Depends on the crime. Not only does dating/marrying someone with a record cause issues with owning firearms but it also has a financial impact on your life and family's life. No one wants to hire a felon. It's àlot to deal with.
A criminal record is a no from me. A person can change, but their record could make it hard for them to have more job options. I don't have time for a man's past to interrupt my future.
Thought provoking question Reggie. So many variables play into the answer. I know a lot of ladies without any record that I wouldn't date. I'm certain that there are a lot of good people with records though. When I was in a hiring position, I called up a guy that I worked with at another job (ex-con). The dude was solid, and I had no reservations about recommending him for the job. There sure as hell are some good folks that got into bad situations. Thanks for the video.
I wouldn't mind dating someone with a criminal background, as a matter of fact, I did date someone with an aggravated assault record. At the end of the day, everyone deserves a second chance in life but it all depends on if that person has changed for the better or for the worse.
dated a girl that had a criminal record, it was mainly finance related. she had a crap ton of student loans and had to file for bankruptcy in the past. I tried to see through all of this and almost got to the point of marrying her. Luckily I was moving due to my job, and during the points leading up to me leaving, she grew more distant. I eventually broke it off, probably the best decision I made looking back on it.
@@Conquerinq i got a good deal and my record was sealed after 1 year. I have a decent job now and can answer no on applications. I recommend getting a lawyer and try get a good plea deal.
I had an old girlfriend who did something minor in the overall worldview, she wrote a few bad checks, she misidentified herself to police and in a drunken rage when she got caught she kicked a cop, maybe two of them, in the cookies. She ended up with state jail and state felony prison time. She wasn’t going to show up at her sentencing and came to me. I had no clue about any of it and hadn’t seen her in a few years. Anyway, I talked her into showing up, and promised to help her. Still not knowing anything. After she was gone I helped her with a few bucks on her commissary account. She only had to do about 2 years, state jail time which every day of must be completed. So, after almost 1 1/2 years they sent her to the prison for a 5 year sentence, all running concurrently with the state jail time. She did a little over 6 months and made parole then was sent back to state jail to finish it all up. So, what’s my point? It didn’t take sending much money, maybe $20-$30 a month to buy snacks, tampons, etc., and I also sent her paper, envelopes, stamps, etc. in bulk from Office Depot. Anyway, none of this seemed like a burden. She was my friend. I also went to visit almost every weekend, no problem. She paroled to my house, I had to move out any guns, still no problem. During all this time she really sounded like she had it together. We were old friends. When I got clearance and signed some papers, she came home with me. That night, the very night she got out, she got drunk and stole my car! Then, she came home, went and grabbed a knife and was going to stab herself and tell the police I did it. I took the knife away from her. She had already called 911 and hung up before grabbing the knife. I wasn’t even close by and didn’t know. She was putting a story together to get me sent to jail so I’d know what it was like. When the police showed up and beat on the door I answered with guns pointed in my face. She had marks on her wrist where I held her back from stabbing herself. She immediately went into her act. The cops saw she was drunk, almost falling down, just out of prison and had stolen my car. What did the police do? Gave her my car and let her leave. At least they didn’t believe her BS story. Anyway, I had the name of her parole officer and a few days later I got my car back after he told her she’d go back to finish her 5 years. Long story short: STAY AWAY FROM WOMEN IN JAIL! They learn to lie, they get changed in there, and if ever, it takes a long time for the effects of jail to go away.
Richard Griffitts yes to a certain extent, however, prison puts all kinds of people with all kinds of issues together and they learn behaviors beyond the normal. I guess it just makes them worse. It not only changes them but all involved. Going through searches down to your shorts for a visit, while the guy ahead of you who smells like weed, wearing a thick winter coat in the middle of Texas summer gets waived through kind of let’s you know something is up. Some of us used to say the only difference between many of these female guards and the female inmates were the uniforms. When you got to the floor of the visit, and the elevator opens, the stench almost knocks you down. The noise of someone screaming, the violent language in the distance, makes the stories told to you sound like nothing. The female inmates must do a ‘squat and spread’ search before and after their visit, yet somehow drugs, batteries, radios, and God only knows what gets inside. You know living through this must warp a person at least a bit. You know the guards help some while destroying others. It must be hell in there.
I once dated a smokin hot girl who was a convicted felon. Non violent offense. The problem was she couldn't obtain a decent source of employment after her conviction and she had substantial prior management experience. she ultimately became a financial burden and sex object. So I had to break it off.
Yes. But it depends on what her conviction was for. If she has a record id expect her to tell me By the second date. I do Not have a criminal record. Good Vid Reg. Interesting thoughts.
You better check their FICA score, for me it's like this....If I've gone through life, following the rules, paying my dues, and earning my way to the top. Then mr/mrs hottie come along and wants to come up to my level, but they had fun along the way and messed up and maybe has baggage and now they want YOU Mr/Mrs clean and right to take them on. Answer is NO!! move on
My son got arrested for drugs( using not dealing) we went thru hell with him to the point he OD and almost died. He went to a Christian re-hab called Teen Challenge....he turned his life around and now mentors drug addicts....however he had a misdemeanor arrest......he has become a different person but it took 4yrs till I ever trusted him again....its a very hard thing to trust
Generally no. Shows a lack of judgement, maturity, self control and lack of respect for rule of law. Do your homework and check arrest records. I'll smash but never let them know where I live, what kind of car I drive, where I work and never give them my personal phone number. Her place, hotel, rental car and burner phone.
@@DEMCAD Vasectomy brother. It's reversible in over 95% of cases if you ever change your mind. You will also have multiple samples in multiple sperm banks for the 5% chance it can't be reversed. There's a risk of STD's as well so always wear condoms even if you've had a vasectomy. I've been a subscriber of your channel since your Ketchikan, Alaska days. Stay safe Reginald.
If the relationship might grow into a relationship. That's the moment to tell the other person that there is a record. Now if it's a serious crime before the first date.
I got convicted for criminal threats. And I didn’t even do it. I got nine months in jail never went to prison but I have a felony. I had to give up my guns.
As a gun owner convicted felon would be a no. But in general it would be a case by case kinda thing. Our system isn't perfect and some people are a victim of circumstance. People can get felony charges as a minor. Really wouldn't want to hold that against them years later.
exactly. Libertarians know the state profits from much if not MOST crime, so many of those incarcerated do NOT deserve their punishments. No victim-- NO CRIME!
@@theelephantintheroom6680 Everybody can make a mistake. Some insignificant lapse of reason. You can be caught smoking a joint by a cop the first time, or drive under the influence by a very small amount of alcohol in your bloodstream, but you will be just fined and warned. Most people who go to jail are those who committ "mistakes" several times, it becomes a pattern of not following the rules. And its no excuse wether its victimless or not. Even if someone goes to jail for victimless crimes it shows something about their inability to follow instructions, guidelines and laws that are in place, regardless if they are victimless or not. Im libertarian and consider half the laws on the books to be un-criminal. Some right off the batt, and some laws by their nature, but they are there, so I still comply. Thats dicipline, ability to adher to authority - and common sense. Most individuals harbor those traits. Laws they disagree with they argue against, petition for change and get involved in politics, or influence politicians on the bench. People on the other hand who for some reason cant or wont follow basic laws, are either reckless, stupid, rebellious, undiciplined, social ackward, illiterate, inconsiderate, mentally ill or sociopaths/borderline sociopaths. Just take your pick. Somewhere inside them there is a piece missing. Its human to err. But I have no interest in finding out whats wrong with those persones, because regardless of what it is, its a dealbreaker. Just stay out of their way.
@kjemma thanks for the elaboration and I largely agree -- all laws and regulations are NOT necessarily "bad" even if we can't point to victims in a particular case-- and in those cases it is up to our court system to decide punishment warranted. The recent New Orleans MJ nullification case shows how this can work: blog.tenthamendmentcenter.com/2019/10/louisiana-jurors-refuse-to-consider-criminal-marijuana-charges-effectively-nullify-law/
I dated a falcon for a very short time . After he told me the judge who didn’t like me “obviously for good reasons “ told him if he ever sees him arrested n charged he will end up behind bars for 25 years. I pray to not ever run into him again and hopefully he has moved away.
It depends on the crime and what are you expecting from the person. You have people out here now that are as bad as some of the crime that are getting released. I would like to know after the 2nd date and like you said you can google people and find out and wait to see if they are going to tell you or not. The bottom line is people have there own preferences of what they like. Peace
Heck no with very very few exceptions. Absolutely no felons. Misdemeanor convictions would be highly dependent and extremely scrutinized based on what it was. A reckless driving charge or a DUI/DWI maybe depending on how far back and how old the person was. Much more than that and it's a firm no
I think if the question never came up, you shouldn't share. Personally as a Man without a record, I prefer a Lady that hasn't did any time. But if I did, if she held a charge for a dude in a Drug case, Strong Armed Robbery, or any violent Charge, yeah more than likely I would keep on easing down the yellow brick road. If we actually had a few commonalities , I would consider keeping company , but I would lay out the ground rules of what I'm willing to accept and what I will reject. Everyone deserves a chance.
Depends on their stability, and our chemistry. And the crimes committed. If the other is unstable, then it means that they can relapse, or hang their own history over my head. I don’t want get threatened every time we don’t see eye to eye. Or worry about being robbed by them because they’re getting cold feet and don’t think it would work out.
It's best to be honest and depends on what they did. If they are repeatedly caught with drugs or drug paraphernalia, Sex offenders, felons, violent charges like battery deffinatly not
I don’t have a criminal record, but I have a few friends who do and they are ok now. As far as dating, my deal breaker is violent crimes and sex crimes. I have met someone who has a criminal record from Over 20 years ago(felony malicious mischief, whatever that is). I’m going to see how things go for about a month (ie meet for dates, not go to each other’s houses, etc). I know this about him because, unbeknownst to him, I did a background check. I want to give him a chance to tell me about his past on his own and see what he has to say.
Many are arrested unfairly and their lives are ruined. Except they are who they are. They are either good or not good. But criminal record may or may not have anything to do with their morality. They are who they are. Many are arrested unfairly.
@@JC-kv1vn even if you are guilty and the DA thinks you won't get convicted they won't charge you, and if you are innocent and they can convict they will. That is not a justice system. And the fact that jurries are not absolutely random, they cherry pick people. Fuck what America has become
@@JC-kv1vn a man without chains. I just have a spirit of freedom and the desire to see my countrymen treated as humans. Volunteerism is what this nation is built on.
@@JC-kv1vn that's interesting. My issue with the phrase law abiding is that laws are not always moral and most laws violate natural law. The law that applies to all people regardless of the society they live in. When owning men is legal there's a proplem with law. If beer is legal and causes people to be more violent while damaging their bodies and man doesn't have the right to keep you from drinking then what is the difference with any other drug. how would that same person have he right to tell you it's illegal but the other isn't. The only crimes that exist are ones that create a victim and the only "laws" that are morally enforceable. I do believe that all cops steal how is it moral to take money from someone because you think it's wrong for a free man to drive five miles over the limit of speed. Well I think it's wrong to victimize people by stealing their money. Witch it really immoral? If the man speeding crashes into someone and it was their fault then they crate a victim, and deserve to be fined or be forced to pay for damages.
That's complicated. It's like when you bring up prior sexual partner history. And when would you tell someone if you underwent sexual reassignment surgery? How long ago was it? Were you truly rehabilitated? Pedophilia or animal abuse would be a deal breaker for me. I dont think you can be rehabilitated from that, ever.
You disclose as soon as possible and before intimacy. Then the other person can decide how much SHIFT they’re willing to put up with. It’s not for everybody.
so much that can go into this decision! is her record from shooting someone when a drug deal went bad? or is it from her shooting someone trying to harm or snatch her kids/younger sibling? tax evasion? graffiti? throwing moltovs at cops in hong kong protests? shoplifting? in our present day & age, "felon" and "convict" don't mean what they might have meant even just ten years ago. some answers from her deserve a "l8rz!!", others deserve a "i would have done the exact same thing; you got SCREWED!" apart from the good person versus bad person thing, this also brings up the question of just how prone to drama are they? some people do illegal things their entire lives and never get caught. others just seem to fumble, have trouble with anything and everything. gotta cut bait on those with troublesome lives regardless of criminal record. how traumatised is she from her time in the joint? if she had been gang raped by half dozen prison guards or fellow inmates, the psych damage from that might be too much to live with in a wife/girlfriend, even if she was 100% innocent. what are their families like? especially her own Mom. if their family is awful, have they broken away from that? or are they just another problem child yelling back & forth at their problem family? with my being follower of Christ (or attempting to be): genuine christians typically have life story involving redemption from the past, to the point of saying "my old/former self is dead to me". her stage of The Walk is a big deal no matter what her record says.
But, What is a former Felon who still hasn't learned from his past history & still does drugs & the police are having other eyes on him closely ALL THE TIME? && has the tendency to get away from stealing @ the retail stores????? Don't I have the right to save MY sanity???
It depends on what she did, I did date a girl that had went to jail she had a record. The arrest didn't even bother me just she wanted to do the same shit she was doing. I tried to cut all ties with her she is friends with my brother's and Sister's. I avoid her she tried to get me alone to try and use sex to get something from me I made shire I kept some one around me at all times so she wouldn't ask me for anything I would have said NO!! Anyways because when I was dating her she is selfish and she's won't change she was raised to be greedy.
Depends on the crime, or non crime. If it were standing up for her rights, doing what the Constitution allows, not giving in to big brother, then not only would I date her, I would probably marry her.
Btw a felon can not be in the same residence as a firearm at all but you could surrender your firearm to a neighbor, friend, family members, etc to hold for you as long as they dont have a criminal record and over 18yo if you really want to obey the law and be with that person.
Hey @Josh Whether it's true or not, how about just call him an ignorant moron. I think the whole planet is really tired of hearing that word. It's way over-used. It's wore out. And most of the time it's not even true.
I've been with my man for 8 years. He has a record for domestic violence. He has been a perfect partner and absolutely no violence whatsoever! I think there are real breakers but check it out. Some people are telling the truth and they were convicted! Deal breaker would be murder or rape
Don't worry about the murderer. Almost all of them are "one and done" go to prison and then many years later they get out and never do it again. Rape, on the other hand, is the one to worry about, a true rapist can't control themselves. They tend to be repeat offenders. There are exceptions to the above - serial killers and statutory rape.
Yeah if they got a traffic ticket. A jaywalking ticket. Trespassing ticket. No signal ticket. No tail light ticket. Other than that can't trust them😂🇺🇸
Just because you date her doesn't mean you're going to take her home to meet mom. Make sure she's got all her toofers and no track marks , double the raincoat and lube with a bottle of Purell.
Well, that’s a silly question, with no context. Was it shop lifting when they’re a kid? Or murder as a teen...as an adult? Are they an arsonist, rapist? Etc. or even vandalism as a teen? So many different things it could be, at different ages, not too mention different crimes, or what it would mean based on age. Technically, even if you’ve only had a parking ticket, you are in fact a criminal. You committed a crime. You need context man, and none of the dumb click bait shit. Or if you littered, you’re a criminal. So...everyone is literally a criminal, we have all committed a crime in one way or another, no matter how minor.
Oh, by the way, I don’t have one, not even a parking ticket or littering. And no that doesn’t make me better, that just means I followed the rules, and any possible minor lapses were not caught. And I think if you are, it should be relatively soon, before it gets way too serious. For it to be off, would only be felony gun charges, murder, rape and shit with kids. The rest I could deal with, they’d be forgivable things, most likely mistakes in a bad time in life, for the other, to me minor shit, if they haven’t done other crimes since then, seems how I own guns, a fair amount of them.
It all depends, was it in self defense to protect themselves or loved ones but the judge seen it differently, the all crimes are committed by true criminals so I would use more caution but it's not a deal breaker
@@DEMCAD I've been more interested in relationships myself. Specifically in regards to the rise in this polyamory crap. A lot of men are being held hostage by women today as a result. Paying for her to have her cake and eat it too. If he complains she threatens false domestic violence, taking away 50% of his stuff and or the kids. I have met multiple guys in this situation. The recent guy I met is disabled and his wife just walks all over him. She brings guys over and he is powerless. Sad state of affairs.
Yes, I'm doing background checks on everybody. What if they commit a crime why you with them and now you locked up. You better off safe than sorry. You should tell a person, during that first phone call. and why.
Not an absolute deal breaker. Depends on the people. To each their own. Honestly is the best policy.✌🏽
Yes, actually some of the sweetest men I've been with had some sort of a record. I dont judge. People make mistakes. I'm not perfect either.
Depending on severity of a crime. If they are clearly reformed, they pass. However pasts do come to haunt.
Depends on the crime. Not only does dating/marrying someone with a record cause issues with owning firearms but it also has a financial impact on your life and family's life. No one wants to hire a felon. It's àlot to deal with.
A criminal record is a no from me. A person can change, but their record could make it hard for them to have more job options. I don't have time for a man's past to interrupt my future.
Thought provoking question Reggie. So many variables play into the answer. I know a lot of ladies without any record that I wouldn't date. I'm certain that there are a lot of good people with records though. When I was in a hiring position, I called up a guy that I worked with at another job (ex-con). The dude was solid, and I had no reservations about recommending him for the job. There sure as hell are some good folks that got into bad situations. Thanks for the video.
I wouldn't mind dating someone with a criminal background, as a matter of fact, I did date someone with an aggravated assault record. At the end of the day, everyone deserves a second chance in life but it all depends on if that person has changed for the better or for the worse.
It depends. Was the crime committed last week or YEARS ago? Was it a violent or sexual crime?? This situation is NOT a one size fits all thing.
dated a girl that had a criminal record, it was mainly finance related. she had a crap ton of student loans and had to file for bankruptcy in the past. I tried to see through all of this and almost got to the point of marrying her. Luckily I was moving due to my job, and during the points leading up to me leaving, she grew more distant. I eventually broke it off, probably the best decision I made looking back on it.
I told my girl very early, it was more than 10 years ago. We are together 3 years so far.
I think that you made a wise decision.
Was it hard for you to get back on your feet financially
@@Conquerinq i got a good deal and my record was sealed after 1 year. I have a decent job now and can answer no on applications. I recommend getting a lawyer and try get a good plea deal.
I had an old girlfriend who did something minor in the overall worldview, she wrote a few bad checks, she misidentified herself to police and in a drunken rage when she got caught she kicked a cop, maybe two of them, in the cookies. She ended up with state jail and state felony prison time. She wasn’t going to show up at her sentencing and came to me. I had no clue about any of it and hadn’t seen her in a few years. Anyway, I talked her into showing up, and promised to help her. Still not knowing anything.
After she was gone I helped her with a few bucks on her commissary account. She only had to do about 2 years, state jail time which every day of must be completed. So, after almost 1 1/2 years they sent her to the prison for a 5 year sentence, all running concurrently with the state jail time. She did a little over 6 months and made parole then was sent back to state jail to finish it all up. So, what’s my point?
It didn’t take sending much money, maybe $20-$30 a month to buy snacks, tampons, etc., and I also sent her paper, envelopes, stamps, etc. in bulk from Office Depot. Anyway, none of this seemed like a burden. She was my friend. I also went to visit almost every weekend, no problem. She paroled to my house, I had to move out any guns, still no problem. During all this time she really sounded like she had it together. We were old friends.
When I got clearance and signed some papers, she came home with me. That night, the very night she got out, she got drunk and stole my car! Then, she came home, went and grabbed a knife and was going to stab herself and tell the police I did it. I took the knife away from her. She had already called 911 and hung up before grabbing the knife. I wasn’t even close by and didn’t know. She was putting a story together to get me sent to jail so I’d know what it was like.
When the police showed up and beat on the door I answered with guns pointed in my face. She had marks on her wrist where I held her back from stabbing herself. She immediately went into her act. The cops saw she was drunk, almost falling down, just out of prison and had stolen my car. What did the police do? Gave her my car and let her leave. At least they didn’t believe her BS story. Anyway, I had the name of her parole officer and a few days later I got my car back after he told her she’d go back to finish her 5 years.
Long story short: STAY AWAY FROM WOMEN IN JAIL! They learn to lie, they get changed in there, and if ever, it takes a long time for the effects of jail to go away.
Its not jail. That's just how they are.
Richard Griffitts yes to a certain extent, however, prison puts all kinds of people with all kinds of issues together and they learn behaviors beyond the normal. I guess it just makes them worse. It not only changes them but all involved. Going through searches down to your shorts for a visit, while the guy ahead of you who smells like weed, wearing a thick winter coat in the middle of Texas summer gets waived through kind of let’s you know something is up. Some of us used to say the only difference between many of these female guards and the female inmates were the uniforms.
When you got to the floor of the visit, and the elevator opens, the stench almost knocks you down. The noise of someone screaming, the violent language in the distance, makes the stories told to you sound like nothing. The female inmates must do a ‘squat and spread’ search before and after their visit, yet somehow drugs, batteries, radios, and God only knows what gets inside. You know living through this must warp a person at least a bit. You know the guards help some while destroying others. It must be hell in there.
I once dated a smokin hot girl who was a convicted felon. Non violent offense. The problem was she couldn't obtain a decent source of employment after her conviction and she had substantial prior management experience. she ultimately became a financial burden and sex object. So I had to break it off.
It's becoming increasingly difficult to find a woman who doesn't have a criminal record!
Yes. But it depends on what her conviction was for. If she has a record id expect her to tell me By the second date. I do Not have a criminal record. Good Vid Reg. Interesting thoughts.
I completely understand.
You better check their FICA score, for me it's like this....If I've gone through life, following the rules, paying my dues, and earning my way to the top. Then mr/mrs hottie come along and wants to come up to my level, but they had fun along the way and messed up and maybe has baggage and now they want YOU Mr/Mrs clean and right to take them on. Answer is NO!! move on
My son got arrested for drugs( using not dealing) we went thru hell with him to the point he OD and almost died. He went to a Christian re-hab called Teen Challenge....he turned his life around and now mentors drug addicts....however he had a misdemeanor arrest......he has become a different person but it took 4yrs till I ever trusted him again....its a very hard thing to trust
I'm glad he made it.
Generally no. Shows a lack of judgement, maturity, self control and lack of respect for rule of law. Do your homework and check arrest records. I'll smash but never let them know where I live, what kind of car I drive, where I work and never give them my personal phone number. Her place, hotel, rental car and burner phone.
But if you smash, there's a risk of pregnancy.
@@DEMCAD Vasectomy brother. It's reversible in over 95% of cases if you ever change your mind. You will also have multiple samples in multiple sperm banks for the 5% chance it can't be reversed. There's a risk of STD's as well so always wear condoms even if you've had a vasectomy. I've been a subscriber of your channel since your Ketchikan, Alaska days. Stay safe Reginald.
go on a date yes,marry no i don't need the baggage.stay safe my friend
If she is hot, Hell Yeah!........marriage might be a different story
If the relationship might grow into a relationship. That's the moment to tell the other person that there is a record. Now if it's a serious crime before the first date.
I got convicted for criminal threats. And I didn’t even do it. I got nine months in jail never went to prison but I have a felony. I had to give up my guns.
It just depends on the charge
If it involves rape or a child ,
That is a complicated question to answer. But your question is a matter of public importance and good social cohesion. and yeah coming clean is fair.
Criminal record or not, I wouldn’t trust her.
YES, That is a deal breaker. (Felony) Job states, we can not associate with known felons.
LE?
wrong job
People who have been closer to the abuses of government, that makes us all criminals, need nothing but love... just like the rest of us.
You left out thieves and fraudsters. They can't be trusted either.
As a gun owner convicted felon would be a no. But in general it would be a case by case kinda thing. Our system isn't perfect and some people are a victim of circumstance. People can get felony charges as a minor. Really wouldn't want to hold that against them years later.
Depends on the crime.
exactly. Libertarians know the state profits from much if not MOST crime, so many of those incarcerated do NOT deserve their punishments. No victim-- NO CRIME!
@@theelephantintheroom6680 Everybody can make a mistake. Some insignificant lapse of reason. You can be caught smoking a joint by a cop the first time, or drive under the influence by a very small amount of alcohol in your bloodstream, but you will be just fined and warned. Most people who go to jail are those who committ "mistakes" several times, it becomes a pattern of not following the rules. And its no excuse wether its victimless or not. Even if someone goes to jail for victimless crimes it shows something about their inability to follow instructions, guidelines and laws that are in place, regardless if they are victimless or not. Im libertarian and consider half the laws on the books to be un-criminal. Some right off the batt, and some laws by their nature, but they are there, so I still comply. Thats dicipline, ability to adher to authority - and common sense. Most individuals harbor those traits. Laws they disagree with they argue against, petition for change and get involved in politics, or influence politicians on the bench. People on the other hand who for some reason cant or wont follow basic laws, are either reckless, stupid, rebellious, undiciplined, social ackward, illiterate, inconsiderate, mentally ill or sociopaths/borderline sociopaths. Just take your pick. Somewhere inside them there is a piece missing. Its human to err. But I have no interest in finding out whats wrong with those persones, because regardless of what it is, its a dealbreaker. Just stay out of their way.
@kjemma thanks for the elaboration and I largely agree -- all laws and regulations are NOT necessarily "bad" even if we can't point to victims in a particular case-- and in those cases it is up to our court system to decide punishment warranted. The recent New Orleans MJ nullification case shows how this can work: blog.tenthamendmentcenter.com/2019/10/louisiana-jurors-refuse-to-consider-criminal-marijuana-charges-effectively-nullify-law/
I dated a falcon for a very short time . After he told me the judge who didn’t like me “obviously for good reasons “ told him if he ever sees him arrested n charged he will end up behind bars for 25 years. I pray to not ever run into him again and hopefully he has moved away.
Well I'm a guy, so I'd be very curious what exactly her record is for...
It depends on the crime and what are you expecting from the person. You have people out here now that are as bad as some of the crime that are getting released. I would like to know after the 2nd date and like you said you can google people and find out and wait to see if they are going to tell you or not. The bottom line is people have there own preferences of what they like. Peace
No felons. Plenty of fish in the sea. No need to lower myself to dealing with that.
Lol 🤣👎
I say RUN for your life.
Most people I know have criminal records lol.. no fear and it doesn't bother me unless they were on probation because they cant leave the state.
Depends on what it was but in general nope. You should tell on your second or third date
Heck no with very very few exceptions. Absolutely no felons. Misdemeanor convictions would be highly dependent and extremely scrutinized based on what it was. A reckless driving charge or a DUI/DWI maybe depending on how far back and how old the person was. Much more than that and it's a firm no
I think if the question never came up, you shouldn't share. Personally as a Man without a record, I prefer a Lady that hasn't did any time. But if I did, if she held a charge for a dude in a Drug case, Strong Armed Robbery, or any violent Charge, yeah more than likely I would keep on easing down the yellow brick road. If we actually had a few commonalities , I would consider keeping company , but I would lay out the ground rules of what I'm willing to accept and what I will reject. Everyone deserves a chance.
I don't date politicians
Most politicians don't go to jail.
I’m guessing that’s because they are more hardcore criminals.
Depends on their stability, and our chemistry. And the crimes committed.
If the other is unstable, then it means that they can relapse, or hang their own history over my head. I don’t want get threatened every time we don’t see eye to eye. Or worry about being robbed by them because they’re getting cold feet and don’t think it would work out.
For me I think it would depend what the crime was and if they feel any regret of what they did also took the punishment with no argument.
Do not do it, you should not ever trust them. Probably going to get used and ripped off.
It's best to be honest and depends on what they did. If they are repeatedly caught with drugs or drug paraphernalia, Sex offenders, felons, violent charges like battery deffinatly not
I don’t have a criminal record, but I have a few friends who do and they are ok now. As far as dating, my deal breaker is violent crimes and sex crimes. I have met someone who has a criminal record from Over 20 years ago(felony malicious mischief, whatever that is). I’m going to see how things go for about a month (ie meet for dates, not go to each other’s houses, etc). I know this about him because, unbeknownst to him, I did a background check. I want to give him a chance to tell me about his past on his own and see what he has to say.
After you have demonstrated that you are a decent person that can function in society properly, bring it up.
If you wait too long to tell the person, it will look like a lie of omission.
Ultimately, it's not important to tell anyone this kind of business unless and until a personal involvement/relationship developes.
Many are arrested unfairly and their lives are ruined. Except they are who they are. They are either good or not good. But criminal record may or may not have anything to do with their morality. They are who they are. Many are arrested unfairly.
Amen buddy I don't trust the police if this was a just society all cops would be criminals for at least theft
Yeah the jails are just chock full if "innocent" people.
@@JC-kv1vn even if you are guilty and the DA thinks you won't get convicted they won't charge you, and if you are innocent and they can convict they will. That is not a justice system. And the fact that jurries are not absolutely random, they cherry pick people. Fuck what America has become
@@JC-kv1vn a man without chains. I just have a spirit of freedom and the desire to see my countrymen treated as humans. Volunteerism is what this nation is built on.
@@JC-kv1vn that's interesting. My issue with the phrase law abiding is that laws are not always moral and most laws violate natural law. The law that applies to all people regardless of the society they live in. When owning men is legal there's a proplem with law. If beer is legal and causes people to be more violent while damaging their bodies and man doesn't have the right to keep you from drinking then what is the difference with any other drug. how would that same person have he right to tell you it's illegal but the other isn't. The only crimes that exist are ones that create a victim and the only "laws" that are morally enforceable. I do believe that all cops steal how is it moral to take money from someone because you think it's wrong for a free man to drive five miles over the limit of speed. Well I think it's wrong to victimize people by stealing their money. Witch it really immoral? If the man speeding crashes into someone and it was their fault then they crate a victim, and deserve to be fined or be forced to pay for damages.
That's complicated. It's like when you bring up prior sexual partner history. And when would you tell someone if you underwent sexual reassignment surgery? How long ago was it? Were you truly rehabilitated? Pedophilia or animal abuse would be a deal breaker for me. I dont think you can be rehabilitated from that, ever.
You disclose as soon as possible and before intimacy.
Then the other person can decide how much SHIFT they’re willing to put up with. It’s not for everybody.
so much that can go into this decision!
is her record from shooting someone when a drug deal went bad? or is it from her shooting someone trying to harm or snatch her kids/younger sibling? tax evasion? graffiti? throwing moltovs at cops in hong kong protests? shoplifting? in our present day & age, "felon" and "convict" don't mean what they might have meant even just ten years ago.
some answers from her deserve a "l8rz!!", others deserve a "i would have done the exact same thing; you got SCREWED!"
apart from the good person versus bad person thing, this also brings up the question of just how prone to drama are they? some people do illegal things their entire lives and never get caught. others just seem to fumble, have trouble with anything and everything. gotta cut bait on those with troublesome lives regardless of criminal record.
how traumatised is she from her time in the joint? if she had been gang raped by half dozen prison guards or fellow inmates, the psych damage from that might be too much to live with in a wife/girlfriend, even if she was 100% innocent.
what are their families like? especially her own Mom. if their family is awful, have they broken away from that? or are they just another problem child yelling back & forth at their problem family?
with my being follower of Christ (or attempting to be): genuine christians typically have life story involving redemption from the past, to the point of saying "my old/former self is dead to me". her stage of The Walk is a big deal no matter what her record says.
wouldnt bother me , the past is the past / theres so many laws on the books we all break the law some how some way everyday.
But, What is a former Felon who still hasn't learned from his past history & still does drugs & the police are having other eyes on him closely ALL THE TIME? && has the tendency to get away from stealing @ the retail stores????? Don't I have the right to save MY sanity???
It depends on what she did, I did date a girl that had went to jail she had a record. The arrest didn't even bother me just she wanted to do the same shit she was doing. I tried to cut all ties with her she is friends with my brother's and Sister's. I avoid her she tried to get me alone to try and use sex to get something from me I made shire I kept some one around me at all times so she wouldn't ask me for anything I would have said NO!! Anyways because when I was dating her she is selfish and she's won't change she was raised to be greedy.
Depends on the crime, or non crime. If it were standing up for her rights, doing what the Constitution allows, not giving in to big brother, then not only would I date her, I would probably marry her.
Deal breaker. My job is to catch criminals, not date them.
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Btw a felon can not be in the same residence as a firearm at all but you could surrender your firearm to a neighbor, friend, family members, etc to hold for you as long as they dont have a criminal record and over 18yo if you really want to obey the law and be with that person.
really? in first grade we learned ya don't misbehave, no thanks, unless nonviolent then doubtful
He must have met one of those black weave queens.
Racist....
Erich Lepkowski maybe, he doesn’t stike me as a weave sort of guy
LOL!
Hey @Josh Whether it's true or not, how about just call him an ignorant moron. I think the whole planet is really tired of hearing that word. It's way over-used. It's wore out. And most of the time it's not even true.
NO
Not knowingly.
I've been with my man for 8 years. He has a record for domestic violence. He has been a perfect partner and absolutely no violence whatsoever! I think there are real breakers but check it out. Some people are telling the truth and they were convicted! Deal breaker would be murder or rape
Don't worry about the murderer. Almost all of them are "one and done" go to prison and then many years later they get out and never do it again. Rape, on the other hand, is the one to worry about, a true rapist can't control themselves. They tend to be repeat offenders. There are exceptions to the above - serial killers and statutory rape.
Everyone has their hangups it’s based on the person
Hell nah.
Yeah if they got a traffic ticket. A jaywalking ticket. Trespassing ticket. No signal ticket. No tail light ticket. Other than that can't trust them😂🇺🇸
Just say NO.
Plenty of good women out there. You don’t need headaches!
Just because you date her doesn't mean you're going to take her home to meet mom. Make sure she's got all her toofers and no track marks , double the raincoat and lube with a bottle of Purell.
Ummmmmmmm..............no.
Well, that’s a silly question, with no context. Was it shop lifting when they’re a kid? Or murder as a teen...as an adult? Are they an arsonist, rapist? Etc. or even vandalism as a teen? So many different things it could be, at different ages, not too mention different crimes, or what it would mean based on age. Technically, even if you’ve only had a parking ticket, you are in fact a criminal. You committed a crime. You need context man, and none of the dumb click bait shit. Or if you littered, you’re a criminal. So...everyone is literally a criminal, we have all committed a crime in one way or another, no matter how minor.
In america I probably would because you guys can get criminal records for anything at the drop of a hat if someone doesn’t like you.
As long as it not a felony conviction then I’m cool. I love my guns.
Oh, by the way, I don’t have one, not even a parking ticket or littering. And no that doesn’t make me better, that just means I followed the rules, and any possible minor lapses were not caught. And I think if you are, it should be relatively soon, before it gets way too serious. For it to be off, would only be felony gun charges, murder, rape and shit with kids. The rest I could deal with, they’d be forgivable things, most likely mistakes in a bad time in life, for the other, to me minor shit, if they haven’t done other crimes since then, seems how I own guns, a fair amount of them.
No because the prison system ruins them, kinda like a rescue dog, why bother with trying to polish a turd and lipsticking a pig::
It all depends, was it in self defense to protect themselves or loved ones but the judge seen it differently, the all crimes are committed by true criminals so I would use more caution but it's not a deal breaker
I won't even let a felon on the boat.
@@pikachurose3067 it wouldn't be prudent.
I wouldn't even consider dating a guy that had a tatoo or anything pierced. Nope. Not for me, no felons.
Seriously? That's funny, especially considering your nickname.
@@chitra_888 Don't have to be criminal to be badass.
You must be really wanting to be with someone. Lots of videos on relationships. Nothing wrong with that. Not getting any younger.
his mom thinks hes going to be single forever if he doesnt find a gf.
@@danm7876 Very true.
No, my value isn't rising. I'm just more interested in human relationships.
@@DEMCAD I've been more interested in relationships myself. Specifically in regards to the rise in this polyamory crap. A lot of men are being held hostage by women today as a result. Paying for her to have her cake and eat it too. If he complains she threatens false domestic violence, taking away 50% of his stuff and or the kids. I have met multiple guys in this situation. The recent guy I met is disabled and his wife just walks all over him. She brings guys over and he is powerless. Sad state of affairs.
HELL NO !!!!
Nope!.....Hell Naw!
This dude haha
Yes, I'm doing background checks on everybody. What if they commit a crime why you with them and now you locked up. You better off safe than sorry. You should tell a person, during that first phone call. and why.
Lol 😂☝️👎
No criminal women and no single mothers.
Why no single mothers, so you don't have to pay for her kid?
@@arielaava2102 There are many reasons not to hook up with single mothers. Too many to write here, watch some videos on that to get the information.
No
Nope. MGTOW/WGTOW all the way.
Deal breaker. My job is to catch criminals, not date them.