These Men Won't SETTLE For Bare Minimum Women
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
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With the rise of women championing their own independence and value, building lives of self-sufficiency and raising the bar, came something unexpected:
Men deciding they wanted to do the same thing.
But are they allowed to?
This video explores the nuances of the reactionary movement "Drizzle Drizzle" and "Soft Guy Era" - a sociopolitical approach wherein men hold up a mirror to some of the "feminist" or "woman empowering" videos that inundate their For You Pages to show what it sounds like when men say the same thing.
But is it the same?
What are the differences? Why are they significant?
Do you think there is merit to Drizzle Drizzle, or is it just childish mimicry?
Do you think men deserve to be spoiled?
DISCUSS.
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This guy is trolling HARD. 30 seconds into his speech, I already could tell he was word-for-word saying what a lot of these girls on social media say in their obnoxious videos. 100% a joke.
That wasn't in question. The Dadvocate pointed it out right away...
Man's trolling smart not hard.
it's either a troll done, yes, on purpose to expose the double standards when women do the same to men or...
She was "good" but not "GREAT."
There's also that possibility.
But yeah, likely the first one.
Yeah the moment he said his girl made six figures and helped him get on his feet I knew it was fake. Women don't ever do that.
His justification for breaking up with a good girlfriend is so laughably bad that it HAS to be troll
I love how Amani prayed for god to remove him from her life because he was struggling instead of praying for god to help him overcome his struggle. What a great Christian and totally not a sociopath.
And so absolutely not selfish... 🤪
example of a typical western christian
@@kinosaga21 example of all christians - holier than thou when it suits them, but most of the time just as faulty as the rest of us.
What makes them worse than me, is that they measure me by standards they would not hold up against themselves.
Also define western. I think its a lazy term describing your lack of a clue regarding the world.
Would i be a better christian if i spoke a slavic language or chinese? if by western you mean american - then please say american.
As a northern european, i just felt insulted to be thrown in the same pot with those idiots, and i am not even a christian haha
Sounds like she needs to revisit the bible, particularly Luke and Matthew. She did the exact opposite of what Christianity asks of us.
@@kinosaga21 More like a woke "Christian" who doesn't even practice what they preach (and I'm not talking about her). Also, black culture is pretty appalling when it comes to dating, there's a reason why most black kids are fatherless. It's a really bad culture that tbh needs to be fixed. Men need to commit. Women need to not dump him over silly things.
Amani: "god, please send me a good man to be my husband!"
god: "I did and you dumped him."
Like that one joke about the flood victim. Meets God & says why didn't you save me & God said I sent you an evacuation order, a boat, & a helicopter.
Friend Zoned
Standing at the Pearly Gates.
Amani: "I don't understand, wasn't I good enough?"
God: "Good enough is here. Heaven is here."
@@bhart3321 was just about to mention this
@@rcslyman8929 yup. based on her takes on whatever she calls "spirituality," that man dodged a bullet.
"Let me show you how expensive it is to be a woman" - proceeds to show off expensive and entirely optional cosmetic products, many of which don't do anything.
bro literally flipped the script and women can't handle a truthful mirror
Edit: god damn 700 likes for a comment while sitting on the John 🤣👍
They are no longer the fairest in the land.
@@drl5002 that was just a scam to get protected in the first place.
@@drl5002 "Rear view mirror in the car who is the MFing all star?"...
"youBro"....
Grizzle drizzle!
The bill has come due.
Yes, funny how women didn’t recognize Mr Drizzle Drizzle.
He just took what hundreds of women have told men and FLIPPED THE GENDER.
I was laughing my assets off.
"He treated me so well that he raised my standards" is one of the most delusional and narcissistic statements I've ever heard. I have a sneaking suspicion that no man will ever reach the perfection that she feels entitled to.
Its pure pride, arrogance, and greed. She wants the money and attention but not him.
She'll find a guy that treats her like shit and abuses her, and she'll marry him.
I had a guy treat me so well that I knew my standards for any future man were going to be wayyy too high, so I married him (well, not for that reason alone, but I knew I'd never find another guy like him!). lol
"Yeah so it's me again. Just broke up with another boyfriend. He owns Jupiter, he can instantly upload any talent I want into my brain, I have butlers who never get burnt out because they have butlers, he invented a virtual reality matrix where 100 simulated versions of me are all simultaneously enjoying a unique pleasure and luxury and are all uploading the pure sensations of those experiences into my hippocampus 24/7, he has a vibrating penis, and we vacation inside the sun. And you know, living this way has raised my standards for myself so I let him go and I'm looking forward to the guy who's really gonna have that husband vibe."
She wanted someone hotter, is all.
The girl literally reveals why she broke up with her BF. He was struggling with something, which automatically gives the biggest ick possible. As a man you may be struggling with anything, you can tell it to anyone, just never tell your GF.
She isn't worthy of him. If my husband didn't let me in, so I can truly support him, I would feel as if he was treating me like his child instead of a spouse. #Trust2beREAL Edited to add: I can't be a friend to a woman like that.
If you cannot confide in a potential spouse, then they are not a potential spouse.
If you're doing that, don't tell your gf's friends either
if you tell your G/F your weaknesses, and she's insecure, you WILL hear those later during an argument
@@kawh8719yyyep. I’m bisexual but I basically just call myself gay because I don’t really wanna end up in a relationship with a woman again. My emotions were never as material as hers, and my shortcomings were ammunition.
That woman acting like men forced her to buy the most absurdly expensive cosmetic products......
Women like that don't even realize how badly they set themselves up to be emotionally destroyed by trying to use the cost of make up as a reason why they deserve the princess treatment. Just off the top of my head here are a couple of things I would say...."you should just save your money, I still need to keep the lights off so I don't puke during sex." Give her a buck and tell her "go buy some paper bags. It will do a better job."
All she needed was okay hygiene. Soap and water.
That's what all of them who expect men to pay say when you argue with them. It's so funny that they expect us to pay for their personal care. Maybe they should pay for my gym membership :D
Look I just want you guys to know that most women are budget friendly about these things.
As long as they’re not part of the mean girl friend group.
It’s like concluding all dudes want is hyper branded clothing based off the supreme hype beast morons.
Seriously I have found women with bed head and Winnie the pooh sweats sexy...it's the woman not t he products
My high school girlfriend, the girl I planned on marrying, broke up with me because she loved me “more than God” & she said that was a bad thing. …That really broke me in a way I can barely articulate, till this day.
Damn got cucked by god is truly something.
In my empathetic opinion my brother:
It’s because at some level(maybe subconscious) you know that she couldn’t have any real knowledge of you or God and love you more than God. Either though it probably made yall feel good, she was probably right in the end. I wouldn’t feel that bad, you basically lost a childhood delusion of romance. I know if i started loving a woman more than god id be pretty delusional.
Im just another dude and thats just my opinion though.
She was wanting someone else and felt like you was holding her back. Sorry bro it happens
...Or could be her parents or some other authority didn´t like you and persuaded her to break up using that excuse. Being that god was mentioned, that seems to be the likely scenario. Cult people can be very controlling.
You had a lucky escape.
Kings exposing the outrageous double standards guys are having to deal with dating these "soft girls"
cool opinon but I'm too busy being in my "soft boy era"
@@Shadow_Microwaive drizzle drizzle
If she's always seeking better, she'll never stop looking.
Until she runs out of options. Then she'll try and con a lonely man into taking her in. But, habits die hard, so she'll still always be comparing him to Chad Thundercock and wishing she could find a better deal.
I am a human being not a used car. And I'll never take kindly to being dehumanized.
Women met the bear in the woods and he told them : Hi. My name is Minimum. Just call me the bear Minimum.
*hehehehehehehe*
😂
Take my like, funnyman.
My name Is minimum, bear minimum
😂😂😂😂😂 this NEEDS more likes
The guy who got dumped for being a good guy. That boy dodged a bullet.
He's baiting for a reason to expose the double standards
100% as soon as he said “she paid for all the meals” & “she was perfect, but not perfect for me” I knew this was bait
@@theGameClown93 I've seen his other content and I immediately knew what was up when he spoke the first word.
@@theGameClown93 it's not bait
@@merkyofaycemfx2944 there are a lot of bait/fake videos these days, especially in the YT shorts/tiktok areas
My first thought too. If the same words were being said by a woman on Fem Tok, they'd be cheering for for wanting her independence and "not needing no man".
"He was a good guy, and treated me well, but he wasn't a husband".
"But you were married to him?"
"Yes, i was married to him, but he wasn't a husband. Not good enough".
2:00 "Let" you drive her car? She didn't BUY you a car? I am glad you stopped settling, King. Drizzle Drizzle
Like they say: good but not great.
Why in the world would I want a woman to buy me a car?
@@Hakar17 You deserve better, king. Don't let women oppress you with their toxic femininity. Every man deserves a brand new sports car from their girlfriends and wives. Stop settling!
@@Hakar17 They're being facetious, like the man in the first clip. They're mocking women who think their partners are supposed to be income fodder and not actual humans.
Still, she probably wouldn't know what to get. The little things matter, like make, model, year, trim, color, options. Shop for it yourself and hint her the details. As a last resort, shop for it with her, but she should know it has to be a surprise with an acceptably dramatic Reveal event. If she can't pay attention and know what you want, takes too long, or just doesn't understand how important the car is to you as a symbol of the relationship, she wasn't the one.
Drizzle Drizzle.
That second video shows the truth: he's not "good enough." I was willing to accept that they didn't click... I've looked at some women and thought, "they'll made somebody a great wife... not ME, but SOMEBODY..." because we just didn't click personality-wise or something. The reality has come out, though... this isn't about clicking... this is about wanting perfection in a human being (not an option). My wife and I are perfect for each other but neither of us are anything close to perfect!! Crazy.
Meanwhile, all the women who broke up with the "good" or "perfect" men for no good reason just get cheered on by the women in their comments sections, who also incessantly villify the man or make up suppositions about why he deserves it.
It's kind of like incels tell other men how to treat women
And the woman (the big ramble at 8:30) has the colossal nerve to pretend god had something to do with it, that god obeys her commands. We learn, he admitted he was struggling, so she dumped him. It's that simple. All the rest of the woman's blather are deflections, distractions, lies, emotional excuses and pretending. "Being vulnerable means getting attacked."
Cheered on by other single women.
Don't forget the comments praising her intuition for dodging a closet X or Y on those random vibes.
The reason is that they got bored of the stability.
He should've said, "She also paid off my student loans."
Kyle? I'm sorry for my sister I swear we were raised better.
The sad thing is that these women they're mocking will never learn. They won't change.
The original sprinkle sprinkle woman that kicked all of this of is bleeding subs. lol
@@warpedreflection3650Deservedly so.
@warpedreflection3650 (in the emperors voice) "good gooooOOOOD!" 😂
Why is that sad? She's saving lives by leaving 😂
I just hope that sometime in their 40s or 50s while they sit completely alone they reflect on things a bit. Then again to say everything they say out loud and then go through and upload and probably rewatch it while seeing nothing wrong takes a huge level of density ... and I'm talking about thiccness here.
It's a conundrum. You don't owe someone a relationship no matter how many favors they do for you, that would be a fucked up world. Biggest issue is really putting the guy on public blast like that. Major disrespect, huge "I am above you" power play. It's normal to break up with someone because you think you can do better. It's fucked to declare yourself superior to him to millions of people even though he did nothing to deserve it. Have some goddamn discretion.
I think the most telling point was her reply under the original video where she explained she decided to dump him after he admitted to her he was struggling with a problem and that her response was to pray to god to remove him form her life.
This man is clowning on those girls that are never happy in a relationship.
And, shockingly, they _haaate_ it when the clowns are better made-up than them.
Because they are in a relationship because of social media; that's all.
I knew dozens of women like this when I was younger in the church. "God didn't tell me you're my husband."
I really hate the word of faith/prosperity gospel. That and "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" destroyed an entire generation of women.
Let's be honest, the purity culture also screwed a lot of boys and men, as well as girls and women.
I always chuckle at the thought of how the hell they pick up the "phone" and so sure there God is on another end.
Because there literally zero proof that it was not the devil. He can haunt you even at church, no problem
For a woman of God, she seems pretty prideful
Don't you know... everything she does is righteous. She's 100% sure.
....and what if she finds Mr.Perfect(v.unlikely) and HE thinks she's not up to HIS standards ? she's watching too much Horrorwood shit !!
@@fakshen1973 I know you are being fecetious with this. But in all seriousness, our society has rejected every form of outside accountability and any institution that holds up a mirror to us and our actions. Before the church would hold you accountable for self righteous action and criticise you if you got arrogant. We threw out all moral standards and all ways to make us face the mirror.
@@avroarchitect1793 The church is the same kind of terrible, just cause they're supposed to talk about the world's worst work of fiction they think they are the righteous ones. Not only are they not nearly as righteous as they think, but they also refuse to follow the rules they set for themselves, just like every other Christian. Don't you DARE pretend the church has ever done anything good.
This is crazy common in the church. Y’all think non-Christian women are insane, but girls in the church are pretty open about wanting a 6’2” wallet and demanding tribute only because “women want to be pursued.” Won’t acknowledge that EVERYONE wants to be pursued. According to scripture, Jesus wants to be pursued. The problem is that they can’t tell us why we should bother. One woman actually said guys should come after her because she was fabulous. She wasn’t.
I love these types of movements. Parody is my favorite form of social commentary, humor tends to garner a lot of attention and call out the idioticys of our society. 10/10
You have no idea how frustrating it is seeing "Men need to pay because women spend a ton on cosmetics"... that we constantly get told are not being done for us, we can't have an opinion on, and everything else that keeps getting touted like that.
Honestly.
But hey, you know what they say.. Women get cosmetics to look good for their men.. Men drink beer so their woman looks good for them ;p
You can either love women or understand them. You cannot do both.
Because its not about what they say it's about. It is about POWER.
All modern women are Marxists. They have been indoctrinated into the (Gnostic) Marxist cult. In Marxism, all human interactions boil down to being solely about power over others and nothing else. "If you aren't exercising power over someone in every interaction you have, you are being dominated." is how the Marxist framework of the world works. Women, of course, are at a natural disadvantage physically to men, thus leading to them defaulting to a submissive position in every face-to-face interaction. So if you are a woman and a Marxist, how do you change this dynamic?
You lie. Constantly.
Knowledge=Power
Secret Knowledge=More Power
If you know something that someone else doesn't, you hold power over that person. So if a woman lies and tells a man the opposite of the truth about herself, she now holds power over him. If women collectively lie to men about their true nature, women now hold power over men collectively. This is how we live in a matriarchy, because women are allowed to lie to us about themselves and get away with it. The State helps them do it at every stage and step. The way we take our power back as men is to believe that everything a woman tells us is a lie, and then seek the truth by using the lie(s) to triangulate the Truth's position relative to the lie.
Never believe women. Seek Truth above all else. Where the Devil cannot go, he sends a woman. The Devil was the First Liar, and is the Father of Lies. So when he cannot go somewhere and he needs to, he sends the second-best liar he knows: a woman.
Good luck out there brothers. I'm praying for you every night.
@@elonever.2.071Gayest thing I've heard all day
@@Levnyan
Ahh yes. When you cannot refute what is being said you attack the one saying it.
“If there’s no drama in a womens life, she will create it.”
This is true for too many women
Cool.
I can start this _sh!t_ forever.
That ''not good enough for me'' woman will never be happy and always be miserable, and she'll never know why
She will always blame it on men
I had an ex break up with me because she never felt good enough for me... But it was MY insecurities that caused the break up. Some people be out here dodging accountability like their lives depend on it 😂
Yup. She'll keep blaming men for not being good enough, them settle when she ages and make her husband's life miserable until she becomes a single mother.
I suspect the reason she wouldn't be able to figure it out, would actually be part of the issue itself: because she's physically attractive with no other redeeming qualities. Admittedly, that would be just a guess on my part (as I have no idea what kind of person she is beyond these videos), but that's the sort of person usually making speeches like those.
She will know why when she has three kids and three baby daddies and doing life as a single mom.
Did you notice that several guys call out mark on sabotaging himself etc., when a lady posts about divorcing a good guy, she's 'empowering'...
You gotta admire this king's commitment to deadpan delivery.
I couldn't do it. I laugh too much
Amen. Bro was straight preaching, his deadpan was perfect. I didn't even detect a twinkle in the eye.
It was so good I kept going back and forth whether or not he was serious or joking
I don’t think she understands what “good enough” means.
"You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means"
The lady that created the original video came across as arrogant and entitled. She firmly believes that SHE is worthy of exactly who SHE wants. While not even considering the fact that the man she wants may not want her.
I mean, what self respecting man is going to want to form a long term relationship with a woman who decided to break up with her ex for "reasons", basically implying that he didn't meet her "husband" standards, and then decided to advertise it on social media?
Why wouldn't the guy be considering if he could be the next guy that gets broken up with for "reasons" and then kind of dragged on social media for not meeting her "husband" standards, whatever in the heck those are.
I seriously doubt any of these videos are based on a real story. Is there actually a guy, do we have any proof? This is probably some multi-tier troll.. and it works apparently.
Now that everyone has seen her for who she is... I hope she enjoys her cats.
Basic fact of life: if she'll dump a good guy who is doing everything "right" then she'll dump you as soon as she thinks she can get a better deal.
@@kamu38 Possibly, but, I've seen women do equally crazy things. One of my friends got dumped AT THE ALTER by a chick who was "a good Christian girl" and that night she was in the bar looking for another guy. Meanwhile my pastor had to talk my friend out of suicide.
I've seen other situations where another friend had his GF walk out on him and show off her bad boy BF to rub salt in the wound. That time I had to talk my friend out of suicide. So it wouldn't surprise me if this was 100% true.
I think more women should start asking themselves what THEY are doing to deserve more.
It's the default in the US that men serve women in a relationship.
Even the majority who don't think they think this way, they do.
Valentines day.
Wedding rings.
Date nights.
Initiating conversation.
"Chasing".
The list goes on. It's all gynocentric conditioning, one sided chivalry.
Some women have great minds and can change the world. Some are just idiots who only have their looks and body to offer. 15 years ago we weren't asking sex workers on their world view. But today its content. Let's be honest if these women were born average men their life would be a series of failures and disappointments.
@Okunniger_Volker Women used to be held to a particular standard, but feminism through recent decades has eroded standards for women. Now men are responding in kind.
"You wanted equality? Fine, you can start doing everything yourselves. We'll just be over here playing video games." 😄
What are they doing for their man? Do they make videos about that?
@@amikkelsen I don't think it's anyone's business what they personally do in their own relationship. She is simply giving advice to bother women about how to make relationships work by looking inward at yourself.
"he was perfect, he did everything i ever wanted, but that one time he told me he was struggling with something, so i prayed and left"
6:00 Honestly it always annoys me when women try to use makeup/hair products/clothing costs as why being a woman in todays standards is so much more expensive/difficult than being a man.
You don't see me laying out my entire tool bench, yard-work equipment, collection of PPE, my gun-safe and truck and say "Look at how expensive and demanding it is to be a do-it-all handy-man man's-man that society expects me to be"
Seriously. You get those products for you because it fits what you want to be and how you want to present your self. Same for me and every other person. No one owes you for that.
Feminists are in constant victim mentality. They are incapable of putting themselves in a man's pov. They think a man is obligated to do those things for women, but think the things they do are a privilege they are bestows on unworthy men who have to earn it.
that sounds like the perfect thing for some drizzle drizzle king to do though
Preach! Not all women are interested in makeup or luxury goods. Some of us want tools & trucks over makeup. 😂
What's odd is that it is entirely her decision to even spend money on makeup to begin with, whereas for you, you sort of need your equipment for work related purposes or home repair. Women don't need makeup for the same practicality. Her wearing makeup does nothing but make herself appear more attractive, and to me, it seems like women are insecure about themselves if they insist on wearing overpriced makeup or just makeup in general. It's why the whole "hot girlfriend, ugly boyfriend" discourse is so tacky to me and why I routinely tell women that they can't judge other people as unappealing while she is wearing makeup.
But I digress, women do not need makeup at all, so their using it as an excuse for men having to do and pay for everything is just silly. I have to invest in good clothing, take a shower and use shampoo and conditioner and soap, and style my hair for dates as well. Does that not count for something just because she chooses to to go the extra mile and put on lipstick and blush and concealer and mascara and all of that unnecessary stuff?
And they'll cite the "unrealistic beauty standards" and how it was created by men, but I doubt most modern men really need a woman who wears makeup all the time, if even at all. Historically, husbands have always woken up next to a woman who is not exactly pretty in the morning. He proposed to that woman and decided to stay with her for the rest of his life. Women wearing makeup is entirely for the purpose of competing with other women, so if anything, they need to blame women for continually upholding whatever beauty standards she likes to refer to. Women could singlehandedly change the entire beauty culture by refusing to buy and wear makeup, but they don't want to, because she creates the beauty standards. Not anybody else.
@@lesaubergines Heck yeah! Those women are usually pretty awesome to be around too. But women who like to make themselves pretty aren't inherently shallow or bad, I know several who are smart and awesome too. It's the ones who think the world owes them for the effort they put into how they look that are a problem.
I'd love to have this woman update us annually, see how "good enough" Hasn't done anything for her through her years
You go, King.
She was holding you back from finding yourself.
Drizzle, Drizzle
It's sad, bro was on his grind and grew and she didn't, she's just not on his level and couldn't level him up or help him anymore so she had to go!
She onlybwasted five years of his life because of fundamental differences. Honestly she only cared about their difference in FUNDS. She's probably got a guy that earns 3 times as much and double the clout on the hook and looking to trade up.
Hahahaha...
"You're good, but not good enough." Is right up there with "Ew, no!" in the metric of the most soul crushing things a man can hear. It invokes the immediate feeling of futility and hopelessness, and in a world where 3 times as many men as women are to give up on living, this is also dangerous to men.
Learn to love yourself before you love others.
It helps with the pain.
I'll never be 'good enough,' but.
Come on, am I _really_ that bad??
I got dumped for no reason in highschool. That same girl now hits on me, and I rejected her and said we should just be friends. Young women especially if they are young and pretty are the most delusional creatures you will ever see.
Absolutely delulu, and that's why I never _pursued._
Are they? When women are 18-25 men from 18-55 are interested in them and she can pick and choose. That's a reality, but later in life we guys are the picky ones since we can choose.
If you as a woman were triggered by what this man said then congratulations you are the kind of woman we men need to avoid at all costs.
Not necessarily. I see no problem as long as she can see that it's just as bad when it comes from another woman.
the difference between a good guy and a husband
is that your willing to make sacrifices for a husband
and these self centered harpies never make sacrifices
and then the constant blasphemy added ontop of that
That hits!
Breaking up with a guy because he's struggling is the worst thing you can do to him.
I saw so many girls at college do this and it burned me up. When my boyfriend was struggling, some of my friends caught wind of it and asked if I was gonna break up with him. I told them absolutely not! I stuck by him and we're married to this day.
We all struggle and if you can't stick with the man you love during the hard times when you're dating, you really shouldn't be with him and marry him because you can't do marriage anyways. You'd be done by the first electric bill cutoff or job loss.
Her Ex was so nice he raised her expectations of men, so she dumped him. Typical.
I had a GF who gave me a card on my birthday that said "I am so glad that I met you, it gives me hope that there are still good men.".
We broke up a month later, she then attempted to stay friends while trying to find one of the other "good men", she was 280lbs and 30 years old at the time, I was 24, and was 210lbs trained every day, I ran flat out to work, beating the bus to my work by a minimum of 10 minutes, then ran home, ate, ran to my second job, and spent basically all of my breaks doing resistance exercises and stretching.
I'm not as muscular as I was then, now, but I am still capable of lifting my kids with one arm, and they both weigh in over 50lbs, and I have a wife who's better looking, better in bed, and has a muuuuuuuuuuuch better personality.
Who do you think ended up with a better shake in the end? 😊
This how Chad makes 49 ers.
wait until she realizes the world isn't full of perfect men lined up and waiting for their turn to date her. It will be glorious.
Cement shoes line after she said "asking god to remove him for me" had me roaring 😂
Yous gonna sleepin with da fish if you ain't got da cash.
@tone618 I was quoting my father a lil inside joke as he's a fiddler and it is contradicting for him to say those claims to younger men if they dont do the work he wishes well... dont say when ya don't know. Or are ya pro fiddler?... I've had people literally threaten my life in person an tried to slowly an painfully. Don't talk sh*te wit me home boi.
Women do the same thing. I had an ex girlfriend who dumped me the day after we became official because I was too good of a man for her.
They don't just do it, they glorify it and cheer each other on for doing it.
I got kicked to the curb and was told "thanks for showing me what a good man really is!"
It's mind boggling, not to mention heart breaking and intensely frustrating.
I'm sorry you had to go through that mate. Remember: every romantic relationship will fail- until one doesn't. You'll find the right one @@jimmyboy131
That's a cope, she was letting you down easy.
They say this because you aren't the bad boy who spikes their emotions.
The only way to keep that kind around is to basically feed in to their existing Stockholm syndrome.
@@Okunniger_Volker This. They realize that being with a man of substance means they have to develop substance, so they self sabotage instead of improving themselves. It's easier to manipulate weak men instead of developing the character that would attract the men these type of women say they want.
I just wish I came to this realization say, 14 years ago.
I love how my last ex was supported through her issues and problems in life but as soon as I open up about my inner struggles… she left a month later while telling me that I was just not good enough…
She was coddled, and her empathy went with it, as it usually does with coddled people who act like narcissists. You didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a missile. Being emotionally invalidated like that can be more damaging than being punched in the face. Hope you got to tell her about her hypocrisy during the breakup at least.
I was told once "You,re everything I ever wanted in a man. I'm just not ready for that yet."
So, been given number 96 in the queue?
Oh yeah, that's always a favorite of there's to pull
That means you are a nice guy.
Basically it means "I don't find you attractive anymore and want to go find a better looking man."
Translation: "You'll make a good second choice to settle down with, but right now I wanna keep trying to baby-trap Chad."
Watching this video has been an eye opening experience. I have heard those exact words that Amani has said. And you are right, it is confusing to understand how being a good man is substandard. Thank you for talking about this. I know now, it is really time for me to go to therapy. Eye opening and old insecurities just rushed back. Thanks again. Wonderful segment.
It's a crime that this comment only has 3 likes. Good for you, and good luck in therapy.
What she's saying is essentially no one will ever be good enough.
She is an alpha widow
I find this result acceptable. What you sow you reap.
i dated a guy who was struggling with something, so i tried to help. then he pushed me away. i watched as he changed until i looked in his eyes and saw someone else. that spark in his eyes was gone. then i reached out one more time. then he disappeared until i thought he was dead.
then he came back, dumped me, and told me how he hadnt loved me for 3 months and EXACTLY why it was my fault, saying that i left him with trauma, that i never loved him, etc etc.
then 6 months later, a couple weeks ago, i found out certain things he wrote and published on wattpad which will go unsaid, unnamed, and unread. and also there was abt an 80% chance ce had been cheating on me for 2/3 of our relationship. from my cousin. who had had conversations with him abt 10 times over the course of our relationship.
i was happy with him.
was.
It the equivalent of taking an exam, getting 80% of the questions right and still getting a failing grade because the teacher says "if you're not perfect then you're nothing." Saying someone isn't good enough for you and say that someone has different values than you are two fundamentally different statements and the fact that she couldn't figure out why people were mad at her over it betrays a lack of wisdom.
If only that kind of thing would stay a metaphor. I actually did fail a test once despite getting an easily passing mark because the examiner didn't *feel* like I would remember the material.
Or you get 100% but the teacher fails you anyway because they aren't feeling the vibe
For one thing, don't say he's "good enough" if he isn't actually "good enough". If her standard is the exact right man *for her* who *also* does everything right, then THAT is good enough. Good enough is only good enough if it's good enough FOR YOU. The man she dumped was, in fact, not good enough for her, in her own opinion.
And if nobody else treats her as well as that guy did, I get that she wasn't vibing with him, but that level of treatment is one in billions for almost anyone. I won't be surprised if the guy she deems husband material has some fatal flaw that absolutely curses the relationship. Especially if she wasn't willing to even try to work things out with the other guy.
Funny the difference between a good guy and a husband is only a peice of paper. Any excuse not to commit to the same level they receive. Just seems like they did that just for followers on social media. Keep them coming dadvacote there really good.
100% he didn't have the bank account she needed for a marriage and subsequent divorce in 3-5 years to where she could run off with half of it.
Of all the things i expected, zuko was not on the list today
The sad part is that first clip is all too familiar.
I have multiple friends who have gotten that talk from their wife after they had a kid.
"I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
Why did y'all have a kid then?
That is true.
In every relationship I have experienced ups and downs.
Sometimes I needed to remind myself what I fell in love with and remind myself of the feelings because sometimes the daily chore became too much.
But I never told her that. I pushed through and fell in love again, over and over.
But every time they had the down, they went straight to the "better break up".
I had to remind them why they wanted to be in a relationship with me, over and over. But now also giving me insecurity and always increasing the standard.
The last time, my latest girlfriend told me during the break up after she slept with another man in our house that she probably never was in love with me.
She liked me. She cared for me. And she stayed because I was nice and it was comfortable to live with me.
I hope she is happier now. She got in a new relationship a year later.
In september I will be going in on my 4th year of single. Because I now have a fear of that talk. The "I am not in love with you" talk.
Knowing there is nothing to do to change it permanently. It will just be better for another 1-2 years then back to her being unhappy...
@@flabbergast_se That's the thing that scares me about marriage. The idea of committing my life to someone and then a couple years later hearing, "I don't love you anymore."
I'm not even scared of committing to one person, I'm scared of that person changing their mind.
It's happened to enough friends that it makes me wary of marriage.
Because child support baby!
@@hkr667 You forgot the alimony too. After a couple of years watching Lauren and Emily, I'm 100% sure I could completely flatline the divorce rate in the US. Every marriage would come with an ironclad prenup with a cheating provision in it and everything accumulated during the marriage with a salary for the SAHMs is split 50/50 with children automatically being 50/50 on custody unless there's something really wrong with one of them. Essentially, there is no profit motive in marriage anymore. Boom, no divorces happen except for times when there is violence by either. Of course, the marriage industry would collapse as most every women wouldn't sign up for marriage.
@@Danbecker000bro, just keep bettering yourself and keep a rotation of 2-3 chick's. NOTHING is worth marriage right now. You deserve everything you get if you do
This woman reminds me of the videos, where someone with a microphone asks a woman on the street about minimum height, wage, age gap etc. for a BF material guy and they all end up with having something like 1% chance for finding that partner. The amounts of "standards" and lack of self awareness in these humans are unbelievable.
Waaayy less than 1%, for average and below average women. SMFH
They probably will never meet that 1% or less guy. The odds are heavily against it. And if they did they'd quickly find that a 1% man isn't going to lower HIS standards for an 80%+ woman. People who can have whoever they want will only take the top tier women. That is top tier in looks and femininity.
What makes it even crazier is when you realize how many of these 1% guys get dumped. The game for men is literally impossible to win. So, logically, the answer is to refuse to play.
one of the best comments i ever saw was someone, under a video about the male vs female pov in dating and society, etc, said that "society expects men to behave exactly the right way all the time and society expects women to behave exactly the right way all the time and all of us are trying and soiecty is telling all of us we're doing it wrong" and I relate to that really hard. I just want to hang out with nice people and have a good time, maybe find love if love comes my way but everything is just so fucking rough out here
"I live my life on 10 all the time" = good luck keeping up with me. 🚩
Bingo!
Says the future single mom with multiple baby daddies.
A classic case of hypergamy. If you choose to never 'settle', you will only 'settle' for being alone.
Dude's just throwing the same shit back in women's faces. I love it.
This trend is honestly fun. Thanks for the coverage and solid callout!
I feel like it's a rule of thumb that if a woman says her ex was a good dude who treated her well and they broke up anyway... he broke up with her and she's just coping.
Probably she was cheating/nagging/abusing him and he finally took all he could and walked out. Considering the court system it takes a lot for a man to get so fed up that he walks away.
Ok I’m totally tempted to do this drizzle drizzle stuff, just replace all the cosmetic stuff with my hobby stuff (I use paints and such for miniatures, surprising amount of crossover with cosmetics).
She defines hypergamy. 70% of divorces are started by women. He is not my husband will not stop a women from looking for better. The rules are know, enter at your own peril.
That's why I found one of the 30% that got it done to _them._
*She* understands this pain in ways I can only _begin_ to imagine, and can't even _picture_ being with anyone else.
...this virgin male finally found a mutual win condition.
If you say the word hypergamy, you need to touch grass IMMEDIATLY. Tiktok is not real life.
Had the exact same thing happen to me when I was like 20. Good paying job, great time with my GF, took care of her every need, and then she dumps me for "Being too good to her". Sent me down a spiral of depresion and questioning my selfworth. And my first mistrake was not blocking her social media, because it really fucking hurt seing her with a new guy like a week later.
What she is looking for is perfection. She should know, from God telling her, that no man and no woman will ever be perfect. Everyone has flaws
The "god thing" was all a lie, so people couldn't attack her and her lack of morals and her blatant stupidity.
If she says "god had something to do with it and god obeys her," that makes her position "holy.," She can't be criticized. It is an old trick, that is used in politics too.
Especially her
not only will no one be perfect, but who the fuck would do this to themselves? who would yoke themselves to such an impossible to please leech?
She did him a favor.
Including the bear
"Suffering builds character." Consider that thoroughly, and the lack of "character" displayed, then reconsider any potential sympathies you may have.
for first 2 minutes I was wondering, "why is this man saying gibberish???" and then "OOOOOOHHH.....this is why I don't do tiktok, yeah."
Yeah, this is basically how discourse goes on that platform.
LOVED the "Always the bridesmaid" comparison. Exactly right!!!!!!!
Facepalming my 58 year old widowed self...
While feeling absolutely sorry for my 14 year old son's future. That whole crap makes no sense at all...
🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻
Actually it does in a sick way when you look at who benefits. The government is making bank on women paying taxes. They want women in the workplace making money for their masters. They're not willing to risk women deciding to be stay at home moms. It would wreck their plans.
@@Wastelandman7000You're wrong on the taxes, but you are correct that corporations want to see Number Go Up, even at the cost of future generations.
The government is gaining power, not tax money. The Federal Deficit should show which one they value more. Government childcare? The power to raise your children in [bureaucrat]'s image. The contrast in voting patterns between married women and unmarried women is stark, indeed.
@@Wastelandman7000Single parents won’t ask for raises or risk unionising. They will work extra hard to pay the rent and pay for child support. They don’t have families to go home to, so they are willing to spend more time in the office.
@@dixieslav1274 They're making money, just not all on the extra income. The government taxes the heck out of alimony and child support payments. Every relationship that moves too fast and then falls apart, every women who they encourage to become increasingly entitled, every family torn apart by the double standards of women so deafened by their time in their echo chambers that they can't hear their own insanity is another way they can profit.
As a woman, I don't understand how you can be with a man without seeing him as a future husband. Why should you get into a relationship with someone who is only "good enough to be a boyfriend" - unless you just want to use him, let him take care of you, hold you on your hands and of course pay the bills, all in exchange against sex, basically a form of prostitution. This "lady" will probably end up without a man and then whine on TikTok and ask where all the good men are - well, you can guess three times, sweetie, they've already found good women who were smart enough to realize in time that they are worth their weight in gold. Personally I think her ex was lucky to dodge that bullet - she left him because he was struggeling - had they been married she probably would have divorced him and the consequences for him would be more serious.
I can't understand how you are in a "good" relationship for 5 years but suddenly "he just ain't my husband". Like WTF, if you were so not in line why were you together for 5 fucking years that ain't nothin'.
If you read between the lines a bit, the issue is that he had a change in religious beliefs. The "struggle" was him struggling with his belief in god.
He showed the tiniest amount of weakness in his life in any way whatsoever, and as a predatory leech of a woman, she immediately bailed to avoid having to contribute anything other than her ego to the relationship.
@@hydra70yeah, her breakup scenario occurs when there's a difference in the major non-negotiable topics. To have kids or not, religious belief, political ideology, etc. people change over time as well, so if you were in agreement with the non-negotiables but later don't agree, that's when you end it.
Not sure why she intentionally did not say this. A simple, "we just didn't agree on something that I need to have my husband agree with. That's why this perfect man is not my husband for me."
@@hydra70 if that was the case, then she should have just said that. She didn't have to phrase it as though the guy was beneath her because of their incompatibility. Even if she really felt like he was less than her, she should keep that to herself. Like she said that she wasn't going to share the story originally, maybe she should have gone with that advice.
Sorry bruh warranty expires at five years 🤣
20:10 "I don't think women know how mean they can be"
I'm sorry Lauren, but women KNOW exactly how mean they are, let alone can be. There's a reason the phrase "mean girls" exists for school age cliques of girls and it's not because they are fluffy and light.Just the fact they are willing to "weaponise" any disclosed weakness at any time to suit them, with the sole intention of causing as much hurt as they can to their SO is enough to prove the point.
If her reason is because they don't share the same values and goals, then why didn't she say that? Because she needed a reason so people would get off her back, and came up with it because she couldn't take the criticism.
That wasn't her reasons. He "struggled" and when he started to struggle, she left. He opened up to her and shared his struggle, showed his vulnerability and she just flat out bailed me on him. This is how a lot of modern women move. If you're not always perfect, positive and happy and making her constantly feel like she's in a Disney movie, she leaves. They are not raised to be wives, mothers or to deal with life on life's terms, they're very immature and entitled and aren't the same strong, intelligent women of the past. If you even listened to ANY of her BS, let alone thought on it for any amount of time. And if you can't tell just by simply looking at this chick and hearing her talk. That she's just another narcissistic, self centered, entitled, shallow, surface level thinker who doesn't have the capacity to think deep enough to see the truth. Then you should really consider getting a new perspective of these women. Idk how guys even keep falling for these women????
I was with a woman for 4 1/2 years and she ended it a year ago, stating; "It's not that you didn't do enough, you just could have done more." Talk about a shot to the gut.
Strangely enough she's now with a dude who drinks and drives, talks over her constantly and doesn't give a shit what she thinks. Weird, huh?
It sounds like she was already planning to leave him and was just looking for an excuse to do so. She wanted out. And him having the nerve to ask for help was the last straw. She'll never find better.
Had a similar situation where I used to get up 2 hrs early every weekday morning at 05.30 to drive my G/F's 17yo Son to work (30min drive).
I was late one day to pick up my 5yo Son after school (not her child) because of a cancelled Train.
I asked her to pick him up, she didn't bother checking a map, got lost and was 30 mins late.
I was pretty damn unhappy and she refused to apologize. I asked her why and she broke up with me saying "You sound too much like my Ex-Husband.....
I guess he tried and failed to hold her accountable too 🫤
I don't think i am ever going to get married at this point.
"I live my life on 10!" - Just say that right away, so I don't waste any more time on you.
Unrelated to this topic but seriously, you totally deserve to have millions of followers. Your channel is always awesome.
Right she literal said that he opened up about struggling with something that she couldn’t help with so she got “god to remove him.” As a mam who struggles with being vulnerable this is the worst thing that could happen and woman dont understand why we don’t open up about everything.
She is the definition of a parasite. All the benefit of a relationship have to gravitate to her.
My ex girlfriend had confessed her feelings first. Told me that I treated her the best and told other people that he buys me everything. Basically she also gave no negative reasons for breaking up. She actually said that I should find someone else, but she also still asked to be friends.
8:41 “I’m not going to share because it’s private…” goes on to post it to the public. Girl is looking for support and affirmation of her bad decision.
They always do. Its not enough to do something stupid, they have to have witnesses. (some guys are like that too to be fair, but, not many as we instantly get called on anything that daft)
The old me would love this metaphorically setting the world on fire because after a really, really toxic woman, left me homeless and jobless knowing I moved away from family, having nowhere and no one to go to. I did just want the world to burn.
I’ve recently started healing and found the 1 person that talks to me and treats me the way she should and we are both giving each other time and space to heal and I’m letting her raise her son which she doesn’t bring men around.
We can be happy as friends who love each other and support each other until we can truly call ourselves a couple.
His parody was perfect. He didn’t mention drizzle drizzle or soft guy era or the flowers. I totally bought it.
The way Amani can say something like "Sometimes it takes me days or even weeks to get over a breakup" as though that's a long time really says a lot about her mindset towards her partners. She demonstrates how little of an emotional impact a breakup has on her, and then laments that it isn't less.
Guy moves on from good woman: "OHMYGAWD!!!! Why would you let a real winner go?!?!?"
Woman moves on from good man: "I'm so sorry queen! You can always do better for yourself!"
Isn't this some honest commentary on just how scarce good women are? Aren't the Women telling on themselveshere that they largely suck as people???
Just me, I s'pose 🤷♀
That is why you ask a potential relationship partner to tell you about her last three partners. If she even implies they were abusive you gotta run.
She sounds like a person who gets “religious” whenever she doesn’t want to take responsibility for her own actions.
^My mom, 1000%.
And here was me thinking America didn't do satire. :D
What is this 'soft girl' insanity?? My head spins.
The US has always done some satire, originally it was in the form of political comics as far back as the tea party. It was just never the main comedy form.
Now though, it works perfectly to mock all these modern hypocrites.
America is satire from top to bottom, just some people don’t know their lives are satire.
Have you seen our current president and the one before that? Our country is NOTHING but satire.
@@gamera5160 Kek, dangerously based comment for such a normie comment section.
Gotta love how Americans still haven't realized that their entire country is a petri dish/social engineering lab for the Powers That Be. I mean come on, do you seriously believe in a nation so unserious about itself that it places "individual liberty" as its highest value?
Our 'national pride' is virtual signaling.
I think sometimes that people believe something sounds better than it actually does. They try to make it make sense in their head. And talk themselves into a line of approach believing that it won't be offensive or upsetting.
We can have things we love about people and things we really dislike at the same time. My ex, in many ways, was a good person. And there are things I still love about her. However there were aspects of her that i didn't like. Purposeful incompetence, became more high maintenance, asked me to do EVERYTHING for her, would diminish my feelings and say that even thinking that was on me, amongst other things.
What was good was good. What wasn't, wasn't. And I honestly started to feel like I couldn't be myself. I grew resentful. What she expects may fit with someone. It just didn't with me. And there's nothing wrong with that.
But now, to make herself feel better, she'll say things like "I never should have wasted my time dating you." A statement I won't reciprocate. I learned about her and found things I liked and things I didn't. Because it didn't work out doesn't mean I wasted my time. Sometimes we want different things, have different expectations, etc. It is okay for that to happen. Sure, it can be upsetting. But it doesn't make it immediately a bad thing. I don't hold it against her now that we aren't together. Where I think I would have if we stayed together. And that isn't something either of us really want.
There is a saying; perfect is the enemy of good. It means if you keep trying for perfect, you will never get there.
NEVERTHELESS.
Hold that ideal, and towards that end, simply 'do good.'
I understand this man. I don't understand why people have thrown a tissy. She sound like a great and caring person, but their personalities weren't connecting. That is the most important part of a relationship.
Any woman that publicly disrespects you in any way will never be wife material.
^disagree, thanks.
Agreed. I'd also say a woman that disrespects you will never be wife material. You can't have a functional relationship without mutual respect. Someone who is actively disrespecting you is not someone you can turn your back on.
I am currently experiencing this right now with my wife, soon to be ex-wife. After 15 years she told me on my bday that she loves me but isn't in love with me. That I'm her best friend, that I did nothing wrong and everything right. She won't try therapy(either together as marriage counseling or for herself), I never stopped dating my wife because I am still in love with her. Now I am going through this divorce with my head spinning trying to understand it.
Coach corey wayne man. It will heal your soul.
I really appreciate the work you do here. Please keep fighting the good fight.
If she really wants to let a good one go, cool. That guy should FULLY exit that relationship, no further contact. When she can't find better because her "standards are so high" while he finds a good woman who appreciated what he does for her, she'll learn. She honestly did him a favor.
Pro Tip: If you have a real one that treats you well and loves you for who you are, YOU'RE GOOD. Don't try to fix what isn't broken. Don't listen to women like this that are stuck thinking that they can always do better. That's how you end up single with a couple of cats.
There is a part of the bible where Jesus claims it disrespectful to use God as your witness because you've sullied your own name. In philosophy, there's a similar saying that states "let your actions speak for themselves"
It irritates me when people think that faith validates their claims when that very guide rebukes the claim... it is like a lawyer using shady practices.
Which part is that?
@@somedudewatchintv5297 Mathew 5: 33-37 I remember the interpretation through catechism being to stand by your own accumulated merrits in life, rather than using a title like "Child of God" to boost your standing. Furthermore, when I looked up the scenarios where people claim God as their witnesses, it was exactly to do that... to virtue signal using faith as a way to overcome one's own personal flaws.
@@Maninawig it seems to me those verses are about keeping things straightforward and simple. It can't be about your own merits because it also says not to swear by your own head because we don't have the power to turn a single hair white or black.
@@somedudewatchintv5297oho, you wanna bet~
@normanclatcher bet what? If you mean the hair thing it was a direct quote.
This one hits home..
I have been with an amazing woman for, allmost, four years. Bought us a place this winther, and just finished renovating over a six month period.
All that time with clear, open communication, respect, Sharing and supporting each other in our "healing" as she would call it, Sharing and creating memories on hiking trips, sailing, traveling and having a day to day life without fights or drama. Sharing friends and hobbies as well as having great fun in bed, with us both finishing every time, and exploring New interests as they occoured.
Two weeks ago she ended it. No reason, besides her "not feeling it".
Despite All my respect for her decision, i am completely baffled and confused.
Thank you for the video ^^
And Cheers to New beginnings ❤🍻
Even taking the most generous view of the break up the result is the same: She's self-sabotaging. No one will ever meet her standards and in the end she'll end up alone and never be able to admit it's her own fault.
Got no sympathy for that mentality.
Ultimately did the guy a favor and I hope he finds the queen he deserves if he's that good a guy.