Loni clearly has a hard time being vulnerable and opening up, but I'm not mad at that at all. It's hard sometimes. I wish she would though just a little
Yes I see this she want yo to kid pics only adult she must had sad childhood, plus she says she drinks a lot, what's wrong Loni?and we all got parts of our life we want to block out, for me its highschool
+UniquelyMade I've noticed the same, she keeps herself guarded for reasons best known to her. Loni jokes around a lot but you can see she is very emotional and gives some great advice
+D Dixie Tamera's mom wasn't there either and I felt sad for the girls because Tamar and Jeanie and Adrienne had their mom's but not the other two I teared watching that thankfully their Moms are alive but you could only sense they really wanted their moms there too
+OromoShawtyy its not plastic surgery its a nose job because she had breathing issues. 💯 its not an excuse its the truth her whole family said it 💯 people gotta know the difference between a nose job and a plastic surgery ✌
I wish Loni knew that there is someone out there that can benefit from her story...she doesnt need to be so reluctant to share...thats why the show is called the real..being vulnerable for a moment could save or turn around someones life
I feel like she maybe going through something, I feel like she is very off these days randomly laughing and not answering questions... I hope she is ok.
I think Lonni went through a lot growing up she doesn't seem to like getting deep she seems to avoid a lot of questions or turn them into jokes... which makes sense because people say that comedians have the most pain, but it's crazy she will cry over someone else's story I think she uses other people's stories to let out her pain.
She defiantly did go through a lot growing up. She often deflects when asked questions that would cause her to go deeper. it's a shame because I feel like out of everyone on the panel, there are very special, and much needed things that she could share. Hopefully one day she'll feel safe enough to allow us the see the real Loni. Her stories are needed, and a greater barrier on the panel would be broken.
Someone in the comments on Facebook said that in an old episode Lonni said when she was younger her stepfather would buy gifts for all the kids and for her mother but wouldn't buy anything for her. I know that must have hurt a lot. She dismisses her own feelings by pushing them to the side she does the same thing herself that her step father did to her as a child. She is a comedian so it's kind of like she has trained herself to laugh at her pain or just not address it.
IamChosen488 she may just genuinely feel for whomever the story is about because she’s that compassionate. I’m an empath and a Cancer woman also and I was watching the Drs, one day and this lady was pregnant and did not carry her baby full term and she had to get a hysterectomy. When I tell you I felt her pain all the way through my tv I did! I literally was in tears. She probably masks her pain so that she doesn’t have to relive the moments, but she won’t be able to heal that way.
Tamera's photoshop was the best! Looked like she was standing there with her daughter. Anyway, Loni needs to chill with the brown liquor story. I feel like she doesnt get personal when the other ladies do so the show can have moments that doesnt get too serious.
Sharon Njoki I get she’s a comedian but the show is not called the joke it’s called the real but she’s hiding behind her humor when the rest of the girls open up just not fair to the girls and the audience that everyone shares except her everyone keeping it real and saying things that people would not normally say if everyone pulled a loni there would be no real
I like that Tamar said, "Don't rush your life. Take your time." Come through Tamar. Her and Jeannie had the strongest commentary. All were great though, nonetheless.
Miss TAMAR gave the best advice, and owned this segment. 🙌 She was #preaching for real. 💯 I feel like she just helped a lot of people with that REAL and raw honesty, gospel PREACHING. #SayThatTamar
Adrienne still cares about people liking her. In a past segment where they were talking about first impressions of each other Adrienne said she wanted Loni to like her "so bad"
Tamar though, she really helped me today, I'm trying to rush my life and move forward way too fast and I need to take my time. I am going through so much pain and hard things right now but I know in the end I'll be where I want to be and I just need to focus on healing. Thank you
Thank you Tamar for that. Really hit home for me, being 20 and basically feeling blind to where I wish to go. Now I know all the hard ships will be worth all the tears and frustration one day.
Tamar that was beautiful, the hotter the battle the sweeter the victory‼️ Tamera's Photoshop looked authentic and real, the producers did a great job with her picture and I'm glad she pointed out that not everybody is raised like her 👍🏽. Loni looked and still look amazing and definitely has beautiful skin.
I'm 20 now and it may seem like not a big difference but the things I learned in 3 years is immense . The thing is always look back and evaluate who you were and what you have over come . Sometimes we don't give ourselves enough credit but be positive look forward to your future 😊👍👌💃🏾.
Loni uses comedy to mask her vulnerability and I don't think she realises that we can see right through it. I hope at some point she'll start letting her guard down .
I'm sobbing like crazy. I'm in my final year studying economics. It's been a bumpy ride for me studying abroad. Most of my friends didn't attend uni after they got a diploma and started their own business and some took over their parents' established companies. I have so many things I want in life. From where I am now is far from where I want to be. When I look at my friends doing so well with their businesses, I felt the immense pressure and constantly asking myself "why am I still studying? For what? Am I going to get a job after this? Or shall I just go back home and live with my family?" When Tamar and Adrienne said don't rush your life, God has a plan for you, it makes me feel better. Maybe I'm just wanting so many things and it is just not the time yet. With a constant hardwork , I know I could be successful in life.
Girl ur doing a great thing by attending uni and getting that degree , businesses can fail but to be honest having a certificate is always a good backup, u don't wanna drop out uni and then regret later so many reach people still get asked if they have degree or not and some even like Tyra banks she still went back to uni and studied so don't feel pressured ur already in ur last year and time flies and u will graduate and be independent, and maybe than u can start ur own business or maybe work and about the finding the job don't worry about it leave that to God , keep working hard and u will get what u deserve
+Nora Green im going through the same thing. I have been in uni studying science for almost 6 years and im 8 subjects away from graduating. people have told me growing up to give up my dream of being a scientist and do something easy so i can get a job and make money because i might not have it in me to accomplish this. I have moved around the world since I was a baby including during uni which is what cause the delay in graduating. I've been working 40 hours a week while studying full time and i too stress that it might be all for nothing if i dont get a career job. my friends have all graduated, worked part time, lived a stable life and now have career jobs but you know what, the end is near and i keep telling myself that things will work out and not to freak out. Im so glad there are women like this on this talk show to encourage young women like me to keep pushing
It is great that you are attending university and by doing that you are broadening your horizons. You are putting yourself at an advantage point. Imagine if the economy fell completely, what would happen to all your friends businesses without them having degrees? They will end up working in a minimum wage job because they don't have credentials. Anyways, don't focus on others only focus on yourself and what you need and want. In the end, they won't matter only your happiness will keep you in check for the future. 😊
@@faizasaeed1000 As the show ended, I came to watch the old episodes and found this comment I wrote out of frustration 6 years ago, and all your LOVELY comments ❤ In the last 6 years, I worked in banking then moved to consulting where I’m traveling around with projects. You ladies said “what if the economy fails”. My country Myanmar had a coup last year, completely crippling the economy and many people had to leave to look for jobs overseas. I relocated to Europe with the same company and continue to work on the projects. It’s crazy to look back and see how far I’ve come in just 6 years and God knows what lies ahead! I hope all of you are healthy and doing well in all aspects of life. Would be nice to hear some updates. Sending love ❤
I love how no one cried and I was here sobbing watching both clips😂💕 Its amazing how you girls inspire me and I feel like you speak right to me. I feel lost and im 20 now. But I wont be lost forever. Thanks girls💕💕
+Mandy X'O-twod Girl is not onions...the thing is i got an eye condition right...? like when i see some thangs my tear ducts produce some kind of liquid...maybe am allergic (^_~) ;)
I'm just waiting for that moment when Loni has her breaking point I just feel like it's coming and tbh with you guys I think Loni must have been through a very traumatic experience because the way she just shuts out or makes everything a joke it's something from her past that really affected her and when she does have her emotional moments she BREAKS down immediately she just as emotional as Tamera is really so when that moment comes ya'll it's going to be really bad because she's been holding all that stuff in and that's not good she definitely needs to open up because she will feel a lot better.
I couldn't agree with you more. As a psych graduate I think this could very well be the case for Loni. And there's nothing wrong with it, it was just her coping mechanism for whatever pain she experienced in the past.
thank you Tamar for that ,I needed to hear it today because I am 25 years old and I am so worried about my future ,currently doing an internship but not doing what I studied for and I feel lost ,but now I am going to let God be in control.
@@mapuleqambata3704 thank you so much 😊 yesssssssssss indeeed ..I’m now permanent and doing content creation part time ..I have a RUclips channel and God indeed came through for me 😀😀😀😀
My dad used to tell me time and time again *they don't have to like you, but they do have to respect you*. I'd go back and tell myself that. I'm definitely with you, Tamera. I was sheltered as well. I thought everybody was gon do right by me since that's how I was raised, but chile..... Heffas will stab yo' ass in the back with the quickness. I encountered a lot of subliminal jealousy as well.
I'd give the world to go back and tell my younger self follow your dreams. don't let any man or any amount of money come between you and your dreams. I would tell myself to not try to be like anyone else and to love yourself. to not care what others think. that one day someone will love you imperfections and all. I'm happy where I am today but I've went through hell to get here.
No, she doesn't.....she's obviously more closer to Tamera and Adrienne, but she and Jeannie ARE friends. And yes, like each other. She chills at Tamar's house and they text each other just like normal FRIENDS do. She does "friend-shade" (inside joke type stuff) with Jeannie, and y'all take it out of context. Stop making it more than what it is.
C'mon Tamar. You betta be an evangelist! Tamar and Jeannie's advice to their younger self were my favorites. I was really hoping Loni got serious on this topic, though. It wouldn't hurt to let it all out, Loni. I gurentee she can help at least one person by being honest to herself. Overall great girl chat segment!
Janazia Thompson, This is wisdom coming from a 50 year old woman who has always believed in having a great character. Love God first and seek his guidance and the advice of others with positive attitudes and loving hearts. STAY AWAY from hurting people because they WILL hurt you eventually. Love, nurture and be kind to yourself because there will be days that YOU are all you have for YOU. Let your self talk, self respect and self worth and constantly working on your self development be your number 1 priority. Take time to find out what you really enjoy doing and do it. Choose your circle of friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be a better person. Learn and take heed from woman that are gifted and positive about life. And when the time is appropriate ONLY connect with a man who treats you with the highest respect and that has a healthy perspective on loving (NO ONE that is coming from an dysfunctional home). Go to college if possible. Try not to bring a child into this world until you have finished college and a wonderful man has chosen you as his wife. Love, Laugh often and Live. Wishing you a beautiful life's journey. Shine like I know you will.
Tamar advice spoke through my soul... Literally. It was soo touching & relatable. Im taking the advice tamar would tell her youger self because i can relate & feel the same way & im only 19 yrs old. At this age you feel lost, hopeless, & your worry alot about the present & future. The advices Adrienne & Tamera gave was VERY healing & relatable as well. I feel like when you're young you just want everything to be perfect & go your own way. It's scary because knowing that you have no control over your life makes you anxious gives you anxiety. The pain & stress & can be overwhelming & it can cause you to doubt your future. That's why you should always keep God first in your life spiritually & physically because he has the power to make everything better & stress free💖🙏
I love this segment. I love Tamera. I relate to her so much. I sincerely hope that these days of anxiety, confusion, naivety, having your heart broken by people you had higher thoughts of, having your heart broken by life, of being dead last, not recognising the direction your life is taking, burning bridges and wishing you were someone else...I hope they all become something. I hope the good days and the bad light the way to the future I've prayed for.
tamera's advice hit me straight on im 17 very sheltered, and very anxious i can never relax there's not a moment when I don't feel something itching at the back of my mind
I love these segments sooo much! It's so prevalent to my life right now ; I'm currently 21 and life can be intimidating at times, especially when it comes to the unknown and the future.
Life is what you make it. Live each day not worrying about tomorrow. Tomorrow is never certain. I'm turning 30 this year. One thing I'd say to anyone your age is take the time to evaluate the people you surround yourself with. if they aren't bringing you up, let em go.
I'm 33. I would tell my younger self to be relentless when it comes to your career, don't take no for an answer, save up to buy your own place and you won't be fat forever, guys will come around like bees to honey.
The reason I love this show so much, even though its a panel full of women is bc they discuss real topics & bc they're real topics it can go for either gender such as this topic, we all go through things & often put in situations that we may in counter or had in counter & didnt know how to handle it but once you get passed it you can look back & encourage yourself just how they are reflecting, this can go for guy or girl & thats the best thing about this show
For being on a show called The Real Loni is anything but. She is guarded and not emotionally open which is made all the more obvious because her cohosts are. I hope that she can find happiness some day because she just seems so sad to me.
Are we watching the same show? Loni cries more then anybody, she's a cancer she wears her heart on her sleeve and just because she doesn't expose her entire life on the show doesn't make her any less real! Ppl like you feel like you're suppose to know everything about someone because they are on tv, I bet if she was the opposite of what you think you would still have something negative to say smfh
What i would tell my younger self ? I would say don't let people use u hurt u betray u take advantage of u or mistreating u with disrespect know yourself know your worth stay out of trouble and finish school and do what makes u happy never give up
If I could go back in time I would tell my younger self, be true to who you are. Love yourself. Guard your heart, and don't put up with people hurting you. And don't just give your heart to anyone.
I got a little emotional seeing Tamera's younger self, it was if my childhood flashed before my eyes. I felt like I was looking back at my old self as well, it's so funny how people you watched on TV as they grew up, you grew with them. We are around the same age & that picture took me back & just allowed me to think how you should enjoy your youth. I really loved what Tamar said regarding...not rushing your life. It is very true & it is something I am still struggling with today. Note to self take each day as it comes & enjoy God's blessings.
This is something I needed to hear. I'm only 23, but the pressure I put on myself is unreal. There is so much I want in life, but I have no idea yet how to get there. I've accomplished a lot as far as education goes; I've got 2 Masters degrees and finish my law degree next month. I left my home country and am separated from all I know by an ocean. When I look at my friends back home, they've all started careers, met their partners, have created homes for themselves, and I look at myself and think 'why don't I have that too? and 'is this all worth it?'' Constantly filled with anxiety wondering where I'm going to end up. But it is nice to know that I'm not the only one with those worries.
Tamara is so I related to most... I was home schooled all of middle school... And I honestly was naive from my lack of social experience.... Got my heart broken thinking people honestly meant what they said and almost turned me into someone else.. But I can day I'm stronger now because of it
Lonnie hides a lot behind her jokes and listening to the other hosts. It's way more to her than she tells. She would tell her younger self something different. But hey!
I've learned that too. I showed up too many times with open heart. I hard to learn the hard way, to guard my heart. I've learn the deceit of man. While I live to forgive, I learned to never used, "I never knew" as an excuse. Guard my heart. Too the pure hearted one like myself, guard yours too.
+Serena Quaye I recently opened my heart to a coworker even though I fought hard against it. And though there was technically nothing bad that came from this experience, I still feel I shouldn't have given so much because deep down I was never completely secure that this person gave a damn about me one way or the other. And ever since I changed jobs and we no longer see each other, I feel that even more. We have each other's contact information but I've heard nothing from them since. Now, I'm back to "instaguard," lol. I've been in this situation so many times in my life I've become used to it. I'm just sticking to family now. This friend business has been wack for years. I'm done trying. I'm just doing me.
+TheRetroWoman80 I can tell you're some with a great soul. There's a saying, "better to have loved, and lost, than never to have loved at all." You had an opportunity to show love which you did. Bravo. Only a few people can do it. No one will take this experience from you. The encounter brought you a chance to learn something new inorder to discover who you are. I'm sure you will. Next time, tell yourself, "no one can hurt or take me for granted without my permission." Thou, no one can. The universe wanted you to learn how to love yourself. That's why you had the experience multiple times. Moreover, the experience came bk because you refused to learn the lesson the first or second time. It's time you learn the lesson to love youself. Say it, out loud, everyday. "I love myself." "I love others." "No one can hurt me or take me for granted without my permission." Make this your daily affirmation. You can add to it as well. Overall, this pain should never stop the love you have for the right person at the right time. My only advice to you, like you said, "take your time to know anyone." Study a person's character to see whether what he/she says, matches one actions. Again, guard ur heart ain't the same, as in, you become bitter. To guard your heart means, you become wiser. Remember action speaks volume. Pay close attn to behaviors than anything else. This is something I put into practice than I did in the past. Forgive this individual to open you to wonderful opportunities to meet "amazings" :).
Thank for you words of encouragement, Serena. I hear what you are talking about, truly I do. But I'm staying focused on me. I am at my highest state of peace that way anyhow. See, I don't hate people, I just don't trust people. I'm literally DONE with that part of myself that initiates/gives everything and pretends to not care about being reciprocated, because it does mean a heck of a lot to me. I have two beautiful and thoughtful loving cousins who are the sisters I never had and always wanted. That's where my "friend" energies will go. I don't need anyone else. It seems whenever I've sought the so-called prospective "friends" in my life journey I've gained nothing but heaviness of heart in the end. Here goes to starting a new chapter in my life! I'm about staying true to it and loving/respecting myself, continually, as you suggested:-)
This is why I watch The Real. Time flies and before you know it you have family and kids to take care of. I'm turning 30 and I've never felt better. Got rid of some garbage in my life (people & things). It's amazing how much lighter life is. The younger me was always rushing to grow up. Slow down.
I love how everyone was humble in this segment. Maybe it was the introspection on their younger selves then vs how they are today as mothers, wives and as women. It was inspiring!
Thank you Tamar for that wonderful advice. I'm 18, and currently going through a really rough time in my life, I had the "perfect life", everything was easy and planned as i grew but now, i find myself facing really tough situations that make me question myself.. but as known, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that god is testing me and has what's best for me in the future. As i'm going into adulthood , independence and maturity i'm crossing challenging and shaky paths that will lead me into the right one, so again thank you for these advises ladies.
I would give the warmest hug to my younger self and tell her nobody but YOU will ever love YOU quite like this. So stay expectation-LESS of people. I would also explain to her that even if pleasant, well-meaning people do come into your life don't take them too seriously because when it's all said and done...only a few rare ones (or just one) will remain lovingly loyal and interested in your time.
'The bad things you are going through right now, is the good things thats are for you to come'
-Tamar Braxton
I'm lost right now so I hope my future self has something good and powerful to say to me
Amen!
samee
same ..
+Jermaine Jackson SAME
Me too x
Loni clearly has a hard time being vulnerable and opening up, but I'm not mad at that at all. It's hard sometimes. I wish she would though just a little
Isnt that most comedians thougj
Lot of people have that issue
Yes I see this she want yo to kid pics only adult she must had sad childhood, plus she says she drinks a lot, what's wrong Loni?and we all got parts of our life we want to block out, for me its highschool
I was surprised that Tamera didnt start crying when her picture came up. I literally cried for her. 😭
Saaaammmee 😭😭😭
me too!
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CurlsBy Roro
Me too!!! She surprised me that she didn’t cry
Sameee
Loni's so guarded, poor thing, you can tell she has a lot of pain, most comedians do.
Mhm I thought the same thing bc I'm the same way, she prolly has so much to say but doesn't know how to say it or where to begin.
I have to agree because the few times that she has released some emotions its been so heartfelt and honest
i thought the same thing when everyone else had their mother on the show for Mother's Day and Lonis mom wasn't there
+UniquelyMade I've noticed the same, she keeps herself guarded for reasons best known to her. Loni jokes around a lot but you can see she is very emotional and gives some great advice
+D Dixie Tamera's mom wasn't there either and I felt sad for the girls because Tamar and Jeanie and Adrienne had their mom's but not the other two I teared watching that thankfully their Moms are alive but you could only sense they really wanted their moms there too
All five of them literally haven't changed physically.
+OromoShawtyy its not plastic surgery its a nose job because she had breathing issues. 💯 its not an excuse its the truth her whole family said it 💯 people gotta know the difference between a nose job and a plastic surgery ✌
Y'all full of hate you know that nose looks exactly the same
adrienne and tamar spoke to my damn soul
I wish Loni knew that there is someone out there that can benefit from her story...she doesnt need to be so reluctant to share...thats why the show is called the real..being vulnerable for a moment could save or turn around someones life
she a mess I'm glad because America really doesn't care about her fat ass...
I feel like she maybe going through something, I feel like she is very off these days randomly laughing and not answering questions... I hope she is ok.
+IamChosen488 we dont care the bitch don't open up..
+Fabulous Divo 😮
+Fabulous Divo That's not true people love Loni point blank and the period.
My heart really goes out to loni I know she's a comedian and all but you can tell she really has pain behind it all
+dj_oldskool She never shows her younger pics.
awwwwwwwwá
I think Lonni went through a lot growing up she doesn't seem to like getting deep she seems to avoid a lot of questions or turn them into jokes... which makes sense because people say that comedians have the most pain, but it's crazy she will cry over someone else's story I think she uses other people's stories to let out her pain.
She defiantly did go through a lot growing up. She often deflects when asked questions that would cause her to go deeper. it's a shame because I feel like out of everyone on the panel, there are very special, and much needed things that she could share. Hopefully one day she'll feel safe enough to allow us the see the real Loni. Her stories are needed, and a greater barrier on the panel would be broken.
Someone in the comments on Facebook said that in an old episode Lonni said when she was younger her stepfather would buy gifts for all the kids and for her mother but wouldn't buy anything for her. I know that must have hurt a lot. She dismisses her own feelings by pushing them to the side she does the same thing herself that her step father did to her as a child. She is a comedian so it's kind of like she has trained herself to laugh at her pain or just not address it.
IamChosen488 she may just genuinely feel for whomever the story is about because she’s that compassionate. I’m an empath and a Cancer woman also and I was watching the Drs, one day and this lady was pregnant and did not carry her baby full term and she had to get a hysterectomy. When I tell you I felt her pain all the way through my tv I did! I literally was in tears. She probably masks her pain so that she doesn’t have to relive the moments, but she won’t be able to heal that way.
"The bad things that you're going through right now, is the good things that are for you to come". Love it!
+Jackie Mann GOSPEL WORDS 🙌🙌
Reminds me of Romans 8:18
The pain you are going through is tiny compared to the blessings coming your way. *paraphrased*
+Reine Pope yess that's true. amen
+Ashley Francis 🙌
+Reine Pope Amen🙌🏾
We need more 16 year olds like Tamera's younger self. There's a lot of them looking like their 20 😩
+Lisa L Exactly!
I couldn't agree more! God.
For real. And causing grown men to go to jail.
+Anisha Renee I blame Kylie lol
Amen.....
And no one cried. Hallelu!!!
IKR lol
I did "Sal to the vation"
Ikr I'm surprised!
Gloooory 🙌
lol except for me haha
"The bad things that you are going through right now are the good things that are for you to come"
BRAXTON, Tamar
HugoPimentel she made me cry. Her word truly touched me ❤
Tamera's photoshop was the best! Looked like she was standing there with her daughter. Anyway, Loni needs to chill with the brown liquor story. I feel like she doesnt get personal when the other ladies do so the show can have moments that doesnt get too serious.
So true. I am so tired of Loni and her brown liquor jokes. There are only a few times where I take anything that Loni says seriously.
+tasha John everyone has a different way of coping with personal issues and Loni is a comedian so her way of coping is making jokes.
Could Jeannie be anymore extra? "I LOVE THAT PICTURE!!!!!!" damn woman. It's kinda hard to watch knowing Tamar doesn't even like her
Eve Yitagesu probably because anytime she does open up, it's in full-blown tears
Sharon Njoki I get she’s a comedian but the show is not called the joke it’s called the real but she’s hiding behind her humor when the rest of the girls open up just not fair to the girls and the audience that everyone shares except her everyone keeping it real and saying things that people would not normally say if everyone pulled a loni there would be no real
Tamar took us to church lol
She sho did 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻😂😂😂😂
She's absolutely right!
"Cause you don't stay lost forever baby! Its something called SAL-TO-THE-VATION!!" lol Tamar YAAASSS!
I like that Tamar said, "Don't rush your life. Take your time." Come through Tamar. Her and Jeannie had the strongest commentary. All were great though, nonetheless.
Miss TAMAR gave the best advice, and owned this segment. 🙌 She was #preaching for real. 💯 I feel like she just helped a lot of people with that REAL and raw honesty, gospel PREACHING. #SayThatTamar
Tamar is preaching. It felt like I was listening to my pastor.
+Jasmine A. M IKR?? "The bad things you're going through now are the good things that are to come for you" -- Reverendess Tamar
.....Tamara actually kept her word on not crying 😳
Braids really suit Loni. She looks beautiful with them.
Loni took that picture with the short hair yesterday
Lmao!!!
+Ashlyn D. ''1812'' LOL
😂😂😂😂
Adrienne still cares about people liking her. In a past segment where they were talking about first impressions of each other Adrienne said she wanted Loni to like her "so bad"
listen to yourself. PAST segments. that was a very long time ago.💺
What Tamar said at the end about taking everything you go through in stride because it makes you who you are..... that was DEEP for me. 🙌
It was my favorite part of the episode, I wish she had stayed till the end. She was a very valuable entity to the Real.
The fact that every single one of these ladies looks the same is amazing. Won't He do it!
Tamar's speech really spoke to me. I'm going through everything she described and her kind words really sparked some hope in me. Thank you Tamar!
Tamar though, she really helped me today, I'm trying to rush my life and move forward way too fast and I need to take my time. I am going through so much pain and hard things right now but I know in the end I'll be where I want to be and I just need to focus on healing. Thank you
True❤️same
Thank you Tamar for that. Really hit home for me, being 20 and basically feeling blind to where I wish to go. Now I know all the hard ships will be worth all the tears and frustration one day.
Tamar that was beautiful, the hotter the battle the sweeter the victory‼️ Tamera's Photoshop looked authentic and real, the producers did a great job with her picture and I'm glad she pointed out that not everybody is raised like her 👍🏽. Loni looked and still look amazing and definitely has beautiful skin.
Tamar gave me life with them beautiful words of wisdom.
In 12 years that's gonna be her and Ariah. I can already see it.
Tamera's throwback is how teenage girls are suppose to look but sadly they don't nowadays
I SOOO needed this right now at this time in my life. Thanks Tamar for easing my mind!
Me too girl
Yes ma!!!
I'm in love with Tamar's speech because I'm 17 and I'm going through the same issues and problems and she really helped me.
I'm 20 now and it may seem like not a big difference but the things I learned in 3 years is immense . The thing is always look back and evaluate who you were and what you have over come . Sometimes we don't give ourselves enough credit but be positive look forward to your future 😊👍👌💃🏾.
+Shan Parke Thank you i really appreciate that!!!!
Loni uses comedy to mask her vulnerability and I don't think she realises that we can see right through it. I hope at some point she'll start letting her guard down .
Jeannie and Tamar were my favs today! This segment warmed my heart!
I'm sobbing like crazy. I'm in my final year studying economics. It's been a bumpy ride for me studying abroad. Most of my friends didn't attend uni after they got a diploma and started their own business and some took over their parents' established companies. I have so many things I want in life. From where I am now is far from where I want to be. When I look at my friends doing so well with their businesses, I felt the immense pressure and constantly asking myself "why am I still studying? For what? Am I going to get a job after this? Or shall I just go back home and live with my family?"
When Tamar and Adrienne said don't rush your life, God has a plan for you, it makes me feel better. Maybe I'm just wanting so many things and it is just not the time yet. With a constant hardwork , I know I could be successful in life.
Girl ur doing a great thing by attending uni and getting that degree , businesses can fail but to be honest having a certificate is always a good backup, u don't wanna drop out uni and then regret later so many reach people still get asked if they have degree or not and some even like Tyra banks she still went back to uni and studied so don't feel pressured ur already in ur last year and time flies and u will graduate and be independent, and maybe than u can start ur own business or maybe work and about the finding the job don't worry about it leave that to God , keep working hard and u will get what u deserve
+Nora Green im going through the same thing. I have been in uni studying science for almost 6 years and im 8 subjects away from graduating. people have told me growing up to give up my dream of being a scientist and do something easy so i can get a job and make money because i might not have it in me to accomplish this. I have moved around the world since I was a baby including during uni which is what cause the delay in graduating. I've been working 40 hours a week while studying full time and i too stress that it might be all for nothing if i dont get a career job. my friends have all graduated, worked part time, lived a stable life and now have career jobs but you know what, the end is near and i keep telling myself that things will work out and not to freak out. Im so glad there are women like this on this talk show to encourage young women like me to keep pushing
It is great that you are attending university and by doing that you are broadening your horizons. You are putting yourself at an advantage point. Imagine if the economy fell completely, what would happen to all your friends businesses without them having degrees? They will end up working in a minimum wage job because they don't have credentials. Anyways, don't focus on others only focus on yourself and what you need and want. In the end, they won't matter only your happiness will keep you in check for the future. 😊
Nora Green "the race is long but in the end it's only with yourself"💛
@@faizasaeed1000 As the show ended, I came to watch the old episodes and found this comment I wrote out of frustration 6 years ago, and all your LOVELY comments ❤ In the last 6 years, I worked in banking then moved to consulting where I’m traveling around with projects. You ladies said “what if the economy fails”. My country Myanmar had a coup last year, completely crippling the economy and many people had to leave to look for jobs overseas. I relocated to Europe with the same company and continue to work on the projects. It’s crazy to look back and see how far I’ve come in just 6 years and God knows what lies ahead!
I hope all of you are healthy and doing well in all aspects of life. Would be nice to hear some updates. Sending love ❤
"You don't stay lost forever. There's something called SAL to the VATION, hallelujah!"
WON'T HE DO IT?!?! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love how no one cried and I was here sobbing watching both clips😂💕 Its amazing how you girls inspire me and I feel like you speak right to me. I feel lost and im 20 now. But I wont be lost forever. Thanks girls💕💕
+Naomi Chanel Laing LMAO girl I thought it was just me. I got so worried when I didn't see anyone complaining about onions in the comments
yess I feel the same way! I know I'm going to be just fine though.
+Mandy X'O-twod Girl is not onions...the thing is i got an eye condition right...? like when i see some thangs my tear ducts produce some kind of liquid...maybe am allergic (^_~) ;)
Me too 😞
I feel the same ! I’m 20
Tamar soo true.. All I ever wana tell my younger siblings and cousins is to take their time growing up its not all that it's more fun to be young!!
All I thought about of Soul Plane when I saw Loni with that pineapple cut. "YOU AIN'T GOING NOWHERE OSAMA!!"
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All I thought was "damn, black refuses to crack."
+MartianBlues Yes sir indeed !!
lol you can tell it was from that era
tamar advice is gold
Loni: y'all should have told her you was gon' meet me one day
Tamera: I know, I know and guard my heart
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Tamar old self was gorgeous!
I'm just waiting for that moment when Loni has her breaking point I just feel like it's coming and tbh with you guys I think Loni must have been through a very traumatic experience because the way she just shuts out or makes everything a joke it's something from her past that really affected her and when she does have her emotional moments she BREAKS down immediately she just as emotional as Tamera is really so when that moment comes ya'll it's going to be really bad because she's been holding all that stuff in and that's not good she definitely needs to open up because she will feel a lot better.
+Melissa Evans I agree. I totally agree.
Are you a profiler?
She has to make it funny.... She's a comedian 🙄
I couldn't agree with you more. As a psych graduate I think this could very well be the case for Loni. And there's nothing wrong with it, it was just her coping mechanism for whatever pain she experienced in the past.
Melissa Evans
I cried when Tamar spoke her speech. Because I'm going through the same thing she went through, she's so inspirational. Thankyou TayTay ❤
thank you Tamar for that ,I needed to hear it today because I am 25 years old and I am so worried about my future ,currently doing an internship but not doing what I studied for and I feel lost ,but now I am going to let God be in control.
Now that you are 30 I hope you have found light 🕯️
@@mapuleqambata3704 thank you so much 😊 yesssssssssss indeeed ..I’m now permanent and doing content creation part time ..I have a RUclips channel and God indeed came through for me 😀😀😀😀
@@silindokuhlekhubone I will make sure to subscribe 😊
@@mapuleqambata3704 thank You Mapule ..You just made me appreciate my blessings 😌😌😌😌😌😌😌😀😀😀Thank Uou
@@silindokuhlekhubone i am so happy you replied😂 i wanted to know how it is being 30 im 24 and do you have any advice
My dad used to tell me time and time again *they don't have to like you, but they do have to respect you*. I'd go back and tell myself that. I'm definitely with you, Tamera. I was sheltered as well. I thought everybody was gon do right by me since that's how I was raised, but chile..... Heffas will stab yo' ass in the back with the quickness. I encountered a lot of subliminal jealousy as well.
yes.
yes.
True.
I'd give the world to go back and tell my younger self follow your dreams. don't let any man or any amount of money come between you and your dreams. I would tell myself to not try to be like anyone else and to love yourself. to not care what others think. that one day someone will love you imperfections and all. I'm happy where I am today but I've went through hell to get here.
+Morgan Dawn I hear your Morgan. I know where you are coming from. Keep groovin' in your happy place and let NOBODY pull you from it.
I really needed to hear what Tamar said in this.
I feel like Tamar always shades Jeannie, but Jeannie just kills her with kindness.
No she doesn't. They have a decent relationship. You people just try to see more than there is.
+Eddy6159 EXACTLY
+Eddy6159 She obviously does, but yall blind so okay lmao
No, she doesn't.....she's obviously more closer to Tamera and Adrienne, but she and Jeannie ARE friends. And yes, like each other. She chills at Tamar's house and they text each other just like normal FRIENDS do. She does "friend-shade" (inside joke type stuff) with Jeannie, and y'all take it out of context. Stop making it more than what it is.
Carlos Knows She wasn't even shading Jeannie here, some of you guys just love starting stuff.
C'mon Tamar. You betta be an evangelist! Tamar and Jeannie's advice to their younger self were my favorites. I was really hoping Loni got serious on this topic, though. It wouldn't hurt to let it all out, Loni. I gurentee she can help at least one person by being honest to herself. Overall great girl chat segment!
you dont stay lost forever babay👏👏👏👏 ...Its called SAL-TO-THE-VATION🙌🙌🙌yess God🙌🙌🙌
Janazia Thompson, This is wisdom coming from a 50 year old woman who has always believed in having a great character. Love God first and seek his guidance and the advice of others with positive attitudes and loving hearts. STAY AWAY from hurting people because they WILL hurt you eventually. Love, nurture and be kind to yourself because there will be days that YOU are all you have for YOU. Let your self talk, self respect and self worth and constantly working on your self development be your number 1 priority. Take time to find out what you really enjoy doing and do it. Choose your circle of friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be a better person. Learn and take heed from woman that are gifted and positive about life. And when the time is appropriate ONLY connect with a man who treats you with the highest respect and that has a healthy perspective on loving (NO ONE that is coming from an dysfunctional home). Go to college if possible. Try not to bring a child into this world until you have finished college and a wonderful man has chosen you as his wife. Love, Laugh often and Live. Wishing you a beautiful life's journey. Shine like I know you will.
So inspiring 🙌
Thank you for your wisdom
Tamar advice spoke through my soul... Literally. It was soo touching & relatable. Im taking the advice tamar would tell her youger self because i can relate & feel the same way & im only 19 yrs old. At this age you feel lost, hopeless, & your worry alot about the present & future. The advices Adrienne & Tamera gave was VERY healing & relatable as well. I feel like when you're young you just want everything to be perfect & go your own way. It's scary because knowing that you have no control over your life makes you anxious gives you anxiety. The pain & stress & can be overwhelming & it can cause you to doubt your future. That's why you should always keep God first in your life spiritually & physically because he has the power to make everything better & stress free💖🙏
I swear there is so much more to Loni than she shows, you can tell she covers up so much pain.
Tamar always gives the best advice and tea👍👍👍.
I feel like Tamar was talking to my spirit ❤
That photoshop was baaaaaaad!!!!
Tameras was pretty realistic
Lord knows I needed to hear exactly what Tamar said.
I love this segment. I love Tamera. I relate to her so much. I sincerely hope that these days of anxiety, confusion, naivety, having your heart broken by people you had higher thoughts of, having your heart broken by life, of being dead last, not recognising the direction your life is taking, burning bridges and wishing you were someone else...I hope they all become something. I hope the good days and the bad light the way to the future I've prayed for.
tamera's advice hit me straight on im 17 very sheltered, and very anxious i can never relax there's not a moment when I don't feel something itching at the back of my mind
I don't always agree with Tamar. But today I agree 100% I would definitely tell that to my younger self.
Thank you Tamar and tamera and Adrienne as well! I relate to all 3 of you now
I love these segments sooo much! It's so prevalent to my life right now ; I'm currently 21 and life can be intimidating at times, especially when it comes to the unknown and the future.
Life is what you make it. Live each day not worrying about tomorrow. Tomorrow is never certain. I'm turning 30 this year. One thing I'd say to anyone your age is take the time to evaluate the people you surround yourself with. if they aren't bringing you up, let em go.
21 here too, graduating next months.... Scaeeeered 😫
Tamar and Tamera: yes!!!!
This couldn't have come at a better time. Lost is the best word to describe me right now.
You said it best, Tamar! Amen!
Tamar better speak to me! As a 18 almost 19 year old, I just feel lost!
How ya doin ?x
one of the best segments 👏👏👏
I'm 33. I would tell my younger self to be relentless when it comes to your career, don't take no for an answer, save up to buy your own place and you won't be fat forever, guys will come around like bees to honey.
Nice and thank for that...Bees will come to the honey hah☺
amen, Tamar gave me the spirit at the end
The reason I love this show so much, even though its a panel full of women is bc they discuss real topics & bc they're real topics it can go for either gender such as this topic, we all go through things & often put in situations that we may in counter or had in counter & didnt know how to handle it but once you get passed it you can look back & encourage yourself just how they are reflecting, this can go for guy or girl & thats the best thing about this show
These women are so beautiful on the inside ❤️❤️
Loni needs to dig deeper sometimes.
PrincessM we don't know her past.
PrincessM ikr😥
All five have said very strong things, it gives me confidence.
Luv you girls!!
Tamar gave me goosebumps :) YASSS!!
Tamar , thank you for those words !!!!
Thank you Tamar 🙃. This really helped me soooo much & I'm 17 right now .
"The bad things you are going through right now is the good things that is to come." -Tamar Braxton
For being on a show called The Real Loni is anything but. She is guarded and not emotionally open which is made all the more obvious because her cohosts are. I hope that she can find happiness some day because she just seems so sad to me.
I've always thought this. She makes a joke about everything because she doesn't want to open up or face her insecurities.
Are we watching the same show? Loni cries more then anybody, she's a cancer she wears her heart on her sleeve and just because she doesn't expose her entire life on the show doesn't make her any less real! Ppl like you feel like you're suppose to know everything about someone because they are on tv, I bet if she was the opposite of what you think you would still have something negative to say smfh
Tamars advice, YASSSS im here for that :)
What i would tell my younger self ? I would say don't let people use u hurt u betray u take advantage of u or mistreating u with disrespect know yourself know your worth stay out of trouble and finish school and do what makes u happy never give up
Here i was expecting at least three of them to open their flood gates but dammit, mines are about to come full force after Tamar's advice!
If I could go back in time I would tell my younger self, be true to who you are. Love yourself. Guard your heart, and don't put up with people hurting you. And don't just give your heart to anyone.
I got a little emotional seeing Tamera's younger self, it was if my childhood flashed before my eyes. I felt like I was looking back at my old self as well, it's so funny how people you watched on TV as they grew up, you grew with them. We are around the same age & that picture took me back & just allowed me to think how you should enjoy your youth. I really loved what Tamar said regarding...not rushing your life. It is very true & it is something I am still struggling with today. Note to self take each day as it comes & enjoy God's blessings.
This is something I needed to hear. I'm only 23, but the pressure I put on myself is unreal. There is so much I want in life, but I have no idea yet how to get there. I've accomplished a lot as far as education goes; I've got 2 Masters degrees and finish my law degree next month. I left my home country and am separated from all I know by an ocean. When I look at my friends back home, they've all started careers, met their partners, have created homes for themselves, and I look at myself and think 'why don't I have that too? and 'is this all worth it?'' Constantly filled with anxiety wondering where I'm going to end up. But it is nice to know that I'm not the only one with those worries.
"sal to the action hallelujah" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
*vation
this made me cry...i am 18 and in second year of Uni and i am still lost...
+Safiya Ummi Same here, but this gives me hope that I'll find myself one day.
Tamara is so I related to most... I was home schooled all of middle school... And I honestly was naive from my lack of social experience.... Got my heart broken thinking people honestly meant what they said and almost turned me into someone else.. But I can day I'm stronger now because of it
Lonnie hides a lot behind her jokes and listening to the other hosts. It's way more to her than she tells. She would tell her younger self something different. But hey!
How do you know 🤔
I've learned that too. I showed up too many times with open heart. I hard to learn the hard way, to guard my heart. I've learn the deceit of man. While I live to forgive, I learned to never used, "I never knew" as an excuse. Guard my heart. Too the pure hearted one like myself, guard yours too.
yes.
+Serena Quaye I recently opened my heart to a coworker even though I fought hard against it. And though there was technically nothing bad that came from this experience, I still feel I shouldn't have given so much because deep down I was never completely secure that this person gave a damn about me one way or the other. And ever since I changed jobs and we no longer see each other, I feel that even more. We have each other's contact information but I've heard nothing from them since. Now, I'm back to "instaguard," lol. I've been in this situation so many times in my life I've become used to it. I'm just sticking to family now. This friend business has been wack for years. I'm done trying. I'm just doing me.
+TheRetroWoman80 I can tell you're some with a great soul. There's a saying, "better to have loved, and lost, than never to have loved at all." You had an opportunity to show love which you did. Bravo. Only a few people can do it. No one will take this experience from you. The encounter brought you a chance to learn something new inorder to discover who you are. I'm sure you will. Next time, tell yourself, "no one can hurt or take me for granted without my permission." Thou, no one can. The universe wanted you to learn how to love yourself. That's why you had the experience multiple times. Moreover, the experience came bk because you refused to learn the lesson the first or second time. It's time you learn the lesson to love youself. Say it, out loud, everyday. "I love myself." "I love others." "No one can hurt me or take me for granted without my permission." Make this your daily affirmation. You can add to it as well. Overall, this pain should never stop the love you have for the right person at the right time. My only advice to you, like you said, "take your time to know anyone." Study a person's character to see whether what he/she says, matches one actions. Again, guard ur heart ain't the same, as in, you become bitter. To guard your heart means, you become wiser. Remember action speaks volume. Pay close attn to behaviors than anything else. This is something I put into practice than I did in the past. Forgive this individual to open you to wonderful opportunities to meet "amazings" :).
Thank for you words of encouragement, Serena. I hear what you are talking about, truly I do. But I'm staying focused on me. I am at my highest state of peace that way anyhow. See, I don't hate people, I just don't trust people. I'm literally DONE with that part of myself that initiates/gives everything and pretends to not care about being reciprocated, because it does mean a heck of a lot to me. I have two beautiful and thoughtful loving cousins who are the sisters I never had and always wanted. That's where my "friend" energies will go. I don't need anyone else. It seems whenever I've sought the so-called prospective "friends" in my life journey I've gained nothing but heaviness of heart in the end. Here goes to starting a new chapter in my life! I'm about staying true to it and loving/respecting myself, continually, as you suggested:-)
+TheRetroWoman80 You go girl!
What Tamar said at the end was so good🙌🏽
What Tamar said was deep. Tamera looked like she was literally standing next to her younger self and Loni needs to stop talkin bout brown liquor
This is why I watch The Real. Time flies and before you know it you have family and kids to take care of. I'm turning 30 and I've never felt better. Got rid of some garbage in my life (people & things). It's amazing how much lighter life is. The younger me was always rushing to grow up. Slow down.
Self Reflection is beautiful. It leads to emotional growth.
I love how everyone was humble in this segment. Maybe it was the introspection on their younger selves then vs how they are today as mothers, wives and as women. It was inspiring!
I love love LOVED this segment! The heartfelt ones are always the best. ❤️
Thank you Tamar for that wonderful advice. I'm 18, and currently going through a really rough time in my life, I had the "perfect life", everything was easy and planned as i grew but now, i find myself facing really tough situations that make me question myself.. but as known, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that god is testing me and has what's best for me in the future. As i'm going into adulthood , independence and maturity i'm crossing challenging and shaky paths that will lead me into the right one, so again thank you for these advises ladies.
I would give the warmest hug to my younger self and tell her nobody but YOU will ever love YOU quite like this. So stay expectation-LESS of people. I would also explain to her that even if pleasant, well-meaning people do come into your life don't take them too seriously because when it's all said and done...only a few rare ones (or just one) will remain lovingly loyal and interested in your time.
awww tamar is amazing!! x