In a nutshell: the girl will spend excessive time on her looks - hair, makeup, clothes - and the rest of the time she will go out of her way to ignore you or treat you badly so you won't think she is into you.
In other words, pretty much everything women complain about men doing when they're interested, women do more / worse. Including approaching / not approaching.
If you define communicate as "say what you mean using actual words" you're correct. Women are doing what they think of as communicating all the time: They're hinting, they're giving people "meaningful looks," they're dressing a particular way ... all the imprecise non-verbal signaling that avoids directness and requires some level of mind-reading. How many times have you heard women who regard non-verbal cues as "communicating" get salty that men don't "communicate" that way?
Women are constantly afraid. They live in a state of permanent fear, and we live in a world where everybody uses fear to sell, in politics and just to compete with each other, and this adds to their general fear of rejection. If you want to be good with women just try to fight that fear. Don't dismiss it, but make it seem like you will be able to handle it. Their instinct is to run away and hide, or stay and fight, either way you are triggering behavior that isn't going to help in your relationship. She won't communicate because it isn't about you, it is just a survival instinct. This is why they insist on testing you all the time. It is like that old saying, the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. The better you fight it, the longer she goes without being scared, the better a relationship gets. The thing to avoid, is being hyper or scared yourself, and make plans for the future, like they are set in stone. Stay calm and make it seem like you will be able to handle anything life sends your way, because you can. Life is easy mode compared to history.
Get your shit together and become a man, then none of this double-talk means anything, you just do what the fuck you want. Then you can stop crying about how unfair it is. It's not, it's exactly as it should be. You need to dig deep and get your shit in order, and women behaving like this makes this possible.
5 things I would rather do than deal with ANY woman: 1. Go to work 2. Go workout 3. Go on a vacation 4. Go to the dentist 5. Go anywhere It’s just too stressful and I’m not into games. Life already kicks me in the nuts, I have no desire to bring someone in my life that wants to do it at home.
This just summarizes why dating and long-term relationships are hard and likely to fail. We start out playing this game of, “I need you to read into me, figure out my intentions, spontaneously impress me, get to know me on limited terms, but don’t try too hard because that’s creepy”.. and somehow if you do make it through this initial phase, your relationship inevitably fails because of lack of communication. Shocking!? Not really, your whole initial dating pattern was based on not communicating and sharing your feelings 🤦♂️
Well said! There are so many toxic comments here from the whatever pill groups there are, but you struck gold. I would add don't try too hard because you will look desperate (rather than creepy, although it can be creepy too) which will make her think she has more value and will seek better deal. Mind games.
From my experience, it is far easier to meet someone during the education process, while in the university, for instance. After that, constant influx of new people cuts off rather low. Sometimes work can provide such influx as well, depending on the industry, but there is a professional risk associated to it. At some point influx grinds to zero and people have to make extra miles and dedicate effort to meet anyone other than a shop or petrol station personnel. I also noticed old friends kohort dwindles once they establish families and focus attention on their children, school and other parents from the school. Unsurprisingly, this is why dating apps gained such popularity.
One sign that a woman is into you is she tells you, like an emotionally mature adult would do. Any woman who relies on those other signs is still an adolescent in mindset and not worth getting involved with because she’ll be bringing all her other adolescent baggage with her into the relationship. A confident secure woman is far better than a hint-slipping game-playing emotionally immature woman.
Pretty and hot women give a sign. Pretty and hot women never talk first. And, that shows her confidence. It's the guy's role to approach and talk to the woman first.
I can see why arranged marriages or community events were so immensely important in the past... because without them it seems largely impossible for young people in a civilized culture to get together.
it's a waste of time, youth, and resources to spend 10+ years "dating" like now. In the past life was harder and it made sense to just marry them off at 17-21 and basically force them to stay together, start a family, and make the best of it. At least everyone's basic needs were met and they had communities.
@@ManiaMac1613That is one way to look at it. However, what about how important it is for our children to be with someone who will care for them and add positives to their life?
I think the evidence of the day shows that, whether or not they can get together, it is virtually impossible for a large majority of modern young women to make rational choices when it comes to mates that may or may not be worthy of them, or that they may or may not be worthy of.
Arranged marriage only happened between elits. It would often happened (but not always) between noble families, sometimes between bourgeois families, but rarely/never among the everymen.
You can sum it all up with just one thing. She's giving off mixed signals that are so ambiguous it makes you just want to ignore her. God forbid she actually tells you she likes you.
My experience is all over the map, I've definitely had quite a few women ask me out. I've also done the approaching. And then I've also seen where sometimes we just talked for al long time and I basically asked this friend out. I know some people will hate this, but I don't respect friend zones historically. If she's hot, I may get the idea to ask her out. anyway, I guess my wife - I'm old now so talking as an old married guy - I guess she did approach me first, and that's the relationship that stuck. But, I also made it very clear that I was available and would absolutely say yes if she asked me out. So, does that count as my signaling, if so I set that up. But it's not really hard to signal without getting in trouble. OK watch this. I'm talking to my friend Suzy. Now - yes I established this friendship first. But now we have this conversation: Hey Suzy, whew what a date I had yesterday, didn't work out at all. I sure wish I could find someone nice like you. She going freak out and call 911 for that? PLEASE folks, up your game a little.
Old man here. Never ever take romantic advice from women. And even less from attractive ones. They live on a separate reality regular men never get to step on or experience. Took me a long time to learn this.
Women won't reveal all their secrets, only the ones you are allowed to know. If you find out one of these secrets, don't tell her. She would deny it, and she could end the relationship.
5 things women do when they LIKE a guy: 1. Create problems that don't exist. 2. Blame him for the problems they created. 3. Never compromise on anything in the relationship. 4. Cheat on him to sabotage the relationship. 5. Dump him for a guy who doesn't give a sh*t about her.
In Brazil if a woman likes you she looks right at you, is touchy & compliments you. It is obvious & direct, friendly, warm, comforting & natural. Kissing within a very short time span is very normal as well.
@@brianmeen2158 Relationships require maintenance? What? Who? When did that happen?!?! Seriously, you're right, though. I'm an introvert and I am in need of human interaction that isn't close family related. As all things require work, so too does any relationship.
that's the thing, if you guess wrong you get A) kicked out of the gym B) reported to HR and fired C) labelled a 'creep' in your social circle. Yet they still expect men to make the move. It's pathetic they don't see how they've destroyed their own dating chances with these feminist laws. Even if she likes you she still expects you to approach, but the consequences for being wrong are too severe.
@lverath- I think what you might mean is what they 'assume' based on an emotion. Or, an emotion based on an assumption.... or.... oh fugg it, that s why im a happy Bachelor !
True story: before we were a couple my girlfriend asked in these exact words, “Do you want to be boyfriend and girlfriend?” I said “Yes.” We’ve been together almost 3 years now.
That's great!! When told Linda that I want to take our relationship to the next level, she said that she likes it the way it is now. So I guess that patience is a virtue
As a straight guy, I actively try to not look at women due to simple fear. Women hold a lot of power to ruin a guy's life, and society will tend to favor the words of a woman over a man in these types of situations. So even if I somehow saw AND understood these "signs" (which is highly unlikely), I am definitely not going to act. And honestly, the older I get, the more I'm seeing that having a romantic partner gives me very little. And the little things that you do get are not even guaranteed and usually comes with a lot of terms and conditions. Having meaningful friendships and good hobbies is enough for the most part. The only thing you can't get are s3x and children. And even then, you can always adopt if you really want to be a parent.
It has come to a point where we don't need the drama at all. Why should I invest 2 seconds of my time on someone who can wreck my life just for the fun of it? No way José. I've been single since 2009 and I've used that time to learn new things, travel, learned a new language and I'm currently learning python. It's not worth it guys, we have so much to loose.
" ruin a guy's life" - Tell that to all the girls and women that have been raped by psychopaths. Women and underage girls have been tortured, demonized (religious brainwashing on the masses), oppressed, raped for over 2000 years. Males were always favoured in most cultures and their abusive treatment of women was always approved by psychos and tyrants that were high up in the social hierarchy. It amazes me that people have been so brainwashed to happily think in only black-or-white - its very limiting.
Same here. Last few years the few girls who've been interested in me I never reached out to them or asked them out. I get home and think about it and then realize that I'm comfortable and contempt staying in
…. Big sigh. Ok, this is an old story, but it is illustrative of the problem with these “strategies” from women. Girl sees a guy she is interested in at the bar. She catches his eye, starts doing the body language things to “let him know” she’s interested. He’s oblivious. Unfortunately, another guy she isn’t interested in does know how to “read” that body language (he thinks he’s a “playa”) and comes over and starts to hit on her. The guy she is interested in (who has noticed her, is attracted to her) sees the other guy trying to pick her up and looks away. So she’s trying to get rid of this self-styled “playa”, confused as to why her crush is ignoring her and then is horrified to see some (really rather plain) girl just pull up a chair next to her crush and start chatting him up. They move off together… meanwhile the “playa” still won’t leave our subject alone, and all she can do is decide whether she’s going to try to find a way to get rid of the “playa” or to have a one night stand with him as “revenge” against her oblivious crush who has gone off with a girl who he was honestly much less interested in but who was at least up front in going after what she wanted. This is how well the passive “strategy” works, ladies. It doesn’t.
Let alone you call a woman a "subject" is enough for you to be taken to court and certainly to get a notice of dismissal... Misogyni low-value men has no future in the western world.
I gotta say you're wrong here man. Three plan worked perfectly. The guy in this story got a girl that wasn't a game player, and the girl of the story got another notch on her bedpost.
it's why dating was regulated like in the 1950s with a chaperone and courtship behaviors and whatnot. Leaving it up to their own emotions and hormones, combined with modern feminist legal system has had horrific consequences. They hate 'creepers' but still want men to approach? You can never be sure and the risk is too great
As a 45 year old Mom to two grown daughters, you fellas have some tough stuff to deal with. As a Mom, I’m sorry to hear this, and I’m just glad to hear that myself & both my girls are lucky enough to have good men in our lives.
Oh no, most of them know exactly what they’re doing. They often don’t consider the consequences of their actions or that their actions could possibly be considered off-putting, or could completely backfire. But hey, I have a beautiful wife and beautiful adult daughter. I overhear stuff. High school and college girls nowadays will constantly seek advice from their female friends and often times, their “friends” are setting them up for failure because they have designs on the same guy. My wife didn’t play games. She wasn’t interested and went to great lengths to prove that 😂😂😂 - I wasn’t her type and she wasn’t shy about telling me that constantly (and she honestly meant it). Eventually I won her over and we’ve been married 40 years, but there was a time when she would seriously ghost me in college and would go hide out at other friends’ apartments for a few weeks 😂.
Signs 1.) She gets jealous but maintains cool, will suddenly go cold 2.) Will take extra care of hair and makeup relative to normal (catch her looking different than normal when seeing her unexpectedly) 3.) Wears more form fitting clothes when with you (not necessarily revealing, just form fitting) 4.) Never declines an invite if she knows you are going (will put herself where you are, without clear invite, so that you can run into her "spontaneously") 5.) If on social media, she will respond to your comments on her posts (at a rate higher than other people)
1) Ice queen stay clear, not worth it 2, 3) Nice to look at but never dare say anything complimentary or you're in for a SH suit or pepper spray 4) Have to ask first but not worth the risk (see 1, 2, 3) 5) See 2, 3
My wife passed 2 years ago and my heart hasn't healed. I guess I'm fortunate that people were more up front and honest in the old days. If she had played these kind of games I would have just assumed she was out of my league, which honestly she was.
Very sorry for your loss, as I can not imagine life without my wife of 13 years. But these days, men can not afford to assume a woman is out of his league, because that leads to his woman abusing him and leaving him for another man. Men today still provide way more value in a relationship than any woman, and therefore the majority of men are way out of the league of the majority of women. And men need to realize that.
My wife of 43 years passed almost three years ago. If she had played games like this my kids would have had a different mother. I knew she liked me as when I ask her out she said yes. She kept saying yes. When I ask her to be my wife she said OK. No games just honesty.
Trying subtle hints towards a man is like writing in orange on a red surface for a colorblind person. And then possibly getting frustrated that they just don't see it!
I will never know these signs, I am too oblivious to this kind of games. The risk of opening up vs hiding away from emotional situations is terrifying to me because my peace comes first but my Heart always wants more, I try stay strong but can’t help my own weakness of just wanting that partner to witness my existence. And love me for who I am not what I pretend to be.
It's all... it's just so exhausting! I get the impression that these are tactics (with the exception of the social media thing, of course) that women have been using for generations. Problem is, we live in a different world now. How many times as a guy have you been on the receiving end of signs from a woman that were at least 10 times more obvious than these, only to approach her and get shot down in the most vicious, degrading way possible? Far too many women today aren't seeking a relationship (some may not even be available), but they love that validation -- that reassurance that they can still snag a man whenever they want to. And think about it -- dating apps may have provided women with a much greater range of men to choose from than they would have ever encountered in their daily worlds, but they have also forced women to be much more forward about things -- most of these apps require the woman to swipe the right direction for anything to happen. Simply put, y'all are going to have to be a lot less ambiguous and mysterious if you want to interact with men!
I had a friend when I was younger who was male. He would ask girls to dance or for their number or on a date at clubs and some women would be absolutely vicious. When a woman responded like that he'd always say, "Oh, thank God! My buddies dared me to ask a fat girl, so thanks for saying no!"
@BoredTAK5000 obviously. The problem is the emotional damage that adds up. At some point, most men give up. And then it's the whining "where did all the good men go?" Easy: you only wanted them for cheap, temporary validation with zero return to them.
Games playing. Give out signals that encourage you then shoot you down. The whole purpose of all of it was to get that pleasure in shooting you down. Nasty.
I can't see them ever trying to be forthcoming. You'll never get an obvious sign. Thing is, if you get rejected enough, you end up giving up. Then these signs will always be ignored.
Everyone just needs to be honest, have courage, speak the truth and not play games. If you’re interested, ask them out and be honest. Get rejected or get a date. Nobody can read minds.
They need to respect one another. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And my mum taught us to use, please, thank you and you're welcome. They cost nothing but go a long way
This applies only to women. "Get rejected" sounds super simple and non-threatening, but there are MANY men out there who have been rejected hundreds of times. The idea that a person can be outright rejected hundreds of times and not take damage to their own psyche is very dangerous. Getting rejected is easy for a man who knows he's got a 50/50 chance of not getting rejected. Or even a 25% chance is pretty damn good. But most men out there have a nearly 0% chance of getting a date from a woman they ask. They've done experiments where women are seen telling men that they have a boyfriend when they really don't, and later the woman is asked why, and she didn't know why she said it. Women are conditioned to turn men down.
True to the going cold and putting herself around you. In college had a friend literally stop speaking to me for an entire semester. Took me months to figure out that she'd seen me leave a party with someone else, and this was why I was getting the silent treatment from her. Had another woman literally plop down in the seat next to me in class....and she kept showing up in that same seat next to me at each lecture. Hard to miss that hint......
What you should do: If you like a woman and are interested in dating her, sit her down and have a straightforward conversation with her. If she's not interested no stress. if she refuses to have a clear and honest discussion she's not worth it. It worked for me.
@@alexo5861not worth it. Most will cheat eventually. Social media and dating apps have made it too easy for them to have a stable orbiters and back up guys. Don’t think for a second they don’t already have a couple replacements all lined up. It’s the day and age we live in now
@@alexo5861 What if i don´t want, want to be myself (some kind of "looser") and remain authentic. Why should i want to change because of women, it´s pathetic motivation... if you want to become 15%, at least find different motivation...
I had a gal @ a store throw the ole' puppy dog eyes @ me. She obviously didn't know my age. A couple week later a couple of friends she worked with came out of nowhere. Next time I was there one of the friends said to me ' My friend talks to u & then ask me some ?' Nothing personal & I shook it off. A few days later I filled up my tank & this gal was working. She seemed kinda negative about her friend & almost territorial. I don't even know her name & I don't need to know. The makeup, eye lashes & even an arched back made to accentuate her top where dead give aways. I'm just a Sigma male that cares more about her well-being than her. I think she would be shocked to know that I'm probably older than her father. If this happened 15 yrs ago I would understand it better. But the amount of options they have open to them are much more limited now than 15 yrs ago.😮
The going cold thing isn't so much jealousy as it is envy. She doesn't care so much that someone else is getting attention, she only cares that she isn't getting it. You could be giving two people attention, and she'd be fine with it as long as one is her -- bcs she *just knows* that eventually she'll "win." The going cold thing is actually very handy, tho, for when a girl likes you and you have zero interest beyond friends. If she can't deal with just friends, then she can "go cold" all she wants. 🤷♂️ The social media thing isn't bcs they value the spontaneity; it's bcs they value the "public affirmation." It's the validation to her public eyes -- she would rather have that than the 1:1 engagement.
not replying to my text for 3 hours when everyone looks at their phone every ten minutes just makes me feel like you're talking to someone else and i'm the backup plan... and i refuse to be a backup plan...
I am glad to hear you say that reading body language is difficult for everyone. One problem is that many women believe they can read what someone is thinking, and the truth is they don't do it nearly as well as they imagine. Early on our relationship, whenever I had a clash with my wife, so many times it wasn't about anything I did or said, but what she believed I was thinking. It could be incredibly frustrating because so many times it was completely wrong, what was on my mind was nowhere close to what she thought it was, and we ended up arguing over something that never even happened..
Been Married to my wife for 10 yrs, now, and I totally feel ya, bro! I have no doubt that it's probably better or worse just depending on the couple. At the same time though, I'm pretty much convinced at this point that it's just part of what comes along with being Married.
@gmansard641 Exactly! The whole body language thing is frustrating, and one of the reasons that I have mostly given up on dating. "I looked at you for exactly 1.5 seconds, instead of 1.75 seconds! And I used side eye, instead of a direct glance. You should know the difference between the two, and their ultra specific meanings!" :P lol
I would add to the list, she rarely ever talks to you or stands in the same room as you. I can't count how many times I'd run into someone from years past and they'd tell me all about how some pretty girl that I never talked to had the biggest crush on me.
As a hunter i can read tracks, & know likely what an animal will do or how that animal kind of thinks, not so with women 🤔 cant read em correctly at all, and they all expect a fella to know what some artificial intelligence wrote for a quiz cause theybtook that 2 days ago before meeting 👀
Been single my entire life and I honestly don't see that changing. Every time it seemed a girl was giving some attraction signals it turned out she was definitely not interested. At this point it's probably no longer worth the effort trying to decipher the enigma. The only thing I have figured out is that if she likes you it's flirting but if she doesn't, then it's sexual harassment.
#4, the approach. Now that you Ladies have created "Me Too" you might want to realize that men like myself will no longer joke, tease, open doors, or approach Women without some inside information advocating such. So you might want to consider retreating to your plotting rooms and devise a strategy for making the first move.
With all due respect, Emily, I am going to have to scrap these suggestions. "Dropping hints" may have been fine back in our grandparent's day, but times have changed. Women, nowadays, need to do their part. They need to be open and direct, but polite and respectful. Besides, with all of the sexual harassment politics, female initiation is practically considered mandatory. As for me, I much prefer that the woman take the initiative, and I am sure that I am not the only man who feels this way. When a woman initiates, there is a balance of interaction, the communication is clear, and the relationship is more fulfilling in the long run. If the females don't heed my advice, be more assertive, and take the initiative; then they will see more and more men "going their own way", and avoiding romantic relationships altogether. Thus, leaving women to ask "Where are all of the good men?". Here are some better suggestions: She should approach a man and express her interest in being his friend; she should treat him on a date, or at least pay her own way; and she should initiate the first kiss. Finally, ENOUGH WITH THE STUPID TEXTING. Texting is dehumanizing. If you want to talk, then let's talk VOICE TO VOICE. If I can't get to the phone, LEAVE A VOICEMAIL. Above all, women need to live by the Golden Rule. They need to treat men the same way that they want men to treat them, and not place any demands, or expectations on men that they don't want men to place on them. Please prayerfully consider all that I say. God bless.
Women aren't just going to lay down their expectation for men to take the initiative. Approaching is scary. You'd think they'd have more sympathy toward men that find approaching difficult, given how much worse they are at it. But since we give women permission to expect everything from men, and give men shit for expecting anything from women, there is not just no reason for this situation to change, there are reasons actively keeping it in place. Reasons women will die alone in a houseful of cats before renouncing.
100% agree. Women must absolutely take the initiative in all things. Women must take the initiative in approaching men for romantic relationships. Women must take the initiative indicating that they want sexual pleasures. I’ve been saying the same thing for several years. And this belief system must be implanted into all women of today. We must make it the Expected Normal culture, and beliefs in the minds of women, that women do all the approaching and initiating in anything sexual and romantic
Women may not be doing these things because they like a guy. I've had women get close to me, give all the "right signs" and not be interested. The signs are not necessarily flirting, and this is why guys like myself have walked away. It's not worth the hassle.
If you want to see if a woman likes you and you are in a group, see who she looks at first when a joke or something funny is said. People look at the person who they like first in a situation like this for validation that what was said was funny. This is a neat experiment to do when watching groups of people. You can tell who likes who.
Thought I might hear something new here. But no stress, it is what it is... Life became SO much easier, parties, work, walking down the ole street, etc. when I decided many moons ago that I just don't care anymore. Too much that is impossible to make sense of, or too fleeting to see I do have to fight the regret of having wasted so much of my time in earlier life thinking about this, but I forgive myself each time immediately- I did not know better.
Physical contact. They will touch his stomach, his shoulder, his arm, take the hat from his head and put it on themselves. Laugh at anything and everything he says. Give him gifts. Stand close to him in a group. And defend what he says and does to others, vehemently, even if it's obviously wrong.
Nope, none of that, and public foreplay, means anything beyond her baiting him to become a new orbiter. It used to mean all-night s3x that same evening.
Even IF every sign points to serious interest, most of the time it turns out to be short term, and one sided. You can do everything "right" and all it takes is ONE mistake, or her seeing something "shiny" for her to lose interest and wander off. If you manage to dodge THAT bullet, within a few weeks/months in general you'll discover the woman in question has no hobbies, no passions, and anything YOU were into and she said she was as well, was a ploy to snag you. Narcissistic tendencies, Dark Triad traits, and a general lack of any real investment in relationships makes it not worth even getting involved. For both sexes, do not chase the one YOU want, instead pursue the one that wants you.
You're absolutely correct about doing everything "right" and losing her anyway. That's why we must as men graduate to AMS/ Patrice O'Neal mentality.. She is NOT your woman.. it is just your turn. You can't allow yourself to love a woman 100 percent or it will not only drive her away; but kill you when she leaves. IF you want a woman to stick around you must give her a masculine experience and remain emotionally independent from her. Kill the simp inside, wake up your ego and take charge of interactions with potential partners. Most of all if you ever land a woman that brings positivity to your life.. REWARD HER generously because that is the only type of woman who deserves to be spoiled in a relationship. Doesn't have to be spending a lot of money either.. something special tailored for her is best. I'm getting close to a woman from work right now that is an artist. She just took a new job at another clinic and I'm a decent artist too.. so I drew a picture of her and left it as a surprise on her desk. She cried when she found it and as of today it is the only decoration at her new workstation. Didn't cost me a damn thing but some thought and effort.. meant way more to her than anything I could have bought her.
In essence, who knows what somebody else is thinking! Be okay with being wrong or being rejected sometimes. Be so comfortable with yourself, your values, your looks, your hobbies, your dreams and your desires. All the things that make you the beautiful fallible human you are. And when that inevitable moment comes, and you misjudged the look she gave you, and you went and introduced yourself, and she rejected you. It will be nothing. It will be nothing personal, it'll be just another awkward moment in time you can laugh about.
Being rejected is one thing. Being rejected hundreds of times, over a period of a decade or more, and having a literal 0% success rate is something many men today are facing and dealing with. I find it strange that people think this wouldn't have a severe negative effect on a man's psychological condition. Studies have recently suggested that 40% of men between 20 and 35 are single, and that 30% of men have not had sex in more than one year, and the same percentage have not had a girlfriend in more than two years. If these stats were the same for women (they are not even close) then it would be considered a crisis. No one ever tells women that they need to be okay with rejection, and certainly not with years of rejection with zero success. The reason for all of this is because appearance is the most important factor in starting relationships, and studies show that women rate 80% of men as "below" average in looks.
Great video; thanks for the sanity check. My simple observation is that this list is universally true regardless of the woman’s age. I am one of your older followers and it intrigues me that your advice resonates with me despite the generation gaps. I became a widower recently but I’ve convinced myself I don’t want to live the rest of my life alone. So tuning in to good advice is prudent no matter how old you are. Fortunately I’ve lived long enough (read: experienced) to appreciate the fact I may not have gotten it right at times. So, thanks again…
The older I get the more I appreciate a woman with a good brain filled with a variety of data. I have a hard time finding people to have interesting conversations with. Even in college, it was difficult as I was 30 years older than most students. I'm still young enough to need the physical part of a relationship, but like the comments I see here, I don't have the time or the energy to deal with BS.
Guess I'm just different top 5 things I do 1 I usually turn into the person who says good morning first 2 despite how busy and crazy my schedule is I'll make time for you 3 I'll tell you about my problems 4 when I'm stressed I'll ask you if I can give you a massage ( yes I don't ask for massages when I'm stressed I give them) 5 I'll ask you to come over for dinner and a movie
In my experience, women talk a lot, men don't. So women will talk to anyone whether they like them or not. But if a man starts a conversation with a woman, he is interested in them. If he's not, he won't talk to them.
"I have never understood the female capacity to avoid a direct answer to any question". This is a quote from Mr. Spock in the original Star Trek TV series.
That 4th point (at 5:00) makes me realize one thing ! There was this pretty blond girl I was REALLY into in high school. We were in the same school and texting for a while (she was very shy when i would approach her irl). EVERY time i asked her out, she would accept first, but 2 days before the date, she would give me some excuse to not go. I heard them all. So it got me frustrated, because i really wanted her. At the end of the school year, she went to the same theater show as me, without me knowing. And at the end of the show, she was standing there, waiting for me (body language wasn't lying). Out of nowhere, she wanted a kiss, but i ignored her. What i know today, it's the fact i was too shy to make a move in public. But most of all, each of us went to this show with a friend, and our two friends knew each other. So i'm pretty sure that girl who i was into asked her friend to ask my friend questions about me, where i was going, etc. And i realized just today, thanks to you, i was mad that day because she surprised me (i'm not a big fan of surprises) AND she still waited for me to do the first step (the talking) while she avoided ALL of our dates. Plus, she had the nerve to complain on Facebook about that, with a quote : "To be ignored is the worst suffering" 😬🤦♂️ Not her totally ignoring the times when she rejected me. Later i learned that she was really into me, too. So 10 years later, that still pisses me off. Because i knew i loved her and that could've been a great story.
@@walterdavies6434 To telling someone you love her, you need her to come to the date, just so the relationship can REALLY exist in the first place ... But, as i said, she never came. One year after that story, she texted me to take some news (when a girl send you a text after such a long time, you know she want something). But she saw i wasn't going to make for her the useless efforts i already made. So the texting just lasted a few days, and that was the end. Because obviously, like most women, she didn't take any risk (by invinting me irl, for example). She blocked me on facebook, and i can't find her on other social media. Obviously i lost her phone number. The funny things is i took a part time job when i entered college. And she did randomly came there 3 or 4 times (in 3 years) with her mother, and sometimes with her boyfriend. You would think she would try to look down on me or mock me. But no, she just gave me the blackest look she could. She looked very cold and sad, even with a boyfriend in her life. That's how i know she have the same frustration as me. Hope she realized she fucked up a lot more than i did.
@@danielbennion80 You're right. Unless some kind of trauma or bad thing happened to her, which could explain her behaviour. But even in that case, that would have been pretty hard to change her and to have a healthy relationship with her. Yeah, because, a thing i didn't mention : i always wanted a long-term (ideally lifelong) relationship. Even early in high school, the introvert kid i was always knew what he wanted. That is surely what attracted some girls to me, but at the same time what caused them to gave up, because they understood they could not trick me.
Appreciate the heads up. I've seen with my own eyes what lengths women will go to in order to be in the same location as someone they like. What gets me though is if a guy did that, he's a creepy stalker, lol. They'll also put in this tremendous amount of effort when a simple, "hey you're cute" would save them weeks of wondering and waiting, but then be upset with a guy for not picking up all of the incredibly subtle or even completely ambiguous signs and hints, smh.
The funny thing is that if a guy “found out where she likes hanging out” and then proceeded to keep showing up then he would be accused of stalking/being creepy. But if a woman does it it’s okay???
This has been one of your best ones for me because it’s highlighted what a girl has been doing with me & hearing a confirmation of her behaviour that I’ve picked up on helps a lot
With all the #MeToo stuff that has happened, and the Everyday Sexism online things there is no way I would ask a woman out these days. Too many misread signs and you're being accused of things you didn't do. Nothing good will come of it for men.
Where I worked, they established a sexual harassment office. And it expanded. I stopped asking women if they'd like to go for coffee, it was much safer.
I agree with the one where she will be where you are going to be. Another one she missed is her eyes will change when she sees you. I missed this on my ex until my buddies told me. If she likes you and you are hanging out in a group, she will say and ask things like-"oh you like those type of girls, goth or emo girls?" Also, if you are in a bar and you are hanging out. You are checking out the hottie bassist in the bad, she will inject into the conversation-"I can play an instrument too, I used to play clarinet and I can still play". So after finding out all the stuff you like in women she will try to dress like, or start wearing darker/smokey eyes, etc. She is my ex because after 8yrs she got a new job where she made WAAY more money than me. She started dressing differently than what she portrayed when we hooked up. She started speaking different, hanging out with the Socialites and less and less with my group. She stopped wanting to go to rock shows because "I can't be seen around those kind of people, rockers, bikers..I grew up and someone didn't" Yeah bye!!!! Last I saw the Rollin Stones are still jamming out in their 70's. Deftones are in their 40-50's still make kick ass music. Hmmm I guess those millionaires never grew up.🤣
So, a woman is trying to win a man's heart, & he (most likely unaware she likes him in that way), gives attention to another woman & the first woman gets jealous & acts cold towards him. Hmm. Yeah, that's a great tactic. She'll probably completely push him away & wreck any chance of anything ever happening between them, including friendship. 🤦♂️
2:00 she will get jealous and go cold on you because she is upset 3:37 will take extra care on hair and makeup. 4:23 will wear more form-fitting clothes 5:00 will never decline an invite and go to places where you are 5:56 will respond to social media comments
All these things can be true, and she'll still tell you you're just a friend or that she's not interested. If you don't get enthusiastic reception, even Luke warm, roll out. Follow your gut.
#1, getting jealous. If she hasn't thrown her hat in the ring then she has nothing to be upset about. I said Hi! to her when I came in the room and if she let that oppurtunity pass and some other woman has my attention,,, that's not my fault.
I was bad at approaching women because of child trauma and 3w feminism . That’s an understatement. But I own that now and getting better. It gets much easier if you embrace rejection and believe in yourself and your purpose regardless. This is half the population, we ought to learn communication. And that’s what I’m working on.
I've known this one woman for over 10 years. We used to hang out a lot. She did kinda make the first move. We had a lot in common and became fast friends. Anyway, we were always touching each other when we were together. At times when she was dating (sleeping with) another man she'd wait till he walked away and cozy up to me again. Twice, once early on and another time after more than a year of this. I asked her if she was interested in me sexually. She almost tore my head off both times. Eventually I just felt like her eunuch/gay friend that she could confide in. We still talk occasionally. Last time I had lunch with her we barely hugged. Still, she confided in me her frustrations with her boyfriend and was considering leaving him or just cheating on him. Ya, I know... I dodged a bullet.
lol... I was talking with my brother last weekend about something similar to your example. Women are so inconsistent and slimey at times, they will waste our time for validation and ego boosts... nothing but female narcissism.
Took you years to figure out, the slut was just using you? Shagging other men, then running back to you for a cuddle. The issue was not her, the problem was you. Here is hoping you learned your lesson.
All this is summed up brilliantly by Patrice O’Neal. Women can’t handle rejection. So they will play all sorts of passive aggressive games and test you to see if you are enough of a man for her. It’s highly manipulative. But also, as Patrice said, you can’t blame women for it. It’s the creature that they are. It’s like being mad at fire for burning you.
Men have to tame the inner beast and be civilised for the sake of humanity. Allowing women to wantonly follow their detrimental instincts causes just as much harm. They will one day find themselves required to rein it in for the sake of others, if this species is to perpetuate.
It sounds like many women are confused about the difference between creating some ambiguity (or plausible deniability) about their interest - which is passive-aggressive and disrespectful but at least men might be able to work with it - and what are very clearly negative or impersonal signals. Misinterpreting a negative signal carries a genuine risk of legal consequences, and whatever a woman does with her appearance is something every man sees, not one man in particular.
yep, it's too risky now to approach them. If you're wrong she has the trump card of getting you kicked out of gym, reporting you to human resources, labelling you a 'creep' to your social circle, etc... yet they still expect men to make the move.
My list: 1, She will compliment you. 2, She will tell you about something she needs help with and accepts your offer to help. 3, Look at you with her best smile. 4, Laugh at your jokes and encourage you to talk to her. Forty years later, she is still doing this to me.
Really good advice. Like most men, I’m not good at reading subtle gestures and body language of women. Women are very subtle in their signs but usually I can tell whether she is interested in me or not. Now I do know that teasing is actually a good sign.
Okay, this is why men like a bit of forwardness and being upfront. A lot of men know most of these 5 things or experienced them to a degree. The problem still is the women might be setting themselves up being available, dressing up, and being jealous, but it is not clear that this is for a specific man (in a group/public setting), and in most cases there is another man in the vicinity. If this is the case a man will think this is for the other man first than for him, unless he is a bit conceded or has some previous hint that the woman is interested. So this approach may fail, and these days women do not seem to give a whole lot of chances for men to read the language. Ovaltine decoder rings are not lining up. It will be interesting to see what you have for the men's 5 things, although through many of your videos you have already stated many of them clearly. Women should just watch your videos and read the comments, and stop thinking up games to play. Doing a check this box note would benefit them the most if they want to keep playing game though.
Ladies, if you don't want to end up in boxed wine and cat-land, be more direct. Stop the body language shenanigans, and leave that to the lower order mammals. Because living from 40 to 80 is an awfully long time.
what's shocking is older women don't even warn them of this. They're all that irrational and inept. You'd think at least their own damn parents would tell them. you see why arranged marriages were a thing in most societies.
@@manager4409older women are pure regret of what they didn't. If the were wives, they complain about not travelling and getting a lot of sexual partners, if they did the first in their youth and gambled their chance to be wives they'll complain about being alone.
The reason im in cat land is because the only interested men wanna just come over and have sex and say perverted things instead of trying to go to a restaurant and talk like a normal person so its not my fault that men cant even sit and eat a meal with a woman anymore
For me, a good sign that a woman is into you or likes you is when SHE TELLS YOU she likes you, like a full grown mature adult will do. Sure, body language and certain behaviors are a good indication that she may be into you but it is STILL GUESSING. It is not berating or belittling to tell someone you like them, regardless if you're a man or woman. I've had a few women in the past tell me they like me, and it was ok, I thought no less of them...I found it kinda adorable actually.
5 things women do when they LIKE a guy: - 1. Notice he is tall 2. Notice he is tall 3. Notice he is tall 4. Think he is a chad 5. Did I mention.....Notice he is tall?
I saw those first two this past weekend. Not towards me, but a buddy of mine. I was at a singles conference, made some new friends, and the girl of the friend group developed feelings for my buddy real quick. And the conference spanned multiple days and included a dance. So, the next day, the girl had her hair down whereas she had it up the day before and I commented on it and she said she usually wears it up. Then, at the dance, another girl took interest in my buddy and kept him to herself for like an hour talking about who knows what, and the girl in the friend group made several angry, jealous glances in their direction. And she did look a bit frosty. It was really interesting to see.
So what Emily said that some girls will show some jealous looks, but the man is still confused. Women need to be more direct, and say what's on their mind and tell the guy just that
In regards to unconventional tactics, how do such women expect to attract a Man (I said Man, not guy) if they don't SHOW interest? I ain't in the habbit of pettin a dog that's barkin or lookin like it wants a chunk of my anatomy. Enjoyed the video and keep up the good work, ma'am. Yer appreciated and respected more than you can know.
What I like about Emily's approach is that she is not endorsing behaviors, she is more flagging a reality. This should theoretically help people figure each other out. Most of the behaviors on this list are relatively subtle and/or could be aimed at someone else in the same group. The responding to SM posts is the most targeted. The jealousy is hard to see as it could be the result of a woman having a bad day. Bottom line, most of this could be ignored unless the man is attracted to the woman. That's what makes these subtle gestures wise: they are allowing a social out.
Men are not mind readers and subtle hints are beyond my comprehension. I suck at that. Now what do I do…….nothing. My social media consists of LinkedIn. That’s it. No bs, no swipes, nothing. Social media is the kryptonite or poison of honest relationships. No win situation.
From the guy side many of us do not just make an overt move cold. We try to talk to you and feel you out some. If you're not welcoming or do not give us a giant flashing sign you're interested we will usually miss it. Hints and subtle ques will often miss. The guys that hit on you up front usually do that to everyone, or rarely, just get the fire and decide they must at that moment. Let us know!
Yeah that shit annoying. Also when a woman knows that another woman likes me but never tells me about it so I never make a move. I need that information ladies!!
Problem is, all the examples Emily bring up, can also be something else. They can be misinterpreted and easily taken out of context. They are not certain enough to act on, given the potential consequences of guessing wrong. Her advice is valid in one sense, but at the same time, not really applicable in the real world.
4:15 This happened to me at work once. I did notice. She was lovely but a single mom with the dad still hanging around. He continued to hang around. I left it alone.
One of my ex's did a few of these things and admitted them to me after we became a couple. We knew each other as colleagues before we dated and she liked me for quite a while but never said anything. I didnt know how to read the signs at that time to the point I even asked her to be my wingwoman on a few occasions. My own friends were the ones that pointed out she liked me after they met her at a party round my place that I invited her to. They could all see it lol.
When two friends like the same guy would be a good topic for a video. At college (long time ago!) two friends I vaguely knew broke up spectacularly one day in the cafeteria, as one marched past me she shouted, "This is your f***ing fault!!". This was the first time I knew anything about it! Apparently, they had been both vying for my attention for months, hadn't noticed. Tbh, I don't think my social acuity, or rather lack thereof, has improved any over the years - just punch me in the face and tell me we're going out on Saturday.
Theese are no signs! We can just say, she wants to look pretty all the times, like every other girl. This game is already setting us, men, up to lose. Or to misinterpret. A lot of the times women just laughed at me, when i liked a girl, like what... Shaming because i have feelings. I'm not even trying to do anything today, and im mentally sane because of this. If women learn to be more straight up than this, then maybe, but i wont be chasing.
The thing about this advice is that FIRST, you have to be aware enough to be looking for this evidence, SECOND, a lot of this can ALSO just be... friendliness/coincidence and THIRD no one part of it is enough. It has to be multiple. And to notice a pattern of behaviour that MIGHT indicate interest before she loses that interest AND to take action KNOWING you might be mistaken. It's tough. And when women respond to my comments on social media... I just assume I made them laugh? Or they're being polite? And I genuinely think the only thing women REALLY need to do to fix it is... develop some empathy. People ALWAYS talk about how emotionally intelligent women are... but I just don't agree. Emotionally self aware maybe? But empathy requires seeing things from other people's perspective and women DO NOT do this for men. You can tell bc men's suffering is OFTEN dismissed as whining. Women only EVER seem to learn from hard experience. They need to lose a loved one to it, or have somebody they PERSONALLY care about subjected to the problem (have a son who is falsely accused, for instance) When women can say "yeah, it totally sucks to be a man in this situation" and to offer some grace.... a LOT of the angst disappears. Instead, we live in a world where a LOT of women justify the pressure on men by saying that ALL men have to worry about is rejection, whereas a woman has to worry about being murdered. The fact ANYONE can make that statement without being IMMEDIATELY identified as insane... THAT is the problem.
First time watching a video from this RUclipsr. Very lovely person and interesting, valuable information too. You know when Don Draper, who has a good eye for design, in one Mad Men episode is asked about Betty's newly outfitted and decorated room, and he tells his wife and the decorator that moving the end table to the other side of the couch will make it look better? The color scheme of the interior of the bedroom in the background, the paintings/prints, the bedding, and the curtains are very nice. It looks like someone put a lot of effort into them. As a person with ADHD, though, 5 things to change about the appearance of this video: 1. Add some kind of headboard to the bed that has a height that is at least, say, twelve inches above the pillows. 2. Paintings/prints that you hang up are not supposed to be up by the ceiling. Paintings/prints that hang above a piece of furniture, such as a bed, should appear to be an extension of that piece of furniture. So, get rid of the ancient call box that I'll bet you a million dollars you've never even thought of using (so, have a handyman yank it out and repair the wall with wallboard, spackle, and paint), and then hang the paintings closer together with the bottom of at least one of the paintings being, say, no more than six inches above the headboard. 3. Close the closet doors immediately behind you. 4. Close the closet doors in front of what appears to be the washer/dryer in the room to the right. 5. Speaking for the vast majority of male viewers and not speaking for any female viewers who for some reason incorrectly think long hair looks better in front of the shoulders in photos and videos, instead of ever having any of your hair fall to the front of your shoulders or placing your hair in the front of your shoulders, make sure your beautiful, long hair falls behind your shoulders, except maybe, at the most, allow a small, wispy strand of hair to fall to the front (if any). It does not look better in front. Do women who think it looks better in front think it looks better that way because people can see how long it is? Because it doesn't look better in front.
Things that a woman will NOT do if she's into a guy
1) Tell him
So true
that's right
Absolutely.
Got that right.
100%
In a nutshell: the girl will spend excessive time on her looks - hair, makeup, clothes - and the rest of the time she will go out of her way to ignore you or treat you badly so you won't think she is into you.
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In other words, pretty much everything women complain about men doing when they're interested, women do more / worse. Including approaching / not approaching.
i wonder why there are so many men and women not finding together and where this might come from :D
Then hit the wall, after maybe riding the carrousel, and complain about men.
If you do not want to end up with a harrasment charge...then avoid American strong and independent smelly beings.
I only do one thing when I think a woman is attractive. I tell myself it's not worth it.... and then I do absolutely nothing. The end.
Smart man.
Thats the spirit!
sad :(
This is the way.
I try to look inside the soul. I think I've only seen one in the last 4 years worth maybe getting to know
I think Al Bundy said it best: "Never try to understand women. Women understand women, and they hate each other." :D
Off to the nudie bar!!!
Lol
Al bundy farted in a bottle and I purchased it online
As a man gets older they lose their tolerance for games and bullsh-t. Life is too short. I have ZERO patience for any kind of mind games. ZERO.
Women will do literally anything except communicate.
If you define communicate as "say what you mean using actual words" you're correct. Women are doing what they think of as communicating all the time: They're hinting, they're giving people "meaningful looks," they're dressing a particular way ... all the imprecise non-verbal signaling that avoids directness and requires some level of mind-reading. How many times have you heard women who regard non-verbal cues as "communicating" get salty that men don't "communicate" that way?
Women are constantly afraid. They live in a state of permanent fear, and we live in a world where everybody uses fear to sell, in politics and just to compete with each other, and this adds to their general fear of rejection. If you want to be good with women just try to fight that fear. Don't dismiss it, but make it seem like you will be able to handle it. Their instinct is to run away and hide, or stay and fight, either way you are triggering behavior that isn't going to help in your relationship. She won't communicate because it isn't about you, it is just a survival instinct. This is why they insist on testing you all the time.
It is like that old saying, the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. The better you fight it, the longer she goes without being scared, the better a relationship gets. The thing to avoid, is being hyper or scared yourself, and make plans for the future, like they are set in stone. Stay calm and make it seem like you will be able to handle anything life sends your way, because you can. Life is easy mode compared to history.
@AcmeRacing Good points.
Sad thing is they communicate directly to other women about u.
or be held accountable....
That’s it right there.
To sum it up :
There's no evident difference whether she appreciates you or doesn't care at all, because she thinks in strategy, not in authenticity.
This, my brother, is the whole truth.
It's ALL just a game to women.
What a sad ending
"Men should learn to...." ... earth to females: after 5000 years, this hasn't happened yet sooo.....
All of this stuff you are talking about is pure bullshit.I am for your info done with women I will die single
Get your shit together and become a man, then none of this double-talk means anything, you just do what the fuck you want. Then you can stop crying about how unfair it is. It's not, it's exactly as it should be. You need to dig deep and get your shit in order, and women behaving like this makes this possible.
5 things I would rather do than deal with ANY woman:
1. Go to work
2. Go workout
3. Go on a vacation
4. Go to the dentist
5. Go anywhere
It’s just too stressful and I’m not into games. Life already kicks me in the nuts, I have no desire to bring someone in my life that wants to do it at home.
4. is very important, because teeth can be "pain in ass" if you won´t deal with them early enough and can literally ruin your life.
Facts.
Unplug from the porn, bro.
#4 specially
@@kurtsmith2699what?
This just summarizes why dating and long-term relationships are hard and likely to fail. We start out playing this game of, “I need you to read into me, figure out my intentions, spontaneously impress me, get to know me on limited terms, but don’t try too hard because that’s creepy”.. and somehow if you do make it through this initial phase, your relationship inevitably fails because of lack of communication. Shocking!? Not really, your whole initial dating pattern was based on not communicating and sharing your feelings 🤦♂️
Well said! There are so many toxic comments here from the whatever pill groups there are, but you struck gold. I would add don't try too hard because you will look desperate (rather than creepy, although it can be creepy too) which will make her think she has more value and will seek better deal. Mind games.
underrated comment
I'm old school, so it seems to date these days you need a smart phone and all the social media apps. I guess I'll just continue to keep life simple!
From my experience, it is far easier to meet someone during the education process, while in the university, for instance. After that, constant influx of new people cuts off rather low. Sometimes work can provide such influx as well, depending on the industry, but there is a professional risk associated to it. At some point influx grinds to zero and people have to make extra miles and dedicate effort to meet anyone other than a shop or petrol station personnel. I also noticed old friends kohort dwindles once they establish families and focus attention on their children, school and other parents from the school. Unsurprisingly, this is why dating apps gained such popularity.
My God you are so right! I had to write this one down, Lol. Good point!
One sign that a woman is into you is she tells you, like an emotionally mature adult would do. Any woman who relies on those other signs is still an adolescent in mindset and not worth getting involved with because she’ll be bringing all her other adolescent baggage with her into the relationship. A confident secure woman is far better than a hint-slipping game-playing emotionally immature woman.
Right on, brother.
That's a very large amount of women in that case.
Totally agree!
That's why they are called "unicorns". They are rare.
Pretty and hot women give a sign. Pretty and hot women never talk first. And, that shows her confidence.
It's the guy's role to approach and talk to the woman first.
I can see why arranged marriages or community events were so immensely important in the past... because without them it seems largely impossible for young people in a civilized culture to get together.
Marriage was also traditionally viewed as more of a business arrangement than something done for love in many cultures.
it's a waste of time, youth, and resources to spend 10+ years "dating" like now. In the past life was harder and it made sense to just marry them off at 17-21 and basically force them to stay together, start a family, and make the best of it. At least everyone's basic needs were met and they had communities.
@@ManiaMac1613That is one way to look at it. However, what about how important it is for our children to be with someone who will care for them and add positives to their life?
I think the evidence of the day shows that, whether or not they can get together, it is virtually impossible for a large majority of modern young women to make rational choices when it comes to mates that may or may not be worthy of them, or that they may or may not be worthy of.
Arranged marriage only happened between elits. It would often happened (but not always) between noble families, sometimes between bourgeois families, but rarely/never among the everymen.
You can sum it all up with just one thing. She's giving off mixed signals that are so ambiguous it makes you just want to ignore her. God forbid she actually tells you she likes you.
Exactly🤣
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There is more chance of finding religion than that happening
My experience is all over the map, I've definitely had quite a few women ask me out. I've also done the approaching. And then I've also seen where sometimes we just talked for al long time and I basically asked this friend out. I know some people will hate this, but I don't respect friend zones historically. If she's hot, I may get the idea to ask her out. anyway, I guess my wife - I'm old now so talking as an old married guy - I guess she did approach me first, and that's the relationship that stuck. But, I also made it very clear that I was available and would absolutely say yes if she asked me out. So, does that count as my signaling, if so I set that up. But it's not really hard to signal without getting in trouble. OK watch this. I'm talking to my friend Suzy. Now - yes I established this friendship first. But now we have this conversation: Hey Suzy, whew what a date I had yesterday, didn't work out at all. I sure wish I could find someone nice like you. She going freak out and call 911 for that? PLEASE folks, up your game a little.
Love that!! That's a good one!
Old man here.
Never ever take romantic advice from women. And even less from attractive ones. They live on a separate reality regular men never get to step on or experience.
Took me a long time to learn this.
Never listen to a fish on how to catch fish
Old man here.
Everything Emily says in this video is true. I have seen all of this when I had romantic relationships in my life.
Women won't reveal all their secrets, only the ones you are allowed to know.
If you find out one of these secrets, don't tell her. She would deny it, and she could end the relationship.
Arguably the DUMBEST thing I've heard in years
I as woman preffer to listen to men's advice about men, but I'm here because I have seen a few videos of this woman and she seems to know things 😄
5 things women do when they LIKE a guy:
1. Create problems that don't exist.
2. Blame him for the problems they created.
3. Never compromise on anything in the relationship.
4. Cheat on him to sabotage the relationship.
5. Dump him for a guy who doesn't give a sh*t about her.
Lol..WTF is WRONG with you
So true
Great list! You really DO know women!
❤️❤️👍true
So how do you tell the difference from her hating you?
In Brazil if a woman likes you she looks right at you, is touchy & compliments you. It is obvious & direct, friendly, warm, comforting & natural. Kissing within a very short time span is very normal as well.
Undercover agents use the same tactics..
What part of Brazil? LOL
Quick question, how safe is Salvador de Bahia?
Can confirm.
Then she tells you her price list😂
No time for drama. Life is too short to be miserable.
Then you better avoid all types of relationships
@@brianmeen2158 Relationships require maintenance? What? Who? When did that happen?!?!
Seriously, you're right, though. I'm an introvert and I am in need of human interaction that isn't close family related. As all things require work, so too does any relationship.
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We should just invent a mind reading helmet that tells us what women think.
that's the thing, if you guess wrong you get A) kicked out of the gym B) reported to HR and fired C) labelled a 'creep' in your social circle. Yet they still expect men to make the move. It's pathetic they don't see how they've destroyed their own dating chances with these feminist laws. Even if she likes you she still expects you to approach, but the consequences for being wrong are too severe.
@lverath- I think what you might mean is what they 'assume' based on an emotion. Or, an emotion based on an assumption.... or.... oh fugg it, that s why im a happy Bachelor !
Be careful what you wish for...
Are you mad?! Learning what women really think about us will probably lead to the extinction of the species from resentment.
@@tnbrfller exactly,
True story: before we were a couple my girlfriend asked in these exact words, “Do you want to be boyfriend and girlfriend?” I said “Yes.” We’ve been together almost 3 years now.
That's great!! When told Linda that I want to take our relationship to the next level, she said that she likes it the way it is now. So I guess that patience is a virtue
If she walked up to you having never spoken to you before and said those words, I would applaud 👏 her. 😅
@@andre1987eph it was online and we had spoken to each other a tiny bit before.
1 in a billion woman right there
You're so lucky bro, good for you
I once ask a female if she would come home with me, and she did. Two weeks later I found her owner and was sad to see her go. She was a good puppy.
As a straight guy, I actively try to not look at women due to simple fear. Women hold a lot of power to ruin a guy's life, and society will tend to favor the words of a woman over a man in these types of situations. So even if I somehow saw AND understood these "signs" (which is highly unlikely), I am definitely not going to act. And honestly, the older I get, the more I'm seeing that having a romantic partner gives me very little. And the little things that you do get are not even guaranteed and usually comes with a lot of terms and conditions. Having meaningful friendships and good hobbies is enough for the most part. The only thing you can't get are s3x and children. And even then, you can always adopt if you really want to be a parent.
Have to agree, they don't really offer much.
She will ruin your life if you let her. That would be on you
You are right. So I have lerned to be content with having Sex.
That's it then.
It has come to a point where we don't need the drama at all. Why should I invest 2 seconds of my time on someone who can wreck my life just for the fun of it? No way José. I've been single since 2009 and I've used that time to learn new things, travel, learned a new language and I'm currently learning python. It's not worth it guys, we have so much to loose.
" ruin a guy's life" - Tell that to all the girls and women that have been raped by psychopaths. Women and underage girls have been tortured, demonized (religious brainwashing on the masses), oppressed, raped for over 2000 years. Males were always favoured in most cultures and their abusive treatment of women was always approved by psychos and tyrants that were high up in the social hierarchy. It amazes me that people have been so brainwashed to happily think in only black-or-white - its very limiting.
Great advice Emily, but I gave up. Being in a relationship doesn’t seem as great as it should be. Also tired of the BS that’s always played on me
Same here. Last few years the few girls who've been interested in me I never reached out to them or asked them out. I get home and think about it and then realize that I'm comfortable and contempt staying in
And this video just shows the mind games begin before you even get in the relationship
…. Big sigh.
Ok, this is an old story, but it is illustrative of the problem with these “strategies” from women.
Girl sees a guy she is interested in at the bar. She catches his eye, starts doing the body language things to “let him know” she’s interested. He’s oblivious. Unfortunately, another guy she isn’t interested in does know how to “read” that body language (he thinks he’s a “playa”) and comes over and starts to hit on her. The guy she is interested in (who has noticed her, is attracted to her) sees the other guy trying to pick her up and looks away.
So she’s trying to get rid of this self-styled “playa”, confused as to why her crush is ignoring her and then is horrified to see some (really rather plain) girl just pull up a chair next to her crush and start chatting him up. They move off together… meanwhile the “playa” still won’t leave our subject alone, and all she can do is decide whether she’s going to try to find a way to get rid of the “playa” or to have a one night stand with him as “revenge” against her oblivious crush who has gone off with a girl who he was honestly much less interested in but who was at least up front in going after what she wanted.
This is how well the passive “strategy” works, ladies. It doesn’t.
Let alone you call a woman a "subject" is enough for you to be taken to court and certainly to get a notice of dismissal... Misogyni low-value men has no future in the western world.
"ok"
I gotta say you're wrong here man.
Three plan worked perfectly. The guy in this story got a girl that wasn't a game player, and the girl of the story got another notch on her bedpost.
This is comical how indirect they are.
it's why dating was regulated like in the 1950s with a chaperone and courtship behaviors and whatnot. Leaving it up to their own emotions and hormones, combined with modern feminist legal system has had horrific consequences. They hate 'creepers' but still want men to approach? You can never be sure and the risk is too great
@@manager4409Yes you got it right . This me too thing dident help either
It sure is.
Trust me - men are even much more indirect.
Nonsense.@@andersnielsen6044
As a 45 year old Mom to two grown daughters, you fellas have some tough stuff to deal with. As a Mom, I’m sorry to hear this, and I’m just glad to hear that myself & both my girls are lucky enough to have good men in our lives.
Men playing women's games takes a lot of effort, with practically no upside.
All 5 things told me that women play games and don't even know that they're playing games.
...and need to KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF.
Women are too busy with themselves; they can't even tell that they're just playing.
Oh no, most of them know exactly what they’re doing. They often don’t consider the consequences of their actions or that their actions could possibly be considered off-putting, or could completely backfire. But hey, I have a beautiful wife and beautiful adult daughter. I overhear stuff. High school and college girls nowadays will constantly seek advice from their female friends and often times, their “friends” are setting them up for failure because they have designs on the same guy. My wife didn’t play games. She wasn’t interested and went to great lengths to prove that 😂😂😂 - I wasn’t her type and she wasn’t shy about telling me that constantly (and she honestly meant it). Eventually I won her over and we’ve been married 40 years, but there was a time when she would seriously ghost me in college and would go hide out at other friends’ apartments for a few weeks 😂.
It's like the Vulcan mind communication, except the woman would be the Vulcan.
Signs
1.) She gets jealous but maintains cool, will suddenly go cold
2.) Will take extra care of hair and makeup relative to normal (catch her looking different than normal when seeing her unexpectedly)
3.) Wears more form fitting clothes when with you (not necessarily revealing, just form fitting)
4.) Never declines an invite if she knows you are going (will put herself where you are, without clear invite, so that you can run into her "spontaneously")
5.) If on social media, she will respond to your comments on her posts (at a rate higher than other people)
I would add standing near you, even with her back turned.
Yes, she will allow you into her personal space is what I was thinking and I agree with your comment.
All things so easily missed, misread, or misinterpreted at the mans expense and detriment.
Can you please add time stamps?
1) Ice queen stay clear, not worth it
2, 3) Nice to look at but never dare say anything complimentary or you're in for a SH suit or pepper spray
4) Have to ask first but not worth the risk (see 1, 2, 3)
5) See 2, 3
My wife passed 2 years ago and my heart hasn't healed. I guess I'm fortunate that people were more up front and honest in the old days. If she had played these kind of games I would have just assumed she was out of my league, which honestly she was.
I’m sorry for your loss, Pops.
Very sorry for your loss, as I can not imagine life without my wife of 13 years. But these days, men can not afford to assume a woman is out of his league, because that leads to his woman abusing him and leaving him for another man. Men today still provide way more value in a relationship than any woman, and therefore the majority of men are way out of the league of the majority of women. And men need to realize that.
My wife of 43 years passed almost three years ago. If she had played games like this my kids would have had a different mother. I knew she liked me as when I ask her out she said yes. She kept saying yes. When I ask her to be my wife she said OK. No games just honesty.
Trying subtle hints towards a man is like writing in orange on a red surface for a colorblind person. And then possibly getting frustrated that they just don't see it!
I will never know these signs, I am too oblivious to this kind of games. The risk of opening up vs hiding away from emotional situations is terrifying to me because my peace comes first but my Heart always wants more, I try stay strong but can’t help my own weakness of just wanting that partner to witness my existence. And love me for who I am not what I pretend to be.
It's all... it's just so exhausting! I get the impression that these are tactics (with the exception of the social media thing, of course) that women have been using for generations. Problem is, we live in a different world now. How many times as a guy have you been on the receiving end of signs from a woman that were at least 10 times more obvious than these, only to approach her and get shot down in the most vicious, degrading way possible? Far too many women today aren't seeking a relationship (some may not even be available), but they love that validation -- that reassurance that they can still snag a man whenever they want to. And think about it -- dating apps may have provided women with a much greater range of men to choose from than they would have ever encountered in their daily worlds, but they have also forced women to be much more forward about things -- most of these apps require the woman to swipe the right direction for anything to happen. Simply put, y'all are going to have to be a lot less ambiguous and mysterious if you want to interact with men!
I had a friend when I was younger who was male. He would ask girls to dance or for their number or on a date at clubs and some women would be absolutely vicious. When a woman responded like that he'd always say, "Oh, thank God! My buddies dared me to ask a fat girl, so thanks for saying no!"
Remember if she shoots you down in “the most vicious and degrading way possible” then she’s not who you want to be with
@BoredTAK5000 obviously. The problem is the emotional damage that adds up. At some point, most men give up. And then it's the whining "where did all the good men go?"
Easy: you only wanted them for cheap, temporary validation with zero return to them.
Games playing. Give out signals that encourage you then shoot you down. The whole purpose of all of it was to get that pleasure in shooting you down. Nasty.
I can't see them ever trying to be forthcoming. You'll never get an obvious sign. Thing is, if you get rejected enough, you end up giving up. Then these signs will always be ignored.
could just as well be "5 things women do to stay single"
That was as clear as mud!!
?????
Bhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Facts
Yup
Everyone just needs to be honest, have courage, speak the truth and not play games. If you’re interested, ask them out and be honest. Get rejected or get a date. Nobody can read minds.
They need to respect one another. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And my mum taught us to use, please, thank you and you're welcome. They cost nothing but go a long way
exactly. Games are stupid, waste of time and resources.
Soooooo, shit or get off the pot?
@@williamlugmayer3429 More gratitude means less attitude! Your Ma seems like an awesome lady.
This applies only to women. "Get rejected" sounds super simple and non-threatening, but there are MANY men out there who have been rejected hundreds of times. The idea that a person can be outright rejected hundreds of times and not take damage to their own psyche is very dangerous. Getting rejected is easy for a man who knows he's got a 50/50 chance of not getting rejected. Or even a 25% chance is pretty damn good. But most men out there have a nearly 0% chance of getting a date from a woman they ask. They've done experiments where women are seen telling men that they have a boyfriend when they really don't, and later the woman is asked why, and she didn't know why she said it. Women are conditioned to turn men down.
True to the going cold and putting herself around you. In college had a friend literally stop speaking to me for an entire semester. Took me months to figure out that she'd seen me leave a party with someone else, and this was why I was getting the silent treatment from her. Had another woman literally plop down in the seat next to me in class....and she kept showing up in that same seat next to me at each lecture. Hard to miss that hint......
What you should do: If you like a woman and are interested in dating her, sit her down and have a straightforward conversation with her. If she's not interested no stress. if she refuses to have a
clear and honest discussion she's not worth it.
It worked for me.
Been there and done this.
Very good advice and it saves a lot of time and confusion.
i appreciate when a woman approaches me if anything just to say hi , even introduce herself .
Why does this even matter when 90% of all guys are invisible to 80% of all women..
yea this only applies to about 15% of guys.
Then make yourself one of the 15%!
@alexo5861 that is statistically impossible. How can the 90% that are invisible to women become the 10%?
@@alexo5861not worth it. Most will cheat eventually. Social media and dating apps have made it too easy for them to have a stable orbiters and back up guys. Don’t think for a second they don’t already have a couple replacements all lined up. It’s the day and age we live in now
@@alexo5861 What if i don´t want, want to be myself (some kind of "looser") and remain authentic. Why should i want to change because of women, it´s pathetic motivation... if you want to become 15%, at least find different motivation...
Jealousy turns into coldness, even though she isn't your girlfriend. That's just plain old insanity.
but remember, gonna say it with man words: "she not mad"
:D
She should've shot her shot! Hehe! Ain't gonna worry about her being mad if I'm talking to other women. That's her problem.
No that's feminimity
I had a gal @ a store throw the ole' puppy dog eyes @ me. She obviously didn't know my age. A couple week later a couple of friends she worked with came out of nowhere. Next time I was there one of the friends said to me ' My friend talks to u & then ask me some ?' Nothing personal & I shook it off. A few days later I filled up my tank & this gal was working. She seemed kinda negative about her friend & almost territorial. I don't even know her name & I don't need to know. The makeup, eye lashes & even an arched back made to accentuate her top where dead give aways. I'm just a Sigma male that cares more about her well-being than her. I think she would be shocked to know that I'm probably older than her father. If this happened 15 yrs ago I would understand it better. But the amount of options they have open to them are much more limited now than 15 yrs ago.😮
I just heard 5 things where we need to be mind readers.Its amazing anyone gets together. As someone with no social media 5 is out.
The going cold thing isn't so much jealousy as it is envy. She doesn't care so much that someone else is getting attention, she only cares that she isn't getting it. You could be giving two people attention, and she'd be fine with it as long as one is her -- bcs she *just knows* that eventually she'll "win."
The going cold thing is actually very handy, tho, for when a girl likes you and you have zero interest beyond friends. If she can't deal with just friends, then she can "go cold" all she wants. 🤷♂️
The social media thing isn't bcs they value the spontaneity; it's bcs they value the "public affirmation." It's the validation to her public eyes -- she would rather have that than the 1:1 engagement.
not replying to my text for 3 hours when everyone looks at their phone every ten minutes just makes me feel like you're talking to someone else and i'm the backup plan... and i refuse to be a backup plan...
I am glad to hear you say that reading body language is difficult for everyone. One problem is that many women believe they can read what someone is thinking, and the truth is they don't do it nearly as well as they imagine.
Early on our relationship, whenever I had a clash with my wife, so many times it wasn't about anything I did or said, but what she believed I was thinking.
It could be incredibly frustrating because so many times it was completely wrong, what was on my mind was nowhere close to what she thought it was, and we ended up arguing over something that never even happened..
And she would have never guessed "the Roman Empire."
@@poppasan1873 Coincidentally I teach history at a small midwest college, Rome is something I think about quite a lot.
@@gmansard641I ran across a meme last week that said guys think
of the Roman Empire a lot.
Been Married to my wife for 10 yrs, now, and I totally feel ya, bro! I have no doubt that it's probably better or worse just depending on the couple. At the same time though, I'm pretty much convinced at this point that it's just part of what comes along with being Married.
@gmansard641 Exactly! The whole body language thing is frustrating, and one of the reasons that I have mostly given up on dating. "I looked at you for exactly 1.5 seconds, instead of 1.75 seconds! And I used side eye, instead of a direct glance. You should know the difference between the two, and their ultra specific meanings!" :P lol
I would add to the list, she rarely ever talks to you or stands in the same room as you. I can't count how many times I'd run into someone from years past and they'd tell me all about how some pretty girl that I never talked to had the biggest crush on me.
standing near you with her back turned is a big one. Hilarious and childish, but they will place themselves near you while looking away.
The intent is to appear disinterested while increasing chances of spontaneous interaction.
As a hunter i can read tracks, & know likely what an animal will do or how that animal kind of thinks, not so with women 🤔 cant read em correctly at all, and they all expect a fella to know what some artificial intelligence wrote for a quiz cause theybtook that 2 days ago before meeting 👀
How the fuck am I supposed to create an interaction with someone who avoids eye contact and has her back turned to me?@@johannhowitzer
@@johannhowitzerfake spontaneous. There is nothing spontaneous in womans world
Been single my entire life and I honestly don't see that changing. Every time it seemed a girl was giving some attraction signals it turned out she was definitely not interested. At this point it's probably no longer worth the effort trying to decipher the enigma.
The only thing I have figured out is that if she likes you it's flirting but if she doesn't, then it's sexual harassment.
#4, the approach. Now that you Ladies have created "Me Too" you might want to realize that men like myself will no longer joke, tease, open doors, or approach Women without some inside information advocating such. So you might want to consider retreating to your plotting rooms and devise a strategy for making the first move.
With all due respect, Emily, I am going to have to scrap these suggestions.
"Dropping hints" may have been fine back in our grandparent's day, but times have changed. Women, nowadays, need to do their part. They need to be open and direct, but polite and respectful. Besides, with all of the sexual harassment politics, female initiation is practically considered mandatory. As for me, I much prefer that the woman take the initiative, and I am sure that I am not the only man who feels this way. When a woman initiates, there is a balance of interaction, the communication is clear, and the relationship is more fulfilling in the long run. If the females don't heed my advice, be more assertive, and take the initiative; then they will see more and more men "going their own way", and avoiding romantic relationships altogether. Thus, leaving women to ask "Where are all of the good men?".
Here are some better suggestions: She should approach a man and express her interest in being his friend; she should treat him on a date, or at least pay her own way; and she should initiate the first kiss. Finally, ENOUGH WITH THE STUPID TEXTING. Texting is dehumanizing. If you want to talk, then let's talk VOICE TO VOICE. If I can't get to the phone, LEAVE A VOICEMAIL.
Above all, women need to live by the Golden Rule. They need to treat men the same way that they want men to treat them, and not place any demands, or expectations on men that they don't want men to place on them.
Please prayerfully consider all that I say. God bless.
But, but , but, that's the man's job. Are you seriously suggesting that women take some responsibility? LOL.
Women aren't just going to lay down their expectation for men to take the initiative. Approaching is scary. You'd think they'd have more sympathy toward men that find approaching difficult, given how much worse they are at it. But since we give women permission to expect everything from men, and give men shit for expecting anything from women, there is not just no reason for this situation to change, there are reasons actively keeping it in place. Reasons women will die alone in a houseful of cats before renouncing.
I totally agree
100% agree.
Women must absolutely take the initiative in all things. Women must take the initiative in approaching men for romantic relationships. Women must take the initiative indicating that they want sexual pleasures.
I’ve been saying the same thing for several years. And this belief system must be implanted into all women of today.
We must make it the Expected Normal culture, and beliefs in the minds of women, that women do all the approaching and initiating in anything sexual and romantic
Simp
Women may not be doing these things because they like a guy. I've had women get close to me, give all the "right signs" and not be interested. The signs are not necessarily flirting, and this is why guys like myself have walked away. It's not worth the hassle.
I've done #4 and I was accused of stalking. It doesn't work for a man.
Well it only applies to the guy she is interested in at that moment.
@@brokeboy87 That is pretty much the rule for everything.
If you want to see if a woman likes you and you are in a group, see who she looks at first when a joke or something funny is said. People look at the person who they like first in a situation like this for validation that what was said was funny. This is a neat experiment to do when watching groups of people. You can tell who likes who.
Very good.
And when the engage you 1 to 1 and give all the signs, but don't acknowledge you in a group, she wants something from you, but not you.
Thought I might hear something new here. But no stress, it is what it is...
Life became SO much easier, parties, work, walking down the ole street, etc. when I decided many moons ago that I just don't care anymore. Too much that is impossible to make sense of, or too fleeting to see
I do have to fight the regret of having wasted so much of my time in earlier life thinking about this, but I forgive myself each time immediately- I did not know better.
Physical contact. They will touch his stomach, his shoulder, his arm, take the hat from his head and put it on themselves. Laugh at anything and everything he says. Give him gifts. Stand close to him in a group. And defend what he says and does to others, vehemently, even if it's obviously wrong.
Like the old Doris Day song, she'll always go along, defend him when he's wrong and tell him when he's strong.
As long as they finally start a relationship. From that Moment everything Will be reversed except for the clothing robbery. That's sad indeed
Yep those are good and the fact that Emily said: the girl becomes your stalker! 😂everywhere you go duh there she is😂😂😂
Who and where are these women? I have seen none of whom you speak of…
Nope, none of that, and public foreplay, means anything beyond her baiting him to become a new orbiter. It used to mean all-night s3x that same evening.
Even IF every sign points to serious interest, most of the time it turns out to be short term, and one sided. You can do everything "right" and all it takes is ONE mistake, or her seeing something "shiny" for her to lose interest and wander off. If you manage to dodge THAT bullet, within a few weeks/months in general you'll discover the woman in question has no hobbies, no passions, and anything YOU were into and she said she was as well, was a ploy to snag you. Narcissistic tendencies, Dark Triad traits, and a general lack of any real investment in relationships makes it not worth even getting involved. For both sexes, do not chase the one YOU want, instead pursue the one that wants you.
You're absolutely correct about doing everything "right" and losing her anyway. That's why we must as men graduate to AMS/ Patrice O'Neal mentality.. She is NOT your woman.. it is just your turn. You can't allow yourself to love a woman 100 percent or it will not only drive her away; but kill you when she leaves. IF you want a woman to stick around you must give her a masculine experience and remain emotionally independent from her. Kill the simp inside, wake up your ego and take charge of interactions with potential partners. Most of all if you ever land a woman that brings positivity to your life.. REWARD HER generously because that is the only type of woman who deserves to be spoiled in a relationship. Doesn't have to be spending a lot of money either.. something special tailored for her is best. I'm getting close to a woman from work right now that is an artist. She just took a new job at another clinic and I'm a decent artist too.. so I drew a picture of her and left it as a surprise on her desk. She cried when she found it and as of today it is the only decoration at her new workstation. Didn't cost me a damn thing but some thought and effort.. meant way more to her than anything I could have bought her.
Here's the problem: no one does, and no one ever has wanted me in any capacity, and I'm 36.
In essence, who knows what somebody else is thinking!
Be okay with being wrong or being rejected sometimes. Be so comfortable with yourself, your values, your looks, your hobbies, your dreams and your desires. All the things that make you the beautiful fallible human you are.
And when that inevitable moment comes, and you misjudged the look she gave you, and you went and introduced yourself, and she rejected you. It will be nothing. It will be nothing personal, it'll be just another awkward moment in time you can laugh about.
Being rejected is one thing. Being rejected hundreds of times, over a period of a decade or more, and having a literal 0% success rate is something many men today are facing and dealing with. I find it strange that people think this wouldn't have a severe negative effect on a man's psychological condition. Studies have recently suggested that 40% of men between 20 and 35 are single, and that 30% of men have not had sex in more than one year, and the same percentage have not had a girlfriend in more than two years. If these stats were the same for women (they are not even close) then it would be considered a crisis. No one ever tells women that they need to be okay with rejection, and certainly not with years of rejection with zero success. The reason for all of this is because appearance is the most important factor in starting relationships, and studies show that women rate 80% of men as "below" average in looks.
Great video; thanks for the sanity check. My simple observation is that this list is universally true regardless of the woman’s age. I am one of your older followers and it intrigues me that your advice resonates with me despite the generation gaps. I became a widower recently but I’ve convinced myself I don’t want to live the rest of my life alone. So tuning in to good advice is prudent no matter how old you are. Fortunately I’ve lived long enough (read: experienced) to appreciate the fact I may not have gotten it right at times. So, thanks again…
The older I get the more I appreciate a woman with a good brain filled with a variety of data. I have a hard time finding people to have interesting conversations with. Even in college, it was difficult as I was 30 years older than most students. I'm still young enough to need the physical part of a relationship, but like the comments I see here, I don't have the time or the energy to deal with BS.
Guess I'm just different top 5 things I do
1 I usually turn into the person who says good morning first
2 despite how busy and crazy my schedule is I'll make time for you
3 I'll tell you about my problems
4 when I'm stressed I'll ask you if I can give you a massage ( yes I don't ask for massages when I'm stressed I give them)
5 I'll ask you to come over for dinner and a movie
God bless you for being clear and direct! That's an OASIS for a guy, and much easier to understand.
@@glennhecker4422its only for chads and tyrones bro.. settle down
In my experience, women talk a lot, men don't. So women will talk to anyone whether they like them or not. But if a man starts a conversation with a woman, he is interested in them. If he's not, he won't talk to them.
Totally true!!!!
As much as I like solving puzzles, women are a bridge too far when it comes to the very simple task of expressing thier attraction. 😂
Amen
I was thinking more along the lines of Churchill: it is a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.
I was thinking more along the lines of Churchill: it is a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.
THEIR*
I couldn't agree more
Conspiring with the opposition is mutiny, I appreciate your viewpoints!
"I have never understood the female capacity to avoid a direct answer to any question". This is a quote from Mr. Spock in the original Star Trek TV series.
When I was younger, I was too shy and dumb and missed lots to these signs from girls who were interested in me.
Yes, me too man
Me too, but don't feel dumb, not our fault girls are just ridiculus. The WW2 codebreakers couldn't decipher them.
Me too. And now that I'm older I'm glad I never bothered to learn this crap. Kitty is just not worth the headache. Keep your resources.
That 4th point (at 5:00) makes me realize one thing !
There was this pretty blond girl I was REALLY into in high school. We were in the same school and texting for a while (she was very shy when i would approach her irl).
EVERY time i asked her out, she would accept first, but 2 days before the date, she would give me some excuse to not go. I heard them all. So it got me frustrated, because i really wanted her.
At the end of the school year, she went to the same theater show as me, without me knowing. And at the end of the show, she was standing there, waiting for me (body language wasn't lying). Out of nowhere, she wanted a kiss, but i ignored her.
What i know today, it's the fact i was too shy to make a move in public. But most of all, each of us went to this show with a friend, and our two friends knew each other. So i'm pretty sure that girl who i was into asked her friend to ask my friend questions about me, where i was going, etc.
And i realized just today, thanks to you, i was mad that day because she surprised me (i'm not a big fan of surprises) AND she still waited for me to do the first step (the talking) while she avoided ALL of our dates.
Plus, she had the nerve to complain on Facebook about that, with a quote : "To be ignored is the worst suffering" 😬🤦♂️ Not her totally ignoring the times when she rejected me.
Later i learned that she was really into me, too.
So 10 years later, that still pisses me off. Because i knew i loved her and that could've been a great story.
do you ever plan on telling her you were in luv with her ?
You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.
@@walterdavies6434 To telling someone you love her, you need her to come to the date, just so the relationship can REALLY exist in the first place ... But, as i said, she never came.
One year after that story, she texted me to take some news (when a girl send you a text after such a long time, you know she want something). But she saw i wasn't going to make for her the useless efforts i already made.
So the texting just lasted a few days, and that was the end.
Because obviously, like most women, she didn't take any risk (by invinting me irl, for example).
She blocked me on facebook, and i can't find her on other social media. Obviously i lost her phone number.
The funny things is i took a part time job when i entered college. And she did randomly came there 3 or 4 times (in 3 years) with her mother, and sometimes with her boyfriend. You would think she would try to look down on me or mock me. But no, she just gave me the blackest look she could. She looked very cold and sad, even with a boyfriend in her life.
That's how i know she have the same frustration as me. Hope she realized she fucked up a lot more than i did.
@@danielbennion80 You're right.
Unless some kind of trauma or bad thing happened to her, which could explain her behaviour. But even in that case, that would have been pretty hard to change her and to have a healthy relationship with her.
Yeah, because, a thing i didn't mention : i always wanted a long-term (ideally lifelong) relationship. Even early in high school, the introvert kid i was always knew what he wanted. That is surely what attracted some girls to me, but at the same time what caused them to gave up, because they understood they could not trick me.
She was clearly dumb, you dodged a bullet, keep working on yourself bro and the ladies will notice
Appreciate the heads up. I've seen with my own eyes what lengths women will go to in order to be in the same location as someone they like. What gets me though is if a guy did that, he's a creepy stalker, lol. They'll also put in this tremendous amount of effort when a simple, "hey you're cute" would save them weeks of wondering and waiting, but then be upset with a guy for not picking up all of the incredibly subtle or even completely ambiguous signs and hints, smh.
The funny thing is that if a guy “found out where she likes hanging out” and then proceeded to keep showing up then he would be accused of stalking/being creepy. But if a woman does it it’s okay???
There is definitely a double standard. Get used to it.
This has been one of your best ones for me because it’s highlighted what a girl has been doing with me & hearing a confirmation of her behaviour that I’ve picked up on helps a lot
I learned so much from this video... about why I've been single for so long!😂
Newsflash. Hey girls just a headsup, all this cryptic shit ya doin is the reason you're single.
With all the #MeToo stuff that has happened, and the Everyday Sexism online things there is no way I would ask a woman out these days. Too many misread signs and you're being accused of things you didn't do. Nothing good will come of it for men.
Where I worked, they established a sexual harassment office. And it expanded. I stopped asking women if they'd like to go for coffee, it was much safer.
I agree with the one where she will be where you are going to be. Another one she missed is her eyes will change when she sees you. I missed this on my ex until my buddies told me. If she likes you and you are hanging out in a group, she will say and ask things like-"oh you like those type of girls, goth or emo girls?" Also, if you are in a bar and you are hanging out. You are checking out the hottie bassist in the bad, she will inject into the conversation-"I can play an instrument too, I used to play clarinet and I can still play". So after finding out all the stuff you like in women she will try to dress like, or start wearing darker/smokey eyes, etc. She is my ex because after 8yrs she got a new job where she made WAAY more money than me. She started dressing differently than what she portrayed when we hooked up. She started speaking different, hanging out with the Socialites and less and less with my group. She stopped wanting to go to rock shows because "I can't be seen around those kind of people, rockers, bikers..I grew up and someone didn't" Yeah bye!!!! Last I saw the Rollin Stones are still jamming out in their 70's. Deftones are in their 40-50's still make kick ass music. Hmmm I guess those millionaires never grew up.🤣
So, a woman is trying to win a man's heart, & he (most likely unaware she likes him in that way), gives attention to another woman & the first woman gets jealous & acts cold towards him. Hmm. Yeah, that's a great tactic. She'll probably completely push him away & wreck any chance of anything ever happening between them, including friendship. 🤦♂️
I think I’m going to need the 5 day course please. Lol
I think we all (or most of us at least) need that elusive 5 day course 😂 😂 😂
5 days still ain’t enough!
All of us
We are dealing with women logic here... a Master program would not be enough.
Same.
2:00 she will get jealous and go cold on you because she is upset
3:37 will take extra care on hair and makeup.
4:23 will wear more form-fitting clothes
5:00 will never decline an invite and go to places where you are
5:56 will respond to social media comments
All these things can be true, and she'll still tell you you're just a friend or that she's not interested. If you don't get enthusiastic reception, even Luke warm, roll out. Follow your gut.
Nope.. She can easily play that rejection on you as a part of testing you..
Follow your gut is not really a good advice when it comes to women or many other things.
@@andersnielsen6044 nope.. if it's a test, SHE fails.
#1, getting jealous. If she hasn't thrown her hat in the ring then she has nothing to be upset about. I said Hi! to her when I came in the room and if she let that oppurtunity pass and some other woman has my attention,,, that's not my fault.
I was bad at approaching women because of child trauma and 3w feminism . That’s an understatement. But I own that now and getting better. It gets much easier if you embrace rejection and believe in yourself and your purpose regardless. This is half the population, we ought to learn communication. And that’s what I’m working on.
I've known this one woman for over 10 years. We used to hang out a lot. She did kinda make the first move. We had a lot in common and became fast friends. Anyway, we were always touching each other when we were together. At times when she was dating (sleeping with) another man she'd wait till he walked away and cozy up to me again. Twice, once early on and another time after more than a year of this. I asked her if she was interested in me sexually. She almost tore my head off both times. Eventually I just felt like her eunuch/gay friend that she could confide in. We still talk occasionally. Last time I had lunch with her we barely hugged. Still, she confided in me her frustrations with her boyfriend and was considering leaving him or just cheating on him. Ya, I know... I dodged a bullet.
lol... I was talking with my brother last weekend about something similar to your example. Women are so inconsistent and slimey at times, they will waste our time for validation and ego boosts... nothing but female narcissism.
DAMN ! ... that's some legendary friend zone.
I feel sorry for you bro.
Do we know the same girl?
@@mockupguy3577 We must. I’ve never met anyone else who does this.
Took you years to figure out, the slut was just using you? Shagging other men, then running back to you for a cuddle. The issue was not her, the problem was you. Here is hoping you learned your lesson.
All this is summed up brilliantly by Patrice O’Neal. Women can’t handle rejection. So they will play all sorts of passive aggressive games and test you to see if you are enough of a man for her. It’s highly manipulative. But also, as Patrice said, you can’t blame women for it. It’s the creature that they are. It’s like being mad at fire for burning you.
Something Joshua taught me: "The only winning move is not to play."
BS. They can handle it, they just don't want to.
I only heard kahn from metro say such profound statement at the end.
Men have to tame the inner beast and be civilised for the sake of humanity. Allowing women to wantonly follow their detrimental instincts causes just as much harm. They will one day find themselves required to rein it in for the sake of others, if this species is to perpetuate.
Hey, high-value men has just as many manipulative tricks where we test a potential girlfriend, both by intend but also most of it subconsciously.
It sounds like many women are confused about the difference between creating some ambiguity (or plausible deniability) about their interest - which is passive-aggressive and disrespectful but at least men might be able to work with it - and what are very clearly negative or impersonal signals. Misinterpreting a negative signal carries a genuine risk of legal consequences, and whatever a woman does with her appearance is something every man sees, not one man in particular.
yep, it's too risky now to approach them. If you're wrong she has the trump card of getting you kicked out of gym, reporting you to human resources, labelling you a 'creep' to your social circle, etc... yet they still expect men to make the move.
Well said
My list: 1, She will compliment you. 2, She will tell you about something she needs help with and accepts your offer to help. 3, Look at you with her best smile. 4, Laugh at your jokes and encourage you to talk to her. Forty years later, she is still doing this to me.
Really good advice. Like most men, I’m not good at reading subtle gestures and body language of women. Women are very subtle in their signs but usually I can tell whether she is interested in me or not. Now I do know that teasing is actually a good sign.
Okay, this is why men like a bit of forwardness and being upfront. A lot of men know most of these 5 things or experienced them to a degree. The problem still is the women might be setting themselves up being available, dressing up, and being jealous, but it is not clear that this is for a specific man (in a group/public setting), and in most cases there is another man in the vicinity. If this is the case a man will think this is for the other man first than for him, unless he is a bit conceded or has some previous hint that the woman is interested. So this approach may fail, and these days women do not seem to give a whole lot of chances for men to read the language. Ovaltine decoder rings are not lining up. It will be interesting to see what you have for the men's 5 things, although through many of your videos you have already stated many of them clearly. Women should just watch your videos and read the comments, and stop thinking up games to play. Doing a check this box note would benefit them the most if they want to keep playing game though.
BE SURE TO DRINK YOUR OVALTINE
Ladies, if you don't want to end up in boxed wine and cat-land, be more direct. Stop the body language shenanigans, and leave that to the lower order mammals. Because living from 40 to 80 is an awfully long time.
what's shocking is older women don't even warn them of this. They're all that irrational and inept. You'd think at least their own damn parents would tell them. you see why arranged marriages were a thing in most societies.
@@manager4409older women are pure regret of what they didn't. If the were wives, they complain about not travelling and getting a lot of sexual partners, if they did the first in their youth and gambled their chance to be wives they'll complain about being alone.
The reason im in cat land is because the only interested men wanna just come over and have sex and say perverted things instead of trying to go to a restaurant and talk like a normal person so its not my fault that men cant even sit and eat a meal with a woman anymore
Relatedly, you should do an entire, clear, serious on 'red flags' .
For me, a good sign that a woman is into you or likes you is when SHE TELLS YOU she likes you, like a full grown mature adult will do. Sure, body language and certain behaviors are a good indication that she may be into you but it is STILL GUESSING. It is not berating or belittling to tell someone you like them, regardless if you're a man or woman. I've had a few women in the past tell me they like me, and it was ok, I thought no less of them...I found it kinda adorable actually.
5 things women do when they LIKE a guy: -
1. Notice he is tall
2. Notice he is tall
3. Notice he is tall
4. Think he is a chad
5. Did I mention.....Notice he is tall?
I saw those first two this past weekend. Not towards me, but a buddy of mine. I was at a singles conference, made some new friends, and the girl of the friend group developed feelings for my buddy real quick. And the conference spanned multiple days and included a dance. So, the next day, the girl had her hair down whereas she had it up the day before and I commented on it and she said she usually wears it up. Then, at the dance, another girl took interest in my buddy and kept him to herself for like an hour talking about who knows what, and the girl in the friend group made several angry, jealous glances in their direction. And she did look a bit frosty. It was really interesting to see.
Good thing YOU weren't crushing on one of them, eh?
That's T O X I C. Only women are allowed to be jealous.
So what Emily said that some girls will show some jealous looks, but the man is still confused. Women need to be more direct, and say what's on their mind and tell the guy just that
To be always in the place where usually the person you like go Is called ‘stalking’
In regards to unconventional tactics, how do such women expect to attract a Man (I said Man, not guy) if they don't SHOW interest? I ain't in the habbit of pettin a dog that's barkin or lookin like it wants a chunk of my anatomy. Enjoyed the video and keep up the good work, ma'am. Yer appreciated and respected more than you can know.
What I like about Emily's approach is that she is not endorsing behaviors, she is more flagging a reality. This should theoretically help people figure each other out. Most of the behaviors on this list are relatively subtle and/or could be aimed at someone else in the same group. The responding to SM posts is the most targeted. The jealousy is hard to see as it could be the result of a woman having a bad day. Bottom line, most of this could be ignored unless the man is attracted to the woman. That's what makes these subtle gestures wise: they are allowing a social out.
Men are not mind readers and subtle hints are beyond my comprehension. I suck at that. Now what do I do…….nothing. My social media consists of LinkedIn. That’s it. No bs, no swipes, nothing. Social media is the kryptonite or poison of honest relationships. No win situation.
From the guy side many of us do not just make an overt move cold. We try to talk to you and feel you out some. If you're not welcoming or do not give us a giant flashing sign you're interested we will usually miss it. Hints and subtle ques will often miss. The guys that hit on you up front usually do that to everyone, or rarely, just get the fire and decide they must at that moment. Let us know!
Yeah that shit annoying. Also when a woman knows that another woman likes me but never tells me about it so I never make a move. I need that information ladies!!
Problem is, all the examples Emily bring up, can also be something else. They can be misinterpreted and easily taken out of context. They are not certain enough to act on, given the potential consequences of guessing wrong. Her advice is valid in one sense, but at the same time, not really applicable in the real world.
A quick hookup vs relationship are totally different signals.
I am so thankfull for having you Emily as our interpreter so we can understand woman and them us 🤩 Woman are no longer that mysterious 😊
4:15 This happened to me at work once. I did notice. She was lovely but a single mom with the dad still hanging around. He continued to hang around. I left it alone.
One of my ex's did a few of these things and admitted them to me after we became a couple. We knew each other as colleagues before we dated and she liked me for quite a while but never said anything. I didnt know how to read the signs at that time to the point I even asked her to be my wingwoman on a few occasions. My own friends were the ones that pointed out she liked me after they met her at a party round my place that I invited her to. They could all see it lol.
When two friends like the same guy would be a good topic for a video. At college (long time ago!) two friends I vaguely knew broke up spectacularly one day in the cafeteria, as one marched past me she shouted, "This is your f***ing fault!!". This was the first time I knew anything about it! Apparently, they had been both vying for my attention for months, hadn't noticed. Tbh, I don't think my social acuity, or rather lack thereof, has improved any over the years - just punch me in the face and tell me we're going out on Saturday.
Theese are no signs! We can just say, she wants to look pretty all the times, like every other girl. This game is already setting us, men, up to lose. Or to misinterpret.
A lot of the times women just laughed at me, when i liked a girl, like what... Shaming because i have feelings. I'm not even trying to do anything today, and im mentally sane because of this.
If women learn to be more straight up than this, then maybe, but i wont be chasing.
The thing about this advice is that FIRST, you have to be aware enough to be looking for this evidence, SECOND, a lot of this can ALSO just be... friendliness/coincidence and THIRD no one part of it is enough. It has to be multiple. And to notice a pattern of behaviour that MIGHT indicate interest before she loses that interest AND to take action KNOWING you might be mistaken.
It's tough.
And when women respond to my comments on social media... I just assume I made them laugh? Or they're being polite?
And I genuinely think the only thing women REALLY need to do to fix it is... develop some empathy.
People ALWAYS talk about how emotionally intelligent women are... but I just don't agree. Emotionally self aware maybe? But empathy requires seeing things from other people's perspective and women DO NOT do this for men. You can tell bc men's suffering is OFTEN dismissed as whining. Women only EVER seem to learn from hard experience. They need to lose a loved one to it, or have somebody they PERSONALLY care about subjected to the problem (have a son who is falsely accused, for instance)
When women can say "yeah, it totally sucks to be a man in this situation" and to offer some grace.... a LOT of the angst disappears.
Instead, we live in a world where a LOT of women justify the pressure on men by saying that ALL men have to worry about is rejection, whereas a woman has to worry about being murdered. The fact ANYONE can make that statement without being IMMEDIATELY identified as insane... THAT is the problem.
First time watching a video from this RUclipsr. Very lovely person and interesting, valuable information too. You know when Don Draper, who has a good eye for design, in one Mad Men episode is asked about Betty's newly outfitted and decorated room, and he tells his wife and the decorator that moving the end table to the other side of the couch will make it look better? The color scheme of the interior of the bedroom in the background, the paintings/prints, the bedding, and the curtains are very nice. It looks like someone put a lot of effort into them. As a person with ADHD, though, 5 things to change about the appearance of this video:
1. Add some kind of headboard to the bed that has a height that is at least, say, twelve inches above the pillows.
2. Paintings/prints that you hang up are not supposed to be up by the ceiling. Paintings/prints that hang above a piece of furniture, such as a bed, should appear to be an extension of that piece of furniture. So, get rid of the ancient call box that I'll bet you a million dollars you've never even thought of using (so, have a handyman yank it out and repair the wall with wallboard, spackle, and paint), and then hang the paintings closer together with the bottom of at least one of the paintings being, say, no more than six inches above the headboard.
3. Close the closet doors immediately behind you.
4. Close the closet doors in front of what appears to be the washer/dryer in the room to the right.
5. Speaking for the vast majority of male viewers and not speaking for any female viewers who for some reason incorrectly think long hair looks better in front of the shoulders in photos and videos, instead of ever having any of your hair fall to the front of your shoulders or placing your hair in the front of your shoulders, make sure your beautiful, long hair falls behind your shoulders, except maybe, at the most, allow a small, wispy strand of hair to fall to the front (if any). It does not look better in front. Do women who think it looks better in front think it looks better that way because people can see how long it is? Because it doesn't look better in front.