i’m not ace but to all the ace people reading this - please ignore those disgusting n ignorant comments some people left on here. I LOVE YOU ALL and you are so so so valid and need to be protected at all cost!!!!!
That’s very true!! As a sex-repulsed, heteroromantic asexual, I’ve had plenty of romantic crushes without ever wanting to do anything sexual with any of them
Today I’ve come to realise I’ve been coerced manipulated n raped all my life. I don’t have a true identity n n my morals beliefs have been squashed so bad I don’t know what I really want or feel worthy or obliged to anymore… I’ve realised my body n life choices beliefs value n morals are still mine n not any males so I’ve decided to heal n choose a relationship in my future without sex… maybe one day I’ll feel safe enough n feel healed enough to truly feel n hear myself stronger n know what I want n decide to with my partner in future but I know now I can always change my mind at anytime too n it be a good healing on me n a good test in the person I will spend my life with….
Thank you for sharing. Just typing that out takes plenty of strength. You’re on your way to find who you are. Any romantic type of relationship desperately needs something besides physical attraction. It will probably fizzle out eventually if it doesn’t. If someone doesn’t respect who you are, what you’re going through and your journey, they probably don’t need to be with you. If you don’t find that person, that’s ok too, you are enough and you will be complete. An internet hug to you, shoulder side hug or handshake, fist bump, awkward wave, whichever you’re comfortable with. You got this 💪
As an Ace person, I can relate with Auden. Have slept with a few partners. My general consensus is "Can do this better and much more efficiently by myself and now I could be playing games, watching tv, or doing literally anything else right now." lol
I've also been told that any romantic relationship I might have isn't really a romantic relationship, it's just a friendship and we're just lying to ourselves. Ignoring that being asexual doesn't mean never having relations with your partner. BUT even if you don't sleep with your partner a romantic relationship is still valid.
@@Starscall You are the perfect example of why asexuals should only enter into relationships with other asexuals. No disappointments, no hurt feelings and no arguments. Much better for everyone.
@@user-fw1wd2gb1w Or its just an example of why I learned I needed to stop trying NSA sex, because I'm just not wired to enjoy it. I can and have enjoyed sex with a boyfriend I'd been seeing for a while. It all varies.
I not only feel that way but also think it is boring solo or with a partner. Pleasurable skin sensations aren't enough to overcome this. I just clean out the plumbing when irritable.
I'm straight and married but man I'm very naive!!! I never realised that ace and demi people had such a hard time with people not understanding... like I'm sorry but why is everything about sex and how is it anyone's business but yours!! Ya know!!
I am an asexual person and it honestly feels like such an isolated experience even after all the represenatation. Writing this after crying a river and feeling like i am not growing up in a manner that is similiar to my peers/ Man, i hope i figure it out.
I only came out as ace in my mid 20s and I can tell you the experience is very similar whether you’re an adult or a teenager. I got all the same questions/comments from peers, most of which coming from LGBTQIA+ people so like ?!?!?! Yup. The Asexual spectrum is still very much misunderstood by the general population. So thank you for this video 💜
That is kinda what is still keeping me from coming out. Cause I also deal with impostor syndrome around my aceness and feel their questions could make me very insecure I hate the fact it is an orientation that still needs so much explaining :/
probably asexual here - thank you for the video. I don't often comment on RUclips, but I feel like I should add my experience because I've seen a couple unpleasant comments on here (please ignore those people!) I am always terrified to claim any identity because even though I know that many aspects of identity are fluid, I'm afraid that one day I will find somebody I'm attracted to out there and change my mind, and then I'll have been lying? I'm 31 & have been in love but I've never experienced attraction the way other people seem to. tbh I really dislike this about myself and it makes me feel terribly lonely/alienated, so again - thank you for the video.
If ace is an identity that describes what you experience and feel, feel free to use the label. And if you really find somebody you're attracted to sexually and find out that you're either allosexual or demisexual or gray ace in the future, then you don't lie in the present. The way we describe ourselves changes a bit with every experience - and the more we learn and know.
I think I heard Joe Jonas talking about how someone got the cocktail "sex on the beach" wrong and instead said cake by the ocean, and just thought it was great
I've gotten comments about "trying sex even if you don't like it or it hurts, to see if it changes anything for you" "maybe the first time was just bad and the next time you'll feel a spark" etc from counsellors as well. Sadly it's pretty common for aces to get that at counselling. I go into all my sessions now pretending I'm straight, you can't say "I'd rather not talk about that" because trust me, they will keep looping back to the topic till you give them a answer. "I'm single... yeah I've had boyfriends before but I'm focussing on myself/career/family right now" is a better deflect.
"its like, what has this hamburger got to do with this shirtless man?" PERFECT 😂 And fr that response to "how do you know if you've never tried it" with "how do you know you're straight if you've never tried it with the same sex", it's just the perfect response
I love the honesty that everyone has in this video, I'd rather watch a doco or read a book to be honest. Sex is a thing that doesn't bother me if I don't have it I'm all good rather a toastie sandwich
My therapist tried to argue with me that it would go away once I meet someone and have sex with them. That I wouldn’t be so sex repulsed then… Left a sour taste in my mouth
I had a hookup once. Changed nothing. Kinda regret it a bit cause it made me more repulsed, but then they say well he wasn't the right one. THEN WHO IS DEBRA!?!?
Oh this was lovely! I don’t know any other ace people in my personal life, and I don’t tell people that I’m ace/aro largely for the same reasons (people thought I was faking not having a crush, etc) so it was amazing seeing a video that I could relate entirely too :) also I loved seeing the ace and aro rings!!
I’m demiromantic asexual. I dated my hetero romantic ace bf for 1.5 years and over half that time I thought of him like a friend, which I hid from him because we were supposed to be in a romantic relationship. I’m honest af and quite dumb too so I think I’ve hurt his feelings a few times by implying that we were friends by accident 🥲 Now I’m very much in love and picturing myself married for the first time ever. We’re very happy going out or staying in and passing time together, despite never having sex or kissing 😆 Demis get criticized because people say needing close relationships is necessary to feel attraction for everyone, but I believe they just don’t get how close we have to be to our person. It seems for non-demis, they just need to like one’s appearance and know basic info like name, age, personality, political views, etc to be like “God I’m in love with this person”, but in my case I had to know him for like 2/3 of a year or more, and spend time with him like 2-3 times per week, despite liking his looks and basic info from the beginning 😅
i have so much gratitude and appreciation in my heart for the existence of the ace community. i feel like my relationship with sex has always been influenced by my mental health struggles, and identifying as greysexual was the one of the most validating experiences i've ever had. the pressure to date and be sexual was so overwhelming growing up, my god. just changing my mindset from that and noticing how stifling it felt was so freeing.
i've never faked a crush, i thought i had a crush several times, and i thought i loved people romantically a couple times, i didn't i just loved them platonically and found them aesthetically pleasing, or in the case of crushed aesthetics and they were cool i've been told it was just a phase, by someone i was dating, who was a psych major, and said something along the lines of "it's a normal cycle of your hormones" they groomed me, so, yeah, they tried to tell me if i was aroace i would have been lying to them the whole time when i just didn't know what romantic love felt like, i just want a queer platonic partner, so that confused it quite a bit i've not realized a song was dirty but the lyrics being dirty normally makes me enjoy the song more when i learn it, i enjoy sexual songs a lot makes me feel myself, i want to be lusted after but unattainable i've never had sex, like i've never had in person, peen in the veen or any type of irl sex, but i have had phone sex and that's always been considerably less enjoyable, than just doing it on your own, i've always considered anything actually sexual happening with me, to be only me, no one else should hear it, see it, smell it none of it aroace, but no, i want a queerplatonic partner naw not really, there was one guy who jokingly went "we'll see" but he just liked to playfully flirt with most people the closet with my father still, my sister and my mom know, and so do all my friends, most my family and my dad don't know, my dad cause he's closed minded as hell, and the rest of my family because i just don't really care if they know or not, also i had to hide it for like 3 months entirely with the thing from the second question i realized i was ace not too long ago, so, no not really, the asexual community is becoming more visible and known and i generally gravitate to spaces that are respectful of my identity never been asked this, me and an ace friend of mine just like food a lot so we kinda just agree on it
I feel like I'm demisexual and asexual. Demi because I don't really feel something unless I have a bond with them. Asex because I can have crush on somebody famous but that doesn't mean I want to jump their bones. But if somebody i know, (who is attracted), I won't be having any feelings
Oh don’t worry I have so many crushes on celebs I just don’t experience the attraction to jump their bones lol Aromantic is when you don’t experience romantic attraction. Asexuality is sexual.
Why I'm hesitant to admit I'm asexual: I still can't believe that so many people don't fall on the asexual spectrum. I mean, really, sex is that big deal to the majority of people? I can't believe I'm in the minority, and I wonder if they didn't survey everyone and never had a chance to find out if they were ACE?
I thought it if I’m authentic they wouldn’t mind I don’t talk about having a crush. I found out through multiple friends that I wouldn’t be part of the conversation or being told I’m lying.
I'm always interested in comments about allo people trying to get ace people to have sex with them. Literally no one ever approaches me, ever. I feel like its god protecting me haha.
I'm scared cause I think I might be ace but I so desperately want to have children one day. I know I could still have them but its so much harder to do it alone
Cake by the ocean and candy shop are about sex???!! And I relate with Auden about their self esteem telling them that they’re gonna end up alone, mine does the same to me😔
I never understood anyone's fascination with the aversion of being asexual. Like, what kind of relationships are you people having that NEEDS seggs? Is this what your relationship is, purely seggsual feelings? "Oh, how can you have a functional relationship without sex?" ??? Are people just having constant one night stands rather than getting to know anyone and feeling the fluff of a relationship? Never understood tweets where people are dying to get into someone's pants, like that makes me question what kind of functional relationship people are having these days if seggs is the only thing in mind. I almost feel bad for people who aren't asexual, you'll probably never find genuine love when someone is just horny.
In the section about some songs being about sex... I had a funny feeling that Cake by the Ocean was about sex but honestly was never able to pin it. Personally, eating cake under an umbrella on the beach sounds FAR more appealing.
I found this video to be very informative. I have known I was different from a very young age (4 years old), but didn’t know what to call it until I was an adult. I never felt a physical attraction toward the opposite sex, but sometimes for the same sex. However, never any sexual feelings or desire for a romantic relationship. I definitely relate to the folks in this video and the questions they answered. I do feel fulfilled in my life with lots of love and companionship from friends and family. I’m happy that I came across this video and I appreciate the opportunity to have learned some new things!
The Jonas brothers had a person idk if it was a friend or whatever but this person was from a different country and couldn't remember what a sex on the beach was called and the friend said cake by the ocean as a replacement which is hilarious and then ta-da song
"and then afterwards i was like....okay, but my shower head could do this" 💀 I had a similar afterthought when I experienced it for the first time and when I talked about it with a person i used to be friends with, they said "that probably means they sucked at it" and i started second guessing my feelings but having a different experience now, i can confirm my own feelings on sex itself is it really isnt that different imo
Omg yes ! 😂 A few days ago my brother told me that Animals by Nickelback was about sex and I was like what? No way! Let me check.. I didn't knew hahaha he said it was funny an asexual was enjoying this song so much considering the lyrics... Being asexual is hilarious sometimes 😂
I wouldn't say I've faked a crush, per se I just got nagged by the girls I was rooming with at a summer program that I had to have someone I liked. At the time I wasn't aware of my asexuality, and had no idea what a crush felt like, so I told them an approximate that I thought I maybe had a crush on...in hindsight it was really more of a squish (platonic crush) of admiration and a touch of aesthetic appeal :)
Why does love equal sex? To me it's the part of my relationship that's just my husband and mine. That's incredibly sexy. Otherwise we are just friends. And this weird thing about not wanting to have sex until you're close emotionally is called normal. Not a sexual. Why does every normal human experience need some stupid and trendy title.
demisexual means you don't experience sexual *attraction* until you form a bond w someone, not that you dont wanna have sex, they are separate things (much like sexual/romantic attraction) that are usually hard to separate by allos
You know not everyone wants to reproduce, right? And if they do it is their choice whether they want to have sex or go down the reproductive technology pathway, eg. IVF, ICSI, using a surrogate
Incase you haven’t already realised, the meaning of life isn’t solely about reproducing. Even so, some people on the ace umbrella still do have s3x and can reproduce. People under the ace umbrella are still humans, we aren’t physically differing to you. So, to answer your question, some of use have s3x and therefore are able to reproduce in one way. Also there are other ways to reproduce such as having a sperm donor. Also adoption lol
By selling my eggs so infertile women elsewhere can have babies and I get that sweet sweet cake money with none of the responsibility for looking after small gremlins.
I guess it's a joke but there is nothing shameful as needing emotional bonds for having sexual attraction as a man and it is completely OK for a woman or anyone else to want to have sex without any feelings involved
@@riocoucou6191 it was half a joke, yes, but it’s wellknown that women in general need an emotional connection to feel attraction. What I’m saying is that it’s not a deviation from a normal sexuality and doesn’t need a label
Idk whether you were raised in a strip club, but for the rest of us a transparent mesh top and purple bra isn't homely by either definition of the word.
they don’t feel the need to have sex, it’s not something they want and they are perfectly fine without it. so help me here, how could they possibly be missing out?
@@natalie-cz2ur Asexuality doesn’t mean lack of desire, it just means they lack the attraction. A lot of ace people want and have sex so technically they’re not even missing out at all lol
This might come off as offensive but i dont really care, you sexuals say some of the most ignorant stuff to us but if im missing out on what sex is which is putting youre mouth on someones genitals, i'll be glad to miss out on that. Also the bodily fluids again im glad im missing out because that shit dont matter to me so yea you can go to hell with that missing out crap, i aint missing nothing. Im sex repulsed.
@@Click4caroline i agree and im sex repulsed personally and what lead me to asexuality was yea i lack sexual attraction but also desire and arousal with other people so ive often felt odd because it seems most asexuals can get physical pleasure from partnered sex (correct me if im wrong) which im not capable of.
i’m not ace but to all the ace people reading this - please ignore those disgusting n ignorant comments some people left on here. I LOVE YOU ALL and you are so so so valid and need to be protected at all cost!!!!!
thank you!!!! 💙💙💙💙
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but you can have crushes and still be ace... having a crush can mean that you're just romantically and aesthetically attracted to them.
That’s very true!! As a sex-repulsed, heteroromantic asexual, I’ve had plenty of romantic crushes without ever wanting to do anything sexual with any of them
Aroace here weighing in on the "is food better than sex?" thing:
You can live without sex. You can't live without food.
amazing answer
If you live without sex all your life, you won't die (I guess) but if you live without any food for idk, ¿3 months?, you'll die. So yes! 🧡💙🤍🖤💜
Right answer
What’s so wrong with ending up alone anyway? Less people to deal with and you can still have plenty of friends and close friend relationships
Today I’ve come to realise I’ve been coerced manipulated n raped all my life. I don’t have a true identity n n my morals beliefs have been squashed so bad I don’t know what I really want or feel worthy or obliged to anymore… I’ve realised my body n life choices beliefs value n morals are still mine n not any males so I’ve decided to heal n choose a relationship in my future without sex… maybe one day I’ll feel safe enough n feel healed enough to truly feel n hear myself stronger n know what I want n decide to with my partner in future but I know now I can always change my mind at anytime too n it be a good healing on me n a good test in the person I will spend my life with….
Thank you for sharing. Just typing that out takes plenty of strength. You’re on your way to find who you are. Any romantic type of relationship desperately needs something besides physical attraction. It will probably fizzle out eventually if it doesn’t. If someone doesn’t respect who you are, what you’re going through and your journey, they probably don’t need to be with you. If you don’t find that person, that’s ok too, you are enough and you will be complete. An internet hug to you, shoulder side hug or handshake, fist bump, awkward wave, whichever you’re comfortable with. You got this 💪
@@jnbg61584 Thank yu this means a lot. 🌸🌷🌹😊
Yeah!! I need peace in my life.😇
As an Ace person, I can relate with Auden. Have slept with a few partners. My general consensus is "Can do this better and much more efficiently by myself and now I could be playing games, watching tv, or doing literally anything else right now." lol
I've also been told that any romantic relationship I might have isn't really a romantic relationship, it's just a friendship and we're just lying to ourselves. Ignoring that being asexual doesn't mean never having relations with your partner. BUT even if you don't sleep with your partner a romantic relationship is still valid.
@@Starscall You are the perfect example of why asexuals should only enter into relationships with other asexuals. No disappointments, no hurt feelings and no arguments. Much better for everyone.
@@user-fw1wd2gb1w Or its just an example of why I learned I needed to stop trying NSA sex, because I'm just not wired to enjoy it. I can and have enjoyed sex with a boyfriend I'd been seeing for a while. It all varies.
This is sooooo relatable omg hahaha this is my first thought the first time I was intimate with someone.
I not only feel that way but also think it is boring solo or with a partner. Pleasurable skin sensations aren't enough to overcome this. I just clean out the plumbing when irritable.
Being ace…not a choice I made, but a fact I was given
I'm straight and married but man I'm very naive!!! I never realised that ace and demi people had such a hard time with people not understanding... like I'm sorry but why is everything about sex and how is it anyone's business but yours!! Ya know!!
I am an asexual person and it honestly feels like such an isolated experience even after all the represenatation. Writing this after crying a river and feeling like i am not growing up in a manner that is similiar to my peers/ Man, i hope i figure it out.
them saying „I wouldn‘t trade anything for this community“ 🥺🥺🥺 but man I felt this as an ace :(
as an ace this makes me feel a lot more validated and included :DD
I only came out as ace in my mid 20s and I can tell you the experience is very similar whether you’re an adult or a teenager. I got all the same questions/comments from peers, most of which coming from LGBTQIA+ people so like ?!?!?! Yup. The Asexual spectrum is still very much misunderstood by the general population. So thank you for this video 💜
That is kinda what is still keeping me from coming out. Cause I also deal with impostor syndrome around my aceness and feel their questions could make me very insecure
I hate the fact it is an orientation that still needs so much explaining :/
probably asexual here - thank you for the video. I don't often comment on RUclips, but I feel like I should add my experience because I've seen a couple unpleasant comments on here (please ignore those people!)
I am always terrified to claim any identity because even though I know that many aspects of identity are fluid, I'm afraid that one day I will find somebody I'm attracted to out there and change my mind, and then I'll have been lying? I'm 31 & have been in love but I've never experienced attraction the way other people seem to. tbh I really dislike this about myself and it makes me feel terribly lonely/alienated, so again - thank you for the video.
If ace is an identity that describes what you experience and feel, feel free to use the label. And if you really find somebody you're attracted to sexually and find out that you're either allosexual or demisexual or gray ace in the future, then you don't lie in the present. The way we describe ourselves changes a bit with every experience - and the more we learn and know.
I feel exactly the same, thank you for sharing
You'd be surprised how much virgin shaming there is in the world
03:38 Her way of describing when this sexual attraction will appear someday was hilarious! 😂
As an aro/ace icon myself, I adore this video. Thank you for the much-needed rep!
Cake by the Ocean!? For real?! I'm not ace but totally didn’t realise this either
I think I heard Joe Jonas talking about how someone got the cocktail "sex on the beach" wrong and instead said cake by the ocean, and just thought it was great
I've gotten comments about "trying sex even if you don't like it or it hurts, to see if it changes anything for you" "maybe the first time was just bad and the next time you'll feel a spark" etc from counsellors as well.
Sadly it's pretty common for aces to get that at counselling.
I go into all my sessions now pretending I'm straight, you can't say
"I'd rather not talk about that"
because trust me, they will keep looping back to the topic till you give them a answer.
"I'm single... yeah I've had boyfriends before but I'm focussing on myself/career/family right now"
is a better deflect.
that's kinda sad. i hope you find a better counselor
@@haleyandrews74 me too
"its like, what has this hamburger got to do with this shirtless man?" PERFECT 😂
And fr that response to "how do you know if you've never tried it" with "how do you know you're straight if you've never tried it with the same sex", it's just the perfect response
I love the honesty that everyone has in this video, I'd rather watch a doco or read a book to be honest. Sex is a thing that doesn't bother me if I don't have it I'm all good rather a toastie sandwich
My therapist tried to argue with me that it would go away once I meet someone and have sex with them. That I wouldn’t be so sex repulsed then…
Left a sour taste in my mouth
I had a hookup once. Changed nothing. Kinda regret it a bit cause it made me more repulsed, but then they say well he wasn't the right one. THEN WHO IS DEBRA!?!?
They're all such charming amazing people!
Why thank you ;) hahaha
Oh this was lovely! I don’t know any other ace people in my personal life, and I don’t tell people that I’m ace/aro largely for the same reasons (people thought I was faking not having a crush, etc) so it was amazing seeing a video that I could relate entirely too :) also I loved seeing the ace and aro rings!!
Ace rep! Whoop!
I’m demiromantic asexual. I dated my hetero romantic ace bf for 1.5 years and over half that time I thought of him like a friend, which I hid from him because we were supposed to be in a romantic relationship. I’m honest af and quite dumb too so I think I’ve hurt his feelings a few times by implying that we were friends by accident 🥲 Now I’m very much in love and picturing myself married for the first time ever. We’re very happy going out or staying in and passing time together, despite never having sex or kissing 😆
Demis get criticized because people say needing close relationships is necessary to feel attraction for everyone, but I believe they just don’t get how close we have to be to our person. It seems for non-demis, they just need to like one’s appearance and know basic info like name, age, personality, political views, etc to be like “God I’m in love with this person”, but in my case I had to know him for like 2/3 of a year or more, and spend time with him like 2-3 times per week, despite liking his looks and basic info from the beginning 😅
I’m happy that you’re in a healthy relationship. I’m asexual and I want a boyfriend without sex.
Alannah......all respect is attractive....her essence is very relaxing and respectful is great
Its the way I immediately recognised every ‘ace person’ in this vid 😂
i have so much gratitude and appreciation in my heart for the existence of the ace community. i feel like my relationship with sex has always been influenced by my mental health struggles, and identifying as greysexual was the one of the most validating experiences i've ever had. the pressure to date and be sexual was so overwhelming growing up, my god. just changing my mindset from that and noticing how stifling it felt was so freeing.
Ace Ace Baby
i've never faked a crush, i thought i had a crush several times, and i thought i loved people romantically a couple times, i didn't i just loved them platonically and found them aesthetically pleasing, or in the case of crushed aesthetics and they were cool
i've been told it was just a phase, by someone i was dating, who was a psych major, and said something along the lines of "it's a normal cycle of your hormones" they groomed me, so, yeah, they tried to tell me if i was aroace i would have been lying to them the whole time when i just didn't know what romantic love felt like, i just want a queer platonic partner, so that confused it quite a bit
i've not realized a song was dirty but the lyrics being dirty normally makes me enjoy the song more when i learn it, i enjoy sexual songs a lot makes me feel myself, i want to be lusted after but unattainable
i've never had sex, like i've never had in person, peen in the veen or any type of irl sex, but i have had phone sex and that's always been considerably less enjoyable, than just doing it on your own, i've always considered anything actually sexual happening with me, to be only me, no one else should hear it, see it, smell it none of it
aroace, but no, i want a queerplatonic partner
naw not really, there was one guy who jokingly went "we'll see" but he just liked to playfully flirt with most people
the closet with my father still, my sister and my mom know, and so do all my friends, most my family and my dad don't know, my dad cause he's closed minded as hell, and the rest of my family because i just don't really care if they know or not, also i had to hide it for like 3 months entirely with the thing from the second question
i realized i was ace not too long ago, so, no not really, the asexual community is becoming more visible and known and i generally gravitate to spaces that are respectful of my identity
never been asked this, me and an ace friend of mine just like food a lot so we kinda just agree on it
I feel like I'm demisexual and asexual.
Demi because I don't really feel something unless I have a bond with them.
Asex because I can have crush on somebody famous but that doesn't mean I want to jump their bones. But if somebody i know, (who is attracted), I won't be having any feelings
Oh don’t worry I have so many crushes on celebs I just don’t experience the attraction to jump their bones lol
Aromantic is when you don’t experience romantic attraction. Asexuality is sexual.
Same
I'm going to need a link to that playlist lol
Yup and I hope Doja is on there!
i fell in love with Auden as soon as this video started
Why I'm hesitant to admit I'm asexual: I still can't believe that so many people don't fall on the asexual spectrum. I mean, really, sex is that big deal to the majority of people? I can't believe I'm in the minority, and I wonder if they didn't survey everyone and never had a chance to find out if they were ACE?
This video made me so happy.
Y'ALL ROCK!
I thought it if I’m authentic they wouldn’t mind I don’t talk about having a crush. I found out through multiple friends that I wouldn’t be part of the conversation or being told I’m lying.
I'm always interested in comments about allo people trying to get ace people to have sex with them. Literally no one ever approaches me, ever. I feel like its god protecting me haha.
This is amACEing 😍💜
I'm scared cause I think I might be ace but I so desperately want to have children one day. I know I could still have them but its so much harder to do it alone
there's always QPRs!
You don't have to be alone.
Asexuality doesn’t equal being alone! Even being aromantic doesn’t equal being alone! You’ve got options x
Cake by the ocean and candy shop are about sex???!!
And I relate with Auden about their self esteem telling them that they’re gonna end up alone, mine does the same to me😔
Yeah! I remember looking at the lyrics a while back and it was shocking! Mind you I only knew the chorus 😂
Why do I feel like I'm the only ace in the world
It feels like that, but you’re not. There is about 80 million asexuals in the world
Being ace can definitely feel isolating but I promise you aren't alone 🩷
ACE 💜💜💜💜💜🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤⚓⚓⚓⚓⚓
I’m asexual and this video makes me happy
I never understood anyone's fascination with the aversion of being asexual. Like, what kind of relationships are you people having that NEEDS seggs? Is this what your relationship is, purely seggsual feelings? "Oh, how can you have a functional relationship without sex?" ??? Are people just having constant one night stands rather than getting to know anyone and feeling the fluff of a relationship?
Never understood tweets where people are dying to get into someone's pants, like that makes me question what kind of functional relationship people are having these days if seggs is the only thing in mind. I almost feel bad for people who aren't asexual, you'll probably never find genuine love when someone is just horny.
I love Kerry's shirt ❤
7:49 solid point 🤯 From now on I will say that every time someone questions my sexuality
This video makes me so so happy as someone who's ace 💜💜
In the section about some songs being about sex... I had a funny feeling that Cake by the Ocean was about sex but honestly was never able to pin it. Personally, eating cake under an umbrella on the beach sounds FAR more appealing.
I found this video to be very informative. I have known I was different from a very young age (4 years old), but didn’t know what to call it until I was an adult. I never felt a physical attraction toward the opposite sex, but sometimes for the same sex. However, never any sexual feelings or desire for a romantic relationship. I definitely relate to the folks in this video and the questions they answered. I do feel fulfilled in my life with lots of love and companionship from friends and family. I’m happy that I came across this video and I appreciate the opportunity to have learned some new things!
As a biro ace
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2. Yes
3. Yes
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5. No
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The Jonas brothers had a person idk if it was a friend or whatever but this person was from a different country and couldn't remember what a sex on the beach was called and the friend said cake by the ocean as a replacement which is hilarious and then ta-da song
Gracias por este video... estoy tan feliz de ver positividad ace :D y diferentes interseccionalidades en un mismo video
"and then afterwards i was like....okay, but my shower head could do this"
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I had a similar afterthought when I experienced it for the first time and when I talked about it with a person i used to be friends with, they said "that probably means they sucked at it" and i started second guessing my feelings but having a different experience now, i can confirm my own feelings on sex itself is it really isnt that different imo
Cake by the ocean is about sex ?
Look up the meaning
I’ve had crushes on people but they were all romantic
Asexuals rule!!! 🟣⚪️⚫️
Omg yes ! 😂
A few days ago my brother told me that Animals by Nickelback was about sex and I was like what?
No way! Let me check.. I didn't knew hahaha he said it was funny an asexual was enjoying this song so much considering the lyrics...
Being asexual is hilarious sometimes 😂
I wouldn't say I've faked a crush, per se I just got nagged by the girls I was rooming with at a summer program that I had to have someone I liked. At the time I wasn't aware of my asexuality, and had no idea what a crush felt like, so I told them an approximate that I thought I maybe had a crush on...in hindsight it was really more of a squish (platonic crush) of admiration and a touch of aesthetic appeal :)
I relate to this a lot, pretty much the same thing happened to me as well.
You need to do this with Jaiden!
I know right! That would be so cool! :)
me re-realizing i’m demisexual djskjdkdkdjskcjdnhcjsjd
where i live talking about sex is a taboo so i don't have any problem..........
omg I didnt know cake by the ocean was about having only know I realised things like cake or peach emoji what that actually means
I feel so seen right now
demisexual is for Demi Moore?
No
Is sexual atraction After making a Bond with someone
@@polishalastor142 heheh i know...Just kiddin😅
I hope you guys can do Never Have I Ever:Demigender Edition or Genderfluid Edition or Polygender Edition.
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AYYYYYYYYYYYY
LOL < and thats all im willing to say about this
As a post-sexual boomer, I prefer the pronoun ‘one’ , preferably in the passive voice, Tks
Why does love equal sex? To me it's the part of my relationship that's just my husband and mine. That's incredibly sexy. Otherwise we are just friends. And this weird thing about not wanting to have sex until you're close emotionally is called normal. Not a sexual. Why does every normal human experience need some stupid and trendy title.
demisexual means you don't experience sexual *attraction* until you form a bond w someone, not that you dont wanna have sex, they are separate things (much like sexual/romantic attraction) that are usually hard to separate by allos
Least liked video of buzzfeed aus
But half of the views are probably this one person continuously coming back to this video just to spew hate… get a hobby :)
@@Click4caroline yeah sure. Thank me
Unnecessary comment. You don't have to be rude.
How do they reproduce? Budding? Spores? Help me out
You know not everyone wants to reproduce, right? And if they do it is their choice whether they want to have sex or go down the reproductive technology pathway, eg. IVF, ICSI, using a surrogate
Incase you haven’t already realised, the meaning of life isn’t solely about reproducing. Even so, some people on the ace umbrella still do have s3x and can reproduce. People under the ace umbrella are still humans, we aren’t physically differing to you. So, to answer your question, some of use have s3x and therefore are able to reproduce in one way. Also there are other ways to reproduce such as having a sperm donor. Also adoption lol
By selling my eggs so infertile women elsewhere can have babies and I get that sweet sweet cake money with none of the responsibility for looking after small gremlins.
eating cake 😋
nay they go by binary fission man! you didnt know? that you have an option to just split into two? ez clap
Needing to feel some emotional bond in order to feel attraction is not called “demi-sexual”, is called being a woman.
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Calling someone a ‘ woman’ is sexist and exclusionary!
I guess it's a joke but there is nothing shameful as needing emotional bonds for having sexual attraction as a man and it is completely OK for a woman or anyone else to want to have sex without any feelings involved
:( guys and nb folk can be demi
@@riocoucou6191 it was half a joke, yes, but it’s wellknown that women in general need an emotional connection to feel attraction. What I’m saying is that it’s not a deviation from a normal sexuality and doesn’t need a label
AKA... Homely people opening up way too much in a public forum. 😵💫👀
Talking about yourself there are you?
literally what???????? did someone force you to watch this video?
Idk whether you were raised in a strip club, but for the rest of us a transparent mesh top and purple bra isn't homely by either definition of the word.
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Lmao that's so sad. How can you even be asexual and be missing out💀💀💀
they don’t feel the need to have sex, it’s not something they want and they are perfectly fine without it. so help me here, how could they possibly be missing out?
it's not sad for us
@@natalie-cz2ur Asexuality doesn’t mean lack of desire, it just means they lack the attraction. A lot of ace people want and have sex so technically they’re not even missing out at all lol
This might come off as offensive but i dont really care, you sexuals say some of the most ignorant stuff to us but if im missing out on what sex is which is putting youre mouth on someones genitals, i'll be glad to miss out on that. Also the bodily fluids again im glad im missing out because that shit dont matter to me so yea you can go to hell with that missing out crap, i aint missing nothing. Im sex repulsed.
@@Click4caroline i agree and im sex repulsed personally and what lead me to asexuality was yea i lack sexual attraction but also desire and arousal with other people so ive often felt odd because it seems most asexuals can get physical pleasure from partnered sex (correct me if im wrong) which im not capable of.