What's REALLY Holding You Back in Midlife?
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- Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024
- Feelings of guilt in midlife seem to be more common than I had previously expected. We are part of the sandwich generation, caring for our parents while raising kids. Guilt has plagued me since childhood and I'm now starting to unpack it all.
#midlife #midlifewomen #midlifecrisis
Doris, thank you my friend for your mention. ❤
Let’s try this post once more lol 😅
Thanks so much for sharing the journey of your parents. They went through a lot at a very young age.
I’m sorry that you ended up carrying guilt from such a young age. You went through a lot at a young age due to what they went through which doesn’t make it any better or easier.
I’m glad you are able to recognise that you are burdened with guilt that is not yours to carry.
Guilt can suck the life out of you. ❤
I too was an accident, number 7. But I always said that I was a good accident lol 😅
I’m glad you are able to share on yt and that we can share our healing journey together. ❤
It’s nice to have friends that can understand
Yay, finally the comment is here to stay! 😅🙏🏼🥰🤗❤️ Thank you so much Kathleen! I also think of myself as a 'good' accident, and my mother reassured me many times that I was indeed a huge blessing to her, but I also know as a mother how hard it must have been to work 15 hour days and raising a little one all over again in her 40s.
I am so glad we can share our experiences here. It makes such a difference to me. I'm infinitely grateful ❤️🤗🙏✨✨✨✨
I think that they didn’t post previously because my posts were too long, and I didn’t pay attention if it said that my comment was posted.
@@Kathleensplace71 yeah, maybe so....I also checked the 'held for review' tab, just in case, but they were nowhere in sight. Thanks for going through the trouble and commenting again....and again! 😆😄🥰❤❤🙏
@ it’s my pleasure, that’s what friends are for 💕
I love the support in our community❤
It is gorgeous over there where you are. what a gift.
What history and strength you come from.
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Thank you for listening to my story, Tracie. Yes, the community is simply amazing and I'm incredibly grateful for you and the rest of our community here. 🙏❤️🥰🤗🙏❤️🥰🤗
Your kids will come around. I went through the same thing when I got divorced. It was the best thing for everyone. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. I know that can’t be easy at times. 😊
Thank you for your reassurance and support. It means so much to me. ❤️🥰🙏🤗🤗
My dearest Doris. Each time you share something I can relate soooo much. What’s this 😊 I went through and have so much similarities. Thanks so much for sharing your life. You deserve so much for yourself. You are an amazing person. A great mom and you are seriously enough and you deserve to take great care of yourself. Sending you hugs as always my dear❤❤❤ Your kids will fully understand because we raised them well. It was difficult for me too I had that guilt but they were the ones who encouraged me to finally live. 🌹🧡🌹
I second @mokaandchai
I can relate to everything you said about guilt and children. We want the best, and be the best for our kids, no doubt about that. The balance to also care for ourselves seems to be the biggest challenge- for me anyway. I agree with Mokaandchai, your children will understand, if not now, in the future. Sending you a hug from the East Coast.
Thank you so much for those kind and reassuring words. I appreciate you and I'm so glad you're here with all of us. ❤️🙏🫂🥰✨🙏☀️🤗❤️
Nikki, you are so sweet. ❤️ From the moment I came across your channel, I knew we had a real connection. It's so good to meet people here who have walked before me/us and are a bit ahead. Thank you for holding out your (virtual) hand. I am so grateful for your presence in my life. ❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your life!!! You are doing such a great job as a mom by showing how strong you are and continue to be!!! I've been following you for a bit, but I am so happy to see you filming outside. I am San Diego born and raised and it's great to see it in the background!!! Stay strong, take time for yourself and know you aren't alone!!
Thank you so much!! ❤️ I'm so glad I can bring some San Diego atmosphere and scenery to you, wherever you might be now. Hugs, with love ❤️🤗🫂🥰
Agree with you we need to raise adults not adult children ❤
Yes, that's the goal, right?! 🙌🏼😊🥰 Btw, what is your actual name? Hugs to you in beautiful Singapore! ❤️🫂❤️🫂
I understand and appreciate everything you are saying. Guilt starts from an early age and I’m glad you are working through this. Keep letting it go and letting it flow. Your kids will understand in time as your daughter already is. You’ve raised strong and resilient kids and they love you. And want you thriving too. Sending strength and love.😍✨💞
Thank you so much, Kath! Feeling the love and soaking up every bit of strength you're sending over here....I really appreciate you here with me, with us! ❤️🥰✨🥰❤️🥰✨🥰❤️
Religion makes us feel so guilty for everything doesn't it? You're right, it's time for us to live life for ourselves and put our needs first now. Be kind to yourself Doris, you/we deserve to live a life that we love 🥰😍
You're right about religion, because we are getting information from a person of authority. But when you read the Word of God for yourself, you find out that you've been forgiven. For me that was turning point and guilt went away. Thank you Lord Jesus. Thank you Doris for sharing.
Yes, we do. Thank you so much for being here, Shirley. You inspire and guide me tremendously ❤️🤗🥰
Thank you, too, for sharing your thoughts. It is so enriching to hear different RUclips friends speak about similar experiences. We're in this together, and we got this, GenXers. ❤️🙏😊🥰🙏🫂✨
What beautiful scenery, and thank you for sharing. ❤ LOL my dad was heavy catholic and I have inherited this guilt for EVERYTHING! I think so many of us can identify with your feelings in this story.
Fascinating story of tour parents journey. My parents lived through the depression years so they raised me to be very frugal. Dad used to take us to pick up cans and bottles along the highways to earn recycling money and we picked blackberries and sold them door to door in the summers.❤
Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful insights, and for sharing part of your story too. Sending hugs, with much gratitude ✨🙏❤️
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I really needed to hear this. It’s so true about the guilt 😢
So glad to hear it was helpful! Thanks for being here. 🤗❤️🥰🙏🫂✨
Guilt can be one of the most challenging things. Why do we put ourselves through so much of it? In a lot of cases, we absolutely know deep down that it's not ours to own, yet there it is tormenting us. I really like what another one of your followers said, and that's to focus on gratitude instead. I'm going to try that advice because I really like it and it makes so much sense! Thinking of you and know your feelings are actually very common. Sending positive vibes that those feelings lessen quickly! ❤❤❤
Thank you for your thoughtful comments, Brenda. Yes, it really takes time to let go of what no longer serves us or what weighs us down more than it should. I appreciate you being here. Thank you so much! 🙏❤️🤗🥰🙏
@@Dr.DorisTorres ❤
Gorgeous scenery!!!
Thank you!! The ocean is so healing and has helped me tremendously. I'm glad you enjoyed the backdrop. 🤗🥰
Agreed… our YT viewers are such an important part of our journey! Thanks for sharing from your heart. But I want you to know that you WERE supposed to be born. You are not a mistake. You are part of the process in the lives of all those around you. I’m about to post one about that, hope you catch it. You are a precious soul.
Thank you so much for your kindness, Bettie. I appreciate you. ❤️🤗❤️ I'll definitely keep an eye out for your next video. Be well, always ✨❤️🤗
I have guilt over some things I've done or not done in life. But I just hand it over to God every time i catch myself rifling through those old bags. I don't want to carry those heavy burdons around. ❤
Yes, releasing the guilt is liberating. Thank you so much. ❤️✨❤️✨
Un fuerte abrazo Doris🤗. Sigue adelante, valiente mamá.
Muchísimas gracias, Marta. 🙏 ❤️ Espero que te encuentres bien y de buena salud. Abrazotes ❤️🤗🥰
Focus on gratitude instead of guilt!
I really love your advice! Thank you. ❤
@ yep! It’s a mind shift in what’s good in your life.
@@FirstHundi 💞
Love that, Eric! 🙌🏼 ❤️ Gratitude makes everything so much better. 🙏✨🙏✨❤️❤️
Yes, it's so true. I am still processing some of those lingering emotions and replacing the bad vibes with good ones. Little by little, baby steps. 🤗💪🏼💪🏼🥰
Beautiful view love this video keep going !!!✨
Thank you so much!! I will! 🥰🤗💕💕💕
Wooooow this is so beautiful ❤❤
Thank you!! ❤️🙏🥰
Ok this is so weird, 2 of my comments have not posted on here
@@Kathleensplace71 I got this one ☝️