As someone who was a loser up until around junior year of high school, my main suggestions are to find yourself and find your place in a community. That's way easier said than done but bear with me for a second. At around 15 I realized I was trans. Up until that point I was really awkward and visibly trying to mask as someone who I thought other people would want to be around. When I started transitioning and finding out who I really wanted to be, it was visible and comforting to the people around me. I could be myself, and they could see me for me. Obviously you don't need to transition to find friends but I think my more extreme situation serves as a good example of how much your sense of self can help. From what I'm seeing in this video I think you're an incredibly sound person. Seeing your mannerisms and the way you talk about your experiences is legit enchanting and I encourage you to share your true self with the people around you if you aren't already. As for finding the people you wanna hang out with, joining a community with your interests does wonders. For me that community was theater, but it can be anything you enjoy. I remember just walking up to someone I thought seemed nice and asking him if I could join him and his friends for lunch, and with stuff like that people can be pretty charitable. None of this is easy but just trying and experimenting with the people around you is a great place to start, I wish you the best man o7.
This is separate and 100% a trans thing but OH MY GOD it does wonders for your love life like holy shit. Idk why the rhetoric that being trans will lead to you being alone bc ngl I got lesbians straight girls straight guys and gay boys hitting me up like the butch power is unmatched.
If you don't try new things and really get out in the world more, you're never going to find what makes you click. How many times in this video did you call yourself a loser? You need to look deep to your past and figure out where you started telling yourself this negetive story about yourself - and then meditate on it, read about it, write about it, and finally, whatever that trauma is, you need to integrate into your self-identity/life story in a way that allows you to put it to rest. Close that chapter of your life, literally like closing up a book. Whatever it is that you don 't like about yourself/your life, change it, and don't look back.
Small fuckin baby steps dude. Let's focus on 3 goals for this next week. 1. Every morning that you wake up, you're gonna put some good healthy food in your body. Don't worry about the rest of the day right now. We're gonna worry about breakfast first. 2. You need to start getting some really good quality sleep. No caffeine in the second half of the day. No screen time for 1 hour before bed, and at minimum 8 hours of sleep a night, going to bed and waking up at the same time to the best of your ability. This change won't happen overnight but you're gonna do your best. 3. Limit video games/social media/youtube to no more than 2 hours a day. This will be hard at first, but what this is going to force you to do is find other things to occupy your time, which will hopefully plant the seeds of a new hobby, and lead to you making some friends.
lol I have 0 friends and im like 7 years out of school. not a competition but hey got more than me. make sure you dont get comfortable having no friends after you leave school like me. the only thing Ive ever really wanted is a boyfriend and well im in my mid 20s and Ive been on like 3 dates. being gay and growing up christian has kinda fucked me up socially cause im basically never really being honest with anyone I meet (at work or otherwise). at least youre not gay and youre still very young.
This just was in my recommended which is weird. I don’t know how old you are man but I’m 21 you look like a young buck a little younger than me. We all have these days dude, You aren’t a loser you are a young man in a corrupted modern world and it’s difficult to navigate through. This is the development of manhood and it’s a challenge and only gets harder as we get older. All I can say is stop calling yourself a loser today is just a day and there’s always tomorrow but take action go do something new bro get a gym membership and clean your room man. If you need anything reply to this comment and I’ll drop my snap and talk to ya brother have a better day. YOUR NOT A LOSER
Hey, it's been a few months since you posted this so I don't know how much you still feel this way. But I wanted to tell you about a few things that helped me. First, the way you talk about yourself is really tied to outcomes, and other people's behavior, things around you that you cannot control. It's a totally natural human tendency, but when we think like this, we are giving things we cannot control (circumstances, the people around us) the power to define us and tell us what we think of ourselves and how we feel. You should flip that script. The way you think about yourself should be in terms of your intrinsic qualities and strengths, or at least in terms of outcomes you can control. You can't control your face shape, you can control your hairstyle, the way you dress, the way you exercise, the way you carry yourself, etc. What do you like about yourself the way you are right now? What are your goals and what are you doing to reach them? What would make you think of yourself as a "winner"--not what would make other people think of you as a winner. Second, based on your room and your sense of humor, you might have ADHD, like I do. This is important cause it affects everything, including our inability to meet other people's standards of success ("loser"). It also affects all our relationships and can make it hard to form bonds with people, especially neurotypical people. There is a book called "Why Will No One Play With Me," and while the target audience is parents of little kids, it's still got a lot of good insight to patterns that you might see in yourself. You can look up the author, Caroline Maguire, especially her video with How to ADHD, to get an idea what I mean. Understanding yourself and how you relate to others could really help forming those relationships that you seem go be yearning for. Third, just remember that the difference between winning and losing isn't as huge as we make it out to be. Think of how many rich and famous "winners" are actually quite miserable. Do presidents ever seem like they're actually enjoying life? Meanwhile, the happiest people in the world belong to poor countries where life is hard and there are few creature comforts. Life does not satisfy. Getting what we want does not satisfy. How many times have you finished a slice of cake, and your very next thought was, "I want more cake"? You can buy a fancy car, and after a couple weeks, you're just as happy as before, except now you need that car or you'll be less happy!! The point is, do not make your happiness contingent on getting whatever you desire next. Instead, focus on being happy right now. Focus on being happy in moments you get what you want. Focus on being happy in moments where you don't. Happy now. You don't have enough time to be happy later. Look into Stoic philosophy and/or Buddhist philosophy for more on this idea. There's a great book called The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama, which has a lot of practical advice for people of all religions.
As someone who was a loser up until around junior year of high school, my main suggestions are to find yourself and find your place in a community. That's way easier said than done but bear with me for a second.
At around 15 I realized I was trans. Up until that point I was really awkward and visibly trying to mask as someone who I thought other people would want to be around. When I started transitioning and finding out who I really wanted to be, it was visible and comforting to the people around me. I could be myself, and they could see me for me. Obviously you don't need to transition to find friends but I think my more extreme situation serves as a good example of how much your sense of self can help. From what I'm seeing in this video I think you're an incredibly sound person. Seeing your mannerisms and the way you talk about your experiences is legit enchanting and I encourage you to share your true self with the people around you if you aren't already.
As for finding the people you wanna hang out with, joining a community with your interests does wonders. For me that community was theater, but it can be anything you enjoy. I remember just walking up to someone I thought seemed nice and asking him if I could join him and his friends for lunch, and with stuff like that people can be pretty charitable.
None of this is easy but just trying and experimenting with the people around you is a great place to start, I wish you the best man o7.
This is separate and 100% a trans thing but OH MY GOD it does wonders for your love life like holy shit. Idk why the rhetoric that being trans will lead to you being alone bc ngl I got lesbians straight girls straight guys and gay boys hitting me up like the butch power is unmatched.
If you don't try new things and really get out in the world more, you're never going to find what makes you click. How many times in this video did you call yourself a loser? You need to look deep to your past and figure out where you started telling yourself this negetive story about yourself - and then meditate on it, read about it, write about it, and finally, whatever that trauma is, you need to integrate into your self-identity/life story in a way that allows you to put it to rest. Close that chapter of your life, literally like closing up a book. Whatever it is that you don 't like about yourself/your life, change it, and don't look back.
Being young sucks. Clean your room up and work out.
4:00 i think ur talking about the skramz poser influx of 2022-2023, cool vid my friend
Small fuckin baby steps dude. Let's focus on 3 goals for this next week.
1. Every morning that you wake up, you're gonna put some good healthy food in your body. Don't worry about the rest of the day right now. We're gonna worry about breakfast first.
2. You need to start getting some really good quality sleep. No caffeine in the second half of the day. No screen time for 1 hour before bed, and at minimum 8 hours of sleep a night, going to bed and waking up at the same time to the best of your ability. This change won't happen overnight but you're gonna do your best.
3. Limit video games/social media/youtube to no more than 2 hours a day. This will be hard at first, but what this is going to force you to do is find other things to occupy your time, which will hopefully plant the seeds of a new hobby, and lead to you making some friends.
lol I have 0 friends and im like 7 years out of school. not a competition but hey got more than me. make sure you dont get comfortable having no friends after you leave school like me. the only thing Ive ever really wanted is a boyfriend and well im in my mid 20s and Ive been on like 3 dates. being gay and growing up christian has kinda fucked me up socially cause im basically never really being honest with anyone I meet (at work or otherwise). at least youre not gay and youre still very young.
Exact same situation, I have to be a fraud to everyone I meet, it's insane
This just was in my recommended which is weird. I don’t know how old you are man but I’m 21 you look like a young buck a little younger than me. We all have these days dude, You aren’t a loser you are a young man in a corrupted modern world and it’s difficult to navigate through. This is the development of manhood and it’s a challenge and only gets harder as we get older. All I can say is stop calling yourself a loser today is just a day and there’s always tomorrow but take action go do something new bro get a gym membership and clean your room man. If you need anything reply to this comment and I’ll drop my snap and talk to ya brother have a better day. YOUR NOT A LOSER
Found you on my fyp your videos are great
lil bro is so fit for what
youre not a loser, you just taking a bad time in your life. things are going to be ok in the future
ur so cool i wish if you are my friend
youre not a loser
Hey, it's been a few months since you posted this so I don't know how much you still feel this way. But I wanted to tell you about a few things that helped me. First, the way you talk about yourself is really tied to outcomes, and other people's behavior, things around you that you cannot control. It's a totally natural human tendency, but when we think like this, we are giving things we cannot control (circumstances, the people around us) the power to define us and tell us what we think of ourselves and how we feel. You should flip that script. The way you think about yourself should be in terms of your intrinsic qualities and strengths, or at least in terms of outcomes you can control. You can't control your face shape, you can control your hairstyle, the way you dress, the way you exercise, the way you carry yourself, etc. What do you like about yourself the way you are right now? What are your goals and what are you doing to reach them? What would make you think of yourself as a "winner"--not what would make other people think of you as a winner.
Second, based on your room and your sense of humor, you might have ADHD, like I do. This is important cause it affects everything, including our inability to meet other people's standards of success ("loser"). It also affects all our relationships and can make it hard to form bonds with people, especially neurotypical people. There is a book called "Why Will No One Play With Me," and while the target audience is parents of little kids, it's still got a lot of good insight to patterns that you might see in yourself. You can look up the author, Caroline Maguire, especially her video with How to ADHD, to get an idea what I mean. Understanding yourself and how you relate to others could really help forming those relationships that you seem go be yearning for.
Third, just remember that the difference between winning and losing isn't as huge as we make it out to be. Think of how many rich and famous "winners" are actually quite miserable. Do presidents ever seem like they're actually enjoying life? Meanwhile, the happiest people in the world belong to poor countries where life is hard and there are few creature comforts. Life does not satisfy. Getting what we want does not satisfy. How many times have you finished a slice of cake, and your very next thought was, "I want more cake"? You can buy a fancy car, and after a couple weeks, you're just as happy as before, except now you need that car or you'll be less happy!! The point is, do not make your happiness contingent on getting whatever you desire next. Instead, focus on being happy right now. Focus on being happy in moments you get what you want. Focus on being happy in moments where you don't. Happy now. You don't have enough time to be happy later. Look into Stoic philosophy and/or Buddhist philosophy for more on this idea. There's a great book called The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama, which has a lot of practical advice for people of all religions.
is it ok to think your just average
Love u kaine x
Kaine you’re not a loser
You are one of the funniest and most outgoing people I know
Losers aren’t like that
dont lie
shut up crckr