This needs a lot more views vs the 99% of takes on this topic, which are pseudoscientific at best. A very well put together summary of limerance and object relations from the scientific viewpoint of psychoanalysis in just ~12 minutes. Kudos! One question came to my mind: are people with aspects of npd prone to limerance? The mentioned traits of fantasy as a coping mechanism and the grandiosity check some boxes as well as the distorted object relations. I'm referring here especially to the work of Prof. Sam Vaknin and his descriptions of the snapshot-mechanism of npds (dunno if is all his own original thoughts though, I just learned it from his videos) which sounds very similar to what you described with limerance. Keep up the good work and I hope your videos get the exposure they deserve.
Thank you for your very kind response! I’m determined to bring a different perspective on this topic, because I think there is still a lot of misconceptions and missing information about limerence. And that’s a really timely question, I asked google the other day what “what greek story best describes limerence?” And its response was “Narcissus.” I definitely was not expecting that. I’m a really big fan of Prof. Sam Vaknin. And I think as he would describe the inner workings of NPD, I see the similarities in their immature/underdeveloped ways of attachment. To answer your question, my guess would be that perhaps NPDs most, if not all of them, live in a state of suspended fantasy. I could only see them falling in love with the grandiose fantasy of another because of their lack of object constancy..Very interesting question. I will definitely follow this up in a video! I appreciate this curious input.
Limerence is one of the key ways that FISHING catches someone. Your longing for attention and someone to fulfill your fantasy. Learning about Limerence was my key to stopping this behavior. I had gotten caught up in this issue and could not figure out what caused my wandering. Married with a family and felt misunderstood sent me on a journey was always ended badly.
This needs a lot more views vs the 99% of takes on this topic, which are pseudoscientific at best. A very well put together summary of limerance and object relations from the scientific viewpoint of psychoanalysis in just ~12 minutes. Kudos!
One question came to my mind: are people with aspects of npd prone to limerance? The mentioned traits of fantasy as a coping mechanism and the grandiosity check some boxes as well as the distorted object relations.
I'm referring here especially to the work of Prof. Sam Vaknin and his descriptions of the snapshot-mechanism of npds (dunno if is all his own original thoughts though, I just learned it from his videos) which sounds very similar to what you described with limerance.
Keep up the good work and I hope your videos get the exposure they deserve.
Thank you for your very kind response! I’m determined to bring a different perspective on this topic, because I think there is still a lot of misconceptions and missing information about limerence.
And that’s a really timely question, I asked google the other day what “what greek story best describes limerence?” And its response was “Narcissus.” I definitely was not expecting that. I’m a really big fan of Prof. Sam Vaknin. And I think as he would describe the inner workings of NPD, I see the similarities in their immature/underdeveloped ways of attachment. To answer your question, my guess would be that perhaps NPDs most, if not all of them, live in a state of suspended fantasy. I could only see them falling in love with the grandiose fantasy of another because of their lack of object constancy..Very interesting question. I will definitely follow this up in a video! I appreciate this curious input.
Limerence is one of the key ways that FISHING catches someone. Your longing for attention and someone to fulfill your fantasy. Learning about Limerence was my key to stopping this behavior. I had gotten caught up in this issue and could not figure out what caused my wandering. Married with a family and felt misunderstood sent me on a journey was always ended badly.