My heart bleeds for you. I lost my husband of 41 years on Christmas morning three years ago. It is brutal to lose the love of our life. And I so agree to lighting a candle in the darkness. I have little lights in dark corners or twinkle lights. There will light in my life. I will not indulge or live with darkness. Oh, the myriad of emotions you will experience will happen and it's normal. I hear love, deep love for your husband. His love will sustain and carry you and so shall your love for your son. I hear and see strength in you. Take your time. Be kind to yourself. I wish you peace in your heart. ❤
I'm sorry for your loss. You might find a bereavement groip helpful. Get to know some new faces ...and next year at new year's, you'll have some new friends who understand that you don't want to be alone, but you also don't need to force feelings of joy if your heart is still heavy. Peace.
It sounds like you and Kevin had a truly special relationship rooted in friendship and love. Thank you for sharing your stories with us this year and reminding us to cultivate love in our lives too. I look forward to following you into the New Year 💛. I’ve also been following in your wise steps and writing savour lists at the start of each month. They’ve made such a positive difference on my mental health. Yours read more like poetry than lists!
Such a kind observation, Helena! Thank you for sticking with me as I learn and process this experience in public. I love that you’re doing monthly savor lists. I still need to do mine for the winter season!
Girl I am soooo incredibly proud of you. I wish I had seen this video when you created it, so I will keep it as a saved video for future holidays that magnify the loss and absence of a loved one. Thank you for sharing your journey. I look forward to more videos to come with journaling and travelers notebooks. Hugs from Florida.
You are so sweet! So many of us feel the loss of loved ones around the holidays. I know I'm not alone. As for traveler's notebook/journaling videos, you know there will be more coming! I'm actually working on one right now!
I feel you, I also lost my husband last March after 32 years of being together. Like you I put his Christmas stocking on the mantelpiece next to mine. I’m sitting here alone today probably the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in this life. I wish you peace in your heart ❤️
It was good to see your video, and know that the struggles that I’m going through are felt and not unique to only myself. Losing my husband this year at 54 so I can relate. And I also said YES to doing things! Hugs from Beth in Minnesota
So that is what it is like to meet and have your soulmate. Alot of us don't know.Yeah- it doesn't feel like CHristmas as usual. It doesn't have to be that. I remember Christmases- they were not perfect, but I can remember my happy memories of what good we created together. And no one can take those CHristmas memories away from us. If I close my eyes, I can feel the textures of my childhood home. I don't have to own a house I can't afford. I can keep the memories that bring me joy and leave the ones that break my heart. SO let's focus on the comfort and joy and peace of the moment. I don't have to give gifts that people don't need. Yes hang Kevin''s stocking. Last night I dreamt of my father. He is still around reminding me of wisdom and peace. THey are sitll carrying us through hard times. ANd we will see them again. Cause they are still with us. DO what is manageable. DO things you want to do, do things for others when you want to.
"DO what is manageable. DO things you want to do, do things for others when you want to." This is such good advice. And yes, that IS what it's like to meet and have your soulmate...and to not get to grow old with them. I am so grateful for the years we had, though.
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My heart bleeds for you. I lost my husband of 41 years on Christmas morning three years ago. It is brutal to lose the love of our life. And I so agree to lighting a candle in the darkness. I have little lights in dark corners or twinkle lights. There will light in my life. I will not indulge or live with darkness. Oh, the myriad of emotions you will experience will happen and it's normal. I hear love, deep love for your husband. His love will sustain and carry you and so shall your love for your son. I hear and see strength in you. Take your time. Be kind to yourself. I wish you peace in your heart. ❤
Thank you, Joanne, for your strong and eloquent words. We will go forward with determination and kindness towards ourselves.
I'm sorry for your loss.
You might find a bereavement groip helpful. Get to know some new faces ...and next year at new year's, you'll have some new friends who understand that you don't want to be alone, but you also don't need to force feelings of joy if your heart is still heavy.
Peace.
I appreciate your thoughtful advice!
It sounds like you and Kevin had a truly special relationship rooted in friendship and love. Thank you for sharing your stories with us this year and reminding us to cultivate love in our lives too. I look forward to following you into the New Year 💛.
I’ve also been following in your wise steps and writing savour lists at the start of each month. They’ve made such a positive difference on my mental health. Yours read more like poetry than lists!
Such a kind observation, Helena! Thank you for sticking with me as I learn and process this experience in public. I love that you’re doing monthly savor lists. I still need to do mine for the winter season!
Girl I am soooo incredibly proud of you. I wish I had seen this video when you created it, so I will keep it as a saved video for future holidays that magnify the loss and absence of a loved one. Thank you for sharing your journey. I look forward to more videos to come with journaling and travelers notebooks. Hugs from Florida.
You are so sweet! So many of us feel the loss of loved ones around the holidays. I know I'm not alone.
As for traveler's notebook/journaling videos, you know there will be more coming! I'm actually working on one right now!
I feel you, I also lost my husband last March after 32 years of being together. Like you I put his Christmas stocking on the mantelpiece next to mine. I’m sitting here alone today probably the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in this life. I wish you peace in your heart ❤️
I’m sending you so much love right now. ❤️❤️❤️
@ thank you 🙏
You might be alone at the moment, but you’re not alone in the world. Be kind to yourself today. This is hard!
Merry Christmas. Sending big huggs. The is a RUclips channel called one happy widow. Leo is great. You might get some nuggets from her✨️
Merry Christmas! Hugs right back at you…and thanks for the tip. I will definitely check it out!
Merry Christmas Jenn…sending you a hug ❤🎄❤
Hugs! Merry Christmas to you too
It was good to see your video, and know that the struggles that I’m going through are felt and not unique to only myself. Losing my husband this year at 54 so I can relate. And I also said YES to doing things! Hugs from Beth in Minnesota
Hugs to you too, Beth. While I wouldn’t wish this suffering on anyone, it is nice to know we’re not alone.
So that is what it is like to meet and have your soulmate. Alot of us don't know.Yeah- it doesn't feel like CHristmas as usual. It doesn't have to be that. I remember Christmases- they were not perfect, but I can remember my happy memories of what good we created together. And no one can take those CHristmas memories away from us. If I close my eyes, I can feel the textures of my childhood home. I don't have to own a house I can't afford. I can keep the memories that bring me joy and leave the ones that break my heart. SO let's focus on the comfort and joy and peace of the moment. I don't have to give gifts that people don't need. Yes hang Kevin''s stocking. Last night I dreamt of my father. He is still around reminding me of wisdom and peace. THey are sitll carrying us through hard times. ANd we will see them again. Cause they are still with us. DO what is manageable. DO things you want to do, do things for others when you want to.
"DO what is manageable. DO things you want to do, do things for others when you want to." This is such good advice. And yes, that IS what it's like to meet and have your soulmate...and to not get to grow old with them. I am so grateful for the years we had, though.