Oh my, when you said you're proud of yourself for being able to be aware of your boundary in a certain situation and verbalize it lightly, I can relate very much. It is not easy, right? Especially when confronting the ones who are so used to seeing the submissive version of us, hence getting so used to it and not being mindful of that. It is a non-linear journey indeed. You will get there eventually, Inayah. You can still be gentle and kind while also speaking up for yourself. For at the end of the day, it is your voice. No one can take it away from you. Slowly but surely. I am rooting for you! Sending much loves and support (and thank you again for the video! my chest feels lighter now) x
The past week, I have been doing things just the way I wanted to. I've been maintaining all my habits like waking up at 5 a.m., doing yoga, meditating, making myself a good breakfast to start the day, taking cold showers, and doing my homework. These routines make me feel like I can take good care of myself while also managing my external responsibilities. However, this week has been the opposite. I feel like I'm trying to do all those things and keep up with them, but I just don't feel like it, and it is so difficult for me to accept this. Accepting that I'm allowing myself to feel this way is hard because, yes, I'm trying, and I'm grateful for that, but it doesn't feel like enough. I feel like I'm confronting parts of myself that I thought I already knew and understood, and it just feels overwhelming. I'm trying to be the best version of myself for me and others, and I thought I was getting there, but then situations arise, and it feels like everything falls apart. But as you said in the video, "No one taught me how to stay inspired." If you know that you would undertake the journey of reconstructing your life, yourself, and your goals all over again, that's what matters. And if now I have to do that, even with all these feelings and situations, I will, because I love myself, and I deserve that and even more.
keeping in mind your brain’s natural cycles and resistance to discipline (as in, keeping to new healthy habits that offer long term gratification over short term) can be helpful!! for example i know my brain is resistant to my nightly yoga after a week or two of excitement. but i also know from experience that if i stick to it regardless of my initial lack of enthusiasm, i do eventually regain my enthusiasm and all the while still reap the benefits of the habit! those first stages are the hardest. my health teacher a year ago had us try a new habit for 22 days and record it in some way because she claimed that 22 days was the point at which a brain picks up a new habit. (its not actually 22 days, but she informed us the number after the assignment to enhance its effect. i recommend doing the 22 days and not googling it til after the fact!) thats how i started my yoga habit, and its been going strong for well over a year now! recording your habit in some tangible way really helped me, too, because it keeps ya accountable !! :)) best of luck
Thank you so much for your response. I will take the advice, and I have been doing yoga every day for about a month now. But like I said, some situations appeared in my life, and that disrupted my habits. Mentioning another video of Inayha, "You'll never feel like it," you have to be focused on your goal and understand that at first, it doesn't feel good because it's not what you are used to, it's uncomfortable. What works for me is making a checklist of my habits in my physical agenda. Again, thank you for your response and for taking the time to write it all.
@@Santiago_Antorena i am so proud of you! thank you for sharing, it reminds me that we are going through the same thing and i am most definitely not alone on my journey of building and maintaining habits. i wish you the best of luck always, sending so much love your way x
Thank you so much, Inayah. You and this beautiful community you created are helping me see that no one's alone on their journey, that there's always someone who will hold your hand and help you. I found one of your videos about three weeks ago, and the way you express and show things so peacefully and beautifully is just divine. I send you my love and wish you so much luck throughout your journey too. I hope we can talk again soon. 💚 P.S.: The flower arrangements you make are beautiful.
Self care RUclips goes so hard. This is REAL self care and I greatly appreciate your voice. Would you ever consider making a video on how to deal with the paralyzing uncertainty of the future, especially as a fellow artist? It’s easy to get terrified by the instability of art as a career path lol. I bet you’d have great insight into this xx
Lately I've been surrounded by this negative energy, trying to change someone behaviour and just feeling anxious and worried about how this person feels or thinks about me, and sitting down watching this video and listening to other point of view actually made me rethink and realise I need to accept my feelings and not try hard to change anyone.
I've been friends with someone for a long time,i saw them as my best friend,but she overstepped a boundary, and when I confronted her about it, she dismissed it completely.She breaks many boundries and it hurts a lot,even when i tell her about it,it doesnt seem to sink in for her. Even with her other actions, she doesn't seem to change at all. It's really hard when you realise someone you looked up to is actually not the best person to be around. Im trying to realise that it's okay to talk about these things,and it's okay to make things uncomfortable. This video was very comforting,I've been lost for a while with my feelings, and whether im overreacting and going into the situation too much,I want to learn to listen to myself more and learn acceptance.
Im in a similar situation although im not confrontational enough to talk to them about it because i hate confrontation & i dont want to make things worse. It feels like its always been like this with them so im used to it but i know its not healthy & i owe it to myself to surround myself with good friendships
This has happened to me too. Finally I got a very sincere and receptive mindset (took off my rose colored glasses) and believed her behaviour and words. I realized that it's kind of unfair of me to make excuses for her. I must believe my feelings and what she shows me about herself. It was sad and lonely but also felt good and powerful to have my own back. "Steps away from them are steps closer to yourself"
I went through this too with a friend, I stepped away from her and I feel like I’ve met ppl who respect and love me more . It’s sad cause I did love the friend but I couldn’t handle the amount of time she hurt me by dismissing me and she doesn’t seem to wanna change
i really needed this today thank you🩵 i had an interaction with some friends last night where they were being really nasty toward another person and i had a lot of trouble dealing with the fact that they are who they are and it’s not who i am and that is okay. i don’t have to surround myself around energy that i don’t vibe with and if they are upset ab that then it’s not my responsibility
ur like sylvia plath in the way you put words to the things i have known but not fully processed and understood yet, also you convinced me to get bangs, loving them;)
Accepting myself as whole is something I struggle with because I hyper-fixate on the aspects I believe are incongruent to my greatest self. It's like the box of former memories I held dear but now are kind of a hinderance to think about taking up space. I went through it yesterday and it felt like a relief to look at those memories as ones that can take up space instead labeling them solely as the attachments I gave them. It reflects my attitudes internally and externally clearly lol. thank you for posting this, it helped me think through this (:
Totally agree! 💘 Without acceptance we have no relief from the illusory responsibilities we stack on ourselves at the cost of anything and everything. Moving forward knowing we're the phantoms behind the mask, we should make it fun, perhaps an opera.
I just want to say how helpful this video is in my life right now. I’m going through a period of ending relationships due to differences in the way we see things and what our boundaries are. And this just give me so much clarity in the situation and that ending our friendship was the right thing to do because trying to change one another would’ve been exhausting and hard for both sides. I was so fixed on my opinion that It was difficult for me to see how they felt and this helped me see that it was most likely the same for them. Thanks for the video, it was super insightful as always.
For me im going to start working on being ok with doing things my way or being ok with doing what I want to do. I think I've found that when I get guilt tripped into hanging out with others that I forever feel like I half to hangout with people or else I'm going to be hated on. When realistically I should accept the fact that if I want to stay in a chill in bed all day that its completely find. Its totally ok to do the things that I want to do.
9:30 the acceptance and boundaries part... i think acceptance is not about agreeing to play by certain behavior, both of ours and others. Accepting simply means acknowledging a certain behavior is there, the difference is we have some control in changing ours but barely any for others. And that is precisely where boundary kicks in. And like acceptance, we have to set boundaries with both ourselves and others about how we get entangled into toxic behaviors of others, and how to stop wanting to change them.
i truly need every video you post. like i’m watching these videos on repeat to reform how i think about this life that i’m living with myself. thank you, truly.
Man, I just started following your channel a couple months ago and it hits so hard. I've also revisited Stoicism, specifically Marcus Aurelius, and so much of what you say overlaps with stoic philosophies so much. Thank you for saying the part about how hard it is to reflect and realize that there are parts of ourselves that we want to improve and change. Its really not easy to tap into that idea that we don't have it all figured out, especially knowing yourself as an introspective. But once you do, its like there's no going back. Relief only comes now, knowing that I've dove as deeply as I can, and making every effort I can to make that change, even if I'm falling short of my eventual goals. Knowing I'm doing the work the best I can, wherever that is at, is as settling as getting the work done. Thank you again. You're doing big work.
genuinely when i say thank you, i mean thank you with my whole entire heart. i have felt like i’ve been in a spiral recently. i needed to hear this. thank you so much.
I just found your channel, and thank you for making this content. I'm currently struggling with my boundaries being ignored by a friend of mine and it feels really hard to set them when it feels like i am being used. But as you said i know it is a process, and i am proud of myself for knowing i need to speak up for myself and doing something to make my life better
This was something I had to learn being an American working in a foreign country. I had to come to terms with accepting certain things I couldn't control, including who I am as myself, not just as an American national. I didn't realize how complicated it was to navigate beyond than just "setting boundaries" in a foreign culture and being forced to adapt to a completely different society with so much misunderstanding even if they could all communicate in English with each other, or me speaking their language. After much thought and listening to my body and my deeper feelings I realized how lighter I felt and how easy it was to not overthink and fight unnecessary battles. It was strangely profound, like in a strange cosmic way by just letting go of the things I couldn't control as silly and cliche that was to my mind conceptually. It didn't take much effort to realize this, but it did take some mental shift from overthinking things, and to just "think differently" putting energy to things I can control. And suddenly I didn't feel much tension at the workplace like I used to. Writing in a journal about my experiences gave me a healtheir sense of control (or "pseudo-control") I started not too long ago also helped.
I am going to be starting my junior year soon and honestly im scared. For the longest i felt so alone since I don’t really have an inner circle. So then i see everyone hanging out and growing together and i dont have that. I feel i need to learn to accept being alone and having only myself. I always think that if i tried to join a group of friends that i wont be accepted or rejected for just trying to have a group of people to talk to and be friends with. But this video and the confidence video has helped me realize that i have to accept being alone and become friends with myself before expecting others to accept me.
Very interesting how everyone in a way is going through the same growth patterns through their lives. I see it in myself, and I see it in others. Message of the video is really important. I've made mistakes recently and this is a way of me to cope with the inadequacies of my life. Learning to accept myself and the mistakes I make just is RELIEVING. Like a thousand pounds off my head. Thank you inayah.
Since the start of my journey, I've always had a mindset of not giving up. It has its ups and downs, but I accept that I can't give up on myself and my life. I don't want to give up, but I want to peel back the layers grow into what I'm meant to be!
I’m so glad to have found your channel and this video when I did. I recently got into an argument with a close friend of mine because she had done something that upset me, and instead of bottling up how it made me feel and moving on, I brought it up too her and let her know why it made me feel shitty. She responded with anger and minimization and we havent spoken since. I’ve been battling with myself, wondering if it was a bad idea to bring up what bothered me and why it bothered me, but your video helped me to sort of soothe those worries. Keep doing what you’re doing girly!
I literally feel like god put this video on my feed because it was exactly what I needed to hear. I choose to release and let it be. My peace is most important 🥹❤️ thank you.
the worst for me is that all the work is "done" in my head but for a few years i've been unable to really apply it irl even though i used to succeed at doing that and it makes me quite upset with myself
This video came up at the perfect time, I have been feeling so heavy in my perception of myself and life lately. Like who I am is inherently wrong and therefore everything that comes out of me feels wrong. Its so hard to stop hating yourself in a cycle like this. Slowly I learn more about why it feels this way, and try to understand and accept. I keep wondering if I ever will get to the point where I feel grounded and can trust/ love myself without being afraid. ADHD is a bitch
I've just gone through what you could say is a "friend breakup" and I clicked on this video after that happened. It was weird because at that time the title to me had no relevance with what just happened but then as I watched the video I realized that it made so much sense. Him and me were two different people and we tried so hard to change ourselves and accept one another but it was all just draining. The reason why we still stayed as friends despite being constantly mad at each other with the things we can't control was the good and fun times we shared. But yeah that's not all there is to relationships. I realized I shouldn't spend so much energy on one person especially when the same stuff happens again and again because that just means were two different people that can't accept that were different.
I love love love your flower arangements. Your videos are helpful to me right now as I go through a friendship/coworkership/roommate uncoupling process. Thank you❤
every time i see your videos i receive healing energy and self acceptance (i'm so zorry if i texted something wrong, english isn't my first language. hope you will understand me🎀)
holy fuck, you solved an issue i was having about a toxic person in my life. thank you so much. There is this individual that constantly lies about herself in my friend group and I know her so well that I can tell whenever she is being dishonest. It pissed me off so much because the other friends don't know her as well as I do so I feel like they were being taken advantage of. I felt so heavy this week because I felt like i was the only person who could end her toxic behavior but you just spoke bars and I realized I am not responsible for her. She is a grown adult and consequences will find her naturally. I can finally be free from this clusterfuck and live my own life.
Thank You Inayah, I listen and watch to this video while working on my beaded bracelets order, it feels so relaxing and fun. Because it feels like I'm literally having a talk with you right now. Keep spreading positivity girl
Discovering your channel is truly a gift! I like listening to you while cleaning my room or drawing. And it also is English practice for me (I'm not a native speaker). Thank you for your work!
acceptance = acknowledging literally just the facts and patterns of life, yourself, other people ... AND incorporating that into your actions, not just letting it be. e.g. i sleep avg 6 something hours. i dont want that for my life. i gotta try something different e.g. my dad erupts if i communicate any disagreements, dislikes, or set any boundaries. im not gonna expect or put effort into changing him, communicating whatevers truths or needs i have, and attempting to make him better in my eyes or conform him to what i would want from a dad / our relationship
Thank you❤ I hope someday I can be sure of my boundaries or how I'm going to speak for myself when my insecurities are being brought up as "joke" to someone. I hope to have the strength to cut the conversation when they are stepped in to my insecurities.
being non-confrontational and non-accepting also applies to yourself i dont want to accept that there are parts of myself i dont like, or things i want to change; nor do i want to accept that other people, society, and general reality dont align with my ideal conceptions of them i dont want to do loving discipline and force myself to actually eat even though i dont feel like it, or not play games at night, or not stop working or fake/overwhelmed-working and actually recognize and communicate that im not in the best spot, so im gonna go take care of myself and thats better for everyone BUT it requires me to accept my `failures and vulnerabilities and non ideal existence, and accepting that for me entails yknow communicating that maybe i wont meet all the high commitments i set for myself, or that i need to take a break even though i dont project that or show that as the standard, and so on my quotation mark key is stuck
It's interesting you said " a part of me". There is a modality of psychology called IFS Internal Family Systems. Everyone, I truly recomend it. That typer of psychology says that we have different parts and sometimes conflicting inside of us and on top conflicting with the parts of others. IFS helps reconcile with your parts and help them work together, otherwise, we get resistant with in our self
I support you a lot because We desperately need women leaders, in this day and age women tend to use feminism to justify there feeling about men, I believe the bridges to better unity between men and women is both genders reflecting more on there souls
if u want to be a certain way it means ur insecure about a certain part of you. which means ur feeding into that insecurity by not accepting the insecurity for what it is. this will never 'fix' the hole that has been created by you running away from the insecurity, it'll only make it deeper and harder to accept.
I had to accept that with my former best friend. She was so toxic towards me and i decided i have to choose if i want to keep letting that happen and i decided i wasnt okay with it and let them go.
I’ve realized that some of my friends have boundaries on physical touch and don’t even like hugs. And unfortunately, that has made cut physical touch from almost all of my relationships (even when I would say my top “love language” is physical touch). I feel like I don’t express my love in words because it doesn’t feel right, but not having physical touch as a method of communication, I feel, makes me seem like I don’t reciprocate my loved ones affections. Other than just saying this to my friends, does anyone have any tips on feeling out if someone is more or less of a physical person? Thanks ♡
I just adore your videos and the way of thinking. You are right, trying to control and change other people and explain yourself again and again is extremely draining. I had to understand recently, that I have to accept things for what they are. Maybe you will loose some people in the process and have to deal with grief but ultimately it is worth it to be true to ourselves and our values and have the peace that is so valuable. Thank you for making these videos that I can relate to and feel less lonely 🤍
When you have people with insanely low self-esteem (like most people and narcissists), you can't have any criticism, constructive or not, without them perceiving it as a personal attack. (Read "Why Socialism" by Albert Einstein.)
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You can’t hate yourself into loving yourself is so true!!
Oh my, when you said you're proud of yourself for being able to be aware of your boundary in a certain situation and verbalize it lightly, I can relate very much. It is not easy, right? Especially when confronting the ones who are so used to seeing the submissive version of us, hence getting so used to it and not being mindful of that. It is a non-linear journey indeed. You will get there eventually, Inayah. You can still be gentle and kind while also speaking up for yourself. For at the end of the day, it is your voice. No one can take it away from you. Slowly but surely. I am rooting for you! Sending much loves and support (and thank you again for the video! my chest feels lighter now) x
The past week, I have been doing things just the way I wanted to. I've been maintaining all my habits like waking up at 5 a.m., doing yoga, meditating, making myself a good breakfast to start the day, taking cold showers, and doing my homework. These routines make me feel like I can take good care of myself while also managing my external responsibilities. However, this week has been the opposite. I feel like I'm trying to do all those things and keep up with them, but I just don't feel like it, and it is so difficult for me to accept this. Accepting that I'm allowing myself to feel this way is hard because, yes, I'm trying, and I'm grateful for that, but it doesn't feel like enough. I feel like I'm confronting parts of myself that I thought I already knew and understood, and it just feels overwhelming. I'm trying to be the best version of myself for me and others, and I thought I was getting there, but then situations arise, and it feels like everything falls apart. But as you said in the video, "No one taught me how to stay inspired." If you know that you would undertake the journey of reconstructing your life, yourself, and your goals all over again, that's what matters. And if now I have to do that, even with all these feelings and situations, I will, because I love myself, and I deserve that and even more.
keeping in mind your brain’s natural cycles and resistance to discipline (as in, keeping to new healthy habits that offer long term gratification over short term) can be helpful!! for example i know my brain is resistant to my nightly yoga after a week or two of excitement. but i also know from experience that if i stick to it regardless of my initial lack of enthusiasm, i do eventually regain my enthusiasm and all the while still reap the benefits of the habit! those first stages are the hardest.
my health teacher a year ago had us try a new habit for 22 days and record it in some way because she claimed that 22 days was the point at which a brain picks up a new habit. (its not actually 22 days, but she informed us the number after the assignment to enhance its effect. i recommend doing the 22 days and not googling it til after the fact!) thats how i started my yoga habit, and its been going strong for well over a year now! recording your habit in some tangible way really helped me, too, because it keeps ya accountable !! :)) best of luck
Thank you so much for your response. I will take the advice, and I have been doing yoga every day for about a month now. But like I said, some situations appeared in my life, and that disrupted my habits. Mentioning another video of Inayha, "You'll never feel like it," you have to be focused on your goal and understand that at first, it doesn't feel good because it's not what you are used to, it's uncomfortable. What works for me is making a checklist of my habits in my physical agenda. Again, thank you for your response and for taking the time to write it all.
@@HuntMann this is such great advice! i definitely have to remind myself of this, thank you!
@@Santiago_Antorena i am so proud of you! thank you for sharing, it reminds me that we are going through the same thing and i am most definitely not alone on my journey of building and maintaining habits. i wish you the best of luck always, sending so much love your way x
Thank you so much, Inayah. You and this beautiful community you created are helping me see that no one's alone on their journey, that there's always someone who will hold your hand and help you.
I found one of your videos about three weeks ago, and the way you express and show things so peacefully and beautifully is just divine. I send you my love and wish you so much luck throughout your journey too. I hope we can talk again soon. 💚
P.S.: The flower arrangements you make are beautiful.
Self care RUclips goes so hard. This is REAL self care and I greatly appreciate your voice. Would you ever consider making a video on how to deal with the paralyzing uncertainty of the future, especially as a fellow artist? It’s easy to get terrified by the instability of art as a career path lol. I bet you’d have great insight into this xx
I'm more scared of life than death, but "living" is more tolerable than "dying."
Lately I've been surrounded by this negative energy, trying to change someone behaviour and just feeling anxious and worried about how this person feels or thinks about me, and sitting down watching this video and listening to other point of view actually made me rethink and realise I need to accept my feelings and not try hard to change anyone.
i love the respect you have for yourself, i respect you too
I've been friends with someone for a long time,i saw them as my best friend,but she overstepped a boundary, and when I confronted her about it, she dismissed it completely.She breaks many boundries and it hurts a lot,even when i tell her about it,it doesnt seem to sink in for her. Even with her other actions, she doesn't seem to change at all. It's really hard when you realise someone you looked up to is actually not the best person to be around. Im trying to realise that it's okay to talk about these things,and it's okay to make things uncomfortable. This video was very comforting,I've been lost for a while with my feelings, and whether im overreacting and going into the situation too much,I want to learn to listen to myself more and learn acceptance.
Im in a similar situation although im not confrontational enough to talk to them about it because i hate confrontation & i dont want to make things worse. It feels like its always been like this with them so im used to it but i know its not healthy & i owe it to myself to surround myself with good friendships
This has happened to me too. Finally I got a very sincere and receptive mindset (took off my rose colored glasses) and believed her behaviour and words. I realized that it's kind of unfair of me to make excuses for her. I must believe my feelings and what she shows me about herself.
It was sad and lonely but also felt good and powerful to have my own back. "Steps away from them are steps closer to yourself"
I went through this too with a friend, I stepped away from her and I feel like I’ve met ppl who respect and love me more . It’s sad cause I did love the friend but I couldn’t handle the amount of time she hurt me by dismissing me and she doesn’t seem to wanna change
Everytime you post a video i light a candle and make notes in my diary about it. Thank you so much for all you have done for me.
you always make videos talking about exactly what ive been needing to hear. truly has helped continue on my healing journey
i really needed this today thank you🩵 i had an interaction with some friends last night where they were being really nasty toward another person and i had a lot of trouble dealing with the fact that they are who they are and it’s not who i am and that is okay. i don’t have to surround myself around energy that i don’t vibe with and if they are upset ab that then it’s not my responsibility
ur like sylvia plath in the way you put words to the things i have known but not fully processed and understood yet, also you convinced me to get bangs, loving them;)
Accepting myself as whole is something I struggle with because I hyper-fixate on the aspects I believe are incongruent to my greatest self. It's like the box of former memories I held dear but now are kind of a hinderance to think about taking up space. I went through it yesterday and it felt like a relief to look at those memories as ones that can take up space instead labeling them solely as the attachments I gave them. It reflects my attitudes internally and externally clearly lol. thank you for posting this, it helped me think through this (:
Totally agree! 💘 Without acceptance we have no relief from the illusory responsibilities we stack on ourselves at the cost of anything and everything. Moving forward knowing we're the phantoms behind the mask, we should make it fun, perhaps an opera.
I just want to say how helpful this video is in my life right now. I’m going through a period of ending relationships due to differences in the way we see things and what our boundaries are. And this just give me so much clarity in the situation and that ending our friendship was the right thing to do because trying to change one another would’ve been exhausting and hard for both sides. I was so fixed on my opinion that It was difficult for me to see how they felt and this helped me see that it was most likely the same for them. Thanks for the video, it was super insightful as always.
For me im going to start working on being ok with doing things my way or being ok with doing what I want to do. I think I've found that when I get guilt tripped into hanging out with others that I forever feel like I half to hangout with people or else I'm going to be hated on. When realistically I should accept the fact that if I want to stay in a chill in bed all day that its completely find. Its totally ok to do the things that I want to do.
9:30 the acceptance and boundaries part... i think acceptance is not about agreeing to play by certain behavior, both of ours and others. Accepting simply means acknowledging a certain behavior is there, the difference is we have some control in changing ours but barely any for others. And that is precisely where boundary kicks in. And like acceptance, we have to set boundaries with both ourselves and others about how we get entangled into toxic behaviors of others, and how to stop wanting to change them.
i truly need every video you post. like i’m watching these videos on repeat to reform how i think about this life that i’m living with myself. thank you, truly.
Man, I just started following your channel a couple months ago and it hits so hard. I've also revisited Stoicism, specifically Marcus Aurelius, and so much of what you say overlaps with stoic philosophies so much. Thank you for saying the part about how hard it is to reflect and realize that there are parts of ourselves that we want to improve and change. Its really not easy to tap into that idea that we don't have it all figured out, especially knowing yourself as an introspective. But once you do, its like there's no going back. Relief only comes now, knowing that I've dove as deeply as I can, and making every effort I can to make that change, even if I'm falling short of my eventual goals. Knowing I'm doing the work the best I can, wherever that is at, is as settling as getting the work done. Thank you again. You're doing big work.
genuinely when i say thank you, i mean thank you with my whole entire heart. i have felt like i’ve been in a spiral recently. i needed to hear this. thank you so much.
I often watch your videos multiple times. There's so much in them and I get a new thing from it each time.
I randomly see your one video today morning and now I cannot stop watching your videos, it very powerful and very makes sense for me
I just found your channel, and thank you for making this content. I'm currently struggling with my boundaries being ignored by a friend of mine and it feels really hard to set them when it feels like i am being used. But as you said i know it is a process, and i am proud of myself for knowing i need to speak up for myself and doing something to make my life better
This was something I had to learn being an American working in a foreign country. I had to come to terms with accepting certain things I couldn't control, including who I am as myself, not just as an American national. I didn't realize how complicated it was to navigate beyond than just "setting boundaries" in a foreign culture and being forced to adapt to a completely different society with so much misunderstanding even if they could all communicate in English with each other, or me speaking their language. After much thought and listening to my body and my deeper feelings I realized how lighter I felt and how easy it was to not overthink and fight unnecessary battles. It was strangely profound, like in a strange cosmic way by just letting go of the things I couldn't control as silly and cliche that was to my mind conceptually. It didn't take much effort to realize this, but it did take some mental shift from overthinking things, and to just "think differently" putting energy to things I can control. And suddenly I didn't feel much tension at the workplace like I used to. Writing in a journal about my experiences gave me a healtheir sense of control (or "pseudo-control") I started not too long ago also helped.
I am going to be starting my junior year soon and honestly im scared. For the longest i felt so alone since I don’t really have an inner circle. So then i see everyone hanging out and growing together and i dont have that. I feel i need to learn to accept being alone and having only myself. I always think that if i tried to join a group of friends that i wont be accepted or rejected for just trying to have a group of people to talk to and be friends with. But this video and the confidence video has helped me realize that i have to accept being alone and become friends with myself before expecting others to accept me.
Very interesting how everyone in a way is going through the same growth patterns through their lives. I see it in myself, and I see it in others. Message of the video is really important. I've made mistakes recently and this is a way of me to cope with the inadequacies of my life. Learning to accept myself and the mistakes I make just is RELIEVING. Like a thousand pounds off my head. Thank you inayah.
Since the start of my journey, I've always had a mindset of not giving up. It has its ups and downs, but I accept that I can't give up on myself and my life. I don't want to give up, but I want to peel back the layers grow into what I'm meant to be!
these videos help me more than you could ever understand 🙏🏼 we love you inayah, you are an angel
I’m so glad to have found your channel and this video when I did. I recently got into an argument with a close friend of mine because she had done something that upset me, and instead of bottling up how it made me feel and moving on, I brought it up too her and let her know why it made me feel shitty. She responded with anger and minimization and we havent spoken since. I’ve been battling with myself, wondering if it was a bad idea to bring up what bothered me and why it bothered me, but your video helped me to sort of soothe those worries. Keep doing what you’re doing girly!
She’s stunningly beautiful
I literally feel like god put this video on my feed because it was exactly what I needed to hear. I choose to release and let it be. My peace is most important 🥹❤️ thank you.
the worst for me is that all the work is "done" in my head but for a few years i've been unable to really apply it irl even though i used to succeed at doing that and it makes me quite upset with myself
You literally look like an angel omg
This video came up at the perfect time, I have been feeling so heavy in my perception of myself and life lately. Like who I am is inherently wrong and therefore everything that comes out of me feels wrong. Its so hard to stop hating yourself in a cycle like this. Slowly I learn more about why it feels this way, and try to understand and accept. I keep wondering if I ever will get to the point where I feel grounded and can trust/ love myself without being afraid. ADHD is a bitch
I've just gone through what you could say is a "friend breakup" and I clicked on this video after that happened. It was weird because at that time the title to me had no relevance with what just happened but then as I watched the video I realized that it made so much sense. Him and me were two different people and we tried so hard to change ourselves and accept one another but it was all just draining. The reason why we still stayed as friends despite being constantly mad at each other with the things we can't control was the good and fun times we shared. But yeah that's not all there is to relationships. I realized I shouldn't spend so much energy on one person especially when the same stuff happens again and again because that just means were two different people that can't accept that were different.
BABE WAKE THE FUCK UP NEW INAYAH VID JUS DROPPED
I love love love your flower arangements. Your videos are helpful to me right now as I go through a friendship/coworkership/roommate uncoupling process. Thank you❤
every time i see your videos i receive healing energy and self acceptance (i'm so zorry if i texted something wrong, english isn't my first language. hope you will understand me🎀)
holy fuck, you solved an issue i was having about a toxic person in my life. thank you so much.
There is this individual that constantly lies about herself in my friend group and I know her so well that I can tell whenever she is being dishonest. It pissed me off so much because the other friends don't know her as well as I do so I feel like they were being taken advantage of. I felt so heavy this week because I felt like i was the only person who could end her toxic behavior but you just spoke bars and I realized I am not responsible for her. She is a grown adult and consequences will find her naturally. I can finally be free from this clusterfuck and live my own life.
Thank You Inayah, I listen and watch to this video while working on my beaded bracelets order, it feels so relaxing and fun. Because it feels like I'm literally having a talk with you right now.
Keep spreading positivity girl
Thank youuu
Discovering your channel is truly a gift! I like listening to you while cleaning my room or drawing. And it also is English practice for me (I'm not a native speaker). Thank you for your work!
“it all exists at once” YES!!
your asthetic is so beautiful I love it so much
Your videos always seem to come out at the right time, thank you. ♥ + The arrangement looks beautiful, and your choice of music is so good ^^
It’s so funny how the universe brings in confirmation of things i intuitively feel and realize . ❤️
fr so much power comes from acceptance 💐
I really needed a video like this, thank you
acceptance =
acknowledging literally just the facts and patterns of life, yourself, other people ...
AND incorporating that into your actions, not just letting it be.
e.g. i sleep avg 6 something hours. i dont want that for my life. i gotta try something different
e.g. my dad erupts if i communicate any disagreements, dislikes, or set any boundaries. im not gonna expect or put effort into changing him, communicating whatevers truths or needs i have, and attempting to make him better in my eyes or conform him to what i would want from a dad / our relationship
Thank you❤
I hope someday I can be sure of my boundaries or how I'm going to speak for myself when my insecurities are being brought up as "joke" to someone.
I hope to have the strength to cut the conversation when they are stepped in to my insecurities.
I wish I could like this a thousand times. Thank you for putting my feelings into words
You put a lot of my thoughts into words, thank you!
being non-confrontational and non-accepting also applies to yourself
i dont want to accept that there are parts of myself i dont like, or things i want to change; nor do i want to accept that other people, society, and general reality dont align with my ideal conceptions of them
i dont want to do loving discipline and force myself to actually eat even though i dont feel like it, or not play games at night, or not stop working or fake/overwhelmed-working and actually recognize and communicate that im not in the best spot, so im gonna go take care of myself and thats better for everyone BUT it requires me to accept my `failures and vulnerabilities and non ideal existence, and accepting that for me entails yknow communicating that maybe i wont meet all the high commitments i set for myself, or that i need to take a break even though i dont project that or show that as the standard, and so on
my quotation mark key is stuck
It's interesting you said " a part of me". There is a modality of psychology called IFS Internal Family Systems. Everyone, I truly recomend it. That typer of psychology says that we have different parts and sometimes conflicting inside of us and on top conflicting with the parts of others. IFS helps reconcile with your parts and help them work together, otherwise, we get resistant with in our self
You are amazing how are you so full of wisdom I’m baffled
always dropping fire wisdom inayah, love it
I support you a lot because We desperately need women leaders, in this day and age women tend to use feminism to justify there feeling about men, I believe the bridges to better unity between men and women is both genders reflecting more on there souls
this is such a gem and so well timed for me thank you and i love you
i needed this rn. thank you :)
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Been finding relief and simplest answers to questions arising in me everyday. Thank you so much again today
Thanks for sharing your experience and creating a safe space.
💙Great topic! you should be proud! much love and appreciation! ☮🕊
This video came at the exact time I needed it.
thank you so much for your love and kindness
Hi, nice to meet you. I'm happy this is the first video of yours I find, you are full of wisdom, you are beautiful, I love that you make bouquets!!!❤️
Really needed this one.......Thankyou
if u want to be a certain way it means ur insecure about a certain part of you. which means ur feeding into that insecurity by not accepting the insecurity for what it is.
this will never 'fix' the hole that has been created by you running away from the insecurity, it'll only make it deeper and harder to accept.
only by acceptance of insecurities will u become secure within yourself.
I had to accept that with my former best friend. She was so toxic towards me and i decided i have to choose if i want to keep letting that happen and i decided i wasnt okay with it and let them go.
thank you
Thanks for the confidence boost, I really appreciated the message!
Oh my, this comes at the right time! Thank you very much! x
Thankyou for your inspiration 🙏🙏
Thank you, love the flowers 🌺
I love your content! Looking forward to more videos like these.
PLEASE PLEASE START YOUR PODCAST ON SPOTIFY 😭😭😭😭😭
thank you so much! you are sooo beautiful ❤
you remind me of the Byzantine paintings and the women portrayed there. so gorgeous! love xx
Your videos help me so much.
Your lip tint is THE SAME color as the flowers 🌷
I’ve realized that some of my friends have boundaries on physical touch and don’t even like hugs. And unfortunately, that has made cut physical touch from almost all of my relationships (even when I would say my top “love language” is physical touch). I feel like I don’t express my love in words because it doesn’t feel right, but not having physical touch as a method of communication, I feel, makes me seem like I don’t reciprocate my loved ones affections. Other than just saying this to my friends, does anyone have any tips on feeling out if someone is more or less of a physical person? Thanks ♡
I like your videos. thank you for making them. :)
this is basically stoicism
You are like a super relaxing version of poison ivy
ANOTHER BANGER J DROPPED FUCK YEAH
what camera do u use to film babeeee ??? tysm for sharing btw love ur videos ofc 🤍🤍
I just adore your videos and the way of thinking. You are right, trying to control and change other people and explain yourself again and again is extremely draining. I had to understand recently, that I have to accept things for what they are. Maybe you will loose some people in the process and have to deal with grief but ultimately it is worth it to be true to ourselves and our values and have the peace that is so valuable. Thank you for making these videos that I can relate to and feel less lonely 🤍
love you so much ♡
Went from 10k views to 109k in a matter of like 4 months.
I'm calling this right now, you're gonna have a huge cult following soon. Love your videos always
Thank you.
I BEGGGG U PLEASE A MAKE UP ROUTINEEEE
you are an artist
how do you know if the boundaries you set are unreasonable?
the best outro
Yay she posted!!
When you have people with insanely low self-esteem (like most people and narcissists), you can't have any criticism, constructive or not, without them perceiving it as a personal attack. (Read "Why Socialism" by Albert Einstein.)
Thank you for this video 🩵🪽
I need u to release ur podcast on spotify😭
what plants are in the background!
Inayah i just love you