𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞? On Perfection of Life by St. Bonaventure: romanseraphicbooks.com/product/on-perfection-of-life/ romanseraphicbooks.com/
This was very interesting. I had been under the impression that the discipline, hair shirt and stuff were radical ways to BECOME holier, and to kind of force oneself to stop doing the impatience etc. Hmmm. Opposite. Wowee.... Now I need to analyze my reactions to being corrected by my husband. He still has his head but he did get an earful last time ...😅
THERE IS CORRECTION OF THE LOVING AND YET CRITICAL KIND AND THERE IS CHISTISMENT! THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. Here at home I have one adult child that is always marginalizing me when I ask a question as to what is going...such as today when my other adult child, forgot his cell phone in his pocket and put his pants to be washed, so the cell phone was taken out and attempted to dry out and all I said what happened. And was told NOT NOW! AND in fact , I get told that a lot, not now, not now, just like a child. This is my house and im made to feel like a stranger and many husbands do the same...SO YEAH IT WOULD FIGURE THAT YOU WOULD SAY THAT ABOUT WOMEN!
Interesting. I have a real question? Should we become oblivious to abusive people in any state of life? Sure even if we could take it, should we take it? It seems spiritually we should not allow others to be abusive to us? Would love to continue this conversation?
I have experienced great sadness at my inability to continue great penances and I can now clearly see how that was a distraction from the little things, the little sacrifices, that I was neglecting. Pride is an insidious demon, so sneaky and deceptive. God grant me discernment and true humility.
Getting trapped in venial sin, after getting over mortal sins is real. There is a temptation for me to want to bear bigger crosses to make up for my past.
I sure have found this to be true ~ ❤️🙏🏻🌹~ once I awoke and fled from mortal sin, my venial sins began to feel like the death of a thousand paper cuts ~ This was absolutely perfect ~
This is how I'm slowly getting out of sins against charity, impatience, and malice. Once I consecrate myself to God throughout the day and strive to live like Christ in every day situations I no longer get feelings of hatred or annoyance when minor inconveniences happen.
Everything Fr. said, I can relate to. Almost 52 years of age and feel I know very little. The small things are so difficult for me. Jesus Christ, Son of the living God, have mercy on me, a poor sinner. +++
Spot on!!! I’m here red in the face trying to put up with the loud constant bickering of my ADD kids... I definitely would rather have a hair shirt…thank you for the honest instruction
I had a plastic bag burned and scorched my fingertips pain was un believable, immediately I thought of the poor souls in purgatory joyfully I offered it to Almighty God calling upon our Lady for their repose. I pondered how much more they suffering and only if offer up for them, it was a blessing from God.
Very good video. Thank you very much Fr. I can definitely agree on the small "penances" crosses that I avoid. I sometimes think martyrdom is eaiser than the small crosses. My previous spiritual director told me that we usually don't want the crosses/penances that are given to us like our daily duties and fulfiling our vocation and we prefer to impose other crosses on ourselves to avoid the smaller penances/crosses. He said that every little action made with love could be offered to God. Maturity in spiritual life along with prayer is important. Its the small things when we don't want to do them that can be offered to God and to Our Lady for many reasons especially for reparation, for the Holy Souls in Purgatory, and for the conversion of sinners. 🙏🙏🙏Our Blessed Virgin Mother Mary, Queen conceived without original sin, Pray for us.
You are so very right. I’ve been married for 53 years and it’s very difficult at times to be patient and charitable especially if he points out your faults. Last week I was praying for some humility and got an answer really fast. My husband came down with a nasty stomach problem I had to clean up and it was very difficult for me to stay pleasant throughout it. It’s said when the Angel cried out Penance at Fatima he meant these everyday things you encounter with your family. Much harder to me than fasting.
Being a Mom at home taking care of 🏠 is my hair shirt. Often felt isolated, THAT was the Worst. Having no other adult around when my husband was at work. All the cooking, cleaning, laundry! Serving others, Careful you don't lose yourself (what makes you Special trying to please others). In my case, it helped me FIND my worth. A Long journey since marriage 25 years ago❤, hard fought wisdom and now ready to enjoy Life!
What has been eye opening for me, reading St Therese, Story of a Soul, is that all that we do to serve, is not primarily for the sake of the person, but for the love of God. The love of God is the only thing that can sustain a person through all the service we are called to do. Service to people we love is easy St Therese tells us, service to those would rather not want to, that takes the love of God, and discovering all the good attributes of the person and why God created that person in His image. I do hope that your enjoyment of life means a deeper prayer life and union with God, and not merely material benefits. Prayers for you and your family.
It also needs to be noted. I do penances such as saying Hail Mary’s for the people in my life in cold showers. This has helped me to do the smaller penances that are in my life (like being charitable to my neighbors). It’s true that doing big penances can cause pride in people when really those penances are easier for them than the little ones. But it is also true that doing those penances can help us to think about the smaller penances to do in our lives too. I am not a priest, just my thoughts.
Every day is a grind to take this situations with my wife and make them a penance. Thank you for confirming it to me Father. God bless you and this channel!
"A man should not ask tribulations of God, presuming on his being able to bear them; there should be the greatest possible caution in this matter, for he who bears what God sends him daily does not do a small thing." - St Philip Neri
@@JBSands09 l just mean that I I needed to hear this a few years ago for a particular reason....it's too late now for that situation and I will live with the guilt until the day l die.
What a perfect message for me to hear today. Lord grant me & others the grace to see, persevere & be kind in all trials (small or large) & esp with all those I need to talk and be kind with.
I continue to work on it daily . It's hard but with an opened heart, mind, body and soul; im able to accomplish it at times. Plenty plenty of prayer 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I'm not religious but these points are valid. Most people are just looking to be a good and upright person in all instances. Even if the mind slips to a place that is inappropriate, a good and moral person does not act or give further energy to that thought. On a side note, it is normal to try add one behavior to correct for another. If I eat too much pizza, surely I can add more miles per week to my running mileage, Much harder to remove a bad habit than to add a good one.
If i remember correctly, Jesus told Saint Faustina that one meditation with a contrite heart and sincere feeling on His passion is more meritorious than a year of flagellation that draws blood.
The other side is Gods mercy is so great that many people who were thought to go to hell forever no getting out, were saved at the last moment by Gods incomprehensible mercy so great that all the Angels and saints cant fathom his mercy ❤ Unfathomable Divine Mercy one of if not thee greatest attribute of God is his Mercy.
It never occurs to people like the speaker, that doing larger penances can help people do these “smaller” ones better. For example, personally, I found when I started fasting regularly, that after a while, my patience with other people increased a great deal.
I have difficulty with extending grace with my family. I have no issue taking out my anger on my loved ones. I complain about them the most. I have a lot of pent up frustration and grudges towards my family members
he's talking about people who do major penances to make themselves feel good and righteous, meanwhile they neglect the ways they fall short in their everyday lives. If you're doing major penances and working on all the other moments where you lack grace and charity then you're doing great and this message isn't for you.
The people or family we live with are the ones we know the best, warts and all, hence they are the hardest to love, to be patient with and to forgive. Thats why God has made man to live in community because it is sanctifying if you allow it to be!
O My God & Savior!!! Exactly what I did NOT want to know😳🤔🙄 OK then....for Christ's sake then... it's gonna be beYOND difficult though!😠🤭😉🙏 Thank you brother.❤ PS. Were you talkin to Jesus 'bout me today? Cuz....this vid just sorta popped up right as said situation came up AGAIN. Thanky You Jesus, thank you Guardian Angel, rthank you Blessed Mother, Thank you St. Joseph🙏😁😉
I pray for patience and then God sends me the most obnoxious drivers, with no passing lane, so I am stuck behind these... these... these stumbling blocks. Yeah, He answered my prayer alright, and I'm not happy about it. Then I go to confession and have to admit to my priest what an idiot I am for being angry that God answered my prayer and gave me an opportunity to advance in virtue.
penance should only be for Gods glory..and should only prepare our souls for martyrdom...if we strove to keep that mindset..there would be no desire for outward penances..outward more often than not, only feed the ego.
What about women (or men) who are abused and neglected by their spouse? idk. You are talking from a perspective where people are acting normally rather than affected by drugs and alcohol....and even so, I remember this one woman who had put up with her husband's behavior for decades, and she was called a "martyr" in a derogatory way, and her face looked sour in old age, while his looked happy. God help us all. I do a consecration every morning to Our Blessed Mother and St. Joseph and to God the Father. .just to avoid forgetting about remembering to sacrifice the small (or large) things of my day, .and I hope I don't end up being sour.
Pray That I Will Pray The Rosary The Divine Mercy Prayer To St Michael Poor Souls In Purgatory All My Priest Friends For The Pope That I Will Forsake My Transgressions Flee Evildoers Forgiveness Of Enemies That Blessings Will Come Upon My Property Belongings Life Health
Wow…..I can’t believe what I just heard. The man can’t be the one in charge. Marriage is a partnership. God is the one in charge!!! “Charitable”,”job”,”duty”. Wow…..I didn’t know women were slaves in marriage. What happened to treat others as you would like to be treated.
God doesnt send anyone to hell, people chose to go there, it starts on earth the way you live ,Jesus said many are called few are chosen. ST Faustina said many souls go to hell. One Saint said those who pray are almost asured of heaven, and those who dont pray are almost assured of Hell. Thats why Padre Pio said, Pray and dont Worry.
Great perspective! Except obviously not from a married man! From my perspective it’s usually the wife trying to be charitable and husbands as men don’t like it. Which sex has the better attendance or struggles to get the family to Mass? Isn’t it usually the woman? I get that’s are penance to bear! 😀
I found that I treated my husband as head of me and our children and he rose to the occasion. If all wives were submissive to their husbands 4:40 , there would be a great change. Nagging is no good. Compliment your husband and tell him that you appreciate what a good example he is to your children.
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𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞?
On Perfection of Life by St. Bonaventure: romanseraphicbooks.com/product/on-perfection-of-life/
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This is so true..thx❤😊
This was very interesting. I had been under the impression that the discipline, hair shirt and stuff were radical ways to BECOME holier, and to kind of force oneself to stop doing the impatience etc. Hmmm. Opposite. Wowee.... Now I need to analyze my reactions to being corrected by my husband. He still has his head but he did get an earful last time ...😅
THERE IS CORRECTION OF THE LOVING AND YET CRITICAL KIND AND THERE IS CHISTISMENT! THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. Here at home I have one adult child that is always marginalizing me when I ask a question as to what is going...such as today when my other adult child, forgot his cell phone in his pocket and put his pants to be washed, so the cell phone was taken out and attempted to dry out and all I said what happened. And was told NOT NOW! AND in fact , I get told that a lot, not now, not now, just like a child. This is my house and im made to feel like a stranger and many husbands do the same...SO YEAH IT WOULD FIGURE THAT YOU WOULD SAY THAT ABOUT WOMEN!
Interesting. I have a real question?
Should we become oblivious to abusive people in any state of life? Sure even if we could take it, should we take it? It seems spiritually we should not allow others to be abusive to us? Would love to continue this conversation?
@@desertedenblooms😢 I am sorry. These are wrong things. I don't think Father means this kind of thing.
I have experienced great sadness at my inability to continue great penances and I can now clearly see how that was a distraction from the little things, the little sacrifices, that I was neglecting. Pride is an insidious demon, so sneaky and deceptive. God grant me discernment and true humility.
St. Therese taught us this too. Do the little things for God.
The Little Way 🥰
Getting trapped in venial sin, after getting over mortal sins is real. There is a temptation for me to want to bear bigger crosses to make up for my past.
You come and help me in the garden, to plant plants and trees and roses and bring to life for Gods glory!!
I sure have found this to be true ~ ❤️🙏🏻🌹~ once I awoke and fled from mortal sin, my venial sins began to feel like the death of a thousand paper cuts ~
This was absolutely perfect ~
@@christelrascon6492 death of a thousand cuts. So true.
Be faithful in that which is least, and I will make thee ruler over many things. ❤💪❤
👍💪🙏⛪
This is how I'm slowly getting out of sins against charity, impatience, and malice. Once I consecrate myself to God throughout the day and strive to live like Christ in every day situations I no longer get feelings of hatred or annoyance when minor inconveniences happen.
Everything Fr. said, I can relate to. Almost 52 years of age and feel I know very little. The small things are so difficult for me. Jesus Christ, Son of the living God, have mercy on me, a poor sinner. +++
Spot on!!! I’m here red in the face trying to put up with the loud constant bickering of my ADD kids... I definitely would rather have a hair shirt…thank you for the honest instruction
Amen
Children don't have ADD. That's how children are. They want you're attention and the less you give, the more they want.
Amen. Right there with you on that one.
I had a plastic bag burned and scorched my fingertips pain was un believable, immediately I thought of the poor souls in purgatory joyfully I offered it to Almighty God calling upon our Lady for their repose. I pondered how much more they suffering and only if offer up for them, it was a blessing from God.
Very good video. Thank you very much Fr. I can definitely agree on the small "penances" crosses that I avoid. I sometimes think martyrdom is eaiser than the small crosses. My previous spiritual director told me that we usually don't want the crosses/penances that are given to us like our daily duties and fulfiling our vocation and we prefer to impose other crosses on ourselves to avoid the smaller penances/crosses. He said that every little action made with love could be offered to God. Maturity in spiritual life along with prayer is important. Its the small things when we don't want to do them that can be offered to God and to Our Lady for many reasons especially for reparation, for the Holy Souls in Purgatory, and for the conversion of sinners. 🙏🙏🙏Our Blessed Virgin Mother Mary, Queen conceived without original sin,
Pray for us.
The greatest penance for me, is to do all actions with joy, no matter how I feel, for love of God united!!
I agree with you 100% !
Thank you, Father, I NEEDED to hear this!
Me too! Thank you, Father! 🙏
You are so very right. I’ve been married for 53 years and it’s very difficult at times to be patient and charitable especially if he points out your faults. Last week I was praying for some humility and got an answer really fast. My husband came down with a nasty stomach problem I had to clean up and it was very difficult for me to stay pleasant throughout it. It’s said when the Angel cried out Penance at Fatima he meant these everyday things you encounter with your family. Much harder to me than fasting.
Being a Mom at home taking care of 🏠 is my hair shirt. Often felt isolated, THAT was the Worst. Having no other adult around when my husband was at work. All the cooking, cleaning, laundry! Serving others, Careful you don't lose yourself (what makes you Special trying to please others). In my case, it helped me FIND my worth. A Long journey since marriage 25 years ago❤, hard fought wisdom and now ready to enjoy Life!
What has been eye opening for me, reading St Therese, Story of a Soul, is that all that we do to serve, is not primarily for the sake of the person, but for the love of God.
The love of God is the only thing that can sustain a person through all the service we are called to do. Service to people we love is easy St Therese tells us, service to those would rather not want to, that takes the love of God, and discovering all the good attributes of the person and why God created that person in His image.
I do hope that your enjoyment of life means a deeper prayer life and union with God, and not merely material benefits. Prayers for you and your family.
It’s true, the everyday grind is difficult.
So true. All the everyday "little things" are Catholic penence.
It also needs to be noted. I do penances such as saying Hail Mary’s for the people in my life in cold showers. This has helped me to do the smaller penances that are in my life (like being charitable to my neighbors). It’s true that doing big penances can cause pride in people when really those penances are easier for them than the little ones. But it is also true that doing those penances can help us to think about the smaller penances to do in our lives too. I am not a priest, just my thoughts.
You’re absolutely right and this isn’t something easy to hear. The saints all practiced this. Thanks for the reminder.
I wonder how Saint Rose of Lima dealt with her families constant scrutiny and criticism
Every day is a grind to take this situations with my wife and make them a penance. Thank you for confirming it to me Father. God bless you and this channel!
A thought provoking perspective that surely rings true. Thank you , I needed to hear this. God bless you.
"A man should not ask tribulations of God, presuming on his being able to bear them; there should be the greatest possible caution in this matter, for he who bears what God sends him daily does not do a small thing." - St Philip Neri
I agree it's best to bear with the crosses that God sends us, humility first
This message came to me at just the right time. Thank you!!
Wow that’s good teaching
This is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
You are living right next door to my house. Ow, am striving on these things, needed this.
That message stings the pride...well done👏
Thank you, This was an answer to my prayer.
Such simple commonsense ❤
Awesome hair shirt !! Plenty here!! Thank you Father. And I'm a widow!! God bless
Thank you Father we need your guidance
I needed this message. Thank you.
That message was meant for me. Thank you.
Nice video, if we not Faithful in lesser thing, we not faithful and big things
I sure needed to hear this today. 🙏
Try delivering this homily to the ladies on "The View."
To what end. Those clowns. Why waste time and breath
Lots of points to ponder in this reflection
I wish I'd heard this a couple of years ago..
You are hearing it now because you are ready for it 👍🙏🏼
@@JBSands09 l just mean that I I needed to hear this a few years ago for a particular reason....it's too late now for that situation and I will live with the guilt until the day l die.
Who is this priest? His homilies are spot on!
Friar Anthony from Marian Friars Minor.
wow, its always the little things (making your bed, etc) - SO TRUE!!
What a perfect message for me to hear today. Lord grant me & others the grace to see, persevere & be kind in all trials (small or large) & esp with all those I need to talk and be kind with.
🙏❤ Amen! ❤🙏
Thank you, for this 🙏😎
Great wisdom in this talk.
I continue to work on it daily . It's hard but with an opened heart, mind, body and soul; im able to accomplish it at times. Plenty plenty of prayer 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You are absolutely right, Fr. 100% correct, may God bless you 🙏
Thank you for your candid, matter of fact, instructions, I so needed to hear this today!
I'm not religious but these points are valid. Most people are just looking to be a good and upright person in all instances. Even if the mind slips to a place that is inappropriate, a good and moral person does not act or give further energy to that thought. On a side note, it is normal to try add one behavior to correct for another. If I eat too much pizza, surely I can add more miles per week to my running mileage, Much harder to remove a bad habit than to add a good one.
This explanation is necessary. Thank you Fr
Needed to hear this thank you! God bless you!
EXCELLENT......THANK YOU...
Thanks
So many incredible videos being uploaded that have to do with my exact questions to God.
much needed, thank you Father, God is good.
@Sensus Fidelium, ** Indeed, "Controlling the tongue is more efficacious than fasting on bread and water." -Saint John of the Cross**
Wonderful......more please, I'm hungry!
Right on brother, the right kind of hunger!
The greatest penance is getting off-line too!! Ohh yes!
Wow!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning...Thank you Holy Spirit for revealing this to me.
I needed this today. Thank you 🙏
If i remember correctly, Jesus told Saint Faustina that one meditation with a contrite heart and sincere feeling on His passion is more meritorious than a year of flagellation that draws blood.
Amen.
😦Thank you for this words. I will meditate on them today. I do love my family through acts of service but struggle with submission.
This clip was absolutely amazing! I wish I could have heard the Full Conference.
The other side is Gods mercy is so great that many people who were thought to go to hell forever no getting out, were saved at the last moment by Gods incomprehensible mercy so great that all the Angels and saints cant fathom his mercy ❤ Unfathomable Divine Mercy one of if not thee greatest attribute of God is his Mercy.
Thank you. I finally see my major flaws.
Well said. You're talking of doing the Little Way I believe.
Very good. Thank you.
AMEN!!!
O how so very true. We must remind ourselves not to imitate the Pharisees .
GOD BLESS. Thank you.
It never occurs to people like the speaker, that doing larger penances can help people do these “smaller” ones better. For example, personally, I found when I started fasting regularly, that after a while, my patience with other people increased a great deal.
Self inflicted pain is the easiest to bear.
I need to hear this
This made me laugh, because it is so true!
I have difficulty with extending grace with my family. I have no issue taking out my anger on my loved ones. I complain about them the most. I have a lot of pent up frustration and grudges towards my family members
Ask God for help, and a shrink too if needed.... I'm in the same predicament
Same here
🙏🏻🕊❤️🔥Beautiful❤️🔥🕊🙏🏻
In time of difficulty, we may ofer reperations towards other with patient, charity, love all the same.
A greater penance might help with the every day penances.
he's talking about people who do major penances to make themselves feel good and righteous, meanwhile they neglect the ways they fall short in their everyday lives. If you're doing major penances and working on all the other moments where you lack grace and charity then you're doing great and this message isn't for you.
@@Numenorean921totally agree with you.
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The people or family we live with are the ones we know the best, warts and all, hence they are the hardest to love, to be patient with and to forgive. Thats why God has made man to live in community because it is sanctifying if you allow it to be!
That was amazing!! I really needed to hear this. Sadly it is me 😔
O My God & Savior!!! Exactly what I did NOT want to know😳🤔🙄 OK then....for Christ's sake then... it's gonna be beYOND difficult though!😠🤭😉🙏 Thank you brother.❤ PS. Were you talkin to Jesus 'bout me today? Cuz....this vid just sorta popped up right as said situation came up AGAIN. Thanky You Jesus, thank you Guardian Angel, rthank you Blessed Mother, Thank you St. Joseph🙏😁😉
SENSUS FIDELIUM !👍💪🙏⛪
Another selfish idiot who wants all of the language in anglosajón. All of the languages are correct to explain the situation
I pray for patience and then God sends me the most obnoxious drivers, with no passing lane, so I am stuck behind these... these... these stumbling blocks. Yeah, He answered my prayer alright, and I'm not happy about it. Then I go to confession and have to admit to my priest what an idiot I am for being angry that God answered my prayer and gave me an opportunity to advance in virtue.
Can you consider putting up the full talk or as much as you can in one video clip?
Thank you.
Where are the long format versions?
You are right to stay away all those horrible wives, Brother!
All priests need to learn about PMS, PMDD and menopause and the ravages- for many- of monthly periods and how exactly men and women are different.
Lmao yes. It do be a doozy 🌀
As blink 182 said..."all the small things"
penance should only be for Gods glory..and should only prepare our souls for martyrdom...if we strove to keep that mindset..there would be no desire for outward penances..outward more often than not, only feed the ego.
Thank you for your response.
What is the music?
Nice ❤ for some reason... i find myself wondering if Ruth was born on a Thurs day 😅
Can any one here tell me who this is speaking and if he has more talks?
Friar Anthony from MFM
What about women (or men) who are abused and neglected by their spouse? idk. You are talking from a perspective where people are acting normally rather than affected by drugs and alcohol....and even so, I remember this one woman who had put up with her husband's behavior for decades, and she was called a "martyr" in a derogatory way, and her face looked sour in old age, while his looked happy. God help us all. I do a consecration every morning to Our Blessed Mother and St. Joseph and to God the Father. .just to avoid forgetting about remembering to sacrifice the small (or large) things of my day, .and I hope I don't end up being sour.
Yep, I could be way more patient with my wife.
I am from Mars and her from Venus.
Communication is a challenge at times.
Pray That I Will Pray The Rosary The Divine Mercy Prayer To St Michael Poor Souls In Purgatory All My Priest Friends For The Pope That I Will Forsake My Transgressions Flee Evildoers Forgiveness Of Enemies That Blessings Will Come Upon My Property Belongings Life Health
How about 4 years of penance with Joe Biden?
I can do major penance because it’s clearly a penance. Going without a coffee. Why?
Wow…..I can’t believe what I just heard. The man can’t be the one in charge. Marriage is a partnership. God is the one in charge!!! “Charitable”,”job”,”duty”. Wow…..I didn’t know women were slaves in marriage. What happened to treat others as you would like to be treated.
God doesnt send anyone to hell, people chose to go there, it starts on earth the way you live ,Jesus said many are called few are chosen. ST Faustina said many souls go to hell. One Saint said those who pray are almost asured of heaven, and those who dont pray are almost assured of Hell. Thats why Padre Pio said, Pray and dont Worry.
Great perspective! Except obviously not from a married man! From my perspective it’s usually the wife trying to be charitable and husbands as men don’t like it. Which sex has the better attendance or struggles to get the family to Mass? Isn’t it usually the woman? I get that’s are penance to bear! 😀
I found that I treated my husband as head of me and our children and he rose to the occasion. If all wives were submissive to their husbands 4:40 , there would be a great change. Nagging is no good. Compliment your husband and tell him that you appreciate what a good example he is to your children.