There's also something called regression that is also a coping mechanism. It's where you revert to basically a younger state of mind to help deal with stress and anxiety. I learned what coping mechanisms were when I was in psychology class
I’m a victim of emotional child abuse and I actually do this sometimes and it gives me so much relief. Reverting to the state of an innocent, curious and naive child, enjoying life and just playing out the childhood of others you never had. It’s an amazing coping mechanism for me.
That’s what I do. I’m not ready to grow up. I kinda regressed during the pandemic, returning to my old ways. I’m almost 18 but I feel more like a twelve year old and I brought back my imaginary friends, excessive stimming, and began to use stuffed animals again. I don’t like the thought of being old and serious or losing my younger self even though people constantly tell me to grow up and are annoyed by me.
Oh no. I was doing this, but now due to that I have two mental ages. But whatever, this is good, I can use maturity whenever I want, and goof around in stupid ways
I used to use sublimation to write fanfics. You’d be surprised, but a lot of fanfics are actually really, really devastating 😅 there are even two fanfiction genres for it: hurt/comfort and angst
i have disassociation. i literally feel like anything is okay because i'm not me, i'm only observing me and thus not truly subject to the stress that me is experiencing. of course this is all an illusion though
Oh I love that. When I mentioned situations of repression to my therapist she just said "Oh, that sounds worrieng" and we went to the next topic. But honestly I couldn't explain it much further, 'cause I couldn't remember any of it. (I only know about because people asked me about sertan situations I had no idea that happened lol)
What about compartmentalisation? Personally that's my strategy. I isolate that issue at the moment then when I have time, deal with it later. There was a day my mom sent me a horrible text early in the morning and I had a work presentation. I didn't reply, took deep breaths then prepared for work. In the evening after I was done, I cried in the shower then called my mother and yelled at her. Throughout the day I was just fine but broke down immediately I got home. I also forbade her from sending me any texts before noon and muted her notifications. Eventually it became too much because she would keep doing it so I could see snippets of her texts everymorning. I got therapy and blocked her. I am happier now.
@@AnonamemusHacker-yk2dh nahh, he said it can be healthy as well. how effective suppression is depends on whether you deal with the emotions later on when its fine to do so.
@@AnonamemusHacker-yk2dhNo, he said it can be that you don't deal with them, but he specifically said in the bid that you suppress the emotional response so you can have it later - vent to a friend, get drunk etc.
It is infact suppression, it's good just don't make it turn into repression (don't suppress your emotions all the time to the point you're repressing them instead of facing them later!)
Definitly have repression for when something really bad happens. When my dad died, it was a real shock, i didnt know how to react to it. I was expecting it to happen sooner or later since his lung cancer was worsening. I cried on my way to school and at school for a bit, and then i just put the thought away. I just decided to forget about it. Whenever someone brought it up, I'd feel like i wanted to cry in the moment, but then the feeling would quickly disappear. I used to just joke around and stuff to make myself feel better. After six months of this, i could finally talk about it without feeling sad at all. My lack of reaction made my mum think it was just because i was a kid(i was 16), and so it wouldn't hit me as hard. I didn't get any therapy or stuff like that since my mom doesn't believe in it. The year after, my grandpa died, and i felt it a lot less. It seems that every time it happens, i just get over it faster. Since i always get unlucky, i just adopted the motto it is what it is to whatever happens. It makes life easier to deal with.
i feel like proactive coping can also become a problem when you start planning for issues that might not even happen. overwhelming yourself with things to do in preparation for a big event, to the point where it just becomes stressful and even isolating. and in situations where say, you may end up underprepared for something, you fall into a spiral of panic because you don’t know how to deal with changes/occurrences you hadn’t anticipated. a good example of this is what was happening with anxiety in inside out - at first she seemed really practical, covering all the bases and making a lot of sense when referring to how they achieve riley’s ultimate goal. but eventually, it escalated into something completely unnecessary that drove everyone away and just caused her an insane amount of stress.
I use multiple coping mechanisms but especially repression and regression. I laugh at everything and I’m quite optimistic and positive. I constantly hide stuff from myself sometimes without realizing. I laugh, smile, and joke when others panic and grieve. It might seem insensitive but the truth is I feel it too in many cases and sometimes I don’t. I’m still laughing at things that others found traumatic and scary lol. I could be trembling in fear or anger but I don’t feel it mentally and I’m like shit my body is tweaking. If bad memories come up I start cracking up about it and ignore any discomfort. However once every few months I’ll go sicko mode over something that would be random nonsense or a slight inconvenience otherwise. I ended up in the mental hospital twice after blowing up and becoming a danger to myself and others. I was 7 and 9 though so I’m a different person now. I also got suspended in 11th grade because I blew up over my teacher shutting the door on me after being a few seconds late. I cussed her out. Threw shit every where, got suspended and then proceeded to have a hair trigger the next few days. Putting holes in walls and beating myself to the point of bruising. The crisis was called and I thought I was done with that nonsense. I thought I had left that junk in 2016 if we’re being honest, but apparently it was still there and I still hadn’t dealt with it. I don’t know. It’s literally what keeps me saying, because if I went into all those vaults and processed everything, then I would not be able to retain my excitable attitude, which by the way, annoys the f**k out of everyone around me and all they wanna do is talk about how I’m too energetic and how I’m too crazy I’m trying my best. People say be yourself but like who am I that’s the question that we should be asking. However I don’t realize how deep the vault of emotions go because I’ve been reppressing them so long. Even a twinge of discomfort. Put that nonsense away. At least I’m mostly happy lol.
You're so real for this babe and i want u to know that feelings are ALWAYS ok! Having feelings is what makes you a human and for me, sometimes i would not feel anything and dissociate but watch a sad movie or listen to music and that helps me let out some of my feelings, when i cry over a fictional character or whatever. You should try it and also try the healthier ones mentioned in the video like sublimation and be artistic. It all feels fake at first, but it starts making sense and you start to feel better overall. Also remember that even though you said you're scared you won't be excitable otherwise, and you won't be happy, you have to realize that unstable behavior you described in your life goes away when you actually start to address things at the root of the problem... ❤
@@salma-amlas feeling any sort of emotion that’s not happiness or accessibility or some sort of pleasure just feel so wrong almost and purposefully encouraging those emotions to be let out. I remember when people crying over their loved ones on the radio see a person who was grieving panic I would think how do people feel comfortable with letting off their emotions like this. Seeing anyone suffering releases a physical discomfort in my body. I know it’s bad but hopefully one day I’ll learn to be OK with releasing my emotions in a healthy way. There was a time where I wasn’t even OK with crying when I was completely by myself because it felt like some invisible force was watching and judging me for it so I would keep it in. I always thought that I was just immune to trauma and that any problems I had were left in the past but the truth was I just wasn’t allowing myself to feel anything negative.
I am fluent in Repression, Suppression, Rationalization, Discplacement, Sublimation (not as much anymore), Avoidance coping. Tasty. Love how he emphasises the some words perfectly. Almost had me laughing a little.
Oh yeah. Recently I found out I can use my best friend as translator. She knows me pretty well and is good at guessing if something hurt me or not or generelly how I feel about certan stuff. Bad part is she tends to froce me to later on explain it myself XD
14:19 my dog has cancer and this is how I’ve been dealing with it. I wonder if my family thinks I don’t care or I’m taking it too well. I love and cherish my dog, we’ve been together for 11 years, and I know he’s going to die within the next few months. But instead of avoiding it or worrying about it, I’ve learned a lot about what happens when pets die and what’s legal in our state in terms of burial and cremation and stuff, as well as how to help other pets that have lost their friend.
This is really informative. I'm not sure if it counts as a coping mechanism, but the one I tend to use most is escapism. If there's a part 2 for your coping mechanism video, can you take a jab at escapism please? Thank you in advance.
This is just a guess? I remember hearing somewhere laughing or smiling tricks our brain to making us feel good, so doing that during a painful time I don’t think it’s anything wrong maybe just a way to cope
Do you mean that you automatically start laughing when you’re in pain even though you don’t want to be, or that you laugh on purpose because it makes you feel better? I’ve heard of both. Different things, but both normal.
I’ve been unknowingly using repression to cope with things for years upon years. And it’s easy for me to figure out where those bottled up emotions often manifest? That’s right, my dreams. And doing that in the long term causes what mental health professionals call silent stress, especially in a society that views the expression of one’s emotions as a sign of weakness.
Really needed this video man It helps to identify what exactly I'm going through and introduce better ways to cope with problems Thanks a lot and keepp up to good work on these videos!!!
Displacement from other people onto me is one of my biggest triggers. My goodness people learn to temper your storms or others will be forced to weather them.
Damn. I just realized I tried all these coping mechanisms because being in a star section in the Philippines was stressing... thanks for telling. Lovely video.
I use multiple coping mechanisms. Sometime its the proactive kind sometimes it's the avoidance one. Sometimes I harm myself and other times I write, draw, and that kind of stuff to show my emotions. Then most of the time if I'm feeling stressed around anyone I kinda like suppress it. I think it's pretty obvious when I'm stressed though whenever my legs and possible other parts of my body are literally shaking while doing a presentation. I just kinda do whatever to be honest.
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Another one is internalization. I’ve seen it before. Sometime, when people experience negative emotions, they tend to turn those emotions into self-criticism, wondering why they can’t do anything right. Another one is something I don’t have the scientific name of, so I will call it self-transference. A creative person experiencing something may often create a character or something of the sort and basically make the character themselves, except in a different series of circumstance. And there’s also self-destruction, but I’m not even gonna go into that.
12:11 It’s funny cus this is my EXACT situation, and I’m realised I’m using this coping mechanism it right now by watching this RUclips video… I’m cracking a joke at it, but It’s been ruining me lately and I just want someone to talk to who wont just call me “lazy”
I literally HAVE to repress my feeling because when i dont i cant not express them. Like if im angry i cant control myself and i end up hurting people and things, Or i lose my filter. I either have to repress my feelings or feel it all at once, And everyone expects me to show no emotion besides happiness and contentment. So I’m completely fucked. Ive tried absolutely everything to fix myself for most of my life and nothing works.
Feel that. Well to me I used to repress a lot till I would burst out at my family (when someone disturbed my reading). At somepoint I just turned overly happy to kind of counter the negative emotions, quess what it didn't end well. Took a lot of work to find healthier ways to cope with emotions.
Most of these are ego defence mechanisms from Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Psychology. These arent really coping mechanisms per se and moreso are means to which the ego manages psychic-level anxiety so as to keep the intrapsychic system in homeostasis, coping strategies are behavioural and cognitive responses to stress
Another good one is Maladaptive Daydreaming, in which a person reacts to stressors by escaping into their own imagination to the point where they might refuse to interact with reality
Omg reaction formation and suppression are such huge parts of my life 😭 I feel like a POS whenever I feel angry or sad even in private, so I try my hardest to be the opposite. I have tons of GI issues because I internalize everything. I legitimately don’t know how to make myself express negative emotions fully. I realized something was really wrong when I couldn’t bring myself to throw or smash anything for fun in one of those anger management rooms because it felt icky. My anger very quickly simmered down to disgust and shame whenever I tried.
So coping is essentially survival and how we stay sane. I guess I always perceived it as an exclusive to more extreme scenarios associated with delusion of sorts.
My mom’s always told me to repress all my negative emotions, like ever since I was in Elementary school. So, I do that. But, that’s such a bad advice. It’s probably why I have Ugly Duckling syndrome from all the bullying I suffered in Junior High school.
It's interesting that there are two ways which are considered good, but a plethora of other ways that are sometimes the go-to strategy for people who don't think about it and they all manage to be counterproductive. Are humans just build flawed?!
most of these come in one package called PTSD, where you go through nearly all of these and then have to fight the bad consequence at once when you then are alone, or there is triger event, and no one around you understand why you suddenly cry, get angry or retreat into your self, and at the same time you are unable to explain to those around you what is happening
@@hedgehogshill3522 it is true, you don´t have to have PTSD to have most of these coping mechanisms, but i am trying to do here is to make people aware that if you have those, it might be an idea to seek help, because if you have PTSD and don´t, the consequence can be so hard to deal with that it will take a life time to get over it, sorry for not being more precise in that messege
@@jd4200mhz Oh no no no, I didn't want to say anything against it. Bad wording from me. I just wanted to say that I have a lot of respect for everyone who has to handle more than a couple of those. Specially people with PTSD because potentially having all of them plus eventually other symptoms is more than fits into my imagination. It is good to make people aware that there might be more behind the things they know they got.
@@hedgehogshill3522 and again i am sorry, i am not a native english speaker, it was in no way an attack or a feeling that you did not take this seriously, i just wanted to say, thank you, you made me think about how to tell people and improve it, so i can reach more people with that problem
Bro anyone who uses reaction formation and repression as a coping mechanism are relatable imo cuz of how much society has literally invalidated normal emotions (I deal with stuff like this from people close to me cuz they don’t know emotions shouldn’t be invalidated)
Which one is it when you are raised by very religious conservative parents, and even though you became an atheist at 17, you deny being gay until you are 27 and aren't even really aware of same-sex attraction until later in your 20s?
3:09 how would you respond to that friend in that situation then if you are still reframing your thoughts without being fake? I find myself in social situations that make me uncomfortable, and my people-pleaser mentality comes out and just tells everyone I’m having a good time when I’m not. I want people to have a positive and good experience. No one wants to be around someone that constantly complains. If
I repress, redirect and avoid. I do anything to avoid emotions but it's starting to get to the point where I CAN'T repress and I redirect hard. I have been feeling those emotions very hard. It's like my drawer is full.
can you do a video explaining how to use these: comma, question mark? exclamation point! colon: semi-colon; "quotes" -dash, whatever this is~ ([{brackets}]) this/and\that *asterisk & and period.
There's also something called regression that is also a coping mechanism. It's where you revert to basically a younger state of mind to help deal with stress and anxiety. I learned what coping mechanisms were when I was in psychology class
I’m a victim of emotional child abuse and I actually do this sometimes and it gives me so much relief. Reverting to the state of an innocent, curious and naive child, enjoying life and just playing out the childhood of others you never had. It’s an amazing coping mechanism for me.
I grew up in a abusive household and I’m now in an amazing household and I use this coping mechanism
Yeah I learned this from watching vrchat trolling videos. Stuff is sad
That’s what I do. I’m not ready to grow up. I kinda regressed during the pandemic, returning to my old ways. I’m almost 18 but I feel more like a twelve year old and I brought back my imaginary friends, excessive stimming, and began to use stuffed animals again. I don’t like the thought of being old and serious or losing my younger self even though people constantly tell me to grow up and are annoyed by me.
Oh no. I was doing this, but now due to that I have two mental ages. But whatever, this is good, I can use maturity whenever I want, and goof around in stupid ways
This is honestly surprising less dark compared to other topics of videos on this channel.
real
Kinda wish we had more videos with lighter topics like this. there's only so many freak accident death videos I can take, in my subscription feed.
I have never in my entire life seen any one else who uses sublimation and actually writes poetry, it has to be the most beautiful one of the bunch.
I used to use sublimation to write fanfics. You’d be surprised, but a lot of fanfics are actually really, really devastating 😅 there are even two fanfiction genres for it: hurt/comfort and angst
00:01 - Social coping
01:23 - Reaction formation
03:19 - Repression
05:25 - Suppression
06:55 - Rationalization
08:16 - Displacement
09:50 - Sublimation
11:00 - Projection
12:09 - Avoidance coping
13:18 - Proactive coping
14:31 - Sponsor
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Thank you
i think sponsor is the safest and best coping mechanism
My good ol suppression to your face: I'm ok being near you right now.
The instant that person is gone: Cue screaming into the void and chaos
i have disassociation. i literally feel like anything is okay because i'm not me, i'm only observing me and thus not truly subject to the stress that me is experiencing. of course this is all an illusion though
THIS
I feel like a walking camera
How to do this
@@sniffs_lilac dude seriously? :/
Yep I'm in the middle of that right now ig because my problems are catching up to me and it's getting harder to ignore that I'm not a person
The evaluator cooked. Like all the explanations was honestly understandable. Keep up the amazing work
the evaluator has evaluated
DUDE. I always did Repression as a way of coping and I didn't even know and realize that this was a thingg- glad to know that I wasn't alone.
When it comes to repression from abuse, my psychiatrist said "The mind is kind, it blocks out what you can't bear to remember".
Oh I love that. When I mentioned situations of repression to my therapist she just said "Oh, that sounds worrieng" and we went to the next topic.
But honestly I couldn't explain it much further, 'cause I couldn't remember any of it. (I only know about because people asked me about sertan situations I had no idea that happened lol)
What about compartmentalisation? Personally that's my strategy. I isolate that issue at the moment then when I have time, deal with it later. There was a day my mom sent me a horrible text early in the morning and I had a work presentation. I didn't reply, took deep breaths then prepared for work. In the evening after I was done, I cried in the shower then called my mother and yelled at her. Throughout the day I was just fine but broke down immediately I got home. I also forbade her from sending me any texts before noon and muted her notifications. Eventually it became too much because she would keep doing it so I could see snippets of her texts everymorning. I got therapy and blocked her. I am happier now.
He covered it in the video. It was called suppression.
@@RadishHead7 suppression is not dealing or properly reacting to your emotions this is different
@@AnonamemusHacker-yk2dh nahh, he said it can be healthy as well. how effective suppression is depends on whether you deal with the emotions later on when its fine to do so.
@@AnonamemusHacker-yk2dhNo, he said it can be that you don't deal with them, but he specifically said in the bid that you suppress the emotional response so you can have it later - vent to a friend, get drunk etc.
It is infact suppression, it's good just don't make it turn into repression (don't suppress your emotions all the time to the point you're repressing them instead of facing them later!)
Definitly have repression for when something really bad happens. When my dad died, it was a real shock, i didnt know how to react to it. I was expecting it to happen sooner or later since his lung cancer was worsening. I cried on my way to school and at school for a bit, and then i just put the thought away. I just decided to forget about it. Whenever someone brought it up, I'd feel like i wanted to cry in the moment, but then the feeling would quickly disappear. I used to just joke around and stuff to make myself feel better. After six months of this, i could finally talk about it without feeling sad at all. My lack of reaction made my mum think it was just because i was a kid(i was 16), and so it wouldn't hit me as hard. I didn't get any therapy or stuff like that since my mom doesn't believe in it.
The year after, my grandpa died, and i felt it a lot less. It seems that every time it happens, i just get over it faster. Since i always get unlucky, i just adopted the motto it is what it is to whatever happens. It makes life easier to deal with.
i feel like proactive coping can also become a problem when you start planning for issues that might not even happen. overwhelming yourself with things to do in preparation for a big event, to the point where it just becomes stressful and even isolating. and in situations where say, you may end up underprepared for something, you fall into a spiral of panic because you don’t know how to deal with changes/occurrences you hadn’t anticipated.
a good example of this is what was happening with anxiety in inside out - at first she seemed really practical, covering all the bases and making a lot of sense when referring to how they achieve riley’s ultimate goal. but eventually, it escalated into something completely unnecessary that drove everyone away and just caused her an insane amount of stress.
i dont trust these stickmen. their faces together hide a dishonorable secret.
they have also gotten every disease, sexuality, mental illness, and disorders you can think of 😭😭
I use multiple coping mechanisms but especially repression and regression. I laugh at everything and I’m quite optimistic and positive. I constantly hide stuff from myself sometimes without realizing. I laugh, smile, and joke when others panic and grieve. It might seem insensitive but the truth is I feel it too in many cases and sometimes I don’t. I’m still laughing at things that others found traumatic and scary lol. I could be trembling in fear or anger but I don’t feel it mentally and I’m like shit my body is tweaking. If bad memories come up I start cracking up about it and ignore any discomfort. However once every few months I’ll go sicko mode over something that would be random nonsense or a slight inconvenience otherwise. I ended up in the mental hospital twice after blowing up and becoming a danger to myself and others. I was 7 and 9 though so I’m a different person now. I also got suspended in 11th grade because I blew up over my teacher shutting the door on me after being a few seconds late. I cussed her out. Threw shit every where, got suspended and then proceeded to have a hair trigger the next few days. Putting holes in walls and beating myself to the point of bruising. The crisis was called and I thought I was done with that nonsense. I thought I had left that junk in 2016 if we’re being honest, but apparently it was still there and I still hadn’t dealt with it. I don’t know. It’s literally what keeps me saying, because if I went into all those vaults and processed everything, then I would not be able to retain my excitable attitude, which by the way, annoys the f**k out of everyone around me and all they wanna do is talk about how I’m too energetic and how I’m too crazy I’m trying my best. People say be yourself but like who am I that’s the question that we should be asking. However I don’t realize how deep the vault of emotions go because I’ve been reppressing them so long. Even a twinge of discomfort. Put that nonsense away. At least I’m mostly happy lol.
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You're so real for this babe and i want u to know that feelings are ALWAYS ok! Having feelings is what makes you a human and for me, sometimes i would not feel anything and dissociate but watch a sad movie or listen to music and that helps me let out some of my feelings, when i cry over a fictional character or whatever. You should try it and also try the healthier ones mentioned in the video like sublimation and be artistic. It all feels fake at first, but it starts making sense and you start to feel better overall. Also remember that even though you said you're scared you won't be excitable otherwise, and you won't be happy, you have to realize that unstable behavior you described in your life goes away when you actually start to address things at the root of the problem... ❤
@@salma-amlas feeling any sort of emotion that’s not happiness or accessibility or some sort of pleasure just feel so wrong almost and purposefully encouraging those emotions to be let out. I remember when people crying over their loved ones on the radio see a person who was grieving panic I would think how do people feel comfortable with letting off their emotions like this. Seeing anyone suffering releases a physical discomfort in my body. I know it’s bad but hopefully one day I’ll learn to be OK with releasing my emotions in a healthy way. There was a time where I wasn’t even OK with crying when I was completely by myself because it felt like some invisible force was watching and judging me for it so I would keep it in. I always thought that I was just immune to trauma and that any problems I had were left in the past but the truth was I just wasn’t allowing myself to feel anything negative.
I cant wait to do all of these at once
Suppression is a hell of a drug. It let's you build a successful career for 5 years and then drop it and go to Bombay.
I am fluent in Repression, Suppression, Rationalization, Discplacement, Sublimation (not as much anymore), Avoidance coping. Tasty.
Love how he emphasises the some words perfectly. Almost had me laughing a little.
i do social coping, repression, rationalization, displacement, and avoidance coping all the time. i had no idea they were coping mechanisms
This dude popped up on my fyp and now I’m just watching his stuff. Thank you for answering my unanswered questions 👍🏻
Glad to help
0:51 I wish I could do that dawg, but it just feels so weird to open up irl
On bro
Oh yeah. Recently I found out I can use my best friend as translator. She knows me pretty well and is good at guessing if something hurt me or not or generelly how I feel about certan stuff.
Bad part is she tends to froce me to later on explain it myself XD
@@hedgehogshill3522 Damn😭
Yeah and ppl irl aren't trustable
@@Mystic_Dreamers Real
My copin mecanism:
My therapist dosnt want me to finish that joke
"my lawyer has advised me not to finish this joke" with a twist
What if you trying to gaslight yourself into thinking your trauma doesn't exist a coping?
Sweet lemons, I guess
denial
Avoidance I think?
Omg I've done this before too.
I gaslight myself and say "It's all in ur head bro"
14:19 my dog has cancer and this is how I’ve been dealing with it. I wonder if my family thinks I don’t care or I’m taking it too well. I love and cherish my dog, we’ve been together for 11 years, and I know he’s going to die within the next few months. But instead of avoiding it or worrying about it, I’ve learned a lot about what happens when pets die and what’s legal in our state in terms of burial and cremation and stuff, as well as how to help other pets that have lost their friend.
These are the types of videos that you can tell effort has actually been put into making it
This is really informative. I'm not sure if it counts as a coping mechanism, but the one I tend to use most is escapism. If there's a part 2 for your coping mechanism video, can you take a jab at escapism please? Thank you in advance.
Escapism is definitely a coping mechanism
Absolutely. Had a talk about it with my therapist. I would almost say it overlaps a little with avoidance coping.
Well, I definitely have Avoidance Coping for watching this video instead of studying for my exam...
I don’t know if there’s something wrong with my brain, but when I get hurt, I start laughing to help cope my pain. Does anybody else feel me?
I do it a lot sometimes I am so angry or sad I just laugh because it's too much
might be because you had enough or dont want to be dramatic so u just laugh.Thats what i felt
I do something similar
I joke about it
This is just a guess? I remember hearing somewhere laughing or smiling tricks our brain to making us feel good, so doing that during a painful time I don’t think it’s anything wrong maybe just a way to cope
Do you mean that you automatically start laughing when you’re in pain even though you don’t want to be, or that you laugh on purpose because it makes you feel better? I’ve heard of both. Different things, but both normal.
I’ve been unknowingly using repression to cope with things for years upon years. And it’s easy for me to figure out where those bottled up emotions often manifest? That’s right, my dreams. And doing that in the long term causes what mental health professionals call silent stress, especially in a society that views the expression of one’s emotions as a sign of weakness.
Really needed this video man
It helps to identify what exactly I'm going through and introduce better ways to cope with problems
Thanks a lot and keepp up to good work on these videos!!!
1:19 czech republic mentioned
“Nobody is an island”
Shows a landlocked country
Maaaan I remembered those days when I got bullied relentlessly and ended up having long term repression
And now here I am living out of pure spite
Displacement from other people onto me is one of my biggest triggers. My goodness people learn to temper your storms or others will be forced to weather them.
Damn. I just realized I tried all these coping mechanisms because being in a star section in the Philippines was stressing... thanks for telling. Lovely video.
8:39 "AND YOUR JUST EXPLODE ON THEM!!!1!!!!11"
the face at 1:46 made me burst out of laughter
Me too 😂
Man i do like over half of these
I have ADD, I can simply wait 5 minutes by doing something else and i forget what I was angry about in the first place.
God bless all of you. Merry Christmas, dont ever forget the reason for the season ❤️✝️🕊🙏
where's my favorite: alcoholism
3:21 “Have fun repressing this!”
“mleh…..”
MURDER DRONES MENTION
I literally screamed “murder drones?” After reading this comment-
@@Glinx_YYAY!!!
@@SillyNillyKat >:D
“Consider it…REPRESSED 😎”
I use multiple coping mechanisms. Sometime its the proactive kind sometimes it's the avoidance one. Sometimes I harm myself and other times I write, draw, and that kind of stuff to show my emotions. Then most of the time if I'm feeling stressed around anyone I kinda like suppress it. I think it's pretty obvious when I'm stressed though whenever my legs and possible other parts of my body are literally shaking while doing a presentation. I just kinda do whatever to be honest.
What I do is I just think "it's already happened. don't turn something you regret into something you regret even more"
I love your videos man. I learn so much even with my short attention span 😂
I am a master of reaction formation, repression, suppression, rationalization, sublimation and proactive coping 🔥🔥🔥
“Consider it…repressed!”
I can just imagine people with actual struggles... I only have some homework to do, and I'm already stressed...
I just realised, being a person impulsively driven when emotionally charged, I try to rationalise a lot 💀 cost me a good amount of friendships
Late :
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Another one is internalization. I’ve seen it before. Sometime, when people experience negative emotions, they tend to turn those emotions into self-criticism, wondering why they can’t do anything right. Another one is something I don’t have the scientific name of, so I will call it self-transference. A creative person experiencing something may often create a character or something of the sort and basically make the character themselves, except in a different series of circumstance. And there’s also self-destruction, but I’m not even gonna go into that.
I’ve got this weird mix of rationalization, sublimation and screaming
that section on avoidance coping was like a punch in the gut
Displacement is so me 😍
12:11 It’s funny cus this is my EXACT situation, and I’m realised I’m using this coping mechanism it right now by watching this RUclips video… I’m cracking a joke at it, but It’s been ruining me lately and I just want someone to talk to who wont just call me “lazy”
Sublimation social coping and avoidance depending on the severity and cause of it
The way I cope is watching The Evaluator 🙂👍🏾
REAL
Ive mastered displacement and rationalization, and avoidance coping
One way of coping that I have to outgrow is pulling my hair.
I literally HAVE to repress my feeling because when i dont i cant not express them. Like if im angry i cant control myself and i end up hurting people and things, Or i lose my filter. I either have to repress my feelings or feel it all at once, And everyone expects me to show no emotion besides happiness and contentment. So I’m completely fucked. Ive tried absolutely everything to fix myself for most of my life and nothing works.
Feel that. Well to me I used to repress a lot till I would burst out at my family (when someone disturbed my reading). At somepoint I just turned overly happy to kind of counter the negative emotions, quess what it didn't end well. Took a lot of work to find healthier ways to cope with emotions.
Sounds like borderline personality disorder
This is a great video! Everything you say is so useful and true. Also i like the animation
I just cry until I don’t know what I’m crying about or why
Although only when I’m sad
I like how I'm stuck between Avoidant and Proactive
Most of these are ego defence mechanisms from Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Psychology. These arent really coping mechanisms per se and moreso are means to which the ego manages psychic-level anxiety so as to keep the intrapsychic system in homeostasis, coping strategies are behavioural and cognitive responses to stress
The evaluator should make a video about Aromantic and Asexual and Aromantic Asexual Aro Ace
Yes yep
I think they made one already
Proactive coping makes it seem like you're in control by making you luckier.
Because in the real world, luck is when opportunity meets preparation.
great video, keep it comming
Damn... This was good
5:25 I found mine guys!
I feel very targeted with these 😭
Rationalization helps to cope with some of the sunk costs, that can really weight your mood down.
Even though deed has been done
Social coping, suppression, sublimation, and proactive coping seems good.
Sublimation is peak coping 🙏🏾
Another good one is Maladaptive Daydreaming, in which a person reacts to stressors by escaping into their own imagination to the point where they might refuse to interact with reality
Omg reaction formation and suppression are such huge parts of my life 😭
I feel like a POS whenever I feel angry or sad even in private, so I try my hardest to be the opposite. I have tons of GI issues because I internalize everything. I legitimately don’t know how to make myself express negative emotions fully.
I realized something was really wrong when I couldn’t bring myself to throw or smash anything for fun in one of those anger management rooms because it felt icky. My anger very quickly simmered down to disgust and shame whenever I tried.
So coping is essentially survival and how we stay sane.
I guess I always perceived it as an exclusive to more extreme scenarios associated with delusion of sorts.
intellectualization is also a fun one!
8:38 it seems you talking from experience😂
3:19 Sunny from OMORI core:
My mom’s always told me to repress all my negative emotions, like ever since I was in Elementary school. So, I do that. But, that’s such a bad advice. It’s probably why I have Ugly Duckling syndrome from all the bullying I suffered in Junior High school.
It's interesting that there are two ways which are considered good, but a plethora of other ways that are sometimes the go-to strategy for people who don't think about it and they all manage to be counterproductive.
Are humans just build flawed?!
Sometimes I have displacement but for how calm I think I can be I say sorry and that I was dealing with something
7:00 I was always wondering what the name of that was (I do that)
most of these come in one package called PTSD, where you go through nearly all of these and then have to fight the bad consequence at once when you then are alone, or there is triger event, and no one around you understand why you suddenly cry, get angry or retreat into your self, and at the same time you are unable to explain to those around you what is happening
I use six of those coping mechanisms. But PTSD is a whole different level isn't it? Don't have it, but damn looks like a heavy package to handle.
@@hedgehogshill3522 it is true, you don´t have to have PTSD to have most of these coping mechanisms, but i am trying to do here is to make people aware that if you have those, it might be an idea to seek help, because if you have PTSD and don´t, the consequence can be so hard to deal with that it will take a life time to get over it, sorry for not being more precise in that messege
@@jd4200mhz Oh no no no, I didn't want to say anything against it. Bad wording from me. I just wanted to say that I have a lot of respect for everyone who has to handle more than a couple of those. Specially people with PTSD because potentially having all of them plus eventually other symptoms is more than fits into my imagination.
It is good to make people aware that there might be more behind the things they know they got.
@@hedgehogshill3522 and again i am sorry, i am not a native english speaker, it was in no way an attack or a feeling that you did not take this seriously, i just wanted to say, thank you, you made me think about how to tell people and improve it, so i can reach more people with that problem
rather you impress me, it is not many in this world that shows any compassion to those who suffer from this
But isn't everything is just a coping mechanism to denied the horrible Truth that we live on a meaningless existence?
ITS THE ELECTION TIME OF THE EVALUATOR IN INFORMATION CLASS BABY-
I might have the reaction formation ones a lot ngl ngl
Bro anyone who uses reaction formation and repression as a coping mechanism are relatable imo cuz of how much society has literally invalidated normal emotions (I deal with stuff like this from people close to me cuz they don’t know emotions shouldn’t be invalidated)
i always use the proactive coping, it really helps me
I just turn in to a perfectionistic goblin and stop at some point because I am overwhelmed and nothing works how I planned it :')
12:36 this might be me..
Which one is it when you are raised by very religious conservative parents, and even though you became an atheist at 17, you deny being gay until you are 27 and aren't even really aware of same-sex attraction until later in your 20s?
that's not a coping mechanism. that's a cause of stress. how you deal with that stress, which you have not detailed, would be the coping mechanism
@@AshtonScripts I thought repression or reaction formation
Uhm I don't understand
Maybe it's repression??
I got them all! Wait... Is that a good thing?
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Projection is the most annoying when other people do that shit with or without realizing. They're also usually great at denial and repression. Rip!!!
3:09 how would you respond to that friend in that situation then if you are still reframing your thoughts without being fake?
I find myself in social situations that make me uncomfortable, and my people-pleaser mentality comes out and just tells everyone I’m having a good time when I’m not.
I want people to have a positive and good experience. No one wants to be around someone that constantly complains.
If
9:36 tbh I'm that younger sibling in situations when my mom and my brother argue, usually its my brother who uses that coping mechanism :(
wheres the rolling the fattest joint u can and smoking it all urself at 4 am at
as my dad always said,reppresion prevents depression
Sublimation is my go-to coping mechanism
great videos
I believe my coping mechanisms would be suppression and avoidance. Sometimes, it's great! Other times? Not so much...
Holy crap i remember this guys voice from a channel called mostlyfacts/mainlyfacts.
2:52 whoops
I repress, redirect and avoid. I do anything to avoid emotions but it's starting to get to the point where I CAN'T repress and I redirect hard. I have been feeling those emotions very hard. It's like my drawer is full.
4:11 yo is the crying one a meme face I swear I’ve seen it before
can you do a video explaining how to use these: comma, question mark? exclamation point! colon: semi-colon; "quotes" -dash, whatever this is~ ([{brackets}]) this/and\that *asterisk & and period.
just listen in English class? 😭
@@Supercoolcat128 I need to learn my symbols
@@Supercoolcat128but The Evaluator is a better teacher...