OP should sue both of them. Hopefully, OP needs to understand the backlash that will happen. He is gonna gaslight your sister and anyone else possible.
She needs to get a restraining order IMMEDIATELY. Husband should have given her the benefit of the doubt. OP needs to go no contact with sister too since she believes her husband over her own family. BIL is a psycho.
I’m not mad at husband, it’s not like a rumor with no base. It was another man coming to him with what seemed like legitimate evidence. I’m glad he has enough sense to admit he was wrong and come back so respect towards that. Wife also has to look at it from his angle, yes she was innocent but looked guilty. And no offense but op didn’t seem the brightest
I need all men to heal from the girl that rejected them way back when, and not to make it their entire personality and ruling every single decision they make going forward
why are there so many men like this these days? It really freaks me out. I'm glad I'm older now. It's sad and makes me angry there's even MORE for women to fear than when I was in my teens and twenties! We've all been rejected. Get over yourself. Who are these guys turning it into a character trait, like incels? And I know there are crazy women too but this is clearly a certain kind of male phenomenon going on currently.
This guy is so unhinged. He made one “ no” his entire personality. I think he’s ramping up to be actually dangerous since OP is still not living that lonely lifestyle he thinks she deserves even AFTER he blew up her marriage.
BIL has been stalking OP for 2 decades! The fact that the police wont do anything in these circumstances is horrifying. So many people have to deal with this, and nothing is done until they are attacked and/or killed. 😞
I would never keep this from my sister. She shares a bed with a snake that wants to hurt me and has done it. He’s a monster. Don’t just leave her in his power.
@@leenleen1271 I responded before watching the whole video. I still think my comment stands. She was wondering if she should say something and I responded to that question of hers.
This guy is INSANE! and yeah, you're never too old to find love. My grandma married my (technically step) grandpa when she was 65 and he was 61. They had known each other as young adults and he was the best friend of my biological granddpa (who passed when my dad was a teenager, way before 1992 lol). I can remember how much my grandpa loved my grandma and really set my standards for how to show you love someone pretty high.
My grandmother married my (technically step) grandfather when they were in their late 70s. He was my grandfather’s cousin. What’s funny is that my grandfather was on a double date with his cousin, while all in uni, whose date just so happened to be my grandmother. They didn’t click but my grandparents did.
One good thing if that restraining order goes through is that he can't break it either. He thinks he is getting one over on her but he kinda played himself. Hopefully she can get a good lawyer who can explain how that all works to her so if he comes round to try anything she can report him and have the court deal with him.
I’m surprised that OP and her husband can’t file a defamation of character on Bil, because he hire a friend to destroy her marriage with a lie and said she was having an affair. Sue the crap out of him. And work it out with your husband. Start slow, if he is the love f your life the make it happen.. if anything comes out of this it’s you have your family back.
3:18 OP needs to do three things: 1. Sue the brother in law, and have a case against him for ruining your marriage. Keep all the proof you have of this. 2. Tell your ex husband what you found, it doesn't matter if he'll believe it or not. He needs to know. 3. TELL YOUR SISTER, and let her know what a spiteful man she married. Whether she stays or takes him to the cleaners is up to her.
Damn I hate the fact that her sister is in this, but it's unavoidable. Has me thinking about how I would move if I was married and my sister came to me with this. It's hard to explain, but I would 100% believe my sister. I know and feel how much my sister loves me and has my entire life 🤗 She would NEVER EVER come to me with something like this out of maliciousness. I can't imagine being married to someone I didn't trust implicitly, through and through, so it would be an emotional roller coaster managing my emotions between my love and loyalty to my sister and partner. I feel bad for OP, but I'm feeling sad for the sister too. Seems like she was used like a pawn. If it was me, my world would be imploding and the one person I want to talk to, my sister, wouldn't be someone I'd want to vent to while in the middle of it. 🤕
Get a restraining order and move far away from the psychopath as fast as you can, even if that means no more contact with the sister. In fact if the sister stays with that man OP can never have a relationship with her again, ever. I hope OP and her husband can get therapy and restart their relationship. Sad that he did not believe her but with that evidence we all would have believed it.
If brother in law can do this to her, who knows what he will do to someone else in the family or OPs sister. I hope legal options are possible. I think the threats of self-harm are a manipulation tactic tbh. I've seen this a bunch and this is what it sounds like. If OP and her husband could make up again that would be awesome but I know that is really idealistic. I hope things get better for OP but they really should have never had to go through this. This is so sad!
YIKES! I havent started the story yet, but these comments got me worried. The first words I'm seeing are "Serious Issues", "Insane", and "Psychopath" 😲I guess I gotta buckle up for this ride 😳 Guessing this is not a "Happy Story" moment 🤕
I finally got it right when I was in my 40’s. Prior to that, I had a few very bad toxic relationships. It wasn’t until I was finally able to step back and take some time for myself, and then somehow the right person was there. It’s never too late, but definitely make sure that you are in a place where you are happy with yourself. It is far better to be alone than with someone who isn’t right for you just because you are afraid of being alone.
I'm a firm believer that the BIL would have jumped at OP if she gave him half an opening. I'm also sure he got rejected and then implanted himself to the sister. I wonder if he likes being married to someone he doesn't care for.
Sister husband is unhinged!! With everything he has done and doing. He has stalker her for years, prayed on her sister, and many other things. He will escalate.
I would forgive the husband. When something like this happens you just have to ask yourself if you would have fallen for it. She needs to honestly ask herself if she would have believed the same thing, if her sister was a malicious psycho who got a friend of hers to pull the same trick on her about her husband cheating. If she honestly wouldn't have, then divorce. If she would have fallen for it, start on the path to forgiving.
No means no, does not require any explanation. So sick of people like BIL thinking they are entitled to anything when they make an offer. Whether they offer a date, an opinion, a question, a kindness, even. One hopes for a thank you or polite refusal, but it is not owed.
Geez! This sounds like it’s about to be a 20/20 episode. OP you need to get cameras and a restraining order against him because he is legit a psycho. Who holds a petty grudge for 20 years, marries the sister, and ruins a marriage just to get back at her over a slight rejection?? 😬
I thought BIL was husband's brother. Husband has no leg to stand on. He's not a clown, he's the entire circus. You can even fake video these days, taking a random's word about your partner cheating is unforgiveable. And BIL got with her sister cuz he can't have her. What a sicko
I don’t know where they are at but the first question would be why and it would come out what he did. Unless he perjured himself which would get anything he got set aside at least in the US.
Wow! Ego much BIL, that you're SOOOO irresistible to women that it's a mortal insult when one turns you down so you have to destroy lives??? I truly have to wonder if you dated and married OP's sister simply to be in a position to hurt OP and not care about the other lives your ruined? OP, IMO you should take every bit of proof you have to your ex and your sister (hopefully you screenshot everything). And while the BIL's friend had a change of heart, he's almost as bad. UPDATE: At least the friend's guilty conscious had him helping you by having him tell your ex what happened as well. But OP, your sister needs to know that it's likely her entire marriage was built on a lie. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that BIL's master plan was to divorce your sister as soon as your divorce was finalized as a final FU to you and your family. Get your sister in a safe place before you tell her. It would be nice if the friend could be convinced to tell your sister what she is married to. UPDATES: What an incredible mess. While I doubt OP and her ex will get back together, at least he's willing to defend her now that he knows he was used. Sister is the one likely losing the most. She's just learned her last 20 years were based on a lie, so can't really be blamed for striking out. I have absolutely no pity for BIL at all. While it's likely true that nothing can be done legally (other than maybe getting her own protection order), ruining his reputation is the next best thing. His loss would not be a great one (other to his wife and kids and I suspect they may be better off as well).
This guy got rejected one time in college and made all his life decisions for the next 20 years based on that. You really showed her bro.
@@beultra3083 joke?
Joke?
Dusty, you are completely correct. This man is evil to the core! The guy is a psychopath and possibly dangerous. Hopefully, she stays safe.
Definitely dangerous
If only people would realize being alone with cats is honestly the prize
Right! I live alone with two cats by choice, I don't want to have anyone else living with me 😅
When you find someone who loves cats as much as you do, it’s that much better!
idk mine's being being a pain in the butt right now... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
OP should sue both of them. Hopefully, OP needs to understand the backlash that will happen. He is gonna gaslight your sister and anyone else possible.
She needs to get a restraining order IMMEDIATELY. Husband should have given her the benefit of the doubt. OP needs to go no contact with sister too since she believes her husband over her own family. BIL is a psycho.
I’m not mad at husband, it’s not like a rumor with no base. It was another man coming to him with what seemed like legitimate evidence. I’m glad he has enough sense to admit he was wrong and come back so respect towards that. Wife also has to look at it from his angle, yes she was innocent but looked guilty. And no offense but op didn’t seem the brightest
I need all men to heal from the girl that rejected them way back when, and not to make it their entire personality and ruling every single decision they make going forward
why are there so many men like this these days? It really freaks me out. I'm glad I'm older now. It's sad and makes me angry there's even MORE for women to fear than when I was in my teens and twenties!
We've all been rejected. Get over yourself. Who are these guys turning it into a character trait, like incels? And I know there are crazy women too but this is clearly a certain kind of male phenomenon going on currently.
This guy is so unhinged. He made one “ no” his entire personality. I think he’s ramping up to be actually dangerous since OP is still not living that lonely lifestyle he thinks she deserves even AFTER he blew up her marriage.
BIL has been stalking OP for 2 decades! The fact that the police wont do anything in these circumstances is horrifying. So many people have to deal with this, and nothing is done until they are attacked and/or killed. 😞
I moved to NYC escape a guy that was obviously not going to leave me be.
@@analyticalchick3064 I'm so sorry!
My husband and I are 48 and 49. We were 46 and 47 when we found each other and got married.
Harming himself claim is a bullshit narcissistic claim in this instance. Playing the victim.
I would never keep this from my sister. She shares a bed with a snake that wants to hurt me and has done it. He’s a monster. Don’t just leave her in his power.
She's not gonna believe her. He treats the sister well.
@@candypettynettie487 Probably, and that’s so sad.
@@averniondidn't you hear the update? It is in the minute (7)
@@leenleen1271 I responded before watching the whole video. I still think my comment stands. She was wondering if she should say something and I responded to that question of hers.
@@avernion but still her sister responded and get mad at op even with evidence
This person seriously has issues
This guy is INSANE!
and yeah, you're never too old to find love. My grandma married my (technically step) grandpa when she was 65 and he was 61. They had known each other as young adults and he was the best friend of my biological granddpa (who passed when my dad was a teenager, way before 1992 lol). I can remember how much my grandpa loved my grandma and really set my standards for how to show you love someone pretty high.
My grandmother married my (technically step) grandfather when they were in their late 70s. He was my grandfather’s cousin. What’s funny is that my grandfather was on a double date with his cousin, while all in uni, whose date just so happened to be my grandmother. They didn’t click but my grandparents did.
My grandfather remarried at 85. It only lasted a year, she died a year later, but they still found love late in life.
One good thing if that restraining order goes through is that he can't break it either. He thinks he is getting one over on her but he kinda played himself. Hopefully she can get a good lawyer who can explain how that all works to her so if he comes round to try anything she can report him and have the court deal with him.
OP should sue for slander! Those false accusations ruined her life!
I’m surprised that OP and her husband can’t file a defamation of character on Bil, because he hire a friend to destroy her marriage with a lie and said she was having an affair. Sue the crap out of him. And work it out with your husband. Start slow, if he is the love f your life the make it happen.. if anything comes out of this it’s you have your family back.
3:18 OP needs to do three things: 1. Sue the brother in law, and have a case against him for ruining your marriage. Keep all the proof you have of this. 2. Tell your ex husband what you found, it doesn't matter if he'll believe it or not. He needs to know. 3. TELL YOUR SISTER, and let her know what a spiteful man she married. Whether she stays or takes him to the cleaners is up to her.
This guy sounds extremely dangerous. OP’s sister needs to take her children and get out of there.
Brother-in-law is a major narcissist!!
Damn I hate the fact that her sister is in this, but it's unavoidable. Has me thinking about how I would move if I was married and my sister came to me with this. It's hard to explain, but I would 100% believe my sister. I know and feel how much my sister loves me and has my entire life 🤗 She would NEVER EVER come to me with something like this out of maliciousness.
I can't imagine being married to someone I didn't trust implicitly, through and through, so it would be an emotional roller coaster managing my emotions between my love and loyalty to my sister and partner.
I feel bad for OP, but I'm feeling sad for the sister too. Seems like she was used like a pawn. If it was me, my world would be imploding and the one person I want to talk to, my sister, wouldn't be someone I'd want to vent to while in the middle of it. 🤕
Get a restraining order and move far away from the psychopath as fast as you can, even if that means no more contact with the sister. In fact if the sister stays with that man OP can never have a relationship with her again, ever. I hope OP and her husband can get therapy and restart their relationship. Sad that he did not believe her but with that evidence we all would have believed it.
If brother in law can do this to her, who knows what he will do to someone else in the family or OPs sister. I hope legal options are possible. I think the threats of self-harm are a manipulation tactic tbh. I've seen this a bunch and this is what it sounds like. If OP and her husband could make up again that would be awesome but I know that is really idealistic. I hope things get better for OP but they really should have never had to go through this. This is so sad!
She should for sure call her sister. That vile weasel is probably with her to get back at OP.
YIKES! I havent started the story yet, but these comments got me worried. The first words I'm seeing are "Serious Issues", "Insane", and "Psychopath" 😲I guess I gotta buckle up for this ride 😳 Guessing this is not a "Happy Story" moment 🤕
I finally got it right when I was in my 40’s. Prior to that, I had a few very bad toxic relationships. It wasn’t until I was finally able to step back and take some time for myself, and then somehow the right person was there. It’s never too late, but definitely make sure that you are in a place where you are happy with yourself. It is far better to be alone than with someone who isn’t right for you just because you are afraid of being alone.
Get a damn lawyer and sue brother in law into oblivion.
This guy is insane. Horrible, just horrible
BIL sounds like the protagonist in the webtoon I'm reading called The Prenup.
I'm a firm believer that the BIL would have jumped at OP if she gave him half an opening. I'm also sure he got rejected and then implanted himself to the sister. I wonder if he likes being married to someone he doesn't care for.
She needs to save her sister!!!
Sister husband is unhinged!! With everything he has done and doing. He has stalker her for years, prayed on her sister, and many other things. He will escalate.
Grade A narcissist right there. The unalive comment is the main contributer.
I would forgive the husband. When something like this happens you just have to ask yourself if you would have fallen for it. She needs to honestly ask herself if she would have believed the same thing, if her sister was a malicious psycho who got a friend of hers to pull the same trick on her about her husband cheating. If she honestly wouldn't have, then divorce. If she would have fallen for it, start on the path to forgiving.
Yeah exactly, got to look at it from his perspective.
This is scary!!!! Dude WTFUCK. I would tell everyone the truth. She can actually challenge the order, but it might not be worth one
No means no, does not require any explanation. So sick of people like BIL thinking they are entitled to anything when they make an offer. Whether they offer a date, an opinion, a question, a kindness, even. One hopes for a thank you or polite refusal, but it is not owed.
Geez! This sounds like it’s about to be a 20/20 episode. OP you need to get cameras and a restraining order against him because he is legit a psycho. Who holds a petty grudge for 20 years, marries the sister, and ruins a marriage just to get back at her over a slight rejection?? 😬
I thought BIL was husband's brother. Husband has no leg to stand on. He's not a clown, he's the entire circus. You can even fake video these days, taking a random's word about your partner cheating is unforgiveable. And BIL got with her sister cuz he can't have her. What a sicko
That's obsessive
I don’t know where they are at but the first question would be why and it would come out what he did.
Unless he perjured himself which would get anything he got set aside at least in the US.
Wow!! This guy is nuts!! SHE is the one got away!! Wow
I would tell BIL that he was still a loser. It doesn't matter how much money he has his inward personality is black.
Wow! Ego much BIL, that you're SOOOO irresistible to women that it's a mortal insult when one turns you down so you have to destroy lives??? I truly have to wonder if you dated and married OP's sister simply to be in a position to hurt OP and not care about the other lives your ruined? OP, IMO you should take every bit of proof you have to your ex and your sister (hopefully you screenshot everything). And while the BIL's friend had a change of heart, he's almost as bad.
UPDATE: At least the friend's guilty conscious had him helping you by having him tell your ex what happened as well. But OP, your sister needs to know that it's likely her entire marriage was built on a lie. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that BIL's master plan was to divorce your sister as soon as your divorce was finalized as a final FU to you and your family. Get your sister in a safe place before you tell her. It would be nice if the friend could be convinced to tell your sister what she is married to.
UPDATES: What an incredible mess. While I doubt OP and her ex will get back together, at least he's willing to defend her now that he knows he was used. Sister is the one likely losing the most. She's just learned her last 20 years were based on a lie, so can't really be blamed for striking out. I have absolutely no pity for BIL at all. While it's likely true that nothing can be done legally (other than maybe getting her own protection order), ruining his reputation is the next best thing. His loss would not be a great one (other to his wife and kids and I suspect they may be better off as well).
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the friend of the nut job ex did her a favor IMO
Sounds like a hoax!
Tell your EX, show him the proof and tell your sister bc stress married to an🫏