If he's in a relationship whoever he's in one with are truly blessed if this is the way he carries himself practice What You preach you know what I'm saying ✔️
He what the culture need. Not a Kevin’s Samuel’s but a logical respectful and humane individual. Also he’s a cancer ♋️ 🔥 we up a million when we evolved we be the sh*t
Will I be able to cancer and I'm going to have to agree with you on that but that cancer he was I'm going to say 80% in a relationship but he also was a cheater throughout. I do believe that he got better with age but once things kind of hit Rocky ways he got back into his old ways he didn't have the strength and the courage to see it through and most of it was due to the midlife crisis that he was experiencing and was too proud to admit it and address it properly.
You are so right and that's The Facts of Life. When you're also a honest and truthful person and most of all true to yourself with who you are and where you at at each space and time in your life when you're experiencing life's situations that arrive from day-to-day. 😚
Someone did this for me when I was in my 20's. I say she did it "for" me and not "to" me now. It hurt, but over time I not only understood it, I became grateful for it. I see her action now as selfless and graceful. She kindly said "I don't like who I am showing up as with you." She didn't shame me or belittle me. She just knew that I wasn't yet there to act properly as a peer. So the relationship needed to end. Over the years, that act has continued to teach me in so many ways how to amicably move on.
This brotha, with the other brotha with a beard. God dam, the truthfulness that comes out their mouths is magnificent. Reminds me of myself. Keep dropping gems fellas. Yall killing the game is to be sold not told slogan. That slogan absolutely hurts our community along with some others.
Ok. My only take on this is that if you are in a real marriage... not playing but real.....sometimes your growth is helping your spouse get better and vice-versa. The reason we ain't all the same size (mental, spiritual, financial, education, physical, etc...) is because we all deal with growth in different ways.
I agree with you wholeheartedly and sometimes there are occasions where it's not necessarily the upbringing but the individual his own self who he is as a individual not conforming to the norm which is often the wrong thing . What's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. ✔️🤜🤛💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
This man is always saying things the right way he has strength when it comes to knowledge of people he's truly a people person and he's very intelligent his intellect is far surpassing any that I've ever seen . I can't help but wonder if he's truly this way in his relationship if he's in a relationship 🤔🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I just they had people that are in successful marriages on here. It's always single and young people teaching on what they are still learning. You want a successful relationship, talk to people who are actually are in successful relationship.
Damn, I agree with this so much. But then I feel some ppl can offer advice based solely on self worth and responsibility that aids in the ability to have a good relationship..
bless you my dear 😘, you said it all well , thats y if you cant accept a person for who they are, please let them be , dont block theie way, as a matter of fact a soul mate is not supposed to complete you or determine how fast you grow but rather help you complete yourself through inspiration not manipulation
Maybe sometimes people grow apart but it’s all depending on effort on both parts, back in the day it was NORMAL to be married 15-20-30-40 years nowadays it’s an anomaly simply because everybody wanna be horny
Here is my thoughts. I get it but here is another point. If we come together we grow at different pace. I’m supposed to be there for you and you there for me. Now if we got a common goal I’m going to pour into you and you pour into me. At times I may pour more into you than you me and other times you more into me than I into you. Also with that I extend you grace as at times you may not grow or excel at the same pace as I and other times you extend me grace as I may not grow as fast as you. But we are there for one another as we extend grace. Where I am weak you are strong and where you are weak I am strong. So at times there will be an imbalance but I show up for you and you for me to shoulder the load. Just saying perhaps this is another way. I could be wrong
I've known men who really didn't grow at all over a ten-year span. Also, growth often means changes in beliefs, values, interests, and desires... it's not about growing at the same pace but rather what happens when people change at core levels.
Amazing! The only ppl I’m judgin are judgeyyy ppl lol unless ur just a POS horrible person and plan on bein that way (even that I tend to feel for bc there’s usually a reason behind it)…but this is gold ! Where are yous? Is that an appearance or is the podcast always live like in front of an audience ?
If you were married and you grew apart, you were never meant to be together. In marriage, you need the understanding that you grow together, not apart. In marriage, people forget the vows until death do us part. Unless they are cheating on you. That is why they is a conversation to have about being equally yoked
That takes work. It takes constant effort. The world works against relationships, and without the effort to keep the relationship together, the world will break it.
Have to be careful with that advice.. some ppl look for reasons to tap out of the relationship cause they don't want to do the work. We got to stop using all them surface sound good term to make it seem like we up in the clouds. Keep it simple
true....relationships take work. some ppl should never enter into a relationship and thats okay too. but if you do choose to be in one, that partner should always be your first consideration. not everyone is built like that
The only thing that concerns me is when he talks about the women negatively affect men, its silences but the moment he gets to the part they agree with its all applause. Like what the point of having such a stern, upright and nuance individual if we are still playing the MvW dynamics. Don't get me wrong, it just feels like he's saying very obvious things and people are still not getting it.
Just another example that all relationships are temporary.. at any point the other person can be up and done especially after watching shit like this… if you outgrew the relationship then you were never committed enough to grow the relationship as well. You just focused on yourself for an exit plan.
The people I know who have been in long relationships are pretty stagnant as people. They don't tend to be critical thinkers. They tend to be conformists. Growth typically means a change in beliefs and values. You can't force someone to grow with you.
That's a big "yes and no". Within a short-to-medium term relationship, I guess this works. Over the course of a decades-long marriage, however, EVERYONE changes and grows. Sometimes, partners grow at different speeds and in different ways. Getting completely realigned sometimes takes months or YEARS. That requires work, patience, and grace. "I'm out" is often not the real solution...
Yes. Over the course of years _everyone_ changes. But we can effect how we change and the direction we change. We are not animals, we are human beings, and while we can't always choose our paths, we can always choose how we walk in them. Two people in a permanent relationship can choose to change in the same direction. The question is: Do you intend the relationship to be permanent?
@@rdkirk3834 We're almost saying the same thing: the difference is timing. No matter how hard you try, that growth will not always be synched. There will be periods when you are out-of-phase with each other in one area or another. Having the patience and grace to weather those tough spots is key. I feel like, too often, people declare the marriage dead when they're really jus in a valley and need to climb to the next peak. Our "microwave" society works against that...
If you don't love them leave ! These relationship today are built for selfish people and and social media and are not made to last! "If you don't feel" is a recipe for disaster! Going into a relationship thinking about just your happiness or what you can get out of it ain't love! I agree with what he saying even though they tried to spin this clip like he was saying something selfish at first!
Another word. Some people want to stay the same. On if that's working for you that's cool, it's not working for me. I'm going to move out your way so i can grow new roots
The difference being wgen he says im out hes off to do his own thing completely separate When she says shes out, she was out months ago had a whole new relationship lined up, while still trying to get you to pay for stuff. Plus outgrow the relationship whole still trying to get relationship privilege
Everything he said was profound but guess what letting go is the hardest part for most it’s like a drug acknowledgment is easy but to actually get up and detach yourself is the work that many fail to do . He is so rare may god bless him and everyone on that panel that are speaking and sharing positive facts and opinions ❤
I let go easy bc i think about there years n opportunity u lose That blessing skipping yo house That's how people turn bitter They b missing out holding on.. I rather cry N get closer to what's for me Quickly
It hard to speak on growth, even doe i agree on what was said, trying to come from bohh sided, its just how black people have been train to be with no control over money, throught out their entire lifes, because the next 5 years that person to can out pace you then what, how if that person is not showing any will to want to ?, then ok
Yeah that's kind of a weak perspective though how are you supposed to have anything real if you don't ever test your capacities or or learn to evolve them. And I think you don't want to say this because you know for a fact that this is more often than not the behavior of women and even inching in saying something that resembles anything close to that direction would make you lose your audience.
People are individuals whose beliefs and values shift over time, unless you're just stagnant and determined to stay in your comfort zone. Most people with long marriages tend to live in the comfort zone.
This man speaks life every time he utters a word. Please create your own podcast because we need more of YOU!
I agree 👍🏾 💯
Whats his name?
Yesssssss….he is such a breath of fresh air.
Agreed. He speaks bigger picture than everyone else on that panel. The other 3 are narrow-minded.
I love him so much. I want to know his story, he’s so self aware. 😍😍🔥
Bruh always dropping some real shit. Like what he says is relatable, humble, but logical and really good breakdowns of the points he get across
Yes I agree 💯% ✔️
I can listen to this man talk all day! He is one of the few panelists who seems to be or is actively working on himself as a whole human. SALUTE
🫡✔️👍🙏
If he's in a relationship whoever he's in one with are truly blessed if this is the way he carries himself practice What You preach you know what I'm saying ✔️
He what the culture need. Not a Kevin’s Samuel’s but a logical respectful and humane individual. Also he’s a cancer ♋️ 🔥 we up a million when we evolved we be the sh*t
Will I be able to cancer and I'm going to have to agree with you on that but that cancer he was I'm going to say 80% in a relationship but he also was a cheater throughout. I do believe that he got better with age but once things kind of hit Rocky ways he got back into his old ways he didn't have the strength and the courage to see it through and most of it was due to the midlife crisis that he was experiencing and was too proud to admit it and address it properly.
Only men who truly can see & have felt pain can speak like this.
📌📌 this all experience.
You are so right and that's The Facts of Life. When you're also a honest and truthful person and most of all true to yourself with who you are and where you at at each space and time in your life when you're experiencing life's situations that arrive from day-to-day. 😚
Bro be speaking some REAL!!! He’s a man that’s been through things, and came out on the other side!
and learned something from it 😉
Yes I agree I feel the same way he was blessed to make it through ✔️
@@missa7562indeed!!!!
Someone did this for me when I was in my 20's. I say she did it "for" me and not "to" me now. It hurt, but over time I not only understood it, I became grateful for it. I see her action now as selfless and graceful. She kindly said "I don't like who I am showing up as with you." She didn't shame me or belittle me. She just knew that I wasn't yet there to act properly as a peer. So the relationship needed to end. Over the years, that act has continued to teach me in so many ways how to amicably move on.
🫡👍🙏
I love these real conversations! This platform needs a bigger space
This brotha, with the other brotha with a beard. God dam, the truthfulness that comes out their mouths is magnificent. Reminds me of myself. Keep dropping gems fellas. Yall killing the game is to be sold not told slogan. That slogan absolutely hurts our community along with some others.
I totally agree. It's a hinder and a downfall.
This.!!!❤❤
I Listened To Him 3 Times.🥺😪Stepping Back Is Hard Fr💔
This dude is seriously Wise. Everytime he speak I can listen because he's saying something...💯✌🏾
👁️👁️👂✔️
That part this relationship don't have enough space for who I am anymore ❤️ facts
This blessed me tremendously
Exactly what you said 👆 👏 💯 🙌 👌 ♥️#FACTS WELL SAID!!
Ok. My only take on this is that if you are in a real marriage... not playing but real.....sometimes your growth is helping your spouse get better and vice-versa. The reason we ain't all the same size (mental, spiritual, financial, education, physical, etc...) is because we all deal with growth in different ways.
Never disappoints.❤❤❤❤ Who ever raised this young man❤❤❤❤ He keeps it real❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree with you wholeheartedly and sometimes there are occasions where it's not necessarily the upbringing but the individual his own self who he is as a individual not conforming to the norm which is often the wrong thing . What's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. ✔️🤜🤛💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
"Grow apart" is PC for "I don't like this person anymore."
This man is always saying things the right way he has strength when it comes to knowledge of people he's truly a people person and he's very intelligent his intellect is far surpassing any that I've ever seen . I can't help but wonder if he's truly this way in his relationship if he's in a relationship 🤔🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I love that guy. So wise and thoughtful. More of him in the world would be wonderful. Male and female.
Most definitely ✔️
I like that sentence. I have out grown the relationship. You speak volume.
The relationship doesn’t have enough space for who I am anymore. Bars!!
Absofreakinglutely!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 this is perfectly explained!!!
He’s right ! I had to learn to let go
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I just they had people that are in successful marriages on here. It's always single and young people teaching on what they are still learning.
You want a successful relationship, talk to people who are actually are in successful relationship.
Damn, I agree with this so much. But then I feel some ppl can offer advice based solely on self worth and responsibility that aids in the ability to have a good relationship..
The light skinned woman is married. Everyone else is either in a relationship or single.
This one is #Humbling!!
FACTS...
Good point 👏🏾
Nothing but the truth! 🗣💯💪🏾
Amen 🙏🏽 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥 thank you 😊
Committed people are grown. Not too many long haul people left
Sad but true 😔✔️
That was real talk... Needed that!!
bless you my dear 😘, you said it all well , thats y if you cant accept a person for who they are, please let them be , dont block theie way, as a matter of fact a soul mate is not supposed to complete you or determine how fast you grow but rather help you complete yourself through inspiration not manipulation
Maybe sometimes people grow apart but it’s all depending on effort on both parts, back in the day it was NORMAL to be married 15-20-30-40 years nowadays it’s an anomaly simply because everybody wanna be horny
Ain't that the truth ?! And it's sad
Hmmmm... Preach brother! Preach
Powerful🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥!
He's a true empath
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 It ain’t you it’s Me.
Here is my thoughts.
I get it but here is another point. If we come together we grow at different pace. I’m supposed to be there for you and you there for me. Now if we got a common goal I’m going to pour into you and you pour into me. At times I may pour more into you than you me and other times you more into me than I into you. Also with that I extend you grace as at times you may not grow or excel at the same pace as I and other times you extend me grace as I may not grow as fast as you. But we are there for one another as we extend grace. Where I am weak you are strong and where you are weak I am strong. So at times there will be an imbalance but I show up for you and you for me to shoulder the load.
Just saying perhaps this is another way. I could be wrong
I've known men who really didn't grow at all over a ten-year span. Also, growth often means changes in beliefs, values, interests, and desires... it's not about growing at the same pace but rather what happens when people change at core levels.
You are a big guy! This is great !
That was heartfelt.😔
This brother is always dropping jewels
Amazing! The only ppl I’m judgin are judgeyyy ppl lol unless ur just a POS horrible person and plan on bein that way (even that I tend to feel for bc there’s usually a reason behind it)…but this is gold ! Where are yous? Is that an appearance or is the podcast always live like in front of an audience ?
Basically, approach shit with humility and keep the passive aggressive diss to yourself.
Amen
Now that's facts❤❤❤
Is he married or in a relationship??? He stay spitting gems 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
He single
Totally agree!
If you were married and you grew apart, you were never meant to be together. In marriage, you need the understanding that you grow together, not apart. In marriage, people forget the vows until death do us part. Unless they are cheating on you. That is why they is a conversation to have about being equally yoked
That takes work. It takes constant effort. The world works against relationships, and without the effort to keep the relationship together, the world will break it.
Let's KEEP that in MIND don't fk UP each other's GROWTH ❤️ that move ON
Have to be careful with that advice.. some ppl look for reasons to tap out of the relationship cause they don't want to do the work. We got to stop using all them surface sound good term to make it seem like we up in the clouds. Keep it simple
true....relationships take work. some ppl should never enter into a relationship and thats okay too. but if you do choose to be in one, that partner should always be your first consideration. not everyone is built like that
Reality!
Like Madea said in his script. They only come in ur life for A season not a reason
Damn this shit just stung me like a bee. 😢
Deep!!!!
The only thing that concerns me is when he talks about the women negatively affect men, its silences but the moment he gets to the part they agree with its all applause. Like what the point of having such a stern, upright and nuance individual if we are still playing the MvW dynamics. Don't get me wrong, it just feels like he's saying very obvious things and people are still not getting it.
Just another example that all relationships are temporary.. at any point the other person can be up and done especially after watching shit like this… if you outgrew the relationship then you were never committed enough to grow the relationship as well. You just focused on yourself for an exit plan.
well said 👏🏿
The people I know who have been in long relationships are pretty stagnant as people. They don't tend to be critical thinkers. They tend to be conformists. Growth typically means a change in beliefs and values. You can't force someone to grow with you.
That's a big "yes and no". Within a short-to-medium term relationship, I guess this works. Over the course of a decades-long marriage, however, EVERYONE changes and grows. Sometimes, partners grow at different speeds and in different ways. Getting completely realigned sometimes takes months or YEARS. That requires work, patience, and grace. "I'm out" is often not the real solution...
Yes. Over the course of years _everyone_ changes. But we can effect how we change and the direction we change. We are not animals, we are human beings, and while we can't always choose our paths, we can always choose how we walk in them. Two people in a permanent relationship can choose to change in the same direction. The question is: Do you intend the relationship to be permanent?
@@rdkirk3834 We're almost saying the same thing: the difference is timing. No matter how hard you try, that growth will not always be synched. There will be periods when you are out-of-phase with each other in one area or another. Having the patience and grace to weather those tough spots is key. I feel like, too often, people declare the marriage dead when they're really jus in a valley and need to climb to the next peak. Our "microwave" society works against that...
@@Bazzman1974 I agree.
He needs to hold counseling sessions. He thinks the way we need men to think
He is their spark..
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Ya dig?! #GO
If you don't love them leave ! These relationship today are built for selfish people and and social media and are not made to last! "If you don't feel" is a recipe for disaster! Going into a relationship thinking about just your happiness or what you can get out of it ain't love! I agree with what he saying even though they tried to spin this clip like he was saying something selfish at first!
Another word. Some people want to stay the same. On if that's working for you that's cool, it's not working for me. I'm going to move out your way so i can grow new roots
The difference being wgen he says im out hes off to do his own thing completely separate
When she says shes out, she was out months ago had a whole new relationship lined up, while still trying to get you to pay for stuff.
Plus outgrow the relationship whole still trying to get relationship privilege
Tripp always sees both sides of it. NEVERMISSTRIPP
true statements
❤💯💯
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Facts
He spoke spoke
Trippology 101
100 facts
Sad thing people will hear his work and use it for their own benefits.
This sounds like another… “baby it’s me not you!”
How can I see full shows?
iono about just "going" with kids tho...
Whose man's is this? I love this king's knowledge. What him name is?
Tripp Fontane
Who is the speaker?
I don’t believe ppl just can up and outgrow their mate lol
👏🏽
Say that
More than two guys a year I cannot do.
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Everything he said was profound but guess what letting go is the hardest part for most it’s like a drug acknowledgment is easy but to actually get up and detach yourself is the work that many fail to do . He is so rare may god bless him and everyone on that panel that are speaking and sharing positive facts and opinions ❤
I let go easy bc i think about there years n opportunity u lose
That blessing skipping yo house
That's how people turn bitter
They b missing out holding on..
I rather cry
N get closer to what's for me
Quickly
💪💪💪💪💪☀️☀️☀️
What is his handle
What is his name
What’s this good brother’s name?
Tripp Fontane
What’s his name?
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Hall Michelle Jones Charles Lewis Joseph
This guy is so ungodly.
Speak to me lord 0:28
It hard to speak on growth, even doe i agree on what was said, trying to come from bohh sided, its just how black people have been train to be with no control over money, throught out their entire lifes, because the next 5 years that person to can out pace you then what, how if that person is not showing any will to want to ?, then ok
Growth isn't about money, it's about values, beliefs, perspectives, desires, self-awareness.
Yeah that's kind of a weak perspective though how are you supposed to have anything real if you don't ever test your capacities or or learn to evolve them. And I think you don't want to say this because you know for a fact that this is more often than not the behavior of women and even inching in saying something that resembles anything close to that direction would make you lose your audience.
People are individuals whose beliefs and values shift over time, unless you're just stagnant and determined to stay in your comfort zone. Most people with long marriages tend to live in the comfort zone.
Facts