Why Women PUNISH Men Who COMMIT and REWARD Men Who Won't

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Комментарии • 91

  • @philip_hill-p9g
    @philip_hill-p9g Месяц назад +46

    If you are divorced, that woman is a stranger to you. She had the privilege that you took care of her while you were married. It's interesting how it makes you a man if you continue to give her that privilege while you no longer get the privilege of a married man. It is not surprising that so many women want a divorce.

  • @nomadman5288
    @nomadman5288 Месяц назад +46

    I hope men really pay attention to the part about the problem being the fear of loss or the attachment to the outcome and not the commitment itself, because it also applies to men before they're even with anyone. When men are attached to an outcome with a woman, they end up trying too hard, sometimes to the point where they are actually afraid to say something wrong. (This is another issue with the "nice guy.") This is the same problem that men with commitments have. As LFA said, when you feel you have something to lose and you act that way, you won't make that joke; you won't tease her quite the same way; you won't risk crossing that line you have in your head; you won't be willing to be honest enough to put her in her place, and when she senses this weakness, it turns her off.
    It's like you're playing the "prevent" defense and the other team can just march down the field without much resistance, whereas before, you were tough and strong, willing to take that penalty if it meant playing your best. Don't go into a "prevent" defense; it prevents you from being as strong as you could be. Be willing to take a penalty from time to time just so that they know that you're willing to. I don't know why I turned this into a football analogy, but it worked pretty well, I think.

  • @jasherbelton3039
    @jasherbelton3039 Месяц назад +42

    This is true. It sucks because most women DO enjoy being treated this way. But there is a reason. A lot of it has to do with how they were raised at home by their father or lack thereof. The average father will tell their daughter to sit down, shut up, don’t be promiscuous, and be pretty while they sit back in a lazy boy to watch the football game until they rebel. This is why most women treat inconsistent engagement from men like gold. Because they’ve been ignored most of their lives. And it tricks them into thinking that’s what love is.

    • @NoThanksnothanks
      @NoThanksnothanks Месяц назад

      It’s about being masculine and a decision maker. I gotta say this is something in short supply will low T males these days. Do that and ur fine.

    • @adamkeller7749
      @adamkeller7749 Месяц назад +13

      You couldn't be more wrong about this. Most men treat their daughters like princesses, allowing them almost everything. That's why you hear about the special father-daughter bond. Whenever a girl wants something she asks her dad and not her mom because she knows she can't trick her mom. A daughter acts like daddy's little girl without being forced to she does it on her own because she can manipulate him the most. So whenever a girl meets a nice guy who accepts all her flaws he reminds her of her dad, hence why she manipulates him too. But when she meets a bad boy who doesn't care about her feelings that triggers her a lot because she isn't used to it and she looks for his approval since she can't manipulate him.

    • @jasherbelton3039
      @jasherbelton3039 Месяц назад

      @@adamkeller7749 obviously you don’t live in the real world. The kind of father you’re talking about is about 10% of families. I challenge you to go to your local club and ask a hoe why she is the way she is. And you’ll get your answer.

    • @MrHDProd
      @MrHDProd Месяц назад +1

      It doesn’t matter how they grow up. They always love the bad boys 💯💯

    • @jasherbelton3039
      @jasherbelton3039 Месяц назад +2

      @@MrHDProd not always

  • @JBakk007
    @JBakk007 Месяц назад +21

    Becoming emotionally attached to a women is the worst thing that's ever happened to me in life. You feel powerless and afraid of losing her. And when you lose her you're completely heart broken and it's the worst pain in the world. It's a bad position to be in. Avoid it if you can.

    • @jessecortez9449
      @jessecortez9449 Месяц назад +1

      You sound like you went from Anxious Attachment to Avoidant Attachment. Both suck. Work on developing a Secure Attachment. You won't find this info anywhere in the RP/MANOSPHERE.
      I say this because I'm sick of seeing men unknowingly have an external locus of control in the form of women. Develop a Secure Attachment and you'll have an internal locus of control.
      Otherwise you're really no different than a women that relies on astrology for her relationship insights. They think bad men just "happen" to women. Guys in the RP/MANOSPHERE think bad women just "happen" to men and will never acknowledge that they are the other side of that relationship coin.
      TLDR: learn about Attachment Theory and toss out the bottle of Red Pills before they become Black Pills.

    • @sosadagod6963
      @sosadagod6963 Месяц назад +2

      Sounds like codependency brother. Hope you can find peace for yourself

    • @Lemon-rk9hq
      @Lemon-rk9hq Месяц назад

      This is why I just don’t ever allow myself to attach feelings don’t matter

    • @joshuahjoseph6738
      @joshuahjoseph6738 11 дней назад

      @@jessecortez9449 Damn my guy dropping white pillzzzz!

  • @jadizm
    @jadizm Месяц назад +43

    It's Friday! Drinking a beer, might smoke some hay but not before I watch some LFA!

  • @TheRedDevil_NC
    @TheRedDevil_NC Месяц назад +13

    Women have no control over a man until she marries or has kids with him. Once they get that control they treat you as they please because what they want can change in a heartbeat and they get a financial reward .
    I was married with kids. I was a good father and husband. I walked away. She forced it because she had control and over played her hand. As a man you have to know when to fold them as you say.
    Men lose because we want families and kids so you can go from the guy who won’t commit to the guy who does . Your behavior does not change just the classification in her eyes does. That is beyond messed up and why there are so many broken families
    If you don’t want kids with a woman don’t ever marry ., if you do then be prepared for transactional relationship where the mother of your kids becomes someone you never speak to post break up.
    For most men now having kids isn’t worth it and as we age a woman can’t offer anything that allows her any type of control so who cares how she acts. It’s you younger guys who I feel sorry for.

  • @asierglobal6922
    @asierglobal6922 Месяц назад +9

    LFA watching your videos from Spain! Keep it up✌🏻

  • @henrywade7757
    @henrywade7757 Месяц назад +4

    LFA,
    Definitely way more complicated when you have kids, you’re absolutely correct.
    Love your content man! Keep up the good work

  • @the_raging_tomato
    @the_raging_tomato Месяц назад +15

    Red headed step child 🤣☠️🤣☠️ I’m dead

  • @AAYZ7
    @AAYZ7 Месяц назад +5

    When I open comment section, I find many comment that show they ain't got your point. But I completely got it😁.
    Nice advice as always, will very useful fer my relationship. Thank's LFA✊

  • @alchemicalsoul
    @alchemicalsoul Месяц назад +1

    Men and women are here having human experience. The key is to remember you are a soul learning to just "be" and expand consciousness.
    True, unconditional love starts within you. You will attract a woman loving herself when you do the same. You are here to learn to find love inside of you. Everything else is ego. Partnership is two beings who love themselves and sharing the love of your individual lives. Learn the way. Non-attachment simply means you know love is always available. No mind fuckery necessary.

  • @varislizbovskis
    @varislizbovskis Месяц назад +2

    It's so true about twoedged sword. There are planty of guys who are in happily relationships. These are guys who know how to walk this edge. They are no weakmen who are walked over by their women. They are men who are able to be masculine and stand their ground but at same time they are also kind and caring and can be a niceguy when needed.

  • @IntrovertMaxxing
    @IntrovertMaxxing Месяц назад +5

    As a man who's commited, its imperative to note that some women with certain attachment styles are absolutely petrified of having their world (their family) turned upside down. Finding this is part of the vetting process for men. Commitment provides security and stability for women, and from my experience, its the lack of commitment that make women more willing to move on.
    Men who stay in relationships for years without any form of these commitments are chiefly the ones who women lose desire for.
    The reality is kids, marriage provides a progression to that relationship. Arguably, id say these things are better than being in flatmate style relationships for many years or being a monk. If the relationship breaks down, oh well, thats life... but you may have produced children who may love you till the end or a divorce that teaches you about yourself and learn from mistakes. Some men may prefer to never be married again. But its better to have reached that level of understanding through life experience than halt relationships due to fear.
    What is the reward for men who show no commitment? And is it even worth it?

    • @LFA
      @LFA  Месяц назад +3

      Spot on!

    • @TheOne-d9h
      @TheOne-d9h Месяц назад

      ​@@LFAWe miss the livestreams LFA come back brother🎉🎉🎉

    • @TheWolfricChannel
      @TheWolfricChannel 5 дней назад +1

      You're drunk bro. Lol Sure, We'll trade our mental health, house, half our finances pension/ retirement, alimony, child alienation for experience? Those aren't roses colored glasses your wearing, but blinders & you've obviously never started over.

  • @DavidGuy-z1z
    @DavidGuy-z1z Месяц назад +3

    Great video just listened to it with my slice of moist ! You hit it out of the park

  • @TheOne-d9h
    @TheOne-d9h Месяц назад +2

    LFA do the livestreams again, we miss you 🫡🎥

  • @TESTA-CC
    @TESTA-CC Месяц назад +3

    LFA Friday 🇬🇧🤙

  • @HARRY-bq5fi
    @HARRY-bq5fi Месяц назад

    Thanks am enjoying your positive energy

  • @NoirExistence
    @NoirExistence Месяц назад

    Great timing for this in my life yet again.

  • @LimitlessJay00
    @LimitlessJay00 Месяц назад +8

    just stay on your toes just like in a sports game. You walk on egg shells after you secure her and lose that idgaf factor you had before you secured her and she’s gonna burn you. Same way if you act timid to hit the hole in football. You’re gonna get molly whopped by a linebacker if you don’t just run through the hole and not give af.

  • @jonmueller2117
    @jonmueller2117 Месяц назад +1

    Great info, brother!

  • @kevhauser
    @kevhauser Месяц назад +3

    My favorite : Red Headed Step Child!!

  • @VonKrieg
    @VonKrieg Месяц назад

    Listen to LFA closely on this one fellas. Truth.

  • @weskerEverKnight
    @weskerEverKnight Месяц назад +2

    Thanks I need strong men behind my back.

  • @havoc6441
    @havoc6441 Месяц назад

    Well said.

  • @Dad_of_War
    @Dad_of_War Месяц назад +5

    You younger guys may not agree with him now, but one day, you most certainly will

  • @silentwalk1768
    @silentwalk1768 Месяц назад +3

    My narcissistic son split me and my wife up after 28 years she was more of a friend to him then a mother and she listens to what he says on the contrary I would say you're 100% correct 💯😅

  • @ThisisRocky2000
    @ThisisRocky2000 Месяц назад

    Good video idea

  • @lonewolfwarrior2143
    @lonewolfwarrior2143 Месяц назад +2

    What’s up brothers

  • @Mattie_Ice
    @Mattie_Ice Месяц назад +8

    Emotional DahMage.

  • @huwatereys9096
    @huwatereys9096 Месяц назад +3

    And vice versa. Some men lose interest too

  • @brianbachmeier34
    @brianbachmeier34 Месяц назад +10

    My wife is still attracted to me. Been married for 9 years.

    • @LFA
      @LFA  Месяц назад +18

      Then you should understand this video very well.

    • @brianbachmeier34
      @brianbachmeier34 Месяц назад +10

      @@LFA I waited until I was 35 to get married. I had alot of learning and vetting to do. It paid off.

    • @juangalvez8594
      @juangalvez8594 Месяц назад +12

      Best of luck on your marriage Brian, I felt like you at 9 years of marriage too. My marriage lasted 18 years before she pulled the trigger. ☝️👍

    • @brianbachmeier34
      @brianbachmeier34 Месяц назад

      @@juangalvez8594 Thank you. Hope you can find happiness.

    • @luciopantoja111
      @luciopantoja111 Месяц назад +3

      That's your side of the story.

  • @BrosinsMusic
    @BrosinsMusic Месяц назад

    As a married man with children, I can tell you that your investment level increases over time, to the point where your all in.
    All in is inevitable and its great if the situation is managed but it can become a prison sentence when the situation is not.

  • @velimirpijuk5980
    @velimirpijuk5980 Месяц назад

    True 100%

  • @caterinadelgalles8783
    @caterinadelgalles8783 Месяц назад +2

    I didn't! Good guy, really, but after 3 months if I am not your girl I walk away.
    I walked away. A good egg and zero hate 4 him. 😊

  • @kristinadk
    @kristinadk Месяц назад +1

    The double edged sword isn't sharpened properly

    • @TheOne-d9h
      @TheOne-d9h Месяц назад

      What happened to the livestreams?

  • @SupremegreenlawncareLLC
    @SupremegreenlawncareLLC Месяц назад +2

    🔥🔥🔥

  • @Scorned405
    @Scorned405 Месяц назад

    This applies to just about every part of a relationship with a woman. Everything is duality. Another reason to stay outta relationships

  • @MX-CO
    @MX-CO Месяц назад +4

    It's not 100% of the time but it definitely does happen...
    I've had LTR's where they didn't. But I've had some that something changed the minute I honestly felt like I loved them.
    But the ones you aren't into always seem to be more into you for sure

  • @arash9255
    @arash9255 Месяц назад +1

    I have no time to play stupied game, instead i play video game, it is more fun and more rewarding

  • @boom_handled
    @boom_handled Месяц назад

    2 weeks ago I committed to an intention to contact a woman who ditched me for 2 weeks after 2 weeks as a punishment for her. But during these 2 weeks I forgot about my commitment and do you know what happened? The woman herself just reminded me about it! Haha!

  • @atabeta2333
    @atabeta2333 Месяц назад

    Most western women yes this applies

  • @bdsjr32
    @bdsjr32 Месяц назад

    After she wins your not easily obtained commitment, now it’s time to command her respect and desire by giving it to her. If she backs off with stupid BS, it’s hasta la vista baby, whether unmarried, married, kids, whatever the case. Take care of your babies at all costs. F all other strategies.

  • @Mnorbert25
    @Mnorbert25 Месяц назад

    The Godfather

  • @adambowers6925
    @adambowers6925 Месяц назад

    Basically you should treat a woman like she doesn't mean anything to you. Probably why you shouldn't ever get married to a woman, Because there is too much at risk. I've never wanted to get married but I did end up having a child with my ex which made some commitment towards her that I still have to this day.

  • @DG38594
    @DG38594 Месяц назад +1

    So dont tell them you like them, dont spend time with them, dont ever engage in a relationship with them..got it! Thank God I dont have those headaches.

    • @SeanRussell-r1z
      @SeanRussell-r1z Месяц назад +1

      He literally said the exact opposite of what you think he said.

  • @TheReal_TOP-G
    @TheReal_TOP-G Месяц назад

    Sorry for you if you are a red head step child 🥸

  • @f4.5
    @f4.5 Месяц назад

    I will blame you and I will get angry at you

    • @f4.5
      @f4.5 Месяц назад

      "Don't put the blame on the guy in shades oh no"

  • @Itsuser_1234
    @Itsuser_1234 Месяц назад +5

    Can you get to the point faster?

    • @LFA
      @LFA  Месяц назад +10

      Nah. The viewers like it as it is.

  • @drewbruns2895
    @drewbruns2895 Месяц назад +4

    Bro didn’t u have videos recently with the opposite of the this title? Lol some of you RUclipsrs are chameleons

    • @LFA
      @LFA  Месяц назад +2

      I see you commented before you watched. Hopefully you change your thoughts after watching.

  • @will.davlin
    @will.davlin Месяц назад

    🧦Wool socks to bed = best sleep quality possible🟡study says people wake up 15 times less often than without⚪🟧🟩