For women listening to this podcast, I can’t stress enough how imperative the 23 minute mark is. It’s hard for us to be vulnerable with women because we don’t trust that you won’t use that vulnerability as a weapon against us in a disagreement. I knew I’d marry my wife because she was the 1st woman I ever met where I thought she was a safe space honestly. Men are not innately vulnerable so CHERISH that space if you reached it lol. The moment you abuse we will NEVER view you as “safe” again.
This the only panel of all black folks on a podcast I’ll listen to . This was great and beneficial. First time in a long time I could actually sit and listen to black women as well, not boastful about shit whilst also blaming other for their shortcomings like the other typically do. Not talking about useless shit in relation to relationships and men ...very satisfying to listen them. The brother spoke like men , consider their role in their life’s happenings and left it there . I dig it all the way . Not talking about sex and nonsense. Respect to all y’all
He switched the formula from getting women with toxic views and dunking on them to finding women with similar views to have a productive dialogue. Great work! The dunks were fun and still informative (🙏🏾RIP Kevin Samuels aka Vince Carter) but this is where the manosphere needs to go.
What you’re missing is that these are the same women (literally). They started out with toxic views and learned from the initial experience to develop into what you see here.
I don’t think he “dunked” on them. I take dunking as power move of dominance or embarrassment. I think he heard them out and tried to enlighten them to things they didn’t realize or know. I think he greatly helped those women see the truth about who they were and how they thought.
Having lived a well adjusted life by putting women no higher than 4 in social importance, is one of the best decisions I ever made. Oh, and the welfare of my daughters were ranked in positions 1, 2, 3.
I once told a female I was talking to, to fire her therapist; because she would get easily triggered by simple questions I asked regarding the so-called treatment she was receiving.
@@DefiLieteracy😅 it wasn't issues between us. I was an outside party assessing the issues from an unbiased perspective. It was unresolved issues dealing with her parents and their relationship.
Good therapist's don't tell you what you should or shouldn't do. They help you to establish your core values, navigate your boundaries, and process your thoughts and past/current experiences with healthy processing, coping, and behavioral tools like; saying no and meaning it, journaling to release your thoughts, critical and objective thinking, conflict resolution, boundary setting, practicing Self-Compassion, active forgiveness, and more. A therapist can give you the blueprint but the client has to do the work. **I'm not saying bad therapists don't exist. But I am saying it's not always on the therapist either. Sounds like ol'girl is stuck in a fear driven trauma loop.
I love how Raw you guys are , you are touching points that people don't dig into especially digging into men and their emotions , wanting variety of things from one person that don't match up . Loving yourself , understanding what you're giving off and also having boundaries to say I'm not staying in this . And then accountability topics are so spot on .
A Subscriber of mine showed me your channel. And I have to say...the RUclips algorithm did me a disservice. I've watched a few of your videos and then this podcast, and I gotta tell you...I'm not leaving!! lol I loved the healing the ladies went through and the articulation of thoughts you guys had. On how women feel and on how men feel. This is one of the best podcasts or talks I've seen in awhile. The increase in respect, friendship, and healing it fantastic. I know you hear it a lot, but here it is again. Keep on going brother! These are the channels and the videos and the podcasts that are going to help heal people.
@@wnttalk I got a question my man, one of these days would you like to do a livestream or a podcast conversation with me? You articulate a lot of things I think I could learn from. :D
Hang in there ladies. He's absolutely right! I wanted a successful, smart man who spent all his time with me. We've been married for 23yrs...the kids are out of the house (mostly). He now works from home. I countdown the days until his travel days. People are fickle. They don't know what they want.
22:36 they're on point about learning 2 *Befriend* a man rather than vet him based off a checklist. That makes an actual bond less likely than a transactional relationship when the tone is set by expectation.
One of the reasons why good relationships and marriages are so scarce is we want to negotiate first principles of what makes a long term relationship work. It’s like arguing Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. It’s like arguing whether a car needs a steering wheel. I’ve been the same man more our less since college. I haven’t changed. Only a few women understood first principles. The one that got it, I married. And only a few men understand first principles which is why too many end up with fraudulent women. The rules of what makes a relationship work has not changed. The same sh*t that worked a hundred years ago works today. But we argue ourselves into being single. We come up with unproven heuristics that are patently false. It’s painful to watch. However, I love this channel because at least it’s trying to repair the damage.
@@paullamah5073 thank you. We now live in a world where subjectivity overrules facts on the ground. The evidence is clear. An army of relationship psychologist and marriage counselors have already laid out the facts. We ignore it at our own peril. I remember reading a book called Data Smog by David Shenk. This book is 25 years old. He warned then that society would be overwhelmed with so much information, that without the necessary media and information literacy, that the average person would create their own information echo chamber assuming those echoes were tangible information. As you know an echo is a reflection of the original sound. So it sounds similar. But you’re not getting the original sound. People mistake similar for congruency. Essentially conflating the two. Which is why the echo chamber is so dangerous.
@@user-hl1ct3yh1r First principles is another word for building blocks. Something that’s irrefutable. Removing complexity to simply what works. In the context of the discussion, the hope is that we start with the basic rules of what works in a relationship and start from there. A great book that touches on this, and I just bought the book is The Value of Others: Understanding the Economic Model of Relationships to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sexual Marketplace by Orion Tarraban
The Jada/Will situation is triggering because Will is the ultimate example of a man doing everything that could possibly be on a woman’s list of requirements and he still couldn’t get a loyal woman.
WOW! I love these constructive conversations. I love that both men and women can learn from EACH of the speakers points. Excellent dialog fam. LOVE THIS SO MUCH!
I really appreciate these talks, it makes you understand the behavior, thoughts and background of the other person. I've been watching tons of podcasts about relationships and also ingaged in a few with Pearly Things and what I love about this one is,it seems everyone is talking towards a goal of working with each other as both man and women.
She kind of did, she even admitted that she even told him and her mom that she didn’t want to marry him - words from her mouth. Idk how true it’s but she said it lol
Having listened to the podcast, I commend the ladies for facing reality and the men also. That said, men will need to work or do better on that default setting about what if my wife can't provide during pregnancy? 80% of those fears are unreal and do not come to pass. We need to ease-off the brake of fear of 'Provision' as things won't be perfect in-between those times but manageable. This idea of being able to PERFECTLY provide only adds more unnecessary pressures. I mean as much as the basics are covered, food, shelter, bills and family, it's ok to go lean a bit for things to normalize itself. Men shouldn't wait for that perfect moment before they dive into raising a family, cuz truth be told, no perfect time in the grand scheme of things. Still one of the best Black culture podcast I listen to. Big ups to them ladies, and men. I love the ladies attitudes, and pray that they find the coolest guy soon. God's got this! And the men, trust me, we more of y'all around. Peace.
"If you don't use her she does not feel useful" Being an Aerospace engineer that can cook, clean, and do my own hair leaves not a lot for women to do in my life. I also have my own non-profit in 100% of schools in Flint so never short of solutions. Women literally tell me at 26 that they have nothing to offer and that's when it clicked........ Also its proven therapy does not work for men as well given they are too action oriented and therapy is more of an identifier of problems than creating solutions, which is then why men often feel lost after sessions. Also told I'm like a robot or too human, so that's a me thing and not women. I know my faults in relationships but they're definitely a strength when it comes to work/success
This Entire EPISODE IS INSANE. I got goosebumps brother. I don’t even know where to begin. I’ll start with writing down my thoughts. Absolutely amazing; to everyone that spoke. I love the information provided ❤
I love this format of conversation. The respect level is extremely high for all parties. Often times these forums be over saturated in EMOTION. Which tend to lead into DISRESPECTFUL cut offs and talking OVER each other. The thing that is CONSTANT with this is. “Well men do”….. When we talking about the other sex. Most times we don’t get to the bottom of an issue/topic because we get derailed by “Well y’all do this or that too” etc.
I’m happy to see such a mature conversation bringing both men & women to the table expressing their frustrations & lessons learned with open ears. This should be the format in which relational dialogues should be carried out into the future. Keep doing your thang. This is the best way to carry forward these conversations y’all. ✊🏽
Yet ANOTHER excellent submission, bro. Keep it up! I might wind up on here one day, lbvs! The ladies were seemingly very sincere and...well... ladies, lbvs! And the brothas were balanced men: not bashing or women haters, nor simps or enablers.
One of my ex-girlfriends is a psychologist. We dated while we were in school and she told me all her classmates basically were going to school to get therapy.
This was a great healthy conversation/podcast. No gender war rhetoric, No big I's and little U's based on male and female interpersonal relationships. This was a great listen.
Just some advice. This channel is amazing and I think you’re making a great change. When it comes to this video it seems like it’s been shot on one of the newer iPhones. I think you should look into increasing the production value by color grading the video. The video looks flat but also the light over exposed.
This podcast is awesome you guys are providing a platform for conversations that both men and women need to learn to communicate to each other. Definitely one of my go to podcasts 💯🙏🏽.
Thank you so much for this whole clip and being able to find you easily on RUclips as well as on IG you are a legend in the making and I just thought you should know that you are touching people in a way that probably doesn't come very clear to you in the flesh but in the spirit Realm you are changing the game
I love the dialogue between them. It seems like they are all really listening to one another and i believe that's how it should be. They seem like they are really progressing the conversations we all need to have. I love to see it.
29:57 she literally explains that women don't love men and uses it as evidence they love men more. Saying you can fall in love with potential and what you can "make him".. Is literally stating you don't love him as is...
"Women Love because of Potential" Lol - It's always "I'll love you IF... you will be successful, IF you get a good job." Rollo speaks of this. It's just Solipsism... this is why you can't bring in girls in this convo... This whole thing is low IQ ..
But great conversation and I love this channel. It’s always a honest and genuine channel that really try to understand both sides. My two cents is just to help with the narratives.
Im from harlem living in Barbados now. Best podcast I've ever watch. This is the neo of podcast. A more important conversation need to happen 1st. The root of this problem. If you reading this.. in the word's of my mentor(BRING YOUR WHOLE MIND). There's a difference between males n MEN? female's n WOMEN. if u know and understand the bible it's in there. The million dollar question. What is a MAN? male? WOMAN? Female? A MAN is the truth? He he does not lie, manipulate, device. A MAN always mentally respond he never emotionally reacts. Manhood is the centre and core of his existence. He is consistent, poised, focus etc. I always tell males, the bigger security for a female is not $. It's knowing you wont change under any circumstances. Male is the gender and MAN is a title you must earn and elevate to. So take this apply it to female's n women. I know alot of males with titles $ but there not MEN. to many people think they MEN n WOMEN when there not. So we have a 95% population of males n female's in relationships thinking their MEN m WOMEN n wonder y it don't work.
Facts Allen and great job by everyone here. I definitely agree we shine light on wrong or things we don’t agree with way too much. Let them pookies and shanaenaes be together while we do our thing. If they want to convert then let’s bring them in however I think we should focus at this time on building strong family foundations that want too. If we get enough families to do this then we will create a community that builds excellence from father to mother and children. Now the issue would be what happens to the offspring of those pookies and shanaenaes 😂? This is really complex but I think we should start building the nucleus of family on solid principles.
Late to the party but FrFr the accountability conversation applies to not only the relationships between men and women but the relationship of men and women with themselves. Is three hardest thing for many a person to do.
Great conversation. I like the tidbits of the psychology takes. Most importantly, the optics are nice to see that no one is getting emotional and giving space for all talk and articulate their thoughts
Went deep real quick! Thank you for answering my question! Always felt like that the women am talking to are looking for men they can control and have an ego boost with! If you are a handsome strong minded men with good moral or quality good luck dating! They will literally give you the attention. But the moment you try to come at her! Control and ego also stemming from insecurity is the first thing you see! With a big wall standing btw you and her! She just doesn’t want to let her guard down
Very powerful! I loved the conversation I just wish these intellectual women would make more space in the conversation for the men to talk a bit more. Even the host almost lost his train of thought once.
Dope convo. Most folks don’t know most things, myself included. My happiness is my responsibility, no one or no thing else’s. Peace God cuz u is God. We ALL R.
Females are making 50+ these days. The question is, should they contribute with resources? How many dudes out here make enough money to pay 100% of household bills. I think we live in a time where 2 salaries are better than one.
I liked that he asked that question of why women have a hard time empathizing with men. I have always believed that it stems from them not seeing us as human beings. So they don't believe we have feelings. As the young lady in this video stated.
Oh guys ..you all need a bigger platform people needs to hear all this good information for our boys and girls as we raised them towards a good human being..
I’ve always felt like therapy when done correctly is no different than going to the dentist knowing you have a cavity that they told you how to avoid. Not only are you going to get chewed out, but the process of fixing it is going to be uncomfortable and it’s going to cost you. Therapy in the way a lot of people use it would be the equivalent of the doctor shining a flashlight in your mouth without looking then handing you a toothbrush and saying see you next time. You technically went but you didn’t actually get what you were supposed to get out of it.
Therapy is half the battle you gotta get hands on with the work daily... knowing who you are moving with truth, humility, reapect, honesty amd integrity as much as possible throughout our daily travels and interacrions in our lives.
Man man man man man I just got finished with the whole entire podcast and this was phenomenal all your powerful beautiful black people sitting on the panel together with no beef normalizing conversation brought tears to my eyes each and every one of you are legends in the making thank you for this I truly can't wait to continue to watch you all
In regards to men not opening up to women, specifically our wives, in addition to our feelings being weaponized, our feelings are never validated. Especially when it pertains to dynamics or issues in the relationship. When a wife opens up to her husband about the relationship there is an expectation that her feelings are to be validated & taken seriously. When a husband opens up in the same way, his wife feels no obligation to validate his feelings or take them seriously. She will inevitably complaine about his unwillingness to communicate. Never acknowledging the very real possibility that his past communications have been ignored. Therefore he no longer sees value in communicating, because his needs, wants, & feelings go unheard or unaddressed.
Facts n women generally don't care how feel at all n don't understand our experience in life is y we shouldn't bring that to them talk to your male friends guys not your women period. We're the leaders, complains don't go down they go up fellas
I also loved the accountability everyone was willing to take for the actions of their gender’s community. I loved that. It wasn’t a bashing session. Just an educational session.
Great conversation. Love the channel my brother. This needs to spread throughout the community. Great points from all on the panel. I would ask the ladies of the panel, if you were to show this conversation and content to your 20 year old, 25 year old, 30 year old versions of you all, would they be receptive to the conversation? Really take in what's being said. That's the problem I see in these time we are in. Attention spans are 15 seconds to minute long. Media(social, mainstream) has corrupted there minds to think anything outside of what's being push to them is not true.
Great convo! I do wish the message was more for the youth In that the women are pass their prime and won’t be received from the women who need the advice the most.
Ecclesiasticus 25:13,19,24 [13]Give me any plague, but the plague of the heart: and any wickedness, but the wickedness of a woman: [19]All wickedness is but little to the wickedness of a woman: let the portion of a sinner fall upon her. [24]Of the woman came the beginning of sin, and through her we all die.
Women talking about being friends first makes sense in theory but zero sense in practice. Friends dont take each other out on dates and a man isn't taking his female friend out on a date, be expected to pay the bill, give her boyfriend treatment all while she's basicay left him in the friendzone to then say that they were friends from day one so he k ew what was up
For women listening to this podcast, I can’t stress enough how imperative the 23 minute mark is. It’s hard for us to be vulnerable with women because we don’t trust that you won’t use that vulnerability as a weapon against us in a disagreement. I knew I’d marry my wife because she was the 1st woman I ever met where I thought she was a safe space honestly. Men are not innately vulnerable so CHERISH that space if you reached it lol. The moment you abuse we will NEVER view you as “safe” again.
Yeah!
Women have proven themselves to be without honor. This is why they don't respect their vows. It's that simple.
This the only panel of all black folks on a podcast I’ll listen to . This was great and beneficial. First time in a long time I could actually sit and listen to black women as well, not boastful about shit whilst also blaming other for their shortcomings like the other typically do. Not talking about useless shit in relation to relationships and men ...very satisfying to listen them. The brother spoke like men , consider their role in their life’s happenings and left it there . I dig it all the way . Not talking about sex and nonsense. Respect to all y’all
He switched the formula from getting women with toxic views and dunking on them to finding women with similar views to have a productive dialogue. Great work! The dunks were fun and still informative (🙏🏾RIP Kevin Samuels aka Vince Carter) but this is where the manosphere needs to go.
This approach could not have happened without what KS was doing. I agree with your assessment.
@@stephensmelley2939 facts!! I feel like people forget how influential KS really was
What you’re missing is that these are the same women (literally). They started out with toxic views and learned from the initial experience to develop into what you see here.
I don’t think he “dunked” on them. I take dunking as power move of dominance or embarrassment. I think he heard them out and tried to enlighten them to things they didn’t realize or know. I think he greatly helped those women see the truth about who they were and how they thought.
@@deeerv4905 while I agree that he helped so many he made alot of them look extremely foolish, that’s what I mean by dunking on them
Having lived a well adjusted life by putting women no higher than 4 in social importance, is one of the best decisions I ever made.
Oh, and the welfare of my daughters were ranked in positions 1, 2, 3.
I once told a female I was talking to, to fire her therapist; because she would get easily triggered by simple questions I asked regarding the so-called treatment she was receiving.
Do you think the therapists was taking her side on issues y’all might have had ?
@@DefiLieteracy😅 it wasn't issues between us. I was an outside party assessing the issues from an unbiased perspective. It was unresolved issues dealing with her parents and their relationship.
Same thing
Most therapists are not as experienced as people think. Finding a good therapist is harder then finding a good barber.
Good therapist's don't tell you what you should or shouldn't do.
They help you to establish your core values, navigate your boundaries, and process your thoughts and past/current experiences with healthy processing, coping, and behavioral tools like; saying no and meaning it, journaling to release your thoughts, critical and objective thinking, conflict resolution, boundary setting, practicing Self-Compassion, active forgiveness, and more.
A therapist can give you the blueprint but the client has to do the work.
**I'm not saying bad therapists don't exist. But I am saying it's not always on the therapist either. Sounds like ol'girl is stuck in a fear driven trauma loop.
I love how Raw you guys are , you are touching points that people don't dig into especially digging into men and their emotions , wanting variety of things from one person that don't match up . Loving yourself , understanding what you're giving off and also having boundaries to say I'm not staying in this . And then accountability topics are so spot on .
Thank you. Checkout our other episodes.
Thanks!
Such wise, intelligent, feminine women you chose to have as guests. Willing to listen to understand.
Exactly. A completely different approach than that “tonight’s conversation” podcast.
A Subscriber of mine showed me your channel. And I have to say...the RUclips algorithm did me a disservice. I've watched a few of your videos and then this podcast, and I gotta tell you...I'm not leaving!! lol
I loved the healing the ladies went through and the articulation of thoughts you guys had. On how women feel and on how men feel. This is one of the best podcasts or talks I've seen in awhile. The increase in respect, friendship, and healing it fantastic.
I know you hear it a lot, but here it is again. Keep on going brother! These are the channels and the videos and the podcasts that are going to help heal people.
Wow!! That means a whole lot my brother! Thank you and welcome
@@wnttalk I got a question my man, one of these days would you like to do a livestream or a podcast conversation with me? You articulate a lot of things I think I could learn from. :D
Hang in there ladies. He's absolutely right! I wanted a successful, smart man who spent all his time with me. We've been married for 23yrs...the kids are out of the house (mostly). He now works from home. I countdown the days until his travel days. People are fickle. They don't know what they want.
22:36 they're on point about learning 2 *Befriend* a man rather than vet him based off a checklist. That makes an actual bond less likely than a transactional relationship when the tone is set by expectation.
Nothing makes a work morning hit better than a new vid 🙏🏾 especially the pod ones.
Good covo between everyday people is great edutainment.
Thank you so much bro!
@@wnttalkbig ups bro, this video shows that both genders can have different views but still be respectable and engage in productive conversation.
One of the reasons why good relationships and marriages are so scarce is we want to negotiate first principles of what makes a long term relationship work. It’s like arguing Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. It’s like arguing whether a car needs a steering wheel. I’ve been the same man more our less since college. I haven’t changed. Only a few women understood first principles. The one that got it, I married. And only a few men understand first principles which is why too many end up with fraudulent women. The rules of what makes a relationship work has not changed. The same sh*t that worked a hundred years ago works today. But we argue ourselves into being single. We come up with unproven heuristics that are patently false. It’s painful to watch. However, I love this channel because at least it’s trying to repair the damage.
Very well said brother.... good conversation but it's fruitless.
@@paullamah5073 thank you. We now live in a world where subjectivity overrules facts on the ground. The evidence is clear. An army of relationship psychologist and marriage counselors have already laid out the facts. We ignore it at our own peril. I remember reading a book called Data Smog by David Shenk. This book is 25 years old. He warned then that society would be overwhelmed with so much information, that without the necessary media and information literacy, that the average person would create their own information echo chamber assuming those echoes were tangible information. As you know an echo is a reflection of the original sound. So it sounds similar. But you’re not getting the original sound. People mistake similar for congruency. Essentially conflating the two. Which is why the echo chamber is so dangerous.
super well said
First principles meaning?
@@user-hl1ct3yh1r First principles is another word for building blocks. Something that’s irrefutable. Removing complexity to simply what works. In the context of the discussion, the hope is that we start with the basic rules of what works in a relationship and start from there. A great book that touches on this, and I just bought the book is The Value of Others: Understanding the Economic Model of Relationships to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sexual Marketplace by Orion Tarraban
Great conversation for the culture
The Jada/Will situation is triggering because Will is the ultimate example of a man doing everything that could possibly be on a woman’s list of requirements and he still couldn’t get a loyal woman.
Thank you, this was an awesome conversation, you all provided some great understanding for both sides. I love it.
WOW! I love these constructive conversations. I love that both men and women can learn from EACH of the speakers points. Excellent dialog fam. LOVE THIS SO MUCH!
Thank you so much! This format unfortunately isn’t viral worthy
I really appreciate these talks, it makes you understand the behavior, thoughts and background of the other person. I've been watching tons of podcasts about relationships and also ingaged in a few with Pearly Things and what I love about this one is,it seems everyone is talking towards a goal of working with each other as both man and women.
Yooooo! This conversation was so refreshing! Great panel and conversation.
Thanks for the conversation. Absolutely thought provoking and intensely deep.
That rejection sometimes really means I’m not qualified for you. She is letting u know she is a lower level woman. It’s frustrating
Jada is so triggering because it's really starting to seem like she NEVER loved Will in the first place.
That's *HALF* true
She never did. That’s my conclusion
She kind of did, she even admitted that she even told him and her mom that she didn’t want to marry him - words from her mouth. Idk how true it’s but she said it lol
@@DaVoughnMasonNot wanting to marry doesn't mean you don't love someone.
She NEVER did …
Having listened to the podcast, I commend the ladies for facing reality and the men also. That said, men will need to work or do better on that default setting about what if my wife can't provide during pregnancy? 80% of those fears are unreal and do not come to pass. We need to ease-off the brake of fear of 'Provision' as things won't be perfect in-between those times but manageable. This idea of being able to PERFECTLY provide only adds more unnecessary pressures. I mean as much as the basics are covered, food, shelter, bills and family, it's ok to go lean a bit for things to normalize itself. Men shouldn't wait for that perfect moment before they dive into raising a family, cuz truth be told, no perfect time in the grand scheme of things. Still one of the best Black culture podcast I listen to. Big ups to them ladies, and men. I love the ladies attitudes, and pray that they find the coolest guy soon. God's got this! And the men, trust me, we more of y'all around. Peace.
"If you don't use her she does not feel useful" Being an Aerospace engineer that can cook, clean, and do my own hair leaves not a lot for women to do in my life. I also have my own non-profit in 100% of schools in Flint so never short of solutions. Women literally tell me at 26 that they have nothing to offer and that's when it clicked........ Also its proven therapy does not work for men as well given they are too action oriented and therapy is more of an identifier of problems than creating solutions, which is then why men often feel lost after sessions. Also told I'm like a robot or too human, so that's a me thing and not women. I know my faults in relationships but they're definitely a strength when it comes to work/success
This Entire EPISODE IS INSANE. I got goosebumps brother. I don’t even know where to begin. I’ll start with writing down my thoughts.
Absolutely amazing; to everyone that spoke. I love the information provided ❤
I will say I grew from this conversation, and the conversations like this is how fix our dating market. Thank you 🙏🏿
That means alot brother 🫡
We dont need Red Table Talk we have REAL Table Talk right here!
I love the first speakers self awareness! Major!!!
I always appreciate when you bring on mature/intelligeable women on here. Very good conversations and well thought out responses💯👌🏽
I love this format of conversation. The respect level is extremely high for all parties. Often times these forums be over saturated in EMOTION. Which tend to lead into DISRESPECTFUL cut offs and talking OVER each other. The thing that is CONSTANT with this is. “Well men do”….. When we talking about the other sex. Most times we don’t get to the bottom of an issue/topic because we get derailed by “Well y’all do this or that too” etc.
I’m happy to see such a mature conversation bringing both men & women to the table expressing their frustrations & lessons learned with open ears. This should be the format in which relational dialogues should be carried out into the future. Keep doing your thang. This is the best way to carry forward these conversations y’all. ✊🏽
This is why I am doing my work!!!
Yet ANOTHER excellent submission, bro. Keep it up! I might wind up on here one day, lbvs! The ladies were seemingly very sincere and...well... ladies, lbvs! And the brothas were balanced men: not bashing or women haters, nor simps or enablers.
One of my ex-girlfriends is a psychologist. We dated while we were in school and she told me all her classmates basically were going to school to get therapy.
This was a great healthy conversation/podcast. No gender war rhetoric, No big I's and little U's based on male and female interpersonal relationships. This was a great listen.
I'm married I totally agree with the brother. Men falling in love hits us harder
Same here, it's quite unfortunate that most of we men who didn't want to be seen as trash but end up being taken for granted.
These are the conversations that move the culture forward. Let's go!
Just some advice. This channel is amazing and I think you’re making a great change. When it comes to this video it seems like it’s been shot on one of the newer iPhones. I think you should look into increasing the production value by color grading the video. The video looks flat but also the light over exposed.
Thank yall for this beautiful conversation filled with hundreds of jewels❤ 💎Much props!!
This podcast is awesome you guys are providing a platform for conversations that both men and women need to learn to communicate to each other. Definitely one of my go to podcasts 💯🙏🏽.
Great conversation. Thank you.
“He’s going to be boring because he’s peaceful” whewww 😮💨 if that’s not a word.
Say big bruh,
You be spitting yo azz off,
Mayn i praaay you go viral..
Many ears needs you
Thank you so much for this whole clip and being able to find you easily on RUclips as well as on IG you are a legend in the making and I just thought you should know that you are touching people in a way that probably doesn't come very clear to you in the flesh but in the spirit Realm you are changing the game
I love what Alan said the level of empathy equity has to improve in order for our community to be healthy
I loved this ❤never been so hooked like this b4
I love the dialogue between them. It seems like they are all really listening to one another and i believe that's how it should be. They seem like they are really progressing the conversations we all need to have. I love to see it.
Here go a question.. How do we get women to see men as a person when they're young and have the world at they feet instead of after 35 plus hit
Men as a person meaning?
29:57 she literally explains that women don't love men and uses it as evidence they love men more. Saying you can fall in love with potential and what you can "make him".. Is literally stating you don't love him as is...
I needed this conversation. Keep it up brotha.
Once again, a great conversation 👌🏿 👍🏿 👏 🙂
And, thanks again for introducing me to Dr T Hasan Johnson. #Misandronoir is finally being addressed on an academic level.
Thank you for this discussion young people....
Everyone was hitting key points after key points. I need to go watch the other episodes!
"Women Love because of Potential" Lol - It's always "I'll love you IF... you will be successful, IF you get a good job." Rollo speaks of this. It's just Solipsism... this is why you can't bring in girls in this convo... This whole thing is low IQ
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But great conversation and I love this channel. It’s always a honest and genuine channel that really try to understand both sides. My two cents is just to help with the narratives.
Love that work, brother, young black guy from Baltimore city
OMG, DEIDRE! HAVENT SEEN YOU SINCE GRADUATION! ❤ I love this!
Damn.... This was dope! Definitely sharing!
great conversation...your brand is getting strong, keep it up
Im from harlem living in Barbados now. Best podcast I've ever watch. This is the neo of podcast. A more important conversation need to happen 1st. The root of this problem. If you reading this.. in the word's of my mentor(BRING YOUR WHOLE MIND). There's a difference between males n MEN? female's n WOMEN. if u know and understand the bible it's in there. The million dollar question. What is a MAN? male? WOMAN? Female? A MAN is the truth? He he does not lie, manipulate, device. A MAN always mentally respond he never emotionally reacts. Manhood is the centre and core of his existence. He is consistent, poised, focus etc. I always tell males, the bigger security for a female is not $. It's knowing you wont change under any circumstances. Male is the gender and MAN is a title you must earn and elevate to. So take this apply it to female's n women. I know alot of males with titles $ but there not MEN. to many people think they MEN n WOMEN when there not. So we have a 95% population of males n female's in relationships thinking their MEN m WOMEN n wonder y it don't work.
The good Dr. with another great conversation. Still need you to come back to nyc though.
49:40 👏🏿👏🏿
This part right here, "I only know how to deal with broken men/women, because I'm so busted inside" that was me at one point as well.
Facts Allen and great job by everyone here. I definitely agree we shine light on wrong or things we don’t agree with way too much. Let them pookies and shanaenaes be together while we do our thing. If they want to convert then let’s bring them in however I think we should focus at this time on building strong family foundations that want too. If we get enough families to do this then we will create a community that builds excellence from father to mother and children. Now the issue would be what happens to the offspring of those pookies and shanaenaes 😂? This is really complex but I think we should start building the nucleus of family on solid principles.
Late to the party but FrFr the accountability conversation applies to not only the relationships between men and women but the relationship of men and women with themselves. Is three hardest thing for many a person to do.
This is one of the best episodes of any podcast that I’ve ever seen
Great Teachings as Always Sir!! 👌 Your Work seems to be Working👨🏫
Great conversation. I like the tidbits of the psychology takes. Most importantly, the optics are nice to see that no one is getting emotional and giving space for all talk and articulate their thoughts
Went deep real quick! Thank you for answering my question! Always felt like that the women am talking to are looking for men they can control and have an ego boost with! If you are a handsome strong minded men with good moral or quality good luck dating! They will literally give you the attention. But the moment you try to come at her! Control and ego also stemming from insecurity is the first thing you see! With a big wall standing btw you and her! She just doesn’t want to let her guard down
Very true.
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Best chat on this topic.
Very powerful! I loved the conversation I just wish these intellectual women would make more space in the conversation for the men to talk a bit more. Even the host almost lost his train of thought once.
Dope convo. Most folks don’t know most things, myself included. My happiness is my responsibility, no one or no thing else’s. Peace God cuz u is God. We ALL R.
Females are making 50+ these days. The question is, should they contribute with resources? How many dudes out here make enough money to pay 100% of household bills. I think we live in a time where 2 salaries are better than one.
That's just simple math..🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
I liked that he asked that question of why women have a hard time empathizing with men. I have always believed that it stems from them not seeing us as human beings. So they don't believe we have feelings. As the young lady in this video stated.
Top notch conversation 🔥🔥🔥
This is a monumental podcast episode
Oh guys ..you all need a bigger platform people needs to hear all this good information for our boys and girls as we raised them towards a good human being..
Safe space is so important as a man I bite my tongue so much afraid to look weak or short coming
Very good topics and panel!!!❤❤❤
I’ve always felt like therapy when done correctly is no different than going to the dentist knowing you have a cavity that they told you how to avoid. Not only are you going to get chewed out, but the process of fixing it is going to be uncomfortable and it’s going to cost you. Therapy in the way a lot of people use it would be the equivalent of the doctor shining a flashlight in your mouth without looking then handing you a toothbrush and saying see you next time. You technically went but you didn’t actually get what you were supposed to get out of it.
Exactly why nice/good guys finish last
Therapy is half the battle you gotta get hands on with the work daily... knowing who you are moving with truth, humility, reapect, honesty amd integrity as much as possible throughout our daily travels and interacrions in our lives.
The first hour of this convo was really dope.
Real talk guys ,we men need this👍
Accountability should come when you know you're wrong. But to know you're wrong is hard for most
Allen this ep and or series is going to do numbers. Keep it up brother 🔥🔥🔥
Man man man man man I just got finished with the whole entire podcast and this was phenomenal all your powerful beautiful black people sitting on the panel together with no beef normalizing conversation brought tears to my eyes each and every one of you are legends in the making thank you for this I truly can't wait to continue to watch you all
Too many women feel useless without a broken man! Wheewww that smacked the snot outta me a
Truly appreciate this content 🙏🏾💯👑
Another great conversation 🙏🏿👌🏿
In regards to men not opening up to women, specifically our wives, in addition to our feelings being weaponized, our feelings are never validated. Especially when it pertains to dynamics or issues in the relationship. When a wife opens up to her husband about the relationship there is an expectation that her feelings are to be validated & taken seriously. When a husband opens up in the same way, his wife feels no obligation to validate his feelings or take them seriously. She will inevitably complaine about his unwillingness to communicate. Never acknowledging the very real possibility that his past communications have been ignored. Therefore he no longer sees value in communicating, because his needs, wants, & feelings go unheard or unaddressed.
Facts n women generally don't care how feel at all n don't understand our experience in life is y we shouldn't bring that to them talk to your male friends guys not your women period. We're the leaders, complains don't go down they go up fellas
I also loved the accountability everyone was willing to take for the actions of their gender’s community. I loved that. It wasn’t a bashing session. Just an educational session.
This was a constructive conversation--which is very rare on RUclips.
Great conversation. Love the channel my brother. This needs to spread throughout the community. Great points from all on the panel.
I would ask the ladies of the panel, if you were to show this conversation and content to your 20 year old, 25 year old, 30 year old versions of you all, would they be receptive to the conversation? Really take in what's being said.
That's the problem I see in these time we are in. Attention spans are 15 seconds to minute long. Media(social, mainstream) has corrupted there minds to think anything outside of what's being push to them is not true.
Great convo! I do wish the message was more for the youth In that the women are pass their prime and won’t be received from the women who need the advice the most.
Ecclesiasticus 25:13,19,24
[13]Give me any plague, but the plague of the heart: and any wickedness, but the wickedness of a woman:
[19]All wickedness is but little to the wickedness of a woman: let the portion of a sinner fall upon her.
[24]Of the woman came the beginning of sin, and through her we all die.
This nothing but pure 💯 facts. Men are far from perfect but a woman can be wicked to the core.
Th is was really good!!
Women talking about being friends first makes sense in theory but zero sense in practice. Friends dont take each other out on dates and a man isn't taking his female friend out on a date, be expected to pay the bill, give her boyfriend treatment all while she's basicay left him in the friendzone to then say that they were friends from day one so he k ew what was up
Best black unity channel on RUclips