OPENING UP ABOUT INFANT LOSS || Stillbirth || ADVICE - DOs and DON'Ts || How To Find Hope? ||
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2021
- It is not a story of sadness, it is a story of how to survive the darkest of trials and turn them into something beautiful in the end. I try to touch upon what personally helped me get through the roughest part of this journey, and also advise people on what to say and what not to say. Again - what works for every person is different. Even some of the things I mention here, my husband doesn't agree with - for instance, talking about another child would not trigger him what so ever, but in my case it would be very different. So that's why I always stress that everyone's story is different. This is just my story and I hope you find some kind of hope in it, and believe that with God by your side - you can get through anything.
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My daughter could have been 21 today, my only comfort is that I have two other wonderful children and that she will wait for my in jannah
Absolutely, may Allah reunite you with her in Jannah, she’s been in good hands up there and I pray you witness that with your own eyes one day in shaa Allah 🤲🏼
Indeed she's a intercession for your entry to paradise. May Allah swt reunite you with her Ameen
In Sha Allah 🤲
This actually breaks my heart 21??? Like wow may Allah reunite you guys in jannah, May she greet you with the biggest warmest hug ever.
Whatttttt??? How you meet her in jannah??
When an infant dies, it’s a reason for a mother to go to jannah. This is a blessing in disguise. I cried reading your post about your baby. And I was touched by your revert story. You made me appreciate islam and being a born Muslim in a way I did not realize before. Now you are blessed with another baby Alhumdulillah. May Allah protect your baby and grant you more blessings. Stay happy and well sister ❤️ I wish I could meet you one day and if I don’t in this world, may we meet in Jannah. You are truly a bright, beautiful and strong woman and you have inspired me ❤️ Jazakallahu Khairan.
She is playing in Jannah waiting for her parents to come. In sha Allah you will be reunited.
Dear Eileen I can’t even explain how much noor I see coming from your face. May Allah bless you and your family always, and take away your pain, and grant you healthy and righteous children.
23:53 “Allah does not burden a soul beyond than it can bear…” (Qur'an, 2:286).
I had a miscarriage the first time I got pregnant and it broke my heart into millions of pieces. My heart and prays with your family she is an angel who will walk you both to Janah ❤️
May Allah grant you, your family and your little one Jannah ul Firdaus. You went through such a difficult trial subhanAllah but it is so good to see you come around the other side & teach everyone about this. Your strength is inspiring
What a strong woman. Mashallah 💕🙏🏼 I am so happy for you now. Alhamdulilah
لا تستخدمو هذا الاسمايل 🙏
I didn’t even experienced the lost of a child. However, I couldn’t stop myself from crying and trying to imagine how that felt. I am so sorry for your lost.
I feel so sorry for your loss. This Video made so emotional. I lost my 17 year old son on the 4th April 2012. It was so sudden. We were not expecting it as he was healthy. This tragedy brought me closer to Allah. May you be blessed with a beautiful healthy baby who becomes the coolness of your eyes.
I have been following you for years & years, your strength is inspiring & I wish you a safe delivery. God Bless you
"This life was never meant to be perfect."!
Who is the senseless person who would dislike this heartbreaking video.
Sometimes people press it by mistake, hope that was the case
They couldn't see clearly with all the tears
Sometimes, sad videos get a dislike because a) accident. b) bots. c) they hate the fact that person went through it. May Allah guide them, He knows best!
hi eslimah!!! i was just binge watching your videos. i spoke about you to everyone and how good of a person you are. eileen i love you and you are one of the strongest person i have ever seen. may Allah accept all your duas and give you a painless labour. ameen
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raajioon, may allah swt reward you and all others who experienced/experiencing this indescribable pain immense rewards. The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, “By the One in Whose hands is my soul, the miscarried fetus will drag his mother to paradise by his [umbilical] cord if she was patient [with the miscarriage], hoping to be rewarded.”
I don’t think I can ever put into words how much respect and admiration I have for you. The way you live your life, the values you embody, the patience you have, your faith…the list is endless. I pray you always have peace and faith; inshallah God blesses with you the family you desire. May Allah protect you and your loved ones. Much love and respect xx
‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ how true SubhanAllah
Everyone has his own hardship and test from Allah.I had been through this too 5years ago.Yarab make the rest of your pregnancy and delivery safe and Yarab give you healthy baby.
Ameen
I cried so much when it happened to you and I really admire you and Haytham for how you dealt with it.
May Allah reward you immensely and reunite you with your baby in Jannah.
Only the strongest believers can go through something this difficult subhanallah. May Allah elevate you and your family to the highest ranks in Jannah al firdous.
I heard that horrible phrase at 20 weeks and I had exactly the feelings you described. Alhamdullilah the hospital was very kind and they cleaned and clothed her and we subsequently had her properly washed and buried. I’ve sadly not been blessed again with a child subhanallah but these tests have brought me so much closer to Allah Alhamdullilah.
same thing happened to me too sis. i didnt even get to find out whether it was a girl or a boy it got taken away to be buried quickly
@@laila8091 Ina lilah wa inna ilayhi rajioon may allah reward our sabr inshalla
May Allah swt make it easy for you and bless you with healthy and righteous children Ameen ❤
@@laila8091 that's so sad, they should have allowed you some time with your baby..May Allah swt make it easy for you ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss and all women who have gone through this. May Allah give you strength and ajar for your pain and loss. May you reunite with your baby in the next life InshaAllah. 💕💕
This video made me cry not tears of sadness but in awe at your strength, honesty, and faith. Your perspective on such hardship is really inspiring. God bless you 💓
You know as I have DMd you already, but I pray everyday that you have a safe pregnancy and most importantly a lifetime together with your healthy and beautiful baby ❤️ MashAllah & InshAllah ❤️
To god we belong and to him we return❣️
Watching this was emotional for me as I went through stillbirth at 7months gestation last year. Hearing your story made me reminisce mine. Allah doesn’t burden us more than we can bear.
I had read it in your instagram last year before ramadhan. I hope Allah Grant you and your husband streght and patience to face it.
And now, Allah almost Grand you a new baby. BarrakaAllahu fik. We love you. 😘
I have been praying for you. I was diagnosed with aggressive cancer during covid and I have two little kids. I have unfortunately been one of those who has grown resentful and far away from god. I pray one day I will feel close to him again. I pray for you and your sweet family. You have taught me so much about Islam. Thank you
May Allah heal you from your illness and give you a long healthy life with your children
You are an inspiration for all of us muslims. I admire you and your love for Allah,your trust and i aspire to become like you one day. May Allah reunite you in Jannah one day dear.
I don't know why I make myself watch these videos it literally breaks my heart. I can't imagine the sadness you feel but the hope in Allah SWT words keepd you comfort and it is only in his words do we find comfort.
I wish I could jump through my phone and hug you… I cried throughout this video. Everything you said is so real and I can’t thank you enough for opening up and sharing such a personal story. May ASWT grant baby Sara highest level of Jannah, grant you an easy delivery and a healthy happy child and grant all bereaved parents sabr and strength to face life after loss and to try again ❤️
It took me 18 years to rethink of having a baby.you are so strong and courageous.
And you know what the memory never faded a minute. And I am scared it might happen .I am almost half the way. Love you so much😘😘😘😘
I pray for you to have a safe delivery and that your child will be safe with you insha'Allah
I've heard those words. I carried twins. I've stood at the hospital with no baby to take home and watch every one else take theirs home. I felt the after birth pains and had a body ready to feed children. It's been 16 years but it's still too painful to talk about it.
May Allah help you through this trial and allow you to reunite with your babies in Jannah 🤲🏼
May Allah heal your heart Ameen...
May Allah ease your pain.
I have just came across your video and I am very sorry for your loss. I have lost my newborn daughter after delivery. She was born alive but she died 2 hours after delivery. She had some problems and she was born 5 weeks before the due date. I have never forgotten her even if I did not have the chance to see her and hold her... That was the doctor's decision as I had a c-section and she needed to be transferred to another hospital right away so they took her and she never came back. My husband and my parents saw her.. I feel that my right to see my daughter was stolen from me and that was another additional pain. My daughter's name is Rayhana and she will be always in my heart. We will be meeting in Jannah inshallah. My amazing rainbow son was born on 2016 and he's about 7 now. I wish you all the best. Lots of love!
And Inshallah because you have become closer to Allah after such a huge test it shows that Allah has rewarded you greatly inshallah
One of the most real and profoundly spiritual videos I’ve ever seen. May Allah always use you for goodness.
My daughter would be 3 today♡ neonatal death. It is heartbreaking but Allah has a plan for all of us and In sha Allah our children will be waiting for us. I had our second son a year later. The pregnancy was hard and full of fears but he has brightened up our life again. May Allah grant you a healthy full term baby Eslimah, you are a strong person♡♡♡
You are a strong, beautiful women inside and out. Your baby girl is lucky to have you as her mother, may you reunite in Jannah 💜
Here crying my eyes people. May Allah make her a reason for you guys to get the best in both worlds Ameen.
Unimaginable. My heart breaks for you and your husband. What a strong woman going through labour and everything💔
Your strength is really inspiring Eileen. The fact you want to help others by sharing your story says a lot about you, you are such a beautiful soul. May God grant you a safe delivery and bless you and your family ❤️
Praying for you and your husband. You are such an inspiration to so many people!
We love you, sister. Prayers for healing, happiness, and hope. We will continue to honor and pray for everyone going through this. I cannot imagine your pain and strength. You, my friend, are truly amazing.
Dear Eileen, watching you reading the caption was heartbreaking. You are so graceful in facing your trials and overcoming them and I’m so inspired by you! Thank you for sharing this personal and painful experience with us. You have inspired so many of us to be strong while facing adversity and trials, to hold on to hope when struck with helplessness. So much love for you and Baby Sarah.💛
This is so heartfelt and beautiful Eileen. You are truly a blessing in this world. Thank you for sharing your story with us and thank you for raising so much awareness ♥️ May Allah swt bless you in this life and the hereafter 🥰
Nooo, I would love to see the how the person who says "you can just have another one" handles it if this happened to them, would they want to be told they "can just have another one".... that's a sad, mean person.
God bless you, Eileen, and inshallah we have a beautiful healthy baby here soon!!! You will DO GREAT!!
Eslimah you’re the most beautiful person inside out. Every word that came out of your mouth in this video was so soothing. I’ve also experienced something similar and felt like I couldn’t move on from that point but believe me watching and following your journey on instagram has also helped me to heel. I can literally feel the love of God in you and watching you makes me want to be more closer to God.
May Allah bless you with the best in this Life and Akhirah. Your take away points from your loss are a reminder for every listener to not take their blessings for granted. Much love to you and your family ❤️❤️
This video was more than inspiring! I love how you are trying to selflessly help other women who have sadly gone through the same hardship and let them know there's hope and goodness same as other women let you know and soothed you when you mostly needed it! My heart and prayers go out to all the women around the world that had to go through this, some even all alone, in bad conditions, and poor countries that couldn't provide the proper care (physical and mental)
You are truly a beautiful person and I pray to Allah SWT that He blesses you with His mercy, health and happiness and I pray that He keeps rainbow baby healthy and happy forever 💞🥰❤️💗
Your strength and faith inspire me. Thank you for making this video, I know it must be hard to sit down and film it. I’m sure every single one of us watching took something away from the video, no matter our story or where we are right now. May Allah bless you and your husband and reward you for your patience and strength ❤️ Praying for your delivery ❤️
"Behind the shell, everybody is going through something!"
You’re so strong MashaAllah 🤍 I can’t imagine that I’d come out strong like you if something like that happened to me 😭 God bless you
I have been following from the day I came to Qatar
I lost my baby in 3 months, to be honest your story have been my strength and your really a strong lady
Mashallah
I saw a patient giving birth to her stillborn knowing she was already gone ... it was so heart breaking. My heart and prayers go out to you dear and to every single woman who's been through this painful process. And thank you for talking about it ! Inna lilahi wa Inna ilayhi raji3oun
May Allah grant you the highest ranks of Jannah. Ameen 🤲🥺
InshAllah Allah will unite you with your sweet baby girl in Janat Ul Firdaus. My mother also lost her twin babies in the second trimester of her pregnancy and I still cannot wrap my head around it although its been many years.
Comparison is the thief of joy. I really will be remembering that. Thank you.
Eileen, you are an inspiration 🤍to all the women around the world going through loss. May Allah reward you and bless this pregnancy Ameenx💞🥰
This was beautiful Eslimah! I haven’t gone through this exact loss but anyone can relate through general hardships we all face, and how to deal with them- which you spoke so eloquently about. Please do more faith related videos, there are so many bloggers who completely dismiss this aspect- it’s so heavily focused on brands and selling certain products. These kinds of videos really bring tranquility to your soul. May Allah reward you. ❤️❤️
cant imagine what you have been thorough but your so inspiring i love your outlook and how u healed, i dont knw u but im proud of u as a fellow Muslim in islam May Allah bless u with goodness in this world and the next Ameen xx
This was so beautiful Eslimah.
Im so happy you were able to come out of this much stronger, and wiser....
Wishing you all the best amd were all so happy to hear that your doing well.
Xxx
This is such an important video! And you speak so eloquently. Allahumma barik. May Allah bless you for all of your sabr and everything you have been through. Such an eyeopening Reminder
Salams! I recently started following you and remember when a lot of influencers had posted about your loss when it happened. I'm so sorry you've had to go through the loss of a child as I never wish that on anyone ever. The only think that I can minutely relate to is a cancer scare for my son when he was 6 months old and surgery that he went through at the time. Alhamdulillah it was not cancer and he is a healthy 11 year old boy, but just the trauma that I went through at the time still makes me cry and the emotions that I felt for the parents that were going through that process with children that did have cancer still haunts me. I am encouraged by your strength in overcoming and coming out of this test with such humbleness and the will to heal and go on. I pray for a healthy birth and long healthy life for your child and children in the future inshallah❤️ May Allah reunite you in Jannah with all your family❤️
I feel like I went through half this journey with you... All our stories are different and we all deal with loss and heartache differently. Your positive energy, hope and faith for the future is infectious. Alghamdulillaa you have given people raw insight and belief for the future. May Allah bless you and your family. Ameen
Thank you for having the strength and the trust to share your story Eileen
Soooo inspiring seeing you being so strong, and all this because of your strong trust you’ve got in Allah.
Allah is love and He loves us the most...and it’s so important to never forget this.
You are such a blessing Eslimah... You give me strength on my hard days, because you are one reason to remind myself that “this too shall pass”, and that “Allah knows best”...
I wish you a safe and healthy delivery, and may you and your baby come out healthy out of it 🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻
This is such a beautiful video, not only will it be useful for parents who lost a child but is also spreading such a powerful message for muslims out there. It's so important to constantly remind ourselves the will and plan of Allah is far more greater than what we can imagine. He always wants THE BEST for us. It's so important to remember that and always glorify him not only during the hard times but also the good times. May Allah reward you for good words, keep you and your family safe from evil eye and grant you happiness and contentment in what is good and meant for you.
This was so overwhelming and inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing. May Allah reward you and your husband for your sabr and May Allah reunite you with your little angel in Jannah. Ameen.❤️🤲🏽
The most truthful and healing phrase you said, that Allah give us tests and crisis knowing that we could handle it..
I deliver my first baby boy 20 years ago, he passed away after 5 months 😭 It took me and my husband more than 2 years to heal from that shock, to think about another baby, and to go through the pregnancy journey another time..
So, take your time Dear Eileen, and may Allah fill your heart with peace and faith.
I have not been able to bring myself to watch this until I’ve just read on insta that you’ve given birth to beautiful baby Lily. Allahumma barik laha. So happy for you, and I pray that Allāh bestows you with everything that is good, and protects you from heartache. Amīn
Salam aleykoum,
I wanted to take the time to thank you for this video . I haven't been through a stillbirth, but since the birth of my daughter I have been very anxious and fearful of anything that could happen to her, or to me ( sickness/ death) meaning that I have been very fearful of Allah's decree and supreme power on our life (having grown up without my biological parents, I had this trauma and fear of not being able to care for my daughter as she grows up). Though this video wasn't really meant for me, it has helped me understand what tawakkul really is, and the importance of being content with whatever God sends our way wether it be good or hardships. Hearing you share your thoughts on what happened to you , and show so much strengh and faith in Allah really helps me see things differently.
Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you all the best and an easy delivery of a healthy baby with a healthy mother and father . Amine
Assalamu aleykum Eileen, I’m glad you made this video to tell us your story, it’s such a taboo in our society, people as you say tend to shove experiences like yours under the carpet and it’s positive that people like you finally speak up about their experience because it is SO important. My mother-in-law went through the same thing when she was pregnant with her first baby, she was 8-month pregnant and suddenly she had to give birth to her stillborn daughter, and she was nineteen at the time. I have such admiration for women like my mother-in-law and you who found the strength to go through this huge trial and come out of it stronger and grateful for the blessings Allah granted you through this trial. I pray I have the same strength as you two if this ever happens to me, may Allah protect all mothers from this pain. May Allah bless you with pious children and help you through these difficult moments of your life, may He allows you to reunite with your daughter in Jannah, I’m sure Ibrahim aleyhi salam is taking good care of her 🤲🏼
Although I am not a mother your story made my heart cry, I feel that this loss is mine 😭, stay strong hero we love you so much 💓
You will always be her mother, and nothing can take that away from you or her. I wept watching this. Sending a much love to all three of you ❤️
Thank you for taking the time to make this video! Very much appreciated. May Allah make your current path through pregnancy and childbirth a blessed one, Ameen ❤
I cried when i first read your post last year and i also cried when i heard you reading it. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji3oun. May Allah bless you and your family Eileen!
I lost my baby this march after one week of my delivery .. i feel u 💔 my heart is with u may allah give u a better child next time
SHES A ROLE MODEL!!! For sisters struggling out there just know YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT through the sorrow times Insha'allah❤️️
Thank you for this! It means a lot! I lost my baby too at his 5th month due to severe birth defects 😔💔 may they rest in peace in jannah! My heart is full of blessings for ur future baby n u.insha Allah everything will go smooth and everything will be just perfect this time.lots of love n dua ❤ plz u too keep me in ur dua so that I can get healed in a beautiful way n move ahead with stronger faith and akhlaq InshaAllah 🥲🤲 and also plz pray for me to have a healthy baby soon! I really really want to be a mum with my whole heart.i cannot see any baby in pain! I hope n pray Allah doesn't test any of my muslim sisters with this kinda pain. Plz pray for me to have a blessed healthy child 😔🤲
May Allah swt make it easy for you and grant you healthy pious children Ameen Xx
When the angel of death takes the life of a baby Allah says to the angel of death you have taken the child of my servant and the angel of death says yes and Allah asks what did my servant do and the angel of death says your servant praises you ( by praise I mean saying Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raajioon) . Then Allah says to make a special place for my servant in jannah. I’m so sorry for you loss insallah you will meet with your child in jannah
"no one else can heal you except the one who created you" this touched my soul thank you for sharing with us your story with all sincerity and to let us see in every test a huge opportunity to get Closer to Allah. أحبك في الله ربي يعوضك خير و يجبر قلبك و قلب كل مومن ❤️
Masha الله, your words are so thoughtful and empowering for any person going through something, it doesn't have to be loss. What ypur friend said is very touching and meaningful, to heal you need to look for the message or reason behind it. Thank you for sharing this empowering video and may you get blessed holding your baby healthy soon إن شاء الله. I think Haitham should make a video to fathers of still born babies on how to comfort themselves and their wives.
YOU TAUGHT ME A LOT!!! ♥️ Thank you so much! ♥️ May Allah bless your amazing soul and rewards you Jannah ♥️
Your strength & tawakkul is truly inspiring and humbling. I cried throughout this whole video, thank you for opening up about something so personal. So much love, respect & duas for you! X
This took me another step closer to Allah. Thank you for this. This is so pure, so beautiful.
I'm watching and crying at the same time, I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful soul ♥ We love you sm ♥
So much inspiration and knowledge to gain here..
much love and Duaa’s out to you and your family 💖💖
Thank u for sharing. This will really help so many w/ any hardship! Inshallah u have a smooth & safe delivery.💛
You are SUCH an inspiring person, honestly! Your words are so comforting and soothing.. something I needed to hear 3 years ago. It's crazy how our stories are so similar, SubhanAllah. May Allah ease your sabr and grant us our beautiful babies in Jannah insha'Allah ❤️
I’m so sorry about what you went through, I can’t even imagine what that must have been like.
Please post again if possible, I really miss your channel and content. You have taught me a lot about Islam, and I really enjoy watching your videos.
I'm not even a mother, never being pregnant but your words were so deep and helpful and mashallah your faith so inspiring, may Allah reunite you with your baby girl in Jannah and give you all the blessings in this life
Subhaan’Allah Eileen, your strength is commendable. Every second of this video is helpful. Such eloquence in your speech. May Allah reunite you all with baby Sara in Jannah one day Insha’Allah Ameen.
Dear Eileen, I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you, your husband and the family. I wish you all the best in life. Hugs, love and prayers, Purple Violet xxx 💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜
You’re so strong, I wish you a healthy pregnancy & delivery inshAllah 🤍
You're strong mama. You have an angel in jannah. In Sha Allah, you'll hold her there forever.
Your strength in speaking about your loss is an inspiration to me and to others. May Allah swt bless you and your family immensely💕
This is the most heart touching video I’ve watched. Your faith in Allah increases mine. I lost my dad last November and it’s never been easy. But every word you said lingers with my feelings and emotions. You’re a gem Eileen. I love you and I’ll always be your supporter and follower.
6:30, I heard exactly these words, I still feeling them in my heart.
Al hamdoulilah for everything
Same 😭
@@3ichaa618 al hamdoulilah for everything my sister, our children are playing together in janna😊
'We' love your family.
Negative yet 'positive'.
So much, you are blessed with...so much 'wisdom', with your 'English' English, with your 'faith', etc.
watching this and crying 💔💔 i agree with everythinggggg !!!!!💔🤍
i was actually gonna tag you on this .. may Allah bring you sabr and all mothers who went through this .. all the love and support♥️
I felt your pain. I lost my only daughter 6mnths in the womb and how difficult and surreal it was. Patience and god will grant you in sha Allah.
Such a beautiful video. Thanks for sharing, it couldn’t have been easy. It will help so many. We all can learn something from your story about gratitude, faith in God, trials, and hope. Thanks for sharing. May God continue to give you and Haytham strength and faith, may you be blessed with your healthy baby very soon iA and may you someday all be reunited as you said, with your little girl again. 💕🙏
Allah reward you and your husband for ur patience. Yes, I agree about performing the same rituals despite the condition. I would always fully clean up my patients with respect eons ago when I was at Loma Linda MC. Every human deserves that respect. Acknowledging the loss and simply be there for you when needed.
you're so so strong and such a well spoken person. in shaa allah allah will make everything easier for you both! may allah keep ur new beautiful baby and both of you safe and healthy ❤