How to Let Go of a Toxic Person You Love
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- Опубликовано: 26 мар 2023
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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.
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You let go by facing the truth if the situation and thinking of what's right for you. I lost a lot of love for my Narc (which in a way helped me to let go) because of his abuse and cruelty, and as I fell out of love with him I also stopped loving him. Once all that goes it's easier to face the Trauma Bond and how to break it. 🍒
I convinced myself that the person who I had fallen in love with wouldn't come back and even it had happened I couldn't have trusted him again to build something together.It's difficult but works.
I understand what is going on and who he is. I have full clarity. Letting go of receiving nothing is not that hard. Thank you for your videos. They are enlightening and supportive. Sometimes, we think people can do what you are doing, but who you are in your life is rare.
The problem with this is that if the narcissist watch this video, they'll think exactly the same as me, that they're victim, now they are free and finally do whatever she wants. And I cannot manipulate her anymore😄
Okay....non of that matters for me anymore...true...but it still frustrates me to hell😪
This is the single most question I have asked myself and others. 6 months after being discarded, I still struggle with letting go of the love I have for my person.
No boundary I set is respected....I am repeatedly told that I should thank God that I have him in my life, and that nothing matters, since he comes home and sleeps with me at night. I think he is sensing that I'm trying to leave because he keeps telling me "I am never going to leave you for anyone, I am never going to turn my back on you" I know its a guilt tactic. He absolutely refuses to leave, so I am actively trying to get an apartment. He has gotten cold towards me, I suppose because I keep calling him out on his bullshit and refuse to believe him anymore. Every time I open my mouth to say something I get the eye roll and he gets angry, telling me "I can't say anything to you anymore".....So frustrating. I know longer argue with him. I just let it out that he's lying then I say nothing else, go about my business. He punishes me by flaunting his cheating in my face. I am waiting to hear if I got an apartment I recently looked out. I hope this time I am strong enough to do what I need to do because I know I deserve better. I want a life that is mine, that is happy
He left me in July but then he started sleeping with me until 2 weeks ago. I wish that I had let go when he walked out of my life. Now it’s like a second death. I feel so heartbroken. I don’t know if I can do this.
Hang in there, your cat loves and needs you
I feel for you. I know exactly what you're going through. They leave and come back only to use us for sex. I've been there and done that several times and been broken hearted more each time. Cut him loose because they will stay as long as we allow them to. 😢
How are you feeling now?
Better I hope.
It was very difficult for the first two weeks after being discarded. The fact that he was a terrible lover and the pain he inflicted just before he discarded me made it easier to move on. He's in the love bombing stage now because he didn't think I'd have the strength to escape. Knowing he's a pathological liar makes no contact for and forgetting him easier with every passing day.
Everything you said is 100% true. I was 32 when i met a person like this. I am now 44. Spent 10 years with this person. I was living on hope that this person would change. On the contrary it seemed to get only worse. I set boundaries and brought the truth out multiple times, but of course then i was always a liar and a back stabber and whatever name is in the dictionary you can think of together with synonyms. And the blame i got for practically everything was almost as i was persecuted for having an opinion as a human being.
I sacrificed a lot of my own well being through the years with this person. Because i cared and hoped that things would change and improve. It did not. Lying is easy. But reading humans is difficult.
This person i am talking about is 37 years old now... Does not have a job.. Still lives with their mommy and daddy, and obsesses about Japanese cartoons and is still a virgin. Yet this persons siblings moved out and had their own families along time ago (I was to the weddings believe it or not). As i said i lived on hope. Not for s*x but that something would eventually shake this person out their shell. I was wrong.
And probably i was naive to think that this person would change as time went on and mature. I was wrong there as well.
As the saying goes: Charity begins at home. And that is where we all need to start. With ourselves.
I often, more than once over the years said to myself i cant deal with this anymore i have to break it off and leave all this rubbish behind and have a life again! I am suffocating, i am drowning, i cant even be myself without walking on eggshells with this person!
But aless it comes a time when even Ghandi said enough is enough. And you have to depart and leave. No matter how hurtful or painful it is. You have to make the best decision for yourself.
Because if you do not take care and care about yourself. Then who is going to...
Thank you.
From the guy…. or girl lol I don’t know what it is about my ex but we still talk. I’m not so sure she is a narcissist, but we don’t have very many boundaries and when she wants to know about something that somebody said, she wants to see the entire conversation. I have no private life. I can’t bring anything to her attention that bothers me no matter how nice and tactful I am or I am trying to “start a fight. “.
“I’m a narcissist” had me shook
🎉brilliant. Listening to you Ben is like switching on a light bulb when you've been in the dark for years 20 years in my case. Thank you for what you do 🎉
I forgot how I got to a point that I new when he was going to blow up. 😮
Love them but set limits. If it’s very toxic cut ties if possible. If it’s a relationship with a man a woman then it’s probably best to separate.
You're the best man! So spot-on. Thank you!
Needed this. Thank you.
WIsh you the best of healing on your journey
Always luv in your closing it's like a alter call.😊
Outstanding . Thank you !
Glad you liked it!
I needed this. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Yes you are right thank you Amen how do you go on Live chat?
3rd time trying to listen to this to the end. still can't. smh. too RAW!!!!! not strong enough yet to hear the RAW truth!!!!!! i'll return in a few...weeks.
Use facts n b objective.Then the light come shining down on the darkness
made it through the entire video this time without...damn near fainting from the RAW TRUTH THAT HE NEVER CARED ABOUT ME!!!!!!! smh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yeah.
THANKFULLY, I CARED ABOUT ME ENOUGH TO PULL AWAY WITHIN 2 WEEKS OF BEING EXPOSED TO HIS MADNESS!!!!!!
NO RETURNING!!!! NO CONTACT! NO MORE CARING!!!
Came to conclusion it was fake.Moving forward
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Why would he say that he loved or loves me with every bone in his body? Does he really believe it?
He loved you in his own way, but it isn't a normal and healthy way. They love people for what they can do for them, and what they can use you for. Not for who you are as a person. Narcissists do not have proper connections to people, hence why they don't love anyone. To answer your question, yes he probably viewed it as he loved you. But again, his view of love is very different than one without this disorder.
@@k80.82 thank you for your response. It helps
Because talking is cheap. And you should have looked into his eyes and read is mannerism when he said it.
They HATED a you from day one
They are pieces of trash, every thing they said was a lie
Nice🙌🏾🫶🏾❤️
I hate that u specify he an him instead of them or her or she it's always about dudes
Oh grow up substitute it yourself if you’re not dealing with a “dude”
@@jerbear21 haha well someone got triggered
Can't just be like I'll try that in the future an been done lmao
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