Why being awkward makes you more likely to succeed

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  • Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
  • Psychologist Ty Tashiro, author of "Awkward: The Science of Why We're Socially awkward and Why That's Awesome," explains why awkward people are more likely to demonstrate "striking talent."
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  • @humoodatoo
    @humoodatoo 6 лет назад +1517

    RUclips is really good at making us feel good about ourselves

    • @stevenglansburg856
      @stevenglansburg856 6 лет назад +15

      Moh to all be taken away when you turn it off.

    • @brownplasticbag7429
      @brownplasticbag7429 6 лет назад +37

      and then we realize that we are in the real world and that we can't socialize with anyone in that world

    • @depsilon0183
      @depsilon0183 6 лет назад +1

      And vice versa

    • @pidgon7465
      @pidgon7465 6 лет назад

      😩💦

    • @2ant1man5
      @2ant1man5 6 лет назад +16

      No he’s giving you free information and trying to teach you how to deal and continue to grow through life....but I guess people rather be negative than try or be funny instead of making money.

  • @kickliquid
    @kickliquid 7 лет назад +3563

    jokes on you, I'm socially awkward and I'm a dumbass across the board.

    • @cryora
      @cryora 7 лет назад +46

      kickliquid That's a petty victory and you know it.

    • @CarlosRodriguez-yq8qq
      @CarlosRodriguez-yq8qq 7 лет назад +34

      Null May be you haven't found that specific area where u feel obsessed about learning everything of that specific area

    • @DontFuckWitDreDay
      @DontFuckWitDreDay 7 лет назад +38

      It's funny because it's true.

    • @jinyboi
      @jinyboi 7 лет назад +10

      preach fam

    • @weedshoes5089
      @weedshoes5089 7 лет назад +29

      That's regular autism with none of the cool savant benefits.

  • @williamhoyt4915
    @williamhoyt4915 7 лет назад +1511

    "Willing to work the hardest on the parts that you are the worst at"... uh except talking to people.

    • @iSon3tv
      @iSon3tv 7 лет назад +2

      Fat Yolk underdog

    • @daniel117100
      @daniel117100 7 лет назад +44

      because other people are shit

    • @tannersmith2791
      @tannersmith2791 7 лет назад +20

      Fat Yolk fuck other people. Fuck society lol

    • @Xperian13
      @Xperian13 7 лет назад +69

      Because people are fucking unpredictable. I really hate it when people ruin my imaginary script!!

    • @dragonballshaker7447
      @dragonballshaker7447 7 лет назад +20

      What he meant was they are willing to work the hardest at the things they are passionate about, even if they're bad at it.

  • @shakir1998
    @shakir1998 7 лет назад +1973

    I feel like there's something I'm good at, I just haven't found it yet.

    • @natrix126
      @natrix126 7 лет назад +14

      same but i'm not awkward

    • @zenvious5645
      @zenvious5645 7 лет назад +54

      Same I feel like im good at something but there are only rare situations where I'm better at something than people around me

    • @alphawaffle7516
      @alphawaffle7516 6 лет назад +5

      Same here.

    • @TalaR04
      @TalaR04 6 лет назад +1

      fs87 That's good.

    • @taurus-ug3fp
      @taurus-ug3fp 6 лет назад +29

      being good at something takes practice and retrying, the word natural talent is a myth

  • @nouw23
    @nouw23 7 лет назад +191

    I am mastering the art of Netflix

  • @BananaShake
    @BananaShake 7 лет назад +2162

    im awkward and im not good at anything

    • @CinematicTechnologies
      @CinematicTechnologies 7 лет назад +170

      MdFazil so aren't you good at being awkward?

    • @ichorous7434
      @ichorous7434 7 лет назад +65

      +Ethan Swords you just cured my awkwardness

    • @viky1354
      @viky1354 7 лет назад +6

      dude do u play cs go?

    • @s731s
      @s731s 7 лет назад +41

      then you must be young enough that you haven't found anything yet. or you have something even now but you don't consider it worth noting to yourself because it doesn't seem like a skill or useful in any way. we're usually hard on ourselves and don't consider our characteristics unique until someone else tells us. But if we're socially awkward and prefer to be introverts, it kind of makes it hard to be in situations where others are around you enough to praise your unique skills and perspectives. since we're usually avoiding humans. I guess sometimes maybe they ARE kinda useless to be around... sometimes... for like a few minutes... kbye

    • @Garcia24678
      @Garcia24678 7 лет назад +2

      MdFazil then why are you here

  • @JaCeLyN1431
    @JaCeLyN1431 7 лет назад +2363

    but what if you're awkward and lazy asf?

    • @NoushinAdiya
      @NoushinAdiya 7 лет назад +100

      That's me lol

    • @nickycocaine
      @nickycocaine 7 лет назад +203

      Then you don't apply yourself, which is wasted potential.

    • @JaCeLyN1431
      @JaCeLyN1431 7 лет назад +89

      yeah i know ;P i have many ideas but trouble executing/actually doing them

    • @yuuenu8055
      @yuuenu8055 7 лет назад

      Aria Targaryen same goes with me. Are we just a lazy peole?

    • @JaCeLyN1431
      @JaCeLyN1431 7 лет назад +1

      Yuuen U perhaps ... but I don't think it's bad thing actually

  • @ryt6940
    @ryt6940 7 лет назад +302

    idgf I hate being awkward and overly anxious.

    • @seraph7825
      @seraph7825 7 лет назад +1

      Rytol_Piab i can imagine you feel pretty gay LOL

    • @ryt6940
      @ryt6940 7 лет назад +11

      seraph 7 ?

    • @seraph7825
      @seraph7825 7 лет назад

      ***** these are feminine traits

    • @nurulhudahassan8297
      @nurulhudahassan8297 7 лет назад +13

      seraph 7 i can already imagine the kind of douche alpha male wannabe you are in real life

    • @Ignodeus
      @Ignodeus 7 лет назад +9

      all the alpha male wannabes are extremely insecure about something thats why they act that way ;)

  • @user-uv2rh9gl9y
    @user-uv2rh9gl9y 7 лет назад +44

    Let me save you 2 minutes of your life by summing it up.
    The video is basically saying that if you're awkward, it's probably because you're really good at something, and that's good! It also means that you're more likely persevere and succeed because being awkward tends to come hand in hand with the ability to focus really well on what you're doing, DESPITE going through tough times.

  • @heczrivz2390
    @heczrivz2390 7 лет назад +1155

    Wheres all my socially awkward people 😁👊✊️ power to US! Lol

  • @oldcowbb
    @oldcowbb 7 лет назад +1817

    i'm awkward and have no talent at all

    • @TheSkete
      @TheSkete 7 лет назад +29

      oldcowbb-Maybe you just haven't found it yet...

    • @Xperian13
      @Xperian13 7 лет назад +17

      E.Duane Mitchell but finding something you really good at are very very hard, that's why not every awkward peoples are successful.

    • @TheSkete
      @TheSkete 7 лет назад +16

      I'm in my mid-40's and I'm STILL trying to figure it out.But I'm not giving up.

    • @Xperian13
      @Xperian13 7 лет назад +7

      Good luck and I hope you find the "jackpot".

    • @TheSkete
      @TheSkete 7 лет назад +3

      Weird RUclips Name-Thanks,same to you...

  • @madameboss5225
    @madameboss5225 7 лет назад +1480

    Now it's when the comments from antisocial people start appearing proudly reporting themselves

    • @naldotubo
      @naldotubo 7 лет назад +48

      Madame Boss did u call me??

    • @Foreverlovely-dg7xd
      @Foreverlovely-dg7xd 7 лет назад +20

      Madame Boss asocial*, but I agree.

    • @shannonbear8807
      @shannonbear8807 7 лет назад +10

      Oh my gah i was just telling my friend the other day that antisocial and asocial are not the same lol >.

    • @Pfromm007
      @Pfromm007 7 лет назад +1

      H..h...hey guys.. umm.. anybody?

    • @_hector__
      @_hector__ 7 лет назад

      Is that a problem?

  • @trbl6151
    @trbl6151 7 лет назад +1062

    is that Rami Malek in the thumbnail

    • @DaveH82
      @DaveH82 7 лет назад +116

      Yes. From Mr. Robot.

    • @ashab6101
      @ashab6101 7 лет назад +14

      I wouldn't consider his character successful, he can take lots of stress and works hard.

    • @loveharrydaily
      @loveharrydaily 7 лет назад +22

      United Federation Rami Malek himself isn't socially awkward, he just plays a socially awkward character

    • @ChrisRawls
      @ChrisRawls 7 лет назад

      trbl yep.

    • @chinchinox
      @chinchinox 7 лет назад +4

      When's season 3?

  • @easyluckable
    @easyluckable 7 лет назад +760

    The point is not you being awkward, is you work hard asf.

    • @rimun5235
      @rimun5235 6 лет назад +56

      From what I've learned in corporate America, hard work will not be the only thing that will get you places. You need to work hard and also have the people skills, otherwise you become the people who have been in the same role for 10 years.

    • @niveyoga3242
      @niveyoga3242 6 лет назад +1

      Finally.

    • @arioka5296
      @arioka5296 6 лет назад +36

      Work smarter not harder

    • @AkshayMishra700
      @AkshayMishra700 6 лет назад +4

      Ryan Yao only dumb people work hard

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 6 лет назад

      Ryan Yao Hard work only gives you the opportunity to work hard.

  • @danymanchster1759
    @danymanchster1759 7 лет назад +1121

    I bet everyone took this about themselves

    • @JeremiahFernandez
      @JeremiahFernandez 7 лет назад +65

      that's how it works

    • @coolreflections9448
      @coolreflections9448 7 лет назад

      Privet pidor.

    • @ilooli
      @ilooli 7 лет назад +22

      Nah, I'm socially awkward and suck at everything 😕

    • @brian87147
      @brian87147 7 лет назад +33

      You always try to find a way to feel special.

    • @cancri6745
      @cancri6745 7 лет назад +12

      ilo oli atleast you're truthful.. I honestly respect that. Most people here want to consider themselves intelligent, yet can barley adapt to the daily missions life hands to us. Obviously you're in the correct path to becoming successful because your humbleness and ability to admit that you aren't a "god" at something specific or anything in general. Although you say you aren't, you can always become great at something through practice and dedication. I admire your truthfulness.

  • @happypiano8397
    @happypiano8397 7 лет назад +1438

    I'm antisocial that's why I comment on RUclips

  • @rock3tcatU233
    @rock3tcatU233 7 лет назад +1147

    I can relate to this, I'm socially awkward yet I've managed to setup a successful human trafficking ring with a global presence.

    • @JamesBongo
      @JamesBongo 7 лет назад +64

      ⵔⵓⴽⴰⵜⴽⴰⵜ look at you Mr go getter

    • @markmolenaar4479
      @markmolenaar4479 7 лет назад +56

      Wait, is this a good or a bad thing?

    • @kigrovrak1538
      @kigrovrak1538 7 лет назад +59

      Mark Molenaar
      We will never know 😂😂😂

    • @xgullafter9590
      @xgullafter9590 7 лет назад +1

      good on you

    • @443tify
      @443tify 7 лет назад

      ⵔⵓⴽⴰⵜⴽⴰⵜ lol

  • @indiawildfilms
    @indiawildfilms 6 лет назад +203

    That explain why Am I awkward and unintelligent as well...Yeah right !!

    • @VungL
      @VungL 6 лет назад +5

      India Wild Films
      try to make a proper sentence first...

    • @bigcrowe9573
      @bigcrowe9573 6 лет назад +1

      That doent really mean you got those traits

    • @Hatim.13
      @Hatim.13 5 лет назад

      India Wild Films cause you India you lose.
      (I am kidding bro ♡)

    • @adeel-eh7xq
      @adeel-eh7xq 5 лет назад

      You probably have low self-esteem and fail to notice things you're really good at because you see everything you do as unexceptional and pointless.

  • @karldergroe3990
    @karldergroe3990 7 лет назад +646

    Focus is more important than intelligence

    • @caboosemcgrief
      @caboosemcgrief 7 лет назад +17

      Interesting point

    • @mr.qwerty3125
      @mr.qwerty3125 7 лет назад +16

      karl marxismo is that how you organized communism?

    • @karldergroe3990
      @karldergroe3990 7 лет назад +4

      Yes my good sir...yes it is.

    • @StewieGriffin
      @StewieGriffin 7 лет назад +20

      wrong
      processing > intelligence > communication > focus

    • @renatenha
      @renatenha 7 лет назад +1

      True, if you don't have focus no matter how intelligent you are, you won't learn a thing. I'm a living proof of that.

  • @azizalaliq8
    @azizalaliq8 7 лет назад +240

    too bad i suck at everything.

    • @TVinmyEye
      @TVinmyEye 7 лет назад +4

      aziz alali well by looking at your thumbnail pic i can tell you're not into sucky music. RH.

    • @azizalaliq8
      @azizalaliq8 7 лет назад +2

      TVinmyEye ayyyy ma man

    • @joselozano8430
      @joselozano8430 7 лет назад

      aziz alali 📻👦

    • @osaniss
      @osaniss 7 лет назад +1

      +voice of reason LOL gj

    • @azizalaliq8
      @azizalaliq8 7 лет назад

      voice of reason I don't think I'd even be good at that tbh

  • @fiancejays3488
    @fiancejays3488 7 лет назад +274

    i'm socially award AF but i'm not focusing on anything wtf is wrong with me?

    • @schrodingerscat3912
      @schrodingerscat3912 7 лет назад +122

      anime. that's what's wrong

    • @cornloin9732
      @cornloin9732 7 лет назад +35

      Fiancé Jays Yeah stop watching anime weeb

    • @Sam-dc9bg
      @Sam-dc9bg 7 лет назад +4

      You probably are, a lot of awkward guys are obsessed about stuff like video games, TV.

    • @mehran46
      @mehran46 6 лет назад

      weeboo

    • @mehran46
      @mehran46 6 лет назад

      Sam video games are awsome if you play in time

  • @amogus8025
    @amogus8025 4 года назад +2

    I hated myself for the longest time because people would make fun of me for being socially awkward. This video gives me true hope.

  • @n00bie96
    @n00bie96 7 лет назад +261

    im shy and socially awkward and my social circle is really small. yet im not good at anything, i always end up being marginally average

    • @Applecoco5
      @Applecoco5 7 лет назад +8

      n00bie Lol same x)

    • @MrWzeljunior
      @MrWzeljunior 7 лет назад +12

      Applecoco5 omg ur gorgeous, it's surprising to hear that you are socially awkward

    • @osprey5611
      @osprey5611 7 лет назад +3

      Nice Megaman yea awkward people unite XD

    • @greenguy2372
      @greenguy2372 7 лет назад +6

      n00bie You may haven't found your talent yet. Some people lived their life, never founding their true talent at all.

    • @EmpanadaDoggo
      @EmpanadaDoggo 7 лет назад +3

      n00bie I used to be exactly like that back in 2015. What I would recommend you to change is to find something worth your time (in the long term). A simple goal or just exploring new ideas might help you. You might feel discouraged by it at first but in 1-2 years you can change a lot c: and trust me, being really shy/ introverted can hurt you if you're looking for a job or even trying to explore something new. "Day by day nothing seems to change, but pretty soon everything's different"

  • @cloroxbleach-vs7nk
    @cloroxbleach-vs7nk 7 лет назад +1250

    *is respecting women a skill*

    • @florencechestnut2270
      @florencechestnut2270 7 лет назад +14

      clorox bleach it just means you have class,the bad women makes it hard for the nice women!

    • @Ruz426
      @Ruz426 7 лет назад +8

      clorox bleach Yes

    • @florencechestnut2270
      @florencechestnut2270 7 лет назад +13

      Jesus Ruiz to get respect you have to show respect, that's the problem everybody likes to put down other people without getting to know that person.

    • @jackhudson4510
      @jackhudson4510 7 лет назад +71

      No, it's a disability.

    • @__-go9cj
      @__-go9cj 7 лет назад +38

      No! it means.. Yo mama...raised you right.

  • @helio2361
    @helio2361 7 лет назад +3

    bullies made me awkward by making me feel worse about my passions. once they sensed the awkward they got even worse and had too much 'fun' to let me overcome it. so awkward adulthood filled with cripple anxiety, at least im slowly allowing my passions to settle in without subconscious stress. but darn it'd be so nice to be good at something :)

  • @holo6433
    @holo6433 7 лет назад +35

    I'm going to be the most successful human being

  • @vectorr7630
    @vectorr7630 7 лет назад +610

    Everyone's awkward, honestly.

    • @hectoronthemoon
      @hectoronthemoon 7 лет назад +64

      Ty Ty absolutely not true

    • @drinkbleach3093
      @drinkbleach3093 7 лет назад +18

      hectoronthemoon everyones weird in their own way u dumb bitch get it through ur tiny brain

    • @philalethes216
      @philalethes216 7 лет назад +32

      Ty Ty everyone has insecurities and anxieties but most people don't have trouble socialising. Don't justify social awkwardness, work on yourself.

    • @AngloImperial
      @AngloImperial 7 лет назад +2

      Ty Ty Definitely not. 😂

    • @louhan8624
      @louhan8624 7 лет назад +8

      tbh no. i know a lot of ppl who wouldnt stop talking---makes me awkward, not them. and the thing is, they never notice that im trying to escape the conversation when it's too obvious!!!!

  • @nana9440
    @nana9440 7 лет назад +84

    Went to an engineering school. Every awkward guy I know majored in cs and eventually became software engineers, including my hubby. That's why they're so successful 😭😆

    • @divyajaju2439
      @divyajaju2439 7 лет назад +8

      Tasha Lo woww i am also an awkward one i think i would achieve something worthfull in my life but i am scared of communicating to people around me i am scared to go in my own city alone what should i do about my wierdness i dont know :'(

    • @christopherg.8591
      @christopherg.8591 7 лет назад +2

      Divya Jaju You should improve your social skills.You can be a great CEO or whatever but lacking social skills will always suck,take it from someone who sometimes is socially awkward, this videos are feel good bullshit, I wanna live a great life with people I care about, not a lonely life because I fear what people might think of me.You don't have to trust me, you'll see it for yourself.

    • @definitelynotacat2371
      @definitelynotacat2371 7 лет назад +3

      Christopher G. Though, Elon Musk is described as a rather awkward person

    • @christopherg.8591
      @christopherg.8591 7 лет назад +1

      Definitely not a Cat Everybody is awkward, or weird, really there's no 'normal' person. You could say I am pretty normal, however If you look close enough you'd find I am really weird. But there's no excuse, you need social skills to have a great life, obviously If you want to have friends or a girlfriend, If you are not interested in living in society that's cool, you need to find a lonely place to live, It's cool If you seriously want it, however If you do it because you suck when talking to people, there's no excuse, fix it.

    • @definitelynotacat2371
      @definitelynotacat2371 7 лет назад +13

      "you need social skills to have a great life" That might be true for your standards, but it's not the case for everyone, even for people wanting to live in society (and I keep using Elon Musk's example to express it). What I meant was that the social skills of Elon Musk are pretty lame, and he obviously didn't fix it though look at how succesful he is, and without talking about excuses, maybe it's not working on that aspect of him (awkwardness) and only focusing on what really mattered to him that made him who he is.
      If you dream about having a sucessful social life (like most people), you can't complain about how awkward you are as social skills, like most things, can be acquired, so on that point we agree, but lacking social skills won't always suck, and having them isn't what makes a life great. Another example is how George Lucas was incredibly awkward, even while shooting Star Wars.

  • @raymondmartinez2602
    @raymondmartinez2602 7 лет назад +3

    This man tells the truth. I've been awkward since my sophomore year of hs and he made me realize that from that time to now everything that I've ever been interested in I've obsessed over it and spent a long time trying to master whatever it was. From video games to now bodybuilding. I put in the long "boring" hours to try to perfect it.

  • @sasukeuchiefa7934
    @sasukeuchiefa7934 7 лет назад +389

    Don't lie to these people

    • @shanann.785
      @shanann.785 7 лет назад

      Sasuke Uchiefa i.

    • @brog5606
      @brog5606 6 лет назад +5

      Courtney Earnhart is it really tho?

    • @gtrkarma
      @gtrkarma 6 лет назад

      Essie how in the fuck is he describing autism?

    • @javierpacheco8234
      @javierpacheco8234 6 лет назад

      Sasuke Uchiefa hey sasuke you spelled uchiha wrong.

    • @rafal777jojoboy5
      @rafal777jojoboy5 6 лет назад

      .

  • @OhhMyAnnie
    @OhhMyAnnie 7 лет назад +60

    YES! Me! One of my skills is making videos that make myself appear that I'm not as awkward as I really am. Haha. The power of editing and saying the same sentence multiple times in a row until I don't sound ridiculous.

    • @lolsos3441
      @lolsos3441 3 года назад +2

      Nice

    • @ani1451
      @ani1451 3 года назад

      This comment is 4 years old but I wanna send love to it, I’ve been recording videos but felt ashamed that I constantly have to repeat myself.. this changed my outlook on that, seeing that you’ve been able to succeed with the similar struggles is really inspiring! Glad you’re doing well with your RUclips career!! 👏❤️

  • @tusharpatel6100
    @tusharpatel6100 7 лет назад +521

    I have this phenomenon where I have a imaginary life...like a alternate possibility of my life and have stories and journey of it in my mind. This has nothing to do with reality, but the problem is I think more about this life than reality which I actually am living in, Has this ever happened to anybody? Likr this is the first time this has come out of my mind to something physical....I have never talked anyone about this infact this is first time i am expressing it through something...

    • @dominiquegomez3071
      @dominiquegomez3071 7 лет назад +82

      Tushar Patel It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, and I have it too, amongst at load of other things. Don't worry, there are others out there like this as well 😊

    • @tusharpatel6100
      @tusharpatel6100 7 лет назад +42

      Dominique Gomez I didn't know there was a name of it. thankyou for real.

    • @dominiquegomez3071
      @dominiquegomez3071 7 лет назад +2

      Tushar Patel Tis cool, if you ever wanna talk, my tumblr name is domidagomi btw

    • @tinyvibe6921
      @tinyvibe6921 7 лет назад +56

      i have that as well, you may have noticed yourself these 'imaginary lives' can be extremelly complicated and detailed to a great extent.
      some people say it's wrong but from my own experience i've gathered that new ideas for something big usually develop from the 'second life'.

    • @tusharpatel6100
      @tusharpatel6100 7 лет назад +3

      Noortje De Beer It so frickin is...Thank you so much for replying

  • @chiragkc9374
    @chiragkc9374 7 лет назад +66

    most people who are awkward usually have a striking talent. that doesnt mean being awkward will make you more likely to be successful. the causality in the title is flawed.

    • @RTYWLive.Forever
      @RTYWLive.Forever 7 лет назад +3

      Save the bush no they aren't. He's just trying to sell his book

  • @TheMedicatedArtist
    @TheMedicatedArtist 7 лет назад +2

    This really does apply to me. When it comes to social interaction, I suck. However, I excel in art and writing; I can draw and write for hours on end without getting tired.

  • @EchadLevShtim
    @EchadLevShtim 7 лет назад +95

    Sounds like me. I dont trust humans and am very awkward in groups, but very profound in a 1 on 1 situation. I am a genius in a few categories but a moron in others. I dont like the schooling system not because it sets standards, yet that it is more of a belief that is being imposed on the masses. If it focused on each individuals personal traits it would make more sense than wasting 12 years of our lives to end up with no direct focus. It seems social skills would be something that would give students a fighting chance, yet society doesnt put much behind fields of psychology or say drama class, etc. Its more likely that they dont want us to have a fair chance because its a threat to their chance to excel. So mental dissorders such as extreme narcissistic behavior is awarded in this dog eat dog world.

    • @Inquiring
      @Inquiring 6 лет назад +8

      Dem/Rep Delusion You aren’t awkward in my opinion, you just are enlightened of the fact that the education system is corrupt.

    • @cat-cs8hk
      @cat-cs8hk 6 лет назад +1

      Dem/Rep Delusion "I don't trust humans"

    • @soulscanner66
      @soulscanner66 6 лет назад +1

      It takes a lot of cooperation to run the world. Schools is where you lean that, for better or worse.

    • @2ant1man5
      @2ant1man5 6 лет назад +1

      You know they call it bipolar now not narcissism.

    • @blue_cameron
      @blue_cameron 6 лет назад

      Dem/Rep Delusion you can trust me

  • @S2Tubes
    @S2Tubes 7 лет назад +62

    You're making it sound as though every shy, awkward, socially anxious person is some kind of hidden genius savant. They are not. Very few are. Likewise, excelling in one topic does not make you socially inept.

    • @guycollishaw1957
      @guycollishaw1957 7 лет назад +3

      Blood Angel Excelling in a certain topic is different to a life-consuming obsession.

    • @Mr.Honest247
      @Mr.Honest247 7 лет назад +1

      Blood Angel Extrovert alert

    • @AntHardaway4
      @AntHardaway4 7 лет назад

      thats what he's trying to sell lol

  • @__prometheus__
    @__prometheus__ 7 лет назад +131

    I'm awkward AF at school but I scrape by. (I fucking die if I'm the only guy at my table) ;-;

    • @abdiyusuf8561
      @abdiyusuf8561 7 лет назад +5

      Not A troll I feel your pain man so sorry but I can however invite you to islam

    • @abdiyusuf8561
      @abdiyusuf8561 7 лет назад

      just imagine living life without fear? an sence of freedom and bliss. and that note I just want us humans need to understand this world is not something to bd taken granted for. it's not for play and idle talk it serious business. you have to know your purpose. what the hell you doing on planet earth? why? what's it all about? if you have a free time some time in the future go down to the graveyard and think? that's going to be you in there one day

    • @oakinw8361
      @oakinw8361 7 лет назад +5

      abdi yusuf Allah is a fraud. You're no less lost than the average person.

    • @__prometheus__
      @__prometheus__ 7 лет назад +5

      I don't think religion had any intention in this though. I'm just saying how I feel sometimes.

    • @ichorous7434
      @ichorous7434 7 лет назад +4

      +abdi yusuf I've met plenty of socially awkward Muslims soooo

  • @AmritPalGill
    @AmritPalGill 7 лет назад +9

    Success here I come.

  • @SJROCKA
    @SJROCKA 7 лет назад +3

    I've had social anxiety pretty much my whole life, and it got really bad when I was in highschool. I'm 20 years old now but it still controls my life more than I want it to. I'm also a music producer and I feel like this video has a valid point, I work extremely hard at my craft and even when I started producing people said my music was no that good, but I always wanted to keep improving until I make it as a big time producer. Not saying that you have to be "Awkward" to work hard, but this guy does have a point about the persistence that we have. I've been selling beats to artists now and looking to make some noise at the beat making contest held in Toronto. hope you guys hear my music on the radio some day lol ✌

    • @georgiagalaxy
      @georgiagalaxy Год назад

      Lucky you, I’m 18 and still super awkward 😆 Also wow! That’s an amazing thought to have, I hope you reach that goal and we can all hear your music :D 💗💗💗

  • @RetalityEU
    @RetalityEU 6 лет назад +5

    I love how happy this guy looks

  • @brandongriffiths1943
    @brandongriffiths1943 7 лет назад +100

    I think most people need to stop being judgemental we are all humans we all have our vices and our flaws,have a Good day everyone.

  • @Redshift2077
    @Redshift2077 7 лет назад +13

    lol I'm socially awkward AND I have no talents

  • @PuftPrin
    @PuftPrin 7 лет назад +3

    Personally, I feel that being socially awkward also means having more free time alone, which means more time to study and focus on a particular/passionate solo activity and *because* we
    lack the social life to distract us--it eventually leads to success, probably. In that regard, it's good to be "socially awkward."
    I've already come to terms with my personality traits being the socially awkward introvert that I am--now when the success thing kicks in....

  • @JihadPowell
    @JihadPowell 3 года назад +2

    I think so awkward can just be a personality trait

  • @unlostm8
    @unlostm8 7 лет назад +299

    nice way to sugar-coat the truth which is awkwardness makes those around you uncomfortable and can be very detrimental to your success...I highly doubt this guy is socially awkward at all. Don't settle for being awkward and fine with it, you have the determination to better yourself

    • @unlostm8
      @unlostm8 7 лет назад +17

      I feel like this is just an underhand way of getting people who empathise to buy his book on what's essentially autism. (notice how he doesn't use the word) You'd be wasting your money and time if you invest in it. Spend some time each day in books, videos that help to rid you of awkwardness instead

    • @1elitegeek
      @1elitegeek 7 лет назад +11

      unlost awkwardness is not a disease...

    • @unlostm8
      @unlostm8 7 лет назад +7

      Who said that?

    • @couldntchooseausername9360
      @couldntchooseausername9360 7 лет назад +16

      Let people be awkward if they want. There are awkward people in the world, there are outgoing people in the world etc.

    • @apseudonym
      @apseudonym 7 лет назад +17

      that's bullshit, most people are empathetic enough to know when someone is just a little shy or awkward and they don't judge if they take the time to see your true qualities. and if they don't then who cares

  • @conde6077
    @conde6077 7 лет назад +26

    This might be a bit misleading. All of this is *his own opinion* and when he says "psychologists say xyz" he means he says that, and people who think like him. Psychology is not black and white like other science, there is a lot of division within the field. The majority of psychologists would disagree with his conclusions and explanations.

    • @unlostm8
      @unlostm8 7 лет назад

      well said

    • @dogestranding5047
      @dogestranding5047 7 лет назад +1

      Conde Similarly with economics. Econ and Psychology are social sciences, not hard sciences.

    • @MrWolfSnack
      @MrWolfSnack 7 лет назад +1

      Science is entirely politics so none of it means anything at all anymore.

    • @Kaixo
      @Kaixo 7 лет назад

      Conde This might be his opinion, but I really recognized myself in this. So there are people really like that, of course not all socially awkward people because there are always exceptions.

  • @daphnestunts
    @daphnestunts 6 лет назад +3

    Im awkward and i spend all my free time playing guitar, it's actually a productive obsession

  • @justdad3722
    @justdad3722 7 лет назад +255

    I fit this category...

    • @justdad3722
      @justdad3722 7 лет назад

      I do not. I do have have OCD and ADHD and find myself doing a lot of what was described above-mentioned. Also love cosplay lol!

    • @creedbratton2094
      @creedbratton2094 7 лет назад +5

      Jenelle's Playtime Adventures If you had OCD you wouldn't say "I have have OCD"...

    • @rickyj1
      @rickyj1 7 лет назад +1

      She could be also dyslectic, which I am and everything else Jenelle mentioned.

    • @justdad3722
      @justdad3722 7 лет назад

      DJ SUPERNOVA You are correct, did not notice "have" twice. I did check the lock on the door 8 times before I left to work though.

    • @dj32323
      @dj32323 7 лет назад +1

      so when you check the lock once, cant you just run away and forget about it?

  • @halopines1600
    @halopines1600 7 лет назад +28

    I am awkward because I'm human

  • @dulfinz5254
    @dulfinz5254 7 лет назад +6

    I hate going out into the public, I need help

  • @daviddimalanta259
    @daviddimalanta259 6 лет назад +1

    Socially awkward people are mostly introverts. It's because of thinking prowess. And you maybe right...socially awkward is being not exposed to social situations since birth. Even if I'm introvert, I'm taking responsibility and working out by keeping in touch through communications and learning to start conversation as well.
    One thing, introverts may speak few in personal but talks a lot in Facebook chats. People still get our point as long as it is crystal clear.

  • @1piece473
    @1piece473 7 лет назад +1

    he just described what I am going through, I had my first date ever with a girl.. I never saw her.. never met her before the day I dated her.. we just texted through the phone.. and I felt like I ruined everything on the day I met her.. I made it extremely awkward and antisocial.. I felt really bad and sad after that cuz I wasn't able to meet her expectations.. I don't like being with people a lot or to have mini chats.. but when it comes to the things I am nerd at.. I am full of it.. I am trying to study myself really hard.. this guy was true about what he said despite one thing.. we should mind the fact that this causes many awkward people to have depression or not believe in themselves as they are taught to perceive that there is something wrong in them.. "anxiety can lead to depression" I wasn't this much socially awkward when I was 15 or 16.. I was the opposite of that cuz I was always interesting to everyone.. most of the time depression is not a disorder!! its a condition.. yes its hard to change.. most of the psychological therapists "at least of those that ik" are ignorant and stupid.. and they just cause people with depression to be more depressed as they believe that that's who they are!! most people don't understand that "fun and life is subjective!!"

  • @Patrixxist
    @Patrixxist 7 лет назад +10

    It sounds like you're speaking about Aspergers Syndrome.

    • @cilla4000
      @cilla4000 6 лет назад

      ... yes!! My son has this and he's on point about it 100%!!

  • @pcnorway99
    @pcnorway99 7 лет назад +4

    This guy just described aspergers syndrome.

  • @qtluv2358
    @qtluv2358 7 лет назад +1

    This is somewhat right. Many geniuses tend to be socially awkward or people with special natural talents and interests; however, not everyone who is socially awkward are geniuses because they found some other topic or talent that doesn't create genius such as playing video games where very few people can actually make loads of money off that.
    Someone like me (Interested in videography, and hardware) does create success and so happened to be socially awkward. Had my first job at 16 in film.

  • @chrissame
    @chrissame 6 лет назад +5

    Welp...you just described my life on the Autism Spectrum....Thank you.
    Also This video is all about Autism Spectrum Disorders.

  • @JakeFields92
    @JakeFields92 4 года назад +1

    i just found out that a super sexy coworker of mine that i really like has told my friend coworker that im creepy, awkward, and wierd. ouch. this video made me feel kinda good because i do relate to the qualities he has mentioned. The guitar always brings my confidence back and i know im skilled.

  • @Ray-ce4sn
    @Ray-ce4sn 4 года назад +1

    Even RUclips algorithm knows I'm a socially awkward person hence recommended me this video.

  • @Sktergurl-hm4yi
    @Sktergurl-hm4yi 7 лет назад +14

    This is aspergers... Not awkwardness.

    • @Terzy
      @Terzy 7 лет назад +3

      +unlost Yea but not all socially awkward people have autism

    • @unlostm8
      @unlostm8 7 лет назад

      true

  • @topsickred
    @topsickred 7 лет назад +10

    this video make me feel wonderfull.

  • @remylebae3395
    @remylebae3395 7 лет назад +1

    social anxiety and social awkwardness is different. social awkwardness can leave you feeling socially anxious, but not everyone who is awkward has anxiety. some people are awkward and embrace their awkwardness, not caring what others think of their awkwardness. social anxiety is a mental disorder because it's only your mind convincing you of this (and maybe douchebag friends/family). you can overcome anxiety, but you can't necessarily overcome awkwardness

  • @paigie.paigie
    @paigie.paigie 6 лет назад +1

    I’m good at drawing and learning things about the body and I’m super obsessed with the MCU! I can also lucid dream which is pretty nice considering it’s like having a double life but one you can control completely

  • @sidhuchuchewala
    @sidhuchuchewala 7 лет назад +6

    thank you for telling me, about myself :)

  • @espi11
    @espi11 7 лет назад +7

    What about people who have anxiety?

    • @apluto12-z3e
      @apluto12-z3e 7 лет назад

      Espi I have the same question!

  • @MarvFitBikesKicks
    @MarvFitBikesKicks 7 лет назад +6

    Im socially awkward but not smart at anything

    • @Viktor007
      @Viktor007 6 лет назад +2

      Maybe you're just good at being socially awkward

  • @-NateTheGreat
    @-NateTheGreat 7 лет назад

    This happens in roleplay games when you put all your points into Intelligence and none into Charisma.

  • @EpicGamer-dj7dm
    @EpicGamer-dj7dm 6 лет назад +1

    Now I feel less guilty about my social awkwardness I'm actually focusing on something and I can feel the success coming my way, Thanks for raising my confidence.
    Ps, I watch anime

  • @Zimba9810
    @Zimba9810 7 лет назад +5

    lets be real. we suck. we live on youtube comments we will never be youtube creator.

  • @farazfarooqui829
    @farazfarooqui829 7 лет назад +5

    Iam socially awkward and have ADHD.

    • @phill1422
      @phill1422 7 лет назад +2

      faraz farooqui ADHD is not even real

    • @renderz8435
      @renderz8435 7 лет назад

      faraz farooqui dont worry it's pretty common

    • @TheresaFable
      @TheresaFable 7 лет назад

      Two Words When I read shit like this I wonder what humanity has come to

  • @bauman7962
    @bauman7962 7 лет назад +4

    OK

  • @Jack.Strait
    @Jack.Strait 7 лет назад

    The problem is, lots of people here claim to be socially awkward, yet have no "rigid focus". That might be because they aren't truly socially awkward. They fail to understand the extent of discomfort much more awkward people experience. For the same reason, people always claim they are an introvert. You rarely hear self-proclaimed extroverts.

  • @rknine7998
    @rknine7998 6 лет назад

    This doctor is describing a syndrome called Asperger's, a branch of Autism. It is when a person focuses intensively on one or two things but fails in other things, including communication.

  • @Someone-cd7yi
    @Someone-cd7yi 7 лет назад +47

    Aren't you talking about autism instead of social awkwardness?

    • @RonWolfHowl
      @RonWolfHowl 7 лет назад +1

      That might be the way it seems, but everybody has a _routine_ and _interests_ to some degree. The people who have neither are the most socially skilled, since they don’t do anything productive or interesting with their free time besides talking to other people.

    • @unknownname328
      @unknownname328 6 лет назад

      I wonder if he's using "awkward" as a replacement because of how many undiagnosed people there are with high functioning autism, and because a lot of people don't know what high functioning autism is so to them it would just be someone who's awkward
      Also I think it's more attention grabbing with "awkward" instead of "autistic" because everyone feels awkward sometimes, but then he goes on to describe autistic traits and hopes no one notices, which unfortunately most people won't

  • @codex4336
    @codex4336 6 лет назад +1

    I was trying to be less socially awkward, but then I found this video

  • @daphnededrick8493
    @daphnededrick8493 7 лет назад

    I've always been awkward, weird, strange, uncomfortable in social settings, not fit in with any group, and I quit school so I wouldn't have to give a speech in speech class. Yeah. That bad. But I am nowhere near successful. I hope people like me can get the help they need to be successful in life. Peace everyone.

  • @SarahGrace221
    @SarahGrace221 7 лет назад +40

    Has anyone noticed that he's actually awkward? It makes it less convincing when an awkward person tells people that being awkward is really a good component.

  • @dallastx3322
    @dallastx3322 3 года назад

    Today I embrace my socially awkwardness for better or for worse It’ll either make me successful or be my biggest downfall

  • @1xrxaxrxex174
    @1xrxaxrxex174 6 лет назад +2

    AWKWARD AM I

  • @anonymous-nn9rb
    @anonymous-nn9rb 7 лет назад +3

    Sounds like Warren Buffet

  • @Bcoaster966
    @Bcoaster966 7 лет назад +4

    sooo every pro gamer ever lol

  • @Moneyyeye
    @Moneyyeye 6 лет назад +8

    I hear a description of aspergers...is it just me?

    • @QuanBrown27
      @QuanBrown27 6 лет назад +1

      Yelah H Word lol

    • @a13xlaircey666
      @a13xlaircey666 6 лет назад +1

      I have Aspergers, and he just perfectly described me!

  • @57trees
    @57trees 6 лет назад

    This is a video we never asked for, but needed it.

  • @talalahmedvlogs5717
    @talalahmedvlogs5717 7 лет назад

    I am not always awkward but when I am it's So much...

  • @raymondbrooks2313
    @raymondbrooks2313 6 лет назад +23

    LOL yeah I'm awkward and I have autism spectera disorder I think and I focus on the music a lot trying to get where I want to be LOL and I got lots of Connections in the music industry I know if I keep at it I'll get famous one day. 🙇🤗🙋✌

    • @davidgabriel5125
      @davidgabriel5125 6 лет назад +3

      Raymond Brooks you're shit go home kiddo with your inspirational bullshit.

    • @vaprin2019
      @vaprin2019 6 лет назад +3

      Meme Recycler "a homeless nigga calls another homeless nigga a 'broke ass nigga' "

    • @brownplasticbag7429
      @brownplasticbag7429 6 лет назад +10

      Why is there a person literally shitting on an autistic person. I can see why people use the word "autistic" as a joke but you are flat out just saying that he is an autistic shit. Please actually use common sense and not be rude to other people just because they have autism.

    • @vaprin2019
      @vaprin2019 6 лет назад

      lol

    • @nickharley2344
      @nickharley2344 6 лет назад +2

      Raymond Brooks I like your music, keep at it bro!

  • @awesome5657blink
    @awesome5657blink 6 лет назад +5

    This reminds me of many Asperger kids

  • @itannoysme3348
    @itannoysme3348 6 лет назад +1

    An awkward guy doing his best to justify and feel better about being awkward.

  • @joshuahumes5548
    @joshuahumes5548 7 лет назад +1

    when I was a kid my teachers and other adults would say I'm too smart for my own good

  • @bayenne5b
    @bayenne5b 7 лет назад +7

    why is he talking about autists?

  • @MrHav1k
    @MrHav1k 6 лет назад +3

    So they're aspies. Got it lmao.

  • @andrewkim7700
    @andrewkim7700 7 лет назад +3

    take that you bullies

  • @meanjgreen1131
    @meanjgreen1131 7 лет назад

    I'm the most awkward and anxious person I know and all I can say for people like me is learn to not follow what's popular and don't be fake around people and just do u and you'll be more happy

  • @SettingMind
    @SettingMind 6 лет назад

    I personally hate working with socially akward people but I don't deny their work ethics and thier skills is astonishing

  • @salvadorceja3843
    @salvadorceja3843 7 лет назад +3

    this guy is awkward

  • @Aidanmcfar
    @Aidanmcfar 7 лет назад +6

    first veiws like and comment

  • @YueRain
    @YueRain 4 года назад

    now i feel so much better for being awkward

  • @irishkk88
    @irishkk88 7 лет назад

    Being awkward makes you less likely to succeed, no matter what you want to believe. You need interpersonal skills to go far. It's not about what you know, it's about WHO you know, and comfortable people know everyone.

  • @yugiohswap4210
    @yugiohswap4210 7 лет назад

    The problem is they are never likely leaders of companies. They make tremendous product or tech, but cannot make business deals to make it successful alone

  • @Armageddon325
    @Armageddon325 7 лет назад

    This practically describes my fascination with astronomy, astrophysics, and meteorology. Everything else to me just seems… difficult and obsolete.
    For example, I can describe how interstellar space flight could be possibly created and all about the positive and negative implications of an artificial intelligence gaining self-awareness, but I cannot maintain a conversation with anyone set for one or two people outside my family.

  • @luisforeal8676
    @luisforeal8676 7 лет назад

    Pretend to be not socially awkward. Now There's something you can master.

  • @goth9160
    @goth9160 7 лет назад

    im socially awkward but being this way made me graduate with a 4.42 GPA and become valedictorian in my school. My speech wasnt meant to be funny but the last thing i said was "And in the future you all will be working for me, it could have been the other way but you thought failing a test and having friends was more important. Goodbye, see you in 6 years."