Join me on Twitch here: twitch.tv/ying Skillshare free trial: skl.sh/ying10211 At long last, here’s the edited ADHD VOD I kept promising!! I’m on vacation in Iceland rn but feel free to leave any additional questions you have in a comment and I’ll try to get back to you once I’m home :D There’s also an additional ADHD Q+A edited VOD coming soonish 💪🏻 And again, this is just my own experience with my specific flavor of ADHD and the diagnosis/treatment process, your mileage may vary. But I hope this is helpful and informative nonetheless!
legit like i'm so scared to tell my mom i wanna quit piano when she's just gonna say "nobody's stopping you, go ahead" and saying it so CALMLY like i know you don't want me to quit 👨🦯
I'm pretty sure I have adhd, as I related to everything you just said. But the thing with asian parents is that they think having any mental health disorder will label you as insane. So I've coped and masked so much to the point that I've never really noticed my habits until you pointed out yours. It's really sad having all of these symptoms but I can't even share it to my family or friends because they won't understand or they'd think I'm crazy. Also- just had to comment this down before I forgot, as I'm still 5 minutes into the video but my brain has already lost focus HAHAHA
Same:( I've been watching so many adhd vids lately and really suspect that i have it, and now Ying posts a video about it which honestly is oddly comforting. Problem for me: my asian parents think adhd is something that disappears when you grow older:D
@@tofu6190 aww wtf i'm so sorry that truly sucks, maybe you could get a diagnosis when you're of legal age/ move out? I really hope it works out one day
I’m not excited that you have to deal with the shittiness of ADHD, but I am excited that I have another female-presenting person with ADHD who I can relate too! Thank you so much for this video!!
2:30 I used to draw in the margins of my notebooks or on worksheets, up through college, to stay focused. When I was in 9th grade, my English teacher yelled at me in front of class because she said I was slacking off and not working even when I tried to explain it to her. Most humiliating experience. I always had trouble completing homework, but I did great on tests. When I switched schools, the vice-principal noted that she was surprised I never got tested for T.A.G. (though from the stuff I've heard about it, I'm probably better off lol)
I had a similar situation like this, but whenever I see a huge empty space from my notebook pages, I always draw something on it bc I dont like empty spaces on my notebooks, then erase it after if I need to submit it to my teacher for checking One time my teacher knew that I was doing but instead of giving me a scolding, she just gave me a mark that says my drawing (that I forgot to erase before submitting) was very cute.
Me too. I’d always doodle or literally draw on the margin of the page, particularly when the teacher wasn’t talking or was explaining again sth I’d already understood
Male, 30 here. I was diagnosed at 29 and got basically similar responses from my psychiatrists(yes, I've seen MANY) like "but why get a diagnosis now if you had it your entire life" and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder type 2(at the age of 26), only to go through 3 years of hell, because the meds never worked(because bipolar meds don't work for people who don't have bipolar, duh!) and my psychiatrists just kept on increasing my doses until they've given up and I've given up on treatments. I thought that if the hospital can't help me, I'd just help myself but man, was I fooling myself. I quit my job, my life went down a spiral and until today, I'm still unemployed but surviving out of my parents' sympathy. I can't hold on to a job, I can't hold on to a relationship(2 failed engagements too) and I just can't function. I've been put on ADHD meds today, and I'm better but I still am slowly learning how "to live" because I just feel disabled from years of failures in basically everything that people can normally do, like WORK, and I'm struggling hard still, except that I no longer have depression or anxiety, but I'm barely existing. I feel like I'm just floating in space, playing Genshin every day to fill in my dopamine quota, and just pretend that I'm a part of this world where my brain just can't function in the same rhythm. I'm medicated and can at least write this, but so far, that's what the meds helped me with. Oh, by the way, before my meds, I could not even play games like Genshin without doing 5 other things simultaneously because I space out while doing things if it's just ONE thing. Thanks for making this video Ying, and you kinda inspire me to want to work harder to cope with this. Also, I wanted to follow you on Twitch but because of the recent Twitch leak, I changed my password and I forgot what my password is, and my browser saved my old passwords only. I even forgot what email I used for my Twitch and so I'm just subscribing on your YT channel first and eventually find my Twitch login credentials.
My friend, we have a similar situation. We may have different beliefs but I'm going to go out on a limb and trust that you might allow me to simply share a very special belief of mine with you. I'll do this on a special yet easy condition: Understand that you don't *have* to believe it like I do. Here it is: God is real. He is a Heavenly Father to our spirits. He loves you unconditionally. He loves you as you are and he loves you too much to allow you to stay the same. He sent His son, Jesus Christ, not to condemn us for our sins, but to save us from our sins, no matter how bad they are. He will anxiously listen and answer if you try talking to Him. It may not be the response we expect or want, but he always responds with what we need.
If you're curious about me, we can connect and be friends. I'm a serious member of the restored Church of Jesus Christ and I'm always happy to make new friends who aren't members. I can respect your spiritual beliefs for what they are and still be a friend so long as the same respect is returned!
Not sure if anyone has done this yet but here's timestamps hope it helps anyone! 0:08 - Intro + Disclaimer 0:29 - My Symptoms 0:48 - Sponsor 2:02 - My Symptoms Continued (Childhood Symptoms) 4:26 - My Symptoms (Adulthood Symptoms) 7:03 - Diagnosis + ADHD Quiz 12:43 - ADHD Quiz Results 13:21 - Diagnosis Progress 18:14 - What pushed me to get medication 20:09 - Medication side effects 21:44 - Coping 23:21 - How to get a task done 24:31 - Interrupt yourself 26:33 - Final Disclaimer 27:00 - Outro!
@@ying_verse In case you still want to update the description with these, here's a small reminder. One of my partners has adhd and this was very, how to algorithm-speak... relevant to my interests. Great video. I really love your content. Hope your vacation in Iceland is going well!
I personally don't have ADHD (as far as I know), but your short exercise for grounding yourself literally on the floor is a great idea for anyone really. Like, I'm going to do that now whenever I feel like I'm overwhelmed and spiralling. Since I'm pretty sure all humans have the same experience at one point or another, this is a great thing for anyone to do! I love watching your videos btw! Keep it up!
As someone who recently got their ADHD diagnosis, I relate to this a lot. Even though people were saying that there wasn’t anything wrong with me, I still thought that there was because I couldn’t do what everyone else could. While I am still struggling to cope, I’m definitely finding it easier to come to terms with it. Thank you for sharing your story Ying.
I know we were being silly during our collab together when you brought up my potentially having ADHD, but this has really inspired me to go get professionally diagnosed and possibly get medication! What especially hit me was your story about sitting in front of the work laptop 😅 I thought I was just lazy, but it all makes sense!! (AND THE CALENDAR PART I RELATE SO MUCH)) Every part of this video just demystified so much of what I’ve experienced in my life- thank you!!
AHHH I’m so glad it was enlightening for you because I’ve been through the exact same thing!!! Hope you do get a chance to get it checked out, wishing you a smooth process 🥰
As someone with ADHD-inattentive, hyperhydrosis, and a lover of wine and gaming, I now fully believe you are my spirit animal. xD You're so relatable to me in so many ways, and one of my favorite content creators. All the best to you!!
I've been thinking about trying to get some kind of help for a while now but have always been like 'well I've gone 20 years without a diagnosis why should I bother?' you know, but this really helped hearing a new experience, and the fact I'm watching this at 4am and have a presentation I haven't finished due tomorrow really hammers home that point, thank you! ♡
As a woman with ADHD who only got diagnosed at 17, I can relate to this a lot. I thought it was normal to only get through like 3 pages of school work in a day and be in a daze half of the time. Finally recognizing that it is a problem and getting it treated has really changed my life. Thanks for making this video!
As a female with ADHD I can relate so much with this video one of the things I relate strongly with is that when I focus one of the things I would do would fidget my legs or tap them repeatedly to get my self to focus specifically in school like math class. I’m on medication to as well but this is another one I was taking since the first one I took had similar side affects that I really didn’t like for example the weight loss and how I would have an appetite of 0 lol so the one I’m taking now is more better for me. Anyways your videos always put a smile on my face even when I’m not in a good mood and make me laugh😁
Same!! Dang the medicine i took didn't do much especially the 'reducing appetite' side effect Every day in the morning i would gag a-plenty If i ate one bit of something, my gag reflex would increase tenfold
When you think you got it all figured out, then Ying describes masking and how it affects them, and kinda just start looking around the room quickly thinking huh. I do that quite a lot with new people as to not scare them off. 🙃 Thanks Ying, still helping me figure out stuff I thought was totally normal
i'm someone who had undiagnosed ADHD for quite a long time, and it impacted me negatively in so many ways, (mentally, emotionally, physically). so when i finally learned more about ADHD and got my diagnosis and medication, i felt so much better. thanks for sharing your experience! it was really interesting
Dude, I just got my diagnosis recently. Nobody ever thought that I had ADHD because I was a quiet kid, could stay still and maintained my grades well. It’s been like a rollercoaster ride after my diagnosis. So many emotions but it has helped. Also my hands started getting sweaty as soon as you mentioned it lol
So I definitely don't have ADD or ADHD but I do have issues with depression and anxiety so I can relate to some degree. Instead of not focusing it's lack of motivation and then feeling like I failed people even when it's just a me thing. I don't stand for 2 and a half hours in front of my sink but I do curl into a ball and kind of zone out completely because I just can't make myself move. Mental health comes in all kinds of types. Get help when you're struggling. You aren't the only one who is or does. People make careers of helping other people, let them help you help yourself.
you bringing up being unable to fall asleep during like, afternoon naps unlocked some very core memories for me lmao i honestly had to hold back tears. i've been sure i have adhd for a couple of months now (probably a year? around pandemic time) and idk diagnosis doesn't really seem plausible for me atm but i am. also struggling really hard to keep up in college because the thing you described about work is very much the same that i'm experiencing ;o; anyway wah sorry to write a whole paragraph! thank you for sharing your experience with adhd, especially your symptoms and diagnosis. much love and i have faith in you (and everyone else struggling with this) too!
I have been diagnosed late as well. I have a quieter more inattentive/less hyperactive form of ADHD but I just related so much to you! Especially with the experience of doing things like scrolling for hours and ignoring responsibilities/tasks even though you know you should do them. I feel like your advice on coping mechanisms was very straight to the point and practical but also really heartfelt and interesting , I have to try talking to myself out loud and scheduling/setting alarms. (Hopefully it doesn't come off as weird but) you give me such a friendly big sister vibe and growing up I really wish I had a basic idea of what ADHD in women was and someone to give me the advice/experiences you shared here :)
Thank you, Ying! This is one of the best descriptions of ADHD symptoms and coping mechanisms I´ve come across. I was diagnosed at the tender age of 52. It was so worth it to pursue diagnosis (and not give up during the tedious process). For me it took the shame out of my lifelong executive dysfunction. I can do a lot of things other people find hard (because they are interesting to me) but I´m so bad at mundane tasks (e.g. keeping the house clean, scheduling appointments etc). The first time I took meds I felt a peace and quiet that I had never experienced before with my brain running wild all the time.
i was so sad to miss this stream! i also came to realizing i had adhd later than would have helped (29) and didn’t start medication until i was almost 31, as my first year of grad school was ending. there are SOOOOOO many parts of this video that feel like my life is being described. i’m so glad i’ve become kinder to myself with the more that i find information and of course with more conversations! this video is in itself destigmatizing, ying, i hope that you know how great it is that you’ve done this.
Ying, i love what you did here. May consider getting diagnosed for this, but I have other illnesses already diagnosed. The floor time sounds great for my depression, ill try that. Huge fan of your streams, bigger fan now.
I understand the existential angst of having poor memory from ADHD. I basically used instagram as a reminder of what I had seen, experienced, did. Otherwise, any awareness of those things would fade and disappear, and I would forget that I saw, experienced, or did those things.
Hey there, just wanna say that 2 years after seeing this video for the first time and thinking "wow ADHD sounds like such a struggle", I now have a diagnosis for combined type and am working with my therapist and doctor on it! Thank you for being open with your journey. :)
I was lucky enough to have been diagnosed really early. As it turns out my 1st grade teacher was noticing how I would play with my hands or really anything I could get my hands on and when he would call on me I would always get the answers correct. He started teaching slightly differently and it was working well. In 3rd grade when I was diagnosed my parents decided to tell him and he said how that made so much sense. I’m just really grateful to my teacher for caring enough.
Lucky! I always had issue with the education system. School environments trigger my anxiety, the little mistakes in writing that cause me to lose a point in tests infuriate me beyond description, sitting on a chair for so many hours watching the clock tick by as you're trying to filter out the chaos of a classroom not even being able to hear what the teacher is saying and having to wait half the lesson with your hand in the air just to find out what you're supposed to do, and after you finish all of that you have to deal with the Executive Dysfunction. it's torture.
I'm planning on bringing up ADHD at my next doctor's appointment, but I've started to doubt myself so much that I'm trying to talk myself out of it. I've done lots of research and made a list of my symptoms but I'm still worried that I'm just exaggerating things. Watching this made me feel a bit better though, especially from another female presenting person. My brother was recently diagnosed (just one appointment after a referral and the whole thing took ~4 months) and I know it'll probably be harder for me, so it's comforting to see that you were able to get diagnosed and get support.
This is so relatable I’m a female with ADD( not hyperactive), but I was lucky to be diagnosed early ( 6 years old ) probably because my brother was diagnosed just before me. I remember just starting at the sealing and counting the dots that was on it in class instead of doing an essay and just not be there mentally. And I have been medicated ever since. It was not always easy to cope with it I really over worked myself just to do what the others did and would come home and be super tired . It’s really fun to see people talk about things like that ‘cause it’s makes me feel less alone. Thank you ! ( also very sorry for the typos and the grammar mistakes English isn’t my first language)
This is the so relatable I got diagnosed late in life as well and I just thought I was super lazy because I would sit at my desk for hours and basically beg myself to get anything done but I couldn’t start
First, I feel almost like a stan with how obsessed I have been with your channel the past few months, I absolutely hope you get more viewers and subs for how amazing your content is, and I keep sharing your Translyrics Covers with anyone I can! Secondly, THANK YOU so much for suggesting the bullet journaling. This has absolutely revolutionized my ability to get things done and not lose track of important things. I'm going through a home foreclosure prevention situation now and you literally may have helped me not become homeless. Keep on being awesome!
this video autoplaying reminded me to pay rent lmao Thanks for being open about your ADHD journey. I'm still only a few months post diagnosis after knowing deep down that I have had it for years. Openess is the first step towards destigmitization.
This vid literally popped up just when I was thinking I might have ADHD, I wasn't even professionally diagnosed yet but I have my suspicions. Although I experience the same things you mentioned, I lean more to the Inattentive type and I often experience rejection sensitivity (it sucks cuz simple things could easily bring down your mood), right now I'm scared asf once I start to go to work after I finish college because I might not be able to function as an adult properly.
Everything you said has been my life, for my entire life. I finally made a call to my PCP last week and get to see her next week, and I am really hoping top get that diagnosis and start some type of treatment. THE thing that pushed me over the edge to realize I needed to seek help was that it started affecting my home life, my relationship with my husband and family, etc.. I forget everything everyone says. I constantly interrupt. I CANNOT concentrate or stay focused when people are talking to me regardless of how important the topic is. I start one task and before finishing that task, start and DON'T finish like five other tasks, and then never finish the first task. I already forgot what other points I was going to make. I did however, WRITE AS MUCH AS I COULD DOWN on a piece of paper so that when I go to my appt next week I can show her everything I deal with without forgetting or downplaying the severity of what I deal with. I will say there is a stigma to ADHD, and the general idea of ADHD is that people are not successful, are poor, can't keep jobs, etc.. and although that might be the case for MANY individuals with ADHD, it isn't the case for all of us. I have learned over the years how to cope and work around some of the issues I have (like making LISTS, LISTS, LISTS, for things I need to do), I am generally successful in school, work, and my home life, but that does not mean that my internal (an external) struggles do not exist. Too often we get put into this box of "if you aren't running around around the room and dancing on the tables, you don't have ADHD", and that is SO detrimental to attempts made by the majority of us adults who have the inattentive type ADHD, trying to get diagnosed. Thanks for you video, it is weirdly encouraging seeing so many people who also struggle with the day-to-day things that I struggle with.
wow ive always heard of ppl saying how parents think all disorders come from ur phone but i didnt realize it was so common my mom is always saying how i always forget everything bc im distracted by my phone even though most of the time now i keep it downstairs i havenrlt stopped forgetting things :/ also i take r e a l l y long to do tasks like brushing my teeth or just waking up but i dont have my phone at either of those times but apparently its still because of my phone lmao one time my mom even told me i need to stop using my phone so much or it'll distract me and give me adhd- now im kinda scared to ask to talk to a doctor about it or something im worries she'll just blame it on my phone again or say the doctors misdiagnosed me :')
Literally days before watching this video, I didn't see any necessity in seeking diagnosis for my possible ADHD and your video actually encouraged me to consider it since I'm starting to notice executive dysfunction in my life. Thank you Ying...now, to talk myself into actually calling and get diagnosed....LOL
I HAVE ADHD WOOAHHHHH I'm a kid too so ,,, 11 to be exact. I have sweaty palms ALL the time and I never settle down,,,, also random hyperfixations????? I stim alot or like yknow do anything to stimulate my brain- I repeatedly do certain things to stim and stuff yknow? I can NEVER sleep its literally past my bedtime.. my brain is always active. I'm very bad at masking and yuh idk HELO- I relate to the talking fast thing and I lose what I'm going to say alot too. theres alot I cant control and I dont have any meds sadly
Thanks for making this video. It actually reminded me that I have ADHD, but I stopped taking medication when I was a teenager. Seeing you talk about the symptoms made me realize that it’s actually affecting me a lot and finally explains things like me forgetting stuff all the time and losing trains of thoughts easily. It had never occurred to me that it could be because of my ADHD. I think I’ll go see a doctor soon. Thank you!
Hi Ying! I'm also a person with ADHD, and got diagnosed with it at 5, I'm really happy that someone's talking about their experiences, I just find it interesting.... I relate to having to be overstimulated just to focus I always had trouble paying attention in class especially during a lecture, I got in trouble whenever I draw in class "Ma'am Sofia is drawing, She is not paying attention!" when I'm actually listening, but fortunately it stopped when my older sibling told my classmates I have ADHD and I'm thankful for that. Even though I have different experiences I still relate to you!
This video was so meaningful to me to actually take practical steps to try to get diagnosed. I related to pretty much every part of this video, and I always suspected I might have it but had no idea how to get a diagnosis to confirm. When I tried to bring it up in therapy, somehow it was never specifically addressed or they would tell me that my behaviors were pretty normal and I don’t appear to have trouble paying attention… But to actually seek a physician or psychologist for the purpose of diagnosis makes so much more sense rather than hinting that I want them to address this issue. I guess I thought it was something that they have to just figure out that you have.
when you started talking about memory issues i suddenly remembered i have call the doctor for my medication which i have been forgetting to do for 3 days straight. thank you. 🙏
Literally, I have this happen SO often. Someone will mention something and I will suddenly realize "OH CRAP I NEEDED TO x " and then start panicking because if I can't get it done RIGHT NOW, it feels like it will never get done.
A thing I do because of my memory or something like it. I worry that something on the internet will not exist in the future. You know how RUclips has a watch later playlist. I filled that up to 5000 videos (the maximum) ages ago and had to make watch later 2 which is almost full soooo.
this video helped me to finally (after 6 months of contemplating) to book in for an ADHD diagnosis. thank you so much for this video, ying! i'm sure it's helped alot of people, including me!!
i don't have adhd but have been dealing with anxiety for YEARS. i relate so hard with how difficult it was to get a hold of mental health services because they're either underfunded, overwhelmed with patients or understaffed. 6 months of rebooking and scheduling appointments, being ghosted and left in the dark and i came out of therapy bitter because of dealing with a shitty therapist. i'm glad you're getting the help you need and i hope other people get the help they need too!!
this was actually so nice to hear :( thank you for sharing your story !! i have inattentive adhd and just got chewed out by my professor today bc of my terrible time management skills (its rrly hard for me to be on time for things LOL) i was feeling overwhemed today because of that but knowing i'm not the only one who faces these adhd problems is comforting :> i will be adding designated floor times for my study sessions now XD
Actually hilarious to hear you talk about this. Its so weird but I’ve never related to someone so hard before HAHAHA and I find myself smiling uncontrollably as you go through your thought process and Im just like… THATS MY HEAD ALL THE TIME. Would love to chat with you more about this!
oh my got similar story for me... female, got diagnosed recently, now at 21. going to therapy because of depression, guess what, its adhd. thank you for existing. hugs to everyone
Thank you so much Ying 😭 You have no idea how comforting and helpful your advice is and thanks for sharing your experience 🥺💗 I've been struggling a lot this year and it especially sucks because it's my grad year and I have national exams soon, my grades have been pretty good previously but this year it slipped quite a lot because I didn't have a good start of the year and eventually things spiralled. In the middle of the year I suddenly discovered/learnt more about ADHD and resonated wayy too much with it. I've even considered the fact that it was genetic and have seen my habits/symptoms align with that of my dad. I've researched a lot about it and spent half the time that should have been spent on studying on researching/reflecting about it (apparently others have said it's like a grieving moment) and more often than not I got emotional about it (which didn't really help since it fked up my focus even more). I've been thinking about getting a diagnosis next year or at the end of this year and it's not often I hear about how others go through their diagnosis process so I've always thought it would be pretty scary, but your experience has helped me gain a better understanding and I'm very grateful. I love your video and your personality a lot, please keep up the amazing work and remember to hydrate 💕💕
i discovered i have ADHD not so long ago, like 5:32 i can relate. it happens 2 me EVERY FREAKIN TIME and i used to think i was just lazy af ! i really got relieved when i was diagnosed with ADHD tho! anyways. indeed. life is such a struggle.
I didn’t know executive dysfunction was a thing, and hearing a name put to something that I’ve been trying to explain to people that I’ve been feeling has literally made me tear up. Thank you so much I’m literally crying with relief right now.
I know EXACTLY how you feel, it was the same for me when I was finally able to put a name to the demon!!!! Sending you lots of energy, so happy to hear this helped 🥺❤️
@@LegoCityFilms you sound like everyone who’s been dismissing my concerns and feelings in my journey to get a diagnosis. Don’t be an asshole :/ Did you even watch the video?
@@longbeep7663 nono that's not what I meant at all. I've been screened with adhd and have it as well, but usually I use the terms "procrastination/laziness" obviously there's more too it. I'm really sorry if I made you feel unwelcome, pls respond so I don't feel baddd
I totally feel you! I was just diagnosed and a lot of your symptoms resonate with me so hard. It's been a relief confirming that I am not just a lazy, useless, less-than-human being and a faiure but that it's actually something I can get help for and have a better quality of life. I wish you the best!
This is healthygamergg level information. Thank you from India! Healthygamergg is a psychiatry channel on twitch. Probably you know him. I found you from the Chinese duolingo video. But I think this is the best video on your channel.
OMFG THE AMOUNT I RELATE TO YOU WITH THE SYMPTOMSOMFG THE AMOUNT I RELATE TO YOU WITH THE SYMPTOMS, i was diagnosed with adhd at the age of 10 (in 5th grade) but the person who diagnosed me was the school psychologist but she did the testing wrong so when I got to middle school (6th grade) the school psychologist there said that she (the grade school one) did the testing wrong so I got retested and I got the same result just more clearly and precise
17:40 damn, I hate when "prefessionals" do that, here is a common shit in Argentina, in almost everything... Btw, thanks for share all this info and your expierence with all this, it will help people for sure, I desire to you the best Ying!
Oh my god the walking into corners comment is too real. I thought I just had bad motor skills… but maybe it’s just bc i too gotta go FAST!!! Ah man tho the stuff about work is super enlightening as well, Ive always thought I was lazy. Hmm. My self implemented work hours on top of the mandatory ones are really a drag. At least I have immense satisfaction after completing the smallest of tasks. YATTA. But really maybe i ought to do some research. Ohh also manufactured urgency sounds nice. I actually do that without knowing it had a name. Haha i feel like ive made my own dictionary to describe all the things i do. Ive always said i love to be chaotic because I overbook all the time!! Also not me writing this comment in stages bc actually trying to remember what i wanted to say at the end would be more of a Herculean effort than wooing Meg.
holy shit not me finally starting my journey of getting diagnosed and medicated tomorrow (after weeeeks of pondering & lurking the adhd subreddit) and this video pops up LMAO what a coincidence also: i KNEW there was a reason i vibed with you so much!!!
This is why I have my RUclips tap rewind amount set to 15 because I will just zone out in the middle of a video and need to go back like 2 minutes or more 😂
@@jamescruz8678 omg haha I switch hobbies a lot, hardly sticking to one for a few weeks. The novelty wears off for me and I need to find something else. Lately I've been fixating on ADHD videos and such. I have a "soft diagnosis " of ADHD but it can't be confirmed until I take the TOVA test. I was already prescribed Straterra during my initial eval a week ago. So I'm like so I do have ADHD? I'm confused. I'm taking the TOVA test tomorrow. Kinda nervous 😔
bruh i just recently started taking adhd meds & im so productive during the day. i can actually get shit done w/o a lot of struggle to actually start the task. it feels so good to feel like im being productive instead of being depressed & laying in bed all day on my phone.
That bit about waiting for hours to do a simple task was so relatable. When I'm alone I would often spend like 3 hours watching RUclips at the dinner table because I didn't want to do the dishes... 😒
Girl I hate how relatable this is! Especially the ED part! 😭 (also the hands are sweaty part, and I never imagined that had to do with ADHD) Edit: finished the video and god, so much is relatable. So so much. Yet I‘m still super scared to try get a diagnosis. 1 literally the stuff you mentioned in the video, how tf do they think it‘s okay to make the scheduling so hard??? 2 family not believing it exists and indoctrinated fear of doctors and psych problems 3... wtf I literally forgot my 3rd point after editing my second point to be more specific?!? This is so freakin frustrating qwq
I could never sleep during nap time! I would pretend to sleep or ask the teacher to go to the bathroom because I was bored just lying there. She must have thought I was a weird child, lol. I relate to a lot of the symptoms you mentioned. I've been recently diogonized, and I tried medication (stimulants) for the first time, and I think they're too high of a dosage for me. It made the anxiety worse to the point I thought I was dying or having a heart attack (after the meds wore off in the evenings), and I could not sleep at night. So I stopped taking it after 2 days, and I'm unsure if I want to get back on them. I'm also struggling and can feel my mental health worsening. So I'm glad I came about this video. It made me realize that I should probably get to know myself more and figure out the systems that work for me that I will need forever, regardless of whether I am on medication. Anyway this is me just typing out my thoughts lol could this count as a journal entry
i'm glad this was helpful for you!! it sounds like you're headed in a great direction :D best of luck figuring it all out, and congrats on getting a diagnosis!!
I watched your video a short while before I went through my own ADHD journey 😅 and when you mentioned the “special computer” where u press buttons I was like “doesn’t sound too hard” or “suuuurely they won’t make me do that”. Then i had my 3rd psych appointment and they sat me down at a computer… I was like “Ying prepared me for this! I know what to do now!”, but even then it was the most frustrating experience i had had recently. I must have pissed off the secretary so much which how many frustrated and anxious noises I made as I missed a letter or clicked when it was the wrong one. That was the longest 15 minutes if my life, I swear😂
I always joke that we know by the end of that stupid TOVA test whether we have ADHD or not purely by how annoyed we are LOL i hope your process went smoothly!!
On that hyper hydrosis part in the beginning…instant relate! Actually even when I don’t think about sweaty hands and stuff it still happens when I don’t think about it and busy on other stuff 😫😫😫!!! It’s honestly annoying!
I don't have ADHD but I have a Learning Disability and one of my diagnoses under that is Attention issues, I relate to a lot of the attention issues that my friends that have ADHD have. I also had a hard time paying attention in my classes but it was only in classes that I wasn't interested in, in those classes, I would do the same thing, I would doodle on the side of my page while taking notes to not lose focus. And in lecture classes sometimes I would just straight-up bring my sketchbook and sketch the whole class. It did take several years to convince my parents and teachers that was my way to cope with my attention issues in class, but the more I went through school and the more they saw my grade wasn't dropping the more they believed me. I ended up going to college for film and scriptwriting and my mom still gets concerned about my attention issues cause those classes can be 2 - 3 hours long but I always reinsure her. I also relate to the too many thoughts thing and needing something on in the background to finish stuff, I started journaling, and at the end I usually label; My thoughts from today, and I just spew out what's on my mind. I have this tendency to read like something in passing and then I'm writing a WHOLE college-level essay in my head about that subject ALL day. But when I put that essay in my journal it's like out of my head. Meditaion also helps with these thoughts I usually meditate 5 minutes before bed it helps clear my mind and calm me down to sleep. I ALWAYS have something on in the background while doing something from youtube videos, to podcasts, to music. I feel like it grounds me in my work a lot. I tend to zone out or get lost in thought when it's just me my brain and something to do and silence. The only negative side effect is that sometimes I get lost TOO much in my work. And I'm not paying attention to my surroundings, which is why I usually stick to doing things like schoolwork at home instead of outside or on campus.
I didn't know that people weren't able to play videos games during class and get Bs and As. I was able to play Hearthstone or Battle Pets in World of Warcraft and passed all of my college finals just fine. The only two finals I struggled in were topics I LEGITIMATLY struggled in. I didn't know it wasn't normal to not do something else during class until I got to college. In High School most teachers didn't care. In college they had the additude of "you're paying, if you're not paying attention, that's on you." then they were surprised when I'd get a B or an A without taking any notes. I legit cannot take notes because no one taught me HOW to take notes. That plagues me in adulthood now with my meetings. I used to be able to sit down and enjoy leasurly activities. Now I cannot stand silence, and I cannot just sit still. The sitting still part got worse with online schooling and the fact I work from home. No one sees my camera so no one knows I'm on the meeting making a sandwhich in my kitchen listening on my bluetooth headphones. I'm still listening, but getting myself to focus for 8 hours straight has always been HELL. It's just always seen as a bad thing because "Oh, it can't be me. I'm not different like that. What I do is normal to everyone" when...it's not.
I used to do the exact same thing while practicing piano! I found it so hard to just sit there and focus for 1.5 hours that I always needed to keep a book on the side too!
I relate so much to what you are saying. I recently was diagnosed with ADHD and I've been watching videos of other women to know their experiences since it presents differently. You would say something that clicks and I'd point at the the screen like YESS! OMG! YES!! SAMEEE!! XD I've never felt so seen before :')
Oh my god, literally, got diagnosed about a year ago and alllllll these things I relate so strongly with I'm literally watching this instead of cleaning my room lol
@@ying_verse I used the end of the video to do this! That and generally I find videos of people making things or doing DIY tasks / tiny home so much easier to watch while cleaning/organising etc. (also i was struggling with the spiral thing and your tip helps me so thanks for that)
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At long last, here’s the edited ADHD VOD I kept promising!! I’m on vacation in Iceland rn but feel free to leave any additional questions you have in a comment and I’ll try to get back to you once I’m home :D There’s also an additional ADHD Q+A edited VOD coming soonish 💪🏻
And again, this is just my own experience with my specific flavor of ADHD and the diagnosis/treatment process, your mileage may vary. But I hope this is helpful and informative nonetheless!
Enjoy your trip!! Don’t freeze too much lol
iceland? seems like a cool place lol
I can SO relate to the “oh you wanna quit?” parents!!!
IT’S SO CRUEL AND GUILT TRIPPY
legit like i'm so scared to tell my mom i wanna quit piano when she's just gonna say "nobody's stopping you, go ahead" and saying it so CALMLY like i know you don't want me to quit 👨🦯
I SWEAR I love playing the piano but I still want kinda want to quit because it‘s a bit too much for me, since I also have other hobbies!
my parents instead hit me with the guilting "if you're not gonna practice i'm gonna stop paying for your lessons!" ..... and so i did quit
I'm pretty sure I have adhd, as I related to everything you just said. But the thing with asian parents is that they think having any mental health disorder will label you as insane. So I've coped and masked so much to the point that I've never really noticed my habits until you pointed out yours. It's really sad having all of these symptoms but I can't even share it to my family or friends because they won't understand or they'd think I'm crazy. Also- just had to comment this down before I forgot, as I'm still 5 minutes into the video but my brain has already lost focus HAHAHA
Same:( I've been watching so many adhd vids lately and really suspect that i have it, and now Ying posts a video about it which honestly is oddly comforting. Problem for me: my asian parents think adhd is something that disappears when you grow older:D
@@Nancy-ff5tr omg me too! They think its 'all in my head' and it seriously sucks that they'll never understand, but oh well.
@@tofu6190 aww wtf i'm so sorry that truly sucks, maybe you could get a diagnosis when you're of legal age/ move out? I really hope it works out one day
@@Nancy-ff5tr i really hope to do so, its on the top of my list once i finally move out. thanks a lot for the kind words ❤️
@@tofu6190 ♥️ goodluck!!
Really cool to hear you talk about this stuff. Minus the "Having ADHD" part. Bless you and your floor time. Floor time is part of a balanced diet.
floor time should honestly be included in maslows hierarchy of needs
I’m not excited that you have to deal with the shittiness of ADHD, but I am excited that I have another female-presenting person with ADHD who I can relate too! Thank you so much for this video!!
2:30 I used to draw in the margins of my notebooks or on worksheets, up through college, to stay focused. When I was in 9th grade, my English teacher yelled at me in front of class because she said I was slacking off and not working even when I tried to explain it to her. Most humiliating experience.
I always had trouble completing homework, but I did great on tests. When I switched schools, the vice-principal noted that she was surprised I never got tested for T.A.G. (though from the stuff I've heard about it, I'm probably better off lol)
I had a similar situation like this, but whenever I see a huge empty space from my notebook pages, I always draw something on it bc I dont like empty spaces on my notebooks, then erase it after if I need to submit it to my teacher for checking
One time my teacher knew that I was doing but instead of giving me a scolding, she just gave me a mark that says my drawing (that I forgot to erase before submitting) was very cute.
Me too. I’d always doodle or literally draw on the margin of the page, particularly when the teacher wasn’t talking or was explaining again sth I’d already understood
Male, 30 here. I was diagnosed at 29 and got basically similar responses from my psychiatrists(yes, I've seen MANY) like "but why get a diagnosis now if you had it your entire life" and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder type 2(at the age of 26), only to go through 3 years of hell, because the meds never worked(because bipolar meds don't work for people who don't have bipolar, duh!) and my psychiatrists just kept on increasing my doses until they've given up and I've given up on treatments.
I thought that if the hospital can't help me, I'd just help myself but man, was I fooling myself. I quit my job, my life went down a spiral and until today, I'm still unemployed but surviving out of my parents' sympathy. I can't hold on to a job, I can't hold on to a relationship(2 failed engagements too) and I just can't function.
I've been put on ADHD meds today, and I'm better but I still am slowly learning how "to live" because I just feel disabled from years of failures in basically everything that people can normally do, like WORK, and I'm struggling hard still, except that I no longer have depression or anxiety, but I'm barely existing. I feel like I'm just floating in space, playing Genshin every day to fill in my dopamine quota, and just pretend that I'm a part of this world where my brain just can't function in the same rhythm.
I'm medicated and can at least write this, but so far, that's what the meds helped me with. Oh, by the way, before my meds, I could not even play games like Genshin without doing 5 other things simultaneously because I space out while doing things if it's just ONE thing. Thanks for making this video Ying, and you kinda inspire me to want to work harder to cope with this.
Also, I wanted to follow you on Twitch but because of the recent Twitch leak, I changed my password and I forgot what my password is, and my browser saved my old passwords only. I even forgot what email I used for my Twitch and so I'm just subscribing on your YT channel first and eventually find my Twitch login credentials.
Rooting for you!!! I hope this is the beginning of an easier time for you 💪🏻
My friend, we have a similar situation. We may have different beliefs but I'm going to go out on a limb and trust that you might allow me to simply share a very special belief of mine with you. I'll do this on a special yet easy condition: Understand that you don't *have* to believe it like I do.
Here it is:
God is real. He is a Heavenly Father to our spirits. He loves you unconditionally. He loves you as you are and he loves you too much to allow you to stay the same. He sent His son, Jesus Christ, not to condemn us for our sins, but to save us from our sins, no matter how bad they are. He will anxiously listen and answer if you try talking to Him. It may not be the response we expect or want, but he always responds with what we need.
If you're curious about me, we can connect and be friends. I'm a serious member of the restored Church of Jesus Christ and I'm always happy to make new friends who aren't members. I can respect your spiritual beliefs for what they are and still be a friend so long as the same respect is returned!
Not sure if anyone has done this yet but here's timestamps hope it helps anyone!
0:08 - Intro + Disclaimer
0:29 - My Symptoms
0:48 - Sponsor
2:02 - My Symptoms Continued (Childhood Symptoms)
4:26 - My Symptoms (Adulthood Symptoms)
7:03 - Diagnosis + ADHD Quiz
12:43 - ADHD Quiz Results
13:21 - Diagnosis Progress
18:14 - What pushed me to get medication
20:09 - Medication side effects
21:44 - Coping
23:21 - How to get a task done
24:31 - Interrupt yourself
26:33 - Final Disclaimer
27:00 - Outro!
YOURE A GODSEND THANK YOU
@@ying_verse YOU ARE WELCOME
@@ying_verse In case you still want to update the description with these, here's a small reminder.
One of my partners has adhd and this was very, how to algorithm-speak... relevant to my interests. Great video. I really love your content.
Hope your vacation in Iceland is going well!
I clicked your videos once, and the algorithm SWARMED ME WITH YOU.
sometimes the algorithm truly just likes to FORCE FEED
@@ying_verse Subbed.
Yay if it’s Ying I am happy for the ALGORITHM to FORCE FEED me
I personally don't have ADHD (as far as I know), but your short exercise for grounding yourself literally on the floor is a great idea for anyone really. Like, I'm going to do that now whenever I feel like I'm overwhelmed and spiralling. Since I'm pretty sure all humans have the same experience at one point or another, this is a great thing for anyone to do!
I love watching your videos btw! Keep it up!
As someone who recently got their ADHD diagnosis, I relate to this a lot. Even though people were saying that there wasn’t anything wrong with me, I still thought that there was because I couldn’t do what everyone else could. While I am still struggling to cope, I’m definitely finding it easier to come to terms with it. Thank you for sharing your story Ying.
I know we were being silly during our collab together when you brought up my potentially having ADHD, but this has really inspired me to go get professionally diagnosed and possibly get medication! What especially hit me was your story about sitting in front of the work laptop 😅 I thought I was just lazy, but it all makes sense!! (AND THE CALENDAR PART I RELATE SO MUCH)) Every part of this video just demystified so much of what I’ve experienced in my life- thank you!!
AHHH I’m so glad it was enlightening for you because I’ve been through the exact same thing!!! Hope you do get a chance to get it checked out, wishing you a smooth process 🥰
As someone with ADHD-inattentive, hyperhydrosis, and a lover of wine and gaming, I now fully believe you are my spirit animal. xD You're so relatable to me in so many ways, and one of my favorite content creators. All the best to you!!
I've been thinking about trying to get some kind of help for a while now but have always been like 'well I've gone 20 years without a diagnosis why should I bother?' you know, but this really helped hearing a new experience, and the fact I'm watching this at 4am and have a presentation I haven't finished due tomorrow really hammers home that point, thank you! ♡
As a woman with ADHD who only got diagnosed at 17, I can relate to this a lot. I thought it was normal to only get through like 3 pages of school work in a day and be in a daze half of the time. Finally recognizing that it is a problem and getting it treated has really changed my life. Thanks for making this video!
As a female with ADHD I can relate so much with this video one of the things I relate strongly with is that when I focus one of the things I would do would fidget my legs or tap them repeatedly to get my self to focus specifically in school like math class. I’m on medication to as well but this is another one I was taking since the first one I took had similar side affects that I really didn’t like for example the weight loss and how I would have an appetite of 0 lol so the one I’m taking now is more better for me. Anyways your videos always put a smile on my face even when I’m not in a good mood and make me laugh😁
Same!! Dang the medicine i took didn't do much especially the 'reducing appetite' side effect
Every day in the morning i would gag a-plenty
If i ate one bit of something, my gag reflex would increase tenfold
When you think you got it all figured out, then Ying describes masking and how it affects them, and kinda just start looking around the room quickly thinking huh. I do that quite a lot with new people as to not scare them off. 🙃 Thanks Ying, still helping me figure out stuff I thought was totally normal
i'm someone who had undiagnosed ADHD for quite a long time, and it impacted me negatively in so many ways, (mentally, emotionally, physically). so when i finally learned more about ADHD and got my diagnosis and medication, i felt so much better. thanks for sharing your experience! it was really interesting
Dude, I just got my diagnosis recently. Nobody ever thought that I had ADHD because I was a quiet kid, could stay still and maintained my grades well. It’s been like a rollercoaster ride after my diagnosis. So many emotions but it has helped. Also my hands started getting sweaty as soon as you mentioned it lol
So I definitely don't have ADD or ADHD but I do have issues with depression and anxiety so I can relate to some degree.
Instead of not focusing it's lack of motivation and then feeling like I failed people even when it's just a me thing. I don't stand for 2 and a half hours in front of my sink but I do curl into a ball and kind of zone out completely because I just can't make myself move.
Mental health comes in all kinds of types. Get help when you're struggling. You aren't the only one who is or does. People make careers of helping other people, let them help you help yourself.
you bringing up being unable to fall asleep during like, afternoon naps unlocked some very core memories for me lmao i honestly had to hold back tears. i've been sure i have adhd for a couple of months now (probably a year? around pandemic time) and idk diagnosis doesn't really seem plausible for me atm but i am. also struggling really hard to keep up in college because the thing you described about work is very much the same that i'm experiencing ;o; anyway wah sorry to write a whole paragraph! thank you for sharing your experience with adhd, especially your symptoms and diagnosis. much love and i have faith in you (and everyone else struggling with this) too!
I have been diagnosed late as well. I have a quieter more inattentive/less hyperactive form of ADHD but I just related so much to you! Especially with the experience of doing things like scrolling for hours and ignoring responsibilities/tasks even though you know you should do them. I feel like your advice on coping mechanisms was very straight to the point and practical but also really heartfelt and interesting , I have to try talking to myself out loud and scheduling/setting alarms. (Hopefully it doesn't come off as weird but) you give me such a friendly big sister vibe and growing up I really wish I had a basic idea of what ADHD in women was and someone to give me the advice/experiences you shared here :)
Thank you, Ying! This is one of the best descriptions of ADHD symptoms and coping mechanisms I´ve come across. I was diagnosed at the tender age of 52. It was so worth it to pursue diagnosis (and not give up during the tedious process). For me it took the shame out of my lifelong executive dysfunction. I can do a lot of things other people find hard (because they are interesting to me) but I´m so bad at mundane tasks (e.g. keeping the house clean, scheduling appointments etc). The first time I took meds I felt a peace and quiet that I had never experienced before with my brain running wild all the time.
i was so sad to miss this stream! i also came to realizing i had adhd later than would have helped (29) and didn’t start medication until i was almost 31, as my first year of grad school was ending. there are SOOOOOO many parts of this video that feel like my life is being described. i’m so glad i’ve become kinder to myself with the more that i find information and of course with more conversations! this video is in itself destigmatizing, ying, i hope that you know how great it is that you’ve done this.
Watching this because I can't sleep since my brain won't shut up. Currently working on getting my diagnosis, hopefully that works out.
Just got to the part of you having to chase after getting appointments... I feel that pain.
Rooting for you!!!!! The system is truly such a tangle aaaggh
Ying, i love what you did here. May consider getting diagnosed for this, but I have other illnesses already diagnosed. The floor time sounds great for my depression, ill try that. Huge fan of your streams, bigger fan now.
Watching this finally made me contact a psychiatrist to setup my assessment appointment. Thank you
AHHHH I hope it goes smoothly, good luck!!!
I understand the existential angst of having poor memory from ADHD. I basically used instagram as a reminder of what I had seen, experienced, did. Otherwise, any awareness of those things would fade and disappear, and I would forget that I saw, experienced, or did those things.
omg the executive dysfunction gets me everytime like ill literally sit in bed trying to get up for 5 hours
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Hey there, just wanna say that 2 years after seeing this video for the first time and thinking "wow ADHD sounds like such a struggle", I now have a diagnosis for combined type and am working with my therapist and doctor on it! Thank you for being open with your journey. :)
this is HUGE oh my god ; v; i'm so happy to have been a catalyst for you, congrats on your diagnosis and good luck with your therapy!!
I was lucky enough to have been diagnosed really early. As it turns out my 1st grade teacher was noticing how I would play with my hands or really anything I could get my hands on and when he would call on me I would always get the answers correct. He started teaching slightly differently and it was working well. In 3rd grade when I was diagnosed my parents decided to tell him and he said how that made so much sense. I’m just really grateful to my teacher for caring enough.
Lucky! I always had issue with the education system. School environments trigger my anxiety, the little mistakes in writing that cause me to lose a point in tests infuriate me beyond description, sitting on a chair for so many hours watching the clock tick by as you're trying to filter out the chaos of a classroom not even being able to hear what the teacher is saying and having to wait half the lesson with your hand in the air just to find out what you're supposed to do, and after you finish all of that you have to deal with the Executive Dysfunction. it's torture.
i'm in tears of laughter! your diagnosis is so infuriating and simultaneously hilarious... i feel you girl
I love your personality then I find this video and am like wow, all my friends are autistic or have adhd so this makes sense.
I'm planning on bringing up ADHD at my next doctor's appointment, but I've started to doubt myself so much that I'm trying to talk myself out of it. I've done lots of research and made a list of my symptoms but I'm still worried that I'm just exaggerating things. Watching this made me feel a bit better though, especially from another female presenting person. My brother was recently diagnosed (just one appointment after a referral and the whole thing took ~4 months) and I know it'll probably be harder for me, so it's comforting to see that you were able to get diagnosed and get support.
This is so relatable I’m a female with ADD( not hyperactive), but I was lucky to be diagnosed early ( 6 years old ) probably because my brother was diagnosed just before me.
I remember just starting at the sealing and counting the dots that was on it in class instead of doing an essay and just not be there mentally. And I have been medicated ever since. It was not always easy to cope with it I really over worked myself just to do what the others did and would come home and be super tired .
It’s really fun to see people talk about things like that ‘cause it’s makes me feel less alone. Thank you !
( also very sorry for the typos and the grammar mistakes English isn’t my first language)
the way i heavily relate to the sweaty palms AHHHH
This is the so relatable I got diagnosed late in life as well and I just thought I was super lazy because I would sit at my desk for hours and basically beg myself to get anything done but I couldn’t start
I love how you make connections between your videos with the sponsorships, really creative
THANK YOU I’m glad you enjoy that hahahaha I always have fun trying to figure out where the best spot is
First, I feel almost like a stan with how obsessed I have been with your channel the past few months, I absolutely hope you get more viewers and subs for how amazing your content is, and I keep sharing your Translyrics Covers with anyone I can!
Secondly, THANK YOU so much for suggesting the bullet journaling. This has absolutely revolutionized my ability to get things done and not lose track of important things. I'm going through a home foreclosure prevention situation now and you literally may have helped me not become homeless.
Keep on being awesome!
I'm so glad this was helpful to you, and floored that it had such a huge impact!!! Hope things go swimmingly for you going forward :D
this video autoplaying reminded me to pay rent lmao
Thanks for being open about your ADHD journey. I'm still only a few months post diagnosis after knowing deep down that I have had it for years. Openess is the first step towards destigmitization.
This vid literally popped up just when I was thinking I might have ADHD, I wasn't even professionally diagnosed yet but I have my suspicions. Although I experience the same things you mentioned, I lean more to the Inattentive type and I often experience rejection sensitivity (it sucks cuz simple things could easily bring down your mood), right now I'm scared asf once I start to go to work after I finish college because I might not be able to function as an adult properly.
Everything you said has been my life, for my entire life. I finally made a call to my PCP last week and get to see her next week, and I am really hoping top get that diagnosis and start some type of treatment. THE thing that pushed me over the edge to realize I needed to seek help was that it started affecting my home life, my relationship with my husband and family, etc.. I forget everything everyone says. I constantly interrupt. I CANNOT concentrate or stay focused when people are talking to me regardless of how important the topic is. I start one task and before finishing that task, start and DON'T finish like five other tasks, and then never finish the first task. I already forgot what other points I was going to make. I did however, WRITE AS MUCH AS I COULD DOWN on a piece of paper so that when I go to my appt next week I can show her everything I deal with without forgetting or downplaying the severity of what I deal with. I will say there is a stigma to ADHD, and the general idea of ADHD is that people are not successful, are poor, can't keep jobs, etc.. and although that might be the case for MANY individuals with ADHD, it isn't the case for all of us. I have learned over the years how to cope and work around some of the issues I have (like making LISTS, LISTS, LISTS, for things I need to do), I am generally successful in school, work, and my home life, but that does not mean that my internal (an external) struggles do not exist. Too often we get put into this box of "if you aren't running around around the room and dancing on the tables, you don't have ADHD", and that is SO detrimental to attempts made by the majority of us adults who have the inattentive type ADHD, trying to get diagnosed. Thanks for you video, it is weirdly encouraging seeing so many people who also struggle with the day-to-day things that I struggle with.
wow ive always heard of ppl saying how parents think all disorders come from ur phone but i didnt realize it was so common my mom is always saying how i always forget everything bc im distracted by my phone even though most of the time now i keep it downstairs i havenrlt stopped forgetting things :/
also i take r e a l l y long to do tasks like brushing my teeth or just waking up but i dont have my phone at either of those times but apparently its still because of my phone lmao
one time my mom even told me i need to stop using my phone so much or it'll distract me and give me adhd-
now im kinda scared to ask to talk to a doctor about it or something im worries she'll just blame it on my phone again or say the doctors misdiagnosed me :')
i hope everything will be okay
Literally days before watching this video, I didn't see any necessity in seeking diagnosis for my possible ADHD and your video actually encouraged me to consider it since I'm starting to notice executive dysfunction in my life. Thank you Ying...now, to talk myself into actually calling and get diagnosed....LOL
I HAVE ADHD WOOAHHHHH I'm a kid too so ,,, 11 to be exact. I have sweaty palms ALL the time and I never settle down,,,, also random hyperfixations????? I stim alot or like yknow do anything to stimulate my brain- I repeatedly do certain things to stim and stuff yknow? I can NEVER sleep its literally past my bedtime.. my brain is always active. I'm very bad at masking and yuh idk HELO- I relate to the talking fast thing and I lose what I'm going to say alot too. theres alot I cant control and I dont have any meds sadly
OH MY GOSH MY COMMENT HAS BEEN HEARTED I THINK IN GOING TO SOB
Thanks for making this video. It actually reminded me that I have ADHD, but I stopped taking medication when I was a teenager. Seeing you talk about the symptoms made me realize that it’s actually affecting me a lot and finally explains things like me forgetting stuff all the time and losing trains of thoughts easily. It had never occurred to me that it could be because of my ADHD. I think I’ll go see a doctor soon. Thank you!
did not know you were a fellow ADHDer I really appreciate you n this vid ENJOY ICELAND
Bruh I watched your bujo video and that was the first video I’ve ever seen you post. I KNEW ITTTT!! THAT’S WHY I CAN PAY ATTENTION TO YOU SO EASILY
HAHAHAHA the adhd crew truly does cluster together!!! only we can keep up with each other hahaha
im 15 wth why do i feel so old with nothing to do all the time lmao i dont wanna self diagnose but damn this was eerily relatable
Hi Ying! I'm also a person with ADHD, and got diagnosed with it at 5, I'm really happy that someone's talking about their experiences, I just find it interesting.... I relate to having to be overstimulated just to focus I always had trouble paying attention in class especially during a lecture, I got in trouble whenever I draw in class "Ma'am Sofia is drawing, She is not paying attention!" when I'm actually listening, but fortunately it stopped when my older sibling told my classmates I have ADHD and I'm thankful for that. Even though I have different experiences I still relate to you!
Fr the sweaty palm one, even blowing wind to it I get sweaty palms, but when I don’t think about it it doesn’t get sweaty
SAAAAAAME I swear blowing on them makes it worse omg
@@ying_verse lmao you might think you’re blowing away the sweat too
It's nice to hear another sponsored segment on Ying's content :)
This video was so meaningful to me to actually take practical steps to try to get diagnosed. I related to pretty much every part of this video, and I always suspected I might have it but had no idea how to get a diagnosis to confirm. When I tried to bring it up in therapy, somehow it was never specifically addressed or they would tell me that my behaviors were pretty normal and I don’t appear to have trouble paying attention… But to actually seek a physician or psychologist for the purpose of diagnosis makes so much more sense rather than hinting that I want them to address this issue. I guess I thought it was something that they have to just figure out that you have.
when you started talking about memory issues i suddenly remembered i have call the doctor for my medication which i have been forgetting to do for 3 days straight. thank you. 🙏
Literally, I have this happen SO often. Someone will mention something and I will suddenly realize "OH CRAP I NEEDED TO x " and then start panicking because if I can't get it done RIGHT NOW, it feels like it will never get done.
A thing I do because of my memory or something like it. I worry that something on the internet will not exist in the future. You know how RUclips has a watch later playlist. I filled that up to 5000 videos (the maximum) ages ago and had to make watch later 2 which is almost full soooo.
Another weird thing I do on RUclips… I comment a lot. Like too much
this video helped me to finally (after 6 months of contemplating) to book in for an ADHD diagnosis. thank you so much for this video, ying! i'm sure it's helped alot of people, including me!!
i don't have adhd but have been dealing with anxiety for YEARS. i relate so hard with how difficult it was to get a hold of mental health services because they're either underfunded, overwhelmed with patients or understaffed. 6 months of rebooking and scheduling appointments, being ghosted and left in the dark and i came out of therapy bitter because of dealing with a shitty therapist. i'm glad you're getting the help you need and i hope other people get the help they need too!!
this was actually so nice to hear :( thank you for sharing your story !! i have inattentive adhd and just got chewed out by my professor today bc of my terrible time management skills (its rrly hard for me to be on time for things LOL) i was feeling overwhemed today because of that but knowing i'm not the only one who faces these adhd problems is comforting :> i will be adding designated floor times for my study sessions now XD
Actually hilarious to hear you talk about this. Its so weird but I’ve never related to someone so hard before HAHAHA and I find myself smiling uncontrollably as you go through your thought process and Im just like… THATS MY HEAD ALL THE TIME. Would love to chat with you more about this!
oh my got similar story for me... female, got diagnosed recently, now at 21. going to therapy because of depression, guess what, its adhd. thank you for existing. hugs to everyone
Love this video ! Thanks for the exercise at the end , it was very grounding 🫶🏽
Thank you so much Ying 😭 You have no idea how comforting and helpful your advice is and thanks for sharing your experience 🥺💗
I've been struggling a lot this year and it especially sucks because it's my grad year and I have national exams soon, my grades have been pretty good previously but this year it slipped quite a lot because I didn't have a good start of the year and eventually things spiralled. In the middle of the year I suddenly discovered/learnt more about ADHD and resonated wayy too much with it. I've even considered the fact that it was genetic and have seen my habits/symptoms align with that of my dad. I've researched a lot about it and spent half the time that should have been spent on studying on researching/reflecting about it (apparently others have said it's like a grieving moment) and more often than not I got emotional about it (which didn't really help since it fked up my focus even more).
I've been thinking about getting a diagnosis next year or at the end of this year and it's not often I hear about how others go through their diagnosis process so I've always thought it would be pretty scary, but your experience has helped me gain a better understanding and I'm very grateful.
I love your video and your personality a lot, please keep up the amazing work and remember to hydrate 💕💕
“Grieving” is a really good way to put it!! Hope things get better for you soon, and best of luck on those exams ❤️
@@ying_verse Aww, thank you!! Much love and have a great week ahead 😌💕
I love your grounding technique 😍
i discovered i have ADHD not so long ago, like 5:32 i can relate. it happens 2 me EVERY FREAKIN TIME and i used to think i was just lazy af ! i really got relieved when i was diagnosed with ADHD tho! anyways. indeed. life is such a struggle.
I think this is an important topic to discuss so I'm really happy that you took the time to be vulnerable and share this with us~
I didn’t know executive dysfunction was a thing, and hearing a name put to something that I’ve been trying to explain to people that I’ve been feeling has literally made me tear up. Thank you so much I’m literally crying with relief right now.
I know EXACTLY how you feel, it was the same for me when I was finally able to put a name to the demon!!!! Sending you lots of energy, so happy to hear this helped 🥺❤️
Procrastination?
@@LegoCityFilms you sound like everyone who’s been dismissing my concerns and feelings in my journey to get a diagnosis. Don’t be an asshole :/ Did you even watch the video?
@@longbeep7663 nono that's not what I meant at all. I've been screened with adhd and have it as well, but usually I use the terms "procrastination/laziness" obviously there's more too it. I'm really sorry if I made you feel unwelcome, pls respond so I don't feel baddd
I totally feel you! I was just diagnosed and a lot of your symptoms resonate with me so hard. It's been a relief confirming that I am not just a lazy, useless, less-than-human being and a faiure but that it's actually something I can get help for and have a better quality of life. I wish you the best!
This is healthygamergg level information. Thank you from India!
Healthygamergg is a psychiatry channel on twitch. Probably you know him. I found you from the Chinese duolingo video. But I think this is the best video on your channel.
OMFG THE AMOUNT I RELATE TO YOU WITH THE SYMPTOMSOMFG THE AMOUNT I RELATE TO YOU WITH THE SYMPTOMS, i was diagnosed with adhd at the age of 10 (in 5th grade) but the person who diagnosed me was the school psychologist but she did the testing wrong so when I got to middle school (6th grade) the school psychologist there said that she (the grade school one) did the testing wrong so I got retested and I got the same result just more clearly and precise
Tysm ying for the heart
17:40 damn, I hate when "prefessionals" do that, here is a common shit in Argentina, in almost everything...
Btw, thanks for share all this info and your expierence with all this, it will help people for sure, I desire to you the best Ying!
Oh my god the walking into corners comment is too real. I thought I just had bad motor skills… but maybe it’s just bc i too gotta go FAST!!!
Ah man tho the stuff about work is super enlightening as well, Ive always thought I was lazy. Hmm. My self implemented work hours on top of the mandatory ones are really a drag. At least I have immense satisfaction after completing the smallest of tasks. YATTA. But really maybe i ought to do some research.
Ohh also manufactured urgency sounds nice. I actually do that without knowing it had a name. Haha i feel like ive made my own dictionary to describe all the things i do. Ive always said i love to be chaotic because I overbook all the time!!
Also not me writing this comment in stages bc actually trying to remember what i wanted to say at the end would be more of a Herculean effort than wooing Meg.
Thank you so much for this video! 🌸
holy shit not me finally starting my journey of getting diagnosed and medicated tomorrow (after weeeeks of pondering & lurking the adhd subreddit) and this video pops up LMAO what a coincidence
also: i KNEW there was a reason i vibed with you so much!!!
Holy heck I learned so muchhhh! Thank you for this video
glad it was helpful for you!!! good luck with testingggg
This is why I have my RUclips tap rewind amount set to 15 because I will just zone out in the middle of a video and need to go back like 2 minutes or more 😂
Thank you for talking about your experiences, this is so helpful
I get bored so fast I end up spending money on things I grow out of weeks later lmao
Sssssaaaaaaaammmmeeeeee
Me too! It's the worst seeing your credit card debt increase on credit karma and your credit score getting lowered every month 😔
@@kendregab7328 I recently got out of headphones and keyboards as hobbies only to jump right into Magic: The Gathering lol the cycle is real
@@jamescruz8678 omg haha I switch hobbies a lot, hardly sticking to one for a few weeks. The novelty wears off for me and I need to find something else. Lately I've been fixating on ADHD videos and such. I have a "soft diagnosis " of ADHD but it can't be confirmed until I take the TOVA test. I was already prescribed Straterra during my initial eval a week ago. So I'm like so I do have ADHD? I'm confused. I'm taking the TOVA test tomorrow. Kinda nervous 😔
bruh i just recently started taking adhd meds & im so productive during the day. i can actually get shit done w/o a lot of struggle to actually start the task. it feels so good to feel like im being productive instead of being depressed & laying in bed all day on my phone.
THIS IS SUCH GOOD NEWS I’m glad your medication is working well for you!!!!
That bit about waiting for hours to do a simple task was so relatable. When I'm alone I would often spend like 3 hours watching RUclips at the dinner table because I didn't want to do the dishes... 😒
yknow, even though i know i have adhd...it was kinda surprising how freaking relatable the sleeping and being sensitive to any sound was.
Your ad reads are the only ones I watch, kudos to you haha! Absolutely amazing content :D
Girl I hate how relatable this is! Especially the ED part! 😭 (also the hands are sweaty part, and I never imagined that had to do with ADHD)
Edit: finished the video and god, so much is relatable. So so much. Yet I‘m still super scared to try get a diagnosis.
1 literally the stuff you mentioned in the video, how tf do they think it‘s okay to make the scheduling so hard???
2 family not believing it exists and indoctrinated fear of doctors and psych problems
3... wtf I literally forgot my 3rd point after editing my second point to be more specific?!? This is so freakin frustrating qwq
I could never sleep during nap time! I would pretend to sleep or ask the teacher to go to the bathroom because I was bored just lying there. She must have thought I was a weird child, lol. I relate to a lot of the symptoms you mentioned.
I've been recently diogonized, and I tried medication (stimulants) for the first time, and I think they're too high of a dosage for me. It made the anxiety worse to the point I thought I was dying or having a heart attack (after the meds wore off in the evenings), and I could not sleep at night. So I stopped taking it after 2 days, and I'm unsure if I want to get back on them.
I'm also struggling and can feel my mental health worsening. So I'm glad I came about this video. It made me realize that I should probably get to know myself more and figure out the systems that work for me that I will need forever, regardless of whether I am on medication. Anyway this is me just typing out my thoughts lol could this count as a journal entry
i'm glad this was helpful for you!! it sounds like you're headed in a great direction :D best of luck figuring it all out, and congrats on getting a diagnosis!!
I watched your video a short while before I went through my own ADHD journey 😅 and when you mentioned the “special computer” where u press buttons I was like “doesn’t sound too hard” or “suuuurely they won’t make me do that”. Then i had my 3rd psych appointment and they sat me down at a computer… I was like “Ying prepared me for this! I know what to do now!”, but even then it was the most frustrating experience i had had recently. I must have pissed off the secretary so much which how many frustrated and anxious noises I made as I missed a letter or clicked when it was the wrong one. That was the longest 15 minutes if my life, I swear😂
I always joke that we know by the end of that stupid TOVA test whether we have ADHD or not purely by how annoyed we are LOL i hope your process went smoothly!!
im crying right now because you just gave me word to call what is executive dysfunction, im seriously sobbing because im happy thank you
I know this feeling so well because I was the same way when I found out!! Like a light turned on in my head 😭 I’m so glad this helped, best of luck!!!
@@ying_verse ahhh thank you so much 😭
Thank you so much for posting this! I have several friends with ADHD and this gave me a little more understanding of what they're going through.
On that hyper hydrosis part in the beginning…instant relate! Actually even when I don’t think about sweaty hands and stuff it still happens when I don’t think about it and busy on other stuff 😫😫😫!!! It’s honestly annoying!
you're a great story teller 😂
OK WOW the bathroom phone edit is NICE !
I don't have ADHD but I have a Learning Disability and one of my diagnoses under that is Attention issues, I relate to a lot of the attention issues that my friends that have ADHD have. I also had a hard time paying attention in my classes but it was only in classes that I wasn't interested in, in those classes, I would do the same thing, I would doodle on the side of my page while taking notes to not lose focus. And in lecture classes sometimes I would just straight-up bring my sketchbook and sketch the whole class. It did take several years to convince my parents and teachers that was my way to cope with my attention issues in class, but the more I went through school and the more they saw my grade wasn't dropping the more they believed me. I ended up going to college for film and scriptwriting and my mom still gets concerned about my attention issues cause those classes can be 2 - 3 hours long but I always reinsure her.
I also relate to the too many thoughts thing and needing something on in the background to finish stuff, I started journaling, and at the end I usually label; My thoughts from today, and I just spew out what's on my mind. I have this tendency to read like something in passing and then I'm writing a WHOLE college-level essay in my head about that subject ALL day. But when I put that essay in my journal it's like out of my head. Meditaion also helps with these thoughts I usually meditate 5 minutes before bed it helps clear my mind and calm me down to sleep.
I ALWAYS have something on in the background while doing something from youtube videos, to podcasts, to music. I feel like it grounds me in my work a lot. I tend to zone out or get lost in thought when it's just me my brain and something to do and silence. The only negative side effect is that sometimes I get lost TOO much in my work. And I'm not paying attention to my surroundings, which is why I usually stick to doing things like schoolwork at home instead of outside or on campus.
Thank you.
This video was blessing
You are da best. I just started watching ur shit, but somehow i found out that you are experiencing the same issue. U can do it.
I didn't know that people weren't able to play videos games during class and get Bs and As. I was able to play Hearthstone or Battle Pets in World of Warcraft and passed all of my college finals just fine. The only two finals I struggled in were topics I LEGITIMATLY struggled in.
I didn't know it wasn't normal to not do something else during class until I got to college. In High School most teachers didn't care. In college they had the additude of "you're paying, if you're not paying attention, that's on you." then they were surprised when I'd get a B or an A without taking any notes. I legit cannot take notes because no one taught me HOW to take notes. That plagues me in adulthood now with my meetings.
I used to be able to sit down and enjoy leasurly activities. Now I cannot stand silence, and I cannot just sit still. The sitting still part got worse with online schooling and the fact I work from home. No one sees my camera so no one knows I'm on the meeting making a sandwhich in my kitchen listening on my bluetooth headphones. I'm still listening, but getting myself to focus for 8 hours straight has always been HELL. It's just always seen as a bad thing because "Oh, it can't be me. I'm not different like that. What I do is normal to everyone" when...it's not.
I used to do the exact same thing while practicing piano! I found it so hard to just sit there and focus for 1.5 hours that I always needed to keep a book on the side too!
I relate so much to what you are saying. I recently was diagnosed with ADHD and I've been watching videos of other women to know their experiences since it presents differently. You would say something that clicks and I'd point at the the screen like YESS! OMG! YES!! SAMEEE!! XD I've never felt so seen before :')
I love your channel its lovely ♥.
Thank you
Oh my god, literally, got diagnosed about a year ago and alllllll these things I relate so strongly with
I'm literally watching this instead of cleaning my room lol
time to watch it WHILE cleaning your room hehehe get those stimulation juices flowing!!! rooting for you!!!!!!
@@ying_verse I used the end of the video to do this! That and generally I find videos of people making things or doing DIY tasks / tiny home so much easier to watch while cleaning/organising etc.
(also i was struggling with the spiral thing and your tip helps me so thanks for that)
thank you for the adhd rep! i also have it but lucky me i got it diagnosed really early!