I quickly thought he wasn't good for OP, and last nail in the coffin was when he said "Aww you're jelly" at things he interpreted as OP being jealous. Urgh, that's just so immature.
Story 2: he’d be dead to me after we got evicted. I’m having a full body reaction of straight anger. This whole story just made me angry. He would not live with me at my mom’s house. Gross gross gross.
She should've dumped him the moment she found out he was on probation. Ladies have got to get over their want of bad boys. They're never gonna fix them & they very rarely change.
The fact OP wrote all of that and was still entertaining the idea of staying with him was insane I was actually getting frustrated with OP for not just kicking him to the curb after he got them evicted and her getting taken out of her mom’s will due to him like that was her mom basically telling her to drop the dead weight and she still didn’t do it for how long?
Exactly like I don't know. It's hard for me to have sympathy when you go through so much bs but you're still climbing in the bed with that man like girl you don't want to leave. You don't want him to do better.
Yeah, she's been a single mother since the baby came. And I don't understand how she stayed with him for so long or even agreed to have a baby with this loser in the first place! I'd have dumped him long before I found out he was stealing from me and hadn't been paying any bills. Him being such a whiny turd, and not pulling his weight in anything, would've killed any love I had for him. Losing the dead weight would improve her life so much, she'd only have to take care of one baby instead of two! He only wants OP back because he wants her to take care of him again instead of him having to fend for himself. And I suspect he's cheated already and the other women wouldn't put up with his BS. He wants to come back because he thinks OP will. She needs to put her foot down and never let him back, aside from coparenting with him. Ever.
Story 1 - Grown adults who still get off on their partners being jealous and going out of their way to hurt them to make them jealous should stay single until the grave. Zack has serious issues he needs to address, or he’s going to tank every relationship he has. No partner will be able to fix his esteem issues for him or dedicate the amount of time to trying to, and the relationships will never be healthy unless he does work on himself.
He's not looking for a healthy relationship, though. He wants a "passionate" relationship full of drama and tension and emotional roller coasters to which he is the master pulling all the strings. High conflict, lots of emotional range, and absolute toxicity. That's why he won't work on himself, this is exactly what he is looking for and tried turning his relationship with Op into. Two to three years of a mature relationship must have been agony for him.
This exactly. Your partner is not, and shouldn't be a personal therapist for your issues. You can talk about things, sure, but once you start dragging them down with you, you've likely killed the relationship. It baffles me how some people still see this as normal, yikes.
I would be trying to kick him out, but given that english isn't OP's 1st language, and that she called him a "pajero de mierda", she's probably from a latin american country, and lease might work out differently if this pos excuse of a ex-boyfriend of hers had contributed in a way. Or if she cannot kick him out without causing more drama. So yeah, sucks that she can't kick him out after she spent a significant amount on rent.
@@pippo17173 Which likely happened (to some extent) but OP has no idea of it yet. He's doing an about face to try to match her maturity to win her back, he's not about to lay all his cards on the table yet. OP is sticking around for months to give him the chance to wear her down.
Story 1: Sigh. Jealousy does NOT equal love. You know what does show love? Consideration, empathy, love and support. Sheesh, Zack has the emotional intelligence of a toddler.
I think she is an idiot for staying in the apartment with a narcissist. (her words) She admits that she never really knew him or what he is capable of.
@@BoatsBigDay she doesn't "have to" she just said it was more convenient. She also believes she was in a "beautiful relationship" with him. I hope I'm wrong but I don't think she has seen the worst of him yet.
@@johnbradbury8610 I'm sure once he realizes he has no chance on getting back with OP, OP will find other girls, or Mia, being trotted into his bedroom while OP is in the next room. He' will continue to play his games with his prey while she remains in his home. OP will likely lose it hearing him have sex with someone else and finally give him the reaction he has been looking for.
The girl in story 2 stayed with that tool, after he got them evicted and after he lost his job? Then she stayed even after she got removed from her mother's will? I have no respect for her.
I cant believe the mother allowed that bum in her basement. Id tell my daughter she and the baby will ALWAYS be welcome in my home but your lil 'protector and provider' bf will NEVER be allowed in.
@@madarawijerathne276 this is why they are targeted. everyone tries to play both sides of the fence at the same time. they pretend they are mature grown ups at 18 and then they do this stuff..and start the whole chain of dysfunction..that goes down generations.
I think this is one of those "blinded by love " situations. Plus it's clear op was raised to not stir drama, aka be a pushover. So many women are raised to take the path of least resistance. But I am glad she got rid of him, even if it was technically him getting rid of himself. Some people are so desperate to feel loved they'll put up with anything, including abuse.
@@develyntwocentshenderson5739 Yes, to any young women reading this. If someone is calling you "mature for your age" RUN! It isn't that you're mature so much as they are immature.
Story 2: So you meet a person, find out they're on probation, and decide...Yeah, I'm gonna spend my life with this person and we will have children...The way of thinking of these people...XD
I was thinking this about the older woman with 3 kids. Why would you want a man that constantly cheated on his ex, is addicted to video games and cant hold down a job?
@@slimecorn come on, you don't think it was a good idea to get married and pregnant within a year to a guy on probation while continuing to give him access to her account even after he wasted her money.
He'll find out the hard way if he finds another partner with the same amount of immaturity next time. They will cause enough drama that will end up with the police involved, probably. Hope he grows out of it someday.
@pippo17173 16:00 What are you talking about? She literally does know why her mom did what she did. In fact, she agreed with her, which caused an argument.
@@bryn1063 Yeah but she never thought about how SHE should've done the same. She agreed with the mom, but STILL didn't cut this Mofo off?? She's a doormat. And one very frustrating one. She's aware but refuses to act. Insanely frustrating to even just read... I really hope she learns to have self-respect and put her foot down on her boundaries (when she finally learns to draw those boundaries!). For herself and her daugther.
@icecreamnoodles3742 I agree she was frustrating but she did eventually left. My guess on why she was so headstrong was probably because this guy was her first, not excusing it though. Also I doubt she never thought about leaving. Otherwise she wouldn't have left at all.
Story 2: If the new gf is hitching her wagon to him (a definite loser man-child) then she had ISSUES. A healthy, balanced person does not engage in a relationship with a fucked up mess of a person. Also, she moved him into her home and her children's lives before they'd been together for a full year. So, yeah...
Story 2, "your family thinks I'm a loser", then proceeds to prove them right by his actions. When she's in the shower, baby cries and hubby texts her to deal with the child instead of doing anything himself, WTF.
He really ruined his relationship because he had a rom com idea of it. He forgot he was an adult. Btw i love how early you've been uploading! I losten to your videos while getting ready for work
Story 1 is a double boss fight: "The Ultimate Pick-Me" tag teaming with "The Ultimate Fence-Sitter Man" to make her miserable. Of course she should leave. I'm surprised she got with him in the first place. Edit: WOW, THE OPENING TO THE UPDATE 💀
She has herself to blame she overlooked a lot of red flags. Still, she has a good heart, and a good support system, most likely the husband won't be a part of the child's life which is for the best.
@@johnbradbury8610 Not exactly. That kid is now a liability in her finding someone new. Lots of men, especially young men, don't want to deal with single moms. She's still very young & probably attractive so she'll have plenty of men lining up to have her but very few if any will stick around after. She's got a lot of work to do on herself before she's ready to move on. She's not ready to deal with rejection of being a single mom. Nor is ready to pick a better mate which she really needs to think about cuz it will effect her daughter's life too going forward. She needs to think about her daughter now not what she wants anymore.
I tried the lazy and useless route one time..... I almost made it through an entire 2-hour movie before I got restless and wanted to be outside doing something. I can't imagine how people can spend most of their day not doing anything productive for themselves or others. But hey, to each their own I guess.
@@bhart3321 you're right, I was just trying to be optimistic. OP still doesn't understand how she brought all of this on herself by ignoring major Red Flags. As far as being a single mom, if she is attractive she will be able to find someone with a good income that she can settle for.
I hope the mom in story 2 at least set up a trust for her granddaughter unable to be touched until she's of age because clearly her parents aren't the best. Dad's a deadbeat loser and mom was a doormat for too long. Story 3; Oh my God they were roommates!
S1: Needing someone to constantly reassure you is exhausting enough but looking for validation through extreme reactions is incredibly unhealthy. Wanting to see someone shout the house down and trying to fight anyone who sparks feelings of insecurity is actually kind of insane.
Story2: Lazy, cheating, financial abusiv. Therapy??? Seriously??? You can't heal someone for being an AH! Amicable divorce? LOL! Honey, he already sucked you dry!
S2- i have no sympathy for someone who knows their spouse is financially irresponsible and gives them full financial control, putting kids in danger. The mom was right to remove her. Shes just as irresponsible.
@@vanessashimoni6548 its sometimes a lot harder I was abused from 5 till 8 years old. I was bullied all through school. My 1st partner was abusive. It took me years to realise that it wasn't my fault that people treated me like this. I was told it was my fault from 5 years old. Turns out I also have adhd and Autism diagnosed. I am now 59 I made a massive change in my life after my brother commited suicide. I realised that we both hated ourselves for no real reason. He was a lovely lad. I met my husband 2 years later and we gave been together for 30 very happy years. But my brain was programmed to accept punishment for being an awful child. It was only when I was 52 that I had EMDR for CPTSD that I finally accepted that I deserved to be happy.. Your background really really has a massive effect.
"That's just how she is, you should be her friend cause she's really funny" the only thing funny here is your delusions that she's a good person despite her blatantly showing that she isn't, but even then it's more sad than funny
Story 1 (before update): NTA, Mia is his real girlfriend, he was just dating you because she was out of the country. Of course you are in the right to dump his butt. Story 1 (update): Oh OP.... There is no way for you the live with him "in a healthy way". One of you needs to move out (at minimum) before this becomes a true crime story. Either you are going to start dating, and he is going to attack you, or he is going to move on, and his new psycho girlfriend (Mia or someone else) is going to attack you.
S1: She sits on his lap to exert dominance. Also, why didn't op dump him for using words like "jelly"?. Edit: Everything he said after that just got cringier. I had to go back and check that he wasn't a 14yo girl.
Yeah I had to check to see that he was male cuz this is literally female behavior. The behavior itself, the drama queen mentality, & even the justifications are ripped from the toxic ladies handbook. If this guy is good looking, which it appears he might be given how women seem to flock to him, he's gonna be your average pookie, buch of different kids by bunch of different bm & probably does f all to support any of them. Guys like him & the stbx in story two deserve to go to jail for non-payment of support.
Never ever been this early to a Markee video but sacrifices must be made 😂. That "your jelly" was WILD! After maybe 2 of those she was suppose to ✌🏾 out 2nd OP had rose colored irises when it came to that dude because WTF woman
Story1. Ntah. Attractiveness wears out quickly the minute the mouth piece don’t match. Wanting your gf/wife to be jealous is some childish shit. I told my husband before we became gf/bf that jealous is not apart of character. If you want another woman please just let me know. I won’t waste time on being jealous, insecure, and arguing everyday.
Yeah dude in story 1 is psychotic no if, ands, or butts about it….. He’s sick in the head tbh I don’t think she should live with him. I low key feel as tho he is dangerous. I feel like he’d hype a woman up to fight her
S2 OP needs to gain some self esteem. Who stays with a loser for a year while he's draining your accounts, being secretive, not helping with the home or baby, and is actively bad enough your parents don't trust you with future money.
Story 1. Let me tell ya'll a quote from my mother that she told her college boyfriend when he tried to get her to compete for his attention with another woman. "If I have to fight to keep you, she can have you."
story 2: i’m a 25 year old working mom of a 6 month old and the amount of rage i feel for this girl is unbelievable! i’m literally going to go apologize for any stupid arguments i’ve ever started with my fiancée because holy shit these stories make me remember what a saint they are
“He said that if I love him I would be fighting for him […]” See, the thing is, any woman with any amount of self esteem would find it challenging (if not impossible) to maintain romantic love for a man-child who enables and engages in this kind of jealousy games. Can’t tell if he’s really into the best friend or just thinks this is the best way to get attention, but either way, OP’s apathy is 100% the correct reaction.
"I really care about Zack and we have a great relationship," she said after four minutes straight of describing a ridiculous, unhealthy relationship worthy of 14-year-olds. Why do they always do that, who are they trying to convince?
STORY 2: As the story progressed I felt less & less sympathy for OP. OP allowed her husband to continuously play in her face. Receiving the eviction notice should have been the straw that broke the camel's back, smdh
Story 2 had me so frustrated. Her husband is useless. After nearly a year (I think?), he says “I don’t know how to take care of a baby.” 😐 Also the part at 19:28 about the cousin at the strip club was weird but that’s besides the point I guess.
actually I think its a bit telling for how OP was raised. Strip clubs can be fun on occasion but its a "family tradition"? to go get drunk and look at naked women? that..thats not normal. was she raised to think of women, and herself, as objects? is this where she met her looser husband? (i've worked in strip clubs i'm not casting judgement we all need to make money when and how we can sometimes, but most places do not get reputable people in there to spend money, mostly transients like truck drivers/travel workers, and drug dealers)
This dude wants his life to be Wattpad teen drama so bad! 😂😂😂 It’s all fun and games until she keys up your car or shows up to your job and causes a scene. Be careful what you wish for. 🤫
Story 1 the bf is never going to be hapoy unless his partner is continually pissed! Yeah he is going to repeatedly burn through relationships because the end goal is to be peacefully happy but he wants the excitement and only that!
It could’ve been an accident. Or, OP thought she/they were ready, seeing as they both had jobs at the time. Some women really want to be moms, even if the time isn’t perfect
Op says it in the story. Deadbeat was draining all the money on women, booze, and fast food. His and hers. Mom can likely afford to take care of baby now that deadbeat is gone
At the time they both had jobs and making good money. She wasn't smart to ket him have control of her debit card. I would have out it in a safe or something. Hell I would have a separate account and hide the card in said safe and not give him the code. I would also have a mobile app of my bank to keep tabs on my account hourly if I had to. But then my husband never would have used my money that way.
Story 1. Nta I absolutely love seeing a woman that can behave like a lady in situations like this. She can do better and deserve so much better. She is better than all that petty immature manipulative drama
Well I gotta say it’s refreshing for a guy to flat out ADMIT they like their girl getting jealous and that her not getting jealous pissed him off. At least he’s a self aware narcissist
Story 2: not even done with the initial post OMG just divorce him you already know he’s cheating and all the other red flags why would she even entertain the idea of staying with him? OMG as soon as OP’s mom took her off her will because of this guy she’s should’ve walked
Story one: oh hell no. The first time he let her sit on his lap is when I would walk from the relationship. Cuddling, sitting on his lap, intimate whispering? Hell no. He's not worth it at all
12:35 I'm not gonna lie, I was pretty certain this was gonna precede something like, "and now, onto the second update: 'Very much against my will, the situation got much, much more dramatic...'"
"Its great that your whole family thinks Im so terrible" Well if you dont want people to think you are terrible stop being so god damn terrible man! Come on! Shit people being upset that people realize the truth always astounds me. So yes! Leave, get child support (though I doubt he will pay), raise your baby to expect better in their future partner, succeed in life
I hope the second lady does not let this happen again. Thank God she eventually left she was getting infuriating. But knowing her age, it was probably her first serious relationship so she mostlikely thought it was normal.
Fighting for a relationship can only be successful if you're fighting WITH your partner FOR the relationship, not if you're fighting alone against someone/something.
Op if you have a guy over pls scream loudly with him in your room. Like moan, and jump on the bed as you bang the wall screaming his name. I'm getting 'easy A' visions. Lol I don't like drama but I'm a petty bit
In the second story, I like the reference to dipping her toe into thte dating world, then pulling it back out and completely drying it off. That was a REALLY nice turn of phrase there.
2nd Story: How in the world did OP get that far with that loser? I feel bad for the child that had to suffer through this. An innocent baby having to be around that crap. Listen people, even an ounce of self esteem could save you from being in a nightmare like this. Shockingly the first red flag wasn’t the fact he’s on probation. I have zero sympathy for anyone who willingly puts themselves into this type of situation. Like ok, she’s young, but old enough to know better.
Story 2: I really hope OP reread the divorce paperwork. Assuming he didn’t screw with them, I hope she maintains good relations with the gf since we all know she’ll be the one parenting. I also wouldn’t put it past him to leave their place “for pickups” and return complaining about op withholding the kid so he blew of steam at a bar.
It was 1974 when women could get a mortgage but the comment still makes a very good point. Even today there are millions of women who support candidates who brag about sexual assault and believe women shouldn't have the right to vote. (trump and Robinson) among others
This is also why I believe women should be given some sympathy if they aren't the best with money. How many were taught how to be financially responsible? I (FtM) know I wasn't, because my mum wasn't taught how to be (and my dad didn't bother parenting me at all). Though, I am actually good with money most of the time. I don't drink, smoke, or gamble, and I'm able to live off relatively little. But, we shouldn't expect that from everyone, and it's downright sad to see how good some women's salaries are, and yet...
@@damien678 No one in our school system is taught how to be good with money. It's not just a woman thing. This is 2024, we might very well have a woman president, stop making excuses.
@@johnbradbury8610 A big part of this is on parents, too. It wasn't entirely unreasonable to focus on teaching boys financial literacy when only men could have bank accounts; unfortunately, a lot of people still primarily only teach their boys some things about finance. Also... Gotta admit, that last sentiment is very funny, considering many countries have had female leaders already. Hells, my own country had a female prime minister ages ago. Doesn't take away from my point that girls and women tend to not be given priority when it comes to these matters, and the passing-down of knowledge.
@@damien678I was pointing out that in schools no one is taught how to manage money, I can assure you there is no separate class for boys. That was my point. I'm sure some families only teach their sons, but its definitely not all of them.
Damn, Mia really got me with that faux-update! 😅 Also, what the boyfriend is describing is codependency. Just learned that from my therapist, and the boy gave an almost word perfect definition.
I had a girl best friend when I was engaged.....and Zach is a total jerk. Ain't no way would I have done or allowed stuff like that with my best friend. And yes, I essentially ended the friendship later on.
"I'm emotionally tormenting you for my own sick pleasure! Why aren't you fighting for me!" Pound rocks and kick sand, hope OP makes it to the end of the lease and tells him she never wants to see him again.
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Story 1. She is completely healthy and reasonable and obviously mature. BF and Mia are ridiculous and will need to grow up-if they ever do.
They won’t. Bf likes the attention he’s getting from Mia. Mia just wants to assert ‘dominance’ and proves that she’s the only woman that matters.
💯👍🏿
excuse me, what is mature about dragging a child into this? she is now effectively chained to him. this is putting a cart before a horse imo
@@develyntwocentshenderson5739 that’s story 2, top comment is talking about story 1.
I quickly thought he wasn't good for OP, and last nail in the coffin was when he said "Aww you're jelly" at things he interpreted as OP being jealous. Urgh, that's just so immature.
Story 2: he’d be dead to me after we got evicted. I’m having a full body reaction of straight anger. This whole story just made me angry. He would not live with me at my mom’s house. Gross gross gross.
She should've dumped him the moment she found out he was on probation. Ladies have got to get over their want of bad boys. They're never gonna fix them & they very rarely change.
The fact OP wrote all of that and was still entertaining the idea of staying with him was insane I was actually getting frustrated with OP for not just kicking him to the curb after he got them evicted and her getting taken out of her mom’s will due to him like that was her mom basically telling her to drop the dead weight and she still didn’t do it for how long?
Exactly like I don't know. It's hard for me to have sympathy when you go through so much bs but you're still climbing in the bed with that man like girl you don't want to leave. You don't want him to do better.
Yeah, she's been a single mother since the baby came. And I don't understand how she stayed with him for so long or even agreed to have a baby with this loser in the first place! I'd have dumped him long before I found out he was stealing from me and hadn't been paying any bills. Him being such a whiny turd, and not pulling his weight in anything, would've killed any love I had for him. Losing the dead weight would improve her life so much, she'd only have to take care of one baby instead of two! He only wants OP back because he wants her to take care of him again instead of him having to fend for himself. And I suspect he's cheated already and the other women wouldn't put up with his BS. He wants to come back because he thinks OP will. She needs to put her foot down and never let him back, aside from coparenting with him. Ever.
Omg, yes. I was getting so annoyed with her.
Story 1 - Grown adults who still get off on their partners being jealous and going out of their way to hurt them to make them jealous should stay single until the grave. Zack has serious issues he needs to address, or he’s going to tank every relationship he has. No partner will be able to fix his esteem issues for him or dedicate the amount of time to trying to, and the relationships will never be healthy unless he does work on himself.
This exactly
Biz Marke warned us about this, ' never date a girl who says she just has a friend" it goes for both genders
One day, Mia is going to piss off someone who doesn't play games. 😂
He's not looking for a healthy relationship, though. He wants a "passionate" relationship full of drama and tension and emotional roller coasters to which he is the master pulling all the strings. High conflict, lots of emotional range, and absolute toxicity. That's why he won't work on himself, this is exactly what he is looking for and tried turning his relationship with Op into. Two to three years of a mature relationship must have been agony for him.
This exactly.
Your partner is not, and shouldn't be a personal therapist for your issues.
You can talk about things, sure, but once you start dragging them down with you, you've likely killed the relationship.
It baffles me how some people still see this as normal, yikes.
OP in the first story paid the full rent: boyfriend needs to leave, not her.
I would be trying to kick him out, but given that english isn't OP's 1st language, and that she called him a "pajero de mierda", she's probably from a latin american country, and lease might work out differently if this pos excuse of a ex-boyfriend of hers had contributed in a way. Or if she cannot kick him out without causing more drama. So yeah, sucks that she can't kick him out after she spent a significant amount on rent.
For one month for reasons.
Bf AND Mia. They are a package
@@cami1700 she sounds argentinian. money IS an issue
“fight my friend for my love” but you apparently don’t have feelings for her… so what love would op be fighting for?
Yep. This is his confession that he's deliberately trying to hurt OP and expects to be rewarded for it. Do not reward bad behaviour. Stay gone.
All that is missing is the bf screwing his friend behind the scenes.
@@pippo17173 Which likely happened (to some extent) but OP has no idea of it yet. He's doing an about face to try to match her maturity to win her back, he's not about to lay all his cards on the table yet. OP is sticking around for months to give him the chance to wear her down.
Story 1: Sigh. Jealousy does NOT equal love. You know what does show love? Consideration, empathy, love and support. Sheesh, Zack has the emotional intelligence of a toddler.
I think she is an idiot for staying in the apartment with a narcissist. (her words) She admits that she never really knew him or what he is capable of.
Even toddlers are capable of empathy & love. This man is not.
@@johnbradbury8610did you not hear the part where she has to?
@@BoatsBigDay she doesn't "have to" she just said it was more convenient. She also believes she was in a "beautiful relationship" with him. I hope I'm wrong but I don't think she has seen the worst of him yet.
@@johnbradbury8610 I'm sure once he realizes he has no chance on getting back with OP, OP will find other girls, or Mia, being trotted into his bedroom while OP is in the next room. He' will continue to play his games with his prey while she remains in his home. OP will likely lose it hearing him have sex with someone else and finally give him the reaction he has been looking for.
Breaking up to avoid drama is super easy. Barley an inconvenience.
Thos should be normalized
Hello, fellow Ryan George fan!
trying to stay in an apartment together afterward isn't. But I guess it's necessary for the movie to happen.
Just a heads up. Barely** barley is wheat
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The girl in story 2 stayed with that tool, after he got them evicted and after he lost his job? Then she stayed even after she got removed from her mother's will? I have no respect for her.
She's quite young I noticed
I cant believe the mother allowed that bum in her basement. Id tell my daughter she and the baby will ALWAYS be welcome in my home but your lil 'protector and provider' bf will NEVER be allowed in.
@@madarawijerathne276 this is why they are targeted. everyone tries to play both sides of the fence at the same time. they pretend they are mature grown ups at 18 and then they do this stuff..and start the whole chain of dysfunction..that goes down generations.
I think this is one of those "blinded by love " situations. Plus it's clear op was raised to not stir drama, aka be a pushover. So many women are raised to take the path of least resistance. But I am glad she got rid of him, even if it was technically him getting rid of himself. Some people are so desperate to feel loved they'll put up with anything, including abuse.
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Yes, to any young women reading this. If someone is calling you "mature for your age" RUN! It isn't that you're mature so much as they are immature.
Story 2: So you meet a person, find out they're on probation, and decide...Yeah, I'm gonna spend my life with this person and we will have children...The way of thinking of these people...XD
This is the one! The one I know I can count on! A sensible person.
I was thinking this about the older woman with 3 kids. Why would you want a man that constantly cheated on his ex, is addicted to video games and cant hold down a job?
And she still doesn't see how stupid it was to get married and pregnant with him. She acts like it was just bad luck.
Yeah OP in #2 is not all there tbh lmao
@@slimecorn come on, you don't think it was a good idea to get married and pregnant within a year to a guy on probation while continuing to give him access to her account even after he wasted her money.
So they basically get off on making her jealous? Some people are just way too immature to be in a relationship.
He'll find out the hard way if he finds another partner with the same amount of immaturity next time. They will cause enough drama that will end up with the police involved, probably. Hope he grows out of it someday.
Story 2: Oh my god I have never been this angry listening to a reddit story this woman needs to stand up for herself
Can't believe she never stop and think why her mom did what she did.
@pippo17173 16:00 What are you talking about? She literally does know why her mom did what she did. In fact, she agreed with her, which caused an argument.
@@bryn1063 Yeah but she never thought about how SHE should've done the same. She agreed with the mom, but STILL didn't cut this Mofo off?? She's a doormat. And one very frustrating one. She's aware but refuses to act. Insanely frustrating to even just read... I really hope she learns to have self-respect and put her foot down on her boundaries (when she finally learns to draw those boundaries!). For herself and her daugther.
@icecreamnoodles3742 I agree she was frustrating but she did eventually left. My guess on why she was so headstrong was probably because this guy was her first, not excusing it though. Also I doubt she never thought about leaving. Otherwise she wouldn't have left at all.
"why aren't you fighting for me?"
"You're not worth it" is the only true answer to that loaded question.
Story 2: If the new gf is hitching her wagon to him (a definite loser man-child) then she had ISSUES. A healthy, balanced person does not engage in a relationship with a fucked up mess of a person. Also, she moved him into her home and her children's lives before they'd been together for a full year. So, yeah...
Im 40 and i aspire to be as balanced and mature as this 22 yr old. Im so impressed by her 😅
Yeah, could you imagine if she married him or worse, got pregnant?
Story 2, "your family thinks I'm a loser", then proceeds to prove them right by his actions. When she's in the shower, baby cries and hubby texts her to deal with the child instead of doing anything himself, WTF.
He really ruined his relationship because he had a rom com idea of it. He forgot he was an adult.
Btw i love how early you've been uploading! I losten to your videos while getting ready for work
Story 1 is a double boss fight: "The Ultimate Pick-Me" tag teaming with "The Ultimate Fence-Sitter Man" to make her miserable.
Of course she should leave. I'm surprised she got with him in the first place.
Edit: WOW, THE OPENING TO THE UPDATE 💀
S1: The boyfriend is worse than a teenage girl!😂
S2: I would lose my mind if I had a husband that lazy and useless! 😮
She has herself to blame she overlooked a lot of red flags. Still, she has a good heart, and a good support system, most likely the husband won't be a part of the child's life which is for the best.
@@johnbradbury8610 Not exactly. That kid is now a liability in her finding someone new. Lots of men, especially young men, don't want to deal with single moms. She's still very young & probably attractive so she'll have plenty of men lining up to have her but very few if any will stick around after.
She's got a lot of work to do on herself before she's ready to move on. She's not ready to deal with rejection of being a single mom. Nor is ready to pick a better mate which she really needs to think about cuz it will effect her daughter's life too going forward. She needs to think about her daughter now not what she wants anymore.
@@johnbradbury8610you can’t always know how your partner will be, once you have a baby. It goes for both genders.
I tried the lazy and useless route one time.....
I almost made it through an entire 2-hour movie before I got restless and wanted to be outside doing something.
I can't imagine how people can spend most of their day not doing anything productive for themselves or others.
But hey, to each their own I guess.
@@bhart3321 you're right, I was just trying to be optimistic. OP still doesn't understand how she brought all of this on herself by ignoring major Red Flags. As far as being a single mom, if she is attractive she will be able to find someone with a good income that she can settle for.
OP in first story refused to feed the drama llamas.
Instead she said when the lease is up alpaca up and leave
@@triciad4100 love the pun!
If someone told me "aaaw, you're jelly" I'd just reply with "aaaw, you're single"
I hope the mom in story 2 at least set up a trust for her granddaughter unable to be touched until she's of age because clearly her parents aren't the best. Dad's a deadbeat loser and mom was a doormat for too long.
Story 3; Oh my God they were roommates!
S1: Needing someone to constantly reassure you is exhausting enough but looking for validation through extreme reactions is incredibly unhealthy. Wanting to see someone shout the house down and trying to fight anyone who sparks feelings of insecurity is actually kind of insane.
Story 1: What a needy weirdo. OP is so much better off without him.
I’m not fighting for anyone’s love. lmao You choose me or you don’t, I’ll be just fine regardless.
S2.
You don't ask for money control with a financially abusive partner.
YOU TAKE CONTROL BY ANY MEANS THAT WORK AND YOU FOLLOW THROUGH
Story 1: Not liking drama isn't cold. Not everyone wants to live in chaos with drama. I'd nope out on that guy too.
Story2: Lazy, cheating, financial abusiv. Therapy??? Seriously??? You can't heal someone for being an AH!
Amicable divorce? LOL!
Honey, he already sucked you dry!
S2- i have no sympathy for someone who knows their spouse is financially irresponsible and gives them full financial control, putting kids in danger. The mom was right to remove her. Shes just as irresponsible.
However she is also at fault for not teaching her to not take it. Like two divorces and she is still like this?
I have no sympathy for martyrs, if you allow people to mistreat you then you’re responsible for the situation you’re in.
@@vanessashimoni6548 OP: so you're on probation and don't have a full-time job; hurry up let's get married and start having unprotected sex.
@@vanessashimoni6548 its sometimes a lot harder
I was abused from 5 till 8 years old.
I was bullied all through school. My 1st partner was abusive. It took me years to realise that it wasn't my fault that people treated me like this. I was told it was my fault from 5 years old.
Turns out I also have adhd and Autism diagnosed.
I am now 59 I made a massive change in my life after my brother commited suicide.
I realised that we both hated ourselves for no real reason. He was a lovely lad.
I met my husband 2 years later and we gave been together for 30 very happy years.
But my brain was programmed to accept punishment for being an awful child.
It was only when I was 52 that I had EMDR for CPTSD that I finally accepted that I deserved to be happy..
Your background really really has a massive effect.
BF and Mia sound EXHAUSTING AND RIDICULOUS.
"That's just how she is, you should be her friend cause she's really funny" the only thing funny here is your delusions that she's a good person despite her blatantly showing that she isn't, but even then it's more sad than funny
Story 1 (before update): NTA, Mia is his real girlfriend, he was just dating you because she was out of the country. Of course you are in the right to dump his butt.
Story 1 (update): Oh OP.... There is no way for you the live with him "in a healthy way". One of you needs to move out (at minimum) before this becomes a true crime story. Either you are going to start dating, and he is going to attack you, or he is going to move on, and his new psycho girlfriend (Mia or someone else) is going to attack you.
S1: She sits on his lap to exert dominance.
Also, why didn't op dump him for using words like "jelly"?.
Edit: Everything he said after that just got cringier.
I had to go back and check that he wasn't a 14yo girl.
I was so confused at why saying the word jelly was a bad thing until it finally came up in the video, I completely get it now😂
@stephaniehowells6364 yes, it wasn't the good kind of jelly
Yeah I had to check to see that he was male cuz this is literally female behavior. The behavior itself, the drama queen mentality, & even the justifications are ripped from the toxic ladies handbook. If this guy is good looking, which it appears he might be given how women seem to flock to him, he's gonna be your average pookie, buch of different kids by bunch of different bm & probably does f all to support any of them. Guys like him & the stbx in story two deserve to go to jail for non-payment of support.
Never ever been this early to a Markee video but sacrifices must be made 😂. That "your jelly" was WILD! After maybe 2 of those she was suppose to ✌🏾 out
2nd OP had rose colored irises when it came to that dude because WTF woman
Good to see ya this early 💪
Really glad for 3rd op, hope they're happy!
Story 2: Markee’s comments exactly. What a horrid man he is and it’s embarrassing how long she’s stayed with him.
Story1. Ntah. Attractiveness wears out quickly the minute the mouth piece don’t match. Wanting your gf/wife to be jealous is some childish shit. I told my husband before we became gf/bf that jealous is not apart of character. If you want another woman please just let me know. I won’t waste time on being jealous, insecure, and arguing everyday.
Yeah dude in story 1 is psychotic no if, ands, or butts about it….. He’s sick in the head tbh I don’t think she should live with him. I low key feel as tho he is dangerous. I feel like he’d hype a woman up to fight her
S2 OP needs to gain some self esteem. Who stays with a loser for a year while he's draining your accounts, being secretive, not helping with the home or baby, and is actively bad enough your parents don't trust you with future money.
Story 1. Let me tell ya'll a quote from my mother that she told her college boyfriend when he tried to get her to compete for his attention with another woman. "If I have to fight to keep you, she can have you."
story 2: i’m a 25 year old working mom of a 6 month old and the amount of rage i feel for this girl is unbelievable! i’m literally going to go apologize for any stupid arguments i’ve ever started with my fiancée because holy shit these stories make me remember what a saint they are
OP1 is absolutely right. Also, Zach just tipped his hand, because if nothing is going on with him and Mia, what does OP have to fight for?
Story 2: Boyfriend didn't get a new girlfriend, he got adopted.
Story 2: Holy shit. WHY did OP put up with that much for that long??? I would have cut the cord after he got them evicted, at the LATEST.
Story 3: And they were roommates...omg they were roommates
Story 2: Reminds me of the friends who have a terrible S.O. and complain to you about them but continue to stay.
"Me when I get brainwashed to kylle the Malaysian prime minister"
Markee relax, don't do it!
Hold up let me hit blue steel real quick before I do 🥸
@@Markee Turn left and do *MAGNUM* while you're at it ✨🥴✨
story 3
and they were roomates… 🙊
I think reddit is continuously setting new bars for clueless lesbian relationships. It's adorable.
Story 3: And they were roommates fanfic trope. Literally.
It's a interesting trope just like the isekai one
OP#2 I'm sure all of Reddit thinks your husband isn't a great person.
“He said that if I love him I would be fighting for him […]”
See, the thing is, any woman with any amount of self esteem would find it challenging (if not impossible) to maintain romantic love for a man-child who enables and engages in this kind of jealousy games. Can’t tell if he’s really into the best friend or just thinks this is the best way to get attention, but either way, OP’s apathy is 100% the correct reaction.
"I really care about Zack and we have a great relationship," she said after four minutes straight of describing a ridiculous, unhealthy relationship worthy of 14-year-olds. Why do they always do that, who are they trying to convince?
STORY 2: As the story progressed I felt less & less sympathy for OP. OP allowed her husband to continuously play in her face. Receiving the eviction notice should have been the straw that broke the camel's back, smdh
Story 2 had me so frustrated. Her husband is useless. After nearly a year (I think?), he says “I don’t know how to take care of a baby.” 😐
Also the part at 19:28 about the cousin at the strip club was weird but that’s besides the point I guess.
actually I think its a bit telling for how OP was raised. Strip clubs can be fun on occasion but its a "family tradition"? to go get drunk and look at naked women? that..thats not normal. was she raised to think of women, and herself, as objects? is this where she met her looser husband? (i've worked in strip clubs i'm not casting judgement we all need to make money when and how we can sometimes, but most places do not get reputable people in there to spend money, mostly transients like truck drivers/travel workers, and drug dealers)
This dude wants his life to be Wattpad teen drama so bad! 😂😂😂 It’s all fun and games until she keys up your car or shows up to your job and causes a scene. Be careful what you wish for. 🤫
I'm sorry divorce MAY be the solution is crazy! She should've left him before the baby was even a twinkle in her eye wtf!
I would have moved into my mom's basement alone with the baby.
"It's great your family thinks I'm horrible"
Proceeds to be twice as horrible
Story 1 the bf is never going to be hapoy unless his partner is continually pissed! Yeah he is going to repeatedly burn through relationships because the end goal is to be peacefully happy but he wants the excitement and only that!
Mia is a pick-me gal, and that's just sad!! BF is a walking REDFLAG
Story 2: why do ppl have kids when they can’t afford it?
Sex happens and kids result. Do you expect everyone to die a virgin? That's not realistic.
It could’ve been an accident. Or, OP thought she/they were ready, seeing as they both had jobs at the time. Some women really want to be moms, even if the time isn’t perfect
Op says it in the story.
Deadbeat was draining all the money on women, booze, and fast food. His and hers.
Mom can likely afford to take care of baby now that deadbeat is gone
At the time they both had jobs and making good money. She wasn't smart to ket him have control of her debit card. I would have out it in a safe or something. Hell I would have a separate account and hide the card in said safe and not give him the code. I would also have a mobile app of my bank to keep tabs on my account hourly if I had to. But then my husband never would have used my money that way.
Story 1. Nta I absolutely love seeing a woman that can behave like a lady in situations like this.
She can do better and deserve so much better.
She is better than all that petty immature manipulative drama
She is his daughter. Hr needs to watch hereave him. Leave him. Leave him. He is a childish baby. He was cheating with girls at the bar
LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!! “What a joke, I just can’t deal with this guy.” When you said that I nearly fell out of my bed.
OP should tell her drama loving BF "Ooooh, you're dumped."
Well I gotta say it’s refreshing for a guy to flat out ADMIT they like their girl getting jealous and that her not getting jealous pissed him off. At least he’s a self aware narcissist
I used to be the Op in the first story kinda. She should just dump him and kick him out.
Story 2: wtf. I would’ve been gone after a week.
It was frankly enough at "sleep in, gaming, nap" on days off with a newborn in the house.
Story 2: not even done with the initial post OMG just divorce him you already know he’s cheating and all the other red flags why would she even entertain the idea of staying with him? OMG as soon as OP’s mom took her off her will because of this guy she’s should’ve walked
That goes to show just how bad it was. As terrible as this write up was, it's pretty clear she downplayed how awful the situation actually was.
Story two: I love it when men who think they have a woman completely under their control and wouldn’t leave them get dumped
Story 1-Reg flags all around. She sits on his lap? Says she used to bathe with him? Good thing Op cut it off ..that is too much drama
Story 1: gross he is so narcissistic with how he wanted OP to get jealous but was disappointed when she didn’t react in the way he wanted her to
Story one: oh hell no. The first time he let her sit on his lap is when I would walk from the relationship. Cuddling, sitting on his lap, intimate whispering? Hell no. He's not worth it at all
12:35 I'm not gonna lie, I was pretty certain this was gonna precede something like, "and now, onto the second update: 'Very much against my will, the situation got much, much more dramatic...'"
"Its great that your whole family thinks Im so terrible" Well if you dont want people to think you are terrible stop being so god damn terrible man! Come on! Shit people being upset that people realize the truth always astounds me. So yes! Leave, get child support (though I doubt he will pay), raise your baby to expect better in their future partner, succeed in life
I hope the second lady does not let this happen again. Thank God she eventually left she was getting infuriating. But knowing her age, it was probably her first serious relationship so she mostlikely thought it was normal.
Fighting for a relationship can only be successful if you're fighting WITH your partner FOR the relationship, not if you're fighting alone against someone/something.
Op if you have a guy over pls scream loudly with him in your room. Like moan, and jump on the bed as you bang the wall screaming his name. I'm getting 'easy A' visions. Lol I don't like drama but I'm a petty bit
Story2. OP is a single married mother. Another broken joke with the man still living there.
In the second story, I like the reference to dipping her toe into thte dating world, then pulling it back out and completely drying it off. That was a REALLY nice turn of phrase there.
Information on owning a home and all that is about 20 years to 30 years off. My mother owned her own home in the 60s in Michigan
2nd Story: How in the world did OP get that far with that loser? I feel bad for the child that had to suffer through this. An innocent baby having to be around that crap. Listen people, even an ounce of self esteem could save you from being in a nightmare like this. Shockingly the first red flag wasn’t the fact he’s on probation. I have zero sympathy for anyone who willingly puts themselves into this type of situation. Like ok, she’s young, but old enough to know better.
Story 2: I really hope OP reread the divorce paperwork. Assuming he didn’t screw with them, I hope she maintains good relations with the gf since we all know she’ll be the one parenting. I also wouldn’t put it past him to leave their place “for pickups” and return complaining about op withholding the kid so he blew of steam at a bar.
STORY 1: OP isn't cold, she's emotionally mature. Something that many adults rarely achieve.
It was 1974 when women could get a mortgage but the comment still makes a very good point. Even today there are millions of women who support candidates who brag about sexual assault and believe women shouldn't have the right to vote. (trump and Robinson) among others
This is also why I believe women should be given some sympathy if they aren't the best with money. How many were taught how to be financially responsible? I (FtM) know I wasn't, because my mum wasn't taught how to be (and my dad didn't bother parenting me at all). Though, I am actually good with money most of the time. I don't drink, smoke, or gamble, and I'm able to live off relatively little. But, we shouldn't expect that from everyone, and it's downright sad to see how good some women's salaries are, and yet...
@@damien678 No one in our school system is taught how to be good with money. It's not just a woman thing. This is 2024, we might very well have a woman president, stop making excuses.
@@johnbradbury8610 A big part of this is on parents, too. It wasn't entirely unreasonable to focus on teaching boys financial literacy when only men could have bank accounts; unfortunately, a lot of people still primarily only teach their boys some things about finance.
Also... Gotta admit, that last sentiment is very funny, considering many countries have had female leaders already. Hells, my own country had a female prime minister ages ago. Doesn't take away from my point that girls and women tend to not be given priority when it comes to these matters, and the passing-down of knowledge.
@@damien678I was pointing out that in schools no one is taught how to manage money, I can assure you there is no separate class for boys. That was my point. I'm sure some families only teach their sons, but its definitely not all of them.
S1 - @2:25 - RUN.
I'm petty enough to get a male friend to do the same things with
Story 1:
Yes, the boyfriend is terrible.
But let's talk about that rent hike. That alone deserves a lawsuit.
I look up & suddenly see Markee in... in a pirate costume wat 😂😂😂
That's Captain PrawnOnTheBarbie-rossa to you
I was judging story 2 harshly till i saw she's 23. Shouldn't have been married to begin with. Thats her mother's fault
Story 1: She's not "too cold". She's mature and the guy's toxic. That's all. I'm the same way, I hate drama.
Story 2: how the eff do they have money for therapy?! This is so dumb and I’m not even through the whole story
Damn, Mia really got me with that faux-update! 😅 Also, what the boyfriend is describing is codependency. Just learned that from my therapist, and the boy gave an almost word perfect definition.
I had a girl best friend when I was engaged.....and Zach is a total jerk. Ain't no way would I have done or allowed stuff like that with my best friend. And yes, I essentially ended the friendship later on.
Jealous drama is not the definition of passion.
"You should fight for me" "if you really loved me you wouldn't want me to need to fight for you".
Good evening markee!!! Its good to catch these early now that i work overnights. How have you been?
Fight for him that’s ridiculous just like this whole situation with his best friend.
The part where OP says "I think I'm too cold for him..." No, dear,you're too mature for Zach,mentally and emotionally.💗
"I'm emotionally tormenting you for my own sick pleasure! Why aren't you fighting for me!" Pound rocks and kick sand, hope OP makes it to the end of the lease and tells him she never wants to see him again.