Generally, they're not cut out for that. Also, they have a lower sense of responsibility; this reflects in their always putting their own interests first.
I was lost. I thought he was saying that he and his wife are no longer together..that he has given all their assets to her and is now living his life apart from her.
There is no perfect marriage or a perfect relationship, but you can visit your family for a while but don't separate, be quiet when he or she is angry, and discuss issues only when your minds are relaxed.
Reading the comments on this video, I discovered that many did not understand Dr Apoki’s video. Please watch this video again. He practically prioritized his happiness, sound mind and freedom over material things. This is a healthy man in and out.
Both well said. There's an apparent lack of comprehension of this video by many in the comment section. It requires a lot of maturity to understand what Dr Apoki expressed . I could relate and laughed throughout the video because he was describing some situations that occur between my dearest husband and me😅❤. #22 years in marriage, and we are changing and finding great ways to accommodate each other. He goes shopping whenni go crazy 🤪 😅😊😂😂❤. I love ❤️ him ever so dearly. My children just ignore both of us when we are at it . Later to use as comedy relief at their children's meetings😅😅😅😅. Am happy and grateful to have a partner who tries to accommodate, understand and support me at every stage of my change while we both strive to maintain a healthy physical and mental environment for our 3 children( all adults now too
Thank you sir for opening up and telling your story, people never tell you this part of marriage that it is very challenging not everyone who stays married are happy just do it mainly for religious and cultural reasons. Marriage is beautiful when their is genuine love and both being on the same page. I really hope you both reconcile and this is not the final chapter sometimes a temporary break is needed on both parties to heal and clear your mind from certain situations.
If this wise man had followed your advice, he wouldn't be as happy and liberated as he is. He saw and recognised his wife's God-given gifts and talents and let her use them. But he also focused on his God-given gifts and talents and took charge of those. While you sound like you live in a marriage full of strife and conflict because material things define you.
DR I am in my early twenties , But I can relate to this information ; I have found that my girlfriend has started to treat me with more respect and she is taking me seriously......after I have startd doing things I am passionate about on my own terms. and the relationship has become more health .......for both of us,
True talk Dr. Apoki. You said it all. Is like we're in the same shoe. You'll invest %90 in all you own together but most women will want to have all for themselves alone. I used to believe in uniting forces with the wife, but experience has taught me better. Thank you for speaking out b/c many men are going through the same issues.
Alot of men don't get it. What women want in life is different from what men want. The moment that I understood that my happiness is my responsibility, I started looking at my marriage differently. No matter what my wife does, she can't take away my happiness. I've already even mentally settled for any case scenario. Most men will suffer in their old age if they don't start putting themselves first..
You are 100% correct. A book called; “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus” really opened my eyes to this concept. Once you understand it, no marital issues can destabilize you.
This video showed up and very relevant. This even pertains to if you have a business together with a family business and a sibling is involved. At a certain age you must just sell off and split your portions fairly. Dont argue , 50/50. This way you are free to live your life and do what is your choosing , as are they.
It depends the kind of version. Not all men are Godly, if you follow their path , you're doomed with poverty and destruction. They are women who mean build their husbands Sir
Great video. As men get older we sometimes have to rediscover ourselves separate from the marriage. You're blessed if you have a place of your own to retreat to. Several of my friends have opted for this and to be honest it's as though you've served your purpose and it's your time now. Enjoy!
Thanks you Dr Apoki, you are surly inspirational, a man who can laugh over his daily challenges this way is truly the strong one. I like Greek philosophers too. Keep it up.
I just stumbled across your channel today. You’re amazing, I love your teachings, young people should visit your blog and listen and will gain insight on life generally. Thank you very much sir.
You certainly look happy Dr. Apoki. That is always admirable. The thing is men sometimes "allow women" to run things because they want to keep the peace or for other reasons. But later on she will become the ruler of that marriage. This is no fun for any man. So men stand your ground early and keep it that way and don't compromise on things that will later on become unfavorable
I was touched when he said he has never slept with anyone for the past 39yrs of their marriage. What kind of temptation is this? May the Lord continue to grant you the Grace Advice to Women: Any man you cannot submit to please don't marry him but if you agree to marry him, let his vision be your mission and that is submission. Íf your desire is anything more than your husband, you are functioning outside the perfect will of God. I understand with Dr CA. If you have a calling and a purpose to fulfill don't allow any distractions to stop you. God will help both of them.
😂😂 He said he and his wife are "Practicing martial social distancing, to a oid spreading martial viruses", so funny but makes sense! This man is a trip!
You're extremely well spoken sir. I love your videos, I believe this is temporary as you said it's marital distancing, You guys will be back together! in the same roof !! thank you so much Sir.
From what I heard from him......can't perceived any hate from him. And she genuinely cares for him too. Oftentimes we individually want space to reminisce and ponder about issues or fresh ideas, that doesn't mean we don't love those who are most dear in our lives.
Dr Apoki , I have just came across your video. I understand your point , it seems like you and your wife has grown apart. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love each other. It simply means you still care for each other but you’re much better apart. You have lots of ideas and also your wife does. Just different ways of letting it work. You owe it to yourself to be happy and have peace of mind and I think that’s the route you have taken. I found you very interesting, stay blessed and good luck to you both
They are still married she is still bringing him food; he only created a space to help him activated his potentials and fulfil them. Even the wife understands.
Wonderful Teachings from Dr Apoki. my take home.....Understanding is not agreeing together all the time, understanding is comprehending the situation, and the person(your wife) and making the right decision. This applies to all married couples all over the world. Sometimes we are confronted with situations that warrant us to be more understanding and making the right decision, More Blessings to Dr. Stay young and Fresh Sir.
Very relevant video. Even with a business you have together with a family member , at a certain age you sell off and each take your 50% share. This way you are both free to choose the direction of your life. Sometimes one member thinks they have done everything , even though you may have done most of the work. Even better yet , as pertaining to family members, never have business together.
I find your wisdom breathtaking. You have influenced my life in ways you can''t imagine. Keep making videos and sharing your wisdom to the world. Have you written books?
Sir I respect you for your honesty and you are in good spirits. May God bless you. I'm not sure that your solution in this case should extend to others. But I understand. For practicality keeping peace is better than constantly fighting.
I see the same toxic life with my wife, i am in my early 40s what i did was just give her space and since then i have my peace and i can think straight
Mingwo sir! This is one thing that also affects the male child. Most mothers tend to play this on their sons which they realise late or may not even realise at all. Also common to Sons who grew up with all women in the house/only sons. I am not saying the male child should be disrespectful. But it's important to know when to take a stand and exercise your authority as a Man. And lastly, this is common to men in old age. The children most like will take sides with the mothers. Then the man is sometimes all alone.
Top man, The shallow style of the western feminist matrix, a well fitted scold collar based around consumerism and control has infected the entirety of mankind, Stay strong KPP,
They take their mom sides because they saw how poorly the man treated her. My dad is mot alone n we love him to death cos he was a fabulous dad n husband seeing him as we grew up
Sir, I know this to be true as well, like I said before, I'm 42 years old and I've been married for 13 years and I started to feel trapped, and I started to feel like I was losing my identity and it was like my every move or thought was dictated by my wife and it was always friction in the house... But when I moved out into our other house I became better and gained a piece of mind and were able to create new ideas and start to find myself again. But she recently convinced me to move back home and now I'm back suffering and not feeling my best as a creative person.. I'm definitely going to be moving back out and live the rest of my life a free man, I love her and we will still be together but I will be a free man to think and move how I please.
Lol, you thought the bible was playing when it said "he who is not married should NOT attempt to find a wife else you will see problems in this life" 😂😂😂. 1 corinthians 7:27-28
Separation should be the last resort after all efforts to make it work fail given the far reaching long term implications. I can't stand violence in marriage or infidelity, everything else can be worked out but if 2 cannot and unable to live happily together, there's absolutely no point managing it. It's only the living that talks of marriage. Sir, I can't advise you otherwise as you wear the shoes and know where it pinches you. But I have watched quite a number of yoir videos and you seem a good man. The last clip I watched, you even walked out of the huge investment of the school you built.....material things don't matter to you and you will live long. Take care of yourself sir. Shalom
“Jesus was not hypothetical. He was realistic. His interest was for the betterment of humanity”. Well done sir 👏👏👏👏
Point : Women find it difficult to manage authority, to manage wealth. ❤
WITHOUT the leadership and input of good men, a Dad, Brother, Husband, Uncle etc...
Generally, they're not cut out for that. Also, they have a lower sense of responsibility; this reflects in their always putting their own interests first.
This man is among the few true men left in the world
“Left” as used here was not divorce or separation but a mere leaving the school premises to live in their other house.
Most intelligent comment.
I was lost. I thought he was saying that he and his wife are no longer together..that he has given all their assets to her and is now living his life apart from her.
Exactly, he didn't say they are either divorce or separated. He only left to expand and she followed. Why are people getting it twisted?
@@nichelegalsolutionsthe caption was a click bait.. he knew exactly why he made it so.. he wanted more views hence the caption 😅
This could be one of the very best video on youtube! To sum up everything here is: "Protect your mental heath at all cost"!
There is no perfect marriage or a perfect relationship, but you can visit your family for a while but don't separate, be quiet when he or she is angry, and discuss issues only when your minds are relaxed.
Reading the comments on this video, I discovered that many did not understand Dr Apoki’s video. Please watch this video again. He practically prioritized his happiness, sound mind and freedom over material things. This is a healthy man in and out.
That's exactly what I heard. Not sure what others are hearing. Hapiness ain't in wealth accumulated only. Self care is very important
Only low iq people will misunderstood him, Dr Apoki is as real as you sees him, such a straight forward man.
Both well said.
There's an apparent lack of comprehension of this video by many in the comment section.
It requires a lot of maturity to understand what Dr Apoki expressed . I could relate and laughed throughout the video because he was describing some situations that occur between my dearest husband and me😅❤. #22 years in marriage, and we are changing and finding great ways to accommodate each other. He goes shopping whenni go crazy 🤪 😅😊😂😂❤. I love ❤️ him ever so dearly. My children just ignore both of us when we are at it . Later to use as comedy relief at their children's meetings😅😅😅😅.
Am happy and grateful to have a partner who tries to accommodate, understand and support me at every stage of my change while we both strive to maintain a healthy physical and mental environment for our 3 children( all adults now too
This is the best thing i have ever heard from a Nigerian
God bless you
Thank you sir for opening up and telling your story, people never tell you this part of marriage that it is very challenging not everyone who stays married are happy just do it mainly for religious and cultural reasons. Marriage is beautiful when their is genuine love and both being on the same page. I really hope you both reconcile and this is not the final chapter sometimes a temporary break is needed on both parties to heal and clear your mind from certain situations.
Dr. Akpoki, your teachings are truly what we need in this life. You are a blessing to ME. Thank you Sir.
I am Thabo, Limpopo, RSA.
Never give a woman full authority over yourself, over finances, or over all decisions made. You will suffer for it.
They act like they want it but if they get it they’re miserable and destroy it
I agree, the world is never ready for this type of life.
Isn't that the opposite of what he is saying
@@abigailsitsha2517 I don't agree with everything he says, he is a wise man but I've seen a different side of things as well.
If this wise man had followed your advice, he wouldn't be as happy and liberated as he is. He saw and recognised his wife's God-given gifts and talents and let her use them. But he also focused on his God-given gifts and talents and took charge of those. While you sound like you live in a marriage full of strife and conflict because material things define you.
The worst thing that can happen to a man is the imprisonment of his dreams.
Are you now going to look for a white woman?
DR I am in my early twenties , But I can relate to this information ; I have found that my girlfriend has started to treat me with more respect and she is taking me seriously......after I have startd doing things I am passionate about on my own terms. and the relationship has become more health .......for both of us,
Keep going and take attention that she is your girlfriend and not your business partner, assistent or advices.
😊😊😊😊😊😊
This man challenges me do much but he's filled with wisdom, God bless Doctor 🎉
True talk Dr. Apoki. You said it all. Is like we're in the same shoe.
You'll invest %90 in all you own together but most women will want to have all for themselves alone.
I used to believe in uniting forces with the wife, but experience has taught me better.
Thank you for speaking out b/c many men are going through the same issues.
You are a man of wisdom, may God continue to increase you.
Your wise analysis are words of wisdom because I see my own life going the same direction!
Absolutely love your messages..wisdom and discernment
I like your videos. You have much Wisdom! USA, Oklahoma ❤️
Alot of men don't get it. What women want in life is different from what men want. The moment that I understood that my happiness is my responsibility, I started looking at my marriage differently. No matter what my wife does, she can't take away my happiness. I've already even mentally settled for any case scenario.
Most men will suffer in their old age if they don't start putting themselves first..
You are 100% correct. A book called; “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus” really opened my eyes to this concept. Once you understand it, no marital issues can destabilize you.
God bless you sir.
Perfectly said
@@TheLegend-uq1gz the book is a goldmine.
This is freedom for you , i love you the way you educate us with your story.
Whao! You're such a bundle of wisdom and inspiration sir. Thanks
You’re a very straightforward man; truly you are Sir👍.
Love all your messages Dr❤❤❤❤❤❤
This video showed up and very relevant. This even pertains to if you have a business together with a family business and a sibling is involved. At a certain age you must just sell off and split your portions fairly. Dont argue , 50/50. This way you are free to live your life and do what is your choosing , as are they.
Thanks for your insight. Many people particularly religious folks could not understand what I was talking about.
Dr. Apoki , I have been enjoying your talks . I look forward to hearing your talks. God bless you for the wisdom in all you have been telling us.
I'm not a man. I'm a girl that's just starting to learn about myself and life. I listen to your videos. Thank you
I need you in my life. We can build a good life together❤
It depends the kind of version. Not all men are Godly, if you follow their path , you're doomed with poverty and destruction. They are women who mean build their husbands Sir
Great video. As men get older we sometimes have to rediscover ourselves separate from the marriage. You're blessed if you have a place of your own to retreat to. Several of my friends have opted for this and to be honest it's as though you've served your purpose and it's your time now. Enjoy!
I want to be like this man when I’m old.
Thank you for saying the truth.
Thank uuuu, this is my second time watching your video and I really like and appreciate you.
Thanks you Dr Apoki, you are surly inspirational, a man who can laugh over his daily challenges this way is truly the strong one. I like Greek philosophers too. Keep it up.
This man is awesome so free spirited
Wow marital social distancing is the key word, instead of having emotional problem.
I just stumbled across your channel today. You’re amazing, I love your teachings, young people should visit your blog and listen and will gain insight on life generally. Thank you very much sir.
Thank you again for your wisdom and knowledge, as a younger man. I enjoy listening to the truth.
Pointed points. Thank you Sir.
You are very practical, thanks.
Dr Charles Apoki, very wise words indeed Sir and i thank you for sharing them with me.
You certainly look happy Dr. Apoki. That is always admirable. The thing is men sometimes "allow women" to run things because they want to keep the peace or for other reasons. But later on she will become the ruler of that marriage. This is no fun for any man. So men stand your ground early and keep it that way and don't compromise on things that will later on become unfavorable
Thanksgiving for your wisdom Senior.Apoki🇬🇾
Dr Aboki you are a wonderful human being I value your God given wisdom I have subscribed to your Chanel
This is a very conflicting message but I have sifted the ones that I need and would apply it for my well being
Exactly sometimes things need to change to find peace of mind for both. Nice one Doc.
Wawoooo, thank you Dr. I’m learning, relearning and unlearning. Thank you Dr
You are very welcome
I was touched when he said he has never slept with anyone for the past 39yrs of their marriage. What kind of temptation is this? May the Lord continue to grant you the Grace
Advice to Women: Any man you cannot submit to please don't marry him but if you agree to marry him, let his vision be your mission and that is submission. Íf your desire is anything more than your husband, you are functioning outside the perfect will of God.
I understand with Dr CA. If you have a calling and a purpose to fulfill don't allow any distractions to stop you. God will help both of them.
I love this message!
You're a real leader. Thank you Sir.
😂😂 He said he and his wife are "Practicing martial social distancing, to a oid spreading martial viruses", so funny but makes sense! This man is a trip!
If this marital social distancing includes no sex..🙆
@@kulelwateddy6715🤣🤣🤣.
Your desire will be for your husband (to control him), but he will rule over you.
Quoting Dr Voddie Bachum my mentor.
Great advice to Dr. APO from aka legend
Seriously, am happy hearing this
I’m a new subscriber, your an interesting person, love your take on life.
Dr Apoki the great teacher of philosophy. Thank you sir
Hi Doctor Apoki, you are really great man lots of respect my brother.
You Sir are a MASTER ORATOR. BRAVO
Hi Doc, you have a penchant for comedy 🤣. I like your punch 👊 lines. You deliver your hard punches with some soft 🍦 gloves 🧤. Keep it up 👍.
I appreciate that
You are very smart sir. You understand the style.
@@DrCharlesApokiSir, you just wrapped my day with wisdom and laughter 😂😂. I'm grateful!
You're extremely well spoken sir. I love your videos, I believe this is temporary as you said it's marital distancing, You guys will be back together! in the same roof !! thank you so much Sir.
i enjoy and appreciate what you are saying
Top channel Uncle, I liked and subbed!
Sir thanks u for sharing from ur wealth of experience For we the young men and Fathers
God bless 🙏
Very clear thoughts in simple english...with a plain heart.. im subscribing...
Sir, love you for whom God made you to be and I bless God for making me to come in contact with your channel
You are blessed and a blessing to all, sir🙏
Wow! daddy, your type is very rare in this part of the world... anyone who is fortunate to have someone like you is too blessed.
Weldone, sir.
Dr Apoki, you're a funny man. God bless you
The truth must be told, thank you for telling the truth Dr Apoki!!
But you have not heard from his wife.
From what I heard from him......can't perceived any hate from him. And she genuinely cares for him too. Oftentimes we individually want space to reminisce and ponder about issues or fresh ideas, that doesn't mean we don't love those who are most dear in our lives.
Am learning a lot from you Sir, am glad l found this channel. Good job.
Dr Apoki , I have just came across your video. I understand your point , it seems like you and your wife has grown apart. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love each other. It simply means you still care for each other but you’re much better apart. You have lots of ideas and also your wife does. Just different ways of letting it work. You owe it to yourself to be happy and have peace of mind and I think that’s the route you have taken. I found you very interesting, stay blessed and good luck to you both
God bless you sir, you are a typical man I have always wanted to be my methol, your messages have healed my marital wounds. May you live long.
Wow, thank you
"My mind separated by that handcuff that tue two shall become one ".... 🎉 .... Fabulous ....
Papa i too like you. I'm watching this video and i can really relate this to my dad!!
So sad to hear.😢. I pray you both reconcile and peace reign in your marriage.
So you know more than Him please let him be
They are still married she is still bringing him food; he only created a space to help him activated his potentials and fulfil them. Even the wife understands.
Wonderful Teachings from Dr Apoki. my take home.....Understanding is not agreeing together all the time, understanding is comprehending the situation, and the person(your wife) and making the right decision. This applies to all married couples all over the world. Sometimes we are confronted with situations that warrant us to be more understanding and making the right decision, More Blessings to Dr. Stay young and Fresh Sir.
Very relevant video. Even with a business you have together with a family member , at a certain age you sell off and each take your 50% share. This way you are both free to choose the direction of your life. Sometimes one member thinks they have done everything , even though you may have done most of the work. Even better yet , as pertaining to family members, never have business together.
Powerful ❤
Thanks sir god bless you
Very good. Woman has to see the man’s vision and support him.
I find your wisdom breathtaking. You have influenced my life in ways you can''t imagine. Keep making videos and sharing your wisdom to the world. Have you written books?
Lots of Books about 40. You can get them at petrapublications.com
Sir I respect you for your honesty and you are in good spirits. May God bless you. I'm not sure that your solution in this case should extend to others. But I understand. For practicality keeping peace is better than constantly fighting.
Good to know, thank you.
Oh my God, where and how did I meet Dr Charles Apokin. He is simply and Wonderful man full of inspiration.
I see the same toxic life with my wife, i am in my early 40s what i did was just give her space and since then i have my peace and i can think straight
I LOVE IT DOC, YOU'RE GENIUS, THANKS FOR THE INSPIRATION !!😂
Good evening sir please I watch you today on honest bunch podcast I was so emotional and pray that God will bless you and increased your wisdom
Mingwo sir!
This is one thing that also affects the male child. Most mothers tend to play this on their sons which they realise late or may not even realise at all. Also common to Sons who grew up with all women in the house/only sons. I am not saying the male child should be disrespectful. But it's important to know when to take a stand and exercise your authority as a Man.
And lastly, this is common to men in old age. The children most like will take sides with the mothers. Then the man is sometimes all alone.
Vrendo.
Top man, The shallow style of the western feminist matrix, a well fitted scold collar based around consumerism and control has infected the entirety of mankind, Stay strong KPP,
They take their mom sides because they saw how poorly the man treated her. My dad is mot alone n we love him to death cos he was a fabulous dad n husband seeing him as we grew up
@@aeiou0123
It's not by how poorly.......It's just a natural thing. There are just a few exceptions
@@aeiou0123this is the mistake men make without realizing it but then insecure men treat women poorly to feel good
Wisdom is profitable to direct.A lot of christians are sinking in the so call marriage because of fear of what people will say.
my good sir there is understanding n there is "overstanding"
What a successful life !
I here by become your addent fan !!!
You are abosolutely a phenomenom............... Wonderful man sir
thanks for sharing this Sir.
I Love you Dr.
This is liberation for me . God bless you sir
Sir, I know this to be true as well, like I said before, I'm 42 years old and I've been married for 13 years and I started to feel trapped, and I started to feel like I was losing my identity and it was like my every move or thought was dictated by my wife and it was always friction in the house... But when I moved out into our other house I became better and gained a piece of mind and were able to create new ideas and start to find myself again.
But she recently convinced me to move back home and now I'm back suffering and not feeling my best as a creative person..
I'm definitely going to be moving back out and live the rest of my life a free man, I love her and we will still be together but I will be a free man to think and move how I please.
Lol, you thought the bible was playing when it said "he who is not married should NOT attempt to find a wife else you will see problems in this life" 😂😂😂. 1 corinthians 7:27-28
Dr Apoki so happy to see you here, God used you to save Dike life
Nice message, though complicated.
What do you mean by separation??
However, I have picked the lines needed...
Weldone sir
Separation should be the last resort after all efforts to make it work fail given the far reaching long term implications. I can't stand violence in marriage or infidelity, everything else can be worked out but if 2 cannot and unable to live happily together, there's absolutely no point managing it. It's only the living that talks of marriage.
Sir, I can't advise you otherwise as you wear the shoes and know where it pinches you. But I have watched quite a number of yoir videos and you seem a good man. The last clip I watched, you even walked out of the huge investment of the school you built.....material things don't matter to you and you will live long. Take care of yourself sir. Shalom
Wow Marriage is a mega Sega deal. Wisdom nuggets noted.
Well done God bless you
Following from Malawi. And I like Dr.s openness and honesty
One needs alot of wisdom and maturity to consume Dr. Apoki's words. If you are emotional and quick to be vexed, thisbis not your place.