China's Leftover Men: Desperately Seeking Wives
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2018
- He's 57 and has never been in a relationship. Now he's worried that his four nephews who live with him might end up alone - and desperate - just like him. How is China addressing its gender imbalance that has reached epic proportions?
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They killed off the chickens and now they're wondering why there's no egg
Oh this one is good 👍🏻
LMAO. True.
They killed human babies.
@@re-sister190 this is how hens feel
Savage
China: We prefer sons
Also China: Why are there no girls for my perfect sons?!
TheCbrown146 Male sons 😂👌
True dat
Also, some parts of India
Do the math
True!
“The problem is too many girls have degrees.” No. The small population of females in China decided to work hard after getting the short end of the stick for years. They have EVERY right to demand more from their potential partners.
Modern woman spewing bull about 3rd world countries she knows nothing about thanks to the luxury of living in a 1st world country. Feminism is a luxury in 3rd world countries. Try living in the bush in Africa preaching feminism.
@@Omar_Facio boy you are uneducated as hell, feminism is needed the most in 3rd world countries. Thanks to feminism, women in first world countries are able to speak about it without facing repercussions to their safety. Last I checked, women's rights or just human rights in general isn't a 'luxury'. Don't embarrass yourself like this please 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@farzana2686 Women in first world countries are able to speak about it thanks to civilizations that men built, not thanks to feminism. Thanks to what the "evil patriarchy" built, you are able to even have feminism. Which is running rampant nowadays and better described as Toxic Feminism. Femininity and feminism cannot coexist.
@@Omar_Facio feminazis
@@farzana2686 preach
"Without a wife to take on household chores, they buy their own luch from the streets, take turns to wash their clothing and cook their own dinner"
This is not a problem. This is literally the minimum required for a person to survive. They don't want a wife, they want a maid.
Exactly, that statement was repulsive. These ppl aren't a functioning adults, they won't survive in the woods. No wonder single women aren't considering marriage at all, this type of marriage is a repackaged slavery
"Without a wife to take on household chores, they buy their own lunch from the streets, take turns to wash their clothing and cook their own dinner" oh nooooooo what hardships they have to endure!!!
ehekatzin- I don't feel sorry at all for the leftover men. They're the last ones in the world who can afford to be picky and yet they are. They deserve to be alone.
@@reya346 Not to mention the one child policy that favoured boys over girls, so those girls were killed after they were born. To have such a gender imbalance with over 30 million men than women, is beyond astronomical. Yet, the culture is still complaining because these poor, poor men can't find a wife to do their cleaning. The obliviousness to their own cultural shortcomings is breathtaking.
they want a SLAVE more than a maid actually 😅
So many single men without marriage prospects but still they shame and call women over 27 leftovers? It's messed up.
@PhilosophicallyInclined yeah but a lot of em have high paying jobs and can still have kids. They need to change their ways if they want to get married.
@PhilosophicallyInclined Dude, he was not agreeing with you.
Welcome to Rice country, bro. Where people getting treated amongst our rice.
PhilosophicallyInclined With millions of single men in China the women are leftovers ? No young successful woman will want a poor ageing long term bachelor and live a hard lifestyle on the farm.
@@MelaniaRose exactly ☺️☺️
Homie handing out pictures of the girls like they’re Pokemon cards
lmao ikr, it's disturbing
@@jktm7785 Why is it disturbing? This is essentially old-fashioned Tinder lmao
@@raerohan4241 gotta be stocking those girls to get those pictures.
@@thelostcolor6150 Lol no. The families of those girls give pics and a profile to the matchmaker to show to interested parties. She undoubtedly has many of the men as well to show to girls’ families
@@raerohan4241 oh okay. I thought it was creepy that he had so many pics.
That's like slaughtering all your cattle and being sad there's no milk.
Slaughtering all your female cattle and wondering why your bulls won't give you milk
@@danielorlovaquinn I love this one😂😂
@lionpro we're talking about how they only rejected FEMALE babies...dont play dumb
Let's blame the millions of poor unmarried men for the government's decisions in the 80's
@@maarten452 who said we are blaming the men? the goverment is full of men. are you 12?
China is really great at making long-term problems for themselves.
moronic confirmed
They keep speedrunning through everything
And now for the rest of the world too with COVID
@@noneisallminussome371 China is basically the embodiment of all f*cked up things in this world combine and multiply for 2
@@Undubbedriah Yeah! Trump 2024! MAGA!
A saying in China now goes as” the families with new born sons were laughing 20 years ago but 20 years later they no longer feel like laughing.”
Serve them right 👍🏻
Hahahaha
Isnt that karma...they laugh at me saying that i dont know how karma works...now they no longer feel like laughing
NoChance 0401 My parents were part of the one child policy generation. They had a son first. Then about 12 years later decided they wanted another kid, but being Beijing residences and with a son as a first child there was no chance of ever having another one in China at that time. Luckily my dad was working in the UK for a chemical company and they moved here. Then I was born. I wouldn’t exist if my parents hadn’t made the decision to move for me ❤️
@@MoonlightWalnut :') my heart
they don't want a daughter but they want a beautiful wife for their son.
Maybe they don't know that when a daughter is born she will become a wife one day . That why common sense is not that very common.
They’re just unfortunate people who can’t disobey their government or even go against their suggestive thinking. China wants to reduce their population but no human can go against their instinctual drive.
@@user-md9mq6do3b That is why they do not want a daughter. They are selfish. When a woman marries, she is no longer considered part of her birth family but rather part of her husband's family. They want the wife, they don't want to raise a daughter so she can become someone else's wife.
Yep
Their common sense is called..Stupid..thats why the didn't think of that
I cackled when they were portraying the men as rather unfortunate since they had to cook and clean themselves LOOL
Exactly. A real man cooks and cleans for himself
So pathetic honestly
Plus, that dude haggling with the photos of the girls as if they were pokemon cards, like...they literally just decided who was the "dumbest one" in order for her not the reject his son.
@@pandamilkshake it's just tinder but a person hand you the photo not the app
Toxic feminist comment section
'Too many girls have degrees'
...yeah because in the patriarchal society it is much harder for girls to find good employment so they need to study twice as hard to get the same chances.
I don’t think that’s how it happened tho.
It’s mostly that in every family with a girl, she’s the only child, and the parents use all their income to support her financially. She doesn’t need to be an uneducated housewife when she could be more. University costs are low and test scores are gender neutral. And her family (who didn’t kill her) are hoping for financial support when they get old. When they say “too many girls have degrees” they just mean everyone has a degree nowadays and anyone with even an ounce of self respect wouldn’t go out with his son.
@@TumblinWeeds What you say I am sure has some truth, But during my time at university I had quite a few chinese friends who told me how their brothers didn't need to study hard and often didn't to go to university, because work was guaranteed. So it is definitely one aspect of it.
In case you wonder why these families have more than 1 child, it's because exceptions can be made in rural provinces (doesn't mean farming), if the first child is a girl.
@@EM-cl7cl in today's western society it's the other way around, boys perform worse in schools compared to girls when the teacher grades subjectively
@@EM-cl7cl What type of work was guaranteed? Physical work? Because women dont like doing those, thats why they get less work chances.
@@Dan-fv1ud There are many jobs that men don't like doing, that less educated women tend to do, so that should even it out.
"They wash their own clothes and cook their own dinner"
As they should... What's so shameful about being an independent, functional adult.
Like really.
Men make a cup of tea for themselves and open the windows in the morning and they did a lot of work.
While working women take care of their jobs, children and household simultaneously.
Some men just need maids and not wives.
Yeah.. men taking care of themselves should be normalized. It's just a basic survival skill that every human should learn. Such a shame, they made it sound like the worst nightmare a man could have. 😏
not everything is american. you come here, you live by our standards
@@libertsiagian7685 lmao what do you mean? Where is "here"?
@@nikkir2386 in this video's case, china. but for you, anywhere but the US and the west
the one family who stayed with a girl during one child policy: INVEST
She's the dogecoin of china's dating pool😅
Stonks
They won in both being content with what they have and stonks.
The humour is so dark and yet so true
Stonks rising
China: doesn't want girls born, enforces laws that encourage people to abandon their daughters
Also China when they run out of women: *surprised pikachu*
oh no! the population of our country is slowly decreasing and i dont know why!
@@du_acc it hardly is tho, considering statistics
Hmm it's not they don't want girls to born, they want to reduce the population so China implement one child policy
@@dre_ocean they didn't want girls to be born....they almost always rejected only FEMALE children
@@desairio7330 the government reject female born?
*_"This one has no degree, she's perfect for my son!!!"_*
🤣😂🤣😂🤣
I’m dead ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
The girls that at first they saw as useless and unwanted are now in demand and are in a position to call the shots.
I hope they learned a lesson that woman are just as important.
@@truckbull6076 your views are so twisted and wrong. who hurt you?
@@truckbull6076 Taiwan is trying to get people to have more
Can't we all accept that men and women are needed for the continued survival of the human race
in the process some people will die without partners its inevitable
@@bravodefeated9193 Correct. psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success 8,000 YEARS AGO, 17 WOMEN REPRODUCED FOR EVERY ONE MAN
An analysis of modern DNA uncovers a rough dating scene after the advent of agriculture.
For most of written history (not during the hardest part of agricultural history) 80 percent of women reproduce and only 40 percent of men reproduce. Now it's right there in your face whereas before it didn't happen on regional levels.
"They wash their own clothes and cook their own dinner"
OH THE HORROR!
Ikr. Never mind the lack of companionship and intimacy and the chance to raise offspring; having to do household chores is obviously the biggest downside to bachelor life.
No one is saying anything the likes of "OH THE HORROR". It's just that in chinese culture the man is the breadwinner and wife does housework. So their pointing out that they wash their own clothes and cook their own dinner because they're single, nothing wrong with it or "HORROR" about it, just that they don't have a wife to do the housework.
@@shahrikamin4699 Not really. It's an expectation, but many chinese men actually help out in the house unlike western men. There's still sexist ways of thinking, but at least a lot more try to help from what I've seen
@@glutenfree7057 yup! I’ve seen a lot of men in different countries help out around the house.. it’s very refreshing to see
@@glutenfree7057 there are many western men who help out around the house stop generalizing. Some Men have backwards mindsets but that's in every nation
i like how when it's unmarried men they form "bachelor villages" but when it's unmarried women they're "leftover women." just some cool casual built in cultural misogyny.
The title literally calls them leftover men?
Im all for women's right and stuff but nitpicking things like this really makes it seem like you just want something to be mad about.... not to mention how the title of the video is "China's leftover men" LMFAO
@@simondwu8550 the title is a play on words you absolute moron.
but that's ok. it' pretty clear that a discussion about how language and way we frame things affects how we perceive them would be way over your head.
glad to hear your all for women's rights and stuff though. that's cool
@@recklessmermaid you sound like a very unpleasant person to be around.
@@moash2518 for someone like you, yes :)
"China we want boys because they carry the family name and legacy."
Me: "well seems like your family legacy you value so much dies with your son if he doesn't get a wife and bear him a son." LOL
To reverse the climate change, we have to shift from carbon footprint to fingerprint - global human population has to reduce from 8 billion to 1 million.
My grand uncle, my two aunts and now me - all single and childfree for life😇🎊.
Except Ukrainian women are moving to China en masse to marry chinese guys.
@@orangerightgold7512 these Ukrainian women marrying the RICH Chinese men being single mothers or over 30 are leftovers themselves in Ukraine.
@Baby cat The childfree by choice (cbc) has already started gaining the momentum in India. Apart from that, unemplyoment, abysmal poverty, hunger, dearth of resources have already impacted marriages negatively and once the automation is in full swing, most of those labours will no longer be required and they have also begun embracing the future which is why mostly they are now restricting themselves to 1 or 2 kids only. Many of them have even decided to stay single as well especially after bearing the unforgettable brunt of the pandemic.
In 2019, pollution alone has killed 1.67 million people in the northern parts of India which has now augmented to 2.5 million per year.
Nearly 4 million individuals have resigned from their jobs in the USA which is now prominently known as "the great resignation", "lying flat" in China, early retirement at 34 in Italy etc are some of the best examples to be optimistic with that more and more people are realizing across the world that it is better to live a single and childfree life.
So, within a decade from now, a huge chunk of population will be eliminated directly or indirectly very soon.✌
Well when you abandoned baby girls under bridges and leave them in orphanages, there's bound to be a shortage. So, it's kinda their own fault
No kidding
what would a troon such as you know about gender?
Men where consider the dominant party in the relationship. So if your son gets married he will most likely control the household money. Easier to take care of the sons grandparents that way. Especially in China where familial bond is insanely important. So have a daughter and loose your family name wealth and support to the family with a son or not
@@BulletBoyGaming because of that now there are left over men lmao.
Kind of a harsh way to victim blame, you should try learning about what happened during the Chinese communist cultural revolution before spreading such toxicity.
Lmao "women with degrees have high demand". Sir you just insulted your own son for not being good enough.
Well its the truth bahahahaha
@@elvis4868 so do men they expect a woman to cook and clean for them despite having a job .
@@Marklee-lx7cd I meant hes son wasnt good enough probably
😂😂😂
How so , those women will reject him anyway because they have high expectations ,he can't match their expectations since he doesn't have a degree , where is the insult, what's the point of your comment anyway
I began washing my own clothes and cook my own food since I was 16. Wtf is wrong with these men-children
No wonder women don't want to marry them. We want to marry men, not children
16? I had to cook and do my own stuff since I was 10
You just said it men-children
@@tomaszzalewski4541this is not a competition
They didn't even mention how women over 30 are considered 'left over' and thus will often be refused by single men, exacerbating the problem.
The issue is the men who are looking for women are old af.... calling a women only in her 30s a leftover women os a stretch.... China has flipped views.
Yeah but marrying a 30+ y/o woman isn't really a jackpot deal, actually it sucks tbh
@@globalmapping5034 wut? Sucks for a 40 year old man ??? Hes lucky lmao
@@nicenamehere5052 just to add to the slight humor. A woman in her 30's is ready to become a badass baby making machine if she likes you.
@@jacobruiter592 nah, a 30+ year old male sperm deteriorate which cause miscarriage and syndromes in infant
Question : Where are all the young Chinese women?
Answer: Adopted in other countries.
Yep, then grew up to be dating/marrying White men. HUGE increase in that the past nuner of yers. Many Chinese women have even been saying their own men ain't shyt, so....
@@pmb6667 all asian women hate asian men.
My grandma and her twin sister were left at an orphanage in China. They ended up adopted by a Dutch indonesian family in Indonesia. Sadly my grandma's twin sister got sick and passed away as a toddler but my grandma has had a long and amazing life. Still kickin' at 93, now lives in Canada.
@@nikeimizhongtomasch1880 nope, I love Asian men ❤
@@pmb6667 and a lot are adopted by Commie American parents that teach them to hate America
California is overrun with them
Why would a girl want to marry and do housework for a farmer husband, when she can go to the city to work, earn her own money and possibly help her own family in the village?
Some girls love the rural life and some girls love urban life.
Sometimes parents think that girls are not worthy to study in the city, so they stay in the village to become house wives.
Your point is exactly the underlying point of the video “Useless” men are left behind in rural areas and why the gender imbalance is greatest there.
The women don’t want that hard life so finds a man with “more” of a future. At least, that is how they perceive it.
Chinese people should import some girls from Russia and Europe. There are so many girls wanted Chinese men in Europe and Russia!
Percy Cat money is not everything
U have to know that
And all fingers are not the same
I'm White, and I married a mainland Chinese woman. I lost count how many times I got yelled at with racist slur by Chinese men, lol
serves them right
They are prissed that you took 1 woman away from them, punishment for being sexists😂
My half White half Asian ass: “you want a cookie or something?”
"no, i don't want a university graduate girl for my son, she will have high demands and reject him"
bruh 💀
Its true, tbh
"The girls with a university degree have very high demands."
Well old man, we are educated enough to know exactly what we want in life and I guarantee you, that includes what we want to find in a relationship. So WE as "girls with a university degree" do not want some random guy that just treat us like a slave.
@Mic Jack i don't think you do
@Mic Jack its to scam them of money not because whites are any better lol
@Mic Jack i live in melbourne so i know what you're referring to. Mostly they were born here and relate to white people more than fobs.
Vania Tirza yeah you tell him I’m a guy and if a woman want to be independent she can it’s her life because I believe we were all born to live our lives the way we like
Vania Tirza WELL SAID 🙏🙏🙏
That’s what they get for favouring sons over daughters
I dont blame them as back then they cluld on have one child and they want one that with countiuning the families legacy, however your right
@@silverwind9906 if anyone chooses family legacy over a literal human being they deserve this tbh
@@anushkakulkarni112 family legacy is the same thing.
@@saneleofmargate8785 what
@@anushkakulkarni112 it's all connected.
I saw the Leftover Women doc a few years ago. Everyone in the comments section joked about how it is actually leftover men. Interesting to see that the idea came to fruition.
which one? can you link it?
@@aleenaabidrao9754just search left over women in china
This is what they get for favoring misogyny and sexism. Get those higher education, Ladies!!!
They arent even the ones that made the one child policy decisions and if men were really s3xist and stuff like ur kind say all the time they would have ensIaved the women not let them have higher education.
Then when the parents die, YOU GET IT ALL!!
There's nothing wrong with a man doing house chores and cooking. It's called being independent.
Exactly. Its best if both partners share the house chores anyway. Things get done faster and more time for leisure.
They’re basically grown ass babies
True. I would have liked your comment if you weren't a Commie.
Exactly. And that's why many parents insist on their child going to a hostel for education.
Some things can only be learnt when you're not at home.
@@overthinkingintrovert396 girl what
They have plenty of bachelors...who ironically hold no bachelor's degree.
Ouch
Stupid
They’re Chinese so it doesn’t matter.
@@hugheast318 cixnks can't read lol
@@kalamarmaximis149 "cixnks"??
If i were a Chinese woman, i would rather stay single all my life than finding someone who only wants to marry me to be their caregiver. The way a single man making his own meals is portrayed sadly is just ludicrous. Yep no, just no.
Watching this makes me smile. I hope all the parents (specifically the fathers) feel immense regret for aborting/abandoning their daughters if they did so. Hopefully this can serve as a reality check for these men
Big ditto. Karma is sweet :)
Shongdui
why do you hate men so much. the crimes of others (the bachelors' parents' generation, who in turn are victims of inane govt policies) became the burden of these bachelors - and you are gloating at this?
@@superviola88they’re saying the people who murdered their daughters after birth are getting just a fraction of what they deserve. They could only have one child, horrible. But in response, they murdered and trafficked until they could have sons. Not enough of a punishment if you ask me.
@@AD-ts6gq i quote her last sentence "Hopefully this can serve as a reality check for these men"
Some families actually had multiple daughters and would hide them. My family did this , now they live happily in another country.
wow, complete and total respect for your family.
Good for your family man! I hope they are well
Its still really damaging for the daughters. The families had no other choice, but the little girls would have to lie and hide, sometimes just stay at home all the time while watching their brothers go to school and live a normal proud childhood.
These families will end up saving China.
Your familie was the MVP
China: Did they send me daughters, when I asked for sons?
Also China: Desperately seeking women kthxbye
@@truckbull6076 bro we get it, you're a virgin
@@truckbull6076 well if that's how it going to be, then here's some tissue and adult video to jack off to or wake up.
@@truckbull6076 lol built by man , then who built man?😂
MULAN
Mulan😋
They're acting like they didn't do this to themselves
This is why the laws of men should not have control over Mama's wombs.
When you have an entire belief system based on the value of sons and who literally discard their daughters like trash or abort them, it does not shock me.
@@shreyasinhaa7139 yup he does glad he shared facts. Something many don’t want to hear about
Cause they are "expendable" 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Like in every country there are many sides. As for those who gets degrees and proper education are much more western so to speak
India has this problem too but not as bad as China though .
Stay hopeful! Ppl are progressing. My grandmother had 4 daughters and my mom have me and my sister. We are doing great and no one tells us we are less than men.
This is contradiction at its finest.
Preferring sons over daughters then pondering why their sons aren’t finding love.
Lovely.
They should get a robot for household chores and a sex doll for bedroom activities!
They would have had more Children peasants if the government allowed it.
I personally want 10 or more Children eventually!
@MB Marrying for love? What an outdated Western notion that is.
@MB Who marries for love anyway in west.
@MB nice gender studies kid
maybe it's the family dynamics that should be resolved first? getting called an embarrassment and failure for not being able to marry is so horrible and petty. marrying and having children ain't your sole purpose in life. and women won't settle for less now. it's either you stay single or you fix yourself first.
It's karma...the older Chinese society regards male so highly to the point that no mothers want to have daughters because they want their kids to live a good life and having good life is being associated being a male in the society. The government was only thinking how to control their citizen number in the past but forgot the underlying social impact when families starts favoring sons over having daughters. It's the weakness of a nation that doesn't allow 2nd opinion exist in a country governing body, they all followers no leaders, once the current leader make a wrong decision the whole country will be led into doom.
And once China is doomed, Hong Kong and Taiwan will finally be at peace
The reason why boys were mostly chosen over girls in the child policy is because only boys can carry their family name while girls would switch names.
This guy is a unsuccessful bum and he expects a wife to just appear and do his chores? If you want to have a housewife you need to actually provide a house dude.
Right provide and protect. On contraire i think some guys have the delusions of thinking they age like fine wine and so they do not have to put any effort in. Men women all hit the wall but if you want to appeal to the opposite sex you have to try. And you cant have it both ways a beautiful woman that you cant provide for but you want to wash your drawers and cook and clean up after you.....sike !
@@AmberU firstly we age like a fine wine , we both know that , not as a look but as we get more life experiences and money . Secondly why men should put alot of effort if women don't
@@AmberU some men do age like cheese... but all women age like fruits.
@@AmberU Your Father must install a healthy, joyfull respect for women at an early age.
Without this you will fail,fail,fail,fail,fail.........
@@jeffjeff5719 who broke your heart darling?
They buy their own lunch, wash their own clothes, and cook their own food??? THE HORROR!
Bhaha let those desperate die alone
Lmao for real
@@hereusername lol no I am an Asian
@@hereusername Quoting an excellent song by Rome, "The West knows best."
C'mon we have delivery men, washing machine and we can micro wave food even frying are all easy work.it about money.
Maybe if Chinese people were okay with having daughters they wouldn’t have this problem. I’ll take my negative 30 social credit points now
😭 you really brought the social credit into it omg
@@olive6785 Well you know how it is with China. Anytime you talk about it you’re either gonna gain social credit or lose it depending on your views towards it.
what's with all the idiots in the comments thinking this is some sort of unprecedented phenomenon. The Chinese government saw this coming decades ago, it's precisely the reason why they implemented such a policy in the first place. All according to plan
@@phatlewt2932 and for what? Care to shed some light?
I think most are fine now with having daughters but it’s reflected worldwide that sons are the preference. This is strongly enforced in asian countries. I’m Chinese and my parents have 2 sons and me :) of course I’m the most babied amongst us! I’m very thankful as I couldn’t imagine being disregarded because I’m a female. I hope more people are inclined to having daughters 🤗👍🏻 I myself really want a daughter or 2 haha
“The problem is too many girls have degrees.” No, the problem is that they got enough education to know when they are treated less of a human being and like a slave.
I have my full on respect for those people in China who amidst all of this chaos still decided to give birth to daughters and decided to raise them instead of abandonning them
Betrothal gift
Well, not exactly. Sometimes they had no option because the wife had so many abortion b4 for a boy, the incoming girl would be her last pregnancy chance for her eggs sake.
True
Not killing your baby daughter is basic human decency. I wouldn't say it is a respectable thing to not kill a baby, but I definitely have no respect for those who killed them.
@tentedkarma 746 yes I'm prolife after the child is born. Women weren't allowed gender scans, it was illegal. So the only way they knew the gener was after birth. They killed the girls after they were born.
I don't want to sound insensitive but...what did they expect?
byron 918 simple but well said
A lower population and less starvation. They got what they asked for, but with unintended additional consequences.
A maid to do chores apparently
That's not even insensitive, it's just facts
Since when is it insensitive to deservingly call someone an idiot? 🤣🤣🤣
Are they looking for wives or maids? Nothing is wrong with a adult doing his own chores. And with mindsets like these, having a degree is important, you don't know what kind of partner you'll get.
So the global patriarchy decided men are more important instead of valuing both genders for what the uniquely provide society and we a shocked by the outcome… really
"Without a wife to take on household chores".....does she mean "a maid" not life partner here?!
Malachor VII those leftover Chinese men don’t deserve wives if they think that good they deserve to be lonely tough luck for them
@@Will.Flavell What are you done sort of simp? Stop white knighting, its a culture completely different to Western cultures and understandably has different values. Its not just the bachelors like that dude.
ricemango and they have no game with women 😂😂😂
Will Flavell | and you can’t just casually say that Western Men Are Superior to Chinese Men
Will Flavell
And you should feel ashamed for saying things like that,Have You met a Chinese Guy who could change your mind of what you said???
Imagine to be a full grown-up adult and not to be able to cook for yourself
I feel so called out. I can cook instant noodles does that count?
@@littleripper312 maybe?
Imagine thinking that everyone follows the standards of your country
@@littleripper312 lmao. That doesn't count. Will you be able to eat only noodles every day and night ? No right ?
@@adityabhardwaj875 standards of whose country? Pretty sure you're from India. And if you're talking about India, literally no Indian women wants to marry a dude to be his maid. Atleast what I've seen, they want someone that knows basic life skills and can take care of himself, educated and MATURE. Not some bratty mama's boy.
Hey, look at that: the negative consequences of my very own heavy-handed medieval actions.
- China
"If you can't find a wife, be the WIFE"
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AHAHAHAHA yeah they can be the wife, why didn't they thought about that? No more worries for them
Believe me, I know what rural women go through, especially women in a traditional household. If that man who lives with his 4 nephews got a woman as his wife, she will be expected to cook for all the 5 men, wash all of their clothes, wash the dishes for all of them, have babies with her husband, work in farms, etc etc. It's really a difficult life for the woman, she would be working continuously from dawn till dusk. Hate the life of such women, it sucks the life out of any women.
many women 2 generations back, who lived in rural areas, often had as many as a dozen kids (no available birth control). Not all survived, but if they did, they were expected to work the farm as soon as they were able. Many of the kids were born at home, no doctor, no midwife. The women were still expected to do household chores as well as care for all the kids. What a rough life. Those were some tough women.
I agree those men don’t deserve to have wives they aernt top 20% material tough luck they lost they have to accept it
@Robert Raghav Nobody deserves a person. A person is not an object or a piece of food to be assigned to somebody.
@@psychobunny32 I call them.. Masochists👏😔
I am from Africa and what you said a 100 % what is happening in rural areas of my country
“Single and unmarried males are an embarrassment of family”
How many thousands of years women been seen as embarrassment if they are single and unmarried. Everyone should learn to be independent
@Chris Coyne are you stupid or you dumb and idiotic? Real question
@Chris Coyne Ah yes ofc all those baby girls wanted to be given away on the streets and be child trafficked because of FEmaLe iNdEPeNdenCe. Not because of an idiotic, patriarchal government that didn't think twice on how stupid this decision was and stupid gender norms.
@Chris Coyne stupid fool
@Chris Coyne Oh really?
@Chris Coyne You are an extreme misogynist. You men want to suppress women but that is going to happen no more. It is the best that society is changing and now men and women are getting equal rights, but there are a few people like you exist, you chauvinist! 😤
Chinese men : Where are all the women?
Graves : Underground.
33 M more men than women eh, and they have the nerve to call females above 25 as leftover😠
If a man cannot cook, clean, etc. Then I do not want him as he is A CHILD.
Yep. be it man or woman, I don't want a slob who can't carry their own weight around the house. I don't need any gender stereotypes like a woman pride is house making and a mans pride is being the bread winner. There's no need for shame when being able to take care of yourself and others is a life skill and is a very attractive.
@@Waterbottle_s noone was kind enough to teach me how to cook :(
@@raptor4133 No one taught me how to cook either. I figured it out for myself when I left home.
@@raptor4133 you tube is magic my guy. Lots of you tube videos on making food and even Tik Toks. Learn to make a quesadilla or pot roast.
@@raptor4133 just search but do bring someone with you or some safety equipments tho you might burn the house down
i find it absurd how traditional values in asian cultures not only expects women to play a mommy role to a grown man but also play into their male fantasy of having a woman that acts naive and child like at the same time with less demands and expectations.
It's to stroke their fragile masculinity. In other words, it's to be a mommy to a boy without making them feel less of a man... without them having to make the efforts to actually be a real man.
If there’s a way Asian cultures can adapt and modernise dating and expectations in relationships I think it could work. But it still leaves way too many men to be bachelors.
As an Asian I absolutely agree, the whole male domination culture is annoying. Men want pretty obedient housewives, not partners
I love the whole westerners telling everyone else how to become "civilized"
@@wizardmongol4868 yo, tf u are saying. Imma an indian and listen to these ppl for once. Such a poor sex ratio and rapidly ageing population will lead to China ceasing to exist. Likewise, it is ur choice, there are many asian powers looking to grab china's place on the economic front.
My mom had 3 daughters in a row I can’t imagine what the mothers went through if they abandoned their daughters each time until they got a son
Not everyone is destined to be married. Be independent and adapt to it.
To reverse the climate change, we have to shift from carbon footprint to fingerprint - global human population has to reduce from 8 billion to 1 million.
My grand uncle, my two aunts and now me - all single and childfree for life😇🎊.
Found the virgin
Lmao. Now the parents that chose daughters will get hella rich. That's Karma right there 😂.
Allanzo EXACTLY 😂... they played a stupid game and won a stupid prize❗️🥴 Nothing, the prize is nothing😭
@Man of Culture Allanzo I'm still tickled 2 month's later😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁
That's true, generally, you have to buy an apartment to get married as a man in China. And the housing price in my tiny hometown is over 4000USD per square. It can be 5 times in big cities. Which means you have to spend more than half of the money ur earned as a middle class one to support ur son's marriage
Sadly you'll never see your daughter again, due to the custom in China, the bride lives on with the husband's family. sure you will meet during holidays and stuff but she now lives with her lovers family, and you are alone.
Most wealth is man owned so your argument is invalid
"there's no women to marry!"
Gay men: 🕺🕺🕺
I wonder if this puts more pressure on gay women too
The problem is the Chinese government aren’t too fond of gay people
@@sammysaito529 unfortunately yeah... But still makes you wonder
Emily Vogel That's interesting..I bet it definitely does along with the government and society not being too supportive of gay people
@@anna.318 Oh 100%. I just know in US culture there is still a huge problem with people telling lesbians that they "haven't found the right guy yet". So I wonder how much worse or more prevalent it is in this country. I also wonder if it's worse than what Poland is experiencing right now
"Your son doesn't meet the basic requirements for getting a woman. He lacks 7cm height."...wow
Considering girls would be aborted, orphaned or adopted away, I'd say hearing that someone thinks you're short isn't the worst thing that could happen.
seems to me like the men and women are equally superficial
@@phatlewt2932 girls are more Superficial
@@slurpii4669 huh???
@@slurpii4669 no not really, they're just superficial in different ways, but it all stems from the same thing. Ego is a disease that affects both men and women.
China in the rural areas is still have the old-fashioned ideas that "MEN" don't cook, washing clothes, doing house work. While the attractive MEN in NEW WORLD is charming with recipe. My uncle is also the example of Chinese men in Old world. Once his wife is not home and prefer buying food but his mom ( my grandma) want her ( uncle's wife)to cook. Both sides are angry to each other. My uncle is middle man. Do nothing, finally he had to cook by himself, the result is a not-food fried rice. Taste bad. That day I remember , asking him why you call me to cook. That why my mom always support me to do everything by myself.
Chinese men will have to adapt to the new reality. possibly they won't be able to get married to get a domestic slave to do everything for them. Things have changed . Chinese wives will be increasingly rare. Consequence of one-child policies
Ngl as someone who was given up for adoption in favor of having a son this is lowkey satisfying af
Edit: Thank you to everyone wishing me luck! Also to those who are being rude for no good reason I want y'all to know that I'm not wishing for these men to have a horrible life and blame them for the policy but I want the Chinese society as a whole to see the consequences of its actions and learn from it. During the one child policy China had a strong patriarchy and very misogynistic views that led to such unfair treatment. These views still persist today and needs to change so I'm hoping this will open their eyes.
@Imma Burner trust me if you were abandoned as a baby in favor of another gender you would be petty too its not an easy thing to get over
Trust me girl, you'll live a good life now and even in the future . You will be blessed with everything. I pray for you! Stay safe.
Thanks girl❤❤hoping the best for you too!!
@@kaelynkraley5876 it's not that they want you, ironic
I don't want to break the 69 likes going for you
Lol they have to cook their own meals or buy them
OH MY Gawd 😂 Adulting so horrible
These are some of the poorest people in the world economically so it would be difficult cooking or god forbid buying food
😂😂😂
You guys don’t get. In Chinese culture the family is very important. It is considered a huge failure and an embarrassment to the family if one doesn’t marry and have kids by a certain age. (men and women) A man cooking his own food and doing doing his daily chores with no wife to help and no children to teach in Chinese culture means that society rejects him and he is not fully contributing member of society. He will be seen as a reject, loser or loner by friends and family. (Same with women) The ENTIRE family will forever be embarrassed throughout the village because as parents they have failed.
@@ryceryder85 I do understand. It was a funny comment that the person made because it was so silly.
@@ryceryder85
Almost sounds like a third world village community.
She should’ve gone more into detail on abortion rates being way higher for females. Or how their women are being “sold” to foreigners for the right price 🙄 Aw poor guys having to do their own chores
They should have seen this coming when many families picked having a boy only to kill any baby girl they had. Smh
Finding a soulmate or finding a domestic slave?
Let's call it housewife. Because owning a slave is illegal these days.
I'd rather to die than having another relationship
They better still stay unmarried if so. I hope no women marries thia kind of person
They don't have the concept of "soulmate"
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Hehe, "girls with university degrees have very high demands". Yeah, with education comes the knowledge that males aren't all they're cracked up to be.
most 18-30 educated career women talk like that, they change their tune when they are left on the shelf because they are competing for a small pool of educated men
@@barbellsamurai8014 I'd rather not marry if the choice was between that or becoming a servant to a whole family.
@@nataliella97 fair enough, but highly educated women are competing for the small pool of highly educated men. Problem is the are competing for those men against all other women, the odds are not in their favor. Same thing happens with women who are 6'1 and wont date a man shorter than themselves
No one needs to compete at all. It's mostly a matter of location. The male to female ratio will always be about 50-50. There's definitely more tall men than there are tall women.
@@zhangyaxing2101 'No one needs to compete at all' = delusional
As a society, that's what they wanted ; more sons, no daughters.
Disproportionate Gender ratio is just an expression of their past ambition.
The selection of male fetuses over female wasn't just about "preference." In a Confucian society, having a male child is crucial to being cared for in old age. Having a single female child is to be condemned to lonely and difficult declining years.
They weren't counting on the fact that nobody having girls would eventually condemn those parents to lonely and difficult declining years, as well.
These dudes all complaining that women have standards now. Hilarious !
It's not standards, it's impossible ridiculous unfair standards that they themselves can't meet. Also if I'm six foot 2 maybe I should demand that women can't be fat. Oh but that's right women can have standards but men aren't allowed to have ANY.
I feel bad for the sons who have no chance at getting married. It’s not exactly their fault for being born a male and living in a country where there’s significantly less females. But these Chinese parents need to realize if they pick and choose the gender of their child then there will be problems. I understand sons are better for poorer families since they’re more “profitable” (a horrible way to put it, I know) due to the country’s culture but they need to accept it when their baby is born a girl. This way the country can get out of this terrible situation.
Anyways the women kinda do get to be a little picky when it comes to marrying someone. Why would she settle for someone that has nothing going for him (whether it be looks, personality, job, etc), when there’s a bunch of better people she can marry? If the roles were reversed there would be men that were picky about the person they marry. They too would want a woman with a nice personality, looks and a good job. No one should just settle for someone when getting married.
@@LegoSwordViedos I mean that's your personal taste whether you like thick girls or skinny girls so I don't see a problem with that, if a girl prefers tall guys that's just her preference? I mean why be with someone you don't find attractive, standards are normal and important you know; settling for less in simple standards like what you find attractive is just going to make you unhappy. Of course there are unreasonable ones that overestimate one's worth like an unattractive person expecting to only wed an attractive partner. I'm just saying, expecting something on your level as a standard is normal and also you sound very sexist
@@LegoSwordViedos and the height thing is just their preference due to the matchmaking , I'm certain that if they were allowed to meet people naturally without having to matchmake to fall for them, they'd ignore the height thing or weight or looks or whatever. Being sold like cattle, I see why they'd bring up standards because you don't even know the person personally, might as well find someone you actually find attractive.
@@LegoSwordViedos and no one said men can't have any standards idk where you're from, if any girls got mad at you saying you prefer thinner girls that's their problem , but how you handle the situation and whether you care enough to fall for their personality are different matters. Just saying standards and types and tastes are normal and whether you find a girl or guy or stay single I hope you're happy anyway
"The situation now is that many boys don't have a university degree but too many girls have one." lol i'm dead
Only a small proportion of Chinese females actually have university degrees look it up .the population imbalance is the case of the problem
There are more males with science degrees than women. Also, there are more women with liberal arts degrees than men. Its all perspective.
@@thuphat1123 its still education
@@thuphat1123 are you saying studying arts is not education???
@@imagine_it_stories6672 as someone who is considering a career in art I have to say that a degree in physics is different to a gender studies or liberal arts degree
“Daughters we’re not an option”…. Umm no they very well existed, rather families killed or trafficked their newborn girls bc they weren’t seen as valuable.
The stressed that are causing the asians for expecting to marry young is too much. At 30s Western and European people are just starting to enjoy their independent lives while here in Asia when you're 30s and single you are doomed.
This should change.
yes yesss!!! almost the whole asians mindset... especially for older generation
"Without a wife to take on household chores, they buy their lunch from the streets, take turns to wash their clothing and cook their own dinner."
Wife is your life partner, not life servant.
Yeah different cultures and not what you are suggesting here. These are poor rural places when the men is simply more efficient at hard manual labour.
They want a wife to make sure to look after their lives whilst the husband looks after the livelihood. Both jobs are as hard and it is simply an efficient way to deploy resources.
It is possible to swap the roles around, it will most likely mean the family earns less, low enough to not survive. It is physiology rather than sexism.
You are probably a young unmarried person to think this way. It is true that you shouldn’t perceive women as servants. But the truth is after a few years of marriage and kids, women even in the modern Western society, will still end up shouldering the majority of housework and child rearing responsibilities. Even when both are working full-time.Some men will shun housework at all costs and be out “networking” in the pub with their work colleagues till late.
Yeap definetly young. Wait until you live on your own and get married.That perspective of yours will turn 180°.
Sun bird see this is why girls nowadays are rejecting marriage. although both parents are working full-time the wife always end up shouldering the responsibilities like housekeeping and taking care of their children. This makes the idea of marriage scary and honestly if i were a girl i would never want to get married just to be treated like that.
Shade Cross this is the problem why should we change our perspective to succumb to your partner’s perspective and suffer ourselves. taking care of the child and chores should be done together. this is why people dont want to get married nowadays this idea of marriage is toxic to young girls
No sympathies for y’all
You did this to urself
Facts!
@@mr.sandman8644 bro the people is the actual power in society so if one day they woke up and be like I want more children. What can the government do
@@mr.sandman8644 i am speaking general in every society out there and there r two type of evil in this world the one who do evil thing and the other who sat back and watch someone doing evil things. So if they really didn't want this to happen they could do something but nooo.... they have to agree to government and do whatever they say. Basically they got a choice and they choose this action so they going to suffer the resolve.
@@mr.sandman8644 There are consequences in the future of actions of the past.
“The girls with degrees say yes at first but then reject him” - Smart girls were picking up on your bullshit
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they are reaping what they have sown. I still remember how over 20 years ago I watched this documentary that brought me to tears, how little girls were dump in orphanages, and because they were too many and did not know what to do with them, they tight them up to chairs, beds, underfed. it simply was inhumane what they did to these poor girls. So, they deserve not having enough women to marry them.
it's true. Marriage for women nowadays is not a good deal, especially if she has an education and a job, why would she need to marry a sexist Chinese?
"girls with university degree have highest demands", of course, we ain´t ignorants and know our value
PERIOD
Higher value, wealthier men, prefer less-wealthier women with no university degree. There's been studies done on this, you should look it up.
@@shahrikamin4699 yeah that could make sense cause their ego feel threatened and they can manipulate women easily. That´s why they´re scared of educated women
@@dokadoka4922 Yeah, I understand what those 8 words mean. I'm saying educated men have different preferences. That's why educated women complain a lot about having trouble finding educated and wealthy men, the internet is filled with these complaints and articles about it. There are also studies done in this.
@@adrianaramirez8186 You're being a bit disingenious. Men naturely look to provide for their loved ones and find purpose that way, and if they're not providing they have no sense of purpose. you lose any reason to live really. It's not about feeling threatened, or manipulating. If i'm not providing for my loved one i care about, what is even the point, what is my purpose of life and being, i have no value and purpose to live.
The problem is the girls from poorer nearby countries are kidnapped and then sold to these men. It's happening in my country.
Cua Manh Động wtf... that’s so messed up but not surprising
No way so corrupt :(((
Some of them are just 13 or 14... That's mess up! :((
That happened to my aunt
@@Quynhbee Are you guys from Vietnam ?
"They wash their own clothes and cook their own dinner"
I feel called out here
at this rate, families with daughters should start demanding for a huge dowry and their surname to be passed down instead 😂
That what you get for killing girls infant during the one child policy.
One word. Karma. They were the ones who choose son over daughter and now worry about their son not finding a wife "to take on household chores".
That is how it was viewed traditionally smartass
@@petergriffinhentai4724 lol
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Nah, Chinese men will marry more and more WHITE slavic women.
😘😘😘
Why the hell would a foreign woman marry a poor Chinese farmer????????? It's mostly the poor who have problems getting married, unfortunately no-one wants them.
They didn’t have a choice-from what they could see they cannot afford independent retirement and daughters are expected to care for the in-laws and have nothing to do with her birth parents. From their POV, not having a son means a miserable, cold and desperately impoverished languishing into oblivion :(
Many parents don' t want to have a girl (so they abort or infanticide them). Then they put extreme pressure on their son to get married, and expects the neighbor to provide their daughter to the son . . . but the thing is, the neighbor feels the same way.
toady , just clone them self and it’s a new business opportunity
They even printed fake rice grains, why not print themselves
A good idea is only truly good if it stays good when everyone else has it too.
Finally someone said it right, it's leftover men not leftover women!
Their fault for only wanting one child, and that child to be male. Lmao
"Without a wife to take on household chores". and it's without any payment, they want slaves, but they killed all their "future slaves" and now they couldn't find any new ones.
@@worldserpent731 you must be one of those leftover men, how’s it feel to know that nobody wants you and nobody in their right mind would choose you? I hope it stings :)
@@worldserpent731 I had a father and he treated my mother as an equal. These man do not want a partner, they want slaves.
@@worldserpent731 Lots of married men cheat on their wives....bringing more pain, heartbreak, financial problems. This is why lots of women divorce......
Women nowadays prefer being single or gold diggers
@@worldserpent731 why not both partners work as a team to do both these jobs?? Why is one more valued in society because he brings the bread and butter home while the other is told to do this and that and can't do anything else in life and has to "serve" while the men probably don't even appreciate what she does.
@@worldserpent731 found the incel
Don't feel sorry for them. Murdering baby girls doesn't come without consequences.
Is there anyone here who does feel sorry for them? 😂 Although it was the mistakes of their parents and those that came before them, but still. If they treated women fairly, none of this would have happened.
I don't feel sorry for the leftover men, but I still acknowledge that it's the previous generation's fault for killing female children.
Louis King no need for such foul language. It’s both men and women’s fault, but the society is a patriarchal and conservative one. Men played a big part in it just like women, but men are the ones suffering because now women can get educated and once you get them fixated you realize liberation. Who tf in their right mind would want to marry someone with no education(not saying the men are not educated, but some of them want them to give up their dreams and ambitions to have babies, take care of parents that aren’t theirs, then their own kids, and be poor. 😂lol women would just laugh and go about their days. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 China is going to have a serious imbalance in the next decade if they don’t get it together. 🤣 still it’s part of the plan. The universe is doing its job. 😌karma is real and China is getting it.
Louis King Sorry if I struck a nerve there buddy!
jennybean you struck his fuck buddy's nerve. 😂
I still hated how there's still a segment prevalent until now that there's still first priority going on based on genders
I like this match maker he really told the dad his son doesn’t meet the basic requirement!! OOKK get him .
these men: can’t cook their own food so they have to buy lunch from some dude in the street
also these men: why don’t women want me :(
Tbf though, there's no expectation for men to be able to cook or do household chores in rural China. They're still very "traditional/conservative" there. Living in pretty much the same way they did a hundred years ago, just with a few more technological advances.
The expectation is:
1. Have car.
2. Have house.
3. Have decent income.
While the expectation for women is:
1. Birth babies.
2. Cook and clean for family.
I disagree with this. My father and my grandfather and the other men from the village all knew how to do basic essential things before marriage. They know how to cook, clean, sew, etc
There are many Chinese families that didn’t differentiate gender roles so precisely. Especially after mao zedong declared men and women to be equal . There is a saying “women hold up half the sky”
So I think the men who did not catch up to modern times or parents who were too rigid in how they raised their sons and expected an old-fashioned daughter-in-law....they ended up with sons who didn’t make themselves marriage material or even marketable/appealing to women. It’s easy for the girls to choose someone else. Independent or career-minded women would definitely be more choosy with their marriage prospects . The mature and responsible guys were able to date successfully in high school and be married by 22.
Actually longtime friendship between families is also important. There’s always a network of knowledge in the families and everyone seems to know the ages of all the grandchildren coming of age. My cousin who grew up in China married a girl who he knew for years and years . No one forced them to get married , they just fell in love and chose to be with each other . Married early and after college, had a kid.
As for me, my life would be very different if my parents stayed in China . The year my mom immigrated is the year I was born . The first two kids... 2 girls me and my sister
@Derek Zhou Are you stupid. That's something any adult should know how to do and if you dont your a man child. Stay single
@@randalftheblack2572 Westerner like you just read what other westerner reporter wrote and assume.
@@free_manipur_from_india Actually what I wrote was written by someone Chinese.
I basically just repeated it.
Slightly paraphrased of course as it's hard to copy-paste from a video.
It is a tragedy when men cannot marry and have to clean after themselves, but it isn't when women are discarded or expected to serve them.
Oof get a maid then like an actual one my mom is living the life not having to do chores huh?
@@elvis4868 they need money and I doubt they have any.
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Love it how they too became infected with the same propaganda they started it. 😎😈
While I agree it’s not the single men’s fault.. they obviously haven’t discarded a female baby since they won’t have kids. But possibly their parents have-and it’s the price they must pay for them :( it’s such a big pitty they also bring “shame” to their family and no grandchildren even though they were born male. Why can’t parents just love their children regardless?
Serves them right
The answer could be classified into two: YAOI or Reverse HAREM hahaha
@@D_Xienni if they are hetro the second is their option