DOCTOR REACTS TO IT'S A SIN #3 | Psychiatry Doctor Analyzes HIV in the 1980s (Episode #3)

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  • @amyg9518
    @amyg9518 3 года назад +336

    One of the greatest things about Colin's mom is that after Colin dies, she stays in the lives of the young people who loved him. She loses one child and gains four others. Thank you for shedding some light on Colin's infection. That's made the episode make more sense.

  • @cosmopolitanbloodloss3148
    @cosmopolitanbloodloss3148 3 года назад +250

    "I'm not dirty" might just be the most heartbreaking line in television history.

    • @brasschick4214
      @brasschick4214 3 года назад +18

      Totally. That whole scene had me crying.

    • @AGMundy
      @AGMundy 2 года назад +12

      Indeed and the line in the last episode when the nurse says of a patient "He lies there all day dying of shame" is very true and heartrending.

    • @AGMundy
      @AGMundy 2 года назад

      @Dana Breshun Twaddle. Stop peddling quack remedies sold by snake oil salesmen.

    • @AGMundy
      @AGMundy 2 года назад

      @Dana Breshun Rubbish. Don't insult my intelligence or those of anyone else reading this by spouting quack remedies. There are no medicines that cure HIV infection.

    • @USER1326
      @USER1326 2 года назад +4

      Just wanted to hold him so tight in my arms and take that pain and sadness away! Such a sweet boy. I’m still sad thinking about it as if he were my best friend. I’d gladly have been his boyfriend he told Henry he wanted. He deserves so much love!

  • @chrisboot2468
    @chrisboot2468 3 года назад +211

    I was 21 in 1982, and had already been out for 6 years. I lived through this. I marched on the demos, I manned the phone lines, I sat with friends when they were on their own, and when they died. This series should be mandatory watching for everyone.
    And, bye the bye, I was researching infectious diseases and vaccines at this time

    • @birdiekay686
      @birdiekay686 2 года назад +6

      I'm sorry for your losses and admire your strength, you are an amazing human

    • @skullsaintdead
      @skullsaintdead 2 года назад +2

      Wow. Thank you for helping others in such a profound way. I'm 30 and prior to this series, had no idea that even LGBTQI+ people were often also ignorant of the dangers (& that info was so hard to come by - how strange to live in an information sparse-world, the opposite now being true; dissemination of disinformation being rampant online). How much we owe to people like you, and those who died through no fault of their own.

    • @MerelvandenHurk
      @MerelvandenHurk 2 года назад +4

      I wasn't born until 1994 and didn't realize I was bisexual until I was 23 just five years ago, but I know that I probably owe it to amazing humans like you that I get to live in a better world for queer people. Thank you so, so much for everything that you've done. You're the kind of person we need more of in this world.

    • @claragee8619
      @claragee8619 2 года назад +1

      I hope this question isn’t offensive or come off that way, but why didn’t people simply wear condoms. They stop it from spreading right? Did people simply not know until after 1996 when the medicines came out?

    • @ninino86
      @ninino86 Год назад

      Thank you, and I hope youre happy.

  • @LunaRose1312
    @LunaRose1312 Год назад +26

    We deserve an apology from our government, the fact this was allowed is absolutely vile, my heart broke multiple times watching this show, our government had a duty to take care of those affected and to raise awareness. At pride next year ill be asking for an official apology

    • @thunder_heads
      @thunder_heads 9 месяцев назад +2

      Compensation would be better

    • @joescott5322
      @joescott5322 3 месяца назад

      You do realise that the current government has nothing to do with that of the 1980s. Those in power at the time are mainly dead are those who were affected. An apology would be nothing but lip service.

  • @d0ubl3
    @d0ubl3 11 месяцев назад +13

    All that love from Colin’s mom just moved into community and activism. Talk about prevailing.

  • @le6360
    @le6360 Год назад +9

    Even as a kid my parents were always very open and honest with me with what was going on. My dad had a pub next to a drag bar and they used to come over to his pub on their breaks and do colouring in with me. I loved them. Over time there were less and less of them. I lost so many of my friends when I was a little girl. This show was so realistic and it broke my heart and reminded me of my amazing early babysitters 🖤👌

  • @missybayonette
    @missybayonette 3 года назад +111

    What I really pondered with Colin's story line was a bit of discourse that occasionally pops up with HIV/AIDS - the one of those who do not deserve to get HIV. There was (and probably still is) a focus of the 'innocent victims' of HIV, mainly children. And therein lays the unsaid 'as opposed to those who deserve it'. It's a difficult one to discuss because in the end, is there anyone who deserves it and who is allowed to pass the judgement on who is innocent and who isn't?
    Also, Colin's mum. Ah, love her. I know that during the series everyone quite rightly said 'be more like Jill'. But what I have taken from here is 'be more like Colin's mum'. To have that unjudgemental and unwavering love and extending that to others as she's shown to do later on... that's special, and we need more of it.

    • @raindropsonroses3919
      @raindropsonroses3919 3 года назад +2

      That’s a very good point

    • @trao1938
      @trao1938 3 года назад +12

      I agree with you. Colin is most people's favorite character. Not to take anything away from Callum Scott's performance, which is brilliant. But I have to wonder if Colin would be as sympathetic of a character had he been as promiscuous as the other guys. That said I did know a few guys who had only one partner and became sick and died. The familiarity of a steady relationship possibly contributed to unsafe sex practices. Whereas there were plenty of promiscuous guys who never got sick. Not everyone who has random hook-ups engages in the more risky behaviors.

    • @dariusanderton3760
      @dariusanderton3760 3 года назад +8

      I'm in my 50's, and I was promiscious and loved it and never got HIV. But there were other guys who were not promiscious at all but they got HIV and died.

    • @trao1938
      @trao1938 3 года назад +5

      @@dariusanderton3760I saw this happen with guys who were in long-term, committed relationships. They eventually abandoned safe sex practices, unaware one of the partners was carrying the virus (or possibly cheated.)

    • @danielvincent5306
      @danielvincent5306 2 года назад +1

      Nobody deserved it. Nobody does. It's a disease, a virus, not a moral failing.

  • @samthelion3925
    @samthelion3925 3 года назад +37

    What a sweet mother Colin had. After her son died she took the time to call her sons friends to let them know of his passing whilst probably attempting to do it with a clear and strong voice just after her own son had passed. Truly an amazing person.

  • @LouisaReacts
    @LouisaReacts Год назад +6

    Watching you hold back tears when Colin said "I'm sorry" and "I'm not dirty" made me cry more 😢

  • @shine01120
    @shine01120 2 года назад +45

    Out of all 5 episodes this one was the most upsetting for me. Colin was the most innocent and naive of them all and seeing his deterioration was heartbreaking. I became so attached to him I had to watch an interview with the actor just to see him alive and laughing again. Sounds stupid I know

    • @USER1326
      @USER1326 2 года назад +10

      Doesn’t sound stupid at all, I feel this same way! They did so well in this, it felt real that we literally watched him go. Don’t feel alone in this! I did the same thing! ❤️

  • @rickwilson1732
    @rickwilson1732 Год назад +9

    I found out I was HIV positive 30 years ago. When I told my mother she shook her finger and shamed me. I am so glad I'm still alive that shame did not destroy me. But it did destroy my relationship with my mother.

    • @briannajones2979
      @briannajones2979 6 месяцев назад +1

      Im sorry you had to go through that especially after getting that diagnosis. I’m glad you made it though and still here.

  • @alistaircaradec2180
    @alistaircaradec2180 3 года назад +43

    You know, something else that really hit me strongly about this show is how absolutely shitty these kids were to Colin, right up until the moment they learn he's ill. I've been that one guy in the friend group who's a bit quiet, a bit awkward. The one whose friends make fun of him. And you kind of accept it because they hang out with you, right, so that must mean they like you. And they're the cool kids. And you know that deep down they care about you and each other, but that kind of "poking fun", "tough love" type of friendship was always super damaging to me. Watching this, I was so angry at the boys, and when they started going "well we never talked to him", I couldn't help thinking "that's right, you didn't, you jerks."
    Jill is the only one who's genuinely kind and mature in there.

    • @MerelvandenHurk
      @MerelvandenHurk 2 года назад +8

      Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sorry you had to go through that.
      I'm 28 now and I've been sitting at home for 2.5 years with a massive burnout which is partly due to ADHD, autism and chronic fatigue, but also largely due to unresolved trauma, many of which resolves around having been bullied in elementary school, never fitting in at high school, and going through some nasty stuff at my student union. I didn't find true, honest friends until I was 23. That was the first time I had friends who valued me for me, who not just tolerated me but accepted me and welcomed me.
      The damage done by bullying in elementary school doesn't need an explanation, but currently I'm realizing how perniciously damaging high school actually was. Sure, I wasn't actively bullied, but I could _feel_ that I was always the lesser one, always the one who tagged along without being authentically wanted there by the others. Damage done by bullying in elementary school can be mitigated if high school is a safe environment for you where you're loved and accepted, but that wasn't true for me. As I'm processing my trauma I realize that I've never felt safe around people until the damage was already done and engrained deeply into my being. 23 is much too late to find true friends for the first time, that means you've spent basically your entire childhood without belonging anywhere, without knowing acceptance, without knowing love, and without knowing safety.
      Colin's situation reminds me of it too. He probably didn't feel safe either, but no one truly realizes that unless they're well-versed in the deeper workings of social interactions. People just assume that "poking fun" of someone, especially if done out of love, will always be felt as love by the recipient but that isn't true. Love and communication require both parties to be on the same page. A joke isn't funny if the recipient doesn't think it is. Tough love isn't love if the recipient doesn't perceive it as such. And that's not the recipient's fault. Far too often the recipient is the one in a place of lesser power, unable to stand up for themselves, unable to safely assert their boundaries. I get that these things can absolutely come from a good place, but we need to be more mindful of each other and realize that we don't get to decide how someone else perceives our communication. Far too often whenever I said I didn't like something, I was told "it's just a joke, don't be such a spoilsport" (or something analogous, I'm Dutch). Like it was somehow my fault for not finding it funny. If you're already in a lower position in terms of power, it's simply not okay.
      Thankfully I'm finally on my way to healing, and maybe before the year is out I can start working again without being overwhelmed by my social anxiety and fear of intimacy as much anymore.

  • @davidhughes4890
    @davidhughes4890 2 года назад +9

    Thank-you for this video. I was diagnosed with HIV 5 and a half years ago after taking a home test. I went to my doctors straight away, unfortunately my GP was not the best, they confirmed the diagnosis and gave me a print out saying if had AIDS then my outlook was not great. I remember sitting in my car crying, thinking the exact same thing as Colin. A couple of weeks later I was told I had a CD4 count of 90, I had thrush in my mouth and my liver enlarged so scans and tests were done for Lymphoma, luckily all were clear and the medications started working.

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  2 года назад +5

      Sorry you had such a negative experience but yay to the meds working

  • @trao1938
    @trao1938 3 года назад +25

    Back then everything was secretive. If you recognized someone in public from the bar, you didn't speak to them. Privacy was vital. So we didn't notice it right away when guys started to 'disappear.' Several months later we'd learn through the grapevine they died from AIDS or suicide. If someone got sick- unless it was a very close friend- you didn't visit them. You didn't reach out to them because you didn't know how their situation was at home. But if I'm being truly honest, we also didn't want to be around them or be associated with them. In the 90's I started doing volunteer work with a local AIDS group. Word spread and people began assuming I had HIV and distancing themselves from me. It wasn't true, but by then I didn't care what people thought. That's what "It's a Sin" gets so well, the apathy within the gay community toward the sick and dying. Though I know this wasn't true for everyone- so many LGBT were tireless and devoted caretakers. But most weren't.

  • @emmafroome653
    @emmafroome653 3 года назад +39

    Such a heartbreaking episode - truly highlights the horrific treatment people were going through. Thank you for your insight and perspective, you add another layer to the show on rewatching. Colin has got to be one of the best tv characters this year!

    • @JJones2011
      @JJones2011 Год назад

      There were many heartbreaking moments but this was the number 1 for me. I completely lost it.

  • @djhcc7
    @djhcc7 3 года назад +16

    Thanks so much for doing these videos. I was diagnosed with HIV, 4 and a half years ago when I was 38. I was in a committed relationship at the time I contracted it, well I thought I was. I was quite ill when I was diagnosed as had a CD4 count of 90 and suspected Lymphoma as my liver had swollen, luckily that was all clear, but it was hell. I really do think that for anyone given a positive diagnosis they should have to attend a meeting with a Psychiatrist, I know this is available but I believe it should be mandatory, as it may have saved my anxiety and depression that I have had since.

  • @adamlawrinson6665
    @adamlawrinson6665 3 года назад +27

    i loved everything about Its A Sin. like many i watched it during lockdown and at that time i was living with my parents, both in their mid 60's. We laughed, we cried, they learnt a lot!!! Thanks for this reaction video.
    Also Dr Carthy...please keep the stubble! You and Dr Ranj Singh need to do a collaboration!!! love love love

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +3

      Stubble isnt going anywhere! Love Dr Ranj. Maybe one day if the channel keeps growing 😉

  • @gemstonerose4648
    @gemstonerose4648 3 года назад +18

    This really is heartbreaking. Also Colins mum is amazing

  • @moonlightingjam
    @moonlightingjam 3 года назад +25

    Oh, I remember this episode. It destroyed me emotionally.
    I mean, they all did, but damn... Colin was such a sweetheart 😭

  • @tetsuan25
    @tetsuan25 3 года назад +12

    Aids terrified me that I remained completely celibate until I was just over 30. Even now I seek very little intimacy. I was giving company to gay men dying alone in the Hospices because their so called friends never bothered or even their families. They said my hands felt warm and comforting, it was nice to be touched, just holding their hand gave them comfort.

  • @alanmundy1536
    @alanmundy1536 3 года назад +21

    Interesting, informative and engaging. Episode 3 is my favourite episode and as so many others have said Colin's mother was lovely. It was especially touching to hear her speak in the telephone call when she tells the others of Colin's death. No matter how many times I see this episode or clips from it, it makes me weep. Dr Carthy was right to say how vile the world was to people with HIV at the time. I know from my own experience when I lost a new job because my new boss was informed (in a breach of trust) of my HIV. I had no legal protection. As a result I trusted no-one for years and indeed for 30+ years have lived in the shadows. On a lighter note, the Welsh police officer is clearly modelled on James Anderton who made a horrible comment at what was supposed to be a Health & Safety conference for the police back in 1986. I was one of the organisers of that conference and Anderton, just minutes after condemning those with AIDS, was shaking my hand congratulating me on my work - what irony.

    • @aerialexplorer772
      @aerialexplorer772 Год назад

      When he shook your hand, I guess Anderton was not aware of you having HIV? It would have been brilliant if, having shaken your hand, you had told him you had it - the look on his face would have been priceless :)

  • @JackMellor498
    @JackMellor498 2 года назад +13

    Colin’s mum is the best, absolute role model for parents everywhere!
    Look at the way she deals with being told that her son has HIV/AIDS, immediately concerned and worried about HIM, not shying away or superstitious or anything, it’s her son, and those Welsh policeman are just treating Colin and talking of him like he’s an animal.
    We’ve made so many leaps and bounds in LGBT acceptance since then, but it still infuriates me that there are figures of authority who act like this.
    Stephen Fry’s LGBT documentary comes to mind, and he talked with pastors and politicians in Uganda, who are obsessed with all the negative aspects of gay sex and don’t value at all the humanity, that it’s the most simple matter of a man/woman/non-binary person should be allowed to love whoever the f-k he/she/they want!

  • @CashelOConnolly
    @CashelOConnolly Год назад +9

    This is One year late but I really hope people read what happened to me!
    I lost 11 friends to AIDS ,this series is very true,sadly.
    My friend Mike died of AIDS .
    his father was an ultra conservative police officer,racist and a homophobe and didn’t want anyone to know Mike was gay and definitely didn’t want people to know Mike was dying of A.I.D.S!
    I visited Mike every day. He wanted to die in his own home. I went one day with food and his medication I’d collected from the pharmacist and also to bathe him (by that time Mike only weighed 98 pounds ,before he became sick he weighed a healthy 224 pounds) and his house was empty. The neighbours told me he’d died the night before ,his hateful father had took his body and emptied the house in the middle of the night.🤬
    I couldn’t find out where Mike was going to be buried,I still don’t know( Mike was probably cremated as that was the norm for people who’d died of A.I.D.S back then )
    Mike was my friend and we were each other’s family.
    Mike ,my kind hearted,sweet friend you deserved so much more than your father hiding you a way like a dirty secret ,even in death 😢
    I’m sobbing writing this,even though it was 29 years ago. Mike just vanished,dead at 25!
    I’m H.I.V negative I’m lucky that’s all. I miss you Mike and I’ll always love you.
    Phew that was hard to write I don’t know why I’ve even commented.
    💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
    Do not stand at my grave and weep,
    I am not there, I do not sleep.
    I am a thousand winds that blow.
    I am the diamond glint on snow.
    I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
    I am the gentle autumn rain.
    When you wake in the morning hush,
    I am the swift, uplifting rush
    Of quiet birds in circling flight.
    I am the soft starlight at night.
    Do not stand at my grave and weep.
    I am not there, I do not sleep.
    (Do not stand at my grave and cry.
    I am not there, I did not die!)

  • @SonicFan39Returns
    @SonicFan39Returns 3 года назад +8

    I was already a bubbling mess by the end of the episode. At the end I thought 'Okay episode is over, the worst has passed'. Then...'Who wants to live forever' started in the credits and I lost it all over again...
    Poor Colin, he was my favourite in the whole show 😥

  • @JayeCole
    @JayeCole 3 года назад +7

    Oofff… I was so heartbroken when I watched the show and then I get so heartbroken when I watch your commentary. Just no words for how touching this show was to watch. I learned so much.

  • @seamstressdragon8707
    @seamstressdragon8707 3 года назад +25

    Poor Colin and what a wonderful mother he had :(

  • @mattbenz99
    @mattbenz99 Год назад +1

    2:00 This was the most relatable thing I have heard on this channel yet lol. I remember when my first "real" job gave me the keys to open up in the morning. That job underpaid me like crazy, but somehow that responsibility made me happy. In hindsight, I should have left that job 8 months before I actually did. I found a new job after like 2 weeks of looking after they rejected my request for a pay raise. Only then did I realize how much I was underpaid by.

  • @CarryOnChronically
    @CarryOnChronically 3 года назад +12

    I just want to say that I realise how hard this must be for you to watch and analyse in the way you have been. A whole generation of the community gone, because of homophobia and othering. sending love and care. xxxx

  • @RomySews
    @RomySews 2 года назад +5

    This show utterly broke my heart and seeing your reaction breaks my heart all over again. I found it so heartbreaking learning about what they went through but I can’t understand fully what it must be like for someone from the gay community to hear how queer people were treated back then. I think this show was so important and powerful and well done and am glad I’ve been able to learn from it, but god did it hurt to watch

  • @mandipandi303
    @mandipandi303 3 года назад +6

    I can even articulate how often this show made me cry. This episode was especially triggering for me as an epileptic.

  • @gantref9202
    @gantref9202 3 года назад +12

    I could watch your commentary and analysis of media all day long, keep up the great work!

  • @adianethken9747
    @adianethken9747 3 года назад +16

    I gotta say, I kinda appreciate that he cut out the rest of that super awkward moment with Colin and Ritchie. If you've seen the full episode, you know what I mean

    • @ellenekanem
      @ellenekanem 2 года назад +1

      Yes, I remember that part. Colin had dementia caused by AIDS.

  • @aude4747
    @aude4747 3 года назад +3

    I’m discovering this show with your videos and I’m convinced I won’t watch it on my own. Even with just bits of the episode I’m crying. Your explanations do help a lot to get through it all, thanks

  • @kerrythorn8575
    @kerrythorn8575 3 года назад +14

    I was in my 20s in the 80s. The government and medical community terrified us initially. 'Dont touch anyone', 'dont let anyone cough on you', 'dont share eating utensils'. The other spiel was that there was a high amount of IV drug use in the male gay community and that it was also being spread through shared needles, (I know this is possible). I always wondered at the time, as I knew straight people also used drugs and had anal sex and it wasn't long before it began to infect the straight community too. Was an awful awful time.

  • @chrisboot2468
    @chrisboot2468 3 года назад +16

    Back in the 1980s, several of my friends had AIDS-related dementia. It was heartbreaking.

  • @willj44
    @willj44 3 месяца назад

    Heartbreaking episode indeed. I watched this and I kept hearing Blanche from the Golden Girls crying out "AIDS is NOT a bad person's disease...It is not God punishing people for their sins!" The message came too late for too many and should've been shouted from the rooftops. I appreciate your brief reflection recognizing this could've been any of us if we'd been born earlier (I was born in 1981).

  • @qienna6677
    @qienna6677 3 года назад +7

    I don't know when CT scanners were available in NZ in hospitals, but I remember when I had kidney stones in 1992 (when I was 7) I had xrays and ultrasounds, even though the type of stones I form don't typically show properly on xrays. Being 7, all I really remember was being tortured with bucket loads of water and then being made to wait forever for the scan.

  • @willismajor1113
    @willismajor1113 3 года назад +8

    I cried soooo hard at the end of this show. Colin was my favorite and he’s so cute. :(

  • @AMVactivists
    @AMVactivists 3 года назад +7

    Just watching you watch it made me cry all over again.

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +1

      Heartbreaking isnt it? But that was the reality of it. I ❤ Colin

    • @AMVactivists
      @AMVactivists 3 года назад

      @@DoctorElliottCarthy the whole series is a masterpiece in making the audience fall in love with the characters (so RTD can rip out still beating hearts from out chests).
      I haven't been able to bring myself to rewatch it. Every episode made me fall more in love with them all and broke me over and over again.
      They fought through the indifference, Indignity and injustice of the time and forged a country that isn't quite so openly hostile to us today... it really inspired me to keep fighting todays fight.

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +2

      @@AMVactivists couldn't agree more. Its inspired the fight in me too

  • @livNSomehow
    @livNSomehow 3 года назад +3

    I cried first time I saw it and seeing you cry made me cry all over again. ❤️❤️ brilliant drama series x

  • @caitie226
    @caitie226 3 года назад +4

    Your perspective on this series is much appreciated! I eagerly await your reaction to the remaining episodes.

  • @rbridges2009
    @rbridges2009 3 года назад +2

    Your comments are mirroring my thoughts exactly. From this point in the series, Roscoe began to really grow on me, and by the end I absolutely loved him. Hope you feel the same way, because his story is more hopeful.

  • @jewel1953
    @jewel1953 2 года назад +1

    You have me hooked on this now too...crying as I watch and remember those days.

  • @johngingras
    @johngingras 3 года назад +4

    I've put off watching this video for a few days because I wanted to be sure I could handle the heaviness when I did. Powerful.

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +1

      Absolutely no rush. Glad you took the time to be ready before watching it 🙂

    • @johngingras
      @johngingras 3 года назад +2

      @@DoctorElliottCarthy I was born in '77 and grew up in the 80's/90's. I remember hearing about AIDS in the mid 80's. I remember the fear. There was so much misinformation at first. Everyone had a different idea of what it was. I also remember a special class unit or presentation, probably around 1989 or 90, where they educated us about AIDS, stressing how you can't get it through casual contact. They stressed that people with AIDS are still people, and we should care for them. That lesson stuck with me. I don't remember much else about the presentation, but the compassion our teachers were conveying and the easing of fear was powerful.

  • @reginastorrie885
    @reginastorrie885 3 года назад +4

    This episode is absolutely devastating 🥺

  • @LukesDiary
    @LukesDiary 2 года назад +1

    I don't know why I've watched your videos in a random order but omg you're amazing. I really like you mate. I watched it's a sin when it was on so I know everything that happened. I understand now why you said yesterday that you loved Colin. Top respect to you mate

  • @marsetc4806
    @marsetc4806 3 года назад +8

    Really beautiful stuff. Just came across your channel, curious if you ever heard of the show Hey Arnold, it's a kids show from the 90s in the US, there's one episode called "Helga on the Couch" that I recently rewatched and was just struck by what a great and pretty realistic depiction of therapy, especially considering it's a children's show from 25 years ago.

  • @knowledgegathererdraftsave1979
    @knowledgegathererdraftsave1979 3 года назад +7

    This show might have just been a miniseries, but every single episode was incredible, heart warming and wrenching, made me and I’m sure so many others feel so many emotions and everything; every episode was like a huge milestone, but this episode like all of them had many moments that stood out for me such as Colin 💔😢 how Jill, Ash, his mother and Lizbeth all spoke their peace to the people to let Colin out.
    *Colin was my favourite character but I loved all of them just the same, and he deserved so much better*
    But his mother was just the best, the fact that she remained in his friends lives and loved him for being himself and having the friends/family who loved and accepted him for who he is was beautiful. Colin’s mother and Jill’s mother and father were exactly the parents that all of them needed and deserved; every LGBTQIA boy or girl; man or woman needed and deserved at the time It’s A Sin is set in and that all of those human beings need and deserve even today still 🏳️‍🌈🌈❤️💗💛💙🤍💜💚

  • @CezzL
    @CezzL 3 года назад +2

    Another brilliant video and such insightful commentary for such a heartbreaking episode. The acting from the entire cast is incredible.

  • @Mayorofpeepsville
    @Mayorofpeepsville 3 года назад +2

    This is just a reaction and I am tearing up. Great acting and writing from It's a Sin

  • @altaclipper
    @altaclipper 3 года назад +5

    I can't believe I'm here first. Hi! And some of us were there while this was all happening in the eighties. I'm familiar with the symptoms and treatments, of the condition and of the patients. I got out unscathed, and then I just got out.

    • @altaclipper
      @altaclipper 3 года назад +1

      People were as vile in North America as they were in Britain. And I agree with you about Colin. He's the only character that really engaged me, besides his mother.

  • @iammary191995
    @iammary191995 3 года назад +2

    If I can make a suggestion of a show/character to react to: Prodigal Son's main character Malcolm Bright is super interesting. He's the son of a prolific serial killer who works as a profiler and is diagnosed with C-PTSD, generalized anxiety disorder, night terrors, etc. It's really interesting to see this consistently shown throughout the series; not just brushed aside and brought back when convenient.

  • @youleeahnah
    @youleeahnah 3 года назад +1

    This is so sad. Reminded me of Augusten Burroughs' memoir, "Dry" - heartbreaking, but the more stories are shared, the more we can learn and do better. ❤

  • @rachzen
    @rachzen 3 года назад +1

    Damn, you made me cry again over this episode.

  • @ninino86
    @ninino86 Год назад +1

    This made me cry. Ive never watched the show, and I was born in the eighties. I somehow just want to say sorry that this was allowed to happen. I cant do anything to fix it, since theyre all gone, but i really want to.

  • @mollyviolet92
    @mollyviolet92 6 месяцев назад

    I’m glad that as a doctor you are talking about how to break news to people, because as an 18-year-old I was diagnosed with a brain tumour, but they said we have found a large mass on your brain, and I knew I was being scanned for a brain tumour, but I had to turn to my mum and say is that a brain tumour, as you had to say yes that is a brain tumour, as I had no clue what a large mass meant

    • @oliverbamford2879
      @oliverbamford2879 4 месяца назад

      Tbf the Doctor was probably still reeling from shock they found a brain 😅

  • @kchardison9480
    @kchardison9480 3 года назад +2

    Here in the US, with our billions of TV Rx drug adverts, any of them that are immunosuppressive come with the warning that they may be associated with PML ("a rare, potentially fatal brain disease caused by a virus"). Thanks to the explanation in this vid, and the depiction on the show, I now actually know what all that fast-talking warning actually means. Definitely humanizes it.

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +3

      Glad you've found it helpful. Every time I've been to the states I've been staggered by the number of medication ads. Very much a culture shock for me

  • @serenapenner3581
    @serenapenner3581 Год назад +1

    I myself have RRMS, this was too relatable, i have MS lesions, in my occipital lobe and parietal lobe as well as on my c3 and L4&5. Scary but i am greatful my MS is well managed and in 6 yrs have only had 1 relapse and 2 seudo-relapses.

  • @gbskbe
    @gbskbe 3 года назад +2

    Would love to see you react to Rue's manic episode in Euphoria!!

  • @NorthernFella
    @NorthernFella 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for breaking down the medical stuff, you explained so well that it was easy to understand. I am happy I came across your videos about It's a sin. I came out ar the tail end of the series and it was a f*****g awful time to be a gay man and even more so if you had HIV. I feel quite angry at what we experienced as a community back then, burying our friends and lovers on a regular basis, young men like Colin taken in their 20 and then we experienced such vile homophobia as well and no legal protections either. Colin's mum she is wonderful, as was Jill. Colins death broke me I cried alot and needed a break from watching it. Please do 4 and 5.

  • @CarmenJonnes06
    @CarmenJonnes06 3 года назад

    Yey, Episode 3! Lots of love from Mexico

  • @Adeodatus100
    @Adeodatus100 3 года назад +2

    The legal aspect in Colin's story is interesting. It _was_ legal to detain people with HIV, but it was wrong of the police officer to quote the Public Health Act 1984 - so really, his lawyer got him out on a technicality. The law was available for a long time, but was rarely used. (Like you, I've only heard of one case - Monsall Hospital - which led to massive LGBTQ+ protests in Manchester.)

  • @annibunny655
    @annibunny655 3 года назад +1

    I would love to see you react to Chicago Med! They have a resident Psychologist in the main cast and I would like to see how you feel about his character!

  • @sebastianwagner7334
    @sebastianwagner7334 3 года назад +1

    This hit's really hard man...

  • @felixhenson9926
    @felixhenson9926 3 года назад

    Welp. Now i'm crying. the acting and writing is SO good

  • @RCanadian
    @RCanadian Год назад

    I couldn't resit through this episode. I watched it when it first came on in North America, but I couldn't sit through this without skipping parts. I saw this in the early 1990s with my brother and the many young men I saw while my brother was in the hospital (he was in and out of hospitals a lot).

  • @bobthebob4701
    @bobthebob4701 3 года назад +2

    I was an adolescent in the eighties and became aware that I was gay. And then the news came of gays dying. I was so afraid of getting it. But I am thankful I knew about the danger before I became sexual active. The knowledge of it probably saved my life..

  • @sbabyskid-bx2xk
    @sbabyskid-bx2xk 3 года назад +2

    Poor Colin just has he was starting to come out of his shell poor lad and his lovely mum 😢

  • @DJWhovian
    @DJWhovian 3 года назад +1

    I was so sad about this. I really connect with Colin, as someone who is often on the outside of things. Was a bit annoyed with it, but suuppose made sense drama wise to show that anyone could get it.

  • @567secret
    @567secret 3 года назад +2

    I'd ask for an analysis of Azula's character from a mental health perspective in "Avatar: The Last Airbender", but unfortunately to do so kind of requires watching the entire show (and possibly reading further material).

  • @dariusanderton3760
    @dariusanderton3760 3 года назад

    18:54 I must be getting old if a phone with a dial and an actual bell inside is now an historic artifact. :)

  • @destructo6t942
    @destructo6t942 3 года назад +3

    Is it possible for you to react to Superman & Lois episode 8, it features a session b/w a psychiatrist and a mother who had a miscarriage years ago, and then the mother opening up to her son about it.

  • @deboraholcot4630
    @deboraholcot4630 3 года назад +2

    At 20.21 I was sobbing.... Colin. I love you.. I'm not dirty mum, ah it broke my heart. Have u seen the true story holding the man, the tim conegrieve story??

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +1

      No but I'll look it up. Colins story has me in tears every time I think about it

  • @callumpaterson4146
    @callumpaterson4146 3 года назад +1

    Another great episode, thanks Elliot.
    Could you maybe break up these reactions with something a bit lighter though? Before I delve into complete dispair 😂

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +1

      Yes! I need an emotional pause too so I think that's a good idea

  • @abagaleciaraa
    @abagaleciaraa 3 года назад

    Great video, love watching all of your videos! Happy Pride!!

  • @ashlynburgess1710
    @ashlynburgess1710 3 года назад +5

    You should react to the 2014 film based on the play by Larry Kramer called the Normal Heart! Brilliant movie about the HIV epidemic and its affect on the LGBT community. Very heavy, but worth a watch! I would love to hear your thoughts! Love your videos!

  • @ChristyAbbey
    @ChristyAbbey 3 года назад +2

    Too many memories here. I graduated high school in 1983. Went back in the closet in late 82.

  • @liamireland9028
    @liamireland9028 4 месяца назад

    This broke my heart...I'm not dirty...kills me every time 😭😭

  • @milliewoodham1764
    @milliewoodham1764 3 года назад +1

    I check every day for ep 4 lol

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +1

      It's coming 😉

    • @milliewoodham1764
      @milliewoodham1764 3 года назад

      @@DoctorElliottCarthy I’ve rewatched it so many times but ep 4 when Ritchie helps Jill (put vaguely as possible because spoilers), it gives me goosebumps every time

  • @VeinyWombat
    @VeinyWombat 3 года назад +3

    And we cry and we cry and we cry

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +2

      We do. We cry but we cry because we love and we cry because its hit on something real and so important

  • @Jupiterninja95
    @Jupiterninja95 3 года назад +3

    Anyone out there who’s at risk for getting HIV, please look into getting prep if you’re able, it’s a medication that reduces the chances of contracting HIV

  • @cosmicallyrelevantstudios777
    @cosmicallyrelevantstudios777 3 года назад +1

    You should react to a few episodes of Dream Corp, LLC! Set in a dream therapy facility where an eccentric doctor jumps into people's minds to give them therapy!

  • @Javiergcrespo
    @Javiergcrespo 3 года назад +1

    Colin was my favorite character 😭✨

  • @orangemarissa50
    @orangemarissa50 2 года назад +1

    😭 I am heartbroken 💔

  • @Harrison_J_T
    @Harrison_J_T 3 года назад +1

    That's interesting that your view is adults presenting with their first studies sounds get a brain scan because even after my second I didn't get what. I did eventually months later after I saw a neurologist but he also said that he didn't think I needed it and that I sound see a psychiatrist (which it turned out I did need to but he didn't say it in a helpful way, he said it in a disdainful way, like I was wasting his time and was just looking for attention).

    • @Harrison_J_T
      @Harrison_J_T 3 года назад

      Oh CT scan, I never had a CT, just an MRI.

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +2

      MRI is good. I said CT because its quicker and usually more readily available but tbh MRI gives more detailed images of the brain itself

    • @Kirsty22.22
      @Kirsty22.22 3 года назад

      Had a similar situation after my seizures were also ignored. I only had a CT performed, was almost sectioned for hypomania... 11 months on, I have been diagnosed with a grade 2 glioma after an MRI was ordered at another hospital!

  • @d.6781
    @d.6781 3 года назад +1

    I think you should do more bojack horseman.There is a lot of interesting things.

  • @hannahholmes5861
    @hannahholmes5861 3 года назад +1

    Awww Colin 😭😭

  • @charliebaker5499
    @charliebaker5499 3 года назад

    I cried so hard watching this show I threw up. Like literally my body rejected the ending.

  • @timmiller1954
    @timmiller1954 Год назад +1

    What kind of accent does Colin have?

  • @skilly54
    @skilly54 3 года назад

    Are you still reacting to this show? Really hope so!

  • @rmoore8403
    @rmoore8403 3 года назад

    Will you be doing episodes 4 and 5?

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад +1

      Yep. Lots of people wanted an emotional break for a few weeks but they're coming

  • @nightfuryrevenge1825
    @nightfuryrevenge1825 2 года назад +1

    I love this show because it hurts.

  • @gqbloke
    @gqbloke 2 года назад +1

    😢😢😢

  • @howtoaca7504
    @howtoaca7504 Год назад +1

    💝💝

  • @mooncherrie
    @mooncherrie 6 месяцев назад

    I don't if im stupid or not but, did they say how Collin got hiv??? or did i miss it

    • @thunder_heads
      @thunder_heads Месяц назад +1

      The guy in the football shirt that he shared the house with him

  • @watchingthebees
    @watchingthebees 3 года назад

    Can you watch The Umbrella Academy?

  • @catika505
    @catika505 3 года назад

    God said we're crying today.

  • @Lucifronz
    @Lucifronz 3 года назад +2

    Just a really sad era to be a gay man in.
    Not to discount lesbian relationships, but I'm not sure how it would have affected them in terms of HIV/AIDS. Part of why it was so dangerous for gay men was because of how easily rectal tissue tore, wasn't it?
    Regardless, society had a lot of growing up to do. Still does. I hate thinking about how awfully judgmental and even horrendous people acted towards victims. Blaming them and outright letting them die because "it's their fault" for their "degeneracy". Even apes don't act that much like animals.

    • @amyg9518
      @amyg9518 3 года назад +2

      Trans women, too. Same reason as gay men. :(

    • @thunder_heads
      @thunder_heads 9 месяцев назад

      Trans men too

  • @NoodleBerry
    @NoodleBerry 3 года назад

    Actually crying at I don’t want to die

    • @DoctorElliottCarthy
      @DoctorElliottCarthy  3 года назад

      I was close to crying on camera for these vids. May have done a bit of crying afterwards on more than one occasion reflecting on the show

    • @and2rew
      @and2rew 2 года назад

      Me and my partner were a wreck at that scene.

  • @jacob8565
    @jacob8565 3 года назад +1

    Are you sensoring the logo on your shirt or is there a camera artifact?