REACTING TO YOUR ECO DILEMMAS // flying, fast fashion, bulk shops and family problems
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I think we should remember that many of us feel guilty flying a couple times a year, but many wealthy business people fly a couple times a week. Companies like Nestle will fly an ‘expert’ across the USA and back each week rather than train a new person nearby. Seeing family is not where the bulk of plane travel comes from
No that is also why I said what I said - it is literally less than 1-5% of the population who are flying to the degree that has made it so impactful (and then we can ofc also talk about the air travel companies and their pricing etc) but yeah
if you don't have a bulk shop near by I have another idea aswell: in europe, there are many indian/south-east europe/latin amercian/north african kind of supermarkets who sell rice in like 20kg bags, thahini in HUGE jars etc.! so even though you'll get some packaging, you'll have a lot better product-packaging-ratio! plus, they are often also a lot less expensive than bulk stores :)
Plus there are fun ingredients there!
Oh yeah, I’d buy my soy sauce from a nearby Asian supermarket-less than £2 for a HUGE bottle. Just makes more sense to buy from them ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I agree. I live in the Netherlands, where in most neighbourhoods (of big cities) you have an ethnic supermarket. Being an Asian myself, I’m quite happy about this because I can get all the spices at cheaper price. Otherwise, I always go for items least possible plastic wrapping as best as I can 😅
Exactly! When I lived in Rome, I frequently shopped at the Vittorio Emanuele market which was quite diverse. I'd always reuse the same plastic bags and carried stuff in my shopping cart.
I've never seen such a store in my life. Also, that would be only a solution for people who eat a lot of rice/tahini/etc. You also need a way to transport that big bag and store it. If you don't have a car and a big enough kitchen/storage space, that idea is simply not practical.
I put a picture of my jars on eBay and a guy that owns a big garden outside of my town came around to pick them up
(About 20-30 pieces?) because it was harvesting season and he needed them for his tomatoes, zucchini, apples etc. That made me really happy, because he was super happy he could get them for free and obviously will use them sustainable also ☺️
That is really sustainability full-circle 💚🌿
If people's friends are criticizing them for living more sustainably, it sounds like they need new friends. It's one thing to say "That's not my thing." and another to say "ugh, why would you do that?" Like Gitte says, it is helpful to share how the changes you make bring you joy - this is how I got a few of my friends to sign up for a compost pick up service when I shared with excitement that I had started composting this way! I sleep better at night knowing a huge chunk of my waste is no longer going to the landfill.
I try to do most of my actions quietly or show them in a positive way and not push my views on others. Especially when traveling or staying at someone else's house, I try to be respectful of their home and energy. I've had better eco conversations when someone saw me doing something than I have getting defensive or attacking someone.
My dilemma is I was frugal before I went low waste. A 5lb bag is .89 cent per pound when in bulk $1.79 per pound. I get mad at myself when I buy the bag. I'm always fighting with my frugality side and my low waste side. That's my dilemma.....
same here. but huge packagings are also used in bulk shop, and you still can reuse the bag for something else sometimes. Anyway i think our frugality, on a bigger picture, is generally eco-friendly.
Same. My budget is pretty tight and sometimes the cost difference isn't feasible. I try to less/better packaging when possible, but cost frequently wins.
Unfortunately that's also my issue, my priority (at least at this point in my life) is affordability.
Same, so some swaps feel very expensive.
I try and recognise where I have saved money and keep the monetary value in mind e.g £10 saved thrifting a Jacket instead of buying new, I then use that £10 for eco options - that's a few upgrades to organic flour!
Also, recognising that the more expensive cat litter lasts longer (recycled wood instead of virgin clay), so it evens out cost wise.
I can totally relate to the jar-"problem". But then suddently I have the opposite problem of all jars being used :O ... the Jar-jar dilemma 😅😂
THIS.
too many jars... i bet Gitte feels seen
Oh yes. Relate.
this went straight to my heart ❤️😂
I relate so hard to this 😅
Isn’t it great that we are all so eco-conscious and care deeply about the environment that we have these dilemmas to work around. If only more people around the world had these dilemmas to tackle. D’ya know what I mean?? Great discussion Gittemary and yes… I have too many jars. 🌎💦Ⓜ️ary
@@Maison_Marion Oh Marion… we are totally on the same page. Here we are being so conscientious about waste… and others are completely missing the big picture. “Ridiculous excess” this is such a perfect way of putting it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Have a great day. 🌎💦Ⓜ️ary
Thank you so much for making this video! I definitely suffer from eco anxiety and often feel responsible for other people's actions and get frustrated about this. Its so easy to feel isolated when the people close to you don't share the same passions as you. Thank you for making us feel less alone ❤ x
I am happy that I can be helpful ❤️ I know the feeling all to well, if you want more about eco anxiety I also have a quite recent video just about that ☺️
My thoughts with taking responsibility for other people’s shopping habits is: they will buy new fast fashion items whether you buy that one shirt from them or not. It’s not on you at all. They just want to make it easier for themselves financially- selling one of their old items usually isn’t the deal breaker on whether they can afford new things.
No exactly 💚🌿
I think also that's still good to encourage them to use the cyclical market and sell/donate rather than trash. I've definitely sold quite a bit over the years.
Once in a while, I'll put a box of jars outside our apartment on the street with a sign that says "free jars". People always end up taking them, usually quite quickly.
The idea you baught up here with "it ales me happy. I like it. Please respect that." is SO NICE! I will implement!
Dilemma: when you live in a city that you KNOW doesn’t recycle very well, but they still have a recycling pickup. Half the time I see the garbage man throw all the recycling buckets straight into the garage truck. All my hard work to sort and strip it to its raw material! I don’t know that there is even a solution for this besides using less, even aluminum and cardboard, which is a shame because it is SO recyclable, or driving it to a place where I know it’s recyclable… on my bike 🤪
My dilemma is - "Should I keep using my polyester clothing and cleaning cloths or replace them with new cotton / other biodegradable fabric from bamboo? The polyester fabrics release microplastics."
I would buy the washing machine filter
I had this same thought but the thing is: the damage is done, the polyester clothing item is produced an will release micro plastic one way or another over its life span, if you wear it or if you throw them away or if you keep
Them for 20+ years unused - plastics stays sadly. So you might as well wear it (maybe eben longer than not so conscious consumers?).
@@piau1798 how about microfibre polyester cloths? ... Those i use to clean surfaces. I am pretty sure they release more microplastics during my cleaning routine. That maybe avoided if I replace them ... Or does that not make sense?
When people tried to discredit or make fun of me when I started living sustainably, I just asked, "Why does what I'm doing upset you so much? It has nothing to do with you, and it doesn't affect you. So why do you have such a problem with it?"
Thank you for talking about flying. I feel HUGE guilt although I am in a long term long distance relationship and have only gone to see them twice (ie 4 flights in total). I haven't seen them since Nov 2019 and though I do hate what flying does to the planet I don't feel like I have done too much harm as those are the only flights I have ever done in my lifetime of 54 years and it's the only way to see the only other person in my life. I don't take vacations and so it's not as if I am jetting around the world or even continent so I do take comfort that we have to weigh up everything in comparison when it has a huge impact on the quality of my life and wellbeing. Thanks Gittemary of always putting these dilemmas into context and being relatable
The "rinsing out" recyclables actually answered one of my big questions!
I am glad to help! 💚
That was a great video as always, thank you! I collect mine glass jars throughout the year and then in summer use them to make a bunch of homemade goods with seasonal fruits and veggies, like jams, pasta sauce, pickles etc so I don't need to buy it for a long time. And give the rest of the jars for free in local facebook groups cause a lot of people need them for the same purpose :)
Excellent video! Definitely continue this series ❤️
My dilemma is saying no, the `refuse` aspect of the.. 5 R's (Refuse, Reduce, Reuse, Repurpose & Recycle). Just last week I walked with my child to the local smoothie/coffee shop, ensured before I walked in I had a cup I grabbed from home. After they filled up and I received my cup back, paid etc. The cashier asked if I wanted a straw, I sadly said "yes" (my brain was on autopilot).
I was given a plastic straw and I feel bad about it however I hope in the future I'll learn from this experience and say no.
I'm already thinking of new ways to use the straw. I remember my art teacher used straws to create wet paint linesvacross the canvas... maybe I'll try that.
I think you are right on when you say that people openly ridiculing or criticizing someones actions are using a defense mechanism. Maybe they feel like they are being "shown up" or that it's an attack on the lifestyle they have been used to for so long. something like that.
Love this type of content! We are all trying our best, and this is great advice. Thank you!
Another brilliant video Gittemary, very informative and interesting - love your knowledge... thank you 💚
❤ the makeup look especially with the jewellery you chose 🖖🏻 trés cool
Thank you so much ☺️
Thank you for this video! I literally relate to all of these dilemmas!
When I am shopping for items packaged in glass bottles or jars, I will sometimes choose a more decorative jar. I then use the glassware to create a gift. Examples: Baked goods mix in jar with a decorative recipe label, DIY body products, candles, etc.
That's a lovely idea!!!!
good idea about the jars. Thanks!
It was hugely useful! So many of my dilemmas were answered! Thank you :) feels great not to be alone in these things :)
Honestly you can apply so much of what Gittemary said to anyone facing anxiety or boundary issues with family/friends! Live your life in a way that you find meaningful and fulfilling. It’s okay if others don’t fully approve or want to live their life the same. 💕
I really appreciate these videos. I dont have support of low waste in my area so you and similar youtubers within the community are like friends/weekly pep talk. Thank you!
This video was incredibly helpful and interesting. Can't believe someone would "dislike" this video.
thanks for the great video!! 13:41 last autumn i had too many jars, so i just made a bunch of apple sauce and gave it to all of my friends for christmas... never got rid of 10 jars at once so quickly :D
My dilemma is I’m so broke these days/going month to month with rent thag right now I can’t afford so shop more ethical and sustainable like I used to 😭 makes me so sad, but I can’t even buy healthy food now yet alone more sustainable things and it sucks
There should be no dilemma. You do what you have to. When times get better, you'll change your habits accordingly
@@milicarandjic8546 thank you 🥺❤️
If you live month to month, you are not the cause of any environmental problems, so please breathe and be kind to yourself 💚 all the issues we are facing today has been created by overconsumption and carelessness and you seem to be contributing to neither of those 🌿
@@Gittemary thank you for the kindness and support 🥺❤️
I can literally watch your daily blog and hangout with you everyday. So much energy, calmness and motivation. I live in rural America where everything is plenty so people waste so much and even me doing my bare minimum here gives me a title of being a hippie... I'm proud of it. Some changes I made this year period cup, reusable facial wipe, detergent sheets, homemade face and hair masks and looking into simple changes constantly
Another idea for controlling your jar collection - I put up a photo of a bunch of jars on facebook marketplace for free and 3 different people came by to pick up a few jars that they wanted :) Although the bulk store option is a great idea too
Awesome video, once again :)
Thanks Gittemary for this very relevant video. I have not flown in 2 years but I am afraid that my new boss is going to make me fly for work. I am doing everything I can to avoid it but I will just have to travel at some point. I will buy carbon offsets if I have to. Love the jar dilemma question. I do what you do and give them away but decorating them or using them for candles. Thanks again for entertaining and guilt relieving video!,💚💚💚
New drinking game: take a shot every time she says et cetera
I relate the to rinsing recyclables one in a sense. Not that I’m rinsing recyclables because we have zero programs where I am BUT I bought the last swab and it takes a bit more water than it shows in the ad to clean it off, and I was like wait whoa that looks like a lot of water
It’s not. I think actually having a visual of the water used to clean environmentally friendly things is what makes people uneasy. Like oh shit if I’m using this much on this ear swab and *this* looks like a lot, how much water is actually being used to make a regular cotton swab?
The water used to clean the swab off is there of course. However, traditional cotton swabs/rounds/balls are made of real cotton, like what our clothes are made of. Which takes TONS of water to grow and process into the final products, I feel like in the long run it will offset the massive amounts of water used to grow the cotton plants, especially if you do it when you’re already in the shower!
please don’t, everyone will die 😂
also as it is mentioned in the comment below, cotton is one of the materials that requires the most water to produce, so even the amount you use to clean your reusable item, is still so much less - and I like the cleaning it in the shower idea as well 😎
Loved this video! Definitely can relate...
Not related: From where is your jewelry? I love it!!
We're moving in a few months and sadly I have to donate the majority of my glass jars because of weight restrictions (I'd rather have say, furniture so I don't have to try to hunt that down in a whole new country) and also, it's an international move and I worry about them all just breaking. But I am really looking forward to this move and one of the reasons is because there's an actual recycling program! And also trains for traveling! I've never been on a train before because they weren't prevalent where I grew up (Alaska) or practical in the places I have lived since. What a fun video and I look forward to this becoming a series!
@𝘿!𝙘𝙠 Riding ǤƗяℓ Zoe We’ll be donating them to a free store, because we live on a military base, it’s harder to get people to come by to pick things up and we just don’t have the time to meet up and give things to people.
❤️❤️❤️ ty for keeping it real
You are such a source of inspiration for all of us! Lots of love from Québec, Canada 💚
Not me switching to your older videos to see if that plant set up to the right is new 😂
Don't have access to bulk shopping or zero waste shops, but work around it. A lot of places sell stuff bulk unintentionally. Like my local supermarket has beans in bulk which are actually good quality and cheaper. I buy oil in a 5 liter metal container which is recyclable and pretty much lasts me a year and i gift half of it to family members :)) i also buy pasta and rice in big packages. Like pasta in 5 kg sacks (which are of plastic, but its a big piece of plastic which is more likely to get recycled than the 500gr pasta packaging that you can normally find).
Trying to keep up my eco habits has become super hard since I became a student but I am trying! I hope I'll be able to start doing them again once life calms down a bit :)
Jars population is hard to contain in my household 😂
Loved this video! The oil one had me thinking... we don't have bulk oil available here, but we also don't have glass recycling anymore. Is it still better to buy the glass oil container that can't be recycled (and usually is an odd enough shape that I don't have another use for them) over the plastic option that can be recycled?
I think most of us are trying to do what we can afford to do but really can't fuss the rest. My family lives 26 hours away by car or 2 planes and a three hour drive away. Haven't had the money to visit in 8 years but i guarantee that when I can i wont be guilting myself for not paying for carbon offsets for the flight. I'll be grateful they finally get to meet my baby and I get to meet my brothers kid. Fortunately a big part of being sustainable is not buying and if I don't NEED it i can't afford it anyways. Boom! Sustainable
Lol I hand wash all my recyclables, soap and everything. Except things with exceptionally small openings.
You don’t need to waste soap on your recyclables though 😅✨ many facilities just require them to be rinsed out because food scraps get stuck in their machines
I would like to watch more!
Love the make up! About air travel. I know too many people who say they are living sustainably who still have to have one or two air destination vacations a year, sometimes even to eco resorts. I also feel like air travel is a taboo subject. Recycling is not. Even now pros and cons of electric cars or getting solar panels is a fine thing to bring up. But yikes to question why someone just flew 2000 miles for a four day weekend.
Depends on who you talk to I guess, it’s not a taboo here, and we talk frequently about it 😎👌
It is so much easier to be low waste when you live on your own. When I was still at home, my dad would always buy a new plastic bag. I got him canvas bags, those little net bags for veg, but still he refused to use them. That made me sad. He actilly chooses to not be sustainable and to make fun of me when I buy second hand clothes or when my friend made me furniture from scrap wood. He has 2 cars and 3 motorbikes and buys fast fashion all the time. So judgement can be hard. I always tried to explain why I care and I never forced him, just asked. I get all of you who face critisism.
Criticizing people for living sustainably sounds like projection.
Maybe some underlying guilt? Some people seem to feel personally attacked solely because someone has made a different choice from them. I see this a lot amongst parents and parenting choices.
Agree, even about being vegan I say nothing just eat my food and they either start apologizing for what/who they're eating (apologize to the cow not me duh) or they start critizing veganism and giving dumb reasons about "why not everyone can be vegan/plants feel pain/etc etc" like bro I didn't tell you anything why so defensive 👀
@@lucytryingthings I think veganism specifically is the one that gets the most negative attention, largely because many vegans are very vocal and kind of jerk-ish about it (definitely not all). I've met plenty were like you and just quietly did their thing, but I've also seen/met many who were snobbish and treated everyone else as...less than.
Did you make your chunky golden necklaces as well? They are really nice😃
One cannot have too many glass jars😆💖!!
About the travelling via ferry: my boyfriend and I went to Kopenhagen for vacation from Berlin and wanted to make it more sustainable but also affordable so we booked a bus (over ten hours I think..). The moment we stopped to roll onto a ferry i realised we weren’t going through the north of Germany and then all the way through Denmark but over seas with a big old ferry. I was really disappointed in myself that I didn’t realised this when booking, but also hope it was more environmental friendly than flying ...
Next time I would 100% recommend the train, I have taken the train from Copenhagen to Berlin many times and it is so pleasant (and the train also has a much lower carbon footprint than a plane or an old ferry) 🌿💚 But don’t beat yourself up, you are trying and figuring it out as you go is a part of it
Sustainability dilemmas are inevitable indeed. While I can relate to these especially since half of my family lives in Europe and I have a lot of jars 🤣 I have a completely different dilemmas trying to live low waste in Ghana. I'm going to make a video about it on my channel.
Eco agony aunt🤗
I don’t like how flying by plane is put on people who go on holiday maybe once a year and not people (rich people) who fly short distances or have a private plane.
My dilemma is idk what clothing brands are actually sustainable and which are just green washing. Also, is buying from smaller indie brands better than buying from larger brands?
It usually is yes ☺️ I made a list of my blog with eco brands you can always take a look at, the list is also updated frequently 🌿
@@Gittemary Thank you!!
The recycling rinsing one sounds like what I used to hear while using cloth diapers. "That can't be more environmentally friendly, look at how much water it takes to wash them!" *insert eyeroll*
My husband got some crap thrown his way last weekend because we bought an electric lawn mower. Something along the lines of 'Oh, look at you in Biden's pocket. Don't you know those batteries are way worse than a little bit of carbon from the gas?' Bet you can guess who they voted for. This person also doesn't believe climate change is real.
okay so if they don’t even believe in climate change there is no hope for logic 😂😂😂
There are gas powered lawn movers? Must be an American thing. I've only ever seen electric ones. On the other hand, gasoline in my country is so expensive that many people struggle to have enough for everyday car use, who would waste it on lawns 😆
pls make a video about eco friendly mattresses
The other thing with plane travel is go for fewer but longer trips if you can
actually the place air planes burn the most fuel is with takeoff, so I usually at that if you can cut out the smaller trips first that’s better. Several smaller trips can easily have a much bigger impact than one long flight, and it is usually with the smaller trips that there is an option to choose other types of transportation as well ☺️🌿 But yeah, also choosing destinations closer by so you don’t need the flight in general is also 👌👌
@@Gittemary oh I’m so sorry I see now that I misspelled I might go for the longer time and but go less often. Make each trip worth as much as possible (I have corrected to original comment now as well)
I've got a huge dilemma. The amount of packaging for medical supplies. I have to run IVIG (blood product) and D5W once a month. I also have to run 1 liter of saline once a week to try to mitigate some of my symptoms from medical issues. I also have a port that is accessed weekly. The waste that I go through is monumental. I'm talking about the packaging for the following- huber needle (special needle for port septums), the luer lock tip that goes at the end of the huber needle line, the syringes of saline flushes, the IV tubing lines, the packaging that comes in the kit for the IVIG, the bags of saline, the dressing kits for when I access my port and also the heparin lock flush syringes.
Because I also have diabetes and am insulin dependent I have to test my sugar several times a day as well as injecting insulin several times a day.
And because I am on several different oral medications (I do make an effort to get 90 day supplies of my meds to cut down on cost to me and the amount of pill bottles) but what am I supposed to do with so many bottles that can't be reused by the pharmacy (I'm talking about the pharmacy reusing the bottle for the same patient and same medication) and they also can't be recycled either.
Late reply I know. It’s not your fault that medicine doesn’t come in sustainable packaging. There’s literally nothing you can do about it you need them to survive. Instead of stressing over that make changes in other areas of your life. Can you take public transport more often? Cut out meat or dairy once a week (or permanently)? Bulk shop or buy fruit package free? Find out how you can reuse packaging or reuse waste food?
Change what you can control you can’t beat yourself up over your limits.
Hope you feel better about this issue
When I was 16 we used to put dots on the outside of our eyes, usually 5 in a star or 3 in a triangle or moon slither. We did them multi colour - I'm 67 now
I live in a place with no recycling. What kind of materials should I buy, so even if they end up in a landfill, they are not too horrible for the environment? I heard in one of your videos that stainless steel doesn't emit methane, but what about everything else?
No one can live zero waste unless we make the companies who make the waste (plastic) get the bill of cleaning it up and get more sustainable packaging for our products.
Thanks a lot! I cannot see the links. Can you share the one outsetting? Thanks
I explained in the description that I am having internet issues so I’ll put the links in tomorrow ☺️✨
My personal dilemma is cheese. I'm a vegetarian trying to eat more vegan but I love cheese. Where I live, all cheese substitutes are made of coconut or cashews, which aren't much better than cheese for sustainability and ethics. The solution I've found so far is to make my own substitutes with sunflower seeds or potatoes, or to buy cheese that is about to expire and would be thrown out by the grocery store.
When you dumpster dive food, how do you know it isn’t poisoned ?
Too many jars??? Is that a thing? We don't have access to bulk in my village, so it's my dream to open one myself. Wish me luck 🤞
my home absorbs jars and glass bottles my tiny circular economy gifts me only broken jars are put in the blue recycling bin of doubt
My eco dilemma is there really isn't much plus size ( I really hate that term) second hand clothes around. It seems like most people the same size as me wear their clothes threadbare and the items never reach the second hand market. And new sustainably produced clothes in larger sizes are unaffordable, I can't afford to pay 2000 SEK for a pair of leggings which will rip between the tights in a couple of months.
While buying fast fashion isn’t the most sustainable option (in terms of production and workers rights) if you wear every item to death that’s sustainable. Plus if you learn to mend your clothes and reinforce the thighs they last even longer which is sustainable.
Leena Norms has a video showing how she mends her clothes including the thighs of her sustainable dungarees it’s called POV: mend clothes with me I think
In the UK thrift shops are almost exclusively charity shops - this means all the profits from the clothes are going to whatever charity is advertised. Needless to say I love them :33
Now I wonder what her favourite colour is 🤔
Haha it’s red 😎❤️
I know you’ve talked about zero but date dogs, but could you weigh in on how to make your cat more zero waste? I’m struggling for litter pan liners that aren’t plastic, and all pet food comes in plastic bags where I live (US Midwest).
For the attacking relatives, I think that their negative responses are defensive. They feel like you calling your lifestyle “sustainable” is an attack on them and saying that their lifestyle is inherently “unsustainable” and therefore bad or a roundabout way of you calling yourself better than them. I have relatives who think like this, so I know the mindset.
Anyone else concerned about the black dots on her palms? Aka asking for help?
They're tattoo :) she has them on her fingers too!
Not asking for help ☺️ I also made a video about my dot tattoos if anyone was curious 🌿
Oh okay cool 😅 I was a little worried for a second! They’re super cool though!
i loathe being called a guy as a female its demeaning to be lumped in with that lot