I was in the back of the church the night of this sermon. The place was packed, majority was college kids from UW & SPU. For a lot of them, Mark was the father figure they desperately needed, so when he yelled “How dare you!” at the young men, it was electric. You could almost tell who was convicted by the Spirit in that moment from the visceral reactions in the crowd, like they’d been shot or electrocuted. I’m telling you, the Spirit of God was in the church that night, lives were changed that night. I was there for the first sermons he preached to us UW athletes on Saturday nights in the late 90s, and I was there at his last sermon at the Bellevue campus. Mark made a huge, POSITIVE, Kingdom-growing impact on an entire generation of Seattleites, myself included.
I am, and am listening to this to figure out how to spiritually slap my family into Christianity and the word. They are resistant..... I don't want to be Flanders. I'm angry all the time. No one listens, if they do it goes in one ear and out the other. I'm seeing generational trauma unfold, meaning I caused my granddaughters , daughters, wife, to be without God through tolerance. We agreed in the beginning (my wife and i) that we would do our own thing and meet in the middle. My wife now has liver cancer. She won't see that Christ Jesus is the only way to healing. One daughter is angry and resistant, one is confused but willing i think, the other is young and resistant, she wants to have companionship. I'm recently diving into Christianity because of my wife's illness. I'm learning and stuck. How do you get a pagan to understand? I'm a sinner, I know, my anger is verbal not physical. When they don't listen, what do you do. They are defiant or dismissive. My wife says she's reeling over the change in me. Am I in the wrong? I need help Jesus! Show me the path, put my feet in the right path. I'm fighting to keep her alive. Fighting for my Adult children's souls. Also for my grandchildren and thier spiritual wellbeing. If you are reading thank you. If you can help thank you. If you could pray for my family, and thier spiritual wellbeing, again thank you!❤
@@stevethyng8275forcing other people to listen and accept is not easy. I came to the conclusion that only God can change hearts and speak to someone where they will actually hear it. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t say anything ever, but understand that if there is a breakthrough it has to come from God. Whether it’s him speaking through you, through someone else, through something else, or speaking to them a different way entirely is not something we get to decide. And often times, the exact same message you wish to convey can only be received by someone if it comes from someone else than you. This is often true of family where there’s difficult history. I say all this to say not to put the burden on yourself to change their hearts, because that’s God’s job. Your job is to pray and contend for their deliverance in the spirit, it’s God’s job to do the heavy lifting. Praying for you and yours, brother. Hang in there and just pray for them everyday. Ask God to show you what to pray. Convert that anger into anger against the enemy, and rebuke him in the name of Jesus.
We are too correct believers whom the Holy Spirit is already guiding into correction, however you don’t become a Christian through correction, through recognition of sin, yes, but first the person hast to understand how to get to God through Jesus, then once they are in Christ, they need to hear The reminder that being in Christ means you stop turning from him and back to the devil.
@@stevethyng8275trust me when I say this. Going to them in anger is only pushing them further away. The bible says that we cant just preach to them. We have to show them by our actions and reactions. I have learned the hard way. I never listened to my mom bc she was always angry and came at me in anger. But when my dad came to me, it really got to the heart bc he came in love. Remember that we dont fight against flesh & blood. We fight against the spiritual darkness, demons & devils.
That message seriously got me to stop sleeping around. I was a new Christian, and when I heard it, "how dare you!" I repented and am grateful for hearing it. But i listened to it again and feel convicted as a husband and a father. I have become the sturdy oak.
Brother, I am proud of you for having the humility to see your mess ups and sin, for I am convicted as well because I am not becoming a man of God the way Jesus wants me. Keep the good fight and love your wife and kids, Shalom be upon you and your household brother!
Praying you come to enjoy and involve yourself in your wife and children's lives. Love your humility. Makes me confident in knowing you've got God working in you. Now do the work to make it a reality to be like Christ. I will to being the wondering eye loser he just shared. No excuses here I know what I'm doing. Pray for me as well brother and I will do work today. What a great message.
I get that the tone isn't for everyone and in our silly soft "don't offend" culture, it will get attacked. However, when I heard this at age 24, 15 years ago, I got on my knees and prayed and repented right then. I then called my girlfriend at the time and repented and said, "we're not crossing lines till our marriage." A year later we got married, have been happily married for 14 years, have 3 kids (two daughters), and I pastor a church in TN. Thank you, Mark.
Facts: Did the same exact thing for me. After that message i repented an truly became a man that day! Thank you Jesus for sending mark to me. That sermon changed my family tree!
“HOW DARE YOU?! SHAME ON YOU! You guys are a joke.” I love you, Pastor Mark. Thank you for speaking the truth of the Word. Thank you God for REAL MEN 🙏🏻
I think all I ever really wanted was for someone to stand up for me when the man who was supposed to protect our family instead destroyed it. And the fury of this sermon has been the closest I've ever felt to having someone stand up and defend me against what he did. Thank you Pastor Mark 🙏
Same. No believer was bold enough to stand beside me. I was traumatized yet saying I am being belittled after being gaslighted, betrayed..with a 4 yr old. I Thought a pastor would attempt to counsel w patience or someone support me at the court. I faced w trembling and Kept some dignity. What men wont say to other men- Code of Some sort? The unsaved will tell a cheater they re hurting their own family. I had good character...cd not believe my husband wd act on lust. Teaching doesn't mean forget ur married. My husband misused trust I gave. Any other man can see.
The man who was suppose to protect me originally didn't know so he couldn't, I told me and she didn't tell him but it wouldn't have mattered anyway, once he did find out he said nothing and acted like nothing was said but when he did finally acknowledge it, it was to use against me and attack me with it! There is that!
I’m 67 years old and was married ONCE, but to a man who was abusive toward me in every way. I’ve been divorced for 26 years and have never remarried. This sermon is the truth on steroids. Thank you Pastor because due to the serious nature of this topic, it needed to be voiced in the aggressive manner in which you spoke. Totally needed and appreciated.
I hear you sister. Be free, in Christ. I too am unmarried, I find it very difficult to rely or trust men. But I have good men friends. I love my friends with my whole heart as they are my brothers and sisters. But I am pryaing specifically for you today, because I want you free from this experience that may be stealing from your happiness.
This is what has been missing in the church and the world for the last 75 years. If you are offended, may that be a megaphone to your hardened heart. Thank you Pastor Mark.
I remember the day that sermon was put up online! I was about 15 or 16 and has served as a gut check throughout my life. Saved me from a lot of heart ache. Was great to watch again as a married man and father to two little boys. Thanks Pastor Mark for having the courage to speak the truth and stand bye it all these years later! It was listening to wisdom like this that blessed me with my bride and encouraged me to bear my cross as a man. Love you brother!
This is as not controversial or even very interesting. Not sure why this guy thinks he’s so impactful. 🤷♂️. He’s fine as a minister. Nothing really great or terrible. He’s just a normal person to me. Noting he says is controversial or deep.
@@hardygunsalus9897.... probably because you're guilty of some of this..... not very interesting???????? Wow....your words give you away... i have heard this kind of response from nen just like you and they are not good men.
This is one of best sermons I've ever heard since I got saved. In my opinion, it's not controversial at all, perhaps brutally honest, but that's what's needed in these last days. Good preaching pastor.
Thank you Pastor Mark. I confess in two failed marriages I was the coward. I’m 49 single and celibate, and just trying to be a Godly man now. Thank you reposting this sermon, it hit deep on all levels, May God continue to use and bless your ministry
Amen Brother in Christ. I am praying for you today. I believe, that if you will be a better man, with a woman then the lord will do this thing for you. In the meantime I admonish you not to be distracted, keep first the Kingdom of God and His righteouseness. Focus on the things of heaven and all these things will be given to you. Your obidience in the ways of our Fauther will be a testimony and glorify the God who you love.
And Mexicans too., I am going to interpret this into Spanish, print and give copies to my friends and brothers in Christ, giving appropriate credit to Pastor Mark.
Roman-Catholic Christian woman here, I am in love with pastor Driscoll sermons. I am sending this video to couple of my local priests for their soul searching and encouragment.
My wife and I watched this whole thing and loved all of it! For the life of us we couldn’t find anything controversial, unless you are convicted, living in sin, and living with ungodly order.
The trolls clipped parts of the sermon, many people judged the clips, the leadership at the church who were wanting to have a more inclusive message found a way to fire the pastor and hire a female pastor at the church Mark Driscoll planted.
@@zomiozander6378 Wow! They will have to answer to God for that! He was spot on!! They were way out of Gods order hiring a Female pastor!! This was surely in the making awhile ago, they needed an excuse to get rid of him!!
I haven't dated in over 20 years but I know that whoever this guy is, if he can't watch this and take it in without getting upset or offended by it... I wouldn't even want to continue speaking with him. This sets the bar for me!
And as such, you will quickly weed out the irresponsible, non-authentic, immature believers from the worthy ones. Thus, saving you precious time and money. Marry for quality character and don't settle. Focus on how well he engages in conversations, treats and respects you. You both have to realize the marriage is God first, each other second, family third. Marriage is to support each other and work for the greater good of the family as you honor God.
We all have emotional limits and need to know when to take a break and get help.I am a Christian life coach and in a church of 500 where I was a minister, about 50% of the women were sexually abused by fathers, uncles, brothers, clergy, sons in laws and family friends. At the time these women asked for help, some were teens and up to 70 years old. I worked with teens who had wonderful families but due to shame they did not speak up. So, thank you Pastor, about being vigilant and passionate about helping women who are hurting because of these atrocities perpetuated on them but also speaking to men on how to protect women and children.
I was raped in college 16 years ago. I felt let down and unprotected by my father and grandfather, even though they were miles away. Felt like they didn't stand up for me, or care enough to protect me. Your passion healed something inside my heart today. Thank you 💜
I have this sermon downloaded on my tablet. When I heard it for the first time, I was floored..when I mean floored, I meant that it brought me to my knees literally. I had never heard a sermon that was so brutally honest, yet it was also what I needed to hear as a younger man. We need more faithful, godly men preaching sermons like this. I’m grateful for this sermon. It’s become one of my favorites.
Wow!!! What a powerful and mind-blowing message! As a single woman, I pray that God brings me the kind of mature Christian man who lives out the wisdom within this message.
Don’t settle for the one you choose, let God choose him. There are ALWAYS 🚩🚩🚩 from pretty much day one. If you choose the one you know you shouldn’t be with, one that doesn’t love and honor Jesus Christ from the beginning, the one that God had chosen for you that you passed up, will be making someone a wonderful husband, and an amazing father to their children. 🙏
They are found serving in the church. Look for fruit youll find the root. Focus on pursuing God and BECOMING the woman THAT man is looking for and God will do it!
Because he preached the exact same way 4x in a row and sent the plate around directly afterwards every service. The problem isn’t with the message, it’s with using something so close to people’s hearts to gain access to their wallets. Nothing wrong with the message.
As a sexual assault victim, this was a much needed sermon. First time I heard a pastor teach that men need to take responsibility the way Jesus takes responsibility. Thank you, Pastor Mark, for freeing me from the confusion that set me up to be a victim of abuse.
Just hearing this for the first time. With no hyperbole, this is one of the greatest sermons I’ve ever heard in my life. We all have something to glean from this.
I watched this today. Really appreciated how your message resonated. It brought me to tears. What a release. I wish my ex-husband and I would have been in the front row.....I went through this kind of hell😢. You are an honorable man. God bless you for sharing this and everyone else who heard it. Thank you ❤
Me too…when Mark was talking about physically and he was describing the facial expressions and body language…it was like my estranged-husband was right there…it validated all that I ever felt during those times…
Same here. After 20 years of marriage I had to let go. How I wish he could have heard this message. I loved him until the end but couldn’t let our 3 children think what he was doing was ok. 8 years later I married a wonderful Christian man who loves my children as his own. He was widowed with 5 kids too! It was the hardest thing I ever went through but God has blessed me so.
I'm glad you shared the back story. This is a timeless sermon that I will never forget and remains true and most relevant today. This is my favorite sermon you preached. All men need to hear this. I forwarded this to all my brothers and guy friends. Praying this message continues to change men's lives. God bless you.
My husband and I attended MH Ballard for years during our 20s. My husband credits this sermon and others like it for giving him the spanking he needed to grow into the man God intended him to be. Now, 15+ years later, the fruit is evident in our thriving marriage and family. Well done Pastor Mark, keep bringing the truth!!
Thank you pastor Mark it was so AMAZING to hear a man speak this out! The children and I have lived through this for 22 years and still fighting the looser in court that he's being alienated but never pays child support never has ever worked consistently physically mentally emotionally abused. Drives around and sells drugs with the kids in the car has almost 300 pages of criminal records And this society thinks he should be reunified with the youngest child but he continues to physically mentally and emotionally abuse the youngest. Please keep doing what you do I am so thankful for you!
I saw a clip of this a few years ago & thought you were crazy. A few weeks ago I saw a sermon by you & LOVED IT!! When I saw this today I recognized it right away. It’s amazing to me what the enemy will do to downplay the truth!! I believe in spiritual evil. Humans are involved but the evil one is behind it. All that to say that I’m so glad I found you, subscribed & watched the whole sermon today!! WOW!! I see a LOT of the men I have dated in it. Thank you Pastor Mark for speaking the truth!! I’m 68. I’ve been in church my whole life & have NEVER heard this in any of the churches I’ve been in. I’m not surprised. Most of the ministers are in one of these 2 groups. I know God isn’t pleased that His truth isn’t being told. And it’s not a watered down version being told it’s all lies from the evil one. Thanks again for speaking the truth!! It’s needed now more than ever before!’
I'm confused . . .why did this message get you into so much trouble? It was absolutely perfect. As a sexual assault survivor, I have had absolutely NO ONE ever take up for me . Not even my mother . This was as close to a perfect service as I have ever experienced. I'm so glad you posted this
Oh! My! This is exactly what's gonna cause us to leave.Virginia and move to Arizona! I have NEVER seen the spirit of Elijah until watching your sermons. Thank you for being obedient to God and speaking the truth!
This was our home church up until about two years ago and I miss it so much 😢 nothing even comes close where we live and we don't even go to church anymore 😢
Move from Virginia to Arizona for a pastor?? That’s wrong and not Biblical. We don’t follow preachers. We follow Jesus. And don’t give me that line of “there just aren’t any preachers who preach like this anymore.” That’s false as well. There are plenty. They may not have the name that he has but they are here.
When this first came out I was separating from my abusive husband and my brother showed it to me as a way to see the biblical perspective that my husband was violating me in every way. This helped me to have the courage to leave and I am now married to an excellent man who embodies Christ and loves my children from my first marriage like they are his own. Thank you for speaking the truth!
I’ve seen this clip so many times and seen it used to make it look like Mark is unhinged. But after watching the whole thing…. That “how dare you” clip has been used by the devil WITHIN THE CHURCH to steer men away from being a biblical man. This sermon is SPOT ON and is beyond needed in today’s culture! When you tell me you have issues with Mark Driscoll, it tells me what kind of man you actually are. Keep bringing the 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Same!! Just blown away at his audacity--much needed audacity from the boldness of the Holy Spirit. ❤ With so many marriages failing today-- THIS message is more than relevant!
I love this!! Im a 55 yr old woman that has been married to all of these men. I'm now divorcing little boy Larry who was my 4th marriage. My first marriage was abusive in every way possible, it took me 3 yrs to get up the courage to leave him. And now I'm living alone in my house asking God, will I ever be whole and healthy enough to have a good marriage. I'm a 10 yr old Christian and have recently started the road to deliverance and trauma recovery. This message needs to be heard by every man in this country!! In addition every woman needs this too. 😢Thank you Pastor Mark.😢
No offense, but perhaps you should stop looking for a man, and just be peaceful in God. If He wants you to have another man, He will send Him to you. I promise that! And, he will be a good one. Listen to the Holy Spirit, cuz ur picker is broken! From a 60 y.o. in a 33 year marriage from God.
My husband has some characteristics from almost every category. He is the farthest thing from the spiritual leader of the house. I’ve just been happy that he goes to church with me without me having to beg him. He’s a wonderful provider, but I really cannot say for sure that he loves me. Anyway, when this was over, I prayed that God will help me see and change anything about myself that contributes to any of my husband’s failures - because I certainly know I have many.
@@ianjones2731 That is very unfair and way too judgemental and cruel to someone who is truly hurting. I have married a few of these men as well. Some of us didn't grow up seeing what a stable happy marriage looks like. When love, kindness and good teaching isn't provided when growing up and we have to do it alone. Men pick up on weak women who are generally naive. It's VERY difficult to have confidence, self esteem, or know how to heal from relationships such as Pastor Mark speaks of, much less how to get out of these relationships easily. There ARE men who even claim to be Christians, and do all the things to "prove" that fact. It may be years before that mask slips and terror begins in that marriage. If you have never known anyone affected or you haven't experienced it yourself, then maybe you should look into it a bit before judging others. Where is your compassion? Nobody decides to choose this kind of relationship. Judging and speaking harshly only makes women who need compassion, love and godly mentorship in kindness feel even more helpless, useless, and judged by "Christians" who are supposed to reflect the love of Jesus. I hope you can have your eyes opened to so many who hurt and want to rise above the pain and be blessed and a blessing to others who have also been hurt. I pray God's blessings to you and yours.
Thank you for standing up for God's daughters. I m 62 and have been thru everything you talked about. I never knew that our heavenly father felt that way. I ve learned about life, not just men by your sermon. Thank you for your teachings
I love you for this message, Mark Driscoll! No man in my life has EVER stood up and said these things. This world needs more pastors that will speak such hard truths and more men that will actually do what you are teaching. Feminism would be a thing of the past if men just tried to live up to these standards.
No, it would not be of the past because it grew when most men were living up to these values. There would also still be many ministers like Mark, Greg Laurie, and others that would still shame and generalize men every Father’s Day and patronize women every Mother’s Day, even after ‘manning up’.
You don't need to apologize. I am grateful for masculine voices you are speaking out against violence directed at women. God bless you. God bless your ministry. God has a specific place for you and your voice at THIS time. For this generation. Praise Jesus
But we all need to remember, when we speak, we are being watched by seekers, new believers, mature and the enemy. When we slip up, the devil has a foothold. That is all that happened. He is not using his words carefully, he passed judgment and it is not our job to pass judgment but the Lords alone. The Lord did not shut down Driscolls ministry but He did make it less reaching. It was a Holy chastisement. However, his ferver is needed and wanted by many and God will raise him to a place of reach, again, to have influence as long as he puts God at the head of this ministry. Because we do not have the right to jusdge people, but we do have the right to expose sin. Let your light shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Fauther who is heaven!
We have been taught to be loving, kind, gentle and humble!!!! We have not been taught to be protectors!! As a 24 year AF Vet. I love God and I am going to protect his children! I love your sermons Pastor Mark! There is nothing wrong with being God's Warrior!😇😇😇 I do not own any skinny jeans!!!
Thank you for your service Sir, I truly appreciate the sacrifices you made in your life on behalf of myself & my children for our freedoms. Signed A Grateful Mama & Proud American Patriot !!! 🙏 ♥️😁🌹
How does no other pastor say these things??? OMGoodness we need this blasted through every Church!!! You rock Mark. My ex broke my back in 1998 and I was blamed by everyone!!!! This message was crazy good!!!! My son was a product of force also. Keep speaking to men
Literally broke your back and family blamed you???!?? Wild!! This really shows that the issues and problems may start with men not taking their Godly place in marriage but also how a society continues to gaslight women and coddle men.
Sister, I am praying for you today. I ask our loveing Fauther in heaven, who was lifted in the clouds to remember what he did for the man crippled on a mat. Lord remember what you did in the days you walked with man and give this woman the ability to walk without pain. Forgive this man for his actiions and bring him to a place of repentance. Give her understanding of her value and worth from your eyes. Free her from the conviction she feels and bring her peace and joy all the rest of her days. Amen.
I stand and weep with you Pastor Mark. This Testimony is helping many in my ministry . "And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart"
I found this to be extremely thought-provoking, did I see myself in some of it, yes! It makes me realize that no matter where we are in life and I’m 63, we still have a lot to learn and a lot more to give.
More people need to hear this sermon! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Especially unmarried people. This gives unmarried women the perspective as to what you need to look for in a husband and what are the signs that you need to look out for to run for your life! It also gives men a very clear perspective as to what they need to live up to. It sets the standard. May this sermon reach MILLIONS! And may it change the hearts of every man and woman that hears it.
I agree, how can any good, godly man NOT be enraged by what is done to women and children (the weakest in society)? Any human who abuses another human is a monster and it's right and just to be angry about it.
I watched this sermon this morning on RUclips. I am 50 years old was married for 22 years. I have kids well two still in their teens . The other two boys are out of the house at a jong age as they did home schooling started farming, so they sorted regarding self sustainability. I never married again 10 years of being divorced now and don't have any one in my life. I got married at 21 years old, big mistake, and she was four years older than me. I wish I had been or heard this sermon at the age of 21 . I wasn't abusive, I was an ahab and there but not there, absent father only working and trying my best to be a provider. We worked through a lot this past 10 year's the kids and I. Me and there mother still can't communicate properly as I have changed a lot . Ahab is dead, but the hurts are still there and bitterness has come in . So I just focus on my kids, trying my best to stay in a loving and calm spirit through the power of the Holy Spirit in me . Getting married and having kids is not a joke it's a big responsibility . You never stop being a father or a mother or a husband or wife. It's hardworking, but if you do it God's way, it can be something beautiful.
This is SO good. Thank you for preaching this. I have to say, as a woman and a pastor's wife, I would love to see something equally as hard on women, perhaps taught by a woman. The best thing I've seen on this subject has come from Dr. Laura Schlessinger, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." My husband and I have done a lot of marriage counseling together. And although there are many godly wives, some women are better policemen, prosecuting attorneys, and judges than wives. They are disrespectful, disdainful, and expect to be worshipped by their husbands. There are some husbands who are abused by their wives. This should not be . . . especially for those who call themselves Christian.
I used to be like that to my husband. 😔 I feel so bad. I still am a working progress however Jesus has changed me so much and is letting me see what myself is doing to my loved ones. No one should have to live like that. I can still see the harm I caused. 3 yrs ago God took the veil from my eyes. I get to love, apologize and encourage my husband. He’s a wonderful man that loves God so much. Through out the years we’ve both changed a lot. We’ve been married almost 14 years. Only now all the junk is being rooted out and things have been hard. I know we will make it because Jesus is at work.
@@kadi9682 I’m So glad you shared. You give me hope. Your testimony shows how Jesus can change a person’s life. You allowed Him to change the way you think, which is the key to changing behavior. I have no doubt that the Lord is very pleased with you.
Thank you!!! I wish I had watched this and listened to it when you first said it. I was a fool. I was a joke. Jesus saved and changed me. Men need men like you Pastor. Thank you.
Thank you Pastor Mark. My spouse claims to be a Christian but shows no fruits of spirit. When I was listening to this message and he was sitting at table with me he kept trying to get to look at something on his phone. He does this every time i try to talk to about spiritual things. He changes the subject or says i dont want to talk about this. I am afraid of his temper and he often blames me for it. I have told him before i am God daughter and he does not like his daughter being verbally attacked or hurt. Please pray for my broken marriage. We are in counseling.
I am praying for you Sister. I am asking God to show you Love: Patience Kindness no Envy, no Jundment, Goodness, Faithfullness, Self control, Forgiveness, a clean slate, freedom to be honest, to be heard, to be understood, unity within your family protection by Gods Hand. Your chains are broken so I pray your eyes can see this and that you see the love God has for your husband. I pray you see the barriers that blind him and the strength to hear nothing but what comes from the Lord in private, and in Peace. I pray you have time to part yourself to soak up the embrace of the Holy Spirit.
Mark, this message was anointed and powerful and helped me remove some baggage I carried with me since childhood from my earthly father. It’s like for the first time I felt God fighting for me and defending me through the Holy Spirit. Thank you for this message. Fathers be good to your daughters, too (like the John Mayer song).
Every man boy woman and girl needs to hear this. As a woman approaching 70 and wanting to find someone this is really helped me a lot. Radical feminism has destroyed men and women in so many different ways. The men I meet in my age group are either so damaged, so bitter from their divorce, or they want a "friend with benefits" which to me is a disgusting option. I am no prude. But I would rather share my life with someone I can share mutual love and respect with, with old fashioned traditional values.... and traditional wife husband roles . I've experienced failed marriage and want to leave it behind. Almost 70, look like I'm 50 and I still have not found that man.... it's never too late for a man or a woman to look up to God and find the person that is meant for them
Im 64, and all men should have to do it all for 6 months and they will learn the language of women. Being a single parent was the most profound experience ive had. I love empowering women now.
It was over ten years ago when I first heard this sermon. It gave me hope, encouragement and support during a time of turmoil that I was going through with a divorce from an abusive marriage. I had no support from my local church at the time but this sermon gave me the support I needed. Thank you for sharing again. This message blessed me tremendously
This needs to be heard again and again every month. Thank you Mark for your direct and harsh words!!! There are moments in life when the truth is spoken with all clarity and emphasis! This was one of those moments! I repent, ask my wife (married for 22 years) for forgiveness and take on my responsibility again! Thank you Pastor Mark Driscoll, best wishes and God's blessings from Switzerland. 🇨🇭
Glad you shared the back story of this moment and details of your ministry that many do not know about. Praying that God will continue to use you and bless your ministry.
Thank you pastor Mark for being open and vulnerable. Bible says “by their fruit you will know them”. Your preaching brought a lot of growth and fruits of the spirit and freedom into my life and lives of millions of people. And whatever people say on the internet will never influence the way I see your Ministry. God bless you and your wonderful family ❤
I've heard about you for many years. Didn't know much except your name. I saw the news about you addressing the corruption of the church this past weekend. And I have to say I highly respect and appreciate you, brother. Thank you for standing up for Jesus and walking in the call of our Lord. Be strong and courageous, good sir.
My prayer is that God gets this message to my ex husband. I’m afraid to send it to him. This hit home. I’m in tears calling out to Jesus. I never felt like I’m God’s daughter because I grew up in a hostile violent home & lived in that same environment my in my marriage. My heart breaks for my daughters. My grandchildren. My sons in laws, my self. & my ex who I pray for every day Thank you Pastor Mark. I wish we knew you years ago ❤️🩹😔🥲
We need more sermons like this. My father was a passive man (Ahab) and my stepmom was a conniving, narcissistic control freak (Jezebel). I was so confused and afraid.
This is the best message I have ever heard regarding men and marriage. Blew my hair back and I'm a 69 year old woman married for 43 years to the same man. If only more Pastors would be this bold the church could change the world. Amen. ❤
I do believe this is a word that is needed to be heard by all men, worldwide, today. I sent this to my boys because it is needed, desperately needed. Thank you for being a bold man for the Lord. You spoke with honor & self control, even in your anger, it was righteous anger. God bless you and thank you. 🙏❤️ I genuinely thank you. I've had to walk in both rolls for my boys & it has been incredibly difficult. I blame no one but me, for my choices. I am His daughter & asked for forgiveness and repented for thinking that I knew best for me regarding a man & husband... Every word you spoke was 100% accurate & true. 💔
I listened to the entire sermon this Resurrection weekend. I probably either heard it or heard about it when it first happened 10 years ago. I must admit while listening to it over these two days, I was initially harsh on Mark for his tone, calling men idiots & jokes. After listening to the entire sermon, though, I realize that God uses people differently. This is a sermon for an unrepentant, stubborn man. I don’t have permission to use that tone-but I’m glad someone did! Our 1st life coach called my husband an SOB, & I later became a life coach!😆 I’ll be addressing men who want to walk in purity, & I pray that the Holy Spirit will give me a balanced & piercing message as I share our testimony. The mega-church we attend would never allow that tone. It’s the Fred Price, early Juanita Bynum tone. I just need to be who I am in Christ & yield to the Holy Spirit as He flows through me. I shared this video with one of my cousins. God is a consuming fire🔥, but sometimes, we have relegated him to Barney at the pub.😐
I'm a 52 year old women never married engaged a few times but those men kept cheating and lying. I never stayed bit still l wait for the right man . So l stay with God and feel he has the right person for me
Thank you Pastor Mark- by this powerful message about 10 years ago more or less, I found you & have been a faithful follower. Thank you for sharing Jesus with the world & help men be more like Jesus. We love you- God bless you!🙏🏽
If there was ever a message to be preached, you did! You changed the lives of the multitudes and I pray that now with the internet the entire world sees it and grows up❤ God bless you, your ministry and your family❤
I see nothing controversial about this message. Pastor Mark is speaking the truth and I wish there were more like him to tell others this much needed truth!!
Wow!!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you for the courage to speak about an issue that is not spoken about in the Body of Christ. Pastors don't have the courage or don't have the understanding of what many of their sheep(woman) are going through. I have loved Jesus and walked with Him for 48 years and have yearned for a brave and bold brother to speak about this. God bless you so much
This will always be one of favorite series from you. It is also not lost on me that at least one of the ‘Pastors’ that was involved in the subsequent disciplinary actions against you was forced to step down from his own Dallas based church due to inappropriate conduct with a female congregate which was not his wife.
As a wife, this is one of the best sermons I have ever heard and believe it should be part of any premarital course. Thank you for sharing! Love how you just get to the point and cut to the chase, we need more of it.
Hey, Pastor Mark, this was an amazing sermon… I’m so glad I got to hear it, and the testimony behind your passion and righteous anger. As someone who seeks out truth, no matter where it goes… I was blessed, convicted, encouraged and righteously challenged to do better, to protect and train others… Especially my children… Especially my boys. Your ministry is amazing and I hope one day to visit your church and to see how your art ministry functions so I may bring it home and build something new for our community.
I cried during this sermon. Pastors daughter. Divorced twice. First man left after 25 years of marriage and left me with 5 kids. A man who prophesied in church and taught Sunday school. 2nd husband promised to love me and my kids. A Catholic man who loved how much I loved God. But then he was cheating on me with my 16 year old daughter. So we divorced. He went on to have children and then marry my daughter. All the kids lives are a mess. I’m thankful God is a father for my son with Down Syndrome who lives with me. His father has seen him once in 10 years. Thank you Pastor Mark. I don’t go to church any more here in Canada. But I love your teachings.
You have critics not because of what you said was wrong, but what you said was right and on point and convicted their very character great message so much conviction here for all of us!
So,sorry for you Mark and the pain you feel for us daughters of Yausha Messiah and Yahweh Most High. Wem Thank you for being a real man in elder ship. May, Most High continue to give you courage that is needed right now. We pray for you.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜
EXCELLENT message Pstr Mark!! I praise God for raising up real men like yourself to speak into the lives of men. May God bless you and your family and ministry!
When i finally told my spouse that i was SAd in my childhood after keeping it from him for over 10yrs, he couldn't have cared less. Your wife is blessed to have you care so much about her trauma, Pastor Mark.
Love this. So glad you stood up and told the bold, harsh truth. I see so many men I know in all the examples you gave. I know each one of them and they immediately popped into my head when you described them. Including my father. But the same issues for women. Including myself. It's like exactly how you are explaining to the extreme today and this is how society has decayed into the pit of hell that we are in. It's the battle of man vs. woman. Neither one knowing what role they are supposed to play. Too much pride on both sides to humbly figure it out so there is peace, prosperity and happiness. I am glad you were courageous enough to preach this despite the consequence. People need to hear this. Telling someone the harsh truth, IN LOVE, is the most loving thing you can do.
Pastor Mike as a Christian woman and married twice......I Thank You for your boldness. If we had more men like you in the body of Christ & men like you in this world we would feel much safer! Even Christian men are bullies and ice Cold. I know I don't deserve it but it's difficult. So again Thank You man of God!!!!
I just started recently watching you on you tube! You are one of the best ever!! The reason you are being so attacked is because you’re not preaching like the govt. wants you to. You tell the truth and don’t leave anything out!! They want a short little message , without truth. I’m praying you will keep speaking out!!🙏🙏🙏
Now imagine what the Women the Children at the Southern Border are going through. 😢 Shame on Politicians for allowing , condoning and assisting with such Atrocities .
I was in the back of the church the night of this sermon. The place was packed, majority was college kids from UW & SPU.
For a lot of them, Mark was the father figure they desperately needed, so when he yelled “How dare you!” at the young men, it was electric. You could almost tell who was convicted by the Spirit in that moment from the visceral reactions in the crowd, like they’d been shot or electrocuted. I’m telling you, the Spirit of God was in the church that night, lives were changed that night.
I was there for the first sermons he preached to us UW athletes on Saturday nights in the late 90s, and I was there at his last sermon at the Bellevue campus. Mark made a huge, POSITIVE, Kingdom-growing impact on an entire generation of Seattleites, myself included.
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Amen, brother. Those of us that know,. Know. Still listening, praying for Mark and his family,.. And certainly for the gospel preached!
Wonderful to know this! Ty
AMEN!!💖🕊️☘️✝️👍
May God bless this man!! What a blessing to hear truth!! Sometimes the truth hurt, that’s when you know God is working!!!
"Why isnt every sane man, filled with the spirit, this angry?"
I am, and am listening to this to figure out how to spiritually slap my family into Christianity and the word. They are resistant..... I don't want to be Flanders. I'm angry all the time. No one listens, if they do it goes in one ear and out the other. I'm seeing generational trauma unfold, meaning I caused my granddaughters , daughters, wife, to be without God through tolerance. We agreed in the beginning (my wife and i) that we would do our own thing and meet in the middle. My wife now has liver cancer. She won't see that Christ Jesus is the only way to healing. One daughter is angry and resistant, one is confused but willing i think, the other is young and resistant, she wants to have companionship.
I'm recently diving into Christianity because of my wife's illness. I'm learning and stuck. How do you get a pagan to understand? I'm a sinner, I know, my anger is verbal not physical. When they don't listen, what do you do. They are defiant or dismissive. My wife says she's reeling over the change in me. Am I in the wrong? I need help Jesus! Show me the path, put my feet in the right path. I'm fighting to keep her alive. Fighting for my Adult children's souls. Also for my grandchildren and thier spiritual wellbeing. If you are reading thank you. If you can help thank you. If you could pray for my family, and thier spiritual wellbeing, again thank you!❤
@@stevethyng8275forcing other people to listen and accept is not easy. I came to the conclusion that only God can change hearts and speak to someone where they will actually hear it. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t say anything ever, but understand that if there is a breakthrough it has to come from God. Whether it’s him speaking through you, through someone else, through something else, or speaking to them a different way entirely is not something we get to decide. And often times, the exact same message you wish to convey can only be received by someone if it comes from someone else than you. This is often true of family where there’s difficult history. I say all this to say not to put the burden on yourself to change their hearts, because that’s God’s job. Your job is to pray and contend for their deliverance in the spirit, it’s God’s job to do the heavy lifting. Praying for you and yours, brother. Hang in there and just pray for them everyday. Ask God to show you what to pray. Convert that anger into anger against the enemy, and rebuke him in the name of Jesus.
@@stevethyng8275 Let go, let God.
We are too correct believers whom the Holy Spirit is already guiding into correction, however you don’t become a Christian through correction, through recognition of sin, yes, but first the person hast to understand how to get to God through Jesus, then once they are in Christ, they need to hear The reminder that being in Christ means you stop turning from him and back to the devil.
@@stevethyng8275trust me when I say this. Going to them in anger is only pushing them further away. The bible says that we cant just preach to them. We have to show them by our actions and reactions. I have learned the hard way. I never listened to my mom bc she was always angry and came at me in anger. But when my dad came to me, it really got to the heart bc he came in love. Remember that we dont fight against flesh & blood. We fight against the spiritual darkness, demons & devils.
That message seriously got me to stop sleeping around. I was a new Christian, and when I heard it, "how dare you!" I repented and am grateful for hearing it. But i listened to it again and feel convicted as a husband and a father. I have become the sturdy oak.
Hallelujah!!
Praise Jesus!!
Brother, I am proud of you for having the humility to see your mess ups and sin, for I am convicted as well because I am not becoming a man of God the way Jesus wants me. Keep the good fight and love your wife and kids, Shalom be upon you and your household brother!
Praying you come to enjoy and involve yourself in your wife and children's lives. Love your humility. Makes me confident in knowing you've got God working in you. Now do the work to make it a reality to be like Christ. I will to being the wondering eye loser he just shared. No excuses here I know what I'm doing. Pray for me as well brother and I will do work today. What a great message.
God bless you brother
I get that the tone isn't for everyone and in our silly soft "don't offend" culture, it will get attacked. However, when I heard this at age 24, 15 years ago, I got on my knees and prayed and repented right then. I then called my girlfriend at the time and repented and said, "we're not crossing lines till our marriage." A year later we got married, have been happily married for 14 years, have 3 kids (two daughters), and I pastor a church in TN. Thank you, Mark.
Wow, thanks for the uplifting story sir.
This brought tears to my eyes. Thanks.
Facts: Did the same exact thing for me. After that message i repented an truly became a man that day! Thank you Jesus for sending mark to me. That sermon changed my family tree!
This comment speaks volumes ❤ 🙏🤴👑🌄
Thank you for that beautiful testimony! God bless you ♥️✝️
“HOW DARE YOU?! SHAME ON YOU! You guys are a joke.” I love you, Pastor Mark. Thank you for speaking the truth of the Word. Thank you God for REAL MEN 🙏🏻
I think all I ever really wanted was for someone to stand up for me when the man who was supposed to protect our family instead destroyed it. And the fury of this sermon has been the closest I've ever felt to having someone stand up and defend me against what he did. Thank you Pastor Mark 🙏
I felt the exact same way sister.
Same. No believer was bold enough to stand beside me. I was traumatized yet saying I am being belittled after being gaslighted, betrayed..with a 4 yr old. I Thought a pastor would attempt to counsel w patience or someone support me at the court. I faced w trembling and Kept some dignity. What men wont say to other men- Code of Some sort? The unsaved will tell a cheater they re hurting their own family. I had good character...cd not believe my husband wd act on lust. Teaching doesn't mean forget ur married. My husband misused trust I gave. Any other man can see.
I understand. My dad didnt protect me from the wolves so the wolves kept coming
Amen 🙏🏻
The man who was suppose to protect me originally didn't know so he couldn't, I told me and she didn't tell him but it wouldn't have mattered anyway, once he did find out he said nothing and acted like nothing was said but when he did finally acknowledge it, it was to use against me and attack me with it! There is that!
I’m 67 years old and was married ONCE, but to a man who was abusive toward me in every way. I’ve been divorced for 26 years and have never remarried. This sermon is the truth on steroids. Thank you Pastor because due to the serious nature of this topic, it needed to be voiced in the aggressive manner in which you spoke.
Totally needed and appreciated.
I hear you sister. Be free, in Christ. I too am unmarried, I find it very difficult to rely or trust men. But I have good men friends. I love my friends with my whole heart as they are my brothers and sisters. But I am pryaing specifically for you today, because I want you free from this experience that may be stealing from your happiness.
@@tarakoshman3106 I totally appreciate your prayers. Thank you so much. I will also pray for you. ✝️🙏
God bless you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
This is what has been missing in the church and the world for the last 75 years. If you are offended, may that be a megaphone to your hardened heart. Thank you Pastor Mark.
I remember the day that sermon was put up online! I was about 15 or 16 and has served as a gut check throughout my life. Saved me from a lot of heart ache. Was great to watch again as a married man and father to two little boys. Thanks Pastor Mark for having the courage to speak the truth and stand bye it all these years later! It was listening to wisdom like this that blessed me with my bride and encouraged me to bear my cross as a man. Love you brother!
This is as not controversial or even very interesting. Not sure why this guy thinks he’s so impactful. 🤷♂️. He’s fine as a minister. Nothing really great or terrible. He’s just a normal person to me. Noting he says is controversial or deep.
@@hardygunsalus9897 'cause You're above this teaching and have it all figured out?
@@hardygunsalus9897Sounds like you’re one of the men he’s talking about in this video. I hope you don’t have a girlfriend let alone a wife
@@hardygunsalus9897.... probably because you're guilty of some of this..... not very interesting???????? Wow....your words give you away... i have heard this kind of response from nen just like you and they are not good men.
All of us are just ordinary people. Christ just uses us differently. May God continue to use you in the lives of many Pastor!🙏
When Pastor Mark cries at stuff like this. It just hits my heart directly. He's not a soft guy by any means. I admire this man and his heart for God.
This is one of best sermons I've ever heard since I got saved. In my opinion, it's not controversial at all, perhaps brutally honest, but that's what's needed in these last days. Good preaching pastor.
Yes, yes, a 1,000 times yes!
Thank you Pastor Mark. I confess in two failed marriages I was the coward. I’m 49 single and celibate, and just trying to be a Godly man now. Thank you reposting this sermon, it hit deep on all levels, May God continue to use and bless your ministry
I wonder if I will ever will find a good man. This comment gives me faith that some men are working on themselves.
You’re doing wonderful. Keep on doing what you are.
@@samsamsam82 I got married for the first time at 47. I am 48. It is perfect
I am grateful for your comment. I'm 52 single women and have hope things turn around
Amen Brother in Christ. I am praying for you today. I believe, that if you will be a better man, with a woman then the lord will do this thing for you. In the meantime I admonish you not to be distracted, keep first the Kingdom of God and His righteouseness. Focus on the things of heaven and all these things will be given to you. Your obidience in the ways of our Fauther will be a testimony and glorify the God who you love.
Every American man needs to hear this message
And English
And Mexicans too., I am going to interpret this into Spanish, print and give copies to my friends and brothers in Christ, giving appropriate credit to Pastor Mark.
Everyone in the world bro. Message is not limited to Americans only. I'm in Zimbabwe
Roman-Catholic Christian woman here, I am in love with pastor Driscoll sermons. I am sending this video to couple of my local priests for their soul searching and encouragment.
In 2018 I prayed for God to make me a man and I've been slacking a bit recently, this sermon was the wake up call I needed today. Thank you Ps Mark❤
He made you one when He created you, just worry about being the type of man He likes without getting hung up on fake masculinity.
This is a truly beautiful prayer❤
My wife and I watched this whole thing and loved all of it! For the life of us we couldn’t find anything controversial, unless you are convicted, living in sin, and living with ungodly order.
The trolls clipped parts of the sermon, many people judged the clips, the leadership at the church who were wanting to have a more inclusive message found a way to fire the pastor and hire a female pastor at the church Mark Driscoll planted.
@@zomiozander6378he was fired over this?!?
@@zomiozander6378 Wow! They will have to answer to God for that! He was spot on!! They were way out of Gods order hiring a Female pastor!! This was surely in the making awhile ago, they needed an excuse to get rid of him!!
I haven't dated in over 20 years but I know that whoever this guy is, if he can't watch this and take it in without getting upset or offended by it... I wouldn't even want to continue speaking with him. This sets the bar for me!
And as such, you will quickly weed out the irresponsible, non-authentic, immature believers from the worthy ones. Thus, saving you precious time and money. Marry for quality character and don't settle. Focus on how well he engages in conversations, treats and respects you. You both have to realize the marriage is God first, each other second, family third. Marriage is to support each other and work for the greater good of the family as you honor God.
@@Keith-vq3ob I appreciate you taking the time to reply. Stay blessed Sir 🙏🏼
Pray for men to turn to God and grow in Godliness. Support men’s ministry that teaches boys to be men.
@@Keith-vq3ob 🙏 Amen to that!
We all have emotional limits and need to know when to take a break and get help.I am a Christian life coach and in a church of 500 where I was a minister, about 50% of the women were sexually abused by fathers, uncles, brothers, clergy, sons in laws and family friends. At the time these women asked for help, some were teens and up to 70 years old. I worked with teens who had wonderful families but due to shame they did not speak up. So, thank you Pastor, about being vigilant and passionate about helping women who are hurting because of these atrocities perpetuated on them but also speaking to men on how to protect women and children.
I was raped in college 16 years ago. I felt let down and unprotected by my father and grandfather, even though they were miles away. Felt like they didn't stand up for me, or care enough to protect me.
Your passion healed something inside my heart today. Thank you 💜
I have this sermon downloaded on my tablet. When I heard it for the first time, I was floored..when I mean floored, I meant that it brought me to my knees literally. I had never heard a sermon that was so brutally honest, yet it was also what I needed to hear as a younger man.
We need more faithful, godly men preaching sermons like this. I’m grateful for this sermon. It’s become one of my favorites.
Wow!!! What a powerful and mind-blowing message! As a single woman, I pray that God brings me the kind of mature Christian man who lives out the wisdom within this message.
Don’t settle for the one you choose, let God choose him. There are ALWAYS 🚩🚩🚩 from pretty much day one. If you choose the one you know you shouldn’t be with, one that doesn’t love and honor Jesus Christ from the beginning, the one that God had chosen for you that you passed up, will be making someone a wonderful husband, and an amazing father to their children. 🙏
@@holylandfan3275That's why I wrote... "I pray that God brings me....."
@@phyllismortgage I didn’t mean for my comment to sound mean, I was in agreement. Yes, wait for the one the Lord chooses for you. 🙏
...the devil knew that...
They are found serving in the church. Look for fruit youll find the root. Focus on pursuing God and BECOMING the woman THAT man is looking for and God will do it!
I have zero clue why this was ever controversial with other Christians
Because he preached the exact same way 4x in a row and sent the plate around directly afterwards every service. The problem isn’t with the message, it’s with using something so close to people’s hearts to gain access to their wallets.
Nothing wrong with the message.
@@jessekane6534this was such a a wildly ridiculous comment, I hope your joking.
It was offensive to the man bun Christianity
@jessekane6534 how is it offensive to take offering for 4 different services?
It is because people do not like the truth
This was one of the most raw sermons ive heard Pastor Mark preach! I pray it doesnt fall on deaf ears!
I wished we had more Pastors like you, its so needed
100 % correct!!! Don´t know why this would be deemed controversial amongst true Christians, it is exactly what we need to hear!!!
As a sexual assault victim, this was a much needed sermon. First time I heard a pastor teach that men need to take responsibility the way Jesus takes responsibility. Thank you, Pastor Mark, for freeing me from the confusion that set me up to be a victim of abuse.
👏🏼 this should be taught in school to every teen (boy & girl). Also, it should be a pre-requisite to marriage.
Just hearing this for the first time. With no hyperbole, this is one of the greatest sermons I’ve ever heard in my life. We all have something to glean from this.
Definitely one of, if not the best sermon I've ever heard!!!
I'm a 50-year old man who's been married for almost 23 years. This is such an inspirational sermon. Thank you, Pastor Mark!
I watched this today. Really appreciated how your message resonated. It brought me to tears. What a release. I wish my ex-husband and I would have been in the front row.....I went through this kind of hell😢.
You are an honorable man. God bless you for sharing this and everyone else who heard it.
Thank you ❤
Me too…when Mark was talking about physically and he was describing the facial expressions and body language…it was like my estranged-husband was right there…it validated all that I ever felt during those times…
Same here. After 20 years of marriage I had to let go. How I wish he could have heard this message. I loved him until the end but couldn’t let our 3 children think what he was doing was ok. 8 years later I married a wonderful Christian man who loves my children as his own. He was widowed with 5 kids too! It was the hardest thing I ever went through but God has blessed me so.
As a young husband back then- it shook me to the core.
Amazing anointing and old school holy anger at sin.
I'm glad you shared the back story. This is a timeless sermon that I will never forget and remains true and most relevant today. This is my favorite sermon you preached. All men need to hear this. I forwarded this to all my brothers and guy friends. Praying this message continues to change men's lives. God bless you.
My husband and I attended MH Ballard for years during our 20s. My husband credits this sermon and others like it for giving him the spanking he needed to grow into the man God intended him to be. Now, 15+ years later, the fruit is evident in our thriving marriage and family. Well done Pastor Mark, keep bringing the truth!!
Thank you pastor Mark it was so AMAZING to hear a man speak this out! The children and I have lived through this for 22 years and still fighting the looser in court that he's being alienated but never pays child support never has ever worked consistently physically mentally emotionally abused. Drives around and sells drugs with the kids in the car has almost 300 pages of criminal records And this society thinks he should be reunified with the youngest child but he continues to physically mentally and emotionally abuse the youngest. Please keep doing what you do I am so thankful for you!
I saw a clip of this a few years ago & thought you were crazy. A few weeks ago I saw a sermon by you & LOVED IT!! When I saw this today I recognized it right away. It’s amazing to me what the enemy will do to downplay the truth!! I believe in spiritual evil. Humans are involved but the evil one is behind it. All that to say that I’m so glad I found you, subscribed & watched the whole sermon today!! WOW!! I see a LOT of the men I have dated in it. Thank you Pastor Mark for speaking the truth!! I’m 68. I’ve been in church my whole life & have NEVER heard this in any of the churches I’ve been in. I’m not surprised. Most of the ministers are in one of these 2 groups. I know God isn’t pleased that His truth isn’t being told. And it’s not a watered down version being told it’s all lies from the evil one. Thanks again for speaking the truth!! It’s needed now more than ever before!’
I'm confused . . .why did this message get you into so much trouble? It was absolutely perfect. As a sexual assault survivor, I have had absolutely NO ONE ever take up for me . Not even my mother . This was as close to a perfect service as I have ever experienced. I'm so glad you posted this
the comments from the chat are disgraceful. I love this sermon, & im glad you still preach the truth
I wish they would delete and block the trolls in the chat. I love this sermon, too.
What were the comments? I'm wondering how triggered redpillers are by this
Oh! My! This is exactly what's gonna cause us to leave.Virginia and move to Arizona! I have NEVER seen the spirit of Elijah until watching your sermons. Thank you for being obedient to God and speaking the truth!
Me too!!
This was our home church up until about two years ago and I miss it so much 😢 nothing even comes close where we live and we don't even go to church anymore 😢
Me too. I would love to move just to be in this church...
Move from Virginia to Arizona for a pastor?? That’s wrong and not Biblical. We don’t follow preachers. We follow Jesus. And don’t give me that line of “there just aren’t any preachers who preach like this anymore.” That’s false as well. There are plenty. They may not have the name that he has but they are here.
@@braddavis3821
Very true
When this first came out I was separating from my abusive husband and my brother showed it to me as a way to see the biblical perspective that my husband was violating me in every way. This helped me to have the courage to leave and I am now married to an excellent man who embodies Christ and loves my children from my first marriage like they are his own. Thank you for speaking the truth!
I’ve seen this clip so many times and seen it used to make it look like Mark is unhinged. But after watching the whole thing…. That “how dare you” clip has been used by the devil WITHIN THE CHURCH to steer men away from being a biblical man. This sermon is SPOT ON and is beyond needed in today’s culture! When you tell me you have issues with Mark Driscoll, it tells me what kind of man you actually are. Keep bringing the 🔥🔥🔥🔥
This is about the best sermon ive seen in a long time. Amen. Amen.
Same!!
Just blown away at his audacity--much needed audacity from the boldness of the Holy Spirit. ❤
With so many marriages failing today-- THIS message is more than relevant!
I love this!! Im a 55 yr old woman that has been married to all of these men. I'm now divorcing little boy Larry who was my 4th marriage. My first marriage was abusive in every way possible, it took me 3 yrs to get up the courage to leave him. And now I'm living alone in my house asking God, will I ever be whole and healthy enough to have a good marriage. I'm a 10 yr old Christian and have recently started the road to deliverance and trauma recovery.
This message needs to be heard by every man in this country!! In addition every woman needs this too. 😢Thank you Pastor Mark.😢
No offense, but perhaps you should stop looking for a man, and just be peaceful in God. If He wants you to have another man, He will send Him to you. I promise that! And, he will be a good one. Listen to the Holy Spirit, cuz ur picker is broken! From a 60 y.o. in a 33 year marriage from God.
You sound quite bitter, I'd suggest that if you've been married 4 times maybe just maybe the issue lies with you..
My husband has some characteristics from almost every category. He is the farthest thing from the spiritual leader of the house. I’ve just been happy that he goes to church with me without me having to beg him. He’s a wonderful provider, but I really cannot say for sure that he loves me. Anyway, when this was over, I prayed that God will help me see and change anything about myself that contributes to any of my husband’s failures - because I certainly know I have many.
@@ianjones2731 That is very unfair and way too judgemental and cruel to someone who is truly hurting. I have married a few of these men as well. Some of us didn't grow up seeing what a stable happy marriage looks like. When love, kindness and good teaching isn't provided when growing up and we have to do it alone. Men pick up on weak women who are generally naive. It's VERY difficult to have confidence, self esteem, or know how to heal from relationships such as Pastor Mark speaks of, much less how to get out of these relationships easily. There ARE men who even claim to be Christians, and do all the things to "prove" that fact. It may be years before that mask slips and terror begins in that marriage. If you have never known anyone affected or you haven't experienced it yourself, then maybe you should look into it a bit before judging others. Where is your compassion? Nobody decides to choose this kind of relationship. Judging and speaking harshly only makes women who need compassion, love and godly mentorship in kindness feel even more helpless, useless, and judged by "Christians" who are supposed to reflect the love of Jesus. I hope you can have your eyes opened to so many who hurt and want to rise above the pain and be blessed and a blessing to others who have also been hurt. I pray God's blessings to you and yours.
What are the chances you get 4 divorces with no fault
Oh bless this man for having the guts to call to repentance…as an abused wife, this is healing to know accountability is something that can be done…
Thank you for standing up for God's daughters. I m 62 and have been thru everything you talked about. I never knew that our heavenly father felt that way. I ve learned about life, not just men by your sermon. Thank you for your teachings
I love you for this message, Mark Driscoll! No man in my life has EVER stood up and said these things. This world needs more pastors that will speak such hard truths and more men that will actually do what you are teaching.
Feminism would be a thing of the past if men just tried to live up to these standards.
No, it would not be of the past because it grew when most men were living up to these values.
There would also still be many ministers like Mark, Greg Laurie, and others that would still shame and generalize men every Father’s Day and patronize women every Mother’s Day, even after ‘manning up’.
You don't need to apologize. I am grateful for masculine voices you are speaking out against violence directed at women. God bless you. God bless your ministry. God has a specific place for you and your voice at THIS time. For this generation. Praise Jesus
But we all need to remember, when we speak, we are being watched by seekers, new believers, mature and the enemy. When we slip up, the devil has a foothold. That is all that happened. He is not using his words carefully, he passed judgment and it is not our job to pass judgment but the Lords alone. The Lord did not shut down Driscolls ministry but He did make it less reaching. It was a Holy chastisement. However, his ferver is needed and wanted by many and God will raise him to a place of reach, again, to have influence as long as he puts God at the head of this ministry. Because we do not have the right to jusdge people, but we do have the right to expose sin. Let your light shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Fauther who is heaven!
We have been taught to be loving, kind, gentle and humble!!!! We have not been taught to be protectors!! As a 24 year AF Vet. I love God and I am going to protect his children! I love your sermons Pastor Mark! There is nothing wrong with being God's Warrior!😇😇😇 I do not own any skinny jeans!!!
Thank you for your service Sir, I truly appreciate the sacrifices you made in your life on behalf of myself & my children for our freedoms. Signed A Grateful Mama & Proud American Patriot !!! 🙏 ♥️😁🌹
Thank you, Pastor Driscoll for bringing this sermon to light. Your courage and love for Christ is so apparent. ❤️
How does no other pastor say these things??? OMGoodness we need this blasted through every Church!!! You rock Mark. My ex broke my back in 1998 and I was blamed by everyone!!!! This message was crazy good!!!! My son was a product of force also. Keep speaking to men
Literally broke your back and family blamed you???!?? Wild!!
This really shows that the issues and problems may start with men not taking their Godly place in marriage but also how a society continues to gaslight women and coddle men.
Sister, I am praying for you today. I ask our loveing Fauther in heaven, who was lifted in the clouds to remember what he did for the man crippled on a mat. Lord remember what you did in the days you walked with man and give this woman the ability to walk without pain. Forgive this man for his actiions and bring him to a place of repentance. Give her understanding of her value and worth from your eyes. Free her from the conviction she feels and bring her peace and joy all the rest of her days. Amen.
I stand and weep with you Pastor Mark. This Testimony is helping many in my ministry . "And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart"
I found this to be extremely thought-provoking, did I see myself in some of it, yes! It makes me realize that no matter where we are in life and I’m 63, we still have a lot to learn and a lot more to give.
More people need to hear this sermon! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Especially unmarried people.
This gives unmarried women the perspective as to what you need to look for in a husband and what are the signs that you need to look out for to run for your life!
It also gives men a very clear perspective as to what they need to live up to. It sets the standard.
May this sermon reach MILLIONS! And may it change the hearts of every man and woman that hears it.
I agree, how can any good, godly man NOT be enraged by what is done to women and children (the weakest in society)? Any human who abuses another human is a monster and it's right and just to be angry about it.
I watched this sermon this morning on RUclips. I am 50 years old was married for 22 years. I have kids well two still in their teens . The other two boys are out of the house at a jong age as they did home schooling started farming, so they sorted regarding self sustainability.
I never married again 10 years of being divorced now and don't have any one in my life. I got married at 21 years old, big mistake, and she was four years older than me. I wish I had been or heard this sermon at the age of 21 . I wasn't abusive, I was an ahab and there but not there, absent father only working and trying my best to be a provider. We worked through a lot this past 10 year's the kids and I. Me and there mother still can't communicate properly as I have changed a lot . Ahab is dead, but the hurts are still there and bitterness has come in . So I just focus on my kids, trying my best to stay in a loving and calm spirit through the power of the Holy Spirit in me . Getting married and having kids is not a joke it's a big responsibility . You never stop being a father or a mother or a husband or wife. It's hardworking, but if you do it God's way, it can be something beautiful.
This is SO good. Thank you for preaching this. I have to say, as a woman and a pastor's wife, I would love to see something equally as hard on women, perhaps taught by a woman. The best thing I've seen on this subject has come from Dr. Laura Schlessinger, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."
My husband and I have done a lot of marriage counseling together. And although there are many godly wives, some women are better policemen, prosecuting attorneys, and judges than wives. They are disrespectful, disdainful, and expect to be worshipped by their husbands. There are some husbands who are abused by their wives. This should not be . . . especially for those who call themselves Christian.
I used to be like that to my husband. 😔 I feel so bad. I still am a working progress however Jesus has changed me so much and is letting me see what myself is doing to my loved ones. No one should have to live like that. I can still see the harm I caused. 3 yrs ago God took the veil from my eyes. I get to love, apologize and encourage my husband. He’s a wonderful man that loves God so much. Through out the years we’ve both changed a lot. We’ve been married almost 14 years. Only now all the junk is being rooted out and things have been hard. I know we will make it because Jesus is at work.
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So glad you shared. You give me hope. Your testimony shows how Jesus can change a person’s life. You allowed Him to change the way you think, which is the key to changing behavior. I have no doubt that the Lord is very pleased with you.
Thank you!!! I wish I had watched this and listened to it when you first said it. I was a fool. I was a joke. Jesus saved and changed me. Men need men like you Pastor. Thank you.
Thank you Pastor Mark. My spouse claims to be a Christian but shows no fruits of spirit. When I was listening to this message and he was sitting at table with me he kept trying to get to look at something on his phone. He does this every time i try to talk to about spiritual things. He changes the subject or says i dont want to talk about this. I am afraid of his temper and he often blames me for it. I have told him before i am God daughter and he does not like his daughter being verbally attacked or hurt. Please pray for my broken marriage. We are in counseling.
I am praying for you Sister. I am asking God to show you Love: Patience Kindness no Envy, no Jundment, Goodness, Faithfullness, Self control, Forgiveness, a clean slate, freedom to be honest, to be heard, to be understood, unity within your family protection by Gods Hand. Your chains are broken so I pray your eyes can see this and that you see the love God has for your husband. I pray you see the barriers that blind him and the strength to hear nothing but what comes from the Lord in private, and in Peace. I pray you have time to part yourself to soak up the embrace of the Holy Spirit.
Mark, this message was anointed and powerful and helped me remove some baggage I carried with me since childhood from my earthly father. It’s like for the first time I felt God fighting for me and defending me through the Holy Spirit. Thank you for this message. Fathers be good to your daughters, too (like the John Mayer song).
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Every man boy woman and girl needs to hear this. As a woman approaching 70 and wanting to find someone this is really helped me a lot. Radical feminism has destroyed men and women in so many different ways. The men I meet in my age group are either so damaged, so bitter from their divorce, or they want a "friend with benefits" which to me is a disgusting option. I am no prude. But I would rather share my life with someone I can share mutual love and respect with, with old fashioned traditional values.... and traditional wife husband roles . I've experienced failed marriage and want to leave it behind. Almost 70, look like I'm 50 and I still have not found that man.... it's never too late for a man or a woman to look up to God and find the person that is meant for them
Amen! I can relate… will be 67 in August
Im 64, and all men should have to do it all for 6 months and they will learn the language of women. Being a single parent was the most profound experience ive had. I love empowering women now.
It was over ten years ago when I first heard this sermon. It gave me hope, encouragement and support during a time of turmoil that I was going through with a divorce from an abusive marriage. I had no support from my local church at the time but this sermon gave me the support I needed. Thank you for sharing again. This message blessed me tremendously
This needs to be heard again and again every month. Thank you Mark for your direct and harsh words!!! There are moments in life when the truth is spoken with all clarity and emphasis! This was one of those moments! I repent, ask my wife (married for 22 years) for forgiveness and take on my responsibility again! Thank you Pastor Mark Driscoll, best wishes and God's blessings from Switzerland. 🇨🇭
Glad you shared the back story of this moment and details of your ministry that many do not know about. Praying that God will continue to use you and bless your ministry.
Thank you pastor Mark for being open and vulnerable. Bible says “by their fruit you will know them”. Your preaching brought a lot of growth and fruits of the spirit and freedom into my life and lives of millions of people. And whatever people say on the internet will never influence the way I see your Ministry. God bless you and your wonderful family ❤
Thank you 4 standing in the gap. I needed to hear this. My dad was so indifferent and I gravitated toward men like him, emotionally distant, lost.
I've heard about you for many years. Didn't know much except your name. I saw the news about you addressing the corruption of the church this past weekend. And I have to say I highly respect and appreciate you, brother. Thank you for standing up for Jesus and walking in the call of our Lord. Be strong and courageous, good sir.
I have seen and listened to this sermon many times throughout the years.
Pastor Mark is one of the real ones.
My prayer is that God gets this message to my ex husband. I’m afraid to send it to him.
This hit home. I’m in tears calling out to Jesus. I never felt like I’m God’s daughter because I grew up in a hostile violent home & lived in that same environment my in my marriage. My heart breaks for my daughters. My grandchildren. My sons in laws, my self. & my ex who I pray for every day
Thank you Pastor Mark. I wish we knew you years ago ❤️🩹😔🥲
Maybe send it to someone who can send it to him.
We need more sermons like this. My father was a passive man (Ahab) and my stepmom was a conniving, narcissistic control freak (Jezebel). I was so confused and afraid.
Excellent sermon Pastor Mark. Always look forward to Wednesday and Saturday
Exactly what we need to hear. It has opened my eyes more clearly to be a protector and leader. It’s sad we treat women so terrible
This is the best message I have ever heard regarding men and marriage. Blew my hair back and I'm a 69 year old woman married for 43 years to the same man. If only more Pastors would be this bold the church could change the world. Amen. ❤
I pray that this message goes out to millions and millions of men all over the world. God bless you Ps Mark Driscoll
I do believe this is a word that is needed to be heard by all men, worldwide, today. I sent this to my boys because it is needed, desperately needed.
Thank you for being a bold man for the Lord. You spoke with honor & self control, even in your anger, it was righteous anger.
God bless you and thank you. 🙏❤️ I genuinely thank you.
I've had to walk in both rolls for my boys & it has been incredibly difficult. I blame no one but me, for my choices. I am His daughter & asked for forgiveness and repented for thinking that I knew best for me regarding a man & husband...
Every word you spoke was 100% accurate & true. 💔
This is a great and MUUCH NEEDED sermon. Not sure why any true Christian would find it controversial. This is a true spiritual father at work!!!!!!
I listened to the entire sermon this Resurrection weekend. I probably either heard it or heard about it when it first happened 10 years ago. I must admit while listening to it over these two days, I was initially harsh on Mark for his tone, calling men idiots & jokes. After listening to the entire sermon, though, I realize that God uses people differently. This is a sermon for an unrepentant, stubborn man. I don’t have permission to use that tone-but I’m glad someone did! Our 1st life coach called my husband an SOB, & I later became a life coach!😆
I’ll be addressing men who want to walk in purity, & I pray that the Holy Spirit will give me a balanced & piercing message as I share our testimony. The mega-church we attend would never allow that tone. It’s the Fred Price, early Juanita Bynum tone. I just need to be who I am in Christ & yield to the Holy Spirit as He flows through me.
I shared this video with one of my cousins. God is a consuming fire🔥, but sometimes, we have relegated him to Barney at the pub.😐
Pastor Mark impacted my life more than 10 years ago. Thank you for being a corageous voice and such a loving and respectful man
I'm a 52 year old women never married engaged a few times but those men kept cheating and lying. I never stayed bit still l wait for the right man . So l stay with God and feel he has the right person for me
Heal first what attract you to those men. Otherwise other men same demon. And you friendzone a future husband.
Thank you Pastor Mark- by this powerful message about 10 years ago more or less, I found you & have been a faithful follower. Thank you for sharing Jesus with the world & help men be more like Jesus. We love you- God bless you!🙏🏽
If there was ever a message to be preached, you did! You changed the lives of the multitudes and I pray that now with the internet the entire world sees it and grows up❤ God bless you, your ministry and your family❤
I see nothing controversial about this message. Pastor Mark is speaking the truth and I wish there were more like him to tell others this much needed truth!!
Wow!!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you for the courage to speak about an issue that is not spoken about in the Body of Christ.
Pastors don't have the courage or don't have the understanding of what many of their sheep(woman) are going through.
I have loved Jesus and walked with Him for 48 years and have yearned for a brave and bold brother to speak about this.
God bless you so much
Man I'll tell ya, I wish I heard this 30 years ago. Way to preach it Pastor Mark. Thank you for getting in my face
This will always be one of favorite series from you.
It is also not lost on me that at least one of the ‘Pastors’ that was involved in the subsequent disciplinary actions against you was forced to step down from his own Dallas based church due to inappropriate conduct with a female congregate which was not his wife.
Why is this controversial? This was an amazing sermon. What a wisdom what a man. May God bless you Pastor.
It’s only “controversial” to those who are convicted (and it applies to).
Oh my gosh ,the best message ,representing The heart of God , this is no joke , his family is sooo important to him ❤
My favorite sermon thus far..
I felt so protected and honored, thank you❤
As a wife, this is one of the best sermons I have ever heard and believe it should be part of any premarital course. Thank you for sharing! Love how you just get to the point and cut to the chase, we need more of it.
Hey, Pastor Mark, this was an amazing sermon… I’m so glad I got to hear it, and the testimony behind your passion and righteous anger. As someone who seeks out truth, no matter where it goes… I was blessed, convicted, encouraged and righteously challenged to do better, to protect and train others… Especially my children… Especially my boys. Your ministry is amazing and I hope one day to visit your church and to see how your art ministry functions so I may bring it home and build something new for our community.
Thank you for being part of my Church family. You are my brother.
I cried during this sermon. Pastors daughter. Divorced twice. First man left after 25 years of marriage and left me with 5 kids. A man who prophesied in church and taught Sunday school. 2nd husband promised to love me and my kids. A Catholic man who loved how much I loved God. But then he was cheating on me with my 16 year old daughter. So we divorced. He went on to have children and then marry my daughter. All the kids lives are a mess. I’m thankful God is a father for my son with Down Syndrome who lives with me. His father has seen him once in 10 years.
Thank you Pastor Mark. I don’t go to church any more here in Canada. But I love your teachings.
You have critics not because of what you said was wrong, but what you said was right and on point and convicted their very character great message so much conviction here for all of us!
So,sorry for you Mark and the pain you feel for us daughters of Yausha Messiah and Yahweh Most High. Wem Thank you for being a real man in elder ship. May, Most High continue to give you courage that is needed right now. We pray for you.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜
EXCELLENT message Pstr Mark!! I praise God for raising up real men like yourself to speak into the lives of men. May God bless you and your family and ministry!
When i finally told my spouse that i was SAd in my childhood after keeping it from him for over 10yrs, he couldn't have cared less. Your wife is blessed to have you care so much about her trauma, Pastor Mark.
Love this. So glad you stood up and told the bold, harsh truth. I see so many men I know in all the examples you gave. I know each one of them and they immediately popped into my head when you described them. Including my father. But the same issues for women. Including myself. It's like exactly how you are explaining to the extreme today and this is how society has decayed into the pit of hell that we are in. It's the battle of man vs. woman. Neither one knowing what role they are supposed to play. Too much pride on both sides to humbly figure it out so there is peace, prosperity and happiness.
I am glad you were courageous enough to preach this despite the consequence. People need to hear this. Telling someone the harsh truth, IN LOVE, is the most loving thing you can do.
Pastor Mike as a Christian woman and married twice......I Thank You for your boldness. If we had more men like you in the body of Christ & men like you in this world we would feel much safer! Even Christian men are bullies and ice Cold. I know I don't deserve it but it's difficult. So again Thank You man of God!!!!
Absolutely fantastic teaching! This message resonates with me. Repentance and Change starts today! Thank you Pastor Mark!
Your statement is perfect.
I just started recently watching you on you tube! You are one of the best ever!! The reason you are being so attacked is because you’re not preaching like the govt. wants you to. You tell the truth and don’t leave anything out!! They want a short little message , without truth. I’m praying you will keep speaking out!!🙏🙏🙏
He won't stop speaking...men like him stand firm...just like the word of God says...stand firm❤
Best Pastor ever. THANK YOU for always KEEPING IT REAL. God Bless you Pastor Mark.
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This sermon needs to be heard around the world 🌎
Thank you 🙏
Now imagine what the Women the Children at the Southern Border are going through. 😢
Shame on Politicians for allowing , condoning and assisting with such Atrocities .
I think everyone- married or not, make it female , needs to watch this message / and listen intentionally .