Gay Asian American Coming Out Story (2/2) - A crush forces me to acknowledge the truth
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- I shot this and then realized that it's way too long, so I decided to break it up into 2 parts:
You can find part one here: • Gay Asian American Com...
(I didn't realize youtube only lets you do links at the end of videos until after I uploaded).
Here is the second part, which shares ways I tried to research and learn more about my sexuality, and how I eventually come to terms with being gay.
I hope you guys find this insightful, relatable, or maybe even helpful! Let me know in the comments what you think! What was your coming out experience like?
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What an elegant, classy guy! Here’s hoping you are blessed with the love you deserve!
“Be financially stable if you want to come out”that is so true. I feel what you feel ever since you shared your childhood story. Thank you for sharing by the way.
Absolutely!
Your not gonna be happy if u still living in Indonesia.. Why ? Cause people Will not accepting u at all even ur close friends And if u working with government, it's over..
Hello I'm gay and still in the closet and i was watching coming out videos of other gay people to get there perspective and i really did like your coming out story I'm thankful for RUclips because i get see people of the LGBT community and there struggles and knowing I'm not alone i hope one day i can be brave and come out on my own terms i thank you for sharing your story ☺️
So glad you found this video useful. Thanks for sharing! Wishing you the best on your own journey of self-discovery.
Hey, Same story for me too. I'm gay in the closet, and don't know how I'll ever gather up the courage to tell my parents and my family. I'm in college, but I'm too close to home to explore myself or even let ppl here know who I am (it could easily get out too my family). I've had a few run ins of my intermediate family finding my history of watching 18+ gay videos when I was younger. During that time my brothers teased me and bullied me because of it, but my parents treated it as a faze.
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"Don't come out until you're financially stable"
You are the first person I've heard say this, and I agree with you very strongly. I know a couple of people who were kicked out, and those stories really break my heart to hear. One good aspect of the closet is that is can be used to bide one some invaluable time!
On that note I am happy to hear that your coming out story wasn't an awful one :).
You briefly mentioned your dad in part 1, but.. .. .. if you don't mind me asking... .. .. how did he take it?
Good question! Perhaps in a future video...
Your recollection of that hot guy in college.....brought me back to similar experiences. That never leaves you. Thank you for sharing!
Kevin, Pt. 2 was was equally worthwhile. I like your "be financially independent" caveat. I, as you, immersed myself in books about "gay," and I sublimated my desires into work, work, work, and college ... Wow! The Lady Gaga Russia tour. I was finishing my high school librarian teaching career and was the adviser for our gay-straight alliance when Gaga was at the peak of her popularity. She did what high schools refuse to do in terms of empowering young gays to be proud and strong.
As a few others have posted, I checked you out because you're hot...and of course watched a few videos by now, and love your substance, your intelligence, your focus, and above all, your willingness to contribute to others via your channel. Regarding Lady Gaga's Moscow concert - I had never seen that footage before. That was a brave thing for her to have done, even in 2012. I lived in Russia for 4 1/2 years, from 1992 to 1996, and can say my first-hand experience living in a fairly repressive culture when it comes to LGBTQ+ rights was very eye-opening. I have long refused to let any particular aspect of who I am actually define who I am - I may be gay, American, Caucasian...but I'm a human being overall, and that's what really matters. That's the background of relatedness we all share. The human race as a whole needs to recognize that we are really one race, no matter our diversity, and we all deserve equal treatment as such. Thank you for your insights and for putting yourself out there, Kevin!
Very interesting, thanks for sharing!
watched bc you're hot. subbed bc you're actually substantive and thoughtful! looking forward to more vids :)
hahaha thank you!
Good story and good advice. I never came out to my parents. For many reasons, we weren’t close, and only talked about the weather….that’s as deep as it went. But, one day, I called my mother (I was in my 30’s) and talked to her for nearly 2 hours. (Dad was bowling). I told her she was a great mother and did a fantastic job raising me. I thanked her and told her I loved her. She thanked me and told me she was glad that dad was out, bowling. Three days later, she had a fatal heart attack. My father later mentioned to my brother that the last few days of her life, my dad had never seen her so happy. I think we should tell our loved ones, every day, that we love them.
He’s so cute describing his first love. Aww 🥰 ❤️
Thanks for a most insightful rendition of coming out. Such sound advice. Also, you are drop dead gorgeous! We are all glad you are of the rainbow. I wish you continued happiness
Appreciate it, wishing you the best as well!
I'm trying to forget my ex, who was Asian, and RUclips recommends your videos hahahahaha
Thanks for sharing your story.
hmm, looks like you need to go back ;-)
Good for you, Kevin. I’ve enjoyed hearing from you. You’re bright, articulate, and handsome, and any sweet guy should be thrilled to know you and get to discover you too. All the best. Carl
The thrill when you were out and your mom checked the drawer. Totally relatable.
What a great life journey you're on. You're such a great guy, the right guy will come along one day.
I admire your level-headedness and consideration for others .
the moment he said "shit it's over i'm gay "😂😂 and then starts simpinggg❣❣
Kevin Enjoying your channel - keep putting the effort in because this is what a 15 yr old needs to be able to relate to during those years of confusion. With so much bad advice out there your channel stands for logic and sound decision making
Thank you! I appreciate that.
I've watched several of your videos and have liked and subscribed. You' re amazing. Kind, loving, peace-filled, and oh so cute! Keep putting out the videos. I know there are a lot of young guys out there who can benefit from your personal experiences and knowledge. Where were you when I was 16. I'm 66 now.
Very honest. Clear. I live in Japan where coming out is still not common. It’s considered private. But things are slowly beginning to change.
you are an amazing person and this video made me cry :)
Really supportive of why you started the channel. Thanks for putting yourself out there
What a great coming out story you have here!,One of my favorites, and just subbed.Thanks Kevin!.✌️😎
Oh so you're a big Lady Gaga fan. Should've known haha love you bro
My coming out story ended up with a friend outing me to my older siblings and them destroying one of my last pieces of trust in people. I'm glad that somebody got it more peaceful way.
I was like teary eyed watching you. I feel you. And I feel you're a good person. Your story is so inspiring. ❤️❤️🤗
Thank you for sharing this Kevin! And yes, back then I was also a super big Lady Gaga fan and how supportive she was to us all! Just subbed. Came from r/gaysian on reddit. Keep it up! Will come back for more! 😼
Thank you :)
Hi Kevin, fabulous video thanks. I saw Gaga here in Bangkok on the Born this Way Ball tour in 2012 and what was remarkable was how she seemed to talk to each every one of us in the stadium individually... it may surprise you but I was 55 at the time, and she too, is one of my favourite ever artists. I am really looking forward to your video on what she has meant to you over these past few years.
Thanks for your story Kevin! I'm sure it will help a lot of gay kids wanting to come out to their parents and friends! You are really a very good looking guy! I love Asian guys!
I hope so as well!
I am a child of the late 60's and early 70's. I graduated in 1973 (yeah, I know another old queen). I knew when I was 14 that I was gay and that I NEVER EVER wanted kids (I refuse to bestow my genes on ANY KID) and this was a time of rampant homophobia. I messed around with a couple of guys in high school, but pretty much kept to myself. This was in the time where you could and often WOULD get fired for being gay. I never paraded around announcing my sexuality, just was me. After HS, I went off to college for a criminal justice degree and snagged a part time on my home town police department. Since I lived in a small town, gossip was brutal and I managed to get a part time job on our local department while I was in college. My Chief never asked me about anything (other than if I knew a chick that might be interested in being a f*ck partner, just sex, no commitments and I obliged).
I met my boyfriend at a Christmas party 2 years later and it was the proverbial "love at first sight" (I know, cue the violins) and we were together to 10 years until a drunk driver took him from me. Devastated I was to say the least. I managed to keep it together and did 26 years and retired. I moved west and retired for good 7 years ago. I was lucky to meet a Navajo Champion Bronc Rider and when I pulled the pin for once and all, asked him to move with me to BFE Montana. Mainly because I was tired of the big city crime and drugs and crazy people and he agreed. He works as a horse trainer and I am a happy house husband. It sis take me a long time to find someone I could trust and be comfortable with.
Really well done vid, Kevin! Cute stories, smartly told and excellent editing. If we didn't already know, the dust cover on your keyboard and music neatly taped to the wall kind of gives it away*! (*You're neat, organized and talented, and gay!)
I love your originality compare to other channels I've seen
Thank you for the insight. Your experience almost the same as mine. I want to ask something to you. I'm Asian too. My family is neither very conservative, nor very religious. I want to come out like you too. My question is how to strengthen our hearts and souls to remain confident after coming out, especially towards our family, our siblings, our environment, especially if we are in a less supportive environment?
Please drop your skincare routine! 😍
Coming soon!
I am looking forward! 😍😍
Nice 2nd part story. Now you live in Chicago and around Boy's Town all the Pole American gays ! ... an attraction ? ... or mostly other GAM ? :-)
What a great couple of videos. Kevin, you seem like a really lovely guy. Looks fade (trust me!) but I really do believe that good, decent, kind guys get there in the end. Just stay true to yourself and never let yourself be used, or taken advantage of. I wish I’d had someone like you in my life when I was younger. I didn’t always make the right choices, and I sometimes wish I’d had better friends.
Thank you on behalf of all the guys who are struggling to come out. Your story is helpful and inspiring.
And damn you’re so handsome too - I always fall for Asian guys with floppy hair!!! Never settle for anyone less than the best!
xxx
Very true!
Insightful, helpful descriptions of your journey. Happy 2021!
Same to you!
Brilliant young man, you are definitely not broken, lots of moving parts but not broken. I found yout youthful reasoning both sane and sad, sad only because of the shadow cast by religion and hate, driving youth toward conformity. Sane because the mental gymnastics I went through trying to explain what I clearly wanted, to the part of me that knew what was expected. Thank you for sharing your story, and sharing your strength with others.
Never saw that Gaga video before and wow! Fuck what other people think indeed 👏🏼 I think it’s hard to dictate when you will be coming out bc things in your life can change BUT I think your advice is very helpful. I think coming out when you’re financially stable/independent is great advice.
You are a great man. you have grown up to be healthy and positive. Do not let anything bother your life, keep the balance i see in your vids now. I am glad to have come accross your vid.
You have such a great outlook, thanks for sharing your experiences with other people who may asking the same questions of themselves. I love your healthy/positive thoughts!
I liked hearing your story and I loved the clips, especially the Lady Gaga ones. I'd love to watch that video!
Thanks! The gaga clip is from her born this way tour in Russia
I am mesmerized by your wisdom. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
Thank you so much for sharing this! ❤ mine was so much harsher than yours. It remains unsolved tho but it might change after watching this video.
Sorry to hear that, wishing you the best!!
Thanks for sharing your story.
Same as others, I watched because you're cute, but I subscribed because the content was interesting. Keep it up!
Be yourself, be happy with your life & reach for the sunshine👍👍👍👍👍
Hi Kevin, your coming out video was suggested to me by RUclips. I watched both videos and was happy to see that you are totally comfortable with yourself. I have been through some of the same stuff but many years ago. Try growing up in a conservative Catholic family, what a journey it was. Anyway, I wish you success and lots of love in the future. I will subscribe to your channel. Should you ever visit Arizona, drop by. Luv ya; Dennis
Kevin, your line about "some gay guys don't like to date guys who are not out" reminded me of a Philippine TV series called "Gaya Sa Pelikula" ("Like in the Movies") It's an excellent production, with wonderful music and a plot that I think you will enjoy. Have a look, if you have the time. (It's all on RUclips and you can just search for Gaya Sa Pelikula. )
I love Lady Gaga too. Loved your video. You're a great storyteller :)
Thank you for sharing your story
I am a fan of you
I am a gay
God Bless you
So proud of you and you are lucky than me
Congratulations ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing your story!
Thanks for listening
Thank you for sharing your lived in experiences of coming out. You should make a video about how much you love Lady Gaga as well. That'd be interesting.
Thanks for the idea!
OMG I thought I'm the only one who is sexually attracted to man but not emotionally, and emotionally attracted to girls but not sexually. I'm really confuse before but now I'm more sure that I'm gay. Btw I already subscribed to your channel. I'm also Asian but not living in America😅
I kinda like you and how you talk. How you explain everything. I may not be as handsome and fit like you. I know i can upgrade/build up myself to level your appearance but im saving it for the person who will spend his whole time to me. If i can finally find it, i will fix myself and show him the best that i can be.
Grey's anatomy 🥺 I immediately thought about the scene
Shit, it’s all over 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm 57 and looking for a older gay man around my age but no such luck. We sure got it hard out here.
Love your story.
You are a cool and handsome guy.. Please be safe and take care.
excellent information.. thanks for the vlog, more please
ah you're so cute! and thank you for sharing your story!
I think i can relate to part 1 and 2) but i still didnt come out im 15 years old and i was born gay (and yes people can be born gay.) while growing up i never really liked girls that way i just looked at them as "yass bestie" they gave me that vibe just a bestie vibe and i was always attracted to men and when i turned 13 years old midway 13 i became bisexual my first ex was when i was 13 it was a guy but then i dated a girl after my guy break up and i said to myself "Shit I think im bisexual." and then we broke up blah blah blah I dated another guy when I was 13 and then another 1 then I dated 2 men when I was 14, so now I'm saying I'm bisexual, but I'm questioning if I'm gay or bi because I dated 6 people but 5 were men and only 1 was a girl, and I am more feminine while growing up my mom never really paid much attention at me and never really cared unless I was sick or had h.w or Quizizz or exams, so I grew up with my sister caring for me which made me end up having more female friends than male friends which made me get habits girls have, and my dad was never home because of work when I was a kid, so he was never able to teach me how to be masculine etc. And I was never emotionally or physically attracted to women when I was "gay" and in my whole life I just liked 1 girl like physically and emotionally once and all my role models are mostly women, but I do have some men, but my biggest role model is my sister she's the first person I opened up to in my family and this is how it happened, so I was awake in the middle of the night on discord, and she caught me, and she took my tablet away, and she entered my tablets history and saw "hot men" "big d*cks" etc. Lmao this is embarrassing, but then the next day she returned me my tablet and went away and when I entered my discord my account was deleted, but discord has a 30-day timer for u to restore your account so hahaha jokes on you, I got my account back, but I lost all my servers I was in but anyway later that day I entered the kitchen and my sister asked me if I'm gay, and I said no, and then she looked at me and said "really?" and I said "yes..." but then 1 month and a few weeks have passed and while eating dinner my sister asked me "Are you open-minded?" I said "yes" and then she said, "then what's your biggest secret?" "Why should I tell you?" "It's fine I'm open-minded I won't say anything about it" and I said "ill tell you later" and she said "ok" then when I finished eating I went to my room opened my phone and typed in this "Do you remember when you asked me if I was gay or not? I'm not gay, I'm bisexual." and then she said "See I don't care I told you I'm open-minded lol" and my mom always asks me "Are you gay?" and I keep telling her no because my parents are very religious, and we are Muslims too, so I can really feel comfortable telling my parents if I'm bi or gay etc. but later on my cousin finds out, and it turns out my sister told her and how I found out is when I opened up to my cousin she said "I know your sister told me" and I was literally betrayed, but I was fine with it since my cousin didn't tell anyone and my sister and cousin are open-minded about LGBTQ+ and my dad keeps opening up these stories in our religion about LGBTQ+ people and how god punished them which honestly makes me feel uncomfortable because I just want to get up and yell at him and slap him because not only It's annoying to listen to the story he repeated it multiple times and every time is when I have to be eating I lose my appetite, but I cannot show that I'm bothered because that could make me suspicious, so I just have to listen and everyone else in the table is literally uncomfortable because who wants to hear a story like that while your eating, and he finds it amusing? No, thank you. My female cousin told me to never open up to my parents, so I won't, but I am planning to when I become fanatically stabled btw sorry about all of this I know I'm saying a lot, and I'm sorry lmao but irl I don't talk much xd but all my friends in school know I'm bisexual, and I live in west Asia which is full of homophobic countries and the country I'm in is the UAE so all my friends are Muslim, so it was tough to come out lol, but my other siblings still don't know, but I believe my oldest sibling knows since he's the one that opened my tablet history for my sister xd but yeahhhh this is my coming out story to my sister and friends and female cousin lmao it's longer but I shortened it and thank you if you read it all
Wow what a good video you are cute.i came out as bi a couple of years ago take care.
Great video!!
Since I was young,my parents are busy with their works and relationships with my parents isn’t that good.At that time,I didn’t have many friends,I felt like I was alone and still confused with my gender.When I reach 19,i discovered that I love both genders but only the girl I love is from anime🤣 Isn’t too strange?😂So is it still count that I’m bi? What do u think about that?Your story is amazing and wonderful. Thanks for sharing your story and Have a nice day!Btw my English isn’t that good.Sry about that.
Everyone loves the Chinese guy! Kind of like my Chinese guy. We've ben together over 25 years now.
5:00 i have this kind of someone, that i have known for roughly about 6 years? he’s like the kindest, sweetest soul ive ever known, and i never got the chance to tell him how i felt about him, cause he moved after a couple year knowing him, we were close and best friends, and he is still the bestest friend i ever had, and he said i am the best friend he ever had too, and one thing i know is that im never totally over him, because i always try to find little things of him in everything everywhere and everyone, for example i became friend with certain certain person and i’d notice smt simillar about that person to my best friend, its the thing i do to everyone new i meet, so i know im never actually totally him. i miss him, been years since we meet. but we followed each other on instagram and all, we reply to each other stories once in a while and wish each other birthdays, so yea. but the feelings he made me feel, and the world he made me see, id never forget that
That's such a sweet story :')
I so happy for you guys 🎗💐 I love it 😻 beautiful
The message lady gaga gave out was fucking amazing!!!!! Bless her.
Good advice. Thanks Kevin!
And I think I am in love with you
😉😉😉❤️
Cf. Three Essays On The Theory Of Sexuality, Freud, 1905, and Leonardo Da Vinci And A Memory Of His Childhood, Freud, 1910, and also Le désir et son interpretation, Séminaire 6, Jacques Lacan,1958-1959, :-)
Aww,.really inspiring youre story.....
What I liked most of your advise is - give your parents time cz RMMB HOW LONG IT TOOK YOU👍.
Another one is - first get financially independent. True.
RESPECT
You're very sweet. I wish you all the best.
Our mothers know.
Hi, can you react to a BL series in youtube called "Gaya sa pelikula" it's a good story about guys who are in the closet and their struggles. Thanks!
I've actually seen the whole thing! Loved the series but I felt like the ending was kind of disappointing and rushed.
Yes, I'm gay.
Aww, I hope Lady Gaga will see this video! ❤️
You are very handsome, just saying
nice fluent
Hes gaga stan... help- sksksksk
what book is that ? misleading book 😡
Are you in San Francisco? Do you want to hang out sometime?
Hmm
I love the gaga vid.....
I am sure i am not coming out ..with my family i am not that courageous
you don't need to until you are ready. Maybe that is never. When it is time, you will know. The most important part of coming out isn't coming out to others - it is coming out to yourself. So as long as you are accepting of yourself, it doesn't matter if others know or not. Wish you the best!
@@KevinHao thank u so much ..i actually come out to my mom yesterday n her reaction was the best which people like us always wished to have ...i am not coming out to my dad or anyone not yet but i am so much happy in the future whe. Time came i have a strong backer now 😊thank you so much
Put your paws up baby
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omfg that christian story LOL