Man.. I even questioned if I were the narcissist and then I watched a video about the subject and how narcissist would never analyze themselves that heavy to think maybe they're the problem. Life has been better without the anxiety of always feeling like you couldn't do nothing right for a person you did everything right for. God is Good.
Same here, I did too. All the research I found, books, lectures, psychology articles pointed that out - a narcissist will not self reflect on their actions. Instead they pull the DARVO on you when you try to explain your pain or experience with them.
I am so glad you shared this.... because I too, started asking myself if it was me the narcissist, and i over analyze and overthink so much... the more you do the worse it gets for you, not for them! My question is if we should stand up for ourselves, to at least, give them what could be the last chance to open themselves to change for the better ... or it is just a goodbye and distancing, even so... that hurts just to think about it...May God give us peace and wisdom, courage and fearlessness!
When my narc started calling me that, I had only heard it in passing. Like my last year of high school. And my JC buddies would use it as a joke. You're such a narcissist and everyone would busy out laughing. It was such a giant funny meaningless word packed with a lot of meaning lol So years later when I finally attracted that guy, I did, at first, think it was me. I had a lot of rage to unpack during that time. I hadn't even come across Gaslighting yet😣 When I looked it up... Oh my God why was his picture... Just kidding. That jerk saved me a whole lot of time and money on therapy. I was not the problem. Knowing what I know now, the conclusion is narcs are drawn to empaths. They have no feeling and we have too much. So like magnets. My current ex was such a blank slate that I couldn't read. It was like when Edward met Bella. Finally a quiet soul.I learned pretty quickly that not being able to read someone is a giant 🚩🚩🚩!!!
Yes do NOT LET THEM Many of us have been Good people to them an yet an still they lying to the World about you but NO DO NOT let them guilt trip you into believing you deserve what they did. Or how they feel about you or what they think you’ve done to deserve ill treatment these people are being used by the enemy an they know what their doing. God bless you…. I made a prophetic word about this God told me years ago stop doing this type of thing If your not GUILTY YOUR NOT GUILTY!! If YOUR NOT DESERVING YOUR NOT DESERVING OF THAT TREATMENT don’t you dare just accept it.. or AGREE. God is going to deal with them!!! Glory to God An God bless you.
I think another reason why we analyze things so much is because we want to make sure that we aren't creating any negativity for others, the way that we have had to endure others' negativity in our own lives. Thank You Again! 🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖
I allowed my family friends and exes to do this and blamed myself for getting mistreated. God removed them and I’m so glad and more at peace. I’m still healing a little bit thank God for people like you thank you for this. I’m at peace knowing it wasn’t my fault I’m ok being still even though it’s a lonely road I rather peace over trauma Amen
Same here but it doesn’t have to be lonely. I now get into self improvement activities (reading and hearing Gods word, prayer, gym, hair and makeup tutorials, vegan tutorials, practice playing musical instruments, cleaning the house, volunteering to help others). NO TIME for the nonsense!!💪🏽🎈🎉🎊.
Write them a letter and let all your feelings out. Ask God to bring to remembrance all things that you’ve been burying in your heart. Don’t send them the letter, it’s just for you to get your feelings out.
Literally had a breakdown earlier about this, I’ve been so used to being scapegoated that I realized not only has everyone around me put me on the back burner, I also got used to putting myself on the back burner. I said “what is about me that when people look at me they think oh she’ll be fine, oh she isn’t dealing with anything she’ll be okay” like.. I feel things on a whole different plane a whole different spectrum, when I’m happy I’m REALLY happy, when I’m sad I’m REALLY sad, and I always felt like no one understood that about me. I also understand my entire life I’ve hid those emotions, I got so used to hiding that part of me to the point people REALLY BELIEVE I don’t go through ANYTHING when I’m actuality I go through EVERYTHING, behind closed doors. And if I ever find the courage to be vulnerable with someone once in a blue moon, they take advantage and use my weaknesses against me. I think that’s one of the reasons I’m so kind to people, I never wanna upset anybody, I never wanna make anyone uncomfortable, I never wanna hurt anybody… I’m like this but no one is like this with me… 🥺 I told God I said I understand why I had to go through certain things cause of the lessons, I said “I’ll never let anyone treat me that way ever again, I’ll never be that naive again” I told God I’m mad at myself more than anything, for allowing certain things and certain people around me. I deserve love, I deserve peace, I deserve happiness and I told him 1 day I won’t just say that, one day I’ll BELIEVE it and APPLY it. I’m learning 🥺 I consider everyone’s emotions/heart/feelings, when will someone consider mine? And you’re right, it definitely links to childhood traumas. I’m healing 🥺
@@faithfisherman568 no your words are perfect, as much as I don’t want you or anyone else to experience this it does help to know I’m not alone, cause I feel sooo alone all the time. That’s why I love the people I watch on here because I’m like wow this is my soul family, you guys too where we interact in the comments. Bless you too 💛 and I pray God brings people around you (and me and all of us) more people like us 🥰 we’re typically the empaths, so more of the wrong people are drawn to us like a moth to a flame. So the lesson is discerning who should truly be around us, who we should assist, who SHOULDNT be around us, and ultimately learning how to accept anything good that comes with being a good person. Cause me personally I find it really hard to accept anything good in my life cause I’m just so not used to it and I knowww I’m not the only one on that either.
Bless your heart. This is so me 2. I used to go whole days of relaying something that had happened that I didn't want to take on anymore. And people would listen... Nothing like a captive audience rofl Eventually I began to see the pattern emerge that it wasn't me. That's how I finally saw the narcs for who they were. Imps trying to destroy the light they couldn't access. Period. I'm so much better now!!! I can close the door on those antics without a shred of anxiety or upset. Those don't belong to me!!! You are loved and you are not alone💕💗💗💗💕
I resonate with this 100% Due to my traumatic childhood, I tend to believe that I'm the one to blame. That I did something wrong. I need to continue to heal, forgive and move on. I know I will get there with God's unconditional love and healing power. Thank you for delivering this prophetic word Steph!
Wow. You described me. I have to stop this behavior. This is nothing that I'm proud of it all. I just recently came back around my family and it's been a long time. They hurt me so bad and we talked about it and it's like now they're trying to do it all over again. I have no room left in me for any more traumatic experiences. 🙏🏾
I often would ask God what did I do to be treated unjustly when I know I bent over backwards to show love and kindness yet my reward was hatred and contempt, betrayal, blame and just Ungratefulness then by dragging me through the dirt when they know they are to blame. This word is so accurate Steph !!! Thanks for sharing.💕🌟
I am recovering from a layoff due to an injury. I have had family members reach out to me privately to tell me my life is a total failure. I do not live in the same state as these people. Some of these folks I have not seen in 10 years....and they literally chose to call me and NOT offer encouragement and prayers, but criticism so dark that had I been a weaker person, I would have ended my life. I have decided not to enable this behavior. I've decided to walk away. I'm not going to argue with anyone. I"m not going to explain my life anymore. I'm going to give my concerns to God and be at peace with walking away. No matter what happens, I give it to God....and yes, someone had told me that I should not be smiling or happy or laughing because I screwed up my life. It was weird. I don't think it's healthy for me to sit and cry all day. I have to continue to try to find a solution and be positive. Some of these folks did not want me to smile at all
It’s sad how people really be trying to play on people with good hearts. But babe, after that good hearted person wake up and they heal and get assurance from God. SMH run because all that anger that was missed placed and initially you’re angry and you don’t know why. It’s because every time they looked at themselves and always blamed themselves no matter what. But when the lord reveals the truth and they learn to just trust God’s word… woe unto them that mistreated them.
Whoa. This is me. And the 'rumination' over what you could have done differently or what you could do to make it better, you keep yourself STUCK in the loop. Its real. Important message.
I let go of those who hurt! Family,friends,aquiantences. I don't blame myself for their actions. I just let them go. Some I even changed my number, and Blocked some. I don't let their actions get to me. Thank you for sharing and you are on point. Not everyone sees the Beauty. I Don't settle either because God is in my life to stay. Thank you Jesus! Amen Amen Amen!
Thats so true, I use to be mean from being talked about for 15+ yrs & still with a big heart. It's not easy for you have boundaries and put up a wall. That's so me and I was a people pleaser and God said No, that's not what He created me to be. He said love but not to be taken advantage of.🙏🏽💪🏽
Wow. My heart tightened hearing this. I knew this was for me. Lord I pray that you heal my heart from wounds of those who broke my heart from mistreatement. In Jesus name Amen♥️
Thank you for identifying what I’m dealing with currently Steph! I saw the envy, heard the shady comments, felt the Hellish energy then still blamed my self for poor treatment 😮
Yes!! Conformation. Wow. This word is for me.THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH STEPHANIE. THANK YOU FATHER SON AND THE HOLY SPIRIT.GODBLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. GODBLESS EVERYONE IN JESUS NAME AMEN.👍
Our hearts is so pure😣😣 we are so different I pray we all heal from people mistreating us, WE KNOW we did not deserve that, we are literally blessings, why would you treat a blessing like that. More than ever now I am quick to cut people off, from all the trauma because I don't want to feel trauma again/anymore, so I'm ready to see who I should cut off to protect me, I know myself and my worth now, I do not lose people, people lose me and I say this in the humblest way🙏
Whatever is Good, Chaste, Just, Pure, Loving, Strong...that's what God Wants us to keep our minds on...and also just practice forgiveness but not keep going to people who will mistreat you. Thankyou Lord and I Give all of us to You!!! In Jesus' Mighty Name!!! Amen!!!
This was for me and many others. This will change 90% of my life, knowing that that 90 is what I do about my life. I shall not fight the change but I rebuke overthinking, over analyzing. I smile everyday but it often turns to sorrow but God miraculously saves the day every single day. I seek him and read the word everyday, I prayed to him that I’ll transform my mind and put my hand to the plow and not turn back. I need to balance my environment of my state of thoughts which affects the productivity of a variety of patterns/lusts and how I live. Not relying on my capacity but the Holy Spirit which is the fire the dwells in me, which is God. I shall not identify with my account but see that the scripture is being fulfilled by faith not by sight. No man’s above falling but now I’m greater than yesterday, Not fainting in the day of adversity and losing people to my mind that attracts the many demons the Devil sends. But if I change my mind the villain will pause because it can only play around when one pursues it. No longer falling into that pit with demons again. This also refers to a dream I had months ago, a villain was chasing me but pauses when I act causal and not pursue it with the fear of words thrown at me. But then I see it chasing my other sibling and cousins when It can’t get me in the dream. I got upstairs to my apartment safely though. It was a pale white skin like Slendrina with red eyes like a school girl but way more profound. May the Lord take us higher in the Jesus name. Amen 🙏 😭😭😭❤️🔥🤒🔥🔥🫶🏾
A lot of this is so accurate and it's so hard not to do that when you don't want to hurt or offend anyone and your mind is trying to make you doubt, probably because of all the gaslighting. Thank you Holy Spirit for this message. ❤
But they have no problem hurting you! TUH! love yourself. Forgive them and move arounddddd. Life too short, hang around those who want to be around you😊
So glad this came to the forefront. I just recently had another episode of disrespect from my niece who is envious and jealous of my relationship with my mother. She refuses to acknowledge or apologize for her behavior. She AND her sisters are narcissists who have been gaslighting, lying and manipulating to gain control over the household. They unfortunately have been getting away with it for many years (among other things) because my mother and siblings are big time enablers. When I confront the issue, I end up on the losing end because of the lies and skilled ways they are able to manipulate and control and the lack of support due to mom and siblings believing what they said. I realize that I have lost so much confidence because of the constant negativity and have to remind myself that people fight dirty (they lie and gaslight). They never deal with truth because if the devil that uses them in their web of lies, know it’s the truth that sets a person free. This makes me reflect upon what you said for further deliverance from this issue. Thank you Lord. Thanks Stephanie.❤
I hate when you have addressed this issue with certain family. And have stood up for yourself with people at work. I'm definitely assertive with the gaslighting and scapegoating. I feel like they change their behavior but only temporarily. Then eventually they start it up again. So I try to distant myself physically and emotionally. But honestly it's just draining. To have to continually express my disdain for this behavior. So I've praying about this situation and my enemies. 🙏
Mistreated too....sad! But why does everyone always point it to a childhood.....sometimes it's not the childhood....my mom and dad gave me a good one.... The step dad did some things that wasn't good at all...but once you realize that they were his demons and put it past you.. The WORLD WILL ALWAYS BRING IT UP!!! THANKS Steph for your message....very detailed and experiences behind it...God Bless
I thank my enemies, because of them I am stronger, I love them. When things do not work out, I forgive, give them to Jesus, forget and move on. That said: To make a point of living quietly, attending to your own business, and earning your living, just as we told you to so that you are seen to be respectable by those outside the Church, though you do not have to depend on them. All the Glory be to God! Praise the Lord! Amen!
EXACTLY You are on point! God choose the right healthy positive people in my life for me. Thank you for your boldness to share. I'm done with the negative buzzards. I forgive and release them, but refuse to be in their space. I'm too old for stupid downright dumb stuff. I love myself more than succumbing to abusive people and relationships.
Yes I was but all better now. Forgave them and moved on. Nobody deserves what they did to me, I wouldn't do that to an animal let alone a fellow human being, its just an evil world. We can only be accountable for our own behavior. I pity people like that it makes you wonder what messed up their head so bad that they thought that it was ok to do something like that.
I wish we could be friends in irl it's hard out here not having someone that's a genuine friend. I had some stuff happen yesterday and I really needed this.
@@faithfisherman568 The LORD SAYS TO BE CUNNING AS A WOLF BUT AS INNOCENT AS A DOVE 🕊. I’m still on my mission but HE HAS GIVEN me wisdom to really see what’s going on around me. ALL PRAISE, HONOR AND GLORY TO THE KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS. MAGNIFY AND GLORIFY THE HOLY NAME OF OUR JESUS, WHO IS THE CHRIST, THE ONE AND ONLY BLESSED BEGOTTEN SON OF YAWH. HE SHED HIS HOLY AND PRECIOUS BLOOD 🩸 FOR OUR SINS (mine and yours) FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME. Amen and Amen JD
Thank you Stephanie I really needed to hear this I have been going back-and-forth in my head about a lot of People and situations Unfortunately Those who are not healed and or who are not in the healing process will always find a way to manipulate a situation So that they won't have to accept responsibility or the role that they play in the situation in itself.💖🙏💖😇
This has been my situation exactly and now I'm seeing people and things behind what's making the people treat me this way and what's made them treat me this way for my whole life and it's very difficult to take. I'm just I'm praying for them and I'm learning how to stand up for myself without having to be right about something without having to prove myself right and them wrong. I'm kind of just allowing them to tire themselves out and I'm praying for them and I'm forgiving them and loving them and I'm focusing on Jesus and asking him to forgive them and to show them Mercy and to soften their hearts that they may repent.
Wow! Thank you for another soul touching message. That air of rejection/scapegoat can stay over you for a while untill you stand up. Joy can be an act of rebellion in th eyes of the envious. Stay joyful anyway. Fill your cup up with gods love let them sip or choke on the overflow. Up to them!! Lol Thanks Stephanie. X
Amen! I thank God for me finding your video it was meant for me to watch this video,I been mistreated by everyone I haven’t done anything to them, I guess it’s jealousy,this is for me thank you Jesus,God bless you prophet Stephanie Amazingly in Jesus name ❤🙏
I understand this all to well. I had to ask God for the strength to stop letting people use me in that manner, especially my family members. They knew they was using me and now that I am on to them, I'm the bad person and something is wrong with me for not letting them use me anymore. Thank you Lord God for your help ,your Grace and Mercy ,that has brought me through it all and still bringing me through, in Jesus precious name, Amen. 🗣🗣🗣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I totally can agree to this peace is the main thing I want for my life I thank God for how he made me being a good person makes us targets but this is pattern is rebuked and canceled God gives us strength to carry us through I thank God for you Stephanie God bless your heart ♥ Amen
Thank you for being obedient to the holy spirit all glory onto God keep on keeping on uplifting and encouraging I really needed this right on time thank you Lord Jesus
Even though I feel like I am so undeserving of this gift of getting dreams from God but I am so thankful and this is literally my confirmation and it’s amazing how as soon as I woke up you posted this message! Thank you so much!🙏 God bless you!
This hit way too hard I've been talking about this very thing for the past few days. I unintentionally make myself a scapegoat because I feel like I do everything wrong even if I have absolutely nothing to do with it I blame myself. I'm always over apologizing and over explaining things even when I've done absolutely nothing wrong.
I love you! I am Thankful and Grateful for you! You always care and give great words, I Believed You and Thank You! Stop ......I have forgiven and I do not feel bad! Amen LU
Shalom Alecheim sister Stephanie. I am a big believer you must go thru he'll to find the light... everyone has their own story! To know Abba, Yeshua and the Grace I would not and cannot change a thing but know.once you die spiritually and come back you have no one to seve but God!
Just hav 2 say u hair color looks amazing. Dont no if it u natural color, but wow. Also thk u 4 Stephaine 4 u truthful words, u hav blessed me beyond words. 💜🙏🦋
Agreed, “Be ye separated”.! That’s why we have to be with and be around like minded and like hearted people of God’s gift of pure Love, The Greatest Gift Of All 😊👊🏽💯❤️⭐️💫
No...its not okay!!! I was mistrested....mostly because they could. I been through it all: gang stalked, gaslighted ,scapegoated and shunned. And by family and friends.
This hit so hard... I literally got sick and ended up over the toilet waiting on it to come up... This was my truth and a part of me wanted to rebuke it , the part when you said Im a easy prey... I was just telling my father this. It's much more hard hearing it .
Man.. I even questioned if I were the narcissist and then I watched a video about the subject and how narcissist would never analyze themselves that heavy to think maybe they're the problem. Life has been better without the anxiety of always feeling like you couldn't do nothing right for a person you did everything right for. God is Good.
Same here, I did too. All the research I found, books, lectures, psychology articles pointed that out - a narcissist will not self reflect on their actions. Instead they pull the DARVO on you when you try to explain your pain or experience with them.
I am so glad you shared this.... because I too, started asking myself if it was me the narcissist, and i over analyze and overthink so much... the more you do the worse it gets for you, not for them! My question is if we should stand up for ourselves, to at least, give them what could be the last chance to open themselves to change for the better ... or it is just a goodbye and distancing, even so... that hurts just to think about it...May God give us peace and wisdom, courage and fearlessness!
@@desertgardener777 and does that do any good for all the parties? you remember??
When my narc started calling me that, I had only heard it in passing. Like my last year of high school. And my JC buddies would use it as a joke. You're such a narcissist and everyone would busy out laughing. It was such a giant funny meaningless word packed with a lot of meaning lol So years later when I finally attracted that guy, I did, at first, think it was me. I had a lot of rage to unpack during that time. I hadn't even come across Gaslighting yet😣 When I looked it up... Oh my God why was his picture... Just kidding. That jerk saved me a whole lot of time and money on therapy. I was not the problem. Knowing what I know now, the conclusion is narcs are drawn to empaths. They have no feeling and we have too much. So like magnets. My current ex was such a blank slate that I couldn't read. It was like when Edward met Bella. Finally a quiet soul.I learned pretty quickly that not being able to read someone is a giant 🚩🚩🚩!!!
This is me as well. I thought it was me. 😅
I told God “my brain hurts and my heart hurts” 😭 I have felt soooo exhausted and drained. Better days ahead 💛
Yes do NOT LET THEM Many of us have been Good people to them an yet an still they lying to the World about you but NO DO NOT let them guilt trip you into believing you deserve what they did. Or how they feel about you or what they think you’ve done to deserve ill treatment these people are being used by the enemy an they know what their doing. God bless you…. I made a prophetic word about this God told me years ago stop doing this type of thing If your not GUILTY YOUR NOT GUILTY!! If YOUR NOT DESERVING YOUR NOT DESERVING OF THAT TREATMENT don’t you dare just accept it.. or AGREE. God is going to deal with them!!! Glory to God An God bless you.
This message is meant for sensitive hearted people ❤
I think another reason why we analyze things so much is because we want to make sure that we aren't creating any negativity for others, the way that we have had to endure others' negativity in our own lives. Thank You Again! 🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖
I’m goin through this right now how my family my mom treat me but it’s because I’m to bright for them it’s my heart
I allowed my family friends and exes to do this and blamed myself for getting mistreated. God removed them and I’m so glad and more at peace. I’m still healing a little bit thank God for people like you thank you for this. I’m at peace knowing it wasn’t my fault I’m ok being still even though it’s a lonely road I rather peace over trauma Amen
Same here but it doesn’t have to be lonely. I now get into self improvement activities (reading and hearing Gods word, prayer, gym, hair and makeup tutorials, vegan tutorials, practice playing musical instruments, cleaning the house, volunteering to help others). NO TIME for the nonsense!!💪🏽🎈🎉🎊.
Write them a letter and let all your feelings out. Ask God to bring to remembrance all things that you’ve been burying in your heart. Don’t send them the letter, it’s just for you to get your feelings out.
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This is true 🎉
I was literally just talking about what my mother has continuously put me through since i was a child. I said NO MORE!! Not in 2023!! 🙏🏼
Same here, my mom is so envious of me, very negative.. I can't wait to leave.
2023 is almost over. I hope you respectfully stood your ground
Literally had a breakdown earlier about this, I’ve been so used to being scapegoated that I realized not only has everyone around me put me on the back burner, I also got used to putting myself on the back burner. I said “what is about me that when people look at me they think oh she’ll be fine, oh she isn’t dealing with anything she’ll be okay” like.. I feel things on a whole different plane a whole different spectrum, when I’m happy I’m REALLY happy, when I’m sad I’m REALLY sad, and I always felt like no one understood that about me. I also understand my entire life I’ve hid those emotions, I got so used to hiding that part of me to the point people REALLY BELIEVE I don’t go through ANYTHING when I’m actuality I go through EVERYTHING, behind closed doors. And if I ever find the courage to be vulnerable with someone once in a blue moon, they take advantage and use my weaknesses against me. I think that’s one of the reasons I’m so kind to people, I never wanna upset anybody, I never wanna make anyone uncomfortable, I never wanna hurt anybody… I’m like this but no one is like this with me… 🥺 I told God I said I understand why I had to go through certain things cause of the lessons, I said “I’ll never let anyone treat me that way ever again, I’ll never be that naive again” I told God I’m mad at myself more than anything, for allowing certain things and certain people around me. I deserve love, I deserve peace, I deserve happiness and I told him 1 day I won’t just say that, one day I’ll BELIEVE it and APPLY it. I’m learning 🥺 I consider everyone’s emotions/heart/feelings, when will someone consider mine? And you’re right, it definitely links to childhood traumas. I’m healing 🥺
@Neb You're not alone. Doesn't help much (seemingly) but I just want to say that. Blessings to you my friend.
@@faithfisherman568 no your words are perfect, as much as I don’t want you or anyone else to experience this it does help to know I’m not alone, cause I feel sooo alone all the time. That’s why I love the people I watch on here because I’m like wow this is my soul family, you guys too where we interact in the comments. Bless you too 💛 and I pray God brings people around you (and me and all of us) more people like us 🥰 we’re typically the empaths, so more of the wrong people are drawn to us like a moth to a flame. So the lesson is discerning who should truly be around us, who we should assist, who SHOULDNT be around us, and ultimately learning how to accept anything good that comes with being a good person. Cause me personally I find it really hard to accept anything good in my life cause I’m just so not used to it and I knowww I’m not the only one on that either.
Neb, I feel the exact same way and experienced this.
@@heathereagleson1098 I pray it gets better for you Heather and it will 💛 just keep being your lovely self
Bless your heart. This is so me 2. I used to go whole days of relaying something that had happened that I didn't want to take on anymore. And people would listen... Nothing like a captive audience rofl Eventually I began to see the pattern emerge that it wasn't me. That's how I finally saw the narcs for who they were. Imps trying to destroy the light they couldn't access. Period. I'm so much better now!!! I can close the door on those antics without a shred of anxiety or upset. Those don't belong to me!!! You are loved and you are not alone💕💗💗💗💕
I resonate with this 100%
Due to my traumatic childhood, I tend to believe that I'm the one to blame. That I did something wrong. I need to continue to heal, forgive and move on. I know I will get there with God's unconditional love and healing power. Thank you for delivering this prophetic word Steph!
Wow. You described me. I have to stop this behavior. This is nothing that I'm proud of it all. I just recently came back around my family and it's been a long time. They hurt me so bad and we talked about it and it's like now they're trying to do it all over again. I have no room left in me for any more traumatic experiences. 🙏🏾
Same with me. Had to cut them off for my own peace of mind.
@@telthatruth7533 My thoughts exactly.
Amen!!!!! Confirmation
Amen
I often would ask God what did I do to be treated unjustly when I know I bent over backwards to show love and kindness yet my reward was hatred and contempt, betrayal, blame and just Ungratefulness then by dragging me through the dirt when they know they are to blame.
This word is so accurate Steph !!!
Thanks for sharing.💕🌟
I have just started believing and the ones that brought me to Jesus,, did this last night to me and I was confused..Thank you.
Bob Marley said it best, no woman no cry...
I wish I knew this when I was younger. This happened to me my whole life and for a while it broke me.
Right on time God is listening to my crying. I’ve been in thought all the time about this🙏🏿
I am recovering from a layoff due to an injury. I have had family members reach out to me privately to tell me my life is a total failure. I do not live in the same state as these people. Some of these folks I have not seen in 10 years....and they literally chose to call me and NOT offer encouragement and prayers, but criticism so dark that had I been a weaker person, I would have ended my life. I have decided not to enable this behavior. I've decided to walk away. I'm not going to argue with anyone. I"m not going to explain my life anymore. I'm going to give my concerns to God and be at peace with walking away. No matter what happens, I give it to God....and yes, someone had told me that I should not be smiling or happy or laughing because I screwed up my life. It was weird. I don't think it's healthy for me to sit and cry all day. I have to continue to try to find a solution and be positive. Some of these folks did not want me to smile at all
Everybody don't deserve my good heart
It’s sad how people really be trying to play on people with good hearts. But babe, after that good hearted person wake up and they heal and get assurance from God.
SMH run because all that anger that was missed placed and initially you’re angry and you don’t know why. It’s because every time they looked at themselves and always blamed themselves no matter what. But when the lord reveals the truth and they learn to just trust God’s word… woe unto them that mistreated them.
Whoa. This is me. And the 'rumination' over what you could have done differently or what you could do to make it better, you keep yourself STUCK in the loop. Its real. Important message.
@Kristle Salaya Same to you. 🙂 Thank you
I let go of those who hurt! Family,friends,aquiantences. I don't blame myself for their actions. I just let them go. Some I even changed my number, and Blocked some. I don't let their actions get to me. Thank you for sharing and you are on point. Not everyone sees the Beauty. I Don't settle either because God is in my life to stay. Thank you Jesus! Amen Amen Amen!
Thats so true, I use to be mean from being talked about for 15+ yrs & still with a big heart. It's not easy for you have boundaries and put up a wall. That's so me and I was a people pleaser and God said No, that's not what He created me to be. He said love but not to be taken advantage of.🙏🏽💪🏽
I was just thinking about you and boom you popped up😁🥳
Wow. My heart tightened hearing this. I knew this was for me. Lord I pray that you heal my heart from wounds of those who broke my heart from mistreatement.
In Jesus name Amen♥️
Thank you for identifying what I’m dealing with currently Steph! I saw the envy, heard the shady comments, felt the Hellish energy then still blamed my self for poor treatment 😮
Yes!! Conformation. Wow. This word is for me.THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH STEPHANIE. THANK YOU FATHER SON AND THE HOLY SPIRIT.GODBLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. GODBLESS EVERYONE IN JESUS NAME AMEN.👍
No one needs to be mistreated. You don’t let no one control you either.
Straight up Truth, sis! Narcissistic peeps n relationships will ultimately Destroy your Inner Spirit, if you remain.. 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ RUN!
Our hearts is so pure😣😣 we are so different I pray we all heal from people mistreating us, WE KNOW we did not deserve that, we are literally blessings, why would you treat a blessing like that.
More than ever now I am quick to cut people off, from all the trauma because I don't want to feel trauma again/anymore, so I'm ready to see who I should cut off to protect me, I know myself and my worth now, I do not lose people, people lose me and I say this in the humblest way🙏
Thank u Lord for the confirmation u sent through my chosen sister Stephanie bc I often blamed myself bc they made me feel.gulilty
That use to be me! BUT,, THAT DON'T FLY WITH ME ANYMORE! ❤️ CONFIRMATION❤️❤️❤️❤️
Me too Sis🙌🏽
All facts, it’s truly difficult when a wool being pulled over your eyes and your put in position to stand alone spot on for me!!!❤
Amen sis I was mistreated by friends family.members love relationships
You brought peace where I didn't think it was possible. Amen🥰
as im dealing with my grandmother trying to put her hands on me, as soon as i start praying she could not touch me.
Whatever is Good, Chaste, Just, Pure, Loving, Strong...that's what God Wants us to keep our minds on...and also just practice forgiveness but not keep going to people who will mistreat you. Thankyou Lord and I Give all of us to You!!! In Jesus' Mighty Name!!! Amen!!!
This was for me and many others. This will change 90% of my life, knowing that that 90 is what I do about my life. I shall not fight the change but I rebuke overthinking, over analyzing. I smile everyday but it often turns to sorrow but God miraculously saves the day every single day. I seek him and read the word everyday, I prayed to him that I’ll transform my mind and put my hand to the plow and not turn back. I need to balance my environment of my state of thoughts which affects the productivity of a variety of patterns/lusts and how I live. Not relying on my capacity but the Holy Spirit which is the fire the dwells in me, which is God. I shall not identify with my account but see that the scripture is being fulfilled by faith not by sight. No man’s above falling but now I’m greater than yesterday, Not fainting in the day of adversity and losing people to my mind that attracts the many demons the Devil sends. But if I change my mind the villain will pause because it can only play around when one pursues it. No longer falling into that pit with demons again. This also refers to a dream I had months ago, a villain was chasing me but pauses when I act causal and not pursue it with the fear of words thrown at me. But then I see it chasing my other sibling and cousins when It can’t get me in the dream. I got upstairs to my apartment safely though. It was a pale white skin like Slendrina with red eyes like a school girl but way more profound. May the Lord take us higher in the Jesus name. Amen 🙏 😭😭😭❤️🔥🤒🔥🔥🫶🏾
This message is a true testament of what I have been speaking with God about!!!❤❤❤❤❤
This is right on time! Holy Spirit just told me this. Thank you💛💛💛
Very true 💔🥺...I pray God protects our tender hearts 🙌🏽
A lot of this is so accurate and it's so hard not to do that when you don't want to hurt or offend anyone and your mind is trying to make you doubt, probably because of all the gaslighting. Thank you Holy Spirit for this message. ❤
But they have no problem hurting you! TUH! love yourself. Forgive them and move arounddddd. Life too short, hang around those who want to be around you😊
So glad this came to the forefront. I just recently had another episode of disrespect from my niece who is envious and jealous of my relationship with my mother. She refuses to acknowledge or apologize for her behavior. She AND her sisters are narcissists who have been gaslighting, lying and manipulating to gain control over the household. They unfortunately have been getting away with it for many years (among other things) because my mother and siblings are big time enablers. When I confront the issue, I end up on the losing end because of the lies and skilled ways they are able to manipulate and control and the lack of support due to mom and siblings believing what they said. I realize that I have lost so much confidence because of the constant negativity and have to remind myself that people fight dirty (they lie and gaslight). They never deal with truth because if the devil that uses them in their web of lies, know it’s the truth that sets a person free. This makes me reflect upon what you said for further deliverance from this issue. Thank you Lord. Thanks Stephanie.❤
Amen. I have always been mistreated. Thank You for this message. I receive it in JESUS name.
I hate when you have addressed this issue with certain family. And have stood up for yourself with people at work. I'm definitely assertive with the gaslighting and scapegoating. I feel like they change their behavior but only temporarily. Then eventually they start it up again. So I try to distant myself physically and emotionally. But honestly it's just draining. To have to continually express my disdain for this behavior. So I've praying about this situation and my enemies. 🙏
Mistreated too....sad! But why does everyone always point it to a childhood.....sometimes it's not the childhood....my mom and dad gave me a good one....
The step dad did some things that wasn't good at all...but once you realize that they were his demons and put it past you..
The WORLD WILL ALWAYS BRING IT UP!!!
THANKS Steph for your message....very detailed and experiences behind it...God Bless
Step dad did it in childhood?
I thank my enemies, because of them I am stronger, I love them. When things do not work out, I forgive, give them to Jesus, forget and move on.
That said: To make a point of living quietly, attending to your own business, and earning your living, just as we told you to so that you are seen to be respectable by those outside the Church, though you do not have to depend on them. All the Glory be to God! Praise the Lord! Amen!
THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS MESSAGE
I THANK YOU STEPHANIE FOR BEING REAL
IN THE NAME OF JESUS. BLESS YOU, BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ♥️♥️🙏😇
EXACTLY You are on point! God choose the right healthy positive people in my life for
me. Thank you for your boldness to share. I'm done with the negative buzzards. I forgive and release them, but refuse to be in their space. I'm too old for stupid downright dumb stuff. I love myself more than succumbing to abusive people and relationships.
Yes I was but all better now. Forgave them and moved on. Nobody deserves what they did to me, I wouldn't do that to an animal let alone a fellow human being, its just an evil world. We can only be accountable for our own behavior. I pity people like that it makes you wonder what messed up their head so bad that they thought that it was ok to do something like that.
I'm finna get a change of mind a new mindset and that a knock all that mess out
Makes me think of that quote “you will never be enough for the wrong person” 😔
I wish we could be friends in irl it's hard out here not having someone that's a genuine friend. I had some stuff happen yesterday and I really needed this.
I feel like this by everyone brrrruuuhhh and I'm tired !!!!!!
When your best isn’t good enough 😢
No more excuses. No more gaslighting. Never again.
I'm in tears 😢 😭 sometimes I put myself on punishment . I don't go outside no more .. I'm afraid I'm do something wrong
@Harlemdakidd tv Gird up your most true faith and come out! Don't give the enemy a foothold.
Not anymore My Sister!!!!! I’m a Sheep 🐑 In Wolves Clothing….. I learned my lesson. Love you guys!!!!❤😊. Amen and Amen
JD
@John Davis How do you go about it LOL?
@@faithfisherman568 The LORD SAYS TO BE CUNNING AS A WOLF BUT AS INNOCENT AS A DOVE 🕊. I’m still on my mission but HE HAS GIVEN me wisdom to really see what’s going on around me. ALL PRAISE, HONOR AND GLORY TO THE KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS. MAGNIFY AND GLORIFY THE HOLY NAME OF OUR JESUS, WHO IS THE CHRIST, THE ONE AND ONLY BLESSED BEGOTTEN SON OF YAWH. HE SHED HIS HOLY AND PRECIOUS BLOOD 🩸 FOR OUR SINS (mine and yours) FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME. Amen and Amen
JD
Thank you Stephanie I really needed to hear this I have been going back-and-forth in my head about a lot of People and situations Unfortunately Those who are not healed and or who are not in the healing process will always find a way to manipulate a situation So that they won't have to accept responsibility or the role that they play in the situation in itself.💖🙏💖😇
As a man fighting his demons right now. I can agree with this message.
I receive this message THANK YOU BLESS Woman of GOD TO GOD BE THE GLORY 😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇🙏🏾AMEN
Thank You For This Message! So Many Need Your Contributions! Thank You For Being You! I'm So Proud Of You, Sister In Christ! 🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖
YESSS SISTER STEPHANIE, so on point!!!DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO!! IT'S SO SAD
Wow. This is ON TIME..
Wise counsel here!!!!!!! God increase her, your daughter so very much, amen in Jesus name!!!!
Please pray for me please Stephanie.. because I'm going through this right now.
I have battled with this all my life. At home and in the workplace.
This has been my situation exactly and now I'm seeing people and things behind what's making the people treat me this way and what's made them treat me this way for my whole life and it's very difficult to take. I'm just I'm praying for them and I'm learning how to stand up for myself without having to be right about something without having to prove myself right and them wrong. I'm kind of just allowing them to tire themselves out and I'm praying for them and I'm forgiving them and loving them and I'm focusing on Jesus and asking him to forgive them and to show them Mercy and to soften their hearts that they may repent.
This backed up what the Lord told me yesterday , thank you
true....been happening my whole life
Lord, let me accept, forgive, heal and move forward 🙏🏼✨
Thanks sister in Christ, exactly the confirmation I needed today.
I Receive this Word with Gladness in the Mighty Name of Jesus Amen 🙏❣
Thank you for this word which was for me. Do not GASLIGHT yourself Do not be a PEOPLE PLEASER. Recognise and acknowledge that people mistreated me.
Thank you Steph! I can most definitely relate to this message
Right in time 🙌🏼🫶🏼🙏
I don't know why but u look extra beautiful 🤩 the darker hair color. Nice
Agree I do over analyze everything! 😅
You’re truly gifted at teaching sis ❤
🙏I find my self doing this over and over again walk me through this Lord God bless you.
My gaslighters have me dependent on them. They have control of everything in my home and cameras everywhere.. Makes me a little confused.
Wow! Thank you for another soul touching message. That air of rejection/scapegoat can stay over you for a while untill you stand up. Joy can be an act of rebellion in th eyes of the envious. Stay joyful anyway. Fill your cup up with gods love let them sip or choke on the overflow. Up to them!! Lol Thanks Stephanie. X
Amen! I thank God for me finding your video it was meant for me to watch this video,I been mistreated by everyone I haven’t done anything to them, I guess it’s jealousy,this is for me thank you Jesus,God bless you prophet Stephanie Amazingly in Jesus name ❤🙏
It broke my heart to see you cry omg 😢😢😢😢
I understand this all to well. I had to ask God for the strength to stop letting people use me in that manner, especially my family members. They knew they was using me and now that I am on to them, I'm the bad person and something is wrong with me for not letting them use me anymore. Thank you Lord God for your help ,your Grace and Mercy ,that has brought me through it all and still bringing me through, in Jesus precious name, Amen. 🗣🗣🗣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I totally can agree to this peace is the main thing I want for my life I thank God for how he made me being a good person makes us targets but this is pattern is rebuked and canceled God gives us strength to carry us through I thank God for you Stephanie God bless your heart ♥ Amen
Exactly, I can't do it anymore. And they have the audacity to wonder why I don't have time for mugs anymore. Miss me with it. 💯💯💯
Thank you sister in Christ. 💕 Lord God strengthen me and restore my life. Amen
Thank you, I thought I was the only one treated like that. God bless you continue to enlighten and help us on our journey to Jesus. AMEN
I use do that too, thinking everyone mad at me
Thank you for being obedient to the holy spirit all glory onto God keep on keeping on uplifting and encouraging I really needed this right on time thank you Lord Jesus
Even though I feel like I am so undeserving of this gift of getting dreams from God but I am so thankful and this is literally my confirmation and it’s amazing how as soon as I woke up you posted this message! Thank you so much!🙏 God bless you!
I'm glad God pushed you. I'm so happy you obeyed him. Bless you and God. Confirmation
This hit way too hard I've been talking about this very thing for the past few days. I unintentionally make myself a scapegoat because I feel like I do everything wrong even if I have absolutely nothing to do with it I blame myself. I'm always over apologizing and over explaining things even when I've done absolutely nothing wrong.
I love you! I am Thankful and Grateful for you! You always care and give great words, I Believed You and Thank You! Stop ......I have forgiven and I do not feel bad! Amen LU
Shalom Alecheim sister Stephanie. I am a big believer you must go thru he'll to find the light... everyone has their own story! To know Abba, Yeshua and the Grace I would not and cannot change a thing but know.once you die spiritually and come back you have no one to seve but God!
Just hav 2 say u hair color looks amazing. Dont no if it u natural color, but wow. Also thk u 4 Stephaine 4 u truthful words, u hav blessed me beyond words. 💜🙏🦋
This is literally for me! I was mistreated and I keep letting him mistreat me 😭😭😭 please pray for my deliverance ❤️❤️❤️
Agreed, “Be ye separated”.! That’s why we have to be with and be around like minded and like hearted people of God’s gift of pure Love, The Greatest Gift Of All 😊👊🏽💯❤️⭐️💫
No...its not okay!!! I was mistrested....mostly because they could. I been through it all: gang stalked, gaslighted ,scapegoated and shunned. And by family and friends.
Amen Lil sister prays it loud and louder
This hit so hard... I literally got sick and ended up over the toilet waiting on it to come up... This was my truth and a part of me wanted to rebuke it , the part when you said Im a easy prey... I was just telling my father this. It's much more hard hearing it .