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I grew up with a great deal of mean criticism...but somehow that released me from caring what people say. I realized that others will try to make you small so they can feel large. If you don't care what they say...if you SEE THROUGH them to the insecurity that makes them act that way...they have no power over you. I've learned to love myself without outside validation...a very powerful thing. The way people act when they're desperate for attention is really quite sad.
GEMMA Didit i really wished I could be like that and NOT care what people think or say about me. But their words just remain stuck in my head on autoplay. Any advice?
CONSIDER THE SOURCE. They are trying to take your power from you. If you give them the satisfaction of acting crushed.They win. Remember it's not about you. They clearly do this to anyone they can victimize. Do not engage because this UGLY behaviour is their home ground. Why wrestle with pigs when they're the one who enjoy all the dirt. Quietly judge and dismiss them. When you get stronger you can even just smile and say...yeh, I should be more like YOU...right? Whenever your mind dwells on what they said CONSIDER THE SOURCE. Cruelty is NOT a sign of good character. If you feel that any part of what they say is true...FORGIVE YOURSELF and decide if it's something you want to work on. We are all in transition. Don't let criticism be your motivating factor. Hope that helps, love. Be well...be strong.
@@gemmadidit4118 thank you for this because today one of my classmates who is now a makeup artist told me how I do my makeup is a no that I am trying but its not good and yet the fact that I am posting on RUclips to her that looks wrong ? I wondered when I began YT I didn't ask for anyone's permission so now I should stop because I do my brows wrong yet I am learning and growing ? Her advice to me sounded both good and bad but I decided to take it as positive. She said she's not yet a processional one but she's here making me look like the worst just because of brows I shall improve, practise and not give up
It's extremely helpful to not get defensive and just say "Thanks for the feedback, I do have some room to improve" or "I'm sorry you feel this way, I do have room to improve". This makes the person who criticizes you less aggressive because you just agreed with them, and didn't add to the fire.
I love how she transforms negative into positive! This lady is a kind person. I managed to hear her talk live during 'Wake up - day' this year and have got a dedicated book from her. Very inspiring.:)
I watch videos of her when I get anxiety... just listening to her talk and the music it's so calm and soothing and warm and it just makes me feel comfortable. Lol
0:34 It's so true. These kind of comments have been echoing in my brain and tear my social relationships and working efficiency. I dun know why, but drops of tears come out of my eyes at the moment of the video. It's like somebody hear my inner voice out.
I want to thank you Marisa because you have helped me see things from a different perspective. I use so many of your tools and I am able to help people on their journey. Once again, you are a blessing and I appreciate what you do for the world.
I have wondered why criticisms always hurt my feelings.why is it soo difficult for me to deal with it without having a mental breakdown? What i have learned is that distinguishing criticisms from one to another is a continous process and it takes time for someone who has been vulnerable to criticism for so long.its not as easy as it sounds but you will get better at it eventually:)
The destructive criticism is the hardest, even when I try to be polite they throw the saying that I'm offended. I just need to just say nothing and move on.
I Honestly feel like this is almost a hypnotizing session to be "bulletproof" against negative comment. Thank you! there should be a "session" for people that need to get mentally prepared to be around their own family (or Mom-*whisper) that gossips alot😉😁😧😩😔
I want to say thank you for this video, mindvalley! And thank you to Marisa as well.This is very precious to me and I will return to her advice when ever I'll find myself going back to my old behavioral patterns. I will be on a Marisa Peer video marathon. I love her. She is one of my inspirations now. I want to have a manner of speaking like her. Very calming to a listener.
Oh thank you so much.. I have recognised something in myself that I didn't like... and this short video has taught me something so valuable.. 🙏 love this!
This just popped up and i just stopped and find myself watching till the end. Her voice and encouraging words can definitely heal negative vibes in every hearts.❤️
Lost for words. Best advice I've ever heard. I didn't get it tell now. 40 years . A perfectionist. Watch this over and over. Drill those words In your head.
Oh wow this was me.. All points of this conversation is what ive been doing to myself.. Self-sabotaging been doing it all my life an always either shutting down or going into defense mode... Im about to change that now Thank you so much an thank you to my mentor Janine for sending this to me 😁🌹😁🌹
I'm really wandering wether or not I'm stuck right now. I'm a self critic, and I learnt from y intuitive flow of high confidence almost like writing down your self critic. Yet...understanding my self critic, put me into a state of flow when I'm writing my two critics down. And how I try and learn is from listening to way to much self discipline videos and I can't seem to get the two critics to constructively mimic each other's self talk. I'd really love a understanding practical emphasizing of these two for it to click. Thanks, Cole.
I have a question. Suppose it's a public speech. Now ideally if my critic is my friend, does that mean I will feel NO FEAR? Critics job is to protect us, so if it is my cheerleader, does that mean I will constantly be powerful, or will there be a fight and I have to choose to cheerlead? Can anyone care to throw some light on this? I am willing to explore the answer to this. So excited to grow! Tons of positivity and miracles coming your way.
I think it can be specifically challenging to accept criticism from a friend because they know us best and if they're a good friend they want the best for us so when we hear the criticism we know that it is very likely something to consider and we might be afraid of that.
Here's the problem with this advice.. often times, when people give you "constructive criticism," it's actually a form of abuse because they are envious of you. They'll tell you that you are not good at something because they can actually see your potential, and they're scared that you'll outshine them. Bosses do this all the time - they can't stand the idea of you getting promoted over them. So they'll find news ways of criticizing you to make it seem like you're not deserving of a promotion even though you are. If you boss says "you're good at marketing but you're terrible at presenting" what that really means is "you have a natural talent for presenting, and I'm afraid you'll outshine me in this area if I give you more opportunities to present.
It is perfectly acceptable to acknowledge that different people will have opinions based on their own experiences and knowledge even if those opinions differ from yours or seem incomplete by your standards. In some cases they may even bring up valid points that challenge your perspective and offer opportunities for growth and understanding.** This openness to diverse viewpoints and respectful communication are essential for fostering learning and connection. However,** not all criticism is created equal.** Some criticism is unfortunately delivered in a bullying or abusive manner, and in such cases,** acceptance or respectful communication are not appropriate responses.** If this is a recurring pattern,** it is important to take action to protect yourself.** You can do this by politely communicating your boundaries and requesting changes in the manner and frequency of the criticism, or by limiting your exposure to the individuals or environment where the bullying behavior occurs.** It is important to remember that you cannot control the speed at which others change their behavior,** but you can control your own responses and choose to not engage with harmful interactions.** With love to fellow beings. ✌️
Ithis is wonderful! Ive had great bosses and horrible bosses. The best bosses I've had give me positive feedback how to improve things I'm not great about and how to be better at it and I can feel that they care. The Worst boses get huffy and don't give positive constructive criticism they just get upset that you can't do it right the first time or when you continue to make mistakes.
I don’t always believe you should except someone’s criticism as it could be coming from their own tainted minds, I have never had criticism work in my favor, it is only a hindrance
I post pictures of myself that i like myself but everybody thinks i look really bad and some say that those photos are shit, its not like they say it in a harsh tone, they'll just say something really mean but cover it up with "no offense" and although i try super hard to not let it get to me, it ends up ruining my self esteem :(
After watching this video, how will you change the way you receive criticism? Share with us in the comments below
Watch the first hour FREE to experience Instant Transformational Therapy with Marisa Peer 👉go.mindvalley.com/Uncompromised-Life
I just want to thank you for what you're doing. Keep doing because you improve people's lives. Thank you!
I already do this by saying 108 positive affirmations every day but Vishen Lakhiani and mindvalley have changed my life
I love your words So much.you make me feel So much better &So warm in my heart😭🙇💖Thank you So much.
"Critical people, I promise you, have the most criticism reserved for themselves."
🙏🏻🙌🏻👍🏻
Very true.
So so true 👍🙌
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
English isn't my first language. What does that mean pls?
I grew up with a great deal of mean criticism...but somehow that released me from caring what people say. I realized that others will try to make you small so they can feel large. If you don't care what they say...if you SEE THROUGH them to the insecurity that makes them act that way...they have no power over you. I've learned to love myself without outside validation...a very powerful thing. The way people act when they're desperate for attention is really quite sad.
GEMMA Didit i really wished I could be like that and NOT care what people think or say about me. But their words just remain stuck in my head on autoplay. Any advice?
CONSIDER THE SOURCE. They are trying to take your power from you. If you give them the satisfaction of acting crushed.They win. Remember it's not about you. They clearly do this to anyone they can victimize. Do not engage because this UGLY behaviour is their home ground. Why wrestle with pigs when they're the one who enjoy all the dirt. Quietly judge and dismiss them. When you get stronger you can even just smile and say...yeh, I should be more like YOU...right? Whenever your mind dwells on what they said CONSIDER THE SOURCE. Cruelty is NOT a sign of good character. If you feel that any part of what they say is true...FORGIVE YOURSELF and decide if it's something you want to work on. We are all in transition. Don't let criticism be your motivating factor.
Hope that helps, love. Be well...be strong.
GEMMA Didit thanks I really love that advice
Same things happened to me..but i make it my strength..now i'm strong
@@gemmadidit4118 thank you for this because today one of my classmates who is now a makeup artist told me how I do my makeup is a no that I am trying but its not good and yet the fact that I am posting on RUclips to her that looks wrong ? I wondered when I began YT I didn't ask for anyone's permission so now I should stop because I do my brows wrong yet I am learning and growing ? Her advice to me sounded both good and bad but I decided to take it as positive. She said she's not yet a processional one but she's here making me look like the worst just because of brows I shall improve, practise and not give up
It's extremely helpful to not get defensive and just say "Thanks for the feedback, I do have some room to improve" or "I'm sorry you feel this way, I do have room to improve". This makes the person who criticizes you less aggressive because you just agreed with them, and didn't add to the fire.
Excellent,her voice is very soothing
True
I love how she transforms negative into positive! This lady is a kind person. I managed to hear her talk live during 'Wake up - day' this year and have got a dedicated book from her. Very inspiring.:)
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Thank you, dear Marissa..It helps me to deal with my own toxic family that criticize and offend me all the time...
For some reason criticism from parents just doesn't seem as constructive most of the time.
I watch videos of her when I get anxiety... just listening to her talk and the music it's so calm and soothing and warm and it just makes me feel comfortable. Lol
This woman is so soothing
Asiyah Elh ikr
She’s amazing,I love her voice
0:34 It's so true. These kind of comments have been echoing in my brain and tear my social relationships and working efficiency. I dun know why, but drops of tears come out of my eyes at the moment of the video. It's like somebody hear my inner voice out.
I want to thank you Marisa because you have helped me see things from a different perspective. I use so many of your tools and I am able to help people on their journey. Once again, you are a blessing and I appreciate what you do for the world.
I have wondered why criticisms always hurt my feelings.why is it soo difficult for me to deal with it without having a mental breakdown? What i have learned is that distinguishing criticisms from one to another is a continous process and it takes time for someone who has been vulnerable to criticism for so long.its not as easy as it sounds but you will get better at it eventually:)
The destructive criticism is the hardest, even when I try to be polite they throw the saying that I'm offended. I just need to just say nothing and move on.
When I have trouble practising this and doubt if it works, I come back and watch again and it strengthens my belief every single time I watch this.
I Honestly feel like this is almost a hypnotizing session to be "bulletproof" against negative comment. Thank you!
there should be a "session" for people that need to get mentally prepared to be around their own family (or Mom-*whisper) that gossips alot😉😁😧😩😔
Please share your results with us.
This made me cry in a wonderful way and I needed this. 💖 Thank you
I can’t watch this video enough,you are a tremendous blessing!!!
I want to say thank you for this video, mindvalley! And thank you to Marisa as well.This is very precious to me and I will return to her advice when ever I'll find myself going back to my old behavioral patterns. I will be on a Marisa Peer video marathon. I love her. She is one of my inspirations now. I want to have a manner of speaking like her. Very calming to a listener.
The way of explaining is awesome
This is the best video I have seen from Marisa Peer, she certainly has improved over time. Well done Marisa.
Oh thank you so much.. I have recognised something in myself that I didn't like... and this short video has taught me something so valuable.. 🙏 love this!
Thank you! ☺️ loving all the valuable info
I loved the aspiration and motivation this lady is giving! She absolutely made my day.
Hopefully I will listen to her everyday
Thank you Marissa, great pointers. Wish you Success, Happiness and love always.
This just popped up and i just stopped and find myself watching till the end. Her voice and encouraging words can definitely heal negative vibes in every hearts.❤️
Lost for words. Best advice I've ever heard. I didn't get it tell now. 40 years . A perfectionist. Watch this over and over. Drill those words In your head.
What a Calm and Comforting voice ... i already feel much better just listening to you👌🏽💚🤗
Marisa, you are a light in the dark! Thank you 💕
Downloading this so I can play it on repeat.
Your voice is so soothing.
😍
Oh wow this was me..
All points of this conversation is what ive been doing to myself..
Self-sabotaging been doing it all my life an always either shutting down or going into defense mode...
Im about to change that now
Thank you so much an thank you to my mentor Janine for sending this to me
😁🌹😁🌹
Thank you! Good lecture
I like how you validate that it's okay to make mistakes
Very helpful. I have to keep this in mind next time that destructive little voice comes into my head
this is really a life-changing advice.
I call it "contributive feedback" ....always welcome. Greetings there 🙌
That was the most concise and useful information I have heard all month!
That 4:29 minutes video was just more than enough to change someone's life🙌❤
Thank you so much for sharing you’re a lot of help🥰💕
It's best practice to become immune to criticizism and also compliments. Not feeling any need for outside gratification.
Thank you ma'am for your lovely msg.
I'm really wandering wether or not I'm stuck right now. I'm a self critic, and I learnt from y intuitive flow of high confidence almost like writing down your self critic. Yet...understanding my self critic, put me into a state of flow when I'm writing my two critics down. And how I try and learn is from listening to way to much self discipline videos and I can't seem to get the two critics to constructively mimic each other's self talk. I'd really love a understanding practical emphasizing of these two for it to click. Thanks, Cole.
Higher conciense not confidence*
The Ann Murray of motivational speaking. So soothing
I have a question.
Suppose it's a public speech. Now ideally if my critic is my friend, does that mean I will feel NO FEAR? Critics job is to protect us, so if it is my cheerleader, does that mean I will constantly be powerful, or will there be a fight and I have to choose to cheerlead?
Can anyone care to throw some light on this?
I am willing to explore the answer to this.
So excited to grow!
Tons of positivity and miracles coming your way.
I think it can be specifically challenging to accept criticism from a friend because they know us best and if they're a good friend they want the best for us so when we hear the criticism we know that it is very likely something to consider and we might be afraid of that.
3:29 it wasn’t napoleon it was Theodore Roosevelt... I loved that quote so much
It is a valuable advice for all to overcome negativity by constructive criticism in the our lives and career Thank you Marissa ✨🌠
Great points 👍🏻👍🏻
Here's the problem with this advice.. often times, when people give you "constructive criticism," it's actually a form of abuse because they are envious of you. They'll tell you that you are not good at something because they can actually see your potential, and they're scared that you'll outshine them. Bosses do this all the time - they can't stand the idea of you getting promoted over them. So they'll find news ways of criticizing you to make it seem like you're not deserving of a promotion even though you are. If you boss says "you're good at marketing but you're terrible at presenting" what that really means is "you have a natural talent for presenting, and I'm afraid you'll outshine me in this area if I give you more opportunities to present.
Thank you.
Much love and light.
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one of the best ad
Life saving. Thanks lady.
Thats a great video, watched three times. Excellent words Marissa!
Thankful to you and love to all
Very well said ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️
It is perfectly acceptable to acknowledge that different people will have opinions based on their own experiences and knowledge even if those opinions differ from yours or seem incomplete by your standards. In some cases they may even bring up valid points that challenge your perspective and offer opportunities for growth and understanding.** This openness to diverse viewpoints and respectful communication are essential for fostering learning and connection.
However,** not all criticism is created equal.** Some criticism is unfortunately delivered in a bullying or abusive manner, and in such cases,** acceptance or respectful communication are not appropriate responses.** If this is a recurring pattern,** it is important to take action to protect yourself.** You can do this by politely communicating your boundaries and requesting changes in the manner and frequency of the criticism, or by limiting your exposure to the individuals or environment where the bullying behavior occurs.** It is important to remember that you cannot control the speed at which others change their behavior,** but you can control your own responses and choose to not engage with harmful interactions.**
With love to fellow beings. ✌️
Thank you
Thank you!
Thank you for this great video.
You are a pure talent.
Thank you so much
Thank you 🙏🏻💫💥
Excellent! Thanks Marisa
IT WAS SUPERB,I LOVE IT,PLEASE KEEP DOING,THANK YOU.
Ithis is wonderful! Ive had great bosses and horrible bosses. The best bosses I've had give me positive feedback how to improve things I'm not great about and how to be better at it and I can feel that they care. The Worst boses get huffy and don't give positive constructive criticism they just get upset that you can't do it right the first time or when you continue to make mistakes.
Damn amazing .... impactful person she is!!
Thanks you Marisa 😍
Very helpful thank you 😊
In love with Marisa Peer 🥰
What an amazing experience to learn from her. I discover her a few days ago and I am in love
thank you so much Marisa
God bless this amazing woman ♥️
I don’t always believe you should except someone’s criticism as it could be coming from their own tainted minds, I have never had criticism work in my favor, it is only a hindrance
Thank you...
Thank you for this
I needed this
it is okay to make mistakes if it will hurt you only people should not hurt by your mistakes
Maam your sentences are great just like you
I hate people who are smailing with you and critising you in the same Time it's like we are good but this is you reality
I post pictures of myself that i like myself but everybody thinks i look really bad and some say that those photos are shit, its not like they say it in a harsh tone, they'll just say something really mean but cover it up with "no offense" and although i try super hard to not let it get to me, it ends up ruining my self esteem :(
why did i cry?
Very important tips in life.
Excellent way mam i appreciated
I love this video.very well done. But why everyone saying to not get defensive whats so wrong with getting defensive i find it a good thing...
I learn n grow
I love this woman
Thanks for this words.
If you see a 👎 in this video in spanish it is not valid, i put it by accident.
the is a song called
MY INNER CRITIC
It hits me!
Love You Marisa ❤❤❤❤
I CANT SKIP THIS AD!
I tend to criticism myself and i tend to predict the worst about myself
What accent she has? İ loved it
People simply put me down out of jealousy or something and even after knowing all that, yet their nasty comments hurt
Love it!
It's easy to say, "Don't let it in", but who can follow that advice? It's a strong conditional reflex.
jusr amazing !!Right !! 😊☺
Yippee! You're doing a wonderful job.
What is the name of the background music?
AWESOME...
I luv her💙
some people criticize in a good way but add a judgement for doing a mistake, thats hurt
Just love to watch you, encourage me