In the 90's I worked on the AIDS wards as a volunteer. I was only a teen yet those wonderful men taught me so much about life, love, acceptance. I had hoped to bring a bit of warmth and kindness into their lives but instead they ended up giving me the best of themselves at their weakest moments. Terry reminds me so much of my friend Paul. I am the lady I am today due to their influence and life experience. Thank you for sharing Terry's story, what an incredible heart.
Moms are love. My five year high school reunion was 1984. One of my friends told me a story of one of our classmates who died from AIDS. His mother had disowned him. I had never thought about what if I had a gay child. I thought about it and took no time to realize I would love my child unconditionally. Added that condition to my future wife list of conditions.
@@luvsilly60 I can't imagine disowning my child for ANYthing! Our daughter, our miracle child because I had terrible endometriosis and she was the only one to make it to full term, recently told me she was gay. She was SO afraid her daddy would despise her for it but of course he didn't. Children are precious and we should nurture them to the best of our ability. I hope you're having a lovely week❤️
She should be everyone's mom! If I had lived in London, I would have wanted to pick her up in a car and take her to see Terry everyday so she didn't have to walk and take the bus. Bless both of them and I know they are both together!❤❤❤
I watched It's a Sin 2 weeks ago. And I've fallen down this rabbit hole of these stories and the people affected so viciously by this disease. I can't get over the sadness and the shame and the ignorance of it all. I'm ashamed at myself for not knowing more about it. I'm in my 30s and I want to grow from watching these videos. Learn and grow and remember the beautiful people who are no longer with us. May they never be forgotten and may they rest in peace x
I’m more or less in the same situation as you; in my 30s and trying to read and see as much as possible about this topic. We can’t change the past, but we can try to learn from it.May Terry and all the other wonderful people who succumbed to this horrible virus Rest In Peace. And let us never forget
There are so many bits of media and plays and documentaries about that period. Growing up in the 80s, subconsciously knowing I was gay, it left me utterly terrified. The absolute homophobic hatred that ran through society back then was utterly unbelievable by today's standards. Some people with very bad memories go on about the 80s as if it was a golden era - they seem to think they lived in an episode of Top of the Pops. The reality was quite different - it was a deeply unpleasant time in so many ways. Rocketing crime and unemployment, violence and social attitudes that were so nasty they'd curdle milk. If you can get hold of it, I recommend watching "My Night with Reg". It was originally a stage play, and is still sometimes shown. But the BBC made a drama out of it. It's about a group of gay friends who went to uni together and were badly affected by HIV, largely because they subsequently found out that they'd all slept with "Reg".
Ritchie dying destroyed me. Found myself yelling at the tv when his mother pulled all the garbage moves she pulled at the end of his life. It is a show I will watch again and again in the future. So well made. It showed their humanity, bigots generally cannot see the humanity when they spout nonsense like ‘it’s God’s wrath’ and homophobic rhetoric. This show, it humanised its characters.
@@nordantill5095I too am in my 30’s and doing the same. But I have had previous exposure to this world. I’ve had patients with HIV. They are treated like any other patient now. I have never had any fear, including when exposed to things like their blood. The treatments available can take someone on the brink of dying from AIDS to being healthy, in a relatively short time. So all my research into the beginning of this virus, it’s so very different now, and that makes me happy. We’ve come a long way. But what is remembered, lives. Let us learn and never forget.
I’m not even halfway through this doco and already I’m blown away at how incredible this man and his mother are. Absolutely incredible, wonderful people.
@@GailCarland-nb1hs that’s really sad to hear. Thank you for sharing that. Terry’s mum was an absolute gem of a mother. It’s amazing to know someone from that time was so accepting and embraced and loved her son unconditionally until the end. May they all rest in eternal peace.
I say the same thing all the time. The cocktails, antiretrovirals and now new things like PrEP have made enormous strides in fighting this awful disease. Because of that like you said, HIV/AIDS is not the “death sentence” it once was and the world don’t seem to be as concerned. However, this virus, this disease is still out there and it’s still very dangerous. People are still dying from it. Not on the scale they once were of course, but there is still no true cure. These people like Terry and Tom Joslin, Mark Massi and Ryan White are one of the the reasons we’ve come as far as we have and they deserve to be remembered. They deserve to have their stories told for decades to come.
Unfortunately it is now affecting Black and Hispanic populations in the southern states at alarming rates. There is still a stigma associated with HIV especially in the south. It is far from over.
I cannot understand how anyone could write anything horrible-such a lovely man, so charismatic, I wish I had met him, and I cried when I watched his funeral. RIP.
After viewing this video, I am questioning where is the respect and love that was obviously apparent back in the time Terry was ill? I must wonder if a tribute such as this would be possible today. I admire all that were involved with this effort and express my sincere regards to Terry's family, friends and associates. I have a son who is gay; and while, he hasn't been infected with the AIDS virus, I still have concern for his safety and welfare. May this world come to know the peace that was displayed throughout the story of Terry's illness. Love to all.
Excellent documentary. Desperately sad treatment wasn't found soon enough to save Terry, what a character. Fell in love with him and his mum, and such a beautiful relationship between them. RIP
I lost my dear friend and roommate in 1996 to this horrible virus. We were unlikely roommates and maybe not the roommate he would have chosen but everyone else disappeared when he started to get sick. His family only wanted a call when the end was near. Thank God for Aid Project LA! They helped us make the journey a little easier. Terry so reminds me of Paulie...I only wished he had a Mum so warm and brave. When the end came I said to myself "I hope I never have to go through this ever again..." Three months later I found out my brother had tested positive. He died in 2005. At least, my family was there for him, at least. When will this beast be slain? Thank you Terry and his family for being so brave and helping to change hearts and minds.
@True Blue I'm not sure how to take your comment? Are you trying to say that because I was unlikely roommates is the reason Paulie died?!! If I had been gay, too, he would have lived?? Please expand so I don't assume you're just a heartless troll.
@WILLIAMS F1 RACING. Oh, I'm so sorry. There is no pain greater than losing a child. I watched my parents suffer that pain when my brother passed away. Sending you and your family big hugs of comfort until you meet your little angel again.
Thank you for this. I have never forgotten Terry, nor will I ever. I saw his TV appearances as they happened and wept for him. I have this documentary somewhere on videotape and had until right now repeatedly failed to source it online. I am so grateful that you have posted it here. Terry (and his adoring Mum) were wonderful people. Ordinary, everyday people. With the courage of lions. I'm sure there are many thousands of people who remember him. You're still with me Terry. God bless you and Mum.
Terrry first appeared in public on a morning talk show called DAY TO DAY. This show was hosted by a then-popular presenter, Robert Kilroy Silk. Terry's lovely Mum sat right behind him. He explained how he felt about being HIV positive and how he intended to fight the illness. He also said - importantly - that he personally would never dream of not telling others that he was HIV positive, nor ever think of deceiving a partner. He was a truly amazing ambassador and he touched countless hearts. He was very special.
My wife new Terry and lived with him in Lotts Rd Fulham for a while. I got to know Terry through my wife. He was as how the video portrayed him. Terry's mum was a wonderful woman and Terry's partner could not allow himself to be filmed for fear of losing his job as being gay then was still not accepted in many walks of life. Society has come a long way since the early 80s thankfully but sadly is still playing catch up!
I feel so much sympathy for people who have to suffer from this terrible virus.This early documentary shows how terribly brave Terry Madely is and how supportive his mother is!What a super woman and what a great personality he was; considering how I'll he was!!!
Is it just me but i think Pattie should have won an award for this Film the way she was with everyone was beautiful she was a superb TV presenter with a heart of pure gold, i remember her when i was a kid growing up in the 80s and early 90s she has such a sweet way with her rip to both of them.
57:03 - 57:41 the letter he wrote his mum- the most loving words any mother could want from her son. And she was exactly as he described her- what a dear mother. Her love for her children is strong and unwavering.
This programme is difficult to watch. If only he had lived long enough for combination therapy. His Mum is something else. The doctor is great as well. Thanks for posting I appreciate it.
What a lovely, cheerful and brave soul, and what a fantastic mom. Seeing them on the talk show together warmed my heart. Terry was so brave to share as he did - and the interviewer was also brave and was so open and authentic in a time when there was still a lot of prejudice about AIDS and misinformation (outside of the scientific community) about its transmission. Thank you so much for sharing!!
*Rest in eternal peace, Terry, you are one of many brave unsung heroes. Bless your heart.💜❤🧡💛💚💙* *I lost my best friend to aids in 1994. I held his hand when he died. He was only 28, and he died just before the first medications became available. I will never forget what I witnessed in the late 80's and early 90's. Never.* *And i learned that the only thing that matters in the end is love, to talk about unfinished business before it is too late, and dont ever think that a dying person doesn't know that they dont have much time left.*
What a sweet and funny guy. Sadly he died before I was born but I would have loved to have known him, and his mum was utterly amazing too. Thank you for sharing
i am terry madeley‘s great niece, from what my mum has told me of terry he was truly a wonderful man and thank you to however uploaded the video i found it through curiosity ❤️❤️
What a brave and charismatic man so cheerful and happy right until the end and I couldn't help but laugh when he was having a crufty cigarette in the hospital toilet, loved it. What a nice caring man. 🌞
I’m Terrys niece. My Nan died of a heart attack on Christmas Day (Terry’s birthday) in 1989. She has just spent Christmas Day with my Mum and Dad and was going home with Karen. She got off the bus and was dead before her foot hit the pavement. Karen died in 2002 of early onset dementia.
too busy paying crappy people massive salaries for shoddy work at the expense of the poor. Stop paying the tv license people. Just inform them and if they come knocking ,don't say or sign anything, just simply shut the door in their faces. job done
It's sad but hopeful story at the same time. I think of all the "Terrys" that are still with us nowadays thanks to the advanced medicine. We don't know them because there are no such beautiful documentaries as this one in these times, but I'm happy that many beautiful souls like Terry's are still around us, making this world brighter every day. RIP dear Terry, wish you and many more would be hanging out with us now.
RIP Terry and Patti. Gosh Terry looked so much like his mother. Too many men and women taken too soon. I watched this years ago and many times since. I realised today that a nursing colleague and dear friend from the 1980's probably died of HIV AIDS. I make that assumption because I was told on a social media reunion site he died of the most terrible and incurable illness. So in his memory I'm sat here crying. He was just like Terry, good looking, articulate and had the best sense of humour, equal to any professional comedian. God bless to everyone touched by this disease.
Terry’s Mum was absolutely beautiful. That was a Mother’s love. I’m crying with her. What an amazing human being. Terry’s younger sister was lovely, too. ♥️
Terrys attitude was astonishing .In the face of certain death his ‘band played On ‘ his personality didn’t change, it stayed at the same tempo ,no dwelling in self pity ,just same same beat & cheerful disposition. I can imagine he’s The kind of fella who in another life & dark time in the Trenches you’d want next to U as U & you’re mates were about to go over the top to storm German trenches .While others would be shaking certain soon they would soon be killed ,Terry would be there saying cmon boys lets get on with it & get these bastards .I could truly see him being a brave .brave soldier because he’s one brave son of b here .No self pity or taking his sh;t out on those around him just getting on with it , not changing the way way he treats others or seeking pity . What a brave camp as can be ,cool lovely guy ,he was . RIP Tel x
remember watching this programme about 30 years ago and turning to my mother and said I would have the diamante glove at mine. We laughed so much at the thought. RIP Terry x
May he rest in peace. And what a wonderful mother he had. I chuckled when she said she got pregnant at 47. My mom had me rather older in age too. Now with technology I've seen women pregnant at 49 and have a healthy baby..But back then I Reckoned it was a bit different. She went through a lot her son having that disease then a daughter with Down syndrome. Bless her. I know she must be with God now.
There are great lessons to learn from Terry. Humor and strong relationships with family and friends are one of the best ways to deal with any chronic illness. May his sprit be lifted up and his family blessed.
He still looked so handsome when he was in the hospital at the start of the show. Of course he was very thin, but so composed despite this death sentence. Yes, the process of death is where the fear lies.
@@arikkatzenberg4498 No. Do your research. It is very well documentated that AZT in the beginning was highly toxic. It was an abandoned cancer drug discarded because of it's fatal toxicity, resurrected because of the cynical view AIDS patients were going to die anyway.
He had a really positive outlook on his life. The tragedy is that if he caught the virus 10 years later, it wouldn't be a death sentence. He was a victim of time.
M M this life can be unfair but we have to understand sometimes we make life difficult because we make those choices. Here's the thing if people follow Jesus Christ(truly) they won't experience those unfair events that happen in the lifestyle.
Monique, you are barking up the wrong tree preaching your beliefs to me. If for one minute you think gay individuals chose their sexuality that shows you how ignorant you are. Do you have any friends that are gay? Obviously not! I suggest before you before you continue to preach you need to STOP and take a good look at yourself. I was born and raised a catholic. If I recall correctly Jesus Christ would not approve of your behavior judging others that he created.
As a Mortician I can remember being very concerned about contracting AIDs in the late eighties as we had to prepare the people that passed with this horrible disease! So glad they have much better medications and treatments available today. I hate to see people suffer like this. Thanks for posting.
Oooo a mortician.... that's a hell of a career! Takes a stronger human mind. I always wanted to go to school for that myself. I can imagine that it was quite scary preparing the deceased when aids came about and everyone was freaking. How long have you been a mortician for?
I Goggled Terry's actress friend Anna Gilbert (who had cervical cancer) and she seems alive and well. Pattie Coldwell who produced this film as well as narrating and interviewing Terry sadly died of a brain tumour at the age of 50. I'm gonna guess that Terry's amazing mum Lil is also gone☹️.
"I don't think someone as young as me should be going to so many funerals" says it all about the loss of young lives during that time. So many beautiful lives lost.
Such a confident and wonderful man. He feels the emotions of others and is a very necessary addition to society. This world is lack such animated and grand people. I think god cuts their lives short because he wants them back in heaven. I look forward to meeting him when I go home.
@@sarahdaw6648 why the same could be said about me? We are humans and we make mistakes, that is why we repent to God but for me to go around and support a lifestyle and never repent to God then make questions about him or his existence, then you want me to say God bless someone. That is not right. We judge what is in front of us and by our actions. Then God will judge us by our hearts and our actions. Please stop supporting demon ideas and spread them
It makes me feel very happy that Terry still looked so handsome just hours before he died. Maybe thiner and weaker for sure but not like so many horrific images we had seen before and since of an average patient dying of Aids. He wasn't destroyed beyond recognition, Aids didn't take away: no his spirit, neither his sparkle.
That is one amazing mother, bless her,it's sad to think they're both gone now....I wonder what happened to the sister? They're all so lovely, such a loving family
What a lovely family, Terry, his mother and the little sister. Does anybody know if she and Terrys partner are around today? It would be great to se a follow up so many years later. To hear their perspective of hiv/aids then and now.
I'm old enough to remember the AIDS pandemic in the 80s, but I was young enough to be sheltered from most of it. I have been watching all the documentaries I can on this subject. I adore Terry and his sweet mom but can I just say, she has GOT to be the woman that Mrs. Doubtfire was created in the image of.
I remmber watching this when it forst went out. I remember Terry on that week was it back in 1987 when BBC1 and Channel 4 did a week of shows about Aids. I was so shocked when he died. and Patty did a wonderful show about him. R.I.P Terry gone but never forgoton.
What remains to be said about such a beautiful person, attached to his mother and friends, ready to bring smiles in other people's dark moments... That it would have been an honor to know him, and learn from him when the right time comes to leave the scene... And he did it in the most touching and at the same time funny way... only those who manage to do it and I'm happy to have been able to "get to know" him in this documentary.
I’m not British I don’t even know this guy but I’m so impressed with how he dealt with this dreadful disease and the idiotic behavior of the world he was an amazing person
The idiotic behaviour of this world must surely include the unhealthy proclivities and reckless promiscuity which ruins and ends the lives of people like Terry.
I know. Very sad. She was popular and well-respected due to her down-to-earth reporting and sympathetic nature. She and Terry became good friends. I doubt he'd have agreed to be filmed by any other journalist/team.
In the 90's I worked on the AIDS wards as a volunteer. I was only a teen yet those wonderful men taught me so much about life, love, acceptance. I had hoped to bring a bit of warmth and kindness into their lives but instead they ended up giving me the best of themselves at their weakest moments. Terry reminds me so much of my friend Paul.
I am the lady I am today due to their influence and life experience. Thank you for sharing Terry's story, what an incredible heart.
That's beautiful 🖤 sometimes we find the most incredible inspiration and knowledge in the places we least expect to.
@@morgue2918 So wonderfully true. Big hugs from Ohio.
@@Dobviews 🖤🤗
@@morgue2918very wise and true words indeed ❤
I love his mom. True unconditional love. That’s how I feel about my children
Moms are love. My five year high school reunion was 1984. One of my friends told me a story of one of our classmates who died from AIDS. His mother had disowned him. I had never thought about what if I had a gay child. I thought about it and took no time to realize I would love my child unconditionally. Added that condition to my future wife list of conditions.
@@luvsilly60 I can't imagine disowning my child for ANYthing! Our daughter, our miracle child because I had terrible endometriosis and she was the only one to make it to full term, recently told me she was gay. She was SO afraid her daddy would despise her for it but of course he didn't. Children are precious and we should nurture them to the best of our ability. I hope you're having a lovely week❤️
I don't care if either or both my children grow up and tell me they're gay, Happy and healthy is All I care about 🥰❤️🕊️
Yes not to mention she didn't abort her child with down syndrome
My uncle died of AIDS in 93. I am so thankful for the life prolonging medications we have today for those that suffer with this horrendous disease.
I wish they had the medication available today when Elizabeth Glaser’s daughter Ariel died from it in 1988 and her mom 6 years later.
Terry's mum is a good solid English mum. They don't come any better.
She should be everyone's mom! If I had lived in London, I would have wanted to pick her up in a car and take her to see Terry everyday so she didn't have to walk and take the bus. Bless both of them and I know they are both together!❤❤❤
What a courageous woman and mum, Terry had an amazing backbone and support from his mother. Really wished he lived longer, rip Terry.
this is exactly like a mother should be!!!!! what an amazing woman. this is a beautiful story ♡ thank you for sharing.
I watched It's a Sin 2 weeks ago. And I've fallen down this rabbit hole of these stories and the people affected so viciously by this disease. I can't get over the sadness and the shame and the ignorance of it all. I'm ashamed at myself for not knowing more about it. I'm in my 30s and I want to grow from watching these videos. Learn and grow and remember the beautiful people who are no longer with us. May they never be forgotten and may they rest in peace x
I’m more or less in the same situation as you; in my 30s and trying to read and see as much as possible about this topic. We can’t change the past, but we can try to learn from it.May Terry and all the other wonderful people who succumbed to this horrible virus Rest In Peace. And let us never forget
Find the hole where Anthony FAUCI fell in. For some people Mass Murder is an art form.
There are so many bits of media and plays and documentaries about that period. Growing up in the 80s, subconsciously knowing I was gay, it left me utterly terrified. The absolute homophobic hatred that ran through society back then was utterly unbelievable by today's standards. Some people with very bad memories go on about the 80s as if it was a golden era - they seem to think they lived in an episode of Top of the Pops. The reality was quite different - it was a deeply unpleasant time in so many ways. Rocketing crime and unemployment, violence and social attitudes that were so nasty they'd curdle milk.
If you can get hold of it, I recommend watching "My Night with Reg". It was originally a stage play, and is still sometimes shown. But the BBC made a drama out of it. It's about a group of gay friends who went to uni together and were badly affected by HIV, largely because they subsequently found out that they'd all slept with "Reg".
Ritchie dying destroyed me. Found myself yelling at the tv when his mother pulled all the garbage moves she pulled at the end of his life. It is a show I will watch again and again in the future. So well made. It showed their humanity, bigots generally cannot see the humanity when they spout nonsense like ‘it’s God’s wrath’ and homophobic rhetoric. This show, it humanised its characters.
@@nordantill5095I too am in my 30’s and doing the same. But I have had previous exposure to this world. I’ve had patients with HIV. They are treated like any other patient now. I have never had any fear, including when exposed to things like their blood. The treatments available can take someone on the brink of dying from AIDS to being healthy, in a relatively short time. So all my research into the beginning of this virus, it’s so very different now, and that makes me happy. We’ve come a long way. But what is remembered, lives. Let us learn and never forget.
I’m not even halfway through this doco and already I’m blown away at how incredible this man and his mother are. Absolutely incredible, wonderful people.
No matter how hard his illness was he never let it get him down never let nothing beat you rest in peace Terry
No but my mom friend had it I seen it first hand what it does to people it's not a joke
he got depressed and suicidal, did you miss that somehow? that smile hid a well full of tears.
Terry had a beautiful spirit. It's amazing how he was able to be cheerful & have high spirits, while enduring such a debilitating illness.
Just found out Terrys mum passed away in 1989 just 2 years after Terry. Hope they are both united.
So sad.
It is so so sad😢. And what about his sister?
UNITED IN HEAVEN???? I DON' T THINK SO!!!! THEY ARE BOTH IN HELL EXPECIALLY THIS HOMOSEXUAL GUY!!! DISGUSTING
Hi, I’m Terrys niece. Karen, Terry’s sister, my Aunt, died of early onset dementia, in 2002. Thanks for asking.
@@GailCarland-nb1hs that’s really sad to hear. Thank you for sharing that. Terry’s mum was an absolute gem of a mother. It’s amazing to know someone from that time was so accepting and embraced and loved her son unconditionally until the end. May they all rest in eternal peace.
I think the world has forgotten about AIDS.....people are just living much longer now
Thank you for putting this story out....
I say the same thing all the time. The cocktails, antiretrovirals and now new things like PrEP have made enormous strides in fighting this awful disease. Because of that like you said, HIV/AIDS is not the “death sentence” it once was and the world don’t seem to be as concerned. However, this virus, this disease is still out there and it’s still very dangerous. People are still dying from it. Not on the scale they once were of course, but there is still no true cure. These people like Terry and Tom Joslin, Mark Massi and Ryan White are one of the the reasons we’ve come as far as we have and they deserve to be remembered. They deserve to have their stories told for decades to come.
no one had terrible lives in 1987 except those with aids now so many people have tragic lives.
Unfortunately it is now affecting Black and Hispanic populations in the southern states at alarming rates. There is still a stigma associated with HIV especially in the south. It is far from over.
I cannot understand how anyone could write anything horrible-such a lovely man, so charismatic, I wish I had met him, and I cried when I watched his funeral. RIP.
Dun worry about it, babe. Evil to he or she who THINKS EVIL... They'll get THEIRS eventually!
After viewing this video, I am questioning where is the respect and love that was obviously apparent back in the time Terry was ill? I must wonder if a tribute such as this would be possible today. I admire all that were involved with this effort and express my sincere regards to Terry's family, friends and associates. I have a son who is gay; and while, he hasn't been infected with the AIDS virus, I still have concern for his safety and welfare. May this world come to know the peace that was displayed throughout the story of Terry's illness. Love to all.
Excellent documentary. Desperately sad treatment wasn't found soon enough to save Terry, what a character. Fell in love with him and his mum, and such a beautiful relationship between them. RIP
We could all use as beautiful a mom as Terry had.
I lost my dear friend and roommate in 1996 to this horrible virus. We were unlikely roommates and maybe not the roommate he would have chosen but everyone else disappeared when he started to get sick. His family only wanted a call when the end was near. Thank God for Aid Project LA! They helped us make the journey a little easier. Terry so reminds me of Paulie...I only wished he had a Mum so warm and brave. When the end came I said to myself "I hope I never have to go through this ever again..." Three months later I found out my brother had tested positive. He died in 2005. At least, my family was there for him, at least. When will this beast be slain? Thank you Terry and his family for being so brave and helping to change hearts and minds.
I'm so sorry for your roommate and your brother. Your story, as well as Terry's, deeply touched me. I'm wishing you and your family all the best 🙏🏻
@True Blue I'm not sure how to take your comment? Are you trying to say that because I was unlikely roommates is the reason Paulie died?!! If I had been gay, too, he would have lived?? Please expand so I don't assume you're just a heartless troll.
@True Blue I reported you.
@True Blue WRONG. I'm British, nice try.....What's funny about losing my friend and brother to AIDS....TWAT!
@WILLIAMS F1 RACING. Oh, I'm so sorry. There is no pain greater than losing a child. I watched my parents suffer that pain when my brother passed away. Sending you and your family big hugs of comfort until you meet your little angel again.
Thank you for this. I have never forgotten Terry, nor will I ever. I saw his TV appearances as they happened and wept for him. I have this documentary somewhere on videotape and had until right now repeatedly failed to source it online. I am so grateful that you have posted it here. Terry (and his adoring Mum) were wonderful people. Ordinary, everyday people. With the courage of lions. I'm sure there are many thousands of people who remember him. You're still with me Terry. God bless you and Mum.
Paula Cunningham Shennan did he have more than one appearance on television? This is my first time seeing him and I am only ten minutes in.
Terrry first appeared in public on a morning talk show called DAY TO DAY. This show was hosted by a then-popular presenter, Robert Kilroy Silk. Terry's lovely Mum sat right behind him. He explained how he felt about being HIV positive and how he intended to fight the illness. He also said - importantly - that he personally would never dream of not telling others that he was HIV positive, nor ever think of deceiving a partner. He was a truly amazing ambassador and he touched countless hearts. He was very special.
My wife new Terry and lived with him in Lotts Rd Fulham for a while. I got to know Terry through my wife. He was as how the video portrayed him. Terry's mum was a wonderful woman and Terry's partner could not allow himself to be filmed for fear of losing his job as being gay then was still not accepted in many walks of life. Society has come a long way since the early 80s thankfully but sadly is still playing catch up!
How nice you knew Terry and his mum. Really nice doc.
@@331maximum Thank you for sharing your personal memories of Terry with us. Do you know if his partner Peter is still alive?
Terry kept good spirits. His mom was a strong woman. Bless them all. .
I feel so much sympathy for people who have to suffer from this terrible virus.This early documentary shows how terribly brave Terry Madely is and how supportive his mother is!What a super woman and what a great personality he was; considering how I'll he was!!!
Is it just me but i think Pattie should have won an award for this Film the way she was with everyone was beautiful she was a superb TV presenter with a heart of pure gold, i remember her when i was a kid growing up in the 80s and early 90s she has such a sweet way with her rip to both of them.
This warmed my heart 🥹 Pattie is my mum and she passed away when I was younger, it’s really lovely reading things like this still to this day
@@DannieCinnamon Yes she died far too young was always a big fan of your mum great TV presenter ..
57:03 - 57:41 the letter he wrote his mum- the most loving words any mother could want from her son. And she was exactly as he described her- what a dear mother. Her love for her children is strong and unwavering.
What a touching documentary. Terry's mother is so kind. I can see where he got it from.
What a beautiful relationship between the son and his mother. I strive to have this type of relationship with my kids. Thanks for the upload
This programme is difficult to watch. If only he had lived long enough for combination therapy. His Mum is something else. The doctor is great as well. Thanks for posting I appreciate it.
What a lovely, cheerful and brave soul, and what a fantastic mom. Seeing them on the talk show together warmed my heart. Terry was so brave to share as he did - and the interviewer was also brave and was so open and authentic in a time when there was still a lot of prejudice about AIDS and misinformation (outside of the scientific community) about its transmission.
Thank you so much for sharing!!
He was a lucky man to have been so loved. Its obvious in the faces of the people at his service and in the words people spoke of him.
*Rest in eternal peace, Terry, you are one of many brave unsung heroes. Bless your heart.💜❤🧡💛💚💙*
*I lost my best friend to aids in 1994. I held his hand when he died. He was only 28, and he died just before the first medications became available. I will never forget what I witnessed in the late 80's and early 90's. Never.*
*And i learned that the only thing that matters in the end is love, to talk about unfinished business before it is too late, and dont ever think that a dying person doesn't know that they dont have much time left.*
I'm very sorry for your loss 💗 so many wonderful people lost their lives far too soon 😥
Terry's husband I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sorry 😞
What a brave dude. I only hope to be that reasonable & calm when my time comes. And the funeral was fabulous!
My goodness these people are amazing how humanity should be
What a lovely mother!
Ah another Queen fan!
What a sweet and funny guy. Sadly he died before I was born but I would have loved to have known him, and his mum was utterly amazing too. Thank you for sharing
i am terry madeley‘s great niece, from what my mum has told me of terry he was truly a wonderful man and thank you to however uploaded the video i found it through curiosity ❤️❤️
What a beautiful relationship between Terry and his Mum. What became of his Mum and younger sister, just out of mild curiosity? 😘
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God bless you...it's an honor....he's an angel!!!
What a brave and charismatic man so cheerful and happy right until the end and I couldn't help but laugh when he was having a crufty cigarette in the hospital toilet, loved it. What a nice caring man. 🌞
I’m Terrys niece. My Nan died of a heart attack on Christmas Day (Terry’s birthday) in 1989. She has just spent Christmas Day with my Mum and Dad and was going home with Karen. She got off the bus and was dead before her foot hit the pavement. Karen died in 2002 of early onset dementia.
dont get this quality of documentry anymore, 1980's BBC TV was very well put together, very well informed. very diffrent era to nowadays.
That's true. Everything now is soundbites or cheap sensationalism. It's the social media age.
too busy paying crappy people massive salaries for shoddy work at the expense of the poor. Stop paying the tv license people. Just inform them and if they come knocking ,don't say or sign anything, just simply shut the door in their faces. job done
I was just thinking about how well made this documentary was, very sensitively done
Were a lot of indepth documentaries on BBC TWO in the 80s and early 90s. Not just about aids but other things in life too.
@CJ ENGLAND you've never heard of sky's prices then. Just be grateful you have a telly.
It's sad but hopeful story at the same time. I think of all the "Terrys" that are still with us nowadays thanks to the advanced medicine. We don't know them because there are no such beautiful documentaries as this one in these times, but I'm happy that many beautiful souls like Terry's are still around us, making this world brighter every day. RIP dear Terry, wish you and many more would be hanging out with us now.
What an absolutely beautiful person and a beautiful mama.
RIP Terry and Patti. Gosh Terry looked so much like his mother. Too many men and women taken too soon.
I watched this years ago and many times since. I realised today that a nursing colleague and dear friend from the 1980's probably died of HIV AIDS. I make that assumption because I was told on a social media reunion site he died of the most terrible and incurable illness. So in his memory I'm sat here crying. He was just like Terry, good looking, articulate and had the best sense of humour, equal to any professional comedian. God bless to everyone touched by this disease.
Terry’s Mum was absolutely beautiful. That was a Mother’s love. I’m crying with her. What an amazing human being. Terry’s younger sister was lovely, too. ♥️
One of the best stories of a human being I've ever watched.
His mother was a warrior queen. I want her strength.
A very moving and poignant programme. RIP Terry wish I had known you.x
Amazing story about an amazing man. I loved the love story between him and his mother.. Very moving, and his doctor was a beautiful person.
What a wonderful man Terry seems to have been,anyone would have been privileged to have him as a friend !
Terrys attitude was astonishing .In the face of certain death his ‘band played On ‘ his personality didn’t change, it stayed at the same tempo ,no dwelling in self pity ,just same same beat & cheerful disposition. I can imagine he’s The kind of fella who in another life & dark time in the Trenches you’d want next to U as U & you’re mates were about to go over the top to storm German trenches .While others would be shaking certain soon they would soon be killed ,Terry would be there saying cmon boys lets get on with it & get these bastards .I could truly see him being a brave .brave soldier because he’s one brave son of b here .No self pity or taking his sh;t out on those around him just getting on with it , not changing the way way he treats others or seeking pity . What a brave camp as can be ,cool lovely guy ,he was .
RIP Tel x
remember watching this programme about 30 years ago and turning to my mother and said I would have the diamante glove at mine. We laughed so much at the thought. RIP Terry x
What a legacy both terry and his mom. ❤️❤️
May he rest in peace. And what a wonderful mother he had. I chuckled when she said she got pregnant at 47. My mom had me rather older in age too. Now with technology I've seen women pregnant at 49 and have a healthy baby..But back then I Reckoned it was a bit different. She went through a lot her son having that disease then a daughter with Down syndrome. Bless her. I know she must be with God now.
There are great lessons to learn from Terry. Humor and strong relationships with family and friends are one of the best ways to deal with any chronic illness. May his sprit be lifted up and his family blessed.
Terry seems a great man... so brave. Its like he is still alive. But sadly he died in October 1987.
A beautiful tribute to a lovely man R.I.P.
He still looked so handsome when he was in the hospital at the start of the show. Of course he was very thin, but so composed despite this death sentence. Yes, the process of death is where the fear lies.
His mum was a legend. So sad. I cried so much. RIP Terry. Too many taken so soon. AZT probably didn't help at all.
AZT IS WHAT KILLED HIM.
Dummy , AZT uses the same exact mechanism as the drugs presently being used as part of a “drug cocktail” to stop HIV progression
@@arikkatzenberg4498 No. Do your research. It is very well documentated that AZT in the beginning was highly toxic. It was an abandoned cancer drug discarded because of it's fatal toxicity, resurrected because of the cynical view AIDS patients were going to die anyway.
Bootiful... bless Terry's sister
What a wonderful inspirational documentary of a beautiful man and his mom! ❤️
He had a really positive outlook on his life. The tragedy is that if he caught the virus 10 years later, it wouldn't be a death sentence. He was a victim of time.
Rob G yes similar to Freddie Mercury he died before they had a breakthrough on drugs that could have extended his life 1991, bloody Shame ☹️☹️
Exactly
People are so much better off now
What lovely people. Terry sure was a special man and apparently he takes after his mother. Life doesn’t always seem fair.
M M this life can be unfair but we have to understand sometimes we make life difficult because we make those choices. Here's the thing if people follow Jesus Christ(truly) they won't experience those unfair events that happen in the lifestyle.
Monique, you are barking up the wrong tree preaching your beliefs to me. If for one minute you think gay individuals chose their sexuality that shows you how ignorant you are. Do you have any friends that are gay? Obviously not! I suggest before you before you continue to preach you need to STOP and take a good look at yourself. I was born and raised a catholic. If I recall correctly Jesus Christ would not approve of your behavior judging others that he created.
As a Mortician I can remember being very concerned about contracting AIDs in the late eighties as we had to prepare the people that passed with this horrible disease! So glad they have much better medications and treatments available today. I hate to see people suffer like this. Thanks for posting.
Oooo a mortician.... that's a hell of a career! Takes a stronger human mind. I always wanted to go to school for that myself. I can imagine that it was quite scary preparing the deceased when aids came about and everyone was freaking. How long have you been a mortician for?
I have been doing this for 48 years. Still at it for about 5 more years I hope. Very interesting work.
OMG the relationship between Terry and his ma Lil is so beautiful. Lil is a one in a million kind of mother/human being. ♥️♥️
I Goggled Terry's actress friend Anna Gilbert (who had cervical cancer) and she seems alive and well. Pattie Coldwell who produced this film as well as narrating and interviewing Terry sadly died of a brain tumour at the age of 50. I'm gonna guess that Terry's amazing mum Lil is also gone☹️.
Two years after her son.
The presenter/producer Pattie Coldwell, did a really good job of documenting this man's life and making the program very sensitively
She was my mum and it’s really lovely reading nice comments like this still to this day. Thank you x
I’m sorry I never knew you Terry. You were and are a delight!
Happy birthday Terry. Still remembered x
"I don't think someone as young as me should be going to so many funerals" says it all about the loss of young lives during that time. So many beautiful lives lost.
wow amazing story and a excelent point of view of life no matter how died its matter how to live rip Terry greetings from Argentina
Such a confident and wonderful man. He feels the emotions of others and is a very necessary addition to society. This world is lack such animated and grand people. I think god cuts their lives short because he wants them back in heaven. I look forward to meeting him when I go home.
What a courageous man mom. Thank you for such honesty and also well as best as possible expressing what this experience is like.
I feel broken after watching this. Its just heartbreaking that the only guarantee we come with is death
This is an excellent video. Thank you for sharing.
Here after “it’s a sin”. What a horrible time in history but look how far we have come. God bless you Terry (and Lill)
God bless terry??
@@salahnasser1056 what do you mean by that?
@@Teekszy terry didn't mention God not once. Didn't love God. Didn't care for God. Did everything againt God. So. What do u mean God bless terry
@@salahnasser1056 The same could be said about you with this comment. You have NO RIGHT to judge, lest you be judged.
@@sarahdaw6648 why the same could be said about me? We are humans and we make mistakes, that is why we repent to God but for me to go around and support a lifestyle and never repent to God then make questions about him or his existence, then you want me to say God bless someone. That is not right. We judge what is in front of us and by our actions. Then God will judge us by our hearts and our actions. Please stop supporting demon ideas and spread them
It makes me feel very happy that Terry still looked so handsome just hours before he died. Maybe thiner and weaker for sure but not like so many horrific images we had seen before and since of an average patient dying of Aids. He wasn't destroyed beyond recognition, Aids didn't take away: no his spirit, neither his sparkle.
That's what a HERO looks like! 👍
God Bless Terry and everyone who has been effected by this horrible disease. 😢💔☹️
What a bright man Terry was.
I cannot stress this enough. His mom is was a saint.
Brilliant piece of film
That is one amazing mother, bless her,it's sad to think they're both gone now....I wonder what happened to the sister? They're all so lovely, such a loving family
Hi, I’m Terry’s niece, I’ve just come across your question. Karen, my Aunt, died of early onset dementia is 2002.
Beautiful documentary!
May Terry be at Peace and comfort with God
I can see where Terry gets his awesomeness.
What an extraordinary man. God bless you Terry.
Terry came across such a lovely person in the documentary. He was so full of life. So sad 😞 ❤️❤️
They found a anti viral drug for HIV/AIDS 34 years too late 😔💔
Terry. What a beautiful man. What an amazing human being. His mother Lil, Pattie, and the doctor. Fantastic people.
Beautiful tribute. Rest in peace to him, his mom Lil and the reporter Terry. I had no idea AZT were harmful.
What a lovely family, Terry, his mother and the little sister. Does anybody know if she and Terrys partner are around today? It would be great to se a follow up so many years later. To hear their perspective of hiv/aids then and now.
He sounds like a wonderful person that anyone would have wanted to know and to have as a friend ❤
Terry seemed such a lovely person 💖💕💖
RIP Terry
I'm old enough to remember the AIDS pandemic in the 80s, but I was young enough to be sheltered from most of it. I have been watching all the documentaries I can on this subject. I adore Terry and his sweet mom but can I just say, she has GOT to be the woman that Mrs. Doubtfire was created in the image of.
Hes one of a kind!! God he makes me think how little my problems are.... got to stay inside wa wa wa!!
I remmber watching this when it forst went out. I remember Terry on that week was it back in 1987 when BBC1 and Channel 4 did a week of shows about Aids. I was so shocked when he died. and Patty did a wonderful show about him. R.I.P Terry gone but never forgoton.
What remains to be said about such a beautiful person, attached to his mother and friends, ready to bring smiles in other people's dark moments... That it would have been an honor to know him, and learn from him when the right time comes to leave the scene... And he did it in the most touching and at the same time funny way... only those who manage to do it and I'm happy to have been able to "get to know" him in this documentary.
I’m not British I don’t even know this guy but I’m so impressed with how he dealt with this dreadful disease and the idiotic behavior of the world he was an amazing person
The idiotic behaviour of this world must surely include the unhealthy proclivities and reckless promiscuity which ruins and ends the lives of people like Terry.
@@mAiSiEbOOOO I guess that's why God gave us Covid and Flu. All that sinful air we were and still are breathing. For shame.
Now this was a brave man !!!!
Wow Terry got to me. I cried at the end.
The reporter Caldwell passed away at age 50 from cancer.
I know. Very sad. She was popular and well-respected due to her down-to-earth reporting and sympathetic nature. She and Terry became good friends. I doubt he'd have agreed to be filmed by any other journalist/team.
She was fantastic and very cutting edge to do this film 1987 there was still a big stigma amazing
What’s her first name?
RIP Terry and his mom
This was filmed 5 years before I was born and I’m still somehow sad I never got to meet Terry.
Terry seemed like a fantastic man
Oh he seemed absolutely fabulous! What a blessing and what a great loss.
He was an accidental martyr that saved lives from HIV/AIDS.
thanks for the upload, it's fascinating stuff.