kids playing and screaming outside or my precious grandson at 3 saying Memaw over and over and over again. I watch him everyday and by the end I can’t wait for her to get him out of my house. Love Love that you are doing these videos. Please don’t stop. Thank you
I also think to some degree this is normal. The world has gotten much, much noiser over the last 100 yrs. Our senses are constantly assaulted. Those of us with misophonia are sort of the canary in the coal mine. I think excessive noise probably negatively impacts everyone, they just don't realize it.
I agree with all you have written. I also think it's gotten much noisier over the past *10* years, even. I have really bad misophonia, but I do believe the excess noise pollution could be part of what is making the general population more and more short-tempered and rude. I also believe that if noise pollution were something we could see, like litter, we would all be trudging knee-deep in snack wrappers, beer cans, coffee cups, fast food bags, etc. It's that bad. Even in isolated rural areas.
I think what you say is true for most of the people in the comment section. Most of the comments in this video are not misophonia. For example, all humans hate barking dogs, crying babies, etc. Mainly because they are so loud, and because their noise demands attention, which we don't always want to give away. So if you live near somebody with a dog that always barks, or if you have babies around that you don't want or care for, you will be driven crazy. Same if you are trying to sleep or enjoy peace and quiet and somebody loud disturbs you. Misophonia is different. It is when people are just as enraged, but for specific trigger sounds, even when those trigger sounds are not normally hated and are not loud enough to necessarily disturb you. In other words, misophonia is defined in such a way that it is an *inappropriate* reaction to a noise. It is waaaaayyyy more strong than is rational. Misophonia is usually about chewing noises. People with misophonia - such as myself - can fly into a rage after hearing a chewing noise for just a few seconds, even if the noise is not too loud, and at an appropriate setting such as a dinner table.
@@daveg4152 modern builds IF you have the money do go for soundproofing and though older buildings were not designed with better soundproofing they usually are
Thankyu!!!!! I thought I was nuts. I have Bipolar but this makes sense to me. Crunchy chewing UH, yah and for me, I cannot tolerate the TV at all!!! I wear noise cancelling headphones all the time so my family can watch TV. I go ballistic during commercials, try so hard to keep the losing it at a minimum. Tapping, chewing, squeaking in the chair, the cat scratching her ear. Lordy it all makes me go AH QUIET, NOW!!!!! my partner is kind now and got me these headphones. Which I have to wear in public because I can't handle the noise of motors either and sometimes people chattering in the backround.. ugh. I don't go out often, but my partner thought I was being a little bit over the top with my can't handle noise. But be sees it now that noise distresses me so he got the headphones. I sent him Yur video to explain what this is and that it's real and I can't help my reactions much. Thankyu for Yur indepth explaination .
Beeping - especially the microwave and fridge when i know the person is right there in the kitchen and could stop it but leave it going. Beeping photocopier in open plan office. Chewing, gulping and plate scraping. So many things... Thank you for talking on this and for this channel, i feel a little bit less alone.
It’s not much, but seriously can’t thank you enough for this video ❤ I’ve only recently told a few friends about my experience with misophonia, which seems wild now since it’s such a huge part of my life but it’s also shameful on some level. Anywho… thank you 🙏
I have been to the point of half-wishing I was deaf, but then I would miss out on things I really want to hear. My biggest triggers are thumping bass, whispering, gum chewing, high-pitched machines and crying babies. I was the eldest of 8 kids, so you can imagine my childhood-- and then I had colicky twins. I love my twins so much and never showed anger, but sometimes we all ended up crying together lol. They both were misophonic as well, even more than me. Oh yeah, TV shows where the microphone catches every bit of spit in the actors' mouths when they speak or kiss is extremely misophonic for me! There are many more lesser triggers, but it all makes it difficult to live and stay sane sometimes.
Half-wishing you were deaf...I totally get that. At one point in my life I was deliberately exposing myself to loud music in my headphones hoping that I could lose some of my hearing. How desperate is that? I stopped doing that because I don't really want to self-harm. But it sure wasn't because my misophonia was improving--in fact, it's gotten worse. And it is very difficult to live and stay sane. My heart goes out to you, and I hope you are finding some sort of relief. Hugs!
I hate whistling, and I've often wished I'd lose a little of my hearing. I just carry ear plugs with me everywhere and keep noise cancelling headphones in my car. But yeah, it sucks.
I don't feel so alone after watching your video, thank you so much!!!! I am a highly sensitive person and I do feel the sensitivity is a big factor as well along with pstd. My main sounds are people who leave their dogs out that bark incessantly and loud mufflers/motorcycles which literally rattle my bones. Moving out of the city I feel is the best treatment for my misophonia....natural surroundings with more nature than people is my next step.
Thank you for being there. Someone understands. I have to stay in my room a lot because certain sounds will send me into anxiety if I can't remove myself soon enough. Also, I've noticed that when the sound is gone it still continues to resound in my head. It also takes time to decompress after an incident. I don't expect others to change to keep me comfortable. I own it even though it's not my fault.
The only thing i dont agree with, and hundreds of others in my miso group also do not agree with,..is exposure theraoy for miso. Its torture and not helpful to put anyone with true severe miso through that. Thank you for sharing this and making it shareable to everyone
I can't abide two (or more) sources of noise. Radio and tv both on at the same time. One dinner out had classical music piped in, jazz in the nearby lounge, and a country music band very nearby. It freaked me out, and made me nauseated. Others didn't seem to even notice that cacophony. Flight, screaming, seemed reasonable to me.
The sound of a dog barking (and I find it is more often than not a little dog rather than a big dog) literally drives me to consider horrible ways to make it stop. I love dogs. I would never hurt one…but it pushes a button in me and I either have to leave or try and block it out (noise cancelling earphones) to avoid murderous thoughts about that dog. I also tried to listen to an audiobook recently and I had to stop because I could hear the speaker’s saliva on every single word. It was too much. I never considered myself as having misophonia, just thought I was really sensitive to noise…most likely related to my ADHD… but maybe it’s misophonia 🤔
I can stop scrolling now I found your comment 😂 what you described is exactly how I feel about dogs, & the dry mouth sound where the speaker just needs to drink a little bit of water. I've come to the conclusion that what ever it takes I will find a way to conquer it as many people seems to want a dog these days but don't have the common sense decency to teach how not to be, they get a dog treat like a baby spoil it & then traumatise the neighbours with it 😢
@@clintharper5509 I understand you both so much! My parents live in an apartment and in between them both their neighbors have dogs... and these dogs bark nonstop. And I mean nonstop - if one starts barking, it triggers the other one, and they try to win that bark-contest. Needless to say, I can't stay very long out there... and I have no idea how my parents can live with this. I would go crazy. It's astounding how irresponsible some dog owners can be. Their pets are making noise in the whole building and they see nothing wrong with it.
Trigger alert: chewing (also not loud), Breathing, Snoring, pen clicking, moving feet, any movement that is repetitive a lot, noise sniffing, coughing, and many more. The feeling of hate and killing with thoughts.. the guilt feeling for having the responses.. the pain in my body.. People not (wanting) understanding it.. im tired.. i wear earplugs while eating with others.. always have them with me.. i learned to deal with it but it never gets easy.
I can't bear it when someone sneezes and then starts sniffing. I feel like offering them a tissue. My Dad used to get enraged if anyone ate an apple near him (he hated the crunching). He had Bipolar disorder btw. Other dislikes of mine which drive me crazy are: people talking loudly near me (eg in a cafe) and crockery being crashed around (in a cafe again!) as they put it away. And another thing! People vigorously blowing their nose near me. Ugh!! Snot! Thank you very much for talking about this.
My husband and I were going through the drive thru a few days ago, he was ordering and omg I couldn't handle the womans voice over the intercom. I put my headphones on at full volume playing white noise and covered my ears. I wanted to scream at her to shut up (I didnt cause, well she was just doing her job) and run out of the truck. Got so hyped up over this I cried on the way home, like wtf is wrong with me? Btw I always have headphones with me, it helps so much.
@@DrScottEilers I just had the weirdest emotional response to this comment. Almost like I was going to cry for a few seconds there. You really get it and that means a lot. Thanks.
OMG you had me at loud chewing!! I dated a guy that was always eating and the sound of him chewing anything made me crazy. He also had a deviated septum and he breathed very loudly which made me insane as well. We aren't dating anymore which is sad because he was such a great guy
Thank you SO much for this video. Anytime someone mentions exposure therapy for this, I feel they don’t understand that someone might die if I’m intentionally exposed to certain sounds 😂 But the fact that you mention how some sounds make you feel and how you’ve been able to overcome it a bit… my mind was open to it. I’ve never felt the need to SO profusely thanked anyone for a video… but I do with this one. Literally cannot thank you enough. ❤❤❤❤❤
Hearing lip smacking, toe tapping, whistling, etc. makes me want to slap people, however, hearing booming bass from car stereos makes me want to kill them. I feel enraged just thinking about them. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 50, and have had a lifelong struggle with depression.
Snoring when I’m trying to sleep, hacking up and spitting out phlegm, stomping up and down the stairs, smacking lips/chewing with mouth open, blowing the nose and all associated noises with that: flashbacks to living with my chronically ill father. It’s hard when the other person obviously cannot help it, or doesn’t seem to care.
Loud music, usually in restaurants and cafe, I have to eat outside the restaurant, even if I ask for it to be turned down, then it's up again, silence is golden.
I just wanted to say thank you so much for your help! You put the impact, of this condition into perfect perspective. I could never have described the feelings,or the way you covered every relevant aspect of it's territory ,in our lives! I also have an older son who is dealing with this. So just you know,you are helping with speaking out on all the information involved. This is the MOST INFORMATIVE video on Mesothelioma. Love you
Loud motorcycle sounds, others using their cellphones as TV and radio really puts me in rage mode. Nice to hear that I'm actually not alone on this. Thanks Doc cheers 🍻
Im so glad I found this video! I know I had MISOPHONIA since I was around 6. I had to share a room for few years with my snoring older brother. It was hell for me, I would get so enraged I would throw slippers at him in the middle of the night because I coudnt listen to snoring anymore. Since I grew up it was traffic noise since I lived on busy street and neigbours squeeking floors above me, It was also hell to the point I would text angry messages to my neighbour to try them to stop and cry at night out of desperation to not being able to ignore the noises. Since then I found a very good silicone ear plug brand and they have been my life changers for bed time. At day time if I hear some triggers I have to get earphones and just listen to my favourite music to not feel enraged. Like I saw someone say in comments, I do also think im getting worse with age. Im also on path to be diagnosed with ADHD and or Autism. Also little note: to contrary to all this I enjoy listening to ASMR noises like someone going trough newspaper or old book pages, someone cleaning up or hoovering floors in the distance, packing gift sounds, plastic bag rustling. it can be so random and it gives me nice shivers down my back! I dont know if anyone else enjoy those with misophonia, let me know as I feel like it could be connected somehow...
Best run through of Misophonia on the internet IMO. There have been several times in my life where Misophonia has fully taken my life down several pegs. It's bonkers how fully encompassing it is. Track pants and tent material swishing -- that will take me into a whole other alternate universe of rage and disgust to the point where I've vomited -- literally can make me see red and white. Ugh. I've had breathing misophonia too, and was just hell to try and rationalize it in my mind before I knew what it was. That was rough. It has eased with age for me, but it's still there -- it doesn't seem to coincide with my anxiety -- but as you mentioned it probably falls under Autism Spectrum Disorder... and I do other sensory issues. I wonder about the crossover of ASMR and Misophonia, because I experience both deeply. Something that is really odd for me is that so much ASMR for me personally is that it has to be incidental and not intentional. Pre-internet I would see out things that would trigger it -- one of the earliest videos of 'ASMR' on the internet I found many years ago was someone simply raking a small wooden spoon through some seeds, and my brain melted, and I found out that other people feel this. BUT, as time went on, and the videos and stuff online became more 'intentional' to trigger it, and more overt they are with -- it actually crosses over into Misophonia, and gives me all of the feelings of that. It's so bizare. But there are a few old school ASMR sounds and vids on the net that I listen to sometimes when Misophonia is getting to me. Thanks for this vid though, this advice is soooo solid -- and I absolutely agree with my anecdotal experience -- that this advice is stuff that helps!
Wow, that's crazy, I've been diagnosed with severe misophonia years ago when I was really young This really impacted my life in a lot of negative ways, from a lot of pain to a lot of mental health issues It's surreal that the same channel(yours) that is really helping me out a lot with s.i and a lot of other stuff I even changed my desktop to "Stack small Victories, Celebrate all victories" Thank you so, so much God bless you and your Family
I am overjoyed to have come across this video! Thank you so much! I have been experiencing this to a greatly heightened degree, after having a huge, spinal surgery, (an 8 level fusion), almost two years ago. The neurosurgeon had never had a patient who experienced this before post surgery. He explained that he had encountered many patients who had heightened sensory stimuli, such as a prickling or buzzing sensation in arms or legs, for example. Ohhhhhh, I cannot tell you how grateful I am to find someone...anyone, express exactly how this awful thing feels! At least I'm not alone. I have also had greatly increased anxiety since the surgery, as well! Thank you for providing an explaination that I can understand, and thank you so much for giving me some HOPE to improve this problem. HOPE is everything!!! Your practical ideas have allowed me to have a glimmer of hope!❤
Thank you so much for this video, I wish I knew more people with this condition, just having someone fully understand how debilitating it is actually helps a bit
I really appreciate you going so deeply into this. I have several triggers for this, and for years, i thought i was just weird or there was something wrong with me. I never told anyone I was going through this either, so I have long held in the irrational rage 😂Chewing doesn't bother me, but jaw clicking really does. In fact, my triggers are most all mouth made sounds. ASMR made by mouth noises, tongue clicking, close ear whispering, anything that causes that ASMR tingle feeling that people seem to adore. I H A T E it. It makes me feel so enraged and really uncomfortable. I've told some people who ive talked about misophonia with that if i ever look like I'm trying to stuff my shoulder into my ear in a twitchy sort of way, thats me trying to get rid of that tingly feeling and ground the rage. The way people make overly sharp "s" sounds is another one. A note about me personally would be that I've been diagnosed with PTSD (C-PTSD) and GAD with OCD features along with other mental health stuff, but my misophonia has been with me for as long as I can remember. I can't place an age where it started. Perhaps I was born with it? In more recent years, this has been exacerbated by my PTSD and overstimulation issues. I have wondered about ADHD but I've never been taken seriously when I've brought it up to my doctor. 😒 But I'm curious, do you remember an age where it seemed to start for you?
OMG, the whole mouth noise thing is my trigger. Which is ironic because I think I make those noises as well, so I tend to eat away from other people. I used to work in a call center. I had broken a nail and I started using nail clippers to get rid of the hanging broken part. About 40 ft away, on phone agent stands up and angrily says to stop clipping my nail. I ignore him and make the 2 clips needed. Next thing I know, he's standing over me, yelling for me to stop it. Not sure how he could hear the clicks in that noisy environment, but I now realize he must have had misophonia.
@wolfe6220 it's amazing the things we realize way after the fact! There was a guy that used to pick on me in 7th grade and he would get so frustrated if I would get the sniffles in class. I don't know if he had misophonia or not, but the sniffles trigger is an unfortunate one to have, especially during allergy season. He'd hate me more now since I have chronic rhinitis and am always dealing with allergy issues 🤧🤣 but I had a few people in school who would click their mouths just to occupy the silence and they'd always do it more if you asked them to stop. I hated it then, but now? Even if someone makes only a couple of clicks, I'm ready to smash a desk. The clipping sound of nails is a new one for me! I wonder if anyone around me has ever had that and never said anything. I'm sorry you got yelled at over it though. That's never fun.
I think I’ve gotten a little better since switching up my whole life (including a lot more walking daily), but yeah it sucks that normal everyday noises can send me into an internal fit. At my most mentally ill (in adulthood), a lawnmower in the middle of the afternoon set me off enough to start sobbing angrily. The noise was always bothersome but that was extreme, even for me. I wanted to explode the lawnmower with my mind. It’s really awful to experience. There’s a laundry list of noises I can’t stand, and hearing anything more than thrice will also send me off that cliff. But you can’t reasonably make people stop what they’re doing just for your own sake, so I have to leave a room or create a distraction for myself when such a time arises. Nowadays I see a lot of people wearing headphones and earbuds while walking around the city. I always have my earbuds when leaving the house, too. If I can’t make the noise stop, I can lessen the blow or distract myself without imposing on other people. That’s the best I’ve got for now.
This is a really great explanation of what misophonia is. I have this too but my "trigger" noises are not the usual ones. Drizzle on a microphone held by a Weather Channel dude standing in the rain can make me want to strangle someone. It's such a subtle little sound but I have to mute the TV. And you mentioned animal noises and reminded me of what was probably my first bout with misophonia but didn't realize it back then. I used to be a vet tech and the only animal noise that drove me nuts was doberman pinschers closing their mouths...lol. Most dogs don't make any sound when they lick their lips but ALL dobies do this thing where they loudly chomp down on their molars after they lick their lips. Only dobies....crazy, eh? But you can munch on chips all night long and I'm ok. What the sounds feel like is a personal threat. Perfect description.
I have just found you today. I've listened to about 4 of your videos and will listen to the rest. I'm relieved to know, my 'sickness' is NOT 'made up'. ThANK you forever more!
It wasn’t until around 5 years ago that I realised I have a mild/moderate case of this. For most my life I never understood how - as a mostly patient and tolerant person - the sound of chewing, drinking and all sounds mostly made while eating and drinking - would make me so enraged I would have to leave places and people to escape the noise. My mum and sister also have very milder symptoms and all relate to mouth/eating sounds also. I did some research and found that there is an association of strong connection with the people who you are more intolerant of with this. For example, I have worked in healthcare most of my career and can work/live/tolerate all these sounds from patients - in fact I would go as far to say they don’t bother me, however if my partner chews to quickly, I consider breaking up with him. Insane! 😊
Thank you. I thought it was just me being neurotic. I can’t listen to someone eat a banana. I had to leave my job because the person opposite used to eat everything loudly with her mouth open. It went; sandwiches, crisps, banana, then chewing gum. I used to have to go and sit in the toilets and have someone text me when she’d finished. I left my job before I killled her. She accused me of bullying…. It was an impossible situation. I have millions of examples. I see to think I was a psychopath!
Anyone else afraid to read all the comments about what sounds people hate for fear that you might start noticing those and develop a hate for additional sounds? 😂 The beginning of the video made me nervous… thankfully he didn’t describe too many of them!
Omg yes! I actually have spent months tentatively typing in "how to cope with misophonia" only to click off immediately because just the thought of the triggers, triggers me! My poor (but infuriating) lovely partner who I love so much but absolutely hate when he's eating, just can't comprehend how debilitating this condition is. I've resigned from decent jobs because of it 😢
You are completely right. I especially appreciate the part where you say that other people are only seeing 5-10% of our actual internal reaction. For me it's the sounds slurping squishy squashy sloppy eating. People eating or chewing gum with their mouths wide open. Some people even make these sounds chewing with their mouths closed. At times it is extremely infuriating to me. This has bothered me I think pretty much my whole life, I don't recall it ever not bothering me but maybe when I was very young. There are times when I can tolerate it, times when I point it out to people and ask them to stop and other times I snap a bit. Even when I snap, it's only a small fraction of how I am actually feeling. I understand that it's a problem with me.... but at the same time, damn, they are so disgusting & rude! That's how it feels. I kind of doubt it's caused by anxiety, but I do think that anxiety/stress can amplify it because there are times if I'm a bit stressed where the sounds really bother me even more. But other times I tolerate them. I've thought about giving myself some sort of exposure therapy watching some of the people who eat on youtube... some are terribly disgusting in how they sound, but if I could get used to that it would probably help me. I just know I would hate it. A week ago I sat down to watch a 3 hour movie with someone... they grabbed a handful of hard candies and began slurping on a candy in their mouth over and over quite loudly. No way in hell I was going to sit through 3 hours of that sound torture and I know it was also going to interfere in me being to follow a lot of the dialog of the movie. I snapped a bit, told them no way I could sit here for 3 hours listening to them slurping on candy, so they needed to finish that candy and stop slurping after that. That was around 4 minutes into the movie and ended up not watching any more of the movie together, I watched it alone a few days later.
In 2012 I did the “ 23 and Me “ genetic and ancestry test and interestingly, misophonia was a random thing that popped up in my results. It indicated that based on my genes I had “a higher than likely chance of experiencing misophonia”. In my case, this is accurate, although I don’t feel enraged by certain sounds. I would describe it as agitated by certain sounds. My noise cancelling AirPods are very helpful at times.
I just sent this to some of my kids...I know they didn't really take my reaction to certain noises (like, rattling of a cellophane bag) seriously. Triggers a very physical response..and I feel bad, but I literally can't help it..its like I have to make it stop, no matter what.
I have CPTSD and experience misophonia and what I have noticed is it is the worst when I am disregulated. Sometimes I get disregulated just from more than one person talking at the same time. Or if multiple sounds are competing for my attention I experience this crazy internal rage. When I was younger I just cried quietly and tried to hide it. As I've gotten older I have gotten better at regulating my nervous system so now when I have a misophonia moment I can usually just leave the room for a bathroom break to get my mojo back.
It's not just the sound for me, it's the movement of the mouth too, I can have my earbuds in but if I see my cat licking, I will get enraged, if I see someone chewing, I get enraged
I’m new to this - the name of the condition that is, not new to the ‘feeling’. You do a good job of explaining it - ‘auditory assault’ is exactly how it feels. I work in an office and the keyboard sounds cause me to be in stress (feel under attack) a lot of the day - it’s exhausting.
Next to the definition of Misophonia is a picture of me. 57 years of it. I've tried my best to deal with it. Usually leaving or moving away from the sound. My wife knows.
Sounds are driving me nuts right now and as a side note I am autistic as well. Anyway…dogs barking, the stupid whistling type noise out of the factory across the street, cars, gravel crunching, people talking, lawnmowers, construction, the refrigerator running, the mini split running….basically everything. It is so so bad and so is my anxiety, depression, and stress. I feel so trapped and want to run away to get away from it all. I get annoyed but not wanting to fight.
Thanks for the video. I kept wondering what was wrong with me. I find it so hard to concentrate at work because people in the office make noises that are so irritating! I really struggle and end up taking work home to do so I don't fall behind. Yet I have no problem concentrating at home and can work or study all day. So my concentration isnt the problem, its noises!
I have had misophonia for almost 50 years. I am also Autistic. The way you are describing it is actually understating it! 😂 I am q mental serial killer because of my misophonia and sensory processing disorder. I am not even joking. I'm just glad we can't get arrested for mentally killing people. I al triggered by breathing. It's horrifying. I don't think it's anxiety driven for me. In fact, I am sure it's not. Exposure therapy doesn't work for me either. I think my misophonia is actually neurological, not psychological. I am also an athlete but it has no effect on my misophonia. I definitely relate to sensory assault. My childhood was a torturous nightmare with my family because no one had ever heard of it back then. You said it right when you said we downplay our reaction. We are the most self controlled people on the planet
Mine is hearing the humming sound of my downstairs neighbours tumble dryer, which she usually has on for 4 hours at a time 😑 I literally feel like i want to jump out of the window as there is no escape from the sound in my home! I am so glad im not alone with this as i thought i was just a horrible, bad person for feeling such intense anger to certain sounds!
This is so validating, the way i have dealt with the sound of eating is if I am eating at the same time i can often stop thinking about the noise. I have had problems with listening to breathing at times, it happened with romantic partners who were unhealthy for me.
My thing is the breakroom at work. I go out of my way to try to get in and out before certain coworkers get there. None of them have the common courtesy to use earbuds!!! No one wants to hear this one guy talking at the top of his lungs on his phone, the other asshole will come into a perfectly quiet room (we unfortunately have a TV in it) and the SECOND she walks in the TV has to go on at top volume. She never bothers to ask whether anyone else actually WANTS it on. Considering there's like 10 people already in the room and it ISN'T on might clue her in, but... There's a few others that make my muscles tighten up the second I see them. Please, people, earbuds were invented for a reason! The only way I can cope is the minute they walk in the room is to take off and spend the rest of my break in my car, and it pisses me off because why should I have to leave because these people are being noisy and rude??
I have misophonia when it comes to people having the sound on their phone for notifications etc, the reason I get so angry is because of the sheer DISRESPECT that they think it's acceptable to disturb other people with their obnoxious sound pollution, it's completely rude and inconsiderate. I also had it when my neighbour thought it was cool to have a wind chime in their garden, I did not agree to be subjected to that, thank you very much!
I dont think this is technically misophonia but I'm a nurse and frequently at the end of a shift I'm done. Listening to IV pumps beeping, monitors beeping, bed alarms going off, you get the idea. The noise is very cumulative in its effect. Friends will invite me over and I just cant go cause I cant tolerate listening to anymore talking. Podcasts? Generally not a fan.
You may be a highly sensitive person. External stimuli can take their toll by the end of the day and you need to retreat and be alone to recharge your batteries. It can be very draining.
Why I got out of nursing years and years ago... Just couldn't take it anymore. But like Dr Scott said I now feel it's due to my generalized and social anxiety. I now find everything annoying and have become a recluse which is killing me.
That's completely understandable. Also everyone is on their cell phones so they are not only talking but likely watching a stupid Tok Tok video or multiple pings from emails,text messages,etc. it can be insanely overwhelming.
I have this! 🤣 Can't stand footsteps, whistling, throat clearing, coughing, sniffing. Even visual stuff like somebody waving their foot. It makes me switch seats on the bus. I genuinely want to thump the poor soul who's just innocently doing a normal thing.I suffer with anxiety.
Chronic depression/ cptsd /stress will lead to mental exhaustion and will heighten your body sensitivity which can result in things like chronic pain or a constant itching rash or what I have is a general body sensitivity like feeling a grain of sand in my shoe and always hurting my fingertips on hard objects like when opening packaged food. When a human has a pain reaction from the sound of people eating but not when a beloved pet eats or drinks, I can't help but wonder whether it is a verrrry hard suppressed anger/conflict with some key person in their life and a general issue with boundaries, enmeshment, entanglement, and all that toxic stuff which is enough to drive anyone crazy but when brought up in it it is like the frog in the pan with cold water on a low fire, it does not sense the danger of the water slowly coming to a fatal boil. Thank goodness for active noise cancelling technology, I bet I would have developed a serious xanax habit by now if it wasn't for the peace and quiet that technology offers me, and I'm lucky to be in the position to afford it.
My misophonia towards coughing (ESPECIALLY if it's loud) is so bad that I literally self harmed yesterday. Sometimes it worsens my passive suicidal ideation. I have been struggling with this for a full decade now, but I believe in the law of attraction so I'm listening to subliminals to get rid of it. I make subliminals myself so I'll probably make one to cure misophonia.
Snoring is a real trigger, just like screaming children, they always scream, why? Motorcycles. I just hate the sound. It makes me agressive. The snoring of my partner ended up in separation. I must admit I was horrible. I need my 8 hours of sleep to be able to function normally. Snoring and lack of sleep because of it, is a disaster for me and for my surroundings. I hate it for being that way. It's the reason why I'm not engaging in a relationship. It just doesn't work. I'm glad you bring this issue up. I recognize wishing people to die when making certain noises. It's awful to think like that, I know.
Thanks for this video. It was really helpful. I wondered if you could help and clarify something, it may need a different video. I have ADHD. Aversion to multiple sounds or loud sounds. I am potentially borderline on the autistic spectrum but this one is just based on online tests (and my dad who is autistic) and nothing formally diagnosed so I wouldn’t take that as fact. Do we know how to ascertain the difference between ADHD, Autism symptoms and Misophonia? Edited to say: chewing doesn’t bother me. Don’t like it but it’s fine. Background noise or unexpected loud noise (fireworks for example) does massively.
Loud rap music, popping gum, coughing, sniffing, grunting, chewing, crunching. I work in a dr office, typing. I don't know how I haven't jumped off a roof.
Actually I saw a parody of what it was like to have Misophonia somewhere on RUclips. It was hilarious! Obviously put together by someone who definately has the disorder. The woman finally snaps and ends up strangling the person doing the chewing at the table. I can relate.
One of mine is the crinkling noise that cellophane and chip bags make. It used to doubly irritate me to no end when people started deciding it was appropriate (?) to bring snacks to the library (!!!) and eat them while sitting in the computer commons or the study desks. People breathing very loudly is another, especially through their mouths. Maybe they can't help it, but I sometimes have wished they would stifle the rest of the way. I'm occasionally overly sensitive to noise in general and I know it, but don't know specifically in my case what causes it since it's not all the time, though when it happens, it's maddening.
Hey Doc, I've found your stuff helpful. That it's your proffesion and personal experience lends huge credibility. How about some success stories you've experienced with clients? Thank you
Whispering. Other things, too, of course. Also, sometimes i have to create a vision shield with my hand so that i can't SEE the thing making the sound! When i do that, i can press my thumb on my ear to block sound.
Great content my triggers are roosters crowing and snoring dogs and yes rage is huge, for a long time I thought I was over sensitive but I know it goes deeper, earplugs whilst sleeping has helped but I can hear them through it from 10pm until I leave for work, hatred is a strong word but I absolutely hate them
It seems to me that most sounds that bother me (eating, clipping fingernails, etc, etc) are the sounds produced by humans. Well, pets cleaning themselves too, but mostly human sounds that in my mind are preventable. The sound and texture of me digging in my purse for stuff drives me crazy too. I don't mind dining out with people if there is background music or if it's a noisy restaurant. I've had this as far back as I can remember. I sure wish I didn't.
The annoying door slammers moved in next to me (3 floors house), I talked to the husband nicely about his son 3rd floor, where I’m mostly at, thought it was done, but 1 week later I heard his whinny wife complained about me not tolerating her son but they tolerate my loud autistic sister who lives 2nd floor. I hate their noises ever since then, I don’t make noises and slam doors, they’re the ones that moved in, yet I’m expected to treat her adult son just like my loud autistic sister, she and her daughter slam doors too even after a year so I guarantee they’ll still slam doors even if my sister never exists, she and her daughter throws stuff multiple times during shower over 70db and during 4am. Once I kicked the wall multiple times and she dared to yell back and slam door (there’s another neighbor next to them) God I really hate them
Wow, i didn’t know this was a real thing … other my thoughts of killing the person in the next cubicle at the office, when she slowly ate something from the vending machine. Not only the eating noises, but more so the constant crinkling of the wrapper. Lol
On a road trip to a concert about 3 hours away from home and the venue, I physically pulled a guy out of my vehicle and left him stranded because he would not stop smacking his gum.
This enraged response is severe enough to make me daydream about destroying the noise source. I mean smashing it to bits and then some. A ticking clock on a classroom wall could disturb my rational thought to the point that I could not concentrate on the lecture or a test . I had truly thought I would go mad and have to be restrained. So far, I have managed to not be arrested. Had misophonia since childhood and am now 80.
Until you said this, I'd forgotten my dad hated the sound of clocks ticking too! Once digital clocks came out, that was all that was allowed around him. I find the rhythmic ticking of clocks relaxing, almost hypnotic, but I do find whistling enraging at times to the point of wanting to destroy the source, so I understand. I don't know if I have misophonia or not. I am autistic, and I think my sound issues derive from that.
My dad visited me in April of this year before passing away in May, and we had to move mom's ticking wall clock out of the room he was sleeping in for his stay here because he hated the sound so much; he was 78. I wish I could've told him there's a name for it! Please do your best to stay out of jail, and I will do the same. I'm only 53 and probably have many years left to go, and I don't want to be stuck in prison listening to guards whistling as they walk by any more than you want to be sitting there listening to the clock on their wall.
What did u do to distract ,
Me too you ain't alone
Nothing gets me more ready to commit a felony than consistent fucking noise 🤦♂️ I lived in a "ghetto" neighborhood for decades man and working thirds
My anxiety with noise makes me double hate the summer time because everyone is outside making fucking noise
So grateful to hear about this! Dogs barking and door slamming causes rage!
My neighbors slam their front door in my apartment building and it drives me insane! Their dog used to bark at all hours, but I had to go to my landlords boss to get them to stop. They also stomp/walk really hard on the floor (I live on the lower floor). I’m hoping they move, I can’t keep complaining about them. I have to wear headphones when they’re home. At least the dog stopped barking.
That's completely understandable!
Thank you for normalizing this! Misophonia is absolutely no joke, I live near a busy street and when loud vehicles and especially motorcycles go by I want to yell the most horrible violent things out my window, it makes me want to throw things, punch the wall, etc. It's horrible. Those aren't the only noises either so it really is very frustrating to deal with. I carry Loop earplugs with me everywhere so if I'm having a particularly bad day so I can pop them in and deaden any noise.
Thank you! I try to cope with this. If it helps anyone ... I eat when others eat. I also use noise cancelling headphones when it's needed. I thoroughly explained this to my husband and try to remind him of what's bothering me if he forgets (because if your not bothered by it, it's not on your mind). I make game plans to step outside at times or do something else in another room. I also try to stick it out and challenge myself to bear with it at times to try to build a resistance. I pray that a cure is discovered. I'm doing research and will come back to keep updating you all on new discoveries that I find. This condition needs to be taken seriously in the medical community. Anxiety is also something I deal with. So I didn't know I should treat this first. Thanks again for the video! I too feel validated❤!
He said exercise helps with misophonia, you tried it?
Eating when others eat is so real!! In my school we usually have breakfast together on mondays, and then I'm always fine with others eating, since i hear my own chewing over other's, but if they eat something in class while its quiet I HATE it. But I don't want to eat cause I'm usually not hungry nor do I want to tell them cause they should be able to eat if they want to:( and sometimes I dont have my headphones with me...
I have used noise-canceling headphones too-really helpful for me!
I feel so validated by this video- especially the end when you discuss how the reaction is a small percentage of what the person is feeling on the inside. I have a very visceral reaction to certain sounds and I hold in so much because I don’t want to seem unreasonable (and it feels unreasonable as you discussed) but it makes me so angry and it almost hurts! Thank you for this video.
I’m glad it was helpful!
@dr.scotteilerspsydlp529 I don't ever want to 😅kill anybody, but there are certain noises especially chewing with your mouth op, n tapping fingers tapping feet and the pen thing, that absolutely drive me over the moon. If this helps you at all -when my daughter was in VPK ( which is like 3to4 yr olds preschool-), they had pictures up on the wall with a child's photo w/ what they were allergic to in Big Red Letters .if they had an allergy of course.mine did not. Being an Icu RN,I lived this idea! One day I went in for a Halloween party, & I saw my daughter's picture up there. -Emmerson.loud noises-
Now she was never afraid of thunder and lightning or anything like that but we both get very annoyed with a lot of repetitive noise... 8:01 . My two cents about the baby crying is a woman's first intuition is all poor baby. After about a minute we are like why doesn't the mother take the baby outside. I feel like it bothers those of us good parents, that realize it's disturbing and for example, in a restaurant, when we had a newborn we would simply walk outside. Or the parents that let their kids scream for half an hour anywhere they are are the real triggers😂
Chewing gum like a cow😮 . Muffled music( bass) .. nothing bothers me more than sitting in a restaurant or whatever and having to listen someone else's phone- are there kid playing a video game that drives me nuts
10:28 nope.ID NEVER eat out of the bag, I put them in a bowl to avoid that one noise, and everyone knows not to chew with their mouth open. LOL. And I'd also be the one asking if you could turn the TV down
Hollywood movies have horrible soundtracks for the most part, I can’t watch a movie because of the ugly noises and music.
I often think people who enjoy watching and listening to people eating (like ASMR mukbang videos) must be psychopaths.
Hahaha… I nearly smashed my laptop when I had to know what ASMR was all about! Sorry, but those people are sicker than I am!
They are psychopaths!!!
I wonder if there is something in that - it’s like the opposite - I wonder if the same parts of the brain are in play. 🤔
This. Right. Here.
Me, who listens to loud chaotic asmr to fall asleep every night: 👀
If I hear a baby crying it sends me into an internal rage. I can’t tolerate it for long before I have to move away or block my ears.
Neighbours making noise, chatting in their gardens or playing music is another one that sends me into a murderous state.
I have to wear headphones at home. I recently moved home because of this and bought a detached house in the countryside and it’s so peaceful now.
Same. People are soooo annoying 😝
My father had the same reaction to a crying baby. It drove him around the bend. It enraged him. I cried a lot as a baby. G*d knows what my mother put up with. I also have misophonia; however, my triggers are vastly different.
Hey, just wanted to comment here. I have a similar thing. I don’t have misophonia tho I don’t think, but I do have ADHD. Aversion to multiple sounds or certain sounds can be linked to ADHD or Autism so worth looking into that too
@@redeye1016 Thank you for that insight, mate. I do have ADHD and suspect I may have autistic traits. I wear headphones wherever I go and can’t bear to be around crowds of people. Even in a coffee shop or restaurant.
Same here, noisy neighbours and hoping to move house soon to detached in the countryside, really can't wait! 😆
I feel this a lot and it gets much worse depending on my mental health. The worst offenders are traffic noise, my upstairs neighbor, leaf blowers, high pitched noises or noises behind me. It makes me want to fight the whole world more than I already do. I try to harden up since I cant do much about avoiding it. I wear bass cans all the time bc tinnitus and drowning out city noise. Oddly, sirens are one of the few noises im immune to.
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What's bass cans and bc tinnitus?I will like to try them...
@@shilpalakdawala8440 over ear headphones
Because tinnitus
Wow!!! Everything you mentioned are me to a "T". But also including sirens. Also including bright lights like police 🚨 lights at night.
It's a noisy world.
Chewing and crunching of food, crinkling of plastic bags, loud breathing and snoring, screaming babies and other peoples music literally enrages me and causes significant distress.
I don't know if this counts but I hate loud conversations with obnoxious laughter. Sensory overload perhaps. I am truly grateful for headphones and ear plugs.
My daughter hates that too ❤️
Me too, and this was huge issue as a child and I think they thought I would grow out of it ☹️
@@DrScottEilersI’m glad she has a family that understands !
In my last apartment I lived with my earplugs and headphones ALL the time. I now can't escape the noise. 😥
This would be my coworkers, ugh!
Thank you very much for making this video. I cried at the Starbucks watching it because as you said, you are the spokesperson, let me realized that what I suffered for a long time, got a name! I felt like it was a thing, until recently, learn a bit more about it. I will share this video with my family and have more conversation to reach more mutual understanding. Thanks again!
i hate when i hear my neighbours on the other side of the wall when im in the bed (i live in apartment). not only when im trying to sleep, although thats of course extra annoying, but my bed is supposed to be the place where im safe so intrusive sounds there feel almost like an actual assault.
ive also noticed this is an age thing for me, i cant remember me being so sensitive about this when i was younger but now im really bothered by noises. i often have fantasies of living somewhere nice and quiet where i only hear the noises of birds and the wind in the trees (although actually bird noises can be really annoying too sometimes haha).
I experience the same thing and now wear noise cancelling headphones with brown noise playing. I have been diagnosed with GAD and depression. 20 years ago, I don't think I would get as enraged. This noise aversion has extended to other noises besides my neighbors. Absolute rage ensues.
I wear ear plugs whenever the people upstairs are home. the stomping and dragging chairs, now they have an electric mop that vibrates my lights! Every morning at 5 am I wake up to stomping whilebwearing ear plugs. Its like an electric shock through my body when they drag chairs its bizarre.
@@Unkn0wn1133 Impact noise is the worst and very hard to cancel. I think prolonged exposure to it causes PTSD. I wish I were kidding. The hybrid active noise cancelling headphones with 432 hz brown noise( I am sure other frequencies and colored noises work,too) is the only think that worked for me. I've been using the combo for over 2 years. As for the chairs, I bought my neighbors felt chair leg covers and left a note for them. lol
Same here. it has driven me to insomnia and can't work right now. I am not sure what to do.
prob not misophonia, there. That's probably just that you want sleep.
Motorcycles and loud obnoxious cars fill me with an intense and murderous rage. 🫣
Me too. It feels like a knife into my chest !!!
Do you know if this will get away or it will be for the whole life
SAME!!! I’m so relieved, truly, that it’s not just me
ああ、それは本当にめちゃくちゃです。
Noisy world... even airplanes irritate me.
My parents used to send me away from the table because I would put my hands over my ears and freak out every time someone smacked their lips or chewed loudly. I've spent my adult life wearing earbuds with my favorite music blasting loudly, so I could not hear people around me -- like children screaming, people, talking loudly, sneezing or coughing. Someone told me I had misophonia and that downing out life's sounds with music was my self-therapy.
One question for doctor-- why does the sound of my cat eating sound so cute to me? Hearing them lapping up water or crunching treats brings me joy. Yet a person making eating Or drinking sounds makes me want to punch holes in walls. Why??
@@lisabelle7553I’ve also noticed this and wondered why
@@lisabelle7553 I do love the sound of kitties nibbling on their food or lapping up water, but I am not bothered by people eating, so I don't know why. Maybe because tiny things are cute (like little nibbling sounds) but big things are annoying (like people chowing down)? I think most people are pre-programmed to protect tiny things (like babies) but not big things (like adults), and kitties are tiny things. My best guess. :)
I do really hate whistling, so I get the sound irritation thing. I have it too.
I completely relate to this. Although my misophonia doesn't seem quite as bad as yours. I only remember having to leave a dinner table once, around 10 years ago, at a family Thanksgiving while 3 or 4 people at the table were slurping their soup at the same time. Most family members do not eat like animals, making those terrible eating sounds, etc, maybe because they know it bothers me, although I'm not sure if that's why. If it was constant and they always did it, I probably would also have earbuds with music playing loudly, noise canceling headphones or both!
@@lisabelle7553 A cow eating like a cow does not bother me. But a person eating like a cow infuriates me.
I’ve sent a few letters to neighbors who were the cause of my distress at some point. Hammering, idling car, vibrating refrigerator, honking cars, traffic sounds, repeating or chanting words, talking girls during breaks, tapping, slurping, squealing pigs, barking dogs, etc. I thought I was just overacting. This is why I stay up till early mornings just to experience peace. But sleeping in the morning and hearing street sounds kill me every day.
I have also taken to staying up until early morning - The decrease in anxiety I feel at 3am and everything is so peaceful feels like a huge weight off my shoulders.
I recently retired and I worry keeping this sleeping schedule is a bad idea
My trauma is babies crying(among others). 5yrs old taking care of 4kids on my own with absent drug parents. Now when i hear them i instantly start sweating and my stomach hurts. Im now 37yrs old. If it doesnt stop i become a monster. Someone i dont recognize. Its not good. DBT has helped me over the years. But it will never go away. I will have to retire in a child free community to be completely comfortable. Which is ok with me.
I’m 40, child free, & babies crying is by far the biggest of my misophonia triggers. When you find a child free community in which to retire, let me know because I want to come too😩
Oh my gosh, you *totally* get it! Thank you so much for making this video! I have autism and CPTSD. I have had misophonia my entire 58 years on this earth. I remember when I was a kid and young adult, all I would get from everyone is, "It's not bothering anyone else. Quit being such a whiner." These days I get comments more along the lines of, "What do you mean, there's a noise? I don't hear anything."
My rage has always been directed inward, and I have to use a lot of control to keep from taking my frustration out on myself when I hear one of my trigger noises. Using that much energy on that control takes energy away from doing other things, and I end up exhausted.
I’ve suffered for decades with misophonia and had no idea it even had a name, I thought it was just me. Until I had my DNA done by 23&me to check for other things completely unrelated. My DNA results predicted that I would have misophonia. Since I’d never heard of it, I did my research and was blown away. Finally!! An explanation for what I had been suffering with my whole life. You say your not sure what causes it or where it comes from etc., but 23&me nailed it in my DNA. It fascinating to discover this and was completely unexpected. I don’t work for 23&me or have any affiliation. If people think they have misophonia I recommend getting the DNA test done. That way if you have a skeptical physician you could show actual data that it’s in your genes.
This is the BEST video about misophonia!! Thank you so very very much🙏🙏🙏🤩
I remember becoming extremely stressed out by certain kinds of music going back to junior high school. Hearing unwanted music and sounds is its own type of pain and distress that I wouldn't wish on anyone, and I have been suffering from it almost my entire life.
I panic whenever I hear love songs.
I love this!!
Having a misophonia is literally the most tragic thing in my life
Everyday I'm finding new triggers and I'm literally trying my hardest to cut off the thought as soon as possible.
But sometimes it just wouldn't work.
Most of the time I feel like I'm just being too sensitive since the person who's making the noise probably don't even see it as a big problem.
Or even themselves are also suffering.
For example:Coughing sound
I feel like knowing there is someone who understands this feeling is really helpful.
SO THANK U!
It sucks I know
coughing and the "ahem" sound people make to get rid of the mucous/phlegm in their throat is the WORST for me. it happens constantly at work, it happens going to and from work on public transport (my only option), happens going literally anywhere in public. It drives me insane, but describing it like that doesn't come close to actually describing how it feels. it is indescribable. I completely understand what you're feeling, because i suffer with the same thing every day. I hope one day there is a solution, for now, we just have to keep on going. I wish misophonia never existed, and i would not wish it upon my worst enemy
@@Camerz Hi there! After three months of my comment I'm feeling much better with my misophonia now.
The way that I dealt with it is forcing myself to not escape from it everytime I hear the sounds that I hate.
The kind of escape I'm saying here includes both mentally and physically.
After a few months of trying to handle my misophonia I kinda found a comfortable relationship between me and my misophonia. I hope you will find it easier to live with as well. I fully understand and support you!
@@DrScottEilersIs there any visual version of misophonia? I mean same extreme reaction for certain visual details? I think misophonia or just selective oversensivity spreads around all senses. For example - imagine or try grinding teeth with a woolen sweater between jaws. So there should be nothing special about sounds here, it goes same way all across all senses. Mostly in oversensitive nervous systems which can't filter stimuli' noise peaks efficiently.
@@norman191000 I don’t know of a specific name for it but I know many people have trouble with seeing purposeless or repetitive movements
Traffic noise, overly loud car engines, leaf blowers, dogs barking, any repetitive noise, horrible pop music, sirens. All enrage me and make me wish people into the corn field! I thought it was just my defective personality.
Most of that list applies to me, so you are certainly not alone.
Backup beepers. BACKUP BEEPERS! They've multiplied exponentially over just the past few years, it seems, and they are becoming inescapable no matter how far out in the boonies one goes. I just got back from a mental health solo retreat at an AirBnB in the middle of nowhere in northeast Iowa, at the end of a dead-end gravel road, where a long trek through the timber on the property led to a hard-to-find waterfall. I finally found the waterfall, which was an absolutely transcendent experience...for all of about 30 seconds, and then on the other side of the ridge, a backup beeper started blaring. My blessed bit of relief was quickly ruined, no matter how hard I tried to keep my focus on the visual beauty. 😔😭 (Fortunately, the trip overall was successful and healing.)
Anyway, that accursed beeping is everywhere I go, and I can even hear it inside my house due to the endless construction and road work in my little town. I love nature and the outdoors, and that has been such good therapy for me, but it's getting to where I don't even want to do anything but stay inside with my white noise machine running pretty much 24/7. Misophonia in general makes my life miserable (snoring, tapping, screaming kids), but the backup beepers are turning it into Hell on earth. I hope and pray I can change something on my end, because the "progress" (?) of the world means more and more and more beeping will be happening in the future. With nowhere for me to run or to hide.
I live across the street from a school bus garage 😢 beep, beep, beep😱
I have to limit Shopping at big box stores like Sams Club/Home Depot with constant beeping😱
I was just trying to explain this feeling I get to my daughter last night! Kids playing and screaming outside or my precious grandson at 3 saying Memaw over and over and over again. I watch him everyday and by the end I can’t wait for her to get him out of my house. Love Love that you are doing these videos. Please don’t stop. Thank you
Upstairs stomping neighbour has literally led me to absolute madness and sometimes i have to take a flask and go out in my car when Im tired.
I also think to some degree this is normal. The world has gotten much, much noiser over the last 100 yrs. Our senses are constantly assaulted. Those of us with misophonia are sort of the canary in the coal mine. I think excessive noise probably negatively impacts everyone, they just don't realize it.
I agree with all you have written. I also think it's gotten much noisier over the past *10* years, even. I have really bad misophonia, but I do believe the excess noise pollution could be part of what is making the general population more and more short-tempered and rude. I also believe that if noise pollution were something we could see, like litter, we would all be trudging knee-deep in snack wrappers, beer cans, coffee cups, fast food bags, etc. It's that bad. Even in isolated rural areas.
I think there are a lot of excuses made so that people accept it...an example new build apartments/flats seem notoriously bad for soundproofing
@@keithparker1346 buildings have never been built for soundproofing...it just happens accidentally
I think what you say is true for most of the people in the comment section. Most of the comments in this video are not misophonia. For example, all humans hate barking dogs, crying babies, etc. Mainly because they are so loud, and because their noise demands attention, which we don't always want to give away. So if you live near somebody with a dog that always barks, or if you have babies around that you don't want or care for, you will be driven crazy. Same if you are trying to sleep or enjoy peace and quiet and somebody loud disturbs you.
Misophonia is different. It is when people are just as enraged, but for specific trigger sounds, even when those trigger sounds are not normally hated and are not loud enough to necessarily disturb you.
In other words, misophonia is defined in such a way that it is an *inappropriate* reaction to a noise. It is waaaaayyyy more strong than is rational.
Misophonia is usually about chewing noises. People with misophonia - such as myself - can fly into a rage after hearing a chewing noise for just a few seconds, even if the noise is not too loud, and at an appropriate setting such as a dinner table.
@@daveg4152 modern builds IF you have the money do go for soundproofing and though older buildings were not designed with better soundproofing they usually are
Thankyu!!!!! I thought I was nuts. I have Bipolar but this makes sense to me. Crunchy chewing UH, yah and for me, I cannot tolerate the TV at all!!! I wear noise cancelling headphones all the time so my family can watch TV. I go ballistic during commercials, try so hard to keep the losing it at a minimum. Tapping, chewing, squeaking in the chair, the cat scratching her ear. Lordy it all makes me go AH QUIET, NOW!!!!! my partner is kind now and got me these headphones. Which I have to wear in public because I can't handle the noise of motors either and sometimes people chattering in the backround.. ugh. I don't go out often, but my partner thought I was being a little bit over the top with my can't handle noise. But be sees it now that noise distresses me so he got the headphones. I sent him Yur video to explain what this is and that it's real and I can't help my reactions much. Thankyu for Yur indepth explaination .
Beeping - especially the microwave and fridge when i know the person is right there in the kitchen and could stop it but leave it going. Beeping photocopier in open plan office. Chewing, gulping and plate scraping. So many things...
Thank you for talking on this and for this channel, i feel a little bit less alone.
It’s not much, but seriously can’t thank you enough for this video ❤ I’ve only recently told a few friends about my experience with misophonia, which seems wild now since it’s such a huge part of my life but it’s also shameful on some level. Anywho… thank you 🙏
It’s plenty! Thank you so much!
I have been to the point of half-wishing I was deaf, but then I would miss out on things I really want to hear. My biggest triggers are thumping bass, whispering, gum chewing, high-pitched machines and crying babies. I was the eldest of 8 kids, so you can imagine my childhood-- and then I had colicky twins. I love my twins so much and never showed anger, but sometimes we all ended up crying together lol. They both were misophonic as well, even more than me. Oh yeah, TV shows where the microphone catches every bit of spit in the actors' mouths when they speak or kiss is extremely misophonic for me! There are many more lesser triggers, but it all makes it difficult to live and stay sane sometimes.
Half-wishing you were deaf...I totally get that. At one point in my life I was deliberately exposing myself to loud music in my headphones hoping that I could lose some of my hearing. How desperate is that? I stopped doing that because I don't really want to self-harm. But it sure wasn't because my misophonia was improving--in fact, it's gotten worse. And it is very difficult to live and stay sane. My heart goes out to you, and I hope you are finding some sort of relief. Hugs!
I hate whistling, and I've often wished I'd lose a little of my hearing. I just carry ear plugs with me everywhere and keep noise cancelling headphones in my car. But yeah, it sucks.
I totally agree. It’s really hard. I’ve been dealing with it my whole life.
I don't feel so alone after watching your video, thank you so much!!!! I am a highly sensitive person and I do feel the sensitivity is a big factor as well along with pstd. My main sounds are people who leave their dogs out that bark incessantly and loud mufflers/motorcycles which literally rattle my bones. Moving out of the city I feel is the best treatment for my misophonia....natural surroundings with more nature than people is my next step.
There is no substitute for an acreage ❤️
Yes! Thank you for the confirmation 💚@@DrScottEilers
Thank you for being there. Someone understands. I have to stay in my room a lot because certain sounds will send me into anxiety if I can't remove myself soon enough. Also, I've noticed that when the sound is gone it still continues to resound in my head. It also takes time to decompress after an incident. I don't expect others to change to keep me comfortable. I own it even though it's not my fault.
The only thing i dont agree with, and hundreds of others in my miso group also do not agree with,..is exposure theraoy for miso. Its torture and not helpful to put anyone with true severe miso through that. Thank you for sharing this and making it shareable to everyone
I can't abide two (or more) sources of noise. Radio and tv both on at the same time. One dinner out had classical music piped in, jazz in the nearby lounge, and a country music band very nearby. It freaked me out, and made me nauseated. Others didn't seem to even notice that cacophony. Flight, screaming, seemed reasonable to me.
Can’t stand multiple sources of sound either.
The sound of a dog barking (and I find it is more often than not a little dog rather than a big dog) literally drives me to consider horrible ways to make it stop. I love dogs. I would never hurt one…but it pushes a button in me and I either have to leave or try and block it out (noise cancelling earphones) to avoid murderous thoughts about that dog.
I also tried to listen to an audiobook recently and I had to stop because I could hear the speaker’s saliva on every single word. It was too much. I never considered myself as having misophonia, just thought I was really sensitive to noise…most likely related to my ADHD… but maybe it’s misophonia 🤔
I can stop scrolling now I found your comment 😂 what you described is exactly how I feel about dogs, & the dry mouth sound where the speaker just needs to drink a little bit of water. I've come to the conclusion that what ever it takes I will find a way to conquer it as many people seems to want a dog these days but don't have the common sense decency to teach how not to be, they get a dog treat like a baby spoil it & then traumatise the neighbours with it 😢
@@clintharper5509 I understand you both so much! My parents live in an apartment and in between them both their neighbors have dogs... and these dogs bark nonstop. And I mean nonstop - if one starts barking, it triggers the other one, and they try to win that bark-contest. Needless to say, I can't stay very long out there... and I have no idea how my parents can live with this. I would go crazy. It's astounding how irresponsible some dog owners can be. Their pets are making noise in the whole building and they see nothing wrong with it.
I’m so happy to finally hear someone articulate this!
Trigger alert: chewing (also not loud), Breathing, Snoring, pen clicking, moving feet, any movement that is repetitive a lot, noise sniffing, coughing, and many more. The feeling of hate and killing with thoughts.. the guilt feeling for having the responses.. the pain in my body.. People not (wanting) understanding it.. im tired.. i wear earplugs while eating with others.. always have them with me.. i learned to deal with it but it never gets easy.
I can't bear it when someone sneezes and then starts sniffing. I feel like offering them a tissue. My Dad used to get enraged if anyone ate an apple near him (he hated the crunching). He had Bipolar disorder btw. Other dislikes of mine which drive me crazy are: people talking loudly near me (eg in a cafe) and crockery being crashed around (in a cafe again!) as they put it away. And another thing! People vigorously blowing their nose near me. Ugh!! Snot! Thank you very much for talking about this.
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Oh yes I’m with your Dad there. someone biting a crisp apple near me has always enraged me
My husband and I were going through the drive thru a few days ago, he was ordering and omg I couldn't handle the womans voice over the intercom. I put my headphones on at full volume playing white noise and covered my ears. I wanted to scream at her to shut up (I didnt cause, well she was just doing her job) and run out of the truck. Got so hyped up over this I cried on the way home, like wtf is wrong with me?
Btw I always have headphones with me, it helps so much.
You have a sensory sensitivity, that isn’t your fault ❤️
@@DrScottEilers I just had the weirdest emotional response to this comment. Almost like I was going to cry for a few seconds there. You really get it and that means a lot. Thanks.
Thanks, I'll send this to my older brother who doesn't believe me when I say I have misophonia. Hope he even watches it...
People eating, snoring, loud breathing and the sound of peoples heels clicking on linoleum. I get infuriated, disgusted.. it’s terrible.
OMG you had me at loud chewing!! I dated a guy that was always eating and the sound of him chewing anything made me crazy. He also had a deviated septum and he breathed very loudly which made me insane as well. We aren't dating anymore which is sad because he was such a great guy
Thank you SO much for this video. Anytime someone mentions exposure therapy for this, I feel they don’t understand that someone might die if I’m intentionally exposed to certain sounds 😂 But the fact that you mention how some sounds make you feel and how you’ve been able to overcome it a bit… my mind was open to it.
I’ve never felt the need to SO profusely thanked anyone for a video… but I do with this one. Literally cannot thank you enough. ❤❤❤❤❤
Hearing lip smacking, toe tapping, whistling, etc. makes me want to slap people, however, hearing booming bass from car stereos makes me want to kill them. I feel enraged just thinking about them. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 50, and have had a lifelong struggle with depression.
Whistling drives me crazy
Snoring when I’m trying to sleep, hacking up and spitting out phlegm, stomping up and down the stairs, smacking lips/chewing with mouth open, blowing the nose and all associated noises with that: flashbacks to living with my chronically ill father. It’s hard when the other person obviously cannot help it, or doesn’t seem to care.
Loud music, usually in restaurants and cafe, I have to eat outside the restaurant, even if I ask for it to be turned down, then it's up again, silence is golden.
I just wanted to say thank you so much for your help!
You put the impact, of this condition into perfect perspective.
I could never have described the feelings,or the way you covered every relevant aspect of it's territory ,in our lives!
I also have an older son who is dealing with this.
So just you know,you are helping with speaking out on all the information involved.
This is the MOST INFORMATIVE video on Mesothelioma.
Love you
Loud motorcycle sounds, others using their cellphones as TV and radio really puts me in rage mode. Nice to hear that I'm actually not alone on this. Thanks Doc cheers 🍻
Im so glad I found this video! I know I had MISOPHONIA since I was around 6. I had to share a room for few years with my snoring older brother. It was hell for me, I would get so enraged I would throw slippers at him in the middle of the night because I coudnt listen to snoring anymore. Since I grew up it was traffic noise since I lived on busy street and neigbours squeeking floors above me, It was also hell to the point I would text angry messages to my neighbour to try them to stop and cry at night out of desperation to not being able to ignore the noises. Since then I found a very good silicone ear plug brand and they have been my life changers for bed time. At day time if I hear some triggers I have to get earphones and just listen to my favourite music to not feel enraged. Like I saw someone say in comments, I do also think im getting worse with age. Im also on path to be diagnosed with ADHD and or Autism. Also little note: to contrary to all this I enjoy listening to ASMR noises like someone going trough newspaper or old book pages, someone cleaning up or hoovering floors in the distance, packing gift sounds, plastic bag rustling. it can be so random and it gives me nice shivers down my back! I dont know if anyone else enjoy those with misophonia, let me know as I feel like it could be connected somehow...
Best run through of Misophonia on the internet IMO. There have been several times in my life where Misophonia has fully taken my life down several pegs. It's bonkers how fully encompassing it is. Track pants and tent material swishing -- that will take me into a whole other alternate universe of rage and disgust to the point where I've vomited -- literally can make me see red and white. Ugh. I've had breathing misophonia too, and was just hell to try and rationalize it in my mind before I knew what it was. That was rough. It has eased with age for me, but it's still there -- it doesn't seem to coincide with my anxiety -- but as you mentioned it probably falls under Autism Spectrum Disorder... and I do other sensory issues.
I wonder about the crossover of ASMR and Misophonia, because I experience both deeply. Something that is really odd for me is that so much ASMR for me personally is that it has to be incidental and not intentional. Pre-internet I would see out things that would trigger it -- one of the earliest videos of 'ASMR' on the internet I found many years ago was someone simply raking a small wooden spoon through some seeds, and my brain melted, and I found out that other people feel this.
BUT, as time went on, and the videos and stuff online became more 'intentional' to trigger it, and more overt they are with -- it actually crosses over into Misophonia, and gives me all of the feelings of that. It's so bizare. But there are a few old school ASMR sounds and vids on the net that I listen to sometimes when Misophonia is getting to me.
Thanks for this vid though, this advice is soooo solid -- and I absolutely agree with my anecdotal experience -- that this advice is stuff that helps!
Wow, that's crazy, I've been diagnosed with severe misophonia years ago when I was really young
This really impacted my life in a lot of negative ways, from a lot of pain to a lot of mental health issues
It's surreal that the same channel(yours) that is really helping me out a lot with s.i and a lot of other stuff
I even changed my desktop to "Stack small Victories, Celebrate all victories"
Thank you so, so much
God bless you and your Family
I am overjoyed to have come across this video! Thank you so much! I have been experiencing this to a greatly heightened degree, after having a huge, spinal surgery, (an 8 level fusion), almost two years ago. The neurosurgeon had never had a patient who experienced this before post surgery. He explained that he had encountered many patients who had heightened sensory stimuli, such as a prickling or buzzing sensation in arms or legs, for example. Ohhhhhh, I cannot tell you how grateful I am to find someone...anyone, express exactly how this awful thing feels! At least I'm not alone. I have also had greatly increased anxiety since the surgery, as well! Thank you for providing an explaination that I can understand, and thank you so much for giving me some HOPE to improve this problem. HOPE is everything!!! Your practical ideas have allowed me to have a glimmer of hope!❤
Thank you so much for this video, I wish I knew more people with this condition, just having someone fully understand how debilitating it is actually helps a bit
I really appreciate you going so deeply into this. I have several triggers for this, and for years, i thought i was just weird or there was something wrong with me. I never told anyone I was going through this either, so I have long held in the irrational rage 😂Chewing doesn't bother me, but jaw clicking really does. In fact, my triggers are most all mouth made sounds. ASMR made by mouth noises, tongue clicking, close ear whispering, anything that causes that ASMR tingle feeling that people seem to adore. I H A T E it. It makes me feel so enraged and really uncomfortable. I've told some people who ive talked about misophonia with that if i ever look like I'm trying to stuff my shoulder into my ear in a twitchy sort of way, thats me trying to get rid of that tingly feeling and ground the rage. The way people make overly sharp "s" sounds is another one.
A note about me personally would be that I've been diagnosed with PTSD (C-PTSD) and GAD with OCD features along with other mental health stuff, but my misophonia has been with me for as long as I can remember. I can't place an age where it started. Perhaps I was born with it? In more recent years, this has been exacerbated by my PTSD and overstimulation issues. I have wondered about ADHD but I've never been taken seriously when I've brought it up to my doctor. 😒
But I'm curious, do you remember an age where it seemed to start for you?
OMG, the whole mouth noise thing is my trigger. Which is ironic because I think I make those noises as well, so I tend to eat away from other people.
I used to work in a call center. I had broken a nail and I started using nail clippers to get rid of the hanging broken part. About 40 ft away, on phone agent stands up and angrily says to stop clipping my nail. I ignore him and make the 2 clips needed. Next thing I know, he's standing over me, yelling for me to stop it. Not sure how he could hear the clicks in that noisy environment, but I now realize he must have had misophonia.
@wolfe6220 it's amazing the things we realize way after the fact! There was a guy that used to pick on me in 7th grade and he would get so frustrated if I would get the sniffles in class. I don't know if he had misophonia or not, but the sniffles trigger is an unfortunate one to have, especially during allergy season. He'd hate me more now since I have chronic rhinitis and am always dealing with allergy issues 🤧🤣 but I had a few people in school who would click their mouths just to occupy the silence and they'd always do it more if you asked them to stop. I hated it then, but now? Even if someone makes only a couple of clicks, I'm ready to smash a desk. The clipping sound of nails is a new one for me! I wonder if anyone around me has ever had that and never said anything. I'm sorry you got yelled at over it though. That's never fun.
I think I’ve gotten a little better since switching up my whole life (including a lot more walking daily), but yeah it sucks that normal everyday noises can send me into an internal fit. At my most mentally ill (in adulthood), a lawnmower in the middle of the afternoon set me off enough to start sobbing angrily. The noise was always bothersome but that was extreme, even for me. I wanted to explode the lawnmower with my mind. It’s really awful to experience.
There’s a laundry list of noises I can’t stand, and hearing anything more than thrice will also send me off that cliff. But you can’t reasonably make people stop what they’re doing just for your own sake, so I have to leave a room or create a distraction for myself when such a time arises.
Nowadays I see a lot of people wearing headphones and earbuds while walking around the city. I always have my earbuds when leaving the house, too. If I can’t make the noise stop, I can lessen the blow or distract myself without imposing on other people. That’s the best I’ve got for now.
This is a really great explanation of what misophonia is. I have this too but my "trigger" noises are not the usual ones. Drizzle on a microphone held by a Weather Channel dude standing in the rain can make me want to strangle someone. It's such a subtle little sound but I have to mute the TV. And you mentioned animal noises and reminded me of what was probably my first bout with misophonia but didn't realize it back then. I used to be a vet tech and the only animal noise that drove me nuts was doberman pinschers closing their mouths...lol. Most dogs don't make any sound when they lick their lips but ALL dobies do this thing where they loudly chomp down on their molars after they lick their lips. Only dobies....crazy, eh? But you can munch on chips all night long and I'm ok.
What the sounds feel like is a personal threat. Perfect description.
I have just found you today. I've listened to about 4 of your videos and will listen to the rest. I'm relieved to know, my 'sickness' is NOT 'made up'. ThANK you forever more!
I've had to move out of two homes i rented a room due to their damn dogs barking and door slamming
It wasn’t until around 5 years ago that I realised I have a mild/moderate case of this. For most my life I never understood how - as a mostly patient and tolerant person - the sound of chewing, drinking and all sounds mostly made while eating and drinking - would make me so enraged I would have to leave places and people to escape the noise. My mum and sister also have very milder symptoms and all relate to mouth/eating sounds also. I did some research and found that there is an association of strong connection with the people who you are more intolerant of with this. For example, I have worked in healthcare most of my career and can work/live/tolerate all these sounds from patients - in fact I would go as far to say they don’t bother me, however if my partner chews to quickly, I consider breaking up with him. Insane! 😊
Thank you. I thought it was just me being neurotic. I can’t listen to someone eat a banana. I had to leave my job because the person opposite used to eat everything loudly with her mouth open. It went; sandwiches, crisps, banana, then chewing gum. I used to have to go and sit in the toilets and have someone text me when she’d finished. I left my job before I killled her. She accused me of bullying…. It was an impossible situation. I have millions of examples. I see to think I was a psychopath!
Anyone else afraid to read all the comments about what sounds people hate for fear that you might start noticing those and develop a hate for additional sounds? 😂
The beginning of the video made me nervous… thankfully he didn’t describe too many of them!
Omg yes! I actually have spent months tentatively typing in "how to cope with misophonia" only to click off immediately because just the thought of the triggers, triggers me! My poor (but infuriating) lovely partner who I love so much but absolutely hate when he's eating, just can't comprehend how debilitating this condition is. I've resigned from decent jobs because of it 😢
Very well explained. Thank you.
You are completely right. I especially appreciate the part where you say that other people are only seeing 5-10% of our actual internal reaction. For me it's the sounds slurping squishy squashy sloppy eating. People eating or chewing gum with their mouths wide open. Some people even make these sounds chewing with their mouths closed. At times it is extremely infuriating to me. This has bothered me I think pretty much my whole life, I don't recall it ever not bothering me but maybe when I was very young. There are times when I can tolerate it, times when I point it out to people and ask them to stop and other times I snap a bit. Even when I snap, it's only a small fraction of how I am actually feeling. I understand that it's a problem with me.... but at the same time, damn, they are so disgusting & rude! That's how it feels. I kind of doubt it's caused by anxiety, but I do think that anxiety/stress can amplify it because there are times if I'm a bit stressed where the sounds really bother me even more. But other times I tolerate them. I've thought about giving myself some sort of exposure therapy watching some of the people who eat on youtube... some are terribly disgusting in how they sound, but if I could get used to that it would probably help me. I just know I would hate it. A week ago I sat down to watch a 3 hour movie with someone... they grabbed a handful of hard candies and began slurping on a candy in their mouth over and over quite loudly. No way in hell I was going to sit through 3 hours of that sound torture and I know it was also going to interfere in me being to follow a lot of the dialog of the movie. I snapped a bit, told them no way I could sit here for 3 hours listening to them slurping on candy, so they needed to finish that candy and stop slurping after that. That was around 4 minutes into the movie and ended up not watching any more of the movie together, I watched it alone a few days later.
In 2012 I did the “ 23 and Me “ genetic and ancestry test and interestingly, misophonia was a random thing that popped up in my results. It indicated that based on my genes I had “a higher than likely chance of experiencing misophonia”. In my case, this is accurate, although I don’t feel enraged by certain sounds. I would describe it as agitated by certain sounds. My noise cancelling AirPods are very helpful at times.
I just sent this to some of my kids...I know they didn't really take my reaction to certain noises (like, rattling of a cellophane bag) seriously. Triggers a very physical response..and I feel bad, but I literally can't help it..its like I have to make it stop, no matter what.
I have CPTSD and experience misophonia and what I have noticed is it is the worst when I am disregulated. Sometimes I get disregulated just from more than one person talking at the same time. Or if multiple sounds are competing for my attention I experience this crazy internal rage. When I was younger I just cried quietly and tried to hide it. As I've gotten older I have gotten better at regulating my nervous system so now when I have a misophonia moment I can usually just leave the room for a bathroom break to get my mojo back.
It's not just the sound for me, it's the movement of the mouth too, I can have my earbuds in but if I see my cat licking, I will get enraged, if I see someone chewing, I get enraged
I’m new to this - the name of the condition that is, not new to the ‘feeling’. You do a good job of explaining it - ‘auditory assault’ is exactly how it feels. I work in an office and the keyboard sounds cause me to be in stress (feel under attack) a lot of the day - it’s exhausting.
Next to the definition of Misophonia is a picture of me. 57 years of it. I've tried my best to deal with it. Usually leaving or moving away from the sound. My wife knows.
Sounds are driving me nuts right now and as a side note I am autistic as well. Anyway…dogs barking, the stupid whistling type noise out of the factory across the street, cars, gravel crunching, people talking, lawnmowers, construction, the refrigerator running, the mini split running….basically everything. It is so so bad and so is my anxiety, depression, and stress. I feel so trapped and want to run away to get away from it all. I get annoyed but not wanting to fight.
Thanks for the video. I kept wondering what was wrong with me. I find it so hard to concentrate at work because people in the office make noises that are so irritating! I really struggle and end up taking work home to do so I don't fall behind. Yet I have no problem concentrating at home and can work or study all day. So my concentration isnt the problem, its noises!
I have had misophonia for almost 50 years. I am also Autistic. The way you are describing it is actually understating it! 😂 I am q mental serial killer because of my misophonia and sensory processing disorder. I am not even joking. I'm just glad we can't get arrested for mentally killing people.
I al triggered by breathing. It's horrifying.
I don't think it's anxiety driven for me. In fact, I am sure it's not. Exposure therapy doesn't work for me either. I think my misophonia is actually neurological, not psychological. I am also an athlete but it has no effect on my misophonia.
I definitely relate to sensory assault. My childhood was a torturous nightmare with my family because no one had ever heard of it back then.
You said it right when you said we downplay our reaction. We are the most self controlled people on the planet
Mine is hearing the humming sound of my downstairs neighbours tumble dryer, which she usually has on for 4 hours at a time 😑 I literally feel like i want to jump out of the window as there is no escape from the sound in my home! I am so glad im not alone with this as i thought i was just a horrible, bad person for feeling such intense anger to certain sounds!
This is so validating, the way i have dealt with the sound of eating is if I am eating at the same time i can often stop thinking about the noise. I have had problems with listening to breathing at times, it happened with romantic partners who were unhealthy for me.
My thing is the breakroom at work. I go out of my way to try to get in and out before certain coworkers get there. None of them have the common courtesy to use earbuds!!! No one wants to hear this one guy talking at the top of his lungs on his phone, the other asshole will come into a perfectly quiet room (we unfortunately have a TV in it) and the SECOND she walks in the TV has to go on at top volume. She never bothers to ask whether anyone else actually WANTS it on. Considering there's like 10 people already in the room and it ISN'T on might clue her in, but... There's a few others that make my muscles tighten up the second I see them. Please, people, earbuds were invented for a reason! The only way I can cope is the minute they walk in the room is to take off and spend the rest of my break in my car, and it pisses me off because why should I have to leave because these people are being noisy and rude??
I feel you... Use to work at Wal-Mart. Everywhere you go even in my apartment people are so inconsiderate. I thought it was just me.
feel for you, however this is not misophonia.
I have misophonia when it comes to people having the sound on their phone for notifications etc, the reason I get so angry is because of the sheer DISRESPECT that they think it's acceptable to disturb other people with their obnoxious sound pollution, it's completely rude and inconsiderate. I also had it when my neighbour thought it was cool to have a wind chime in their garden, I did not agree to be subjected to that, thank you very much!
I dont think this is technically misophonia but I'm a nurse and frequently at the end of a shift I'm done. Listening to IV pumps beeping, monitors beeping, bed alarms going off, you get the idea. The noise is very cumulative in its effect. Friends will invite me over and I just cant go cause I cant tolerate listening to anymore talking. Podcasts? Generally not a fan.
You may be a highly sensitive person. External stimuli can take their toll by the end of the day and you need to retreat and be alone to recharge your batteries. It can be very draining.
Why I got out of nursing years and years ago... Just couldn't take it anymore. But like Dr Scott said I now feel it's due to my generalized and social anxiety. I now find everything annoying and have become a recluse which is killing me.
That's completely understandable. Also everyone is on their cell phones so they are not only talking but likely watching a stupid Tok Tok video or multiple pings from emails,text messages,etc. it can be insanely overwhelming.
I have this! 🤣 Can't stand footsteps, whistling, throat clearing, coughing, sniffing. Even visual stuff like somebody waving their foot. It makes me switch seats on the bus. I genuinely want to thump the poor soul who's just innocently doing a normal thing.I suffer with anxiety.
Thank you! This is the best - and most honest - explanation I have heard!
Chronic depression/ cptsd /stress will lead to mental exhaustion and will heighten your body sensitivity which can result in things like chronic pain or a constant itching rash or what I have is a general body sensitivity like feeling a grain of sand in my shoe and always hurting my fingertips on hard objects like when opening packaged food.
When a human has a pain reaction from the sound of people eating but not when a beloved pet eats or drinks, I can't help but wonder whether it is a verrrry hard suppressed anger/conflict with some key person in their life and a general issue with boundaries, enmeshment, entanglement, and all that toxic stuff which is enough to drive anyone crazy but when brought up in it it is like the frog in the pan with cold water on a low fire, it does not sense the danger of the water slowly coming to a fatal boil.
Thank goodness for active noise cancelling technology, I bet I would have developed a serious xanax habit by now if it wasn't for the peace and quiet that technology offers me, and I'm lucky to be in the position to afford it.
My misophonia towards coughing (ESPECIALLY if it's loud) is so bad that I literally self harmed yesterday. Sometimes it worsens my passive suicidal ideation. I have been struggling with this for a full decade now, but I believe in the law of attraction so I'm listening to subliminals to get rid of it. I make subliminals myself so I'll probably make one to cure misophonia.
Now this was verry interesting, I am so glad to know what that is, thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Snoring is a real trigger, just like screaming children, they always scream, why? Motorcycles. I just hate the sound. It makes me agressive.
The snoring of my partner ended up in separation. I must admit I was horrible. I need my 8 hours of sleep to be able to function normally. Snoring and lack of sleep because of it, is a disaster for me and for my surroundings. I hate it for being that way. It's the reason why I'm not engaging in a relationship. It just doesn't work. I'm glad you bring this issue up. I recognize wishing people to die when making certain noises. It's awful to think like that, I know.
Thanks for this video. It was really helpful. I wondered if you could help and clarify something, it may need a different video.
I have ADHD. Aversion to multiple sounds or loud sounds. I am potentially borderline on the autistic spectrum but this one is just based on online tests (and my dad who is autistic) and nothing formally diagnosed so I wouldn’t take that as fact.
Do we know how to ascertain the difference between ADHD, Autism symptoms and Misophonia?
Edited to say: chewing doesn’t bother me. Don’t like it but it’s fine. Background noise or unexpected loud noise (fireworks for example) does massively.
I don’t personally don’t know. There might be some amazing specialist somewhere who does. Thanks for the support!
So true. I have this. It is a rage response and fight or flight
Loud rap music, popping gum, coughing, sniffing, grunting, chewing, crunching. I work in a dr office, typing. I don't know how I haven't jumped off a roof.
I cannot tolerate people saying LIKE all the time, voice fry, and volume pitch going up at the end of sentences.
Actually I saw a parody of what it was like to have Misophonia somewhere on RUclips. It was hilarious! Obviously put together by someone who definately has the disorder.
The woman finally snaps and ends up strangling the person doing the chewing at the table.
I can relate.
One of mine is the crinkling noise that cellophane and chip bags make. It used to doubly irritate me to no end when people started deciding it was appropriate (?) to bring snacks to the library (!!!) and eat them while sitting in the computer commons or the study desks. People breathing very loudly is another, especially through their mouths. Maybe they can't help it, but I sometimes have wished they would stifle the rest of the way. I'm occasionally overly sensitive to noise in general and I know it, but don't know specifically in my case what causes it since it's not all the time, though when it happens, it's maddening.
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As a misophonia sufferer I would love an additional but condensed video. It would be helpful to share w/ my spouse.
I have this!!!! The Old Man bought me here.
Hey Doc, I've found your stuff helpful. That it's your proffesion and personal experience lends huge credibility. How about some success stories you've experienced with clients?
Thank you
Whispering. Other things, too, of course. Also, sometimes i have to create a vision shield with my hand so that i can't SEE the thing making the sound! When i do that, i can press my thumb on my ear to block sound.
Great content my triggers are roosters crowing and snoring dogs and yes rage is huge, for a long time I thought I was over sensitive but I know it goes deeper, earplugs whilst sleeping has helped but I can hear them through it from 10pm until I leave for work, hatred is a strong word but I absolutely hate them
Is this why I always associate loud noises with anger? Even though some people are just naturally loud...
It seems to me that most sounds that bother me (eating, clipping fingernails, etc, etc) are the sounds produced by humans. Well, pets cleaning themselves too, but mostly human sounds that in my mind are preventable. The sound and texture of me digging in my purse for stuff drives me crazy too. I don't mind dining out with people if there is background music or if it's a noisy restaurant. I've had this as far back as I can remember. I sure wish I didn't.
The annoying door slammers moved in next to me (3 floors house), I talked to the husband nicely about his son 3rd floor, where I’m mostly at, thought it was done, but 1 week later I heard his whinny wife complained about me not tolerating her son but they tolerate my loud autistic sister who lives 2nd floor.
I hate their noises ever since then, I don’t make noises and slam doors, they’re the ones that moved in, yet I’m expected to treat her adult son just like my loud autistic sister, she and her daughter slam doors too even after a year so I guarantee they’ll still slam doors even if my sister never exists, she and her daughter throws stuff multiple times during shower over 70db and during 4am.
Once I kicked the wall multiple times and she dared to yell back and slam door (there’s another neighbor next to them)
God I really hate them
Wow, i didn’t know this was a real thing … other my thoughts of killing the person in the next cubicle at the office, when she slowly ate something from the vending machine. Not only the eating noises, but more so the constant crinkling of the wrapper. Lol
Yes. Some people are lucky they're not dead. 😂
On a road trip to a concert about 3 hours away from home and the venue, I physically pulled a guy out of my vehicle and left him stranded because he would not stop smacking his gum.
Honestly, if you asked him to and he didn’t stop, this is the correct response.
Thank you for covering this!
I also hate going to movies and people opening candy and eating popcorn, ugh!