As a, married person with kids. communicating with your partner what your plans are is key. then when the balance is off it is expected with purpose for a plan that you have together. And listening to each other's needs so you can adjust accordingly. Bless this young man and his family.
This is possibly one of the simplest and best videos I've ever seen from Dave! Great answer and something I needed to hear at the moment! Ebb and flow and be present...☺️ Got it!
the things from my father I remember and treasure the most were the times we walked over to the pond and just spent time fishing, playing poker together, or even just sitting down and eating pizza together.
God bless man. Tried being an insurance agent at 22 as well, and I did it for a year and a half. It didn't work out, mind you, but I had a great experience and I'm in a far better compensated job now.
And people wonder why traditionally one parent is career focused and the other is home focused. One person can't be both in perfect balance all the time.
Don’t know what you mean. You work 40 hours a week. Add some traveling to that, it still gives u 15 hours in a day that you aren’t working. Yes u gotta sleep for 7-8 hours it that still leaves you 7-8 to do what you want. My parents both worked, my dad did a lot. I still saw them plenty. And my dad would make sure to prioritize important things like baseball tournaments for me.
at 31, the things from my father I remember and treasure the most were the times we walked over to the pond and just spent time fishing, playing poker together, or even just sitting down and eating pizza together.
Glad to see someone who has sustained wealth understand the need for balance and rest! Team no sleep is often suffering mentally because they dont believe in rest.
currently I am probably one of the lowest paid licensed civil engineers in the entire country. everyone keeps telling me I need to quit my job and go work someplace else that will pay me more and that at my level I should be making six figures. okay, but if I go anywhere else I'm also going to be pulling 60+ hour workweeks and sleeping in a hotel out of town every night. right now with my current job I kinda like being able to come home to my wife every night, I kinda like not having to work ridiculous amounts of mandatory overtime, I kinda like having every other Friday off, I kinda like having almost 300 hours of time off built up, I kinda like how my boss lets me work at my own pace and doesn't breathe down my back all the time. plus the pay isn't that bad... it may not be six figures, but it's still a little higher than the average household income in the country. Plus, I'll have my car paid off this summer then I can possibly have the house paid off next year or the following year and I'll be debt free. I'm going to milk this job as long as the company can keep its doors open because the higher pay isn't worth losing my home life and social life for.
@@HamiltonRb yeah I am justifying why I stay there. it's low pay, but I also don't want to sleep in a hotel every night, I don't want to work ridiculous overtime every day so I don't have a life outside of work. every other engineer that I talk to from other firms do exactly that. the extra money wouldn't be worth me being miserable for the rest of my life
@@drunclecookie216 You sound like you have your priorities straight then Ryan. I'm sure you want to be paid what you are worth though Ryan, and maybe you should talk to your employers about a raise, and then feel at ease. If you know what you are worth, and what others are making, guaranteed your employers do too. Good luck.
I could easily grow my business by 50% but it would require more time away from my family and even less personal time for myself. I have decided that I value free time more than the extra money. So I agree with Ryan's line of thought.
as an electrical engineer that knows other civil engineers this is a lie and generalization. to say all civil engineers that are paid high but have no time for their lives is a LIE! you can find another job willing to pay you more and still give you time off. you think your company is the only one that consider work life balance? most companies are moving into work life balance. ever wonder why you not even getting a raise at you present company if you're good? Just say you like where you are at life. instead of all these excuses of not wanting more out of life. smh
Having a 9-5 (or any 8 hour shift job), it's basically impossible. You wake up and spend an hour getting ready to go to work. Then most people usually commute about an hour to work. Then you spend lets say 8 hours + a lunch hour at work, for a total of 11 thus far. Then you need an hour to return home, which is about another hour. That's already 12 hours of the day. They say a person should sleep 8 hours a day. Now we're looking at 20 hours a day of pure surviving. You're looking at about 4 hours a day of "quality" time, in which you can do what you actually want to do. And that's only a possibility if you aren't complete exhausted from work already. You really only have the weekends, and the 1-2 weeks of vacation time you get annually, to actually do what you want! They call this "The American Dream"...
Before the industrial revolution people worked to learn a trade. They worked more hours at first, but after they mastered that trade, they worked for themselves and set their own hours. They decided what their time was worth and were more able to decide how to divide that time between work and family. Now that we live in a capitalistic society we bow to the needs of corporations to buy our time for work hours. We trade time we could be spending with our kids or marriage partners for work hours to keep food on the table, a roof over their head, and other bills paid so they can live a happy life, while at the same time we are losing touch with our families because they don’t know who we are anymore. For example, I work a overnight job to support my family. There is no way I can make enough money to make car payments, rent, utility payment, and buy groceries without the night - time differential. So the trade off is that I barely see my family and when I do, I’m tired because during the week they have a different schedule than I do. Anyone have any smart answers for that?
@@timothyroman9920 Before the industrial revolution, people worked all day long in the fields from dawn to dusk. Children worked also in the fields. Only the very rich could stay at home while their sl aves worked in the fields.
Best advice I think I've ever heard.i wish my ex husband had known this many years ago and applied it .im sending this to my son to watch to keep in mind for his future.thank you Dave.that new little family is going to flourish,I could tell he was taking it all in and had respect for you.
First build a sustainable base, if that means being off balance for a whie, so be it. First find peace, steady income and then find balance. No balance without a base and a steady income.
What the man said, life is eb and flow. Sometimes you're overwhelmed by life because of birth of your child or passing from a loved one, so you focus less on work. And sometimes you need to work your face off to save your company, so you focus less on family and love. Balancing it all out 50-50 is impossible, you will get overwhelmed in periods of times and thats okay. And long term you have to make decisions that fit YOUR life, not to any standards of some sort of balance, don't dedicate your life to hustle because garyvee says so and don't focus on spirituality because jay shetty says so. Do whatever fits your needs in the long term and don't set expectations to yourself and other people that you can't uphold.
Not to mention I have watched plenty of these Dave videos where he is telling people to get a 2nd job, 3rd job to pay debt. How are you supposed to have a healthy work/home balance that way, exactly?
@@moreofawave you dont and you can't. A work/life balance is give up extras like sports or plans to do one of the two. I work an average of 63.21 hours a week 6 days a week. So the idea of a work life balance is never a real thing if you wanna be successful.
I work with Small Business Owners. For most of my clients, work-life balance is hard. They have fewer resources to manage essential tasks and a finite amount of daily energy to manage them. To those who can onboard staff I teach process development and effective delegation. Overall though, your business simply cannot override your self-care. When your business is your output, knowing what is worth committing your energy to is essential!
Good advice Dave. To add...A relationship with Our Lord Jesus Christ and Him at the center of the family will be the right balance. Ora et Labora. And a family that prays together stays together.
My balance with work is I work straight 8:30-6:00 on Mondays and Tuesdays to start the week off right. Wednesdays-Thursdays I work 9:00-5:30 (taking a lunch break) then Fridays from 9:00-5:00 (taking a lunch break). I will never work past 6 (no exceptions) and I never work on the weekends/holidays. I did that crap for 3 years and it was too much. If I get fired for underperforming, oh well…I’ll find a new employer
I think Dave misses the point here. His answer seems to be "you're never in balance. You are always out of balance because at different periods you are focusing intently on one thing or another". That is true. But I think the question then becomes - how do you make sure that you are switching your focus properly? Dave assumes that you will have a healthy switching between different focuses (birth, job, kids, marriage, etc). Well what if you don't have that healthy switching? What if your kid is born and you only spend 8 hours with your wife after the kid is born and you are back to being focused on work? What if you find yourself not focusing much on kids, home, wife and are only focusing on job too much? What if you are only focused on kids and family and never really giving much to your job? Sure you can miss a soccer game and it's not the end of the world. But what if you miss 90% of their soccer games on Saturdays because you are working extra? Or what if you miss 50% of them? The caller is asking how to know what a good healthy balance is - over a long period of time. Sure, in the moment you will be completely focused on one thing (work, home or marriage) and therefore not in "balance". The balance comes from an overall look at how much you focus on those individual things over a longer period of time. I am almost positive that Dave did not have a "balanced" work/home life. You can't rise to be a CEO of a major corporation without spending way more time on your work than you do on your family. I am not saying it is bad - but it certainly couldn't have been balanced. It is clear that Dave is a Type A, driven person - and at times he is probably a workaholic. I think it comes down to priorities. We all have different priorities and different things that are important to us. And that's ok. If family is the most important thing to you then work your 40 hours a week and spend the rest of the time with your family. If work is the most important thing to you then work 80 hours a week and only see your family here and there. Just try and figure out what is most important for you and go from there.
Corey Burnett that’s easy to say. But what if you have to work extra hours to support your family? What if those hours are at an overnight job because a day job In your field doesn’t pay enough? And what if when you do see your family your exhausted because it’s difficult to switch between night hours during the week and day hours on the weekend? No one can answer questions like this until they walk in similar shoes.
This is one thing I’ve been struggling to do, not to mention working on my RUclips channel creating my budget videos every month trying to get outta debt. Haha I definitely don’t feel out of balance and I can’t imagine when I have a child how out of balance I’m going to be.
Wow! Good advice. I am going to keep focusing on providing quality content and the reveunes will come later. Your amazing. I am going to follow some of your models for success. Thanks again!
Mr. Ramsey will this work with parents who share joint custody? I'm planning on getting a second part time job in order to save a bit more money. Thanks
Juan Gonzalez I’m in a similar boat. My ex and I have been divorced for about 3 years now and I barely get to see my son. I work overnights just so I can afford child support, insurance for myself and my son, a roof over my head in a safe neighborhood I can bring my son to, and a safe working vehicle. It’s almost impossible and I worry that he barely knows me or that the little time I have to spend with him will make any real impact on his life. He spends more time with his grandfather, my ex-wife’s dad, and he’s an atheist. What kind of impact, if any, am I going to have on his life as a struggling Christian part - time dad?
Yes but working from home means (or should mean) still working. Not playing with your kid. You can do that for a little but on a large scale the employer will pretty easily see a drop in productivity. You save some time on commute however it is still time you cannot dedicate to your family or to working out so not a solution to the original question how to find balance.
Rossana Motta why are you lecturing? Of course you should still work but at the end of the work day you are home, you don’t have to spend a half hour packing a lunch, 20 minutes choosing a wardrobe etc.... So yes it helps with balance.
@@InvestingWisely a lot of people do not waste half an hour choosing wardrobe and packing lunch. Which even so, in the larger scheme, is only half an hour. At home, there will be time wasted in other ways such as interruptions by family. Not to mention many jobs require a lot of things to be handled in person. Your solution is simply not a solution, at least in general. I am pretty sure if it was as simple as working from home, for the caller, he would have thought about that solution himself instead of asking Dave Ramsey.
@@InvestingWisely In the 20 years that I have been an Engineer, I worked from home a good portion of the time for 15 years. Because of contract work for multiple companies geographically far and in one instance a open-space office that was so crammed and loud it made it impossible to get anything done. In the past 5 years I have only worked from home for specific reasons (sickness in the family, repairmen at home, too much snow...). I can honestly say even as a senior engineer I can spend a week or more on a complex problem at home, while the same task could take less than a day if a team of engineers have the chance to brainstorm together and collaborate in real time, as well as see the practice of things in labs or fields. Of course we use all the available technologies such as videoconferencing and webcams, but it is never the same as being in person. Some coworkers travel on a regular basis in other states just to be in person at lab studies even if there are high res webcams in the lab. When you are in the lab or in the office or on the field, you develop skills you just cannot acquire sitting at home in front of a computer. You learn from your coworkers and you learn who has skills for what, so that you don't waste time googling or re-inventing the wheel. If it takes you 1 hour to get dress and pack lunch, therein lies the problem: massive inefficiencies for daily activities. I spend maybe 50 seconds getting dressed. 30 min to get dressed is absurd even for a teenage girl using a gallon of makeup daily. And you hopefully change clothes daily even if you work from home, or do you keep the same pajama on, 24/7 for a month? Lunch: cook once a week and dump stuff in resealable container and grab one (3 sec max). At home, you will still have to eat and in fact many snack more often given the food available in their kitchen. As per work published by Stan Tatkin in his book "wired for love" when you are physically with someone (e.g. at home "to be with the kids / wife") but do not pay attention to them, it frustrates them consciously or unconsciously much more than when you are away physically. Dr. Tatkin explain this in terms of evolution: we are used to being separate physically but not disconnected and ignored while being in physical proximity. Ultimately, if you are flooded with work, working from home will not be a general solution other than if it solves long commutes or disruptions in the work place (in which case anyone with a few brain cells can get to this solution without calling Dave Ramsey). There is a reason most companies require workers to be at work most of the time. Otherwise you would go to a store just to find it closed and the shelves empty because all the employees have a kid and a spouse and cannot find work balance unless they work from home... that is ridiculous.
If you’re concerned about your career, don’t have kids. If you’re concerned about your kids, don’t have a career. There are millions of workers that slack at the job due to their home life. And then they wonder why they can’t get a simple raise.
I didn’t say don’t have a job. I said don’t have a career. Big difference between a job and a career. A career oriented person puts everything behind their career.
22 yrs old and having a kid already? Go out and enjoy life first before having a kid or even getting married. Most marriages don't last when they marry young. It's a fact.
People think oh I want my own business cause they think I’ll be free and have life balance but not really you have to work double shift on your own people think oh I’ll be my own boss and spend the rest of the evening watching and chilling at home jajaja people are crazy thinking
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"Wherever you are, be there!" Good advice
"Be where you are" - great advice for all of us
As a, married person with kids. communicating with your partner what your plans are is key. then when the balance is off it is expected with purpose for a plan that you have together. And listening to each other's needs so you can adjust accordingly. Bless this young man and his family.
It's going to be hard balancing work and life especially with a family. Make sure you allocate time for both!
This is possibly one of the simplest and best videos I've ever seen from Dave! Great answer and something I needed to hear at the moment! Ebb and flow and be present...☺️ Got it!
Things are a lot easier if you don't have any debt.
Millionaire Mindset absolutely the goal for me to get at. 👍🏽
Exactly
Presence is better than presents..
Don't buy stuff your child doesn't need..
exactly better to buy them one expensive thing that they want instead of bunch of cheap things they didn't ask for.
the things from my father I remember and treasure the most were the times we walked over to the pond and just spent time fishing, playing poker together, or even just sitting down and eating pizza together.
God bless man. Tried being an insurance agent at 22 as well, and I did it for a year and a half. It didn't work out, mind you, but I had a great experience and I'm in a far better compensated job now.
And people wonder why traditionally one parent is career focused and the other is home focused. One person can't be both in perfect balance all the time.
well there were many of women who worked alongside men even in ancient times.
Don’t know what you mean. You work 40 hours a week. Add some traveling to that, it still gives u 15 hours in a day that you aren’t working. Yes u gotta sleep for 7-8 hours it that still leaves you 7-8 to do what you want. My parents both worked, my dad did a lot. I still saw them plenty. And my dad would make sure to prioritize important things like baseball tournaments for me.
at 31, the things from my father I remember and treasure the most were the times we walked over to the pond and just spent time fishing, playing poker together, or even just sitting down and eating pizza together.
Glad to see someone who has sustained wealth understand the need for balance and rest! Team no sleep is often suffering mentally because they dont believe in rest.
currently I am probably one of the lowest paid licensed civil engineers in the entire country. everyone keeps telling me I need to quit my job and go work someplace else that will pay me more and that at my level I should be making six figures. okay, but if I go anywhere else I'm also going to be pulling 60+ hour workweeks and sleeping in a hotel out of town every night. right now with my current job I kinda like being able to come home to my wife every night, I kinda like not having to work ridiculous amounts of mandatory overtime, I kinda like having every other Friday off, I kinda like having almost 300 hours of time off built up, I kinda like how my boss lets me work at my own pace and doesn't breathe down my back all the time. plus the pay isn't that bad... it may not be six figures, but it's still a little higher than the average household income in the country. Plus, I'll have my car paid off this summer then I can possibly have the house paid off next year or the following year and I'll be debt free. I'm going to milk this job as long as the company can keep its doors open because the higher pay isn't worth losing my home life and social life for.
I don't mean this to sound critical, and I might be wrong, but you sound like you are trying to justify in your own mind why you stay there.
@@HamiltonRb yeah I am justifying why I stay there. it's low pay, but I also don't want to sleep in a hotel every night, I don't want to work ridiculous overtime every day so I don't have a life outside of work. every other engineer that I talk to from other firms do exactly that. the extra money wouldn't be worth me being miserable for the rest of my life
@@drunclecookie216 You sound like you have your priorities straight then Ryan. I'm sure you want to be paid what you are worth though Ryan, and maybe you should talk to your employers about a raise, and then feel at ease. If you know what you are worth, and what others are making, guaranteed your employers do too. Good luck.
I could easily grow my business by 50% but it would require more time away from my family and even less personal time for myself. I have decided that I value free time more than the extra money. So I agree with Ryan's line of thought.
as an electrical engineer that knows other civil engineers this is a lie and generalization. to say all civil engineers that are paid high but have no time for their lives is a LIE! you can find another job willing to pay you more and still give you time off. you think your company is the only one that consider work life balance? most companies are moving into work life balance. ever wonder why you not even getting a raise at you present company if you're good? Just say you like where you are at life. instead of all these excuses of not wanting more out of life. smh
Thank you ...that was my goal to stop being out of balance...amen be where I'm at
Having a 9-5 (or any 8 hour shift job), it's basically impossible. You wake up and spend an hour getting ready to go to work. Then most people usually commute about an hour to work. Then you spend lets say 8 hours + a lunch hour at work, for a total of 11 thus far. Then you need an hour to return home, which is about another hour. That's already 12 hours of the day. They say a person should sleep 8 hours a day. Now we're looking at 20 hours a day of pure surviving. You're looking at about 4 hours a day of "quality" time, in which you can do what you actually want to do. And that's only a possibility if you aren't complete exhausted from work already. You really only have the weekends, and the 1-2 weeks of vacation time you get annually, to actually do what you want! They call this "The American Dream"...
kixmgc what time in history did people not have to use to time to provide for themselves?
Before the industrial revolution people worked to learn a trade. They worked more hours at first, but after they mastered that trade, they worked for themselves and set their own hours. They decided what their time was worth and were more able to decide how to divide that time between work and family. Now that we live in a capitalistic society we bow to the needs of corporations to buy our time for work hours. We trade time we could be spending with our kids or marriage partners for work hours to keep food on the table, a roof over their head, and other bills paid so they can live a happy life, while at the same time we are losing touch with our families because they don’t know who we are anymore. For example, I work a overnight job to support my family. There is no way I can make enough money to make car payments, rent, utility payment, and buy groceries without the night - time differential. So the trade off is that I barely see my family and when I do, I’m tired because during the week they have a different schedule than I do. Anyone have any smart answers for that?
@@timothyroman9920 Before the industrial revolution, people worked all day long in the fields from dawn to dusk. Children worked also in the fields. Only the very rich could stay at home while their sl aves worked in the fields.
@@Giorg189 Before the agricultural revolution, people laid out in the sun all day and occasionally hunted an animal or gathered berries.
Best advice I think I've ever heard.i wish my ex husband had known this many years ago and applied it .im sending this to my son to watch to keep in mind for his future.thank you Dave.that new little family is going to flourish,I could tell he was taking it all in and had respect for you.
First build a sustainable base, if that means being off balance for a whie, so be it. First find peace, steady income and then find balance. No balance without a base and a steady income.
You helped so many families , i cant see how they callin u racist now, im black man n grateful for your teachings God bless
wherever you are, be there..awesome advice.
*Balance is a myth.* thank you
Explain
What the man said, life is eb and flow. Sometimes you're overwhelmed by life because of birth of your child or passing from a loved one, so you focus less on work. And sometimes you need to work your face off to save your company, so you focus less on family and love. Balancing it all out 50-50 is impossible, you will get overwhelmed in periods of times and thats okay. And long term you have to make decisions that fit YOUR life, not to any standards of some sort of balance, don't dedicate your life to hustle because garyvee says so and don't focus on spirituality because jay shetty says so. Do whatever fits your needs in the long term and don't set expectations to yourself and other people that you can't uphold.
Getting out of the rat race is the goal.
Not to mention I have watched plenty of these Dave videos where he is telling people to get a 2nd job, 3rd job to pay debt. How are you supposed to have a healthy work/home balance that way, exactly?
@@moreofawave you dont and you can't. A work/life balance is give up extras like sports or plans to do one of the two. I work an average of 63.21 hours a week 6 days a week. So the idea of a work life balance is never a real thing if you wanna be successful.
Its about having a partner that is understanding of what the goal really is..
I work with Small Business Owners. For most of my clients, work-life balance is hard. They have fewer resources to manage essential tasks and a finite amount of daily energy to manage them. To those who can onboard staff I teach process development and effective delegation. Overall though, your business simply cannot override your self-care. When your business is your output, knowing what is worth committing your energy to is essential!
This one spoke volumes to me today!!! Thank you 🙌🙏
It makes a lot of sense. Being debt-free is the way to go
Balance will be off depending on what is taking place at that time...very true!! Communication and spending quality time is key. 🙌💕
Being present. Great advice ❣️
This video was great, I love Dave's fatherly wisdom aha.
Best advice hands down ever given. Ebay and flow.....I agree 100%
Good advice Dave. To add...A relationship with Our Lord Jesus Christ and Him at the center of the family will be the right balance. Ora et Labora. And a family that prays together stays together.
This is really really great advice
How do you balance Hobbies, Work, Music, School and a relationship!?
I’m in a situation where I’m feeling like I have no time for myself
UndergrounD NerD what more time do you need? Hobbies, music and a relationship are time for you...
Solid advice like always thanks Dave god bless
Great comments!
You are a wise man Dave!
My balance with work is I work straight 8:30-6:00 on Mondays and Tuesdays to start the week off right. Wednesdays-Thursdays I work 9:00-5:30 (taking a lunch break) then Fridays from 9:00-5:00 (taking a lunch break).
I will never work past 6 (no exceptions) and I never work on the weekends/holidays. I did that crap for 3 years and it was too much. If I get fired for underperforming, oh well…I’ll find a new employer
Thank you!!! I needed to hear this!!
Altho all mistakes you make in business can always be restored, some mistakes you make with your loved ones cannot..
I think Dave misses the point here. His answer seems to be "you're never in balance. You are always out of balance because at different periods you are focusing intently on one thing or another". That is true. But I think the question then becomes - how do you make sure that you are switching your focus properly? Dave assumes that you will have a healthy switching between different focuses (birth, job, kids, marriage, etc). Well what if you don't have that healthy switching? What if your kid is born and you only spend 8 hours with your wife after the kid is born and you are back to being focused on work? What if you find yourself not focusing much on kids, home, wife and are only focusing on job too much? What if you are only focused on kids and family and never really giving much to your job? Sure you can miss a soccer game and it's not the end of the world. But what if you miss 90% of their soccer games on Saturdays because you are working extra? Or what if you miss 50% of them? The caller is asking how to know what a good healthy balance is - over a long period of time. Sure, in the moment you will be completely focused on one thing (work, home or marriage) and therefore not in "balance". The balance comes from an overall look at how much you focus on those individual things over a longer period of time. I am almost positive that Dave did not have a "balanced" work/home life. You can't rise to be a CEO of a major corporation without spending way more time on your work than you do on your family. I am not saying it is bad - but it certainly couldn't have been balanced. It is clear that Dave is a Type A, driven person - and at times he is probably a workaholic. I think it comes down to priorities. We all have different priorities and different things that are important to us. And that's ok. If family is the most important thing to you then work your 40 hours a week and spend the rest of the time with your family. If work is the most important thing to you then work 80 hours a week and only see your family here and there. Just try and figure out what is most important for you and go from there.
Corey Burnett that’s easy to say. But what if you have to work extra hours to support your family? What if those hours are at an overnight job because a day job In your field doesn’t pay enough? And what if when you do see your family your exhausted because it’s difficult to switch between night hours during the week and day hours on the weekend? No one can answer questions like this until they walk in similar shoes.
This is one thing I’ve been struggling to do, not to mention working on my RUclips channel creating my budget videos every month trying to get outta debt. Haha I definitely don’t feel out of balance and I can’t imagine when I have a child how out of balance I’m going to be.
Be present
this guy is going good in life 🖒
Wow! Good advice. I am going to keep focusing on providing quality content and the reveunes will come later. Your amazing. I am going to follow some of your models for success. Thanks again!
All work no play!
Getting out of the rat race is the goal. Im on my way to get out very soon with enough passive income coming in.
Dave I look forward to being on your show in the future screaming out I am consumer debt freedom and proud of it....baby step 2 and moving....
Mr. Ramsey will this work with parents who share joint custody? I'm planning on getting a second part time job in order to save a bit more money. Thanks
Juan Gonzalez I’m in a similar boat. My ex and I have been divorced for about 3 years now and I barely get to see my son. I work overnights just so I can afford child support, insurance for myself and my son, a roof over my head in a safe neighborhood I can bring my son to, and a safe working vehicle. It’s almost impossible and I worry that he barely knows me or that the little time I have to spend with him will make any real impact on his life. He spends more time with his grandfather, my ex-wife’s dad, and he’s an atheist. What kind of impact, if any, am I going to have on his life as a struggling Christian part - time dad?
Yep
I’m struggling with this myself
Make your kid priority. Work can wait. It always can. Life is more important. Your boss is not there at home
dave laughing in the thumbnail
More and more companies offer work from home.
Yes but working from home means (or should mean) still working. Not playing with your kid. You can do that for a little but on a large scale the employer will pretty easily see a drop in productivity. You save some time on commute however it is still time you cannot dedicate to your family or to working out so not a solution to the original question how to find balance.
Rossana Motta why are you lecturing? Of course you should still work but at the end of the work day you are home, you don’t have to spend a half hour packing a lunch, 20 minutes choosing a wardrobe etc....
So yes it helps with balance.
@@InvestingWisely a lot of people do not waste half an hour choosing wardrobe and packing lunch. Which even so, in the larger scheme, is only half an hour. At home, there will be time wasted in other ways such as interruptions by family. Not to mention many jobs require a lot of things to be handled in person. Your solution is simply not a solution, at least in general. I am pretty sure if it was as simple as working from home, for the caller, he would have thought about that solution himself instead of asking Dave Ramsey.
Rossana Motta how many years have you worked from home?
@@InvestingWisely In the 20 years that I have been an Engineer, I worked from home a good portion of the time for 15 years. Because of contract work for multiple companies geographically far and in one instance a open-space office that was so crammed and loud it made it impossible to get anything done. In the past 5 years I have only worked from home for specific reasons (sickness in the family, repairmen at home, too much snow...). I can honestly say even as a senior engineer I can spend a week or more on a complex problem at home, while the same task could take less than a day if a team of engineers have the chance to brainstorm together and collaborate in real time, as well as see the practice of things in labs or fields. Of course we use all the available technologies such as videoconferencing and webcams, but it is never the same as being in person. Some coworkers travel on a regular basis in other states just to be in person at lab studies even if there are high res webcams in the lab. When you are in the lab or in the office or on the field, you develop skills you just cannot acquire sitting at home in front of a computer. You learn from your coworkers and you learn who has skills for what, so that you don't waste time googling or re-inventing the wheel.
If it takes you 1 hour to get dress and pack lunch, therein lies the problem: massive inefficiencies for daily activities. I spend maybe 50 seconds getting dressed. 30 min to get dressed is absurd even for a teenage girl using a gallon of makeup daily. And you hopefully change clothes daily even if you work from home, or do you keep the same pajama on, 24/7 for a month? Lunch: cook once a week and dump stuff in resealable container and grab one (3 sec max). At home, you will still have to eat and in fact many snack more often given the food available in their kitchen.
As per work published by Stan Tatkin in his book "wired for love" when you are physically with someone (e.g. at home "to be with the kids / wife") but do not pay attention to them, it frustrates them consciously or unconsciously much more than when you are away physically. Dr. Tatkin explain this in terms of evolution: we are used to being separate physically but not disconnected and ignored while being in physical proximity.
Ultimately, if you are flooded with work, working from home will not be a general solution other than if it solves long commutes or disruptions in the work place (in which case anyone with a few brain cells can get to this solution without calling Dave Ramsey). There is a reason most companies require workers to be at work most of the time. Otherwise you would go to a store just to find it closed and the shelves empty because all the employees have a kid and a spouse and cannot find work balance unless they work from home... that is ridiculous.
Yes, they'll surely be ok if we missed their games..
I think what people refer to as work life balance is; how do I stop working for someone else and own my own business !?
Work life balance isn't a myth,it can be attained
If you’re concerned about your career, don’t have kids. If you’re concerned about your kids, don’t have a career. There are millions of workers that slack at the job due to their home life. And then they wonder why they can’t get a simple raise.
How do you feed the kids? No work no eat?
I didn’t say don’t have a job. I said don’t have a career. Big difference between a job and a career. A career oriented person puts everything behind their career.
22 yrs old and having a kid already? Go out and enjoy life first before having a kid or even getting married. Most marriages don't last when they marry young. It's a fact.
Alan_1212 that ship has sailed.
My parents married before 22 and they've been happily married for 31 years, so no, not fact.
@@angelicarodriguez4488 your parents do not speak for all marriages
What does dave Ramsey think about charge cards
he hates 'em. Says it's easier to overspend if there's a disconnect from cash
@@MrTedflick I suspect you are correct but Liam asked about charge cards not credit cards. There's a difference.
Richard Forester you must be a new listener. That’s cute.
Richard Forester I was referring to charge cards. He doesn’t like them
@@mikenelson8377 LOL... now that's a cute comment.
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People think oh I want my own business cause they think I’ll be free and have life balance but not really you have to work double shift on your own people think oh I’ll be my own boss and spend the rest of the evening watching and chilling at home jajaja people are crazy thinking
First? First! Good word... 😊
Want a good work life balance? Don't get married and don't have kids. Solved.
Kids are so expensive though. I work in a store and they are always throwing tantrums until their stupid parents buy them a bunch of junk.
You dont lol
How to balance life & work in one easy step: DON'T HAVE KIDS
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