I think you're a great mom Val, you know Jess better than anybody and how to handle things concerning her, you shouldn't have to keep explaining yourself.
Absolutely!! Just like those of us who have young ones; when they ask we reply, and move forward. Gives them things to look forward to, teaches them patience and the process of things. Also, teaches goals.
Like I said on another video - my word, Jessica is an ADULT, and not a toddler! Lord, she has developmental difficulties but she’s not “stupid” - I just don’t understand why people can’t see that by merely watching ONE video 🤦🏼♀️ Love how people feel the need to criticize what they have no clue about! I am getting so protective of y’all lol much love!
My son is very protective over his personal belongings and I had to prepare him well in advance when we were moving and I gave him boxes months ahead of time and allowed to begin to pack all of his items in his own way. And, this was very important to him. He loved looking at houses and participating in the walk throughs and he liked knowing that his opinion mattered when it came to what house we selected! I think you are doing everything exactly the way you should! Awesome ladies!! So exciting!
Same exact thing with my son and myself. Both of us having Autism we've always had adult conversations and interacted better with adults when we were younger. We also do the same types of things. I totally understand how your family works and things you do. I'm right there with you Val. 💝
Honestly if grown people can't understand what "getting ready to move some day" is, idk what to tell them. My simplest explanation? We (humans) make plans, but God directs our steps. Meaning, we do our best, God does the rest. And everything happens at the perfect time for our own life. Val I can't imagine the pressure of being under this amount of scrutiny constantly. You and Jess are both underestimated so much. I encourage all critics to take a big step back and look at their own lives before they pick apart a family doing their best.
Thank you for pointing out that Jess needs you to repeat things to make her feel better and ease her anxiety. Your patience to do so over and over convicts me. I have an adult son with autism, dyspraxia, and frontal lobe dysfunction and he asks the same questions over and over. Sometimes I lose my patience because it is just so repetitive. You remind me that it is necessary to ease his anxiety. Thank you Val!
This whole conversation, to me, is ableism at its core. How you “let” Jessica believe something, how you “allow” her to do or not do. People who ask these things unkindly are acting as if Jessica isn’t a capable, functioning member of your household. Someone who has wants and needs and wishes and goals. For them to constantly be irritated that you are allowing her autonomy just says to me they don’t think of her as capable or deserving. Like you all are having one big joke at her expense. I implore people to watch, to listen, to see how you all FAMILY together. Jessica is no less a part of the daily conversation and action as Hannah or Campbell. I wish they would just stop accusing you of these things. It’s downright frustrating as someone who loves your family. Anyway, thank you again for your content, it’s obviously necessary and important!
I totally understand!!! My autistic brother ~ he's semi nonverbal ~ is the same way with things, he just wants to make sure that things are happening and that nothing has changed because it brings him comfort even if we don't have a "set date" yet. People who don't have or live with an autistic loved one just don't understand what it's like, saying things like " I don't know, we'll see" don't work for autistic individuals. Love your family and what you stand for. Keep up the great work
I'm a part of your special needs family as both of my boys are on the spectrum. I find your videos so very helpful and I Thank You for sharing your life with us. You're a really good momma to Jess!!
It makes me feel so bad that people feel they can criticize you for unique decisions you make for your unique child. I can only imagine the confusion and distress it could cause to have a bunch of "maybes" floating around regarding changes. Jessica likes to know what's up, and keeping it simple keeps her heart in a calm place while these things are discussed. At least, that's kindof how I perceive it. But the point is that my opinion and others' opinions really don't matter. What matters is Jessica and her loving family. You GO Val. Rock on.
Val, you are way more patient than I would be with people, that’s why I don’t have a RUclips channel or Instagram with my son. My grandson has Autism as well and my daughter said there is no way she could do what you do. It seriously is not anyone’s business how you interact with Jess..even if they do have a son or daughter on the spectrum, they are individuals and they all think and feel differently. I just get so upset when people in my life act like Robbie isn’t able to function like someone who is 31 years old. He’s so very intelligent..like Jess is, and very observant. I also think he has bionic hearing because every time I try to whisper something to someone, he comes to me right away and asks about it..lol. I so sorry that people have upset you so much that you can’t sleep, please just try to let things bounce off you as much as you can. Stress really wreaks havoc on the immune system and these days we all need to be as healthy as possible. Says the retired nurse with 5 autoimmune diseases! Well that’s another long story which I won’t get into on your channel. Take care of you dear lady,sending love and healing thoughts 💜💖
Jess your so intelligent, I love how involved you are and curious about things. Good job family for including her. Val and bad daddy are such good parents. Hannah is a wonderful big sister. I have disabilities myself and watching your videos helps me get through rough times in life when people don't always understand or know how to treat others who are different. Thank you for sharing your story. I've been a fan for a long time.
It saddens me that you have to explain this to so many, if they would just stop, look, listen and learn, our world would be a better place. Thank you Val. None of us truly know you, however it's a regular risk sharing pieces of your life. I for one am grateful and your family moments that you share bring me much joy And comfort. Cannot thank you enough. All you all rock! Live and let live with Love.
You are amazing with Jess. You know her needs & what’s best above all. There should be no negative comments. It’s obvious that it’s comforting to Jess to make plans & have routines. You are respected & admired.
Jess is so precious! I love how you guys include her in conversations. She's an adult, she's aware of what's going on, and while she might have some limitations, she has so many more strengths.
Jessica is an adult and a member of the family (and a very smart member) and of course she deserves to be involved in life decisions. Some people should just worry about their own life. Keep on keepin on Val & family cause it’s working 💛
Perfect comment. You're doing a great job with Jess momma Val. I love how your entire family is involved in her life. Jess is so beautiful, inside & out. Your videos never fail to put a smile on my face & in my heart.
You are an amazing mother! You know Jess better then anyone. You know what's best for her. You are a pillar of strength. Please don't let the negative stuff get to you. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.
I personally think it's good that you told Jess. Like you said she is an adult. We even did when our kids were young. Never left them out of decisions like that. Oh that would be so great if you all could get a big house that you all could live in and still have your own private spaces. I feel bad for people who don't dream and plan new things. You guys are doing fabulous!
Hi am new to the channel, I have a autistic nephew , my brother and sis in law have kept it hush to the family but recently my sis in law told my eldest daughter after an outburst at a restaurant , my sis in law has insisted my daughter not tell anyone my nephew is 12 but diagnosed at 4 they stayed abroad for 11 years This is why We never knew …. I was on looking for information , you are an amazing mom and Jess is so lovable , please don’t think you have to explain all your decisions if people don’t like what they hear or seen then they can unsubscribe, wishing you love from scotland 🏴
@@Shaping_Serenity that so much for taking the time to reply your videos I’ve been binge watching most of the weekend and find them such a help to beginning to understand things , love from scotland 🏴
I'm currently renting and am only 2 months into my lease. I'm pretty happy here, I have no intent to move anytime soon, but I look on Zillow and at local rentals and houses on Facebook marketplace pretty frequently anyway. I have multiple family members who do the same, despite not actively looking to move either. Sometimes my sister sends me listings of expensive houses that get listed in our area just so we can kind of ooo and ahh at them. Or of strange decor choices, or of houses that people we know lived in 20 years ago so I can see how it's been updated since we saw it years ago, etc. It seems like a fairly common pastime to enjoy. It seems to me from watching some of your videos that Jess shares this "hobby", except she also realizes that you're going to move someday so that makes it a bit more exciting/interesting for her to talk about as it's more real for her than it is for many others who don't have plans to move at all. She clearly enjoys the discussions so it's confusing to me that people think it is somehow bad.
Dreaming, planning, what ifs😉. Own my own home..morgage free...but I love to see what's out there. I am entertained by my looking. Jessica loves to look at houses. So do I! It's all fun and, who knows...I just may find a different house that I want to live in. I love Ruidoso, New Mexico...but I have lived in Houston, TX.., Austin, TX,..Junction, TX...and now Ruidoso, New Mexico. Adventures each time. Some moves have been out of necessity...some, just because I needed and wanted a change. Adventures await. Keep looking Jess..and have fun with your adventures in life. You and your momma are an inspiration to so many.🥰😘
You and Jess and Hannah and Marlow are remarkable women, I admire all of you for many, many reasons. I've learned to love all of you dearly. Val, I couldn't imagine a better or more caring or more loving Mom. Please do your best taking care of yourself.♥️
Although I am no a Krispy, I enjoy your videos. Val, you are Jessica’s number one caregiver and advocate. You know exactly how to talk to her. I’m so sorry for the negative comments. I wish they would go away or hold their negative thoughts to themselves.
@@baddaddy2826 I know for sure I WAS subscribed to your channel. I remember subscribing when you were at Disney. I know that UTUBE unsubscribes people sometimes. But I resubscribed it that is a word
Hello Jess and Val, I hope your having a lovely day. I’m Autistic and thinking of moving too. My move date is not firm, its like yours a future plan. I like the processing time and talking about it with my Mom. It really helps with something big like this and even the smaller things too. The planning and talking about it are all an important and much needed process for me. Thank you, take care. 😊
So maybe because Jess will obsess over moving & all that goes into it, or anything that worries her for that matter, the best thing to do is give a good enough answer that it doesn't consume her which in turn consumes you all that live with her, right? I deal with ruminating on things occasionally & it would help to have someone who could help me stop or interrupt those thoughts because it does consume me sometimes. I hope people can understand you are doing what's best for Jess' & everyone's quality of life there when you answer her the way you do. You know Jess best.
Oh, beautiful Val! Give yourself a big hug from me. Your parenting is questioned and judged by people who do not walk in your shoes, yet you continue to educate them with patience and kindness. That’s admirable.
I don’t know why people aren’t being nice. We aren’t all the same what one autistic feels stressed about another won’t. One things for sure is that one of the most of us have mums who know exactly what the right thing to do and say is. I trust you know Jess better than any not nice people online and you are good people you wouldn’t do something to upset Jessica’s. The very worst thing anyone can ever do is treat an adult with autism like a child it’s really upsetting so you keep treating her with the respect you do.
Jess is an adult. She might need a little more explaining but she gets it. She looked so concerned at the end but it might just be deep thinking. Love you both.
Val, you could have handled this 1000 different ways. You handled it with class and grace. I really admire you. Your perspective is valued and message important. Thank you for sharing your family❤️
Some act as if you are new to this! Good grief, you've been dealing with this for 30 some odd years! I think you know by now what's best for and how to go about things with Jess!! Keep on keeping on, Val! You're doing an exceptional job! Love all y'all❣
It’s terrible that grown people have to act like this! Val I sure understand and I think your a great and patient Mom! My youngest is 22 now and wow patience is very tough lots of times! And with a special needs child I can’t even imagine! But I admire your goals and whether you move or wait that’s up to you! Love that you share Jess’s life with us! ❤️❤️❤️
You are such a good mom! You do you! And why do people care in a negative way that you are being honest with her. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ my son has autism as well I tell him a lot too, I don’t keep things from him either. He works A LOT BETTER when he knows what’s going on and what he can expect. I agree with you 100%. Keep doing you!
Aww Jess, you did a wonderful job! I am so proud of you! 👏🏻 You know why? Cause you are so smart...so intelligent. Your mama is right. You know exactly what is going on and you just need assurance. Nothing wrong with that. My goodness, I am the same way. I like to get assurance of things too all the time. Sometimes it just calms us down. Everyone is wired differently and that is ok. Very good at explaining, as usual, Val! Love ya'll!
You are a Awesome Mom to all your kids!!! You should never have to explain anything to those negative people!!! No one should ever question anything you do it's your life. Hope you guys are having a fantastic day ☺️
You are so wonderful with Jess - it would be easy to shelter her from everything but you take the more challenging road and include her in everything even when it may mean more questions and hard conversations - stay strong mom ❤️
I don’t get how people think the way they do, would they rather Jessica locked in her room with absolutely no understanding of what is happening in day to day live or learning new things? She is a human being regardless of her disabilities and she deserves to be treated like so. Well done Val your an amazing mother and you and bad daddy have raised a wonderful woman in Jessica ❤️
I totally get that, the looking at houses just for fun. My mom was never really looking for a different house, but we always went and did walkthroughs of houses for sale. A memory of time with my mother that I had almost forgotten.
I’m not even going to get on my soap box about this because nothing will resonate with those who refuse to understand. You’re great Val. You’re doing great! You’re a rockstar! Period! ❤️
I have a daughter that is Autistic and I have to tell her each day what we are going to do that day. But if I do a little different then she goes off. I also if something is coming up in the next week or so I have to reminder so she does not have a fit when that day comes. SO I am with 100% You are a great mom. Keep doing what you know is right for Jessica. She has the same name as I do my daughter wanted you to know that and she loves you
It really has nothing to do with anyone but you guys! You are a fabulous family and truly let Jess be herself. That ‘s why she is the amazing smart young women she is today.🧡
I understand you totally. It all makes sense. I’m sorry that people make you feel like you have to explain everything. It’s common sense. I enjoy watching you and your family. Thank you for sharing
Oh Val, your a great mom and always reassuring Jessica. You know her better than anyone else. Telling her things is just making her apart of the family. Makes me sad when people question your parenting . My grandkids are 8 & 6 and they know someday they are moving into more of an efficient house. Beautiful smile today Jessica!
It’s sad that you guys can’t dream out loud. I know that you guys will probably move. It’s like with a lot of things it’s got to be the right time and place. If they can’t understand they just need to set back and watch the show. Let Jess enjoy trying to find a house for you guys.
I would imagine the stress it would create for Jessica if you was to spring big decisions like moving on her. Just like you prepare her to go to the Doctor. I mean, if we all think about it. We don’t like changes sprung on us either, without being able to absorb and comprehend the scope of the situation. You’re a great Mom and advocate for Jess. God bless you Val. Your kindness and patience in trying to help us understand 🙏🏻♥️. I for one, am learning so much .
I am so sorry that you feel you have to explain what goes on in your own house and with your family. You are an amazing mother and have an awesome family unit. God bless you and yours.
🤣😂😅 let’s not get put on the spot!! “Where’s daddy gonna go?” My heart blew up lol That was soooooo stinkin sweet!! Well I tell my boy most things but not all, but like someone said, you know Jess better Than anyone, like I do my boy. ❤️
I’m so sorry you have to constantly explain yourself. You know I see these other Facebook pages about autism and sometimes theres a 10 paragraph disclaimer and Explanation of the most commonly asked questions. And it’s a sad thing that y’all have to constantly explain. I’ve enjoyed your videos immensely and your family seems like a part of mine! It just breaks my heart the way there’s so many negative comments after somebody watches just one of your videos . They need to just watch you for a while and they’ll learn a lot and get their questions answered without having to be nasty to you. Val, Keep up the good work. And I hope the next thing I say, doesn’t get a black mark against my name. But my old grandma had a saying. When any of her 17 grandkids were dealing with someone’s negativity, She would point her bony finger at us and say “Honey, don’t let the bastards get you down”! I grew up remembering her sage advice. Now I am that old grandma 🤣😆😬💜
I can’t believe how invested strangers are in other folks business. It’s as if whatever they do affects you and it doesn’t. Jess is loved, cared for and happy what’s there to question? Some y’all take more patience to tend to than toddlers. 🤦🏽♀️ ETA: The majority of comments and subbies here and wonderful 😉😎
I love how excited she is about this move. Val you’ve done a great job explaining to her what the steps are to getting to that point. In my opinion having something to really look forward to in the future is beneficial to not only Jess but for all of us. Sending hugs to you all🙂
Val. I can't believe people question you what you are doing or why you're doing it you are doing a beautiful job taking care of Jessica and the household. I give you great credit
Ar 1st I was like wait you aren't moving? I thought eventually you were. You just haven't found the place yet. Then i watched the rest and was like ok. I was right. What's so wrong about any that.? We told our kids the same thing! And we eventually found the house we wanted and that's that. That's not wrong to have a goal. I don't know why peele had a problem with this. You are doing everything that is right FOR YOUR FAMILY! that's it. No one knows what's right for you need or anyone else but the people in that family. Keep doing you! You are doing great! Love watching you guys. The market is so crazy right now!
It surprises me that people would expect you to keep something like this a secret from a member of your household. Most people spend a couple of years talking and planning a move. Why would it be any different for you and your family? Do they expect you to plan the move without Jessica and then spring it on her at the last minute? How would that help? I just don't understand some people. Love to you all xxx
Oh Val, you are amazing!! People will never understand what you go thru and deal with , but they sure have all the answers. You guys just keep doing what your doing ❤
It's always great to have a goal and plans for the future. You never know what will happen in life, but great to keep dreaming and planning. You never know, you may get a house with a big pool and waterside. 💞
I'm not sure what it's like there but it's crazy crazy in the housing markets here in Australia..great for selling but the flip side is huge prices for buying..I get it about Jess hearing..my kids would say the more I lost my vision that my bat ears grew their super powers...
Hi Val and Jess,I enjoy your videos very much and I think that you are extremely a very good mother! I also don’t understand why people have to mind your business!
It's widely known when people have one sense impairment, like vision, other senses or just one are heightened. It is very common for blind people to have an amazing sense of hearing. It's something in the brain that is trying to compensate in a survival mode.
I'm sure I recall in videos in the past you have gestured in the background that you weren't moving. This while Jess was discussing finding a new home. That could be the why, for those comments. However, Val, I'm not sure why people have to question you on how and why when it comes to raising your family. I agree with how you have outgrown your home because I owned one just like yours, same lay out, exactly the same layout. I tried to raise 3 Sons with my husband and run a drywall company out of her. Small was an understatement. Lol. I'm curious, does anyone lay in bed and dream of winning the lottery or hitting it rich at some point to be able to move into their perfect dream home, drive their perfect car? I have and I believe everyone should be able to do that. And if your blessed enough to be able to have things fall into place for a move then more power to you. Jess may have childlike actions your right, her language is not childlike. No one has a brain like hers, shit, no one has the same brain period! We are all different. So encouraging Jess about a move that may or may not happen is no body's business but yours. Although the way the economy is family's are moving in together just to get by and sometimes that requires a larger accommodation. Keep being you, the best Mom for Jess. We love and respect you for it!!!
Yes, you are right. Those videos are out there because she’s been talking about it for so many years. As you know, situations evolve. Unfortunately, some people aren’t able to put that together.
I'm so so sorry people feel the need to know the ins and outs of your entire life and decisions 😔 its uncomfortable to read some people's questions they ask you, most of them need not be asked. I hope that oneday these people will come back across their questions to you and realise they are not only rude and Intrusive but also none of their business then maybe they will do the decent thing and apologise to you. As much as we all appreciate all of your vlogs and love being part of your lives it by no means gives any of us the right to know private stuff within your house hold. I'm so sorry you encounter this so much truely I am. Namast'e lovely family. Never stop manifesting, never stop dreaming and never stop drawing that beautiful new home into all your lives xxxxxxxxxxxxx
You can't rush into things like this. It's good b to have goals. Those people must not know about goals. It's none of their business how your family talk about things. You guys are awesome.
It’s very obvious that Jess is an intelligent young lady, to engage her and include her in conversations no doubt makes her feel more loved. You are an amazing mom Val. And for people to say negative things need to remember God made you her mom because He knew you would be her best!!!
Perfect way to get those negative nancys to shut up! Jess is very smart and I certainly hope you keep on treating her as a working part of your family (adult).
Hi Val, It’s so sad you have to explain yourself, and have to deal with the negative comments. I feel you don’t need to explain or justify yourself. I enjoy watching your videos. ❤️
Why do people have to disagree with the decisions that you make that's best for Jessica? I feel bad for you having to explain yourself. You are the only one that knows what is best for you and Jessica. Love all your videos!
What is so confusing to me is people are coming at you like they are concerned about Jess but they are also acting as if Jess isn’t a capable human and doesn’t understand anything. Also you have explained many times that making a change super fast is hard so I think it’s great that Jess is this far in advanced prepared and knows what’s going on. Y’all are a family and make decisions as a family and plan as a family. Not everyone but Jess should be involved.
We all have dreams, so does Jess. Her dream, a bigger house for her doggies & her collectibles, with a pool (outdoor) and a space for bad daddy 😁 nothing wrong with that. No need to explain anymore
Love watching Jessica and your family! People will make stupid comments without thinking, you don’t have to explain to this ppl. Keep doing what your doing, you’re doing great. God bless your family!🙏❤️
Hey we sold out house in Chicago while building a house in Tennessee...it takes a lot of effort and money to get done what you need to get done...patience is a virtue...
Your doing a great job Val! I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that the naysayers are not dealing with a chronic condition in their own homes. Or else they wouldn't be negative or so judgmental with their comments.
I’m still floored about the things people ask you. My mom always said “if you don’t have anything nice to say, move over, I wanna hear it” I’m playing, just don’t say it if it isn’t nice and sounds obtrusive…geez.
Aww jess's face lit up when u said that u Don't have any secrets so cute, anyway about having to explain yourself AGAIN ...why shouldn't you tell jess u are moving she is part of the family the same as everyone else like what do people want you to do ..just exclude her ,how ridiculous to even think u would ,oh lord how u keep ur cool sometimes amazeses me ,keep being u Val thats all u can do ,I love your videos.
I think you're a great mom Val, you know Jess better than anybody and how to handle things concerning her, you shouldn't have to keep explaining yourself.
I agree 💯 percent. You are doing a fantastic job with Jess. There are more people with you than you know. Love you guys 💖
Absolutely!! Just like those of us who have young ones; when they ask we reply, and move forward. Gives them things to look forward to, teaches them patience and the process of things. Also, teaches goals.
Like I said on another video - my word, Jessica is an ADULT, and not a toddler! Lord, she has developmental difficulties but she’s not “stupid” - I just don’t understand why people can’t see that by merely watching ONE video 🤦🏼♀️ Love how people feel the need to criticize what they have no clue about! I am getting so protective of y’all lol much love!
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My son is very protective over his personal belongings and I had to prepare him well in advance when we were moving and I gave him boxes months ahead of time and allowed to begin to pack all of his items in his own way. And, this was very important to him. He loved looking at houses and participating in the walk throughs and he liked knowing that his opinion mattered when it came to what house we selected! I think you are doing everything exactly the way you should! Awesome ladies!! So exciting!
Thanks for sharing!
Same exact thing with my son and myself. Both of us having Autism we've always had adult conversations and interacted better with adults when we were younger. We also do the same types of things. I totally understand how your family works and things you do. I'm right there with you Val. 💝
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Honestly if grown people can't understand what "getting ready to move some day" is, idk what to tell them.
My simplest explanation? We (humans) make plans, but God directs our steps. Meaning, we do our best, God does the rest. And everything happens at the perfect time for our own life.
Val I can't imagine the pressure of being under this amount of scrutiny constantly. You and Jess are both underestimated so much.
I encourage all critics to take a big step back and look at their own lives before they pick apart a family doing their best.
Humans propose, God disposes…..
Thank you for pointing out that Jess needs you to repeat things to make her feel better and ease her anxiety. Your patience to do so over and over convicts me. I have an adult son with autism, dyspraxia, and frontal lobe dysfunction and he asks the same questions over and over. Sometimes I lose my patience because it is just so repetitive. You remind me that it is necessary to ease his anxiety. Thank you Val!
This whole conversation, to me, is ableism at its core. How you “let” Jessica believe something, how you “allow” her to do or not do. People who ask these things unkindly are acting as if Jessica isn’t a capable, functioning member of your household. Someone who has wants and needs and wishes and goals. For them to constantly be irritated that you are allowing her autonomy just says to me they don’t think of her as capable or deserving. Like you all are having one big joke at her expense. I implore people to watch, to listen, to see how you all FAMILY together. Jessica is no less a part of the daily conversation and action as Hannah or Campbell. I wish they would just stop accusing you of these things. It’s downright frustrating as someone who loves your family. Anyway, thank you again for your content, it’s obviously necessary and important!
Well said.
@@averyshenan958 you have shown up to a battle of wits unarmed. ✌️
You know Hannah has said that it isn't the case... Maybe try learning from this family instead of criticizing.
I totally understand!!! My autistic brother ~ he's semi nonverbal ~ is the same way with things, he just wants to make sure that things are happening and that nothing has changed because it brings him comfort even if we don't have a "set date" yet. People who don't have or live with an autistic loved one just don't understand what it's like, saying things like " I don't know, we'll see" don't work for autistic individuals. Love your family and what you stand for. Keep up the great work
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I'm a part of your special needs family as both of my boys are on the spectrum. I find your videos so very helpful and I Thank You for sharing your life with us. You're a really good momma to Jess!!
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It makes me feel so bad that people feel they can criticize you for unique decisions you make for your unique child. I can only imagine the confusion and distress it could cause to have a bunch of "maybes" floating around regarding changes. Jessica likes to know what's up, and keeping it simple keeps her heart in a calm place while these things are discussed. At least, that's kindof how I perceive it. But the point is that my opinion and others' opinions really don't matter. What matters is Jessica and her loving family. You GO Val. Rock on.
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Val, you are way more patient than I would be with people, that’s why I don’t have a RUclips channel or Instagram with my son. My grandson has Autism as well and my daughter said there is no way she could do what you do. It seriously is not anyone’s business how you interact with Jess..even if they do have a son or daughter on the spectrum, they are individuals and they all think and feel differently. I just get so upset when people in my life act like Robbie isn’t able to function like someone who is 31 years old. He’s so very intelligent..like Jess is, and very observant. I also think he has bionic hearing because every time I try to whisper something to someone, he comes to me right away and asks about it..lol. I so sorry that people have upset you so much that you can’t sleep, please just try to let things bounce off you as much as you can. Stress really wreaks havoc on the immune system and these days we all need to be as healthy as possible. Says the retired nurse with 5 autoimmune diseases! Well that’s another long story which I won’t get into on your channel. Take care of you dear lady,sending love and healing thoughts 💜💖
Thank you!
Jess your so intelligent, I love how involved you are and curious about things. Good job family for including her. Val and bad daddy are such good parents. Hannah is a wonderful big sister. I have disabilities myself and watching your videos helps me get through rough times in life when people don't always understand or know how to treat others who are different. Thank you for sharing your story. I've been a fan for a long time.
Thank you! I hope you have a good day!
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It saddens me that you have to explain this to so many, if they would just stop, look, listen and learn, our world would be a better place. Thank you Val. None of us truly know you, however it's a regular risk sharing pieces of your life. I for one am grateful and your family moments that you share bring me much joy And comfort. Cannot thank you enough. All you all rock! Live and let live with Love.
And btw Yesss, Jess Is intelligent, fun, funny and kind.
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You are amazing with Jess. You know her needs & what’s best above all. There should be no negative comments. It’s obvious that it’s comforting to Jess to make plans & have routines. You are respected & admired.
Jess is so precious! I love how you guys include her in conversations. She's an adult, she's aware of what's going on, and while she might have some limitations, she has so many more strengths.
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Jessica is an adult and a member of the family (and a very smart member) and of course she deserves to be involved in life decisions. Some people should just worry about their own life. Keep on keepin on Val & family cause it’s working 💛
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You're doing a great job with Jess momma Val. I love how your entire family is involved in her life. Jess is so beautiful, inside & out. Your videos never fail to put a smile on my face & in my heart.
You are an amazing mother! You know Jess better then anyone. You know what's best for her. You are a pillar of strength. Please don't let the negative stuff get to you. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.
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I love how you all interact with Jess have a bless and wonderful day.
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I personally think it's good that you told Jess. Like you said she is an adult. We even did when our kids were young. Never left them out of decisions like that. Oh that would be so great if you all could get a big house that you all could live in and still have your own private spaces. I feel bad for people who don't dream and plan new things. You guys are doing fabulous!
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Hi am new to the channel, I have a autistic nephew , my brother and sis in law have kept it hush to the family but recently my sis in law told my eldest daughter after an outburst at a restaurant , my sis in law has insisted my daughter not tell anyone my nephew is 12 but diagnosed at 4 they stayed abroad for 11 years This is why We never knew …. I was on looking for information , you are an amazing mom and Jess is so lovable , please don’t think you have to explain all your decisions if people don’t like what they hear or seen then they can unsubscribe, wishing you love from scotland 🏴
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@@Shaping_Serenity that so much for taking the time to reply your videos I’ve been binge watching most of the weekend and find them such a help to beginning to understand things , love from scotland 🏴
I'm currently renting and am only 2 months into my lease. I'm pretty happy here, I have no intent to move anytime soon, but I look on Zillow and at local rentals and houses on Facebook marketplace pretty frequently anyway. I have multiple family members who do the same, despite not actively looking to move either. Sometimes my sister sends me listings of expensive houses that get listed in our area just so we can kind of ooo and ahh at them. Or of strange decor choices, or of houses that people we know lived in 20 years ago so I can see how it's been updated since we saw it years ago, etc. It seems like a fairly common pastime to enjoy. It seems to me from watching some of your videos that Jess shares this "hobby", except she also realizes that you're going to move someday so that makes it a bit more exciting/interesting for her to talk about as it's more real for her than it is for many others who don't have plans to move at all. She clearly enjoys the discussions so it's confusing to me that people think it is somehow bad.
Dreaming, planning, what ifs😉. Own my own home..morgage free...but I love to see what's out there. I am entertained by my looking. Jessica loves to look at houses. So do I! It's all fun and, who knows...I just may find a different house that I want to live in. I love Ruidoso, New Mexico...but I have lived in Houston, TX.., Austin, TX,..Junction, TX...and now Ruidoso, New Mexico. Adventures each time. Some moves have been out of necessity...some, just because I needed and wanted a change. Adventures await. Keep looking Jess..and have fun with your adventures in life. You and your momma are an inspiration to so many.🥰😘
You and Jess and Hannah and Marlow are remarkable women, I admire all of you for many, many reasons. I've learned to love all of you dearly. Val, I couldn't imagine a better or more caring or more loving Mom.
Please do your best taking care of yourself.♥️
Goals and talking about the future is fun and exciting for anyone!! She’s an adult and you guys are a precious family. ♥️
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Although I am no a Krispy, I enjoy your videos. Val, you are Jessica’s number one caregiver and advocate. You know exactly how to talk to her. I’m so sorry for the negative comments. I wish they would go away or hold their negative thoughts to themselves.
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@@baddaddy2826 I know for sure I WAS subscribed to your channel. I remember subscribing when you were at Disney. I know that UTUBE unsubscribes people sometimes. But I resubscribed it that is a word
Hello Jess and Val, I hope your having a lovely day.
I’m Autistic and thinking of moving too. My move date is not firm, its like yours a future plan. I like the processing time and talking about it with my Mom. It really helps with something big like this and even the smaller things too.
The planning and talking about it are all an important and much needed process for me.
Thank you, take care. 😊
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So maybe because Jess will obsess over moving & all that goes into it, or anything that worries her for that matter, the best thing to do is give a good enough answer that it doesn't consume her which in turn consumes you all that live with her, right? I deal with ruminating on things occasionally & it would help to have someone who could help me stop or interrupt those thoughts because it does consume me sometimes. I hope people can understand you are doing what's best for Jess' & everyone's quality of life there when you answer her the way you do. You know Jess best.
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Oh, beautiful Val! Give yourself a big hug from me. Your parenting is questioned and judged by people who do not walk in your shoes, yet you continue to educate them with patience and kindness. That’s admirable.
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I don’t know why people aren’t being nice. We aren’t all the same what one autistic feels stressed about another won’t.
One things for sure is that one of the most of us have mums who know exactly what the right thing to do and say is. I trust you know Jess better than any not nice people online and you are good people you wouldn’t do something to upset Jessica’s.
The very worst thing anyone can ever do is treat an adult with autism like a child it’s really upsetting so you keep treating her with the respect you do.
You are a good mum to Jess so ignore idiots who think they know better.
You're beautiful, Val, as always. You are so polite and informative, too. Keep being you. ❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜
You are a great mom. You know how to help Jessica with her anxiety. No one can begin to understand the challenges you face. God bless you.
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Jess is an adult. She might need a little more explaining but she gets it.
She looked so concerned at the end but it might just be deep thinking. Love you both.
Val, you could have handled this 1000 different ways. You handled it with class and grace. I really admire you. Your perspective is valued and message important. Thank you for sharing your family❤️
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Some act as if you are new to this! Good grief, you've been dealing with this for 30 some odd years! I think you know by now what's best for and how to go about things with Jess!! Keep on keeping on, Val! You're doing an exceptional job! Love all y'all❣
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It’s terrible that grown people have to act like this! Val I sure understand and I think your a great and patient Mom! My youngest is 22 now and wow patience is very tough lots of times! And with a special needs child I can’t even imagine! But I admire your goals and whether you move or wait that’s up to you! Love that you share Jess’s life with us! ❤️❤️❤️
You are such a good mom! You do you! And why do people care in a negative way that you are being honest with her. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ my son has autism as well I tell him a lot too, I don’t keep things from him either. He works A LOT BETTER when he knows what’s going on and what he can expect. I agree with you 100%. Keep doing you!
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What a lovely, smiley picture of Jess for the thumbnail, Val.
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Aww Jess, you did a wonderful job! I am so proud of you! 👏🏻 You know why? Cause you are so smart...so intelligent. Your mama is right. You know exactly what is going on and you just need assurance. Nothing wrong with that. My goodness, I am the same way. I like to get assurance of things too all the time. Sometimes it just calms us down. Everyone is wired differently and that is ok. Very good at explaining, as usual, Val! Love ya'll!
You are a Awesome Mom to all your kids!!! You should never have to explain anything to those negative people!!! No one should ever question anything you do it's your life. Hope you guys are having a fantastic day ☺️
You are so wonderful with Jess - it would be easy to shelter her from everything but you take the more challenging road and include her in everything even when it may mean more questions and hard conversations - stay strong mom ❤️
Wishing Jess and family that all their goals,dreams,pools w/slides with a nice big house happens for them in 2021!❤️
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I don’t get how people think the way they do, would they rather Jessica locked in her room with absolutely no understanding of what is happening in day to day live or learning new things? She is a human being regardless of her disabilities and she deserves to be treated like so. Well done Val your an amazing mother and you and bad daddy have raised a wonderful woman in Jessica ❤️
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I totally get that, the looking at houses just for fun. My mom was never really looking for a different house, but we always went and did walkthroughs of houses for sale. A memory of time with my mother that I had almost forgotten.
I’m not even going to get on my soap box about this because nothing will resonate with those who refuse to understand. You’re great Val. You’re doing great! You’re a rockstar! Period! ❤️
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I have a daughter that is Autistic and I have to tell her each day what we are going to do that day. But if I do a little different then she goes off. I also if something is coming up in the next week or so I have to reminder so she does not have a fit when that day comes. SO I am with 100% You are a great mom. Keep doing what you know is right for Jessica. She has the same name as I do my daughter wanted you to know that and she loves you
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It really has nothing to do with anyone but you guys! You are a fabulous family and truly let Jess be herself. That ‘s why she is the amazing smart young women she is today.🧡
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I understand you totally. It all makes sense. I’m sorry that people make you feel like you have to explain everything. It’s common sense. I enjoy watching you and your family. Thank you for sharing
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Oh Val, your a great mom and always reassuring Jessica. You know her better than anyone else. Telling her things is just making her apart of the family. Makes me sad when people question your parenting . My grandkids are 8 & 6 and they know someday they are moving into more of an efficient house.
Beautiful smile today Jessica!
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It’s sad that you guys can’t dream out loud. I know that you guys will probably move. It’s like with a lot of things it’s got to be the right time and place. If they can’t understand they just need to set back and watch the show. Let Jess enjoy trying to find a house for you guys.
You are so patient. What is so negative about discussions about moving! You’re a great mom.
Oh goodness!!! You are doing such an amazing job explaining this again about moving. You are being more patient then I would be 😂
I would imagine the stress it would create for Jessica if you was to spring big decisions like moving on her. Just like you prepare her to go to the Doctor. I mean, if we all think about it. We don’t like changes sprung on us either, without being able to absorb and comprehend the scope of the situation. You’re a great Mom and advocate for Jess. God bless you Val. Your kindness and patience in trying to help us understand 🙏🏻♥️. I for one, am learning so much .
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No need to explain/defend yourself. Rude of others that do not understand your ways of dealing with “your” life 💜
I am so sorry that you feel you have to explain what goes on in your own house and with your family. You are an amazing mother and have an awesome family unit. God bless you and yours.
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🤣😂😅 let’s not get put on the spot!! “Where’s daddy gonna go?” My heart blew up lol
That was soooooo stinkin sweet!!
Well I tell my boy most things but not all, but like someone said, you know Jess better
Than anyone, like I do my boy. ❤️
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I’m so sorry you have to constantly explain yourself. You know I see these other Facebook pages about autism and sometimes theres a 10 paragraph disclaimer and Explanation of the most commonly asked questions. And it’s a sad thing that y’all have to constantly explain. I’ve enjoyed your videos immensely and your family seems like a part of mine! It just breaks my heart the way there’s so many negative comments after somebody watches just one of your videos . They need to just watch you for a while and they’ll learn a lot and get their questions answered without having to be nasty to you. Val, Keep up the good work. And I hope the next thing I say, doesn’t get a black mark against my name. But my old grandma had a saying. When any of her 17 grandkids were dealing with someone’s negativity, She would point her bony finger at us and say “Honey, don’t let the bastards get you down”! I grew up remembering her sage advice. Now I am that old grandma 🤣😆😬💜
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I can’t believe how invested strangers are in other folks business. It’s as if whatever they do affects you and it doesn’t.
Jess is loved, cared for and happy what’s there to question? Some y’all take more patience to tend to than toddlers. 🤦🏽♀️
ETA: The majority of comments and subbies here and wonderful 😉😎
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You are amazing don't forget that 😇 you don't owe anyone any explanations jess is a kind person and I love how she gets excited about moving 💜❤️💜❤️
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I love how excited she is about this move. Val you’ve done a great job explaining to her what the steps are to getting to that point. In my opinion having something to really look forward to in the future is beneficial to not only Jess but for all of us. Sending hugs to you all🙂
love Jess ❤ you are such a good mom Val always keeping her in the loop and treating her with respect
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Please don’t judge and be kind. Ignore the negatives. You are both wonderful. Xxx
Val. I can't believe people question you what you are doing or why you're doing it you are doing a beautiful job taking care of Jessica and the household. I give you great credit
Ar 1st I was like wait you aren't moving? I thought eventually you were. You just haven't found the place yet. Then i watched the rest and was like ok. I was right. What's so wrong about any that.? We told our kids the same thing! And we eventually found the house we wanted and that's that. That's not wrong to have a goal. I don't know why peele had a problem with this. You are doing everything that is right FOR YOUR FAMILY! that's it. No one knows what's right for you need or anyone else but the people in that family. Keep doing you! You are doing great! Love watching you guys. The market is so crazy right now!
It surprises me that people would expect you to keep something like this a secret from a member of your household. Most people spend a couple of years talking and planning a move. Why would it be any different for you and your family? Do they expect you to plan the move without Jessica and then spring it on her at the last minute? How would that help? I just don't understand some people. Love to you all xxx
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Oh Val, you are amazing!! People will never understand what you go thru and deal with , but they sure have all the answers. You guys just keep doing what your doing ❤
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Val don't doubt yourself on how you are with Jess. Your a great mom and you know know what works. People just have to talk lol
It's always great to have a goal and plans for the future. You never know what will happen in life, but great to keep dreaming and planning. You never know, you may get a house with a big pool and waterside. 💞
Aren’t we ALL moving “somewhere” someday? hmmmm …. 🧐
Seems like a little daily affirmation for her or a little glimmer of hope each day. And I love it❤
I love that way of describing it! ‘A daily affirmation’.
I hope the people who asked the questions and sent the emails watched this video!! I don't have much hope that they did.
I'm not sure what it's like there but it's crazy crazy in the housing markets here in Australia..great for selling but the flip side is huge prices for buying..I get it about Jess hearing..my kids would say the more I lost my vision that my bat ears grew their super powers...
So sweet...thanks for sharing.
Hi Val and Jess,I enjoy your videos very much and I think that you are extremely a very good mother!
I also don’t understand why people have to mind your business!
It's widely known when people have one sense impairment, like vision, other senses or just one are heightened. It is very common for blind people to have an amazing sense of hearing. It's something in the brain that is trying to compensate in a survival mode.
I'm sure I recall in videos in the past you have gestured in the background that you weren't moving. This while Jess was discussing finding a new home. That could be the why, for those comments. However, Val, I'm not sure why people have to question you on how and why when it comes to raising your family. I agree with how you have outgrown your home because I owned one just like yours, same lay out, exactly the same layout. I tried to raise 3 Sons with my husband and run a drywall company out of her. Small was an understatement. Lol. I'm curious, does anyone lay in bed and dream of winning the lottery or hitting it rich at some point to be able to move into their perfect dream home, drive their perfect car? I have and I believe everyone should be able to do that. And if your blessed enough to be able to have things fall into place for a move then more power to you. Jess may have childlike actions your right, her language is not childlike. No one has a brain like hers, shit, no one has the same brain period! We are all different. So encouraging Jess about a move that may or may not happen is no body's business but yours. Although the way the economy is family's are moving in together just to get by and sometimes that requires a larger accommodation. Keep being you, the best Mom for Jess. We love and respect you for it!!!
Yes, you are right. Those videos are out there because she’s been talking about it for so many years. As you know, situations evolve. Unfortunately, some people aren’t able to put that together.
Val you are an amazing mother. Jess Is so lucky to have such a beautiful caring mother.
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I'm so so sorry people feel the need to know the ins and outs of your entire life and decisions 😔 its uncomfortable to read some people's questions they ask you, most of them need not be asked. I hope that oneday these people will come back across their questions to you and realise they are not only rude and Intrusive but also none of their business then maybe they will do the decent thing and apologise to you. As much as we all appreciate all of your vlogs and love being part of your lives it by no means gives any of us the right to know private stuff within your house hold. I'm so sorry you encounter this so much truely I am. Namast'e lovely family. Never stop manifesting, never stop dreaming and never stop drawing that beautiful new home into all your lives xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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@@baddaddy2826 🥰🥰🥰🥰 your so welcome sweetheart xxxxxxxxxxxxx
You can't rush into things like this. It's good b to have goals. Those people must not know about goals. It's none of their business how your family talk about things. You guys are awesome.
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It’s very obvious that Jess is an intelligent young lady, to engage her and include her in conversations no doubt makes her feel more loved. You are an amazing mom Val. And for people to say negative things need to remember God made you her mom because He knew you would be her best!!!
Perfect way to get those negative nancys to shut up! Jess is very smart and I certainly hope you keep on treating her as a working part of your family (adult).
I could type a whole paragraph but instead I will say we love y’all and you are a wonderful mom.
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Hi Val,
It’s so sad you have to explain yourself, and have to deal with the negative comments. I feel you don’t need to explain or justify yourself. I enjoy watching your videos. ❤️
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Good Evening beautiful Val. Thank you for sharing your family💗💗
Why do people have to disagree with the decisions that you make that's best for Jessica? I feel bad for you having to explain yourself. You are the only one that knows what is best for you and Jessica. Love all your videos!
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What is so confusing to me is people are coming at you like they are concerned about Jess but they are also acting as if Jess isn’t a capable human and doesn’t understand anything. Also you have explained many times that making a change super fast is hard so I think it’s great that Jess is this far in advanced prepared and knows what’s going on. Y’all are a family and make decisions as a family and plan as a family. Not everyone but Jess should be involved.
We all have dreams, so does Jess. Her dream, a bigger house for her doggies & her collectibles, with a pool (outdoor) and a space for bad daddy 😁 nothing wrong with that. No need to explain anymore
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Love watching Jessica and your family! People will make stupid comments without thinking, you don’t have to explain to this ppl. Keep doing what your doing, you’re doing great. God bless your family!🙏❤️
Great video and very informative. You are a great Mom.
Such a great mom!! I love y’all 🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼
Val you are a wonderful mom. You all just keep doing you. I love you all.
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Tell them it’s none of their DANG business lol
Hey we sold out house in Chicago while building a house in Tennessee...it takes a lot of effort and money to get done what you need to get done...patience is a virtue...
Your doing a great job Val! I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that the naysayers are not dealing with a chronic condition in their own homes. Or else they wouldn't be negative or so judgmental with their comments.
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I’m still floored about the things people ask you. My mom always said “if you don’t have anything nice to say, move over, I wanna hear it” I’m playing, just don’t say it if it isn’t nice and sounds obtrusive…geez.
Aww jess's face lit up when u said that u Don't have any secrets so cute, anyway about having to explain yourself AGAIN ...why shouldn't you tell jess u are moving she is part of the family the same as everyone else like what do people want you to do ..just exclude her ,how ridiculous to even think u would ,oh lord how u keep ur cool sometimes amazeses me ,keep being u Val thats all u can do ,I love your videos.
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You are a wonderful family,I know you will find the perfect home at the perfect time.💙
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Everyone of us needs goals an dreams!! Why is this any different?? Momma knows her Bessie!!
Jess you are so smart and such a beautiful lady.
You are amazing mom I love watching y'all keep up the good work val...
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