I appreciate seeing Bre react with strong raw emotion at times, not because she’s in pain (I wouldn’t wish that on anyone!) but because it’s validating to know that the damage caused by narcissism is very real and relatable. Gaslighting was the norm in my family, and covert narcissistic abuse can be so “invisible” that I can easily gaslight myself into believing I’m overreacting. Thank you always for educating us, Dr. Vaknin.
Thank you Mr. Vaknin❤ From my own experience: Narcissists destroy your self-confidence down to the last crumb. It takes a long time to find yourself again. it's a long way. But then you are the powerful person you always wanted to be.
it seems like the never ending story with these people - only solution is to free oneself from them, however it may come about and with whatever means one finds works...few people understands this - don´t ignore the threath to your life from these "people" ...save yourselves !...🙏❤
I watched a lot of your content but this interview is one of your best. This Lady's presence must have magnified your synthesis capabilities.Awsome work 👏👏👏
"remnants of the true self". Jesus mary and joseph. This is it... The maternal protective instinct kicks in... Jesus this is it. Thank you Vaknin . "Im going to love you... Like no one has". Wow
Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This After Years Of Emotional Abuse And Psychological Abuse I Wanted To Give Up I Lost Myself I Went Through Horrific Loneliness And Sadness. I Became Addicted To Wanting The Narcissist Acceptance. I Became Severly Sick Mentally.I Began Researching A Therapist And Life Coach. I Am So Very Proud To Say That I Have 4 Months Of No Contact. Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal.
This was a phenomenal interview! Bre is all of us as she reacts and responds to the process of how the abuse takes place and unfolds. I am so grateful for the authenticity of these two! Thank you!
Anyone who went through it... Immediately finds comfort in his voice and words. He speaks them almost exactly. It's like a poet who is writing poems for you. It's unbelievable how fucking crazy it all is when it's over. You're like Clint Eastwood in the middle of a cowboy western... Saying "what the fuck?".
@Mushroom445 witnessed someone going thru such a situation...horrifying..bystanders get whiplash too.. Truly not idolizing the man..just THANKFUL for someone imparting the knowledge
To tell you the truth I married a narcissist is ironic to say but it was the toughest way for me to learn to love myself to welcome myself and see that although I did not have the narcissistic disorder I managed to see my narcissistic traits and understood that in fact both we non-narcissists and they are all fighting with the weapons that we have and all of them and we are victims in the end.
I'm married to one as well. Its a sick, sad debilitating way to live. Arguments for absolutely nothing like toddlers. All I can do is pray and love myself until my grand finale ❤
O.M.Gosh! 😮 Holy Mackerel! Amazing... the best interview I've heard so far, answering so many of the questions I've asked and never found the answers to. Profound, unbelievably helpful, and so grateful you have both shared this! Thank you so much! Words cannot fully express the feeling and message! My mind has been blown! 🤯 🙏
Thanks Professor Vaknin, great interview! Funny and much more interesting to listen to than those where you simply steamroll the "experts". ..Your instruction to consult the Healing and Recovery playlist was very graciously managed. I wish I could sit in your lecture hall, and hear all about entraining from you. Thanks also to Bre, you seem lovely. I wish you the best.
Hearing Professor Vaknin and Bre, I suddenly remember the pathetic smear campaign. Her younger brother didn’t buy onto it. From her mother’s reaction she too did not buy it. I suspect her divorce attorney appears to have, but her experience was limited ( and she was the ex’s second attorney, the first was disbarred). The ex’s second attourney required my help comprehending my 401k (retirement plan), and my highly experienced attorney ( with help from the lead council for the company I worked for) wrote the divorce agreement. It was educational at the time to watch how inept my ex was a navigating the divorce proceedings. Contrary to the image of herself from the shared fantasy. Fortunately, like Bre I had supportive professional friends that refused to let me feel sorry for myself.
In one of your previous videos, you said that narcissism is a choice and that when a narcissist ends up in prison, their narcissism disappears. Am I right in understanding that in prison they still don’t develop empathy? That having empathy for a narcissist is not a choice? Because the lack of empathy is connected to brain changes in their childhood that cannot be undone?
This made me cry. I’ve always wondered how my mother became a narcissist. Being that my grandmother was so nice and opposite of her. She did have a 13 kids. I guess it makes sense that she might of failed my mother at a young age. Growing up my father did step in and I would agree it helps me in some way fulfill what my mother was unable to give me growing up. This video has been so helpful in learning more and understanding her. I wish it was different but through lots of therapy I’ve learned my mom will never change. Now I have kids and it makes me sad because I’m so different as a mother and I can’t imagine even though I lived through it as a child and even now to this day I’ve done so much research and I continue to learn and heal and create boundaries with her. She loves my kids and they see her for who she is. They love her but she is too much at times for them as well. So I’ve taught them boundaries as well and to speak up if needed. Anyways thanks for this video.
So well explained, thank you so much. This makes the pain and suffering tolerable. I really don't know where I would be without this understanding. I have started reading the Malignant Self-love book also, it all is so interesting and very addictive!!! Im going to watch all your podcasts...might take me a few years though 😂
my daughter has had this for a lifetime, we adopted her at 3 from Bulgaria orphanage and we did not make her this way she has always needed sooo much attention and bossy and now at 25 she is a huge mess!! i had pull away in last 2 years and now no contact. I wish i could see a brain scan, does not make a difference she has huge problems, and alot is from the wound she suffered when her mom gave her up for adoption
My narcissistic father arrived onto the scene full time, when I was three years old, after being laid off from a job in the oil field. He destroyed the hard work my mother had put into my first three years. She put me on a solid foundation and I was bold enough to confront my dad when I was four years old. He made sure I would never confront him again with the impression he left on me. That beating just seemed to never end. So I do not agree with the data.
What data? Are you a NPD person? If not, your reasoning doesn’t apply. He never claimed there weren’t abusive fathers. Those can certainly lead to other pathologies.
Dear Professor - please would you analyse the clinicians in the LL miscarriage of justice case that happened at COCH in the UK? I thought of how you said medical doctors would be the most dangerous category of narcissist. Thank you ❤
Every video from Prof Sam is GOLD
@@desouzarm totally agree
I appreciate seeing Bre react with strong raw emotion at times, not because she’s in pain (I wouldn’t wish that on anyone!) but because it’s validating to know that the damage caused by narcissism is very real and relatable. Gaslighting was the norm in my family, and covert narcissistic abuse can be so “invisible” that I can easily gaslight myself into believing I’m overreacting. Thank you always for educating us, Dr. Vaknin.
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Thank you Mr. Vaknin❤ From my own experience: Narcissists destroy your self-confidence down to the last crumb. It takes a long time to find yourself again. it's a long way. But then you are the powerful person you always wanted to be.
We're no longer victims but survivors! Sending you love and light. Continue thriving ✨️ we've got this 💪
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it seems like the never ending story with these people - only solution is to free oneself from them, however it may come about and with whatever means one finds works...few people understands this - don´t ignore the threath to your life from these "people" ...save yourselves !...🙏❤
I watched a lot of your content but this interview is one of your best. This Lady's presence must have magnified your synthesis capabilities.Awsome work 👏👏👏
"remnants of the true self". Jesus mary and joseph. This is it... The maternal protective instinct kicks in... Jesus this is it. Thank you Vaknin . "Im going to love you... Like no one has". Wow
You're an absolute legend, Sam.
Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This After Years Of Emotional Abuse And Psychological Abuse I Wanted To Give Up I Lost Myself I Went Through Horrific Loneliness And Sadness. I Became Addicted To Wanting The Narcissist Acceptance. I Became Severly Sick Mentally.I Began Researching A Therapist And Life Coach. I Am So Very Proud To Say That I Have 4 Months Of No Contact.
Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal.
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I am grateful for all your work in turning on the light for the survivors of narcissistic abuse ❤
This was a phenomenal interview! Bre is all of us as she reacts and responds to the process of how the abuse takes place and unfolds. I am so grateful for the authenticity of these two! Thank you!
Is he not the best with this subject...so needed
Yes. Straight talk.
… he is the best
Yes! ❤
Anyone who went through it... Immediately finds comfort in his voice and words. He speaks them almost exactly. It's like a poet who is writing poems for you. It's unbelievable how fucking crazy it all is when it's over. You're like Clint Eastwood in the middle of a cowboy western... Saying "what the fuck?".
@Mushroom445 witnessed someone going thru such a situation...horrifying..bystanders get whiplash too..
Truly not idolizing the man..just THANKFUL for someone imparting the knowledge
To tell you the truth I married a narcissist is ironic to say but it was the toughest way for me to learn to love myself to welcome myself and see that although I did not have the narcissistic disorder I managed to see my narcissistic traits and understood that in fact both we non-narcissists and they are all fighting with the weapons that we have and all of them and we are victims in the end.
I'm married to one as well. Its a sick, sad debilitating way to live. Arguments for absolutely nothing like toddlers. All I can do is pray and love myself until my grand finale ❤
Beautiful vulnerable gut wrenching devastating this is pure gold I will cherish this one ☝️ and I’m only thirteen minutes in thank you professor
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O.M.Gosh! 😮 Holy Mackerel! Amazing... the best interview I've heard so far, answering so many of the questions I've asked and never found the answers to.
Profound, unbelievably helpful, and so grateful you have both shared this! Thank you so much! Words cannot fully express the feeling and message! My mind has been blown! 🤯 🙏
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Thank’s Professor Vaknin!
We had the same life. I feel you 💯 🤍 sweet soul
@@LvndrBeez Bless u! 💗
Thank you both Prof. Vaknin and Bre for this wonderful interview. It is definitely one of my
favorites.
18:20 "the Freud Self"
Best Freudian slip ever!!
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Same partner 40 years.! We all mnow now. No 40 years for us. Sam vaknin breaks the cycle. Thank you sir.
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One of his best videos so far! Thank you!
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Thanks Professor Vaknin, great interview! Funny and much more interesting to listen to than those where you simply steamroll the "experts". ..Your instruction to consult the Healing and Recovery playlist was very graciously managed. I wish I could sit in your lecture hall, and hear all about entraining from you. Thanks also to Bre, you seem lovely. I wish you the best.
Hearing Professor Vaknin and Bre, I suddenly remember the pathetic smear campaign. Her younger brother didn’t buy onto it. From her mother’s reaction she too did not buy it. I suspect her divorce attorney appears to have, but her experience was limited ( and she was the ex’s second attorney, the first was disbarred). The ex’s second attourney required my help comprehending my 401k (retirement plan), and my highly experienced attorney ( with help from the lead council for the company I worked for) wrote the divorce agreement. It was educational at the time to watch how inept my ex was a navigating the divorce proceedings. Contrary to the image of herself from the shared fantasy. Fortunately, like Bre I had supportive professional friends that refused to let me feel sorry for myself.
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This point at 1:00:00, is so important.. nothing the partner could have changed
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I’ve completely lost count of the number of times I’ve said “that’s his best one yet” 😅
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In one of your previous videos, you said that narcissism is a choice and that when a narcissist ends up in prison, their narcissism disappears. Am I right in understanding that in prison they still don’t develop empathy? That having empathy for a narcissist is not a choice? Because the lack of empathy is connected to brain changes in their childhood that cannot be undone?
Behaviors change, not the underlying pathology.
Thank you, Dr. Vaknin for existing!🙏
WOW Doc you are right on.
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This made me cry. I’ve always wondered how my mother became a narcissist. Being that my grandmother was so nice and opposite of her. She did have a 13 kids. I guess it makes sense that she might of failed my mother at a young age. Growing up my father did step in and I would agree it helps me in some way fulfill what my mother was unable to give me growing up. This video has been so helpful in learning more and understanding her. I wish it was different but through lots of therapy I’ve learned my mom will never change. Now I have kids and it makes me sad because I’m so different as a mother and I can’t imagine even though I lived through it as a child and even now to this day I’ve done so much research and I continue to learn and heal and create boundaries with her. She loves my kids and they see her for who she is. They love her but she is too much at times for them as well. So I’ve taught them boundaries as well and to speak up if needed. Anyways thanks for this video.
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So well explained, thank you so much. This makes the pain and suffering tolerable. I really don't know where I would be without this understanding. I have started reading the Malignant Self-love book also, it all is so interesting and very addictive!!! Im going to watch all your podcasts...might take me a few years though 😂
Would be grateful if you could post a review on my book’s Amazon page.
Abuse interwoven with gaslighting. An all-weather bodysuit.
Wow..thats good
my daughter has had this for a lifetime, we adopted her at 3 from Bulgaria orphanage and we did not make her this way she has always needed sooo much attention and bossy and now at 25 she is a huge mess!! i had pull away in last 2 years and now no contact. I wish i could see a brain scan, does not make a difference she has huge problems, and alot is from the wound she suffered when her mom gave her up for adoption
THANK YOU PROFESSOR!
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So am I to understand that narcissists usually arent physically abusive unless there are some anti-social component at play?
Antisocial or sadistic.
This is a very insightful and helpful video. Thank you both so much!
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Bless you...felt the 😢....thank you ❤
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42 years. Traumatised.
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Consequences are for life
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It was a good interview ,absolutely!
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You will build your identity during the entire life after that, it will not heal in 18 months, just to know 😢
I appreciate your videos SIR✊
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Omg my mom outsourced all her ego functions! Therefore took over all my siblings it just sucks u know!?!?
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My narcissistic father arrived onto the scene full time, when I was three years old, after being laid off from a job in the oil field. He destroyed the hard work my mother had put into my first three years. She put me on a solid foundation and I was bold enough to confront my dad when I was four years old. He made sure I would never confront him again with the impression he left on me. That beating just seemed to never end.
So I do not agree with the data.
What data? Are you a NPD person? If not, your reasoning doesn’t apply. He never claimed there weren’t abusive fathers. Those can certainly lead to other pathologies.
Yes. Me personally. All of them. It's awful.
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Wowzers 25:05
mindblowing ,
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Dear Professor - please would you analyse the clinicians in the LL miscarriage of justice case that happened at COCH in the UK? I thought of how you said medical doctors would be the most dangerous category of narcissist. Thank you ❤
Perfection! 🎉😂❤
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Long story short: Cuz they petty! 😂😜
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Wow!!
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