You may be “talking” to the camera but you’re “speaking” to likeminded folks like me. Beautiful stuff, the missing socket set was extremely relatable and the concept of Seasons has brought me so much peace in navigating life. Appreciate you as always man
I listen to your videos when I want something chill and low key in the background like my work commute to the office and you seem so related and charismatic. You have the tools to be more popular in due time
Anytime I feel like life is getting way too hectic and out of control I always think back to the phrase "this too shall pass". Soon I will be able to play however much I want again but right now if I can only play a few hours a week then that's what I can play.
I found elden ring this year, put 200 hours into it, and now I'm the most stuck on a boss from the DLC it makes me sad because ots my favorite game and now I can't progress unless I want to grind for hours to level up.
I enjoy hearing your introspection, as it helps me engage in my own contemplation. I just wanted to recommend a channel called Accepting the Universe, which focuses on introspection.
Nice monologue. Several thought provoking points. I can tell you care a lot about understanding. Personally I am against framing those you aspire to be like as "normal". There's a tendency in the "neuro atypical" scene to frame "normal" as whatever is better than yourself. High discipline, confidence, competence? That's "normal". No it isn't, that's exceptional. IMO, this is a false humility designed to frame us as "victims" of circumstance because victims are currently far more socially praised & "safe" than anyone exceptional. No one sneers at you for aspiring to be normal. The exceptional are often dogpiled & attacked by the normal, so we frame ourselves as subnormals aspiring to be normal because it is a social safe zone. For most of us this isn't true, it is merely comfortable & safe & a way to avoid doing the tough inner work needed to dispel the social anxiety it seems everyone has now. Normal is a lot less than you think. If they're sneering at you, calling you tryhard or extra or whatever... you're doing something right. I was using this kind of negative motivational framing because I was socially trained to "avoid cringe" & it felt cringe to say to myself (let alone anyone else) that someone is exceptional & I want to be exceptional like them. I want to have exceptional discipline, exceptional competence, exceptional confidence & I'm willing to pay the price to develop them. To say that would be to expose myself to being mocked & my ego scratched at by my "normal" peers & undercut by my "normal" elders. I knew I lacked the tools to defend myself from the attacks I would receive so I avoided the confrontation, I framed it as "I just want to be normal" because that is inoffensive & I cannot be easily attacked for that. No one wants to be seen as "punching down" for the exact same social enforcement reasons (they're scared of being called out & socially ostracized), so if I frame myself as lesser it prevents attacks. I lied for social comfort. I was a coward. I never wanted normal & always wanted exceptional, but we live in a culture which currently despises the exceptional unless they're dishonestly over-humble & self-deprecating. I hadn't developed past my need to be liked (or more accurately, not disliked) by normals. Being inoffensive to everyone is not a virtue, it is the vice of cowardice. Do not be be deliberately offensive for no reason, but if you have good reason, such as speaking the truth, then it doesn't matter if someone has a negative emotional reaction. You can develop tact to soften the impact & apply a bit of salve to the inflamed emotions of these people, but never let them stop you from saying or doing what you know deep down is right or right for you.
You may be “talking” to the camera but you’re “speaking” to likeminded folks like me. Beautiful stuff, the missing socket set was extremely relatable and the concept of Seasons has brought me so much peace in navigating life. Appreciate you as always man
Bro you’ve become my second go to morning video right after Spawnwave and gaming news. Keep up the motivation and game on.
22:02 I was the one who suggested it on stream, glad it ended up as a cup the message is on point.
I would love to have this kind of content as a podcast. Live thoughts, experiences, gaming, coffee talk. Awesome channel, man.
Definitely a special channel for sure. Slow burn is the best, and excited to see how your channel grows over time.
I listen to your videos when I want something chill and low key in the background like my work commute to the office and you seem so related and charismatic. You have the tools to be more popular in due time
These cups help me find the motivation I need for the day while I’m getting ready for work or when I’m waking up
Yeah man, I'm in your same circumstance. Dad of 2 kids who works full time and games on the side, and now I'm subscribed.
Was nice hanging out with everyone in the RUclips stream this morning. Looking forward to more coffee chats.
Anytime I feel like life is getting way too hectic and out of control I always think back to the phrase "this too shall pass". Soon I will be able to play however much I want again but right now if I can only play a few hours a week then that's what I can play.
Thank you JD
I found elden ring this year, put 200 hours into it, and now I'm the most stuck on a boss from the DLC it makes me sad because ots my favorite game and now I can't progress unless I want to grind for hours to level up.
Summon that mimic tear. Don’t let the hardcore players stop you from beating the game THEIR way.
I enjoy hearing your introspection, as it helps me engage in my own contemplation. I just wanted to recommend a channel called Accepting the Universe, which focuses on introspection.
Nice monologue. Several thought provoking points. I can tell you care a lot about understanding.
Personally I am against framing those you aspire to be like as "normal". There's a tendency in the "neuro atypical" scene to frame "normal" as whatever is better than yourself. High discipline, confidence, competence? That's "normal".
No it isn't, that's exceptional.
IMO, this is a false humility designed to frame us as "victims" of circumstance because victims are currently far more socially praised & "safe" than anyone exceptional. No one sneers at you for aspiring to be normal. The exceptional are often dogpiled & attacked by the normal, so we frame ourselves as subnormals aspiring to be normal because it is a social safe zone. For most of us this isn't true, it is merely comfortable & safe & a way to avoid doing the tough inner work needed to dispel the social anxiety it seems everyone has now.
Normal is a lot less than you think. If they're sneering at you, calling you tryhard or extra or whatever... you're doing something right.
I was using this kind of negative motivational framing because I was socially trained to "avoid cringe" & it felt cringe to say to myself (let alone anyone else) that someone is exceptional & I want to be exceptional like them. I want to have exceptional discipline, exceptional competence, exceptional confidence & I'm willing to pay the price to develop them. To say that would be to expose myself to being mocked & my ego scratched at by my "normal" peers & undercut by my "normal" elders. I knew I lacked the tools to defend myself from the attacks I would receive so I avoided the confrontation, I framed it as "I just want to be normal" because that is inoffensive & I cannot be easily attacked for that. No one wants to be seen as "punching down" for the exact same social enforcement reasons (they're scared of being called out & socially ostracized), so if I frame myself as lesser it prevents attacks.
I lied for social comfort. I was a coward. I never wanted normal & always wanted exceptional, but we live in a culture which currently despises the exceptional unless they're dishonestly over-humble & self-deprecating. I hadn't developed past my need to be liked (or more accurately, not disliked) by normals.
Being inoffensive to everyone is not a virtue, it is the vice of cowardice. Do not be be deliberately offensive for no reason, but if you have good reason, such as speaking the truth, then it doesn't matter if someone has a negative emotional reaction. You can develop tact to soften the impact & apply a bit of salve to the inflamed emotions of these people, but never let them stop you from saying or doing what you know deep down is right or right for you.
We see things very similarly.
I am Justin the Nerd thanks for helping reflect on that
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