If someone took the idea of a Burr Basket and put together baskets for the homeless with items to keep them warm and dry during the winter, I'd 100% support that. This? This is a consumerism nightmare.
This!!! This idea makes sense and would help out those with literally nothing. The greed and selfishness of the overconsumption trend is gross and so unnecessary.
@@difficult.e first step I take is see what kind of transparency they have on their own website with finances, donations, documentation, etc. That's a huge signal of whether or not your donations are actually going places they should be. One charity I know of that is extremely transparent and trustworthy as an example is Compassion International- you can access detailed financial information from each fiscal year on their website and they break down exactly how each type of donation or resource is used and distributed.
I could see a small basket with some homemade cookies or banana bread with some fuzzy socks and a handwritten I love you note. That first video cost more than my Christmas budget per kid.
Fluffy socks. Maybe a tub of their favourite hot chocolate. Gloves/hats/scarf, pyjamas, slippers and/or a blanket if they are in need of those. Maybe even something like moisturisers and lip balm if they need it as this time of year can dry your skin out.
But the question is would you even have the desire to do this in November if this trend didn't pop up. Yes this is an amazing thought and a good way to do this but the question is still why do we need bur baskets
@@CrystalLynnBeauty as someone who's been homeless, it's much better to ask your local shelters and drop-in centres what things are actually needed by your local homeless population. Cash is also by far the most useful donation to shelters etc as they can buy in bulk with charity discounts and make your money go further.
I was WAITING for you to cover it, I saw someone post “giving my kids a JOLLY BASKET”. I lost my mind LMAOOOOO Isn’t that just Christmas presents? Like stopppppp 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@elbeelondon RIGHT??? I never understood why your kid would need all of that just get them a gift for Christmas and they’ll be happy they’re gonna forget about the stuff in that basket in a good 3 days🤣 I’m 20 and I still wouldn’t know what to do with all that crap just get me some snacks and a pair of fuzzy socks I’ll be satisfied 😩
They want to look fancy and not "poor". Mom kind of did that growing up.. ALWAYS showed up with an Entemanns coffee cake.. That shit was wholesome though..>
I thought this as well the first time I saw it, and typed in brr to tiktok looking for some...turns out the basket is with a u? I put it as burr for algorithm purposes but I would like to know as well!
when i was a kid my mom used to make me easter baskets, which im assuming is where this trend is drawing inspiration from. like "well why not keep going with this for EVERY holiday?" but the difference is that my baskets would be mostly candy and like ONE tiny themed stuffed animal. and i only got em once a year!! which is why i loved them so much!! at some point it simply stops being special anymore, its just grocery shopping but for cosmetic/luxury goods
Easter baskets have been a thing for a pretty long time now, and yeah it used to just be candy and maybe one little toy. Even Easter baskets are getting ridiculous now.
I remember an Elmo Christmas movie from the 90's about how it can't be Christmas every day because it wouldn't be special. Maybe Elmo was trying to instill some sort of values in us...probably not though.
Yes! My mom gave me valentine's day baskets. In hindsight it was always chocolates and a foil balloon from the dollar store, but it always felt so special coming home from school to see it on my bed. Even though it was every year, my memory was so bad, it surprised me every time... lol
Why do people not believe others purchase things and keep them lol. This has been a thing since forever but just didn't have a name. Every year when my kids were still little I gave them a gift of Christmas pajamas a Christmas movie, games, gifts and treats to get Christmas off to a fun start. Advent exists, 12 days of Christmas exists. Christmas isn't just one day, and it's ok to celebrate your kids on more than one occasion. Every parent can decide that for themselves. I spoiled my kids, some people just do
We have a tradition in Germany on the 6th of December (St. Nikolaus' Day) where children put their winter boots out overnight and "St. Nikolaus" fills them with small presents, usually sweets (traditionally fruit and nuts) and little bits, kind of like stocking stuffers in the US/UK - the idea is that you only get things that fit into your shoes (which is why I would leave my wellies out, rather than smaller shoes lol) but leave it to TikTok to invent yet another Christmas "tradition" to justify rampant overconsumption
We have that over here where I grew up (Romania) and where I live now (Hungary) too. 🥹 I absolutely adore it. My husband and I want to keep this alive for adults actually. 😂
@@EvelinsAtelier Yeah, it's just precious. Especially because as a smaller child you know you're going to get walnuts and tangerines, some chocolate maybe and that already is exciting - because it's more about the gesture of gift giving than expensive stuff. Of course by now people have corrupted this concept and made it unnesseccarily expensive but thankfully each family can decide for themselves how it's being done.
We have that in my country as well. But the kids must clean their shoes first. And naughty kids get switches (twigs to whoop them with 😬). I still remember the crunchy red bag the sweets came in. That was my favourite part of the whole tradition 😅. Even though they were not sustainable material they were reused back then.
That's exactly what stockings are/were like in my family. We did it on 24th but it was small things: chocolate gold coins, stationery, nuts, cute little things, one year I got a jigglypuff/wigglytuff evolving t shirt, which was rolled up tiny and my absolute favourite until I grew out of it lol but yeah there's a definitive difference in my mind between presents and stocking stuffers
I even started to reduce the gifts on "normal" occasions like Christmas and birthdays. We have so much stuff! I started to wish for things like a gift card from my hairdresser or stuff like that.
I love the idea of a hairdresser gift card instead of ‘stuff!’ My daughter and I are going for hair cuts on Wednesday and here in the UK we have to pay £45 each just for a cut and blow dry. Not cheap at all and I try to only go 2-3 times a year. Shes 12 but kids are only up to 10 and she could pass for 15!
@lucydawson1344 going to the hairdresser is something I really enjoy but also very expensive. For me it's a much more useful gift than anything standing around. Don't hesitate to wish for something that you really enjoy ☺️❤️
I feel proud to be at the point in my life where I'm so disconnected from social media that I have no idea about these absolutely insane and silly consumerist trends 😂
Yeah that's quite a bit of money for a stuffed animal. I guess they're cute but there's a lot of more interesting or useful things you could spend that on instead.
I have bought precisely one mini jellycat for £15.00 / $19.00. It was a stuffed coffee mug as a thank you gift for my local coffee shop owner who made sure i was okay when I walked into the cafe after having tripped on uneven sidewalk and ate concrete. he gave me a free sandwich and water, helped me sit down so i didn't faint, got his first aid kit for a soon to be nursing grad to use on me, drove me to urgent care (i came close to closing time that day) and then when urgent care refused to treat my stitches, he also drove me home so i could get another snack and my phone charger before he drove me to the ER. that was basically the only thing i bought besides a card because he comped me a sandwich and also drove me around places to make sure i was okay! i didn't even know it was a jellycat until after I bought it lol. i think they're super cute but i can't imagine buying a new one in addition to a ton of other pricey things every single month for someone else!
You're right, randomly dropping that much money on what's essentially a stocking suffer makes me feel bad. My husband adores stuffed animals and jellycat is his favorite. We save premium stuffies for birthday/anniversary gifts to keep it special. Any other time we just buy $3 beanie babies at a second hand shop.
Not only have we commercialized existing holidays, but I feel like we're inventing new occasions just to buy things. Makes me think of celebrating all 364 un-birthdays in Alice in wonderland, although that was supposed to seem absurd
Love these videos first of all and secondly, I hope people understand that there are people in your circle that need money, not gifts. They need service related support, for example, organizing and cleaning. Never feel bad about giving money to your family and friends in need. I have personally told people close to me “please don’t buy anything for me, I have enough. I’m a minimalist and having more things means I’m responsible for more things”.
Beginning-of-year basket, beau basket, bunny basket, boom basket (includes fireworks, of course), bon voyage basket for vacations, back-to-school basket, boo basket, brr basket. I have way too much time on my hands.
My MIL gives us holiday and seasonal baskets for every member of our family. These baskets have home decor, seasonal soaps, toys, candy, just themed items. It was cute at first but now it’s incredibly overwhelming and hard to enjoy the items. I now end up passing forward the majority of items.
Wait so she gives you baskets for summer, Autumn, winter, and spring? Then she gives you baskets for Valentine's, Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Halloween, and Christmas?
@@JMac-27 Has it really? I've known crafty people for all my life and they did just fine without constantly buying other people shit and expecting some in return. This extreme consumerist approach to a wholesome little thing is new and will spread like a wildfire, since especially moms nowadays are so desperate to keep up with everyone else.
@@Shirumoon Yes, and most of the crafty people I know will just make gifts for others...with their own hands. Not "make" gifts by buying things and slapping them together.
@@hawktalon7890 Yeah, comparing gift bag "decorating" with an actual craft feels like an insult. I don't even wanna trash talk people who like to do it now and then but let's just imagine for a second that we have just two friends who each made us a basket every two months... It's too much. Like I suggested in another comment, if we really care about the person and not just look for an excuse to go shopping, then cook for them or offer to help with cleaning for example.
As a happily married woman, I’d be curious to see a study on influencers & their divorce rates because the minute someone jumps into this, they announce a divorce a few years later. I don’t see a coincidence. I even have friends that have jumped into it (not as big but they have still attempted) and they’ve gotten divorced. I’m talking these people completely change who they are for social media. As a psychologist myself, I can almost guarantee there’s a link here.
the only reason i’d see assembling gift baskets causing martial tension is if the couple can’t afford it. if it fits in the ‘hobby’ budget it’s not different than being into painting or stamp collecting or tennis
@ No, this is past the budget line. This is influencers changing who they are and what they would normally do before societal pressure and social media influence. Getting bigger lips, TikTok trends, blowing money at target for trends, anr more. This bleeds into the persona of a person and it is not only monetary. Men and women are losing their spouses to the social media world and its influence. That’s the point
I want to point out too, if this is their full time job as an independent contractor, all of this crap is a business write off. They are quite literally in a different league.
@ErinAnodea I wonder how many are doing this, and have a rude awakening in store if they ever get audited. I've seen multiple tax lawyers talk about how write offs cannot continue to be used, or gifted etc, the rules are way stricter than most influences seem to interpret them. Basically if most of the benefit is not solely in the reason for write off (the video/pics etc) then it's not really a write off item afaik. Edit: I saw one lawyer discuss a lipstick as an example, saying if it continues to be used after the video, it doesn't qualify.
honestly i feel like the brr basket would be genius if it was like. single use skin products for cold weather??? instead of pointless garbage or duplicates of stuff you already have in a winter font, just do like. hydrating skin masks and vaseline and lip balm and lotion for the dry weather......... like itd still be in excess, but if it was single use/trail size, someone could realistically use a winter/christmas scented product throughout the season and finish it off before spring..
Social media and influencers pushing products so hard they begin to create hauls for every single holiday where a basket is filled with copious amounts of products which cost a pretty penny or more, really signifies the hellscape we live in where consumerism has consumed our lives
I'm not American, we don't celebrate Christmas here so I don't see those overconsumption trends around me. But your channel is one of my favorites and I listen to every video you upload. Not only you help me get grounded into reality with your advice and insights, but also your voice is so comfortable to listen to.
@@amandak.4246 i want to say something about the type of people posting this type of content and the type of people who can't spell- it'd be an interesting venn diagram
@nonnapapera3044 "brr" is the sound we make when shivering in the cold. Like the onomatopoeia. But the trend is spelling it as "burr" which is a homonym (sounds the same but spelled different) that can mean an error in metal work or a type of grinding machine.
I get so overwhelmed when people buy me gifts 😅 I understand that some people are gifters and I think that’s wonderful. But I’d be so disoriented by receiving baskets like this. Now, if my friend wants to buy my dinner, or take me to a movie/theater production, or buy something I’ve needed for my home or pets, I’d be elated! Time together, experiences, and practical items are the way to my heart lol
What makes me understand the boo basket more is that Halloween is not generally a gifting holiday so doing a small basket of cute seasonal things early October makes more sense to me then gifting someone seasonal things early December when they will get a stocking/gifts later that month. Its just overconsumption like you said.
I’m a gift-giver. I adore giving people things they will enjoy. If I wanted to give my favorite person in the world one basket a month for a year, and it had all the things they usually do, then that person would have 12 different themed blankets, stanleys, makeups, etc etc. they simply do not need that. If I were to get my favorite person a basket every month, I would fill it with things that are not supposed to be possessions. Flowers, tickets to events, consumables like bath boms (if they use bath bombs on a regular basis), candles (if we went to a store when they needed another candle to replace the last one and picked out a candle they liked which I bought for them), baked goods, a card maybe, etc. things that aren’t forever. But even then, I feel like one basket a month is just too many.
I would fill mine up with care work vouchers! People nowadays need time, not acccumulating more and more things that add to their mental load in the end.
yes! This was part of what I was trying to say in the video but you said it better. Imagine 12 slippers, 12 blankets, 12 stanleys. For folks who want to gift things there are better more personalized options as you mentioned
I like giving things, but I don't give for the sake of giving. It's more "I saw this and thought of you" gifts and more often than not it's actually small, cheap, 2nd hand things that are going to mean something to them, not random stuff for the sake of giving. Seriously, my best friend's favourite part of her birthday present cost me £1 at a carboot sale because it was from a movie she loved as a kid.
I can see a Burr basket at the beginning to family members with items such as Christmas pj’s, Christmas T-shirt, fuzzy or wool socks, beanie, gloves, scarfs, hot chocolate or coffee, chap stick, snacks, blanket or other winter items so that they can wear them during the season not just for one day.
It should NOT be controversial to critique gift giving. We vaguely touched on Christmas gifts during one of the sociology lectures I attended in uni and we learned about more tribal rituals of gift giving where you basically kept moving one and the same item from one person to another, meaning it was a purely symbolic showcase of reciprocity where nobody was really supposed to keep anything. That really stuck with me.
Yep!! and this is a great thing to introduce young kids to, instead of expecting parents to buy gifts for peers or siblings on behalf of their kids. As kids my siblings and I always gave each other things out of our own stuff, and it can be a really special thing. I remember one year being so excited to give my brother a tiny toy gorilla I'd owned for years because he'd recently decided gorillas were his favorite animal. I also remember putting pretty rocks I'd found outside in my parents' stockings because I was like "hmmm ... well they probably wouldn't like toys..." 😂
Price matters to THEM because they are all about boasting and bragging. Look at me I spend $130 on slippers-- hey I buy those $30 plushies-- my child deserves the most expensive makeup products. Look at me!look at me! look at me! My husband will bring home a handful of mini packs of Now Laters or a Milky Way Midnight because I love those here and there when he stops in a store for a drink to go with his lunch or something like that. Just the fact that he knows the little things that I like and thinks of me during his work day is worth more to me than any UGG containing basket.
When I was a kid (in the 70s) the smallest things made us so happy. When it was our birthday the other sibling would get an unbirthday present of a Mars Bar. When we went swimming we got a packet of crisps from the vending machine.
Call me a total Scrooge, but I would rather just get $100-$300 cash than get a basket full of junk I probably don’t like, want or use. 😂 😅 The generosity is admirable, but instead of a collection of themed items that I probably already have perfectly fine versions of, a $100-$300 monetary contribution towards a plane ticket away from the holiday madness would be more well-received. 😂 💰 ✈️
She probably doesn't have a daughter and the basket is actually for herself or someone she knows. Or the daughter is older than 10 and.she just said that to get a rise out of people. But I wouldn't be surprised if her daughter was actually 10
You mentioned mugs, so I am taking the opportunity to touch on something. I saw 2 minimalists give gift ideas and they both mentioned mugs for teachers. A terrible idea. Teachers get many many mugs every year. Mugs in mass become clutter. So I was baffled at the suggestion coming from people who are minimalists. It is the thought that counts-- so put some thought into it. I got Christmas soap and hand towels (fabric) for my granddaughter's teachers this year. I am sending them tomorrow so they can use them for the Christmas Season.
Honestly, I feel like a lot of these basket trends stem from the desire to feel cared for and considered by a romantic partner or a friend. Especially for women in relationships with men. I see tons of girls tagging their boyfriends in these videos, and I just find it sad that women practically have to beg to be shown care and appreciation in cute tangible ways. I don’t blame them for wanting them, I just find it sad that women have to lay out explicit instructions for what will make them feel loved and appreciated and men still aren’t getting the hint.
Bingo! I saw a lot of women post memes of these baskets on Facebook. These are the same women who make posts complaining about men and love and not having friends.
My issue is, who exactly is this demonstration of affection FOR? The partner herself? Or her social media FOLLOWERS? To "prove" his love via compliance to public displays of purchases
@@bamboozled1668 exactly like it could be performative too like oh look how much my wife loves me, she made me this burr basket. Where is yours? And theh are showing it off online
The algorithm recommended this video to me: subscribed! I think it’s interesting how the woman in the first video said she would love to receive a basket like that. It feels like these moms are priming their children, namely daughters, to one day return the favor when they’re old enough to do so. Seems like the whole practice is to fill a void left empty from their husbands’ neglect or disinterest.
Oh good, another reason for poor kids to get bullied. They don’t get boo or burr or whatever baskets much less with Laniege in them! I was bullied for not wearing the right shoes, glasses, uniform (yes, they managed to bully me over my school uniform), toys, etc. And now this. I fear for kids these days.
someone tried bullying me for wearing generic converse in high school and i called him a f@99ot. thankfully it didn’t escalate because he was so surprised 😮 but not sure what id advise my own kids to do. obviously if they took my route they’d get expelled at the very least.
Yup, if the gifts you did get weren't the right name brand or price or were homemade, there were kids who acted like all your gifts were stupid and trash. When I got trendy things for myself I was told that wasn't even good enough, I should have a boy gift them to me, which is ALL kinds of toxic lessons for young people (who are now grown and apparently building Boo and Burr Baskets that cost hundreds a piece.)
My friend bought her daughter an air up water bottle but it was a dupe rather than “the real thing” as she wanted to encouraged her daughter to drink more water. She loved it until she took it to school and other kids sniggered at her and told her that it was “fake” and made fun at her for not having a real one. It was hard being a kid when I was growing up in the 90s but it’s a whole lot worse now.
Omg thank you for this video. I am so tired of all the basket gift giving. I don't want/need more blankets, mugs, lotions, masks... it is frustrating! I rather have a lunch or coffee date and catch up with ppl.
If you love her cook dinner and do the dishes one night. 😂 Vacuum without being asked. Fold the towels in the dryer. That's the best i love you i could get besides just snuggles and a rom com.
My genuine reaction was 'oh FFS'. How do people have the time and energy for this level of consumerism? I hardly survive my 9-5 and having a family. I buy my daughter what she needs and I seriously hope she grows to learn that stuff does not equal love.
Honestly I see constantly gifting people a ton of baskets full of garbage every few months as kind of disrespectful. I don’t think anyone actually wants any of it, it’s just like a performance of wealth or “thoughtfulness” for the internet or people around you who value image over life. Gift culture in general is more show than giving someone anything good or sentimental. You might as well give them money or giftcards so the receiver could get some actual value instead of a landfill basket.
We have a December box for our kids. This box gets filled with craft supplies and activities for the holiday season, hot coco bombs/ toppers and holiday snacks to enjoy throughout the season, sometimes pajamas or fuzzy socks.With that said the budget for this box is $60, and it’s for 3 kids… but with that said the box is meant to give the kids something to do over the month of December, and something we can enjoy together as a family. Not just give them things or spend crazy amounts of money just to give a gift.
I really dislike all these gift baskets, mostly because I know I could so easily become the person who buys them for people. I love giving gifts, but have been working hard on not buying unnecessary items for people just because I think they are cute - because I know everyone in my life are drowning in stuff.
I'm not a fan of gift baskets because they just come across as pretty generic, even these made up baskets on tiktok seem basic. My friend group we're all a bunch of gamers and some are card players as well. Can you imagine trying to make a gift basket for gamers?! 300$ would be on the cheap end LMAO. I like gift giving as well, but I keep an eye out for things they actively talked about wanting or are looking for. Gift baskets seem somehow thoughtful and thoughtless at the same time.
When I was a kid, my mum would gift me something ever week so I had to be grateful and eat the mostly sweets and she got to feel good about herself. It only led me to dislike getting gifts as I felt almost obligated to fake being happy about yet some more stuff or food I needed to keep
The only thing now happening in the UK that I would have got on board with, is the Christmas Eve box. You buy a cute Christmassy box, and put things like Christmas pajamas in it, along with some bits and bobs. So for example, maybe a toy for their bath that night, a book to read them in bed, that kind of thing. Nothing expensive, but a nice thing to do that your child would love. Maybe a Christmas themed colouring book. I always did let my son open one present on Christmas Eve, but this would save his actual presents for the day, and give him things to do the day before when he's out of his tiny mind with excitement :D He's all grown up now so we missed this, but I wouod have done it for sure :D
Happy Vlogmas! I agree, Brr baskets are silly. Halloween was literally only a month ago, and Christmas is only weeks away. There's no way all of the products in the boo baset were already used up.
I just have to comment here. As a minimalist who does not want extra stuff cluttering up my home, please know your person that you plan to give something like this to. If they are like me, they likely will not want a basket of random things that they then have to figure out what to do with. I choose my own few things that I want to have based on quality and so would not want a random cheap candle or polyester blanket or synthetic material slippers to make my feet sweat. I would appreciate the thought, but I’d just give the whole thing away to somebody who would want all of that stuff.
We are in serious trouble 😮. Just looking at all the over consumption makes me feel sick, ugh! I love your message about giving the gift of time and caring about what the other person wants to do or something they like. It seems like all of those baskets are the exact same thing over and over. That’s the worst part of this is the same thing over and over.
I used to do a "refresh basket" for my kids seasonally, and it made me think of this. Usually right after Thanksgiving (so they could enjoy it for the season) it would be a box or basket (something I had hanging around, not purpose bought) that had a pair or two of holiday socks, new slippers, a pair of winter weight pajamas, mittens/gloves, a hat, you know, the kind of things growing kids will likely need replaced in a new year because they've outgrown or worn things through. We usually pair this with a refresh of things they need, toothbrushes, toothpaste, deodorant, soap/shampoo/conditioner (sometimes in a more seasonal scent), lip balm... then I'd toss in some other stuff, like some hot chocolate or a favorite snack. It's basically all stuff they need anyway, and it tends to look a lot like these things. I used to do these with the kids in the standard run-out-of-things cycle, so every couple of months, and usually when there was a holiday or theme for the fun socks and the snacks. I'd usually try and put in things that made sense for the season, like swimsuits right before summer and new sunglasses if they were needed, sunscreen, etc. It usually turned out to be heading into Valentine's, heading into Easter, sometimes another for the 4th of July if it was needed, heading into fall/Halloween, and coming up to Christmas. It worked out really well. Now I've got teens, so growing out of everything, not so much, so it's mostly homemade snacks, stuff to make seasonal snacks, and a whole lot of "Don't forget, you're a teenage boy and showering is important!" As a general idea to restock needed items, I think it could be a cute idea to toss in a couple special things to make it seasonal and fun, so long as it's clear that this is just a fun tradition to make boring and every-day restocks of needed stuff a little more fun. It's a lot more enjoyable than "I noticed you ran out of this stuff, so here..." Also, thing that gets people low-key boiling, and I don't understand why... my boyfriend got me nothing for Christmas last year. He said, "If you don't tell me what you want, I'm not getting you anything." I didn't tell him. He got me nothing. First year he did that he braced for impact, waiting for me to turn on him because he was supposed to know or something. Instead he got me being all excited because I didn't have to bring stuff I didn't need into my house, and since he didn't spend on me for Christmas, we went out for dinner and drinks instead. Much better use of his money in my book.
These things are screaming highschool sweetheart gift guide but wayyyyy too expensive. Like this is stuff you want done for you when ur in highschool. I'm an adult in my 30s, I don't want this stuff, do I want to be thought of? Yes. But I'd like a Sunday drive to the beach and a walk with a coffee. We are grown. We're spending big bucks on rent and bills. My children do not expect these ridiculous things either. This is purely someone with a shopping addiction and they can't think of what to do with the stuff they impulsively purchase so they gift it.
Most of us drained dry already. It puts pressure on us to give even more. Environmental impacts aside I can't afford my loved ones current entitlement behavior if I get asked for anymore I'm going to break.
@@ninjaHJ1 True. I've even had people ask me to cover bills for them when THEY KNOW I CAN BARELY DO THAT MYSELF. Meanwhile, if they stopped constantly spending money on things they didn't 100% need...
November baskets as a pre-game to holidays/Christmas gifts is whack. A hygge basket in late Jan or early feb makes sense. Something to get through the hump of dismal mid-winter weather.
Can we invent making cute decluttering donation basket to bring to our locals charities ? Is there any month left without a crazy holiday ? January? march?
Have you watched the new Netflix documentary Buy it Now? Really opens your eyes to the massive amount of stuff and what happens to it when the newness wears off. My family has been talking about doing a thrifted/handmade Christmas only and that show sealed the deal
Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with the internet. I’m really struggling to get it together after Black Friday, and your videos have given me ideas to jot down and reflect on when I need it. Super excited for Vlogmas 😊
I found a snack tray a couple of years ago. It was around Valentine's Day, so it was pink, but also had a Nightmare Before Christmas theme. So, I am able to use it for Valentine's, Christmas and Halloween. Honestly, it was one of the most financially smart decisions I've ever made. I also have one Halloween mug that I use year round and one Christmas mug that I reuse every Christmas. I do enjoy changing things up for the holiday season, but I have limits to how much I will spend and tend to reuse a lot of things year after year. Not to mention I decorate as if Halloween is every day.
I think what I dislike the most is the influencer terminology GRAB this, GRAB that, GRAB GRAB GRAB. I was brought up to believe GRABBING anything is extremely rude and uncouth behaviour.
@katc2040 maybe I'm too old then for this type of lingo. I would always use "take" or "choose" or "select". "Grabbing" to me is just rude. But I'm British, so there is that!!
26:30 the algorithm isn't feeding these aesthetic influencers to men for the most part. My husband has no idea burr/boo baskets exist. Imagine if I brought into the 'oh if he loves you he'll buy you a basket' and it impacted my relationship. Not just romantic relationships but parent child ones. How many kids/teens get upset they don't get these seasonal hampers when people they follow or in person friends do, when their parents have no idea this is even a thing
I saw a video of a burr basket where a woman made it for her son's girlfriend. She gave her an apple watch, airpods, a Stanley, a Starbucks and target gift card and maybe $200 of other stuff. Insane!
As someone who is super strict about what I bring into my home, and borderline minimalist (not for trendy or aesthetic reasons, but because little Knick knacks, unintentional consumables, and stuff literally repulses me), these basket things are my personal horror story
In my country we have a kind of similar tradition, they are called anchetas and they are basically food in a plastic bucket covered with colorful paper and bows, the idea is to make them look very colorful and to give special food for the family. You can make one with all kinds of things, but the traditional ones are made of food. They go from the simplest ones, which have a bottle of wine and a box of Christmas cookies on a plastic basket, to all kinds of expensive food, you can buy them or make your own. My mom received many of them at work. One time, she received one from her clients, it was over the top, it had two kinds of caviar, pate, whiskey, expensive cheeses and other stuff, and it even came on a very expensive iron tray. I make one for the security guards and the cleaning lady in my building, I try to buy the usual stuff, wine a box of cookies, desserts and canned goods. Last year I made one for my friends, it's a good idea when you don't know what to give, and it's food, i'ts always useful.
These baskets are the kind of thing I would put together for a coworker or a teach (although drastically more expensive). I wouldn't do this kind of basket for a loved one because I actually know what my loved ones like. Last year I crocheted my roommates each a hat. It cost like $5 in yarn for both of them, and my time. They wore those hats every day last winter, and as soon as it got cold this year they pulled them out again. The joy I feel every time I see them wearing the hats that I made is so much more than the dopamine rush I would get from spending a ton of money on something that will just end up gathering dust on the shelf.
It genuinely hurts me to see people with this level of disposable income spend it on a damn burr basket. Personally I would ask my husband why he spent the money on such a silly thing while we have a mortgage and bills.
Literally I wouldn't be too happy if my husband's spent so much money on something like this. I own enough blankets, mugs ect. He worries that getting me chocolate and flowers for occasions is boring, but I'm always going to be happy with those things and they're not clutter.
Also one thing i did notice in the burr basket for under $100, speaking on the point you made about not actually thinking about the person, was how quick how fast-paced their choice of getting stuff was. Sure, it could be for the video timing but the way it’s showcased is so ‘quick grab everything to make the basket a 2 second choice is fine’ takes away from the “humanness” of gift giving and makes it more a “gift” for consumerists and capitalists who eat up this content for more profit.
During finals week in college, my mom sent me a box with snacks, lip balm, a pair of cute socks, and some hot cocoa mix. It wasn’t expensive, I used up all of it (except for the socks, which I still wear!) and it was a great way to offer support from afar. If the brr baskets were like that, it would make sense!
It's like teaching children they need to overconsume too. It's just disgusting and so not sustainable. It's a bunch of fast fashion or suppose to be reusable junk. Why do you need a new water bottle every month? Isn't the point to use 1 and wash it? I could see having a second for a different type of beverage or if one is dirty but the kid doesn't need 12 a year. Plus no doubt mom is buying one for herself too. 24 new cups every year is CRAZY!
When i was a kid we did boo baskets for our neighbors, we'd get maybe $5-10 worth of decorations from the dollar store and then each neighbor could take a decoration and leave a new one before passing it on. I could see Brrr baskets being a cute neighborhood trend if you missed halloween, but i've never heard of them being gift baskets for 1 person
Oh we did a similar thing! You'd make a small basket of Halloween themed things and secretly drop it off to a neighbor and then they'd put together a basket and give it to someone else. Everyone who already got one would put a little sign up so no one would get a basket twice. It was never super expensive stuff or anything like that.
So happy to have this vlogmas! You are doing an excellent point here : i've always been a bit singled out because i'm really uncomfortable with being gifted permanent things : i have severe sensory issues because of my autism, so I really don't like when people buy things for me because often i'll end up not liking it or not using it. And i like to feel even and not indebt to people. So, i much more prefer offer my time and being gifted time together from my friends and family. But it's been a challenge growing up. I'm 32 now, this year will only be the second one i'll enjoy Christmas because we did a compromise with my family : no Christmas gift for me or by me, at all, but a nice evening dinner and some star sighting. I think the fact that my grandma used to "buy" the forgiving from my mother and I with gifts and money despite being abusive also contributed to me not liking the whole gift giving thing!
I'm so sorry to hear you've struggled with gifting and family, but I'm also incredibly happy that you've found a solution that works for you and your family! Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
I gave my best friend a “boo basket” bc Halloween is our favorite holiday & I wanted another way to show my appreciation for her. I got her a Jason mug bc she drinks a lot of tea, some Jason napkins bc she was out of napkins when I saw her two days prior, a small bookshelf decoration I already owned, & I made her a ghost terrarium. All stuff I knew she’d use/like & have space for. I think the idea of “ “ baskets are thoughtful & sweet but the execution for majority of people participating is so “keeping up with the Jones’s”. I can’t stand it Edit: also I put it in a gift bag bc we both reuse them & the tissue paper
I love watching your videos since I learn a lot, but I make sure what my friends and my family want and set up a budget. I had a feeling there was going to be a Christmas one and it way to much you are adding on.
I could see this, but as a personalized advent calendar type thing instead. With items that the recipient actually likes and uses. Maybe refilling some items the person uses often, like deodorant, soap, things like that, with one or two more "fun" items thrown in. But if I did this for someone, it would be their full gift. I wouldn't then get them a gift for the holidays too. That's just way too much. The way I've seen it done just feels performative to me. Do I enjoy cozy things, candles, and mugs? Sure. But I don't need a new blanket 3 times a year, or a ton of different mugs. Candles - sure, I do end up going through 4 or 5 a year. But the other things I already have favourites and I don't need more.
@@Bombaysphinxe I think it would seem more thoughtful if it was handmade things too. Like if someone gave me one that had a handmade crochet or knit blanket, a handmade ceramic mug from a small business, and some chocolate or maple candy, maybe even handmade soap, that alone would be more thoughtful. Even though the items are the same, they're more personal. Instead of the made in bulk items from target or walmart (which I have no real issue with - I've had to buy cheap items plenty of times). Obviously that would be expensive, but I feel like people are already spending hundreds on these baskets. At least if you get handmade items you're supporting a small business instead of a huge corporation. Visiting a few markets would give you so many neat ideas and items to purchase for loved ones - that are unique and made with so much care
Maybe this is just because I love crafting and art, but one of my absolute favorite things to do is MAKE gifts for people. I get that not everyone feels like they're good at making things, but I think it's a really good thing to learn. Not only do you get to try out a new fulfilling hobby, but you can make highly personalized gifts that will mean a lot to them.its so much more fun to give someone a gift that's highly tailored to them rather than something generic. And it makes me so I credibly happy to give someone a gift that I made myself and put hours of work into. On a side note, I kind of hate that it's the expectation that women and girls are the only ones who deserve to be gifted things all the time. If you're going to buy into this consumerist nightmare, at least reciprocate with your partner.
Any kind of homemade gift is wonderful tbh -- it could be food, too, or even like a fun outing, or a handwritten letter/card. One of my most treasured gifts is a Christmas gift my friend gave me in highschool -- she didn't know what to get me, so she wrote a new version of "Twelve Days of Christmas" that was themed around my interests. I still read through it every now and again -- such a thoughtful and funny gift. And yeah I agree with your second point.
I can see one argument for having more than one item but it isn't the level of excess they have generally with these things. I am a strong advocate of having a spare, especially for things like having a spare tumbler/stanley/etc. But that's 2. Not 3, not 10, not 50, 2. And the reasoning I have for that is accidents happen and it sucks when then do, but basic maintenance also happens such as washing, deep cleaning, etc. that sometimes end up taking extra time that would in turn either put you out of utilizing the item for a while, or would alternatively put you in a position where you may end up feeling the need to buy another anyway just because you're used to having one on hand so you feel a "need" to have something, so you buy a replacement or you buy a filler and then you feel like you need something to fill in for that if you use your normal because you liked some aspect of the filler and it becomes a slippery cycle. By having ONE spare, when your Stanley for instance is soaking because maybe you flippantly put something other than water in it and it's had a weird smell in it for a while since so now you're letting some water or a small amount of bleach soak in it, instead of feeling the need to go without or get a different type or anything, you have a spare. Or alternatively, you have a spare for the weird situation where you drop your stanley and a car happens to run over it and it flattens the thing in the moment. You're out the item for the day but instead of having to rush out and get a new one, you have a backup for a period of time so you don't end up overbuying on things out of convenience and if it's time to upgrade you can actually take the time to make that decision rather than just impulse decide on the upgrade decision (this mostly happens with electronics). The problem lies when people start justifying backups for backups, or backups for unessecary things that don't really need backups. If you don't use your waterbottle or stanley every day, you probably don't need a backup of it. If you don't use a laptop every day, having a backup charger at the primary location you use it at (work, school, etc.) probably isn't worth the investment, especially if even if you do use it regularly but you haven't ever placed the charger anywhere but your transit bag (backpack, purse, etc.) you probably don't need an extra charger. A lot of people try to find one size fits all solutions to these things though instead of using basic common sense to figure out just a basic reasoning on things. I use my knock-off stanley I got for free at a job fair that the handle is actively falling off daily. Am I going to rush out to go buy a new one cause the handle is falling off? No. I'm probably not even going to go get a new one when the handle does inevitably fall off unless that causes it to start leaking. Reason being I just need something that keeps my water cold that I can drink out of. If I desperately need a handle still I can order a replacement or crochette something to work as patch until I can get something that works. Will I one day upgrade to a name brand Stanley? Probably. But when I do I will likely keep this old thing on hand as a backup for if something happens to the new one. And if I get a new one from the new one only then will it be time to part with this old timer. Anyway I'll get off my "pair and a spare" soap box and go back to actually doing homework.
If someone took the idea of a Burr Basket and put together baskets for the homeless with items to keep them warm and dry during the winter, I'd 100% support that. This? This is a consumerism nightmare.
This!!! This idea makes sense and would help out those with literally nothing. The greed and selfishness of the overconsumption trend is gross and so unnecessary.
Brilliant idea
@@jordanmclifton i want to give to Toys for tots. How would I go about learning if it's a legitimate charity? Does anyone know?
@@difficult.e first step I take is see what kind of transparency they have on their own website with finances, donations, documentation, etc. That's a huge signal of whether or not your donations are actually going places they should be. One charity I know of that is extremely transparent and trustworthy as an example is Compassion International- you can access detailed financial information from each fiscal year on their website and they break down exactly how each type of donation or resource is used and distributed.
what a lovely idea!
You could name it “Debt the halls”
@@aytuex accurate!
And it’s an ecological debt we are all going to be paying for it
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@@aytuex 😂 yes!
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I could see a small basket with some homemade cookies or banana bread with some fuzzy socks and a handwritten I love you note. That first video cost more than my Christmas budget per kid.
YES!!! I have a $200 budget for my family and friends (11 people). That Christmas basket (and even the one under $100) is just not achievable.
omg I love receiving cookies and treats so I would in fact love this..so yes I see your point 😅
Fluffy socks. Maybe a tub of their favourite hot chocolate. Gloves/hats/scarf, pyjamas, slippers and/or a blanket if they are in need of those.
Maybe even something like moisturisers and lip balm if they need it as this time of year can dry your skin out.
That’s what I was thinking or purchased items that can be cheap and consumed like fall flavored candy, hot chocolate mix, socks, and a book
But the question is would you even have the desire to do this in November if this trend didn't pop up. Yes this is an amazing thought and a good way to do this but the question is still why do we need bur baskets
Who wants to bet someone will come out with a Happy New Year basket, all while taking into account that Christmas was only a week before?!
I can honestly see it being pitched as celebrating the new year with your bestie!
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I can see that, and it would include items such as a planner, stickers, cute pens….. anything for “new year, new me”
@@shawnaripariNew year new you with a lot of crap that isn't new included.
@heartquaked I have to admit.....I might like that idea of yours 😉
Lets normalize giving your loved ones 'Power Outage Survival Baskets' this winter. might save their lives.
OMG! I love this idea! I was thinking about getting my daughter an emergency kit for her car.
smart and useful, i like it
Yess good idea 💡
Or handing out hats gloves and toothbrushes to the homeless
@@CrystalLynnBeauty as someone who's been homeless, it's much better to ask your local shelters and drop-in centres what things are actually needed by your local homeless population. Cash is also by far the most useful donation to shelters etc as they can buy in bulk with charity discounts and make your money go further.
I was WAITING for you to cover it, I saw someone post “giving my kids a JOLLY BASKET”. I lost my mind LMAOOOOO Isn’t that just Christmas presents? Like stopppppp 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@elbeelondon RIGHT??? I never understood why your kid would need all of that just get them a gift for Christmas and they’ll be happy they’re gonna forget about the stuff in that basket in a good 3 days🤣 I’m 20 and I still wouldn’t know what to do with all that crap just get me some snacks and a pair of fuzzy socks I’ll be satisfied 😩
So do you get a jolly basket AND a full stocking?! Isn’t that the same content inside each of these?
Some people are becoming DESPERATE for reasons to just buy things. It’s getting really scary……
Nah these people are just desperate to sell shit.
I think it’s a coping mechanism for most people. Online I think it’s more about rage baiting, bragging, and cultivating views.
They want to look fancy and not "poor". Mom kind of did that growing up.. ALWAYS showed up with an Entemanns coffee cake.. That shit was wholesome though..>
@@heartquaked So accurate
why is it called BURR. it’s BRRRR. there’s no U. THERES NO U
YES!! Exactly
Unless it's an Aaron Burr themed basket. xD
THANK!!!!! YOU!!!!!!!!!
EXACTLY when ur cold it’s brrrre
I thought this as well the first time I saw it, and typed in brr to tiktok looking for some...turns out the basket is with a u? I put it as burr for algorithm purposes but I would like to know as well!
I didn't buy random Christmas mugs that are too awkward to actually use today.
I am proud of myself and needed to share.
@@Killerbuneh proud of you too! :-)
i did and now i am forced to drink tea from oddly shaped inconvenient mugs
I hate the oddly shaped mugs because they're hard to wash. I love oversized mugs. I've been gifted those and use them as bowls or as a mug.
sound like a win! thank you for sharing this here, I LOVE reading comments like this 💕
Resisting cute mugs ain’t easy, bravo! 🫡
when i was a kid my mom used to make me easter baskets, which im assuming is where this trend is drawing inspiration from. like "well why not keep going with this for EVERY holiday?"
but the difference is that my baskets would be mostly candy and like ONE tiny themed stuffed animal. and i only got em once a year!! which is why i loved them so much!!
at some point it simply stops being special anymore, its just grocery shopping but for cosmetic/luxury goods
Same, i really loved those when I was a kid.my mom would but healthy snacks in there too
Easter baskets have been a thing for a pretty long time now, and yeah it used to just be candy and maybe one little toy. Even Easter baskets are getting ridiculous now.
@CampingforCool41 Exactly. Easter baskets literally are a tradition that can be traced back to the middle ages ♡
I remember an Elmo Christmas movie from the 90's about how it can't be Christmas every day because it wouldn't be special. Maybe Elmo was trying to instill some sort of values in us...probably not though.
Yes! My mom gave me valentine's day baskets. In hindsight it was always chocolates and a foil balloon from the dollar store, but it always felt so special coming home from school to see it on my bed. Even though it was every year, my memory was so bad, it surprised me every time... lol
That’s an entire Christmas gift for most people.
heck, ONE item from these baskets would be an entire Christmas gift for most. One blanket, fancy pillow, or makeup set is a lovely gift on its own.
I notice that the tags are still on everything, alternatively in the original packaging. Good to be able to return everything and get a refund...
@@MasqueradeeM Yep! That's what influencers do alll the time, especially with those restocking videos.
Why do people not believe others purchase things and keep them lol. This has been a thing since forever but just didn't have a name. Every year when my kids were still little I gave them a gift of Christmas pajamas a Christmas movie, games, gifts and treats to get Christmas off to a fun start. Advent exists, 12 days of Christmas exists. Christmas isn't just one day, and it's ok to celebrate your kids on more than one occasion. Every parent can decide that for themselves. I spoiled my kids, some people just do
I noticed the tags on everything also so I figured they were going to be returned.
They won't need to return it since they can write it off as a business expense.
The more videos I see, the more I think everything is fake. Even these clothing haul people. They just return it asap.
We have a tradition in Germany on the 6th of December (St. Nikolaus' Day) where children put their winter boots out overnight and "St. Nikolaus" fills them with small presents, usually sweets (traditionally fruit and nuts) and little bits, kind of like stocking stuffers in the US/UK - the idea is that you only get things that fit into your shoes (which is why I would leave my wellies out, rather than smaller shoes lol) but leave it to TikTok to invent yet another Christmas "tradition" to justify rampant overconsumption
i miss doing this as a kid. when my family stopped i didnt have the heart to take my shoes off the porch for many years
We have that over here where I grew up (Romania) and where I live now (Hungary) too. 🥹 I absolutely adore it. My husband and I want to keep this alive for adults actually. 😂
@@EvelinsAtelier Yeah, it's just precious. Especially because as a smaller child you know you're going to get walnuts and tangerines, some chocolate maybe and that already is exciting - because it's more about the gesture of gift giving than expensive stuff. Of course by now people have corrupted this concept and made it unnesseccarily expensive but thankfully each family can decide for themselves how it's being done.
We have that in my country as well. But the kids must clean their shoes first. And naughty kids get switches (twigs to whoop them with 😬). I still remember the crunchy red bag the sweets came in. That was my favourite part of the whole tradition 😅. Even though they were not sustainable material they were reused back then.
That's exactly what stockings are/were like in my family. We did it on 24th but it was small things: chocolate gold coins, stationery, nuts, cute little things, one year I got a jigglypuff/wigglytuff evolving t shirt, which was rolled up tiny and my absolute favourite until I grew out of it lol but yeah there's a definitive difference in my mind between presents and stocking stuffers
I even started to reduce the gifts on "normal" occasions like Christmas and birthdays. We have so much stuff! I started to wish for things like a gift card from my hairdresser or stuff like that.
I love the idea of a hairdresser gift card instead of ‘stuff!’ My daughter and I are going for hair cuts on Wednesday and here in the UK we have to pay £45 each just for a cut and blow dry. Not cheap at all and I try to only go 2-3 times a year. Shes 12 but kids are only up to 10 and she could pass for 15!
@lucydawson1344 going to the hairdresser is something I really enjoy but also very expensive. For me it's a much more useful gift than anything standing around. Don't hesitate to wish for something that you really enjoy ☺️❤️
I feel proud to be at the point in my life where I'm so disconnected from social media that I have no idea about these absolutely insane and silly consumerist trends 😂
Same! But I love learning about them from Shawna! The world is crazy.
I can’t tell if her daughter is 10 or 20??
Same
I think the daughter doesn't exist 😂
More than likely 10
@@lspbeautea4791@lspbeautea4791, but those Ugg slippers look like a woman's size 8! Who knows how old she really is in this woman's imagination.
the tiktoks casually being like "got to add on a jellycat 🤪" like its a bonus little treat as if theyre not £30 alone is craaazy
Yeah that's quite a bit of money for a stuffed animal. I guess they're cute but there's a lot of more interesting or useful things you could spend that on instead.
I have bought precisely one mini jellycat for £15.00 / $19.00. It was a stuffed coffee mug as a thank you gift for my local coffee shop owner who made sure i was okay when I walked into the cafe after having tripped on uneven sidewalk and ate concrete. he gave me a free sandwich and water, helped me sit down so i didn't faint, got his first aid kit for a soon to be nursing grad to use on me, drove me to urgent care (i came close to closing time that day) and then when urgent care refused to treat my stitches, he also drove me home so i could get another snack and my phone charger before he drove me to the ER. that was basically the only thing i bought besides a card because he comped me a sandwich and also drove me around places to make sure i was okay! i didn't even know it was a jellycat until after I bought it lol. i think they're super cute but i can't imagine buying a new one in addition to a ton of other pricey things every single month for someone else!
You're right, randomly dropping that much money on what's essentially a stocking suffer makes me feel bad. My husband adores stuffed animals and jellycat is his favorite. We save premium stuffies for birthday/anniversary gifts to keep it special. Any other time we just buy $3 beanie babies at a second hand shop.
Honestly! Jellycats are great stuffed animals but for kids that's like main event Christmas present mone
Valentine's Day should be a Besos Basket. Not that they should exist, but at least that sticks with the alliterative theme.
@@bysarahalexander4426 damn it, I hate these baskets but that’s really cute tho
Bezos basket 😮 🤖
Bae baskets🤨🤓
🅱️easter basket
I am French, i adore this
Not only have we commercialized existing holidays, but I feel like we're inventing new occasions just to buy things. Makes me think of celebrating all 364 un-birthdays in Alice in wonderland, although that was supposed to seem absurd
it's the way those baskets are more than most children get for their entire Christmas
Shawna makes me feel sane.
Love these videos first of all and secondly, I hope people understand that there are people in your circle that need money, not gifts. They need service related support, for example, organizing and cleaning. Never feel bad about giving money to your family and friends in need. I have personally told people close to me “please don’t buy anything for me, I have enough. I’m a minimalist and having more things means I’m responsible for more things”.
I actually said to my brother today how I’m getting rid of things, I don’t need any more stuff!
Irony is tumblers arose in '10s as a reaction to the desire for sustainability. Now people buy dozens, defeating the whole purpose.
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Beginning-of-year basket, beau basket, bunny basket, boom basket (includes fireworks, of course), bon voyage basket for vacations, back-to-school basket, boo basket, brr basket. I have way too much time on my hands.
My MIL gives us holiday and seasonal baskets for every member of our family. These baskets have home decor, seasonal soaps, toys, candy, just themed items. It was cute at first but now it’s incredibly overwhelming and hard to enjoy the items. I now end up passing forward the majority of items.
Wait so she gives you baskets for summer, Autumn, winter, and spring? Then she gives you baskets for Valentine's, Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Halloween, and Christmas?
A vlogmas video every day is the type of overconsumption I can get behind!
think these people just love assembling gift baskets lol
Yes that's literally a huge part of it. It's us crafty b!tches. We just like being extra and creative. This has been going on since forever
@@JMac-27 Has it really? I've known crafty people for all my life and they did just fine without constantly buying other people shit and expecting some in return. This extreme consumerist approach to a wholesome little thing is new and will spread like a wildfire, since especially moms nowadays are so desperate to keep up with everyone else.
@@Shirumoon Yes, and most of the crafty people I know will just make gifts for others...with their own hands. Not "make" gifts by buying things and slapping them together.
@@hawktalon7890 Yeah, comparing gift bag "decorating" with an actual craft feels like an insult. I don't even wanna trash talk people who like to do it now and then but let's just imagine for a second that we have just two friends who each made us a basket every two months... It's too much. Like I suggested in another comment, if we really care about the person and not just look for an excuse to go shopping, then cook for them or offer to help with cleaning for example.
@Shirumoon Yeah exactly. Who even has the room in their houses for this much stuff?
As a happily married woman, I’d be curious to see a study on influencers & their divorce rates because the minute someone jumps into this, they announce a divorce a few years later. I don’t see a coincidence. I even have friends that have jumped into it (not as big but they have still attempted) and they’ve gotten divorced. I’m talking these people completely change who they are for social media. As a psychologist myself, I can almost guarantee there’s a link here.
That's interesting. Thanks for the info
Most definitely.
the only reason i’d see assembling gift baskets causing martial tension is if the couple can’t afford it. if it fits in the ‘hobby’ budget it’s not different than being into painting or stamp collecting or tennis
@ No, this is past the budget line. This is influencers changing who they are and what they would normally do before societal pressure and social media influence. Getting bigger lips, TikTok trends, blowing money at target for trends, anr more. This bleeds into the persona of a person and it is not only monetary. Men and women are losing their spouses to the social media world and its influence. That’s the point
Tik tok kinda makes me hate people 😂
I want to point out too, if this is their full time job as an independent contractor, all of this crap is a business write off. They are quite literally in a different league.
@ErinAnodea I wonder how many are doing this, and have a rude awakening in store if they ever get audited. I've seen multiple tax lawyers talk about how write offs cannot continue to be used, or gifted etc, the rules are way stricter than most influences seem to interpret them. Basically if most of the benefit is not solely in the reason for write off (the video/pics etc) then it's not really a write off item afaik. Edit: I saw one lawyer discuss a lipstick as an example, saying if it continues to be used after the video, it doesn't qualify.
honestly i feel like the brr basket would be genius if it was like. single use skin products for cold weather??? instead of pointless garbage or duplicates of stuff you already have in a winter font, just do like. hydrating skin masks and vaseline and lip balm and lotion for the dry weather......... like itd still be in excess, but if it was single use/trail size, someone could realistically use a winter/christmas scented product throughout the season and finish it off before spring..
Social media and influencers pushing products so hard they begin to create hauls for every single holiday where a basket is filled with copious amounts of products which cost a pretty penny or more, really signifies the hellscape we live in where consumerism has consumed our lives
I'm not American, we don't celebrate Christmas here so I don't see those overconsumption trends around me.
But your channel is one of my favorites and I listen to every video you upload.
Not only you help me get grounded into reality with your advice and insights, but also your voice is so comfortable to listen to.
Where are you from? Just curious
i'm so happy to hear that you enjoy my content! Thanks for watching 💕
This seems like peak "I don't know what you like so here's a bunch of random crap"
The one lady said these are things I like so I think my daughter will like them too. These people are just self absorbed
Excited for all the videos this month ! What about “Vidmas” since they’re videos and not vlogs 😌
Vidmas sounds way better!
Yessss that's exactly what I was thinking!
Hope she sees this! Love vidmas
ouuu I like vidmas
i'm still confused why they're called burr baskets and not brr baskets. they mean different things, i guess some people have trouble with homonyms
I was thinking the months ending in ‘ber’? It’s the only thing I can think of
I'm not an english speaker and I have no idea what this is all about... I clicked on this video out of curiosity. Someone help me😂
@@amandak.4246 i want to say something about the type of people posting this type of content and the type of people who can't spell- it'd be an interesting venn diagram
@nonnapapera3044 "brr" is the sound we make when shivering in the cold. Like the onomatopoeia. But the trend is spelling it as "burr" which is a homonym (sounds the same but spelled different) that can mean an error in metal work or a type of grinding machine.
@@northernlandia thank you!
I get so overwhelmed when people buy me gifts 😅 I understand that some people are gifters and I think that’s wonderful. But I’d be so disoriented by receiving baskets like this. Now, if my friend wants to buy my dinner, or take me to a movie/theater production, or buy something I’ve needed for my home or pets, I’d be elated! Time together, experiences, and practical items are the way to my heart lol
What makes me understand the boo basket more is that Halloween is not generally a gifting holiday so doing a small basket of cute seasonal things early October makes more sense to me then gifting someone seasonal things early December when they will get a stocking/gifts later that month. Its just overconsumption like you said.
I’m a gift-giver. I adore giving people things they will enjoy. If I wanted to give my favorite person in the world one basket a month for a year, and it had all the things they usually do, then that person would have 12 different themed blankets, stanleys, makeups, etc etc. they simply do not need that. If I were to get my favorite person a basket every month, I would fill it with things that are not supposed to be possessions. Flowers, tickets to events, consumables like bath boms (if they use bath bombs on a regular basis), candles (if we went to a store when they needed another candle to replace the last one and picked out a candle they liked which I bought for them), baked goods, a card maybe, etc. things that aren’t forever. But even then, I feel like one basket a month is just too many.
I would fill mine up with care work vouchers! People nowadays need time, not acccumulating more and more things that add to their mental load in the end.
@@Shirumoon Yes this is a great idea. I love "coupon" gifts (redeem for one housecleaning, meal cooked, day/night out, etc.).
yes! This was part of what I was trying to say in the video but you said it better. Imagine 12 slippers, 12 blankets, 12 stanleys. For folks who want to gift things there are better more personalized options as you mentioned
I like giving things, but I don't give for the sake of giving. It's more "I saw this and thought of you" gifts and more often than not it's actually small, cheap, 2nd hand things that are going to mean something to them, not random stuff for the sake of giving.
Seriously, my best friend's favourite part of her birthday present cost me £1 at a carboot sale because it was from a movie she loved as a kid.
I can see a Burr basket at the beginning to family members with items such as Christmas pj’s, Christmas T-shirt, fuzzy or wool socks, beanie, gloves, scarfs, hot chocolate or coffee, chap stick, snacks, blanket or other winter items so that they can wear them during the season not just for one day.
It should NOT be controversial to critique gift giving. We vaguely touched on Christmas gifts during one of the sociology lectures I attended in uni and we learned about more tribal rituals of gift giving where you basically kept moving one and the same item from one person to another, meaning it was a purely symbolic showcase of reciprocity where nobody was really supposed to keep anything. That really stuck with me.
Yep!! and this is a great thing to introduce young kids to, instead of expecting parents to buy gifts for peers or siblings on behalf of their kids. As kids my siblings and I always gave each other things out of our own stuff, and it can be a really special thing. I remember one year being so excited to give my brother a tiny toy gorilla I'd owned for years because he'd recently decided gorillas were his favorite animal. I also remember putting pretty rocks I'd found outside in my parents' stockings because I was like "hmmm ... well they probably wouldn't like toys..." 😂
Price matters to THEM because they are all about boasting and bragging. Look at me I spend $130 on slippers-- hey I buy those $30 plushies-- my child deserves the most expensive makeup products. Look at me!look at me! look at me!
My husband will bring home a handful of mini packs of Now Laters or a Milky Way Midnight because I love those here and there when he stops in a store for a drink to go with his lunch or something like that. Just the fact that he knows the little things that I like and thinks of me during his work day is worth more to me than any UGG containing basket.
When I was a kid (in the 70s) the smallest things made us so happy. When it was our birthday the other sibling would get an unbirthday present of a Mars Bar. When we went swimming we got a packet of crisps from the vending machine.
This is nuts, given that we all spend ALL of December buying and wrapping gifts for everybody.
This stuff would make cute stocking stuffers, though.
Call me a total Scrooge, but I would rather just get $100-$300 cash than get a basket full of junk I probably don’t like, want or use. 😂 😅 The generosity is admirable, but instead of a collection of themed items that I probably already have perfectly fine versions of, a $100-$300 monetary contribution towards a plane ticket away from the holiday madness would be more well-received. 😂 💰 ✈️
4:04 wait... Did i heard it correctly that the daughter was 9? 9 years old with a full stanley & sol de janeiro?
She probably doesn't have a daughter and the basket is actually for herself or someone she knows. Or the daughter is older than 10 and.she just said that to get a rise out of people. But I wouldn't be surprised if her daughter was actually 10
You mentioned mugs, so I am taking the opportunity to touch on something. I saw 2 minimalists give gift ideas and they both mentioned mugs for teachers. A terrible idea. Teachers get many many mugs every year. Mugs in mass become clutter. So I was baffled at the suggestion coming from people who are minimalists. It is the thought that counts-- so put some thought into it. I got Christmas soap and hand towels (fabric) for my granddaughter's teachers this year. I am sending them tomorrow so they can use them for the Christmas Season.
Honestly, I feel like a lot of these basket trends stem from the desire to feel cared for and considered by a romantic partner or a friend. Especially for women in relationships with men. I see tons of girls tagging their boyfriends in these videos, and I just find it sad that women practically have to beg to be shown care and appreciation in cute tangible ways. I don’t blame them for wanting them, I just find it sad that women have to lay out explicit instructions for what will make them feel loved and appreciated and men still aren’t getting the hint.
Bingo! I saw a lot of women post memes of these baskets on Facebook. These are the same women who make posts complaining about men and love and not having friends.
Yea it's pretty sad that draining your wallet is how you show love and appreciation in our culture, too ☹
@SamWithSharks excellently said! This is something that I haven't touched on that I absolutely should do in the future.
My issue is, who exactly is this demonstration of affection FOR? The partner herself? Or her social media FOLLOWERS? To "prove" his love via compliance to public displays of purchases
@@bamboozled1668 exactly like it could be performative too like oh look how much my wife loves me, she made me this burr basket. Where is yours? And theh are showing it off online
The algorithm recommended this video to me: subscribed! I think it’s interesting how the woman in the first video said she would love to receive a basket like that. It feels like these moms are priming their children, namely daughters, to one day return the favor when they’re old enough to do so. Seems like the whole practice is to fill a void left empty from their husbands’ neglect or disinterest.
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Oh good, another reason for poor kids to get bullied. They don’t get boo or burr or whatever baskets much less with Laniege in them! I was bullied for not wearing the right shoes, glasses, uniform (yes, they managed to bully me over my school uniform), toys, etc. And now this. I fear for kids these days.
someone tried bullying me for wearing generic converse in high school and i called him a f@99ot. thankfully it didn’t escalate because he was so surprised 😮 but not sure what id advise my own kids to do. obviously if they took my route they’d get expelled at the very least.
Yup, if the gifts you did get weren't the right name brand or price or were homemade, there were kids who acted like all your gifts were stupid and trash. When I got trendy things for myself I was told that wasn't even good enough, I should have a boy gift them to me, which is ALL kinds of toxic lessons for young people (who are now grown and apparently building Boo and Burr Baskets that cost hundreds a piece.)
My friend bought her daughter an air up water bottle but it was a dupe rather than “the real thing” as she wanted to encouraged her daughter to drink more water. She loved it until she took it to school and other kids sniggered at her and told her that it was “fake” and made fun at her for not having a real one. It was hard being a kid when I was growing up in the 90s but it’s a whole lot worse now.
@@burnzzz2076 That is just so sad. Especially since it was something she loved until she was made fun of.
@@rvanderjagt5944 Its a moving goal post, for sure.
These remind me of silent auction gift baskets that people donate to fundraisers.
Omg thank you for this video. I am so tired of all the basket gift giving. I don't want/need more blankets, mugs, lotions, masks... it is frustrating! I rather have a lunch or coffee date and catch up with ppl.
If you love her cook dinner and do the dishes one night. 😂 Vacuum without being asked. Fold the towels in the dryer. That's the best i love you i could get besides just snuggles and a rom com.
My genuine reaction was 'oh FFS'.
How do people have the time and energy for this level of consumerism? I hardly survive my 9-5 and having a family. I buy my daughter what she needs and I seriously hope she grows to learn that stuff does not equal love.
These people are influencers their job is to sell people a bunch of crud. That's how they have time
When a recession comes for these people it will be absolutely tragic. People need other things to do besides shop. Shopping can’t be the only thing.
Honestly I see constantly gifting people a ton of baskets full of garbage every few months as kind of disrespectful. I don’t think anyone actually wants any of it, it’s just like a performance of wealth or “thoughtfulness” for the internet or people around you who value image over life. Gift culture in general is more show than giving someone anything good or sentimental. You might as well give them money or giftcards so the receiver could get some actual value instead of a landfill basket.
We have a December box for our kids. This box gets filled with craft supplies and activities for the holiday season, hot coco bombs/ toppers and holiday snacks to enjoy throughout the season, sometimes pajamas or fuzzy socks.With that said the budget for this box is $60, and it’s for 3 kids… but with that said the box is meant to give the kids something to do over the month of December, and something we can enjoy together as a family. Not just give them things or spend crazy amounts of money just to give a gift.
I really dislike all these gift baskets, mostly because I know I could so easily become the person who buys them for people. I love giving gifts, but have been working hard on not buying unnecessary items for people just because I think they are cute - because I know everyone in my life are drowning in stuff.
I'm not a fan of gift baskets because they just come across as pretty generic, even these made up baskets on tiktok seem basic.
My friend group we're all a bunch of gamers and some are card players as well. Can you imagine trying to make a gift basket for gamers?! 300$ would be on the cheap end LMAO. I like gift giving as well, but I keep an eye out for things they actively talked about wanting or are looking for. Gift baskets seem somehow thoughtful and thoughtless at the same time.
So excited you’re doing Vlogmas!! You’re one of my favorite channels and I love listening to your videos while I’m working on stuff
When I was a kid, my mum would gift me something ever week so I had to be grateful and eat the mostly sweets and she got to feel good about herself. It only led me to dislike getting gifts as I felt almost obligated to fake being happy about yet some more stuff or food I needed to keep
Agree! Brrr basket seems ridiculous to me. 💯
2:41 the actual subject starts
Thank you. No one does this anymore
And then the daughter makes video "Decluttering my room hashtag minimalism". "First of all we throw away trash like blankets, candles and mugs."
The only thing now happening in the UK that I would have got on board with, is the Christmas Eve box. You buy a cute Christmassy box, and put things like Christmas pajamas in it, along with some bits and bobs. So for example, maybe a toy for their bath that night, a book to read them in bed, that kind of thing. Nothing expensive, but a nice thing to do that your child would love. Maybe a Christmas themed colouring book. I always did let my son open one present on Christmas Eve, but this would save his actual presents for the day, and give him things to do the day before when he's out of his tiny mind with excitement :D He's all grown up now so we missed this, but I wouod have done it for sure :D
Yes, I used to do this! My kid loved it, plus he got to open a "present" early. Much better than a bunch of useless junk every month.
Happy Vlogmas! I agree, Brr baskets are silly. Halloween was literally only a month ago, and Christmas is only weeks away. There's no way all of the products in the boo baset were already used up.
Also people at my work gave boo baskets but luckily no brr baskets
I just have to comment here. As a minimalist who does not want extra stuff cluttering up my home, please know your person that you plan to give something like this to. If they are like me, they likely will not want a basket of random things that they then have to figure out what to do with. I choose my own few things that I want to have based on quality and so would not want a random cheap candle or polyester blanket or synthetic material slippers to make my feet sweat. I would appreciate the thought, but I’d just give the whole thing away to somebody who would want all of that stuff.
We need to normalize gifting handmade things and homemade baked goods 😭
YESSS!!!! I love receiving cookies and baked goods!!! 😭
One year I made Christmas tree decorations out of embroidered felt and my friends LOVED them
it was normal, before Tik Tok existed
We are in serious trouble 😮. Just looking at all the over consumption makes me feel sick, ugh! I love your message about giving the gift of time and caring about what the other person wants to do or something they like. It seems like all of those baskets are the exact same thing over and over. That’s the worst part of this is the same thing over and over.
I used to do a "refresh basket" for my kids seasonally, and it made me think of this. Usually right after Thanksgiving (so they could enjoy it for the season) it would be a box or basket (something I had hanging around, not purpose bought) that had a pair or two of holiday socks, new slippers, a pair of winter weight pajamas, mittens/gloves, a hat, you know, the kind of things growing kids will likely need replaced in a new year because they've outgrown or worn things through. We usually pair this with a refresh of things they need, toothbrushes, toothpaste, deodorant, soap/shampoo/conditioner (sometimes in a more seasonal scent), lip balm... then I'd toss in some other stuff, like some hot chocolate or a favorite snack. It's basically all stuff they need anyway, and it tends to look a lot like these things.
I used to do these with the kids in the standard run-out-of-things cycle, so every couple of months, and usually when there was a holiday or theme for the fun socks and the snacks. I'd usually try and put in things that made sense for the season, like swimsuits right before summer and new sunglasses if they were needed, sunscreen, etc. It usually turned out to be heading into Valentine's, heading into Easter, sometimes another for the 4th of July if it was needed, heading into fall/Halloween, and coming up to Christmas. It worked out really well.
Now I've got teens, so growing out of everything, not so much, so it's mostly homemade snacks, stuff to make seasonal snacks, and a whole lot of "Don't forget, you're a teenage boy and showering is important!" As a general idea to restock needed items, I think it could be a cute idea to toss in a couple special things to make it seasonal and fun, so long as it's clear that this is just a fun tradition to make boring and every-day restocks of needed stuff a little more fun. It's a lot more enjoyable than "I noticed you ran out of this stuff, so here..."
Also, thing that gets people low-key boiling, and I don't understand why... my boyfriend got me nothing for Christmas last year. He said, "If you don't tell me what you want, I'm not getting you anything." I didn't tell him. He got me nothing. First year he did that he braced for impact, waiting for me to turn on him because he was supposed to know or something. Instead he got me being all excited because I didn't have to bring stuff I didn't need into my house, and since he didn't spend on me for Christmas, we went out for dinner and drinks instead. Much better use of his money in my book.
These things are screaming highschool sweetheart gift guide but wayyyyy too expensive. Like this is stuff you want done for you when ur in highschool. I'm an adult in my 30s, I don't want this stuff, do I want to be thought of? Yes. But I'd like a Sunday drive to the beach and a walk with a coffee. We are grown. We're spending big bucks on rent and bills. My children do not expect these ridiculous things either. This is purely someone with a shopping addiction and they can't think of what to do with the stuff they impulsively purchase so they gift it.
lets unnormalize this!
I 👏CANNOT 👏 USE 👏 A 👏 HALLOWEEN 👏 MAKEUP 👏 BAG 👏 IN 👏 DECEMBER!!!!!! 😂
Most of us drained dry already. It puts pressure on us to give even more. Environmental impacts aside I can't afford my loved ones current entitlement behavior if I get asked for anymore I'm going to break.
@@ninjaHJ1 True. I've even had people ask me to cover bills for them when THEY KNOW I CAN BARELY DO THAT MYSELF. Meanwhile, if they stopped constantly spending money on things they didn't 100% need...
November baskets as a pre-game to holidays/Christmas gifts is whack. A hygge basket in late Jan or early feb makes sense. Something to get through the hump of dismal mid-winter weather.
@@morganreaume omg a holiday pre-game is actually so fun
The hygge basket is a good idea.
@@silverroxen2954 candles, snacks, board game, cozy socks, a diy craft item, a jar of homemade mulled wine. Things to stay in with ❄️🍲🫖
Can we invent making cute decluttering donation basket to bring to our locals charities ? Is there any month left without a crazy holiday ? January? march?
March will be St. Paddy's - not sure how they're gonna use alliteration on that one 😂
Have you watched the new Netflix documentary Buy it Now? Really opens your eyes to the massive amount of stuff and what happens to it when the newness wears off. My family has been talking about doing a thrifted/handmade Christmas only and that show sealed the deal
Excellent documentary, all of the waste on our planet! Makes us think twice about buying junk.
I love that idea.
Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with the internet. I’m really struggling to get it together after Black Friday, and your videos have given me ideas to jot down and reflect on when I need it. Super excited for Vlogmas 😊
I found a snack tray a couple of years ago. It was around Valentine's Day, so it was pink, but also had a Nightmare Before Christmas theme. So, I am able to use it for Valentine's, Christmas and Halloween.
Honestly, it was one of the most financially smart decisions I've ever made.
I also have one Halloween mug that I use year round and one Christmas mug that I reuse every Christmas.
I do enjoy changing things up for the holiday season, but I have limits to how much I will spend and tend to reuse a lot of things year after year.
Not to mention I decorate as if Halloween is every day.
I think what I dislike the most is the influencer terminology GRAB this, GRAB that, GRAB GRAB GRAB. I was brought up to believe GRABBING anything is extremely rude and uncouth behaviour.
I dont understand how you can hold something without grabbing it but yes its annoying
@katc2040 maybe I'm too old then for this type of lingo. I would always use "take" or "choose" or "select". "Grabbing" to me is just rude. But I'm British, so there is that!!
26:30 the algorithm isn't feeding these aesthetic influencers to men for the most part. My husband has no idea burr/boo baskets exist. Imagine if I brought into the 'oh if he loves you he'll buy you a basket' and it impacted my relationship. Not just romantic relationships but parent child ones. How many kids/teens get upset they don't get these seasonal hampers when people they follow or in person friends do, when their parents have no idea this is even a thing
I saw a video of a burr basket where a woman made it for her son's girlfriend. She gave her an apple watch, airpods, a Stanley, a Starbucks and target gift card and maybe $200 of other stuff. Insane!
As someone who is super strict about what I bring into my home, and borderline minimalist (not for trendy or aesthetic reasons, but because little Knick knacks, unintentional consumables, and stuff literally repulses me), these basket things are my personal horror story
In my country we have a kind of similar tradition, they are called anchetas and they are basically food in a plastic bucket covered with colorful paper and bows, the idea is to make them look very colorful and to give special food for the family. You can make one with all kinds of things, but the traditional ones are made of food. They go from the simplest ones, which have a bottle of wine and a box of Christmas cookies on a plastic basket, to all kinds of expensive food, you can buy them or make your own. My mom received many of them at work. One time, she received one from her clients, it was over the top, it had two kinds of caviar, pate, whiskey, expensive cheeses and other stuff, and it even came on a very expensive iron tray. I make one for the security guards and the cleaning lady in my building, I try to buy the usual stuff, wine a box of cookies, desserts and canned goods. Last year I made one for my friends, it's a good idea when you don't know what to give, and it's food, i'ts always useful.
Just put it in a stocking as a stuffer or wrap it up and put it under the tree 😂
These baskets are the kind of thing I would put together for a coworker or a teach (although drastically more expensive). I wouldn't do this kind of basket for a loved one because I actually know what my loved ones like. Last year I crocheted my roommates each a hat. It cost like $5 in yarn for both of them, and my time. They wore those hats every day last winter, and as soon as it got cold this year they pulled them out again. The joy I feel every time I see them wearing the hats that I made is so much more than the dopamine rush I would get from spending a ton of money on something that will just end up gathering dust on the shelf.
First year celebrating vlogmas with you!! Love this and your content
I hope you enjoy!
It genuinely hurts me to see people with this level of disposable income spend it on a damn burr basket. Personally I would ask my husband why he spent the money on such a silly thing while we have a mortgage and bills.
Literally I wouldn't be too happy if my husband's spent so much money on something like this. I own enough blankets, mugs ect.
He worries that getting me chocolate and flowers for occasions is boring, but I'm always going to be happy with those things and they're not clutter.
I'm sorry, but "burr basket" is an ironic name for it considering how overconsumption impacts global warming lol
Exactly
Also one thing i did notice in the burr basket for under $100, speaking on the point you made about not actually thinking about the person, was how quick how fast-paced their choice of getting stuff was. Sure, it could be for the video timing but the way it’s showcased is so ‘quick grab everything to make the basket a 2 second choice is fine’ takes away from the “humanness” of gift giving and makes it more a “gift” for consumerists and capitalists who eat up this content for more profit.
During finals week in college, my mom sent me a box with snacks, lip balm, a pair of cute socks, and some hot cocoa mix. It wasn’t expensive, I used up all of it (except for the socks, which I still wear!) and it was a great way to offer support from afar. If the brr baskets were like that, it would make sense!
It's like teaching children they need to overconsume too. It's just disgusting and so not sustainable. It's a bunch of fast fashion or suppose to be reusable junk. Why do you need a new water bottle every month? Isn't the point to use 1 and wash it? I could see having a second for a different type of beverage or if one is dirty but the kid doesn't need 12 a year. Plus no doubt mom is buying one for herself too. 24 new cups every year is CRAZY!
When i was a kid we did boo baskets for our neighbors, we'd get maybe $5-10 worth of decorations from the dollar store and then each neighbor could take a decoration and leave a new one before passing it on. I could see Brrr baskets being a cute neighborhood trend if you missed halloween, but i've never heard of them being gift baskets for 1 person
thats so thoughtful! we make individual candy bags for our neighbors too
Oh we did a similar thing! You'd make a small basket of Halloween themed things and secretly drop it off to a neighbor and then they'd put together a basket and give it to someone else. Everyone who already got one would put a little sign up so no one would get a basket twice. It was never super expensive stuff or anything like that.
So happy to have this vlogmas! You are doing an excellent point here : i've always been a bit singled out because i'm really uncomfortable with being gifted permanent things : i have severe sensory issues because of my autism, so I really don't like when people buy things for me because often i'll end up not liking it or not using it. And i like to feel even and not indebt to people. So, i much more prefer offer my time and being gifted time together from my friends and family. But it's been a challenge growing up. I'm 32 now, this year will only be the second one i'll enjoy Christmas because we did a compromise with my family : no Christmas gift for me or by me, at all, but a nice evening dinner and some star sighting.
I think the fact that my grandma used to "buy" the forgiving from my mother and I with gifts and money despite being abusive also contributed to me not liking the whole gift giving thing!
I'm so sorry to hear you've struggled with gifting and family, but I'm also incredibly happy that you've found a solution that works for you and your family! Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
“ y’all: these are Canadians” right before the ice-skating rec had me howling
Valentine's Day will be called "My boo" ❤️ baskets 🤣 lmao it blows my mind.
I gave my best friend a “boo basket” bc Halloween is our favorite holiday & I wanted another way to show my appreciation for her. I got her a Jason mug bc she drinks a lot of tea, some Jason napkins bc she was out of napkins when I saw her two days prior, a small bookshelf decoration I already owned, & I made her a ghost terrarium. All stuff I knew she’d use/like & have space for. I think the idea of “ “ baskets are thoughtful & sweet but the execution for majority of people participating is so “keeping up with the Jones’s”. I can’t stand it
Edit: also I put it in a gift bag bc we both reuse them & the tissue paper
I love watching your videos since I learn a lot, but I make sure what my friends and my family want and set up a budget. I had a feeling there was going to be a Christmas one and it way to much you are adding on.
I don’t want people to buy me sh^t from the dollar tree.. I don’t need any more rubbish and clutter in my home!
I could see this, but as a personalized advent calendar type thing instead. With items that the recipient actually likes and uses. Maybe refilling some items the person uses often, like deodorant, soap, things like that, with one or two more "fun" items thrown in.
But if I did this for someone, it would be their full gift. I wouldn't then get them a gift for the holidays too. That's just way too much.
The way I've seen it done just feels performative to me. Do I enjoy cozy things, candles, and mugs? Sure. But I don't need a new blanket 3 times a year, or a ton of different mugs. Candles - sure, I do end up going through 4 or 5 a year. But the other things I already have favourites and I don't need more.
That’s what I thought - how many mugs does one need?? I would really be disappointed with these baskets, nothing useful except for the chocolate!
@@Bombaysphinxe I think it would seem more thoughtful if it was handmade things too.
Like if someone gave me one that had a handmade crochet or knit blanket, a handmade ceramic mug from a small business, and some chocolate or maple candy, maybe even handmade soap, that alone would be more thoughtful.
Even though the items are the same, they're more personal. Instead of the made in bulk items from target or walmart (which I have no real issue with - I've had to buy cheap items plenty of times). Obviously that would be expensive, but I feel like people are already spending hundreds on these baskets. At least if you get handmade items you're supporting a small business instead of a huge corporation. Visiting a few markets would give you so many neat ideas and items to purchase for loved ones - that are unique and made with so much care
Maybe this is just because I love crafting and art, but one of my absolute favorite things to do is MAKE gifts for people. I get that not everyone feels like they're good at making things, but I think it's a really good thing to learn. Not only do you get to try out a new fulfilling hobby, but you can make highly personalized gifts that will mean a lot to them.its so much more fun to give someone a gift that's highly tailored to them rather than something generic. And it makes me so I credibly happy to give someone a gift that I made myself and put hours of work into.
On a side note, I kind of hate that it's the expectation that women and girls are the only ones who deserve to be gifted things all the time. If you're going to buy into this consumerist nightmare, at least reciprocate with your partner.
Any kind of homemade gift is wonderful tbh -- it could be food, too, or even like a fun outing, or a handwritten letter/card. One of my most treasured gifts is a Christmas gift my friend gave me in highschool -- she didn't know what to get me, so she wrote a new version of "Twelve Days of Christmas" that was themed around my interests. I still read through it every now and again -- such a thoughtful and funny gift.
And yeah I agree with your second point.
I can see one argument for having more than one item but it isn't the level of excess they have generally with these things. I am a strong advocate of having a spare, especially for things like having a spare tumbler/stanley/etc. But that's 2. Not 3, not 10, not 50, 2. And the reasoning I have for that is accidents happen and it sucks when then do, but basic maintenance also happens such as washing, deep cleaning, etc. that sometimes end up taking extra time that would in turn either put you out of utilizing the item for a while, or would alternatively put you in a position where you may end up feeling the need to buy another anyway just because you're used to having one on hand so you feel a "need" to have something, so you buy a replacement or you buy a filler and then you feel like you need something to fill in for that if you use your normal because you liked some aspect of the filler and it becomes a slippery cycle.
By having ONE spare, when your Stanley for instance is soaking because maybe you flippantly put something other than water in it and it's had a weird smell in it for a while since so now you're letting some water or a small amount of bleach soak in it, instead of feeling the need to go without or get a different type or anything, you have a spare. Or alternatively, you have a spare for the weird situation where you drop your stanley and a car happens to run over it and it flattens the thing in the moment. You're out the item for the day but instead of having to rush out and get a new one, you have a backup for a period of time so you don't end up overbuying on things out of convenience and if it's time to upgrade you can actually take the time to make that decision rather than just impulse decide on the upgrade decision (this mostly happens with electronics).
The problem lies when people start justifying backups for backups, or backups for unessecary things that don't really need backups. If you don't use your waterbottle or stanley every day, you probably don't need a backup of it. If you don't use a laptop every day, having a backup charger at the primary location you use it at (work, school, etc.) probably isn't worth the investment, especially if even if you do use it regularly but you haven't ever placed the charger anywhere but your transit bag (backpack, purse, etc.) you probably don't need an extra charger.
A lot of people try to find one size fits all solutions to these things though instead of using basic common sense to figure out just a basic reasoning on things. I use my knock-off stanley I got for free at a job fair that the handle is actively falling off daily. Am I going to rush out to go buy a new one cause the handle is falling off? No. I'm probably not even going to go get a new one when the handle does inevitably fall off unless that causes it to start leaking. Reason being I just need something that keeps my water cold that I can drink out of. If I desperately need a handle still I can order a replacement or crochette something to work as patch until I can get something that works. Will I one day upgrade to a name brand Stanley? Probably. But when I do I will likely keep this old thing on hand as a backup for if something happens to the new one. And if I get a new one from the new one only then will it be time to part with this old timer.
Anyway I'll get off my "pair and a spare" soap box and go back to actually doing homework.