As a man who is married and has gone through something similar, I see exactly what this woman is going through. I was like this guy in a sense, but my eyes were eventually opened. I worked and went to school and at the end of the day never had any time or a listening ear for my wife. Unfortunately, we live in a time where people hide behind their security blanket of working more and more hours just to buy more stuff and are convinced and ultimately believe they are doing it for the benefit of their family when in reality it's doing more harm than good. If all our lives are just work work work and we send our kids to daycare for someone else to raise them, what kind of life is that? When the kids get older they aren't going to say man I wished I had more clothes when I was younger but how they wished their dad was home more or mom was available. Everything in life is a trade off. You can work more and spend less time with the people and things that matter most in life, but in the end all that matters is what you did with your life and your relationships. We live in a brainwashed society that puts temporary meaningless things above the most important things in life. I will never let a job or anything else steal my time with my family or prevent me from doing those things in life that bring me happiness and meaning. Some people are just making a living but not making a life.
Thank you for moving forward towards your family. I imagine that it was incredibly hard! Most people with that problem cannot snap out of it; you are especially amazing.
Trust the_process Not at all. I'm a happily married grown man who has a lot of wisdom to share. Unfortunately most people can't see past their own insecurities and their own selfish desires. Although we live in such a self centered and selfish society, I've learned that true happiness is in serving others and thinking of yourself less. When you truly have wisdom and can see past yourself and realize what's most important in life, then you can see that life is temporary and things you thought were urgent or necessary aren't so much so.
@@briancolburn2765 Amen! You are one of the few, if not the only man, that I've seen in this comments section who call it like it is - even if the selfish men and guys or gals don't like it. You are 100% accurate. In fact, I think Dave Ramsey could LEARN from YOU. Family IS the most important because money doesn't mean a hill of beans in the end. Family trumps being obsessed with material goods like money.
I honestly think my husband would look back and wish he had more clothes when he was younger. He’s a shopaholic now, and he told me how kids would make fun of his clothes and the brands he wore because they didn’t have a lot of money back then.
I am shocked by these comments. As a man, we are to care for our home and people there. I left my job of 15 yrs, reduced my pay in half and had to shock my budget to adjust to our new lifestyle....but I am much more happy. My kids get to see me. I enjoy mornings and evenings with them. The almighty dollar should not run your home. The love you have for your wife and children should.
I agree brother no dollar amount would ever make my live evolve around work. I love my wife to much. At the end of the day that job is replaceable but your family is not. A lot of men struggle with realizing this!!
A lot of truth in this. But if he is locked into debt and she is not working then he has no real choice. He is likely scared of losing what they have because there is no other income coming in.
@Templar and they as a team need to dig deep into their numbers. Reduce spending to allow the cash to snowball other expenses. Find that financial freedom and spend more time at home.
As a kid my old man worked from 7am to 11PM every single day except for Sunday for as long as I could remember. I always appreciated how hard he worked, but I have to admit there was a time I kind of resented it in my teens, and after getting caught vandalizing I used the excuse of him not being around for why i was acting up - and instantly I started seeing him tearing up which got me chocked up since hes a strong stoic person who I would never have expected to get emotional (especially not on front of his kids). He went on to explain how he was working so hard for the family, and in truth I knew it. Ever since then I never took a day he worked for granted. Haha now that I'm all grown up, and working myself, I strive to be even half the man he was since he was and is such a exceptional father. Cheers to awesome dads!
I'm 50 years old. I am self employed. I work 60-70 hours a week taking care of every aspect of my small business by myself. I love to work. And I have no employees. I am a one man show. But if my wife ever says she needs me, I stop everything I am doing to tend to her wants/needs/desires. I married my wife. Not my business. This guy really appears to be married to his work. I would rather be poor than lose my relationship with my wife. A Christ centered marriage most certainly adds balance and stability to managing business and marriage. Next to Jesus Himself, my wife is my best friend. She knows it, so does the Lord Jesus.
I wish my husband would think this way. It is not always about making a dollar. As long as bills are paid, and we are living comfortable. The high demands of a job are relentless, whether working for oneself or otherwise. It is of absolute neccessity for a married couple to be there for and spend time with each other as much as possible. I see no harm done in taking a day off here or there. Life is too short, and we must focus on the more important things.
@@JesusIsTheGoodSheppard one of the greatest blessings that God could ever give you is a wife. My wife is a proverbs 31 wife through and through. It took an Act of God to get her in my life. If I ever lost her, it would take an act of God for me to have such a blessing for a woman again much less be able to call her my wife.
I would never work more than 8 hours a day. As soon as I get home, my 18-month old daughter is wobbling towards me with her arms wide open. No words can describe that feeling.
My husband is a police officer and fortunately has opportunities to make a lot of extra off duty money through the city. The pay is high and the stress is relatively low but it’s VERY time consuming. He will literally work quadruple shifts (counting his regular job) and many weekends I only see him when he’s able to come home to sleep for an hour. I end up missing him during those busy days but I appreciate his hard work and remind myself that he’s doing it for his family. He is good about taking some nights off to spend at home with us.
The only reason this woman is upset is because her husband is emotionally unavailable as a father. Not because he doesn't care for the home or works alot. If he made the effort to be involved with his family I'm sure she would not be as resentful as she is now. It's not always able the money y'all.
@Jennifer P. OR it's likely that even having a child that is LIKELY a teenager means that him being involved and available is even more essential. Children don't just grow up and are left to their own vices. Parenting is critical especially as a teen. I really want you all to look at the bigger picture other then the typical 'she just needs to get a hobby" response
I mean I can see where you’re coming from but I’d like to know some important facts I think she left out 1. How long have they been married 2. How old is the child 3. What kind of person is she ( attention needing or not ) 4. What’s his job 5. What does she do all day especially if the kids a teenager 6. What is she doing really other than saying hey spend time with me to actually change the situation 7. how old is she I think when those questions have been answered we all can understand the situation better than just a few lines of him working too much and what not
Or she could start from a place of appreciation and work from there to see how hard he works to give her a certain lifestyle. To me she sounds ungrateful. She never once said "I understand or he is wonderful at this & that". Her level of negativity shows she has a very self centered point of view. Guys used to leave for months at a time for work but now women are like I NEED ATTENTION EVERY DAY
😆 I agree & am a wife of workaholic husband. My husband works a lot but I do not resent him. In fact, I support him all the way. I do not complain, but we both are very transparent with each other. I tell him my expectations & so does he. I take care of the home & kids primarily but also helps him out whenever & whatever I can with our small business. My husband is very driven, passionate about his goals & ambitions & disciplined. These are the reasons why I fell in love with him from the start. I guess the problem with people nowadays is that they see each other’s behaviors & personalities in the beginning but ignore them thinking they can change that person once their married (false expectations). You saw what’s coming (negative/bad) but you went into it anyway. (???) There’s no acceptance & loving that person unconditionally. Before marriage, there’s should be a big sign saying, “ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK.” Just saying 😊
"You work too much! I want you to spend time with me, I'm bored staying home all day!" "We're broke, you need to work more so I can stay home and shop more!"
Ok so it sounds like you guys know some despotic women, how unfortunate. I'm not going to assume all men are the same or that all women must be feminists either. Maybe you should do the same after you heal your butthurt.
I don't understand all these comments of how it's risky to marry a woman or that she is fiscally irresponsible, in a relationship both the man and the woman need to spend time together and even more if they have kids, they can downsize their lifestyle, find a different job with less hours
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
In the guy’s defense, my wife says the same thing but admits she doesn’t like even thinking about financial budgeting. Before we met, she frequently received overdraft notices and ever since we’ve been together, she’s always wanted more money to spend and less time with me at work. My story is a common tale.
I would rather lose my wife and be rich or well off then have my wife and be broke or barely getting by. Of course I would prefer both at the same time but it's not always that way based on the cards you're dealt. Get the money problem out the way first. Your wife will resent you whether you are working too much or barely making. Every lady with kids wants an available well off guy.
Yeah he needs to get away from her because she’s obviously getting in the way of his purpose…The man has a very prestigious position, sounds like she stresses him out because if he didn’t make the money he make they wouldn’t have the lifestyle…
this is the worst, you work hard at work, then come home and have to deal with wife who is giving u bs like this. just dont get married guys, at least noone is gonna get on ur nerves when u come home from work.
Very common issue in house holds. Or he isn't happy at home and is working overtime just to avoid going home. I am willing to bet though their debt is high or standard of living with him the only one working. Hard to pay the house, utilities, multiple vehicles etc on 40 a week. Very few people willingly work non stop
Isaac Spencer I think your spot on. With both. He either working overtime to avoid being home or they are so much in debt to keep up with the lifestyle. If your an executive you can retire very quickly with all that money.
She has a valid concern. I dont think shes ungrateful but He just needs to balance his time with work and family. Its more to life than being a provider. You have to be emotionally available as well.
She also may need to find a way to bring in an income. Less financial stress on him but also people who tend to work also spend money differently because they are having to put in the hours to buy it. The world of one person working 40 hours a week to provide for an entire household is gone. Either one works a lot or both work. Sad but true
It’s not like once she brings in money, he’s going to work less. I promise, he does it because he wants to. Has nothing to do with her (unless he’s trying to avoid her by overworking)
dachicagoan That is her fault for waiting so long to find a man settle down with. Women need to be realistic with their fertility window if they want children.
dachicagoan That's the point. If a woman has aspirations to be a mother, she needs to plan accordingly and set a reasonable time table. Waiting until she already in her 30s(which many women do now) to start looking for a life partner is not a good start.
Its easy to complain when shes not the one showing any worries about his legitimate concerns on case he loses his job or something like that. Not to mention no one has asked how underwater they are, if they are, and hes trying to make sure the household is solid. Way too little info and very rushed call...
@@aightwellsee3347 A guess from my experience... she probably accepted emotional distance from day one...it simply escalated as they got emotionally closer over the years. Don't think that all good men are emotionally available. He may not be capable if he's a workaholic in denial about having avoidant attachment style.
@@aightwellsee3347 So saying, it's also a woman's fault too for "settling" for a good man who's stable and risk averse...but emotionally distant. It's hard to see though. This is what happens.
@priti d Amen! Unfortunately many dont appreciate a responsible hard working spouse, they think the grass is greener elsewhere and itll be their loss in the end.
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
I guess I'm supposed to fall in line with the string of defensive male apologists here, but...REALITY CHECK.... when you get married, it's time to scale back all your interests and obsessions, including overtime addiction. When it goes beyond a temporary focus to get out of debt or some other specific mutual goal to a habitual escape from home responsibilities disguised as "doing everything I can to support my family", it's time to re-examine what being a man is all about, and the most selfish thing you can do is insist that your wife should approve of your obsession and excessive absence. "Working to make ends meet" is no excuse for your time management failures.
I scaled back work to spend more time with my kids and haven't regretted it once. Sacrificing your family to the almighty dollar is selfish. Kids want more time with their parents, not bigger houses and flashier cars.
Newsflash people I’m sure many of us don’t wanna work more than 8 hours a day but the bill keep coming and the only way to pay them is working I my self would love it if I didn’t have to get up at 4 or 5 in the morning and come back at 6 or 7 at nigth
First of all, it is not “your” child it is his child too. If you have a nice home, bills paid, and a luxury lifestyle, why is she complaining. She sounds REALLY ungrateful to me. Let him fall off and no longer be able to provide the same standard of living and watch that time change.
I'm debt freeeee!! Yesterday I finished paying off my $40,000 stupid debt (credit cards, weddings, loans etc). My income went from $0 (I had no job for more than a month) to $30k to then $80k now that I am married. Together my husband (30) and I (28) paid the debt in 12 MONTHS. We finished 1 month earlier than we had planned! We have been watching every single dollar like a hawk, our rent is not cheap so our journey was not easy. We basically survived one income (Which is good to know, because I hope to get pregnant in the next year). Now that our debt is paid off, we will save for a mini holiday and then hopefully grow our family :) I found Dave last year, I actually heard about him through my husband who heard about him through the minimalists. I'm so glad we went through this journey together (as dumb as that may seem), but i really feel like we're set up for more wins in the future than most of our friends. We know what it feels like to be drowning in debt, I couldn't have even imagined paying $500 towards our car last year... but most of this year we were putting $2,000 a month towards the debt. My husband and I both did weekend gardening work on the side, we shared one car for the whole year (work is nearby for both of us thankfully), we said no to friends MANY times, we sold our stuff, we started growing our own veggies, we changed all our utilities plans, we did nearly everything. The ONE thing we didn't compromise on was our groceries, in that they were mostly from a butcher/local fruit shop, we truly believe that we are making an investment in our health by eating right. That doesn't mean we got the best cuts of meat, because we certainly didn't haha. We stopped buying clothes, and if we did it was from a second hand store. Thanks Dave for setting us up for a great future!
I realized a lot of people who comment in Dave’s comment section either hate women or blame women for everything. It’s kind of sad. Everything is the women’s fault. The man can do no wrong.
Different commenters come in on different videos. The other week there was a video about buying gold and all of the lurking gold bugs came out in force. Also Dave more often than not takes the side of the woman even when a guy is calling in. I've seen and heard this over and over again. Maybe you'll notice it a bit more now. About the "man can do no wrong" part. They literally only explore why this is his fault instead of asking what she could do to better the situation as well.
ds2k15 i am not trying to dissect every video but on this particular video all this women warns is to spend time with her husband. She said nothing else. Almost every other comment was well that’s why men shouldn’t get married. That’s doesn’t event make any sense. All she wants is to be a family at home and some men in these comment section go batshit crazy. Everytime a men calls in there are serval comments bashing women. Me and my wife both work and can’t afford our bills....should have never got married.........I work and my wife stays hoe because child care is too much......should have never gotten married.........I want to prosposed to my girlfriend but I am in debt and want to save for a ring.......Don’t get married. This is my first time commenting on it because it was prevalent in an innocent video of wife wanting to spend time with her husband.
Conservative Prosecutor life is easy men can tell you that......sure. Women have to give birth then choose between having an career or not. If we choose to have career then we face discrimination. If we choose to stay home we face discrimination. Heaven forbids something medically goes wrong with child birth. We could be out of work for years and struggle to get back into the work place or die. Now I am not saying men don’t have their own struggles because everyone does but women have it slightly harder then men.
@@LilMermaid28 Yeah, I just explained that different types of people come out on different videos. This one caters to those types of dudes. On the gold video they weren't there. On a video about a kid asking about college they aren't there. But tbf it sounds like this guy shouldn't have gotten married if this is how he's going to carry himself. And if they think that's how they'd react in the same situation then they shouldn't get married either. Because you should be there for your family.
A person with a lot of time dont have a lot of money. A person with a lot of money dont have a lot of time. You chose which one you wanted to marry... Dont complain now...
Unless you also work too...you should stop complaining. Let your husband do what he has to do. It’s called sacrifices to advance the family. You should be ashamed of yourself for complaining about this.
Nah, husband and wife should get up super early and make time for each other. Work out together, talk, cook in kitchen and in bedroom. But mom hold down the fort while husband is out in the field.
I'm wondering if they cut that one short because her call was really not about money. They desperately need counseling help. The straw that broke the camel's back made its appearance while she has been working on the family finances, but she really didn't have a specific financial question for Dave to answer.
So what do u want him to do sit at home and be broke. Its a trade off time for money.. No one wants a dude that sits home and plays patty cake with them sitting in the dark.
Not emotionally or actively available, lady I wouldn't either after working 70 hours a week. Be thankful he's pulling in six figures and not working a dead end job.
Many men work all the time so they don't have to be with their families and be with them emotionally.Its easier to be a "never there" dad.Nothing is required of you cause you're working.Your wife feels like she's married to herself cause you're NEVER home.She often wonders why she got married since her partner in life makes freaking ZERO effort to spend time with her or their children!!!!!! SUCKS!!!!
Yeah Id end up cheating on a guy that works a lot and shows me no attention🤷.. just like a man needs to work a woman needs attention so it has to level out some type of way. If she doesn't complain or stops complaining you know why.. she got a little boo thang on the side🤗😉
Those hours worked is what earned him his money, which you were drawn to most likely. Women evolved to like a well off partner. It signals security and comfort. But, that also comes with a price. You must decide what you want. The nice house and cars, or not so nice house and below average vehicle.
That’s seriously hard for a wife to do when she’s so excited to see her husband again when he gets back..Especially when she really loves him..you’re definitely rt tho
Poor woman. At home, with the baby she wanted, watching Jerry Springer, meeting up with friends for coffee. How can the husband be so selfish by working so much?
Money and time are two different things. I know people that are rich that dont buy time. I'm like why dont you hire somebody to clean for you make $225 an hour why spend 3 hours of your time cleaning when you can pay somebody $100-$150 to clean for you.
He's gonna lose half of everything he's got + alimony. She should also realize the dude probably just wants to sleep. "You work too much so I'm leaving. Now give me half of everything you worked for."
I wish you would have asked if they have debt..... Working that much only makes sense if you have debt or love money...... If their in debt I would hold on just until I'm out of debt then get out.....also the people around him will only take the responsibility he allows them to take, saying no should not get you fired in fact if it does that would be a huge blessing to be out of such a toxic environment...... What do you all think am I out of line in this? Mostly because I am in a similar situation but I have some debt.....
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 not even close… I’m saying that if a family is in a tough spot financially and the man is working a lot to get out of it then it might make sense that he is working a lot, but if he just loves money it’s different…. And I as a man who loves my wife but works a lot because of debt, I hope that she understands that I feel I’m doing everything in my power to keep food on the table….
I work for Amazon and took 1 day off. Got my check and seen how low it was. Usually I'm paid $950 or a lil more.... That 1 day off Costed me $150.. I'm not taking nomore days off ! Be happy he's bringing in the Cheese!
Solution is she has to work around his schedule perhaps meeting him at office when he has breaks or he calling her for 30 minutes or something during the working day when he has capacity. Banking is a very stressful job.
Yeah, if his coworkers won’t get jealousy and tell on him to the boss “Jim is taking 1 hr lunches and spending it with his wife!” Then the boss will change the company “rules” to keep the man from spending enough time with his wife. This happened to me. In my husbands old job, I used to make his lunch and eat with him every day for 30-45 minuets at a nearby park. It was a blast!!! When he switched jobs, his miserable and jealous coworkers saw him do that with me and the complained that “lunch was too long” and started complaining about all sorts of random things pertaining to the lunch break. The result: I was low key banned from having lunch with my own husband while he is at work... mind you I was pregnant when this happened... he was buy his pregnant wife food and they were so jealous of our love that they banned me basically... btw most of those men are in tattered relationships unfortunately and they are envious...
I’m in the same situation as this wife and if my husband was working hard and I could see the retirement account growing and didn’t have to scrimp from the grocery budget to save for braces I’d be a lot less likely to complain about the hours. Men who work hard should be man enough to accept Dave’s plan. Every time I bring up money my husband brings up one of three things Trumps bankruptcies, it takes a million to make a million or he’s the only one working (we own our own business and I help at least three days a week and every time he calls in a crisis). If he’s killing it with the savings and no debt and a good plan with good income she won’t complain.
Since $ is the #1 reason for divorce maybe Ramsey SHOULD start a marriage counseling section of FPU and hire a therapist to give a quick Dr Phil session with the caller that need it. Ramsey + Dr. Phil would be diabolical!!!! My idea!!!
There's no mention whether if they're in debt which he could be working to pay before retiring; if there is savings for college for their child; if she's working or not, etc. A lot of information not said that could explain his lack of emotional involvement rather than saying he's a workaholic. I do know if her anger and resentment continues, she'll drive herself crazy. Who's the other dude anyway?
Not that this is the case....but what if the wife doesn’t understand the demands of the job? Like would she complain if he was a Doctor working long hours?
She sounds like a kind, understanding woman who has put up with this for a long time. She says he's ignoring her. If he worked that long and helped her feel heard somehow, she'd probably continue to accept seeing less of him.
priti d not sure what the inner workings are as to why he works so much. It’s definitely not great for a marriage, but my question was, is there understanding for the demands of his job? Maybe his job requires excessive hours....maybe it doesn’t....but that’s my point. Are the demands of his job understood and have (as they mentioned in the video) you communicated this to him? If it’s not clear to him and he thinks it’s not a job deal, then there’s communication gaps....and that’s worse.
@Pho Lyfe they should but they often don't. If you're in law, and you're not working in house or in a nice government job reaping the benefits of public sector union representation, 80 hour weeks aren't uncommon. Lots of doctors have notoriously bad hours too. I'm fact, lots of high paying office jobs have terrible hours. The workers are never unionized, so the competitive job market increases their bargaining power that much more. Plus lots of companies are trying to make their workforces younger, so older employees get really worried about layoffs.. I believe the guy
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
If he works to much then pick up more hours yourself. I worked 84 hours a week for a long time. Not because I wanted to, but because I had to. Have to pay the bills and still make a living. Easy to say stop working so much but at the end you will lose a lot of what he worked for or earned. Pick up some work to lessen the burden on him.
In a similar situation to this woman. My husband would argue this. But he isn’t working to pay our household bills. He’s working to pay the bills on the businesses. Killing himself to run his own business rather than work for someone else.
Okay, let me ask this: Are you willing to accept the reality of him losing his job, or being paid less at another job, then? Is his availability more important to you than your and your child's quality of life? Because if he does listen to you, and he does cut back, the very consequences you think he's afraid of could come true; will you still support him then, or will you resent him for that change? If the latter, then you don't value this issue as much as you claim. Also, I could literally *feel* her anger when she said she is not aggressive; if you are not aggressive, then you should not _get_ aggressive when someone posits that you might be so.
Hey im in san antonio too...pick up a hobby. He's working and providing for his family. You'd have bigger problems if he was home all the time cause he isn't working.
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
Why is she complaining? She is probably a stay at home mum with too much time on her hands. Get a job yourself and then you will cherish every dollar that he brings home. She doesn't sound very grateful... if I were him, I don't wanna come home to this...
It is true. People who have to work tend to view money differently and not spend it as carelessly. Or by being at work it doesn't allow them to sit at home bored so they go shopping or shop online to compensate for the boredom. Poor guy is pry in a bunch of debt and has to put in these hours to stay above water.
@Conservative Prosecutor it's a number you need to reach not the job itself. I think your thinking of millions on millions of dollars as a minimum to retire (or something) when most people just need to cover their expenses with a little extra. Do your own research on early retirement. But I'll give you my personal plan. We're living on what my wife makes and saving everything I make. In 10 to 15 years we'll have enough.
Crazy woman, she should be grateful that she does not live in a time, when men actually had to go out and risked their lives to hunt to feed their families. The guy is working hard to food out on the table and give you a better Life, so stop crying 😢
I pray the people here making false presumptions about this woman and then advocating for violence aka divorce (If Dave reads his Bible as much as he claims, he would know that God calls "divorce" violence and it is and he is disgusted and doesn't condone those who make the folly to do it) never get married to some poor soul who doesn't believe in balance. Even Dave, the workaholic that HE is, made time for his wife. Even God Himself says - "Come together again after a time otherwise more troubles come". Clearly, this woman sounds like she's tried to put up with her husband working too much. Even if there is debt, and you are trying to get out of it, a marriage is a partnership and you have to compromise and BOTH find balance to spend time together while also building your household. Dave should know this as a self-processing Christian. You MAKE the time time to get important non-work related stuff done - spend time with your loved ones. That is ALSO important stuff to be done. I feel so sorry for her. My husband works all the time and I'm working too, despite both of us being homeless, and we are following Dave Ramsey's plan - or at least I am. My husband uses the car for work and I work from home, due to my chronic kidney disease and gastroparesis, and I try to do multiple side hustles to make income. Yet when I try to make time for my husband, he is almost always working at his job and I try not to complain, though when the laundry piles up and he complains about having clean clothes, he makes excuses for his company who makes him work over 18 hours a day. :( He won't eat properly, he won't even go to the doctor when sick, he tries to tell me to go see the doctor when HIS boss says so - my health treatments don't revolve around his boss. That's not the way the world works.
"I'm not aggressive"....she sounded aggressive saying that. She also sounds like she follows him around every room of the house nagging and complaining.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 Mizz Emily Greene, I care less what you think! Don't pick fights you can't win Mizzy! I could say something but I will hold my tongue, your NOT worth the effort to acknowledge a single mother (I'm sure you are). I DID NOT START A FIGHT WITH YOU. YOU STARTED ONE WITH ME!!!!!! SO PLEASE SHUT UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As a man who is married and has gone through something similar, I see exactly what this woman is going through. I was like this guy in a sense, but my eyes were eventually opened. I worked and went to school and at the end of the day never had any time or a listening ear for my wife. Unfortunately, we live in a time where people hide behind their security blanket of working more and more hours just to buy more stuff and are convinced and ultimately believe they are doing it for the benefit of their family when in reality it's doing more harm than good. If all our lives are just work work work and we send our kids to daycare for someone else to raise them, what kind of life is that? When the kids get older they aren't going to say man I wished I had more clothes when I was younger but how they wished their dad was home more or mom was available. Everything in life is a trade off. You can work more and spend less time with the people and things that matter most in life, but in the end all that matters is what you did with your life and your relationships. We live in a brainwashed society that puts temporary meaningless things above the most important things in life. I will never let a job or anything else steal my time with my family or prevent me from doing those things in life that bring me happiness and meaning. Some people are just making a living but not making a life.
Thank you for moving forward towards your family. I imagine that it was incredibly hard! Most people with that problem cannot snap out of it; you are especially amazing.
Trust the_process Not at all. I'm a happily married grown man who has a lot of wisdom to share. Unfortunately most people can't see past their own insecurities and their own selfish desires. Although we live in such a self centered and selfish society, I've learned that true happiness is in serving others and thinking of yourself less. When you truly have wisdom and can see past yourself and realize what's most important in life, then you can see that life is temporary and things you thought were urgent or necessary aren't so much so.
Words of wisdot
@@briancolburn2765 Amen! You are one of the few, if not the only man, that I've seen in this comments section who call it like it is - even if the selfish men and guys or gals don't like it. You are 100% accurate. In fact, I think Dave Ramsey could LEARN from YOU. Family IS the most important because money doesn't mean a hill of beans in the end. Family trumps being obsessed with material goods like money.
I honestly think my husband would look back and wish he had more clothes when he was younger. He’s a shopaholic now, and he told me how kids would make fun of his clothes and the brands he wore because they didn’t have a lot of money back then.
Your money will never wake up one day and say "I can't do this anymore, I want a divorce"
Truer words are yet to be spoken!!!
Your money also won’t give you life long companionship and acceptance.
@@bunniewood I think the solution Is to have a romantic partner but never get married...or have kids
@@alucardvekkia3966 spot on
I am shocked by these comments. As a man, we are to care for our home and people there. I left my job of 15 yrs, reduced my pay in half and had to shock my budget to adjust to our new lifestyle....but I am much more happy. My kids get to see me. I enjoy mornings and evenings with them. The almighty dollar should not run your home. The love you have for your wife and children should.
Thank you. You are a rare man.
I agree brother no dollar amount would ever make my live evolve around work. I love my wife to much. At the end of the day that job is replaceable but your family is not. A lot of men struggle with realizing this!!
A lot of truth in this. But if he is locked into debt and she is not working then he has no real choice. He is likely scared of losing what they have because there is no other income coming in.
@Templar and they as a team need to dig deep into their numbers. Reduce spending to allow the cash to snowball other expenses. Find that financial freedom and spend more time at home.
@@outdoorsnevada4138 , she is screaming for communication. His first duty is to his home. He needs to open his ears before he loses his first jewel.
As a kid my old man worked from 7am to 11PM every single day except for Sunday for as long as I could remember.
I always appreciated how hard he worked, but I have to admit there was a time I kind of resented it in my teens, and after getting caught vandalizing I used the excuse of him not being around for why i was acting up - and instantly I started seeing him tearing up which got me chocked up since hes a strong stoic person who I would never have expected to get emotional (especially not on front of his kids). He went on to explain how he was working so hard for the family, and in truth I knew it. Ever since then I never took a day he worked for granted.
Haha now that I'm all grown up, and working myself, I strive to be even half the man he was since he was and is such a exceptional father. Cheers to awesome dads!
I'm 50 years old. I am self employed. I work 60-70 hours a week taking care of every aspect of my small business by myself. I love to work. And I have no employees. I am a one man show. But if my wife ever says she needs me, I stop everything I am doing to tend to her wants/needs/desires. I married my wife. Not my business. This guy really appears to be married to his work. I would rather be poor than lose my relationship with my wife. A Christ centered marriage most certainly adds balance and stability to managing business and marriage. Next to Jesus Himself, my wife is my best friend. She knows it, so does the Lord Jesus.
Good for you. I wish my husband to get to this place.
I wish my husband would think this way. It is not always about making a dollar. As long as bills are paid, and we are living comfortable. The high demands of a job are relentless, whether working for oneself or otherwise. It is of absolute neccessity for a married couple to be there for and spend time with each other as much as possible. I see no harm done in taking a day off here or there. Life is too short, and we must focus on the more important things.
I wish my husband felt this way about our marriage. It’s all I want..
@@JesusIsTheGoodSheppard one of the greatest blessings that God could ever give you is a wife. My wife is a proverbs 31 wife through and through. It took an Act of God to get her in my life. If I ever lost her, it would take an act of God for me to have such a blessing for a woman again much less be able to call her my wife.
@@gibbyturner4500 Let me know how that works out when you can't go on your spending sprees
Here’s the real question, is she willing to accept that he may have to get a pay cut spend more time with her?
Then she will complain she can't spend all his hard earned $$$ she was used to spending. This guy needs a good divorce lawyer. $$$ well spent...
I think she is, and I bet her child would be happier too.
@@starastronomerexactly
I would never work more than 8 hours a day. As soon as I get home, my 18-month old daughter is wobbling towards me with her arms wide open. No words can describe that feeling.
Let me guess Dave says keep working lol
He also needs a "Dave Job", like delivering pizza. 13 hours? I mean, there's still time in the day! Hahaha!
Nah Dave is gonna tell him to find that magical job where he's paid the same but works less hours.
😂
And pay off her debt lol 😂
AND SELL THE CAR... IT'S GOTTA GO!
My husband is a police officer and fortunately has opportunities to make a lot of extra off duty money through the city. The pay is high and the stress is relatively low but it’s VERY time consuming. He will literally work quadruple shifts (counting his regular job) and many weekends I only see him when he’s able to come home to sleep for an hour.
I end up missing him during those busy days but I appreciate his hard work and remind myself that he’s doing it for his family. He is good about taking some nights off to spend at home with us.
The only reason this woman is upset is because her husband is emotionally unavailable as a father. Not because he doesn't care for the home or works alot. If he made the effort to be involved with his family I'm sure she would not be as resentful as she is now. It's not always able the money y'all.
@Jennifer P. OR it's likely that even having a child that is LIKELY a teenager means that him being involved and available is even more essential. Children don't just grow up and are left to their own vices. Parenting is critical especially as a teen. I really want you all to look at the bigger picture other then the typical 'she just needs to get a hobby" response
I mean I can see where you’re coming from but I’d like to know some important facts I think she left out
1. How long have they been married
2. How old is the child
3. What kind of person is she ( attention needing or not )
4. What’s his job
5. What does she do all day especially if the kids a teenager
6. What is she doing really other than saying hey spend time with me to actually change the situation
7. how old is she
I think when those questions have been answered we all can understand the situation better than just a few lines of him working too much and what not
Or she could start from a place of appreciation and work from there to see how hard he works to give her a certain lifestyle. To me she sounds ungrateful. She never once said "I understand or he is wonderful at this & that". Her level of negativity shows she has a very self centered point of view. Guys used to leave for months at a time for work but now women are like I NEED ATTENTION EVERY DAY
This
@@triad6425 Well stated facts.
this is the same woman that will leave him if he loses his job 🤣
cornelious she’s too old for that lol she’s hit the wall
@@carltonhenry7671 Yeah but she doesn't know that.
TRUTH
@@carltonhenry7671 hit the wall?
Facts.
You work it's a problem, you don't work it's a problem, you work too little or too much it's a problem!? We are a bipolar society
Vinny T. Exactly this is ridiculous. U know he’s paying for everything . She needs to humble herself it’s not all about her
Agreed
😆 I agree & am a wife of workaholic husband. My husband works a lot but I do not resent him. In fact, I support him all the way. I do not complain, but we both are very transparent with each other. I tell him my expectations & so does he. I take care of the home & kids primarily but also helps him out whenever & whatever I can with our small business. My husband is very driven, passionate about his goals & ambitions & disciplined. These are the reasons why I fell in love with him from the start. I guess the problem with people nowadays is that they see each other’s behaviors & personalities in the beginning but ignore them thinking they can change that person once their married (false expectations). You saw what’s coming (negative/bad) but you went into it anyway. (???) There’s no acceptance & loving that person unconditionally. Before marriage, there’s should be a big sign saying, “ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK.” Just saying 😊
Alexandrina Castillo I see your point but life takes funny turns...marriage, kids, priorities change. It’s give and take I guess.
Vinny T. American women bruh...🤷🏽♂️
Work's too much..... but I bet she enjoys spending that cash..... On payday.
Woman!!! they don't really know what they want
Marrying an American woman is a risky activity for us guys
And I bet she'll gladly take the half + alimony.
Its not worth it.
Just stay single guys
Maybe he's in the office because at home he's got a whinosaurus.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! THIS COMMENT SECTION ROCKS XD!!
Lol
"You work too much! I want you to spend time with me, I'm bored staying home all day!"
"We're broke, you need to work more so I can stay home and shop more!"
Facts
YUP!
100%
Guess you never raised a child and would be very happy with a room-mate "spouse"
Dont work enough women complain
Work too much women complain
Maybe some women want the man and not the money. Yeah that makes them terrible.
@@trustthe_process4371 Right 🤣 the fact that's shes on Dave's RUclips channel speaks for itself
@@jordyjustine she'd take half + alimony tho. What about the man then?
Ok so it sounds like you guys know some despotic women, how unfortunate. I'm not going to assume all men are the same or that all women must be feminists either. Maybe you should do the same after you heal your butthurt.
@@jordyjustine No all women are not the same but ALL American women are the same (yes that was a generalization)
I don't understand all these comments of how it's risky to marry a woman or that she is fiscally irresponsible, in a relationship both the man and the woman need to spend time together and even more if they have kids, they can downsize their lifestyle, find a different job with less hours
I feel bad for the Husband.
I feel bad for him as a husband, not as a bank executive.
@@jcrowley1985 yeah bankers are pretty slimy
YUP!
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 she a freeloader
In the guy’s defense, my wife says the same thing but admits she doesn’t like even thinking about financial budgeting. Before we met, she frequently received overdraft notices and ever since we’ve been together, she’s always wanted more money to spend and less time with me at work.
My story is a common tale.
I would rather lose my wife and be rich or well off then have my wife and be broke or barely getting by. Of course I would prefer both at the same time but it's not always that way based on the cards you're dealt. Get the money problem out the way first. Your wife will resent you whether you are working too much or barely making. Every lady with kids wants an available well off guy.
Yeah he needs to get away from her because she’s obviously getting in the way of his purpose…The man has a very prestigious position, sounds like she stresses him out because if he didn’t make the money he make they wouldn’t have the lifestyle…
this is the worst, you work hard at work, then come home and have to deal with wife who is giving u bs like this. just dont get married guys, at least noone is gonna get on ur nerves when u come home from work.
Maybe there in debt. Maybe she’s buying Gucci and Chanel while he is out there working trying to pay off the credit cards
Very common issue in house holds. Or he isn't happy at home and is working overtime just to avoid going home. I am willing to bet though their debt is high or standard of living with him the only one working. Hard to pay the house, utilities, multiple vehicles etc on 40 a week. Very few people willingly work non stop
Isaac Spencer I think your spot on. With both. He either working overtime to avoid being home or they are so much in debt to keep up with the lifestyle. If your an executive you can retire very quickly with all that money.
Fair point!
"I'm not aggresive"......said no woman EVER
She's not aggressive, she's passive aggressive.
I was muttering "sure" lol
She has a valid concern. I dont think shes ungrateful but He just needs to balance his time with work and family. Its more to life than being a provider. You have to be emotionally available as well.
She also may need to find a way to bring in an income. Less financial stress on him but also people who tend to work also spend money differently because they are having to put in the hours to buy it. The world of one person working 40 hours a week to provide for an entire household is gone. Either one works a lot or both work. Sad but true
It’s not like once she brings in money, he’s going to work less. I promise, he does it because he wants to. Has nothing to do with her (unless he’s trying to avoid her by overworking)
Marrying an American woman is a risky activity for us guys.
dachicagoan That is her fault for waiting so long to find a man settle down with. Women need to be realistic with their fertility window if they want children.
Go for Caribbean women, you cant lose been with my wife from Jamaica for years am never going back to American women
dachicagoan That's the point. If a woman has aspirations to be a mother, she needs to plan accordingly and set a reasonable time table. Waiting until she already in her 30s(which many women do now) to start looking for a life partner is not a good start.
Donelle Anderson Caribbean women are the most amazing things on this earth.
@@matthewclaiborne229 lol am not against American but been with them my whole life I always lose
I feel sorry for her. Yes, he has to work but he also has to be a husband and a father. It's called balance.
Its easy to complain when shes not the one showing any worries about his legitimate concerns on case he loses his job or something like that. Not to mention no one has asked how underwater they are, if they are, and hes trying to make sure the household is solid. Way too little info and very rushed call...
@@aightwellsee3347 A guess from my experience... she probably accepted emotional distance from day one...it simply escalated as they got emotionally closer over the years. Don't think that all good men are emotionally available. He may not be capable if he's a workaholic in denial about having avoidant attachment style.
@@aightwellsee3347 So saying, it's also a woman's fault too for "settling" for a good man who's stable and risk averse...but emotionally distant. It's hard to see though. This is what happens.
Shawnte Bell oh give
Me a break, never put down a man that works hard. This girl is just a bundle full of emotion.
@priti d Amen! Unfortunately many dont appreciate a responsible hard working spouse, they think the grass is greener elsewhere and itll be their loss in the end.
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
Amen! Thanks for being one of the few voices of sense among this comments section.
I guess I'm supposed to fall in line with the string of defensive male apologists here, but...REALITY CHECK.... when you get married, it's time to scale back all your interests and obsessions, including overtime addiction. When it goes beyond a temporary focus to get out of debt or some other specific mutual goal to a habitual escape from home responsibilities disguised as "doing everything I can to support my family", it's time to re-examine what being a man is all about, and the most selfish thing you can do is insist that your wife should approve of your obsession and excessive absence. "Working to make ends meet" is no excuse for your time management failures.
All very good points. He can also work less if she gets a job.
@@ds2k15 I agree. Hopefully she is reading this. She should get a job or a higher paying one if she does have one.
I scaled back work to spend more time with my kids and haven't regretted it once. Sacrificing your family to the almighty dollar is selfish.
Kids want more time with their parents, not bigger houses and flashier cars.
I wish I had this problem. Being a hard worker vs being lazy.
As a guy, had to get hit by a 2X4 to hear. Similar problem, similar scenario. It just needs to get worked out... Easier say'd then done though.
There's probably a lot to the other side of the story.
Like him feeling anxious about money because he's the only one working.
Newsflash people I’m sure many of us don’t wanna work more than 8 hours a day but the bill keep coming and the only way to pay them is working I my self would love it if I didn’t have to get up at 4 or 5 in the morning and come back at 6 or 7 at nigth
First of all, it is not “your” child it is his child too. If you have a nice home, bills paid, and a luxury lifestyle, why is she complaining. She sounds REALLY ungrateful to me. Let him fall off and no longer be able to provide the same standard of living and watch that time change.
I'm debt freeeee!! Yesterday I finished paying off my $40,000 stupid debt (credit cards, weddings, loans etc). My income went from $0 (I had no job for more than a month) to $30k to then $80k now that I am married. Together my husband (30) and I (28) paid the debt in 12 MONTHS. We finished 1 month earlier than we had planned! We have been watching every single dollar like a hawk, our rent is not cheap so our journey was not easy. We basically survived one income (Which is good to know, because I hope to get pregnant in the next year). Now that our debt is paid off, we will save for a mini holiday and then hopefully grow our family :)
I found Dave last year, I actually heard about him through my husband who heard about him through the minimalists. I'm so glad we went through this journey together (as dumb as that may seem), but i really feel like we're set up for more wins in the future than most of our friends. We know what it feels like to be drowning in debt, I couldn't have even imagined paying $500 towards our car last year... but most of this year we were putting $2,000 a month towards the debt.
My husband and I both did weekend gardening work on the side, we shared one car for the whole year (work is nearby for both of us thankfully), we said no to friends MANY times, we sold our stuff, we started growing our own veggies, we changed all our utilities plans, we did nearly everything. The ONE thing we didn't compromise on was our groceries, in that they were mostly from a butcher/local fruit shop, we truly believe that we are making an investment in our health by eating right. That doesn't mean we got the best cuts of meat, because we certainly didn't haha. We stopped buying clothes, and if we did it was from a second hand store.
Thanks Dave for setting us up for a great future!
@Conservative Prosecutor wow thanks for being so negative. We've been together 9 years for your information.
@Conservative Prosecutor Hahah. Good luck, you sound like a real catch (not).
I realized a lot of people who comment in Dave’s comment section either hate women or blame women for everything. It’s kind of sad. Everything is the women’s fault. The man can do no wrong.
Different commenters come in on different videos. The other week there was a video about buying gold and all of the lurking gold bugs came out in force. Also Dave more often than not takes the side of the woman even when a guy is calling in. I've seen and heard this over and over again. Maybe you'll notice it a bit more now.
About the "man can do no wrong" part. They literally only explore why this is his fault instead of asking what she could do to better the situation as well.
ds2k15 i am not trying to dissect every video but on this particular video all this women warns is to spend time with her husband. She said nothing else. Almost every other comment was well that’s why men shouldn’t get married. That’s doesn’t event make any sense. All she wants is to be a family at home and some men in these comment section go batshit crazy. Everytime a men calls in there are serval comments bashing women. Me and my wife both work and can’t afford our bills....should have never got married.........I work and my wife stays hoe because child care is too much......should have never gotten married.........I want to prosposed to my girlfriend but I am in debt and want to save for a ring.......Don’t get married. This is my first time commenting on it because it was prevalent in an innocent video of wife wanting to spend time with her husband.
Conservative Prosecutor life is easy men can tell you that......sure. Women have to give birth then choose between having an career or not. If we choose to have career then we face discrimination. If we choose to stay home we face discrimination. Heaven forbids something medically goes wrong with child birth. We could be out of work for years and struggle to get back into the work place or die. Now I am not saying men don’t have their own struggles because everyone does but women have it slightly harder then men.
@@LilMermaid28 Yeah, I just explained that different types of people come out on different videos. This one caters to those types of dudes. On the gold video they weren't there. On a video about a kid asking about college they aren't there.
But tbf it sounds like this guy shouldn't have gotten married if this is how he's going to carry himself. And if they think that's how they'd react in the same situation then they shouldn't get married either. Because you should be there for your family.
When you're a man, you gotta work
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Tell him to get a second job.
Tell her to get a job
@@Armadillo247 You missed the joke 😂
The ungrateful woman.
agree
A person with a lot of time dont have a lot of money. A person with a lot of money dont have a lot of time. You chose which one you wanted to marry... Dont complain now...
Unless you also work too...you should stop complaining. Let your husband do what he has to do. It’s called sacrifices to advance the family. You should be ashamed of yourself for complaining about this.
Nah, husband and wife should get up super early and make time for each other. Work out together, talk, cook in kitchen and in bedroom. But mom hold down the fort while husband is out in the field.
or she could help with the burden and get a job?
are u saying she should get a job? how dare u?????
The queen may never work🤪🤦🏽♂️
How about you just say thank you for working so hard for us and.being a great provider and shut the hell up and be greatful
She should get a job so he doesn't have to work so much. Bet she'll be singing a different tune then.
Dave: he needs to get another job on top of this one.
Waaay INCOMPLETE interview.
UNPROFESSIONAL Dave
I'm wondering if they cut that one short because her call was really not about money. They desperately need counseling help. The straw that broke the camel's back made its appearance while she has been working on the family finances, but she really didn't have a specific financial question for Dave to answer.
So what do u want him to do sit at home and be broke. Its a trade off time for money.. No one wants a dude that sits home and plays patty cake with them sitting in the dark.
Or maybe she should go work 13 hours a day plus commute while he stays at home with the kid. She'll be singing a different tune then.
@@ds2k15 it would not work in reverse it would still be complaints
I do
Not emotionally or actively available, lady I wouldn't either after working 70 hours a week. Be thankful he's pulling in six figures and not working a dead end job.
If you’re stuck in a job working 70 hours a week it sounds like a dead end to me...
Many men work all the time so they don't have to be with their families and be with them emotionally.Its easier to be a "never there" dad.Nothing is required of you cause you're working.Your wife feels like she's married to herself cause you're NEVER home.She often wonders why she got married since her partner in life makes freaking ZERO effort to spend time with her or their children!!!!!! SUCKS!!!!
Yeah Id end up cheating on a guy that works a lot and shows me no attention🤷.. just like a man needs to work a woman needs attention so it has to level out some type of way. If she doesn't complain or stops complaining you know why.. she got a little boo thang on the side🤗😉
Then you deserve a broke man
How about you get a job and support your household then?
Those hours worked is what earned him his money, which you were drawn to most likely. Women evolved to like a well off partner. It signals security and comfort. But, that also comes with a price. You must decide what you want. The nice house and cars, or not so nice house and below average vehicle.
Templar we all do. But that’s not how life works unless you were born rich.
He doesnt wanna talk when he gets home because he needs a minute to de compress. Let the man chill
That’s seriously hard for a wife to do when she’s so excited to see her husband again when he gets back..Especially when she really loves him..you’re definitely rt tho
When he starts to work less she will then start complaining about money. Lose lose situation. Lol
Poor woman. At home, with the baby she wanted, watching Jerry Springer, meeting up with friends for coffee. How can the husband be so selfish by working so much?
He shouldn't have married her, she's obliviously unsupportive.
"I'M NOT AGGRESSIVE!; right right"
😂😂 that part was GOLD
Its time for everything dont be greedy dont let the money control u
Ha! Tell that to her at the divorce table.
Money and time are two different things. I know people that are rich that dont buy time. I'm like why dont you hire somebody to clean for you make $225 an hour why spend 3 hours of your time cleaning when you can pay somebody $100-$150 to clean for you.
He's gonna lose half of everything he's got + alimony. She should also realize the dude probably just wants to sleep.
"You work too much so I'm leaving. Now give me half of everything you worked for."
The terrible 50's.
God i hate these kind of woman if husband work hard they cry if husband dont work they cry
Cry if THEY have to work.
I wish you would have asked if they have debt..... Working that much only makes sense if you have debt or love money...... If their in debt I would hold on just until I'm out of debt then get out.....also the people around him will only take the responsibility he allows them to take, saying no should not get you fired in fact if it does that would be a huge blessing to be out of such a toxic environment...... What do you all think am I out of line in this? Mostly because I am in a similar situation but I have some debt.....
So you are encouraging divorce once they are out of debt? That's wrong and stupid on so many levels.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 not even close… I’m saying that if a family is in a tough spot financially and the man is working a lot to get out of it then it might make sense that he is working a lot, but if he just loves money it’s different…. And I as a man who loves my wife but works a lot because of debt, I hope that she understands that I feel I’m doing everything in my power to keep food on the table….
My husband wants me to not work 11pm t.o 1 30 am then he goes and works overnight shifts😭😭😭
I work for Amazon and took 1 day off. Got my check and seen how low it was. Usually I'm paid $950 or a lil more....
That 1 day off Costed me $150..
I'm not taking nomore days off ! Be happy he's bringing in the Cheese!
Bi weekly?
@@fisephalnoxt Yupp
The husband is likely on salary. He even has the option to work from home a few days.
@@cammims7645 That's not bad man!
There is always the possibility of her getting a Job
Solution is she has to work around his schedule perhaps meeting him at office when he has breaks or he calling her for 30 minutes or something during the working day when he has capacity. Banking is a very stressful job.
He did make money his career choice...
Yeah, if his coworkers won’t get jealousy and tell on him to the boss “Jim is taking 1 hr lunches and spending it with his wife!” Then the boss will change the company “rules” to keep the man from spending enough time with his wife. This happened to me. In my husbands old job, I used to make his lunch and eat with him every day for 30-45 minuets at a nearby park. It was a blast!!! When he switched jobs, his miserable and jealous coworkers saw him do that with me and the complained that “lunch was too long” and started complaining about all sorts of random things pertaining to the lunch break. The result: I was low key banned from having lunch with my own husband while he is at work... mind you I was pregnant when this happened... he was buy his pregnant wife food and they were so jealous of our love that they banned me basically... btw most of those men are in tattered relationships unfortunately and they are envious...
would you be satisfied with a 15 minute marriage?
And this is how women become miserable house wives with a load of children and no help 💔
may be he is working hard so that they can have a peaceful retirement
I’m in the same situation as this wife and if my husband was working hard and I could see the retirement account growing and didn’t have to scrimp from the grocery budget to save for braces I’d be a lot less likely to complain about the hours. Men who work hard should be man enough to accept Dave’s plan. Every time I bring up money my husband brings up one of three things Trumps bankruptcies, it takes a million to make a million or he’s the only one working (we own our own business and I help at least three days a week and every time he calls in a crisis). If he’s killing it with the savings and no debt and a good plan with good income she won’t complain.
I thought this was a Financial Advice show, Not marriage counseling.
Since $ is the #1 reason for divorce maybe Ramsey SHOULD start a marriage counseling section of FPU and hire a therapist to give a quick Dr Phil session with the caller that need it. Ramsey + Dr. Phil would be diabolical!!!! My idea!!!
Sounds like this guy is working at JPMC!
There's no mention whether if they're in debt which he could be working to pay before retiring; if there is savings for college for their child; if she's working or not, etc. A lot of information not said that could explain his lack of emotional involvement rather than saying he's a workaholic. I do know if her anger and resentment continues, she'll drive herself crazy.
Who's the other dude anyway?
What if there is no other dude. There's a thought?
Hes got a young thing hes working on. Probably a new teller. Good luck!
I'd hate to see if her husband was a truck driver like me...
Not that this is the case....but what if the wife doesn’t understand the demands of the job? Like would she complain if he was a Doctor working long hours?
She sounds like a kind, understanding woman who has put up with this for a long time. She says he's ignoring her. If he worked that long and helped her feel heard somehow, she'd probably continue to accept seeing less of him.
priti d not sure what the inner workings are as to why he works so much. It’s definitely not great for a marriage, but my question was, is there understanding for the demands of his job? Maybe his job requires excessive hours....maybe it doesn’t....but that’s my point. Are the demands of his job understood and have (as they mentioned in the video) you communicated this to him? If it’s not clear to him and he thinks it’s not a job deal, then there’s communication gaps....and that’s worse.
Or if the roles were reversed...
@Pho Lyfe they should but they often don't. If you're in law, and you're not working in house or in a nice government job reaping the benefits of public sector union representation, 80 hour weeks aren't uncommon. Lots of doctors have notoriously bad hours too.
I'm fact, lots of high paying office jobs have terrible hours. The workers are never unionized, so the competitive job market increases their bargaining power that much more. Plus lots of companies are trying to make their workforces younger, so older employees get really worried about layoffs..
I believe the guy
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
Notice that you won't see any woman commenting on this. What does it tell you?
If he works to much then pick up more hours yourself. I worked 84 hours a week for a long time. Not because I wanted to, but because I had to. Have to pay the bills and still make a living. Easy to say stop working so much but at the end you will lose a lot of what he worked for or earned. Pick up some work to lessen the burden on him.
In a similar situation to this woman. My husband would argue this. But he isn’t working to pay our household bills. He’s working to pay the bills on the businesses. Killing himself to run his own business rather than work for someone else.
Okay, let me ask this: Are you willing to accept the reality of him losing his job, or being paid less at another job, then? Is his availability more important to you than your and your child's quality of life? Because if he does listen to you, and he does cut back, the very consequences you think he's afraid of could come true; will you still support him then, or will you resent him for that change? If the latter, then you don't value this issue as much as you claim.
Also, I could literally *feel* her anger when she said she is not aggressive; if you are not aggressive, then you should not _get_ aggressive when someone posits that you might be so.
thats because she is holding in all her anger. she is about to get aggressive with him
Hey im in san antonio too...pick up a hobby. He's working and providing for his family. You'd have bigger problems if he was home all the time cause he isn't working.
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
cmon if a man likes working why do you feel that he can just change
Poor guy, he needs new wife who will take care of him after he comes home working all day, not this spoiled brat who calls radio show to compain
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
then she will divorce him, take half his stuff, then he will be forever working just to pay his and her bills.
How ironic lol
It’s amazing to me how down right nasty these comment sections get over a 3 minute snapshot of the caller’s life. So many hurtful assumptions about her being needy, spending “his” money, she “just needs to shut up and be quiet”..it’s so sad. Work/life balance is needed for a healthy relationship with not only your significant other and family, but also yourself. These are human beings calling in- not trolls and bots like I’m HOPING the majority of the self-righteous anti marriage and anti women commenters are.
Why is she complaining? She is probably a stay at home mum with too much time on her hands. Get a job yourself and then you will cherish every dollar that he brings home.
She doesn't sound very grateful... if I were him, I don't wanna come home to this...
rebeccawcleung yea but men settle way more than woman do . Sad smdh lol
It is true. People who have to work tend to view money differently and not spend it as carelessly. Or by being at work it doesn't allow them to sit at home bored so they go shopping or shop online to compensate for the boredom. Poor guy is pry in a bunch of debt and has to put in these hours to stay above water.
This’ll be me when I get a carrier, honestly.
Look up early retirement. Work hard for 10-15 years then call it quits.
ds2k15
Ik. But I don’t want to retire tho
@Conservative Prosecutor it's a number you need to reach not the job itself. I think your thinking of millions on millions of dollars as a minimum to retire (or something) when most people just need to cover their expenses with a little extra. Do your own research on early retirement.
But I'll give you my personal plan. We're living on what my wife makes and saving everything I make. In 10 to 15 years we'll have enough.
There is two sides of this story.
Activate automatic Subtitles please!
He's banging on the side.
Crazy woman, she should be grateful that she does not live in a time, when men actually had to go out and risked their lives to hunt to feed their families. The guy is working hard to food out on the table and give you a better Life, so stop crying 😢
I pray the people here making false presumptions about this woman and then advocating for violence aka divorce (If Dave reads his Bible as much as he claims, he would know that God calls "divorce" violence and it is and he is disgusted and doesn't condone those who make the folly to do it) never get married to some poor soul who doesn't believe in balance. Even Dave, the workaholic that HE is, made time for his wife. Even God Himself says - "Come together again after a time otherwise more troubles come". Clearly, this woman sounds like she's tried to put up with her husband working too much. Even if there is debt, and you are trying to get out of it, a marriage is a partnership and you have to compromise and BOTH find balance to spend time together while also building your household. Dave should know this as a self-processing Christian. You MAKE the time time to get important non-work related stuff done - spend time with your loved ones. That is ALSO important stuff to be done. I feel so sorry for her. My husband works all the time and I'm working too, despite both of us being homeless, and we are following Dave Ramsey's plan - or at least I am. My husband uses the car for work and I work from home, due to my chronic kidney disease and gastroparesis, and I try to do multiple side hustles to make income. Yet when I try to make time for my husband, he is almost always working at his job and I try not to complain, though when the laundry piles up and he complains about having clean clothes, he makes excuses for his company who makes him work over 18 hours a day. :( He won't eat properly, he won't even go to the doctor when sick, he tries to tell me to go see the doctor when HIS boss says so - my health treatments don't revolve around his boss. That's not the way the world works.
I got a good idea why don't she go to work
Having a quack on, Dave, as a self-professed Christian, you should know better.
Shut up
Wish I worked so much
You were working overtime a few years ago.
Is she really crying, why?....
Get yourself an Asian woman
...get a job.
"I'm not aggressive"....she sounded aggressive saying that. She also sounds like she follows him around every room of the house nagging and complaining.
Hmmm, take a look in the mirror often? Hypocrisy and false presumptions doesn't become anyone.
Oh Lord, hearing her I know exactly why he's working that long.
DITTO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@starastronomer If you only care about yourself and want to be selfish, don't get married.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 Mizz Emily Greene, I care less what you think! Don't pick fights you can't win Mizzy! I could say something but I will hold my tongue, your NOT worth the effort to acknowledge a single mother (I'm sure you are). I DID NOT START A FIGHT WITH YOU. YOU STARTED ONE WITH ME!!!!!! SO PLEASE SHUT UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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