Pile 3. Please remember that Avoidant attachers are triggered by secure love. It is love that triggers, not only anxious behaviour in another. Their core fears, of vulnerability and then in turn being abandoned, cause them to close to love rather than receive. Some more perspective of the mechanisms on the avoidant's side would be welcome. Thing is, someone with secure attachment (as I have successfully worked to become) who wants a healthy balanced relationship, will not tolerate the absence and unavailability of the avoidant for long. Instead, it's goodbye and good luck and thanks for never coming back.
I was pile 3 and I truly appreciate this reading because I understand exactly what I need to do now. With love I am walking away. I don't want it anymore, it's a pattern that I have been dealing with for years. I am still excited for love but I want one that I can express myself without being judged or put down, gaslighting, ECT. While I wait for my special soulmate I will continue giving me love, attention, self-care, and do everything that gives me peace and love 💕😘💕 . Thank you so much bendiciones siempre ❤❤❤
Pile 3. Met her 34 years ago when she was already engaged to someone else. Met her again a year ago after she had been divorced for a year. She became afraid when she realized that the attraction went far deeper than smex. She’s angry because she thinks I cast a spell on her. I didn’t. It was simply a strong mutual attraction from the heart and soul, something she doesn’t believe in. There is nothing I can do but detach, which I have done. I will always love her but I don’t think she will ever let me get close to her again. So I think it’s over for this lifetime.
@@a.nonymous2089tired and fat are things you can change if you want to. And obviously a lot of older men do want tired old fat women... They're usually married to them. 😂
Please note that when you look into the "shadow" , the most objective definition, "shadow" are aspects of the personality that are denied. In other words, at 21:23 when pulling the Narcissist card, it doesn't mean "experiences with Narcissism" but aspects of Narcissism that are not recognized by the conscious mind but can be activated until fully integrated & if not "solved" at least acknowledged.
I was pile 3 and I truly appreciate this reading because I understand exactly what I need to do now. With love I am walking away. I don't want it anymore, it's a pattern that I have been dealing with for years. I am still excited for love but I want one that I can express myself without being judged or put down, gaslighting, ECT. While I wait for my special soulmate I will continue giving me love, attention, self-care, and do everything that gives me peace and love 💕😘💕 . Thank you so much bendiciones siempre ❤❤❤
Pile 2 resonates. He had an narcissistic ex and therefore he became an avoidant. Its getting better between us becauze i am letting go of my anxious attachment style. But since two days i havent suddenly hear from him, but things are going really well. So i think he might be thinking about our situation indeed. Because he told me that his daughter is getting attached too me to.
Pile 1 he's annoyed because I rejected him I'm fed of his bs and offering nothing he can move on with his lying self 😒 he makes me sick these days not with me yes sounds like him
Pile 2 is exactly whats going on and idk what to do about it. Im usually pretty secure but the avoidance and the energy change for four days now after texting sending pictures and voice notes non stop even when we are both busy is so hard and i dont know what to do 😢
Group1❤❤ I stopped all the communication and instead 😂he keeps stalking me.no serious commitment,just casual..got third party in between and fat ego he has. So I left for my highest good
Pile 1 this is so true but we were together 10 years are son is 1p so wouldn't be an affair but no he won't have a foot in the door he wouldn't commit I walked away from him I loved him so much but told him can't have all his single life and me so he made his choice he still trys to flirt and chase me but yes he betrayed me 😢lied cheated I dntbwant him back with his toxic non committal ways no thankyou
Pile 3. Please remember that Avoidant attachers are triggered by secure love. It is love that triggers, not only anxious behaviour in another. Their core fears, of vulnerability and then in turn being abandoned, cause them to close to love rather than receive. Some more perspective of the mechanisms on the avoidant's side would be welcome. Thing is, someone with secure attachment (as I have successfully worked to become) who wants a healthy balanced relationship, will not tolerate the absence and unavailability of the avoidant for long. Instead, it's goodbye and good luck and thanks for never coming back.
Thank you for this comment. Avoidants can shame you for the simplest, most sparse requests.
I was pile 3 and I truly appreciate this reading because I understand exactly what I need to do now. With love I am walking away. I don't want it anymore, it's a pattern that I have been dealing with for years. I am still excited for love but I want one that I can express myself without being judged or put down, gaslighting, ECT. While I wait for my special soulmate I will continue giving me love, attention, self-care, and do everything that gives me peace and love 💕😘💕 . Thank you so much bendiciones siempre ❤❤❤
Pile 3. Met her 34 years ago when she was already engaged to someone else. Met her again a year ago after she had been divorced for a year. She became afraid when she realized that the attraction went far deeper than smex. She’s angry because she thinks I cast a spell on her. I didn’t. It was simply a strong mutual attraction from the heart and soul, something she doesn’t believe in. There is nothing I can do but detach, which I have done. I will always love her but I don’t think she will ever let me get close to her again. So I think it’s over for this lifetime.
At our age we might as well forget it.
@@a.nonymous2089I’m not done with love yet. Just accepting that this one is over.
@@sketchesinsand8593 Old women aren't attractive. Men want thinner, younger, sexier bodies, not a tired, fat old woman. So I'm done.
@@a.nonymous2089tired and fat are things you can change if you want to. And obviously a lot of older men do want tired old fat women... They're usually married to them. 😂
3; Thank you so much, Kate!
Please note that when you look into the "shadow" , the most objective definition, "shadow" are aspects of the personality that are denied.
In other words, at 21:23 when pulling the Narcissist card, it doesn't mean "experiences with Narcissism" but aspects of Narcissism that are not recognized by the conscious mind but can be activated until fully integrated & if not "solved" at least acknowledged.
I was pile 3 and I truly appreciate this reading because I understand exactly what I need to do now. With love I am walking away. I don't want it anymore, it's a pattern that I have been dealing with for years. I am still excited for love but I want one that I can express myself without being judged or put down, gaslighting, ECT. While I wait for my special soulmate I will continue giving me love, attention, self-care, and do everything that gives me peace and love 💕😘💕 . Thank you so much bendiciones siempre ❤❤❤
Pile 3. I am becoming secure and he is angry because I don't chase him anymore I guess 😅
Pile 2 resonates. He had an narcissistic ex and therefore he became an avoidant. Its getting better between us becauze i am letting go of my anxious attachment style. But since two days i havent suddenly hear from him, but things are going really well. So i think he might be thinking about our situation indeed. Because he told me that his daughter is getting attached too me to.
I'm an FE but I've never disappeared. Let's not forget it's a spectrum, and avoid generalizing.
Pile 1 no way I'm a respectful person no my worth yes he should give up I no what I deserve and its not what's he's offering only civil for our son
I always enjoy your reading 😊
Pile 1 he's annoyed because I rejected him I'm fed of his bs and offering nothing he can move on with his lying self 😒 he makes me sick these days not with me yes sounds like him
Resonated!
Pile 2 is exactly whats going on and idk what to do about it. Im usually pretty secure but the avoidance and the energy change for four days now after texting sending pictures and voice notes non stop even when we are both busy is so hard and i dont know what to do 😢
Same situation 😢😢
Where can we purchase your cards ? thank you
P1 This is the rent of a studio. P2 Adrian P3 Sebastian
Nooo but why is P3 about a Sebastian for me too! 🙈😂 this was further confirmation so thanks!
group 2 right on the money every detail , thank you
Group1❤❤
I stopped all the communication and instead 😂he keeps stalking me.no serious commitment,just casual..got third party in between and fat ego he has.
So I left for my highest good
same.. blocked his narc ass
Pile 1 this is so true but we were together 10 years are son is 1p so wouldn't be an affair but no he won't have a foot in the door he wouldn't commit I walked away from him I loved him so much but told him can't have all his single life and me so he made his choice he still trys to flirt and chase me but yes he betrayed me 😢lied cheated I dntbwant him back with his toxic non committal ways no thankyou
Pile2 👍