Video Gaming is a REAL Addiction and Gamers Cope the HARDEST
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Are you addicted to video games?
Same age, hair cut, and game addiction. Ironically been taking back control. FPS has been proven to reck your brain. Part of the hippocampus atrophies. Not to mention the complete destruction of your dopamine reward system.
Yeah currently dealing with the consequences of wasting some of the best opportunities and best years one gets in a life. Started innocently enough but what i eventually became was someone who was either on auto-pilot or doing a whole lot of nothing outside of my low-wage and low-passion job. Used gaming as a crutch to shirk responsibility and hide deep pain from past trauma and events that i had not dealt with in any sort of mature way.
I dont blame gaming but its a hell of a trap for someone like me. A hole that can be rather easy to fall down and a deep one at that. Like any other potential vice there is both a predatory aspect in some regards but the bull of the issue comes down to personal discipline. Those lacking greater motivation and discipline, or those in despair in need of an escape may find it hard to resist. Not to mention the many patented systems, gameplay mechanics and marketing strategies used to lure in anyone else especially young children.
Its fascinating the sort of relationships people have with gaming. Many seem alright but some develop into this extremely unhealthy version like what I had going on.
Many times I’ve heard those slightly older than me express how grateful they are gaming was not as advanced as it is now when they were younger. Or that they are glad they never bothered to engage. Both groups admit they were primed to be someone who wastes valuable chunks of life on gaming. This makes me wonder what sort of effects this will have on society at scale in years to come.
As an underpaid web dev, I feel like my pain is justified.
sh!T, WoW kinda stole me a few years, it was the only game i played for like 10 years!
since 2022 i switched my game addiction for coding!
I found myself immersed in a cycle of video game addiction, a period in my life had a lack of joy in other activities, persistent bullying, and a growing disdain for school and self. Video games served as my escape from these challenges, allowing me to momentarily forget my troubles. However, as I dedicated my adolescent years to gaming day and night, the weight of my issues eventually caught up with me.
Recognizing that I need for change, that i need to relearn how to engage with people and discover productive ways to spend my time. While my journey, things have improved significantly, but i do sometimes slip up and end up playing video games for a few hours.
porn/scrolling/games the trinity of easy addiction
I got games down. Porn and scrolling are the worst to kill.
@@carbon20xide its because with games you still have to do some kind of work to achieve the dopamine hit. Whereas with the first 2 doing the action is constantly flooding dopamine into your system
@@carbon20xideagreed
Discgrace think that the woman there whould be u in next life or it is your mom. You are welcome@@carbon20xide
@@adamek9750 Good point.
I don't think games are the problem. The real issue lies in your relationship with them. I was addicted to gaming, but the same could happen with other forms of stimulation. The actual problem is that you don't have a clear goal in life or are afraid of failing, and then you use games as an escape.
any addiction is a response to some earlier trauma, and a thing that makes things worse.
What a way to generalize a super complex topic lol, obviously not all individuals who experience trauma develop addiction, and not all individuals with addiction have experienced significant trauma.
There are multiple factors such as genetics, environmental influences, social factors, mental health conditions, and personality traits can also contribute to the development of addiction
@swojnowski453
Personally, I think its ok …IF, like junk food, you limit it to a very small portion of the day/week. 1 - 2 hrs a day max. A few more on weekend. Always saved to the end of the day, after you’ve reached your goals and walked a fulfilling path during the first 90% of the day.
>food analogy
@@kani-licious 🤣
1 or 2 hours per day is still too much, you have to also take into account how your brain as well as your body react to this so called "hobby". The best dosage of videogaming is no videogaming at all.
@@NamFoService What evidence do you have to support this claim of “1 or 2 hours is too much”?
That is the part that gets me. If I had just played video games a few hours per week INSTEAD of the majority of my free time for the past 10 years, my life would be so different.
as a programmer i have built a STRONG network through gaming. i have a group of likeminded people that i make projects with, vibe with, go out with, etc. a lot of the skills i developed playing videos games apply to real life too - including problem solving and critical thinking. i sometimes regret spending so much time on video games, but at the same time i'm very well rounded at this point in my life and happy with who i am, so in that i have no regrets
Video game helped me avoid all the drugs, partyings, and gambling additions. So I think it was worth
You just avoided drugs with a drug
@@abdullahbqhz6895 No. Video games are not a drug. No scientific evidence to your claim ever exists. Playing video games actually kept me from becoming a creep like my inapt father.
I think Dorian should do a video on the addiction of becoming a content creator chasing views for $$. Believe it or not that is actually an addiction even though it supports some financially, chasing dreams can become an unhealthy addiction.
True, if you are addicted to creating programs or Electronics, it can also destroy a marriage. The Woz addiction was building things at one point. He doing great money wise,so not all addiction leave you broke. To be honest, at this stage in my life, I am more addicted to learning about Tech Stuff. I play games to give balance to my life lol.
Almost nothing you gain the one thing people forget. It's called enjoying the moment and not worrying about what's next. I enjoy video games less now than back when I was growing up. But I can't lie about gaming with other people was enjoyable during the teen years of my life. The same question can be ask about dancing. What do you gain from dancing ? It's nothing other than enjoying the moment. As an adult I find meaning things are meaningless. What's the point of it all but ask this question leaves depression. Despite my disagreement I have to say I like this video because to much of anything isn't good for anyone. But it doesn't mean us as humans shouldn't enjoy moments that passes.
Simply I'm just trying to say it's ok to enjoy games. Just don't give up your whole life for them.
Same for me playing my Guitar this is stupid. Sum it up, go back to the plantation and live to serve is all I am truly hearing.
Yes, we dance because we want to; it's fun, and there's nothing wrong with it. But why is gaming different? The issue with gaming is akin to many other contemporary forms of entertainment, like scrolling through social media or binge-watching Netflix or RUclips. It's just too easy; you don't have to invest much to experience that intense dopamine rush. This ease of access is the primary reason it can be detrimental - it's highly addictive, and addictions are generally harmful. While one can try to limit the time spent on games, it's challenging because game developers intentionally design them to be as addictive as possible. Engaging in these types of activities can be genuinely harmful. Some individuals may not have a problem with it, but to be honest, I don't know anyone like that.
Furthermore, the distinction with dancing lies in its multifaceted benefits. Dancing goes beyond the instant gratification of a dopamine rush you might feel when achieving something in a video game. It involves physical activity, contributing positively to your health and overall mood. In dancing, you interact with a partner, experiencing approval or rejection at times, providing valuable insights about yourself and teaching you essential social skills. These aspects contribute significantly to the satisfaction and joy derived from dancing.
So I think choosing the right games could be the solution for those who really don't want to quit them all, I personally quit online competitive games exept for those "coach party games" and only play solo games, like Witcher for example and it work well so far :)
@@patryk9806 True but I don't live for the approval of others so those benefits for dancing means nothing except for the health benefits that I can get by running or lifting weights. I still support the idea that moderation is the key for a good life when it comes to hobbies. I also read Manga, but I don't spend stupid amounts of time doing so and gaming is just another hobby. I learned about about Governments and little history at an early age because of Civ2. I liked reading the extra information in it so the game turned out to be educational as well.
@@patryk9806same here, quitting online gaming and just sticking to single player games
Fellas, there are two extremes. Playing video games all day everyday and removing them from your life completely. Both options aren't worth it. Yes you can live your life like a productive monk, get rid of all distractions grind each day to your goals be all about productivity..
But damn life's short guys. Just do what makes you happy.
My old friend recently recommended me to play starwars khights of the old republic.
I absolutely love the story and treat it basically like reading a book or watching a good movie.
Just have balance in life.
I manage to play like couple hours on weekend. At the same time i manage to learn programming, play the guitar hang out with friends and family go to the gym work out. And I'm very content. Most important thing is just to have discipline with your schedule and stay consistent with your priorities. Everything in excess is bad but at the same time removing all simple joys of life completely is not okay too. You can complete your goals and relax if you need a brake.
Absolutely agree
I'm not giving up legend of zelda. Time block is what I do.
If you have the self control then go for it! I don't...
@@DorianDevelops I struggle with self control to.
Balance is everything. This applies to video games as much as it does to anything else you choose to do.
Great video. I’m wrapping a few games on my bucket list then I’m done. My newest addiction is weight lifting. Love it, down 1 pants size and I’m not looking back.
Good luck! Just remember there's always going to be a new game on the horizon and every addict wants one last hit before they quit. One day or day one!
Bro got nagged by his wife into quitting video games. And now he's preaching that to us.
😂
And I am a wife that actually games so this is hard to relate, if your wife or girlfriend is nagging over video games she ain’t the right one! Your man shouldn’t be all your hobby, that means that female doesn’t know how to keep herself entertained at all…but I kinda agree that gaming can be too much and disagree at the same time. I don’t like any other hobbies and I hate working out but understand that it’s definitely necessary. And then look at all the successful people that has gaming channels, it doesn’t always amount to nothing!
And I didn’t forget how he himself asked us if he should start a gaming channel!
@@SimplyTakara89Agree haha. I understand that it's not easy for him to have a stressful job and kids and can still play video games (at least not in an enjoyable way).
just admit youre addicted to videogames
@@Siosifa Sure sure. I should've been addicted to work and make more money instead, my bad. Or maybe I should get addicted to pleasing my wife, my career, my success, my youtube channel. God forbid, I mustn't be addicted to video games.
Gaming helps with social skills, problem solving, memory and it can also reduce stress depending on the game that you are playing... lol. As long as you are prioritizing your responsibilities over gaming then you are fine but it is true that you can get addicted and eventually prioritize gaming over your real life responsibilities. All I know is I would rather be addicted to gaming than to drugs, porn, food, extreme working out to the point where you start taking steroids and getting serious injuries, shopping, TV shows, doom scrolling, gambling, and sex.
Well said @joejoe!
But there are other fun AND productive stuff in life. You can learn to make learning something useful fun if you are willing to. You can still have fun coding or learning for example, but the difference is this does help you in the future. Literally any social interaction, any mind activity does all the benefits you just mentioned and maybe more.
Gaming helps with social skills?
Did you not read what @joejoe said about prioritizing responsibilities?? Many of us already code and do productive things for a living. If you all want to do is code and do things that YOU consider productive, then go ahead. But, the rest of work and we have just as much right to play video game and do whatever we else we consider fun and the right to do on OUR spare time. @@Masterx3
Gaming does not help with social skills lmfao.
a friend of mine one time said "if you want to know if something is an addiction ask yourself, Am I not doing something that I should be doing because I'm doing this?" if your response is yes, worry.
I really love games, I play it a lot I know about them a lot and they teach me a lot but is true, it's an addiction one of the "better ones" maybe but still an addiction.
But in the other side, you should be more compassive with yourself if games are your happy place, visit that place just don't live there
God bless you for making this video. I’m learning how to code and Tekken, one of my favourite fighting game series dropped a new game last week.
I’m in my 20s and was addicted to games, fighting games specifically in my teens. I got the new game thinking I had overcome the addiction but after playing every night since it’s release and for 6 hours straight last night I knew that I had to delete it or else it would take over my life again.
thank you for what you are doing man. I'm having that moment of realization myself and stumbling across your channel was a blessing. Thank you for sharing, you're not preaching, you're sharing your evolution in a very humble way.
C'mon, let's only do what is now a trend of being super productive and healthy, let's ditch everything the internet gurus are saying isn't healthy and isn't productive. Jesus Christ, I swear, if I would follow what half these youtubers say, I would be the most depressing person walking on earth. I work a 9-5 job (software dev), after work I go to the gym, study for more 2 or 3 hours, spend some time with family and still reserve one hour of gaming every day because it helps me relax and disconnect from the day, it has NEVER been a problem. Let me tell you something that may hurt, but if you get addicted to games to a point where it actually becomes a problem in your life, the games aren't the problem, it is YOU, being ADDICTED to things IS a problem, doesn't mater if it is games, alcohol, drugs or the gym, everything in excess is bad for you. Stop trying to live the perfect life that these youtubers tell you, and have perfect daily routines, find what works for you and keep with that. Internet life is fake, always keep that in mind.
But some of these games are indeed the problem because the game loop is literally designed to overstimulate the dopaminergic feedback system and keep us hooked. That is a problem.
I think if you can play in moderation great but that’s not what many of these modern games are created for you to do.
@@bluemanvisions That goes for netflix series, that goes for Tik Tok or RUclips or instagram and almost anything. You are right there are games that tend to make people adicted or spend thousands of hours with it, depends on the games and the person who is playing them. I only play story driven single player games and i see it more like an interactive movie or series
Yes i agree Jesus Christ is our Lord Amen
I stopped listening after he talked crap about the tetris kid, I'm a gamer for life, funny enough my family thought the same thing, so they tried to cut off gaming by severely limiting my flow of free time and money, making me slave away at their house instead of seeking out opportunities of anything else. Ironically enough they made me live a sheltered life with no way of having outside contact if not very severly and my only out was social media, and that was not better if not worse. It caused a lot of social anxiety and affected many social situations, after graduating uni and giving them the bachelors they so desperately wanted me to get, I went for the army and never looked back, they hate me for life butt they can pry my freedom from my cold dead hands, now im playing videogames all I want went i want and occasionally going out and doing stuff i want. Point is try to achieve balance cuz stuff like videogames is everywhere in an online era, from streaming platforms to many otther outlets, its good to replace your habits but dont blmae it on videogames, blame it on yourself and move on, I literally wish tthis was the case for me, then id have a reason to say "I messed up" this was on me, also its ok to have very limited subjects on diferent things, I talke about anime and videogames with the soldiers in my unit all the time, just find your people.
Video got me into Programming in the first place. Kept me from hagging with bad kids ect lol. Yea at one point I was addicted, but I found balance. I believe the attack on games is another way feminst attack male hobbies. I guess we should live to work and have a family lol. One problem, I dont want a family and Work is conditional at will employment.
In the process of quitting porn, I noticed that many of porn's effects on the brain also come from video games and extensive social media use, too. Once I noticed that, over the course of a month, I rapidly fell out of love with video games because I could see what was doing to me (though it was slowly becoming unappealing for a while, given how the industry was).
I remember the last game I "played" was LISA on my Steam Deck. I quit it because the save system was a huge time-waster and it wasn't that fun. After that, I sold my PS5, my Xbox Series S, my Steam Deck, and my Meta Quest 2. After playing games for 25+ years, it felt like I was cutting off my limbs. But I had to do it because I couldn't justify all the time I was spending without getting anything in return.
Yes, I have some great memories of gaming, and my taste in music has greatly benefited. But after spending 60 hours on a game, what can I take with me when I step away from the TV? Nothing, really (aside from music or a trivia factoid).
I still have my Switch so I can play Smash with my cousins during holiday gatherings and the handful of times I have guests over, but I don't play video games in any other capacity, and I don't think I ever can. They make your brain think you're achieving something real, and it makes you content to not do things in real life. Put that grind mentality into the real world, and you'll see how you flourish.
It's been a year now, and I don't really regret it (except when the Dragon Ball Sparking Zero trailer came out-they almost got me there).
if a person is aspiring to achieve in real life money or skills gaming is bad. but if u worked hard made it have plenty of bread and housing. then things like gaming can bring alot if joy depends on ur circumstances. bob ross enjoyed art after many hard years working. this opened up the door to enjoy the artistic side of life the blissful fun times. if lacking housing and food then gaming will cause walls to cave in even more. its all circumstancial.
100 gaming addicts got their feelings hurt
Laughs uncomfortably in skyrim and starfield.
Try soulsborne games child
Video game addiction is a you problem but honselty no. All this hate for game can be applied to any other hobby. Women in general hate games and I see this as an attack on mens hobbies. All your achivements at work mean nothing because at any moment you can be fired like I was. I am not gamming as much now and guess what. Nothing changed and I have a degree, so my new goal is to start another company so my achivements cant be taken away from me.
Valorant sucked away three years of my life. Those were the most important years of my life. To be honest, competitive FPS games can take you to hell.
Gaming is like a leech in your life; you cannot be that vigilant to feel their presence and damage. If you happen to realize their presence too late, by that time it would have caused more damage to you.
Speak the truth!
Thx for sharing.
My 10 year old son is addicted to video games and it is a serious problem.
Thx(:
Better than sending your kid to church with the priests!
There's lots of jokes on here but part of the reason I dialed it back with gaming is because of a video I saw you had made ages ago where you mentioned gaming addiction.
I deleted Apex Legends that night.
My routine was get home at 4, and play Apex until 1 or 2am on weekdays, wake up and play until 4 am on weekends
It took over my life, and a lot of multiplayer live service games do this to people. If you can't balance it out like I did you should quit gaming, period.
Honestly if you heard any of the recent Apex news, you left at the right time to lol
@@AyoSaviioR Oh I've heard.
I still haven't been playing it.
I'm 30+ with kids. video games are the only thing that gives me peace, where I can escape and relax. obviously i'm not spending 12hrs a day in a video game but just like with anything in life, too much of something is bad (besides money ofc). but if you do it in moderation it's actually pretty therapeutic. I've given up FPS/competitive games a long time ago and open world single player games are where it's at.
I mainly workout, and I still do game and probably will but I do believe I have managed to prioritize more important things first and then I go for that
Same here. I’ve gamed a lot but can’t quite game as much as I used to. Playing Palworld was the closest I’ve been to being fully immersed in years. Helps too that Destiny 2’s new expansion got pushed back to June. That was the main game I’d play a lot but with it drying up in content around early December, I’ve tried some other stuff in my backlog but mostly have been in the gym and actual real life actions.
I’d like to think I’ve struck a good balance between the two with me prioritizing real life interactions over games. Doesn’t help that I’ve been working home since March 12, 2020. The weekend is the only time I get to actually get out of the house meaningfully outside of the gym :/. I’m far more fulfilled having a good social weekend than I am gaming unless absolutely necessary (I.e sick)
@@GearGolemTMF I still like gaming and it’s great stress reliever after a stressful day. If I’m looking to kick back and relax for the night, especially on the weekend, it’s mostly always gonna be either gaming or anime, or the rare chance of watching a movie😂
Thank you so much Dorian, this was what I needed to hear to finally quit video games for good. It's been 3 months and I am never looking back.
If you've recognized that a product, activity or substance is leading you down to the point of obsession, then it is probably in your best interest to eliminate that product out of your life. The only issue for most people is for new things that we are trying out for the first time, we can't ever know how you'll react to those products. People can have an obsession towards certain activities in their life that may be a negative for other people that can be a positive for others.
One thing that's interesting about the human experience is that different people can go through the same events, but reach completely different perspectives once those events have concluded. I also went through a phase where I played video games to the point of obsession, but that was also a very different time in my life where I had other issues that were happening, so video games at least for me were a form of escaping the issues that I couldn't remove myself away from. For the online friends that I met during that time period of my life, I do not regret a single moment of that time; as it has shaped my own unique experience.
man you've hit the nail on the head thanks for this video
Some gamer cope incoming ... Yes looking after yourself is important, staying healthy, forming real human connections, having some productive time at work and staying off drugs, and any addiction is harmful - by definition of what an addiction is. But it is all part of a balance. Moderation is key. Not with crack, with gaming. Maybe you can't moderate your game time. That is not every gamer's problem, that is not a core problem with gaming. If you aren't working, not exercising, out of shape, low on money and struggling to support a family; this is not because of gaming. This is because of gaming addiction. This is an important distinction to make, rather than demonising all forms of gaming for everybody. IMO drug and substance abuse is not a fair benchmark to put on the same level as gaming. That was your personal experience, and totally valid. I just think you are using broad strokes by lumping these activities together. I also regret spending years of my life gaming. Thanks for sharing your insights.
I have cut out many addictions recently.. Went to a coding bootcamp and my gaming has went down 98%. I decided to keep it that way and spend the saved time reading books, looking at docs, reading, learning, and taking care of my health. I think i have grown out of video games it just hasnt been fun playing them for awhile when there is so much to learn and do in real life...
hindset is 20/20, you're at a point in your life rn where you can look at things and say "i could've been more productive", but the journey to get here was rocky right? and the journey ahead will have ups and downs too. not everyone can pump out productivity left and right and only evaluate their life in how efficiently they spent it that yielded the most marketable skills. in fact, that kind of life seems a little vapid no?
Precisely
I agree with you. There’s a lot of denial going on in the comments section but I also had this epiphany when I was younger. I was playing GTA San Andreas at the time, tapping the X button to make my character more “muscly” in a pretend gym.
I stopped playing for years and actually joined a real life gym after that. I found I had so much extra time on my hands.
In recent years I started playing again casually, like arcade games that get old quick, and are easy to put down.
Then about a year ago I started playing more modern online gaming (DBD). I do think it’s fun, but at what cost? I used to think leaving the house was fun.
These games use super clever military grade technology based on years of research to keep you addictive. If you really believe your will power is stronger, then you’re seriously deluded. You can’t beat the game, you just have to stop playing.
Obsessing and doing anything all of the time is an addiction and therefore a problem. I think the key topic here is moderation. Having a good balance of work, hobbies and exercise is a good thing. All because your hobby involves gaming using a tv this does not necessarily make it a negative thing. And if that's the case then watching the news or netflix everyday is also a negative addiction because you can use tvs to do this too.
I played video games when I was a kid and still play. Also been playing the same game for 24 years. You waste your life away no matter what you do, so you might as well have fun.
subed, great outlook on life
Great video! Wild that I just discovered your channel 2 days after I gave away my xbox because it was becoming too much of a distraction. Been weed-free for 17 months as well. Tbh all the people hating on this video are missing the point entirely. The fact is if you’re a self-starter and you’re trying to pursue a skill or craft, any time spent not doing that feels like time wasted. If all you care about is you’re 9-5 then go ahead and game I guess. But don’t try to pretend that it’s not a waste of time.
I'm a gamer and I love your content. I don't disagree with you at all. However there are some things I will may turn into a counter argument.
I did develop genuine friendships through video games that turned into IRL friends. I even met one of them when I went to Portland and I definitely was emotional about it because I saw him grow from a point of his life that seemed sort of dark when him and his girlfriend broke up. Then I saw him that day years in the future married and happy. We all stay in touch with non video game related stuff
Another thing is video games maybe a gateway drug but it's also a gateway to careers. I wouldn't have been remotely interested in programming or 3D art had it not been for video games. Let's also not forget that video game content creators have been able to escape working a 9-5 thanks to content creator for streaming and or YT videos. Gary Vanerchuk's book about profiting on your passions proves this.
Video games are good for social skills and problem solving. This one can fall into copium because you don't always need to socialize through video games or learn problem solving through it, but I've seen a lot of introverts come out of their shell and learn to socialize better IRL.
So everything else I agree. It's okay to video games here and there or reward yourself after you got shit done or do it as a weekend warrior. The problem really relies on video games that don't respect your time and now a days there's a fuck ton of those. Spending 1,000 hours in a video game and it didn't do anything for you at all... That's a problem. If you're not a content creator on that video game and making nothing on it then we have a problem and it also means like.... 1,000 in a short span of time. But if you're a one game gamer and those 1,000 hours is spend overtime then whatever.... I'm no one to judge.
The real issue is when you're actively trying to find a video game to get a dopamine rush but youre not getting it. I was one of those guys that loved difficult games and was super sweaty about it.
But today I only play video games to immerse myself in art to inspire something I want to create in 3D art. A lot of 3D artists do this. Consume great content solely for inspiration. That's the kind of gamer I am now, but if I feel like I'm only playing a game for fun and it's not inspiring me then that's when I feel guilty and end up putting the game down. The point is to game for the right reason and not have it be a total waste of time.
I haven't had any problems from playing video games. And they never lead me to smoking, drinking, and other addictions. Video games are just something to do after you come home from work. And as long as a person plays them responsibly, then one should absolutely play video games. That's what we all work our jobs for. It's to do things that makes us happy. So, on that note, I'm going to go back and MAKE my game. Because, videos games inspired me to be able to make games too.
Yeah, but I actually use it as a method to reward myself after doing things I don't feel like. Videogames for me are art. I don't play competitive games. I like adventure and puzzle games. Art in the form of visuals, music, and story inspires me and makes me more passionate about possibilities in life.
I cant get over it either im stuck with an addiction of dota, i guess the competitive nature of it has me hooked. But i work and workout i dont know how to supplement this with something else. Funny thing is when i was unemployed i didnt want to play any games cuz my ass was on fire.
There is a difference between playing "multiplayer games " which is never ending addiction and playing "Story driven games" - which enrich the imagination and creativity
of course gamers are addicted, that's why they just stare at their steam catalog and play nothing...
I just want to add this to anybody who watched this and now feels guilty for their hobby, what this dude is describing is not the majority of gamers. What he is describing is real, true life addiction, and his advice is for real sick people. If you play games one day and then start neglecting your family and responsibilities, you are who he is speaking to. The majority of gamers do not fall into this category, there’s no way. Also, not everything we do must result is a milestone or success. All work and no play is just as depressing as being addicted, but much less fun. Balance is key, not sacrificing everything you enjoy because society makes you feel guilty for not being a 25y/o millionaire.
"Beating a video game is imaginary success". Precisely. I have gradually stopped playing games and began doing productive hobbies (ex: working out). My mental health has slowly improved. I'm still dealing with other addictions, but at least I'm slowly recovering.
I spent my youth playing videogames as well and I can agree with your assessment, for the most part. I will say that the games of today are different than the games I grew up on. The games I played involved puzzles, reading and even statistics in some cases. Games like legend of Zelda and Final Fantasy were more than the mindless button mashers of today that are more instinct and muscle-memory based. While there's no tangible achievement, you also have to look at what skillset is being developed and is it worth the time being spent.
How many girls make fun of guys who play games, yet they themselves will spend hours every day on Instagram?
the modern era of multiplayer video games are addicting. back then once you beat the game, you can put the controller down and move on until something interesting comes your way. my problem with gaming stemmed from boredom and living in the middle of nowhere. lack of activitites, lack of transportation, lack of socializing (bars were never my thing) & ... man mainly it stems from boredom and dick measuring with others in a gaming community. Gaming was the only social outlet I had living in the suburbs of illinois.
i still game yes, but i found the balance i've been looking for. Sim racing is fun to kill time once im done with work, studying, coding, working out, & etc. Playing FULFILLING single player games and deleting the game once I beat it. i was an avid CoD player. grinding out top 0% in ranked, doing scrims with clans, 'pub stomping', & reaching max level every game. Never was fulfilling. Then i noticed us CoD players are getting forced fed the same $70 shit and sometimes you need to put your foot down and say enough is enough. So, gaming is truly an addiction. I had to change my surroundings and find fulfilling things to do in my free time. gaming prevented me from being a better 'programmer'. gaming prevented a lot of opportunities. Also, putting 1000 hours in CoD or even Destiny 1 (i refused to play destiny 2) i gained nothing from it.
Idk I still like to play video games, but I'm not going to GRIND for a skin, gun, or some limited time cosmetic. I'm going to enjoy more single player 8 - 14 hour experiences and play when I feel like playing. Gaming should never be a 2nd job like how modern games want you to treat it.
I knew the damage and addiction of video games from the time I was like 15-16. I quit around that time and replaced the addictive patterns of video games with going to the gym. I started back around 20 and got semi-addicted again but caught myself and haven’t played video games in the last like 4-5 years
Hmmm... I'm wondering if I have the wrong mindset now... I know I'm addicted to video games but I've adopted the "work hard, play hard" philosophy. I don't play games until I've completed my daily routine which includes working on my 10,000 hours to mastery with a productive hobby, fitness, meditation and yoga and THEN I spend the rest of the day playing video games, even if it's for 8 hours straight. Checking off my list improves my mind, body and soul every day and video games keep me excited to wake up every day because I get to maintain that child like flow state knowing that I did everything I was responsible for that day. Who knows, maybe I'll give up video games too when I have a wife and kids. This video has given me a lot to think about 🤔 Thank you
Video games can turn into addiction but saying playing video games ruin relationships is major stretch if get work done first.
Okay, the self control is the answer. No worries, we got you. :)
I let go video gaming for good last year. I spent 80 bucks on the new expansion for Hearthstone and didn’t even open the packs.
I crafted the best deck on day one from dust and wrecked the ladder for a few days.
I got so bored with it, I just never came back. Great video.
Great Video, I completely understand and agree with where you coming from and it’s a shame to say the comment section here most people seem to have missed the point you made entirely or trying to justify there addiction which is sad. If you want to game then you carry on doing so! Dorian has shared his testimony and insights into his experience in hopes you are aware of the potential dangers that’s all so no need to take offence. I had very similar experiences playing as a kid call of duty being my first game but I played online with friends great way to connect at the time and only did so as I started to not be allowed outside or for long. That became the comfort for me and through teen years grew up playing games.. yes I got good at it and tried doing COD RUclips Videos towards 2017 and early 2018 and all though I got some great feedback as I started.. I stopped as I realised it was an addiction and felt like a chore the fun was not there and that was when games released they weren’t buggy and were good! I always felt I wanted more then gaming too but couldn’t understand what I felt.. I played next gen consoles felt it wasn’t it and even got a PC and although it is a night and day difference the feeling felt the same.. Of course I had special moments and connected with people online I still am friends with but I missed parties, real life social interactions and experiences I will never be able to recreate or time I won’t get back for map packs, dlcs that meant nothing that will always be there in future. I could have saved money going to places and enjoying and learning real skills and having priceless moments better yet not procrastinating in general to game etc it’s Real development that everybody needs not just adolescence or teens and before anyone mentions that gaming can help you develop. You learn a thing or two but the cons out way the little thing or two you learn over the series of games you play..now across the board..games are feeding into your addition and going straight to your pocket nowadays to keep you further attached to the game. They’re charging more and giving you less.. buggy games people being released are always complaining about.. sweats people keep complaining about as all they do is play and do nothing else.. developers straight up calling the consumers of the game who finance there very life style losers and if they don’t like the game then stop playing.. to a product a consumer has every right to protest if it isn’t what’s advertised or promised.. that’s what is thought of you by these guys. Two sets of data, for the consumer useless junk that means nothing them it means money. It’s a billion dollar industry and games seemingly are getting more expensive to create but some how majority of us can talk about games few years prior that are better. As much as I did BJJ and had similar experiences to Dorian and really enjoyed it regardless of where I trained I moved into Judo. I had done tkd before all this and was a black belt and boxed for a few years too.. but I had time to make a career out of something I had no idea I liked which left more time to do and persue other things because why not? and to realise things it truly is a life changing experience. Who ever does read this I wish you good luck in what ever you decide to do but for me. I don’t think I can pace myself either with these triple AAA games with how modern games are unless I played them good ole PC games from the web browsers where it had games like the matrix with the stick men aha nothing but love though✌🏿
I made a rule, to only play games that have an ending. Most normal games aren't that long. But mmos are baaad.
When I was a kid, video games were my life. Now, they're an escape from life.
You know, I’ve been super into overwatch these past three years and I’m just now realizing how much of a waste of time it really is
I haven’t been playing it as much anymore. But I still find myself playing the game for a couple hours every week.
It’s really such a waste
Yeah it really is a waste of time for the most part. Especially competitive online gaming.
‚your achievements in video games dont mean anything‘ the same can be said about every other achievement you make in life. At the end of the day there is no meaning in life you just have a certain amount of time that you are alive and then you die. As long as video games are fun it is not a waste of time.
It's drug same as social media. They can be great, if you choose wisely and control it. But some people will be dragged more into that.
I respectfully disagree. Video games are an interactive medium and an art form. Some of my favorite stories and characters exist within that medium. If my main goal in life is to enjoy and create good art, video games are just another side to that. Your problem is you played WoW, and it doesn't take a genius to know mmos are a time sink. As a single man, I am guilt-free. I am happy your life has improved in the absence of them, but please speak for yourself on this.
I totally agree. It just depends on what genre and type of game you're playing. I've been on an immersive sim binge lately, first the System Shock remake, then Prey and now replaying Bioshock and they're all incredible experiences that leave me thinking about them later just as an amazing movie would. However what I hate nowadays is how many games have been filled with bloat ever since the open world format took off. There's nothing compelling about collectathons where the game just becomes a giant checklist of performing the same tasks over and over.
Just gotta avoid those types of games and have the personal discipline to limit playtime as much as you need to. Dorian just has an addictive personality as he's admitted. Many have the same problem and need to realize it's either moderation or nothing at all. I'm glad I don't fall into that camp.
Just learn moderation and your life will suddenly become very beautiful
Yup. Don't even need to watch the whole vid to agree with the title. I still struggle with it. I don't even play that much anymore. I keep distracting myself with the "idea of playing video games." Looking up game reviews & news, getting hyped for the game, and when the game releases...I don't even buy it. Spend too much time living vicariously through RUclipsrs.
I'm fortunate to have friends that I've kept since high school so I don't have that experience of making friends "online." I played Destiny 2 & Lost Ark nonstop during covid. I'd run Fall Guys w/ my guys till like 3am - 4am. While those experiences were fun looking back, ultimately, regret is the biggest thing I feel from that tenure. All those hours spent could've been spent learning a new skill for career opportunities or working out
I don’t know how someone can be addicted to video games today. The quality of games have gone down. Nowadays, you are buying half a game, with other half locked away through an impossible task and/or dlc.
I definitely can agree with a lot of what you have said in this video. Its a tough pill to swallow but gaming as been a difficult thing to control as far as the amount of time I spend doing it. I now work for a gaming company, have been learning to actually create them inside Unity. I have also switch over to playing mostly web3 games when possible which allows me to either earn actually money or assets in games that can be sold for real money. This does help when it come to the end of the day and you look back on what you have done in a game and can say well at least I can sell the assets I have gotten for x amount of dollars.
@RaniaIsAwesome not all that matters but time is money we can all associate a value to the hours we spend doing anything. So if I am going to choose between two similar things one that pays and one that doesn't normally the one that pays wins.
I gave up partying and clubbing to stay home and play video games. Much less risky but still fun.
Well, you called it. The cope in the comments from the game addicts is strong. (lol)
I play story driven games and some series i really like, for me its like interactive movies, but i don't play shooters or MMOs etc.Wasting time is subjective if you are not playing 24/7. Theres no difference if you read books at night, watch Netflix or movies or play a single player videogame to relax or enjoy the story and visuals. i feel like internet in general is more problemaitic, social media, even youtube but there are of course obsessive players that waste their life on gaming. Its still kinda funny when people make jokes about gamers that spend their whole day on social media swiping tik tok shorts or watching Netflix series every day as if it would be more productive.
This channel should be renamed to "Dorian WHINES"
As a musician I saw this in my gamer friends in my twenties. I have this lifelong skill that is super rewarding and fun and pro-social, and they struggle a lot and I feel bad for them. Even though my career as a musician and music teacher wasn't what I ultimately want now that I'm in my thirties, I am still leveraging my skills to make $50/hr while I put myself through a BS in software engineering. Also, teaching music afforded me some time to find a career that I truly love that pays better than music!
I'm a music teacher as well.
On your death bed, would you wish to have worked more to die with more money? Or spent more time relaxing playing videogames?
On my death bed, I would've wished to have worked more and die with more money. I am 19 and don't plan on having children. However when I die, at least my future wife can inherit my wealth and buy herself gucci bags and go on lavish Caribbean trips. That alone is absolutely worth it for me to slave away my whole life. If I won't have a wife by that point, I can say that I have died a rich man.
I would rather live in reality than live in the matrix which is what video games are a microcosm of.
You can't know the answer until you find yourself there. Doubt you will wish you spent more time playing games over being around loved ones more or not having lived a life as the most sincere and genuine version of yourself
What did you replace the video games with? I have problems with addiction and I couldn’t stop things unless I replaced the addiction with another activity (a healthy one obviously)
For me it was a combination of jiu jitsu, working out and learning to code that I used to replace gaming. Now I just don't really think about playing video games anymore.
Yea, from my experience and opinion, success happens thru ADDING things in your life that push things like gaming to the side. If you try to just remove it, failure happens so much more.
@@DorianDevelops heck yeah man I was hoping to see some kind of really disciplined exercise program in there and jiu jitsu is perfect that’s awesome man. Idk that you could really pick something better. All the good that comes from having that skill and the discipline that comes with it can only add to other areas of your life.
@@DorianDevelops I started to learn to code but I got scared away by this whole AI storm. I have autism so the idea of giving a year or more of learning something I won’t even be able to use as a career tanked me 😞 so I gave up.
Gaming is a way to relax after work. Big deal. As long as you still make time to read books. Not everyone is going to change the world and maximize their potential; play some games, relax, read some books, go for a walk. Not everything has to be an obsession.
Dungeons and Dragons has been the cure for my video game addiction.
An interesting video to be honest. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I've been pondering about this but, to be honest, it might be my pondering of life getting to me, but what is the difference between game achievements and 'real' life achievements? In the end, all is relative. Societal values have no inherent meaning so what we deem as 'true productive things' are only relative to the culture itself. We can say working out is good. Good in what sense? That it helps one live longer? For what purpose? Since there is no purpose, there is no inherent value to it.
I'm still accepting this new way of looking at reality, but it does make one question how video games and even all of fiction enter into this.
The nihilistic mindset will have you full of regret when you reach the end of your life journey.
One form of achievement being real and other fantasy is a massive distinction. You are kidding yourself to equate the two. Ignore societal values, look internally. Surely you have had experiences in life where you have found certain things important to yourself, or some kind of personal fulfilment? If you haven't found that yet, keep looking. Find your purpose. Noone can tell you want that means for you, that is up for you to discover. You might never find clarity but the effort to try and seek it might help you find your own meaning in life.
"Having CONVERSATIONS"
me playing runescape rightnow
lol
I agree completely. A few hours a week is fine. And I still feel slightly guilty. But gamers will cope and tell you that it's no different than binge watching TV or mindlessly scrolling on the phone, as if those things should be encouraged as well. The problem with gaming is it replaces your incentive to leave your damn house and make actual connections. You get that hit of social interaction that human beings crave by gaming but it is like a mirage. It is not the real thing. It's also too entertaining as well. These kids have no desire to leave their room because they are 100% addicted.
Im 16, and the only games i play are soulsborne games, which by far are the most painful and challenging games I've played. Scrolling by far is the worst addiction for me.
Dorian u have a strong willpower.
If you are neglecting other important parts of your life I can agree that it can be destructive to your life. However, like everything else, if you keep overall balance in your daily routine, exercise and stay healthy, and treat it as a hobby/reward after a long day I don't see why it would be more harmful than other hobbies.
A big "if" that basically describes a healthy past-time vs. an addiction.
I really am thankful to have grown up in simpler times. My sister and I played a lot of video games growing up but back in the day that meant getting together with our neighborhood friends to play GoldenEye or Perfect Dark. Multiplayer meant real-life social interaction without any predatory XP systems or lootboxes, and singleplayer campaigns were usually concise and didn't require 100+ hours to beat a game (they had to be due to hardware limits at that time). She did end up getting really into Star Wars Galaxies later on but I never cared for MMOs thankfully.
I have a friend that's a full-blown NEET at 30 and shows no signs of wanting to change. I don't really think that was possible with gaming in the 90s and earlier. WoW was the turning point.
Wow ! 😳I always thought when women were complaining about guys playing video games they were making it up!
Totally agree with this and worked through it myself. Still play sometimes but maybe once a week for an hour or so.
I got my son into videogames because at the time, i thought it would be fun for us to do together since I always loved playing. But at this point I think it was a big mistake and I wish I never introduced him to them.
I just want too say that you have amazing videos and a amazing channel I’m happy I’m your subscriber ☺️
Thank you!
@@DorianDevelops your very welcome you really have great videos ☺️
It really depends on how and what you're doing when it comes to games. Why are you playing, what are you playing, what are you trying to achieve from playing, what is your attitude on playing, that list can go on.
Like, I think saying video games, as an entirety, is bad, fails to recognize how deep the whole artistic medium of video games are, how games as a whole are.
People make games. A lot of games out there are surprisingly about a lot of different topics and ideas, with the people behind them having a lot of things they want to say through their games. As a very extroverted person who has had my bouts with playing a lot of games and sometimes playing games for too long (I mean, I attribute Final Fantasy as what made me who I am, today, hell I don't think I would have been able to get to the positions I've had and have done the things I've done in my life were it not for Final Fantasy (and gametrailers' (easy allies) retrospective series on Final Fantasy) to, eventually lead me to being a software engineer, do the things I've done from music production, making actual life-long friends, etc, I get where it comes from, I just think its unfair to blame the entirety of a medium as being an addiction, when you don't call someone who can't help but buy a new book and spend the rest of their afternoons reading this new book "addicted to books" as if it was a bad thing.
As someone else said, it is all about your relationship with how you play games that could be a bigger factor, and if anything probably should require something like therapy or a psychiatrist to really get to the bottom of understanding why you would choose to escape into something virtual, and more importantly, "what are you playing that you're finding yourself locked in away from other people"
Like, you aren't going to find yourself playing ThatGameCompany's award winning masterpiece, Journey, every day, clocking in 100 hours on what is a 3 hour experience that you only need to play once. You aren't going to spend hundreds of hours playing through other games as well, like Hotline Miami, or even spending more than 60 hours in a game like Nier Automata, once you finish that game to its completion, the game is over, unless you really enjoyed your time and want to play again.
As an art form, developers behind a game can try to communicate whatever ideas they want through the aspects of play. Of course, video games are also a business and people have to put food on the table that we end up with games that dig deep into trying to be "addictive" (I played too much genshin impact for example). Like, saying that all games are addictive while only having played a couple of whats out there at a time just creates an overall false narrative about what video games really are. Yes, the most marketed games have live service and DLC components meant to keep you locked in at all times that they WANT you to develop an unhealthy relationship with those games, but that doesn't mean another game can't fall through the cracks and show you something great.
Like, re-iterating again, there are a lot of games that can really make someone's life worse or games that otherwise make you, the player, feel like you need to put more time into a game, chasing a magic carrot on a stick. And yeah, that's not healthy and it isn't good. But, and I'm speaking, again, for myself as someone who's made a thing or two, some about myself, some about others, through games, and how, sometimes liberating it feels to just, make something otherwise stupid out on the internet and have someone tell you in a comment, "I understand you"
People make games, yes people make money off the games they make, but in what is an otherwise capitalistic luxury good, play can be the only way some people are able to express themselves and who they are. Lumping ALL games as something like cheap beer just fails to understand the medium at what it can be in its truest sense, falling for only playing the biggest, most repetitive, mandatorily competitive, and largest games out there. People decide to play the call of duty's, the league of legends' and the street fighters, smash brothers, and the world of warcrafts because of how otherwise, safe those spaces are for people. But that doesn't mean that games don't try to do more than just, let you kill each other in a virtual space. Some speak on tragic events, others try to expose people to new cultures and attitudes.
Obviously, no one needs video games. its an absolute luxury being able to play games. That doesn't mean that video games don't try to say something or mean something to someone. I remember when I was 12, finishing kingdom hearts 2 for the first time, and I just sat there, crying my eyes out just thinking about how people came together, despite coming from who knows where, to combine their IP together to make one hell of a game. How Going Under, a rogue lite game about modern corporate life made me double down on my efforts to get a better job. How journey taught me about not taking the people I meet for granted. How Bastion taught me to always try to use a little hope when I think things are hopeless. How Final Fantasy 7 made me think about what it means to lose someone dear before really experiencing loss. How games like Cyberpunk 2077 had me consider how really small I was in a world that I was otherwise never going to be the main character of. The Binding of Isaac and how past trauma can linger in us. Florence and how fleeting the relationships with who we love now can be. and this list can go on for me, its just, YOU may not have made worthwhile friends through video games, I can't think of anything that hasn't brought me closer to others other THAN video games.
Speaking more on things video games gave me:
Final fantasy x - a desire to learn and play music (learned how to play piano as a kid better because of this game)
Ib - a desire to compose and write music (I've since been doing pretty ok as a hobbyist music producer on the side)
Virtua Tennis 2 - this game literally got me into playing tennis that then became my favorite sport to play
NBA 2k15 - this made me a fan of basketball and also helped me connect with my dad on his favorite hobby that I always hated, basketball
Tekken 5: Dark Resurrection - this game got me to really like taekwondo, I'm not a black belt but I've definitely put a lot of work into it for the last 10 years of going on again, off again, changing schools, and just enjoying the art as a Hwoarang/Baek main (can't play anyone else in Tekken 8 but hwoarang at this point)
Yakuza 3 - this game introduced me to the national sport of my parents' homeland, escrima, something I've practiced when I was at my taekwondo dojungs.
I've made real life friends whom I've had deep conversations with a plenty from gacha games like Genshin Impact and *SINoALICE*.
Had to make mods for a college class in Quake 2 and 4 to learn how to develop code in another codebase
Learned how to hold a beat from Guitar Hero on the Wii and DDR Max on the PS2 (DDR Max was probably my first game on the PS2)
Like, I'll have to think about it more but I can go deeper with this.
I fully believe games can benefit your life, as long as you try to absorb meaning and conclusions from the games you play, trying to take things in, not for how you want to see things but from they try to say to you (the one game that I think encapsulate how I feel about games was a game I made for the 2014 global game jam in college where I talked about my bouts with a severe superiority complex dealing with how I couldn't hang in CS in my uni that I did IT, an easier degree. The game was inspired by Mike Bithell's "Thomas was alone", but related back to my insecurities and feelings of worthlessness... That game was what helped me land my first internship as a web designer, and helped kick start my career while also helping me be a more confident person)
If games are that bad for you, yeah, drop them, but also work on changing your relationship with games to be beneficial for you.
This is your story, maybe for you and your life gaming was a net positive. Gaming is art. Gaming can also be an engrossing addiction for some people who will not find a net positive but instead a life of wasted potential. Opportunity cost of all that time and all that mental and physical energy, potentially thousands of hours or decades of free time spent and unable to ever be reclaimed. Time is your most precious and limited resource. You can never know what your life might have looked like had your made choices that did not involve playing games. For some people this leads to immense regret. This does NOT mean that time spent gaming has no value at all. Your story is true for you and no RUclips video can take that away from you.
Man, I'm going through quitting video games for the 4th time in my life. Had many successful attemps that lasted years, but somehow always relapse.
I'm finding that singleplayer games aren't the problem, but these online competitive games are what sucks you in like crazy. I've cold turkeyed in the past, but I'm trying out just quitting online multiplayer games, and it's been helping significantly. I still play single player games, but I don't have as much of a desire to, but if I get the itch very badly, it alliviates it.
Quitting video games is what allowed me to learn to code and get a job as a self-taught devveloper in only 4 months.
Gaming is mostly for losers but not a lot of people will have the courage to swallow this truth.
you are right. i agree with you
My new goal is learning how to be ok with being bored and letting it happen. I feel like everyone is running away from boredom by chasing video games, porn, overheating, ect. Great video
wtf is overheating, were not robots?
@@kani-liciousOverheating addiction 🔥
Probably means overeating.
the video games that are built to be addictive (mostly modern games) bore me the fastest. i prefer classic games that offer proper experience that don't rely on cheap psychological tricks like FOMO.
Good call 👍
I guess if you imagine your ideal self, your best self, you never picture a man in front of a gaming pc, playing vidya.
My most successful friends are (good) gamers. If you're good at difficult and competitive video games, you can be good at basically anything you really care to get good at. There's a difference between somebody who mindlessly plays COD deathmatches and somebody who is pushing to make a career out of it. Even if they fail, they will make connections with very smart kids who will eventually become successful in life. My WoW friends who were the smartest back then are all working at successful AI startups and FAANG companies. If it wasn't for WoW, I wouldn't have found a passion for programming and I would have never entered the computer graphics industry where I make more money than anyone in my family.
I used to play games all the time. Not anymore.
Gaming is awesome, if you're already a natural introvert. I've traveled around the world, and I prefer my gaming worlds, and I also prefer solo games. Bottom line is, people should do what makes them happy, as long as they're not hurting other people.
Amazing! Super important topic.