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STOP Reading Self Help Books, Read THESE Instead
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- Опубликовано: 7 авг 2024
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There are so many personal development books that changed my life, but after getting so many book recommendations and reading all of them, I started to realize that the best books weren't personal growth books at all - the best self help books are the ones that are foundational to improving ourselves but which aren't usually considered self improvement books. These top self help books are ones you'd least expect, but if you read these books FIRST, you'll find yourself far better positioned to actually use a lot of the information you learn in these books.
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00:00-00:27: Books you need BEFORE self help books
00:28-02:20: The book to help you learn faster
02:21-04:50: The book to help you spot BS
04:51-06:35: The book to help you deal with people
06:36-08:12: The book to help your professional life
08:13-10:31: The book to begin your self help journey
10:32-12:56: The most overlooked reading habit
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Limitless by Jimi Kwik
Being Logical by D.Q. McInerny
Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards
Personal MBA by Josh Kaufman
Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz
For your reading list
Thanks for listing them out!
Thank you!
@@raquelfigueroa5539 Thanks a ton!
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"BEING LOGICAL!" that's what I'm gonna dive into first.
Well worth it!! Let me know what you think about it.
Same here!!!
I think another important component to this is understanding how YOU learn. something I did not ever know about until my mid 30s. For example, I'm a tactile and visual learner, which is why I get more out of videos, comics and taking things apart than I do from just reading something which is helpful but I just don't get as much out of. I think it was why I struggled with algebra in school as opposed to geometry which i can visually see or measure if I had the tools.
That's true - and actually that's why I really like the book "Limitless" - because it addresses those learning differences. That being said, learning from books in general is very limited. It's only when we apply the principles through real experience that we *actually* learn.
Such a fresh perspective on self-help books and starting this book reading journey! Loved the video, keep making such informative and unique content. 👏
Thank you - stay tuned for more!
thanks for this video. I will definitely pick up some of these books if not all eventually
You bet! I'm glad it helped - feel free to reach out and let me know how it's going!
This was great brother! Thanks
You bet! Stay tuned for more 😎
Wow . These are good recommendations . Thank you . I ordered the limitless and captivate for now and i will make my way to the rest
Great! Please let me know how it goes!
Thank you so much 😊. Why aren’t there more people talking and sharing about this.
You bet! Stay tuned for more!
Completed limitless and Captivate got a lot to learn❤❤ thanks again
Awesome! Glad to hear! Keep it up 💪
thanks, i will check them out.
Awesome! Very much worth it.
Really informative and helpful. Ive watched a few Jim Kwik videos before, so I'd really benefit from reading the book. And I'd ideally like to try other books that focus on how to learn and adopting systems to improve cognitive function. 😊 Thanks for the video!
@@LensOfRose You bet! Stay tuned for more!
Thanks to this video in this productivity rabbit hole i dont feel lost anymore
You're welcome! Stay tuned for more
Top class analysis with pure facts !! Stephen how to you tackle information overload focus on 1 thing could you practically explain especially when our tasks are somewhat boring ..
Thanks! Could you give me an example of the task? That would allow me to help you better.
@@stephenpetro411 While working in office where somebody/colleague is absent and we have to additional do their work of billing, designing, handling clients and also our own of drawing the site plans before visiting the construction work site..
@@stephenpetro411 Yes while working in office where somebody/colleague is absent and we have to additional do their work of billing designing then site execution of projects our own work then of handling clients in limited time with full focus..
@@stephenpetro411while working in office where somebody/colleague is absent and we have to his work of billing designing then site execution of projects our own work..
Thank you ❤
You bet!! Stay tuned for more!
Limitless sound great! Thanks!
It's SO helpful. You will get a lot from it!
you deserve more subs for sure !
I appreciate that! I'm on my way!
Amazing video sir, I'll definitely be sharing your information with my circle and looking into these texts that I'd once looked over. Also, thank you for also explaining the importance of the news. I used to always believe it to be nothing but propaganda and negativity, but there's far more to it than that, and I'm very glad you defined this. Very sound advice in all, subscribed!
I appreciate it - and more to come! With respect to the news, yes absolutely it's all about being an active learner and actively seeking out the information we want to stay up-to-date about instead of simply taking on a passive role with respect to news consumption.
Subscribed! I have many self-help books/audio programs but I still don't see any significant improvement in my life. Will be reading the books you mentioned in the video. Four of the books except Captivate are available in the local book stores in my country.
That's awesome to hear! Please let me know how it works out for you!
U need to read Mel Robbins ..and Eric Thomas ..
Wow , definately a great video and criminally underrated . I knew personal mba and psycho cybernetics were good books but never got a chance to study . Thanks a ton ❤ I'll read it soon after finishing Mastery by Robert green.
@@codez.dev07 Awesome - that's a great book too 🔥
@@stephenpetro411 I do like his work . And one more thing will the personal MBA help me in learning about sales or managing money ? And please recommend me some books on that topic.
Some self help books are really good - the problem in my opinion is just when you start reading it as a hobby, always thinking that you need more books to solve your problems. It’s essential to find a balance between reading and practicing - actually a lack of balance, because you need to output more than you consume
You are 100% correct here - exactly. Real learning comes from consuming information, then action, then reviewing/consuming information, then action.
Absolutely right ✅
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Well said!
That's such a good problem to have! That totally explains why I have such a problem reading self improvement books despite my deep curiosity in the subject. Maybe I'm past them to an extent since I'm so output focused, yet I'm watching videos from the original uploader here, so that must mean the final optimizations are being made to my newsletter curation 😅
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Thanks brother 😊
@@SanjaliHyik You bet! Let me know how your reading and actions go 👍
Amazing video, all of the books look interesting but for sure I'm going to give a shot to Limitless, I hope I can find it in Spanish.
@@davidcastro9718 Actually I'm pretty sure it's in Spanish!
It seems like an excellent recommendation. I spent 20 years devouring self-help books and they are very entertaining but I am aware of how harmful and misleading they can be.
Exactly - and thanks! Stay tuned for more!
Thanks sir
Of course! Stay tuned for more!
Great video. On tge part how to deal with people i would say fiction books in general. There are so many studies that is almost a fact, creading fiction increase our empathy. And empathy, instintivly will teach how to deal with people.
I agree - and I have to admit fiction isn't something I generally enjoy reading, but I definitely should read it more.
@@stephenpetro411 Probably you havent find the fiction type you like more.
Schools kinda ruined it because they give only boring books
@@hugoantunesartwithblender I agree that's probably the case. Thanks for the inspiration! Any fiction books you would consider your favorites?
Thank you very much for the recommendations and I have a question. I have actually bought a couple of self-help books to read and also ordered one of your recommendations "Limitess" just today, but I am in confusion about where to start which book I should read first (I am 17yr old), can you please guide me in the correct direction sir.
@@tanish7606 That's great! I would actually start with Limitless in this case because this book will really help you understand how to read those other books more effectively.
@@stephenpetro411 ic thank you so much for the guidance sir ☺️
Serious comment and question: you recommend a book on good thinking (logic), but on your fifth recommendation you appeal to the celebrities of Robbins and Chopra, both of who are people who rely on illogical, un-scientific, even anti-scientific thinking? How do reconcile this? Thank you in advance
This is a great question! I am not a big fan of what they teach either, although many of their ideas have a foundation in scientific findings (i.e., we can trace the simplistic idea of "believe in yourself, and you'll succeed" to the well-demonstrated concept of self-efficacy in social cognitive theory). So actually, if I were to elaborate on that point I made in the video about Psychocybernetics, I believe this book itself to have many sound and legitimately useful claims, but much of what has come after it that expounds upon it has distorted much of it. I hope that helps!
@@stephenpetro411 cheers for the answer. Best of luck with your endeavors on RUclips
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Is your compensation enhanced when a viewer watches until the end?
Hmm interesting question: not directly. Maybe indirectly, you could say.
Before watching any self help video.. This is the basis for that self help videos 😊.. But could you suggest me some more good books on critical thinking..?
Yes, that book by DQ McInerny is a great one for developing critical thinking skills because it lays out all types of logical fallacies to avoid. If you want to go more advanced, I have a whole video about Karl Popper's "The Logic of Scientific Discovery": ruclips.net/video/wD7Zav_TcrY/видео.htmlsi=7-MSxcDxNZ2HkfMT
Unfortunately non of these is available here in my country ( Jordan )
You can get the ebook versions of most of them
05:40 personality test is also bs but i think you are talking along the lines of introspection , empathy( getting in others prospective or shoe ) , game theory ( here in this context individualistic approach to external stimuli or subject or object to acclaimed internalised goals or prospects) , am i wrong here if so how and why , please also add ( plus english is my 3rd language so sorry if any mistakes and do point them out as it lead to improvement )
Hey great thoughts here! And sure! Change "prospective" to "perspective". As for personality tests, in practice, it is extraordinarily difficult to categorize personalities in a rigid way. However, the categories within the OCEAN assessment, specifically, have some usefulness for such things as (as you mentioned) understanding someone else's perspective and the way they receive communication the best. Overall, it's important to understand that many of these social models are tools that help us to a certain extent - but at the end of the day, we have to make sure we stay grounded and humanize the people we're interacting with.
@@stephenpetro411 ok so it just just here (big 5 test) as mental model for reducing human interaction complexity as we are limiting the variable to 4 rather than 20 or more factors while considering and respecting other people's personality . Btw ( for 1st categories i think how to read a book , mindmap , make it stick are great for learning how to learn ) once again thanks for the video
@@Aj-fd4ne Those are also excellent reads! And yes, exactly - it's limiting it to 5 factors. All models have their limitations. Thanks for sharing!
I consider those as self help books too though.
You're not incorrect here at all - the point, though, is that I believe these are more foundational and can help you understand and utilize all other self-help books more effectively.
The way they do things these days is not the way to acquire a great mind . You have to combine the literature from the 1800 reds with the literature of economics from the 1960s if you can get your hands on these books ..you also listen to certain people from the past that are no longer alive they were alive from 1900 to 1990 ...you also have to be into music everything comes down to persistence
@@edgartokman4898 I agree - there's a ton of lost wisdom from the past
Love this video! Will definitely read these books
Thanks! I would love to hear back about what you learned and implemented!
Instead of focusing on too many self help books. Just pick one book which you think is gonna change your life. And read the same book multiple times until you understand and start applying those steps which are written in that book you picked.Then...only then move on to next self help book
For me it was THINK AND GROW RICH by Nepolean Hill
@@ListenToKrish That's actually not a bad approach. Except, with that approach, we need to make sure our reading is very targeted to what our current personal growth goals are. Additionally, we need to make sure we're taking action on those goals as we are reading and re-reading; when that happens, the re-reading actually feels like new information.
Sir please give me the link for your discord channel
Hey there! It's in the Description section of this video, but I'll drop it here too: discord.com/invite/vZdjjGXXkz
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Which book you recommand as a starting point? I'm not a native english speaking person and have some difficulties to understand hard stuff. Please recommand....
Honestly, the first one I mentioned: "Limitless". Especially if you're currently learning English - the vocabulary isn't too complex, and it teaches you how to learn everything else.
MACK-in-Ernie? Like the guy who wrote Brighi Lights, Big City?
@@donovanmedieval Had to look that one up - looks like it's a slightly different spelling
The best video u will get on RUclips to recommend u to best books u should read as a beginner or even as a pro telling after checking his 1st 3 books and following him as a new person.
I just don't like the book logical thinking because i wasn't much understanding it
Thanks for the compliment! And yes, that book can be very difficult at first. The way I recommend reading that one is to take it very slowly, section by section, and actually practice each principle by itself for about a week at a time with specific examples to fully internalize it.
@@stephenpetro411 I was reading like 1 day 1 chapter 😂 like 40-50 pages of 159 page book that was the blunder thanks for ur help btw and keep growing and stay happy 😁
@@LuffyPlus-01 Glad to help! You too!
Found an Underdog channel!
@@ratnakarmaurya3066 Thanks! Stay tuned for more 😎
People in Quandaries, Wendell Johnson, 1946. General Semantics.
I will look into this! Semantics is an incredibly important field, especially given the work of Wittgenstein and the Analytic philosophers of the 20th Century.
@@stephenpetro411 Let me jump you right into the heart of GS. Lee's Elucidation is: A finite number of words must be made to represent an infinite number of things and possibilities.
@@arthurwieczorek4894 From what I understand, it sounds like it could be related to phenomenology - or postmodernism? I'll have to look into it! But it sounds interesting.
@@stephenpetro411 Rather than comment on a relationship between GS and P or P, let me send you down another road. GS holds that there is a distinction between language used as mere words and language used as concepts.
@@arthurwieczorek4894 On its face, I actually agree with that. I'm definitely eager to read it.
Jim Kwik book recommendation, deal breaker. Guy offers a lot, says a lot of things, at the end of it you don’t learn anything new 🤦♀️
You really think so? I learned a TON of practical steps to take to improve my own learning, and they are still actionable steps I implement to this day. Any reason you felt it was not helpful?
Do you have to go to school to be logical? You are overestimating the importance of formal education. What matters is education, not necessarily formal education.
If by "school" you mean "college," then no - not at all! You can be logical even without a formal education, of course. Critical thinking is a universal skill that everyone can learn, regardless of background.
When I was discussing education here, my gripe was not about how you have to go to college, but instead it was about how lots of personal development content is actively anti-formal-education. Everyone's path is different, and it's ok! Regardless of formal or informal education, the point is simply "be educated!"
@@stephenpetro411 Oh, thanks for your response. I am subscribing now.
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Have read Psycho cybernetics great book, but dont see why is not a self help book or maybe missed the point here, plus action is the step to take after reading self help books,,says me who still keeps reading other self help books 😂
@@tonispark5626 lol yes - we can definitely consider it a self-help book, BUT seeing as though almost all modern self help literature is based on this book (for instance, Tony Robbins took so much of his content from this), it's a much more foundational (and also science-based) read to start with.
@@stephenpetro411 thank you and definetely a great book for improving one,s self image
@@tonispark5626 Exactly 💯 That's the core of all personal progress
When did you have time to read so much. Most peoples,lives are to busy.
@@bluwng I am CONSTANTLY reading new material 😅 But seriously though, I actually schedule 15-30 minutes every morning for reading my current book.
Soooo how do I find targeted RSS feeds?
@@TheAspiringFitnessGuru It depends. What are you interested in? I see it might be fitness? So for instance, I would just search "Top fitness newsletters". You'll see a few you can choose from, and then simply subscribe to one or a few you find the most helpful.
@@stephenpetro411 thank you!!
Can you do me a favor and turn the lampshade around so that the seam is on the backside. AAGGHH - I literally grew up in a hotel and had to move the seams to the back in rooms and shared areas for 50 years. I do it everywhere I go. Nothing personal - just my insanity at work.
Gotcha! I'll take a look at that for next time.
The real title should be "don't waste your time watching this video"
lol - glad you enjoyed it
Read a book to read another book while you still didn’t do anything.
@@yasiralghamdi8539 Point taken, and I 100% agree. Which is why I encourage reading + lots of action in many of my other videos.