Therapist Reacts To: Cherry Wine by Hozier *trigger warning: DV* Male version of Ultraviolence?!

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  • Опубликовано: 16 дек 2024

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  • @elioharrington
    @elioharrington Год назад +528

    I always took the "sleep to the freezing" in a darker sense. When you get hypothermia, one of the symptoms is sleepiness, but falling asleep is how you die in the intense cold. So the girl in this song can be like a sanctuary/respite, but even when she's bringing him "peace", she's killing him.

    • @Lbbrooke
      @Lbbrooke Год назад +36

      This is exactly how I’ve always taken that part.

    • @angelalurtz3638
      @angelalurtz3638 Год назад +23

      Spot on, as a kid in Alaska we were always warned not to ever fall asleep if we were stuck outside in the winter

    • @keymeko95
      @keymeko95 Год назад +3

      Same I took it like that as well

    • @loTonks
      @loTonks Год назад +9

      I'm pretty sure there's an interview of hozier somewhere where he explains that he actually meant it this way

    • @TheGalwayjoyce
      @TheGalwayjoyce Год назад +1

      Bingo

  • @myliewalls721
    @myliewalls721 10 месяцев назад +103

    “He hit me and it felt like a kiss” is a line from a song written by Carole King and Hozier said he actually wrote this song with that particular line in mind

  • @aeri_taylors-version
    @aeri_taylors-version Год назад +300

    i think the most heartbreaking thing about this song is that despite everything, in the end Cherry Wine IS a love song 💔

    • @aja6647
      @aja6647 3 месяца назад +4

      It’s really not - it’s denial disguised as love.

    • @savantfool7123
      @savantfool7123 2 месяца назад +1

      nope...thats being delusional

    • @MPREGCOOKING
      @MPREGCOOKING Месяц назад

      ​@@aja6647 That's exactly it though, isn't it? Denial disguised as a love song. You quite literally said it yourself. It is still a "love" song.

    • @aja6647
      @aja6647 Месяц назад

      @@MPREGCOOKING No I didn’t. Read again before putting words in my mouth. A disguise means a trickery, fraud or even dishonesty, FYI. It is therefore not a love song. If you don’t believe me, believe how the artist (who downright wrote the song) is horrified every time people propose to that song 😂

    • @MPREGCOOKING
      @MPREGCOOKING Месяц назад +1

      @@aja6647 For Christ's sake, dude. Do you have any reading comprehension? You. Literally. Said. It. Yourself. It's about ABUSIVE LOVE. It's still love at the end of the day, my man. You can love your abuser - not that it's right. And I said absolutely nothing about this song being performed at weddings, because it shouldn't be. I will reiterate the fact that you CAN love your abuser. I don't know what you don't understand about this, so please don't bother replying any further because I am not having a tit for tat with someone who has no media literacy. Good day.

  • @BayawKhem
    @BayawKhem Год назад +118

    the way she tells me im hers and shes mine - verbal abuse to
    the way she shows me im hers and shes mine - physical abuse

    • @naila6291
      @naila6291 10 месяцев назад +10

      i feel like that second line could also be like crossing his sexual boundaries and not really respecting his consent

  • @Varient
    @Varient Год назад +128

    I've heard of people using this song as a wedding song and it always deeply concerns me, because this song 1000% is about DV. Just goes to show the importance of looking more into lyrics when choosing a song.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Год назад +43

      Wedding song?! Wow. That’s wild to me. That would be so awkward and I would want to be like “sooo this isn’t exactly a love song”…

    • @BugAuwen
      @BugAuwen 6 дней назад

      extra scary knowing that the music video has DV victims in it and actively is bringing awareness. like how can someone look this song up for their wedding and not know what they are doing?

  • @Joydisaster
    @Joydisaster Год назад +110

    Thank you so much for reacting to Hozier, it saddens me he’s such an underrated artist when he’s one of the absolutely most talented people out there. I met him once after his concert and he was the sweetest and most gentle soul I’ve ever met. It hurts me that there’re people who are capable of taking advantage of this. Hope there’ll be more reactions to his songs ❤️

    • @BelovedChatter
      @BelovedChatter Год назад +1

      I hope Hozier doesn’t find out how saddened and hurt you are.

    • @Joydisaster
      @Joydisaster 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@BelovedChatter I saw him couple weeks ago and he didn’t seem to know, you can sleep well again 🙏❤️

  • @augustine7570
    @augustine7570 Год назад +125

    What makes me love this more is the fact that in the music video of this song, the roles are actually reversed, and there's a woman experiencing this kind of relationship, meaning that this can happen to everyone regardless of their gender. I have a huge respect for this man and what he does. Thank you for the video. It was really nice. 🙏🤍

  • @etherealibra1642
    @etherealibra1642 Год назад +57

    I’ve listened to his music since I was 8-9 and this song was always one of my favourites bc of its gorgeous melody, now I sit here almost 20 just coming out of an abusive relationship, bawling at the lyrics of this song that I couldn’t quite comprehend at that age. He is just brilliant, and I hope he never lets anyone treat him this way ever again. Please do more hozier reactions mere!! Love you🫶🫶🤞☺️

  • @adekribre
    @adekribre Год назад +33

    To me this song is the answer to the "why do/did you stay?", because when it was good it was amazing and I convinced myself it was ok

  • @avalonlperry
    @avalonlperry Год назад +63

    Another great reaction as always, thank you Mere! This is such an beautiful and heartbreaking song, I love Hozier's music. If you're planning to react to any more of it, I would recommend you react to "From Eden" along with the music video. It's one of his more underrated songs, but the lyricism is incredible.

  • @papl20
    @papl20 Год назад +18

    What I like the most about this song is that the song is clearly from a male pov but the music video is from a female pov. So creative 😊

  • @FrenchRedHawk2011
    @FrenchRedHawk2011 Год назад +40

    A powerful song and a quality reaction from you! This song and your words shine a light on an important issue: men as victims of domestic violence is a reality that is often overlooked. What can we do differently as a society/culture to make men feel like they can share there stories and pain instead of “being a man” and depressing it?
    If looking to do more Hozier, his new album is awesome. I’d love to hear your reaction to any of those songs, but especially “All Things End” and “First Light.”

  • @parakeetparayeet5187
    @parakeetparayeet5187 Год назад +12

    Ah, so happy you reacted to one of my requests :) Great analysis as always. I think “To be alone” by Hozier would also be a wonderful listen

  • @lisam7861
    @lisam7861 Год назад +18

    You should react to Work Song. It’s such a beautiful-sounding song and I’ve never quite been capable of fully grasping the lyrics, so would love your take on it!

  • @user-pb4ni1tr8l
    @user-pb4ni1tr8l Год назад +10

    we need more hozier reactions pleasee🙏

  • @pele_the_phoenix
    @pele_the_phoenix Год назад +22

    Well, for once, I’m speechless! 😂 Honestly, I have absolutely nothing to add. You covered it all!. Wonderful reaction and analysis. 👏🏼

  • @noonenooneatall5876
    @noonenooneatall5876 Год назад +10

    Omg I'm so glad you reacted to this song, I absolutely love Hozier

  • @sadmoms
    @sadmoms Год назад +13

    i’ve always loved this song, but can’t believe i never actually listened to the lyrics. i thought it was this beautiful sweet song lmao. to be fair i’m mesmerized by the guitar playing 🔥but thank you for doing this song mere!!

    • @raleighkapp-mcdonald1300
      @raleighkapp-mcdonald1300 8 месяцев назад +2

      That’s powerful because often abusive relationships can seem beautiful and sweet and mesmerize people but underneath it’s ugly.

  • @Myatheroses
    @Myatheroses 10 месяцев назад +2

    When you’re abused and literally harmed, your body produces some endorphins. When I used to self harm, the blood would literally feel weirdly like a sweet release but there is shame and sadness with it.

  • @somuchsavv
    @somuchsavv Год назад +9

    Hozier is the absolute best! I’m excited to hear your thoughts on this song! 🖤

  • @looseleaflyra
    @looseleaflyra Год назад +3

    i’ve been a fan of hozier for many many years and for most of that time i listened to cherry wine as a love song and only a love song. only about a year ago did i realize what it was really about and shit it messed with me

  • @jadenbfa-f1u
    @jadenbfa-f1u Год назад +11

    Mere, you def need to listen to Bjork. 100% recommend her album “Vulnicura”. Lionsong and Black Lake (quite a long song) are really worth the listen and the lyrics are next level. Love you always❤

    • @pabloescobarschanclas
      @pabloescobarschanclas Год назад +1

      commenting on this so i won’t forget to check out these songs 🥲

  • @thechelseachannel794
    @thechelseachannel794 9 месяцев назад

    Thanks Mere for explaining this song! Wasn’t sure what a lot of it meant at first, but now I do! It’s a beautiful sad song. ❤

  • @perlacampos4628
    @perlacampos4628 Год назад +5

    Imagine starting a book club with your book and doing a live stream with your members and then posting it for the rest of your viewers… imagine 💞

  • @Myatheroses
    @Myatheroses 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love this song when I’m sad

  • @tellmeifyouwannagohome9729
    @tellmeifyouwannagohome9729 Год назад +5

    MORE HOZIER 💖

  • @weirdo337
    @weirdo337 3 месяца назад

    I read the “open hand or closed fist” part as kind of commentary on how male domestic abuse victims are often ignored cause like a woman slapping her boyfriend is an image that’s used so often in romcoms and everything and so normalised so men can often be ignored when it’s that kind of thing so it’s like, open hand or closed fist, it’s the same thing either way.

  • @kupchoi
    @kupchoi Год назад +1

    Awesome breakdown of this song. Great job 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @keithmoore8702
    @keithmoore8702 Год назад +7

    Hi Mere. I made a point of watching the music video for this first before your reaction.
    The song IS about the violence he has suffered because of her but for some reason I don't know why, he has reversed the roles in the video. She is the one with the bruises and seeing her black eye in the mirror. It's pretty emotional. Would love to hear your comments after watching it. Love from the UK 🇬🇧

    • @aeri_taylors-version
      @aeri_taylors-version Год назад +15

      i think the purpose is to show that abuse can happen to anybody, that’s why the lyrics is for male victims while the mv is for female victim

    • @keithmoore8702
      @keithmoore8702 Год назад

      ​@@aeri_taylors-versionyes good point
      Makes sense

    • @laincoubert7236
      @laincoubert7236 Год назад +2

      @@aeri_taylors-version i might be reaching here but what if it's about what "sells" more? as in less people would be drawn (at least i would assume) to the reversed video. i believe the same thing happened with Take Me to Church where he replaced "he" with "she" in the lyrics but then settled on portraying a gay couple + homophobic alt right group in the music video.

    • @AnxietyRat
      @AnxietyRat Год назад +2

      ​@@laincoubert7236yeah I mean he was also able to get a very famous actress to play the main character in the music video.... But yeah I agree with the person above me in the reason for him changing these things is that it can happen to anybody.... I think take me to church was switched because the song is kind of about his OWN sexuality in contrast to his religion he grew up in but... He was also very inspired by the gay men that were being beaten to death in Russia on livestreams back then ... So that's where the music video story comes in.

  • @mdz2186
    @mdz2186 Год назад +1

    A beautiful song about a man that leaves a toxic relationship : Keeping me alive by Jonathan Roy. The acoustic version blows me away. He also has one narrated as the close friend/family of someone deeply struggling with mental health : lost
    If you are interested in another song about a female point of view of DV, Bad thing from Jesy Nelson is on this theme with a music video.

  • @irina009
    @irina009 Год назад +17

    I fell in love with Hozier's music because of this song and just like Ultraviolencee it affected me a lot because i've lost loved ones to this cycle of domestic violence. When it comes to Johnny Depp and Amber Heard's case, theirs was a toxic relationship but there's nothing like mutual abuse, which is what a lot of people who don't want to take sides say. Johnny has a history of violence and he got involved with Amber when she was very young, he abused her till she'd had enough and fought back, but the thing with our world is its fixation with perfect victims and the moment you don't fit into that mould they're not for you. The case is so saddening because it was a social media prosecution and how Amber was mocked by everyone is sickening. The only thing it did is make it easier for men like Depp to scare their victims to silence with similar lawsuits

  • @jimjohns9051
    @jimjohns9051 Год назад +2

    Video starts at 2:40

  • @ravennoodles705
    @ravennoodles705 10 месяцев назад

    Honestly I think being lost in the tide of her breathing could also mean that he's afraid she'll end her life if he leaves her. Often and domestic violence situations the abuser will threaten to take their life. I dunno if that's what he meant but as all poetry, Hozier's lyrics have so many meanings.

  • @wakatoo2588
    @wakatoo2588 Год назад +2

    I really thought this was going to be a Lana song but then I remembered she sang Summer Wine

  • @chickenwithitsheadcutoff
    @chickenwithitsheadcutoff Год назад +29

    a lot of people take this as a straightforward love song on first listen because of the soft vocals and instrumental and even the lullaby-like melody, which i think is deliberate. on a casual first listen, the most concern i’ve seen people show has been a vague sense of something being off. it’s only when you start to really examine the lyrics that you understand what’s actually going on. beautiful song and great analysis, it was so interesting seeing this from your perspective + i learned a couple new things!

  • @pamelapiano3904
    @pamelapiano3904 Год назад +9

    I clicked on this immediately because I thought this was Lana’s Cherry song!! 😂I’m Lana and Mere obsessed 😅
    Really glad I stayed to listen to something new ❤ You get so deep into the lyrics, I love it

  • @zsalem
    @zsalem 2 месяца назад

    This song is a paradox. I can't listen to it very often even though, in my opinion, Hozier is a remarkable artist.
    First time I heard this incredibly beautiful melody and then realized darkness in lyrics it hit me like a truck (still does)
    "Open hand or closed fists would be fine"... Jesus. It is not fine. It is as "NOT FINE" as they come.

  • @clarificandome
    @clarificandome Год назад +2

    that makes me wanna cry…

  • @irvingpimentell
    @irvingpimentell Год назад +8

    Please react to Breathe me by Sia
    “Breathe Me” is a cry for help, a cry for hope, a cry for survival. It talks about depression and the feeling of not being good enough. The feeling of worthlessness and no self love. A such beautiful song !

  • @Sparkleanais
    @Sparkleanais Год назад

    Hi!! RUclips just recommended one of your videos and I must say I've been binge watching everything I can! (I've watched alllll videos of ldr reacts already)
    I love your fresh perspective, and yes, I do agree cherry and wine is almost a male version of ultraviolence. There's something in both songs that bother me, maybe because I can somewhat relate. I absolutely adore Hozier, but Cherry and Wine is not one of his best songs IMO lol
    Recently he released a new album, sorta based on Dantes Inferno/pandemic, and it's so beautiful it almost hurt in a beautiful way. He sings about the different levels of hell in his own perspective, and I particularly love Francesca and I, Carrion - probably the most love song in this album lol But all of it is just a masterpiece, and it would be amazing to see your perspective! The poetry in his lyric is not always obvious and the more I listen and read about it all, it makes me realize how much of a genius he is!

  • @nimkiibinesiikwe
    @nimkiibinesiikwe Год назад +4

    Can you do Unknown/Nth by Hozier? 🥺🤍

  • @alessia-re7mg
    @alessia-re7mg Месяц назад

    out of the topic, i really love ur hair 💕💕

  • @thytuz
    @thytuz Год назад +2

    Amazing❤

  • @marykatedoyle9574
    @marykatedoyle9574 Год назад +2

    PLEASE listen to the new album! I would love to hear your takes

  • @ninabridget5403
    @ninabridget5403 Год назад +2

    please react to "Hard times" by Ethel Cain. its very heavy, but its written so beautifully

  • @breathingroom9786
    @breathingroom9786 Год назад +1

    You should react to From Eden by Hozier. It's a wonderful song and a strong message

  • @NorthSideNova9
    @NorthSideNova9 9 месяцев назад

    I think it crazier when you feel like you lived the song

  • @SpoolinB16A
    @SpoolinB16A 24 дня назад

    You should react to ‘’shrike’’ or ‘’ would that i’’ poetry on these for me at least hit my soul

  • @mnahbangtan9138
    @mnahbangtan9138 Год назад +2

    I think u should do more about hozier songs

  • @othinus
    @othinus Год назад +1

    for another artist with vivid imagery in his writing, please check out *ONE OK ROCK - We Are AMBITIONS JAPAN DOME TOUR*

  • @emmapanzica
    @emmapanzica Год назад +1

    Hey I have a question. Will your book be available at bookstores such as Barnes and noble when it comes out and will you still receive a profit from me purchasing it from there?

  • @MxEverybody
    @MxEverybody 24 дня назад

    I think you could do some pretty good reactions to some of BTS’s more emotional introspective songs. Loved this reaction!

  • @DarkOneSixtyfour
    @DarkOneSixtyfour 10 месяцев назад

    Really wished you watched the music video he made for this. At the end it shows faces of dv survivors.

  • @Alex_Traduz
    @Alex_Traduz Год назад +2

    *I would love to see your reaction and thoughts about Nicki Minaj's new song "Last Time I Saw You", It's a emotional track about his father who died* 🙏🏼😿

  • @katieprater1566
    @katieprater1566 Год назад +1

    Please do “Work Song”

  • @daniellebailey6802
    @daniellebailey6802 Год назад +1

    Portulaca can survive just about anything. ❤

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Год назад +2

      Hell yes it can!! I write about it in the book, how it was a sign when I read the little card with care instructions for the plant. I have it everywhere now. Love that you shared this! ♥️

  • @derlis_whatever7033
    @derlis_whatever7033 Год назад

    I need your reaction to First Time and Butchered Tongue from his new album

  • @savantfool7123
    @savantfool7123 2 месяца назад

    I dont get why people propose to others at his concerts with this song. Like...Take ANYTHING but that song

  • @thee.angelgabriel
    @thee.angelgabriel Год назад +5

    i truly cannot wait to read your book mere! 💞 i believe you put me onto a new artist with this reaction. 🫶🏼

  • @GuthoEspanha
    @GuthoEspanha Год назад +2

    SO... PLEASE REACT THE : French restaurant - Lana Del Rey

  • @GreySavo
    @GreySavo 7 месяцев назад

    Please, alkaline or missing limbs by sleep token. The lyricism lightens my soul

  • @chasedaniels8086
    @chasedaniels8086 Год назад +3

    Can you do "Cherry" by lana del rey?

  • @yvonnesurette
    @yvonnesurette 2 месяца назад

    "Why do I have chills?" Um, it's HOZIER.

  • @Pingwatt
    @Pingwatt 9 месяцев назад

    can you do "Coney Island" by TS pweeseeeeeeeeeeee

  • @LexGomez-q1s
    @LexGomez-q1s Год назад +1

    Love song, by lana del rey

  • @Freezerbride5
    @Freezerbride5 Год назад +1

    No one compares to Lana 😅 but this song is pretty good

  • @karens5022
    @karens5022 Месяц назад

    Dude, is she ever going to stop yapping about herself and get to the damn song?????? Jesus. I’m about to just give up