WHAT SHOULD YOU NOT CONFESS? (How to go to Confession, part. 2) - Catholic Precept #2
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- Опубликовано: 8 окт 2016
- Part 2 of Fr. Bill's discussion on how to go to Confession in which he addresses:
How should you confess your sins?
What should you NOT Confess?
What is the Purpose of the Penance?
ABSOLUTION
Perhaps the best advice I recall that given to me was that " Don't let your shame prevent you from coming back to Jesus. That shame is proof that your heart still belongs with Jesus and He wants you back very much."
Well shit... my shamelessness speaks volumes then. I don't even know how i got here from a video of a guy criticizing mlms. Autoplay is weird.
Confession takes a load of your soul. Don’t go to a therapist go to confession. It will save you money and it’s free. Just go. Your find a priest as a gentle lamb. And the joy Of being back in God good graces. Just go.
Better yet use both. They serve different purposes both of which are very good for you.
Karen Stempkoski Totally agree with you 👍👍
I disagree on one point. Psychotherapy is not always the best (or only) solution for problems. The focus is exactly the opposite of where faith would take you. God urges us to look towards him, ignore self, and let his will rule our lives.
Psychotherapy puts the focus entirely on self. People become obsessed with themselves as the most important thing in the universe. There is no thought whatsoever of God or the beneficial role God has in fixing life’s problems.
I’ve heard that Catholics who regularly go to confession tend to be psychologically healthier than most people. I think it’s because so much of what people struggle with is directly related to sin. Ultimately, sin is something that causes a lot of damage (both personal and throughout society).
So, while I’m not trying to say that people should avoid psychotherapy, I do think there’s an over reliance on it as the best solution to big problems. It’s not wrong to seek psychological help, but it should at least be balanced with reliance on God.
Agreed! Literally, I feel so full of joy and light and at peace, words don't describe it. I use to never go now I go anywhere from every two weeks to twice a year. it would appear the world has created band-aides for not going to church. Therapists Iv gotten the best advice from priests Ill sneak my question in at the end of confession. The best therapist I saw said what a priest said is take control of your thoughts and think and speak of what you want in your life. I see people do these accountability coaches or weight watchers. The church was the accountability coach having to face your congregation makes it harder to sin. Kinda like now that smoking is illegal in most places and not accepted makes it much harder to smoke. If you smoke the fear of ridicule or backlash make it less desirable to do.
What if therapy is free to most of us?
Went to confession yesterday after 16 yrs of being away. First thing the priest said was, "Welcome back." Thank you for this video, Father. It helped me a great deal. God bless you.
Just went to confession for the first time in 6 years. Wish I saw this video first! I gotta make a commitment to go more often
I’m going to confession tomorrow after two years. This has helped me so much to know what to confess and what not to confess.
I too got back into the church this year, it's been transformational through the grace of God to say the least. There's a ton of good resources online regarding sins (especially those that list out mortal sins, which we must confess!) if you still need some guidance. God bless and I'm happy you are back at confession!
I’m confessing after 12 Years
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This helps
I am doing my first confession this week. These videos have been some of the most helpful thing I have fun across. Thank you!
How grateful I am for your guidance on what not to confess. I can’t count the number of times I have confessed what I thought is the sin of anger and being judgmental, or critical of others. Thanks so much!
Amen to that! I’m sitting better than I thought! I didn’t have to pack a lunch after all! Ha! With seriousness, what an amazing gift! So grateful! God is Brilliant! Cathleen
Cathy Sears "Pack a lunch"! I hear yah!
@Cathy, since listening to Fr. Nicholas' video, it sounds like, 'just the facts, ma'am', but I don't want him to say, 'really? that's all you've got after 35 years?' I would be speechless!
Me too. So many times I have confessed being impatient, upset, annoyed, etc. Now, I know to only confess if I actually out on it.
I have found confession to be one of the greatest gifts. Not only can we receive forgiveness for sins committed, we can also receive the grace to avoid sin in the first place.
How do you get grace in regards to confession?
I don’t know how to overcome the fear of confession...it was easy as a child 25 years ago. Fr. thank for posting this video!
40 years and I went back to confession and I felt wonderful afterwards. It helps to write it down
Wow. I have learned something new. I usually confess my anger because it is a direct cause for my failure to forgive.
Thank you father Nicholas.
God bless you as you continue to impart your knowledge.
Thankyou so much FATHER NIICHOLAS...GOD BLESSING YOU and All the WHOLE WORLD..🙏❤
Unforgiveness itself is a sin that should be confessed - it leads to anger, anxiety and depression.
Njeri Weru yes me to.
Good explanation! Thank you, Fr. Nicholas!
Greetings from Dili, Timor-Leste
I was on the verge of leaving the Catholic Church because of the cruelty I encountered in the parish priest. I couldn't stand it anymore. He did everything possible to humiliate people, including me. I hated him, and I hated the church because of him ( and I was a convert who clearly decided to become Catholic). This has restored my faith, and my sense of well-being. Thank you, Father William.
Skylark Don’t ever hesitate to reach out to the Bishop if a Priest is causing any kind of harm. Also don’t hesitate to go to another parish - the priest are human and far from perfect- I’ve had my fair share of run ins with them. I use to feel “little” next to them- now I feel I do have the right to say something if they are doing something harmful.
Wonderful to be reminded of the many meanings of "judgmental" and specifically the one that Jesus meant.
Thankyou so much Father. I'm sure many more need to read this and learn this as many were not taught how to confess or just forgot. God bless you.
This has helped so much, as I have difficulty knowing what to and not confess ie what is not a sin. God bless you Father William 🏴
Thank you Fr.William. . Please keep sharing videos like these. God bless you always!
Got great insight after watching this video !
Thank you very much Fr!! All glory to GOD🤲
Glad to know Fr.Bill what to confess and not too ..God bless you more Fr.Bill .Nice seeing you again even in you tube..thanks.
Thank you so much profoundly from the core of my Heart dear Father.
Father William. Your clarity, alone, is healing. Thank you and Bless you
Thanks be to God! A great, informative guide on confession
Thank you for this, Father.
Thank Fr. for helping us to do a right confection and reconciliation.
I love Father Bill's directness. Godspeed, Father! You help us all.
Amen! That was helpful and very clear speech. Fr William, i do appreciate your Holy videos very much!
Father, thank you for these informations. God bless you. Amen.
You are very welcome
Thank you so much Father for this.. It could help me a lot tonight,, I will go to the confession few hours from niw..💝🙏
Wow! Thanks for great clarification!!! Excellent points and perspective and insight into a right attitude.
Thank you father for the video.
There are lots of things you said I confess every time.
Like anger, impatient.
This helped me so much to avoid those areas.
Thank you Fr; this was very helpful especially on the judgemental one. It’s always a thin line between calling someone out for erring and judging them but I like that it’s actually an act of charity when you tell someone they are being Unfair to others
Thanks Padre.Pretty straight forward info I wish it was explained like this at catechsim back in the 80s.
Confession is my favorite part of being a Catholic just after The Holy Eucharist.
Thank you Father. This video really clarified things for me.
I love that clarification on Judging people. So many people are confused by that as the Bible talks about judging people in some parts and later it talks about not judging people elsewhere. People don't realize languages didn't have so many words to use as we have today in the English language. When the Bible talks about judging, you have to look at the context of the scripture as it could potentially mean several different things as Fr Nicholas mentions.
I have confession today for the first time, I’m scared but I know I will feel relieved after and I’m 14
👍 Thank you Father Bill!
Straightfoward and helpful. Thank you, Father!
WOW!! I’m so glad I found your talk. I know I haven’t been confessing accurately. This will help. God Bless You Fr. Nicholas!
This was good and helpful... Thank you very much for making this!
Superb two-parter. Clear, concise and to the point. Just what I need as I begin my journey in God. Sub'd
So helpful, thanks Father!
Thanks Father Nicholas!
Fr., be glad you didn't hear my confess after 38 years of not confessing.
@Christian, please don't make me laugh. I'm going after 35 years and I'm a nervous wreck!
linda handley haha aw. You’ve got this!!! Priests have heard it ALLL :)
I didnt confess for 5 years and today i hope i will confess.
45 years here
“...it has been 38 years since my last confession. Father, I hope you brought a lunch...”
This was so helpful! I have been examining my conscience for the past 24 hours and more as I prepare to go to confession after over a decade of not going. This answered a lot of my questions and relieved many of my preconceived "hang-ups".
Bravo, well done, at last Clarity. 🕊🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊
Thank you Fr Nicholas 💜
Father William, I do appreciate you advice.
Thanks Fr.Williams for you help and clear this out.May God bless you.
Thank you, father Nicholas
Thank you, Fr. William.
Great explanation of the Sacrament of Confession.
My sincerest thanks to you Father for making these videos. As a long time Catholic, I was neglectful about going to confession because I felt it wasn't as necessary as the Church always encouraged it would be for all of us. I am trying to be a better Catholic and person on a day by day basis and these explanations help me tremendously in that regard. These kinds of calm, well thought out explanations are easy to understand and truly do clear up possible confusions in my mind and I'm sure in the minds of many Catholics over the years. Thank you for your efforts and please keep up the great work. It's very much appreciated by those of us who seek a stronger level of faith and hopefully, for those out there who may have little or no hope in a better way of life, or who may be in search of that path through life. God Bless you for your devoted work.
Thank you Father. I only wish that I was able to see and hear years ago.
Amen Fr William! Always good to be back after 1 year, and listen to your Holy videos. And this one is from 2016! I wasn't on YT yet. Thank you Fr Bill. 3 Hail Mary's as everyday.
Fantastic! Thank you for this.
God bless you father
Very good Fr Bill
Very helpful. Thank you. Just finished RCIA and will be doing first confession soon.
Thank you for making this video.
Thks father for ur info. God bless!
A helpful distinction between anger and rage which I haven't heard before.
Thank you Father, very helpful.
Thank you, Father!! I'm often confused and even scrupulous about my confessions, and I tend to get "flowery" about them too. I hope confession will be easier for me after this. God bless you.
It's really a wonderful explanation, thank you Father for this important information and things that v need to know 👍
I am 59 and have been catholic for 6 years but don't know much about confession very useful
Yes, Father Williams is very helpful... I agree that often out of sheer ignorance, I too confessed those "what not to confess"...
Thank you for giving to us this gem of the teaching of Christ, now bestowed on us through His Holy Church...
pray for priests... they need our prayers....
Very clear explanation,since I have been confessing anger, judgement, Thanks fr for great enlightenment
How gracious.... no words to describe what Authority God gave to the church
Much needed thank you 🙏🏼
Undoubtedly a good and sincere Priest an assett to the Catholic Church.Just wonder Father don't Priests get sick of listening to the repeditive often boring sins of the congregation not to mention the halitosis in such an often small and confined place?I would've thought telling them" yes go confess you sins to God"would be a relief after awhile . God has vast breathing space! *smile*.
Thank you for keeping your videos clear of destructive background music. Keep it up Father
Thanks Fr. William for your guidence. I can understand better now and you help me to think out of my sins.
Thank you Father for clarity.
Thank you so much this really helped me because i have sined alot thank you father
Thank you
This is great thank you Far.most of the time I get confused .
Father Nicholas, thank you so much for your wonderful videos. I was welcomed into the Church in 1998 after four years of searching and study for the Church Jesus began. I felt like I was finally home, and the Eucharist was the most awesome experience in my spiritual life. I'm ashamed to say that after a few years, I stopped attending the Catholic Church. My wife didn't like the Church as we both grew up in a non-denominational church. Her brother had become a minister and pastor in a church similar to the one we used to attend, and our daughter and her family are also going there. I started attending this church for family reasons I guess, and it's a good church.... but, it will never be able to replace what I experienced in the Catholic Church. I've never been as close to God in my life as I was in the Church which has the Body and Blood of Christ, that has the successor of Peter as it's overseer in the office of the Pope. The communion of Saints, the Blessed Mother...etc... I just don't know how to get back without causing a major traumatic rift in my family. I pray God will lead me in the right direction and hopefully He can deal with their hearts ahead of time, before I let them know how I feel. Thank you Father and God bless you.
This is funny, because I am definitely guilty of doing what father mentioned in the video. 😆
Im going to confession in 30 mins and its my first confession this helped
Maybe when people confess to "being judgemental", what they mean is a prideful attitude. Setting themselves higher than the other person as if they were superior or "better than you."
It's better not to presume, just say what it is. No need for interpretation when clarity is facing you
Then, just confess the sin of pride.
This is wonderful information, Father Nicholas.
I wish I'd listened to this yesterday lol.
I sometimes confess my temptations, but not as my main reason for going to confession. If i have to go to confession, and if I’ve also been battling intense temptations, I will mention it as well.
Father I love you for teaching me this...everyone says don't commit sin ,and go to confession..but they never gives homilies on how to confess or what is sin except on the occasion before holy communion that happened in the long past
@Treesa, that would be an excellent homily!
Thank you this helped alot
Thank you for this, nice, simple and direct. I don't want my fist confession being a Stephen King novel.
Ragnarr Thorsen 🤓
This was helpful thank you Father. 🙃🙏💐
This guy straight up sounds like Data from Star Trek! Very well spoken 👍🏻
Fr. William, I just happened to scroll your videos. I'm thankful seen this.
May God forgive me, I never go confession since 2009 After I left the Convent after that last confession I had with our spiritual director.
Father, After how many years I'm engaging PMS and pray God for forgiveness in adoration chapels and sometimes I received communion. And as of this time I almost a year never go to Mass because of my job with occasional day off and never received communion too.
Yeah I watched live mass online sometimes.
I feel myself guilty when I go to mass because of PMS I had with different partners before until this February.
Pray For me Father, please include in your prayer..
God Bless.
We must continue to pray to the Lord to help with this
temptation.
The Rosary has helped me
from falling into this sinful act.
Never forget His Grace is sufficient.
Let's us pray 1 our Father
And 3 Hail Marys.
Good luck.
God Bless us.
That helps, thanks Father 🙏🏼
a priest that was temporarily assigned in the parish, gave An interest Penance that was to review the the explanation of either the readings or Gospel of the previous week that was in the Church bulletin (or the up coming readings if the previous week bulletin was not available )
Thank you for explaining that the priest is bound by the seal of the confessional and he must keep what is said in the confessional in absolute confidentiality and the importance of not confessing the sins of other people. I cannot unspeak the words that I have spoken but I have had to eat them on many occasions. A day at a time..
Thanks that was really helpful.
Thanks for this video father, my problem with confessing is that when one includes sins of thought, especially lustful thoughts, it seems to me that i commit these sins literally every minute of every day, and the thought is indeed deliberate and with knowledge of how bad it is, therefore coming under the category of a mortal sin, and were I to confess properly i would have to go every single day and stay in the confessional for an hour at least. I resist these thoughts probably one out of every thousand times that they are in my mind. The reasons for entertaining them are many, but mainly bcuz they are extremely difficult, even physically exhausting, to resist, and the mind is such a difficult thing to control, i literally wish i could take my brain out of my head so i wouldnt have to carry this temptation-producing machine around with me all day. What should I do as far as confession?
that is my problem too!...then the question is, why go to confession bcuz anyway the moment you walked out here we go again.
Thank you, this helped me a lot
Thank you Father.
I always feel great after confession...! exorcist say that the devil hates when people ares going to confession, so I go! . I love out Catholic church the only church that Jesus Christ made.
"I, for my part, declare to you [Peter] you are Rock, and on this Rock I will build my church." (Matthew 16:18) Doesn't sound very counterfeit to me.
AlexA- Look two verses back so you can see the context-Matt. 16:16=" Simon Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” Those WORDS are what Jesus will build His church on-the belief that Jesus is Messiah, not build the church on Peter. All churches that believe this are His church.
@@vgil1278 He said:"I will build my Church", in singular, not "my churches". It was perfectly clear for 1,500 years that His Church is one. The Lord has only one Bride.
Amen
PRICELESS ...... AND GOD BLESS YOU AND ALL OF US
How about confessing that I spend too much time on this computer and not enough time with my family or reading books.
Great video, Father - thank you! I'll try to watch part one and the remainder of part 2 asap.
But I have heard that confessing one's temptations (which, sure enough, aren't sins) can lead to growing in humility. (Unfortunately I can't remember the source, but it may have been advice by a saint who practiced that.)
Pray That I Will Detest My Bad Habits Sinful Tendencies Flee Evildoers
The more often you go to Confession, the faster you life will improve, dramatically and substantially. Especially if you look at how to change your habits from sinful to virtuous.
As a scrupulous soul this was very helpful- I think I confess all of those things you said not to confess (except others sins) ! Won’t anymore!!
Thank you, Father for these statements of how to express our sins and what not to express.
I found this very helpful. I am a woman religious and I wonder if you would have suggestions
For a religious sister. Blessings and Peace on your teachings of this sacrament.
Sr. Brigid