It’s Okay to Not be Okay | Erica Davis-Crump | TEDxABQED

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  • Опубликовано: 24 май 2016
  • In this compelling and heartfelt talk, Erica Davis-Crump reaches out to all young people who are struggling: "It's okay to not be okay. It's even better to get help."
    Erica is a behavioral/mental health advocate and presenter for NM communities. Erica has provided presentations concerning mental health awareness reaching over 1800 students and over 300 parents in New Mexico. She is a certified QPR gatekeeper trainer through the New Mexico Suicide Prevention Coalition, and a certified core teacher for NM Breaking the Silence. Erica also served as assistant developer for an Anti-Stigma campaign through The New Mexico Department of Health. Her personal and professional passion for community wellness collide to provide any and all applicable prevention and awareness resources in hopes to deplete the staggering rates of suicide.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 73

  • @TheVCRTimeMachine
    @TheVCRTimeMachine 5 лет назад +107

    Yep. I have a friend who says "Nothing bothers me. I feel joy all the time." I know he is either lying or denying himself genuine human feelings.

  • @livwhitehead1773
    @livwhitehead1773 5 лет назад +182

    Her voice is so soothing

  • @fuckuyoulol8998
    @fuckuyoulol8998 7 лет назад +131

    ...I cry no matter what at night..

    • @Hopes91
      @Hopes91 6 лет назад +4

      Fucku Youlol I hope you're doing better now.

    • @mxaliftferu8691
      @mxaliftferu8691 6 лет назад +1

      Same rn

  • @Psychehealthymindhub
    @Psychehealthymindhub 2 года назад +8

    I came here cuz the person closest to me right now, is not feeling well. I pray that this video gives him light.

  • @smileyman1721
    @smileyman1721 4 года назад +37

    So many people call out mild to bad reactions to minor concepts as "over reacting" or "dramatic" and that is infuriating. Calling an influx of emotions that the individual has little control over and probably despises having at all as "not a big deal" is more debilitating than whatever their own head is doing to them.
    Especially if they beat themselves up for feeling those emotions, in more ways than one.

  • @thecookiejarstealeruwu1894
    @thecookiejarstealeruwu1894 4 года назад +31

    I go into the bathroom and cry to myself in pure pain of silence I think to myself is this okay? Now I know it's okay to be not okay,

    • @ur_mom...
      @ur_mom... 3 года назад +1

      Yeah, I feel you.

  • @g8thgirl3
    @g8thgirl3 5 лет назад +119

    My school just pretends like depression is not real 😢😭

    • @valeria-qs5ux
      @valeria-qs5ux 4 года назад +10

      At my school they make fun of it :(

    • @spr1nkleri
      @spr1nkleri 3 года назад +4

      They teach, just like her that being sad momentarily or depressed is same thing while depression is endless, bottomless pit where you sink in slowly

  • @Gabriel-uu9fv
    @Gabriel-uu9fv 4 года назад +17

    Idk how long it will take for someone to see this but my mind is really tearing me down and I need someone to comfort me

    • @GeorgeHandle0
      @GeorgeHandle0 4 года назад +2

      Hey, you’re going to be okay. I’m hurting too. We can get through this together. I promise. It’s all going to be okay sweetheart. I promise. I promise

    • @dakielster
      @dakielster 3 года назад

      I know this is a late reply but how are you doing now?

    • @jaanu232
      @jaanu232 3 года назад

      I know this is the late replay but how are u doing now and don't worry if something bothers u don't ever feel u r alone the one who keeps u happy is u love ur self and pamper ur self ,it's ok if someone ignore u remember that u born alone and walks all these years alone that not a deal to walk alone keep smiling and keep rising love from Andhra Pradesh (india)

  • @SandiKay
    @SandiKay 5 лет назад +41

    I am so proud of you.

    • @edaviscrump
      @edaviscrump 5 лет назад +4

      Sandi Kay thank you - love you Auntie

  • @sandrao6837
    @sandrao6837 6 лет назад +99

    This is unrelated but She sounds like Beyoncé

    • @claudine5386
      @claudine5386 4 года назад +4

      Sandra O I swear I was going to say the same thing.

  • @9kimkim896
    @9kimkim896 3 года назад +7

    I'm scared and you know what I'm tired it's hard being strong for so long im tired

  • @Deadchannel617
    @Deadchannel617 5 лет назад +8

    I’m younger than 15...and I struggle with depression...so many things happen in this crazy world that I can’t understand and I have 2 therapist and one mental dog and I still can’t..I juts can’t...it hurts deep in your heart. You wake up and you smile and say “good morning” to everyone but..it’s a good morning to them...not you inside. I always thought of depression like drowning except..without the water and everyone else is breathing except you..and deep inside you know..”this won’t last forever”. But it kills you as you go through it and goes off and on. Some kids or people have depression for only a snap and there back to normal because they have that warm comfort in them that some people don’t have or refuse to have because they believe they can do this by themselves. Instead of waiting for happiness..people try to make happiness and that’s good as well but waiting just grows that depression until your numb and you can’t even believe that happiness is even a thing. All the people out there like me who is struggling to survive this storm of depression..I’m here..I know the pain of getting made fun of on the bus and your so what friends telling you to commit suicide and hang yourself. The feeling of what everyone thinks and what you do or how your going to be judged..and even more..that may be personal you never wanna share but please tell someone you trust..Sometimes I don’t trust anyone and that’s ok. You may question yourself of what you did wrong..or why do they tell you this? Because they know it’s going to break you but that doesn’t mean it’s all true..nobody deserves to suffer through depression like I do. It’s ok if you do..but it’s not the best..and never will be. I’m here for you. I understand what your going through and somethings I may not. But it’s like a game to them..your letting them win and drag you around. But this world..this place..this home of all of us..were all here for each other and many different ways. They do this because there jealous or want you to feel it just to suffer but this is your life, your style, your you and no matter what you’ll always be you. And it’s ok to be you ❤️ but whatever you do..don’t end your book like someone I loved who did..keep moving..leave the thoughts and struggles to waste...fight and win your right of happiness. I haven’t won yet but it never hurts to try and try and try until you reached victory. Everyone out there who is struggling..I’m here and always will be until I die..even if your strangers I’m here to talk to and always will be. Stay strong..even though I’m weak..keep on being you ❤️🖤

    • @hopebeshears379
      @hopebeshears379 5 лет назад +1

      I know what that's like too. And it is okay to be vulnerable. We do need to be that way. I suffered from third grade onward for a bit. I know how that feels. But I'm here too. If you need to talk, I will be here. I want people to open up. Sometimes we just need that. We just need someone to say "I understand what you're going through". Have you ever had that feeling that no one you trust really understands? I have. But even so, I've had help from people who really are there. I have always known when I needed to talk. Here's a word of advice: don't hesitate to open up. It's okay. I'm getting better now, but I used to think people didn't understand and that I was weak. I want you to know that you are not weak. But the fact that you're fighting proves that you are strong. You can do this. And yes, it is important to move forward. It's like in Met the Robinsons when they keep saying "keep moving forward." That should be your motto too.

  • @azzy4625
    @azzy4625 5 лет назад +34

    I wish you could talk at my school...

  • @MrJackolicious
    @MrJackolicious 6 лет назад +41

    Incredibly important message. Also, I love the hair.

  • @Crowstrove
    @Crowstrove 4 года назад +14

    My 18 year old cousin has depression. the thought of losing her forever really hurts.

  • @lizfrantz5706
    @lizfrantz5706 2 года назад +3

    I rewatch this once a week

  • @jaylinjohnson3796
    @jaylinjohnson3796 6 лет назад +12

    I love u so much Erica ... ur so amazing and u have thought me so much ... u talked to me in so manny classes ... ur super amazing and get ur point across easy ... ur a big part of my well being

  • @matt-tp1ww
    @matt-tp1ww 5 лет назад +8

    Thank you, Erica.

  • @51mon72
    @51mon72 5 лет назад +3

    Thank you.

  • @MrItazuki
    @MrItazuki 5 лет назад +24

    Its not just 15 to 24 im 28 and i still struggle with depression i have all my life my first attempt at suicide was when i was 6 and ive made 13 attempts during my life ive gotten past the suicidal part though the thoughts are still there i just have reasons to live now i found friends and people i call family that are there for me every time i have a bad day they give me reasons to keep living even if i dont want to live for myself half the time

    • @efahngon
      @efahngon 5 лет назад +1

      Here for you brother - blackninja1986 on Instagram

    • @edaviscrump
      @edaviscrump 5 лет назад +2

      This impacts everyone - I was stating from the age ranges i specifically work with. I am holding you in my prayers.

    • @nonbeenary_hi9064
      @nonbeenary_hi9064 4 года назад +1

      You are a strong person. You have no idea!

  • @christiaanswart2646
    @christiaanswart2646 3 года назад +6

    Thanks, I needed to hear this today

  • @johnadams2412
    @johnadams2412 4 года назад +3

    Thankyou

  • @aryaaaa1070
    @aryaaaa1070 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for this❤️

  • @Rosa-te8jm
    @Rosa-te8jm 3 года назад

    Just wanted to say thank you

  • @mukesh.dhimar
    @mukesh.dhimar 3 года назад +4

    This is an amazing video.

  • @rosielol2573
    @rosielol2573 4 года назад +5

    2020 anyone?

  • @user-kl3xl6st7p
    @user-kl3xl6st7p 3 года назад +7

    "Why do we neglect the one organ that runs the show?"

  • @torontoenvironment9899
    @torontoenvironment9899 2 года назад

    2021 shout out to Erica

  • @stevenlansangan4635
    @stevenlansangan4635 4 года назад +6

    how can I get any help if there's no one around?

  • @pasqualewii
    @pasqualewii 3 года назад +3

    Bless you 🙏🙏🙏🙏
    Not about age I'm 49 dealing with this as well
    Loving a person years younger then me in a relationship I try to crack in and soothe the one I love .How do I deal trying to help the one I love more then life ?

  • @anastasiacraig5979
    @anastasiacraig5979 5 лет назад +3

    I’m from abq New Mexico and I’m not okay right now

    • @vailess_2
      @vailess_2 4 года назад

      Anastasia craig wanna talk? I feel the same

  • @porcupine783
    @porcupine783 3 года назад

    Love that shirt

  • @SakariPOV
    @SakariPOV 5 лет назад +18

    Why is depression past as a joke ?

    • @veem4088
      @veem4088 4 года назад +3

      Because of how Millennials look at it and self diagnose, because of the memes and the self defense mechanisms kids today have built

    • @InstiGator805
      @InstiGator805 4 года назад

      Because it's healthy. It helps to laugh at yourself sometimes.

  • @livingvwithg
    @livingvwithg 5 лет назад +22

    You are so very loved
    By a God who cared
    Who thought
    You are beautiful
    You are precious
    You are loved
    Every moment of your life
    By a God who died to save you
    I understand
    But you are enough
    You are loved

    • @NatalieVanessasiow
      @NatalieVanessasiow 5 лет назад

      Grace Marie i needed to see this! Thank you, Grace 💞🙏🏻

  • @porcupine783
    @porcupine783 3 года назад

    Wooohoo ABQ!

  • @thetravelinsagittarian1316
    @thetravelinsagittarian1316 3 года назад +4

    Is it really okay? ..... On 9/27/2020 it will be the one year anniversary of my Mom's death... I'm in therapy.....but it still feels like my emotions are scrambled eggs.....

    • @poorvigupta6516
      @poorvigupta6516 3 года назад +1

      hey, i hope you're okay? you wanna talk? take care💕

  • @phs-boksgaming1978
    @phs-boksgaming1978 4 года назад +1

    Nice

  • @JaneJiuan
    @JaneJiuan 2 года назад

    😢

  • @kaylathompson8218
    @kaylathompson8218 4 года назад +1

    💛💖💛

  • @irinuka1725
    @irinuka1725 2 года назад +1

    Nahhh i literaly started crying in the first 44 seconds lmao 💀💀

  • @benanyanonu2
    @benanyanonu2 4 года назад +1

    I know her

  • @TheFloridaBikeVlogger
    @TheFloridaBikeVlogger 2 года назад

    is it really a temporary problem if it's something i've always struggled with for the past 8 years>?

    • @Aministo
      @Aministo 2 года назад

      Preach! I’ve been stuck with it for 9 years; and all I’ve gotten for hanging on 9 years is disappointment, despair, and desolation. I’ve been getting help for 7 years and it’s still a joke to people who I’m forced to interact with.

  • @princess17257
    @princess17257 5 лет назад +1

    You can older 24... And younger than 15...

  • @hansngo6445
    @hansngo6445 4 года назад +1

    A barber only shaves the ones who don't shave. So does this barber shave himself or not? If it is OK to be NOT OK. Then OK itself is OK or NOT OK?
    More NOT OK brings more NOT OK. How many people not OK tried to be OK? How many people would NOT fight to be OK because they are NOT fighting? Without a fight, would we feel regret to be NOT OK?

    • @natajiwangga5801
      @natajiwangga5801 4 года назад +1

      Sometimes bringing your mind to "fight" can be the most difficult thing; especially when you are so beaten up that you feel like you can't take anymore bullcrap thus leading to suicide

  • @bryennapeach2945
    @bryennapeach2945 4 года назад

    This is late, yes. But when people joke I’m kill myself, or I’m depressed af. This is no joke. Mental illness is no joke. Cause if someone was to say that you would think it as a joke. But what do you do when it really happens? Treat it as it is, don’t joke about it

  • @popeyeschickenbootykicking3319
    @popeyeschickenbootykicking3319 5 лет назад +7

    Beyoncé???