Why Won’t Guys Wife Her Up?
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Today, we're checking out a video posted by a female fitness influencer who claims that she recently realized men don't like muscular, physically strong women. This raises the question: Can you be a strong woman and still embrace femininity? Let's discuss it.
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All women need to remember or relearn this : your femininity is your greatest strength, not a weakness.
I think plenty of women in this generation will eventually despise these last few. Sold a bad bill of goods. It's been such inconsistent advice that only serves to make women look good and appeal to their inner vanity, not actual good advice for their life. Those older feminists are trying to justify their choices that are TOO LATE to correct, so they manage and rationalize their choices that's just being human, yet not someone giving constructive advice. And also those previous generations had far more of a "grab-bag" of feminism where they could pick what parts suited them, and ignore the rest. This generation merely watched that farce and are true-blue believers. Why wouldn't they?
They turn femininity into toxic femininity.
Preach!
Accept in sport.
It’s the only strength men naturally do not have
I went to university with a very fit girl, as in hardcore six-pack, muscled arms and legs. She trained as a bodybuilder because she wanted to be the best in cheerleading. But while her body was totally trained, she still kept her femininity, loved wearing dresses, makeup and was just a sweet woman.
It's about the personality
Did she have tattoos all over her and (as Vincent Vega said) "all that $#it in her face?"
Did she have a nosering and an impulse purchase tattoo of the word 'serenity' on her neck? 😂
ywa chances are if she was a cheerleader she wasn’t bodybuilding like this chick. There is a difference between been fit and super muscular and being jacked. That girl was super fit and muscular but not jacked. The rock is jacked this girl is jakced.
Training as a bodybuilder to be a cheerleader? These things can't go together. They're very different skills and workout regimines.
@@dmdudes2 Why blaming her for looking after herself? Probably more fit than you are.
There's nothing wrong with her. The fact that she came to this realization on her own is impressive and a sign that maybe she can still meet the right guy.
Yup
It's not impressive, the bar is just extremely low.
I don't disagree, but I wonder if the "right guy" is among the men she wants.
She’s a man in a female skin suit and she’s been run through to the point she cannot pair bond, if you want her that says a lot about you guys.
@@InimitaPaul- 💯. These guys are lost.
Hey Brett, I discovered your channel a few months ago and I want to tell you how much you've influenced me for good. I'm a very masculine, tomboy girl like yourself and your description of your teenage years hanging with the boys and rejecting anything feminine sounds exactly like my last 4-5 years. Watching you gives me a lot of hope for my future and I want to say thank you for being an amazing female and Christian example.
Also, just know that most of this is having to do with the energy you put out and how you present yourself. If you're into traditionally male hobbies like gaming, computers, sports, welding for all I care, that's completely fine. Or if you want to be career-focused. That's all good with me personally. It's more just: Don't dress like a man and don't try to overpower me or lead in the relationship. Say important stuff and call me out on my crap, but don't try to take the reigns.
I love your closing statement, “femininity is not a weakness”. Such an important thing for women to know.
Femininity is not a weakness. It’s a power. My husband never brings me a bottle of water without loosing up the cap first. I couldn’t even train him to do it even if I wanted to. He’s just used to open all the bottles and jars for me 😂
@@A-broken-clay-jarawe so cute! I love it 😂
Well, it is "physical" weakness and submissiveness to masculinity, but it's not weakness per se. It is strength in the things that masculinity is weak in, such as nurturing children, caring for the wounded - a woman's touch means the world to a wounded soldier, building a nest (organizing a household), laying eggs (having and raising kids to be successful adults).
Masculinity is for building the world, fighting evil, defending the innocent.
Femininity is for bringing the next generation into the world, caring for the innocent, nurturing the injured back to health so they can go out and build the world, fight evil, and defend the innocent.
@xokelis0015 Could we understand from your point of view that women can't build the world just as men do ? Because women now work (and then contribute to society), have big responsibilities, make decisions (sometimes wiser according to certain studies - "men make more extreme decisions according to Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America (PNAS)"). Men and women build society together and that's why in my opinion we shouldn't give feminity and masculinity references just as you did. My opinion.
@@laurananas2424 Go back to the comment in the video about the mind / mouth saying one thing and biology something different. As Brett put it, "biology hasn't caught up yet". Let's take your comment, which at some level makes perfect sense - men and women now work in the workplace together and both contribute to society. That doesn't change the biologically engrained preferences that men and women have when they are looking for a partner / mate.
It doesn't matter whether or not women can or cannot build the world just as men do, overall, men are going to prefer a female who is feminine and loyal, someone they feel they can trust, and women are looking for a man who is confident, can take care of them and a leader. Yes, we now live in cities and work together at offices, but we are still locked into the same mindset that we had for thousands of years when we were part of wandering tribes, where the men went out to hunt for game and the women worked at the camp, taking care of the children and handling the social part of society.
The fact that she's aware of all this is a good sign. She genuinely seems sweet and I hope she finds what she wants in life.
Her other TikTok’s are about how aggressive she is
Only time will tell.
What seems "sweet" about her? Liking married men? Belittling feminine women? Belittling the men that come up to her and show interest? Oh wait, her talking about anger issues is like honey in a nice warm cozy glass of tea, right?
maybe she should start dating women, since so many ppl keep saying sexuality is a choice amirite?
her cats will love her in life
As a guy, I felt no negative emotions toward her, didn't see anything wrong with her sharing her epiphany, and yet somehow knew she was gonna get a lot of nasty comments from guys. This gender war is stupid, everyone keeps looking for reasons to hate. I hope she finds what she's looking for.
100% agree
Finds what she is looking for??? Where's all the men???
They were not hating on her just being honest. Gender war or not the comments would have been the same.
Men have NEVER told women they like septum piercings or tattoos.@@yamalortiz5152
Her problem is that she has spent her life thinking only of herself, and now that reality has caught up with her she's still blaming anyone but herself. She might be a nice person but you can't tell by one video.
Its not the muscles that are a problem.......its the attitude
and coveted in tattoos
She is sweet
And the nose ring
My mom was a tomboy 100%. feed the chickens, hunt deer, built a shed. She was also painted her nails, wore pretty dresses and makeup.
Sounds like a cool mom.
sounds like me XD
You can't do that!! I'm calling the police!!
Avoid painted nails, makeup
That's not a tomboy 1st off that is what you call a little girl that likes to do things that boys do
I became a widower 14 years ago and I've been running scared ever since. I have had many women trying to tie me into a relationship but they push too hard. My wife and I had a good marriage . She ran and was in charge in the house I looked after the outside. Major decisions were discussed them depending on the situation either I made the decision or she made the decision. Worked well for us. 34 years of marriage before Cancer won
I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds wonderful. I hope you find peace and happiness in time. God bless you.
Here's my advice to you about dating: Don't.
@@electroeel148 he is probably too old for dating anyway😅
My grandpa is 95 and at is in a home and has had 3 different girlfriends in the last 2 years @gwynplaine661
assuming he got married at the legal age of 18, he is at minimum 66 years old, I'd agree with you @@gwynplaine661
There is absolutely a man out there for her. She's not "un-feminine" simply because she lifts... this obviously shows that she's motivated and dedicated to take care of herself. Sure, she's more buff, but she's still beautiful! Imagine her meeting a gym dude = power couple who motivate, encourage, and support each other 💪🏻
Yeah, this is similar to the Dadvocate's take on this. There is totally a man out there for her, she can tone it down by dialing back the piercings, tweaking the clothes a bit. Her biggest attribute at this point, she is self-aware. Makes her better than 60-70% of american women?
She needs to lose the hog ring
I dated a kick-boxer. Being into fitness doesn't make you unfeminine. Muscle Mommys are a thing, and hot af. And being dedicated and motivated are a turn on to see someone committed to a goal.
The issues from training for strength and aggression may cause dramas, however. We had some blues where she threatened certain things, many false, some violent, because there are behavioral changes from testosterone (as well as other psychological issues she had), but at the time I was fairly buff myself. I don't think that was from her training as she wasn't on roids or anything, but just due to her personal issues and divorce.
Luckily for both of us she never crossed THAT line there (she did others and that's why we eventually separated). Was close a few times though. I was 4 inches taller than her and pretty capable myself, had been hitting the gym pretty hard after a 10 year relationship. It didn't mean that she didn't have the capability to hurt me, as her combat training was at a bit higher level than mine. But with a 15 kilo weight advantage and the muscles of a gym fit man it certainly was enough for her to reassess the risk.
Honestly it would have been like watching an MMA kickboxer versus wrestler. Although I had done some go ju kai, tae kwon do, wrestling and boxing, her strike game was much superior to mine. But pure strength wise she had zero chance against me.
TL;DR girls can hurt guys but they really shouldn't try. Dudes shouldn't try to hurt girls. Problem solved.
@@justinbruck9602 honestly the piercings, the muscles, there's a market. She could try and feminize that or go full gym mode power couple and the odds at this stage are probably 50/50 as to success rate...
But the real question here is what does she feel she wants to be?
We don't know her gym motivations. We don't know her dating motivations. We don't know her goals.
She might have hit the gym hard due to weight loss goals, or to deal with depression, or recover from injury. Or as a distraction from separation. Or to break another addiction.
She's a good base. She can be lots of things from here. But rather than us project on her we really need her to make those choices.
@@AndyViant she was on the roids?
I hate social media so much
Who doesn't
My girlfriend when we first met was trying so hard not to look or sound like a tomboy. She was raised mostly by her father and was treated more like a son/younger brother where they would roughhouse. Being her first relationship, she attributes her new found feminine qualities to me treating her like a woman and from what I can tell she enjoys it. I love her and am blessed to see her grow and blossom into a beautiful feminine woman while still having a little tomboy charm.
Her on the first date (tradwife cottage-core) vs Her once you get to know her (reveals giant gun collection)
I read an article once that said that tomboys often make the best wives / girlfriends because they have spent so much time around males that they understand them and how they think. I have always been a little amazed that boys and girls can grow up around each other, interact in school and in society, yet be so clueless about the other sex when they start noticing each other sexually. This is less of a problem for tomboys.
@stephanledford9792 Honestly, if by school you mean public or private mass schooling, it's really not a surprise. How are you going to socialize children if they're constantly surrounded by 50 other unsocialized children and 1 adult? That's not how socialization works.
My partner is also a big tomboy, though she never tried to hide it. She definitely has become more outwardly feminine through the years, but it's still very obvious she was the youngest raised by three older brothers, while I was raised largely by my older sister. She loves toilet humor. I tolerate it, but I do not see the humor (or disgust) in it. Everybody poops, its just a thing that animals do. Little stuff like that.
She's also an Amazonian woman. 5'9/5'10ish, 185lbs, with a decent bit of a six pack most of the year (we both get soft in the winter). When we first got together, I was actually shorter than she was (got taller on HRT), but she loved the fact I could pick her up, toss her around, and manhandle her (I'm not tall but I'm built like a brick shithouse and have been a competitive weightlifter on and off most of my life). We've found a very nice balance and dynamic where each of us gets to be who and what they're best at in the relationship.
Men only want one thing...
My wife has tattoos. Personality is everything. Before I met my wife I had given up on relationships. The only reason I gave my wife a chance was because she found a way to separate herself from all of the other women. When I gave her a chance she took it and kept showing that she wanted this to work out despite our fights and flaws. Every other woman I dated gave up the second something went wrong. Sell your personality not your physique.
Sell purity. It is a lottery ticket to marriage. Give it up, never a good reason to. Never heard one.
You are abusing her.
RIGHT? brett is saying bullshit like YOUR WIFE IS WRONG. its pathetic. i hate what a terrible person brett has become
@spicycrispyfetus where in the world did you get that from his comment? Was it because of fights and flaws? Those are relationship inevitables. Other than that, there is nothing even remotely negative.
@@TruckerWife You must be a woman abuser too.
For years my daughter was attracted to a certain type of guy, that always led to her eventually being treated badly. She decided to try dating someone different than her usual type, and so far she has had a much better experience. So, my advice to ladies who keep ending up with the wrong guy, is try changing things up. Try something different!
Thanks for the tip!!
it's all about leverage....a women or a man who's too hot and got nor moral compass is bound to abuse their power.
@@sumomaster5585 same with a man or woman who is too ugly. Inferiority is a hell of a thing to deal with. Honestly the attraction and trust should be mutual. I am as attracted to my husband as he is to me, there’s no “but they have such a great personality” or “but they’re so hot so whatever is fine” toxicity. Just butterflies and flirting, 8 years later as it should be.
Always ask yourself, “would I want this person to be the future Father/Mother of my children?”
If not, don’t even bother.
@deejawhitegrass that is exactly what I say is the problem. People are only told to live in the moment, and hold everything serious for their 30s, so they look for that short term happy fun time and then are shocked when the person isn't what they will need later.
The fact that she is genuine takes responsibility for herself I got mad respect for her.
Just a few minutes in, she seems great and just unfortunetly lumped in with the 'boss babe' stereotype. I didnt get any red flags from her. Culture's lied about what a lot of men want, but she also seems fun, responsible, and takes care of her health. She's not blaming people, just realizing she's been lied to. Maybe more of a tomboy, but there's nothing wrong with that. I hope she finds her person soon 😊
When you get the "nice" clip of the full video, yeah I guess she seems nice.
She was on the Whatever podcast and was super sweet and mild mannered.
The red flag is she didn’t realize this beforehand as an adult.
@@boxtradums0073which episode? I wanna watch it
@@willdegra317 You don't know what "red flag" means.
She’s going to be just fine. She’s genuine, sweet, quirky, and a total cutie pie, and she’s definitely not some disagreeable bosslady. There’s plenty of guys out there that would love to be with a woman like her.
“ cutiepie “ Simp off!..🤮🤦♂️🤡
@@thrusta100 " simp off " melatonin harpsichord 👔🔇
Cutie pie indeed 🎩 the tattoos and biceps are cool too.
She's hot. But she would never date a stereotype like myself (gamer, nerd, bookworm) so sorry, women do want the bad boys. We are the safe choice after you tempt with fire.
Self awareness is a big and rare start. She can take the nose ring out and fix herself up and she'll be fine.
What's crazy is we guys have been telling women what it is we look for, but they take offense and instead ask OTHER WOMEN what guys want. Crazy how things work out like that
Women Logic brotha, makes no sense
Women give out dog shit advice
They're good at convincing each other that strong emotion = true. "You're beautyfulllll!!!!"
Yup, I find women give other women very poor dating advice and tell them lies to not hurt their feelings rather than speaking truth to improve themselves.
ex) Girl went through a bad breakup, girlfriends would just tell her to go to the club to tonight and relax, with men who are likely not relationship material, and would probably break her heart again.
Also if a girl is overweight, the girlfriends would just say , “Love your curves girl” instead of being honest and say you should cut your calories and hit the gym. Men have no issues telling other men exactly that.
@@mikeymyke If you want to help others, tell them the truth. If you want to help yourself, tell them what they want to hear. - Thomas Sowell
All women need to understand STOP GETTING ADVICE ON MEN FROM OTHER WOMEN. Thats like me a dude giving a woman advice on being pregnant. It’s ridiculous.
True. The best advice on men I got it from my dad.
Yes stop getting advice on dating from Andrew tate !
IS HE A WOMAN ?
It is not getting advice from women that is the problem, it is advice from single women that is the problem. They are single for a reason and can’t give advice that will help women find their man, for they have no idea of what it truly takes. It is like getting financial advice from someone who has massive debts and no way to get out of debt.
@@johnhumphrey9953 True.
100% agree. I am personally against tattoos and piercings, I don't have them and I don't want my girl to have them. But women working out or even very muscular women are definitely not a turn off, quite the opposite actually. I'd rather my girl look like a she-hulk than overweight or anorexic. Taking care of yourself is attractive, eating right, moving right, and doing right by yourself for your own well-being.
Really? You are more turned on by a rippled bicep than a bouncing booty?
Shehulk from the comics is pretty attractive
Full agreeance. Being in shape: thumbs up. Tats and piercings: thumbs down.
It is such a ridiculous thing when you think about how people change over the years. These people will look so ridiculous later
😂😂😂
At least this woman has taken the time for self reflection, something that 90% of people won't do.
She forgot to mention her body of 28
Just one more thing: Listening to Brett talk about how she grew up and what she tried to do to avoid looking "girly," it's a good thing she didn't go to a woke therapist who might have told her that all those things were a coping mechanism for gender dysphoria.
Your comment should be marked "unnecessary" as it adds nothing.
@@daTribbleMaker wrong!
They have a point, too many “therapists” are convincing impressionable youths that they are Trans, at a time in their lives where they are still coming to terms as to what they are.
@@daTribbleMaker It adds plenty, you're just a dimwit.
@@daTribbleMakerd-did you write this for yourself somehow?
@@daTribbleMakerand you should take your medication and move out of yoyr mothers basement.
There is another aspect to this situation that needs to be addressed. Another common reason why women who want to get married have a hard time getting wifed up, is because they are specifically asking for marriage. Just like women are afraid of being used for sex, men are afraid of being used for our resources. A man wants to be with the woman who wants him for who he is, not what he can give her. So when you lead with "I'm looking for marriage," that gives men the imprssion that you might be more interested in getting things from him then being with him. This is why men often don't want to get serious and just want to keep things casual. Not because we are afraid of commitment (as we so often get accused of), but rather because we're afraid we'll end up commiting to a woman who wants us for what she gets from us, not for who we are.
I am a tomboy and I have dated plenty of guys who have loved me for me. It’s not wrong of her to have tattoos or have some muscle- she just needs to find someone who likes it. And be confident who you are.
Exactly this! There is nothing wrong with the tattoos, piercings, or muscles. She just has to find someone who finds them attractive. Like any other superficial quality, some people will like it, some will not; just need to find someone that does. The personality is one of the bigger things that a guy looks for.
Exactly! A lot of men love a woman who is exactly like her. But also a lot of men want the more traditional woman.
Both exist!
Both are okay! Everyone will find love
The crazy part is that she is not gonna date the girls giving her the advices. I have no idea why women giver her false advice to make her feel good.
@@GodGotGame It's empowering
yeah. i 100% think she is a 10/10. but i am 100% sure i wouldn't even be on her "radar". so thats on her. 🤷♂️
Honestly, she seems like a nice person. To even be able to put all that mainstream brainwashing aside and have the ability to self-reflect honestly is SO rare nowadays. Good on her. I pray she finds a wonderful husband soon!
The problem is her deluded standards
@@lifemocker85and how do you know her standards?
@@helenn7738 she say she goes only for married men so we know she only see the top% of men
@@helenn7738 --- he is referring to the standards she made clear in the clip? She thought the standard to "catch a man of her liking" was to get ripped, pierced, tatted and un-feminine ... and that got her nowhere.
@@barkvarkie_fpv8623 she doesn't even come off as manly. Wdym?
Other than appearance wise (tattoos and piercing), I think her demeanor, as well as her humility makes her a lot more wifeable than she realizes. She's not too far off. PS. it's also not because she goes to the gym, nothing wrong with that
Exercise is a green flag
I agree, she seems like a sweet girl.
Nothing wrong with tattoos and piercings. Grow up.
I'd totally marry her. She mentioned sushi and iced tea after the gym. Just my type. Too bad the piercings kill it for me. Her tats aren't so bad though and that's coming from someone who hates tattoos.
She'd be pretty close to my dreamwife TBH. Looks, smile, her attitude, she seems a bit weird. Yea sign me up lol.
I like a soft, soft spoken, feminine, supportive, kind, girly girl. No tats, or septum piercings. Dresses and skirts, bras, makeup, hair brushed, smelling good, painted nails, and embracing being pretty. But everyone is different.
Septum piercing is an automatic no-go. Ladies, stop doing it.
Facts it’s so ugly
Yep, it's such a bad trend.
I have a septum because I am trans-animal. I grew up on a farm and realized I didn't feel like myself unless I was with the cows and bulls. I am a bull. I got my septum pierced and have a number tag pierced on the top of my ear. Don't hate what you don't understand. #transanimal /s
They tend to do what other women do......hive minded creatures.
Thank you! Makes them look like actual cattle
Being soft and frail and sensitive doesn’t make you feminine. The women just needs to find someone who shares her beliefs and gets along with her
Yeah, I don't care for these guys who are speaking for all men against whole swaths of women. A woman can have tattoos and workout and still be feminine. It's mostly a mentality for how to act in a relationship. I don't mind women who strength train or have tattoos so long as they're respectful and fun to be in a relationship with. People don't fit into a single box.
@@HumanPerson_final True, but the nose ring is just ugly.
Sure, but there’s a WIDE range between frail and what this woman is. It takes a LOT of work to get muscles that big on a woman, and frankly, probably a decent amount of “enhancement” as well. That’s just pointless. Most guys want a woman somewhere in the range of natural with not much strength training, up to some strength training with some toned muscles. None of that is about being frail.
But the much bigger issue is the crazy tattoos, the hog ring, and the overly developed muscles. The combo is nothing but red flags.
@@HumanPerson_final gotta be the right ones with the tats though. Not all people look good with em
I agree. I’m not sure you can get more feminine than a woman with a flower tattoo. Have no clue how art on your body can cause people not to respect that person or decide they aren’t woman enough.
Her muscle isn't an issue for me. My wife has given me children and can still do more pull-ups than most men. We met in the gym and it's how we spend a lot of our time together. It's not threatening. She's just in a dating pool that is very small.
One problem is that all those tattoos make a statement. And that statement is the emulation of the strong feminist that came before her and marketed that “look”. She may be a super nice girl whom likes to work out. But she has emulated a biker chick or man hater feminist, but put on a dress and did her hair nice.
The contradiction is a red flag.
Also I think she has made herself appealing to the fully tattooed crowd and in doing so has removed her appeal from the more traditional clean or tattooed free crowed.
More traditional men whom want to get married look for more traditional women, tattoo free, smoke free.
We men are usually oblivious, but those stand out.
Your looking too deep into it.
This conversation is not a new one. It has only been amplified and spotlighted by the ease and access of social media. Years ago, when I was in my 20's, I worked with several 'party girls'. As I got to know them I realized that they wanted stability and even tradition in their lives as it pertained to the men they knew, and the relationships they were in and out of, yet were seen as just one of the guys. They competed on every level, whether it be drinking games and partying or telling rude jokes, whatever, and that was besides the competition doing actual work in the workplace. I remember one girl's brain exploding when I told her that she would always find men to have fun with, as she was hot, intelligent and had a great personality. But guys saw her as another guy friend, a buddy, someone to have fun with and not a serious contender for 'wife' material, or even anything long term. Every guy I've known, including my five brothers and myself included don't want just another buddy. We have those already. They want the uniqueness of a female--feminine, soft and sweet. Child bearing hips and a talent in the kitchen help too :) I understand how this sounds, however men care less and less about the current agenda. They just want their women back--not servants. Equal but uniquely different partners, to lean on us as we lean on you.
I think it's hard for a lot of women to accept because the female role is a lot more limiting and infantilizing at times. There's a reason why feminism happened, but men never created a similar movement to take on more of the female role at home.
@@janicefinch3563 Yeah but I know plenty of girls who are in IT or Software engineering and a lot of them are quite feminine. My one friend is like the stereotypical hello kitty girl. You can be the "boss bitch" in that you are successful, but just be feminine. Bring feminine energy. Doesn't mean you can't enjoy the modern paradigm where women can have fruitful careers. It's really that simple.
@@janicefinch3563”limiting and infantilizing” were part of the propaganda. If we think back to the powerful grandmas of our past, they are impressive and strong matriarchs that we all wanna be. Not some pathetic poor woman. Women were respected. Men didn’t even swear in our presence.
The fact that this is a controversial statement is concerning. Everything you said is natural. And nature designed us that way. Not our fault that some people want to be weird with gender norms. Just because some, doesn't mean all.
@@hobosnake1 There's no feminine energy, it's a made up concept
“You can be a strong woman and still be feminine.” This was a game changer for me, too. I would put down pink and bows and sparkly things as girly and weak, thinking it made me better. But one day I realized the beauty of being a female is that you can be strong AND beautiful, and the two aren’t opposites. That’s why I don’t get people who drag on girls who lift weights or do sports, like the girl in this video, as something that is anti-feminine or “bad woman.” I think girls who take the time to make themselves strong are really cool, especially because a lot of people tell them they shouldn’t be. Every practical reason to lift weights and be in good health applies to both sexes. I hope girls aren’t turned off by online men telling them to be physically weak so someone will love them. (P.S. being able to push open heavy doors and give strong hugs is an underrated ability of life.🙂)
thank you for stating the obvious
Indeed. Some of these modern traditional people don't seem to realize that women used to protect the home when the men were not around.
I do agree that giving strong, well given hugs is a totally underrated skill
A few years ago I made a conscious decision to give strong hugs. Now every time I hug my grandma, she says, "Not too hard." Everyone likes it, though. Definitely underrated.
@@lucymolockian1849That's a lie
I'll say this much for her; the fact that she's not blaming anyone else for her own choices puts her miles ahead of the competition.
Also one very simple thing she can do is lose the septum piercing; most men see that as a red flag on par with dyed hair and pronouns in the bio.
Septum=major issues.
In body count too
indeed. I don't mind a cute little piercing on the side of the nose. but the septum piercing just makes these women look like dumb farm animals to me. not even thinking about how a certain type of people commonly have this and can be labeled as unstable walking red flags. which is something you just dont want to be associated with by proxy.
100% agree on the septum ring. When I was growing up, septum rings were for cows - I mean literal cows. Mind you I adore cows, they are sweet, affectionate animals. But I don't want to have sex with them anymore.
I work as a developement engineer and I'm about to get married next year. I got my septum pierced when I was 18, and the only times I've taken the ring of is when it's medically necessary (surgeries etc). It fits my face nicely and I really like it. I have no idea why people make it such a big deal, it's a piece of metal. If you don't like it, don't get one. I don't like plenty of stuff other people do with their looks, but I still respect them enough to not bash their looks.
The only issue was venting on social media. People rarely care about how they say things. I wish she just got a few friends and talked to them about it. She didnt deserve to be trolled.
When you described how you were in high school, about how you dressed and presented yourself to the world. It sounded exactly like me in high school as well. Wore my 'masculine' traits as a badge of honor like you said. Now 10 years off I've fully embraced my feminine side, now have 3 kids with my husband. He helped me realize it was ok to be soft and feminine. Didnt make me weak or less than to want those things I denied in myself since I was a kid.
Me too.
This woman is the embodiment of what happens when women take the wrong advice when it comes to relationships.
I have seen this clip a lot! I think she is young enough , and is realizing mistakes she made. I think there is hope for her.
@overlordfemto7523 bingo. exactly. what is more women have evolved or have been selected for generations with arranged marriages. So the women we have today, their offspring, did not develop proper selection skill or urge. So they select the wrong men or don't even select. Now we give them the wheel in their hands, and they cannot drive. And we have population collapse as a result.
Why the obsession with marriage? Most Westerners don't marry.
@overlordfemto7523blud what ru even saying… a lot of arrange marriages were horrible!! Underage girls with older men putting ur child with someone they don’t love is saving them?? 💀
@@delilahispeachyfresh2835 why do you assume that all arranged marriages were always on underaged girls.
I Love that Brett Cooper talked about her younger years. The tomboy defense mechanism was what I went through and its so nice to know other women might have gone through that. 💖 I didnt embrace my feminine energy until I went to college in my early 20s. Women become more hardened and masculine sometimes out of self protection. I would love a world where we can enjoy our feminine energy safely.
Lol Bradley Cooper?
@@sawyerleemoore Brett cooper. My autocorrect lives to torment me 😞
I definitely went through that in my teens and it wasn't until my mid 20s that I really started embracing femininity and being comfortable with my body.
brett is like 26 at most lol. she's still a child.
@@ChrisB-k7b She's 22
As a woman about to be 40 I LOVE being strong and lifting weights, it makes me feel so good about myself, my husband of 9 years cheers me on as I do it, muscle is HARD earned and good for our health, in my opinion girls need to not show all their skin and not be crazy! Work hard, don’t be offended by everything, work on how to communicate, don’t rely on a man to make you intrinsically happy, it’s not their job, and a man will sweep you off your feet
I was not really femenine either, i had no boyfriend until I realized I really wanted to be femenine and I started healing my relationship with my femininity... changed everything, I'm in a longterm relationship with an amazing guy. I want to get married and have children. (Some of my relatives are feminist so I grew up thinking it was bad to be femenine) I was no feeling good with myself until my healing process started. Now i really feel like myself. It was a constant inner fight before, I was not happy at all.
I’m a 5’9” woman: I hunt, drink bourbon, and love horror movies and good cigars. My husband is a 5’6” composer. We have one of the most traditional marriages of anyone we know. I stay home with our two babies, garden and can our food, and bake and cook from scratch, and he provides and protects. Even if your temperament, as a woman, isn’t especially soft and feminine, you can still get in touch with that side of yourself and find enormous fulfillment in a traditionally feminine role.
For me the bull ring combined with ridiculous eye lashes would be a big ol' red flag if I wasn't already married. Nothing to do with her fitness.
100% with the bull ring, it looks good on no one.
Fitness too, I’m not gay to be attracted to masculine features
@@garciapedro7554 Hey if you get injured she would be able to drag you to safety if needed. Personally ripped women are a turn off.
I cut her some slack but the bull ring is a big NO
And you don't want to wave a red flag in front of someone wearing a bull ring.
We had all of these women calling masculinity toxic, while trying to become masculine. Talking about toxic locker room talk of men, while saying WAP is female empowerment. Saying that giving away one of the things that is most valuable and intimate for a person to give, for free, is female empowerment.
That’s what happens when you look at the world in terms of halve and have nots.
You get jealous and bitter and envious and quite frankly, increasingly narcissistic.
I’ve seen this happen to both men and women, but it seems like women are particularly struggling with it over the last 10 years.
Bouncing from one relationship to the next downhill thinking that over each next fence the grass is going to get greener, accumulating trauma at many times like a boxer getting punch drunk overtime.
Life is about moderation for a great many things. People will try and convince you that you should want to be at the extremes, but you will probably probably be the happiest in the middle of the bell curves.
You don’t wanna be too manic, you don’t wanna be too stoic. You don’t wanna be too skinny, you don’t wanna be too large. Don’t want to be weak, but you don’t want to hyper fixate on being strong it just envelop your life. You don’t want the opposite side of the dating pool, but you also want to be respected and equivocal.
I think women are particularly competitive, especially amongst themselves. And it’s funny because if you get 10 women in a circle, they’ll rate each other 10s. They absolutely have thoughts and are communicating things in between and use as a phantom boogie strawman. When it’s a man that they ultimately usually want.
You’re competing against those women for men you’re not competing against that many men, for men. It’s baked into our biology.
This problem is not exclusive to women, but women seem to be increasingly fed these messages of entitlement that are cast against the truth of reality.
You can find whatever you want to hear or see especially since other people are incentivized to get your attention. So naturally, people gravitate towards things that they want to hear and people gravitate towards saying the things that other people want to hear. Gets paid, other gets justified. Or maybe it’s a mutual exchange of feeling justified.
Meanwhile, women are succeeding where those people are finding cyclic echo chambers or cyclic para-social affirmation for their life choices. And the world is going to weed this kind of behavior out, ultimately, by punishing these choices more often than not. And it’s not in ways that people see coming. And then, when they figure it out, they tell perpetual lies to themselves so as to not be at odds with all of their sunk cost.
I don’t really care what the women that I don’t invest into do. They can have their wine parties, and they can go, and they can go sleep around and they can go do whatever.
I rewarded the kind of woman like my wife herself to a different standard and sought someone out who had a better standard, as well.
I think a lot of the time when women communicate, they are looking to feel affirmed and justified for the feelings that they have and are communicating. The problem is is when you take men out of those conversations, you’re only going to have echo chambers of lies or partial truths at best. Nobody’s going to hold you accountable and you’re the one who’s going to ultimately suffer.
Like skinny women telling their friends that they should eat whatever they want to because of body positivity… Well, now those people are less likely to be compete with other women and men. Or women telling each other that sleeping around as empowerment. That person Also has lost comparative value in the marriage pool.
And people get confused because they think that they can hook up - Guys have learned to avoid women who give that away too easily because if it’s given so easily and to so many, what does it mean that they give it to them number one and how do they know that they’re not going to just keep being that way if they’re given a chance? How do they know there’s not some psycho that’s going to show up?
There's TOUGH GIRLS and there's girlbosses that are insufferable. My current girl is a bit less feminine than most of my guy friends would go for, but at the same time she is kind, loving and brings me PEACE in life. If the partner doesn't bring you peace, they're not the right match for you.
Was so glad to see your comment. I came down to take a look and see how many people would speak up about how plenty of men would want her, but everyone is saying she does indeed need to be more feminine. As someone who was naturally a tomboy growing up, desperately trying to figure out how to be "girly" and failing epically, I finally gave up and just enjoyed my life as a trainer and getting jacked. And then suddenly, it's like my confidence must have been glowing for the first time in my life because all the boys came out of the woodwork. This buff girl had the strongest, sweetest, most respectable, silly, loving men trying to get her attention, to the point where I just don't want the attention anymore half the time lol. Hot take, based on my experiences as a strong lady who gives off the vibe that I don't NEED a man to get by - and also based off what I've seen from the badass gym girlies around me: Be yourself. There are plenty of men who will love you if you stay true to who you are. It's damn obvious when you're instead, living to be what other's want. If you are a strong, independent, lady, lean into it. You tend to attract men who know they can't eff with you or play with your heart, because they know you only WANT them, not NEED them, and because you'll eff them up right back 🤣
Wow Brett. You put into words exactly what I’ve felt for most of my teen years up until the last year or two (I’m 23). It was a defense mechanism. I remember being a tomboy and hating anything “girly”/feminine in my early teens because I saw it as a weakness. A weakness I needed to protect myself from. It’s so refreshing hearing another woman that felt the same as me but now holds new ideas as I’m breaking out of that old mindset. Haven’t heard anyone else bring up this perspective, thank you!
There is huge misunderstanding between Tomboy and Masculine women. A tomboy is basically a women likes boyish hobbies, do boy things and understand the boy's mindset. A masculine women dont understand a man, their hobbies and would constantly be in their own mindset instead of looking through the perspective of a man. I mean look at Brett Cooper's mom telling her light up and still can be herself while understand and be both side of feminine and masculine.
I personally think she's absolutely gorgeous. She seems sweet. It seems like she also has the desire to be a good wife and mother. She shouldn't have any issues getting wifed up. Maybe remove the nose piercing. That will help. Still, she seems like a great person
My thoughts exactly
I saw her on the Whatever podcast. She said she was 22 years old with 28 bodies. Thats about 28 reasons nobody is tryna wife her up.
She's 22??? She looks like a rough 30
@BonnieDoon84 nah I’m 32 and she does look around my age, maybe even older
I'm 31. She looks older than me. 🥴😬
Can you link the episode?
@BonnieDoon84 I'm 26 and I thought she was older than me 🤷🏽♀️
I recently attended a wedding and had drinks afterward with 4 women. I already knew two of these women and just met the other two. What was funny was that all four ladies were from different states, but all had brash, masculine personalities, tattoo sleeves, and were divorced or considering one. There is definitely a pattern.
Sleeve tattoos are gross on women and just plain stupid on men. Decades ago tattoos were bad ass but not 🌈 guys have sleeves, soy boys have them. It’s lost it’s edge and look especially trashy decades later when they fade and blur. Not attractive. I have slept with tattoo chics but I would never be caught in public at a cocktail party with someone who looks like an 80s hair band groupie.
Being tattooed is too normie now.
@@col.strayga1389makes no sense. If it’s normal, it’s normal.
@@Coffeendonutsso good enough to f"*K but you are ashamed of what the guys in your social group will think.
@@Coffeendonutssleeve tats are disgusting. I have no idea why so many women now are destroying their skin with this crap.
Chick is cute, sorta funny, clearly motivated, self aware, and seems like a decent person. She's gonna be just fine.
Probably run through too
I think she is a strong independent woman, but at the same time not overly independent. I also think she seems like a kind sweet girl.
I have sympathy for that girl. She has become self-aware and is honest.
She has a body count of 28
@@vklnew9824 lol
@@turnbotter That dude has a body count of 0.
@@TonyDracon she said on the whatever podcast.
@@turnbotter don't you have some soil to be buried under right now?
Im 14 and what you said about how you were in high school sounds similar to my current situation. I sometimes try my hardest not to embrace my feminity because I think its a weakness. After seeing this and the short to this video it had really opened my eyes. Ive been trying my hardest lately to really put more effort into my appearance and to wear feminine things like earrings, perfume, lip gloss, necklaces, etc. Being raised by a single mom and not having a male role model in the house, we had to do a lot of things ourselves. Im really trying to find that balance and its still a work in progress. Thank you Brett! God bless!❤
Thats really interesting, thanks for sharing your opinion, you do you, stay safe girl.
If you want to know any advice about life, ask your mother and not follow current social media. She knows what will be the best for you. I wish you the best.
no need for perfume, necklaces.. be naturally feminine. Long hair is the key. Everything else like building up leg muscles and a nice butt is a nice bonus tho. But regardless of how you are, men cant control or subjugate women no more which means relationships will end.............issues that in the world of islam they don't have.
Feminity is one of the most powerful trait a woman can have, if not the most powerful.
Bindi Marc and Jasmine Theodora are great examples of femininity!!
Her self awareness and lack of male condemnation for their preferences is commendable
men absolutely like strong women, but a lot of people these days confused abrasiveness and conflict with strength
My wife is a 6 foot tall, strong, badass woman. And I find her gorgeous. Now, I’m a 6’4” former powerlifter, football player, etc.
She just needs to find someone that appreciates her for her.
thank you for the video feedback and the kind words my video was definitely misconstrued quite a bit ( also it’s okay to laugh 😂 I did it to mostly be funny but yes a lot of it I was serious about). Thanks girl!
If that is you,...You seem rather feminine and cute. Its probibly not the sushi or tea, ( i like both too) and i think you have some "feminine energy". Tap into it. Dont give up the gym though. That is attractive to alot of men. And that gym bod, ( judging by your shoulders) you could probibly rock a halter top dress realy well. Its probibly more how you carry yourself, then how you look. You kinda remind me of the "titan born" woman from the elder scrolls trailer. Tall, strong, and beautifull and the same time. That self reflection means there is hope for you. Dont give up., I wish you the best. Work on displaying yourself as "wife material".
Bottom line,...become the prize, your prize, would prize.
Whoa, that's cool that you found this video! To add some more kind words, I think you seem like a very sweet person. It doesn't matter about tattoos and stuff 'cause as opposed to what a lot of people say, I know a girl who's covered in tattoos and is in a relationship and settling down. I think as long as you don't come across aggressive or masculine in how you present yourself you should be fine finding a guy. Also, it's cool that you work out, you should be proud of your body and the work that you put into it. The right guy will find that attractive.
Girl, you are beautiful and there is someone out there for you. There is nothing wrong with the way you look. There’s that saying “dress for the job you want.” We go thru seasons in our lives and it’s ok to explore different sides of ourselves. The great thing is that you are single and have the freedom to figure it out before you settle down.
you seem nice. keep it up. don't worry about the tattoos. Do get rid of the nose ring.
You're going to fine!!! Nothing wrong with a bit of self reflecting! Y
She seems great,she doesn't have to change herself just to find someone. Being muscular or having tattoos doesn't make her less of a woman. She'll find what she's looking for
The tattoos and septum ring don't make her less of a woman, but result in fewer men being attracted to her.
Why dont you want her to improve herself?
What a terrible advice, there are standardars for men and women, we have to be that standards, because then we Will end up alóne, she realize that
It actually does make her less of a desirable women, hence the video, genius.
Totally agree, based purely on her video, there's nothing wrong with her.
I commented this on another video showing this lady. She's beautiful and there will be a lot of men out there that would snap her up. Her problem is that she's not been herself, she's tried to be something she's not so she's not attracting the right men for her she's attracting the right men for the person she's trying to be. If you want to find the right person for you then you need to be you so that that person can be attracted to you. She could have met the right man and he might have passed her by and paid her no attention because he doesn't like tattoos and peircings and if she wouldn't have done that to herself trying to make herself something she isn't then he wouldn't have passed her by. I'm not saying tattoos and peircings are bad I have them myself but I have them because I like them and I want a man that likes me for me. I am being me so if a man doesn't like me then he's not right for me but if I got tattoos and piercings just because I was following a trend or to rebel against my parents and then I met someone I really liked and he didn't like me because I had tattoos and peircings then ye I would be a bit angry with myself for not just being myself lol.
This is genuinely interesting to me.
For context, I'm a steadfast Christian and hardcore conservative. I ALSO got my dad's entire personality in a female body. I've always been told that it would take a unicorn to love me because I am EXTREMELY unorthodox and unapologetic about who God created me to be. I have never been willing to taper my personality or interests or talents in order to find a husband. After years of praying and waiting patiently, God gave me my other half. He's literally my perfect match and loves all the things that others find "freaky" or "too much" about me. He is a God-fearing, extremely conservative, hard-working man. The concept that a woman has to fit a very specific mold to find a good man who loves her has always been wild to me.
It's good you found your other half but the kind of men she likes might be attracted to more feminine women, idk
It’s just about embracing your femininity while also feeling free to express yourself through tats, piercings, and clothing. You can work out and still be feminine. There’s nothing wrong with her. Be kind and sweet, don’t be abrasive and argumentative and drama. I am married, I’m a tattooer, and I love my man. I have health issues that prevent me from having children, but he has kids, and I love them too. I cook, I clean, I tattoo, I do my makeup. We appreciate each other and both our masculine/feminine attributes. We’re definitely odd people. I don’t know how we got so lucky to find each other.
"I thought guys wanted, you know, tough girls"
That's the problem, you're talking to women about what guys want instead of talking to men.
Yup. Quit reading Cosmo
No, absolutely not. We don't accept "he was led astray into a life of crime" or "she was led astray into drugs", why should "she was led astray into permanently disfiguring herself" be entertained. SHE was stupid enough to buy into "modern feminism" - SHE walked into the parlor and put her money down.
I'm an older guy from South Africa, I'd say a regular everyday dad and husband, with a daughter and two young sons, all in their early to mid 20's. As a therapist who works with students my intuitive feeling is that this girl is pretty smart, open to change and ideas, agreeable and seems to have kindness in her.
Add to this that she is quirky, attractive and healthy, and it seems that you have a young woman who will likely be a pretty good GF or wife to be with.
I'm grateful that Brett showed her some kindness, did not judge her, and took an overall positive view of her.
I think that some young man out there, with some decency and foresight, is going to find a good partner in her. I truly wish her the best, and a partner who can show her the love and commitment she seems ready to give and receive.
She's learnt a few things about life choices at a young age, unlikely to make crazy future changes, and I wish her the very best in finding her life mate.
If we are kinder to one another, we will bring the best out of each other. Judgement and scorn is not helpful, and the last thing she needs right now.
All the best to you lovely young lady!
I used to know a woman in a very similar spot. She was attractive and cool but tattooed/pierced up and all on the Crossfit hype train. She would tell me regularly of the guys in her life that she had casual relationships but none cared to stick around for the long term, which she desired. We've lost touch, hope she experienced this self-actualization like this woman did eventually.
This woman cannot be taken seriously. I checked out her TIK TOK and shortly after this post she ended up getting three more tattoos.
@@smokindragn1 wait wtf give me link of that short!
I feel sad for them when I see them walking around.
@@blackout_ghost Agreed, so as long as it's not the cornerstone of your personality.
@@blackout_ghostthere is. Tattoos and piercings indicate lack of character, immaturity, poor judgement and decision making skills.
No one wants a tatted wife or mother. Its bad for men too but 10x worse for Women!
I'm a type A, high achiever, very successful man and am married to a muscle mommy with tattoos. She's awesome and my best friend, and we take life on together like a team. There's nothing wrong with this gal.
Her personality and behavior are not appealing, therefore wrong, which also makes you wrong. Cope.
@OilFreeFeathers myself nor you know anything about her personality no more than we know each other on this platform. From an observation, I'd say she's figuring things out and has self-awareness which means growth.
Oh some common sense thanks lord!!
@@OilFreeFeathers Cope with being a doosh, doosh. I found his "TYPE A" comment to be a bit over the top but at least it was positive. Yours was just bird crap on a windshield.
@@daTribbleMaker seethe
As a man in his 40s, one of my ultimate goal is my retirement will not be with a woman who spent majority of her 20s by partying and stacking up the body count (as in how many men she slept with, hooked up with, etc).
I had this same conversation with my Mum and I always felt uncomfortable getting male attention so young. My uncle, a Horseman was super Masculine and I looked up to him and wanted to be taken seriously. I am now super feminine while still having horses and being a strong woman.
We have to be careful telling people they have to be a certain way to attract a certain thing. Be you. Embrace you. Being self-aware in the fact that androgynous energy will attract less men, and that it is okay, is a good thing. You're not wrong or any less female. You will just have less options, and that is okay. My dad was raised by a strong woman, married a strong woman, and raised a strong woman. He wasn't feminine. He worked as a roughneck in the oilfield business. He also just found strong women attractive. I'm not as feminine as my other friends, but I am okay with that. When I was a teenager, I had a friend tell me that I should be less sporty if I wanted to get more guys' attention. I said that the right guy will like me for me. And I've been married for 16 years - and yes to a man. I didn't compromise who I was just to get more men's attention.
Yes, I do want a women who looks like her. The problem is not her personality or looks, its her standard in men she is going after...She is clearly setting the bar low for herself and what type of guy she is attracted to. Her realization needs to be that there are men out there who want a girl like her in their life.
For real. As a straight gal, I thought she was pretty to be honest. Her tattoos were not that insane. Yet I see people complain about her broad shoulders in the comments. So if a woman has naturally strong shoulders I guess she is supposed skip arm day now, or not workout with the goal of becoming strong? The only thing I thought was weird was the septum piercing.
@@rationalcynic8416 why its always have to be that way... "so if a woman this and that and bs".. like she have a big upper body, that's a masculine thing.. if a guy wants a more feminine looking girl ofc she's not gonna fit that aesthetic.. she need to find a guy who find her atractive and by the way she speak, she isnt the kinda girl men's she'd like will find her feminine.. and that's fine.. imagine if i get angry cuz korean women dont like me cuz i dont look like a korean, androgynous k-pop looking guy..
Yeah. I wanted someone who could keep up with me and found it. She might just need someone a little more, secure and classy.
The guys she wants doesn't want a girl like her.
@@rationalcynic8416 i wasnt sure about septum's at first either but i sort of dated a girl with one an i got to see some pretty cute ones on her. grew my understanding of them past those giant bull rings. hers is fairly basic though
No it’s the opposite. Misogyny told her that this is what men want. Not all men want the girly feminine type. Some men like tattoos, some men like women who are strong, who run their own businesses.
Obviously, if you’re looking for niche,, kind of guy, sometimes they do have a preference for a specific type of girl. But not all men who want to get married need the very feminine girl.
Remember, always date the person that will love you as you are.
I like that we're coming to the realization that femininity isn't weakness and less and less girls will hopefully not fall for what society (majority/ or loud minority) has been trying to push to girls growing up telling them they need to reject anything remotely feminine.
Growing up, I was a tomboy, or I just liked doing things that were neither labeled as boyish or girly. I still want to embrace my femininity though. I once was teased for liking the color pink cause the person probably thought I only liked it cause I was a girl, but I genuinely just liked it at the time.
Pink has become the color that guys get made fun of for liking and girls get made fun of cause people think "they're falling into the gender stereotypes" but like relax, it's just a color. XD
That was just my natural thoughts, it spiraled into something that this video isn't even addressing lol... I do that a lot XD
@@ElsaLouiseSingerMy girlfriend was definitely a tomboy and still isn't the MOST feminine. She is beautiful, truly kind and compassionate and cares deeply for her family.
She was a bit insecure about having some more masculine traits and for a while I had to reassure her that I love her as she is and 5 years in she is super relaxed about it.
To be frank the tomboyishness has always been super attractive because as a man socialized by women mostly, it was this happy medium that was easy to connect to.
It goes a long way when you simply decide you are going to love the person you chose unconditionally as they are, without superficial preferences getting in the way. She doesn't like to wear pink but she dresses feminine, except when it's cold, shes hungry or she can't be bothered.
Not weak for girls.
Totally weak for boys.
We basically just need to reestablish the traditional gender roles.
I mean I’m sorry but as a man, it seems fairly obviously that femininity isn’t weakness but strength. Without even having to dig that deep into it, just take at what most successful and happy women tend to be like. They’re generally supportive wives and proud moms because they’re feminine which landed them an equal counterpart of a man. They’re friendly, supportive, easy to be around, soothing, positive… that’s a strength and has attracted a lot of good in their lives.
I don’t want people to take away that you can’t be both feminine and successful career-wise either, I still don’t think that’s necessarily true. But you can separate the two worlds, and in your personal life, you’ll probably get a lot more fulfillment embracing femininity, unless that’s just truly not like you, which is fine.
It is amazing what a man will do for a woman who he's trying to impress, especially if the thinks he has a chance. There is no weakness in femininity, it's just a different kind of strength.
feminity never was a weakness, men are weak and cruel , they take revenge on feminity, they devalue feminity, they hate feminity , they take advantage of feminity. The feminity never was a problem , the problem that a lot of men hate and do not respect and value feminity , and other men do not teach them how to treat feminity in good way.
Love this 😌❤
When I was in middle though high school, I also purposefully made myself as masculine as possible because I hated being a girl. I still like hanging out with guys and wear simple baggy clothes, but I love doing feminine things like makeup, sewing, cooking, and even want to be mother/wife. I believe every girl will eventually realize what this woman realized, but not all will accept it and act upon it. I hope this woman does find a good man in the future
Cooking is not a feminine thing.
No tats, no tattoos, no blue hair, dress beautiful and modestly, be willing to surrender to your man
I would say the same thing Brett's Mom said, feminine does not mean weak. Feminine is beautiful and women should embrace it. You can be feminine and still be a strong woman with great aspirations. Being feminine doesn't mean giving up on your hopes and dreams it means embracing your biology
It can though. The same thing that makes a girl so cute it hurts at other times can make her so weak and apprehensive it's annoying LOL It's still infinitely more desirable than masculine traits but I'd prefer a girl that can take the best traits from both. Like a girl that has at least one hobby or talent I will take over the many girls that have none, any day. The girl in the video exercising is a great example especially because it also makes her look much more attractive but any hobby builds character IMO. if a girl plays an instrument like guitar I fall in love in no time lol
@@hugostiglitzracing866 not really, actually. That’s not feminine itself. That person might just have that personality. You don’t have to try to oppress women any more than they already are by saying this. I’m done with the, “But some are!” Crap.
I'd like to give my opinion in this subject. Sure, I'm not a dude, I'm a woman, soooo... I can't fully affirm everything about men attraction towards women, and I recognize that. But I'd like to say my point of view based on my experiences and thoughts:
I think the current problem of society is taking things too much to the extreme: either you're a housewife, totally traditional, don't have your own career, only follow the traditional standarts for lifestyle, dressing, etc... Or you're a totally ogre, overly masculine, unworthy of men's attraction etc etc. Why can't a woman just be feminine, but with some tomboyish traits? It's not like a girl can't be loved by any man just because she's not 100% feminine.
Of course, I understand that inevitably the guys in general will for sure feel more attracted to the more feminine girls. But that doesn't mean only the girly traditional girls will be loved, like... ??????
I'll take myself as an example:
I'm a considerably feminine girl. Not very much tho... I don't really fit in the traditional. Not a fan of makeup (I don't hate it either. I'd probably use it to go on a party, an event or smth, but not on a daily basis), I rarely wear dresses, I enjoy short hair, I have a small tattoo in my forearm and I want to have my own business. And before you come and call me a pick me girl... I also don't really fit in the "masculine woman" category: I really dislike piercings, sometimes I actually do enjoy using some skirts, I really like pink stuff, and even though I'm not a fan of dresses, I still dress like a woman normally would, but in a more country-ish style: Cuff boots, jeans, regular shirt, a bandana in my neck...
So yeah, I don't really try to fit in any category. I'm just me! And I think we all should just try be ourselves without giving so much importance about labels.
About the woman in the video... I think her issue with being attractive to men is the way she portrays herself in general. She have an exaggerated amount of tattoos, have a general "denying my femininity" look, have that weird looking nose piercing... In my opinion she looks like a really nice person, but the style she embraced is just not what the majority of male feel attracted to, and that's reality.
There's no reason to deny it: Men like femininity, just as women like masculinity. But there's the other side in this too... At the same time that I agree that it's just dumb to deny that femininity is what guys are looking for, I also find pretty annoying the people who just take this situation to go on and say "HAH! See? Modern woman bad! Only tradwife good!". And here is where I get into the subject of unnecessary extremes. We don't need to be TOTALLY traditional to be likeable for men! We CAN still be feminine, and have some modern traits. We CAN be wives, but also have our own jobs. We DON'T have to follow a extreme direction for everything, damn! It's not like every man in the world will start to despise me just because I have a single tattoo in my arm, or because I want to have my business! It's the same thing for men... For sure I like masculine traits in guys, but it's not because of that, that I'll reject every guy who's not a complete giga-Chad-looking-like! No one should feel obligated to go to a extreme, because we're all human and have our nuances!
So basically... Everything feels so extreme to me right now, and I really wanted to express my feelings about that. In general, what I want to say is: Don't come at people all woke, trying to deny reality and expect people to completely fall in love with you even if you don't even try to be attractive to the opposite gender somehow. But at the same time, don't limit yourself to labels, humans are more than labels, and we're all free to be ourselves. It's okay to be a tomboyish girl! It's okay to be a little feminine guy! But also, try to embrace your femininity as a woman, and your masculinity as a man!
PS: I'm a conservative woman, if anyone is wondering, and I'm brazilian :P
Love your videos, Brett! Keep doing this great work!
I was older when I came to the conclusion that enjoy aspects of being girly doesn’t make me a “basic girl” and that was very liberating for me.
They use insults for woman who don’t want to be a feminist they call them “pick me girls” yes they get picked and the feminists don’t and they wonder why they aren’t getting picked 😂
That girl is just fine. Even her tattoos. Not every guy will like that, and that's okay. She needs to be herself. Being kind and sweet is half the battle, and just being able to care for oneself, in a good way.
For me, a gym girl is not a turn off. It shows me that she has self-control, commitment, and focus on her health. These are attractive qualities to some men, because we can enjoy activities such as rock climbing,
hiking, and going to the gym together.
I dont think she's all that masculine other than her muscle, I think she's kinda cute and quirky and I feel like she's just being herself. I hope she finds someone who appreciates her
Bru she said that she slept with 28 people and 14 men when she was in high school and she’s only 22 years old….. Her tattoos are a big red flag that’s not lady like at all!!! She said that at the Whatever Podcast look it up and how she slept with and older men I mean come She might sound nice or look pretty but she is a red flag!!!!!
She made the first step and acknowledged that shes the problem. Now she can walk the path of self-improvement
The nose ring. It's the nose ring.
These comments warm my cold black heart. People giving this woman a chance without roasting her and the stories of younger generations embracing their feminine and masculine roles. Keep being awesome, we can return to a more stable lifestyle by undoing the lies we've all been fed.
Tough love is a virtue
it depends on the woman. in most vids you have these obnoxious dumb know-it alls who think they're perfect 10's. Those women you roast to the bone and throw them in a canyon.
A woman like this one that is selfaware and is trying to more humble, genuine and wants to actually improve. Those you try to help.
@@revermen3580 she has shown self awareness. That's a better start than most modern women. I'll take the small win
@@neverstirfrynaked8 you arent her.
@@revermen3580 lol. Thanks for reminding me
There's nothing wrong with a woman who works out and takes care of herself, but if you also deny your own femininity in the process, that's gonna be a problem for attracting a traditional, masculine man.
The women in my family are tough as hell (one is a decorated combat veteran), they take care of themselves and some of them have tats but they all embrace their womanhood. When you see them with their kids, or around the house, they are 100 percent Susie Homemaker... in their case though, Susie is also strapped😆
Back in the 1970's when feminism was hitting its stride, there was a show called "Good Times", and they had a quasi-battle of the sex's episode.
I still remember a quote from Florida Evans to her husband, "I don't want to be ahead of you, but I don't want to walk behind you, either. James, I want to walk with you."
To me, that's the attitude to have in a marriage.
There is still one thing this woman does not get.
Let’s be clear: there is no shortage of men who are attracted to this woman exactly as she is now. Plenty of men like pretty blondes with tattoos, piercings, and muscle tone.
The question is whether or not this woman actually notices the men who are attracted to her.
My ex was a bodybuilder and in the end all these labels have little meaning, it doesn't define you. She was still a sweetheart who killed it wearing a dress. It all comes down to personal preference, in the end.
She seems like a sweetheart who's self-aware to the point she'd ought to be attractive to a lot of guys on that alone.
Just have to keep looking in the right places, namely in places where people may value that which she values.
Men don't want ripped women, being tone is fine.
Sounds pretty gay tbh
🤣 because liking women is gay y'all 🤣
Men don’t like a woman cover up with tattoos. That’s not lady like.. she gots a divorce date for a men whoever wants to marry her!!!She said that she gots a body count of 28 and she’s 22 years old she is the bottom of the barrel!!
When I met my girlfriend, I made it quite clear what I am looking for in a partner, funnily enough as we started seeing each other more, she actually got worried that she wasn’t feminine enough for me because she used to have a bit of a bite, whereas I found that she always seemed very feminine around me, and still does to this day. We bring a real lovely balance to each other and to see her flourish in her softer side has made her happier she tells me
Men dont want "partners"
@@professionalpookie who told you that
@@MadsterV have you ever heard men say they want "partners"?
@@professionalpookie Just "men" in Cali
@@MadsterV answer the question
I grew up watching feminine, sexy, but classy, strong females and that’s what I’ve strived to be. My sister was more of a tomboy and never wanted to do anything girly. She’s not a strong person at all. I can wear a pink dress and heels and still be the most emotionally strong female in the room. I prefer to look my best and that’s how I got my masculine husband at only 19 years old. My sister doesn’t know what a woman is and is still single at 30.
Honest question. What do you mean when you say "emotionally strong"?
@@6feetunderpantslike your grandma or great grandma
People live their lives diffrently some like to be alone some like to look good in peoples eyes aka starting a family to fit the image of successful person in most places in the world but success have diffrent images for diffrent people she's probably happy in her life just like you or even more
I wouldn’t consider getting a husband as a teenager an accomplishment. I hope you got your education. Certainly, you didn’t manage to grow sympathy for your family members in all your married life. 😂
@@kithaley5452 It's her accomplishment. No need to to put her down for living her dream.
She is articulate, intelligent, gorgeous, in great shape, AND self made?? Any guys who have a problem with this are insecure in their manhood, it’s got nothing to do with her. Ugh.
LOL, it's ALL her
She’s a beautiful woman. Once she embraces her femininity and backs off the “masculine female” image, she will find her dating options open up considerably.
@IbanSolo9 how am I simping when I’m saying she should stop the masculine stuff and embrace her femininity? She is objectively a pretty woman. That’s all I said.
Before I met my fiancé, I was the classic "I'm an independent woman who don't need no man." Because of that, I was super bitter at the girls who could get boyfriend after boyfriend. I only got bitter because I was lonely. When I was a kid, my mom said I was a "princess who liked mud." I liked playing outside with monster trucks and then come inside in my pink bedroom and play with Barbies. And that still rings true today. I paint my nails, but I love to tinker with my RC car. I'll build a bookcase by myself, but I'll wear a dress. My fiancé helped me want to be feminine and embrace my biological nature.
Wesring dresses and playing with barbies has nothing to do with biology
It's so baffling how she says "I thought guys wanted big strong tough girls", I just cannot fathom how you can come to this conclusion
For real. Where the hell does that even come from
I have a good female friend who is very tomboyish. She never had any problems attracting guys. She dated a lot when younger. Currently she's been married almost 20 yrs (to a guy) and they have 2 kids. Yet she's been always so tomboyish that when I showed her pic to some of my other friends they assumed she was a lesbian.
Because many men are attracted to that. And lots of different men have different types. I'm heavily tattooed and it's mostly tattoo free men attracted to me. Also feminine/masculine is more about personality. I wear make up, heels, skirts/dresses and I do not consider myself feminine and not because of tattoos.
That was wonderful. I’m 77yr old. We are living in the house and on the land we have been developing for 13yr. My very feminine wife strapped her tool belt on and worked along side me. I did all of the plumbing and electrial, and everything she couldn’t do. She is very beautiful, very capable, and we love each other dearly. We only moved into our house two years ago. And our lives is everything we have worked for. The house is a work of art, and we just did did it ourselves.
What really irks me about this is that as women we are told we can’t be both feminine AND strong, having some masculine energy. So if you’re a woman who is overly masculine, society will tell you, “oh that’s because you’re actually a man,” instead of honoring that there are different types of women. No, not all women who are wifed up are super girly. I like makeup, I like dressing up, I also have a pretty strong masculine side of myself. I am married. It’s all about God’s timing and trusting Him to bring you the right person at the right time. There’s nothing wrong with you if you’re single. It’s just not your time yet.
I disagree. I see tons of strong women who own businesses being proud of their womanhood and wearing pink and doing girly things. I do agree though that it is possible to have traits of both, just men can.
@@germanshepherddogsOkay, but if a woman doesn't exhibit some traits of masculinity and is always just feminine, the world will eat her up and spit her out. These times don't support all feminine men. If a girl wants to, she can be feminine or masculine. I think this is why the Trans community is having a field day. Those ideas right there. If we could accept thre are women with masculine traits and feminine traits, I think things would be better off.
I mean, it's about probability. Sure you could be masculine as hell and still find a somewhat musculine man and fall in love, get married, etc. However, your probability of this happening if you act very masculine vs very feminine is drastically lower. So basically, why not try to up your chances?
Also, I'm not religious myself, but your statement about God 'sorting you out at the right time' makes it seem like you don't have to do anything and all will be okay anyway. Seems like a dangerous statement, because it takes all accountability away from yourself. What if God is first waiting to see if you pass his 'wifey-material tests' (or whatever haha) before sending you the right person?
@@markgeers8488 There are very many "feminine" men out there though. Do you believe all these people should conform to some standard for others? or just be themselves and find who truly likes them for them? Why try to change yourself? Not all women are soft and dainty little quiet creatures. Look at many households with a stay at home mom, and she is a leader and not afraid to voice her opinion as the mother and wife. Not all women are okay being quiet and totally submissive to a man. I've seen tons of guys too who are not these macho dominant men, and if you are telling women to be feminine, then you should tell men to be masculine. The reality is that both men and women can have both traits. Everyone is different, and you just have to find someone that you like and fits you best, instead trying to change the core of who you are for others.
@@germanshepherddogs No, honestly everyone can do/be whatever the fck they want, I truly don't care. However, if you want certain results, you have to understand how to maximize your chance of getting those results.
From my experience, most 'masculine' women don't want a 'feminine' man, because they would ''walk all over them'' or ''their personality is too strong'' or whatever else they use. So, if you want a masculine man, you have to understand what (in general) most masculine men want. And masculine men generally don't want a masculine woman. So if you want the best chance of finding what you want, you have to look at what it is those types of people want - this applies to pretty much everything in life. Now this doesn't mean change everything about yourself, but as the wise Albert Einstein once said; ''The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.'' You are the common denominator, so if you keep failing in the pursuit of love, there might be a character trait you have that puts people off. Sure, you can be stubborn and never change anything about yourself and keep telling yourself in the mirror you are perfect just the way you are, but that ain't helping you in getting the results you want.
Also, I don't think your perception of 'feminine' is very accurate. Being feminine doesn't mean you can't voice your opinion, you have to be a dainty little creature, you have to be quiet all the time. This is sadly a very common misperception. It's more about being gentle, nurturing, sweet, emphatic, kind, supportive, etc, as well as not being combative, a loud mouth, nagging, etc. Being feminine also isn't weak or being completely dependant - there is power in true feminity, but sadly a lot of people (modern day feminist women especially) don't understand that anymore.
Ladies, just stay true to yourself. whether you’re more feminine or masculine or a combination of the two. forcing yourself to dress a certain way that you don’t feel comfortable with will not make you happy. it’ll only attract people who will always expect that from you. dress for yourself and don’t try to conform yourself to what society says is appropriate or what men online are saying about their preferences. you will find the right person that’ll love you for you. a real man loves a woman who is confident in themselves, whether they are more feminine or masculine.
Shout out to Brett Cooper for sharing her personal backstory; I love hearing peoples back stories, and this particular one gave me a lot more respect for her - her transformation sounds like it was pretty extreme, and people who have depth are interesting.
I love hearing her perspective! So relatable
I hope she will never listen to those discriminating comments. Don't make yourself submissive or weak. Having a buff body is the best thing for a woman u are strong and don't have to be scared about anyone it's cool